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Speaker 1: this podcast possible for everyone. It's free for you to

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Speaker 1: you for watching. Welcome to the Greater Smith Podcast. Yeah, yea,

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Speaker 1: did chidel my tired school's long line of my fool

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Speaker 1: you're catch you up in my world a little bit

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Speaker 1: Country Things. Volume one, which released a couple of weeks ago,

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Speaker 1: I'll make the announcement on the podcast right now. Black Friday,

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Speaker 1: teens and twenties. I'd rather start working a full time job,

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Speaker 1: which I mentioned before, and man, you got your priority set.

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Speaker 1: It's great that you have no interest in partying in drugs,

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Speaker 1: it's great, but you're also making that decision at seventeen

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446
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447
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Speaker 1: I don't know, I'm forty five years old. I've never

449
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Speaker 1: done anything bad. I've never even had a drink, and

450
00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:37,439
Speaker 1: I wonder if maybe I should have been out to

451
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452
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453
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Speaker 1: I'm not saying that's good. I'm not advocating for that.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying anything like that. I'm just saying, you

456
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457
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Speaker 1: I suppressed that because I thought that's I thought that

458
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Speaker 1: that was wrong. Does that make sense at all? Maybe

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461
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462
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Speaker 1: My girlfriend of two years is being deployed and will

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Speaker 1: be gone until late next year. We haven't spent very

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Speaker 1: much time away from each other, and seeing as we

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Speaker 1: live together, my question is, with you being on the

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Speaker 1: with your wife and family even when it's not easy

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Speaker 1: to Joe, first of all, want to say to your girlfriend,

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Speaker 1: thank you for her service. Thank you for the sacrifice

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Speaker 1: could have freedom of speech on this podcast, and we

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Speaker 1: could maintain a lifestyle that is unprecedented in world history

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Speaker 1: because of people like your girlfriend. And I always like

543
00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:59,680
Speaker 1: to throw in girlfriend's boyfriends spouses, they fall into that category. Two.

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Speaker 1: So Joe, thank you for your service as well. This

545
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Speaker 1: is going to be a tough time and there's no

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Speaker 1: way around it. What you're entering right now is statistically

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Speaker 1: it kind of leans towards people breaking up. So as

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Speaker 1: long as you know that statistically, you're going you're fighting

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00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:21,920
Speaker 1: uphill battle and you want to set up your foundation

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Speaker 1: with her if you truly love her, you want to

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Speaker 1: set up your foundation as strong as you can get

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00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:32,480
Speaker 1: it knowing that nothing is going to break. So beyond

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00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:36,240
Speaker 1: communication like that's that's down the road on your steps

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Speaker 1: to do. First step is you sit down with her

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Speaker 1: and I would look her in the eye and say, Babe,

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Speaker 1: I want to tell you before you leave. I would

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Speaker 1: take her two hands and I'll look her right in

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Speaker 1: the eye and say, Babe, I want to tell you.

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Speaker 1: I know you're leaving. I will not forsake you. I

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Speaker 1: will not mess things up because I love you and

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Speaker 1: I want to prove that to you. I want to

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Speaker 1: prove that I am your man, you wherever you go

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Speaker 1: in the world, whatever happens. If we talk every day, awesome.

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Speaker 1: If you skip a couple weeks, if we don't hear

565
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Speaker 1: from each other, I want to tell you you could

566
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Speaker 1: trust me. I got your back. I will not lie

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Speaker 1: to you. I will not sneak around on you. I

568
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Speaker 1: will not mess up this relationship. Now, Joe, you got

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Speaker 1: to say that if you mean it. If you don't

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Speaker 1: mean it, I don't know enough about you through this.

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Speaker 1: If you don't mean that, just let's make this easy

572
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Speaker 1: and just cut this off right now. Let me just

573
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Speaker 1: say that, cut this off right now. If you don't

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Speaker 1: mean that, if you can't say those words and absolutely

575
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:48,960
Speaker 1: mean it, then just say, babe, let's take some time off.

