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Speaker 1: another episode. If you guys have not tuned into us before,
Speaker 1: this is the show where you can kind of listen
Speaker 1: to us talk about how shit. Um, we talk about kinks,
Speaker 1: we talk about things that may make me feel uncomfortable.
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Speaker 1: your girl, Mandy B. And I'm sitting next to Wheezy
Speaker 1: High and of course we are, you know. Well, not
Speaker 1: only that, all that just when we were sitting here
Speaker 1: with a guest in the studio this week, and I'm
Speaker 1: so excited. Um, hey girl, you ain't gotta be um
Speaker 1: soft spoken. You're gonna make us sound like like some
Speaker 1: loud mouth. You able to tell people how to be
Speaker 1: a home and maybe that's the way to go though.
Speaker 1: I just want to tell you guys, how we found
Speaker 1: our guest Emaney. So my friend dub as well as
Speaker 1: we got her on the show. She was episode taking seventeen.
Speaker 1: She was the unicorn and um, she hit me up
Speaker 1: a few weeks ago and was like, bitch, I have
Speaker 1: been talking to my whole coach. She's literally about there,
Speaker 1: but she's telling me how to get money from newsningers.
Speaker 1: I'm like what and so like I kind of thought
Speaker 1: it was a joke and then she was just like,
Speaker 1: you don't understand actually wanted I wrote a quote Dubson.
Speaker 1: She told me today she understands men way more than
Speaker 1: any other woman I've ever met in my life. And
Speaker 1: I was like, well, how do I find a bit?
Speaker 1: So we have a money today? Um, this episode is
Speaker 1: all about know when you're worth. I want her to
Speaker 1: kind of talk about what she instills in women confidence, um,
Speaker 1: the things that she does, and then I pretend really
Speaker 1: want to talk about confidence in relationship to the asease story.
Speaker 1: Um yeah, so um yeah. And another thing I spoke
Speaker 1: to dub as well, because I was just like, what
Speaker 1: is the whole code you're paying this girl? Like what's
Speaker 1: she doing for you? And she like had nothing but
Speaker 1: good words to say and was like, listen, she revamped
Speaker 1: my dating sites and you listened to the last episode
Speaker 1: we talked about online dating and she just had nothing
Speaker 1: but good words to say, so, which I'm hoping you
Speaker 1: could say something to let our listen good. Um, And
Speaker 1: so I guess how we wanted. Normally, what we do
Speaker 1: is we start off with an ice breaker. However, today
Speaker 1: we're not going to do a game because it's something
Speaker 1: that we kind of had some strong emotions about. And
Speaker 1: you said you've read the story as well. We want
Speaker 1: to kind of get into the season Sorry story. Now,
Speaker 1: by the time this episode drops, it'll probably be like
Speaker 1: two weeks old news, but hopefully it's given all of
Speaker 1: our listeners enough time to read the story and come
Speaker 1: up with their own opinion on it. I also want
Speaker 1: to read a segment of Lisa's opinion, which is very
Speaker 1: different from most of our from most of ours. So,
Speaker 1: Lisa Splitten was a former guest of ours. She was
Speaker 1: a Finn doom and radical as fuck um and and
Speaker 1: the one that I sounded off about. We're gonna We're
Speaker 1: actually gonna start with what Lisa said or are you
Speaker 1: going to start with her? Um? Let's talk and then
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna try to give as much of
Speaker 1: a brief reefcap of this story as I can. So
Speaker 1: on a website that nobody's ever sucking heard of, baby
Speaker 1: baby dot com, a girl went on a date with
Speaker 1: his zis on Sorry Um. Basically, they met at the
Speaker 1: Golden Globes party. She's how twenty three years old. She's
Speaker 1: in Brooklyn. She lives in New York. Um. She took
Speaker 1: pictures with him at the party. He asked for a number.
Speaker 1: They went on a date. UM. She met at his apartment.
Speaker 1: First they had a glass of wine, then they went
Speaker 1: to dinner, and then she said she felt kind of
Speaker 1: rushed to leave the dinner and then went back to
Speaker 1: his place. Um. She talked about how UM, it started
Speaker 1: off with her complimenting his countertops and then he's like
Speaker 1: put her on it, and they started making out and
Speaker 1: it got really intense. Um. Apparently he undressed her and
Speaker 1: then himself. He gave her oral sex. She gave him
Speaker 1: oral sex. Um. She talks about a lot of not engaging,
Speaker 1: saying that she gave a lot of non verbal clues
Speaker 1: UM as to not wanting to have sex with him,
Speaker 1: which I think makes sense. She said there was at
Speaker 1: one point she didn't kill him back or even move
Speaker 1: her mouth. She talks about how he was stuffing his
Speaker 1: fingers in her throat in a V shape I guess,
Speaker 1: and them trying to put him in her pussy. UM,
Speaker 1: I guess. Basically feeling forced. Um. By the time he
Speaker 1: tried to put a condom on, I'm still scrolling through it.
Speaker 1: She then basically said no, something about like, let's do
Speaker 1: this on our second day. I don't think she said no,
Speaker 1: excuse me, was like, maybe we should do this on
Speaker 1: her second day, and he said, how about haw it
Speaker 1: right now? And we wanted to for another another glass
Speaker 1: of wine, and said, well does this make a second day? Um?
Speaker 1: I am trying to figure out how she got to
Speaker 1: the bathroom because that part is very important. So they
Speaker 1: were still on the on the countertop and he moved
Speaker 1: to the bedroom. He asked her where she wanted him
Speaker 1: to fuck her? Oh, and she was still seen it
Speaker 1: on the countertop. She says she found the question tough
Speaker 1: to answer because she didn't want to suck him at all.
Speaker 1: I wasn't since she says, this isn't court taition marks,
Speaker 1: I wasn't really even thinking of that. I didn't want
Speaker 1: to be engaged with that with him, but he kept asking,
Speaker 1: so I said next time, and he goes, oh, you
Speaker 1: mean a second day. Um. He then poured me a
Speaker 1: glass of handed to me as the second day, and
Speaker 1: she excused herself to hand it to go to the bathroom.
Speaker 1: She spent five minutes in the bathroom, collecting herself in
Speaker 1: the mirror, splashing herself with worle went back to him.
Speaker 1: He asked if she was okay, and she said, I
Speaker 1: don't want to feel forced, because then I'll hate you,
Speaker 1: and i'd rather not hate you. He said, oh, of course,
Speaker 1: it's only fun if we're both having fun. Then he said,
Speaker 1: let's chill on the couch. By the time they chilled
Speaker 1: on the couch, her remark about not wanting to feel
Speaker 1: forest had added a verbal component to the cues she
Speaker 1: was trying to give him nonverbally. When she sat down,
Speaker 1: um she thought he might rub her back or play
Speaker 1: with her hair, and said he instructed her to turn around.
Speaker 1: He sat back and pointed his penis, pointed to his
Speaker 1: penis emotion for me to go down on him, and
Speaker 1: I did. I think. I just felt really pressured. It
Speaker 1: was the most unexpected thing I thought would happen, because
Speaker 1: at that moment I had already told him I was uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: All right, you ain't gonna read the whole guy. Damn
Speaker 1: no, no no, Let me skip back to her when it stopped,
Speaker 1: because I'm just like people don't read it by now. No,
Speaker 1: I don't think a lot of people have a lot
Speaker 1: of people are just judging cliff notes after and this
Speaker 1: part is important. Halfway into the encounter, um he led
Speaker 1: her to the couch to a different part of the apartment.
Speaker 1: He said he had to show her something. He went
Speaker 1: in front of a large mirror, bent her over again
Speaker 1: and said, where do you want me to fuck you?
Speaker 1: Rammed his penis against her ass while he said it.
Speaker 1: She said, I remember looking in the mirror because his
Speaker 1: mirror seeing him behind me very much caught up in
Speaker 1: the moment, I was not, and finally I stood up.
Speaker 1: I said, no, I don't think I'm ready to do this.
Speaker 1: I really don't think I'm going to do this, And
Speaker 1: he said, how about we just chill with our clothes on.
Speaker 1: That's when they stopped. They got dressed, quote unquote, chilled
Speaker 1: on the couch, but basically he kissed her. She was uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: He called her an uber. Yeah, they sat and watched
Speaker 1: fucking Seinfield. So we wanted to bring this up because
Speaker 1: me and um Wheezy had a conversation off air, and please,
Speaker 1: we're gonna love to hear your input on this as well.
Speaker 1: And so when me and Weezy first had this conversation,
Speaker 1: she's like, well, I get where she's coming from, but
Speaker 1: I still think, you know, there was a way she
Speaker 1: could have said something. And my response was, which I
Speaker 1: don't think she should have went to the apartment. And
Speaker 1: this is where we disagreed, because yeah, this is this
Speaker 1: is where we definitely want to man input in this.
Speaker 1: So our disagreement I felt like to me as a
Speaker 1: grown as adult, I don't I don't invite men over
Speaker 1: just to chill, especially we're not going in the bedroom.
Speaker 1: If I don't feel like I'm in the mood to
Speaker 1: have sex, I mostly won't have a man over because
Speaker 1: a lot of time, wait, let me feel it, because
Speaker 1: a lot of times it's kind of implied you're coming over,
Speaker 1: especially depending the time of night that it is. You
Speaker 1: don't have to know if you're gonna have sex with someone.
Speaker 1: You don't have to know, because sometimes the vibe can
Speaker 1: be good. And I like that she has the right
Speaker 1: to change her mind if I completely know that I
Speaker 1: don't want to have sex with you tonight, which she
Speaker 1: made it very clear she knew she didn't want to
Speaker 1: have sex with him. Maybe the second date. I feel like,
Speaker 1: when did she make it? How does she when did
Speaker 1: she know? She said? I mean she said she said
Speaker 1: it once he started doing that, we don't know so
Speaker 1: to me, so I want to ask you, if you're
Speaker 1: on a date, you asked for a nightcap. To me,
Speaker 1: a nightcap means well, he didn't ask for that. Wait, wait,
Speaker 1: let's okay, well not a night He didn't use those words,
Speaker 1: but just saying come back to my place, let's chill.
