WEBVTT - EP 329: Avoiding Situationships

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<v Speaker 1>Guess what decision we're about to make. Horrible decision.

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<v Speaker 2>We reached a climax, y'all, our Climax Tour. We are

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<v Speaker 2>going to be going all over the country and Canada

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<v Speaker 2>east coast, Midwest, west coast, South. Mandy's going to tell

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<v Speaker 2>you all about how to secure your tickets because I'm

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<v Speaker 2>telling y'all you don't want to let this sell out.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all heard it right. We are hitting sixteen cities for

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<v Speaker 1>the official Climax Tour, brought to you by Horrible Decisions. Y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Do not want to miss out our patrons. Why I

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<v Speaker 1>first did to purchase pre sell tickets with a special

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<v Speaker 1>code giving out only on Patreon, and tickets will be

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<v Speaker 1>available for everybody at or hive dot com. You do

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<v Speaker 1>not want to miss out. Tickets are short of sell

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<v Speaker 1>out and we want the Horhive presence loud and proud.

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<v Speaker 1>See you there. Now, let's get to the show. What

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<v Speaker 1>idiots help? What's the Welcome to another episode of Horrid

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<v Speaker 1>bled This is the old what's up? Y'all? What do do?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm weazy and I'm your girl. Man Dy aka pet

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<v Speaker 1>the Stallion aka Debt Bitch. Hey, y'all, we sollo today,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all we are. We came in, like, what's the We've

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<v Speaker 1>been touring. We have been meeting the Horror Hive and

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<v Speaker 1>it has been amazing. We are now on our on

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<v Speaker 1>our little little break, but we have knocked out five

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<v Speaker 1>cities already, I know, and if every show gets better

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<v Speaker 1>and better, I think something that I've been like excited

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<v Speaker 1>about is everybody's really impressed with like the things that

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<v Speaker 1>we add to our shows, Like yeah, just kind of

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<v Speaker 1>seeing I don't know, I feel like our shows have

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<v Speaker 1>always been good. Like my favorite show of ours of

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<v Speaker 1>all time is our first show we ever had, and

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<v Speaker 1>then Really and then La the one where that was

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<v Speaker 1>one of my least favorite because y'all, that's where I

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<v Speaker 1>found out I was allergic to vitamin C on my

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<v Speaker 1>face and all the big bitch and I was just

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<v Speaker 1>not comfortable. It was just at all. I think having

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<v Speaker 1>both of our moms there was cool. It was just

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<v Speaker 1>a testimony to me that like it's not hard that, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, everything that we've come up with for our

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<v Speaker 1>shows is not because we've seen it somewhere else, and

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<v Speaker 1>that's not even being shady, like it's not no, like

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<v Speaker 1>I think sometimes even like musicians, right, they kind of

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<v Speaker 1>like go to see what other things look like. Like

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<v Speaker 1>that was just creatively like it is what it is,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like all of our games, we figure out

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<v Speaker 1>what could be fun, what could be different, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>something that people haven't seen before, and I know they

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't have seen it before because we made it. So

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<v Speaker 1>like I feel like that first show really showed me like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>this isn't hard to do, Like and by that I

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<v Speaker 1>mean like put the show on. Of course, like logistics

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<v Speaker 1>gets tough and things like that, but like making this

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<v Speaker 1>show and being able to perform isn't difficult. So that

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<v Speaker 1>let me know, like this was a moneymaker, the key

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<v Speaker 1>key show. See that show didn't make me know it

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<v Speaker 1>was the money maker because which we broke even, so

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know, oh I just saw the money in

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<v Speaker 1>it until later down the road because maybe the podcast

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't money make it to me after that. That's what

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<v Speaker 1>I mean. Okay, okay, yeah, because the live shows, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>we broke even on that shit. But also like didn't

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<v Speaker 1>really understand what we were doing in the first place,

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<v Speaker 1>right right for that, but like knowing that ad vibe

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<v Speaker 1>was there, but the show I say in La when

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<v Speaker 1>people bully scheronas to kiss me for me to get shironas.

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<v Speaker 1>That was fun. Y'all should believe me with another cute

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<v Speaker 1>nigga again, that was great shop. I felt bad because

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<v Speaker 1>B and D was there and I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>my guest Dick tonight, and then I was like, but

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<v Speaker 1>at the same time, I have to perform. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna lie. It has been this is the first tour

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<v Speaker 1>so far that like, well, maybe because I ain't got

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<v Speaker 1>none right now, but this has been the first tour

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<v Speaker 1>where I haven't had like my hoes at every show,

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<v Speaker 1>like normally someone ether comes in. I got an old

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<v Speaker 1>hoe at one of them, but he's not a current hole.

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<v Speaker 1>He's just a supporter, a good lung, like lifelong front

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<v Speaker 1>at this point. But like not having like any of

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<v Speaker 1>my niggas at the show, I think I'm gonna keep

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<v Speaker 1>it up because I enjoy just the freedom of being

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<v Speaker 1>on stage and saying whatever the fuck I want. And

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<v Speaker 1>I really enjoyed our kinksters. I want to I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to shot them out though, So we kicked off the

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<v Speaker 1>tour in Detroit, where apparently y'all not freaking enough in

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<v Speaker 1>Detroit bitch because we don't really have no kinksters there,

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<v Speaker 1>but in Cincinnati we had to. So I want to

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<v Speaker 1>shout out Ambrosia, who did a phenomenal sensual pole dance

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<v Speaker 1>in a let dance were weezy, and then Dahlia, Oh way,

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<v Speaker 1>we gotta tell people what happened in the middle of that.

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<v Speaker 1>That shit was funny. What's kind of fun about doing

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<v Speaker 1>these shows too, is like we're not Beyonce, so like

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<v Speaker 1>bopas in the middle of the show are funny because

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<v Speaker 1>like we're already a show that doesn't edit shit, Like

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<v Speaker 1>we're very authentic period. So in Cincinnati, Vinnie is managing,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, our makeup artists and whoever's coming in and whatever, staff, cameras,

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<v Speaker 1>team stuff like that. So if someone's re writing him,

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<v Speaker 1>they don't. He doesn't have their numbers. He just got

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<v Speaker 1>the zip code, which I don't know why, no shade

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<v Speaker 1>to the makeup rogers, But why would you text him

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<v Speaker 1>and tell him you couldn't say, I don't know. So

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<v Speaker 1>we had the kingster Ambrosia, who came out and did

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<v Speaker 1>the strip tease and you know all that, and it

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<v Speaker 1>was really hot. So he gets a text right before

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<v Speaker 1>She's supposed to go on ten minutes before, like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so sorry, I can't say, Hey, my mom just got

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<v Speaker 1>had an emergency in the hospital. I gotta go to

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<v Speaker 1>the hospital. So Mandy's in the middle doing a game.

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<v Speaker 1>Benny's locking eyes of me on the stage and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh shit, Okay, what we're gonna do? How we gonna improvise?

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm looking at Mandy was like, what did I say?

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, this is we're gonna do. We're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get up there, I'm gonna get on the pole. We're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna say three things that we should do for this, this, this,

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<v Speaker 1>And we're like, bet we get up there. So I'm

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<v Speaker 1>on the mic and I'm like hey. She literally makes

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<v Speaker 1>the announcement, Hey guys, so we had a kinster but

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<v Speaker 1>they had to leave for an emergency. So and then

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<v Speaker 1>next thing I know, I look over to the goddamn

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<v Speaker 1>staircase where the Kings is supposed to be. She's like, wait, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm here. I'm like, weezy, wait wait. So I go

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<v Speaker 1>to Bennie and I'm like, uh, she's here. Here go Bennie.

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<v Speaker 1>At the end, he was like, oh, I thought the

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<v Speaker 1>Kinkster said they couldn't make it so literally, we're like

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<v Speaker 1>panicking mid show and I'm just like with the makeup

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<v Speaker 1>artists textdoy as if we needed her, the whole show

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<v Speaker 1>needed her writing for that shit, and we were good too.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, but bitch. Yeah. I wanted to give another

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<v Speaker 1>shout out to our kink sits in Chicago, Solomon Abrams,

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<v Speaker 1>who did a wonderful Shabari rope with a BBW and babe.

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<v Speaker 1>It was cute, and then also our opener who did

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<v Speaker 1>burlesque l du jour. In Houston, we had Sir Debonair

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<v Speaker 1>open up as well as Coach fee Line. Sir Debonair

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<v Speaker 1>was a drag king and burlessed performer, and then Coach

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<v Speaker 1>fee Line did probably one of the best spoken word

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<v Speaker 1>sensual shit outn't seen and mine, y'all. I know we're

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<v Speaker 1>saying spoken word, but the ones we've been interviewing it's

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<v Speaker 1>not given Listen Coach bee Line gave. And then we

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<v Speaker 1>had Chocolate Buddy Dan, they're not You're not girl, girl,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not given you. I want to say you loved her.

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<v Speaker 1>I loved her, That's what I'm saying. She was Oh no,

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<v Speaker 1>the spoken word that we had. That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>She is literally the only one that I really enjoyed.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean a horrible you said the ones we didn't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about the ones that we've been interviewing for

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<v Speaker 1>the live Oh I thought I would love to have

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<v Speaker 1>her again too, because I've seen her perform live. I

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<v Speaker 1>see just why I would love it again. No, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>talking about the ones we've interviewed to perform at Oh

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<v Speaker 1>gotcha got got uh? They she was, she was amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>And then in Dallas, Chocolate Bunny also opened up. She

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<v Speaker 1>was our kinkster in Houston, but she opened up as

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<v Speaker 1>well in Dallas. And then we had four from Black

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<v Speaker 1>Ink Crew and his Dom Robin where that was great.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all four stuck my toes and his Dom brought out

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<v Speaker 1>a strap and we got to talk about pegging a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit. So I'm hoping we get to bring him

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<v Speaker 1>on an episode because bitch, I'm here for He came

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<v Speaker 1>out just like a little point point. There's a few

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<v Speaker 1>rules that I would like to set for these shows.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh oh wait, are you about to tell which rules?

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<v Speaker 1>Because also, real quick for anyone interested, I'm not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>say who did it or in what city? But moving forward,

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<v Speaker 1>if you guys are interested in being kinksters at the climax,

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<v Speaker 1>horrible decisions tour, it is a show that you are

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<v Speaker 1>being paid for. We have had now multiple cities where

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<v Speaker 1>niggas was trying to get it on backstage and wallet's wait,

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<v Speaker 1>not only backstage ladies and gentlemen. Bitch, can I talk

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<v Speaker 1>for a second? Oh were you about to say that? Yes? Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>she gonna talk to the audience. Hold on, I'm talking

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<v Speaker 1>to the kinksters. We's gonna talk to the audience. But kinksters,

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<v Speaker 1>this is a job. Please come perform and enjoy the show.

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<v Speaker 1>Please do not try to get busy in the back

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<v Speaker 1>because the venue is coming to us about it Jesus Christ.

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<v Speaker 1>So these are the rules I'd like to set. Y'all

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<v Speaker 1>have had great energy. I think we've only had I

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<v Speaker 1>just gonna say one issue too. It was a girl

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<v Speaker 1>who was in Atlanta that said the shit about I

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<v Speaker 1>had a two parent household, okay and more than three

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<v Speaker 1>because you almost got off the stats two. Yeah. But

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<v Speaker 1>other than that, I don't really remember any issue. I

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<v Speaker 1>do remember someone being aggressive with me at the Black

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<v Speaker 1>Effects Us screaming me up in my face and putting

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<v Speaker 1>her hand up about some shit that I didn't like.

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<v Speaker 1>But what I will say is the energy y'all have

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<v Speaker 1>brought to the live shows are exactly what we need.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I love it. You guys are come, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>just to let you know what I think rules should be.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of you come and you're in a terrible mood,

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<v Speaker 1>and I get that, and you just need to pick

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<v Speaker 1>me up. It's so great to see that we can

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<v Speaker 1>turn it around, that you could sit with the hive

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<v Speaker 1>that you guys get. So many people we met that

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<v Speaker 1>came alone, which I love because they were all like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, it was right, like they were loving it,

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<v Speaker 1>like they've met people made friends when they left. I

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<v Speaker 1>would say with this for rules, one come with some

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<v Speaker 1>great energy to make sure that when you're coming to

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<v Speaker 1>the show that you have an open mind for anyone

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<v Speaker 1>that's on the stage and if you get on stage. Yep.