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Speaker 1: Whenever you get back, we'll try to rekindle it. If

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Speaker 1: you truly love her, if this is the woman that

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Speaker 1: you're going to marry, then I would give that little

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Speaker 1: speech to her, and you would hope that she can

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00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:05,960
Speaker 1: give that speech back to you. That is better than

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00:36:06,520 --> 00:36:10,359
Speaker 1: that'll set you up for any kind of communication that

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Speaker 1: you're gonna have in the future. And then once you

583
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Speaker 1: got that, once you got that trust, then you're not

584
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Speaker 1: sitting around wondering like haven't heard from her? Or she's

585
00:36:19,640 --> 00:36:22,719
Speaker 1: thinking I haven't heard from him, what's she doing? Whose

586
00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:25,040
Speaker 1: house is he at? What party is he at right now?

587
00:36:25,360 --> 00:36:27,960
Speaker 1: That just get all that out of your head, so

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Speaker 1: then the communication is much more easy. You can even

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Speaker 1: skip a day you don't hear from her, she doesn't

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Speaker 1: hear from you. She's not worried. She's not thinking you're

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Speaker 1: out cheating on her, you know, because she trusts you.

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Speaker 1: So start with that, and you're asking what's the secret

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Speaker 1: to me and Amber? That's where it starts. I trust

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Speaker 1: her and she trusts me. Period, we ain't gonna mess up.

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Speaker 1: I will not mess up on her, She will not

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Speaker 1: mess up on me. We trust each other. So I'm

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Speaker 1: not sitting around on the bus when I'm on tour

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Speaker 1: going why does she not answer me? And I texted

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Speaker 1: her seventeen minutes ago. I know she's around her phone.

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Speaker 1: Why is she not messaging me back? Or she's and

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Speaker 1: she's not thinking that about me, Like I know he's

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Speaker 1: off the stage by now and he should be texting me.

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Speaker 1: And the reality is that happens sometimes maybe I got

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Speaker 1: off the stage, maybe my phone ran out of battery,

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Speaker 1: maybe I'm I got into something with my tour manager

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Speaker 1: and we couldn't make it back to the bus, and

607
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Speaker 1: I got stuck in the green room and the parking

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Speaker 1: lot was full, so I couldn't go to the bus.

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Speaker 1: I didn't make it back to the bus. Blah blah

610
00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:28,440
Speaker 1: blah blah. I didn't get to my phone, and I

611
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,320
Speaker 1: didn't get to text her before she went to bed.

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00:37:30,760 --> 00:37:33,600
Speaker 1: That ain't no big deal. Amber doesn't worry about that

613
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Speaker 1: because she knows I'm fine. I am not messing things up.

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Speaker 1: That's just what she knows. So you see my point, Joe,

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Speaker 1: set it up where that's the foundation, then communication will

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Speaker 1: be easy FaceTime if you can text, phone calls and

617
00:37:52,680 --> 00:37:55,040
Speaker 1: just don't make it where it's the ultimatum, like, hey,

618
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Speaker 1: if I don't hear from you every day at six pm,

619
00:37:56,920 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 1: then there we're going to have a big problem. I

620
00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:01,319
Speaker 1: see that around me all the time. I see that

621
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:04,560
Speaker 1: with guys around me, and I see guys that get

622
00:38:04,719 --> 00:38:08,720
Speaker 1: stuck in this rut where every time the scene changes

623
00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:11,720
Speaker 1: in their life, they got to call the girl again,

624
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:14,200
Speaker 1: like all right, babe, we're getting to the gas station.

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00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:15,759
Speaker 1: I'll call you when we get back out of the

626
00:38:15,800 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 1: gas station again. Bye, Hey babe, we're back back out

627
00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:23,000
Speaker 1: of the gas station. And then oh, we're gonna walk

628
00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:24,920
Speaker 1: into the hotel lobby. Let me give you a call

629
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:27,279
Speaker 1: whenever I get into my room. Hey babe, I just

630
00:38:27,280 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 1: made out of the the lobb but meant to my room. Dude,

631
00:38:29,200 --> 00:38:32,879
Speaker 1: that is exhausting. Don't be that guy, None of y'all.

632
00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:36,960
Speaker 1: Don't be that. You don't doesn't need to be that way.

