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Speaker 1: Guess what decision we're about to make. Horrible decision.

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Speaker 2: We reached a climax, y'all, our Climax Tour. We are

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Speaker 2: going to be going all over the country and Canada

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Speaker 2: east coast, Midwest, west coast, South. Mandy's going to tell

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Speaker 2: you all about how to secure your tickets because I'm

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Speaker 2: telling y'all you don't want to let this sell out.

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Speaker 1: Y'all heard it right. We are hitting sixteen cities for

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Speaker 1: the official Climax Tour, brought to you by Horrible Decisions. Y'all.

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Speaker 1: Do not want to miss out our patrons. Why I

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Speaker 1: first did to purchase pre sell tickets with a special

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Speaker 1: code giving out only on Patreon, and tickets will be

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Speaker 1: available for everybody at or hive dot com. You do

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Speaker 1: not want to miss out. Tickets are short of sell

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Speaker 1: out and we want the Horhive presence loud and proud.

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Speaker 1: See you there. Now, let's get to the show. What

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Speaker 1: idiots help? What's the Welcome to another episode of Horrid

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Speaker 1: bled This is the old what's up? Y'all? What do do?

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Speaker 1: I'm weazy and I'm your girl. Man Dy aka pet

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Speaker 1: the Stallion aka Debt Bitch. Hey, y'all, we sollo today,

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Speaker 1: y'all we are. We came in, like, what's the We've

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Speaker 1: been touring. We have been meeting the Horror Hive and

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Speaker 1: it has been amazing. We are now on our on

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Speaker 1: our little little break, but we have knocked out five

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Speaker 1: cities already, I know, and if every show gets better

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Speaker 1: and better, I think something that I've been like excited

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Speaker 1: about is everybody's really impressed with like the things that

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Speaker 1: found out I was allergic to vitamin C on my

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Speaker 1: not comfortable. It was just at all. I think having

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Speaker 1: you know, everything that we've come up with for our

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Speaker 1: I think sometimes even like musicians, right, they kind of

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Speaker 1: that was just creatively like it is what it is,

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Speaker 1: you know, like all of our games, we figure out

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Speaker 1: what could be fun, what could be different, and it's

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Speaker 1: like I feel like that first show really showed me like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I didn't know, oh I just saw the money in

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Speaker 1: right right for that, but like knowing that ad vibe

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Speaker 1: we're just getting started or no, like start feeling like

423
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Speaker 1: you're the ship. And that's why I always let y'all know,

424
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Speaker 1: my dick second is the age I can't stand you.

425
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Speaker 1: I cannot Well, we gonna get into our vanilla shit now, y'all,

426
00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:24,040
Speaker 1: and for our vanilla ship this week, which, by y'all,

427
00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:26,639
Speaker 1: as y'all know, is our sex and the news. Health

428
00:21:26,680 --> 00:21:31,360
Speaker 1: professionals are now being told to call vaginas bonus holes

429
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Speaker 1: to avoid offending trans patients. I want to get a

430
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Speaker 1: little bit into this just so that we can be

431
00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:41,880
Speaker 1: very clear on what it means. Health professionals are being

432
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Speaker 1: urged to use the term bonus holes when referring to

433
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Speaker 1: vaginas in order to avoid offending transgender or non binary

434
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Speaker 1: patients The suggestion was made by a charity called Joe's

435
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Speaker 1: Cervical Cancer Trust, which aims to provide information and support

436
00:21:56,520 --> 00:22:00,840
Speaker 1: for health professionals treating patients with cervical cancer. Charity clarified

437
00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:04,040
Speaker 1: that they were not suggesting that all women use this term,

438
00:22:04,359 --> 00:22:07,720
Speaker 1: but rather it was important to use inclusive language that

439
00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:11,640
Speaker 1: would reach out to transgender and non binary individuals. However,

440
00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:14,760
Speaker 1: this idea has been met with criticism from myself as

441
00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:18,439
Speaker 1: well from women's rights campaigners online, who argue that the

442
00:22:18,520 --> 00:22:22,400
Speaker 1: language is misogynistic and dehumanizing. The Use of the term

443
00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:25,560
Speaker 1: bonus holes instead of vagina is seen as an attempt

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Speaker 1: to be more inclusive and respectful towards transgender and non

445
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Speaker 1: binary individuals, but by using this terminology, health professionals are

446
00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:38,040
Speaker 1: acknowledging that not everyone with a vagina identifies as a woman.

447
00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:41,000
Speaker 1: The charity believes it's important to recognize and validate the

448
00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:45,840
Speaker 1: identities of all patients, regardless of gender identity. However, social

449
00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:48,919
Speaker 1: media critics say that replacing the term vagina with bonus

450
00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:53,080
Speaker 1: hole is actually problematic as it diminishes the significance and

451
00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:57,159
Speaker 1: complexity of female anatomy. Is so annoying, I'm like oh,

452
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go with you. I don't disagree on this one,

453
00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:02,000
Speaker 1: just gonna come in like an advocate, bitch, you know,

454
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:05,880
Speaker 1: like because the thing is like, of course I'm an advocate,

455
00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 1: and also oh, well, yeah, we're advocate. I'm gonna say this, Like,

456
00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:14,720
Speaker 1: to me, people getting annoyed by pronouns is actually something

457
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:17,560
Speaker 1: that's rude because for as a person that has like

458
00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 1: a close trans homegirl that i'd be going out with,

459
00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:23,640
Speaker 1: and shit like, I can't imagine how she feels when

460
00:23:23,640 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 1: someone you know, misuses a pronoun like, especially in a

461
00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:30,760
Speaker 1: public setting, then she's sitting there like, oh like or

462
00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:32,480
Speaker 1: even if they bring up the like sometimes I'm gonna

463
00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:33,760
Speaker 1: be like, oh, when you used to be a nigga,

464
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:35,960
Speaker 1: and like, I can't imagine how that makes her feel.

465
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Speaker 1: Because now that second part, yes, I am still very

466
00:23:42,240 --> 00:23:45,840
Speaker 1: much having a very difficult time with pronouns with people,

467
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Speaker 1: and you're having a difficult time with they them, not

468
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Speaker 1: with yeah, which which to me is the thing that

469
00:23:50,960 --> 00:23:52,920
Speaker 1: was at it. I know he and she well say

470
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Speaker 1: in them is what's what's frustrating for me a little bit.

471
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Speaker 1: And it's frustrating because three years ago it didn't exists.

472
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Speaker 1: As how I was addressing people, so I can understand

473
00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:07,080
Speaker 1: their frustration with it, but it's just as frustrating for

474
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Speaker 1: me as someone who doesn't identify as non binary, or

475
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:13,040
Speaker 1: they in them to switch up how I speak. But

476
00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:17,520
Speaker 1: see that's insensitive, that that's really really Superno, I mean

477
00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:20,080
Speaker 1: you can't shrug your shoulders like that. Yeah, no, no, no,

478
00:24:20,359 --> 00:24:22,320
Speaker 1: you have to think that a moment. But I'm saying

479
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Speaker 1: you're frustrated. You got to use a different word, because

480
00:24:24,200 --> 00:24:29,760
Speaker 1: like when someone wants to change or is telling you

481
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Speaker 1: how to address them and you're frustrated by something that

482
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Speaker 1: they're like, that's fucked up to say. Now, you could

483
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Speaker 1: probably say it's difficult. Well, they can't be to me.

484
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Speaker 1: It's difficult for both ends. So to me, I think

485
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Speaker 1: it's unfair that they're allowed to be frustrated at my

486
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Speaker 1: new learning curve, yet I can't be frustrated at this

487
00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:53,160
Speaker 1: same learning learning curve. I think frustrating is the word

488
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Speaker 1: I want to use for it, because I'm not trying

489
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:59,159
Speaker 1: to be offensive, but it's a little frustrating to have

490
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Speaker 1: to navigate that and I don't want to offend them.

491
00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 1: But see, what's frustrating saying is frustrating for you? Is

492
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Speaker 1: this very like I'm saying it's the wrong word, because

493
00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:09,359
Speaker 1: to me it comes off as very like this is

494
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:12,679
Speaker 1: the Republican argument. Hey, you know what, I only know

495
00:25:13,280 --> 00:25:15,680
Speaker 1: she and him. You need to pick one. But I'm

496
00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:18,320
Speaker 1: not saying that. But that's how that's how frustrating it. No,

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Speaker 1: I'm frustrated that I am that I'm really trying to

498
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:27,080
Speaker 1: So where do you frustrat that I'm frustrated? Like them?

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Speaker 1: By the way, like shout out to Vinnie are our

500
00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:35,119
Speaker 1: tour manager. Out of the Kinksters that I just shout

501
00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:36,800
Speaker 1: it out who have been a part of the first

502
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 1: five cities, about half of them had their pronouns that

503
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:42,960
Speaker 1: we had to go through and not only interviewing them,

504
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:46,720
Speaker 1: but once they arrived, and he actually I also just

505
00:25:46,760 --> 00:25:49,800
Speaker 1: appreciated it. He was like, Mandy, I see you trying

506
00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:53,040
Speaker 1: so hard and you were doing so good. And I

507
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:56,440
Speaker 1: appreciated that he literally saw I was making a conscious effort.

508
00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:59,399
Speaker 1: But yes, I was frustrated because where we have a

509
00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:02,320
Speaker 1: certain time for sound check, I'm really trying not to

510
00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:06,200
Speaker 1: offend them, and so to me, it's more work than normally. Yes,

511
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Speaker 1: I want to give out to maybe someone I just met.

512
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:10,399
Speaker 1: To be fair now, to you, you said you have

513
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:13,439
Speaker 1: a homegirl. I get your care for that homegirl. But

514
00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:15,720
Speaker 1: for me, someone that I just met ten minutes ago,

515
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 1: and for me to be as conscious to how I

516
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:25,080
Speaker 1: make them feel it is it's a bit exhausting for me. Exhausting, frustrated.

