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It's free for you to 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:51.720 listen to, and it's really important that I deliver the 0:02:51.760 --> 0:02:55.959 best quality content to you. So I have some deep 0:02:56.000 --> 0:02:58.959 stuff to get into today. Thank you for listening, Thank 0:02:59.000 --> 0:03:32.280 you for watching. Welcome to the Greater Smith Podcast. Yeah, yea, 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:44.400 did chidel my tired school's long line of my fool 0:03:44.680 --> 0:03:55.480 of husband go back to ranger cold on evage. Yeah, 0:03:55.920 --> 0:04:04.640 you're catch you up in my world a little bit 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:08.760 Country Things. Volume one, which released a couple of weeks ago, 0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:15.240 will be followed by Volume two, which comes out here. 0:04:15.280 --> 0:04:18.240 I'll make the announcement on the podcast right now. Black Friday, 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:21.520 which is like, what is that, November twenty seventh, whatever 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:23.880 the Friday is, it's like the twenty seventh, I believe 0:04:23.880 --> 0:04:27.280 of November eight new songs. You don't have to wait 0:04:27.360 --> 0:04:29.960 very long in between Volume one and volume two. The 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:34.839 whole Project sixteen songs total, my tenth studio album. I 0:04:34.839 --> 0:04:38.520 think it's my best stuff yet. Volume two notables. We 0:04:38.600 --> 0:04:45.520 got two Earl Dibbles junior songs. We've got some good 0:04:45.720 --> 0:04:49.280 classic versions of what I you're used to me writing 0:04:49.320 --> 0:04:53.200 in the past. We've got some really good show burners, 0:04:53.440 --> 0:04:56.920 really good live show stuff, some good surprises in there. 0:04:56.960 --> 0:05:00.480 So I know, I feel confident guys are going to 0:05:00.560 --> 0:05:04.320 like this Volume two and so excited to tell you 0:05:04.400 --> 0:05:07.479 about kind of our launch are leading up to that 0:05:07.600 --> 0:05:11.840 and the promos that we're going to do, including all 0:05:11.880 --> 0:05:16.480 culminating about that same time, I'll be giving away my truck. 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:19.880 So I just made that announcement on that my YouTube 0:05:19.960 --> 0:05:25.960 channel that we are giving away my old Silverado pickup 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:28.240 truck and when I've driven for the last ten years, 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:33.880 and it will probably that's probably the biggest moment of 0:05:33.960 --> 0:05:40.120 my professional career, is letting go of my most prized 0:05:40.680 --> 0:05:46.520 physical possession, my truck, the closest thing to me that 0:05:46.600 --> 0:05:50.920 I own, and so that's a really big deal. And 0:05:50.960 --> 0:05:53.280 there's a lot of ways. There's a lot of reasons 0:05:54.279 --> 0:05:57.479 that I'm comfortable with parting with it, but one of 0:05:57.480 --> 0:06:00.760 those reasons is knowing that it could go to someone 0:06:01.560 --> 0:06:05.640 that could it could significantly add value to their lives, 0:06:06.320 --> 0:06:08.480 and that possibly I could even stay in touch and 0:06:08.920 --> 0:06:11.719 get updates on how she's doing and how she's driving, 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:17.919 and see pictures, and I will deliver this personally to 0:06:18.000 --> 0:06:22.640 the winner. So everything, and I've just said we will 0:06:23.120 --> 0:06:27.040 make the official announcement for that on how and why 0:06:27.160 --> 0:06:29.679 and where and how to register and how this giveaway 0:06:29.720 --> 0:06:33.279 is going to work to talk about how I'll deliver it. 0:06:33.520 --> 0:06:37.640 We'll deliver all of that information to you guys coming 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:40.760 up soon. But I'm just I'm just kind of laying 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:42.880 the groundwork right now on this podcast for you guys. 0:06:44.360 --> 0:06:48.679 It's just there's really exciting times, so many videos. This podcast, 0:06:48.760 --> 0:06:52.400 as you know, comes out every Monday. So please do 0:06:52.480 --> 0:06:53.960 me a favor right now. 