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Speaker 1: you here. It is to strawberry. Let all right. Subject.

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Speaker 1: My husband lives with my brother, Dear Stephen Shirley. I

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Speaker 1: have been married for five years, but my husband moved

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Speaker 1: out three years ago and moved in with my brother

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Speaker 1: after he got into a big argument with my son.

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Speaker 1: My son really didn't know my husband that well when

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Speaker 1: using me, so he didn't like him. My husband tried

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Speaker 1: to come back home twice, and my husband and my

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Speaker 1: son disrespected him both times, so he said he would

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Speaker 1: never come back. Despite our living situation, my husband and

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Speaker 1: I still do everything together. We make love all the time.

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Speaker 1: We um, but we have to go to hotels. My

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Speaker 1: husband says that he loves me very much and I

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Speaker 1: love him as well, but years later he still refuses

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Speaker 1: to move back in, so I moved closer to my

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Speaker 1: each other. He and my son are doing a little

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Speaker 1: better now. When they see each other, they speak and

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Speaker 1: shake hands, but that's it. One of my husband's female

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Speaker 1: friends told me that he talked about coming home soon.

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Speaker 1: She knows him very well. So I got excited, but

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Speaker 1: him if he moves back home, she will never talk

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Speaker 1: to him again. So he says, to avoid conflict, he'll

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Speaker 1: just stay where he is. I pray daily that he

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Speaker 1: will change his mind. What can I do to get

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Speaker 1: my husband back home where he belongs, Stephen Shirley, please help.

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Speaker 1: You've got to be kidding me, right, You've got to

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Speaker 1: be kidding me, Tommy, are you? Are you pranking us

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Speaker 1: right now? I mean, this is your husband, your house,

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Speaker 1: your son. No one has any control over what's going

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Speaker 1: on in your marriage, but your son, who shouldn't even

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Speaker 1: be at your house because if he's young or old

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Speaker 1: enough or grown enough to um to disrespect your your

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Speaker 1: his own and out of your house. Now. Your husband,

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Speaker 1: on the other hand, uh, something is going on with

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Speaker 1: him and his so called female friends because he's taking

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Speaker 1: to what they're saying and uh not listening to you,

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Speaker 1: his wife. He'll just stay where he is because one

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Speaker 1: of his female friends will never talk to him again. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so what this is really crazy? So to avoid conflict,

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Speaker 1: he'll just stay where he is. Yeah, he likes staying

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Speaker 1: with your brother because he can come and go and

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Speaker 1: do whatever he wants to do, and then have you

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Speaker 1: It's a perfect situation for him. You, as his wife,

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Speaker 1: needs to um set some boundaries, some rules. You he

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Speaker 1: either comes back or it's over. Why are you making

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Speaker 1: it so easy for him? Why are you allowing him

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Speaker 1: to do all these things? It's his son, and it's

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Speaker 1: your son, and it's him. This is your life. What

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Speaker 1: are you gonna do? You need to talk to both

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Speaker 1: of them, Steve, this is crazy. Yeah, this letter right here.

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Speaker 1: I agree with most of what you saying, surely, But

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Speaker 1: let me say this first of all. The whole problem

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Speaker 1: in this letter the damn boy hell he in charge you?

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Speaker 1: Who stayed well when he ain't paying for nothing? Now,

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Speaker 1: unless your son is real big and your husband is little,

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Speaker 1: ain't no boy running me out, no house unless I

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Speaker 1: took it as an opportunity to get out, thank you,

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Speaker 1: which could be the case, because you say your husband

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Speaker 1: moved out three years ago, moved in with your brother.

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Speaker 1: Now he got the bigger argument with your son. Mhmm, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know he's soned in know your husband that way

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Speaker 1: whom we got. Man, he thought my husband were using me,

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Speaker 1: so he didn't like him. Hold is this boy? That

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Speaker 1: See me and this sun. We're gonna work this out,

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Speaker 1: because what you're gonna stop doing, a little boy, is

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Speaker 1: the disrespecting me thing. That's for. That's first thing, all right.

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Speaker 1: So he your husband said he would never ever come back.

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Speaker 1: He said he would never ever come back. So here's

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Speaker 1: here's what the deal is. Your husband says he loves

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Speaker 1: years later he still refuses to move back in. So

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Speaker 1: I moved closer to my brother's house. Oh that's the solution.

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Speaker 1: You don't move in your brothers house. You just moved

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Speaker 1: closer to his house. That's smart. That's a marriage to

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Speaker 1: Now here, my son, they're doing a little bit better.

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Speaker 1: When they see each other. They speak in shagen. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that's the start. But here's the problem. Though, When you

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Speaker 1: hell did you move closer to him? For and y'all

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Speaker 1: still going to hotels? Why is your son running your life?

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Speaker 1: My next point of contention, your husband sure got a

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Speaker 1: His female friends got more poor than you and you

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Speaker 1: the wife. I have to share something with you. Your

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Speaker 1: husband is a bachelor. Seriously, your husband is a bachelor

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Speaker 1: should be the title of this last My husband is

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Speaker 1: a bachelor because he lived by his self with your brother,

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Speaker 1: who I bet you ain't married, and he can come

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Speaker 1: One of them has told him if he she goes back,

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Speaker 1: him no more. So you know what he decided, Oh,

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Speaker 1: stay in this brother's house. Yeah. Now, when we come back,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna share another fact with you that no one

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Speaker 1: has thrown out in this letter. Please, ma'am, be sitting down.

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Speaker 1: I'll be right back. We're some more unveiling of the letter.

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Speaker 1: All right, you hurd, Steve, Well, we'll have part two

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Speaker 1: of his response. Come on, Steve, let's get your response

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Speaker 1: to part two of the Strawberry Letters. Didn't married this man.

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Speaker 1: This man don't get along with her son. Her son

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Speaker 1: is in charge of her life, in the house and everything.

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Speaker 1: The man leaves every time you try to come back.

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Speaker 1: Twice the board disrespect him. He leave again because the

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Speaker 1: your brother. You try to keep the relationship together. You

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Speaker 1: telling him not to go back. He says he's coming back,

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Speaker 1: but it's been years now. He still ain't back, and

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Speaker 1: I'll never speak to you again. So the whole down confusion.

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Speaker 1: He said he's gonna stay away. M hm. His his

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Speaker 1: female friends have more pool than his wife. The new

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Speaker 1: name of this letter, i've re entiree it is your

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Speaker 1: husband is a bachelor. Okay, now here's something we haven't

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Speaker 1: explored in this letter. I need your undivided attention. Please,

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Speaker 1: I need everybody to take a seat your husband. It's

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Speaker 1: seeing your brother. Anybody thought it right here? Your husband

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Speaker 1: don't know this, but he showed like staying with your

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Speaker 1: have a Strawberry letter like this once upon. Don't know,

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Speaker 1: but I just wanted to throw that out there and

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Speaker 1: he and what is he to you? My friends feel

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Speaker 1: My brother, he set me right down and he talked

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Speaker 1: to me, and I'm sure he meant, well, yeah, But

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Speaker 1: when I talk was through, I said, brother, if you're

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Speaker 1: only knew you'd wish that you in my shoes. Oh,

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Speaker 1: you just keep on using me until you use me.

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Speaker 1: Uh now he at your brother's house getting used up

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Speaker 1: for real. Something M is a miss in this letter,

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Speaker 1: and I think it's your husb. Alright, Steve, we gotta go.

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Speaker 1: You know that email as your Instagram. That's your thoughts

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Speaker 1: on this Strawberry letter from today at my Girl Shirley

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