1 00:00:00,520 --> 00:00:06,040 Speaker 1: Edgie Martinez in Real Life podcast. This episode and conversation 2 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:09,400 Speaker 1: is powered by I Do Say hello everyone. Hello, friends, 3 00:00:09,640 --> 00:00:13,920 Speaker 1: say Angie Hi. That's how people talking podcasts. Hey, hi, guys, 4 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:18,239 Speaker 1: we're sipping tea today. This is another edition of Takeaways 5 00:00:18,360 --> 00:00:20,920 Speaker 1: Edgie Martinez ir L Takeaways where we talk about some 6 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:23,439 Speaker 1: of your favorite episodes and some of your favorite interviews 7 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:26,120 Speaker 1: that run through this Edgie Martinez ir L platform. Um. 8 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:30,200 Speaker 1: This episode, we are talking about Jay Balvin, who I 9 00:00:30,280 --> 00:00:35,440 Speaker 1: absolutely just adore and loved my conversation with him, and 10 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:37,519 Speaker 1: it's like one of the nicest people walking on the 11 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: planet Earth. And Nile Simona is here with me, and 12 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:44,000 Speaker 1: Brittany's here and what are some of our takeaways for 13 00:00:44,040 --> 00:00:48,879 Speaker 1: this episode? Who's Who's gonna start? You start, Brittany, you 14 00:00:48,880 --> 00:00:51,559 Speaker 1: were there? Yeah. First of all, Balvin's great, and I 15 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:53,519 Speaker 1: love how his hair matched the background, so shout out 16 00:00:53,520 --> 00:00:56,760 Speaker 1: to him for coming in matching. My favorite part of 17 00:00:56,800 --> 00:01:00,720 Speaker 1: the episode's enjoyable the green on. I was into any 18 00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:04,479 Speaker 1: of the green emeralds on He's wh Now I'm gonna 19 00:01:04,480 --> 00:01:07,560 Speaker 1: go real deep though, Jay Bobbin talked a lot about 20 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:11,319 Speaker 1: like the influence his mom has on him and now 21 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:13,800 Speaker 1: he's a new dad. He has has a kid, and 22 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:16,960 Speaker 1: he was talking about how passing trauma down to your kids, 23 00:01:16,959 --> 00:01:19,200 Speaker 1: how he has this innate fear of like that he's 24 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 1: gonna die. So I started thinking about all the things 25 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:26,199 Speaker 1: that like I unconsciously am fearful of, or even little 26 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:32,400 Speaker 1: habits I have team, What did they do to you? 27 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:35,720 Speaker 1: I could run mine down too, but you go first, please. 28 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 1: So this is like a small this is like very minute. 29 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:40,200 Speaker 1: But when I'm in standing in line and someone's like 30 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:42,600 Speaker 1: too close to me in the back, I'll get real 31 00:01:42,640 --> 00:01:44,240 Speaker 1: snippy and turn around and be like, yo, do I 32 00:01:44,280 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 1: know you? Yeah, that is a hundred percent my father. 33 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:53,840 Speaker 1: It's just like a because well my dad's an army vet, 34 00:01:53,960 --> 00:01:57,240 Speaker 1: so he's like very paranoid about a lot of shit. 35 00:01:57,720 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 1: And one of the things is just like he's always 36 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:02,040 Speaker 1: his head is always on a swivel. So he's always 37 00:02:02,080 --> 00:02:04,120 Speaker 1: like you need to watch you, looking at you. I'm 38 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:06,920 Speaker 1: in the car, I'm checking. Dang, that's cars following me 39 00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:09,040 Speaker 1: too close behind. Like I'm always paying attention. So if 40 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 1: I feel like somebody's too close up to me, I'm like, yo, 41 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:13,600 