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You can stay 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:19.400 anonymous if you want, and I throw these into a folder. 0:08:19.600 --> 0:08:22.920 I do not read them until I'm on the air, 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:26.680 so whatever you're about to throw at me will surprise 0:08:26.760 --> 0:08:30.720 me and I will have to stutter my way through 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:35.199 these questions as I read them without screening them. So 0:08:36.640 --> 0:08:39.040 try to keep it PG if you can for that 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:42.120 exact reason too. And I'm scrolling right now, and I'll 0:08:42.160 --> 0:08:49.880 stop right here. And this message is from Bobby. Bobby says, 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:54.280 Hey Granger, this is Bobby from Bismarck, North Dakota. Shout 0:08:54.400 --> 0:08:57.400 out to North Dakota fans. Big fan of yours and 0:08:57.440 --> 0:09:00.120 I have met you through meet and greets and cameo 0:09:00.200 --> 0:09:03.600 a couple times. Very excited for the new album. I'm 0:09:03.640 --> 0:09:07.560 in a very frustrating time in my life and i 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:10.240 feel as if I'm stuck. I'm searching for some kind 0:09:10.240 --> 0:09:14.320 of advice to help clarify my gut instincts. I'm currently 0:09:14.640 --> 0:09:18.520 a power plant worker in western North Dakota. I've been 0:09:18.559 --> 0:09:21.800 grinding at it for eight years now. It pays exceptionally 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:27.000 well and has been a financial blessing, but it comes 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:31.240 with some real sacrifices. I have an eighty seven mile commute. 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:34.480 I'm working twelve hour shifts with rotating days and nights, 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:37.520 lots of overtime, waking up at three point thirty in 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:40.480 the morning and getting home at seven point thirty at night. 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:44.200 When I'm on the day shifts. I've always I'm always 0:09:44.240 --> 0:09:48.960 tired when I'm not home, and excuse me, I'm always 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:51.360 tired and not home nearly as much as i'd like, 0:09:51.480 --> 0:09:55.960 moving closer to work is not an option. Long story short, 0:09:56.040 --> 0:09:58.080 I'm thirty one years old. I want to start a 0:09:58.080 --> 0:10:00.880 family with my wife soon. I don't want to be 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:03.960 known as the dad that's always at work or always tired. 0:10:04.440 --> 0:10:06.800 I don't have many other options to work a normal 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:10.760 life in my hometown without losing at least half of 0:10:10.760 --> 0:10:13.600 my income. How could I feel good knowing I would 0:10:13.600 --> 0:10:16.080 be taking a huge financial risk to quit my job 0:10:16.200 --> 0:10:18.480 to be the dad and the family man I want 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:22.319 to be, But giving up the job that would provide 0:10:22.360 --> 0:10:27.640 everything that we want or need. It's time or money. 0:10:28.320 --> 0:10:32.880 I can't have both. Man. What a way to start, Bobby, 0:10:32.920 --> 0:10:36.280 What a way to start? So shout out, first of 0:10:36.280 --> 0:10:39.200 all to Bismarck, North Dakota. Anybody listen from there, and 0:10:39.240 --> 0:10:44.240 shout out to power plant workers. I know there's a 0:10:44.280 --> 0:10:54.160 lot of you guys. It's a perfectly legitimate question, Bobby. 