Speaker 1: What does that mean from a man? Are you trying
Speaker 1: to thank you? But do you think that if a
Speaker 1: girl comes over that instant? Do you think it always
Speaker 1: has to mean that? Have you never like? Do you
Speaker 1: think it? So? I feel it's implied if you said
Speaker 1: if you say you want to come back to my place, yes,
Speaker 1: and went out to dinner so that they can be
Speaker 1: over at dinner, I'm gonna be really agree with you.
Speaker 1: Lover boy, who was the only person I've been sucking
Speaker 1: since we started the show. You keep saying it that's
Speaker 1: not true, But is it not? Because she didn't say
Speaker 1: that a couple of times. It's the first five episodes
Speaker 1: you had five different people and then you met Loverboy.
Speaker 1: I did you know. I mean it sounds good though, Okay, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I kind of forgotten about him, Okay, okay, my first
Speaker 1: date with him went so great. My second day, sorry,
Speaker 1: and we were making out. It's like three am. I
Speaker 1: was drunk. I didn't really want to go back to
Speaker 1: my place. I still wanted to have fun and smoke.
Speaker 1: And I said to him outside his apartment, like, you
Speaker 1: know what, I think I should leave because I just
Speaker 1: I'm really not ready, and he's like, honestly, I really
Speaker 1: want to kick it with you right now. You can
Speaker 1: go if you want to, but like, I want to
Speaker 1: keep hanging with you. And we made out and we
Speaker 1: like kind of touched a little bit, but we didn't
Speaker 1: have sex, and I wasn't pressured to have sex. And
Speaker 1: I feel like you can still hang with someone after
Speaker 1: a date if you want to. I don't want to
Speaker 1: keep sitting in a bar with you. Bro, Like, did
Speaker 1: he try to have sex with you? No? He did not.
Speaker 1: I said it when before I got upstairs. Let's see,
Speaker 1: before you got upstairs, that's maybe. Yeah, there you go.
Speaker 1: You made it clear. She probably did not, because I've
Speaker 1: also not made it clear and still just chilled it.
Speaker 1: And but but I'll make it so right. She no, right, right, right, right,
Speaker 1: But hold on, let's stop for a second. We're talking
Speaker 1: about women before her man's house, and I feel like
Speaker 1: this is very important. Do you think when a woman
Speaker 1: goes upstairs with a man that it always has to
Speaker 1: be expected? Always, not always, but for the majority. And
Speaker 1: I'll be completely honest with you. I met Lawyer Bay
Speaker 1: at a barbecue in Harlem and we were walked up nutcrackers, nigga, summertime, Hello, nigga,
Speaker 1: what you think? So we were super feeling each other
Speaker 1: and we were talking about coming back to my place
Speaker 1: after and we had such a good time. I literally
Speaker 1: told him, listen, I really like you and I'd like
Speaker 1: to go on a date with you, and if you
Speaker 1: come back to my house, we're probably gonna fun because
Speaker 1: I just know if I'm inviting you over my house,
Speaker 1: we've been drinking, we've been vibing all day, it's gonna happen.
Speaker 1: And if you don't want to funk somebody, don't allow
Speaker 1: them into your space. I feel like, especially in certain circumstances,
Speaker 1: and I feel like after a date you've been drinking,
Speaker 1: I agree. I'm like, I'm here with you like I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't really go to due's houses unless I know
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna be honest. There has been moments
Speaker 1: in my life where like I'm hanging out with someone
Speaker 1: and I don't want it to stop, and I feel
Speaker 1: like it's thank you, and I feel like they can.
Speaker 1: I'm really fucked up, guys, And that's why there's two
Speaker 1: things of water the video, Um, thank you, Chris. And
Speaker 1: I think that it's okay for women to still want
Speaker 1: to hang out and not feel pressured into sex. It's fine,
Speaker 1: and it sucks because it's something that I've done often.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you don't want to kiss in the street, bro.
Speaker 1: Well not only that. So there's been times I genuinely
Speaker 1: just want male company because I'm a Netflix watcher and
Speaker 1: I just like to cuddle, and so I have to
Speaker 1: go through a huge like listen, I don't want to
Speaker 1: funk tonight. If you want to fun, don't come over.
Speaker 1: If you want head, don't come over, like I genuine
Speaker 1: but I have to lay those guys. It's like, goddamn
Speaker 1: shame we do. It is but I think and as niggas,
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna lie. Some niggas be trying to front.
Speaker 1: That's not all I wanted from you. What you mean
Speaker 1: and this is this is a problem with what happened
Speaker 1: to this girl. I'm gonna tell you right now, and
Speaker 1: I'm the one to fault for it too. I've told
Speaker 1: niggas like I'm not gonna suck you when I come
Speaker 1: over there, and I and I knew I was lying, right, okay,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. I'd be like, why and
Speaker 1: have you had a female do that? Been? Like? Now
Speaker 1: you know we're not gonna fuck, And then they come
Speaker 1: over and we're all guilty. Yeah, but then we think
Speaker 1: we just have l g Oh she was but they
Speaker 1: called him, but I do I do want to say,
Speaker 1: um him her not moving her mouth for a kiss
Speaker 1: and things like that, I honestly thought should have been
Speaker 1: enough for him. My whole role. We went to eat together.
Speaker 1: Name's Maya. She was sitting in front of me and
Speaker 1: she says, no, my nigga, Like, I've played that bullshit too,
Speaker 1: and I wanted some day to be like because maybe
Speaker 1: all me and I'd be like and this is why
Speaker 1: that actual no was really necessary. Now, this is why
Speaker 1: I want to talk about it with you. And money
Speaker 1: because I felt like a confidence issue is why this
Speaker 1: girl didn't say no. I have been this girl. Like,
Speaker 1: to be honest with you, this couldn't happen to me today,
Speaker 1: but I've definitely slept what didn't want to because I
Speaker 1: was with a celebrity or an athlete and I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, this guy is high, and like I
Speaker 1: really want him to like not kick me out, or
Speaker 1: you know, just like the young dumb mind thinking like
Speaker 1: what do you think women have to know? Or like
Speaker 1: how is it easier to get out of those situations?
Speaker 1: What could have been done for her? Honestly you already Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think more women need weapons in their bags. Then
Speaker 1: I tell all the ladies that I work with this,
Speaker 1: you guys need to have visible weapons, and I tell
Speaker 1: them you need to pull them out by accident, on
Speaker 1: a on a date. If it gets, if it gets exactly,
Speaker 1: if it gets, if it gets a little bit weird,
Speaker 1: because it's because you get weird. You're saying that because
Speaker 1: people are saying the reason this girl didn't say no,
Speaker 1: which is one of least the things, is because he
Speaker 1: could have got violent. That's why you're saying that. I
Speaker 1: work with a lot of girls I see. For me,
Speaker 1: I'm a bigger woman, so a lot of men, they're
Speaker 1: not gonna really test me like that. And I know that,
Speaker 1: but I work with I work. I'm telling you because
Speaker 1: I already know. I already know when I sit my
Speaker 1: ass down, they know ain't too much pushing you're gonna
Speaker 1: do to get me down, So they're not going to
Speaker 1: try that. But we're sitting there, there's her face is
Speaker 1: weeked off, but she's a tiny little things exactly, and
Speaker 1: a lot of I feel like, this happens, and this
Speaker 1: kid is more, Uh, this happens. This can happen with
Speaker 1: smaller girls. So I always let them know, you gotta
Speaker 1: take something on these on these dates, I don't care
Speaker 1: what it is. And I think that a lot of
Speaker 1: us underestimate that. I think you have to dying out here.
Speaker 1: I also think that it's very important to let our
Speaker 1: listeners know if they're in this position. I get them
Speaker 1: possibly being scared of physical violence um occurring or an
Speaker 1: actual rape, But to me, I feel like it's important
Speaker 1: for women to know that they have the power to
Speaker 1: if you're uncomfortable, bitch lead um. There's a lot of
Speaker 1: times that a lot of times that even if I'm
Speaker 1: on a date and it's not going well. You know
Speaker 1: what I do. I pay my portion of the motherfucking bill.
Speaker 1: So to me, if you're at a Nickel's house and
Speaker 1: you feel I'm not saying that on the countertop, I
Speaker 1: can see her being confused. Once she got to that bathroom,
Speaker 1: that was time to go right and at that point
Speaker 1: be like, listen, I see what that was your shape?
Speaker 1: And all she had to say was listen, I see, Um,
Speaker 1: we're not on the same page, and I'd love to
Speaker 1: see you again, but this isn't what I want tonight,
Speaker 1: and bitch, grab your bag and leave. And I listened
Speaker 1: to It's funny. I listened to Andrew Schultz a lot.
Speaker 1: He's been talking about it all week, and he's like
Speaker 1: that bitch probably didn't have no heater on at her
Speaker 1: house or something, that we just wanted to be in
Speaker 1: a nice house. I mean, it was funny, But um,
Speaker 1: I want to say this one thing. I had an
Speaker 1: experience like this with um, a popular R and B
Speaker 1: singer to this day, and I met him, and I
Speaker 1: gotta say the name. I'm gonna beleef it. But bitch,
Speaker 1: I want to know. I want to tell you what
Speaker 1: is it. I'm gonna write down have him no so embarrassed,
Speaker 1: No way, I almost sucked him, but I had pink
Speaker 1: I okay, really yeah, it's so crazy because I hung out.
Speaker 1: It's someone that I mentioned that was the first first day.