Speaker 1: what's up? You trying to take something in my pocket, like, 42 00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 1: why are you? Why are you on me? Yeah, I 43 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:19,360 Speaker 1: really missed six feet lines. I really missed six feet away. 44 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:22,920 Speaker 1: By the way, everybody's it's just like a not just 45 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:25,720 Speaker 1: the Jay Balvin thing. This is like a people. I 46 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:27,400 Speaker 1: think it's like if we asked the if we have 47 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 1: one of our therapists friends on right now, I think 48 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:33,960 Speaker 1: it it's absolutely guaranteed that you pass on your trauma, 49 00:02:34,120 --> 00:02:40,400 Speaker 1: your fears, your bad habits. So for me, yeah, you 50 00:02:40,639 --> 00:02:42,960 Speaker 1: go ahead, but you have one, you have one, I 51 00:02:43,040 --> 00:02:45,680 Speaker 1: have one. I'm listening. I'm like, dang, this is so true. 52 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:48,760 Speaker 1: And I actually my last relationship is with taught me 53 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:51,840 Speaker 1: this because my partner always pointed it out. And to me, 54 00:02:52,240 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 1: it's like normal, it's second nature. Don't you hate when 55 00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:58,560 Speaker 1: the partner points it out. Though It's different when the 56 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:01,000 Speaker 1: partner for telling I was in the now about it 57 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:02,440 Speaker 1: like it's not a thing, it's not a thing, And 58 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:08,360 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, the thing is. He calls it gaslighting. 59 00:03:08,639 --> 00:03:11,600 Speaker 1: And I'll use the setting as an example. I've seen 60 00:03:11,639 --> 00:03:14,360 Speaker 1: you cough. I'm like, Andrew, you need tea. You should 61 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:16,200 Speaker 1: really go get some tea. I'm gonna go get you 62 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 1: the tea. You really didn't care to get the teabout it, 63 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:22,000 Speaker 1: but I'd like, I almost like force it where you're like, 64 00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:24,840 Speaker 1: all right, now, I'll just get the tea. Okay. My 65 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:28,240 Speaker 1: dad does that. My mom doesn't. Based in a fear, 66 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 1: it's now it depends if it's like your career and 67 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 1: they're like, why are you doing that? Don't do that? 68 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:38,280 Speaker 1: You shouldn't be doing that. It's like it's gaslighting. Is 69 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:41,400 Speaker 1: that what gaslighting is? I never really know what gaslight 70 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:43,600 Speaker 1: and it isn't gaslighting When you're like, what is the 71 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:51,120 Speaker 1: definition of gaslighting? Manipulate someone using psychological methods into questioning 72 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:55,240 Speaker 1: their own sanity or powers of reasoning. Maybe that is defastanity, 73 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:59,360 Speaker 1: but it is like convincing you to do what I'm 74 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:01,240 Speaker 1: trying to get you. That's a habit that you get 75 00:04:01,280 --> 00:04:04,240 Speaker 1: from your parents. That's not a fear, okay, because like 76 00:04:04,240 --> 00:04:06,400 Speaker 1: what Jay Bobbin was talking about, like his father was 77 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:09,200 Speaker 1: always afraid to be broke. So then all of a sudden, 78 00:04:09,320 --> 00:04:11,880 Speaker 1: Jay Bobbin's living his life afraid to be broke. Yeah, 79 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:15,040 Speaker 1: the mother was afraid of like sickness and whatever, and 80 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:18,800 