0:10:54.880 --> 0:10:58.040 It's a question that I'm sure a lot of people 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:02.040 will search for an answer for that their entire life. 0:11:02.520 --> 0:11:10.120 And that includes me, right, that includes me, And most 0:11:10.160 --> 0:11:16.240 people can fall into that category money or time. And 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:19.640 I can tell you what I've learned in my life. 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:22.120 You say, it's money or time. I can't have both. 0:11:22.880 --> 0:11:26.520 So at that point you say, well, which is more 0:11:26.600 --> 0:11:33.720 valuable money or time? And there is an undisputable answer 0:11:33.760 --> 0:11:39.600 to that. Time is infinitely more valuable than money because 0:11:40.120 --> 0:11:42.680 you could always make money, you could always have more 0:11:42.679 --> 0:11:44.480 of it, you could always spend it, you could always 0:11:44.520 --> 0:11:47.120 lose it, but you always you could always make more, 0:11:47.400 --> 0:11:52.720 or win more, or earn more, or inherit more somehow. 0:11:54.200 --> 0:11:59.040 But you can only have so much time. Time is finite. 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:03.360 It is ticking away, and you and me and everyone 0:12:03.400 --> 0:12:08.000 else are on the clock and it never stops ticking. 0:12:08.640 --> 0:12:12.240 It will never stop. And you and me and every 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:16.400 other human on this planet has an expiration date. Now, 0:12:16.480 --> 0:12:19.880 the key is none of us know when or where 0:12:20.240 --> 0:12:27.160 or how that expiration date exists. It is part of 0:12:27.200 --> 0:12:31.280 what makes it human, is part of the beauty of 0:12:31.320 --> 0:12:34.080 this world. Because if you take away that aspect, if 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:37.400 you take away the finite time in our lives and 0:12:37.440 --> 0:12:41.640 it's just endless here on earth, then it takes away joy, 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:47.080 It takes away hope, it takes away peace, because can 0:12:47.120 --> 0:12:52.840 you imagine on this earth an endless amount of suffering forever? No, 0:12:53.440 --> 0:12:56.160 what makes it special is knowing that We only have 0:12:56.640 --> 0:13:01.160 this precious time, this small window of time, and we 0:13:01.280 --> 0:13:03.400 mess up, and we try to fix it, and we 0:13:03.440 --> 0:13:05.480 mess up a little more, and we try to patch 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:07.080 it up and fix it some more, and then we 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:09.760 have some wins and we have some losses. But it's 0:13:09.800 --> 0:13:16.160 all confined in this one small unit of maybe eighty years, 0:13:16.679 --> 0:13:21.800 some people less. So you have to make a decision 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:27.760 brother on time versus money, knowing that time is way 0:13:27.800 --> 0:13:31.240 more valuable. I want to dispute a couple of things 0:13:31.240 --> 0:13:34.439 that you said, Bobby. First of all, I want to 0:13:34.480 --> 0:13:40.400 throw out there that there is nothing fundamentally wrong with 0:13:40.559 --> 0:13:44.360 you continuing forever at this power plant. You're making good money. 