517
00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:27,760
Speaker 1: Those are words that I genuinely felt over the last

518
00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 1: few years, really trying to work through. I just don't

519
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:33,480
Speaker 1: think that we can be advocates at the same time

520
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:35,680
Speaker 1: with saying someone's shit is like, I'm an advocate, but

521
00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:38,879
Speaker 1: I'm real like this, this is how I feel about

522
00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:42,760
Speaker 1: But what I'm saying is like, no, we can't be

523
00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:45,439
Speaker 1: advocates and stand in something and then be like this

524
00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:47,840
Speaker 1: shit has taken time out of my day. Your choices,

525
00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:50,320
Speaker 1: your sexuality that I'm a fight for and wants you

526
00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:53,080
Speaker 1: to have freedom for, are like annoying me right now

527
00:26:53,080 --> 00:26:54,720
Speaker 1: because I have to think too hard. So I think

528
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:59,680
Speaker 1: that that's the thing too. As an advocate of lgbtq

529
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:04,679
Speaker 1: A and sexuality, gender identity is something new to me.

530
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 1: How you want to be identified is not me saying

531
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:10,720
Speaker 1: that I advocate for you to sleep with whoever you

532
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:13,919
Speaker 1: want to. The gender identity part is new to me

533
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:16,600
Speaker 1: as us being on this podcast. It's something even though

534
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:20,080
Speaker 1: we've been here almost seven years. The gender identity part

535
00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:23,439
Speaker 1: and what is offensive in how you address someone is

536
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:25,919
Speaker 1: new and so as an advocate, I'm here for you

537
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:28,240
Speaker 1: to sleep with whoever the hell you want to, but

538
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:31,920
Speaker 1: the day and them the pronoun usage has been new

539
00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:35,199
Speaker 1: for me, And that's fine. You know, I love and

540
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:36,880
Speaker 1: I get what you're saying. I just feel like there's

541
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:38,920
Speaker 1: a white person being like I just found out we

542
00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:42,920
Speaker 1: couldn't say nigga anymore because of Twitter. I've been saying

543
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:45,680
Speaker 1: nigga all the time. This is new for me. That's

544
00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 1: the same. So nouns is new for all of us.

545
00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:50,120
Speaker 1: But but I'm saying it's like this podcast, we wasn't

546
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:52,760
Speaker 1: saying someone in that someone be right, but I'm saying

547
00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:55,199
Speaker 1: like them feeling offended, like you're saying that's new for you,

548
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:59,360
Speaker 1: Like I think it's like, Here's the part that can

549
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:03,720
Speaker 1: be frustrated is knowing that your intent is in how

550
00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 1: they may feel. That can be frustrating. But like to

551
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:09,879
Speaker 1: be frustrated with someone's choices for who they are, I'm

552
00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:14,200
Speaker 1: not in getting it right. That's so it's you're conflating

553
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:16,960
Speaker 1: what my I'm frustrated at. I'm frustrated at no you

554
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:20,679
Speaker 1: said then taking Yeah, I just met this person. So

555
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:24,200
Speaker 1: I'm frustrated the now how I communicate off the whim

556
00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:28,520
Speaker 1: it's it's it's frustrating because I don't want to offend you.

557
00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:30,520
Speaker 1: I don't care that you want to be called them

558
00:28:30,560 --> 00:28:32,919
Speaker 1: in they, But in order to not offend you, I

559
00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:34,439
Speaker 1: can't get it wrong. I'm gonna hold you. I've been

560
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:37,240
Speaker 1: getting around that shit by the name. I don't know

561
00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 1: your name. I just met you ten minutes ago. And

562
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:40,719
Speaker 1: you know I'm bad with names. I meet people all

563
00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:42,800
Speaker 1: the time, nice to meet you. I'm easier to remember

564
00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 1: their name than remember to say they them. And we

565
00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 1: hire these people, we hire them, but also we're we're

566
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:51,120
Speaker 1: given told two or three names by them. Literally, Vinnie's

567
00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:52,600
Speaker 1: had the same thing. What we calling them? How are

568
00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:55,360
Speaker 1: we introducing you? We're getting stage names, we're getting government names,

569
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:57,520
Speaker 1: We're getting multiple names as well when we meet these

570
00:28:57,520 --> 00:29:00,080
Speaker 1: I've actually been kind of saying there for everybody. I

571
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:01,960
Speaker 1: guess I even said it for four I don't know.

572
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:03,480
Speaker 1: I'd be like they're going to be coming out with

573
00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:06,160
Speaker 1: a like, I don't fucking know, so like because it

574
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:08,560
Speaker 1: got weird, I just like that actually made it easier.

575
00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:13,040
Speaker 1: But I was thinking about when we were talking about that,

576
00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:16,680
Speaker 1: then there was a conversation that was, oh, my homegirl,

577
00:29:16,680 --> 00:29:18,720
Speaker 1: that is a trans bonus holes. That's where we're at.

578
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 1: So I always feel like I'm right between my My

579
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 1: most exemplary trans woman friend is Hope Gazelle, and I

580
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:31,120
Speaker 1: think most problematic is for Lane Monroe, but also not

581
00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:34,320
Speaker 1: problematic to where I believe they're disrespecting their community or

582
00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:37,040
Speaker 1: their selves. Just problematic is in some of the things

583
00:29:37,040 --> 00:29:38,920
Speaker 1: people may not want to hear. I feel like the

584
00:29:39,080 --> 00:29:41,400
Speaker 1: moments were on right down the middle. And I say

585
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:44,560
Speaker 1: that because when I was reading that bonus hole article

586
00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:49,440
Speaker 1: I saw that yesterday, I was like, the trans women

587
00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:52,840
Speaker 1: I know have the wherewithal to discuss their genitals right

588
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:57,840
Speaker 1: in a health situation without being upset as health professionals

589
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 1: saying bonus holes. That's a me is so ridiculous. I mean, okay,

590
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:06,600
Speaker 1: it's the health professionals like, now I go in and

591
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 1: because you don't know it's there, it's automatically a bonus

592
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:10,480
Speaker 1: hole and not a vagina because you don't want to

593
00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:13,960
Speaker 1: offend them. But yet my vagina is now not a vagina.

594
00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:16,160
Speaker 1: It's a bonus hole. This tod ain't bonus bitch is

595
00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:19,840
Speaker 1: there and it's tight and is deep. Actually have one

596
00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:24,120
Speaker 1: trans male friend that I could speak to this experience with,

597
00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:27,760
Speaker 1: but like they're able to talk about it in very

598
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:30,920
Speaker 1: like you know, because they told me, like we didn't

599
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 1: talk about their genitalian for a while, and I remember

600
00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:35,080
Speaker 1: they were like, you know, unless I'm on the phone

601
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:37,160
Speaker 1: my therapist or I'm at the doctor's office, like I'm

602
00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:38,840
Speaker 1: not trying to be like telling people if I have

603
00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:40,480
Speaker 1: a pussy or a d And I was like, I

604
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:42,600
Speaker 1: feel that. And I thought about that conversation when hearing this,

605
00:30:42,640 --> 00:30:45,640
Speaker 1: because I'm like, Okay, we talked about this on Patreon

606
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:52,440
Speaker 1: where the trans the trans woman came out and uh wait, yeah,

607
00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:55,600
Speaker 1: trans woman was mad that a gynecologist wouldn't take them,

608
00:30:56,000 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 1: but they they have a penis, so a gind of

609
00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:04,320
Speaker 1: colleges probably wouldn't be the best doctor for you to

610
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:08,000
Speaker 1: go to. But also like I don't know, y'all join

611
00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 1: us on Patreon page. I noted them at the door,

612
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,800
Speaker 1: like was wild to me, like that some of the

613
00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:16,240
Speaker 1: things I read but like there's two parts there, right,

614
00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:18,680
Speaker 1: like going into the office, Like I do feel like

615
00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:21,560
Speaker 1: I would want someone that understands fully what I have

616
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 1: going on. I agree, now, I would want them to

617
00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:26,680
Speaker 1: call me into the room and be like, hey, like

618
00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 1: let's have a conversation. Here are your options. Here's some

619
00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:31,480
Speaker 1: people I know, like guid in colleges at this point

620
00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:35,360
Speaker 1: should be within their yeah, realm recommending who they can.

621
00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:38,160
Speaker 1: I don't send you to. But the bonus holl shit, bro,

622
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:41,160
Speaker 1: I'm conscious of people's emotions to the point where I

623
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:44,920
Speaker 1: believe you get a little Delulu. Now, Delulu, you can't

624
00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 1: kind of word is the Delulu bitch? She said you

625
00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:50,600
Speaker 1: a little Delulu. I got that shit from Brionda Now

626
00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:53,800
Speaker 1: the other day. Who by the way, it's fine. We

627
00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:55,880
Speaker 1: had a few people, A lot of people ask me

628
00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:59,720
Speaker 1: about Brianda sometimes and are anywhere? So Brehanna is cool,

629
00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 1: she's she's taking an Internet detox. But she says somebody

630
00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:04,720
Speaker 1: was de Lulu that I knew. We were laughing about it.

631
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:07,959
Speaker 1: But I say that to say, I do think that

632
00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 1: when transitioning your body, we can't have these conversations where

633
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 1: we're so emotional that we're even forgetting the health shit

634
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Speaker 1: like the whole born gender X thing and all that stuff,

635
00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:22,120
Speaker 1: like you know, I want to know, like my kid

636
00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 1: is going to see the right person, like I don't.

637
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:26,920
Speaker 1: That's the Lulu to me. So that's why I said,

638
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:30,080
Speaker 1: maybe I'm right between flame and Hope. Okay, so you

639
00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:33,880
Speaker 1: kind of toxic, but not I don't think I'm toxic. No, no, no,

640
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 1: I say you might be more. I might be more toxic. Bitch,

641
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:41,840
Speaker 1: I'm frustrated and e is bitch. All right, Well, we're

642
00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:45,280
Speaker 1: gonna get into Hope facts this week. Not a war, dirb,

643
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:47,760
Speaker 1: but we're gonna do Hepe facts. And I have two

644
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:50,960
Speaker 1: facts and a myth. Okay, so two facts and a myth.

645
00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 1: The first one I found wild and I know we

646
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Speaker 1: did a whole episode on sex flaws. So this is

647
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Speaker 1: a really funny one. Shout out to everybody in all Obama.

648
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:03,520
Speaker 1: And no we're not talking about Alabama hot pockets. Okay,

649
00:33:03,560 --> 00:33:08,800
Speaker 1: who we met the person in Houston who Alabama hot

650
00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:13,479
Speaker 1: Yeah he was a black person who even knew about this?

