WEBVTT - A Mandi Money Live Coaching Call ft. Anna 0:00:06.200 --> 0:00:10.440 Welcome to this studio and a banana high. 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:14.319 What are you doing? Because I'm doing great? How are you? 0:00:14.800 --> 0:00:18.759 I'm fine? Yeah, yeah. Our relationship is kind of like 0:00:19.200 --> 0:00:22.720 I feel like for each of us. You know, actually 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:24.840 it's like the opposite of what they say, like when 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:28.880 you're drowning and someone comes to save you, but like 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:33.280 they kind of push you down with you and stop it. 0:00:33.520 --> 0:00:36.320 I was gonna say, we're the opposite, will we When 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:40.040 we're together, we're both trying to lift each other up. Now, 0:00:40.360 --> 0:00:42.360 if you want to get into it, my lifting you 0:00:42.479 --> 0:00:46.519 up sometimes does feel like taking you down, just because 0:00:47.960 --> 0:00:48.879 her language. 0:00:50.479 --> 0:00:53.560 I mean, yeah, yeah, I'm going to believe my whole life. 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:56.080 So this is just your way of loving me and 0:00:56.320 --> 0:00:57.360 cure she believe her. 0:00:57.440 --> 0:01:00.200 She's not a She gives it as good as she gets. Okay, 0:01:00.240 --> 0:01:02.600 she gives it as good as she gets. So for 0:01:02.640 --> 0:01:05.080 the Brown Ambition audience, why do I have Anna on 0:01:05.120 --> 0:01:07.319 the show? I'm going to do a live kind of 0:01:07.400 --> 0:01:10.440 I want to do a live career coaching session with Anna, 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:12.959 but first I want to give some backstory. So Anna 0:01:13.200 --> 0:01:16.520 is ten years younger than me. We ain't gotta give agentes. 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:18.720 But she's in her mid twenties, which means you know 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:22.520 what I am. Anyway, I used to baby said Anna 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:25.080 when she was just over the toll, twelve year old 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:30.199 peanut in my pocket. And now, well a decade later, 0:01:31.400 --> 0:01:35.319 it was the pandemic. Right. I was obviously struggling. I 0:01:35.360 --> 0:01:38.160 had a baby, a newborn, and I was trying to 0:01:38.200 --> 0:01:43.240 like balance that with working. Couldn't have childcare because everything 0:01:43.280 --> 0:01:46.960 seemed too dangerous, so I was doing I was like breastfeeding, 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:48.800 having the baby at home. 0:01:49.000 --> 0:01:52.560 So I was living back home and I in Georgia, 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:56.360 and I was just having like the worst mental everything. 0:01:56.600 --> 0:02:00.640 Nothing was working. I was just not happy, was very 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:04.160 like I was just like a mess. Then Nandy just 0:02:04.200 --> 0:02:05.680 called me out of the blue. 0:02:05.800 --> 0:02:07.760 No, yeah, standing Thursday. 0:02:08.200 --> 0:02:09.040 Every Thursday. 0:02:09.120 --> 0:02:10.160 I was worried about you. 0:02:10.280 --> 0:02:13.840 I was like, so yeah, and you and I and 0:02:13.880 --> 0:02:16.120 I just hated whenever, like someone has to worry about 0:02:16.120 --> 0:02:19.400 them because I'm like, damn and that like, am I 0:02:19.520 --> 0:02:22.720 that fragile? But you know, your love really did show through. 