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<v Speaker 1>So everybody actually those got on stage has been fun

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<v Speaker 1>of shit. Even if they were bad at whatever games,

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<v Speaker 1>they were fun. Oh no, I'm not saying that the

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<v Speaker 1>girl from El Paso was bad as the sucking dick

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<v Speaker 1>where she was, but she was fun. Though you know

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<v Speaker 1>she was fun right, So like that was funny to me.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I don't mind laughing about it. But like

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<v Speaker 1>I do think some people are like, oh, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to get up there, and they have no idea that

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<v Speaker 1>there's hundreds of people looking at you.

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<v Speaker 3>So I would say this, bitch, if you know you

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<v Speaker 3>won't get on stage for a game and you shoot

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<v Speaker 3>your motherfucking hand up, be ready, bitch, you better take

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<v Speaker 3>the house, damn because when we about to start per

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<v Speaker 3>Vinnie is the Apollo rules?

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<v Speaker 1>Because when that bitch got up there and said deep

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<v Speaker 1>throating is just for porn? Yeah, that was crazy. Oh good?

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<v Speaker 1>Are those all the audience rules? Mm hmm. And then

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<v Speaker 1>the next and final one that I think is something

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<v Speaker 1>that seems like a no brainer. But obviously you're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get horny when you're at this show. Okay, I'm glad

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<v Speaker 1>you're bringing this and you're going to wanna do some

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<v Speaker 1>wild shit, which Mandy and I are so used to

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<v Speaker 1>people meeting at live shows having threesomes. This is a

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<v Speaker 1>why fellas y'all need to pull up. Oh, I'm telling you,

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<v Speaker 1>like the single niggas that go are like nigga what

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<v Speaker 1>so here's the rule. The rule is, please don't think

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<v Speaker 1>that our live show is a sex club. Please don't

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<v Speaker 1>think that me setting that rule as a parameter is

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<v Speaker 1>me trying to, I don't know, stifle you. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>give a fuck what you do when you leave the venue.

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<v Speaker 1>But like, right, Mandy and I already throw the wildest

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<v Speaker 1>shows that these ven you see, yep, right, The first

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<v Speaker 1>thing out of their mouth is always like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>we just had a podcast show last night. It was

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<v Speaker 1>nothing like that. They're you know, boom boom this that

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<v Speaker 1>like they're literally thanking us for coming to their city

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<v Speaker 1>app because they had no idea when we walking. The

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<v Speaker 1>daff has a good time. It's a great fucking show.

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<v Speaker 1>But but that don't mean that you could suck a

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<v Speaker 1>dick in the audience. First of all, the show not

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<v Speaker 1>only like it's non consensual to the people sitting next

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<v Speaker 1>to you, it's disrespectful to Mandy and I. And also, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>get it together home, get it together. You could suck

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<v Speaker 1>somebody in your phone, somebody that you already know, but

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<v Speaker 1>offering to suck dick after the show, during the show,

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<v Speaker 1>during this show is wild. A friend of mine, but

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<v Speaker 1>also wait, again because I want to double down on this.

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<v Speaker 1>We talk about consent all the time. This is not

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<v Speaker 1>a sex club, so no one around you is consenting

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<v Speaker 1>to see you suck a nigga dick right by you.

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<v Speaker 1>I just said that shit bitch didn't get this out

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<v Speaker 1>to double down on it. My homeboy came to this

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<v Speaker 1>show completely unaware of what we do. Also knows the show,

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<v Speaker 1>but like unaware of how the show works. Bro. He

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<v Speaker 1>got to that green room and was like in shock,

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<v Speaker 1>and this is a nigga that's played ball all over

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<v Speaker 1>the world. He was like, I've never like what I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>did you see his face? He's like, I can't, I

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<v Speaker 1>can't believe it. Like she was trying to do it

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<v Speaker 1>right there, like right there, not even wait till after

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<v Speaker 1>she said, I will suck your dick right here us.

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<v Speaker 1>What was the run time in that she did that?

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<v Speaker 1>The show was almost an hour? No, the show was

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<v Speaker 1>ninety minutes to two hours.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>She saw a six sixth nigga, dark skin with hair

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<v Speaker 1>and was like, oh, have you ever beat the robin?

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever in your life, not in the show,

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<v Speaker 1>in my life, in your life, have you ever been

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<v Speaker 1>in the place of venue of club and thought, I

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<v Speaker 1>need to do it right now. The bathroom don't count. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>the bathroom don't count because bitch, I death. The bathroom

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<v Speaker 1>don't count. Bitch, I definitely ate some pussy a j

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<v Speaker 1>I remember you talking about this. I talked about eating

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<v Speaker 1>pussy and Jerry's bitch, I don't be I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if South Beach you talk about the bathroom. Yep, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we went in to the bathroom. I ate that could yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>have you ever? I mean, technically I was getting breakfast

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<v Speaker 1>at five am in Miami and just for whatever reason

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<v Speaker 1>one was to eat cooch but at an event ridiculous. No,

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<v Speaker 1>the only other place I ate Couchie was the strip club,

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<v Speaker 1>and I could have waited till we got to the house.

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<v Speaker 1>So technically there have been a restaurant bathroom. And you

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<v Speaker 1>said that the strip club was upstairs in a room.

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<v Speaker 1>It was, but it was still at the strip club.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually don't think that counts. How that don't count? Okay? Wait, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we weren't in an open It wasn't an open floor plan, bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>It was just the private room up in susies okay,

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<v Speaker 1>And technically it wasn't the strippers. But sly, I ate

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<v Speaker 1>it was my home. Did I ever talk about that

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<v Speaker 1>time that I left that first? I was looking at

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<v Speaker 1>us about to say, how we are here? A secondict public? No,

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<v Speaker 1>I never I was gonna say. It wasn't in public,

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<v Speaker 1>but it made me think that was like the time

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<v Speaker 1>know that I had an appointment with a client when

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<v Speaker 1>I worked selling Ethernet, and I did it in one

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<v Speaker 1>of the hotels that's talk about that. I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>you did. Maybe I didn't because I was still employed.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'll tell y'all now. So when I worked for

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<v Speaker 1>said company, h basically I would sell disaster recovery software, Ethernet,

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<v Speaker 1>GPS units, just anything to companies between Manhattan and Bronx.

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<v Speaker 1>The companies had to have like more than two hundred

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<v Speaker 1>fift employees. Like there's a few rules because it was

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<v Speaker 1>enterprise level. One of the hotels, which is one of

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<v Speaker 1>the most expensive hotels in New York by Bee clocking,

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<v Speaker 1>Barack Obama coming out, Kim Kardashian like, it's very expensive

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<v Speaker 1>and it's a boutique brand. I was needing to service

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<v Speaker 1>the hotel because they were not having an issue with

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<v Speaker 1>some kind of mobility around one of their suites because

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<v Speaker 1>the suite was so big, and I think I told

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<v Speaker 1>Vinnie this to day it happening because I couldn't believe it,

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<v Speaker 1>but base believe you were a whore. Yeah. So went

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<v Speaker 1>through the hotel going by whatever, and I'm like, and

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<v Speaker 1>I've seen this guy maybe three times before. We've always

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<v Speaker 1>been on the phone. He's been my client for a year,

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<v Speaker 1>but in person not all the time because I always

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<v Speaker 1>brought my boss because it was such a big client.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was like, hey, well I need to like

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<v Speaker 1>visually see this so we see how they can like

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<v Speaker 1>engineer it basically. So I get in the suite with

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<v Speaker 1>him and I'm like, oh my god, this is huge.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, oh my god, Yeah, there's so many youthsic

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<v Speaker 1>was huge. No, no, okay, you just said it was huge.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm like, maybe that was some of the ugly

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<v Speaker 1>sex I've had. So he takes me around and it

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<v Speaker 1>was he was like, oh my god, there's so many

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<v Speaker 1>youtubes about this suite. It's like super popular and famous

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<v Speaker 1>and like blah blah blah. So he's showing me one

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<v Speaker 1>level this, this, that, and then finally one of the

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<v Speaker 1>rooms got darker and it was like red I don't

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<v Speaker 1>remember what it was, but I was like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>what is this the like BDSM room? And he was

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<v Speaker 1>like no, but I'm sure people fuck all over this

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<v Speaker 1>room and do crazy things. Maybe this could be like

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<v Speaker 1>the sex room and the upstairs. It's like where you

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<v Speaker 1>have breakfast and where the maid comes and where your

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<v Speaker 1>butler comes and ta da da. And I was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I could see that, and he's like me too. And

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<v Speaker 1>then all I know is we didn't have sex because

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<v Speaker 1>we didn't have condoms. We went down on each other crazy,

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<v Speaker 1>and I remember, like fully I was stripped down, but

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't. He only unzipped his pants. He was wearing

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<v Speaker 1>a suit the whole time. Bitch. It was why it

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<v Speaker 1>was so good. And literally when I left, I remember,

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<v Speaker 1>because you know, I've talked about on this show where

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like when people make me feel like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>they're just done with me, right girl. We got downstairs.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if it made me feel hotter or well,

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<v Speaker 1>but I had to put my little suit back on

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<v Speaker 1>and he was like I almost his accent. He was

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<v Speaker 1>like yeah right away, and so like that was great,

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<v Speaker 1>We'll connect with you. I'll have my assistant actually let

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<v Speaker 1>me see if she's screed. Pulls the assistant over. He's like,

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<v Speaker 1>did you get notes? Looked at me with nothing like,

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<v Speaker 1>not even a sexy look like ooh, look at we

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<v Speaker 1>just did just like blank. And then I got in

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<v Speaker 1>the car and I was like, that was so fucking

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<v Speaker 1>hot and I could smell the dick on my face.

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<v Speaker 1>So while we just shared our public sex, obaby, that

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't count. Well, we don't want y'all to have sexipades

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<v Speaker 1>at our live show. If that's okay with you, just

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<v Speaker 1>do it in other public places, but not at the

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<v Speaker 1>Climax tour, which, by the way, get tickets a grow

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<v Speaker 1>such a whore. You can now get tickets for that

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<v Speaker 1>at horrhid dot com. Jesus, how do we go from

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<v Speaker 1>telling them not to have fucking sexual excapades at our

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<v Speaker 1>goddamn live shouting But we've had sex and public, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I honestly, I had never been with someone of that

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<v Speaker 1>ethnicity before, and I wonder if that counts now, because

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<v Speaker 1>I've said a few times, Oh, I ain't gonna hold you, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all might be in for a rude awaken y'all. I

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<v Speaker 1>went out last night met this little Jerry Seinfeld ass nigga.

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<v Speaker 1>But he walked up white. What is Jerry Seinfeld? Bitch?

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<v Speaker 1>She looked like Jerry Seinfield. Let me see. Oh I

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<v Speaker 1>ain't getting a picture of him. Oh I know he

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<v Speaker 1>had his Instagram? Is the old boss got the number? Beach?

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<v Speaker 1>Where did you go? I met him at a hookah

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<v Speaker 1>bar in the city. He went to a hookah bar.

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<v Speaker 1>He was with. I ain't gonna say what he does,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's finance and bitch. Every there was they they

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<v Speaker 1>they rich. Be Oh he was one of them. Oh, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>super one of them. So what's crazy is we even

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<v Speaker 1>started because he asked a question about employees, like, would

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<v Speaker 1>you rather have like an A one employee who's great

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<v Speaker 1>at their job but not great to work with? Or

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<v Speaker 1>would you rather have a B employee for someone who's

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<v Speaker 1>really loyal B? And I said B. Half of the

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<v Speaker 1>table said be. Half the table said the first one.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, to me, I would want someone

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<v Speaker 1>who's they could be good at their job, but I

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<v Speaker 1>would want someone that I know is as invested, someone

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<v Speaker 1>who's open to learning more. If you come and thinking

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<v Speaker 1>you just know everything, you're not even gonna really give

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<v Speaker 1>me any room to teach you how I like to

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<v Speaker 1>do things. But also I don't want to cancer in

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<v Speaker 1>my in my team. I've literally had cancers on my team. Bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>As soon as I saw they will infiltrate in my

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<v Speaker 1>motherfucker system. Fired. My best employee today was my b

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<v Speaker 1>oh for sure. And I remember like a day they

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<v Speaker 1>lost audio at my studio. Shit, And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>and I look back on it as a matter of fact,

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<v Speaker 1>I remember, Kenny, I got real mad at me once

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<v Speaker 1>and it's something I say all the time. I did

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<v Speaker 1>something wrong in the beginning working reviews like I don't,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. I am not the B team. This isn't

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<v Speaker 1>the B team, wheezy. And I was like, oh, that's

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<v Speaker 1>real as fuck. Oh I don't want the B team.