651
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:17,080
Speaker 1: So are you thinking of visiting the heart of Dixie,

652
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:20,240
Speaker 1: Just make sure you pack plenty of sex toys because

653
00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:23,560
Speaker 1: you can't buy them in Alabama. While it's hard to believe,

654
00:33:23,640 --> 00:33:26,440
Speaker 1: Alabama still has a law on the books that bans

655
00:33:26,440 --> 00:33:30,240
Speaker 1: the sell or purchase of any device designed or marketed

656
00:33:30,280 --> 00:33:34,040
Speaker 1: as useful primarily for the stimulation of human genital organs.

657
00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:38,080
Speaker 1: I know, sharper image selling. Y'allready for what you could

658
00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:42,080
Speaker 1: face if caught in the act of pleasing yourself with

659
00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 1: a sex toy. Please someone's face a maximum fine of

660
00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 1: twenty thousand dollars and the possibility of up to one

661
00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:52,800
Speaker 1: year in jail or even twelve months of hard labor.

662
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:55,280
Speaker 1: In short, you could buy bullets, but you can't buy

663
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:59,640
Speaker 1: the bullet beach. This is actually a part of the

664
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Speaker 1: state's Anti Obscenity Enforcement Act, which has been challenged multiple times.

665
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:10,799
Speaker 1: So y'all know listening, we're not a political podcast, nothing

666
00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:13,160
Speaker 1: like that. But make sure you go out and vote,

667
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 1: because if y'all want dil Dos, y'all might need to

668
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:17,200
Speaker 1: go ahead and get some blues and not they gotta

669
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Speaker 1: vote for No, it's crazy they got vote for dil Do's.

670
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Speaker 1: So the second one, now we're taking it up to

671
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Speaker 1: the six hund well not really the six because that's

672
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:28,680
Speaker 1: just Toronto. But this is for all of Canada, and

673
00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:32,440
Speaker 1: this was crazy. Oral sex was actually illegal in Canada

674
00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:36,640
Speaker 1: up until nineteen sixty nine. So you gotta hand it

675
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:39,080
Speaker 1: to the Canucks. They have a good sense of humor.

676
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:44,840
Speaker 1: As Sarah Aspler at BuzzFeed reports, Canadian law prohibited homosexual

677
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:49,640
Speaker 1: acts a sodomy, which actually included oral sex and antal

678
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 1: sex under the statue until nineteen sixty nine. A lot

679
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:55,680
Speaker 1: of like Georgia has shit like that too, though, which

680
00:34:55,719 --> 00:35:00,000
Speaker 1: which which the Saxon sing is wild? No, that's ron crazy.

681
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 1: By contrast, d Us didn't toss out its oral sex

682
00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:08,320
Speaker 1: loss until bitch, so are there? The Supreme Court struck

683
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:13,280
Speaker 1: down anti sodomy laws in fourteen states in the Lawrence

684
00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:18,040
Speaker 1: versus Texas. What's that called when it's the versus case?

685
00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:23,960
Speaker 1: Right case? Yeah, Lawrence versus Texas case. I was like, like,

686
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:30,880
Speaker 1: what the versus bitch? Diddy's rock? Don't do this like

687
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:34,239
Speaker 1: the person versus someone else or the person versus the state.

688
00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:35,919
Speaker 1: That's the case. This is what I really want because

689
00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:39,560
Speaker 1: I'm confused. It's a case, so you just don't. But

690
00:35:39,600 --> 00:35:43,480
Speaker 1: they do have sex shops. Maybe it's the dildo bitch

691
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:48,360
Speaker 1: and there's an obscenity thing, so it's still illegal. However,

692
00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:51,919
Speaker 1: they have sex twiceus. I don't know, that's what. Listen

693
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:55,440
Speaker 1: this this comes from a source as stroke Glide, but

694
00:35:55,480 --> 00:35:58,560
Speaker 1: everything is hyperlink. So hold on, let me get thee

695
00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:02,120
Speaker 1: get the tea. So what is it just it's in Huntsville.

696
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:06,160
Speaker 1: They have one in Birmingham, So what is it like?

697
00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:08,359
Speaker 1: How do these niggas? I don't know. You can't really

698
00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:11,239
Speaker 1: get caught. By the way, you can search this the

699
00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:16,600
Speaker 1: Marshallproject dot org, which gives out I guess all these

700
00:36:16,680 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 1: like look kind of these little type of weird shits

701
00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:22,040
Speaker 1: that's going on. Maybe they don't have like things for

702
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:27,320
Speaker 1: genitalia then, or maybe maybe they have like a rule,

703
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:29,840
Speaker 1: or maybe there's no dildos. Maybe there's other things but

704
00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:33,239
Speaker 1: not dildos. It specifically says dildos in Alabama. Hold on,

705
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:38,680
Speaker 1: sex shops were illegal in New York for a while too.

706
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:41,200
Speaker 1: Ain't no way bith not all these hos. A panel

707
00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:46,120
Speaker 1: of state appeals court judges have followed. Okay, see shit crazy?

708
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 1: Are we? Okay? No? They how do they want? Okay?

709
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 1: This is an article from eight years ago, though for

710
00:36:54,080 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 1: New York, but it's a credible source it's a New

711
00:36:56,719 --> 00:37:00,600
Speaker 1: York news outlet. Okay picks, it's a channel too. Six eleven.

712
00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:03,319
Speaker 1: It's official. Sex shops are legal in New York for now.

713
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:05,719
Speaker 1: That's what a panel of State Appeal Court judge have

714
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:08,360
Speaker 1: ruled following a legal issue that's been carried out for

715
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:12,480
Speaker 1: fourteen years where they have been begging to ban the

716
00:37:12,520 --> 00:37:16,319
Speaker 1: city from being the X rated capital of America. That's

717
00:37:16,360 --> 00:37:19,080
Speaker 1: what they believed it had been because of Times Square,

718
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 1: because the sex clubs here is it's a oh yeah,

719
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:25,200
Speaker 1: I guess it is. Yeah wow, So apparently we have

720
00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:28,200
Speaker 1: sixty to forty section. We had sixty to forty sex

721
00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:30,680
Speaker 1: shops in an area that they were run away about

722
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 1: it said, let me see shick, right, yeah, I guess

723
00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:41,040
Speaker 1: sex businesses are wow. Yeah, this is oh yeah, from

724
00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:44,360
Speaker 1: forty second to forty four. Yeah. So before Disney came

725
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:46,880
Speaker 1: and was a part of Times Square, like where they

726
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:49,640
Speaker 1: brought the Lion King and all those things, Times Square

727
00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:52,360
Speaker 1: was the sex district. And then we also know that

728
00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:55,279
Speaker 1: meatpacking district where all the clubs and nice restaurants are

729
00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:59,320
Speaker 1: now used to be prostitute specifically for the gays and

730
00:37:59,400 --> 00:38:02,440
Speaker 1: trans uh sex working of which in me packing I

731
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Speaker 1: want you guys, Mandy, I'm trying to tell her you'll

732
00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:07,000
Speaker 1: really enjoy it. We're gonna try to do a cinema

733
00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 1: soon of the stroll on HBO. I want you all

734
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:11,799
Speaker 1: to check it out before we do the cinema. Yeah,

735
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:14,200
Speaker 1: it's about the trans prostitutes in New York, in the

736
00:38:14,239 --> 00:38:19,319
Speaker 1: meatpacking district that existed. It was only like not that

737
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:22,920
Speaker 1: long ago. Yeah maybe like bro I mean it's TV. Yeah, no,

738
00:38:23,040 --> 00:38:25,359
Speaker 1: it's really good now. I do want to say, since

739
00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:28,000
Speaker 1: I've been looking up with Mandy was talking about, I

740
00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:31,280
Speaker 1: found something that tells you where sex toys are illegal

741
00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:35,719
Speaker 1: while traveling. Oh bitch, Singapore, Bitch, when I live Highland too.

742
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:39,160
Speaker 1: Oh you could not bring a sex toy into Singapore

743
00:38:39,600 --> 00:38:42,320
Speaker 1: and to get around watching porn, just get a VPN.

744
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:45,160
Speaker 1: But nothing sex was allowed in Singapore when I was over.

745
00:38:45,200 --> 00:38:47,800
Speaker 1: This is so sick, you know, it was tired. Bitch.

746
00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:49,400
Speaker 1: I have a VPN when I travel because I need

747
00:38:49,440 --> 00:38:53,960
Speaker 1: to watch an ivy fiance. I'm Saudi Arabia. It's considered

748
00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 1: pornographic material and it's Islamic law. It's same with the

749
00:38:56,719 --> 00:39:01,320
Speaker 1: UAE Highland. Although a thriving sex tourism and they believe

750
00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:05,640
Speaker 1: that obscene objects are sex toys. Yep, Vietnam. It'll be

751
00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:07,920
Speaker 1: taken by customs and you can get them back when

752
00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 1: you go Malaysia. I ain't gonna hold you. I need

753
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:15,080
Speaker 1: to know how many sex toys are being held up

754
00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:18,280
Speaker 1: in Tsa and the god damn lost and Found area

755
00:39:18,719 --> 00:39:20,759
Speaker 1: until I leave. You know, I did it for a

756
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:24,440
Speaker 1: fact sake episode with Eddie about a lost and found

757
00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:27,600
Speaker 1: That's crazy. One of the craziest lost in founds you

758
00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:31,359
Speaker 1: can find are at casinos. Oh, I believe it. What

759
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:33,839
Speaker 1: kind of things do you find? Because when I tell

760
00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:36,200
Speaker 1: you're gonna be like, what probably butt plugs? I would

761
00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:38,640
Speaker 1: assume the bitches is walking around with butt plugs and

762
00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:41,080
Speaker 1: when they sit down with a rich niggas is gambling. Okay,

763
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:45,200
Speaker 1: cop thinking in that world and start thinking of walking

764
00:39:45,200 --> 00:39:47,719
Speaker 1: into a casino in the daytime. What the type of

765
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:53,480
Speaker 1: people you see? White people that smoke cigarettes. They find

766
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 1: a lot of dentures, Oh girl, austin tanks, not pains,

767
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:04,680
Speaker 1: Oh wow, old people. Okay, fell phone cell phones is

768
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:07,799
Speaker 1: jerry everywhere. But when I saw dentures, they have so