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00:38:36,560 --> 00:38:38,960
Speaker 1: There's nothing you need to say to that person if

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Speaker 1: you just talked to them three minutes ago. There's nothing

635
00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:44,720
Speaker 1: new to say. That's just a trust issue. That's worrying

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00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:47,840
Speaker 1: about where that person is because you don't trust them.

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Speaker 1: Does that make sense? I answered your question probably the

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Speaker 1: opposite of how you thought I was going to answer it,

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Speaker 1: in completely backwards way. But to me, that foundation before

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Speaker 1: she leaves is the key. Joe. Let'll skip around here.

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Speaker 1: Let me skip it on the questions once again. Guys,

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Speaker 1: if you want to email me Grangersmith Podcast at gmail

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Speaker 1: dot com, shoot me a message. If I don't get

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00:39:12,760 --> 00:39:16,360
Speaker 1: to your question. Now, hold up, I'm holding them in

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Speaker 1: a pin here. I'm holding them in this file. So

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00:39:18,719 --> 00:39:21,080
Speaker 1: you actually don't I said at one point, send another

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Speaker 1: one you don't even need to do that. These aren't

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Speaker 1: going anywhere. I'm not deleting them. They're just going to

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Speaker 1: be here till I get to it, and I will

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Speaker 1: get to it. Okay, here's one. This says Hey Granger,

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00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:36,600
Speaker 1: my name is Dylan from Shawnee, Oklahoma. Shout out to Oklahoma.

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00:39:37,480 --> 00:39:39,839
Speaker 1: I've been I hope you and your family are doing well.

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00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:42,440
Speaker 1: I have been a faithful follower of you for at

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Speaker 1: least the past two years, maybe longer, and subscribe to

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Speaker 1: both of your YouTube channels. My question comes from something

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Speaker 1: you said last week about your hiring criteria for your

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00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:54,399
Speaker 1: band and crew. My question is this, have you ever

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Speaker 1: thought about doing a type of internship or something similar

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Speaker 1: for those people who have interest in working in the

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Speaker 1: music industry so they can get a taste of what

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00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:06,520
Speaker 1: it's like before making their career choice. I know, as

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Speaker 1: a firefighter slash e MT, I always encourage those people

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Speaker 1: interested in my career to do a ride along or

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Speaker 1: two so they could see what it's like. No, it's

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Speaker 1: not always like it is being on you know, the

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Speaker 1: heroes portrayed on TV. Thank you for all the music

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Speaker 1: and being vulnerable, and I'm super excited to get the

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Speaker 1: new album. Keep up the good work. Ee, yeah, Dylan,

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Speaker 1: we do think about that. We do think about internships now.

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Speaker 1: I would assume that a ride along if you're thinking

671
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Speaker 1: about being a firefighter, a ride along is super important.

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Speaker 1: If you're thinking about being the in the music business,

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Speaker 1: a ride along in the tour bus is that's easy

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Speaker 1: work from us, So that that that would probably make

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Speaker 1: you addicted to it a little bit more. The reality

676
00:40:49,640 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 1: is you don't start firefighters starting the in the truck.

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00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:57,760
Speaker 1: Musicians don't start in the bus. You start in a crappy,

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Speaker 1: stinky van, And that would be a better way to

679
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Speaker 1: get into what it's like to get into the business

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Speaker 1: as a band or a musician getting into a terrible

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Speaker 1: van and driving across the country that way, trying to sleep,

682
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Speaker 1: bouncing down the road while your drummer's driving. But we

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Speaker 1: do think about that, we think about internships. We actually

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00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:21,239
Speaker 1: haven't done anything now, especially during this COVID time. But

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00:41:22,840 --> 00:41:26,200
Speaker 1: our bunks and our bus situation is always limited, and

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Speaker 1: if you throw another person in the mix, that really

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00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 1: it throws off the dynamic of the crew, you know,

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Speaker 1: to kind of puts it off balance a little bit.