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<v Speaker 1>Like this is the level you need to be thinking at.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like wow, like it really changed my

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<v Speaker 1>way of thinking. Is like, and I say it all

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<v Speaker 1>the time, I'm like, we're the A team. I say

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<v Speaker 1>I push that because I want people to understand that

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<v Speaker 1>we should all be feeling like And this is for

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<v Speaker 1>anybody that works anywhere. Fuck the entrepreneuri bullshit, anybody that

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<v Speaker 1>works anywhere. You have to feel like you're the fucking

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<v Speaker 1>a team, even if that's you on your own, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I really believe that that's what makes you shine in

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<v Speaker 1>corporate levels too, if you just even started a business,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're selling fucking necklaces, nigga, if you don't act

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<v Speaker 1>like your shit is you're the a team that your

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<v Speaker 1>customer service, even if it's just you, then it reflects

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<v Speaker 1>you can't be saying shit like, oh, we're new or

0:21:02.440 --> 0:21:05.840
<v Speaker 1>we're just getting started or no, like start feeling like

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<v Speaker 1>you're the ship. And that's why I always let y'all know,

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<v Speaker 1>my dick second is the age I can't stand you.

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<v Speaker 1>I cannot Well, we gonna get into our vanilla shit now, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>and for our vanilla ship this week, which, by y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>as y'all know, is our sex and the news. Health

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<v Speaker 1>professionals are now being told to call vaginas bonus holes

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<v Speaker 1>to avoid offending trans patients. I want to get a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit into this just so that we can be

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<v Speaker 1>very clear on what it means. Health professionals are being

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<v Speaker 1>urged to use the term bonus holes when referring to

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<v Speaker 1>vaginas in order to avoid offending transgender or non binary

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<v Speaker 1>patients The suggestion was made by a charity called Joe's

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<v Speaker 1>Cervical Cancer Trust, which aims to provide information and support

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<v Speaker 1>for health professionals treating patients with cervical cancer. Charity clarified

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<v Speaker 1>that they were not suggesting that all women use this term,

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<v Speaker 1>but rather it was important to use inclusive language that

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<v Speaker 1>would reach out to transgender and non binary individuals. However,

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<v Speaker 1>this idea has been met with criticism from myself as

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<v Speaker 1>well from women's rights campaigners online, who argue that the

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<v Speaker 1>language is misogynistic and dehumanizing. The Use of the term

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<v Speaker 1>bonus holes instead of vagina is seen as an attempt

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<v Speaker 1>to be more inclusive and respectful towards transgender and non

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<v Speaker 1>binary individuals, but by using this terminology, health professionals are

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<v Speaker 1>acknowledging that not everyone with a vagina identifies as a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>The charity believes it's important to recognize and validate the

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<v Speaker 1>identities of all patients, regardless of gender identity. However, social

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<v Speaker 1>media critics say that replacing the term vagina with bonus

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<v Speaker 1>hole is actually problematic as it diminishes the significance and

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<v Speaker 1>complexity of female anatomy. Is so annoying, I'm like oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna go with you. I don't disagree on this one,

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<v Speaker 1>just gonna come in like an advocate, bitch, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like because the thing is like, of course I'm an advocate,

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<v Speaker 1>and also oh, well, yeah, we're advocate. I'm gonna say this, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>to me, people getting annoyed by pronouns is actually something

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<v Speaker 1>that's rude because for as a person that has like

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<v Speaker 1>a close trans homegirl that i'd be going out with,

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<v Speaker 1>and shit like, I can't imagine how she feels when

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<v Speaker 1>someone you know, misuses a pronoun like, especially in a

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<v Speaker 1>public setting, then she's sitting there like, oh like or

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<v Speaker 1>even if they bring up the like sometimes I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be like, oh, when you used to be a nigga,

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<v Speaker 1>and like, I can't imagine how that makes her feel.

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<v Speaker 1>Because now that second part, yes, I am still very

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<v Speaker 1>much having a very difficult time with pronouns with people,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're having a difficult time with they them, not

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<v Speaker 1>with yeah, which which to me is the thing that

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<v Speaker 1>was at it. I know he and she well say

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<v Speaker 1>in them is what's what's frustrating for me a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's frustrating because three years ago it didn't exists.

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<v Speaker 1>As how I was addressing people, so I can understand

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<v Speaker 1>their frustration with it, but it's just as frustrating for

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<v Speaker 1>me as someone who doesn't identify as non binary, or

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<v Speaker 1>they in them to switch up how I speak. But

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<v Speaker 1>see that's insensitive, that that's really really Superno, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>you can't shrug your shoulders like that. Yeah, no, no, no,

0:24:20.359 --> 0:24:22.320
<v Speaker 1>you have to think that a moment. But I'm saying

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<v Speaker 1>you're frustrated. You got to use a different word, because

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<v Speaker 1>like when someone wants to change or is telling you

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<v Speaker 1>how to address them and you're frustrated by something that

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<v Speaker 1>they're like, that's fucked up to say. Now, you could

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<v Speaker 1>probably say it's difficult. Well, they can't be to me.

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<v Speaker 1>It's difficult for both ends. So to me, I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's unfair that they're allowed to be frustrated at my

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<v Speaker 1>new learning curve, yet I can't be frustrated at this

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<v Speaker 1>same learning learning curve. I think frustrating is the word

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<v Speaker 1>I want to use for it, because I'm not trying

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<v Speaker 1>to be offensive, but it's a little frustrating to have

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<v Speaker 1>to navigate that and I don't want to offend them.

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<v Speaker 1>But see, what's frustrating saying is frustrating for you? Is

0:25:04.080 --> 0:25:07.000
<v Speaker 1>this very like I'm saying it's the wrong word, because

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<v Speaker 1>to me it comes off as very like this is

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<v Speaker 1>the Republican argument. Hey, you know what, I only know

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<v Speaker 1>she and him. You need to pick one. But I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not saying that. But that's how that's how frustrating it. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm frustrated that I am that I'm really trying to

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<v Speaker 1>So where do you frustrat that I'm frustrated? Like them?

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, like shout out to Vinnie are our

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<v Speaker 1>tour manager. Out of the Kinksters that I just shout

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<v Speaker 1>it out who have been a part of the first

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<v Speaker 1>five cities, about half of them had their pronouns that

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<v Speaker 1>we had to go through and not only interviewing them,

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<v Speaker 1>but once they arrived, and he actually I also just

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<v Speaker 1>appreciated it. He was like, Mandy, I see you trying

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<v Speaker 1>so hard and you were doing so good. And I

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<v Speaker 1>appreciated that he literally saw I was making a conscious effort.

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<v Speaker 1>But yes, I was frustrated because where we have a

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<v Speaker 1>certain time for sound check, I'm really trying not to

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<v Speaker 1>offend them, and so to me, it's more work than normally. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to give out to maybe someone I just met.

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<v Speaker 1>To be fair now, to you, you said you have

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<v Speaker 1>a homegirl. I get your care for that homegirl. But

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<v Speaker 1>for me, someone that I just met ten minutes ago,

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<v Speaker 1>and for me to be as conscious to how I

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<v Speaker 1>make them feel it is it's a bit exhausting for me. Exhausting, frustrated.

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<v Speaker 1>Those are words that I genuinely felt over the last

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<v Speaker 1>few years, really trying to work through. I just don't

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<v Speaker 1>think that we can be advocates at the same time

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<v Speaker 1>with saying someone's shit is like, I'm an advocate, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'm real like this, this is how I feel about

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<v Speaker 1>But what I'm saying is like, no, we can't be

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<v Speaker 1>advocates and stand in something and then be like this

0:26:45.480 --> 0:26:47.840
<v Speaker 1>shit has taken time out of my day. Your choices,

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<v Speaker 1>your sexuality that I'm a fight for and wants you

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<v Speaker 1>to have freedom for, are like annoying me right now

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<v Speaker 1>because I have to think too hard. So I think

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<v Speaker 1>that that's the thing too. As an advocate of lgbtq

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<v Speaker 1>A and sexuality, gender identity is something new to me.

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<v Speaker 1>How you want to be identified is not me saying

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<v Speaker 1>that I advocate for you to sleep with whoever you

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<v Speaker 1>want to. The gender identity part is new to me

0:27:14.040 --> 0:27:16.600
<v Speaker 1>as us being on this podcast. It's something even though

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<v Speaker 1>we've been here almost seven years. The gender identity part

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<v Speaker 1>and what is offensive in how you address someone is

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<v Speaker 1>new and so as an advocate, I'm here for you

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<v Speaker 1>to sleep with whoever the hell you want to, but

0:27:28.840 --> 0:27:31.920
<v Speaker 1>the day and them the pronoun usage has been new

0:27:32.000 --> 0:27:35.199
<v Speaker 1>for me, And that's fine. You know, I love and

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<v Speaker 1>I get what you're saying. I just feel like there's

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<v Speaker 1>a white person being like I just found out we

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't say nigga anymore because of Twitter. I've been saying

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<v Speaker 1>nigga all the time. This is new for me. That's

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<v Speaker 1>the same. So nouns is new for all of us.

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<v Speaker 1>But but I'm saying it's like this podcast, we wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>saying someone in that someone be right, but I'm saying

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<v Speaker 1>like them feeling offended, like you're saying that's new for you,

0:27:55.280 --> 0:27:59.360
<v Speaker 1>Like I think it's like, Here's the part that can

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<v Speaker 1>be frustrated is knowing that your intent is in how

0:28:03.760 --> 0:28:07.040
<v Speaker 1>they may feel. That can be frustrating. But like to

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<v Speaker 1>be frustrated with someone's choices for who they are, I'm

0:28:09.920 --> 0:28:14.200
<v Speaker 1>not in getting it right. That's so it's you're conflating

0:28:14.359 --> 0:28:16.960
<v Speaker 1>what my I'm frustrated at. I'm frustrated at no you

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<v Speaker 1>said then taking Yeah, I just met this person. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm frustrated the now how I communicate off the whim

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's it's frustrating because I don't want to offend you.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care that you want to be called them

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<v Speaker 1>in they, But in order to not offend you, I

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<v Speaker 1>can't get it wrong. I'm gonna hold you. I've been

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<v Speaker 1>getting around that shit by the name. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>your name. I just met you ten minutes ago. And

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<v Speaker 1>you know I'm bad with names. I meet people all

0:28:40.760 --> 0:28:42.800
<v Speaker 1>the time, nice to meet you. I'm easier to remember

0:28:42.840 --> 0:28:44.800
<v Speaker 1>their name than remember to say they them. And we

0:28:44.880 --> 0:28:48.320
<v Speaker 1>hire these people, we hire them, but also we're we're

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<v Speaker 1>given told two or three names by them. Literally, Vinnie's

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<v Speaker 1>had the same thing. What we calling them? How are

0:28:52.600 --> 0:28:55.360
<v Speaker 1>we introducing you? We're getting stage names, we're getting government names,

0:28:55.400 --> 0:28:57.520
<v Speaker 1>We're getting multiple names as well when we meet these

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<v Speaker 1>I've actually been kind of saying there for everybody. I

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<v Speaker 1>guess I even said it for four I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd be like they're going to be coming out with

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<v Speaker 1>a like, I don't fucking know, so like because it

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<v Speaker 1>got weird, I just like that actually made it easier.

0:29:08.840 --> 0:29:13.040
<v Speaker 1>But I was thinking about when we were talking about that,

0:29:13.720 --> 0:29:16.680
<v Speaker 1>then there was a conversation that was, oh, my homegirl,

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<v Speaker 1>that is a trans bonus holes. That's where we're at.