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:26.160 And I told you to get down the ups and 0:02:26.200 --> 0:02:29.800 the downs more downs and ups. And then I think 0:02:29.960 --> 0:02:33.040 we both asked ourselves the same questions, like you were 0:02:33.600 --> 0:02:35.680 trying to warm me up. To the idea of moving, 0:02:35.800 --> 0:02:37.919 and I was like, I was like, I need to 0:02:37.960 --> 0:02:40.359 get out of the state. I need to leave. And 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:42.840 then it just happened where we're like, okay, we're going 0:02:42.919 --> 0:02:44.720 to do this. And then I said. 0:02:44.480 --> 0:02:47.040 When it was so funny because it was around I 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:48.640 felt like I was plotting on you, but you were 0:02:48.639 --> 0:02:50.880 planning on I was plotting on you. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 0:02:50.880 --> 0:02:52.800 We were trying to warm you up. I don't know, 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:56.519 because you have a husband, and I wasn't trying to huh. 0:02:56.840 --> 0:02:58.239 You were like, please the do well. You were living 0:02:58.280 --> 0:03:00.760 with one of our what you'r aunt on your mom's side, 0:03:00.800 --> 0:03:04.280 so not my auntie anyway, and you were I remember 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:06.160 forget this phone call when you called me. 0:03:06.160 --> 0:03:12.360 And you're like, right now, I can't. You're twenty two. 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:13.960 So you're doing a lot of twenty you were at 0:03:13.960 --> 0:03:15.359 the time anyway, right twenty. 0:03:15.160 --> 0:03:18.080 Two, twenty three, twenty two, yeah, twenty time. 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:20.560 But at the time you were like doing what door 0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:21.920 dash you had tried. 0:03:22.240 --> 0:03:26.160 I was doing Instacar. I was working on Amazon, oh, 0:03:26.200 --> 0:03:30.680 the warehouse home good, Oh my god. I was working. 0:03:31.240 --> 0:03:31.919 I was working. 0:03:32.080 --> 0:03:33.760 But you ain't never not worked, you know what I mean? 0:03:33.800 --> 0:03:38.640 You ain't never know work, yes, startups, Yeah, I was 0:03:38.640 --> 0:03:38.960 all of. 0:03:38.960 --> 0:03:41.960 That, okay, But at this time I remember because I 0:03:41.960 --> 0:03:43.760 remember when I really I was already worried about you 0:03:43.800 --> 0:03:45.520 because I could tell when I was talking to you 0:03:45.520 --> 0:03:47.400 that you were struggling. That's why I was like, I 0:03:47.400 --> 0:03:49.840 think that in the spring before, I was like, we're 0:03:49.840 --> 0:03:51.640 going to talk every Thursday at nine pm. Put it 0:03:51.680 --> 0:03:56.200 on the calendar. We're doing it. Yeah, he did, anyway, 0:03:56.240 --> 0:03:58.120 and I just I just wanted to like keep you know, 0:03:58.440 --> 0:04:00.600 I couldn't see you, so I just wanted to like 0:04:00.760 --> 0:04:02.280 at least talk to you so I could be sure 0:04:02.280 --> 0:04:07.320 that you're okay. So anyway, we that's all I'll say you. Yeah, 0:04:07.960 --> 0:04:09.520 ever since, I was like I fell in love with 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:11.600 you and with Ariel and RJ and all that, but 0:04:12.160 --> 0:04:14.240 I mean like really fell in love, like, oh this 0:04:14.400 --> 0:04:18.160 is my like my bonus family. Yeah, but you're not 0:04:18.200 --> 0:04:21.040 always so close with cousins anyhow. So we had this connection. 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:23.760 I could tell when you were off, and so I 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:25.560 we met all summer long and then this in the 0:04:25.600 --> 0:04:28.359 in the fall, you were like, I gotta I'm going 0:04:28.400 --> 0:04:30.719 to join this. What were you going to sell kitchen knives? 0:04:32.920 --> 0:04:34.600 She's like it's okay, I got a job, I'm gonna try. 0:04:34.600 --> 0:04:37.560 I'm I'm gonna start my own business. I'm gonna sell knives. 0:04:39.640 --> 0:04:41.640 And it was a scam. It was a scam. 0:04:42.120 --> 0:04:44.200 It was an MLM. It was a multi level marketing. 