Speaker 1: then those fears get transferred and then he has this 81 00:04:18,880 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 1: like fear of death, like he was saying, I think 82 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:24,000 Speaker 1: like my mother had those type of fears of like 83 00:04:24,160 --> 00:04:26,160 Speaker 1: I guess anybody, right who grows up with no bread, 84 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:28,480 Speaker 1: you're always afraid to go broke, Right, you're like the 85 00:04:28,520 --> 00:04:30,560 Speaker 1: first one. My mother's like the first generation of like 86 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:34,599 Speaker 1: you know, getting out the struggle, the struggle, right, even 87 00:04:34,600 --> 00:04:36,479 Speaker 1: though she had her own struggle, but like you know, 88 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:38,720 Speaker 1: she had fears of that going broke. Still today she'd 89 00:04:38,760 --> 00:04:40,480 Speaker 1: be like, you don't want to lose your job, But 90 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:42,480 Speaker 1: be like, Mom, I'm all right, I promise, Like if 91 00:04:42,480 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 1: I lose my job, I'm getting another job. I'm gonna 92 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:46,880 Speaker 1: be all right. Yeah, you know what I'm saying. But 93 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:50,839 Speaker 1: like she still has that mentality. I'm like, yo, what 94 00:04:50,839 --> 00:04:53,159 Speaker 1: what are you saying to me? That's her fears. But 95 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:56,000 Speaker 1: I guess at some point I probably more i'd probably 96 00:04:56,040 --> 00:04:58,919 Speaker 1: shaken off, but I probably younger me got some of 97 00:04:58,920 --> 00:05:01,160 Speaker 1: those fears from her. Or I think that money when 98 00:05:01,240 --> 00:05:03,880 Speaker 1: is a comment from that generation in general, like across 99 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:06,760 Speaker 1: the board, Yeah, yeah, yeah, money thing is definitely it's 100 00:05:06,839 --> 00:05:11,600 Speaker 1: definitely that because that's absolutely my family too. Yeah, but 101 00:05:11,640 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 1: if you look at our parents who like it could 102 00:05:13,400 --> 00:05:16,120 Speaker 1: be relationships, it could be like your your mother or 103 00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:21,080 Speaker 1: your father's fears of like abandonment or things like that. 104 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:24,280 Speaker 1: Those definitely transfer to children sometimes, like a single mom 105 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:27,520 Speaker 1: could have all types of fear about men or damn men, 106 00:05:27,600 --> 00:05:31,120 Speaker 1: and then you'll see that those same behaviors show up 107 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:35,360 Speaker 1: in their children and their daughter especially. Um. I love 108 00:05:35,480 --> 00:05:38,440 Speaker 1: that as a as a parental takeaway from this episode, 109 00:05:38,520 --> 00:05:41,279 Speaker 1: I think one of my favorites is obviously the checking 110 00:05:41,279 --> 00:05:44,520 Speaker 1: out with people. But yeah, sometimes I ask people like really, like, 111 00:05:45,000 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 1: how are you are you happy? You know, like how 112 00:05:48,640 --> 00:05:50,440 Speaker 1: happy are you? From one to ten? And they're like 113 00:05:51,800 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: tell me, and the start, you know, saying their things 114 00:05:55,160 --> 00:05:57,680 Speaker 1: how they feel. I feel sick because I don't have 115 00:05:57,720 --> 00:06:01,080 Speaker 1: decent that and I'm like, but I have decent and 116 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 1: I feel and I'm in your same number. Mm So 117 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:08,360 Speaker 1: that how used like the life? You know, life, what 118 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:12,320 Speaker 1: makes you happy? Huh, that's a good way to start. 