0:13:45.000 --> 0:13:46.800 You got a little bit of a long commute. I 0:13:46.800 --> 0:13:49.840 could fix that commute, that eighty seven mile commute. Hey, 0:13:49.840 --> 0:13:52.640 you can knock out some podcast You could listen to 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:56.319 some audio books. So right now I would suggest that, 0:13:56.360 --> 0:13:59.920 like right off the bat, utilize that eighty seven min 0:14:00.040 --> 0:14:05.880 I'll commute both ways right and hey, you could learn 0:14:05.880 --> 0:14:08.800 another language you could learn. Think of all the audiobooks 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:12.640 you could listen to, whether that's nonfiction or fiction, or 0:14:12.679 --> 0:14:14.760 you want to learn some kind of trade or skill, 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:19.760 or or engulf yourself in this podcast, or listen to 0:14:20.200 --> 0:14:23.240 a million of my albums. There's a lot of things 0:14:23.240 --> 0:14:27.240 you could do. I would say, whatever you do on 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:34.160 that commute, don't waste that time. So right off the bat, 0:14:34.400 --> 0:14:37.040 make you a little power list like okay cool. It's 0:14:37.200 --> 0:14:39.120 say it's Sunday and you're going into work on Monday. 0:14:40.400 --> 0:14:43.240 Make a little list like okay, cool. Tomorrow my commute, 0:14:43.240 --> 0:14:46.160 I got eighty seven miles there and eighty seven miles back. 0:14:46.200 --> 0:14:47.680 What am I going to do? Okay, I'm going to 0:14:47.760 --> 0:14:51.600 listen to this particular audiobook on the way there and 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:54.880 on the back on the way back to kind of decompress. 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:56.600 I don't want to think too much on the way back, 0:14:56.640 --> 0:15:00.360 so I'm going to go to like a class sick 0:15:00.560 --> 0:15:03.760 nonfiction and try to dig into like a classic writer 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:07.080 and just kind of relax, decompress a little bit after work, 0:15:07.600 --> 0:15:13.360 and utilize that. Don't don't listen to political radio or news. 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:16.520 It's like sports talk radio. I mean, it's fun every 0:15:16.560 --> 0:15:18.600 once in a while to get into that. I love sports, 0:15:19.200 --> 0:15:21.920 and I get addicted to listen to politics, but it's 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:25.360 not good for the brain. So don't dive to Don't 0:15:25.440 --> 0:15:29.120 use all eighty seven miles to just waste away listening 0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:33.920 to random radio stations and ran. You know, like, really 0:15:34.000 --> 0:15:35.920 focus in on that time, and that's for now, that's 0:15:36.360 --> 0:15:42.760 what you could start today. I understand your concern. You're 0:15:42.800 --> 0:15:45.240 still you're still super young at thirty one, and you're 0:15:45.240 --> 0:15:50.200 ready to start your family. I always tell people it 0:15:50.280 --> 0:15:56.960 is never the wrong time after you're thirty to start 0:15:57.000 --> 0:15:59.680 that family. It's never. What I mean is it's never 0:15:59.720 --> 0:16:02.760 going to be a better time in your life than 0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:06.480 right now for you in terms of your relationship with 0:16:06.520 --> 0:16:10.560 your wife and your relationship with your work, because that 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:15.080 could always change. It's always changing. So hey, go ahead 0:16:15.080 --> 0:16:17.560 and start that family, and then you have you still 0:16:17.600 --> 0:16:19.040 have a lot of time to figure out what you're 0:16:19.040 --> 0:16:22.040 gonna do at work. It's it's legitimate that you're thinking, 0:16:22.120 --> 0:16:25.000 and it's actually proof that you have a lot of 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:30.160 integrity that you're actually thinking this far ahead about your 0:16:30.240 --> 0:16:33.160 family and your future and the dad and the husband 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:36.720 that you want to be that you're aspiring to be. Brother. 