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Speaker 1: My best friend is jealous of me, and now she's

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Speaker 2: Let her ahead. Yeah, I just open it to her.

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Speaker 1: So this happened about fifteen years ago, and this is

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Speaker 1: me recalling what happened leading up to my wedding day,

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Speaker 1: my married life. This could be a long one, but

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Speaker 1: bear with me. I've spent a lot of time reflecting

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Speaker 1: on what occurred, and had this happened today, I would

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Speaker 1: have dealt with it very differently. By the way, this

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Speaker 1: comes from Cardiologist Flat ninety two thirty eight on the

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Speaker 1: Okay storytime subured at So I thirty eight female, married

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Speaker 1: my husband forty one male. We'll call him Bob for now.

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Speaker 1: When I was twenty three and he was twenty six.

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Speaker 1: We were both still very young, excited to be starting

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Speaker 1: our lives together and trying to plan a wedding on

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Speaker 1: a very tight budget. A small wedding in a registry

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Speaker 1: office meant we were limited on the number of people

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Speaker 1: most of the people in attendance were family, with about

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Speaker 1: six friends on either side invited. Bob is an only child,

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Speaker 1: and asked his best friend to be the man. I

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Speaker 1: had two bridesmaids, my sister and my ex best friend,

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Speaker 1: we'll call her Felicia. In the lead up to the wedding,

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Speaker 1: Felicia was planning my hand. Her idea was to go

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Speaker 1: It was about a month before the wedding and nothing

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Speaker 1: had been said about the hend When I asked Felicia

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Speaker 1: I asked her when she was off work. She was

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Speaker 2: Again.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't fussed about what I did and wanted to

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Speaker 1: I get a phone call from Felicia telling me she

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Speaker 1: can't make it as she's been called into work. Plausible excuse. Okay, no, biggie,

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Speaker 1: there are three other people still going. I get a

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Speaker 1: text message ten minutes later from someone else canceling, Then

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Speaker 1: screw it. My oldest male friend is still coming in.

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Speaker 1: Going to head out with him and have an amazing night.

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Speaker 1: I literally leave the house to walk to the bus stop.

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Speaker 1: When you guessed it, I'm canceled on by him too.

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Speaker 1: So not only did I have to plan my own hand,

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Speaker 1: when they should have been coming out for my hendu.

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Speaker 2: No, so they were just start your friends. They were

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Speaker 2: just keep hanging out. Hang not go to that lame,

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Speaker 1: Next fast forward to the day of the wedding. Felicia

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Speaker 1: had already kicked up a stink twice prior to the

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Speaker 1: and then again about having to have a French manicure

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Speaker 1: Very weird behavior, very strange behavior.

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Speaker 2: You like allergic.

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Speaker 3: I don't really mind they I don't like this.

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Speaker 1: Later on in the night, we had music going, which

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Speaker 1: I look over to where the iPod was to see

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Speaker 3: Felicia Falicia, Bye, Felicia Bye, Felicia, who had unplugged the

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Speaker 2: No way, that's wild. Imagine at a wedding, I don't

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Speaker 2: mess with this music. I want to dance to my tunes.

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Speaker 2: Bump it.

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Speaker 1: The best man had told her she was out of

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Speaker 1: order for doing that, as it's not her wedding.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, shocking me, But she wanted to dance.

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Speaker 1: But she wanted to dance.

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Speaker 2: Did you think about it?

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Speaker 1: Does she wanted to dance? I don't think we thought

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Speaker 1: I'm told by numerous people Felicia was outside crying.

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Speaker 2: You know who cares?

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Speaker 1: No one so me being me, went out to see

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Speaker 1: She sobbed back at me that all she wanted to

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Speaker 2: Is that so bad? It's my wedding song.

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Speaker 1: I ended up in tears too, and her drunken stupor,

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Speaker 1: I are looking to find a place of our own

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Speaker 1: All during all the house sounding sessions, Felicia would occasionally

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I guess so we're jumping Okay.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know if I would have let her

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Speaker 2: I mean, I think they're like past it.

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Speaker 1: I guess so, I don't know if I would have

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Speaker 1: been pasted it weird and sometimes me. These tickle fights

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Speaker 2: It sounds nice let her in.

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Speaker 1: I think that Felicia thinks that she is your third partner.

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Speaker 1: I think there's been some sort of miscommunication and Felicia

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Speaker 2: Just the thought of like the end in, like her

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Speaker 1: A relationship with both of them. Yeah, I honestly didn't

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Speaker 2: Sure, sure, but like lustys are kissing your hydes who

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Speaker 1: Tickle fights, just friend things. This continued on and off

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Speaker 1: We're now about thirteen months into the marriage and Felicia

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Speaker 1: not at work. I unexpectedly fell pregnant. Bom and I

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Speaker 2: Is it your baby, Felicia's baby? I don't know where

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Speaker 1: We tell all our family and closest friends, who are

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Speaker 1: Up until the day, I'd been wanting to go, but

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Speaker 1: Where are you? You better be coming back as I

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Speaker 1: missed you.

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Speaker 2: Love you lies.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't at all. I am not purposely going out

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Speaker 2: Just tap our profile, tap it. I think this is common.

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Speaker 2: feel bad for being a kind person.

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00:19:15,560 --> 00:19:18,679
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, they actively want you to be worse and

440
00:19:18,720 --> 00:19:21,040
Speaker 1: they're upset that you're not. They're trying to bring you

441
00:19:21,080 --> 00:19:21,920
Speaker 1: down to their level.

442
00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:24,400
Speaker 2: I thought I had made friends who are actually mature

443
00:19:24,520 --> 00:19:26,919
Speaker 2: and supportive of one another for who we are, and

444
00:19:27,040 --> 00:19:29,359
Speaker 2: is not feeling this way anymore. Brian is telling me

445
00:19:29,400 --> 00:19:31,880
Speaker 2: I should express this to Lauren, but I'm not sure

446
00:19:31,920 --> 00:19:33,840
Speaker 2: how to approach it. I don't want to ruin the

447
00:19:33,840 --> 00:19:37,679
Speaker 2: friendships I've made because despite this situation alone, the relationships

448
00:19:37,680 --> 00:19:40,119
Speaker 2: I've made have been mostly positive. And some of the

449
00:19:40,160 --> 00:19:42,440
Speaker 2: girls do understand where I'm coming from and claim that

450
00:19:42,480 --> 00:19:45,560
Speaker 2: Lauren's behavior is mostly ego dude. Her are constantly being

451
00:19:45,560 --> 00:19:48,640
Speaker 2: reminded of all the girls Toby has been with since

452
00:19:48,640 --> 00:19:51,840
Speaker 2: they broke up, which I completely understand. Am I the

453
00:19:51,880 --> 00:19:54,200
Speaker 2: a hoole for being friendly and nice to Diane even

454
00:19:54,240 --> 00:19:57,720
Speaker 2: though she dated my friend's X for all two months?

455
00:19:57,880 --> 00:19:58,840
Speaker 1: That's two months?

456
00:19:58,880 --> 00:20:01,720
Speaker 2: Come on, come on, one, you are never in a

457
00:20:01,800 --> 00:20:05,320
Speaker 2: hole for being kind. No, And to approach the conversation,

458
00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:08,440
Speaker 2: I think a way to go about it could again

459
00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:12,080
Speaker 2: ask for consent of like coming to Lauren and being like, Hey,

460
00:20:12,400 --> 00:20:15,639
Speaker 2: there's something kind of getting in the way of our friendship.

461
00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:17,240
Speaker 2: Can I share it with you? Can you we have

462
00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:21,840
Speaker 2: a conversation about it? Yes? Okay, I notice this is happening.

463
00:20:22,119 --> 00:20:25,280
Speaker 2: I'm feeling that I'm not able to be myself or

464
00:20:25,320 --> 00:20:29,280
Speaker 2: I'm feeling to be made wrong for me just being

465
00:20:29,400 --> 00:20:32,520
Speaker 2: kind like this perception I've been demeaned around it and

466
00:20:32,560 --> 00:20:35,080
Speaker 2: it doesn't feel good for me. It doesn't feel good

467
00:20:35,080 --> 00:20:35,800
Speaker 2: in our friendship.

468
00:20:35,920 --> 00:20:37,800
Speaker 1: No, going back to I think I said this earlier,

469
00:20:37,800 --> 00:20:40,360
Speaker 1: but if you have something that you want to bring

470
00:20:40,440 --> 00:20:42,800
Speaker 1: up to a friend, it's never a good idea to

471
00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:44,600
Speaker 1: just keep that in because Opie was like, oh, well,

472
00:20:44,640 --> 00:20:46,600
Speaker 1: I think it would ruin the friendship or it would

473
00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:49,760
Speaker 1: hurt you know, our relationship or something. What's hurting it

474
00:20:49,840 --> 00:20:52,000
Speaker 1: is you keeping these this feeling and this.

475
00:20:51,960 --> 00:20:57,120
Speaker 2: Resentment inside and authentic relating. You know, connection modality, communication modality.

476
00:20:57,160 --> 00:20:59,800
Speaker 2: It's called a withhold, and it's essentially the thing that

477
00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:02,240
Speaker 2: needs to be said, and since it's not being said,

478
00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:05,000
Speaker 2: it's getting in the way of connection exactly. So when

479
00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:07,400
Speaker 2: we usually say the things or not say the things

480
00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:09,760
Speaker 2: that we need to say, it actually ruins the connection,

481
00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:10,600
Speaker 2: it doesn't save it.

482
00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:14,520
Speaker 1: My overly controlling friends started spewing lies. So I took

483
00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:16,119
Speaker 1: back her Taylor Swift ticket.

484
00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:20,600
Speaker 2: Oh took out the big gun, joked it down Swift

485
00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:21,440
Speaker 2: concert tickets.

486
00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:24,760
Speaker 1: It just got serious serious. This happened about two years ago,

487
00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:27,199
Speaker 1: but my ex best friend still talks crap about me

488
00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:29,280
Speaker 1: for it. So let me know what you think. I

489
00:21:29,480 --> 00:21:32,320
Speaker 1: at the time, fifteen female and my ex best friend,

490
00:21:32,359 --> 00:21:34,920
Speaker 1: who we will call Ali also at the time was fifteen,

491
00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:38,760
Speaker 1: became friends over Taylor Swift. We both absolutely loved her

492
00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:41,719
Speaker 1: and had for our whole childhoods. When she announced her

493
00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:44,480
Speaker 1: Ara's tour, we immediately wanted to go together and were

494
00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:47,240
Speaker 1: absolutely thrilled by the way. This comes from equal Brick

495
00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:50,040
Speaker 1: forty one twenty four on the Okay Storytime subvered it.

496
00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:52,800
Speaker 1: So if you know about Ticketmaster, you know that you

497
00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:55,440
Speaker 1: have to sign up for Verified Fan pre Sale, which

498
00:21:55,480 --> 00:21:57,840
Speaker 1: you put in whatever show you want to attend, and

499
00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:00,560
Speaker 1: they randomly select you and send a verification code to

500
00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:03,320
Speaker 1: get you into the sale. My entire family I am

501
00:22:03,359 --> 00:22:05,640
Speaker 1: one of eight kids sign up for the pre sale

502
00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:09,760
Speaker 1: and everyone got waitlisted. Ali, however, got a presale code

503
00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:12,119
Speaker 1: because we were going together. She gave us the code

504
00:22:12,160 --> 00:22:14,239
Speaker 1: and my older sister, who was going to drive us

505
00:22:14,240 --> 00:22:16,879
Speaker 1: to the show, took off work and spent the entire

506
00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:19,680
Speaker 1: day on Ticketmaster trying to buy these tickets.

507
00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:20,240
Speaker 2: While we were at school.

508
00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:21,960
Speaker 1: So sweet of your sister. When we got to the

509
00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:24,919
Speaker 1: front of the queue, the tickets were sold out. It

510
00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:28,480
Speaker 1: was absolutely heartbreaking and Ali and I were devastated. It's

511
00:22:28,560 --> 00:22:30,760
Speaker 1: important to note that my family has a decent amount

512
00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:34,160
Speaker 1: of money. It's important to note that I'm quite rich.