119 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:14,280 Speaker 1: I might steal that for my podcast. I might ask 120 00:06:14,279 --> 00:06:16,560 Speaker 1: people on a scale of one to ten, Yes, how 121 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:18,919 Speaker 1: happy you are? How happy are you? I mean I 122 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:21,120 Speaker 1: totally stole this from him and have used it on 123 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:23,480 Speaker 1: at least three others. So sometimes we take these out 124 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 1: of orders. So we had this one in the can 125 00:06:25,080 --> 00:06:26,840 Speaker 1: and him and I had had this conversation and I 126 00:06:26,960 --> 00:06:29,040 Speaker 1: used his how happy are you on a scale of 127 00:06:29,120 --> 00:06:32,159 Speaker 1: one to ten to talk to Taraji? Who then that 128 00:06:32,360 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 1: on that opened up that beautiful conversation that I had 129 00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:40,480 Speaker 1: with Taraji. Who else would I ask it to everybody? 130 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:47,120 Speaker 1: As Kelly Clarkson Clarkson, um, I asked her also she 131 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:50,680 Speaker 1: has an interesting story by that can how happy are 132 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:52,159 Speaker 1: you on a scale of one to ten? Because we 133 00:06:52,200 --> 00:06:54,680 Speaker 1: ask people in our lives all the time, you always 134 00:06:54,680 --> 00:06:57,520 Speaker 1: have a how are you doing? Good? You okay, yes, 135 00:06:57,839 --> 00:07:00,400 Speaker 1: I'm fine. It's now a real opportunity I need to 136 00:07:00,480 --> 00:07:03,160 Speaker 1: easily get into a conversation about how you really are. 137 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 1: And when he said that, he felt the way that 138 00:07:05,160 --> 00:07:07,599 Speaker 1: people don't really ask him that. I'm like, I don't 139 00:07:07,720 --> 00:07:10,720 Speaker 1: know how I reactive he actually told me anything other 140 00:07:10,760 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 1: than good, Like if I ask you how are you 141 00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:15,920 Speaker 1: doing it? Then you just start breaking I'm a four. 142 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:20,040 Speaker 1: I feel like a four? What now? No? She means 143 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:22,640 Speaker 1: like if she says how you doing yeah, and you 144 00:07:22,680 --> 00:07:25,000 Speaker 1: start really telling well, you know, I have this problem 145 00:07:25,120 --> 00:07:29,080 Speaker 1: and I was just trying to make small talk. No, 146 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 1: there's a time in a place sometimes small talk is 147 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:33,360 Speaker 1: your small talking. Yeah. I think what he was saying 148 00:07:33,400 --> 00:07:36,640 Speaker 1: it was like the people in your circling, Yeah, the 149 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:38,760 Speaker 1: people who you care about. You should take the time 150 00:07:38,840 --> 00:07:41,520 Speaker 1: to be like, ooh you're good. Yeah, you know, really 151 00:07:41,560 --> 00:07:43,480 Speaker 1: tap in and really check in. And he's right when 152 00:07:43,520 --> 00:07:45,239 Speaker 1: we don't do that. I think that's a really easy 153 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:47,120 Speaker 1: tool that anybody could use in their life to just 154 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:48,880 Speaker 1: check in with people. You could ask your mom that 155 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:51,520 Speaker 1: you can have a family member that you ain't really 156 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:53,720 Speaker 1: good with. It's it's an easy way to like really 157 00:07:53,760 --> 00:07:57,160 Speaker 1: just it's a fun party trick too. By the way, 158 00:07:57,240 --> 00:07:59,600 Speaker 1: it's a conversation starter. If you had dinner with like 159 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:01,760 Speaker 1: three or for your close friends and then you start 160 00:08:01,800 --> 00:08:04,360 Speaker 1: that conversation, you never know what that opens up. Good 161 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:06,560 Speaker 1: to get people to be honest. Yeah, and how you 162 00:08:06,640 --> 00:08:11,640 Speaker 1: feel that's like another level that's beyond and today like 163 00:08:11,760 --> 00:08:14,120 Speaker 1: not how are you? How are you on a scale 164 00:08:14,120 --> 00:08:17,800 Speaker 1: of one to ten