Speaker 1: But see, I guess both of us. That's even just
Speaker 1: us saying we've had different experiences with guys because I've
Speaker 1: been around him many times that I've never gotten that
Speaker 1: by firm. He wasn't forceful like that, but he gave
Speaker 1: me this Like I was only twenty I live in Miami.
Speaker 1: Maybe I was twenty one. I don't remember. But anyway,
Speaker 1: long story short, Um, I was out there and came um,
Speaker 1: and so I went back to his room and like
Speaker 1: I remember feeling like he left with me. He was like,
Speaker 1: do you want to keep kicking with me or something
Speaker 1: like that, and I remember feeling like I left with him.
Speaker 1: So I had to do something with him, like he
Speaker 1: chose me. And but this is a young like I
Speaker 1: see this person on TV. I'm like in this fucking
Speaker 1: and I remember crying the next day too, So we
Speaker 1: went back to the hotel room. It was he was
Speaker 1: in the Fountain Blue and I remember being there. He
Speaker 1: ordered food and I was like, oh my god, like
Speaker 1: I'm going to have to do this. And it was
Speaker 1: nothing that I might have looked uncomfortable, but I was
Speaker 1: there and he may have not have known how uncomfortable
Speaker 1: I was, But in my mind I remember going down
Speaker 1: on him and like in my almost shaking and feeling
Speaker 1: like I wanted to leave. We never had sex. I
Speaker 1: couldn't finish, and like I remember crying the next day
Speaker 1: and I felt disgusting and I felt terrible, But I
Speaker 1: never in one second thought that was sexual Sadly, I
Speaker 1: don't we all camera. I can't even mouth she So
Speaker 1: this is what I wanted to ask you, Um, that
Speaker 1: is not sexual assault? Yeah, I don't, And that's what
Speaker 1: I wanted to say, even that young and not knowing,
Speaker 1: I feel like sexual assault is a little too popular,
Speaker 1: and she pulled that card. His celebrity made me go
Speaker 1: too far. If that was a regular cute nigga, I
Speaker 1: probably wouldn't have done that, and I could even understand that,
Speaker 1: Like that's why I was upset with myself. I knew
Speaker 1: why I did it. That man did nothing wrong. Maybe
Speaker 1: he could have stopped me sooner because I was on
Speaker 1: the other bed there was like a double bed. He
Speaker 1: might have he could have took the clues, but like
Speaker 1: I was there, and I also sucked his dick. And
Speaker 1: when I was reading it, I felt terrible for this
Speaker 1: girl's sexual assault. And I'm just playing, honestly finished and
Speaker 1: the girls funny too, and maybe like these are the
Speaker 1: biggest celebrities she's ever seen and whatever, and you're in
Speaker 1: this fucking dopest Rebecca apartment. I get it, But we
Speaker 1: need to start teaching girls how to fucking feel good
Speaker 1: enough about themselves that somebody will see them again. That
Speaker 1: you don't need to suck his dick tonight. She even
Speaker 1: texted her the next day. Look at that you didn't
Speaker 1: suck him? What was going through your head that you
Speaker 1: didn't think to leave? She did leave? No, like initially
Speaker 1: because you didn't want to do anything. I was honestly
Speaker 1: as embarrassing as it is. I mean, this is seven
Speaker 1: years ago, so I'm comfortable enough to say it. I
Speaker 1: think I was just so excited and overwhelmed, and I
Speaker 1: felt chosen, like this guy is so huge, and like, honestly,
Speaker 1: it's a feeling I can't explain. You're feeling like you can.
Speaker 1: I've never had slept with someone like that in my life,
Speaker 1: and I was just really overwhelmed and I felt special
Speaker 1: that I was there, and I felt like, Okay, if
Speaker 1: I'm here, I have to It was very strange. He
Speaker 1: wasn't rough with me, he wasn't rude. He was kind
Speaker 1: of like all right, Like it wasn't like, you know,
Speaker 1: sweet or kissing or anything, but it was very like,
Speaker 1: I brought this girl upstairs, you know what to do, right,
Speaker 1: And it kind of made me feel like obligated. I mean,
Speaker 1: I've learned along the years. Um, there's been times I
Speaker 1: went over um somebody's house and it was four am
Speaker 1: and I didn't want to funk. I was on my
Speaker 1: period and he was just like, so why he came
Speaker 1: over here to where he didn't ask me to you know,
Speaker 1: use my mouth. And it's just like I didn't want
Speaker 1: to do none of that. And so as a female,
Speaker 1: to me now being twenty seven years old, I think
Speaker 1: that there are certain situations that women should just eliminate
Speaker 1: themselves from being a part of. And so I wanted
Speaker 1: to ask you this, but I want to well, I
Speaker 1: wanted to ask you three different things. Um, if a
Speaker 1: woman does these things, does a man expect sex? So
Speaker 1: the first one, of course, was going to date, going
Speaker 1: on a date, going up to your house after a date, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: coming to your house after what certain hour means sex,
Speaker 1: say after ten o'clock to me, that's what it is,
Speaker 1: o'clock after ten o'clock. Yes. And the third one being
Speaker 1: flown out. Oh, so that's so, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So those three flown out, I feel like you shouldn't
Speaker 1: put yourself in a space. I mean, I've gotten flown
Speaker 1: out and haven't had to have sex. It was a
Speaker 1: friend of mine, of guy it right, So that's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So for our for for a female, I
Speaker 1: like you want another room? Yes, saying so for for
Speaker 1: females who are putting themselves in situations where they don't
Speaker 1: want to engage in sex. I think it's important that women,
Speaker 1: because it's okay to be to make a decision later.
Speaker 1: But don't hop on a flight if you don't want
Speaker 1: to suck the nigga, don't go to his house after
Speaker 1: a date if you don't want to the nigga, and
Speaker 1: don't be trying to ask him or have him come over.
Speaker 1: You go over to him after ten pm. But I
Speaker 1: just do want to say we all don't know. Maybe
Speaker 1: she thought she was going to and maybe he was
Speaker 1: like the putting in the fingers in the mouth, like
Speaker 1: that ship is hot, but not if you're not into it.
Speaker 1: Not if you're not into it, and honestly undressing her.
Speaker 1: She said within two minutes her clothes were off. That
Speaker 1: ship would have made me want to not suck nicket too.
Speaker 1: So maybe she did. You have the choice to decide,
Speaker 1: you don't. I don't care if I'm naked. I don't care.
Speaker 1: A lot of people aren't gonna agree. Like, I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. I don't have a Could you put the
Speaker 1: condom on in my chain of my mind? I said, no,
Speaker 1: oh bitch. I had a guy get all the way
Speaker 1: naked and I was super into him and his dick
Speaker 1: was small, and then I was just like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I don't think we should be doing this. What I'm
Speaker 1: serious because I just knew it. I wasn't gonna feel ship.
Speaker 1: I just the record. Hold on the third question. You
Speaker 1: asked me, no women ever have to have sex? How
Speaker 1: you don't want to happen because you said I you
Speaker 1: have to. But but it's implied to the thousand degree. Okay,
Speaker 1: yeah you should like, I mean, I agree. So it's
Speaker 1: crazy because a lot of our listeners have been asking
Speaker 1: us to talk about the me Too movement and it's
Speaker 1: something that me and Wheezy Um. Apparently we were told
Speaker 1: quote unquote that we missed the mark in um and
Speaker 1: discussing it. Um. I read it in all, screenshot you
Speaker 1: and show you the message the Twitter. It was a Tweetum.
Speaker 1: We were told me that. Um. It's also something to
Speaker 1: where me and Wheezy both have just different idea is
Speaker 1: and we do come off as feminists. We are here
Speaker 1: about women empowerment, but even something like this where we
Speaker 1: don't all the way agree with the woman, it was
Speaker 1: just like, are we gonna be attacked because we don't
Speaker 1: believe this? There was also we were just on the
Speaker 1: Premium Pete Show and if you guys looked, there was
Speaker 1: one of these letters also written by a member of Dream.
Speaker 1: She wrote about um Nick Carter from the Backstreet Boys,
Speaker 1: pretty much the same exact as these and sorry story
Speaker 1: where she felt like, oh my god, he's Nick Carter.
Speaker 1: I I have to do this and it's just like
Speaker 1: so I think even if you ladies are dealing with
Speaker 1: these men of power. There ain't no different than these
Speaker 1: regularly luk story. If I'm working with you and I
Speaker 1: walk into your jerking off, that's too fucking much, Harvey Weinstein,
Speaker 1: too much. I'm so mad because I love House of Cars.
Speaker 1: But Kevin Spacey, the ship he pulled, it's wrong. It's
Speaker 1: motherfucking wrong. But now we have these blurred lines going
Speaker 1: on where it's just like, and this is I don't
Speaker 1: want to business, not to victim blame. This is just
Speaker 1: because I know she felt that way. She didn't. I
Speaker 1: don't think I don't think this girl wanted anything. Bitch
Speaker 1: called the cops. Why are you writing a story if
Speaker 1: you were sexually salts did go to the cops and
Speaker 1: file a report. I don't think her writing to a
Speaker 1: whole news article to me that just didn't say that
Speaker 1: you were really assaulted. I felt like she. I don't
Speaker 1: think this girl wanted anything from me. I think that
Speaker 1: was the way for her to feel better about what
Speaker 1: happened to her. Well, it's trash because it affects someone's
Speaker 1: life when when you're tying, when you're tying it to
Speaker 1: sexual assault, and we've seen people lose their fucking careers
Speaker 1: and and all of that over this stuff. So to me,
Speaker 1: that specific incident, you felt like it was okay that
Speaker 1: she went over to the apartment. I don't think she
Speaker 1: should have, but I think that there's a lot of
Speaker 1: things that she might have wanted to have sex and
Speaker 1: then maybe he was trashed, and so when you didn't
Speaker 1: want to have I have been like your uber outside.
Speaker 1: We can't fun tonight, but thank you for coming over.