0:04:44.279 --> 0:04:46.000 It was like one of those pyramid scheme type things 0:04:46.360 --> 0:04:46.920 people will. 0:04:46.760 --> 0:04:49.040 Probably there were so many that were hitting me up there. 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:52.080 You date, I was. 0:04:52.040 --> 0:04:54.919 Global, you want to make money overnight, you want to 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:58.960 own your work hours, you can work from home, you know, 0:04:59.560 --> 0:05:03.880 like yeah, because you want some value. Yeah, so they 0:05:03.920 --> 0:05:06.080 got you. And thank god you told me because I 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:08.520 was like, right now, we need to Like. 0:05:09.440 --> 0:05:13.240 I felt like I was in trouble. She's like absolutely, okay. 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:15.559 So because you were going to buy like a bunch 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:16.279 of knives and have. 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:17.640 That, it just didn't make sense. 0:05:18.240 --> 0:05:20.240 Were house and you're the interview. 0:05:20.680 --> 0:05:23.000 I was doing the interview like on my on my 0:05:23.080 --> 0:05:25.839 little tiny desk with like fifteen other people, and I 0:05:25.880 --> 0:05:29.040 was like, what is this? Yeah, and then yeah it 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:31.599 was Yeah, it was a hot mess dot com. 0:05:31.640 --> 0:05:33.320 So we had this conversation and I was like, yeah, 0:05:33.320 --> 0:05:35.880 I'm really struggling with this and I already was scheming. 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:38.920 I'm like, wouldn't it be perfect if Anna just could 0:05:38.960 --> 0:05:42.719 be here, like here, I could keep an eye on her, 0:05:43.040 --> 0:05:45.400 because somehow I'm working on this too. I want to 0:05:45.440 --> 0:05:48.480 like protect and fix everybody. I don't have to do that. 0:05:48.560 --> 0:05:49.840 But at the time, I was like, I can keep 0:05:49.839 --> 0:05:51.599 an eye on her because I'm really worried about her, 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:54.680 and also I think she would really enjoy watching my 0:05:54.800 --> 0:05:57.479 child for me so that I could start my new job. 0:05:58.279 --> 0:06:00.599 And we had the conversation and I was like, so, 0:06:01.720 --> 0:06:04.120 I mean and I was like, so, you know, I 0:06:04.200 --> 0:06:06.320 feel like what you really need is like you'd be 0:06:06.400 --> 0:06:09.119 great helping a family who just you know, was working 0:06:09.160 --> 0:06:12.360 really hard and just had trouble finding childcare during the pandemic, 0:06:13.240 --> 0:06:15.280 and like, and you were like, yeah, that sounds like 0:06:15.360 --> 0:06:18.159 a good idea, and said do you know anybody like 0:06:18.240 --> 0:06:20.960 that that you can think of? And your little voice 0:06:21.800 --> 0:06:26.800 well like you, I'm like, yeah, thank you for offering. 0:06:27.160 --> 0:06:31.960 You know. That was the funniest conversation. I was like, 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:34.920 I was plotting on you. I was like, Oh, it's 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:38.919 how's your upstairs bedroom looking like it's vacant? 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:41.800 It saved both of our lives? No, for real, right, 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:42.320 it did? 0:06:42.400 --> 0:06:42.719 It? Did? 0:06:42.760 --> 0:06:43.080 It did? 0:06:43.240 --> 0:06:43.679 For sure? 0:06:43.800 --> 0:06:47.479 Yeah? So cut to and when you moved in. Of course, 0:06:47.760 --> 0:06:54.160 again because I have a bit of a like fixer personality, 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:56.800 and you know, you were you're not you were not 0:06:56.800 --> 0:07:00.760 finished with like college, your degree, no job and all that. 0:07:00.880 --> 0:07:03.280 So I was like, also, while you were here, let's 0:07:03.360 --> 0:07:07.719 let's have some personal finance conversations. Let's you know, really 0:07:07.839 --> 0:07:14.200 untangle you from that uncle over. 0:07:14.480 --> 0:07:14.800 Yeah. 0:07:14.880 --> 0:07:17.600 Yeah, so Anna's yeah, you talk a little bit about 0:07:17.600 --> 0:07:19.520 that where you were in terms of like you were 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:22.600 twenty yeah, you were like twenty three. But also you were, 0:07:23.360 --> 0:07:27.960 like with your relationship with your father, not financially free. 