today? You've gotten some crazy feedback 165 00:08:17,840 --> 00:08:20,160 Speaker 1: from that. Yeah, I think people. I think people. I 166 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 1: think it's I don't think it's like that it's such 167 00:08:21,880 --> 00:08:23,760 Speaker 1: a crazy feedback. I just think it's a good tool. 168 00:08:23,800 --> 00:08:26,680 Speaker 1: I think it's a tool anybody could easily implement into 169 00:08:26,720 --> 00:08:30,040 Speaker 1: conversation or into like checking with people, also checking in 170 00:08:30,120 --> 00:08:32,760 Speaker 1: with yourself too, like it worked. At the end of 171 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:35,720 Speaker 1: the day, you're like, hmm, I sit down by myself, 172 00:08:35,720 --> 00:08:38,000 Speaker 1: I'm like, how did today go? And I feel like 173 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:39,840 Speaker 1: it was at a five? Or I need to reassess 174 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:42,280 Speaker 1: how how did they went? Why? Why is it at 175 00:08:42,280 --> 00:08:44,640 Speaker 1: the five? Why did I let it? Like? Why? Why? 176 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:46,520 Speaker 1: How could it have been an eight? I've been lying 177 00:08:46,559 --> 00:08:50,160 Speaker 1: to myself lately. Oh, that's never good. No, but it's 178 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:52,360 Speaker 1: been working. Like I'll just tweet like, today's gonna be 179 00:08:52,360 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 1: an amazing day. I'm in such a good move, and 180 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:56,240 Speaker 1: I'll honestly be like, you're gas lighting yourself into a 181 00:08:56,280 --> 00:08:59,800 Speaker 1: good day. Yes, it's been working, it's been working. I 182 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:02,200 Speaker 1: think that's a lying to yourself. I think that's like 183 00:09:02,520 --> 00:09:06,120 Speaker 1: um setting intention. Yeah, intention, that's it. That's it. You're 184 00:09:06,120 --> 00:09:08,040 Speaker 1: not lying by saying it's gonna be a great day. 185 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:09,559 Speaker 1: That's your hope that it's going to be a great day, 186 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:11,920 Speaker 1: my hope and so far has been working out. Tweet 187 00:09:11,920 --> 00:09:13,880 Speaker 1: it's a lie. At the end of the day, you go, 188 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:16,480 Speaker 1: that was the greatest day ever? Yeah, and it was not. 189 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:19,800 Speaker 1: Then that's a lie. Yeah, but saying today it's gonna 190 00:09:19,800 --> 00:09:21,920 Speaker 1: be a great day. That's just you trying to be 191 00:09:21,960 --> 00:09:24,839 Speaker 1: intentional about what you want the day to be. It's 192 00:09:24,880 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 1: been working your husband. It really works. Love that for you. 193 00:09:28,640 --> 00:09:31,080 Speaker 1: Life is moving. Talk to me about did you have 194 00:09:31,120 --> 00:09:34,280 Speaker 1: a Jay Balbin takeaway? Bovin wasn't a typical episode for 195 00:09:34,280 --> 00:09:36,360 Speaker 1: you to watch, right? We made you watch it. Definitely 196 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:40,600 Speaker 1: was not gonna watch it. But why why? Because I'm 197 00:09:40,640 --> 00:09:44,640 Speaker 1: oblivious to just Latin culture, like I'm also oblivious to 198 00:09:45,360 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 1: when I was as human culture. We're talking about it 199 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 1: is human culture. But no, I get it. Me moving 200 00:09:51,400 --> 00:09:53,600 Speaker 1: to New York was a big culture shock for me. 201 00:09:54,080 --> 00:09:56,280 Speaker 1: Me going to Africa. It was a big quote I'm black, 202 00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:58,200 Speaker 1: We're going to Africa. I'm like, wow, this is like 203 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:00,200 Speaker 1: now I like afrobeats, you know what I mean? Yea, 204 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:03,199 Speaker 1: So now you guys are taking me over here. I'm like, okay, 205 00:10:03,280 --> 00:10:07,200 Speaker 1: let me tap in is not even from New York. Yeah, 206 00:10:07,480 --> 00:10:13,720 Speaker 1: I'm learning and I really honestly, when he was like, yeah, 207 00:10:13,760 --> 00:10:15,640 