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<v Speaker 1>So I always feel like I'm right between my My

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<v Speaker 1>most exemplary trans woman friend is Hope Gazelle, and I

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<v Speaker 1>think most problematic is for Lane Monroe, but also not

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<v Speaker 1>problematic to where I believe they're disrespecting their community or

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<v Speaker 1>their selves. Just problematic is in some of the things

0:29:37.040 --> 0:29:38.920
<v Speaker 1>people may not want to hear. I feel like the

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<v Speaker 1>moments were on right down the middle. And I say

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<v Speaker 1>that because when I was reading that bonus hole article

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<v Speaker 1>I saw that yesterday, I was like, the trans women

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<v Speaker 1>I know have the wherewithal to discuss their genitals right

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<v Speaker 1>in a health situation without being upset as health professionals

0:29:57.880 --> 0:30:02.880
<v Speaker 1>saying bonus holes. That's a me is so ridiculous. I mean, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it's the health professionals like, now I go in and

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<v Speaker 1>because you don't know it's there, it's automatically a bonus

0:30:09.000 --> 0:30:10.480
<v Speaker 1>hole and not a vagina because you don't want to

0:30:10.480 --> 0:30:13.960
<v Speaker 1>offend them. But yet my vagina is now not a vagina.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a bonus hole. This tod ain't bonus bitch is

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<v Speaker 1>there and it's tight and is deep. Actually have one

0:30:19.960 --> 0:30:24.120
<v Speaker 1>trans male friend that I could speak to this experience with,

0:30:24.200 --> 0:30:27.760
<v Speaker 1>but like they're able to talk about it in very

0:30:27.920 --> 0:30:30.920
<v Speaker 1>like you know, because they told me, like we didn't

0:30:30.920 --> 0:30:33.640
<v Speaker 1>talk about their genitalian for a while, and I remember

0:30:33.640 --> 0:30:35.080
<v Speaker 1>they were like, you know, unless I'm on the phone

0:30:35.160 --> 0:30:37.160
<v Speaker 1>my therapist or I'm at the doctor's office, like I'm

0:30:37.160 --> 0:30:38.840
<v Speaker 1>not trying to be like telling people if I have

0:30:38.880 --> 0:30:40.480
<v Speaker 1>a pussy or a d And I was like, I

0:30:40.520 --> 0:30:42.600
<v Speaker 1>feel that. And I thought about that conversation when hearing this,

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm like, Okay, we talked about this on Patreon

0:30:46.080 --> 0:30:52.440
<v Speaker 1>where the trans the trans woman came out and uh wait, yeah,

0:30:52.480 --> 0:30:55.600
<v Speaker 1>trans woman was mad that a gynecologist wouldn't take them,

0:30:56.000 --> 0:31:01.440
<v Speaker 1>but they they have a penis, so a gind of

0:31:01.520 --> 0:31:04.320
<v Speaker 1>colleges probably wouldn't be the best doctor for you to

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<v Speaker 1>go to. But also like I don't know, y'all join

0:31:08.080 --> 0:31:10.880
<v Speaker 1>us on Patreon page. I noted them at the door,

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<v Speaker 1>like was wild to me, like that some of the

0:31:13.840 --> 0:31:16.240
<v Speaker 1>things I read but like there's two parts there, right,

0:31:16.280 --> 0:31:18.680
<v Speaker 1>like going into the office, Like I do feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I would want someone that understands fully what I have

0:31:21.680 --> 0:31:23.520
<v Speaker 1>going on. I agree, now, I would want them to

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<v Speaker 1>call me into the room and be like, hey, like

0:31:27.000 --> 0:31:29.360
<v Speaker 1>let's have a conversation. Here are your options. Here's some

0:31:29.360 --> 0:31:31.480
<v Speaker 1>people I know, like guid in colleges at this point

0:31:31.520 --> 0:31:35.360
<v Speaker 1>should be within their yeah, realm recommending who they can.

0:31:35.440 --> 0:31:38.160
<v Speaker 1>I don't send you to. But the bonus holl shit, bro,

0:31:38.480 --> 0:31:41.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm conscious of people's emotions to the point where I

0:31:41.160 --> 0:31:44.920
<v Speaker 1>believe you get a little Delulu. Now, Delulu, you can't

0:31:44.960 --> 0:31:48.200
<v Speaker 1>kind of word is the Delulu bitch? She said you

0:31:48.320 --> 0:31:50.600
<v Speaker 1>a little Delulu. I got that shit from Brionda Now

0:31:51.080 --> 0:31:53.800
<v Speaker 1>the other day. Who by the way, it's fine. We

0:31:53.880 --> 0:31:55.880
<v Speaker 1>had a few people, A lot of people ask me

0:31:55.880 --> 0:31:59.720
<v Speaker 1>about Brianda sometimes and are anywhere? So Brehanna is cool,

0:31:59.760 --> 0:32:02.160
<v Speaker 1>she's she's taking an Internet detox. But she says somebody

0:32:02.280 --> 0:32:04.720
<v Speaker 1>was de Lulu that I knew. We were laughing about it.

0:32:04.840 --> 0:32:07.959
<v Speaker 1>But I say that to say, I do think that

0:32:08.320 --> 0:32:12.560
<v Speaker 1>when transitioning your body, we can't have these conversations where

0:32:12.560 --> 0:32:15.800
<v Speaker 1>we're so emotional that we're even forgetting the health shit

0:32:16.200 --> 0:32:19.320
<v Speaker 1>like the whole born gender X thing and all that stuff,

0:32:19.400 --> 0:32:22.120
<v Speaker 1>like you know, I want to know, like my kid

0:32:22.200 --> 0:32:24.840
<v Speaker 1>is going to see the right person, like I don't.

0:32:24.880 --> 0:32:26.920
<v Speaker 1>That's the Lulu to me. So that's why I said,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe I'm right between flame and Hope. Okay, so you

0:32:30.240 --> 0:32:33.880
<v Speaker 1>kind of toxic, but not I don't think I'm toxic. No, no, no,

0:32:33.920 --> 0:32:37.080
<v Speaker 1>I say you might be more. I might be more toxic. Bitch,

0:32:37.200 --> 0:32:41.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm frustrated and e is bitch. All right, Well, we're

0:32:41.840 --> 0:32:45.280
<v Speaker 1>gonna get into Hope facts this week. Not a war, dirb,

0:32:45.320 --> 0:32:47.760
<v Speaker 1>but we're gonna do Hepe facts. And I have two

0:32:47.880 --> 0:32:50.960
<v Speaker 1>facts and a myth. Okay, so two facts and a myth.

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<v Speaker 1>The first one I found wild and I know we

0:32:54.200 --> 0:32:57.240
<v Speaker 1>did a whole episode on sex flaws. So this is

0:32:57.360 --> 0:33:00.360
<v Speaker 1>a really funny one. Shout out to everybody in all Obama.

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<v Speaker 1>And no we're not talking about Alabama hot pockets. Okay,

0:33:03.560 --> 0:33:08.800
<v Speaker 1>who we met the person in Houston who Alabama hot

0:33:08.920 --> 0:33:13.479
<v Speaker 1>Yeah he was a black person who even knew about this?

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<v Speaker 1>So are you thinking of visiting the heart of Dixie,

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<v Speaker 1>Just make sure you pack plenty of sex toys because

0:33:20.280 --> 0:33:23.560
<v Speaker 1>you can't buy them in Alabama. While it's hard to believe,

0:33:23.640 --> 0:33:26.440
<v Speaker 1>Alabama still has a law on the books that bans

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<v Speaker 1>the sell or purchase of any device designed or marketed

0:33:30.280 --> 0:33:34.040
<v Speaker 1>as useful primarily for the stimulation of human genital organs.

0:33:34.080 --> 0:33:38.080
<v Speaker 1>I know, sharper image selling. Y'allready for what you could

0:33:38.120 --> 0:33:42.080
<v Speaker 1>face if caught in the act of pleasing yourself with

0:33:42.120 --> 0:33:45.840
<v Speaker 1>a sex toy. Please someone's face a maximum fine of

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<v Speaker 1>twenty thousand dollars and the possibility of up to one

0:33:49.160 --> 0:33:52.800
<v Speaker 1>year in jail or even twelve months of hard labor.

0:33:53.200 --> 0:33:55.280
<v Speaker 1>In short, you could buy bullets, but you can't buy

0:33:55.520 --> 0:33:59.640
<v Speaker 1>the bullet beach. This is actually a part of the

0:33:59.680 --> 0:34:06.160
<v Speaker 1>state's Anti Obscenity Enforcement Act, which has been challenged multiple times.

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<v Speaker 1>So y'all know listening, we're not a political podcast, nothing

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<v Speaker 1>like that. But make sure you go out and vote,

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<v Speaker 1>because if y'all want dil Dos, y'all might need to

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<v Speaker 1>go ahead and get some blues and not they gotta

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<v Speaker 1>vote for No, it's crazy they got vote for dil Do's.

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<v Speaker 1>So the second one, now we're taking it up to

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<v Speaker 1>the six hund well not really the six because that's

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<v Speaker 1>just Toronto. But this is for all of Canada, and

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<v Speaker 1>this was crazy. Oral sex was actually illegal in Canada

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<v Speaker 1>up until nineteen sixty nine. So you gotta hand it

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<v Speaker 1>to the Canucks. They have a good sense of humor.

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<v Speaker 1>As Sarah Aspler at BuzzFeed reports, Canadian law prohibited homosexual

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<v Speaker 1>acts a sodomy, which actually included oral sex and antal

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<v Speaker 1>sex under the statue until nineteen sixty nine. A lot

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<v Speaker 1>of like Georgia has shit like that too, though, which

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<v Speaker 1>which which the Saxon sing is wild? No, that's ron crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>By contrast, d Us didn't toss out its oral sex

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<v Speaker 1>loss until bitch, so are there? The Supreme Court struck

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<v Speaker 1>down anti sodomy laws in fourteen states in the Lawrence

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<v Speaker 1>versus Texas. What's that called when it's the versus case?

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<v Speaker 1>Right case? Yeah, Lawrence versus Texas case. I was like, like,

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<v Speaker 1>what the versus bitch? Diddy's rock? Don't do this like

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<v Speaker 1>the person versus someone else or the person versus the state.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the case. This is what I really want because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm confused. It's a case, so you just don't. But

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<v Speaker 1>they do have sex shops. Maybe it's the dildo bitch

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<v Speaker 1>and there's an obscenity thing, so it's still illegal. However,

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<v Speaker 1>they have sex twiceus. I don't know, that's what. Listen

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<v Speaker 1>this this comes from a source as stroke Glide, but

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<v Speaker 1>everything is hyperlink. So hold on, let me get thee

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<v Speaker 1>get the tea. So what is it just it's in Huntsville.

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<v Speaker 1>They have one in Birmingham, So what is it like?

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<v Speaker 1>How do these niggas? I don't know. You can't really

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<v Speaker 1>get caught. By the way, you can search this the

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<v Speaker 1>Marshallproject dot org, which gives out I guess all these

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<v Speaker 1>like look kind of these little type of weird shits

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<v Speaker 1>that's going on. Maybe they don't have like things for

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<v Speaker 1>genitalia then, or maybe maybe they have like a rule,

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<v Speaker 1>or maybe there's no dildos. Maybe there's other things but

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<v Speaker 1>not dildos. It specifically says dildos in Alabama. Hold on,

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<v Speaker 1>sex shops were illegal in New York for a while too.

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<v Speaker 1>Ain't no way bith not all these hos. A panel

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<v Speaker 1>of state appeals court judges have followed. Okay, see shit crazy?

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<v Speaker 1>Are we? Okay? No? They how do they want? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>This is an article from eight years ago, though for

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<v Speaker 1>New York, but it's a credible source it's a New

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<v Speaker 1>York news outlet. Okay picks, it's a channel too. Six eleven.