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:31.720 Right, yeah, Like I just grew up of he hands 0:07:31.760 --> 0:07:35.000 me money and then I deal with it. So whenever 0:07:35.040 --> 0:07:39.040 I had like my financial struggles, he would always have 0:07:39.160 --> 0:07:42.480 like a string attached to whatever dollar is behind it. 0:07:42.880 --> 0:07:45.080 So I was just very exhausted and tire trying to 0:07:45.160 --> 0:07:47.920 chase what he's giving me. And then I have to 0:07:48.880 --> 0:07:51.480 this mental load that I had to pay him for 0:07:51.520 --> 0:07:55.480 the price of whatever amount of dollars. And I remember 0:07:55.600 --> 0:08:00.480 when I moved to you, he cut me off financially 0:08:00.600 --> 0:08:03.600 and this owed me and all this extra stuff. So 0:08:03.760 --> 0:08:07.120 my mental health was was like down was down the street. 0:08:07.240 --> 0:08:08.200 It was terrible. 0:08:08.440 --> 0:08:10.880 And can you be specific when you say you had 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:12.480 to pay him for the money, like what were the 0:08:12.480 --> 0:08:13.240 strings attached? 0:08:14.760 --> 0:08:18.160 If it'd just be his controlling ways when it comes 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:23.240 to finances, like if I maybe had an attitude he 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:25.000 was like, well I do X y Z for you, 0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:26.720 and you're going to do this to me after I 0:08:26.760 --> 0:08:30.040 gave you this amount of money for school or just 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:33.040 like just being his daughter, just asking for money here 0:08:33.080 --> 0:08:36.440 and there. It's always like an issue or problem. So 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:39.960 that's whenever I just I want to stop asking him 0:08:39.960 --> 0:08:42.040 for money completely. So that's why I was working those 0:08:42.640 --> 0:08:46.560 those numerous jobs just to get myself together. And then 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:49.199 you know, my mental health is just taking a toll 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:52.600 for you know, all the finances that had to deal 0:08:52.600 --> 0:08:55.439 with that with him and myself because you know, I'm 0:08:55.440 --> 0:08:59.600 a little pricey. I noticed he was spoiled. 0:08:59.480 --> 0:09:02.960 For a price. But yeah, and also it was to 0:09:03.040 --> 0:09:05.400 the point where he it was like, i'll pay for school, 0:09:05.400 --> 0:09:07.440 but you got to study what I think is a good. 0:09:07.280 --> 0:09:09.480 Degree, yes, right, yeah, yeah totally. 0:09:09.720 --> 0:09:11.120 So that level of control. 0:09:12.040 --> 0:09:15.080 Yeah, and then the thing about me, I just I 0:09:15.080 --> 0:09:18.640 don't do well with control like that, Like I I'll 0:09:18.679 --> 0:09:22.520 just stop everything if I don't. I just don't feel 0:09:22.520 --> 0:09:24.880 like you should live your life for your parents, and 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:26.080 I learned that the hard way. 0:09:26.960 --> 0:09:28.320 Well you were and I mean, like it was so 0:09:28.360 --> 0:09:30.880 heartbreaking to see, I mean how tough it was for you. 