769
00:40:07,920 --> 00:40:10,080
Speaker 1: many dentures. How do you lose your teeth from you

770
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:13,200
Speaker 1: put them down in a cup. That's so nasty. Girl. Well,

771
00:40:13,239 --> 00:40:14,919
Speaker 1: I wanted to get to the myth real quick before

772
00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:18,120
Speaker 1: we get into our horrible decision. So the myth that

773
00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:22,440
Speaker 1: we would like to bust here for y'all is pineapples

774
00:40:22,719 --> 00:40:27,680
Speaker 1: won't actually make your semen taste better. Sure, asparagus really

775
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:30,480
Speaker 1: can make your piece smell, but loading up on pineapple

776
00:40:30,600 --> 00:40:33,279
Speaker 1: isn't going to make your your semen tastes like a

777
00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:38,360
Speaker 1: delicious fruit salad. Casey Gurn spoke with OBGYN doctor Jennifer Gunter,

778
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:41,600
Speaker 1: who stated that eating pineapple won't really affect the taste

779
00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:44,440
Speaker 1: of semen one way or another. The best way to

780
00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:47,440
Speaker 1: actually improve your taste is by eating a balanced diet,

781
00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:52,600
Speaker 1: drinking plenty of water, and practicing good hygie. So, fellas,

782
00:40:52,760 --> 00:40:56,240
Speaker 1: if you think drinking all that goddamn fruit cocktail before

783
00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 1: we go down and suck that dig just know it

784
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:03,640
Speaker 1: does doesn't really help. I don't believe that that. I mean,

785
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:06,439
Speaker 1: it's a MythBuster, the doctor said it don't. I mean,

786
00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:11,879
Speaker 1: I've seen a trend though in like, okay, so dating

787
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:15,480
Speaker 1: a vegan nigga, But that's a balanced diet. It's overall

788
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:18,280
Speaker 1: what they're eating, so like you just downing some pineapple

789
00:41:18,360 --> 00:41:20,640
Speaker 1: juice before you have sex is not gonna make your

790
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 1: semen taste better if you don't have a balanced die.

791
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell y'all, though, what the best taste is semen.

792
00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 1: You're gonna tell us the best tastes. My first boyfriend

793
00:41:28,560 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 1: I've ever had was the worst. I was with him

794
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:33,080
Speaker 1: for a few years and we lived together. He was

795
00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:36,480
Speaker 1: on a lot of like I remember specifically creatine. It

796
00:41:36,600 --> 00:41:40,240
Speaker 1: was like, there's like this metal the protein like protein powder.

797
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:42,960
Speaker 1: Not what's a protein powder, it's something else. I think

798
00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 1: it's still like strength and muscles. But he would just

799
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:48,879
Speaker 1: take a lot of supplements of the worst. Probably helps

800
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:52,759
Speaker 1: because it's vitamin mm hmm. But okay. I actually a

801
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:58,280
Speaker 1: girl that only ate fish and no, no, not fish.

802
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:00,720
Speaker 1: She ate She was on keto when I was talking

803
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:04,040
Speaker 1: with her. Hated her smell. Okay, well that makes sense.

804
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:07,240
Speaker 1: You're eating a lot of fats, yeah, healthy fats, really bad.

805
00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:11,359
Speaker 1: Best aairy, best was vegan dairy. I don't know if

806
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:13,520
Speaker 1: I can recall. No, keto is a lot of dairy.

807
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:15,960
Speaker 1: It's a lot of dairy. It's a lot of healthy fats.

808
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:20,279
Speaker 1: And then uh, lean meats. Hold on, wait, wait, wait,

809
00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:22,000
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think there was another one that was

810
00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:28,560
Speaker 1: really bad. Oh he was a wine drinker only, and

811
00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:30,920
Speaker 1: he would have glasses and glasses of wine all the time,

812
00:42:31,640 --> 00:42:37,360
Speaker 1: and that shit was tasted acidic, plinging, terrible howl. The

813
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:40,440
Speaker 1: best have been veganstus. Now, I'm not willing to give

814
00:42:40,480 --> 00:42:44,719
Speaker 1: that up because my pussy clean. But whatever I mean,

815
00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:48,719
Speaker 1: I I just think I'm God's chosen one. I have

816
00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:53,799
Speaker 1: really good like nut tasting the niggas. It'd be good,

817
00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:57,479
Speaker 1: it'd be good. What y'all know. I get the big

818
00:42:57,560 --> 00:43:00,799
Speaker 1: dicks that last long, go long. They ain't shit, But

819
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 1: I'm God's chosen with my period and with my big

820
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:07,880
Speaker 1: dick radar like, it's really clean pussy. I had some

821
00:43:07,920 --> 00:43:12,920
Speaker 1: head a few days ago. Whoa same? Oh my, Oh

822
00:43:12,960 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 1: it was right after you said it. Yeah, literally, I

823
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:17,400
Speaker 1: literally I texted the next Dan and said, you stuck

824
00:43:17,800 --> 00:43:20,440
Speaker 1: some good pusses. I thought I was. I thought I

825
00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 1: was gonna pass out. And I remember, like specifically, at

826
00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:25,640
Speaker 1: one point it was so good that I was like

827
00:43:26,560 --> 00:43:29,080
Speaker 1: I had to look at this nigga, but I was

828
00:43:29,080 --> 00:43:31,960
Speaker 1: on the couch. She was like kneeled down on the

829
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:33,960
Speaker 1: couch under the couch like I don't know if that

830
00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:36,440
Speaker 1: nigga was eye level with my pussy or what. Bitch,

831
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:39,799
Speaker 1: that shit was good and I think his tongue was

832
00:43:39,800 --> 00:43:41,839
Speaker 1: going really fast, which I didn't think i'd be into.

833
00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:45,479
Speaker 1: But like, oh my god, and when they moan into

834
00:43:45,520 --> 00:43:49,320
Speaker 1: your pussy, Oh that's the horder. There you go. Because

835
00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 1: we talked about men moaning a lot, but like moaning

836
00:43:53,280 --> 00:43:56,839
Speaker 1: into my shit. Oh, I know it's good, and y'all

837
00:43:56,880 --> 00:43:59,000
Speaker 1: know I don't even care for it. I go on

838
00:43:59,040 --> 00:44:02,320
Speaker 1: stage and talk about how good that motherfucking it was. Oh,

839
00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:05,239
Speaker 1: I know, I see it. I thought of that was. Like, y'all,

840
00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:07,440
Speaker 1: it is summer in New York, and I think apparently

841
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:11,439
Speaker 1: from these California the Canada fires, like they're all down.

842
00:44:11,719 --> 00:44:13,279
Speaker 1: It's in my house too, and I'm like, bitch, I'm

843
00:44:13,320 --> 00:44:16,000
Speaker 1: on the sixteenth floor where serious swear to God, like

844
00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 1: I can't leave my windows open. They're everywhere. Bit ch'all

845
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:20,080
Speaker 1: feel like you're gonna nut in my own bitch, they're

846
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 1: fucking everywhere. Well, y'all, we are gonna get into our

847
00:44:26,880 --> 00:44:32,520
Speaker 1: horribled decision. And the horrible decision is being back indies greets,

848
00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 1: and I kind of just wanted an update because this

849
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:37,880
Speaker 1: is the first time in a long time that Weisy

850
00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:41,439
Speaker 1: and I are both single. But it's twenty twenty three,

851
00:44:42,120 --> 00:44:46,640
Speaker 1: we are post pandemic, we are in our thirties, and

852
00:44:46,760 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 1: so it's kind of a new lane of dating. And

853
00:44:50,680 --> 00:44:54,280
Speaker 1: I actually ran into this article from glam dot com

854
00:44:54,680 --> 00:44:57,279
Speaker 1: that said that singles are shifting the dating world in

855
00:44:57,320 --> 00:45:01,759
Speaker 1: twenty twenty three by avoiding one specific type of relationship.

856
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:07,799
Speaker 1: So the relationship that people are avoiding are situationships. A

857
00:45:07,880 --> 00:45:12,200
Speaker 1: situationship is a largely is a largely circumstantial relationship that

858
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:17,560
Speaker 1: is typically based primarily upon sex and convenience. In twenty

859
00:45:17,600 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 1: twenty three, people are now looking to date with more

860
00:45:21,800 --> 00:45:27,400
Speaker 1: intention Intentional dating entails replacing falling into situationships with anyone

861
00:45:27,680 --> 00:45:30,120
Speaker 1: who shows interest in holding out for someone whose long

862
00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:34,320
Speaker 1: term relationship goals at yours. No more settling for surface

863
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:37,680
Speaker 1: level matches who don't want a commitment and hoping that

864
00:45:37,719 --> 00:45:41,319
Speaker 1: they'll change their minds. You're worth more than that and

865
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 1: you know it, so setting your intentions for your romantic

866
00:45:44,160 --> 00:45:47,400
Speaker 1: future and not budgeting. I did want to ask you,

867
00:45:48,400 --> 00:45:52,800
Speaker 1: since we are dating, if you are dating with intention.

868
00:45:53,000 --> 00:45:54,839
Speaker 1: I know you want to be a mom, But what

869
00:45:55,600 --> 00:46:00,399
Speaker 1: how dating has changed for you from now to back

870
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:03,120
Speaker 1: when you were single three four years ago? I feel

871
00:46:03,120 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 1: like three four years ago. I mean I was with

872
00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:08,880
Speaker 1: old base, so it's like kind of no before him.

873
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:11,280
Speaker 1: Sorry I didn't want to, I didn't know the exact timeline.

874
00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:13,840
Speaker 1: But before him, you were dating. What's the difference between

875
00:46:14,000 --> 00:46:19,080
Speaker 1: before you met him? And I don't really know because

876
00:46:19,200 --> 00:46:23,440
Speaker 1: I've always like been relationship girl, But I think this

877
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:29,040
Speaker 1: time it's difficult because it's not that I'm trying. I'm

878
00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:32,000
Speaker 1: trying to find the right words, because it's true things.