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:39.880 That is, there's so much integrity in that because you're 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:46.560 already thinking as the provider and the molder and shaper 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:49.760 of your children, as a father, that's present and there, 0:16:51.280 --> 0:16:55.280 and so I already know that whatever happens in your life, Bobby, 0:16:55.840 --> 0:16:58.600 you're gonna be just fine whether whether or not you 0:16:58.720 --> 0:17:01.040 work this job and your heart worker and that's that's 0:17:01.080 --> 0:17:04.000 what you do or not, because you're the kind of 0:17:04.040 --> 0:17:07.439 guy it's going to make that decision that, hey, I 0:17:07.480 --> 0:17:09.960 am going to keep this job because I want my 0:17:10.040 --> 0:17:14.160 kids to live in this community and go to this school. 0:17:14.680 --> 0:17:17.439 And in order to do that, for them to have 0:17:18.080 --> 0:17:21.359 to be set up to succeed, they're going to need 0:17:21.680 --> 0:17:24.520 this kind of education and to get that kind of education, 0:17:24.840 --> 0:17:27.119 I need to be working this job to make this 0:17:27.240 --> 0:17:31.960 kind of money. That is a legitimate reason to stay. 0:17:32.720 --> 0:17:35.119 And then if you're worried about it, then you go, 0:17:35.200 --> 0:17:38.520 all right, I am going to be when I'm home, 0:17:38.760 --> 0:17:41.439 I'm going to be super present. I'm going to be 0:17:41.480 --> 0:17:44.119 super focused. I know that I'm going to be. I'm 0:17:44.160 --> 0:17:46.760 going to be tired, but I'm not. When I'm home, 0:17:46.880 --> 0:17:49.560 I'm not going to be scrolling around on my phone, 0:17:50.800 --> 0:17:54.040 wasting away on social media or or some kind of 0:17:54.800 --> 0:17:58.160 email chain that I get stuck in, or watching some 0:17:58.400 --> 0:18:02.040 mindless TV show. When I'm home, I'm going to be 0:18:02.040 --> 0:18:04.960 focused on my wife and my kids. Hey, it's not easy. 0:18:05.000 --> 0:18:07.959 It's not easy to say that. I struggle with that 0:18:08.000 --> 0:18:09.800 too when I'm out on the road and I'm working, 0:18:10.320 --> 0:18:13.080 and I have the same struggles you do, because I think, man, 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:16.840 is it worth being out on the road. You should 0:18:16.840 --> 0:18:19.560 I stay home more, be home with my kids. And 0:18:19.560 --> 0:18:22.879 then I try to justify it by saying this, I 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:26.359 want my kids to grow up and go. Dad worked 0:18:26.480 --> 0:18:30.560 really hard. Dad was very passionate about what he did, 0:18:31.240 --> 0:18:35.400 and he put us first. Not necessarily. That doesn't have 0:18:35.480 --> 0:18:39.639 to mean Dad switch jobs so that he didn't have 0:18:39.680 --> 0:18:41.520 to work so much so he could be around us 0:18:41.520 --> 0:18:44.639 all the time. That doesn't always equate to Dad was 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:47.560 looking after us, because sometimes that means Dad was looking 0:18:47.600 --> 0:18:51.480 after us so much that he worked extra hours and 0:18:51.520 --> 0:18:53.199 he worked really hard, and when he got home, he 0:18:53.280 --> 0:18:55.199 was all about us and he was so involved in 0:18:55.240 --> 0:18:59.480 our lives. And then he provided us with a lifestyle 0:18:59.680 --> 0:19:02.120 that we might not have been able to have if 0:19:02.160 --> 0:19:05.600 he hadn't have worked so hard. So you see, there's 0:19:05.640 --> 0:19:08.560 this there's this push and pull, and that's what I'm 0:19:08.600 --> 0:19:10.480 trying to tell you that there's not a right answer 0:19:10.520 --> 0:19:13.560 to I'm not gonna sit here and go, yeah, Bobby, 0:19:13.640 --> 0:19:16.639 quit your job, man, quit your job and get something local, 0:19:16.640 --> 0:19:19.119 because you've already said there's not very many good options. 