Speaker 1: Like there's ways to just eliminate yourself from being in situations.
Speaker 1: So it's just like, to me, you're a whole ass
Speaker 1: human being and you're not fucking like you have feet,
Speaker 1: you have legs walking the funk out Now. I want
Speaker 1: real quick to talk about this. I want y'all both
Speaker 1: to tell me what you think about what Lisa said. So, um,
Speaker 1: let's check this out. So and bullshit. I didn't like
Speaker 1: it at Lisa. I love you, and I know you
Speaker 1: said he's not block people that you that didn't release
Speaker 1: me because honestly, this is why I funk with Lisa,
Speaker 1: because I followed her after Umhugh have to die and
Speaker 1: she was like, y'all, niggas is wild and he was
Speaker 1: doing this some super woke ship. So if y'all have
Speaker 1: been feeling the wokeness of the podcast, here we go
Speaker 1: with the woke segment. All right, here we go, ho tips.
Speaker 1: I've been quiet about this season, Sorry bullshit, because I've
Speaker 1: been carefully listening watching you defend a man you've never met. Here,
Speaker 1: what excuses you come up with? See the strategies you'll
Speaker 1: try to prove what happened was nothing. I hope you
Speaker 1: know survivors and fems are watching, because unfortunately, this is
Speaker 1: constant behavior. I cannot count how many times I've been
Speaker 1: coerced and guilted into performing sexual acts I never wanted
Speaker 1: to do. I cannot tell you how many times I
Speaker 1: was rushed and pushed, But it was more than enough
Speaker 1: time for me to believe that I was existing to please.
Speaker 1: I was conditioned to believe that my desire with my
Speaker 1: body and my needs boundaries never mattered. And sadly I'm
Speaker 1: not the only one. What he did is called coercion.
Speaker 1: It's despicable, traumatic, wrong, and so many of you do it.
Speaker 1: Coercion is stripping someone of their agency through guilt tripping, nagging,
Speaker 1: and entitlement. That is a fact, and it is not okay.
Speaker 1: Sex is about communication and consent, but you'll totally miss
Speaker 1: that because you've been conditioned to see what fems that
Speaker 1: fems are receptibles, not people. I'm high when you when
Speaker 1: you describe your best sexual encounters, you describe it as
Speaker 1: what the female let you do, how far she let
Speaker 1: you go, and what she let you do to her.
Speaker 1: You never hear about what she liked and her desires
Speaker 1: and how you made her feel. Because it's meant to
Speaker 1: boost your ego, it also boils down to you seeing
Speaker 1: us at all as objects. All of this I agree
Speaker 1: with so far. What does these did is rape culture.
Speaker 1: It is violent, it is disgusting. Y'all are running to
Speaker 1: defend him because you think of the times you've pulled
Speaker 1: your hand to someone's repeatedly wind for head, push for penetration,
Speaker 1: lie to create a foulk comfort, only to push again
Speaker 1: until they break down and give in. It's not hard
Speaker 1: to ask your partner what they like, how they want it,
Speaker 1: and what they want to do. That's where you want
Speaker 1: me to suck. You did that and she didn't reply.
Speaker 1: That's why communication always leads to a better time. If
Speaker 1: you can't take a few seconds to ask these questions,
Speaker 1: then you should not be fucking Consent isn't just about
Speaker 1: saying yes, It's about creating a safe enough environment to
Speaker 1: say no, Okay, Um, yeah, I think she just wanted
Speaker 1: to be on her hotep? What do you think of money? Um?
Speaker 1: You know, I don't think I think it was. I
Speaker 1: really I agree with you. I think it was the
Speaker 1: whole celebrity thing. And I think it took her a
Speaker 1: while to snap out of it, like to be like, look,
Speaker 1: I don't want this, you know. I really think that's
Speaker 1: just what it was. That's why I went on for
Speaker 1: so long, because yeah, I think she I think I
Speaker 1: think she was just like really caught up by the
Speaker 1: whole situation. Said and then she paid her pussy. She
Speaker 1: gottam no, I both you just said that what and
Speaker 1: then said, oh, but she was over there. Niggas can
Speaker 1: eat your pussy and you don't have to suck them.
Speaker 1: I mean but no, no, I mean you're right. No,
Speaker 1: you're right, but a lot of niggas. You can change
Speaker 1: your mind, right, but I have changed my mind. But
Speaker 1: I have put it in my pussy. I can change
Speaker 1: my mind. It's my right. It's okay, But i'd be
Speaker 1: having nigga's come over and say I just want to
Speaker 1: eat your pussy, and I'd be like, Okay, they say
Speaker 1: they just want to eat your pussy because they know
Speaker 1: they got the fun. No match, I mean, like you said,
Speaker 1: you just want to eat especially if they did get small.
Speaker 1: The niggas know they take the risk, but most likely
Speaker 1: and be like, all I put it in, she did it.
Speaker 1: I don't know. To me, Lisa's Plusson's read talking about
Speaker 1: violent and coercion, he pointed at his dick and said,
Speaker 1: suck my dick, or he just pointed at his dick.
Speaker 1: I don't even think he said. I don't think it was.
Speaker 1: I think that doesn't make a lot of people's experiences.
Speaker 1: But I will tell you I am sorry. He should
Speaker 1: have known that girls uncomfortable like and you know what,
Speaker 1: he took advantage of his celebrity. I'm not saying just
Speaker 1: how it was, just like, however did we didn't want
Speaker 1: about it? How is he supposed to know she's uncomfortable
Speaker 1: when bitch, you do the same thing. You'll go to
Speaker 1: a nigga's house and say I don't feel like I
Speaker 1: don't know if the girl is sitting there telling you
Speaker 1: maybe not tonight, maybe not right now, and she's like
Speaker 1: tightening up. Come on, do you want to a girl
Speaker 1: like that? I'm just so funny. I've said that to
Speaker 1: a nigger and it's just to make my pussy one out.
Speaker 1: I just feel like it was just too much moving around.
Speaker 1: If she wanted, she would have opened. You're a different
Speaker 1: type ofho. Can we talk to the average person there?
Speaker 1: Don't move your lads bad because they don't pay for us.
Speaker 1: We got no spot because I'm excited about this one. Okay,
Speaker 1: we got kick of the Um. Have you listened to
Speaker 1: one of our shows yet? Money? Yes? Which one I
Speaker 1: listened to? The last when we play people on a
Speaker 1: blast because people be like, yeah, I listened to it,
Speaker 1: and he could be like, which one? No? No, I
Speaker 1: mean I'm still listening. Yeah, I know the last one
Speaker 1: I listened to the last one with Yoming that was
Speaker 1: a little rain Man. All right, This one, I feel
Speaker 1: like it is some creep shit. This is called fetishism.
Speaker 1: It's a very plain word, and it's an arousal to
Speaker 1: objects that have been in physical contact with the desired person.
Speaker 1: You want to fuck? What so I've masked like a
Speaker 1: lot of voice boxers on, and I wonder if that's
Speaker 1: it or like dumpster diving for like celebrities when people like, yes,
Speaker 1: that's weird as fun, But I mean, it's not that crazy,
Speaker 1: isn't it. I'm trying to right now. Had the shirt on,
Speaker 1: I might be like, you're gonna I'm a stand bro.
Speaker 1: That's gonna make your pussy to taco about. Like, there's
Speaker 1: a lot of things I would do to get close
Speaker 1: to Beyonce if she had a smelly pair of panties
Speaker 1: and I had to be fibay, I might smell from
Speaker 1: I'm not telling you how much I would pay for them,
Speaker 1: but yes, I just want to know where he pussy
Speaker 1: smell like dog, because I bet you, even when it's
Speaker 1: at as mustiest, is still like lavender. It's just like
Speaker 1: expired lavender. Trash bro. Tr do not know at all?
Speaker 1: K to corner store. Actually you masturbated or like touch
Speaker 1: yourself with something that someone had that you wanted to fuck. No,
Speaker 1: I really don't do that. That's some WPS panties that
Speaker 1: white people. Wait, what that is the thing? What did
Speaker 1: you just say doing in socks? People always like masturbate
Speaker 1: inside of shoes. I wish you would masturbate them some
Speaker 1: of my motherfucking heels. Oh wait, you let the internet?
Speaker 1: Oh yes, yes, I did have an ex who took
Speaker 1: my who liked my shoes, and he would exx with
Speaker 1: my shoes and my clothes and he would do that.
Speaker 1: So I do know what we gotta limit that is,
Speaker 1: Steve Man, I don't know how to go income. You're
Speaker 1: not doing that with my red bottoms. I'm like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, look the first thing to pop up. I
Speaker 1: secretly borrow shoes from my lady friends and masturbate into them.
Speaker 1: People tender frowned down upon this when they see you
Speaker 1: lick the inside of their shoes. Wait wait, they lick
Speaker 1: their own cops. What okay? You know he like, I
Speaker 1: don't like. I don't, but you have jerked off inside
Speaker 1: of shoe. Okay, that's not weird at all. What kind
Speaker 1: of shoe was it? What kind of shoe? Okay, that's
Speaker 1: not too expensive? Can we hear him? Can we hear him? No? No,
Speaker 1: we we gotta get Can we get you on the
Speaker 1: mic real quick? Oh? Hey, hey, Dallas pan, we I
Speaker 1: met you at the Hi. Wait we got to get
Speaker 1: that on the mic, though, Come on, because we really
Speaker 1: need to get this crocodile Caviclin ship with this. Did
Speaker 1: you come in? Okay, so we have someone in the
Speaker 1: room who has all right, I'm talking about a pair
Speaker 1: of fire ask black Label Calvin Klin. Does it matter
Speaker 1: if they're like fire or like I mean, they just
Speaker 1: just the design was obviously thought of where you turned
Speaker 1: off by her wearing them first and then you wanted
Speaker 1: to masturbate an them. Well, I gotta be honest with you.