513
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:37,800
Speaker 1: My parents both have great jobs and have saved up

514
00:22:37,800 --> 00:22:40,000
Speaker 1: a lot, while Ali doesn't really have a lot. If

515
00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:41,720
Speaker 1: you like Taylor and tried to go to our tour,

516
00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:44,879
Speaker 1: you know that resale ticket prices were up in the thousands.

517
00:22:46,840 --> 00:22:50,600
Speaker 1: My parents bought three tickets resale, one for me, Ali

518
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:52,120
Speaker 1: and my sister to take us.

519
00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:55,520
Speaker 2: It's so nice of the parents, that is a.

520
00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:58,960
Speaker 1: Good friend, for thirty five hundred dollars each. Because my

521
00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:01,399
Speaker 1: parents knew Ali would lower income. She said that the

522
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:03,679
Speaker 1: ticket was one thousand dollars to make it easier for

523
00:23:03,720 --> 00:23:06,120
Speaker 1: her parents to pay us back. Wait, the tickets were

524
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:10,400
Speaker 1: thirty five hundred dollars each. I thought that was collective.

525
00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:14,080
Speaker 1: These people are rich. Ali's parents are divorced, but her

526
00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:16,639
Speaker 1: grandparents on I think her dad's side are pretty wealthy.

527
00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 1: They buy her a lot of Lululemon, Golden Goose, expensive brands,

528
00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:22,359
Speaker 1: et cetera. Her mom was struggling to pay back my

529
00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:25,280
Speaker 1: parents one thousand dollars for her ticket. She fortunately got

530
00:23:25,320 --> 00:23:27,760
Speaker 1: sent two free tickets from Ticketmaster for the same night

531
00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:30,440
Speaker 1: we were going and gave them to my mom as payment.

532
00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:33,119
Speaker 1: My mom sold them and ended up making back the

533
00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:36,040
Speaker 1: money she spent on Alie's ticket. Fast forward a few months,

534
00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:38,119
Speaker 1: Me and Ali have been struggling a little bit in

535
00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:40,879
Speaker 1: our friendship. This other girl, we can call her Emma,

536
00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:43,199
Speaker 1: who I was really close friends with, was having her

537
00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:46,080
Speaker 1: keidsa the weekend before we went to the arastour. Ali

538
00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:49,200
Speaker 1: and Emma have some beef. They always hated each other,

539
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:51,160
Speaker 1: but it never gotten in the way. Previous to this,

540
00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:53,240
Speaker 1: I was a part of Emma's keen s court, like

541
00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:55,119
Speaker 1: a sweet sixteen court. You have to be there, and

542
00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:58,600
Speaker 1: Ali was constantly getting fed up because I was prioritizing

543
00:23:58,640 --> 00:24:01,719
Speaker 1: Emma over her. She also was complaining about the Eras

544
00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 1: tour ticket and how it wasn't on the floor floor

545
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:07,159
Speaker 1: seats were being sold for ten thousand dollars.

546
00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:09,480
Speaker 3: Wow, oh my god.

547
00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:12,360
Speaker 1: Our seat was in the lower bowl, still fairly close

548
00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:14,439
Speaker 1: to the stage with a clear view. Our show was

549
00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:17,160
Speaker 1: in May, but in April I got the amazing experience

550
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 1: of going to an Aras show in Texas with my

551
00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:22,480
Speaker 1: other sister who also loves Taylor. How much money do

552
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 1: these people have? I was originally going to go with

553
00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:27,520
Speaker 1: my sister in Ohio, where she lives. The show would

554
00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:29,400
Speaker 1: have been in June, but the way the cards fell,

555
00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:31,879
Speaker 1: I went to Texas. When Ali found out I was going,

556
00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:35,200
Speaker 1: she was absolutely livid. She said she would have never

557
00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:38,200
Speaker 1: done this to me. I betrayed her friendship, et cetera.

558
00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:41,199
Speaker 1: I was so pissed off at this and honestly just

559
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:43,840
Speaker 1: ignored it. This went on the entire week before my

560
00:24:43,840 --> 00:24:46,440
Speaker 1: first show, and she went so far as to ignore

561
00:24:46,520 --> 00:24:48,959
Speaker 1: me every time she saw me for the week. We

562
00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:51,879
Speaker 1: worked it out, but I was so annoyed it even

563
00:24:52,119 --> 00:24:55,160
Speaker 1: happened in the first place. In May, a few weeks

564
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:57,680
Speaker 1: before the show, she was getting even more controlling over

565
00:24:57,720 --> 00:25:00,280
Speaker 1: our friendship. She wouldn't let me hang out with other people,

566
00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:04,040
Speaker 1: she was always being competitive, et cetera. This is when

567
00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:06,240
Speaker 1: I decided to break things off with her. I texted

568
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:08,320
Speaker 1: her very nicely, just said I don't think our friendship

569
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 1: was working out. She was absolutely devastated.

570
00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:13,080
Speaker 2: You're gonna break up with your best friend, were a text.

571
00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:14,000
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

572
00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:14,440
Speaker 2: I don't think.

573
00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:16,480
Speaker 1: I mean they're sixteen or like fifteen or whatever.

574
00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:18,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's what I was kind of reading this

575
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 2: with that lens, and I'm kind of being really dismissive

576
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:24,240
Speaker 2: in my head. Yeah, like when I was that age,

577
00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:27,320
Speaker 2: you know, I thought I was an adult. Yeah, but

578
00:25:27,320 --> 00:25:29,840
Speaker 2: but yeah, to break up with your friend over text and.

579
00:25:29,840 --> 00:25:31,919
Speaker 1: I did feel really bad, but I was over being

580
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:34,720
Speaker 1: treated like I was in a toxic relationship. This post

581
00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:37,399
Speaker 1: an issue for our era's tour show. We decided that

582
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:39,439
Speaker 1: my sister was going to still bring us and just

583
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:41,960
Speaker 1: stand in between us so we could enjoy the show separately.

584
00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:44,240
Speaker 1: But when I got to school the next day, she's

585
00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:47,800
Speaker 1: telling everybody lies about this. She's saying I bullied her

586
00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:50,399
Speaker 1: when we were friends. I ditched her for no reason,

587
00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:53,480
Speaker 1: et cetera. Our school's pretty small, so it got around fast,

588
00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:57,040
Speaker 1: and by second period absolutely everyone.

589
00:25:56,720 --> 00:25:58,439
Speaker 2: Was talking about Man, damn it sucks.

590
00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 1: I texted her and said, if she didn't stop lying

591
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:03,399
Speaker 1: about this, I would take away her heirs to our ticket.

592
00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:08,240
Speaker 1: You can't because she paid for that, her parents paid

593
00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:12,320
Speaker 1: for that. I was settled, you can't, that's not yours. Yeah,

594
00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:14,840
Speaker 1: she didn't do anything to stop it, so I texted

595
00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:17,320
Speaker 1: my parents and they agreed that it was fine. My

596
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:19,800
Speaker 1: mom then mowed her parents one thousand dollars, which was

597
00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:21,600
Speaker 1: how much we asked them to pay us and we

598
00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:22,000
Speaker 1: moved on.

599
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:24,000
Speaker 2: Okay, So I don't think that.

600
00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:26,919
Speaker 3: I honestly, I think that's kind of messed up because

601
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 3: I think her mom gave up two tickets, two free

602
00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:34,320
Speaker 3: tickets to get this seat and paid for the seat.

603
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:37,280
Speaker 1: I don't really think that they can just take.

604
00:26:37,080 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 2: The seat away. Well, it doesn't seem it's like I'm

605
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:43,639
Speaker 2: going to take this away. It seems like this is awkward.

606
00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:46,760
Speaker 2: We don't totally get that. So it seems like they

607
00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:49,159
Speaker 2: just kind of bought it back. Yeah, not out of

608
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:51,720
Speaker 2: like it didn't seem like the friend or the parents

609
00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 2: were like, no, I really want the ticket.

610
00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 3: Yeah.

611
00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:56,119
Speaker 1: I guess if they didn't say it, I.

612
00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:57,679
Speaker 2: Think it just was helping them get out of an

613
00:26:57,680 --> 00:27:00,440
Speaker 2: awkward situation. Yeah, no longer friends. They were too upset

614
00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:02,200
Speaker 2: at that each other. They didn't want to be a

615
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:05,560
Speaker 2: Taylor Swift concert together. Provided by one person.

616
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:08,400
Speaker 1: That's fair, But it really depends on how much those

617
00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:11,120
Speaker 1: tickets that they got were sold for. By the way.

618
00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:12,320
Speaker 1: You know what else is fair?

619
00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:12,640
Speaker 3: Game?

620
00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:15,360
Speaker 1: You joining us live every Weekdad three pmpst just took

621
00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:18,280
Speaker 1: her puffile. Ali went to the Arras tour twice, once

622
00:27:18,320 --> 00:27:20,400
Speaker 1: in Philly and once in New Jersey.

623
00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:23,040
Speaker 2: Okay, so she gotta go. Yeah, that's fine, Okay.

624
00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 1: Her seats were not ideal, but she was there. I

625
00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 1: ended up taking Emma as her birthday present, which infuriated Ali.

626
00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:33,479
Speaker 1: I was petty, but I honestly don't care it on purpose, Yeah,

627
00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:35,880
Speaker 1: and we both had great times. It's been two years

628
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:38,520
Speaker 1: since this happened, and Ali still talks crap about it

629
00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:41,120
Speaker 1: to this day. She's gone to London with floor seats.

630
00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:43,320
Speaker 1: Crazy how she could afford that but not our ticket?

631
00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:45,520
Speaker 1: And I have gone a few times too. She continues

632
00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:47,919
Speaker 1: to call me a spoiled brat for taking away these tickets,

633
00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:50,639
Speaker 1: when no one really cares what the situation anymore, because

634
00:27:50,680 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 1: it is literally two years old. Anyway, Do you think

635
00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:56,560
Speaker 1: I was the a hole for taking your ticket away?

636
00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:58,639
Speaker 1: I think she still wanted that ticket. That's why I'm like,

637
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:01,240
Speaker 1: I think it's kind of messed up because she had

638
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:04,440
Speaker 1: two free tickets, uh huh, and the mom used those

639
00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:07,400
Speaker 1: to pay basically pay for.

640
00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:09,119
Speaker 2: The ticket my ticket to go with them, and so

641
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:11,280
Speaker 2: it was it was her ticket. It was her ticket,

642
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:14,399
Speaker 2: And then Opi and Opie's parents are actually like, no,

643
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 2: we're taking that back.

644
00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:17,320
Speaker 1: Yes, but I think that. I don't think you can

645
00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:17,919
Speaker 1: take back.

646
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 2: A ticket that was paid for exactly.

647
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:22,320
Speaker 1: That's the thing. Yeah, especially when she like the thing

648
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:24,199
Speaker 1: is like she could have gone by herself. She had

649
00:28:24,240 --> 00:28:25,919
Speaker 1: two free tickets, but they used that to pay for

650
00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:28,080
Speaker 1: this ticket. Yeah, I'm like a little bit messed up.

651
00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:29,600
Speaker 1: And also it really depends on how much she made

652
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:31,239
Speaker 1: off the two tickets, Like I want to know how

653
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:33,680
Speaker 1: much the mom made off reselling those two tickets.

654
00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I mean there's such like a difference in

655
00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:38,320
Speaker 2: ticket prices, place on the seats and everything.

656
00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:42,360
Speaker 1: So yeah, that is the end of that story. If

657
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Speaker 1: you love us, make sure to subscribe We love you.

658
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Speaker 2: And see tomorrow.

659
00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:51,720
Speaker 3: My in laws won't acknowledge me is their son's wife,

660
00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:55,600
Speaker 3: so my husband called them out for it. My husband,

661
00:28:55,760 --> 00:28:59,720
Speaker 3: Robbie twenty six male, and I twenty six female, got

662
00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:01,960
Speaker 3: marry earlier this year. It was a beautiful day and

663
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:04,560
Speaker 3: I felt so much love and support from both sides

664
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:07,120
Speaker 3: of our family. Two months after our wedding day, we

665
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:10,360
Speaker 3: celebrated my birthday at my in law's house. It was

666
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 3: nothing major, just to dinner and a night together with me,

667
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:17,840
Speaker 3: my husband, his mom fifty, dad fifty, and sister twenty two.