Speaker 1: I respect jay Z and I like what he's done, 208 00:10:15,679 --> 00:10:18,960 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, okay, they're tapped in, so I 209 00:10:19,040 --> 00:10:20,600 Speaker 1: need to be tapped into because I don't know what's 210 00:10:20,640 --> 00:10:23,920 Speaker 1: going on over here. Um, but I respect what he 211 00:10:23,960 --> 00:10:26,480 Speaker 1: said about jay Z and trying to do that for Columbia, 212 00:10:26,600 --> 00:10:29,680 Speaker 1: like make it easier for people for the Latino Gang, 213 00:10:30,320 --> 00:10:38,480 Speaker 1: for the Latino Gang. And I love that name name. Yeah, 214 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:40,720 Speaker 1: I know, I like it like that. Yeah, maybe like 215 00:10:40,800 --> 00:10:45,720 Speaker 1: Latino it's like his it's like hist okay, Latino Gang. Yeah, 216 00:10:45,720 --> 00:10:48,920 Speaker 1: that's this thing. Yeah, you know. And honestly, though I'm 217 00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:51,400 Speaker 1: not familiar with the music now, I'm not gonna turn 218 00:10:51,400 --> 00:10:53,760 Speaker 1: it off, Like I'm more inclined to know the music 219 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:57,200 Speaker 1: now that I know him. Right. Yeah, So that was fly. 220 00:10:57,679 --> 00:11:00,960 Speaker 1: The Edsurance story was to for dope. I love ed 221 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:05,000 Speaker 1: sharing so like him, but he ran to get high 222 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:08,520 Speaker 1: with assurance and sharing, do you because the history ended 223 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:12,000 Speaker 1: up being that's because he don't do good with weed though, 224 00:11:12,080 --> 00:11:14,080 Speaker 1: that's because he was doing he was playing in the 225 00:11:14,120 --> 00:11:16,800 Speaker 1: park he wasn't supposed to be playing in. One of 226 00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:18,719 Speaker 1: the takeaways I thought thought was interesting is he was 227 00:11:18,720 --> 00:11:21,600 Speaker 1: talking about when he first talked out, spoke out publicly 228 00:11:21,640 --> 00:11:24,720 Speaker 1: about his mental health. That was great that people on 229 00:11:24,800 --> 00:11:26,959 Speaker 1: his team were like, why would you do Did he 230 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:29,320 Speaker 1: say his team or just around him or like he 231 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:33,000 Speaker 1: said friends, people immediately around him, or like, why would 232 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:37,360 Speaker 1: you do that? You show weakness, you show you know, 233 00:11:37,800 --> 00:11:40,679 Speaker 1: being vulnerable, and people don't want that. Keep it to yourself. 234 00:11:41,280 --> 00:11:44,680 Speaker 1: Basically like does it hurt your career? Yeah, because that 235 00:11:44,800 --> 00:11:47,040 Speaker 1: was that sounded like that was the fear or the 236 00:11:47,080 --> 00:11:49,200 Speaker 1: concern of either his team or his friends or whoever 237 00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:51,240 Speaker 1: had been telling him that is that it would hurt 238 00:11:51,280 --> 00:11:53,559 Speaker 1: his career, which I think is that's still a thing 239 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:56,439 Speaker 1: in twenty twenty three. I feel like it helped. It 240 00:11:56,440 --> 00:11:59,319 Speaker 1: makes you just seem more relatable and like I can 241 00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:02,319 Speaker 1: connect it that you don't need to be took too 242 00:12:02,360 --> 00:12:04,520 Speaker 1: squeaky clean. But there are a lot of people who 243 00:12:04,559 --> 00:12:07,040 Speaker 1: will advise against it, I guess. But at the end 244 00:12:07,080 --> 00:12:10,120 Speaker 1: of the day, the priority is your well being. Yeah, 245 00:12:10,280 --> 00:12:12,199 Speaker 1: I understand career is important. You don't want to ruin 246 00:12:12,240 --> 00:12:14,400 Speaker 1: your career, but like priority should be a well being. 247 00:12:14,480 --> 00:12:16,560 Speaker 1: Until his point, it's like, how do you save people? 