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Speaker 1: So what we would rather do is have like a

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Speaker 1: weekend show and bring somebody to the show and then

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Speaker 1: they stay in a hotel and they kind of get

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Speaker 1: to be part of the day and the show day,

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Speaker 1: but they don't do actually traveling overnight. So yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: definitely something in the works. And I've also asked my

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Speaker 1: tour manager Chris to consider interns for him to do

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Speaker 1: some of his because he has a lot of just

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Speaker 1: daily work, paperwork and stuff like that. So I've encouraged

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Speaker 1: him to reach out to intern companies and maybe get

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Speaker 1: some people to help him out. This one is from

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Speaker 1: Dana says, Hey Granger, First of all, thank you for

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Speaker 1: your music and your podcast and your videos. You make

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Speaker 1: my week better and I look forward to every single

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Speaker 1: one of them. I'm so thankful that you allow us

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Speaker 1: a glimpse into your family, the good, the bad, and

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Speaker 1: everything in between. It allows us to feel like we

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Speaker 1: know you. Thank you, Dana, I appreciate that so much.

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Speaker 1: Says to my question, have you ever thought about reaching

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Speaker 1: out to Black Rifle Company about collaborating with them a

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Speaker 1: eeee coffee flavor? Perhaps with them being veteran owned. I

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Speaker 1: feel it would be a great fit for you and

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Speaker 1: pretty please make a yee gun Holster. That's Dana from Illinois,

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Speaker 1: and then she says pronounced Renee with a D. So,

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Speaker 1: as I've been saying it wrong, I will now say Denay.

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Speaker 1: Thank you Denay, and sorry that I mispronounced your name

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Speaker 1: until until I read that at the end. My daughter

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Speaker 1: was the one who told you they were there as

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Speaker 1: her favorite song last year in Milwaukee. She told you

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Speaker 1: about her uncle, my cousin, who'd just gotten back from Afghanistan,

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Speaker 1: and you had Remington on the setlist that night, but

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Speaker 1: you changed it for her, so she still talks about it.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Yeah, thank you Denay. Yes, I do know

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Speaker 1: those guys at Black Rifle Coffee Company. We know them

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Speaker 1: very well. Matt Best, who works with them, has been

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Speaker 1: in the Haller music video and we have a podcast

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Speaker 1: planned with Black Rifle Coffee with their podcast that they have.

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Speaker 1: Matt Best is going to come beyond this podcast and

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Speaker 1: I'm going to be on theirs and maybe we will

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Speaker 1: collab on a yee coffee flavor. So comment below. Yee

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Speaker 1: coffee from Black Rifle is something you'd be interested in

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Speaker 1: and what do you think that would taste like? That's

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Speaker 1: the question, So in your comments, man, what do you

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Speaker 1: think yeege coffee would tastes like? Thank you to nay.

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Speaker 1: I think that's a great idea. Sorry for mispronouncing your name.

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Speaker 1: Alexander says, Hey there, Alex from Oklahoma. Will there be

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Speaker 1: a return of Donnie Cowboy love all your stories and

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Speaker 1: helpful advice? Yee thank you, alex Yeah, dude, Donnie Cowboy,

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Speaker 1: I'm Donnie. He is one of my characters, along with

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Speaker 1: Earl Dibbles and Bobby Wayne and Freddie and Dwayne, and

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Speaker 1: Donnie is one of my favorites. You guys might know

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Speaker 1: him from the song Parked out by the Lake or

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Speaker 1: some other videos that Donnie's had. Donnie is He's one

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Speaker 1: of my favorites, and he hasn't taken off like Earle did,

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Speaker 1: And so it's hard to kind of beat a dead

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Speaker 1: horse when Earl Dibbles just always does well. We put

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Speaker 1: out content with Earle, people like it. You put out

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Speaker 1: content with Bobby Wayne or Donnie and some of these

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00:45:01,680 --> 00:45:03,960
Speaker 1: other guys, and sometimes it takes a little bit for

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Speaker 1: that to gear up. And so it's hard for me

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Speaker 1: as a content creator to put too much time into

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Speaker 1: things that I know don't work as well as others.

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Speaker 1: That being said, yes you could count on a return

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Speaker 1: of Donnie, but I'm just kind of explaining why you

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00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:21,880
Speaker 1: don't see more of Donnie. But he's one of my favorites.