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:32.560 What do you think are the biggest changes that have 0:09:32.600 --> 0:09:35.880 happened since you moved in with me? For those who 0:09:35.920 --> 0:09:37.880 are watching on YouTube, you might be able to note 0:09:38.400 --> 0:09:42.119 the most significant change. We're not in the same place. 0:09:42.520 --> 0:09:47.240 No, we're not. Why I was able to move out. 0:09:47.720 --> 0:09:50.800 I have a lovely roommate, She's great. But it was 0:09:50.880 --> 0:09:53.040 just so nice to buy things with money that I 0:09:53.160 --> 0:09:57.160 worked hard for and earned. And I just feel like 0:09:57.280 --> 0:10:00.920 the hard work really did pay off. And I appreciate you. 0:10:01.080 --> 0:10:03.680 Over the hard work. What have you accomplished. Let's let's 0:10:03.679 --> 0:10:04.240 sit with it. 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:07.520 Girl, Okay, okay, I'm just give me over. 0:10:07.760 --> 0:10:08.319 Yeah. 0:10:08.400 --> 0:10:11.880 Definitely my mental health, for sure. I received so much 0:10:12.120 --> 0:10:16.839 healing from the past, like year, two years, almost. 0:10:16.440 --> 0:10:19.000 Three three, yeah, I mean three years. 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:22.680 I almost the big three. But yeah, I've seen a 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:25.840 huge turnout from my mental health about you know, how 0:10:25.880 --> 0:10:29.319 I feel about myself boundaries. That was a huge thing 0:10:29.360 --> 0:10:31.600 that I had to develop. I didn't have any like 0:10:32.080 --> 0:10:35.280 especially with my parents whatever they said when I didn't care, 0:10:35.480 --> 0:10:37.760 like they didn't care if I didn't feel comfortable. I 0:10:37.800 --> 0:10:39.800 didn't care if I didn't feel comfortable. I just did 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:43.240 what I was told. So whenever I was disowned, I 0:10:43.320 --> 0:10:45.400 was like, all right, if I'm really disowned, I'm gonna 0:10:45.400 --> 0:10:50.120 do what I what I please and in a respectful way. 0:10:50.400 --> 0:10:52.360 It took me a long devastated. 0:10:53.040 --> 0:10:57.600 I was heartbroken. Yeah, and then you know therapy, you know. 0:10:57.600 --> 0:11:00.360 What, but listen for those who are But did he 0:11:00.559 --> 0:11:02.240 actually was? 0:11:03.160 --> 0:11:06.240 It lasted three I think it lasted three months. And 0:11:06.280 --> 0:11:07.720 then he said how are you doing? 0:11:07.760 --> 0:11:11.280 I was like, I was, So, you're like, yeah, try 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:13.120 to survive without this cute face. 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:18.240 That you had daughter you got you can never get 0:11:18.320 --> 0:11:20.280 rid of me. I got. I got off of everything. 0:11:20.280 --> 0:11:21.880 He didn't need a car anymore. He owned the car. 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:25.000 As soon as I moved here, he sold my car 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:27.199 and I was like, that's fine, I don't need it. 0:11:28.200 --> 0:11:30.480 And then he was more upset that I didn't care. 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:32.559 I was like, okay, that's fine. 0:11:32.440 --> 0:11:35.480 And he had it was he did a tantrum. 0:11:36.000 --> 0:11:38.160 He did, and then I think he hit you up 0:11:38.200 --> 0:11:41.199 and was very very angry towards you about it. 0:11:41.320 --> 0:11:44.720 Oh, so then let's move into the career and finance side. 