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Speaker 1: Bugging up. Hold on time, we got it full you Hiberties,

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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letta, and it will be answered by the rich

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Speaker 1: black man. Thank you, Tommy. Subject subject Uncle Steve. Oh

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Speaker 1: this is gonna make Tommy mad. Uncle Steve, what should

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Speaker 1: I do? Good morning, Uncle Steve and Shirley. First, let

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Speaker 1: me say that I am addressing you as Uncle Steve

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Speaker 1: because you are indeed an uncle to me. I don't

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Speaker 1: have many men in my family, and the ones I

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Speaker 1: do have, I wouldn't dare ask them anything because all

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Speaker 1: of their situations are tacked up background. I've been lied to,

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Speaker 1: put second and not chosen so many times, never fought

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Speaker 1: for what I wanted or even spoke up about how

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Speaker 1: I really felt. Always knew my worth, but never live

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Speaker 1: it up to it. I finally made a choice not

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Speaker 1: to settle for good enough, so I dated and if

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Speaker 1: I wasn't, if it wasn't what I wanted, I left

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Speaker 1: it alone without question, from the guy with no job

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Speaker 1: to the guy with it all from twenty five to

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Speaker 1: forty one, and no one did it for me. I

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Speaker 1: am a smart, attractive, and independent thirty one year old

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Speaker 1: woman and this is my problem. Five months ago I

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Speaker 1: met it I met this twenty six year old man

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Speaker 1: who just touched my heart. He was a complete surprise.

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Speaker 1: I really thought that he was the one, and honestly speaking,

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Speaker 1: I still do. For the first three months, we were fined,

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Speaker 1: but I had issues of wanting more time. Then out

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Speaker 1: of the blue, he tells me that he moved back

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Speaker 1: in with his sex girlfriend and he couldn't see me anymore.

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Speaker 1: Now I know why I didn't get the time I wanted.

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Speaker 1: I was crushed. Less than a week after he told

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Speaker 1: me this, he called me and told me that he

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Speaker 1: thinks he made a mistake. Well, two weeks after the

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Speaker 1: phone call, I saw him and we spent the night together.

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Speaker 1: I left him in my bed and I wrote a

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Speaker 1: note expressing how I felt. When I returned, I saw

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Speaker 1: where he left me a response hunt and told me

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Speaker 1: that he feels happy and loved when he is with me.

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Speaker 1: Since then, we did talk and he told me that uh,

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Speaker 1: he is not sure of what he wants and that

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Speaker 1: he is working on getting his own place. He was

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Speaker 1: back and forth with his ex and his mom. He

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Speaker 1: said that he is not sure if it will always

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Speaker 1: be this way between us. He's so skeptical of being

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Speaker 1: with me from what he tells me, his relationship with

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Speaker 1: his ex has always been rocky and unfulfilling, but he

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Speaker 1: keeps coming back, keeps going back. The sex was given

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Speaker 1: early on, sooner than I anticipated, but I made the

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Speaker 1: decision to give it based on a personal drought. That's

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Speaker 1: not what moved me, because I felt like he was

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Speaker 1: it before I even shared my body, before the ex

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Speaker 1: situation came about. When we are together, we laugh and

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Speaker 1: talk for hours about anything, um, but we never argue.

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Speaker 1: He's not perfect, neither of my but we fit together perfectly.

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Speaker 1: I'm still seeing him, and I know you're gonna tell

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Speaker 1: me I shouldn't be. I feel like, uh, I can't

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Speaker 1: walk away from him, Uncle Steve. What should I do?

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Speaker 1: Should I stop in him? Is he using me? I

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Speaker 1: feel like he's being sincere signed not ready to let go,

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Speaker 1: but for my sanity, I will right now. Part two

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Speaker 1: of your response to Today's Strawberry letter. Uh, ma'am, since

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Speaker 1: you're calling me Uncle Steve, just let me help you

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Speaker 1: to something. Uh These decisions, uh, this is on you.

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Speaker 1: You're thirty one. The guy that you finally decided to

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Speaker 1: settle on is twenty six. You say that, okay, First

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Speaker 1: of all, here's the whole gist of the letter. You

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Speaker 1: fail for this twenty six year old man who has

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Speaker 1: touched my heart. He was a complete surprise. I really

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Speaker 1: thought he was the one, and honestly speaking, I still do.