0:19:20.000 --> 0:19:23.920 But what you can do since you you could first 0:19:23.920 --> 0:19:26.320 of all say yes, time is more valuable than money, 0:19:26.680 --> 0:19:29.159 and so when I do have time, I'm going to 0:19:29.200 --> 0:19:33.560 take every minute and invest it back into my family 0:19:33.600 --> 0:19:37.160 and myself, whether that's on my drive time, whether that's 0:19:37.520 --> 0:19:41.359 on my days off when I am home, or whether 0:19:41.400 --> 0:19:44.680 that's getting as much vacation time as I can for 0:19:44.840 --> 0:19:47.960 my boss. But there's a million reasons you're asking the 0:19:48.040 --> 0:19:51.000 right questions. I think you're absolutely in the right direction. 0:19:51.640 --> 0:19:54.160 And please do a follow up on me in this podcast. 0:19:54.200 --> 0:19:57.359 Will you write back in five, six, seven months from 0:19:57.400 --> 0:20:00.080 now and let us all know what you ended up doing. 0:20:00.160 --> 0:20:03.120 And then I'll read this back on this podcast and say, hey, 0:20:03.160 --> 0:20:05.119 we have an update from Bobby in North Dakota and 0:20:05.200 --> 0:20:07.880 this is what he's decided to do. But I'm sure 0:20:07.920 --> 0:20:11.120 we're all really interested to find out. And I'm proud 0:20:11.160 --> 0:20:13.400 of you man for keeping your head straight and keeping 0:20:13.400 --> 0:20:17.960 it in the right place. See what else we have here? 0:20:22.440 --> 0:20:24.359 Have you hear voices in the background, This a busy, 0:20:24.560 --> 0:20:27.960 busy day at the Yegey Farm. We are buzzing, man. 0:20:27.960 --> 0:20:30.480 We are trying to get these orders out. We got people, 0:20:30.640 --> 0:20:33.960 we got alarm system people here installing things. We got 0:20:34.240 --> 0:20:39.640 phone calls being made. It's always crazier at the form. Okay, 0:20:40.119 --> 0:20:44.160 I'm gonna go here to This is Austin. Let me see. 0:20:44.160 --> 0:20:45.880 I see if I can find out where Austin's from. 0:20:45.920 --> 0:20:50.400 Now I don't know it, says Hey Granger. I hope 0:20:50.400 --> 0:20:52.160 all is well with you. My name is Austin. I'm 0:20:52.200 --> 0:20:55.879 currently seventeen. I'm turning eighteen towards the end of October. 0:20:55.960 --> 0:20:59.680 I recently got interested in your podcast, and I'm hoping 0:20:59.680 --> 0:21:03.040 for some good life advice. Like I said, I'm almost eighteen, 0:21:03.040 --> 0:21:07.040 finishing high school in May. I have zero interest in college. Rather, 0:21:07.080 --> 0:21:09.480 I really want to get into two blue collar work, 0:21:09.560 --> 0:21:13.679 specifically alliance repair, which I have done a lot of 0:21:13.720 --> 0:21:16.720 internships in. I know that pays good and I really 0:21:16.800 --> 0:21:20.439 enjoy it. I've been dating this girl for almost two years. 0:21:21.040 --> 0:21:24.960 We get along absolutely great, agree on everything big, small 0:21:24.960 --> 0:21:28.480 and political. I'll love her family and she loves mine. Likewise, 0:21:28.520 --> 0:21:32.360 her family loves me and my family loves her. Christianity 0:21:32.480 --> 0:21:34.840 is a big part of both of our lives, and 0:21:34.920 --> 0:21:37.119 if everything goes as planned, we want to get married 0:21:37.119 --> 0:21:40.359 in about a year, I'd be nineteen. We have no 0:21:40.440 --> 0:21:43.359 intentions of having any children at any point in the 0:21:43.400 --> 0:21:46.960 foreseeable future. I have a couple questions. One, what are 0:21:47.000 --> 0:21:49.720 your tips for a young adult slash teenager wanting to 0:21:49.760 --> 0:21:53.040 start their life? What should I be focused on in life? 0:21:53.640 --> 0:21:56.840 Anything I should be doing or avoiding to have a 0:21:56.840 --> 0:22:01.520 successful life. I have no interest in partying drugs all 0:22:01.600 --> 0:22:04.400 that which most people do during their late teens and twenties, 0:22:04.920 --> 0:22:07.359 and I'd rather start working a full time job, which 0:22:07.359 --> 0:22:11.560 I mentioned before. In your opinion, how does one know 0:22:11.720 --> 0:22:13.560 when it's the right time to get married? Do you 0:22:13.600 --> 0:22:16.160 think people should wait until their thirties to get married 0:22:16.480 --> 0:22:20.240 like most people suggest? Any advice about becoming an adult 0:22:20.720 --> 0:22:31.359 would be great. Thanks? Ye yee, all right, Austin, great questions, Buddy. 