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Speaker 1: She is not who she appears to be. Dear Stephen Shirley,
Speaker 1: I'm forty four and I'm engaged to a forty six
Speaker 1: year old black female. The moment I saw her, I
Speaker 1: said she was going to be my wife. She played
Speaker 1: hard to get and that made me want her more
Speaker 1: so I waited months.
Speaker 3: To go out with her, and almost a year before
Speaker 3: we had sex. To be honest, I was.
Speaker 1: So crazy about this woman that she could have had
Speaker 1: three teeth and I would have bought her all new
Speaker 1: ones just to be with her. But there are some
Speaker 1: things that I can't overlook. We moved in together a
Speaker 1: month ago after we dated for two years. I moved
Speaker 1: into her house because I was living in my brother's
Speaker 1: rental property. The first week, there was an envelope tape
Speaker 1: to the front door. I placed it on the kitchen island,
Speaker 1: and when she got home, she tore the envelope up
Speaker 1: without opening it. Maybe I should have asked her about
Speaker 1: the envelope that day, because two weeks later, another one
Speaker 1: was taped to the front door. It was official looking,
Speaker 1: so I opened the envelope and placed the letter on
Speaker 1: the kitchen counter. It was a foreclosure notice. She was
Speaker 1: very upset that I opened her mail, but she said,
Speaker 1: since I know what's up now, how are we going to.
Speaker 3: Handle the foreclosure?
Speaker 1: I said we I told her that I just moved in,
Speaker 1: so how is this a wee problem? We had our
Speaker 1: first argument, and to stop the fighting, I said we
Speaker 1: could work something out. I have no intention of forking
Speaker 1: over thirteen thousand dollars to this woman. We are engaged,
Speaker 1: so she should have told me about her house and
Speaker 1: her other financial problems. I just found out that her
Speaker 1: car is two payments behind and she has credit card debt.
Speaker 1: She is not who she appears to be. How can
Speaker 1: a woman this fine and sweet be so careless? I
Speaker 1: really love this woman. Should I marry her and take
Speaker 1: on her outstanding debt? Wow, that's your question? Okay, sorry,
Speaker 1: I gotta tell you this. You don't sound like much
Speaker 1: of a man to me at all. Are you really
Speaker 1: going to let this woman that you claim you love
Speaker 1: so much that you would marry her if she only
Speaker 1: had three teeth in her mouth? Are you going to
Speaker 1: let her lose her house? So what if you just
Speaker 1: moved in? I bet you are enjoying this home, because
Speaker 1: remember you lived in your brother's rental property before you
Speaker 1: moved in. And she's right, it is a wee problem
Speaker 1: now because why didn't you ask her about these things
Speaker 1: before you moved into the house? Assumed and don't you
Speaker 1: know that everyone is not an open book. You assumed
Speaker 1: that everything was cool with her once you're proposed. These
Speaker 1: are the type of things you guys should be talking about.
Speaker 1: You should be talking about money and financing and kids
Speaker 1: and schools and sex and social media, all of these things. Yes,
Speaker 1: she should have told you. Yes, she is that fault
Speaker 1: for not telling you that, but it was your responsibility
Speaker 1: to get to know her. It's been two years.
Speaker 3: I'm sure the.
Speaker 1: Foreclosure would have come up at some point during those
Speaker 1: two years. I just don't think how you think that
Speaker 1: you have no obligation to help her. I mean, she's
Speaker 1: your fiance now, she doesn't handle money. Well, okay, we
Speaker 1: get that, but you guys are engaged, which makes you
Speaker 1: a team.
Speaker 3: You guys got to work together.
Speaker 1: Now you can both sit down have an honest talk
Speaker 1: about your finances. If you don't feel you can do that,
Speaker 1: or if this is too much for you and you
Speaker 1: don't think you can handle it, let her know before
Speaker 1: the wedding, because the way things are going now, you
Speaker 1: guys won't be married if you decide to take that step.
Speaker 4: Steve, Oh, she is not who she appears to be.
Speaker 4: You're engaged to a forty six year old lady. The
Speaker 4: moment you saw you said she was gonna be her wife,
Speaker 4: and she played hard to get. It was months before
Speaker 4: you went out with in, a year before y'all had sex,
Speaker 4: And to be honest, it's what you say now. I
Speaker 4: was so crazy about this woman. She could have had
Speaker 4: three teeth and I would have bought her all new
Speaker 4: just to be But you know you say now, he says,
Speaker 4: in his own words, there's some things he can't overlook.