668
00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:20,600
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from user faxed on the

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Speaker 3: r slash Okay storytime, so I read it. So this

670
00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:25,920
Speaker 3: is the first night I noticed them referring to me

671
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 3: as Robbie's best friend.

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Speaker 1: That's so weird.

673
00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:32,240
Speaker 3: After my birthday dinner, we were all sitting together in

674
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:35,240
Speaker 3: the living room, just chatting and having some drinks. That's

675
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:37,920
Speaker 3: when my sister in law got a phone call from

676
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:40,520
Speaker 3: a good friend of hers. When she answered the phone

677
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 3: and her friend asked what she was doing, she replied

678
00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:48,280
Speaker 3: that it was her brother's best friend's birthday. I had

679
00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:51,560
Speaker 3: never heard anyone refer to me as Robbie's best friend.

680
00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:55,080
Speaker 3: I am his wife, and before that, we were engaged

681
00:29:55,080 --> 00:29:58,200
Speaker 3: for over two years. Hearing my sister in law refer

682
00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:01,520
Speaker 3: to me like that confused me. I always refer to

683
00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:03,960
Speaker 3: her as my sister in law, and I would expect

684
00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:07,960
Speaker 3: her to do the same, or maybe even as Robbie's wife,

685
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:11,280
Speaker 3: but certainly not best friend. After my sister in law

686
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:13,800
Speaker 3: hung up her phone, I asked her why she referred

687
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 3: to me the way that she did. She did not

688
00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:19,000
Speaker 3: seem at all abashed. She just said, well, you are

689
00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:21,560
Speaker 3: best friends, and that's what Mom and dad, call you,

690
00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:23,800
Speaker 3: referring to the mother in law and father in law.

691
00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:26,320
Speaker 3: My sister in law and I are by no means

692
00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 3: very close, but we are nice to each other and

693
00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:31,640
Speaker 3: have never had any fights. We just don't hang out

694
00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:35,000
Speaker 3: outside of our family functions because our personalities are pretty different.

695
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:37,600
Speaker 3: She's never made it seem like she was annoyed or

696
00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 3: mad at me. I just decided to let it go

697
00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:41,480
Speaker 3: that night, even though it weirded me out.

698
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 2: But then it all.

699
00:30:42,640 --> 00:30:45,600
Speaker 3: Happened again a few days ago, which is why I'm

700
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 3: writing this post. My mother in law and I both

701
00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:51,320
Speaker 3: work in the same industry, doing similar jobs, but at

702
00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:54,920
Speaker 3: different companies in the area. Sometimes our companies collaborate when

703
00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:57,640
Speaker 3: we have clients who switch over. This week, we had

704
00:30:57,680 --> 00:30:59,560
Speaker 3: that happen and I had to pay a visit to

705
00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:02,280
Speaker 3: my mother in law's office to help a client transition.

706
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 3: My mother in law was in the office, so I

707
00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:06,800
Speaker 3: stopped by to say hello. While I was there, she

708
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 3: introduced me to her colleague, and once again I was

709
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:13,480
Speaker 3: perplexed by how she did it. She said, this is

710
00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:18,440
Speaker 3: my son's best friend. Literally, stop, it's not cute. As

711
00:31:18,480 --> 00:31:21,360
Speaker 3: I was shaking hands with the colleague, I paused and

712
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 3: awkwardly said, I'm his wife. The colleague looked confused, but

713
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 3: my mother in law continued to smile and didn't address it.

714
00:31:28,920 --> 00:31:31,120
Speaker 3: Once we were alone, I asked my mother in law

715
00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:33,520
Speaker 3: why she referred to me like that. Just like my

716
00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 3: sister in law. She didn't seem to act like it

717
00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:38,240
Speaker 3: was weird at all and said the same thing, Well,

718
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 3: you are best friends. The only thing that I can

719
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 3: think to explain this is that in my vows to

720
00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 3: Robbie I promised to continue being his best friend. Nobody

721
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:51,280
Speaker 3: acted like this was odd or special, and I feel

722
00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 3: like it's a pretty common thing to put in your vows,

723
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:56,360
Speaker 3: so I'm not sure why Robbie's family seems to have

724
00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:59,480
Speaker 3: clung to it, unless it has nothing to do with

725
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:02,520
Speaker 3: anything or everything. I've spoken to Robbie about this too,

726
00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:05,560
Speaker 3: and he is also perplexed by it. He asked his

727
00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 3: parents privately about it, and they gave him the same

728
00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:10,440
Speaker 3: answer they've been giving me. It all just feels like

729
00:32:10,480 --> 00:32:13,320
Speaker 3: some sort of bullying behavior to me, but I've never

730
00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:16,840
Speaker 3: felt a sense of this from them before. Are they

731
00:32:16,840 --> 00:32:19,160
Speaker 3: calling me his best friend because they don't like the

732
00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 3: fact that I'm his wife?

733
00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:22,080
Speaker 1: I think you just need to have a conversation with

734
00:32:22,120 --> 00:32:23,520
Speaker 1: them and be like, hey, do you mind referring to

735
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:23,800
Speaker 1: me this?

736
00:32:23,840 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 2: Bye?

737
00:32:24,080 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 3: Please?

738
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:26,720
Speaker 2: Yeah? Get's like out right? Set? I know it is.

739
00:32:26,840 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 2: I'm his best friend. I know that's cute. I'm his wife.

740
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:32,200
Speaker 2: I'm his wife's can you please me? Wife?

741
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:34,840
Speaker 3: Can I at least get one time of you guys

742
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:36,520
Speaker 3: calling me his wife? Say it with me?

743
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:37,840
Speaker 1: Wow?

744
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:42,520
Speaker 3: Wow? Why wif you can even say it? Like borat

745
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:46,000
Speaker 3: you have my wif? Are they calling me his best

746
00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:48,640
Speaker 3: friend because they don't like the fact I'm his wife?

747
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 3: Or is it some kind of inside joke they've been

748
00:32:51,360 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 3: in on without me. I'm not sure what to do

749
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:56,680
Speaker 3: or make of it, especially because the in laws are

750
00:32:56,720 --> 00:32:59,120
Speaker 3: acting like it's not an issue when I bring it up. Yes,

751
00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:01,760
Speaker 3: I am Robbie He's best friend, but I'm also his

752
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 3: life partner and their daughter in law slash sister in law.

753
00:33:06,080 --> 00:33:06,880
Speaker 2: I don't know what to do.

754
00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:09,880
Speaker 3: Any input or advice would be welcome, and we have

755
00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:13,640
Speaker 3: an update oh man two days after the initial post.

756
00:33:13,960 --> 00:33:16,959
Speaker 3: But I mean, yeah, I think you just say that

757
00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:19,560
Speaker 3: you would like them to stop explicitly tell them, yeah,

758
00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:21,160
Speaker 3: I stop doing that.

759
00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:22,320
Speaker 2: I know that it's weird.

760
00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:24,640
Speaker 3: Maybe that I'm asking you to stop, but I think

761
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:27,920
Speaker 3: it's weird that you guys keep doing it, So please

762
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:29,160
Speaker 3: just introduce me.

763
00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:30,400
Speaker 2: To people as his wife.

764
00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:33,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, and if they keep going, then you get the husband. Yeah,

765
00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:36,000
Speaker 3: you're the husband involved. I would make it weird like, oh,

766
00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:38,880
Speaker 3: I'm his best friend, but we do spicy stuff together.

767
00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I sleep with this guy.

768
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:44,000
Speaker 3: Thanks to everyone who offered helpful advice and to those

769
00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:47,200
Speaker 3: who have been kind in sharing their own experiences. I'm

770
00:33:47,240 --> 00:33:51,320
Speaker 3: sorry to hear that this is not exactly a unique experience. Unfortunately,

771
00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 3: for my relationship with Robbie's family, crap has.

772
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:54,680
Speaker 2: Hit the fan.

773
00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 3: Oh No, yesterday afternoon, Robbie and I were invited over

774
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:01,600
Speaker 3: to his parents house for dinner. I have a big

775
00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 3: project to do this week at work, so I needed

776
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,160
Speaker 3: to stay home and wrap it up. I told Robbie

777
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:08,000
Speaker 3: to go catch up with his family while I order

778
00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 3: a pizza. Apparently this is when Robbie decided he was

779
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:13,799
Speaker 3: going to set things straight and figure out why his

780
00:34:13,800 --> 00:34:16,200
Speaker 3: mom and sister keep referring to me as his quote

781
00:34:16,400 --> 00:34:20,040
Speaker 3: best friend. Please keep in mind that I'm telling this

782
00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 3: story based on the details that my husband has given me.

783
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 3: Robbie had a normal dinner with his folks, but they

784
00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 3: were all drinking a bit more than usual. Robbie decided

785
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:29,800
Speaker 3: to bring over some scotch that one of his groomsmen

786
00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:31,960
Speaker 3: gave him for a wedding gift, so him and his

787
00:34:32,040 --> 00:34:36,560
Speaker 3: dad were especially loose that evening. Robbie and his dad

788
00:34:36,600 --> 00:34:39,200
Speaker 3: tend to have guy time together after dinners, where they

789
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:41,640
Speaker 3: hang out in his dad's garage and talk about car

790
00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:44,359
Speaker 3: stuff and projects at home slash work. This is where

791
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:47,400
Speaker 3: Robbie confronted his dad about the whole situation, which is

792
00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:49,480
Speaker 3: weird because the dad wasn't really involved.

793
00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:51,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, it doesn't say it. Seems like it was the

794
00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:52,719
Speaker 1: mom and the sister who said this.

795
00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:55,600
Speaker 3: Right, So I guess maybe he's trying to skirt around it.

796
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 1: However, we do know that the sister said, well, mom

797
00:34:58,200 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 1: and dad call her that.

798
00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 3: Oh that is true. Mom and dad do say that

799
00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:06,000
Speaker 3: you're the best he. From what I can tell, it

800
00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:08,480
Speaker 3: took some coaxing to get this information out of the

801
00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 3: father in law, but eventually he admitted to Robbie that

802
00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:13,640
Speaker 3: my mother in law and sister in law and him

803
00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:16,400
Speaker 3: were all in on some sort of bet as to

804
00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:19,640
Speaker 3: how long mine and Robbie's marriage was going to last.

805
00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:21,360
Speaker 1: That was the worst option.

806
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:25,400
Speaker 3: That's ridiculous. That is disgusting behavior.

807
00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:26,880
Speaker 2: Let's see what happens after that.

808
00:35:27,440 --> 00:35:29,920
Speaker 3: The father in law bet that we would stay together,

809
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:32,359
Speaker 3: whereas the mother in law bet less than a year

810
00:35:32,640 --> 00:35:35,800
Speaker 3: and sister in law bet less than six months.

811
00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:38,399
Speaker 1: Okay, so in order of how bad they are?

812
00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:43,480
Speaker 3: What Apparently there was a cash prize involved. Ah, they

813
00:35:43,520 --> 00:35:47,240
Speaker 3: were betting cash sho law on how long the marriage

814
00:35:47,280 --> 00:35:48,000
Speaker 3: was going to last.

815
00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:50,279
Speaker 1: At least the dad bet on him.

816
00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:55,480
Speaker 3: I guess, yeah, but it's still dog still bad. Was

817
00:35:55,520 --> 00:35:56,359
Speaker 3: he over under here? Yes?

818
00:35:56,520 --> 00:36:00,560
Speaker 2: I took the over, don't I took the over so.

819
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:03,440
Speaker 1: I supported you. Yes, I was involved in the betting,

820
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:04,319
Speaker 1: but I supported you.

821
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:06,560
Speaker 3: I was gonna give you the money after I won it.

822
00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:08,759
Speaker 3: I don't really want to know how much I do.

823
00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:10,520
Speaker 3: The cash prize was well.

824
00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:13,200
Speaker 1: I think five dollars versus one hundred is different.

825
00:36:13,440 --> 00:36:15,560
Speaker 3: The father in law admitted that he believes the whole

826
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:17,680
Speaker 3: Best Friend Moniker was a way to get under my

827
00:36:17,719 --> 00:36:21,239
Speaker 3: skin and cause doubts about my relationship with Robbie and

828
00:36:21,320 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 3: his family.

829
00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:25,239
Speaker 1: They're freaking, you know, cheating at their own bet.

830
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:27,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're they're influencing.