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:49.000 What kind of what kind of like strides have you made? 0:11:49.160 --> 0:11:51.160 Because you came here in no full time job, no 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:56.280 job period, it's not the knives thing, and no money 0:11:56.280 --> 0:11:59.160 of your own, So like, when did you start taking 0:11:59.160 --> 0:12:02.160 those strides? What are the big accomplishments you've made? 0:12:02.480 --> 0:12:05.440 I think at that time, whenever I was hoping out 0:12:05.480 --> 0:12:09.600 was you know, your lovely son, my godson. I was 0:12:09.679 --> 0:12:13.160 really ready to just start working again to make money 0:12:13.200 --> 0:12:16.240 for myself, to move out, to save to you know, 0:12:16.520 --> 0:12:19.360 spend things on myself, to give back to you guys 0:12:19.360 --> 0:12:25.280 with whatever is needed, you know. And then I found 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:30.360 a job doing executive assistant work for this unknown fashion 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:32.400 and jewelry company. That was the worst. 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:35.360 Let me touch on that later. But you needed a 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:40.360 like a non part time like a retail You wanted. 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:42.640 Like I wanted full time. I wanted to hit the 0:12:42.679 --> 0:12:43.360 ground running. 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:46.840 But and you were like, what's your degree in? What? 0:12:46.920 --> 0:12:50.719 Healthcare administration? Yeah? Healthare administration. 0:12:50.920 --> 0:12:54.280 We got you a LinkedIn page, right, remember that. Yes, 0:12:54.800 --> 0:12:56.800 I'm trying to tell y'all, Anna is a boomer in 0:12:56.840 --> 0:13:01.480 a generation Z suit body like you and and it's 0:13:01.520 --> 0:13:04.200 just like, here's your A, a r P card, here's 0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:04.800 your handicap. 0:13:04.840 --> 0:13:07.840 I grew up sheltered. I grew up sheltered. So I 0:13:07.880 --> 0:13:09.720 was like, what is this when she's more gen z 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:12.600 than me. I just know the terms, but she knows 0:13:12.640 --> 0:13:17.280 like the logistics, she knows the you know technology. 0:13:16.800 --> 0:13:19.480 All right, So you got a LinkedIn page. I was like, 0:13:19.520 --> 0:13:23.000 you need a presence. So we put some job experience there. Yeah, 0:13:23.200 --> 0:13:26.679 we said that you were my assistant. Don't ever ask 0:13:26.760 --> 0:13:28.199 me for a reference because. 0:13:28.679 --> 0:13:29.240 That's too late. 0:13:29.640 --> 0:13:31.720 You weren't the best. 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:34.599 I was dealing with so much ments like, yeah, be 0:13:34.760 --> 0:13:35.479 my assistant. 0:13:35.720 --> 0:13:36.839 She's like what So. 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:39.600 I was just so overwhelmed, and I was like, I 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:42.600 did not what you said slack? I said, what is slack? 0:13:44.720 --> 0:13:47.360 She couldn't be my idea? 0:13:47.840 --> 0:13:48.280 I don't know. 0:13:48.840 --> 0:13:51.320 I couldn't I know, I know to do my email? 0:13:53.960 --> 0:13:56.840 She was, she said, what is slack? I was like, so, 0:13:57.040 --> 0:14:00.600 just you focus on the babies. I'll give you the 0:14:00.640 --> 0:14:04.760 title my admin. Anyway, but you got a job assisting, 0:14:05.200 --> 0:14:07.320 and then from but that point is you had something 0:14:07.320 --> 0:14:10.320 on your resume, and then from there then you got 0:14:10.360 --> 0:14:13.600 the job. You did like a lot more well, actually 0:14:13.720 --> 0:14:15.200 that job was so toxic that you quit? 0:14:15.800 --> 0:14:19.280 It was? It was, yeah, it was so Me and 0:14:19.280 --> 0:14:22.440 my roommate we worked at the same job before, and 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:24.680 then she quit a little bit before me. It was 0:14:24.720 --> 0:14:27.480 just such a toxic work environment and nothing was getting done, 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:29.720 and I was like, I want to put my efforts 0:14:29.760 --> 0:14:32.640 into something else that would appreciate me. So you know, 0:14:32.680 --> 0:14:34.760 when I quit, I shouldn't have done that. That was 0:14:34.800 --> 0:14:35.360 not smart. 