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Speaker 1: For the first three months we were fine, but I

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Speaker 1: had issues of wanting more time. Then out of the blue,

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Speaker 1: he tells me that he's moved back then with his

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Speaker 1: ex girlfriend and he couldn't see me anymore. Now I

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Speaker 1: know why he didn't have the time I wanted. I

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Speaker 1: was crushed. Okay, just right there from the outset of

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Speaker 1: you all beginning that you thought was a complete surprise.

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Speaker 1: You've always had time issues. How could this have possibly

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Speaker 1: been the man you've waited for, the one? You know

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Speaker 1: he's the one, but he has always had time issues.

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Speaker 1: When a man is the one, Ladies, I'm gonna share

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Speaker 1: this with you about us. That is nothing that can

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Speaker 1: keep us away. There is nothing that can keep us

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Speaker 1: away when we really won't you because you will make

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Speaker 1: time for what's important to you. We will create a time.

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Speaker 1: We will design time. We will rearrange the clock. We

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Speaker 1: will call somebody, we will reschedule, we will put our

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Speaker 1: we the heir, We just won't go. That's how men are.

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Speaker 1: So Now from the very beginning, you've had time issues

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Speaker 1: right there, How can you possibly think that was he

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Speaker 1: was a one? Also, let me throw this at you,

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Speaker 1: your thirty one. Now, somewhere in the letter that you

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Speaker 1: read up in to him two weeks later after y'all

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Speaker 1: broke up, he moved. She gave it up early, you know,

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Speaker 1: and then he told you that he moved and moved

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Speaker 1: back in with his ex girlfriend. Now somewhere in the

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Speaker 1: letter that says that he lives between his ex wife

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Speaker 1: and his mama house. Okay, ladies, come on, now, you're

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Speaker 1: dating a man that goes between his ex's house and

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Speaker 1: his mama house. The ex ignorant and you ignorant. He's

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Speaker 1: not the one. Okay, let's just say that he cannot

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Speaker 1: be the one because at this twenty six year old

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Speaker 1: does not have hisself together. Now twenty six year olds

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Speaker 1: who do. He is the atypical one who don't have

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Speaker 1: it together. He has nothing to offer you, the ex

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Speaker 1: or his mama. Yeah, there's nothing serious between her and

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Speaker 1: this guy. He ain't got no rent for the mama,

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Speaker 1: for the ex. He ain't gonna handle rent for you,

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Speaker 1: She says, he's trying to get his own place. Lady,

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Speaker 1: listen to me when that's gonna happen. See, you're twenty

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Speaker 1: six year old dude, and you're trying to get your

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Speaker 1: own place. What what you mean you're trying to get

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Speaker 1: your own place? Why was you living at befoldus? Oh

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Speaker 1: you met him? Why was he living? See, Ladies, I

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Speaker 1: hate when y'all do this to yourselves and then want

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Speaker 1: the answer to come outside of yourself, when all these

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Speaker 1: answers lie within yourself. You know, I've often wondered, like, uh,

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Speaker 1: we are we almost off the strawberry letter? This lady

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Speaker 1: told me one time. She said, oh, um, you know,

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Speaker 1: I resent the fact that you keep reiterating that if

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Speaker 1: you're a single mother, that you need a man to

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Speaker 1: help turn the boy into a man. If my man

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Speaker 1: was I would never allow him to raise my son

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Speaker 1: because he's a jerk, and all he would have taught

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Speaker 1: my son to be was how to be a jerk.

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Speaker 1: We often times overlooked these facts. Ladies. You picked him,

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Speaker 1: you decided to have the baby with that man. Now

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Speaker 1: you came to the conclusion he a jerk, He ain't

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Speaker 1: helping out See all this gotta be covered before you

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Speaker 1: have the baby. But see all women want to do

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Speaker 1: with somebody. This man a dog, This man ain't nothing.

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Speaker 1: You picked this one. Somebody picking good men out there,

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Speaker 1: all right, Steve, we gotta get out of here. Email

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Speaker 1: us or instagram us your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter

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Speaker 1: at Mike Earl. Surely you're listening to the Stay Harvey

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Speaker 1: Morning Show