Speaker 1: No one had put the shoe on yet, but I
Speaker 1: imagine the person wearing the shoe, whoa how fire they
Speaker 1: would be. They were just gonna be so fucking incredible.
Speaker 1: And did you buy this? Well? Actually I was. I
Speaker 1: was working at Marshall's at the time, and I'm in
Speaker 1: the back. I wasn't. I mean, yeah, I was younger.
Speaker 1: Marshalls didn't get in my car. I was. I was.
Speaker 1: I was in my thirties now, I was. I was
Speaker 1: just in the backstock room and I was like, Yo,
Speaker 1: the person that's gonna wear this shoe was gonna be
Speaker 1: so fucking fire, She's gonna be beautiful, and she's gonna
Speaker 1: let me fuck because I made her laugh and ship,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, like her calfs are so crazy, and
Speaker 1: I just I gave it up. Aside aside from the shoes,
Speaker 1: you would say you're a man with a foot fetish,
Speaker 1: I would say that I like nice shoes. I would
Speaker 1: say that I like nice shoes. I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: considered that so much a foot fetish. But but but I
Speaker 1: love the architecture of just a really nice heel and
Speaker 1: what it does to the person wearing it, the confidence
Speaker 1: that it gives them, the tautness that it gives their
Speaker 1: because he's just so, the way that it makes I mean,
Speaker 1: a superhelo makes you walk a certain way. And I
Speaker 1: love And this all goes through your mind, does you
Speaker 1: kidding me? You kidding me? The older you get, you
Speaker 1: start processing all this. You see somebody in heels, you
Speaker 1: can be like, oh, they just got those heels. They
Speaker 1: don't even know how to walk on yet. They don't
Speaker 1: know how walking yet. Y'all can tell when we're just
Speaker 1: breaking in a shoe right right now, right now, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you when the last
Speaker 1: time you got your eyebrows threaded? Microblade? Thank you? Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to come and inspect that when he
Speaker 1: went on the premium show and he said that he
Speaker 1: sucked a mother and a daughter. This is better than that.
Speaker 1: Hold over a second. The god is in the detail.
Speaker 1: Else that's crazy. Do you buy shoes for women? Like?
Speaker 1: Are you do you currently have a wife? I am
Speaker 1: married actually And and the crazy thing, the true story
Speaker 1: is that my wife, um, her feet are actually two
Speaker 1: different sizes. So she has to go to Norshroom because
Speaker 1: northrom Norshroom is the only department store that will let
Speaker 1: you buy like you know, it's not like a half
Speaker 1: size off. There's more than a whole size difference between Yeah,
Speaker 1: so Norsham will let you actually have one shoe and
Speaker 1: one size one shoe another size. But she's the one
Speaker 1: who kind of got me out of She kind of
Speaker 1: show what my story was my issue was, which was
Speaker 1: what was your issue? We are not an issue? I
Speaker 1: want to go ahead. And I had a small collection
Speaker 1: of heels um and she bought just a jerk off
Speaker 1: in bro Is this real? This is real? This is
Speaker 1: some real ship I had. She came to my apartment,
Speaker 1: man and she got to just see all the ship
Speaker 1: that I collect and ship that I had fucking hoarded
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. And I had, like I had
Speaker 1: baby clothes with matching adult clothes. Like I had adult
Speaker 1: Polo Bear sweater, four of them with the matching baby sweater.
Speaker 1: Why for when I had a child that we could
Speaker 1: twin up? Oh, I thought this was still get sexual.
Speaker 1: I was starting to freak out, all right, But no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: no no no. And I had and I had, I
Speaker 1: had a collection of Again, I worked at Marshals and
Speaker 1: and every now and then they would get in these
Speaker 1: incredible designer uh like these cow and con joints in
Speaker 1: the house. Yes, she was like, yo, whose shoes are these? Like?
Speaker 1: Whose shoes are you at? They're too small to fit
Speaker 1: your We did, guys, we did not playing this. These
Speaker 1: are just they were the first thing she was concerned about.
Speaker 1: The real talk. Was like she was like, Yo, can
Speaker 1: these shoes fit you? And I was like no. She
Speaker 1: thought you were cross. She thought I might be you know,
Speaker 1: I might have might have that in my steee. But
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, that's too far. No, But
Speaker 1: I just I love the architecture, I love the design
Speaker 1: of them. I'm just imagining. And this is what I
Speaker 1: told him myself I said, I just imagine the person
Speaker 1: that's gonna put these on, how they're gonna have to
Speaker 1: walk in them, the confidence that they're gonna have because
Speaker 1: people are gonna be looking at them. People are gonna
Speaker 1: be like, oh my god. This come stem from this
Speaker 1: is something else. No, it stems from me just loving
Speaker 1: being attracted to a confident woman. And it doesn't have
Speaker 1: to be the heel she has on. She could have
Speaker 1: on skippies. But she could again have her eyebrows micro blazard.
Speaker 1: But whatever, whatever that she got, whatever that she done,
Speaker 1: you could build a bit if you wanted to. First
Speaker 1: of all, first of all, all these all these robot chicks,
Speaker 1: that's from my brain. Sex dolls, they're from Dallas, pen guys,
Speaker 1: that's from That's from my brain totally, all right. And
Speaker 1: and and the reason why we have anyse sex dollars
Speaker 1: now anyway is because sex dollars they haven't been programmedyet
Speaker 1: to say me too, shit, Yeah, we're going to go
Speaker 1: into our horrible decision with our guests for the week
Speaker 1: apologizing I don't know what that was awesome, Like, I
Speaker 1: never knew. You also say, like when you hear fetishes,
Speaker 1: like the first thing someone's like, oh my god, this
Speaker 1: is so weird. And then when you kind of describe
Speaker 1: it almost normalized, it's where we're like, yeah, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: it makes sense. Right. You carry at first and it's
Speaker 1: very jarring, and then it's like, no, it's about the confidence,
Speaker 1: and it's when it's naughty to do it, and like
Speaker 1: it's we're not judging, yeah, although we kind of are,
Speaker 1: but now I'm just like, uh no. But we talked
Speaker 1: about kinks all the time. She was super judging. We
Speaker 1: we had toe fucking as a kink. I don't know
Speaker 1: if that's something you've ever done. I feel like that's
Speaker 1: going down your house now, But you have you put
Speaker 1: your toe up your wife's any or I don't. I
Speaker 1: don't understand why there's nothing on our body that cannot
Speaker 1: be fun. We're gonna leave it with that. Listen, I
Speaker 1: got a big gas rushings, bitch, I mean, I mean
Speaker 1: still I'm still a man. I'm still a man. Okay,
Speaker 1: nothing goes in my ass larger than a pinky, or
Speaker 1: less loving than a tongue. Loving your work right right,
Speaker 1: but there's nothing I got any belly button. So wait, wait, okay,
Speaker 1: now we're going now we're going to you, you can
Speaker 1: put your finger in the We're going let me smell
Speaker 1: it after let me smell it was not that bad,
Speaker 1: but the any when do we draw the line? Well, well,
Speaker 1: Lupie said, we we did a show with Loupie and
Speaker 1: um Lupy said he'd be putting his tongue in his
Speaker 1: wife nose and she loved it. Oh my god, my
Speaker 1: wife being there like, oh yeah, I was so I
Speaker 1: was called gripping my purse. So now, well that was
Speaker 1: a great ass kink of the week. That would probably
Speaker 1: be probably one of the best. Um, so what we're
Speaker 1: gonna do for this show is do you know why
Speaker 1: you have redeemed yourself for up that studio time? I
Speaker 1: love you again. I was so that we missed that
Speaker 1: studios time, but this is all we wanted. She was
Speaker 1: holding the ground. I had to record audio clips from
Speaker 1: my goddamn iPhone. Okay, I stuck myself in a work
Speaker 1: conference room and I was like, I'm still on the call, Jen,
Speaker 1: I'm still I'm doing something for work. Yes, So do
Speaker 1: you want to talk about what we're about to get
Speaker 1: into with Imani for the US? First? Why I wanted
Speaker 1: to do this with you. Yeah, like the parties and stuff.
Speaker 1: Let's go in to that. Okay. So I'm dating consultant
Speaker 1: in life coach, and what I do is I talked
Speaker 1: to these women about what they want individually, and um,
Speaker 1: it's all dependent upon you really and your goal. Some
Speaker 1: women really just want to work with me to build
Speaker 1: their confidence, for me to really get into them about
Speaker 1: why they what they should do to build their confidence
Speaker 1: and why they aren't confident. You know. Then there's some
Speaker 1: women who come to me and they're like, look, bitch,
Speaker 1: I just want to be a home I just got
Speaker 1: out of ship for five years and I want to
Speaker 1: I want to date, but I want to know how
Speaker 1: to do this right. And so that's what I'm gonna
Speaker 1: tell you. I'm gonna tell you where to go, what
Speaker 1: to do, what to wear, who to talk to, when
Speaker 1: to stop talking to them, who to attract and who
Speaker 1: not to give any play too. And I always tell them,
Speaker 1: you have they got sixty seconds if you do talk
Speaker 1: to them to impress you. And there's a there's key
Speaker 1: things that you need to be looking for and they
Speaker 1: will say those things. Dr let me tell you how
Speaker 1: they go. We're gonna talking about we were jerking off
Speaker 1: in Calicorni. But here we go. So every man, I've
Speaker 1: done this a thousand times, especially in my whole days.