0:14:37.080 --> 0:14:37.600 What do you say? 0:14:37.640 --> 0:14:40.200 But I did because like I was, I didn't have 0:14:40.240 --> 0:14:42.280 a job for like maybe a month when I tell you, 0:14:42.360 --> 0:14:45.760 I was applying to a to z jobs more like 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:48.320 to the day I woke up to like at night, 0:14:48.640 --> 0:14:52.200 I was applying. Interviews were happening, but they weren't good 0:14:52.280 --> 0:14:54.560 enough or it just it wasn't the right fit. And 0:14:54.600 --> 0:14:55.840 then my current dame. 0:14:55.840 --> 0:14:59.080 Scam kind of like LinkedIn messages. 0:14:59.400 --> 0:15:03.320 What if people do that as like people are like strong. 0:15:03.120 --> 0:15:05.400 We're going all the way to Manhattan to find out 0:15:05.440 --> 0:15:06.840 it was like, what was the thing where they sent 0:15:06.840 --> 0:15:09.640 you home with a big textbook, like a real estate textbook. 0:15:11.200 --> 0:15:14.560 They wanted you I honestly wanted to forget that happened, 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:17.360 and for you to bring that up is very triggering. 0:15:17.640 --> 0:15:19.760 I'm so sorry, but you went through it, and honestly 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:22.200 a month doesn't see that. But I'm interested. You said 0:15:22.200 --> 0:15:25.000 it was a bad idea to quit. Yes it was 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:26.720 at the time. I'm not going to lie I was. 0:15:26.800 --> 0:15:29.320 I was a little worried. I'm like, yes you were, 0:15:29.440 --> 0:15:31.280 but I was trying to let you do your own thing, 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:34.120 you know what I mean. And honestly, I don't think 0:15:34.120 --> 0:15:37.440 it was a mistake because a couple months later you 0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:40.440 got the job in the SPA, right, and you just 0:15:40.480 --> 0:15:42.560 found that on LinkedIn? Is that right or indeed or something? 0:15:42.680 --> 0:15:44.600 I saw them one indeed, and it was just it 0:15:44.640 --> 0:15:46.840 looks sketchy applying for it, but I was like, you 0:15:46.880 --> 0:15:47.760 know what everything was. 0:15:48.480 --> 0:15:51.520 Like, Yes, it hadn't opened yet. It was a news, 0:15:52.480 --> 0:15:53.240 it was a break. 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:56.640 It was in the it was being built as I 0:15:56.680 --> 0:16:00.720 was applying. So whenever I got the job, interview OV 0:16:01.560 --> 0:16:04.040 and I was like, oh, can I see the spot. 0:16:04.120 --> 0:16:07.400 It was like construction walls. There was wood exposed, and 0:16:07.440 --> 0:16:10.360 they said, yeah, this is it. I said, I see 0:16:10.440 --> 0:16:16.120 the potential. And I think after the interview went well, 0:16:16.240 --> 0:16:18.480 and then you told me to write a letter to 0:16:18.720 --> 0:16:24.960 you know, show my appreciation and at first. 0:16:23.200 --> 0:16:25.280 I remember now, I remember I dropped you off to 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:26.440 give them the thank you note. 0:16:26.680 --> 0:16:29.840 Yeah you did, and I think it was like an 0:16:30.120 --> 0:16:32.560 it was like a nice little card. It was yellow. 0:16:32.800 --> 0:16:35.280 It was like a yellow flower. Yellow's your your brand, 0:16:35.320 --> 0:16:39.400 I see, you know. Yeah, And then I got the 0:16:39.400 --> 0:16:41.880 call that I got the job. And I was so ecstatic. 