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Speaker 1: And anyone else listening if you haven't heard, oh, you

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Speaker 1: just google Donnie Cowboy or go to YouTube Donnie Cowboy,

756
00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:31,799
Speaker 1: but you could find his work. And if you know

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Speaker 1: Earl Dibbles, who's beer and dip, Donnie is coffee and

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Speaker 1: cigarettes to Earl's beer and dip. And he loves nineties

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Speaker 1: country music. I know a lot of people just like

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Speaker 1: Donnie as well. There's a lot of family members just

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Speaker 1: like Donnie. Thanks for the question, Buddy, let's scroll, I

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Speaker 1: got here we go, Johnny Nichols, Johnny says Granger. I

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Speaker 1: know you've toured Texas extensively. What's your favorite barbecue joint

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Speaker 1: and what's your go to beer? It's Johnny from Iowa Colony, Texas.

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Speaker 1: What's up, buddy. Shout out to the Texas folks. Shout

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Speaker 1: out to Texas barbecue folks. It's so funny because we

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Speaker 1: get these discussions about barbecue so much because we could

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Speaker 1: get to travel the country and we see the Carolina

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Speaker 1: folks who are so serious about their barbecue. The Memphis

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Speaker 1: folks are so serious. The Kansas City folks are so serious.

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Speaker 1: The Texas folks are so serious. It's hilarious to go

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Speaker 1: back and forth and people say that they have the

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Speaker 1: best barbecue, when in reality, it's just all personal preference.

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Speaker 1: Because to me, if you go to the best life,

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Speaker 1: you go the best burnt end place in Kansas City,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna sit down and you're gonna go, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: these burn ends are incredible. And then your cruise over

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Speaker 1: to Memphis and you go to what's it called Rendezvous

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Speaker 1: for all your Memphis people. Rendezvous, I think that's what's called.

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Speaker 1: You get the ribs there and it's like those little

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00:47:03,680 --> 00:47:07,840
Speaker 1: dry ribs, incredible. And then you go out there to

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Speaker 1: Carolina and you get you a good old pool pork

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Speaker 1: with some of that thick honey sauce and all the

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Speaker 1: crazy fixings they do in Carolina barbecue. I mean, they

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Speaker 1: don't go they're not shy with the fixings in Carolina,

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Speaker 1: and it's incredible. And then you come to Texas and

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Speaker 1: it's once again totally different. But if you go to

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Speaker 1: the best place, it's incredible, and they're all it's different,

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Speaker 1: and it's almost not even the same food category. And

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Speaker 1: I know they all end with BBQ, but it's not

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Speaker 1: the same. It's very different. So I'm here to advocate

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Speaker 1: that I love barbecue, and I love the best of

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Speaker 1: all of those places, and it's hard to even compare.

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00:47:49,120 --> 00:47:54,280
Speaker 1: That's like saying, like football and baseball, they're just so different.

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Speaker 1: They're totally different sports. And you can't compare the these

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Speaker 1: details and the long drawn out innings of baseball to

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Speaker 1: the tightly timed quarters of a football game. It's totally different.

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Speaker 1: That being said, Johnny to your question, I judge Texas

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Speaker 1: barbecue in my mind by their brisket. So I love

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Speaker 1: Louis Mueller's brisket in Taylor, Texas. I love Blacks in Lockhart, Texas.

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00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:38,200
Speaker 1: I love Heart eight out there and was that out

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Speaker 1: there in Stephenville. There's a handful of them. And really,

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Speaker 1: if you catch any of the best places, I've never

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Speaker 1: been to Franklin's in Austin, by the way, but if

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Speaker 1: you catch any of the best places on their best

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00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:52,399
Speaker 1: day when they have a really good cut, it could

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Speaker 1: be the best barbecue you've ever had. But I typically

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00:48:55,800 --> 00:49:02,960
Speaker 1: will judge a Texas based barbecue point by their brisket

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00:49:03,239 --> 00:49:06,400
Speaker 1: and you can do the You could do the pool test.