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<v Speaker 1>It's official. Sex shops are legal in New York for now.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what a panel of State Appeal Court judge have

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<v Speaker 1>ruled following a legal issue that's been carried out for

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<v Speaker 1>fourteen years where they have been begging to ban the

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<v Speaker 1>city from being the X rated capital of America. That's

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<v Speaker 1>what they believed it had been because of Times Square,

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<v Speaker 1>because the sex clubs here is it's a oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess it is. Yeah wow, So apparently we have

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<v Speaker 1>sixty to forty section. We had sixty to forty sex

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<v Speaker 1>shops in an area that they were run away about

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<v Speaker 1>it said, let me see shick, right, yeah, I guess

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<v Speaker 1>sex businesses are wow. Yeah, this is oh yeah, from

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<v Speaker 1>forty second to forty four. Yeah. So before Disney came

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<v Speaker 1>and was a part of Times Square, like where they

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<v Speaker 1>brought the Lion King and all those things, Times Square

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<v Speaker 1>was the sex district. And then we also know that

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<v Speaker 1>meatpacking district where all the clubs and nice restaurants are

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<v Speaker 1>now used to be prostitute specifically for the gays and

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<v Speaker 1>trans uh sex working of which in me packing I

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<v Speaker 1>want you guys, Mandy, I'm trying to tell her you'll

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<v Speaker 1>really enjoy it. We're gonna try to do a cinema

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<v Speaker 1>soon of the stroll on HBO. I want you all

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<v Speaker 1>to check it out before we do the cinema. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's about the trans prostitutes in New York, in the

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<v Speaker 1>meatpacking district that existed. It was only like not that

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<v Speaker 1>long ago. Yeah maybe like bro I mean it's TV. Yeah, no,

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<v Speaker 1>it's really good now. I do want to say, since

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<v Speaker 1>I've been looking up with Mandy was talking about, I

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<v Speaker 1>found something that tells you where sex toys are illegal

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<v Speaker 1>while traveling. Oh bitch, Singapore, Bitch, when I live Highland too.

0:38:35.840 --> 0:38:39.160
<v Speaker 1>Oh you could not bring a sex toy into Singapore

0:38:39.600 --> 0:38:42.320
<v Speaker 1>and to get around watching porn, just get a VPN.

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<v Speaker 1>But nothing sex was allowed in Singapore when I was over.

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<v Speaker 1>This is so sick, you know, it was tired. Bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a VPN when I travel because I need

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<v Speaker 1>to watch an ivy fiance. I'm Saudi Arabia. It's considered

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<v Speaker 1>pornographic material and it's Islamic law. It's same with the

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<v Speaker 1>UAE Highland. Although a thriving sex tourism and they believe

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<v Speaker 1>that obscene objects are sex toys. Yep, Vietnam. It'll be

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<v Speaker 1>taken by customs and you can get them back when

0:39:07.960 --> 0:39:12.160
<v Speaker 1>you go Malaysia. I ain't gonna hold you. I need

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<v Speaker 1>to know how many sex toys are being held up

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<v Speaker 1>in Tsa and the god damn lost and Found area

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<v Speaker 1>until I leave. You know, I did it for a

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<v Speaker 1>fact sake episode with Eddie about a lost and found

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<v Speaker 1>That's crazy. One of the craziest lost in founds you

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<v Speaker 1>can find are at casinos. Oh, I believe it. What

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<v Speaker 1>kind of things do you find? Because when I tell

0:39:33.880 --> 0:39:36.200
<v Speaker 1>you're gonna be like, what probably butt plugs? I would

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<v Speaker 1>assume the bitches is walking around with butt plugs and

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<v Speaker 1>when they sit down with a rich niggas is gambling. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>cop thinking in that world and start thinking of walking

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<v Speaker 1>into a casino in the daytime. What the type of

0:39:47.719 --> 0:39:53.480
<v Speaker 1>people you see? White people that smoke cigarettes. They find

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of dentures, Oh girl, austin tanks, not pains,

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wow, old people. Okay, fell phone cell phones is

0:40:04.880 --> 0:40:07.799
<v Speaker 1>jerry everywhere. But when I saw dentures, they have so

0:40:07.920 --> 0:40:10.080
<v Speaker 1>many dentures. How do you lose your teeth from you

0:40:10.120 --> 0:40:13.200
<v Speaker 1>put them down in a cup. That's so nasty. Girl. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to get to the myth real quick before

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<v Speaker 1>we get into our horrible decision. So the myth that

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<v Speaker 1>we would like to bust here for y'all is pineapples

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<v Speaker 1>won't actually make your semen taste better. Sure, asparagus really

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<v Speaker 1>can make your piece smell, but loading up on pineapple

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<v Speaker 1>isn't going to make your your semen tastes like a

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<v Speaker 1>delicious fruit salad. Casey Gurn spoke with OBGYN doctor Jennifer Gunter,

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<v Speaker 1>who stated that eating pineapple won't really affect the taste

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<v Speaker 1>of semen one way or another. The best way to

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<v Speaker 1>actually improve your taste is by eating a balanced diet,

0:40:47.840 --> 0:40:52.600
<v Speaker 1>drinking plenty of water, and practicing good hygie. So, fellas,

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<v Speaker 1>if you think drinking all that goddamn fruit cocktail before

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<v Speaker 1>we go down and suck that dig just know it

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<v Speaker 1>does doesn't really help. I don't believe that that. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a MythBuster, the doctor said it don't. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I've seen a trend though in like, okay, so dating

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<v Speaker 1>a vegan nigga, But that's a balanced diet. It's overall

0:41:15.520 --> 0:41:18.280
<v Speaker 1>what they're eating, so like you just downing some pineapple

0:41:18.360 --> 0:41:20.640
<v Speaker 1>juice before you have sex is not gonna make your

0:41:20.960 --> 0:41:23.120
<v Speaker 1>semen taste better if you don't have a balanced die.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna tell y'all, though, what the best taste is semen.

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<v Speaker 1>You're gonna tell us the best tastes. My first boyfriend

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<v Speaker 1>I've ever had was the worst. I was with him

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<v Speaker 1>for a few years and we lived together. He was

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<v Speaker 1>on a lot of like I remember specifically creatine. It

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<v Speaker 1>was like, there's like this metal the protein like protein powder.

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<v Speaker 1>Not what's a protein powder, it's something else. I think

0:41:42.960 --> 0:41:44.759
<v Speaker 1>it's still like strength and muscles. But he would just

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<v Speaker 1>take a lot of supplements of the worst. Probably helps

0:41:48.880 --> 0:41:52.759
<v Speaker 1>because it's vitamin mm hmm. But okay. I actually a

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<v Speaker 1>girl that only ate fish and no, no, not fish.

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<v Speaker 1>She ate She was on keto when I was talking

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<v Speaker 1>with her. Hated her smell. Okay, well that makes sense.

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<v Speaker 1>You're eating a lot of fats, yeah, healthy fats, really bad.

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<v Speaker 1>Best aairy, best was vegan dairy. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>I can recall. No, keto is a lot of dairy.

0:42:14.000 --> 0:42:15.960
<v Speaker 1>It's a lot of dairy. It's a lot of healthy fats.

0:42:16.320 --> 0:42:20.279
<v Speaker 1>And then uh, lean meats. Hold on, wait, wait, wait,

0:42:20.440 --> 0:42:22.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to think there was another one that was

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<v Speaker 1>really bad. Oh he was a wine drinker only, and

0:42:28.600 --> 0:42:30.920
<v Speaker 1>he would have glasses and glasses of wine all the time,

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<v Speaker 1>and that shit was tasted acidic, plinging, terrible howl. The

0:42:37.480 --> 0:42:40.440
<v Speaker 1>best have been veganstus. Now, I'm not willing to give

0:42:40.480 --> 0:42:44.719
<v Speaker 1>that up because my pussy clean. But whatever I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I I just think I'm God's chosen one. I have

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<v Speaker 1>really good like nut tasting the niggas. It'd be good,

0:42:55.040 --> 0:42:57.479
<v Speaker 1>it'd be good. What y'all know. I get the big

0:42:57.560 --> 0:43:00.799
<v Speaker 1>dicks that last long, go long. They ain't shit, But

0:43:00.920 --> 0:43:04.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm God's chosen with my period and with my big

0:43:04.680 --> 0:43:07.880
<v Speaker 1>dick radar like, it's really clean pussy. I had some

0:43:07.920 --> 0:43:12.920
<v Speaker 1>head a few days ago. Whoa same? Oh my, Oh

0:43:12.960 --> 0:43:15.160
<v Speaker 1>it was right after you said it. Yeah, literally, I

0:43:15.200 --> 0:43:17.400
<v Speaker 1>literally I texted the next Dan and said, you stuck

0:43:17.800 --> 0:43:20.440
<v Speaker 1>some good pusses. I thought I was. I thought I

0:43:20.480 --> 0:43:23.040
<v Speaker 1>was gonna pass out. And I remember, like specifically, at

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<v Speaker 1>one point it was so good that I was like

0:43:26.560 --> 0:43:29.080
<v Speaker 1>I had to look at this nigga, but I was

0:43:29.080 --> 0:43:31.960
<v Speaker 1>on the couch. She was like kneeled down on the

0:43:31.960 --> 0:43:33.960
<v Speaker 1>couch under the couch like I don't know if that

0:43:34.040 --> 0:43:36.440
<v Speaker 1>nigga was eye level with my pussy or what. Bitch,

0:43:36.840 --> 0:43:39.799
<v Speaker 1>that shit was good and I think his tongue was

0:43:39.800 --> 0:43:41.839
<v Speaker 1>going really fast, which I didn't think i'd be into.

0:43:41.960 --> 0:43:45.479
<v Speaker 1>But like, oh my god, and when they moan into

0:43:45.520 --> 0:43:49.320
<v Speaker 1>your pussy, Oh that's the horder. There you go. Because

0:43:49.960 --> 0:43:53.200
<v Speaker 1>we talked about men moaning a lot, but like moaning

0:43:53.280 --> 0:43:56.839
<v Speaker 1>into my shit. Oh, I know it's good, and y'all

0:43:56.880 --> 0:43:59.000
<v Speaker 1>know I don't even care for it. I go on

0:43:59.040 --> 0:44:02.320
<v Speaker 1>stage and talk about how good that motherfucking it was. Oh,

0:44:02.400 --> 0:44:05.239
<v Speaker 1>I know, I see it. I thought of that was. Like, y'all,

0:44:05.280 --> 0:44:07.440
<v Speaker 1>it is summer in New York, and I think apparently

0:44:07.440 --> 0:44:11.439
<v Speaker 1>from these California the Canada fires, like they're all down.

0:44:11.719 --> 0:44:13.279
<v Speaker 1>It's in my house too, and I'm like, bitch, I'm

0:44:13.320 --> 0:44:16.000
<v Speaker 1>on the sixteenth floor where serious swear to God, like

0:44:16.080 --> 0:44:18.480
<v Speaker 1>I can't leave my windows open. They're everywhere. Bit ch'all

0:44:18.480 --> 0:44:20.080
<v Speaker 1>feel like you're gonna nut in my own bitch, they're

0:44:20.120 --> 0:44:26.680
<v Speaker 1>fucking everywhere. Well, y'all, we are gonna get into our

0:44:26.880 --> 0:44:32.520
<v Speaker 1>horribled decision. And the horrible decision is being back indies greets,

0:44:32.560 --> 0:44:35.480
<v Speaker 1>and I kind of just wanted an update because this

0:44:35.560 --> 0:44:37.880
<v Speaker 1>is the first time in a long time that Weisy

0:44:37.880 --> 0:44:41.439
<v Speaker 1>and I are both single. But it's twenty twenty three,

0:44:42.120 --> 0:44:46.640
<v Speaker 1>we are post pandemic, we are in our thirties, and

0:44:46.760 --> 0:44:50.600
<v Speaker 1>so it's kind of a new lane of dating. And

0:44:50.680 --> 0:44:54.280
<v Speaker 1>I actually ran into this article from glam dot com

0:44:54.680 --> 0:44:57.279
<v Speaker 1>that said that singles are shifting the dating world in

0:44:57.320 --> 0:45:01.759
<v Speaker 1>twenty twenty three by avoiding one specific type of relationship.