879
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:34,080
Speaker 1: Like I literally said to Vinnie when we were driving back,

880
00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 1: we went to some fucking warehouse rave in LA and

881
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:38,600
Speaker 1: we had a really good time, and I was in

882
00:46:38,640 --> 00:46:41,879
Speaker 1: the car with him and my flea market babe told

883
00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:46,080
Speaker 1: us about the warehouse rave right, and he was like,

884
00:46:46,120 --> 00:46:47,440
Speaker 1: oh my, we ran into him. He was like, oh

885
00:46:47,440 --> 00:46:49,480
Speaker 1: my god, I love him, He's so great, blah blah blah.

886
00:46:49,520 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 1: And when we're driving I was like, you know, I

887
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:55,239
Speaker 1: know I'm not supposed to say it out loud, but like,

888
00:46:56,840 --> 00:47:00,960
Speaker 1: I am bored with being single. I'm really tired of it.

889
00:47:01,040 --> 00:47:02,680
Speaker 1: And I want to date. Like I know, I'm not

890
00:47:02,719 --> 00:47:05,120
Speaker 1: supposed to say it because it'll just land in my lap,

891
00:47:05,160 --> 00:47:08,120
Speaker 1: but like it's just the truth. Dating is very difficult.

892
00:47:09,320 --> 00:47:11,440
Speaker 1: It is, and I'm not trying to be bestimistic here,

893
00:47:11,480 --> 00:47:15,839
Speaker 1: but it's like, you know, it's not looks right, Like

894
00:47:16,120 --> 00:47:19,480
Speaker 1: it's a lot of ugly niggas happy. It's not anything

895
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:21,839
Speaker 1: to do with like one type of person having more

896
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 1: than the other. Like I really believe dating in my circumstance,

897
00:47:26,080 --> 00:47:28,200
Speaker 1: with how much travel I have going on and stuff

898
00:47:28,239 --> 00:47:31,920
Speaker 1: like that, is like not easy. So and it's weird

899
00:47:31,960 --> 00:47:34,200
Speaker 1: because it's like it feels like lamb life, Like yo,

900
00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:36,360
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna hold you. Living in two cities is

901
00:47:36,360 --> 00:47:38,799
Speaker 1: fucking amazing. I'm in Europe every sixty days, like shit

902
00:47:38,920 --> 00:47:41,560
Speaker 1: is lit. But at the same time, it's not lit

903
00:47:41,680 --> 00:47:45,520
Speaker 1: enough because I don't have time to make, you know,

904
00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:48,680
Speaker 1: build relationships. I was even telling Liz Goldwyn, I'm supposed

905
00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:51,319
Speaker 1: to be going to her place in London and I

906
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:53,000
Speaker 1: had something with work come up, but I was like

907
00:47:53,520 --> 00:47:56,799
Speaker 1: this part of me was almost happy I can't go,

908
00:47:57,360 --> 00:48:00,319
Speaker 1: and I've been wanting to see her for months with

909
00:48:00,360 --> 00:48:02,600
Speaker 1: her and we have these things we're gonna do and

910
00:48:02,680 --> 00:48:05,239
Speaker 1: it's all planned, and I'm like, I don't even want

911
00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:08,480
Speaker 1: to go, Like I just want to be in one place.

912
00:48:09,080 --> 00:48:11,520
Speaker 1: I think that what I'm looking for is someone that

913
00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:14,680
Speaker 1: like truly fits my lifestyle. The end of the day,

914
00:48:15,680 --> 00:48:18,040
Speaker 1: I need to make a certain amount of money. It's

915
00:48:18,080 --> 00:48:20,719
Speaker 1: requiring me to live in two places. It's requiring me

916
00:48:20,800 --> 00:48:23,160
Speaker 1: to be this busy. This is not vanity. I take

917
00:48:23,200 --> 00:48:26,600
Speaker 1: care of my parents, like moving them to LA just now.

918
00:48:26,640 --> 00:48:28,799
Speaker 1: I already see the money going up. What is my

919
00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:32,080
Speaker 1: mom like and want to do? Like she's not shopping

920
00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:34,800
Speaker 1: in Winn Dixie no more, she's that Whole Food Sprouts

921
00:48:35,040 --> 00:48:38,160
Speaker 1: Trader Joe's in LA. Like, shit's going up. And it's

922
00:48:38,160 --> 00:48:41,040
Speaker 1: not that it's stressing me out because I can afford it.

923
00:48:41,160 --> 00:48:43,680
Speaker 1: But I can only afford this because I live this lifestyle.

924
00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:47,400
Speaker 1: So it's kind of feeling like I can't keep thinking

925
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:50,360
Speaker 1: that I'll just meet this guy walking down the street.

926
00:48:50,400 --> 00:48:53,520
Speaker 1: I really have to meet someone that's kind of living

927
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:55,919
Speaker 1: the life almost like I do. Like that gets it,

928
00:48:56,400 --> 00:48:59,759
Speaker 1: because it's not easy, like meeting someone that lives in

929
00:48:59,760 --> 00:49:03,040
Speaker 1: one place that gets to lose their girlfriend for ten days. Yeah,

930
00:49:03,160 --> 00:49:05,000
Speaker 1: that's tough. Yeah, you know what I mean, it's tough

931
00:49:05,040 --> 00:49:07,120
Speaker 1: for me as a business partner to you, to alex

932
00:49:07,160 --> 00:49:10,040
Speaker 1: to employees like, it's really rough. So I think now

933
00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 1: something that I'm looking for is not even dating with

934
00:49:13,160 --> 00:49:17,760
Speaker 1: intent more than I'm looking to meet someone like minded, okay,

935
00:49:17,960 --> 00:49:23,759
Speaker 1: because the intention I've always put behind going on dates,

936
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:25,919
Speaker 1: and at the end of the day old they didn't

937
00:49:25,920 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 1: want a girlfriend, he'd been single for eight years and

938
00:49:27,600 --> 00:49:30,120
Speaker 1: ended up with me, Like, I don't really know if

939
00:49:30,880 --> 00:49:32,560
Speaker 1: if on the first date you go out there and

940
00:49:32,560 --> 00:49:35,280
Speaker 1: you're like, I'm looking for boom boom boom, boom boom,

941
00:49:35,280 --> 00:49:37,239
Speaker 1: if you go and get it out that nigga. So

942
00:49:38,840 --> 00:49:42,680
Speaker 1: I guess my approach right now is a I'm still

943
00:49:42,719 --> 00:49:47,800
Speaker 1: fucking heartbroken and working through and healing after a relationship.

944
00:49:48,239 --> 00:49:52,400
Speaker 1: But I realize that I have a bit of anxiety

945
00:49:52,719 --> 00:49:56,520
Speaker 1: in knowing that right now I'm not ready for a relationship,

946
00:49:56,560 --> 00:50:00,239
Speaker 1: but I definitely want to be back in one. I'm

947
00:50:00,280 --> 00:50:04,600
Speaker 1: having anxiety around going on a date or just entertaining someone,

948
00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:08,000
Speaker 1: not having much expectations out of them because I don't

949
00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:12,399
Speaker 1: want anything right now, and falling into where I am

950
00:50:12,440 --> 00:50:15,560
Speaker 1: showing up for this person. We're traveling we're hanging out,

951
00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:18,480
Speaker 1: we're fucking and down the line. When I'm ready for

952
00:50:18,520 --> 00:50:22,640
Speaker 1: a relationship again, they're like, well, bitch, we've been chilling.

953
00:50:22,920 --> 00:50:25,120
Speaker 1: Now you want to make it more Like with the title,

954
00:50:25,480 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 1: I know that I've fell into that in my past,

955
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:32,040
Speaker 1: where things were situationships, things were casual, and then feelings

956
00:50:32,040 --> 00:50:36,919
Speaker 1: started being involved and niggas pumped the brakes like, well, bitch,

957
00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:38,640
Speaker 1: we was cool doing what we was doing. Now you

958
00:50:38,680 --> 00:50:40,799
Speaker 1: want more? Can I be real? This is not to

959
00:50:40,800 --> 00:50:44,360
Speaker 1: make anyone feel like shit, but you've had that scenario.

960
00:50:44,400 --> 00:50:48,040
Speaker 1: I have had that scenario where they're like, what when

961
00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:50,719
Speaker 1: you're like dating someone that's meant to be like like,

962
00:50:50,760 --> 00:50:53,200
Speaker 1: it just kind of happens. Why the fuck are we

963
00:50:53,200 --> 00:50:55,239
Speaker 1: begging these niggas? Well, it's not that I'm begging you

964
00:50:55,280 --> 00:50:57,239
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Not you, no, no, no, no,

965
00:50:57,320 --> 00:50:59,920
Speaker 1: I'm saying I mean, for anyone who's been in that

966
00:51:00,040 --> 00:51:03,840
Speaker 1: type of situation, I don't think it's we're begging to

967
00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:05,120
Speaker 1: be with them. But to me, I want to be

968
00:51:05,200 --> 00:51:09,080
Speaker 1: intentional on leaving it open and letting it be known upfront.

969
00:51:09,680 --> 00:51:13,120
Speaker 1: I would like more. I really enjoyed having just one person.

970
00:51:13,520 --> 00:51:16,680
Speaker 1: I enjoyed making plans with one person like me right

971
00:51:16,719 --> 00:51:20,239
Speaker 1: now juggling four different niggas, three that ain't even here,

972
00:51:20,680 --> 00:51:23,120
Speaker 1: and still trying to meet new ones because of course

973
00:51:23,400 --> 00:51:25,760
Speaker 1: my ass loves to recycle, so they're all from my past,

974
00:51:26,080 --> 00:51:28,040
Speaker 1: and I know it's not going to be anything to

975
00:51:28,080 --> 00:51:30,760
Speaker 1: me moving forward. I want to let it be known

976
00:51:31,160 --> 00:51:33,160
Speaker 1: if I'm talking to you, and if i'm investment, I

977
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:36,040
Speaker 1: think you here to say, like what your dating aspirations are,

978
00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:38,840
Speaker 1: I would like to be with you, I will say. Also,

979
00:51:39,440 --> 00:51:43,319
Speaker 1: being in my thirties now out the gate, letting it

980
00:51:43,360 --> 00:51:46,160
Speaker 1: also be known I'm not really looking for marriage. I

981
00:51:46,200 --> 00:51:49,640
Speaker 1: don't want children. That's been an interesting conversation because I've

982
00:51:49,640 --> 00:51:53,000
Speaker 1: been on some really really really amazing dates and literally

983
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:56,000
Speaker 1: they're letting me know on the first date that the

984
00:51:56,080 --> 00:51:59,120
Speaker 1: reason maybe they're single right now is because no one's

985
00:51:59,120 --> 00:52:03,000
Speaker 1: come along that they want to build a family with.