831
00:36:27,120 --> 00:36:30,240
Speaker 1: The results here. This is this is illegal betting.

832
00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:32,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, in Vegas, they wouldn't let you cash this one.

833
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:35,040
Speaker 3: They think that if they acted like it was a

834
00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:37,080
Speaker 3: non issue for long enough that it would drive me

835
00:36:37,160 --> 00:36:40,239
Speaker 3: crazy and start making me angry at Robbie for not intervening.

836
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:42,720
Speaker 3: Robbie then says he stormed into the house to confront

837
00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 3: his mom about all of this. It ended in a

838
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:47,239
Speaker 3: screaming match between Robbie, the mother in law, and the

839
00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:50,080
Speaker 3: father in law. Robbie eventually stormed out and walked to

840
00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 3: a nearby gas station and from there he called me

841
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 3: for a ride since he couldn't drive. This morning, when

842
00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:57,880
Speaker 3: I drove Robbie back to get his car, we had

843
00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:01,919
Speaker 3: a horribly awkward confrontation with his parents. Mother in law

844
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:05,880
Speaker 3: is apparently pissed at father in law for betraying the secret,

845
00:37:06,200 --> 00:37:09,200
Speaker 3: and they were fighting about it all night. Father in

846
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:11,400
Speaker 3: law will be staying with us in our extra bedroom

847
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 3: for a couple days or until they can calm down

848
00:37:14,040 --> 00:37:17,120
Speaker 3: and talk to each other. And if you ever need

849
00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 3: to calm down, you can talk to us when we

850
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:23,200
Speaker 3: go live on YouTube every weekday at three pm PST.

851
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:24,640
Speaker 2: Just tap our profiles.

852
00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:28,520
Speaker 3: Maybe instead of getting mad at your husband for like

853
00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:30,280
Speaker 3: letting the secret out, maybe.

854
00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 1: You should be mad at yourself for being a terrible parent.

855
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:36,680
Speaker 3: Secret bets about how long your son's marriage is gonna last,

856
00:37:36,920 --> 00:37:42,040
Speaker 3: and then actively try to make his wife mad at.

857
00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:44,560
Speaker 1: Him to go to But how am I supposed to

858
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:45,240
Speaker 1: make money?

859
00:37:46,200 --> 00:37:48,399
Speaker 3: Money? Money?

860
00:37:48,400 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 1: If I can on my children.

861
00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:53,400
Speaker 3: How about you go like, I don't know, Hey, the

862
00:37:53,440 --> 00:37:57,120
Speaker 3: bet on literally anything else, anything, Literally bet your entire

863
00:37:57,440 --> 00:37:59,439
Speaker 3: life savings on anything else.

864
00:37:59,520 --> 00:38:02,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, these parents are terrible and I hate them. That's

865
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:05,719
Speaker 1: just what a betrayal? What a betrayal. Ultimately, Honeybee says, Oh,

866
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:07,600
Speaker 1: he needs to bet on mom and dad's marriage.

867
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:09,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, for real, start betting on theirs.

868
00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:10,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just start calling them best friends.

869
00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:11,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, switch it up.

870
00:38:11,440 --> 00:38:11,920
Speaker 1: See how they are.

871
00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:13,319
Speaker 3: It's the thing that makes me so mad. I'd never

872
00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 3: forgive them. Yeah, that they were actively trying to foil

873
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:18,719
Speaker 3: my own marriage behind my back. I apologize if I

874
00:38:18,760 --> 00:38:22,680
Speaker 3: made anyone deaf. I was upset, but I've collected myself.

875
00:38:22,719 --> 00:38:26,160
Speaker 3: God Y's so handsome. Robbie is now set on going

876
00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:29,000
Speaker 3: no contact with his mom and sister. He is angry

877
00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 3: with his father, but it is more willing to forgive

878
00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 3: him personally. I would prefer it if we saw a

879
00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:37,320
Speaker 3: family therapist before doing this, but we are still ironing

880
00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 3: out the details. Hopefully we can get through this with

881
00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:43,360
Speaker 3: both marriages intact. And that is the end of that story.

882
00:38:43,560 --> 00:38:45,719
Speaker 1: Man, oh man, what a tale?

883
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 2: What is that?

884
00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:48,480
Speaker 3: What is the mother in law going to tell the

885
00:38:48,480 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 3: therapist when they go.

886
00:38:49,480 --> 00:38:50,760
Speaker 1: Be like, we bet on ourself?

887
00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:51,760
Speaker 2: Why did you separate?

888
00:38:52,800 --> 00:38:55,319
Speaker 3: Because he bet the over on my son's marriage and

889
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:57,120
Speaker 3: then told him about it like an.

890
00:38:57,040 --> 00:38:59,759
Speaker 1: Idiot, stupid man, And now we don't trust each other

891
00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:03,600
Speaker 1: any I don't know. I have more faith than you, Opie,

892
00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:06,359
Speaker 1: your marriage than I do and your mother in law?

893
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:10,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely, I OPI doesn't deserve to have these sort

894
00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 3: of underminers in his life.

895
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:16,080
Speaker 1: Oh, get them out of your life, Opia, They're so.

896
00:39:15,840 --> 00:39:18,600
Speaker 3: So contact with the mom and the sister. In fact,

897
00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 3: maybe if it had worked and it had split up

898
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:22,960
Speaker 3: the marriage, I'd say ort cloud. But now I'm thinking

899
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:26,000
Speaker 3: I think son, I think the son, Yeah, I think

900
00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:27,959
Speaker 3: the son for them into the sun.

901
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:30,239
Speaker 2: Just let him go.

902
00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:34,120
Speaker 1: I anonymously expose my brother in law's cheating to his girlfriend,

903
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:37,719
Speaker 1: but I may have ruined my fiance's family. Hi, my

904
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:40,520
Speaker 1: brother in law thirty three is cheating on his girlfriend

905
00:39:40,520 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 1: of thirty one of nine years with a twenty year

906
00:39:44,160 --> 00:39:47,319
Speaker 1: old girl for over half a year now. He is

907
00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:50,840
Speaker 1: behaving unbelievably horribly to her and I can't keep it

908
00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:53,560
Speaker 1: in any longer for myself. I want to tell the

909
00:39:53,600 --> 00:39:56,760
Speaker 1: girlfriend because she is in agony for weeks now, asking

910
00:39:56,840 --> 00:39:59,560
Speaker 1: him daily in tears if he has another woman, and

911
00:39:59,600 --> 00:40:01,879
Speaker 1: he he insists on not telling her because he has

912
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 1: no job or own money for years and he doesn't

913
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:07,839
Speaker 1: want to lose this. By the way, this comes from

914
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 1: our proposal sixty seven to seventy four on the Okay

915
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:13,800
Speaker 1: Storytime suburb. Hi, GoF his girlfriend is working like crazy

916
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 1: for both of them. She needs to know to kick

917
00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:18,279
Speaker 1: him out and end her suffering. And although he would

918
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 1: live on my couch for the next months, I'm afraid

919
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:22,600
Speaker 1: of writing to her because I don't want my boyfriend

920
00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:25,799
Speaker 1: to lose his brother, because he's the only family he has.

921
00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:28,919
Speaker 1: My boyfriend our wedding is in three weeks. That's why

922
00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:32,359
Speaker 1: I call him. Brother in law is disgusted by his

923
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:35,760
Speaker 1: brother and it's getting worse. We never lied to his girlfriend,

924
00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 1: but he always wrote him something like, Hey, if she

925
00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:40,440
Speaker 1: calls you and asks where I am, please tell her

926
00:40:40,520 --> 00:40:43,399
Speaker 1: I'm with you, and there is an update which I'm

927
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:44,799
Speaker 1: just gonna go into because that was come short.

928
00:40:44,880 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 2: Let's go.

929
00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:49,800
Speaker 1: We told her over an anonymous Instagram account. We wrote

930
00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:52,440
Speaker 1: the messages together and she had a few questions. We

931
00:40:52,520 --> 00:40:54,960
Speaker 1: needed to do this anonymously because his brother has no

932
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:58,680
Speaker 1: other family except my boyfriend, and he would be homeless

933
00:40:58,719 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 1: if she hopefully kicks him out. Although we think he's

934
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:03,440
Speaker 1: staying with the other girl for now, she's twenty one

935
00:41:03,520 --> 00:41:05,839
Speaker 1: and a student, he will sooner or later need our

936
00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:07,759
Speaker 1: help to find a job and a place to live.

937
00:41:08,239 --> 00:41:08,399
Speaker 2: Hi.

938
00:41:08,440 --> 00:41:10,799
Speaker 1: Everyone, I realized I have to clarify some things. I

939
00:41:10,840 --> 00:41:13,080
Speaker 1: made the first post very quick out of my emotions.

940
00:41:13,239 --> 00:41:17,320
Speaker 1: So my boyfriend is actually my fiance. We get married

941
00:41:17,320 --> 00:41:19,239
Speaker 1: in three weeks. That's why I call this brother brother

942
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:21,720
Speaker 1: in law. He is the older brother and the total

943
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 1: opposite of my fiance. He has no vocational training, no

944
00:41:25,840 --> 00:41:28,960
Speaker 1: job since three years, receives money from the government five

945
00:41:29,080 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 1: hundred euros per month. He is highly in debt due

946
00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:35,160
Speaker 1: to his spending in his early twenties on iPads and stuff.

947
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:38,000
Speaker 1: He's overweight, and sick because of it. He's gaming the

948
00:41:38,040 --> 00:41:41,760
Speaker 1: whole day and does the housework for forty five flat.

949
00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:45,640
Speaker 1: All in all, he is a lazy af and living

950
00:41:45,760 --> 00:41:48,640
Speaker 1: on the costs on his girlfriend. She paid for the

951
00:41:48,640 --> 00:41:51,960
Speaker 1: rent the car, his driver's license pays for his debt

952
00:41:52,280 --> 00:41:55,480
Speaker 1: five hundred euros per month. The food is cloth, his clothes,

953
00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:58,360
Speaker 1: and their vacation. My fiance and the brother have a

954
00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:00,840
Speaker 1: deep connection, but they see each other. They're only five

955
00:42:00,880 --> 00:42:03,760
Speaker 1: to ten times a year, although we live very close,

956
00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:07,279
Speaker 1: mostly because the brothers canceling their meetings last minute all

957
00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:10,359
Speaker 1: the time with lazy excuses like traffic. They have no

958
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:13,480
Speaker 1: contact to their parents and no other siblings or family.

959
00:42:13,640 --> 00:42:17,600
Speaker 1: Although we've known the girlfriend for nine years, the brother

960
00:42:17,719 --> 00:42:19,760
Speaker 1: kind of made sure we never saw her that much.

961
00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:20,799
Speaker 2: We had an.

962
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:23,400
Speaker 1: Opportunity to get to know her. We invited them several

963
00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:27,000
Speaker 1: times over the years, but he always refused. He told

964
00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:29,319
Speaker 1: my fiance early this year about a young girl he

965
00:42:29,360 --> 00:42:32,280
Speaker 1: met in his hobby basketball team. He is the coach.

966
00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:32,640
Speaker 2: Oh.

967
00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:34,600
Speaker 1: He told me that they're chatting until the whole night,

968
00:42:34,680 --> 00:42:38,080
Speaker 1: until early in the morning, sending selfies, and he's driving

969
00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:40,719
Speaker 1: a long detour to pick her up for training. You

970
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:42,879
Speaker 1: don't love your girlfriend. If you're cheating on her, if

971
00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:44,680
Speaker 1: you're jeting on your partner, you don't love them.

972
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:45,360
Speaker 2: That's what it is.

973
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:49,160
Speaker 3: Just just you're so stupid. You're so stupid, You're so stupid.

974
00:42:49,440 --> 00:42:52,000
Speaker 1: My fiance advised him that if he is being unhappy

975
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:54,319
Speaker 1: in his relationship, he has to be independent from his

976
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:58,239
Speaker 1: girlfriend AKA needs a job and not to rush it

977
00:42:58,320 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 1: with another girl. Fast forward end of the summer. We

978
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:04,320
Speaker 1: were on a six week vacation and received three messages

979
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:07,160
Speaker 1: over the time from the brother that if his girlfriend

980
00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:09,560
Speaker 1: is calling us, we should say he is with us.