Speaker 1: That's how I developed. They were then will come to you,
Speaker 1: and they have come to you with the same thing. Okay,
Speaker 1: you you'll be sitting there at a bar. They always
Speaker 1: want to mess with the women that don't want to
Speaker 1: be met. Swizz. You gotta look like you're having fun
Speaker 1: and not looking for nobody because they can see that
Speaker 1: they're looking for that man. So we haven't been nodding
Speaker 1: their head. Yeah, they they know. They know I want
Speaker 1: you to interject when you feel like a yeah. So
Speaker 1: first they're gonna talk to you. They're gonna be like, uh,
Speaker 1: ask you about something stupid that has They're gonna ask
Speaker 1: you for the time the iPhone? Where did you get
Speaker 1: your shoes? I said, why do you like them? Do
Speaker 1: you want to buy a prayer for your girlfriend or
Speaker 1: another one for me? They're gonna actually something and then
Speaker 1: they're gonna slide. They're gonna slide and joke like no,
Speaker 1: not for my girlfriend, maybe for my ex girlfriend. And
Speaker 1: then they're gonna say keep going from there. So from
Speaker 1: then they're gonna be like oh so, uh yeah, while
Speaker 1: are you in town? What do you do? And then
Speaker 1: from there they're going to keep turning it, flipping it
Speaker 1: back on them. Well, I'm an executive at such and
Speaker 1: such and such. That's the first thing you want to
Speaker 1: look for them telling you what their position is, what
Speaker 1: they're doing, because that's what's gonna tell you. How about
Speaker 1: if they have money, or if you wasting your time
Speaker 1: with a broke ass dude who's probably going to ask
Speaker 1: you to take him out, Like they're a drug dealer.
Speaker 1: I was about to say, or let's talk about illegal ship. Okay,
Speaker 1: So a drug dealer. You know they're not gonna back.
Speaker 1: You don't know they're going you know, it's just there
Speaker 1: and they got there's an eye sole the kilo look
Speaker 1: in your face trying to know it. Sure drug dealers,
Speaker 1: they're really they had no no class about it. They
Speaker 1: will show you the hundreds before any absolutely pay that
Speaker 1: thinking out in the pocket and it will be a
Speaker 1: four dollar bill and they're gonna drop a hunting so petty,
Speaker 1: you've got a five nigger. They go to the bathroom,
Speaker 1: come back, and this headed was sticking out there. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's really obvious. They're so check off for the for
Speaker 1: the work. They bring that up, e what I was
Speaker 1: asking for the work? And then they're going to ask you.
Speaker 1: They're gonna be like, oh, so um, what are you drinking? Um?
Speaker 1: And then they're gonna act like they know something about
Speaker 1: the wine or whatever that you're drinking. Oh, that's all
Speaker 1: I had that back when I was in dubde no
Speaker 1: no no, so yeah, they never even drink drink it before,
Speaker 1: so it's gonna be them and they act interested though
Speaker 1: that's them. They act interested in what you drink because
Speaker 1: they want to remember that for the date. So after that,
Speaker 1: then they're going to ask you if they're really really
Speaker 1: interested in you, so you know, what are you doing
Speaker 1: after this? That's when they're gonna ask you, oh, let's
Speaker 1: catch up after this. But that's when you want to
Speaker 1: turn them down and say, actually, I have plans after this,
Speaker 1: So what we're gonna do is so after that, he's
Speaker 1: gonna be like, oh, so oh um, so I mean,
Speaker 1: how can I catch up with you after this? Or
Speaker 1: you'd be like, I mean, well, I have to look
Speaker 1: at my schedule, but I do have some stuff playing,
Speaker 1: but maybe I'll be free. And you always give them
Speaker 1: a date that's more convenient for you, because you don't
Speaker 1: want to seem too available, right a bit if you
Speaker 1: don't want to be exactly okay, because if you hop
Speaker 1: on that first one, they are going to play with
Speaker 1: your time. And I've worked with women who thought like,
Speaker 1: but he's so cute, you know, I want to hop
Speaker 1: on it, and I was like, don't do it, and
Speaker 1: they still went against me late he would just play
Speaker 1: with this time. Okay. Oh I'm sorry, I'm so tired tonight.
Speaker 1: Let me catch you tomorrow. Oh I'm so sorry. I'd
Speaker 1: answer your text last night. Let me catch you on Friday.
Speaker 1: And they'll keep doing it. So you want to make
Speaker 1: sure that your time is the most important. My my
Speaker 1: big rule is turning down the first dage. Okay, so
Speaker 1: you talk about what needs to be done when you
Speaker 1: first meet a guy. Now, our friend that introduced us
Speaker 1: to you also said you teach women how to get
Speaker 1: things out of men, not only date men, but you
Speaker 1: teach women. And then and the niggas is rolling their
Speaker 1: eys is two thousand dollars and right, so you also
Speaker 1: you are still teach women. And this is where the
Speaker 1: episode was. We wanted to talk about worth Now. In
Speaker 1: this episode, I don't want to say we're gonna talk
Speaker 1: about bitches selling a pussy because there's a difference. There's
Speaker 1: a difference in putting a price on your pussy and
Speaker 1: a difference from getting things out of men that you
Speaker 1: funk with. So we have three different types of things
Speaker 1: that women need to know they're worth for. So I'm
Speaker 1: gonna run them down and then you pick them how
Speaker 1: you want, all right. The first one is cheating, How
Speaker 1: to deal with it? Do you say things like that?
Speaker 1: Situation ships, how to get out of them? How to
Speaker 1: be a girlfriend. These are just top three things people
Speaker 1: are always asking questions about how to be a girlfriend,
Speaker 1: do you need it? How to ask for more? Do
Speaker 1: you start dating other people? And then the next one
Speaker 1: is sex for pay sugaring. It's how how do you
Speaker 1: get shut out of niggas? And I got some advice
Speaker 1: for that one because I'm kind of a pro with that.
Speaker 1: But what bitch, I'm just saying, um, but what kind
Speaker 1: of shoes you've got? No seem mad? And he's mad? Cheating, cheating,
Speaker 1: So the question for that basically is for our listeners,
Speaker 1: who are you know, keeping the track? What should a
Speaker 1: woman what should a woman expect out of a man,
Speaker 1: and how does she value her worth after she's been
Speaker 1: cheated cheated on? Wow, that's that's interesting because I was
Speaker 1: an ever cheater. So it's like that, have you had
Speaker 1: any clients reach out to you that been cheated on?
Speaker 1: Needed help? Um, it's like, if they are cheating, I
Speaker 1: feel like they don't tell me they're cheated on. I
Speaker 1: feel like they'll tell me it was a break or
Speaker 1: if something something was happening. They don't tell me, Oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: he just left with another woman. I feel like for
Speaker 1: some it's a lot of yeah, and it's funny and
Speaker 1: that they stayed too, So it's so funny you say that.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys watched Mary to Medicine.
Speaker 1: I'm a huge fan of it. It's actually a really
Speaker 1: good show. And Dr Jackie, which is one of the doctors.
Speaker 1: She's an O B. G yan At. Her husband got
Speaker 1: caught in the tabloids cheating on her, and I think
Speaker 1: one of the biggest things that she faced was whether
Speaker 1: to stay with him or not just because and there
Speaker 1: was a whole episode. He bought her a Louis bag,
Speaker 1: he bought her flowers, He bought her jewelry. He bought
Speaker 1: her like a diamond for their fifteenth anniverse like, and
Speaker 1: he was flooding her with gifts. And I think one
Speaker 1: of the things was, and she said in the confessional,
Speaker 1: people don't think I'm crazy if I stay? Are people
Speaker 1: gonna think I'm not secure enough to be by myself?
Speaker 1: And are people gonna look at me a certain way?
Speaker 1: And so do you feel like a woman devalues herself
Speaker 1: for staying with a man after she cheated. I feel
Speaker 1: like it does all depend on your own confidence, because honestly,
Speaker 1: if you if you want to stay, you go ahead
Speaker 1: and stay. You know, only people, only you to understand
Speaker 1: what you have, right. But um, if you do decide,
Speaker 1: if you do decide that you're gonna stay, I do
Speaker 1: suggest that you give him a run for his money first, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because that bitch got a fucking rock on her. Goddamn.
Speaker 1: Do you not just go back like, Okay, you know
Speaker 1: he know with home is, don't do that, you know,
Speaker 1: don't do that, don't have that, don't do that, because
Speaker 1: then it's just he's just gonna do it like he liked,
Speaker 1: Oh it's a new day of school. You know what
Speaker 1: I want to say, I do appreciate you saying because
Speaker 1: I am really exhausted with women thinking that other women
Speaker 1: are shitty for leaving someone that cheated when and it's
Speaker 1: like we're made to guilt trip ourselves so much, you know,
Speaker 1: and I feel like we don't think we're worth enough. Actually,
Speaker 1: as much as I love Crystal, she said on the
Speaker 1: read about Cardi B, like I was just about to
Speaker 1: go to the Cardi B she did, so Cardis said,
Speaker 1: you know what am I gonna do? Just find another
Speaker 1: nigga that cheats on me? And Crystal references feel bad
Speaker 1: that you don't have enough worth to feel like you
Speaker 1: can meet someone else, But what if you really have
Speaker 1: something great? Right to me? Like when it's a nigga
Speaker 1: like that, it's like sex probably didn't mean ship, right,
Speaker 1: that's the truth. Do I give up all this love
Speaker 1: and all these things I have for some for some
Speaker 1: bitchy fu one night? Does that really means he doesn't
Speaker 1: respect me or love me? Or like? What is it?
Speaker 1: And so I like hearing that from you that you
Speaker 1: know it is between you two? So what are some things?
Speaker 1: Like what about is there a thing where it's like
Speaker 1: okay if it's been six months and they cheats no,
Speaker 1: or like, what do you think about that? I mean,
Speaker 1: And do you coach women that go through this or
Speaker 1: is it more so for the beginning phases, because if
Speaker 1: it is, we definitely want to talk more about that.
Speaker 1: But have you talked with women and coached them through
Speaker 1: either staying with their partner or leaving their partner and
Speaker 1: getting back into the dating See, it's a little it's
Speaker 1: a little weird to explain because anytime that a man
Speaker 1: I feel like, they come to me and they tell
Speaker 1: me that their boyfriend because I do deal with women
Speaker 1: who are in relationships and a lot of them have
Speaker 1: a problem with not just cheating, but boundaries period, Like where, um,
Speaker 1: is it okay? If I allow him to do that?