986
00:52:03,320 --> 00:52:06,960
Speaker 1: But they're looking to find someone to you know, that

987
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:09,759
Speaker 1: could be that person. And immediately I'm just like, well,

988
00:52:09,800 --> 00:52:13,080
Speaker 1: good luck, because it won't be me. And so like

989
00:52:13,480 --> 00:52:15,879
Speaker 1: being in my thirties dating men around my age because

990
00:52:15,880 --> 00:52:19,000
Speaker 1: I ain't going fucking older again, it's being a little

991
00:52:19,040 --> 00:52:23,120
Speaker 1: difficult hearing everyone kind of want kids right now, and

992
00:52:23,160 --> 00:52:26,719
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, damn, I'm dating with intent, but am

993
00:52:26,760 --> 00:52:28,640
Speaker 1: I really a long term option for you? If I'm

994
00:52:28,640 --> 00:52:30,400
Speaker 1: telling you I don't want children and a lot of

995
00:52:30,400 --> 00:52:32,399
Speaker 1: these men don't have children yet, I'm gonna be really

996
00:52:32,400 --> 00:52:37,879
Speaker 1: with you that I forget about, but like I would

997
00:52:38,120 --> 00:52:40,240
Speaker 1: dub a nigga if they don't want kids. And see

998
00:52:40,239 --> 00:52:42,960
Speaker 1: that's where I'm just like, damn. Immediately after an amazing date,

999
00:52:43,040 --> 00:52:45,440
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, and then there's you don't want to

1000
00:52:45,520 --> 00:52:47,960
Speaker 1: change up your I don't want a kid, and there's

1001
00:52:47,960 --> 00:52:50,560
Speaker 1: a ceiling to this relationship. Now. I did want to

1002
00:52:50,560 --> 00:52:55,120
Speaker 1: ask you because over I am curious because you know,

1003
00:52:55,719 --> 00:52:57,839
Speaker 1: it's always like fucking kids, fucking kids, sucking them kids

1004
00:52:57,880 --> 00:53:01,319
Speaker 1: from your mouth with this like piekas vibe right, Like

1005
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:03,880
Speaker 1: we're joking about shit a lot, but like, where's a

1006
00:53:03,920 --> 00:53:05,799
Speaker 1: moment in your life that you may have had where

1007
00:53:05,800 --> 00:53:08,000
Speaker 1: you really sat and thought, this is my real life? No,

1008
00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:11,920
Speaker 1: I mean where you thought, like not saying that you

1009
00:53:11,920 --> 00:53:14,120
Speaker 1: would want them, but like you've maybe sat with yourself

1010
00:53:14,160 --> 00:53:17,400
Speaker 1: and said like, ooh, if I meet someone that has children,

1011
00:53:17,480 --> 00:53:19,560
Speaker 1: like what is this gonna look like for me? I

1012
00:53:19,600 --> 00:53:21,960
Speaker 1: don't mind being a bonus mom. It ain't nothing to me,

1013
00:53:22,200 --> 00:53:25,840
Speaker 1: Like they don't probably live with their mom or maybe

1014
00:53:25,840 --> 00:53:28,200
Speaker 1: all day a single dad. I've never said I don't

1015
00:53:28,200 --> 00:53:30,480
Speaker 1: mind being being a bonus mom. I actually, at this

1016
00:53:30,520 --> 00:53:33,520
Speaker 1: point would love for a man to have kids and

1017
00:53:33,600 --> 00:53:36,160
Speaker 1: don't want anymore. That's actually where I'm at, outside of

1018
00:53:36,160 --> 00:53:39,480
Speaker 1: maybe getting a vasectomy or a nigga who swimmers don't swim.

1019
00:53:39,840 --> 00:53:42,560
Speaker 1: I would love someone who has a child or two

1020
00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:45,960
Speaker 1: or even three and they're like, I don't want children anymore,

1021
00:53:46,480 --> 00:53:48,880
Speaker 1: and now we can exist. I don't mind being a

1022
00:53:48,880 --> 00:53:51,399
Speaker 1: bonus mom, but I'm very adamant there's been no part

1023
00:53:51,440 --> 00:53:55,080
Speaker 1: in my life when you think about mom or whatever,

1024
00:53:55,200 --> 00:53:58,520
Speaker 1: like what responsibilities would you be okay with or how close?

1025
00:53:58,600 --> 00:54:03,279
Speaker 1: Like what do you think you could handle? I don't know.

1026
00:54:03,840 --> 00:54:06,399
Speaker 1: I haven't been that person. I mean, I can cook.

1027
00:54:06,400 --> 00:54:08,120
Speaker 1: You want me to cook for your goddamn kids? Okay?

1028
00:54:08,520 --> 00:54:10,880
Speaker 1: Like do we are we going out to eat together?

1029
00:54:11,560 --> 00:54:14,080
Speaker 1: I don't know how to be a mom. I would

1030
00:54:14,400 --> 00:54:17,960
Speaker 1: probably be very uncomfortable and not conventional in the way

1031
00:54:18,000 --> 00:54:20,480
Speaker 1: that I speak to them, because that's me with my

1032
00:54:20,840 --> 00:54:23,279
Speaker 1: with my friend's kids. Like I'm very much like I'm

1033
00:54:23,320 --> 00:54:24,880
Speaker 1: talking to them like how their friend stop? So? How

1034
00:54:24,920 --> 00:54:27,680
Speaker 1: old are your friend's kids? High schoolers? Like, I have

1035
00:54:27,719 --> 00:54:30,080
Speaker 1: friends I have that doesn't count, Bache, I have friends

1036
00:54:30,120 --> 00:54:33,360
Speaker 1: with biggers. Think of like a five year old a

1037
00:54:33,440 --> 00:54:35,799
Speaker 1: six year old. You're talking to a seven year olds?

1038
00:54:35,800 --> 00:54:38,799
Speaker 1: Like what, I'm not talking to seven year olds? Oh?

1039
00:54:38,800 --> 00:54:40,000
Speaker 1: You said I have a friend with seven year old.

1040
00:54:40,440 --> 00:54:41,799
Speaker 1: I have a friend with, but it's a seven year

1041
00:54:41,800 --> 00:54:44,600
Speaker 1: old boy. I don't know how to what we're gonna

1042
00:54:44,600 --> 00:54:47,480
Speaker 1: talk about? Stars and momswitch. I don't know. You don't

1043
00:54:47,520 --> 00:54:51,319
Speaker 1: know how to talk to a kid. Hey, hey, little one,

1044
00:54:51,920 --> 00:54:54,520
Speaker 1: what else are we gonna talk about? I don't know.

1045
00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:56,960
Speaker 1: So I mean to be fair, that would be a

1046
00:54:57,080 --> 00:55:03,440
Speaker 1: learning curve for me, But I hey, little one, oh

1047
00:55:03,680 --> 00:55:07,759
Speaker 1: bro cartoons? Like I don't know? Bro like bit then

1048
00:55:07,800 --> 00:55:10,279
Speaker 1: I'm gonna turn on big mouth. Here's a cartoon I like.

1049
00:55:11,520 --> 00:55:13,239
Speaker 1: I don't know, Like I'll be honest. That would be

1050
00:55:13,280 --> 00:55:15,480
Speaker 1: a learning curve for me. That for the right man,

1051
00:55:15,640 --> 00:55:17,760
Speaker 1: I will let them know. I will be willing to try.

1052
00:55:18,480 --> 00:55:21,439
Speaker 1: But that's tough because you know, like like I don't

1053
00:55:21,440 --> 00:55:25,120
Speaker 1: remember watching a ninety fiance recently, and I know this

1054
00:55:25,200 --> 00:55:26,520
Speaker 1: is how I'm silly for me to bring up, but

1055
00:55:26,600 --> 00:55:27,840
Speaker 1: this just made me think about what she said. It

1056
00:55:27,880 --> 00:55:29,520
Speaker 1: hadn't been two days ago I saw it. It was

1057
00:55:29,560 --> 00:55:33,360
Speaker 1: the reunion to one of the franchises, and the guy said.

1058
00:55:34,160 --> 00:55:38,319
Speaker 1: I started to realize she didn't have motherly qualities, and

1059
00:55:38,360 --> 00:55:40,480
Speaker 1: I wondered if like this was gonna fit because she

1060
00:55:40,480 --> 00:55:43,480
Speaker 1: didn't have motherly So what's crazy is my ex? Actually,

1061
00:55:43,760 --> 00:55:47,359
Speaker 1: my ex and my friends actually think I have very

1062
00:55:47,440 --> 00:55:52,160
Speaker 1: mothering qualities. So I feed, I'm nurturing, I'm thoughtful, I

1063
00:55:52,239 --> 00:55:57,040
Speaker 1: love like, I pay attention to detail. To me, I

1064
00:55:57,080 --> 00:55:59,960
Speaker 1: pay attention to detail. Attention to detail was a mothering thing.

1065
00:56:00,000 --> 00:56:03,960
Speaker 1: I ain't God damn it. So to me, I'm very

1066
00:56:03,960 --> 00:56:06,960
Speaker 1: thoughtful in caring for the people around me, and I

1067
00:56:07,000 --> 00:56:10,080
Speaker 1: love my cat. So he's seen me with my cat.

1068
00:56:10,560 --> 00:56:13,000
Speaker 1: I tell him, bitch, go away, but come here, come

1069
00:56:13,080 --> 00:56:15,919
Speaker 1: lay with me. I feed them all time. I'm very responsible.

1070
00:56:16,480 --> 00:56:20,239
Speaker 1: Is that not mother qualities? What's mother in qualities? I

1071
00:56:20,280 --> 00:56:23,799
Speaker 1: think we I mean definitely like the thing you're talking about.