981
00:43:09,880 --> 00:43:12,319
Speaker 1: We knew immediately what was going on. The brother never

982
00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:16,200
Speaker 1: answered my fiances calls, and the girlfriend never contacted us.

983
00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 1: The brothers set up a meeting a week after we

984
00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:22,719
Speaker 1: came back, but canceled last minute. He calls and tells

985
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:24,680
Speaker 1: us he's spending time with the girl and adds some

986
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:27,880
Speaker 1: sleepovers with her and his girlfriend is driving crazy and

987
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:29,960
Speaker 1: is devastated. This guy sucks.

988
00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 3: I want to slap you know what, what skip the trebuche.

989
00:43:36,040 --> 00:43:39,200
Speaker 3: I'm going to smack this dude so so my mouth

990
00:43:39,560 --> 00:43:42,160
Speaker 3: with an open hand. So it's legal that he's just

991
00:43:42,200 --> 00:43:44,240
Speaker 3: going to be flung into the ort cloud.

992
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,000
Speaker 1: This guy is the worst hold on. You can smack

993
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:49,239
Speaker 1: someone legally if it's open hand.

994
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 3: Actually, I think I'm thinking of that in the context

995
00:43:51,560 --> 00:43:52,160
Speaker 3: of children.

996
00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:53,520
Speaker 2: What.

997
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:57,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like like you can't if you like are

998
00:43:57,520 --> 00:44:00,240
Speaker 3: reprimanding like a kid, like you can like spank them

999
00:44:00,320 --> 00:44:02,719
Speaker 3: or something, but like if you you can't close up

1000
00:44:02,800 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 3: the hand, because then that's legally You're just you distract

1001
00:44:06,600 --> 00:44:11,280
Speaker 3: me with what I'm saying is this guy is making

1002
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:14,040
Speaker 3: my blood hot and I would like him to not

1003
00:44:14,120 --> 00:44:14,560
Speaker 3: be on the.

1004
00:44:14,480 --> 00:44:16,000
Speaker 2: See he's gone.

1005
00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:19,719
Speaker 1: My fiance wrote him some text saying he has to

1006
00:44:19,719 --> 00:44:22,040
Speaker 1: be fair with his girlfriend and needs to stop cheating

1007
00:44:22,200 --> 00:44:25,520
Speaker 1: or break up. He immediately tells the same lies he's

1008
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 1: with friends on a basketball game in another city. TVH.

1009
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:31,200
Speaker 1: He's not very intelligent and makes mistakes in his lies,

1010
00:44:31,239 --> 00:44:33,680
Speaker 1: like there's no game in that city on this day.

1011
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 1: And the next day my fiance has to meet and

1012
00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:38,719
Speaker 1: he says he's in our city. What the weekend after

1013
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:41,439
Speaker 1: he calls, and the weekend after he calls and says

1014
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:43,120
Speaker 1: he woke up and his girlfriend wants to have a

1015
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 1: talk with him. They're now taking a break to think

1016
00:44:45,480 --> 00:44:51,640
Speaker 1: about their relationship. Think about never a break. For God's sakes,

1017
00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:53,000
Speaker 1: he's all the money.

1018
00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:54,880
Speaker 2: There's no value there.

1019
00:44:55,080 --> 00:44:58,319
Speaker 1: He's a low value man. Invited him to stay with us,

1020
00:44:58,360 --> 00:44:59,880
Speaker 1: but he wanted to make a nice beekend with the

1021
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:01,359
Speaker 1: younger girl, saying he's out.

1022
00:45:01,280 --> 00:45:02,040
Speaker 2: Of prison now.

1023
00:45:02,320 --> 00:45:05,240
Speaker 1: Having a talk on Thursday with his girlfriend, he finally

1024
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:07,600
Speaker 1: had time to meet with the fiance. To make things short,

1025
00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:09,720
Speaker 1: he admits to being in love with her and spending

1026
00:45:09,719 --> 00:45:12,239
Speaker 1: every weekend and at hers over the last two months,

1027
00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:13,920
Speaker 1: which I think he means being in love with the

1028
00:45:14,040 --> 00:45:16,359
Speaker 1: twenty year old. That his girlfriend is suspicious, but he

1029
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:20,160
Speaker 1: loaded a crap of reasons on her why it's her fault,

1030
00:45:20,280 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 1: that the relationship sucks, not admitting he has another woman

1031
00:45:23,280 --> 00:45:25,680
Speaker 1: although she asks him several times, and it's not their

1032
00:45:25,719 --> 00:45:28,640
Speaker 1: fault their relationship sucks. Not admitting he has another woman

1033
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:32,000
Speaker 1: although she asks him several times. My fiance said the same,

1034
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:34,960
Speaker 1: break up with her when you're cheating. Brother says he

1035
00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:37,400
Speaker 1: wanted to wait how things go with the new girl, Like,

1036
00:45:37,600 --> 00:45:41,960
Speaker 1: WTF this lazy liar doesn't want to work what happened

1037
00:45:42,000 --> 00:45:44,960
Speaker 1: after my first post? The next day, I made the

1038
00:45:44,960 --> 00:45:47,800
Speaker 1: post and insisted that we have to tell girlfriend. Fiance

1039
00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:51,319
Speaker 1: has the same opinion, and we discuss the best way.

1040
00:45:51,760 --> 00:45:54,120
Speaker 1: Kind of want to protect his brother from knowing about

1041
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:57,040
Speaker 1: us telling her because he is the only family that

1042
00:45:57,120 --> 00:45:59,960
Speaker 1: his brother has left. So I made an incest story

1043
00:46:00,200 --> 00:46:02,840
Speaker 1: which I never do as a vacation throwback, including the

1044
00:46:02,920 --> 00:46:05,880
Speaker 1: dates we were not in town. Oh made an instant

1045
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:09,759
Speaker 1: story of a vacation throwback. The girlfriend saw it. We

1046
00:46:09,840 --> 00:46:12,000
Speaker 1: made a fake I g pretending being to be a

1047
00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:13,799
Speaker 1: friend of the young girl and tell her that her

1048
00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:17,680
Speaker 1: boyfriend is cheating. The girlfriend immediately calls brother and tells

1049
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:20,759
Speaker 1: him about the instant message. He admits everything to her

1050
00:46:21,080 --> 00:46:23,319
Speaker 1: and refused to come home and talk. Brother calls my

1051
00:46:23,360 --> 00:46:26,360
Speaker 1: fiance immediately after the calls of the girlfriend and tells

1052
00:46:26,440 --> 00:46:29,040
Speaker 1: us he wants to have a nice breakfast with younger girl,

1053
00:46:29,280 --> 00:46:31,760
Speaker 1: then go home and see how it goes. The girlfriend

1054
00:46:31,760 --> 00:46:34,640
Speaker 1: texts fiance angry about not telling her that her boyfriend

1055
00:46:34,680 --> 00:46:39,040
Speaker 1: and his brother are cheating and lying. We call girlfriend

1056
00:46:39,200 --> 00:46:42,240
Speaker 1: and apologize for the last days that we were aware

1057
00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:45,120
Speaker 1: and explain that we wanted him to be honest with

1058
00:46:45,160 --> 00:46:47,600
Speaker 1: her himself. So the girlfriend just called.

1059
00:46:47,400 --> 00:46:48,960
Speaker 2: Them mom and was like, why didn't you tell me

1060
00:46:49,280 --> 00:46:51,200
Speaker 2: that he's been cheating on. Yeah, I'd be the same way.

1061
00:46:51,400 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 2: I would be upset.

1062
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:55,399
Speaker 3: I'd be like you got like you knew for a while.

1063
00:46:55,600 --> 00:46:57,240
Speaker 2: What. Yeah, I'd be pretty upset.

1064
00:46:57,360 --> 00:47:01,000
Speaker 1: She told us everything of his stupid lie the last months,

1065
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:03,560
Speaker 1: including the story that I cheated on my fiance and

1066
00:47:03,640 --> 00:47:05,759
Speaker 1: he was staying with his brother all the time because

1067
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:08,560
Speaker 1: of how devastated he was, and a lot more lies

1068
00:47:08,600 --> 00:47:10,719
Speaker 1: about my fiance and me that explain why he is

1069
00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:13,520
Speaker 1: not home. But you can always be home with us

1070
00:47:13,680 --> 00:47:16,400
Speaker 1: if you join us live every weekday three pmpst on YouTube.

1071
00:47:16,440 --> 00:47:17,200
Speaker 1: Just tap her profile.

1072
00:47:17,520 --> 00:47:18,680
Speaker 2: Yep, just do that.

1073
00:47:18,800 --> 00:47:21,000
Speaker 1: Kimberly finds us he could pick a new family. Dude,

1074
00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:23,160
Speaker 1: we'll commute for a side piece, but hits a red

1075
00:47:23,239 --> 00:47:25,360
Speaker 1: light en route to spend time with his family and says, not.

1076
00:47:25,760 --> 00:47:27,960
Speaker 1: The thing is, you don't owe your brother anything. And

1077
00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 1: I know that they want to pull like the Angel

1078
00:47:30,080 --> 00:47:33,520
Speaker 1: move and help him out, but he has not shown

1079
00:47:33,920 --> 00:47:36,160
Speaker 1: that he cares about you guys at all. And you're

1080
00:47:36,160 --> 00:47:38,799
Speaker 1: not destroying this little family brotherly bond that they have

1081
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:41,880
Speaker 1: if you if you don't help him more than you

1082
00:47:41,880 --> 00:47:42,799
Speaker 1: already have, you are.

1083
00:47:42,719 --> 00:47:47,800
Speaker 3: Not destroying anything nothing. The person destroying all of this stuff.

1084
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:49,360
Speaker 2: Is him is the brother?

1085
00:47:49,600 --> 00:47:54,200
Speaker 3: Yep, it is not you, It is the brother. I

1086
00:47:54,200 --> 00:47:57,440
Speaker 3: don't know why this is summoning a particularly strong rage

1087
00:47:57,520 --> 00:47:59,840
Speaker 3: within me. No, it's so frustrating because I think it

1088
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:01,799
Speaker 3: also it kind of reminds me of me in a

1089
00:48:01,840 --> 00:48:05,600
Speaker 3: way when I was younger, Like I was very like

1090
00:48:05,680 --> 00:48:08,040
Speaker 3: I took so much stuff for granted, like in my

1091
00:48:08,360 --> 00:48:11,480
Speaker 3: late teens early twenties, like especially in regards to like

1092
00:48:11,760 --> 00:48:15,759
Speaker 3: the people around me and like the their quality. Like

1093
00:48:15,960 --> 00:48:19,800
Speaker 3: I was sort of a thoughtless, careless person, and I

1094
00:48:20,160 --> 00:48:23,560
Speaker 3: it took like effort to not be that person and

1095
00:48:23,680 --> 00:48:25,719
Speaker 3: to hear this guy be kind of that way and

1096
00:48:25,760 --> 00:48:29,160
Speaker 3: then be like it's also entirely her fault that relationships

1097
00:48:29,160 --> 00:48:33,480
Speaker 3: and even recognizing and I'm actively cheating on her, and like,

1098
00:48:34,000 --> 00:48:36,440
Speaker 3: I just want a nice breakfast with my side piece

1099
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 3: that I'm cheating on my girlfriend with. Like before I

1100
00:48:39,239 --> 00:48:42,520
Speaker 3: have this conversation, it's like, I feel like this guy

1101
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:44,480
Speaker 3: is black hole. I want this guy to turn into

1102
00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 3: spaghetti yeah and no longer exist.

1103
00:48:47,080 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 1: I think he has to go.

1104
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:50,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, he doesn't even get to exist in the work cloud.

1105
00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 3: You must go, Yes, No, I cast you have to

1106
00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:57,120
Speaker 3: a black hole. That's the sound. I really.

1107
00:48:58,680 --> 00:49:00,960
Speaker 1: Really hate him. But there's a little bit more to

1108
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:03,720
Speaker 1: this story. Next day, brother had to take his stuff

1109
00:49:03,719 --> 00:49:05,880
Speaker 1: out of girlfriend's place and wanted to go back to

1110
00:49:05,960 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 1: younger girls, saying, ex girlfriend he's living with brother now,

1111
00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:12,439
Speaker 1: So even in the breakup, he's still lying.