Speaker 4: All y'all moved in together a month ago, after y'all.
Speaker 2: Dated for two years.
Speaker 4: You moved into a house because you was living in
Speaker 4: your brother's rental. The first week, that was an envelope
Speaker 4: taped to the front door. You put it on the
Speaker 4: kitchen island. She got home, she told the envelope up
Speaker 4: without opening it. Maybe I should have asked her about
Speaker 4: the envelope that day, because two weeks later, another one.
Speaker 2: Was taped to the front door.
Speaker 4: It was a fish you're looking, So I opened up
Speaker 4: the envelope and placed the letter on the kitchen counter.
Speaker 4: It was a foreclothesre You noticed. She's very upset that
Speaker 4: I opened her mail. But now she said, since I
Speaker 4: know what's up, how are we going to handle the foreclosure?
Speaker 4: I said, we now, let's stop right here. You're engaged
Speaker 4: to this woman. You moved into her house and you
Speaker 4: left the rental property. You was user at your brothers.
Speaker 4: You moved into her house. You've asked her to marry you.
Speaker 4: She accepted. You said she's so fine you to marry that.
Speaker 4: She had three teeth. You'd have bought us some new ones.
Speaker 4: I don't know how much you think teeth costs, but
Speaker 4: we up around at thirteen thousand dollars MAF somewhere like that.
Speaker 4: I know you get you get a head full of
Speaker 4: my faith. And so she said, how we gonna handle this?
Speaker 4: I said we, I told it, I just moved in.
Speaker 4: So how is it a WE situation? Well, let me just.
Speaker 2: Tell y'all something.
Speaker 4: Y'all two don't need to be married, because I'm gonna
Speaker 4: just tell you right now, when you get.
Speaker 2: Married, everything is a WE situation everything.
Speaker 4: So if you don't want a WE situation, then you
Speaker 4: you shouldn't get married. I don't you never said if
Speaker 4: you all had been married before y'all forty four and
Speaker 4: forty six. I don't know if y'll have ever been
Speaker 4: married before. But if you get married, everything becomes a
Speaker 4: WE situation now, bru. It's just real simple. If you
Speaker 4: don't want no WE situation, don't get married.
Speaker 3: I'll be done, all right, Thank you.
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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is she is
Speaker 1: not who she appears to be.
Speaker 4: Okay, you met this fine woman. She's forty six, you
Speaker 4: forty four. She was so fine man, but she was
Speaker 4: playing hard to get. So y'all dated for y'all talked
Speaker 4: for months before you even took it out, almost a
Speaker 4: year before you had sex. But you say, this woman
Speaker 4: so fine. You just she if she had three teeth
Speaker 4: in her head, you'd have bought some newt just to
Speaker 4: be with her. That's how you say. And so then
Speaker 4: a few a year later you moved in with her
Speaker 4: from your brother's rental property.
Speaker 2: You moved in and so.
Speaker 4: Y'all had been living in the house for over a month,
Speaker 4: and you came home one day and an envelope was
Speaker 4: on the door, So you took the envelope put it
Speaker 4: on the counter. She came home, picked the envelope up,
Speaker 4: and tore it up without looking at it. You said,
Speaker 4: then you should have asked her what it was. Two
Speaker 4: weeks later, another envelope on the door. It looked official.
Speaker 4: This time you opened it. It was a foreclosure, so
Speaker 4: you set it on the counter. She came home. She
Speaker 4: got mad because you opened up her mail. And then
Speaker 4: she said, well, now that you know what's up, how
Speaker 4: we gonna handle this foreclosing? I said we? I told
Speaker 4: her I just moved in. So how is this a
Speaker 4: we situation? Well, you asked her to marry you, and
Speaker 4: when you get married. I'm just gonna tell you everything
Speaker 4: is a wee situation when you get married. Now, she
Speaker 4: didn't tell you that. I think that's a conversation y'all
Speaker 4: should have had. But y'all jumped to the guns. It
Speaker 4: felt good, looked good, is good? All this here you rubbing, sliding, spooning,
Speaker 4: and all this is taking shots together, eating, making me,
Speaker 4: watching movies and everything. Well, now you find out that
Speaker 4: the place that you're doing all this in they finish,
Speaker 4: come take you.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 4: She don't know how to handle this problem either. Obviously
Speaker 4: she's not good with money for some reason. And she said,
Speaker 4: how are we gonna handle it? Now you're talking about
Speaker 4: how we gonna handle it? And now that started an argument.