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Speaker 1: Basically you take you take like a pencil pencil linked

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Speaker 1: slice of that brisket and you hold it up and

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Speaker 1: it should that brisket should stand up on its own

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Speaker 1: weight without falling. But if you take your other hand

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Speaker 1: and you just kind of barely pull on that brisket

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Speaker 1: on that pencil pencil thickness, it should easily come apart,

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Speaker 1: like like bread, like white bread comes apart that easily.

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Speaker 1: You should hold stand up on its own but come apart,

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Speaker 1: and it should have a nice pepper bark on it.

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Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not all about crazy rubs and crazy sauces.

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Speaker 1: To me, a piece of brisket should live alone without

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Speaker 1: sauce and with only with pepper seasoning, without craziness. So

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Speaker 1: if you could do that, and you could hold up

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Speaker 1: on the brisket test with pepper pepper bark, and then

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Speaker 1: anything else after that is gravy. Yeah, ignore the pun.

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Speaker 1: You could have great sauce, so you could have great sides.

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Speaker 1: But Texas Barbeque has to nail the brisket, and I

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Speaker 1: would go to Louis Mueller's and Taylor Texas to get

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Speaker 1: mine right now. That is not a paid sponsorship. Take

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Speaker 1: a quick break. We'll be right back checking emails from

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Speaker 1: Granger Smith podcast at gmail dot com. This question comes

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Speaker 1: in from Jennifer says, Hey, Grangeer, this is Jennifer from Maryland.

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Speaker 1: Let me first say I love you and Amber and

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Speaker 1: watching you you make life easier. I knew of you,

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Speaker 1: but never watched much about you until the passing of Riv.

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Speaker 1: The journey since then, well, you guys have handled it

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Speaker 1: with grace. I recently went through a separation after twelve

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Speaker 1: years together. My step son is thirteen years old, so

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Speaker 1: you could see I've been in his life a long time.

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Speaker 1: I'm struggling with the connection we used to have when

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Speaker 1: we live together. I try to visit three times a week,

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Speaker 1: do activities with him, always get food, we talk, we

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00:51:12,920 --> 00:51:15,799
Speaker 1: play video games. But it seems his opinion of me

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00:51:16,239 --> 00:51:22,000
Speaker 1: has changed since I decided to end things. His opinion

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Speaker 1: of me has changed since I did decide to end

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Speaker 1: things for everyone's happiness. We are coming on a year

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Speaker 1: since I've moved out, but I have helped with school

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Speaker 1: appointments financially, but I do not know how to navigate

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Speaker 1: with him. I know the relationship may not be like

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Speaker 1: it was before due to changes, but I want the

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00:51:41,920 --> 00:51:46,200
Speaker 1: best we can get now, even if it's different situations.

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00:51:48,440 --> 00:51:50,839
Speaker 1: Great question, Jennifer, and I'm trying. I was trying to

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00:51:51,160 --> 00:51:55,200
Speaker 1: really dive in to when you just you said you

853
00:51:55,320 --> 00:52:00,040
Speaker 1: decided to end things for everyone's happiness, So every no

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00:52:00,040 --> 00:52:04,919
Speaker 1: one has reasons for separation. Unfortunately, it's very normal. What

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00:52:05,000 --> 00:52:08,640
Speaker 1: you're going through is probably pretty common, and there's probably

856
00:52:08,640 --> 00:52:10,440
Speaker 1: a lot of people on this podcast that could relate

857
00:52:10,640 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 1: to a story similar to yours. Thank you for the

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00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:23,399
Speaker 1: question and trusting me with your answer. Here's my first thought.

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00:52:23,600 --> 00:52:29,000
Speaker 1: My first thought as well, I said, my first thought

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00:52:29,120 --> 00:52:32,280
Speaker 1: is I think you're asking the right question and your

861
00:52:32,360 --> 00:52:35,719
Speaker 1: heart is in the right place. And I love when

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00:52:35,760 --> 00:52:37,919
Speaker 1: you guys ask me questions and you show your heart

863
00:52:38,080 --> 00:52:42,400
Speaker 1: right off the bat. It allows me to navigate the

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00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:45,080
Speaker 1: question better when I know that, Okay, your heart's in

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00:52:45,120 --> 00:52:49,920
Speaker 1: the right place. So what I see from this question