0:45:02.520 --> 0:45:07.799
<v Speaker 1>So the relationship that people are avoiding are situationships. A

0:45:07.880 --> 0:45:12.200
<v Speaker 1>situationship is a largely is a largely circumstantial relationship that

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<v Speaker 1>is typically based primarily upon sex and convenience. In twenty

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<v Speaker 1>twenty three, people are now looking to date with more

0:45:21.800 --> 0:45:27.400
<v Speaker 1>intention Intentional dating entails replacing falling into situationships with anyone

0:45:27.680 --> 0:45:30.120
<v Speaker 1>who shows interest in holding out for someone whose long

0:45:30.200 --> 0:45:34.320
<v Speaker 1>term relationship goals at yours. No more settling for surface

0:45:34.440 --> 0:45:37.680
<v Speaker 1>level matches who don't want a commitment and hoping that

0:45:37.719 --> 0:45:41.319
<v Speaker 1>they'll change their minds. You're worth more than that and

0:45:41.360 --> 0:45:44.120
<v Speaker 1>you know it, so setting your intentions for your romantic

0:45:44.160 --> 0:45:47.400
<v Speaker 1>future and not budgeting. I did want to ask you,

0:45:48.400 --> 0:45:52.800
<v Speaker 1>since we are dating, if you are dating with intention.

0:45:53.000 --> 0:45:54.839
<v Speaker 1>I know you want to be a mom, But what

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<v Speaker 1>how dating has changed for you from now to back

0:46:00.400 --> 0:46:03.120
<v Speaker 1>when you were single three four years ago? I feel

0:46:03.120 --> 0:46:06.560
<v Speaker 1>like three four years ago. I mean I was with

0:46:06.640 --> 0:46:08.880
<v Speaker 1>old base, so it's like kind of no before him.

0:46:08.880 --> 0:46:11.280
<v Speaker 1>Sorry I didn't want to, I didn't know the exact timeline.

0:46:11.280 --> 0:46:13.840
<v Speaker 1>But before him, you were dating. What's the difference between

0:46:14.000 --> 0:46:19.080
<v Speaker 1>before you met him? And I don't really know because

0:46:19.200 --> 0:46:23.440
<v Speaker 1>I've always like been relationship girl, But I think this

0:46:23.560 --> 0:46:29.040
<v Speaker 1>time it's difficult because it's not that I'm trying. I'm

0:46:29.040 --> 0:46:32.000
<v Speaker 1>trying to find the right words, because it's true things.

0:46:32.000 --> 0:46:34.080
<v Speaker 1>Like I literally said to Vinnie when we were driving back,

0:46:34.120 --> 0:46:36.600
<v Speaker 1>we went to some fucking warehouse rave in LA and

0:46:36.600 --> 0:46:38.600
<v Speaker 1>we had a really good time, and I was in

0:46:38.640 --> 0:46:41.879
<v Speaker 1>the car with him and my flea market babe told

0:46:41.960 --> 0:46:46.080
<v Speaker 1>us about the warehouse rave right, and he was like,

0:46:46.120 --> 0:46:47.440
<v Speaker 1>oh my, we ran into him. He was like, oh

0:46:47.440 --> 0:46:49.480
<v Speaker 1>my god, I love him, He's so great, blah blah blah.

0:46:49.520 --> 0:46:52.080
<v Speaker 1>And when we're driving I was like, you know, I

0:46:52.160 --> 0:46:55.239
<v Speaker 1>know I'm not supposed to say it out loud, but like,

0:46:56.840 --> 0:47:00.960
<v Speaker 1>I am bored with being single. I'm really tired of it.

0:47:01.040 --> 0:47:02.680
<v Speaker 1>And I want to date. Like I know, I'm not

0:47:02.719 --> 0:47:05.120
<v Speaker 1>supposed to say it because it'll just land in my lap,

0:47:05.160 --> 0:47:08.120
<v Speaker 1>but like it's just the truth. Dating is very difficult.

0:47:09.320 --> 0:47:11.440
<v Speaker 1>It is, and I'm not trying to be bestimistic here,

0:47:11.480 --> 0:47:15.839
<v Speaker 1>but it's like, you know, it's not looks right, Like

0:47:16.120 --> 0:47:19.480
<v Speaker 1>it's a lot of ugly niggas happy. It's not anything

0:47:19.520 --> 0:47:21.839
<v Speaker 1>to do with like one type of person having more

0:47:21.880 --> 0:47:26.000
<v Speaker 1>than the other. Like I really believe dating in my circumstance,

0:47:26.080 --> 0:47:28.200
<v Speaker 1>with how much travel I have going on and stuff

0:47:28.239 --> 0:47:31.920
<v Speaker 1>like that, is like not easy. So and it's weird

0:47:31.960 --> 0:47:34.200
<v Speaker 1>because it's like it feels like lamb life, Like yo,

0:47:34.440 --> 0:47:36.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna hold you. Living in two cities is

0:47:36.360 --> 0:47:38.799
<v Speaker 1>fucking amazing. I'm in Europe every sixty days, like shit

0:47:38.920 --> 0:47:41.560
<v Speaker 1>is lit. But at the same time, it's not lit

0:47:41.680 --> 0:47:45.520
<v Speaker 1>enough because I don't have time to make, you know,

0:47:45.920 --> 0:47:48.680
<v Speaker 1>build relationships. I was even telling Liz Goldwyn, I'm supposed

0:47:48.680 --> 0:47:51.319
<v Speaker 1>to be going to her place in London and I

0:47:51.360 --> 0:47:53.000
<v Speaker 1>had something with work come up, but I was like

0:47:53.520 --> 0:47:56.799
<v Speaker 1>this part of me was almost happy I can't go,

0:47:57.360 --> 0:48:00.319
<v Speaker 1>and I've been wanting to see her for months with

0:48:00.360 --> 0:48:02.600
<v Speaker 1>her and we have these things we're gonna do and

0:48:02.680 --> 0:48:05.239
<v Speaker 1>it's all planned, and I'm like, I don't even want

0:48:05.239 --> 0:48:08.480
<v Speaker 1>to go, Like I just want to be in one place.

0:48:09.080 --> 0:48:11.520
<v Speaker 1>I think that what I'm looking for is someone that

0:48:11.640 --> 0:48:14.680
<v Speaker 1>like truly fits my lifestyle. The end of the day,

0:48:15.680 --> 0:48:18.040
<v Speaker 1>I need to make a certain amount of money. It's

0:48:18.080 --> 0:48:20.719
<v Speaker 1>requiring me to live in two places. It's requiring me

0:48:20.800 --> 0:48:23.160
<v Speaker 1>to be this busy. This is not vanity. I take

0:48:23.200 --> 0:48:26.600
<v Speaker 1>care of my parents, like moving them to LA just now.

0:48:26.640 --> 0:48:28.799
<v Speaker 1>I already see the money going up. What is my

0:48:28.880 --> 0:48:32.080
<v Speaker 1>mom like and want to do? Like she's not shopping

0:48:32.120 --> 0:48:34.800
<v Speaker 1>in Winn Dixie no more, she's that Whole Food Sprouts

0:48:35.040 --> 0:48:38.160
<v Speaker 1>Trader Joe's in LA. Like, shit's going up. And it's

0:48:38.160 --> 0:48:41.040
<v Speaker 1>not that it's stressing me out because I can afford it.

0:48:41.160 --> 0:48:43.680
<v Speaker 1>But I can only afford this because I live this lifestyle.

0:48:44.040 --> 0:48:47.400
<v Speaker 1>So it's kind of feeling like I can't keep thinking

0:48:47.440 --> 0:48:50.360
<v Speaker 1>that I'll just meet this guy walking down the street.

0:48:50.400 --> 0:48:53.520
<v Speaker 1>I really have to meet someone that's kind of living

0:48:53.560 --> 0:48:55.919
<v Speaker 1>the life almost like I do. Like that gets it,

0:48:56.400 --> 0:48:59.759
<v Speaker 1>because it's not easy, like meeting someone that lives in

0:48:59.760 --> 0:49:03.040
<v Speaker 1>one place that gets to lose their girlfriend for ten days. Yeah,

0:49:03.160 --> 0:49:05.000
<v Speaker 1>that's tough. Yeah, you know what I mean, it's tough

0:49:05.040 --> 0:49:07.120
<v Speaker 1>for me as a business partner to you, to alex

0:49:07.160 --> 0:49:10.040
<v Speaker 1>to employees like, it's really rough. So I think now

0:49:10.480 --> 0:49:13.000
<v Speaker 1>something that I'm looking for is not even dating with

0:49:13.160 --> 0:49:17.760
<v Speaker 1>intent more than I'm looking to meet someone like minded, okay,

0:49:17.960 --> 0:49:23.759
<v Speaker 1>because the intention I've always put behind going on dates,

0:49:23.800 --> 0:49:25.919
<v Speaker 1>and at the end of the day old they didn't

0:49:25.920 --> 0:49:27.520
<v Speaker 1>want a girlfriend, he'd been single for eight years and

0:49:27.600 --> 0:49:30.120
<v Speaker 1>ended up with me, Like, I don't really know if

0:49:30.880 --> 0:49:32.560
<v Speaker 1>if on the first date you go out there and

0:49:32.560 --> 0:49:35.280
<v Speaker 1>you're like, I'm looking for boom boom boom, boom boom,

0:49:35.280 --> 0:49:37.239
<v Speaker 1>if you go and get it out that nigga. So

0:49:38.840 --> 0:49:42.680
<v Speaker 1>I guess my approach right now is a I'm still

0:49:42.719 --> 0:49:47.800
<v Speaker 1>fucking heartbroken and working through and healing after a relationship.

0:49:48.239 --> 0:49:52.400
<v Speaker 1>But I realize that I have a bit of anxiety

0:49:52.719 --> 0:49:56.520
<v Speaker 1>in knowing that right now I'm not ready for a relationship,

0:49:56.560 --> 0:50:00.239
<v Speaker 1>but I definitely want to be back in one. I'm

0:50:00.280 --> 0:50:04.600
<v Speaker 1>having anxiety around going on a date or just entertaining someone,

0:50:05.440 --> 0:50:08.000
<v Speaker 1>not having much expectations out of them because I don't

0:50:08.000 --> 0:50:12.399
<v Speaker 1>want anything right now, and falling into where I am

0:50:12.440 --> 0:50:15.560
<v Speaker 1>showing up for this person. We're traveling we're hanging out,

0:50:15.640 --> 0:50:18.480
<v Speaker 1>we're fucking and down the line. When I'm ready for

0:50:18.520 --> 0:50:22.640
<v Speaker 1>a relationship again, they're like, well, bitch, we've been chilling.

0:50:22.920 --> 0:50:25.120
<v Speaker 1>Now you want to make it more Like with the title,

0:50:25.480 --> 0:50:28.040
<v Speaker 1>I know that I've fell into that in my past,

0:50:28.120 --> 0:50:32.040
<v Speaker 1>where things were situationships, things were casual, and then feelings

0:50:32.040 --> 0:50:36.919
<v Speaker 1>started being involved and niggas pumped the brakes like, well, bitch,

0:50:36.960 --> 0:50:38.640
<v Speaker 1>we was cool doing what we was doing. Now you

0:50:38.680 --> 0:50:40.799
<v Speaker 1>want more? Can I be real? This is not to

0:50:40.800 --> 0:50:44.360
<v Speaker 1>make anyone feel like shit, but you've had that scenario.

0:50:44.400 --> 0:50:48.040
<v Speaker 1>I have had that scenario where they're like, what when

0:50:48.080 --> 0:50:50.719
<v Speaker 1>you're like dating someone that's meant to be like like,

0:50:50.760 --> 0:50:53.200
<v Speaker 1>it just kind of happens. Why the fuck are we

0:50:53.200 --> 0:50:55.239
<v Speaker 1>begging these niggas? Well, it's not that I'm begging you

0:50:55.280 --> 0:50:57.239
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, Not you, no, no, no, no,

0:50:57.320 --> 0:50:59.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying I mean, for anyone who's been in that

0:51:00.040 --> 0:51:03.840
<v Speaker 1>type of situation, I don't think it's we're begging to

0:51:03.840 --> 0:51:05.120
<v Speaker 1>be with them. But to me, I want to be

0:51:05.200 --> 0:51:09.080
<v Speaker 1>intentional on leaving it open and letting it be known upfront.

0:51:09.680 --> 0:51:13.120
<v Speaker 1>I would like more. I really enjoyed having just one person.