Speaker 1: Will it ruin my relationship? If I say something about it?
Speaker 1: You know? What does he is he should? Will I
Speaker 1: look like the jealous girlfriend? If I say something? Am
Speaker 1: I being too possessive? And they come and talk? What
Speaker 1: do you say about so? And if it's something they
Speaker 1: don't like, we it's all up to them, you know.
Speaker 1: If it's something they don't like and I tell I
Speaker 1: talked to them about how to deal with it individually.
Speaker 1: But the thing is with the cheating. I always suggest
Speaker 1: at least playing like you're gonna leave first, at least
Speaker 1: at least at least play like you're gonna leave, and
Speaker 1: you need to be serious about it. I don't care
Speaker 1: if he's calling you, showing up at your house, showing
Speaker 1: up at your house, your job, your job, whatever, buying
Speaker 1: you whatever, take the gifts, but you need at least
Speaker 1: be likely if you're exactly exactly. But don't but don't
Speaker 1: be like, oh yeah, my man love No, no, because
Speaker 1: he ain't learned his lesson yet. So what you need
Speaker 1: to do is you need to keep that going. You
Speaker 1: need to keep it running along. And also I do
Speaker 1: suggest you do date around a little bit or at
Speaker 1: least and make him believe that the face you need to.
Speaker 1: You need to make him believe that you're dating around
Speaker 1: a little bit, just to prove to yourself that you
Speaker 1: have other options and to prove to him that nigga,
Speaker 1: don't sunk with me, Like it's not what a situation ships. Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't do those. That's just it, that's just it.
Speaker 1: I don't like this, I don't I don't do those
Speaker 1: now like I don't like that. I don't do that. Now,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you why. The question we had um
Speaker 1: a few weeks ago was a girl saying, how do
Speaker 1: I get him to make me his girlfriend? They were
Speaker 1: dating for two years at right in and say, oh,
Speaker 1: I know I'm the only person he's sleeping with and
Speaker 1: they don't know what to do. Wait wait, the man
Speaker 1: over there said, Nope, when you guys say that, that's
Speaker 1: a lie. Yeah, exactly, that's why you. Okay, but or well,
Speaker 1: hold on, let me stop that there, because maybe no commitment.
Speaker 1: A lot of men just don't want to commit. It's
Speaker 1: not a lot. It's not a lot, and it's not
Speaker 1: a lot that even understanding that, I don't know. I've
Speaker 1: heard some homeboys tell me that there and it's crazy.
Speaker 1: No he said that, And I know guys who have
Speaker 1: said I just don't want a girlfriend right now, and bitch,
Speaker 1: a month later, he got a motherfucking girlfriend. I think
Speaker 1: it's no. But even if you want to be with
Speaker 1: the girl that wrote in that told us about this
Speaker 1: guy for two years, and how do we explain this girl?
Speaker 1: It's hard. So the letter that we didn't read last episode,
Speaker 1: basically this girl wrote in and said, we do everything
Speaker 1: like boyfriend and girlfriend. He's at my house five times
Speaker 1: a week. We're fucking. We're two years. Two years they
Speaker 1: were doing and then he finally wrote like I asked
Speaker 1: her to be his girl after two years, so she
Speaker 1: said she she said, she asked the multiple times and
Speaker 1: he said no, and then finally he asked her. And
Speaker 1: about now. She just kept going to what they were,
Speaker 1: what they were doing. I mean he probably got tired.
Speaker 1: I mean women, sorry, part of me look and she's
Speaker 1: she's an agreeance and you agree with that because it's
Speaker 1: like it's like, are you that one, uh that stayed
Speaker 1: after all the bullshit? Because this is what I try
Speaker 1: to talk to women that are in relationships and try
Speaker 1: to remind women who because you know, a lot of
Speaker 1: women carry a lot of pride when they are in
Speaker 1: relationships and they aren't single women. I try to remind them,
Speaker 1: maybe you were just the one that stuck around and
Speaker 1: stayed when everybody else somebody, because that's usually what it is.
Speaker 1: Maybe you were just the one that stuck around through
Speaker 1: the bullshit and and and the mail in the room
Speaker 1: is shaking his head, Chris, you agree, you know that?
Speaker 1: When I was with you know who, the first man
Speaker 1: a little it and I left him um for cheating
Speaker 1: and he was just like emotionally abusive. The next check
Speaker 1: that he got with she was like, you just mad
Speaker 1: that he left you, And I'm like, girl, that nigga
Speaker 1: sucked your sister. Yeah, and it's still sucking other bitches
Speaker 1: like you enjoy the Lubutan's dude, right, I understand like
Speaker 1: bitches will put up through ship just not to work
Speaker 1: or pay bills or you know, there's a few bits
Speaker 1: we all know. And it's funny. Well we we talked
Speaker 1: about that too. Even with the situations of a lot
Speaker 1: of women who are dealing with these celebrities, these celebrity
Speaker 1: men or men of power, they'll take a situation ship
Speaker 1: because they feel like that's good enough to be in
Speaker 1: without getting that title. They are getting played played played
Speaker 1: are hard thing too, because I think a lot of
Speaker 1: people don't want to rock the boat. And I think
Speaker 1: the one thing that I've done with mine is I
Speaker 1: was telling Mandy recently when lover boy and I talked
Speaker 1: about titles and I finally know I was gonna get one,
Speaker 1: I was like, wown't know, she only even't want it now,
Speaker 1: Like we're not going to get into that either because
Speaker 1: it's a little emotional and wheys like, I don't I
Speaker 1: don't know when I'm ready to talk about this on air,
Speaker 1: but yeah, she's Once it finally happened, I was like, well,
Speaker 1: it's not even what she doesn't know if that's what
Speaker 1: she wants. So I think it's important too. I think
Speaker 1: I just didn't play the field, and that was the problem.
Speaker 1: That's when I was in my situation ship. We were
Speaker 1: talking about dating other people, but I really didn't want
Speaker 1: to anybody else, right, I don't care. He was all
Speaker 1: I can think about. Once I found out he'd make
Speaker 1: me something, I was like, well, wait, wait, wait, I
Speaker 1: should be as a mother jail And so I think
Speaker 1: it's funny in situation ships too, Um, you feel like
Speaker 1: a woman should be vocal about what she wants or
Speaker 1: should she just ride the way, because that's say you're saying,
Speaker 1: I don't do them. I don't do them. But some
Speaker 1: people don't really even realize there anyone yet. Okay, so
Speaker 1: let's let's take this back. So when I'm dealing with women,
Speaker 1: um who are dating, and they're like, immediately when they
Speaker 1: start with me, I know what I want. You don't
Speaker 1: know what you want because you don't know who you're
Speaker 1: gonna meet, and you don't know what situations you're gonna
Speaker 1: meet them. Man, you don't know what you're gonna want
Speaker 1: from them. You may just meet a guy that is
Speaker 1: great for sex, but you can't see yourself being with him.
Speaker 1: And then you may meet a guy that's perfect like
Speaker 1: for dating and hanging out a little friends and got
Speaker 1: a little bit to spend. But that's why I'd be
Speaker 1: liking aun kind of early, because if your dick ain't
Speaker 1: what it is need to be, we probably not go on,
Speaker 1: motherfucker keep going. It's like, Okay, I like you a
Speaker 1: little bit too much. Letmember that I waited to dude.
Speaker 1: You remember him in Orlando. He was like buying me
Speaker 1: out for the clothes and take me to dinner as
Speaker 1: me and my mom, and I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I love him. And then finally it was time to
Speaker 1: have sex and it was so special and I was like,
Speaker 1: where's your dick? And it was I think that's a
Speaker 1: good way to look at it. You just never know
Speaker 1: if they're going to be that exact package exactly, so
Speaker 1: it's like have fun and sitation. The situation ships I
Speaker 1: just feel like you gotta be confident in yourself enough
Speaker 1: to date out. You have to. You have to be
Speaker 1: like you got in situation ships. Never be too sure
Speaker 1: about the partner that you had if it's a situation ship. Seriously,
Speaker 1: always tas the waters, always, because there may be somebody
Speaker 1: who may have sent you in a situation ship, you
Speaker 1: got a little freedom. Okay, so it may be somebody
Speaker 1: who may be a little bit better in some areas.
Speaker 1: And even if they aren't the whole package, at least
Speaker 1: you got these picks. Okay. Don't eliminate your picks for
Speaker 1: a situation ship. Okay, yeah, don't. You're not do not unders.
Speaker 1: They're not reoccurring. What about women that are dating and
Speaker 1: that want more from the situation. A lot of people
Speaker 1: are writing about that, and I think they're at that
Speaker 1: point where it's like, you know, you're early on, it's
Speaker 1: a few months and you're kind of just stagnant. How
Speaker 1: do you take it to more? How do you or
Speaker 1: do you not? Okay, so, uh, you have the conversation
Speaker 1: and you say it communication, You say it, and you
Speaker 1: make it real short and sweet because these things you know,
Speaker 1: you don't don't hit you don't hit you with a hull.