1112
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:17,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, this this he's a liar, liar, the manipulator. He's

1113
00:49:17,239 --> 00:49:20,880
Speaker 3: a coward, and he's thoughtless, and he's useless, and he

1114
00:49:20,920 --> 00:49:23,280
Speaker 3: deserves nothing but to no longer exist.

1115
00:49:23,560 --> 00:49:27,279
Speaker 1: We're still in contact with ex girlfriend. Brother doesn't know

1116
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:30,480
Speaker 1: we told each other everything. My fiance is very angry

1117
00:49:30,520 --> 00:49:32,759
Speaker 1: with his brother and sent him a text about how

1118
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:34,879
Speaker 1: stupid he is and that he's not willing to help

1119
00:49:34,920 --> 00:49:37,480
Speaker 1: him due to his lies. Brother is angry with fiance

1120
00:49:37,600 --> 00:49:40,319
Speaker 1: and tells him it's his fault because he pushed him

1121
00:49:40,360 --> 00:49:44,000
Speaker 1: to break up. Yeah, dude, everything is sure. Nothing is

1122
00:49:44,040 --> 00:49:44,800
Speaker 1: this guy's fault.

1123
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:48,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's your fault. They got it, They got you. Man,

1124
00:49:48,680 --> 00:49:51,600
Speaker 3: figured it out, man, that's the end. That's story. Yeah,

1125
00:49:51,640 --> 00:49:55,560
Speaker 3: and what's h oh oh man?

1126
00:49:55,800 --> 00:49:56,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's kind of work.

1127
00:49:57,760 --> 00:50:01,000
Speaker 3: I'm trying to think of any like a good example.

1128
00:50:01,920 --> 00:50:05,120
Speaker 3: It's like, oh, let's talk about Chernobyl. Yeah, the Chernobyl

1129
00:50:05,239 --> 00:50:08,600
Speaker 3: nuclear disaster is not actually any of the people's whose

1130
00:50:08,600 --> 00:50:13,160
Speaker 3: fault it really is. It's the guy who invented nuclear technology.

1131
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:14,479
Speaker 2: It's his fault. It's his fault.

1132
00:50:14,520 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 3: He should have never invented nuclear technology, because if you

1133
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:19,120
Speaker 3: didn't do that, then we wouldn't. I guess it's John

1134
00:50:19,160 --> 00:50:20,200
Speaker 3: Robert Oppenheimer's fault.

1135
00:50:20,200 --> 00:50:21,200
Speaker 1: I was about to say. I was like, are we

1136
00:50:21,239 --> 00:50:22,600
Speaker 1: just talking about Oppenheimron.

1137
00:50:22,200 --> 00:50:27,920
Speaker 3: Now unlocking the secretive nuclear science? Yeah? Honestly, John Oppenheimer's

1138
00:50:27,920 --> 00:50:31,399
Speaker 3: did pretty bad, pretty bad move on his part though. Yeah, well,

1139
00:50:31,440 --> 00:50:33,960
Speaker 3: I mean maybe bad move on Oppenheimer's part. Shouldn't have

1140
00:50:34,000 --> 00:50:37,640
Speaker 3: done it up technically technical Yeah, well, I think I'll

1141
00:50:37,640 --> 00:50:39,759
Speaker 3: have to watch the movie again before I let my

1142
00:50:39,800 --> 00:50:40,600
Speaker 3: opinion out on that.

1143
00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:43,360
Speaker 1: Well, obviously it was more than people who used its fault.

1144
00:50:43,440 --> 00:50:47,360
Speaker 3: But my mother in law ruined my wedding but still

1145
00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:50,520
Speaker 3: blames me for her bad relationship with her kids.

1146
00:50:50,880 --> 00:50:51,920
Speaker 2: This is gonna be long.

1147
00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:55,120
Speaker 3: I thirty two female, got married in twenty nineteen to

1148
00:50:55,440 --> 00:50:58,279
Speaker 3: s thirty six male, and the stuff his mother did

1149
00:50:58,360 --> 00:51:02,040
Speaker 3: belongs in a horror movie. Many things have changed since then.

1150
00:51:02,200 --> 00:51:04,719
Speaker 3: I came out as a lesbian, divorced and I'm now

1151
00:51:04,760 --> 00:51:08,239
Speaker 3: engaged to e thirty three female. So as I find

1152
00:51:08,239 --> 00:51:11,040
Speaker 3: myself planning a new wedding, I think it's finally time

1153
00:51:11,080 --> 00:51:11,920
Speaker 3: to spill the beans.

1154
00:51:12,200 --> 00:51:14,040
Speaker 2: So here it goes spill those beans.

1155
00:51:14,280 --> 00:51:16,840
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from user magic Nobody on

1156
00:51:16,920 --> 00:51:21,040
Speaker 3: the r slash Okay story time subreddit. So oh, I

1157
00:51:21,120 --> 00:51:24,120
Speaker 3: just ate the microphone. I met Sean at twenty one.

1158
00:51:24,239 --> 00:51:26,560
Speaker 3: We come from different countries, and at the time we

1159
00:51:26,560 --> 00:51:29,399
Speaker 3: were both studying in a third country. He is from

1160
00:51:29,440 --> 00:51:32,360
Speaker 3: the United States. After four years together, in twenty seventeen,

1161
00:51:32,440 --> 00:51:34,880
Speaker 3: we decided to leave the country we met in. He

1162
00:51:35,000 --> 00:51:38,359
Speaker 3: is categorically opposed to ever living in the US and

1163
00:51:38,600 --> 00:51:41,600
Speaker 3: I am homesick, so we moved to my country of origin.

1164
00:51:41,840 --> 00:51:44,440
Speaker 3: Important to note here his sister doesn't live in the

1165
00:51:44,520 --> 00:51:47,520
Speaker 3: US either and is just as opposed to moving back there.

1166
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:50,480
Speaker 3: In twenty eighteen, his sister gets married and we all

1167
00:51:50,480 --> 00:51:54,480
Speaker 3: meet at her wedding. His mother is a handful. I

1168
00:51:54,560 --> 00:51:57,080
Speaker 3: won't go into the details about this here, but let's

1169
00:51:57,200 --> 00:52:00,080
Speaker 3: just say many Reddit posts have been written by my

1170
00:52:00,160 --> 00:52:03,239
Speaker 3: sister in law about that wedding. The important takeaway here

1171
00:52:03,400 --> 00:52:05,480
Speaker 3: is mother in law is upset that the sister in

1172
00:52:05,560 --> 00:52:07,960
Speaker 3: law lives abroad. Mother in law is upset that the

1173
00:52:07,960 --> 00:52:10,480
Speaker 3: wedding wasn't in the US because mother in law is

1174
00:52:10,560 --> 00:52:14,440
Speaker 3: hypochondriac and always sick with something, and how dare the

1175
00:52:14,480 --> 00:52:16,600
Speaker 3: sister in law not take that into account and have

1176
00:52:16,680 --> 00:52:19,520
Speaker 3: her fly so far away. Two months after all this,

1177
00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:22,960
Speaker 3: Shawn and I got engaged. At this point, I am young, naive,

1178
00:52:23,000 --> 00:52:25,760
Speaker 3: and believe in the good in people, so I push

1179
00:52:25,840 --> 00:52:27,879
Speaker 3: for the wedding to be in the United States as

1180
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:30,040
Speaker 3: an olive branch to the mother in law.

1181
00:52:30,360 --> 00:52:32,080
Speaker 2: Now here's the situation.

1182
00:52:32,480 --> 00:52:34,279
Speaker 3: Mother in law and father in law own a very

1183
00:52:34,400 --> 00:52:37,520
Speaker 3: large property that they have been endlessly renovating and adding

1184
00:52:37,560 --> 00:52:40,800
Speaker 3: to for years. It is a beautiful house, a flower garden,

1185
00:52:40,840 --> 00:52:43,439
Speaker 3: a barn, stables, and a hole lot of land. Yes,

1186
00:52:43,840 --> 00:52:46,400
Speaker 3: mother in law and father in law are rich. Sean

1187
00:52:46,560 --> 00:52:50,040
Speaker 3: works remotely for their business. We decided to get married

1188
00:52:50,120 --> 00:52:52,719
Speaker 3: at the property. Mother in law is over the moon.

1189
00:52:52,880 --> 00:52:55,799
Speaker 3: We want it to be a heavily diy wedding and

1190
00:52:55,920 --> 00:52:59,120
Speaker 3: decide to split tasks as follows. Fun The mother in

1191
00:52:59,200 --> 00:53:01,279
Speaker 3: law wants to renov the barn to make it fit

1192
00:53:01,320 --> 00:53:03,239
Speaker 3: for the wedding. She wants to hire a carpenter to

1193
00:53:03,280 --> 00:53:05,799
Speaker 3: help her build tables from scratch, and she wants to

1194
00:53:05,840 --> 00:53:08,479
Speaker 3: turn the TV room into an extra bedroom. This means

1195
00:53:08,480 --> 00:53:10,960
Speaker 3: we can have our entire bridal party stay at the house.

1196
00:53:11,200 --> 00:53:14,160
Speaker 3: I will handle all the wedding stationary decorations and make

1197
00:53:14,200 --> 00:53:16,920
Speaker 3: the wedding cake sewn, and his groomsmen will help with

1198
00:53:17,080 --> 00:53:20,480
Speaker 3: setup and tear down and do any of the heavy lifting,

1199
00:53:20,640 --> 00:53:22,279
Speaker 3: and Shawn and I will travel to the US a

1200
00:53:22,320 --> 00:53:24,360
Speaker 3: month prior to the wedding to help with the last

1201
00:53:24,600 --> 00:53:27,279
Speaker 3: bulk of tasks. If this sounds like a whole lot

1202
00:53:27,280 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 3: of red flags, you would be right.

1203
00:53:29,120 --> 00:53:30,560
Speaker 1: I thought it sounded kind of nice.

1204
00:53:30,680 --> 00:53:32,839
Speaker 3: We keep in touch with his parents throughout the year

1205
00:53:32,920 --> 00:53:35,400
Speaker 3: leading up to the wedding, and they say renovations.

1206
00:53:34,880 --> 00:53:35,880
Speaker 2: Are going as planned.

1207
00:53:36,320 --> 00:53:39,399
Speaker 3: Summer comes and we fly to the US, and what

1208
00:53:39,560 --> 00:53:43,360
Speaker 3: do we find. The barn is missing a significant portion

1209
00:53:43,480 --> 00:53:46,920
Speaker 3: of the floor, the extra bedroom upstairs, and the house

1210
00:53:47,000 --> 00:53:49,160
Speaker 3: is not ready, not in the way where we can

1211
00:53:49,200 --> 00:53:51,319
Speaker 3: sleep on an air mattress, and not in the way

1212
00:53:51,320 --> 00:53:54,280
Speaker 3: that mother in law decided it needed, and on sweet

1213
00:53:54,320 --> 00:53:57,600
Speaker 3: bathroom that is now wander instruction. The extra bedroom upstairs

1214
00:53:57,680 --> 00:53:59,080
Speaker 3: is not ready, not in the way where we can

1215
00:53:59,120 --> 00:54:01,040
Speaker 3: sleep on an air match in the way that mother

1216
00:54:01,080 --> 00:54:03,960
Speaker 3: in law Oh, okay, okay, now I'm understanding. So it's

1217
00:54:03,960 --> 00:54:05,880
Speaker 3: like the extra bedroom's not ready, and not in the

1218
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:08,080
Speaker 3: way where it's like, oh, we'll sleep on an air mattress.

1219
00:54:08,320 --> 00:54:10,719
Speaker 3: It's not ready in the way that they're bedoing an

1220
00:54:10,920 --> 00:54:14,200
Speaker 3: entire bathroom in there and we cannot sleep in that room.

1221
00:54:14,360 --> 00:54:16,680
Speaker 3: The tables are not finished because she couldn't find a

1222
00:54:16,719 --> 00:54:19,600
Speaker 3: local carpenter that fit her taste and decided to fly

1223
00:54:19,719 --> 00:54:23,160
Speaker 3: one in from another state. At this point, we're desperate.