0:22:32.119 --> 0:22:35.280 I'm gonna dig in here with you, and I'm gonna 0:22:35.320 --> 0:22:40.480 first of all say that, just like I told the 0:22:41.040 --> 0:22:43.960 last question, budd, your heart is in the right place. 0:22:44.240 --> 0:22:47.840 You're absolutely thinking right. It sounds like you've got a 0:22:47.880 --> 0:22:51.960 great girl, you have a good path for you for 0:22:52.080 --> 0:22:56.399 your future. I think that's amazing. But I'm gonna go 0:22:56.440 --> 0:22:59.119 ahead and pump the breaks right now in the marriage thing. 0:22:59.119 --> 0:23:03.080 I'm gonna pump the break right now. And that does 0:23:03.200 --> 0:23:05.200 not I know that that's not the answer you wanted 0:23:05.200 --> 0:23:06.960 to hear. And I know you built this girl up 0:23:07.960 --> 0:23:10.600 and she sounds like she's awesome. You love her family, 0:23:10.680 --> 0:23:15.320 she loves you, her family likes you. Guys agree on everything, 0:23:15.400 --> 0:23:19.600 you have the same religious beliefs. But the biggest problem 0:23:19.680 --> 0:23:22.680 is when you're planning on getting married, you're going to 0:23:22.720 --> 0:23:28.800 be nineteen, and that there you have so much life. 0:23:29.359 --> 0:23:32.399 You have so much to I don't want to say 0:23:32.520 --> 0:23:34.040 so much to learn because I don't want to act 0:23:34.080 --> 0:23:37.320 like I know more than you. But you have so 0:23:37.400 --> 0:23:42.359 much more to experience, and it is not fair to 0:23:42.480 --> 0:23:47.000 either one of you to cut that experience short and 0:23:47.080 --> 0:23:48.920 jump into marriage. Because you're going to have marriage the 0:23:48.960 --> 0:23:51.640 rest of your life. You're gonna have that opportunity. You're 0:23:51.680 --> 0:23:54.639 maybe gonna have her. I mean, there is nothing wrong 0:23:54.960 --> 0:23:59.359 with dating this girl for a long time at your age. 0:23:59.520 --> 0:24:02.040 If you're thirty years old asking me this question, I'd say, buddy, 0:24:02.119 --> 0:24:05.159 let's do it, let's do it, let's get married. But 0:24:06.280 --> 0:24:09.400 you are putting a disadvantage to yourself and to her 0:24:10.800 --> 0:24:15.520 by depriving her of her twenties with her friends, so 0:24:15.560 --> 0:24:18.640 that she can go out and have girls' nights and 0:24:19.160 --> 0:24:25.720 experience life and mess up and make up for the 0:24:25.760 --> 0:24:29.239 mess up and learn from the mistakes, and then and 0:24:29.720 --> 0:24:34.119 find out how to be a woman, because she is 0:24:34.160 --> 0:24:37.359 going to be completely different at eighteen than she is 0:24:37.400 --> 0:24:39.320 when she's thirty one. She is going to be a 0:24:39.400 --> 0:24:43.040 different person. And you are too, in so many ways. 0:24:43.480 --> 0:24:45.200 You're going to be a different person. And Amber and 0:24:45.240 --> 0:24:47.000 I talk about this all the time. I got married 0:24:47.480 --> 0:24:51.359 when I was thirty and we laugh. We go back 0:24:51.400 --> 0:24:54.080 and forth and we laugh, and we say, this wouldn't 0:24:54.080 --> 0:24:55.919 have worked if you met me when I was nineteen 0:24:56.200 --> 0:24:58.880 because I was a different person. I didn't know how 0:24:58.880 --> 0:25:04.119 to handle adversity like I do now. And none of 0:25:04.160 --> 0:25:05.800 this is a knock on you, dude. You sound like 0:25:05.800 --> 0:25:07.879 a very mature guy. You got a lot of stuff 0:25:07.920 --> 0:25:10.719 figured out. It sounds like you're ahead of your years. 0:25:11.560 --> 0:25:14.879 But there is nothing that could take the place of 0:25:14.920 --> 0:25:18.720 this next decade coming up your twenties. Nothing could take 0:25:18.720 --> 0:25:21.440 the place of that. And you will deprive yourself if 0:25:21.480 --> 0:25:26.000 you jump into wedlock too early. And this is a time, 0:25:27.320 --> 0:25:29.920 the only time in your life because you've been you've 0:25:29.920 --> 0:25:33.359