0:16:41.920 --> 0:16:44.800 When I tell you, I was struggling financially. I was 0:16:45.000 --> 0:16:47.960 I was living off my savings, like I think one 0:16:48.000 --> 0:16:50.200 time I didn't have enough for two pays if I 0:16:50.200 --> 0:16:52.480 didn't want to go into my I mean. 0:16:52.360 --> 0:16:54.240 I think I started to ask you to pay rent 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:56.600 because I was fring to get you a little ready 0:16:56.600 --> 0:16:58.600 for the real world. I was going to do that 0:16:58.600 --> 0:17:00.280 thing where you just put the money aside and give 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:02.680 it back to you at the end of Yeah. But 0:17:02.720 --> 0:17:04.080 that's when you quit. And I was like, oh, so 0:17:04.160 --> 0:17:04.840 the renting you. 0:17:04.920 --> 0:17:07.960 Really got to stop. But no, I felt like such 0:17:07.960 --> 0:17:09.800 a loser because I was like, why would I do 0:17:09.880 --> 0:17:12.840 that with that like a plan B. And I was 0:17:12.960 --> 0:17:18.880 just like I was so scared and so like eager 0:17:19.000 --> 0:17:21.399 to know, like what's next, what's the next move? Like 0:17:21.400 --> 0:17:23.840 what can you do? And then you know, I got 0:17:23.840 --> 0:17:25.800 the I got the call I got the job, and 0:17:25.840 --> 0:17:28.320 I was like, all right, I can relax a little 0:17:28.359 --> 0:17:30.800 bit more and then. 0:17:31.000 --> 0:17:33.159 Well, I'm gonna we're gonna take a quick break, but 0:17:33.200 --> 0:17:35.399 before we do, I want to just kind of like 0:17:35.520 --> 0:17:37.679 round out that phase because I feel like for you 0:17:37.760 --> 0:17:40.880 it was about Listen, your dad chose your major, right, 0:17:41.119 --> 0:17:44.320 healthcare admin, which isn't a bad major. I think it's 0:17:44.359 --> 0:17:47.280 obviously a hot field. It's a it's on the cover up, 0:17:47.680 --> 0:17:49.560 on the come up, and you got to you still 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:52.719 kept up, like with your studies virtually while you were 0:17:52.720 --> 0:17:56.680 working full time. But at the same time, you knew 0:17:56.720 --> 0:17:59.639 you didn't want to like work in a hospital, like 0:17:59.800 --> 0:18:01.400 just like at a desk, you know what I mean. 0:18:01.880 --> 0:18:04.200 But you did have this interest in beauty and care 0:18:04.760 --> 0:18:07.720 which I feel like is something that you know, you 0:18:07.800 --> 0:18:09.200 go to a controlling dad and you're like, hey, I 0:18:09.240 --> 0:18:12.879 want to work in the spa beauty industry and he's like, 0:18:12.920 --> 0:18:15.280 what is that. It's woman's stuff. It can't be good, 0:18:15.320 --> 0:18:20.080 it can't be lucrative police but it made it was 0:18:20.160 --> 0:18:22.880 like the whenever I'm helping someone and coaching them through 0:18:23.359 --> 0:18:25.960 like a pivot or trying to figure out how do 0:18:26.040 --> 0:18:29.639 I make a career that I love out of a 0:18:29.680 --> 0:18:31.600 couple out of like the job history that I have, 0:18:31.720 --> 0:18:34.679 which I don't love. And it's like not exactly like 0:18:34.800 --> 0:18:37.159 there's not like a lateral like a connection, you know, 0:18:37.760 --> 0:18:39.720 but for you, there's enough there, like you know, the 0:18:39.760 --> 0:18:43.960 admin side and healthcare and spas med spas especially, it's 0:18:44.000 --> 0:18:47.919 not that different people aren't using insurance cushit call for 0:18:47.960 --> 0:18:52.520 the most part, no, right, but and it like it 0:18:52.560 --> 0:18:54.919 worked for you and it has been working for you. 0:18:55.000 --> 0:18:56.920 But Okay, I'm gonna leave it there. We're gonna take 0:18:56.920 --> 0:18:58.200 a quick break and then we're going to come back 0:18:58.200 --> 0:19:00.000 because I want to talk about what's next for you 0:19:00.400 --> 0:19:01.639 because you at the next level. 0:19:01.760 --> 0:19:04.320 Okay, all right, all. 0:19:04.320 --> 0:19:11.040 Right, okay, Va family are back, and my cousin Anna Banana, 0:19:11.040 --> 0:19:15.119 I mean sorry Anna, Victoria Woodruff and Victoria such a 0:19:15.160 --> 0:19:17.240 whole name out there. So you've been in this job 0:19:17.280 --> 0:19:20.560 for over a year now, and obviously it's a stepping stone, 0:19:20.600 --> 0:19:22.520 like you're kind of like front of house in the 0:19:22.640 --> 0:19:27.560 in the MET'SPA space. We're interfacing with customers and all 0:19:27.600 --> 0:19:29.320