1224
00:54:23,440 --> 00:54:25,880
Speaker 3: We have people flying in from all over it and

1225
00:54:26,000 --> 00:54:28,560
Speaker 3: in my country, a flight to the US can cost

1226
00:54:28,560 --> 00:54:32,080
Speaker 3: as much as a full month's salary. We couldn't possibly

1227
00:54:32,120 --> 00:54:34,160
Speaker 3: tell people that they now also have to worry about

1228
00:54:34,200 --> 00:54:37,759
Speaker 3: accommodation in a popular vacation destination in the middle of

1229
00:54:37,800 --> 00:54:40,640
Speaker 3: summer with one month's notice. This is when mother in

1230
00:54:40,719 --> 00:54:42,680
Speaker 3: law tells us that if we want everything to be

1231
00:54:42,760 --> 00:54:45,440
Speaker 3: ready on time, we'll have to get to work. And

1232
00:54:45,560 --> 00:54:48,040
Speaker 3: I'm not kidding when I say that Sean turned into

1233
00:54:48,120 --> 00:54:50,360
Speaker 3: their full time carpenter.

1234
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:51,040
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

1235
00:54:51,080 --> 00:54:53,000
Speaker 1: So they literally I feel like they planned this a

1236
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:54,600
Speaker 1: little bit. They're like, oh, we'll just get him to

1237
00:54:54,680 --> 00:54:55,080
Speaker 1: the rest.

1238
00:54:54,920 --> 00:54:55,319
Speaker 2: Of the work.

1239
00:54:55,480 --> 00:54:58,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're like, I know a great cheap guy who

1240
00:54:58,440 --> 00:54:58,840
Speaker 3: can do this.

1241
00:54:58,920 --> 00:54:59,480
Speaker 2: It's our son.

1242
00:55:00,360 --> 00:55:01,080
Speaker 1: We won't bay him.

1243
00:55:01,080 --> 00:55:03,000
Speaker 3: Two weeks go by and it becomes a parent that

1244
00:55:03,080 --> 00:55:06,080
Speaker 3: the extra room isn't getting finished at this rate and

1245
00:55:06,200 --> 00:55:08,160
Speaker 3: the barn will not be in shape to host a wedding.

1246
00:55:08,280 --> 00:55:11,040
Speaker 3: Sean and I brainstorm and decide that we'll risk getting

1247
00:55:11,040 --> 00:55:13,640
Speaker 3: married in the garden If it rains, were screwed. If

1248
00:55:13,680 --> 00:55:16,880
Speaker 3: it's too hot, we're screwed, and beg his parents to

1249
00:55:16,920 --> 00:55:18,520
Speaker 3: get the bedroom ready instead.

1250
00:55:18,840 --> 00:55:19,959
Speaker 2: Everything is good, right?

1251
00:55:20,280 --> 00:55:21,320
Speaker 3: Wrong? Long?

1252
00:55:22,000 --> 00:55:22,920
Speaker 1: Or I'm not good?

1253
00:55:23,040 --> 00:55:24,759
Speaker 2: What do you mean is everything is good? It didn't

1254
00:55:24,800 --> 00:55:25,279
Speaker 2: sound good.

1255
00:55:25,320 --> 00:55:27,080
Speaker 1: If that sounded good, it sounded like you were all

1256
00:55:27,320 --> 00:55:28,000
Speaker 1: really behind.

1257
00:55:28,120 --> 00:55:29,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, it sounds like you're gambling on the weather not

1258
00:55:30,080 --> 00:55:32,160
Speaker 3: ruining your wedding, which, honestly, if you did have the

1259
00:55:32,200 --> 00:55:32,840
Speaker 3: wedding outside and.

1260
00:55:32,880 --> 00:55:34,160
Speaker 2: It rained, that's kind of great.

1261
00:55:34,760 --> 00:55:37,880
Speaker 3: For some reason, this really offends my mother in law,

1262
00:55:38,040 --> 00:55:40,600
Speaker 3: who was really counting on Sean to finish the barn.

1263
00:55:40,760 --> 00:55:44,360
Speaker 3: But we put our foot down and everything seems to

1264
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:47,239
Speaker 3: be resolved. A week before the wedding. Mother in law

1265
00:55:47,440 --> 00:55:49,880
Speaker 3: lets me know that in America, it's customary to have

1266
00:55:49,920 --> 00:55:52,560
Speaker 3: a rehearsal dinner the day before the wedding, and my

1267
00:55:52,640 --> 00:55:55,120
Speaker 3: parents are expected to pay for it. What do you

1268
00:55:55,200 --> 00:55:58,000
Speaker 3: mean pay for it? It's at the frickin' prop At

1269
00:55:58,040 --> 00:56:02,000
Speaker 3: this point I panic. My parents already spent a prohibitive

1270
00:56:02,000 --> 00:56:04,920
Speaker 3: amount of money to get flights and an airbnb for

1271
00:56:05,000 --> 00:56:06,040
Speaker 3: my immediate family.

1272
00:56:06,400 --> 00:56:07,360
Speaker 2: There's no way.

1273
00:56:07,160 --> 00:56:10,120
Speaker 3: They can pay for dinner for seventy plus people on

1274
00:56:10,120 --> 00:56:13,320
Speaker 3: one week's notice. I offered to cook the dinner myself.

1275
00:56:13,600 --> 00:56:16,320
Speaker 3: This is actually something I'd be able to do skill wise,

1276
00:56:16,520 --> 00:56:18,560
Speaker 3: though the timing would be a nightmare, and I'm just

1277
00:56:18,560 --> 00:56:21,880
Speaker 3: trying to compromise. And she responds that she would never

1278
00:56:22,040 --> 00:56:25,279
Speaker 3: serve my food to her guests. They're literally not your gut.

1279
00:56:25,680 --> 00:56:26,680
Speaker 3: They're Op's guests.

1280
00:56:27,000 --> 00:56:27,440
Speaker 2: Wow.

1281
00:56:27,719 --> 00:56:29,960
Speaker 3: Of all the evil stuff that she said to me,

1282
00:56:30,160 --> 00:56:32,719
Speaker 3: this is the one that offended me the most. My

1283
00:56:32,920 --> 00:56:36,360
Speaker 3: country is known for our traditional food, and at the

1284
00:56:36,440 --> 00:56:39,440
Speaker 3: time I had just finished a year of professional cooking classes.

1285
00:56:39,600 --> 00:56:42,839
Speaker 3: I was also actively working on my wedding cake. Yeah,

1286
00:56:42,880 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 3: so it doesn't even matter if you didn't want to

1287
00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:46,719
Speaker 3: serve the food. Anyone who eats cake is gonna eat

1288
00:56:46,719 --> 00:56:49,279
Speaker 3: my food. Yeah, Oh my god, it's like a good

1289
00:56:49,320 --> 00:56:50,880
Speaker 3: cook mom's zilla.

1290
00:56:51,080 --> 00:56:53,040
Speaker 1: We don't know where op is from, but like just

1291
00:56:53,080 --> 00:56:55,040
Speaker 1: the fact that she was like, well, I would never

1292
00:56:55,160 --> 00:56:58,440
Speaker 1: serve them your feet and also now racist traditionally yeah,

1293
00:56:58,520 --> 00:56:59,399
Speaker 1: racist rich.

1294
00:57:00,680 --> 00:57:03,680
Speaker 3: At this point, I lose it and I ask what

1295
00:57:03,880 --> 00:57:06,880
Speaker 3: is her problem? She tells me that I'm a destructive

1296
00:57:06,920 --> 00:57:08,840
Speaker 3: force in her relationship with her children.

1297
00:57:08,880 --> 00:57:11,200
Speaker 1: So it seems like maybe you're the destructive force.

1298
00:57:11,560 --> 00:57:15,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, it sounds like maybe you're the destructive force that

1299
00:57:15,080 --> 00:57:17,880
Speaker 3: has been breaking your own relationship with your children and

1300
00:57:17,880 --> 00:57:20,600
Speaker 3: they've been desperately trying to escape to the point where

1301
00:57:20,640 --> 00:57:22,840
Speaker 3: they don't even want to go back to the United States. Yeah,

1302
00:57:23,240 --> 00:57:25,720
Speaker 3: maybe they all left the country because of you. Not

1303
00:57:25,800 --> 00:57:27,480
Speaker 3: quite sure what the sister in law has to do

1304
00:57:27,520 --> 00:57:30,080
Speaker 3: with this and the reason why her son won't move

1305
00:57:30,160 --> 00:57:32,120
Speaker 3: back home. I don't really know what to do at

1306
00:57:32,120 --> 00:57:34,560
Speaker 3: this point, so I start crying and leave the house.

1307
00:57:34,880 --> 00:57:36,840
Speaker 3: Sean says he'll support me if I want to call

1308
00:57:36,880 --> 00:57:38,680
Speaker 3: off the wedding and fly back home, but out of

1309
00:57:38,760 --> 00:57:41,920
Speaker 3: respect for everyone coming, I choose to go through with it.

1310
00:57:42,200 --> 00:57:46,000
Speaker 3: The guests arrive, the rooms are miraculously okay, and for

1311
00:57:46,040 --> 00:57:49,080
Speaker 3: the whole week before the wedding, she's various degrees of

1312
00:57:49,160 --> 00:57:52,160
Speaker 3: rude to everyone on my side. It would take too

1313
00:57:52,240 --> 00:57:54,480
Speaker 3: long to get into all that has happened, but a

1314
00:57:54,480 --> 00:57:57,960
Speaker 3: notable one was when she had my fifteen year old cousin,

1315
00:57:57,960 --> 00:58:01,200
Speaker 3: who didn't really speak English, work on the floral arrangements

1316
00:58:01,240 --> 00:58:04,480
Speaker 3: alone without my knowledge, and then led me to believe

1317
00:58:04,600 --> 00:58:08,040
Speaker 3: my bridesmaids left her alone, when in actuality, it was

1318
00:58:08,080 --> 00:58:09,880
Speaker 3: the mother in law that kicked them out. I was

1319
00:58:09,920 --> 00:58:11,880
Speaker 3: decorating the cake at the time, so I had no

1320
00:58:11,960 --> 00:58:15,040
Speaker 3: idea that this happened until much later, the day.

1321
00:58:14,840 --> 00:58:17,000
Speaker 2: Before the wedding, sister in law comes to me to

1322
00:58:17,080 --> 00:58:17,440
Speaker 2: let me.

1323
00:58:17,440 --> 00:58:20,840
Speaker 3: Know that mother in law hired a registered spice offender

1324
00:58:21,600 --> 00:58:29,400
Speaker 3: to work it. Now, this is a spicy sleep but

1325
00:58:29,440 --> 00:58:32,240
Speaker 3: he went with spice. What. Yes, mother in law knew

1326
00:58:32,280 --> 00:58:36,040
Speaker 3: that this guy was a spicy sleep offender because sister

1327
00:58:36,080 --> 00:58:38,480
Speaker 3: in law was one of his victims when she was

1328
00:58:38,480 --> 00:58:41,760
Speaker 3: a minor. Wow, filmed without her knowledge. But this is

1329
00:58:41,800 --> 00:58:42,720
Speaker 3: a whole other story.

1330
00:58:42,840 --> 00:58:43,720
Speaker 2: Wow, so cool?

1331
00:58:43,840 --> 00:58:48,240
Speaker 3: What what is this cool? Oh my God, or cloud

1332
00:58:48,680 --> 00:58:53,480
Speaker 3: or hired her own daughters spicy spicy sleep offender. Oh

1333
00:58:53,600 --> 00:58:55,920
Speaker 3: my God knew about it and knew about it, by

1334
00:58:55,920 --> 00:58:56,480
Speaker 3: the way, and.

1335
00:58:56,520 --> 00:58:59,080
Speaker 1: Knew about it I literally, oh my god, And this

1336
00:58:59,120 --> 00:59:01,919
Speaker 1: is such a complicated because the wedding is happening at

1337
00:59:02,000 --> 00:59:04,720
Speaker 1: their place, and then this mom wants to be like.

1338
00:59:04,960 --> 00:59:07,680
Speaker 3: You're the reason my kids don't want to live in

1339
00:59:07,720 --> 00:59:09,200
Speaker 3: the same country as me.

1340
00:59:09,480 --> 00:59:12,560
Speaker 1: I would literally go no contact with them going forward.

1341
00:59:12,760 --> 00:59:15,080
Speaker 2: I would throw your mom into the sun. Your mom's

1342
00:59:15,080 --> 00:59:16,120
Speaker 2: in the ort cloud for me.