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00:52:50,080 --> 00:52:57,560
Speaker 1: is I see a thirteen year old boy more than

867
00:52:57,560 --> 00:53:04,120
Speaker 1: anything in the scenario. And you have to understand you

868
00:53:04,239 --> 00:53:08,759
Speaker 1: know this, Jennifer, that if regardless of the separation, you

869
00:53:08,800 --> 00:53:11,120
Speaker 1: would be having trouble connecting to a thirteen year old

870
00:53:11,160 --> 00:53:17,120
Speaker 1: boy regardless, right, I mean, imagine how you were connecting

871
00:53:17,120 --> 00:53:20,240
Speaker 1: with him when he was four or five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven.

872
00:53:21,280 --> 00:53:24,960
Speaker 1: But everyone knows that something happens when you're thirteen. You change,

873
00:53:25,480 --> 00:53:31,440
Speaker 1: you go through puberty, you're entering into adolescence manhood, and

874
00:53:31,560 --> 00:53:35,640
Speaker 1: you're in a really awkward stage. And add a separation

875
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:43,279
Speaker 1: to that, and he's confused. He's just not He's not

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00:53:43,520 --> 00:53:49,400
Speaker 1: mentally developed enough to handle the magnitude of what's happening

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00:53:49,440 --> 00:53:52,759
Speaker 1: at home. And so what I'm trying to say is

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00:53:53,760 --> 00:53:58,440
Speaker 1: what is happening to you is natural and normal and

879
00:53:58,560 --> 00:54:03,520
Speaker 1: completely ordinary in your situation, and it doesn't sound like

880
00:54:04,200 --> 00:54:07,719
Speaker 1: it has anything to do with you right now or

881
00:54:07,760 --> 00:54:11,279
Speaker 1: anything you can do to fix it. You're going there

882
00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:13,480
Speaker 1: three times a week, you're doing any activities with him,

883
00:54:13,719 --> 00:54:18,120
Speaker 1: You're getting food, you're talking, you're playing video games. It's

884
00:54:18,600 --> 00:54:25,080
Speaker 1: you have to be completely open to him and empathize

885
00:54:25,280 --> 00:54:32,880
Speaker 1: with him about this separation. Meaning, hey, buddy, I know,

886
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:36,680
Speaker 1: I know it's got to be tough, right, I know

887
00:54:36,760 --> 00:54:39,239
Speaker 1: it's got to be so tough that me and your

888
00:54:39,320 --> 00:54:46,160
Speaker 1: dad separated. And I just want you to know that

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00:54:46,600 --> 00:54:50,480
Speaker 1: I'm really sorry and I want to I want to

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00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:56,640
Speaker 1: be there for you in this weird time. And if

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00:54:56,640 --> 00:54:59,719
Speaker 1: you don't want to talk about it, that's fine. If

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00:54:59,719 --> 00:55:01,040
Speaker 1: you don't want to, if you don't want to bring

893
00:55:01,080 --> 00:55:04,239
Speaker 1: it up at all, that's fine. But I want to.

894
00:55:04,360 --> 00:55:07,040
Speaker 1: I want to let you know that I want to

895
00:55:07,080 --> 00:55:09,960
Speaker 1: be a part of your life forever because I helped

896
00:55:10,040 --> 00:55:13,560
Speaker 1: raise you and I want you to know that no

897
00:55:13,600 --> 00:55:16,920
Speaker 1: matter what you do, I am going to be there

898
00:55:16,960 --> 00:55:23,320
Speaker 1: for you and Jennifer I in my opinions, as parents,

899
00:55:23,320 --> 00:55:28,680
Speaker 1: and you are his parent, even though not biologically his parents.

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00:55:29,960 --> 00:55:34,000
Speaker 1: Our duty is to be there for the child forever,

901
00:55:34,080 --> 00:55:38,960
Speaker 1: no matter what. But that is not reciprocal for the child.