0:51:13.520 --> 0:51:16.680
<v Speaker 1>I enjoyed making plans with one person like me right

0:51:16.719 --> 0:51:20.239
<v Speaker 1>now juggling four different niggas, three that ain't even here,

0:51:20.680 --> 0:51:23.120
<v Speaker 1>and still trying to meet new ones because of course

0:51:23.400 --> 0:51:25.760
<v Speaker 1>my ass loves to recycle, so they're all from my past,

0:51:26.080 --> 0:51:28.040
<v Speaker 1>and I know it's not going to be anything to

0:51:28.080 --> 0:51:30.760
<v Speaker 1>me moving forward. I want to let it be known

0:51:31.160 --> 0:51:33.160
<v Speaker 1>if I'm talking to you, and if i'm investment, I

0:51:33.200 --> 0:51:36.040
<v Speaker 1>think you here to say, like what your dating aspirations are,

0:51:36.280 --> 0:51:38.840
<v Speaker 1>I would like to be with you, I will say. Also,

0:51:39.440 --> 0:51:43.319
<v Speaker 1>being in my thirties now out the gate, letting it

0:51:43.360 --> 0:51:46.160
<v Speaker 1>also be known I'm not really looking for marriage. I

0:51:46.200 --> 0:51:49.640
<v Speaker 1>don't want children. That's been an interesting conversation because I've

0:51:49.640 --> 0:51:53.000
<v Speaker 1>been on some really really really amazing dates and literally

0:51:53.520 --> 0:51:56.000
<v Speaker 1>they're letting me know on the first date that the

0:51:56.080 --> 0:51:59.120
<v Speaker 1>reason maybe they're single right now is because no one's

0:51:59.120 --> 0:52:03.000
<v Speaker 1>come along that they want to build a family with.

0:52:03.320 --> 0:52:06.960
<v Speaker 1>But they're looking to find someone to you know, that

0:52:07.000 --> 0:52:09.759
<v Speaker 1>could be that person. And immediately I'm just like, well,

0:52:09.800 --> 0:52:13.080
<v Speaker 1>good luck, because it won't be me. And so like

0:52:13.480 --> 0:52:15.879
<v Speaker 1>being in my thirties dating men around my age because

0:52:15.880 --> 0:52:19.000
<v Speaker 1>I ain't going fucking older again, it's being a little

0:52:19.040 --> 0:52:23.120
<v Speaker 1>difficult hearing everyone kind of want kids right now, and

0:52:23.160 --> 0:52:26.719
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, well, damn, I'm dating with intent, but am

0:52:26.760 --> 0:52:28.640
<v Speaker 1>I really a long term option for you? If I'm

0:52:28.640 --> 0:52:30.400
<v Speaker 1>telling you I don't want children and a lot of

0:52:30.400 --> 0:52:32.399
<v Speaker 1>these men don't have children yet, I'm gonna be really

0:52:32.400 --> 0:52:37.879
<v Speaker 1>with you that I forget about, but like I would

0:52:38.120 --> 0:52:40.240
<v Speaker 1>dub a nigga if they don't want kids. And see

0:52:40.239 --> 0:52:42.960
<v Speaker 1>that's where I'm just like, damn. Immediately after an amazing date,

0:52:43.040 --> 0:52:45.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, okay, and then there's you don't want to

0:52:45.520 --> 0:52:47.960
<v Speaker 1>change up your I don't want a kid, and there's

0:52:47.960 --> 0:52:50.560
<v Speaker 1>a ceiling to this relationship. Now. I did want to

0:52:50.560 --> 0:52:55.120
<v Speaker 1>ask you because over I am curious because you know,

0:52:55.719 --> 0:52:57.839
<v Speaker 1>it's always like fucking kids, fucking kids, sucking them kids

0:52:57.880 --> 0:53:01.319
<v Speaker 1>from your mouth with this like piekas vibe right, Like

0:53:01.360 --> 0:53:03.880
<v Speaker 1>we're joking about shit a lot, but like, where's a

0:53:03.920 --> 0:53:05.799
<v Speaker 1>moment in your life that you may have had where

0:53:05.800 --> 0:53:08.000
<v Speaker 1>you really sat and thought, this is my real life? No,

0:53:08.080 --> 0:53:11.920
<v Speaker 1>I mean where you thought, like not saying that you

0:53:11.920 --> 0:53:14.120
<v Speaker 1>would want them, but like you've maybe sat with yourself

0:53:14.160 --> 0:53:17.400
<v Speaker 1>and said like, ooh, if I meet someone that has children,

0:53:17.480 --> 0:53:19.560
<v Speaker 1>like what is this gonna look like for me? I

0:53:19.600 --> 0:53:21.960
<v Speaker 1>don't mind being a bonus mom. It ain't nothing to me,

0:53:22.200 --> 0:53:25.840
<v Speaker 1>Like they don't probably live with their mom or maybe

0:53:25.840 --> 0:53:28.200
<v Speaker 1>all day a single dad. I've never said I don't

0:53:28.200 --> 0:53:30.480
<v Speaker 1>mind being being a bonus mom. I actually, at this

0:53:30.520 --> 0:53:33.520
<v Speaker 1>point would love for a man to have kids and

0:53:33.600 --> 0:53:36.160
<v Speaker 1>don't want anymore. That's actually where I'm at, outside of

0:53:36.160 --> 0:53:39.480
<v Speaker 1>maybe getting a vasectomy or a nigga who swimmers don't swim.

0:53:39.840 --> 0:53:42.560
<v Speaker 1>I would love someone who has a child or two

0:53:42.760 --> 0:53:45.960
<v Speaker 1>or even three and they're like, I don't want children anymore,

0:53:46.480 --> 0:53:48.880
<v Speaker 1>and now we can exist. I don't mind being a

0:53:48.880 --> 0:53:51.399
<v Speaker 1>bonus mom, but I'm very adamant there's been no part

0:53:51.440 --> 0:53:55.080
<v Speaker 1>in my life when you think about mom or whatever,

0:53:55.200 --> 0:53:58.520
<v Speaker 1>like what responsibilities would you be okay with or how close?

0:53:58.600 --> 0:54:03.279
<v Speaker 1>Like what do you think you could handle? I don't know.

0:54:03.840 --> 0:54:06.399
<v Speaker 1>I haven't been that person. I mean, I can cook.

0:54:06.400 --> 0:54:08.120
<v Speaker 1>You want me to cook for your goddamn kids? Okay?

0:54:08.520 --> 0:54:10.880
<v Speaker 1>Like do we are we going out to eat together?

0:54:11.560 --> 0:54:14.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't know how to be a mom. I would

0:54:14.400 --> 0:54:17.960
<v Speaker 1>probably be very uncomfortable and not conventional in the way

0:54:18.000 --> 0:54:20.480
<v Speaker 1>that I speak to them, because that's me with my

0:54:20.840 --> 0:54:23.279
<v Speaker 1>with my friend's kids. Like I'm very much like I'm

0:54:23.320 --> 0:54:24.880
<v Speaker 1>talking to them like how their friend stop? So? How

0:54:24.920 --> 0:54:27.680
<v Speaker 1>old are your friend's kids? High schoolers? Like, I have

0:54:27.719 --> 0:54:30.080
<v Speaker 1>friends I have that doesn't count, Bache, I have friends

0:54:30.120 --> 0:54:33.360
<v Speaker 1>with biggers. Think of like a five year old a

0:54:33.440 --> 0:54:35.799
<v Speaker 1>six year old. You're talking to a seven year olds?

0:54:35.800 --> 0:54:38.799
<v Speaker 1>Like what, I'm not talking to seven year olds? Oh?

0:54:38.800 --> 0:54:40.000
<v Speaker 1>You said I have a friend with seven year old.

0:54:40.440 --> 0:54:41.799
<v Speaker 1>I have a friend with, but it's a seven year

0:54:41.800 --> 0:54:44.600
<v Speaker 1>old boy. I don't know how to what we're gonna

0:54:44.600 --> 0:54:47.480
<v Speaker 1>talk about? Stars and momswitch. I don't know. You don't

0:54:47.520 --> 0:54:51.319
<v Speaker 1>know how to talk to a kid. Hey, hey, little one,

0:54:51.920 --> 0:54:54.520
<v Speaker 1>what else are we gonna talk about? I don't know.

0:54:54.840 --> 0:54:56.960
<v Speaker 1>So I mean to be fair, that would be a

0:54:57.080 --> 0:55:03.440
<v Speaker 1>learning curve for me, But I hey, little one, oh

0:55:03.680 --> 0:55:07.759
<v Speaker 1>bro cartoons? Like I don't know? Bro like bit then

0:55:07.800 --> 0:55:10.279
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna turn on big mouth. Here's a cartoon I like.

0:55:11.520 --> 0:55:13.239
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, Like I'll be honest. That would be

0:55:13.280 --> 0:55:15.480
<v Speaker 1>a learning curve for me. That for the right man,

0:55:15.640 --> 0:55:17.760
<v Speaker 1>I will let them know. I will be willing to try.

0:55:18.480 --> 0:55:21.439
<v Speaker 1>But that's tough because you know, like like I don't

0:55:21.440 --> 0:55:25.120
<v Speaker 1>remember watching a ninety fiance recently, and I know this

0:55:25.200 --> 0:55:26.520
<v Speaker 1>is how I'm silly for me to bring up, but

0:55:26.600 --> 0:55:27.840
<v Speaker 1>this just made me think about what she said. It

0:55:27.880 --> 0:55:29.520
<v Speaker 1>hadn't been two days ago I saw it. It was

0:55:29.560 --> 0:55:33.360
<v Speaker 1>the reunion to one of the franchises, and the guy said.

0:55:34.160 --> 0:55:38.319
<v Speaker 1>I started to realize she didn't have motherly qualities, and

0:55:38.360 --> 0:55:40.480
<v Speaker 1>I wondered if like this was gonna fit because she

0:55:40.480 --> 0:55:43.480
<v Speaker 1>didn't have motherly So what's crazy is my ex? Actually,

0:55:43.760 --> 0:55:47.359
<v Speaker 1>my ex and my friends actually think I have very

0:55:47.440 --> 0:55:52.160
<v Speaker 1>mothering qualities. So I feed, I'm nurturing, I'm thoughtful, I

0:55:52.239 --> 0:55:57.040
<v Speaker 1>love like, I pay attention to detail. To me, I

0:55:57.080 --> 0:55:59.960
<v Speaker 1>pay attention to detail. Attention to detail was a mothering thing.

0:56:00.000 --> 0:56:03.960
<v Speaker 1>I ain't God damn it. So to me, I'm very

0:56:03.960 --> 0:56:06.960
<v Speaker 1>thoughtful in caring for the people around me, and I

0:56:07.000 --> 0:56:10.080
<v Speaker 1>love my cat. So he's seen me with my cat.

0:56:10.560 --> 0:56:13.000
<v Speaker 1>I tell him, bitch, go away, but come here, come

0:56:13.080 --> 0:56:15.919
<v Speaker 1>lay with me. I feed them all time. I'm very responsible.

0:56:16.480 --> 0:56:20.239
<v Speaker 1>Is that not mother qualities? What's mother in qualities? I

0:56:20.280 --> 0:56:23.799
<v Speaker 1>think we I mean definitely like the thing you're talking about.

0:56:23.800 --> 0:56:25.799
<v Speaker 1>Someone to describe me once as a mother hen because

0:56:25.840 --> 0:56:27.400
<v Speaker 1>they were like, oh, you always want to get the

0:56:27.400 --> 0:56:29.719
<v Speaker 1>group together and make sure you're taking care of this,

0:56:29.920 --> 0:56:33.040
<v Speaker 1>like I think that that's probably whyaries, but like the

0:56:33.080 --> 0:56:37.920
<v Speaker 1>softness and being able to like so I will say

0:56:38.160 --> 0:56:45.160
<v Speaker 1>from my last relationship, I am thankful because to me,

0:56:46.320 --> 0:56:51.200
<v Speaker 1>from my cooking to the thoughtfulness, I genuinely believe I

0:56:51.320 --> 0:56:53.680
<v Speaker 1>was able to see how great of a partner I

0:56:53.680 --> 0:56:55.799
<v Speaker 1>could be for somebody. I think that when we first

0:56:55.800 --> 0:56:58.800
<v Speaker 1>started this podcast, I y'all know, I wasn't giving a

0:56:58.880 --> 0:57:00.960
<v Speaker 1>nigga chicken wings. Nigga, you want to pussy, you better

0:57:00.960 --> 0:57:03.719
<v Speaker 1>bring food over, your own gatorade, your own water. I

0:57:03.800 --> 0:57:08.160
<v Speaker 1>wasn't giving you girlfriend quality or any of that. And

0:57:08.239 --> 0:57:11.560
<v Speaker 1>to me, now I know how great I could be

0:57:11.600 --> 0:57:13.759
<v Speaker 1>as a partner, and I was that for him. I

0:57:13.840 --> 0:57:19.880
<v Speaker 1>was thoughtful in everything. I was able to not put

0:57:19.880 --> 0:57:23.240
<v Speaker 1>myself first, which to me, I've been a very selfish person.