248 00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:20,200 Speaker 1: How do you help people if you can't share what 249 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:23,119 Speaker 1: you've learned or share the way you're surviving or thriving 250 00:12:23,400 --> 00:12:26,840 Speaker 1: even with some of these issues. Would you do something 251 00:12:26,920 --> 00:12:30,200 Speaker 1: like that in the moment of you feeling that low. 252 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:35,280 Speaker 1: Probably not if I'm being honest, I would as I 253 00:12:35,320 --> 00:12:37,800 Speaker 1: was coming out of it where I feel like I 254 00:12:37,840 --> 00:12:40,520 Speaker 1: have something to offer, because I would feel like I would, 255 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:43,719 Speaker 1: I would want something to offer. I mean, that's why 256 00:12:43,720 --> 00:12:45,240 Speaker 1: I don't say that in a bad way. I commend 257 00:12:45,280 --> 00:12:48,000 Speaker 1: him for being able to do that, Like I admire 258 00:12:48,040 --> 00:12:50,040 Speaker 1: that me. I don't know, I don't know if I 259 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:54,120 Speaker 1: could do that in it. I feel like certain people 260 00:12:54,200 --> 00:12:58,600 Speaker 1: on the planet, God has different energy in them to 261 00:12:58,679 --> 00:13:02,600 Speaker 1: sustain being so transparent and vulnerable. Because there's a lot 262 00:13:02,640 --> 00:13:06,600 Speaker 1: of people on the internet like like all right, people 263 00:13:06,679 --> 00:13:09,880 Speaker 1: ever hate or whatever. But Brittany Renner, she's so honest 264 00:13:10,200 --> 00:13:14,199 Speaker 1: and open about things, and I think like she can 265 00:13:14,240 --> 00:13:17,720 Speaker 1: take the criticism because God just made her that way, 266 00:13:17,840 --> 00:13:20,480 Speaker 1: like she like some people feel like they got to 267 00:13:20,520 --> 00:13:22,760 Speaker 1: get their message out whether you like it or not. 268 00:13:22,920 --> 00:13:24,600 Speaker 1: This is just me, this is who I am. What No, 269 00:13:24,640 --> 00:13:27,280 Speaker 1: mat Yeah, So I think like he's probably one of 270 00:13:27,320 --> 00:13:30,520 Speaker 1: those people who can share a low moment and be comfortable. 271 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:33,079 Speaker 1: I don't think so you don't think he is. No, 272 00:13:33,240 --> 00:13:35,360 Speaker 1: I don't think he's comfortable with the feedback. If you 273 00:13:35,480 --> 00:13:37,560 Speaker 1: if you look at social media, he's been quiet on 274 00:13:37,600 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 1: social media for a couple of months now, right, And 275 00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:41,360 Speaker 1: I think it's because he probably has to take breaks. 276 00:13:41,640 --> 00:13:43,240 Speaker 1: I don't know for certain, not just my guests and 277 00:13:43,320 --> 00:13:47,400 Speaker 1: knowing his character and knowing how he gets affected by things, 278 00:13:48,480 --> 00:13:50,080 Speaker 1: so I don't think it's easy for him. I don't 279 00:13:50,080 --> 00:13:52,480 Speaker 1: think he shares and then people attack him or people 280 00:13:52,480 --> 00:13:57,520 Speaker 1: say things. He seems like personal. He wears heart like gentle. Yeah, 281 00:13:57,559 --> 00:13:59,520 Speaker 1: like he's got a heart, like you know what I'm saying, like, 282 00:13:59,559 --> 00:14:02,920 Speaker 1: and I don't know. I can't I would, I couldn't 283 00:14:02,960 --> 00:14:05,600 Speaker 1: imagine that those things wouldn't bother him. You've never felt 284 00:14:05,640 --> 00:14:08,040 Speaker 1: like I just gotta get this message off. I'm just 285 00:14:08,120 --> 00:14:10,320 Speaker 1: get it off and put my phone down, because everybody's 286 00:14:10,360 --> 00:14:12,559 Speaker 1: gonna need a break, whether you're being transparent or not. 287 00:14:12,600 --> 00:14:15,040 Speaker 1: On the ground, it's just a lot. Yeah, I don't 288 00:14:15,040 --> 00:14:17,320 Speaker 1: think they have a choice. I think when you're that dark, 289 00:14:17,600 --> 00:14:19,800 Speaker 1: you're like looking you're trying to survive, like and so 290 00:14:19,920 --> 00:14:23,040 Speaker 1: you're trying to figure a way out, and sometimes when 291 00:14:23,080 --> 00:14:25,760 Speaker 1: you used your purpose that's like how Mary, She's like, 292 00:14:25,760 --> 00:14:29,240 Speaker 1: I don't have a choice. I wouldn't be alive if 293 00:14:29,240 --> 00:14:32,600 Speaker 1: I didn't get some of that stuff out because I 294 00:14:32,680 --> 00:14:34,600 Speaker 1: have to get it out. Yeah, and so I think 295 00:14:34,640 --> 00:14:36,440 Speaker 1: when you're an artist and a true artist and you 296 00:14:36,480 --> 00:14:40,920 Speaker 1: really deal with some of those challenges, I don't think 297 00:14:40,960 --> 00:14:42,680 