Speaker 4: And to stop the fighting, and listened to this part.
Speaker 4: To stop the fighting, I said, we could work something out.
Speaker 4: I have no intention of porking over thirteen K.
Speaker 2: To this woman. Okay, Brud, then were done?
Speaker 4: Then were done? If that's your decision. If you have
Speaker 4: no intention of parking over thirteen K to this woman,
Speaker 4: then we're done. Then you said, so we are engaged.
Speaker 4: So she should have told me about her house and
Speaker 4: her other financial problems. I just found out that the
Speaker 4: car is too many payments behind, and she has credit
Speaker 4: card debt.
Speaker 2: She is not who she appears to be. Who did
Speaker 2: you think she was?
Speaker 4: You thought cause she was fine, she had everything else together.
Speaker 4: It's something wrong with everybody credit card that a lot
Speaker 4: of people got credit card debt. You ain't got none.
Speaker 4: No how you caught it? Four years old, living in
Speaker 4: your brother's runner property. What's going on with you? Something
Speaker 4: going on with you? You may not be all you
Speaker 4: have presented either. Now, how can a woman this fine
Speaker 4: is sweet be so careless?
Speaker 2: I really love this woman?
Speaker 4: Should I marry her and take on her outstanding debt? Well, brother,
Speaker 4: listen to me. I'm just gonna put this one back
Speaker 4: on you. Should you marry this woman and take on
Speaker 4: her outstanding debt? It's thirteen thousand dollars for the house,
Speaker 4: it's some credit card debt, and it's the cards to
Speaker 4: payments behind. Now, you just said something in this letter
Speaker 4: that you waited to the end to say. How can
Speaker 4: a woman this fine and sweet be so careless? It's
Speaker 4: a lot of fine, sweet people that don't know how
Speaker 4: to manage money. It's a lot of fine and sweet
Speaker 4: people that get a little careless with other things. But
Speaker 4: obviously she's been good to you, and she's been good
Speaker 4: for you. Now you found out that there's a couple
Speaker 4: of things wrong. Now you want a bounce, that's your choice. Bro,
Speaker 4: you get to leave now. If you're not the man
Speaker 4: for this job, then don't take the child. That's all
Speaker 4: because according to you, this thirteen thousand there's two months
Speaker 4: back on this payment in credit card that this seems
Speaker 4: to be monumental to you. So maybe you're not the
Speaker 4: man for the child, then just let it go. But
Speaker 4: I want to tell you this, though, you're gonna have
Speaker 4: to find somebody else just as fine and just as
Speaker 4: sweet that's got it all together. So what you're looking
Speaker 4: for is a person who perfect man, I'm gonna tell
Speaker 4: you right now, ain't nothing. Ain't no perfect man, ain't
Speaker 4: no perfect woman. So now, if she's really a good
Speaker 4: girl and she needs some help, maybe y'all can put
Speaker 4: y'all two things together. Because guess what, brother, you ain't
Speaker 4: got no rent no more because you're living in her house,
Speaker 4: so you ain't paid no rent. Why don't you take
Speaker 4: that rent money and y'all, y'all first of all, get
Speaker 4: this foreclosure. Y'all get some money so y'all can keep
Speaker 4: living in this house because you because you're doing all
Speaker 4: the little stuff with her in the.
Speaker 5: House now, taking shower together, sliding up on the club, spooning, spooning, fucking,
Speaker 5: doing a little knifing, doing some cutlery, you know, spash
Speaker 5: for spanking, win of and mint oodie popping.
Speaker 2: You're doing all that. Yeah, you know you that come
Speaker 2: with the price off.
Speaker 4: It ain't gonna be free, so bruh, I mean me
Speaker 4: if I was you. You know, sometimes, man, you gotta
Speaker 4: be willing to climb down in a fox hole with
Speaker 4: a person to fight your way out and see what
Speaker 4: y'all got. Y'all might have something good, but if you
Speaker 4: want everything to be perfect, you're not gonna have a me. Personally,
Speaker 4: I would climb down in that foxhole and start fighting
Speaker 4: with that girl. That's really sweet and a kind person.
Speaker 4: Probably work through it. That's what I would do. But
Speaker 4: don't sound like you're up for the job. So gone
Speaker 4: quit well like you do everything else, and go find
Speaker 4: somebody else that they ain't gonna won't you?
Speaker 2: Go ahead?
Speaker 3: All right, Steve, thank you.
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