1072
00:56:23,800 --> 00:56:25,799
Speaker 1: Someone to describe me once as a mother hen because

1073
00:56:25,840 --> 00:56:27,400
Speaker 1: they were like, oh, you always want to get the

1074
00:56:27,400 --> 00:56:29,719
Speaker 1: group together and make sure you're taking care of this,

1075
00:56:29,920 --> 00:56:33,040
Speaker 1: like I think that that's probably whyaries, but like the

1076
00:56:33,080 --> 00:56:37,920
Speaker 1: softness and being able to like so I will say

1077
00:56:38,160 --> 00:56:45,160
Speaker 1: from my last relationship, I am thankful because to me,

1078
00:56:46,320 --> 00:56:51,200
Speaker 1: from my cooking to the thoughtfulness, I genuinely believe I

1079
00:56:51,320 --> 00:56:53,680
Speaker 1: was able to see how great of a partner I

1080
00:56:53,680 --> 00:56:55,799
Speaker 1: could be for somebody. I think that when we first

1081
00:56:55,800 --> 00:56:58,800
Speaker 1: started this podcast, I y'all know, I wasn't giving a

1082
00:56:58,880 --> 00:57:00,960
Speaker 1: nigga chicken wings. Nigga, you want to pussy, you better

1083
00:57:00,960 --> 00:57:03,719
Speaker 1: bring food over, your own gatorade, your own water. I

1084
00:57:03,800 --> 00:57:08,160
Speaker 1: wasn't giving you girlfriend quality or any of that. And

1085
00:57:08,239 --> 00:57:11,560
Speaker 1: to me, now I know how great I could be

1086
00:57:11,600 --> 00:57:13,759
Speaker 1: as a partner, and I was that for him. I

1087
00:57:13,840 --> 00:57:19,880
Speaker 1: was thoughtful in everything. I was able to not put

1088
00:57:19,880 --> 00:57:23,240
Speaker 1: myself first, which to me, I've been a very selfish person.

1089
00:57:23,640 --> 00:57:25,600
Speaker 1: I was able to see how much I can put

1090
00:57:25,640 --> 00:57:29,360
Speaker 1: someone before myself, which to me I literally brought up

1091
00:57:29,360 --> 00:57:33,840
Speaker 1: in therapy. I said, I realize now what my value

1092
00:57:33,880 --> 00:57:36,400
Speaker 1: is and what I'm worthy of because I now have

1093
00:57:36,640 --> 00:57:39,440
Speaker 1: become the best version of myself, especially in that relationship.

1094
00:57:39,880 --> 00:57:44,640
Speaker 1: So to me, now I'm just trying not to I'm

1095
00:57:44,640 --> 00:57:47,720
Speaker 1: trying not to resent showing up in that way and

1096
00:57:47,760 --> 00:57:50,480
Speaker 1: getting the butt end of the stick and feeling like

1097
00:57:50,520 --> 00:57:53,240
Speaker 1: I was shitting on and all of these things. Because

1098
00:57:53,280 --> 00:57:54,840
Speaker 1: I know how good I showed up for him. I

1099
00:57:54,840 --> 00:57:56,320
Speaker 1: would just like to know that I could show up

1100
00:57:56,360 --> 00:58:01,880
Speaker 1: for someone who fucking deserves broke up with him and

1101
00:58:02,160 --> 00:58:05,320
Speaker 1: stayed broken up which time the seven eight? But this

1102
00:58:05,440 --> 00:58:08,040
Speaker 1: is my this is something that's like interesting, right because

1103
00:58:09,520 --> 00:58:11,600
Speaker 1: it could sound shady, but there's a point to it.

1104
00:58:12,600 --> 00:58:15,560
Speaker 1: You said this nigga wasn't ship maybe after a third breakup, right,

1105
00:58:15,600 --> 00:58:17,800
Speaker 1: I don't know him just saying the number, and you

1106
00:58:17,840 --> 00:58:21,000
Speaker 1: took him back. Would you have even gotten here if

1107
00:58:21,000 --> 00:58:22,560
Speaker 1: you didn't take him back? You know what I mean,

1108
00:58:22,600 --> 00:58:25,560
Speaker 1: I'll be honest, just like if you've learned these things

1109
00:58:25,560 --> 00:58:27,920
Speaker 1: about yourself. It may have come with all the time

1110
00:58:28,000 --> 00:58:31,560
Speaker 1: taking which which I and I was like almost in tears,

1111
00:58:31,640 --> 00:58:33,280
Speaker 1: and you know, because of what happened when we were

1112
00:58:33,360 --> 00:58:34,640
Speaker 1: I thought we was gonna talk about it on next

1113
00:58:34,680 --> 00:58:38,720
Speaker 1: time we are we are, but which we are? But

1114
00:58:40,240 --> 00:58:46,120
Speaker 1: to me, I realized there was a part of myself

1115
00:58:46,160 --> 00:58:50,480
Speaker 1: that was lying to myself, that also believed in what

1116
00:58:50,640 --> 00:58:56,520
Speaker 1: he told me, what he manipulated. Lulu, you need to

1117
00:58:56,640 --> 00:59:00,240
Speaker 1: believe he was the best I could get right, and

1118
00:59:00,280 --> 00:59:03,040
Speaker 1: so based on my interactions with men in my twenties,

1119
00:59:05,320 --> 00:59:10,200
Speaker 1: him making me feel so good and literally while accepting

1120
00:59:10,240 --> 00:59:12,920
Speaker 1: the bare minimum, really he made me believe this was

1121
00:59:12,920 --> 00:59:15,720
Speaker 1: the best I could get, and so no other man

1122
00:59:15,840 --> 00:59:17,600
Speaker 1: was going to do what he was doing for me.

1123
00:59:18,640 --> 00:59:21,640
Speaker 1: I literally found the person who was going to make

1124
00:59:21,680 --> 00:59:24,160
Speaker 1: me happy. And if I went out and was single again,

1125
00:59:24,320 --> 00:59:26,360
Speaker 1: which is what my fear was of dating every time,

1126
00:59:26,640 --> 00:59:29,120
Speaker 1: if I went out again and started dating, I would

1127
00:59:29,200 --> 00:59:32,520
Speaker 1: never find him. So I was just I just kept

1128
00:59:32,520 --> 00:59:35,360
Speaker 1: being drawn to going back to what he made me

1129
00:59:35,400 --> 00:59:39,479
Speaker 1: believe was the best I could get. And I think

1130
00:59:39,560 --> 00:59:44,919
Speaker 1: in hindsight, I started lying to myself. I started realizing, oh,

1131
00:59:44,960 --> 00:59:49,040
Speaker 1: I'm not questioning him, I'm not really holding him accountable

1132
00:59:49,040 --> 00:59:51,120
Speaker 1: for anything in fear that he's going to leave me.

1133
00:59:51,440 --> 00:59:54,160
Speaker 1: Because now that I feel so great about myself, I

1134
00:59:54,240 --> 00:59:56,800
Speaker 1: finally have also gotten the partner that is the best

1135
00:59:56,840 --> 00:59:59,600
Speaker 1: that I'm able to get because of my past, because

1136
00:59:59,640 --> 01:00:03,840
Speaker 1: of this podcast, because of who I was. He literally

1137
01:00:03,880 --> 01:00:06,520
Speaker 1: put those thoughts into my head that no one else

1138
01:00:06,520 --> 01:00:11,000
Speaker 1: would walk me that Nigga was Jonah Hill probably probably,

1139
01:00:11,040 --> 01:00:13,560
Speaker 1: but I wouldn't be real though, like I did think

1140
01:00:13,600 --> 01:00:15,600
Speaker 1: that when people do that, it reflects for a lot

1141
01:00:15,600 --> 01:00:19,440
Speaker 1: of themselves, like and this is why we can't put

1142
01:00:19,840 --> 01:00:25,280
Speaker 1: men on a pedestal, bitch, do we You did? Oh no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

1143
01:00:25,680 --> 01:00:31,320
Speaker 1: the pedestal. No. I think I brought myself down for

1144
01:00:31,440 --> 01:00:34,120
Speaker 1: my own self value. So wasn't him being put on

1145
01:00:34,160 --> 01:00:37,200
Speaker 1: this pedestal. It was me really sitting in what he

1146
01:00:37,320 --> 01:00:39,960
Speaker 1: made me believe that I could not get any better.

1147
01:00:40,160 --> 01:00:43,560
Speaker 1: So to me it was I was I was shrinking myself. No,

1148
01:00:43,640 --> 01:00:46,000
Speaker 1: I mean when you talk about him like he's this,

1149
01:00:46,120 --> 01:00:51,520
Speaker 1: he's that, like besides cute and tall, like the things

1150
01:00:51,560 --> 01:00:55,200
Speaker 1: that we're all uncovering now about your relationship. As we

1151
01:00:55,320 --> 01:00:57,360
Speaker 1: listen and as we hear these shitty things, it's like,

1152
01:00:57,760 --> 01:01:01,600
Speaker 1: I'll be honest with you. He again, with the bare minimum,

1153
01:01:02,080 --> 01:01:05,560
Speaker 1: made me feel good. And so I think because of

1154
01:01:05,600 --> 01:01:09,160
Speaker 1: how I felt with him during our highs, I ignored

1155
01:01:09,320 --> 01:01:12,520
Speaker 1: how low I felt and how how much my tears hurt,

1156
01:01:12,640 --> 01:01:15,880
Speaker 1: and how bad I felt during the lows. To me,

1157
01:01:15,920 --> 01:01:18,680
Speaker 1: I just kept chasing those highs. And let's be let's

1158
01:01:18,680 --> 01:01:22,760
Speaker 1: be clear. On the podcast, I talked about a lot

1159
01:01:22,840 --> 01:01:26,120
Speaker 1: the lack of intimacy that I received my situationships. I

1160
01:01:26,240 --> 01:01:28,320
Speaker 1: barely kissed the niggas I fucked. I didn't get the

1161
01:01:28,360 --> 01:01:31,000
Speaker 1: cuddle time or the sessions. I didn't get the affection

1162
01:01:31,240 --> 01:01:34,920
Speaker 1: that I realized really made me feel so good. And

1163
01:01:35,000 --> 01:01:38,160
Speaker 1: so it was literally affection that had me on this high.

1164
01:01:38,200 --> 01:01:42,720
Speaker 1: And I'm just like, to me, I told you is

1165
01:01:42,760 --> 01:01:45,640
Speaker 1: a drug. I hate it being and when you can't

1166
01:01:45,680 --> 01:01:47,840
Speaker 1: stop chasing that high. It was a high that I

1167
01:01:47,880 --> 01:01:51,560
Speaker 1: was chasing. It literally was I know, the feeling a high.