Speaker 1: he had a choice, you know what I'm saying, Like, 298 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:45,680 Speaker 1: I think probably he felt the calling to do it, 299 00:14:45,720 --> 00:14:50,320 Speaker 1: and I commend them for it. Man. Same, Yeah, super dope, 300 00:14:50,360 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 1: so so transparent. I think to the first point that 301 00:14:54,400 --> 00:14:57,560 Speaker 1: you made, I like when he said that being grateful 302 00:14:57,640 --> 00:15:00,800 Speaker 1: and loyal is the most important things him like drains 303 00:15:00,840 --> 00:15:04,960 Speaker 1: and I think that's like grateful and loyal. Yeahga off 304 00:15:04,960 --> 00:15:09,280 Speaker 1: the story. Those good qualities. Yeah, hard to find grateful 305 00:15:09,320 --> 00:15:12,880 Speaker 1: and loyal at the same time in twenty twenty three. Yeah, 306 00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:17,680 Speaker 1: point him out. Um, but I like that because, like 307 00:15:17,680 --> 00:15:19,520 Speaker 1: you said, it seemed like he went through something so 308 00:15:19,560 --> 00:15:23,720 Speaker 1: now he's he puts extra emphasis and value on that. Yeah. 309 00:15:23,840 --> 00:15:26,600 Speaker 1: It was a great conversation. He was lovely, he was transparent. 310 00:15:26,720 --> 00:15:29,840 Speaker 1: He's so likable. I love the way the episode starts 311 00:15:30,120 --> 00:15:32,000 Speaker 1: where we just fall into this like we were playing 312 00:15:32,040 --> 00:15:35,280 Speaker 1: heck the level and um, yeah, I didn't even want 313 00:15:35,280 --> 00:15:37,000 Speaker 1: to start the episode. I wanted to just play, to 314 00:15:37,040 --> 00:15:39,400 Speaker 1: sit there and play the whole song and watching him 315 00:15:39,400 --> 00:15:42,120 Speaker 1: in his little moment. I don't know, I just felt 316 00:15:42,160 --> 00:15:44,040 Speaker 1: it was just it was just such a vibe. He's 317 00:15:44,040 --> 00:15:47,240 Speaker 1: a vibe. Um. It's going to be interesting to see 318 00:15:47,280 --> 00:15:49,560 Speaker 1: what he does next. But I will forever take by 319 00:15:49,600 --> 00:15:51,440 Speaker 1: the way, you know, what's the show? What's the late 320 00:15:51,560 --> 00:15:54,840 Speaker 1: night show? Oh? Is it? Um? Not foulon? Who's the 321 00:15:54,880 --> 00:15:57,520 Speaker 1: other one? Jimmy Kimmel, you know and Jimmy Kimmel hoo. 322 00:15:57,520 --> 00:16:00,160 Speaker 1: Every time he runs with a joke and he says, um, 323 00:16:00,160 --> 00:16:01,720 Speaker 1: sorry to Matt Damon, we ran out of time. We 324 00:16:01,760 --> 00:16:03,640 Speaker 1: couldn't have you on the show, he does like sorry, 325 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:07,400 Speaker 1: he does this joke with Matt Damon. Is it Matt Damon? Yeah, 326 00:16:07,440 --> 00:16:09,600 Speaker 1: So they clearly have a running joke for the whole thing. 327 00:16:10,520 --> 00:16:12,480 Speaker 1: I think Jay Balvin or how Happy are You? On 328 00:16:12,560 --> 00:16:15,360 Speaker 1: one to ten is gonna stay with this podcast probably forever. 329 00:16:15,560 --> 00:16:18,120 Speaker 1: I love that if this podcast continues on for two years, 330 00:16:18,160 --> 00:16:20,920 Speaker 1: five years, ten years, you're gonna hear that Jay Balvin 331 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:25,000 Speaker 1: come up. If nothing else from this episode, that question, 332 00:16:25,760 --> 00:16:28,840 Speaker 1: that tool that he used to open up dialogue about 333 00:16:28,880 --> 00:16:31,040 Speaker 1: how we really feel and what was really going on 334 00:16:31,120 --> 00:16:33,480 Speaker 1: with us, It's something that I will take away and 335 00:16:33,520 --> 00:16:37,120 Speaker 1: we'll use in this podcast for probably the remainder of 336 00:16:37,160 --> 00:16:40,760 Speaker 1: its existence. Yeah, I love it, so I'm grateful for that. 337 00:16:41,480 --> 00:16:44,680 Speaker 1: That's a gym. Anyway, if you haven't watched or listened 338 00:16:44,680 --> 00:16:46,080 Speaker 1: to the episode, you could do that now. You can 339 00:16:46,120 --> 00:16:48,640 Speaker 1: watch it on my YouTube page, Edgie Martinez IRL. Make 340 00:16:48,680 --> 00:16:51,080 Speaker 1: sure you subscribe, and of course you can listen where 341 00:16:51,080 --> 00:16:54,400 Speaker 1: all podcasts are heard. So thank you guys for rocking 342 00:16:54,440 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 1: on us. We appreciate you. Always subscribe and we'll catch 343 00:16:57,480 --> 00:16:58,160 Speaker 1: you on the next step.