0:57:23.640 --> 0:57:25.600
<v Speaker 1>I was able to see how much I can put

0:57:25.640 --> 0:57:29.360
<v Speaker 1>someone before myself, which to me I literally brought up

0:57:29.360 --> 0:57:33.840
<v Speaker 1>in therapy. I said, I realize now what my value

0:57:33.880 --> 0:57:36.400
<v Speaker 1>is and what I'm worthy of because I now have

0:57:36.640 --> 0:57:39.440
<v Speaker 1>become the best version of myself, especially in that relationship.

0:57:39.880 --> 0:57:44.640
<v Speaker 1>So to me, now I'm just trying not to I'm

0:57:44.640 --> 0:57:47.720
<v Speaker 1>trying not to resent showing up in that way and

0:57:47.760 --> 0:57:50.480
<v Speaker 1>getting the butt end of the stick and feeling like

0:57:50.520 --> 0:57:53.240
<v Speaker 1>I was shitting on and all of these things. Because

0:57:53.280 --> 0:57:54.840
<v Speaker 1>I know how good I showed up for him. I

0:57:54.840 --> 0:57:56.320
<v Speaker 1>would just like to know that I could show up

0:57:56.360 --> 0:58:01.880
<v Speaker 1>for someone who fucking deserves broke up with him and

0:58:02.160 --> 0:58:05.320
<v Speaker 1>stayed broken up which time the seven eight? But this

0:58:05.440 --> 0:58:08.040
<v Speaker 1>is my this is something that's like interesting, right because

0:58:09.520 --> 0:58:11.600
<v Speaker 1>it could sound shady, but there's a point to it.

0:58:12.600 --> 0:58:15.560
<v Speaker 1>You said this nigga wasn't ship maybe after a third breakup, right,

0:58:15.600 --> 0:58:17.800
<v Speaker 1>I don't know him just saying the number, and you

0:58:17.840 --> 0:58:21.000
<v Speaker 1>took him back. Would you have even gotten here if

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't take him back? You know what I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be honest, just like if you've learned these things

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<v Speaker 1>about yourself. It may have come with all the time

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<v Speaker 1>taking which which I and I was like almost in tears,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, because of what happened when we were

0:58:33.360 --> 0:58:34.640
<v Speaker 1>I thought we was gonna talk about it on next

0:58:34.680 --> 0:58:38.720
<v Speaker 1>time we are we are, but which we are? But

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<v Speaker 1>to me, I realized there was a part of myself

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<v Speaker 1>that was lying to myself, that also believed in what

0:58:50.640 --> 0:58:56.520
<v Speaker 1>he told me, what he manipulated. Lulu, you need to

0:58:56.640 --> 0:59:00.240
<v Speaker 1>believe he was the best I could get right, and

0:59:00.280 --> 0:59:03.040
<v Speaker 1>so based on my interactions with men in my twenties,

0:59:05.320 --> 0:59:10.200
<v Speaker 1>him making me feel so good and literally while accepting

0:59:10.240 --> 0:59:12.920
<v Speaker 1>the bare minimum, really he made me believe this was

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<v Speaker 1>the best I could get, and so no other man

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<v Speaker 1>was going to do what he was doing for me.

0:59:18.640 --> 0:59:21.640
<v Speaker 1>I literally found the person who was going to make

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<v Speaker 1>me happy. And if I went out and was single again,

0:59:24.320 --> 0:59:26.360
<v Speaker 1>which is what my fear was of dating every time,

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<v Speaker 1>if I went out again and started dating, I would

0:59:29.200 --> 0:59:32.520
<v Speaker 1>never find him. So I was just I just kept

0:59:32.520 --> 0:59:35.360
<v Speaker 1>being drawn to going back to what he made me

0:59:35.400 --> 0:59:39.479
<v Speaker 1>believe was the best I could get. And I think

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<v Speaker 1>in hindsight, I started lying to myself. I started realizing, oh,

0:59:44.960 --> 0:59:49.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm not questioning him, I'm not really holding him accountable

0:59:49.040 --> 0:59:51.120
<v Speaker 1>for anything in fear that he's going to leave me.

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<v Speaker 1>Because now that I feel so great about myself, I

0:59:54.240 --> 0:59:56.800
<v Speaker 1>finally have also gotten the partner that is the best

0:59:56.840 --> 0:59:59.600
<v Speaker 1>that I'm able to get because of my past, because

0:59:59.640 --> 1:00:03.840
<v Speaker 1>of this podcast, because of who I was. He literally

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<v Speaker 1>put those thoughts into my head that no one else

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<v Speaker 1>would walk me that Nigga was Jonah Hill probably probably,

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<v Speaker 1>but I wouldn't be real though, like I did think

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<v Speaker 1>that when people do that, it reflects for a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of themselves, like and this is why we can't put

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<v Speaker 1>men on a pedestal, bitch, do we You did? Oh no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>the pedestal. No. I think I brought myself down for

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<v Speaker 1>my own self value. So wasn't him being put on

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<v Speaker 1>this pedestal. It was me really sitting in what he

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<v Speaker 1>made me believe that I could not get any better.

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<v Speaker 1>So to me it was I was I was shrinking myself. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean when you talk about him like he's this,

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<v Speaker 1>he's that, like besides cute and tall, like the things

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<v Speaker 1>that we're all uncovering now about your relationship. As we

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<v Speaker 1>listen and as we hear these shitty things, it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be honest with you. He again, with the bare minimum,

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<v Speaker 1>made me feel good. And so I think because of

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<v Speaker 1>how I felt with him during our highs, I ignored

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<v Speaker 1>how low I felt and how how much my tears hurt,

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<v Speaker 1>and how bad I felt during the lows. To me,

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<v Speaker 1>I just kept chasing those highs. And let's be let's

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<v Speaker 1>be clear. On the podcast, I talked about a lot

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<v Speaker 1>the lack of intimacy that I received my situationships. I

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<v Speaker 1>barely kissed the niggas I fucked. I didn't get the

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<v Speaker 1>cuddle time or the sessions. I didn't get the affection

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<v Speaker 1>that I realized really made me feel so good. And

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<v Speaker 1>so it was literally affection that had me on this high.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm just like, to me, I told you is

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<v Speaker 1>a drug. I hate it being and when you can't

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<v Speaker 1>stop chasing that high. It was a high that I

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<v Speaker 1>was chasing. It literally was I know, the feeling a high.

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<v Speaker 1>It's crazy because the love that I felt in my lifetime,

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<v Speaker 1>I like, oof. I think about it with Hospit Little

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<v Speaker 1>Dick a lot, mainly because I'm like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I let that go because of XYZ, because I

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<v Speaker 1>let my brain get in and say, well I need

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<v Speaker 1>to have this, I need to do this, I need

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<v Speaker 1>to do this, And it makes me wonder like do

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<v Speaker 1>you get that again? Do you just keep chasing it forever?

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<v Speaker 1>Am I projecting that onto other people? Or like, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know, but it's tough because there really isn't anything

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<v Speaker 1>that can duplicate it. Like love to me sounds like

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<v Speaker 1>this thing. I heard a crackheads say once, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>even playing it. They were like the reason that you

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<v Speaker 1>get so deep into crack or whatever drug is because

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<v Speaker 1>nothing is as good as the first high. Well, and

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<v Speaker 1>y'all know, this was my first time telling a man

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<v Speaker 1>I loved him. This was my first real relationship, and

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<v Speaker 1>so a part of me even continuing to go back

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<v Speaker 1>was what I've seen in relationships. It's people fight, they

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<v Speaker 1>break up, they get back together. So I was going

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<v Speaker 1>off of what I believed a relationship is. Relationships aren't easy.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to work at it. No one's gonna be perfect.

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<v Speaker 1>So a part of me just kept thinking, Okay, if

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<v Speaker 1>I do this, if I switched this, if I communicate this,

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<v Speaker 1>it'll get better, without really knowing that or without the

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<v Speaker 1>mindset that Mandy, there's maybe nothing that you can do

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<v Speaker 1>to really make him show up. There. We have to

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<v Speaker 1>dump these niggas bro oh and did like and did?

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<v Speaker 1>We have to dump them when we say it, and

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<v Speaker 1>if we don't stick by that, this is when they

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<v Speaker 1>do it again. And there again. There's an again that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm thirteen, that went around about a dude. It was

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<v Speaker 1>a famous nigga, I don't know who was, They're not

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<v Speaker 1>that famous, but he was like talking to this girl.

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<v Speaker 1>He was like oh if I cheat know you you

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<v Speaker 1>ain't leaving? Did you see that? Oh? Yeah, yeah, yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Who was Keisha's ye boyfriend? She was like, what do

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<v Speaker 1>you mean? I live? And he even he meant it

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<v Speaker 1>and she meant it and she laughed like she's not leaving. No,

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<v Speaker 1>that shit hurt me watching it. No, I'm not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>lie because it was. And he came back and doubled

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<v Speaker 1>down like he wasn't a cheater. Bitch. Everything about that

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<v Speaker 1>was you be out your cheek nowhere, And to me,

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<v Speaker 1>I think that that's where I think maybe my ex

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<v Speaker 1>thought that same thing of me, bitch, you gonna bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>but you go at thirteen, you gonna come crawling back anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>But now no mo, But y'all, thirteen cities left? Actually

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<v Speaker 1>there are There are actually thirteen cities last see and

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<v Speaker 1>real quick, if you're looking at the calendar, it says twelve.

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<v Speaker 1>But we're adding a show, you guys. We may have

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<v Speaker 1>announced it by now, but we are looking at a

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<v Speaker 1>show and just know it's gonna require a passport stamp.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know it's like we've been there. Yeah, we'll

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<v Speaker 1>update y'all on that. But again, if you are looking

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<v Speaker 1>to see us live. Baby, We are on the Climax Tour,

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<v Speaker 1>which will be your last time to see us on

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<v Speaker 1>a tour. Okay, now on YouTube, but on a tour,

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<v Speaker 1>this is gonna be the last time. So make sure

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<v Speaker 1>y'all go over to Poorhive dot com, y'all. The next

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<v Speaker 1>places we are hitting is the West Coast and it's

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<v Speaker 1>given not only California Love, but Phoenix love and Seattle Love.

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<v Speaker 1>So y'all, we are hitting Seattle September seventh at the

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<v Speaker 1>Neptune Theater, September ninth, San Francisco at Beambos, September fourteenth,

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<v Speaker 1>we are in LA at the Palace Theater, and then

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<v Speaker 1>September fifteenth, we are in Phoenix, Arizona, and it starts

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<v Speaker 1>all the niggas I fucked with to the LA Show?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you really? Yes? Really? Why not? You're gonna bring

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<v Speaker 1>them on stage? No? Oh no no. So if you

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<v Speaker 1>guys want to bully show dreads and the motherfucker audience

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<v Speaker 1>of LA they hers, Oh no, Lambo's coming to Atlanta.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh oh, you were writing all your little hoes. Look

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<v Speaker 1>you want to eat me so bad? That was me

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<v Speaker 1>last turn? Why think Lambo, baby Mama? He was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>when you're gonna meet in Atlanta? I heard you was coming.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, remember she listened to the show. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, are you kidding me? Like, are you like?

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't talked to him for so long? He was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm coming, and I'm like it's I'm like, no, if

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna some shit, I don't know, nigga, you lie

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<v Speaker 1>because Atlanta is definitely in October. Whatever, bitch. What I

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<v Speaker 1>know is if that nigga comes, I feel like maybe

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<v Speaker 1>he'll come up and do a couple of game. Bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna say, skirt skirt shout out to the Lambeau drivers.

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<v Speaker 1>I think bitches are gonna know who he is. Oh, probably,

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<v Speaker 1>I think he's one of those. Well, y'all, make sure

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<v Speaker 1>has been yet another episode of horrible decisions. Let y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>bye bye,