1168
01:01:51,640 --> 01:01:56,320
Speaker 1: It's crazy because the love that I felt in my lifetime,

1169
01:01:56,440 --> 01:02:00,280
Speaker 1: I like, oof. I think about it with Hospit Little

1170
01:02:00,280 --> 01:02:03,960
Speaker 1: Dick a lot, mainly because I'm like, oh my god,

1171
01:02:04,120 --> 01:02:06,960
Speaker 1: Like I let that go because of XYZ, because I

1172
01:02:07,000 --> 01:02:08,320
Speaker 1: let my brain get in and say, well I need

1173
01:02:08,360 --> 01:02:09,520
Speaker 1: to have this, I need to do this, I need

1174
01:02:09,560 --> 01:02:13,120
Speaker 1: to do this, And it makes me wonder like do

1175
01:02:13,200 --> 01:02:16,400
Speaker 1: you get that again? Do you just keep chasing it forever?

1176
01:02:16,880 --> 01:02:20,080
Speaker 1: Am I projecting that onto other people? Or like, I

1177
01:02:20,120 --> 01:02:23,600
Speaker 1: don't know, but it's tough because there really isn't anything

1178
01:02:23,600 --> 01:02:26,520
Speaker 1: that can duplicate it. Like love to me sounds like

1179
01:02:26,520 --> 01:02:29,520
Speaker 1: this thing. I heard a crackheads say once, I'm not

1180
01:02:29,560 --> 01:02:32,040
Speaker 1: even playing it. They were like the reason that you

1181
01:02:32,080 --> 01:02:35,000
Speaker 1: get so deep into crack or whatever drug is because

1182
01:02:35,120 --> 01:02:38,760
Speaker 1: nothing is as good as the first high. Well, and

1183
01:02:39,160 --> 01:02:42,440
Speaker 1: y'all know, this was my first time telling a man

1184
01:02:42,480 --> 01:02:45,320
Speaker 1: I loved him. This was my first real relationship, and

1185
01:02:45,400 --> 01:02:47,560
Speaker 1: so a part of me even continuing to go back

1186
01:02:48,320 --> 01:02:52,480
Speaker 1: was what I've seen in relationships. It's people fight, they

1187
01:02:52,520 --> 01:02:55,120
Speaker 1: break up, they get back together. So I was going

1188
01:02:55,160 --> 01:02:59,440
Speaker 1: off of what I believed a relationship is. Relationships aren't easy.

1189
01:02:59,800 --> 01:03:02,680
Speaker 1: You have to work at it. No one's gonna be perfect.

1190
01:03:02,960 --> 01:03:05,600
Speaker 1: So a part of me just kept thinking, Okay, if

1191
01:03:05,600 --> 01:03:08,080
Speaker 1: I do this, if I switched this, if I communicate this,

1192
01:03:08,480 --> 01:03:12,080
Speaker 1: it'll get better, without really knowing that or without the

1193
01:03:12,600 --> 01:03:16,000
Speaker 1: mindset that Mandy, there's maybe nothing that you can do

1194
01:03:16,480 --> 01:03:18,960
Speaker 1: to really make him show up. There. We have to

1195
01:03:19,040 --> 01:03:22,560
Speaker 1: dump these niggas bro oh and did like and did?

1196
01:03:22,680 --> 01:03:24,640
Speaker 1: We have to dump them when we say it, and

1197
01:03:24,680 --> 01:03:27,800
Speaker 1: if we don't stick by that, this is when they

1198
01:03:27,800 --> 01:03:30,240
Speaker 1: do it again. And there again. There's an again that

1199
01:03:30,520 --> 01:03:35,040
Speaker 1: I'm thirteen, that went around about a dude. It was

1200
01:03:35,040 --> 01:03:37,160
Speaker 1: a famous nigga, I don't know who was, They're not

1201
01:03:37,200 --> 01:03:38,760
Speaker 1: that famous, but he was like talking to this girl.

1202
01:03:38,840 --> 01:03:40,680
Speaker 1: He was like oh if I cheat know you you

1203
01:03:40,680 --> 01:03:43,640
Speaker 1: ain't leaving? Did you see that? Oh? Yeah, yeah, yeah?

1204
01:03:43,680 --> 01:03:48,200
Speaker 1: Who was Keisha's ye boyfriend? She was like, what do

1205
01:03:48,240 --> 01:03:50,360
Speaker 1: you mean? I live? And he even he meant it

1206
01:03:50,600 --> 01:03:53,680
Speaker 1: and she meant it and she laughed like she's not leaving. No,

1207
01:03:54,400 --> 01:03:56,520
Speaker 1: that shit hurt me watching it. No, I'm not gonna

1208
01:03:56,520 --> 01:03:58,360
Speaker 1: lie because it was. And he came back and doubled

1209
01:03:58,360 --> 01:04:00,480
Speaker 1: down like he wasn't a cheater. Bitch. Everything about that

1210
01:04:00,720 --> 01:04:04,600
Speaker 1: was you be out your cheek nowhere, And to me,

1211
01:04:04,680 --> 01:04:09,120
Speaker 1: I think that that's where I think maybe my ex

1212
01:04:09,520 --> 01:04:13,120
Speaker 1: thought that same thing of me, bitch, you gonna bitch,

1213
01:04:13,160 --> 01:04:15,800
Speaker 1: but you go at thirteen, you gonna come crawling back anyway.

1214
01:04:15,920 --> 01:04:20,240
Speaker 1: But now no mo, But y'all, thirteen cities left? Actually

1215
01:04:20,240 --> 01:04:23,520
Speaker 1: there are There are actually thirteen cities last see and

1216
01:04:23,680 --> 01:04:27,400
Speaker 1: real quick, if you're looking at the calendar, it says twelve.

1217
01:04:27,840 --> 01:04:29,760
Speaker 1: But we're adding a show, you guys. We may have

1218
01:04:29,840 --> 01:04:31,760
Speaker 1: announced it by now, but we are looking at a

1219
01:04:31,800 --> 01:04:35,120
Speaker 1: show and just know it's gonna require a passport stamp.

1220
01:04:35,880 --> 01:04:39,640
Speaker 1: But you know it's like we've been there. Yeah, we'll

1221
01:04:39,720 --> 01:04:42,280
Speaker 1: update y'all on that. But again, if you are looking

1222
01:04:42,360 --> 01:04:46,280
Speaker 1: to see us live. Baby, We are on the Climax Tour,

1223
01:04:46,720 --> 01:04:50,120
Speaker 1: which will be your last time to see us on

1224
01:04:50,360 --> 01:04:55,280
Speaker 1: a tour. Okay, now on YouTube, but on a tour,

1225
01:04:55,840 --> 01:04:57,240
Speaker 1: this is gonna be the last time. So make sure

1226
01:04:57,320 --> 01:05:01,360
Speaker 1: y'all go over to Poorhive dot com, y'all. The next

1227
01:05:01,400 --> 01:05:05,080
Speaker 1: places we are hitting is the West Coast and it's

1228
01:05:05,160 --> 01:05:10,439
Speaker 1: given not only California Love, but Phoenix love and Seattle Love.

1229
01:05:10,760 --> 01:05:14,000
Speaker 1: So y'all, we are hitting Seattle September seventh at the

1230
01:05:14,040 --> 01:05:19,800
Speaker 1: Neptune Theater, September ninth, San Francisco at Beambos, September fourteenth,

1231
01:05:19,800 --> 01:05:22,280
Speaker 1: we are in LA at the Palace Theater, and then

1232
01:05:22,320 --> 01:05:25,360
Speaker 1: September fifteenth, we are in Phoenix, Arizona, and it starts

1233
01:05:25,920 --> 01:05:27,800
Speaker 1: all the niggas I fucked with to the LA Show?

1234
01:05:27,880 --> 01:05:31,120
Speaker 1: Are you really? Yes? Really? Why not? You're gonna bring

1235
01:05:31,200 --> 01:05:34,560
Speaker 1: them on stage? No? Oh no no. So if you

1236
01:05:34,600 --> 01:05:38,000
Speaker 1: guys want to bully show dreads and the motherfucker audience

1237
01:05:38,000 --> 01:05:41,320
Speaker 1: of LA they hers, Oh no, Lambo's coming to Atlanta.

1238
01:05:41,560 --> 01:05:44,439
Speaker 1: Oh oh, you were writing all your little hoes. Look

1239
01:05:44,520 --> 01:05:45,920
Speaker 1: you want to eat me so bad? That was me

1240
01:05:46,000 --> 01:05:49,560
Speaker 1: last turn? Why think Lambo, baby Mama? He was like, oh,

1241
01:05:50,000 --> 01:05:51,720
Speaker 1: when you're gonna meet in Atlanta? I heard you was coming.

1242
01:05:51,760 --> 01:05:54,280
Speaker 1: I was like, remember she listened to the show. I

1243
01:05:54,320 --> 01:05:57,000
Speaker 1: was like, are you kidding me? Like, are you like?

1244
01:05:57,080 --> 01:05:58,760
Speaker 1: I haven't talked to him for so long? He was like,

1245
01:05:58,840 --> 01:06:00,400
Speaker 1: I'm coming, and I'm like it's I'm like, no, if

1246
01:06:00,400 --> 01:06:02,479
Speaker 1: I'm gonna some shit, I don't know, nigga, you lie

1247
01:06:02,840 --> 01:06:05,920
Speaker 1: because Atlanta is definitely in October. Whatever, bitch. What I

1248
01:06:06,000 --> 01:06:10,120
Speaker 1: know is if that nigga comes, I feel like maybe

1249
01:06:10,160 --> 01:06:11,360
Speaker 1: he'll come up and do a couple of game. Bitch,

1250
01:06:11,400 --> 01:06:14,320
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say, skirt skirt shout out to the Lambeau drivers.

1251
01:06:14,760 --> 01:06:16,800
Speaker 1: I think bitches are gonna know who he is. Oh, probably,

1252
01:06:16,840 --> 01:06:20,680
Speaker 1: I think he's one of those. Well, y'all, make sure

1253
01:06:20,720 --> 01:06:25,440
Speaker 1: you also subscribe and support us on our patreon that

1254
01:06:25,600 --> 01:06:29,920
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