1343
00:59:16,520 --> 00:59:19,080
Speaker 3: Or cloud or cloud. This is the only reason I

1344
00:59:19,160 --> 00:59:20,120
Speaker 3: threw the mom into the Wait.

1345
00:59:20,120 --> 00:59:21,960
Speaker 2: Maybe this is black hole, I think so.

1346
00:59:22,280 --> 00:59:24,280
Speaker 3: I don't want the mom to be able to like

1347
00:59:24,600 --> 00:59:27,280
Speaker 3: live endlessly in the ork cloud. Instead, I would like

1348
00:59:27,320 --> 00:59:29,800
Speaker 3: her to be turned into spaghetti and no longer.

1349
00:59:29,560 --> 00:59:30,640
Speaker 1: Exist a black hole.

1350
00:59:30,840 --> 00:59:31,320
Speaker 2: Bye bye.

1351
00:59:31,360 --> 00:59:33,680
Speaker 3: That's what we're gonna do. That's gonna be. That's gonna

1352
00:59:33,680 --> 00:59:35,880
Speaker 3: be the line from now on. Yes, the mother in

1353
00:59:36,000 --> 00:59:37,960
Speaker 3: law knew he wasn't allowed in near miners and my

1354
00:59:38,000 --> 00:59:40,600
Speaker 3: cousins were eight and fifteen at the time. Sister in

1355
00:59:40,680 --> 00:59:42,640
Speaker 3: law and I agreed that if she didn't fire him,

1356
00:59:42,640 --> 00:59:46,000
Speaker 3: we would stop the wedding and call the police. Yeah,

1357
00:59:46,000 --> 00:59:49,400
Speaker 3: why is the mom like whoa? We gave mother in

1358
00:59:49,480 --> 00:59:53,320
Speaker 3: law the police ultimatum, and she agreed not to hire this.

1359
00:59:53,600 --> 00:59:55,880
Speaker 2: Piece of crap sarbage.

1360
00:59:55,560 --> 00:59:59,320
Speaker 1: Made wow, get her out of here.

1361
00:59:59,520 --> 01:00:01,520
Speaker 3: I like, like, oh, that makes you make a couple

1362
01:00:01,520 --> 01:00:04,680
Speaker 3: good points there. Yeah you ah, black Hole, Like I

1363
01:00:04,800 --> 01:00:08,000
Speaker 3: know that she this is technically her place, but uninvited

1364
01:00:08,000 --> 01:00:09,400
Speaker 3: her literally uninvited.

1365
01:00:09,600 --> 01:00:11,680
Speaker 2: You have to We're gonna have to escort you off

1366
01:00:11,720 --> 01:00:12,520
Speaker 2: of the roar.

1367
01:00:12,800 --> 01:00:15,720
Speaker 1: Not allowed onto your own property, My goodness.

1368
01:00:15,840 --> 01:00:18,360
Speaker 3: The night before the wedding, I'm leaving to get dinner

1369
01:00:18,360 --> 01:00:20,120
Speaker 3: with my maid of honor when we see a bunch

1370
01:00:20,160 --> 01:00:22,640
Speaker 3: of people arrive and realize that the mother in law

1371
01:00:22,720 --> 01:00:25,439
Speaker 3: is throwing a rehearsal dinner at the house without having

1372
01:00:25,480 --> 01:00:28,200
Speaker 3: told me nor anyone on my side of the family.

1373
01:00:28,320 --> 01:00:32,280
Speaker 3: Wedding day arrives, and it's relatively okay, at least because

1374
01:00:32,280 --> 01:00:36,320
Speaker 3: there's no PDF files on the staff yep, except that

1375
01:00:36,640 --> 01:00:37,640
Speaker 3: my mother, the mother in.

1376
01:00:37,680 --> 01:00:38,720
Speaker 2: Law, wears black.

1377
01:00:40,440 --> 01:00:42,000
Speaker 1: She's ready for her own funeral.

1378
01:00:42,040 --> 01:00:45,280
Speaker 3: I guess to the black Hole, she's black hole.

1379
01:00:46,440 --> 01:00:47,600
Speaker 2: To be turned into spaghetti.

1380
01:00:47,680 --> 01:00:52,040
Speaker 3: Yes, Hole, you go. She throws a fit and sits

1381
01:00:52,040 --> 01:00:54,880
Speaker 3: in a quarter pouting for the entirety of the wedding speeches.

1382
01:00:55,080 --> 01:00:57,520
Speaker 3: She comes to me to complain about everything she doesn't

1383
01:00:57,560 --> 01:00:58,280
Speaker 3: like about the wedding.

1384
01:00:58,360 --> 01:01:00,480
Speaker 2: But now the wedding is over for the drama. So

1385
01:01:00,560 --> 01:01:02,320
Speaker 2: the drama is over to right.

1386
01:01:02,360 --> 01:01:07,360
Speaker 3: Right, wrong, incorrect, damn it. We fly back home only

1387
01:01:07,400 --> 01:01:10,240
Speaker 3: to realize that mother in law never paid the caterers.

1388
01:01:10,320 --> 01:01:10,960
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

1389
01:01:11,160 --> 01:01:13,960
Speaker 3: Not only had she offered to pay for catering when

1390
01:01:13,960 --> 01:01:16,400
Speaker 3: we booked it, but she pushed for a more expensive

1391
01:01:16,400 --> 01:01:19,320
Speaker 3: option than the one we selected when we were planning

1392
01:01:19,400 --> 01:01:20,880
Speaker 3: to pay for it ourselves.

1393
01:01:21,320 --> 01:01:23,200
Speaker 1: So she was like, no, no, no, I'll pay for it.

1394
01:01:23,280 --> 01:01:26,480
Speaker 1: I'll pay for it. I'm not going to pay for it.

1395
01:01:26,360 --> 01:01:27,360
Speaker 2: But then I won't.

1396
01:01:28,080 --> 01:01:29,840
Speaker 3: And by the way, you can join us live on

1397
01:01:29,880 --> 01:01:31,680
Speaker 3: YouTube every weekday at three pm.

1398
01:01:32,040 --> 01:01:33,880
Speaker 2: Just tap our profile gop it.

1399
01:01:34,120 --> 01:01:36,640
Speaker 3: So I mean, yeah, I have nothing else to say

1400
01:01:36,680 --> 01:01:39,000
Speaker 3: about this motherlonless, she sucks and go no contact with

1401
01:01:39,040 --> 01:01:42,640
Speaker 3: her at the wedding. Oh, mother in law back.

1402
01:01:42,440 --> 01:01:44,600
Speaker 2: Out of the country and never talk to this woman again.

1403
01:01:44,760 --> 01:01:46,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, you don't have to go ever, go back

1404
01:01:46,760 --> 01:01:47,760
Speaker 3: to the easy.

1405
01:01:47,720 --> 01:01:48,760
Speaker 2: So was that it?

1406
01:01:49,080 --> 01:01:52,520
Speaker 3: No. She also refused to pay Sean his wage for

1407
01:01:52,560 --> 01:01:55,800
Speaker 3: that month because while working on her barn, he didn't

1408
01:01:55,800 --> 01:01:59,200
Speaker 3: do enough of his actual job at her company.

1409
01:01:59,320 --> 01:02:00,600
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

1410
01:02:01,120 --> 01:02:02,800
Speaker 2: This woman is unhidden.

1411
01:02:03,440 --> 01:02:05,960
Speaker 1: He's like, mom, you literally made me work on your barn.

1412
01:02:06,000 --> 01:02:07,960
Speaker 1: And she was like, well, you were falling behind.

1413
01:02:08,160 --> 01:02:10,640
Speaker 2: That was your choice. You were falling behind on your task.

1414
01:02:10,800 --> 01:02:13,000
Speaker 2: It was your decision to get married at the property.

1415
01:02:13,200 --> 01:02:15,160
Speaker 2: And then you neglected your duties.

1416
01:02:14,800 --> 01:02:17,640
Speaker 3: At the property while fulfilling your duties for your wedding

1417
01:02:17,760 --> 01:02:20,760
Speaker 3: at the property, and thus I'll not be paying you.

1418
01:02:20,840 --> 01:02:21,520
Speaker 2: I'll be paid.

1419
01:02:21,600 --> 01:02:22,160
Speaker 1: Can't do it.

1420
01:02:22,280 --> 01:02:23,800
Speaker 2: And then she wants to be like.

1421
01:02:23,960 --> 01:02:27,920
Speaker 1: Why don't you ever come visit us? I hate that

1422
01:02:29,240 --> 01:02:30,080
Speaker 1: everyone hates you.

1423
01:02:30,480 --> 01:02:31,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're the worst.

1424
01:02:31,720 --> 01:02:36,120
Speaker 3: And this is it, finally, thank god, thank god, there's

1425
01:02:36,160 --> 01:02:39,960
Speaker 3: no more to this terrible, terrible tale. This is the

1426
01:02:40,160 --> 01:02:43,200
Speaker 3: entirety of my wedding drama. I haven't thought about this

1427
01:02:43,240 --> 01:02:45,440
Speaker 3: in a while, and seeing it all spilled out at

1428
01:02:45,440 --> 01:02:49,240
Speaker 3: once is really something. And for a final bonus, I'm

1429
01:02:49,280 --> 01:02:51,840
Speaker 3: still on good terms with Sean, who still lives in

1430
01:02:51,840 --> 01:02:54,680
Speaker 3: my country of origin. Fun twist, I ended up moving

1431
01:02:54,720 --> 01:02:57,040
Speaker 3: to the US for work after we divorced. He still

1432
01:02:57,080 --> 01:02:58,840
Speaker 3: lives ten minutes away from my parents.

1433
01:02:59,080 --> 01:03:01,840
Speaker 2: WI. Wait, oh you didn't catch this?

1434
01:03:01,960 --> 01:03:04,640
Speaker 1: Wait what they just get a they just got divorced?

1435
01:03:04,680 --> 01:03:08,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, a story about anything other than I guess she

1436
01:03:08,480 --> 01:03:09,520
Speaker 3: needed the Cathars.

1437
01:03:09,800 --> 01:03:10,880
Speaker 1: She's just kind of divorced.

1438
01:03:11,320 --> 01:03:14,680
Speaker 2: She yeah, she was married a woman. Yeah, she's divorced

1439
01:03:14,680 --> 01:03:16,320
Speaker 2: and realized she was a lesbian at.

1440
01:03:16,200 --> 01:03:17,680
Speaker 3: The beginning of story. She's like, Oh, this is just

1441
01:03:17,760 --> 01:03:18,680
Speaker 3: like back in the day.

1442
01:03:18,760 --> 01:03:20,440
Speaker 1: You know, I missed the beginning of the story.

1443
01:03:20,560 --> 01:03:22,320
Speaker 3: That's okay.

1444
01:03:22,320 --> 01:03:24,840
Speaker 1: There's so much going on in the story that I missed.

1445
01:03:24,920 --> 01:03:27,479
Speaker 1: I forgot the first part. Did think it was weird

1446
01:03:27,520 --> 01:03:28,200
Speaker 1: that you didn't.

1447
01:03:28,040 --> 01:03:31,240
Speaker 3: Chime in on that, and you were like, whoa, you

1448
01:03:31,440 --> 01:03:32,560
Speaker 3: just let that one skate by.

1449
01:03:33,200 --> 01:03:34,760
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's I think.

1450
01:03:34,600 --> 01:03:39,040
Speaker 1: That Dakota's loopiness comes out in a very obvious mate way,

1451
01:03:39,280 --> 01:03:40,400
Speaker 1: and mine is just like.

1452
01:03:43,800 --> 01:03:46,080
Speaker 2: You were. At first. You were dirt deprived and now

1453
01:03:46,080 --> 01:03:46,760
Speaker 2: you've had too much.

1454
01:03:46,760 --> 01:03:54,520
Speaker 1: That's too much dirt, okay, Sleigh, and we slay on that.

1455
01:03:54,960 --> 01:03:55,640
Speaker 2: We slay.

1456
01:03:56,040 --> 01:03:58,480
Speaker 3: I'm sorry about that wedding, but thank god you don't

1457
01:03:58,520 --> 01:03:59,960
Speaker 3: have that family anymore.