902
00:55:39,200 --> 00:55:42,719
Speaker 1: It's not it's not a rule. It's not necessary for

903
00:55:42,800 --> 00:55:47,799
Speaker 1: the child to have undying, unending, never ending love for

904
00:55:47,880 --> 00:55:53,720
Speaker 1: a parent because they didn't choose that situation. The parents

905
00:55:53,840 --> 00:55:58,319
Speaker 1: did in some way, and you did, certainly by entering

906
00:55:58,360 --> 00:56:00,839
Speaker 1: too into a relationship with a one year old little

907
00:56:00,880 --> 00:56:06,320
Speaker 1: boy baby, and your dad entered into it by conceiving

908
00:56:06,360 --> 00:56:10,759
Speaker 1: this child with the other woman. But the only one

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00:56:10,800 --> 00:56:13,480
Speaker 1: that's innocent and all this is the boy. He had

910
00:56:13,560 --> 00:56:16,120
Speaker 1: nothing to do with any This is just his life,

911
00:56:16,560 --> 00:56:20,160
Speaker 1: so he could choose. He could completely be justified in

912
00:56:20,239 --> 00:56:24,759
Speaker 1: choosing that he doesn't really care about you, Jennifer, but

913
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Speaker 1: that should not affect your relationship with him or how

914
00:56:28,840 --> 00:56:33,920
Speaker 1: you feel about him. Continue to pursue him, continue to

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00:56:33,960 --> 00:56:36,200
Speaker 1: go over there three times a week to do activities,

916
00:56:36,360 --> 00:56:39,920
Speaker 1: to get food. Even if he's apathetic and doesn't it

917
00:56:40,000 --> 00:56:42,960
Speaker 1: acts like he doesn't care. Because you're slowly making a

918
00:56:42,960 --> 00:56:47,839
Speaker 1: difference by proving with actions not words, that you are

919
00:56:48,000 --> 00:56:51,799
Speaker 1: there for him, and one day he might be. It

920
00:56:51,880 --> 00:56:53,839
Speaker 1: might take all the way to twenty two years old.

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00:56:54,360 --> 00:56:58,640
Speaker 1: He's gonna go da gum, Jennifer. Never gave up on me.

922
00:56:59,480 --> 00:57:04,240
Speaker 1: They're all my idiot teenage years through separation with my dad.

923
00:57:05,320 --> 00:57:08,240
Speaker 1: This woman never gave up on me. And it'll click

924
00:57:09,719 --> 00:57:15,799
Speaker 1: and then that's it. He'll accept you forever and that's

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00:57:15,800 --> 00:57:18,240
Speaker 1: what it is. But it might take some hard years.

926
00:57:18,280 --> 00:57:20,200
Speaker 1: It might take some times when you go, hey, do

927
00:57:20,240 --> 00:57:22,000
Speaker 1: you want to go out to eat? You want to

928
00:57:22,000 --> 00:57:25,280
Speaker 1: play video games, you want to go do to anything,

929
00:57:26,320 --> 00:57:28,840
Speaker 1: and you're thinking, gosh, he hates me. He hates me.

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00:57:29,240 --> 00:57:32,640
Speaker 1: Now the answer, he's just thirteen. He's thirteen, and he's

931
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Speaker 1: going through a lot and he doesn't know how to

932
00:57:34,360 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 1: process it. So just stay on him, keep chipping away,

933
00:57:38,040 --> 00:57:40,960
Speaker 1: be relentless. If this is what you want, pursue him.

934
00:57:41,480 --> 00:57:46,120
Speaker 1: He deserves that. He's had a tossed up childhood, so

935
00:57:46,160 --> 00:57:49,000
Speaker 1: he deserves you staying and good on you for even

936
00:57:49,080 --> 00:57:52,760
Speaker 1: wanting this. So stay on him, be relentless, pursue him,

937
00:57:53,360 --> 00:57:57,760
Speaker 1: and he'll open back up to you. I'm gonna end

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Speaker 1: with that one. Thank you guys so much for listening

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Speaker 1: and watch. Please subscribe if you haven't did this podcast,

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00:58:02,600 --> 00:58:04,560
Speaker 1: If it adds any value to your life at all,

941
00:58:05,000 --> 00:58:08,200
Speaker 1: tell a friend subscribe to this podcast and we'll see

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Speaker 1: you next Monday. Ye