Speaker 1: You know what the fun said saying what I thought
Speaker 1: we were I thought we were wrong, wrong, But we're
Speaker 1: not good. We're good. That's all you need to know
Speaker 1: to be good. No, nigga, that's not all it is.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I making you have I know we've been
Speaker 1: talking to truth up here, niggas. We had a couple
Speaker 1: multiplied by a couple, have we before? No, no, you
Speaker 1: don't talk about yeah you but no, Yeah, you keep
Speaker 1: it real short, you keep it concise. I always say,
Speaker 1: don't make it no shorter than three sentences, but no
Speaker 1: longer than five sentences. So definitely a paragraph. Yeah, you're
Speaker 1: saying you need to text about this and keep us
Speaker 1: keep up, keep a record, Yeah, write it down, get
Speaker 1: a legal pad, yes, get write it down, but would
Speaker 1: also be on the phone, right, Yes, if you bring
Speaker 1: it up, just don't long wind yourself and that don't
Speaker 1: do that. Let's get the perfect they know they know
Speaker 1: what to do. I'm having fun with this pen and
Speaker 1: now the weeds were enough. Yeah, can you cross out
Speaker 1: that name? All right? What do you like? What would
Speaker 1: you say? Here's a girl she's been dating to do
Speaker 1: for three months. Let's just say make make a six
Speaker 1: three months is still earlier. Situation. Ship turns into like, nigga,
Speaker 1: we've been dating half a year? What's up? Okay, nigger,
Speaker 1: that's half a year. We're at the halfway mark, all right,
Speaker 1: six month, let's say six months. So they're getting along there,
Speaker 1: fucking let's saying wrong wrong? I met your friends, you
Speaker 1: met my friends. Um, maybe you you instagram and shipped together.
Speaker 1: But you're not calling each other names, you snap you,
Speaker 1: you're only catching the arm on dates. That's just the arm. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm tired of you're watching this picture? How do I get?
Speaker 1: You know? Because bitches really be on this ship. They'd
Speaker 1: be posting niggles with a little know what doesn't need
Speaker 1: to be explain what. I hate that ship? But she
Speaker 1: wants more? Now what do they do? What? What does
Speaker 1: she say to him? You you texting? Are talking? We
Speaker 1: a role play right now? Okay? Okay? So he on
Speaker 1: the phone talking, you'd be like so and they know
Speaker 1: that silent you were thinking about. They know they know
Speaker 1: it's about to get real. Okay, So how long do
Speaker 1: you think that we are about to be dating and
Speaker 1: not serious or exclusive? And let them man say uh
Speaker 1: you know, because I'm chilling. Okay, I'm here. Let me
Speaker 1: be the niggas. I just answer what you're talking about.
Speaker 1: I thought we were showing you ain't happy with me?
Speaker 1: What's up? Why are you talking like this? We we No,
Speaker 1: I'm not happy. Simple, So you wasn't happy last night?
Speaker 1: Like that's what I'm saying that and give them the
Speaker 1: answers that you don't want to give. Tell them, no,
Speaker 1: I'm not happy. And I think I think unless we're
Speaker 1: about to make a move towards something more serious than
Speaker 1: we need to start spending less time together. Okay, but
Speaker 1: a lot of bitches. If the dick is really good,
Speaker 1: that's kind of I don't know if I can get
Speaker 1: out and demote him. And you got to show him
Speaker 1: that he's demoted and that you are dating dating, I
Speaker 1: tell you what you did? You know, let me tell
Speaker 1: you what she's saying that because it works because you
Speaker 1: must have picks. That's why you don't getting if that's
Speaker 1: the only dick. Exactly, Damn we need atation. I need atation,
Speaker 1: you need. I was about to say, she's speaking fact
Speaker 1: and how did Weezy do in her interpretation of man
Speaker 1: get the adjectives cored um, No, she did. That was
Speaker 1: great to routine. The moment you break routine, you can
Speaker 1: have the mil for free, which is why I said,
Speaker 1: um at that six month mark, three months is still
Speaker 1: to me puppy love. You're still kind of getting to
Speaker 1: know each other, especially depending how much time you spend together.
Speaker 1: Six months, like I said, that's half a year. And
Speaker 1: I love that we did this because to me, and
Speaker 1: I want to ask you this, um, because this is
Speaker 1: the issue that I haven't had something instilled in my mind. Um.
Speaker 1: So to me, I've been fucking this guy for four
Speaker 1: years now and I'm comfortable with my situation. But a
Speaker 1: lot of friends are like, why you ain't make him
Speaker 1: your boyfriend? Why don't even make him your boyfriend? And
Speaker 1: to me, in my mind, I've had this type of
Speaker 1: relationship before, and do you feel that it's hard to
Speaker 1: even um, kind of require a man to make you
Speaker 1: more after four years of sucking? Like, how do you
Speaker 1: if you're doing what you're doing? Like I've had a
Speaker 1: guys say which we never had to go on days
Speaker 1: before his Mandy Loki asking for advice right now, I
Speaker 1: don't want seven no, but I've had this before Christmas
Speaker 1: that's how good the dick is it? Literally mind you,
Speaker 1: he don't even celebrate Christmas. And I said, this is
Speaker 1: the present. I ain't gonna be honest with you because
Speaker 1: you had four Christmas if it's been four years, And well,
Speaker 1: I was in Singapore, Um the come on, world traveler.
Speaker 1: Don't you know I'm not gonna drop where I was. Well,
Speaker 1: I just did, but no, no, but it's so it's
Speaker 1: not necessarily with him, but it was with and I'll
Speaker 1: say his name or Patty Cake from high school. I
Speaker 1: don't know if you remember Patty Kate. So there's two
Speaker 1: niggas that were I've had this situation with where I
Speaker 1: wanted more. I don't want more. I just wanted to
Speaker 1: tell you forever you don't you don't have to let
Speaker 1: me talked about what I wouldn't want him as my boyfriend.
Speaker 1: You were like, forever I want to die and he'll
Speaker 1: be with him in an event, you know what I'm saying. Huh?
Speaker 1: And you were like, I don't even know if I
Speaker 1: want to do that because I know you'd be flirting
Speaker 1: with niggas. I don't know. I don't flirt with the
Speaker 1: nigga that I just had involved in my Now, why
Speaker 1: would you even think I'd flirted with him because you
Speaker 1: bit you flirted with Loopie, bit you flirted with Tomer.
Speaker 1: Listen back to the episode. You act like you wanted
Speaker 1: the three soon with him and his wife. She's a
Speaker 1: very flirty girl, and I don't need you making it
Speaker 1: seem like you ready to suck him. I like his dick,
Speaker 1: and I'm not wanting to share anymore. I was. I
Speaker 1: was trying to offer his dick to her one time,
Speaker 1: but now that it's consistent dick, I don't want to share.
Speaker 1: It's consistent dick. That was the thanks for the good
Speaker 1: dick gift. That's all it was. You were such I
Speaker 1: swear that's all it was. The dick was good. Anyways,
Speaker 1: back to the question I've how do I make my boyfriend?
Speaker 1: I don't want to make him my boyfriend, but I
Speaker 1: did want to make my boyfriend, and I did want
Speaker 1: to make Patty Cake my boyfriend. And at the point
Speaker 1: that I wanted to make my boyfriend, we had already
Speaker 1: been fucking for three, four five years, and so even
Speaker 1: when I went to Patty Cake and kind of wanted more,
Speaker 1: that was the question, Like we was cool with what
Speaker 1: we've been why you want more now? And so do
Speaker 1: you have girls? And I know you hate situation ships,
Speaker 1: but this is a thing where you think you just
Speaker 1: want them for one thing, and then after a while
Speaker 1: you kind of start to like him, and then you're like, funk,
Speaker 1: I put myself into this one bubble? Can I get
Speaker 1: out of it? Um? Like I said, that's up to you.
Speaker 1: You decide what you want, and I just end up
Speaker 1: just keeping the dick. Then I guess, Dick, it is okay.
Speaker 1: You don't want me. So that's the thing. And I think,
Speaker 1: let me tell me if I'm wrong. I don't tell
Speaker 1: me if I'm wrong. I think that the reason you're
Speaker 1: giving this answer is because you are giving ultimatums and
Speaker 1: if someone's not prepared to stop it because they're not
Speaker 1: going to be a girlfriend, that's why you're saying you
Speaker 1: got to figure out what you want. Because if you
Speaker 1: are really gonna say I want to be your girlfriend
Speaker 1: and you need to stick by that, then you need
Speaker 1: to be prepared to walk away if they don't let
Speaker 1: it happen. And I'm not walking away from the and
Speaker 1: then that's when I think you'd be able to more
Speaker 1: of something. Someone taking you serious, all right? Yeah, Like
Speaker 1: it's totally up to you. I feel like a lot
Speaker 1: of us are pressured into stuff because of time and
Speaker 1: all of that stuff. But if you don't see him
Speaker 1: as your boyfriend, you don't see more. And you got
Speaker 1: to see him as more than that for real if
Speaker 1: you want to real relations. Yeah, I know these niggas
Speaker 1: gonna be like even Jordan's. He'd be like, he's not
Speaker 1: going away. We're gonna be forever for life, Like he
Speaker 1: wants me for life, but don't want to be with me.
Speaker 1: Are you okay with that? I mean we don't talk
Speaker 1: to because I'm not okay with it now, but I
Speaker 1: mean if he come to town. Wait, I want to
Speaker 1: go to the next one. Now. We had an episode
Speaker 1: on Patreon where we discussed um sugar dating and things
Speaker 1: like that. This is a question we had passport Cutty.
Speaker 1: Do you know how that is? She wrote a book
Speaker 1: about It's called The m and Man for Money and
Speaker 1: she basically teaches them and how to get money, ask
Speaker 1: some money like that. You wrote in your eyes, but
Speaker 1: you t hose how to get this ship. So let's
Speaker 1: go Whyes, right, you did just wrote your eyes Because
Speaker 1: I feel like there's been a lot of comparison between
Speaker 1: me and her. Oh, because you call yourself a home coach,
Speaker 1: and she she calls herself to Hoch. No, I don't
Speaker 1: call myself a home coach. It's certain women who want
Speaker 1: to be hosed that I helped them coch coach with that.
Speaker 1: How I work with real quick, real quick. I love
Speaker 1: that you just said that. How do you coach a
Speaker 1: bit to be a hope? What are the things you say?
Speaker 1: It's plenty of women who don't really know how to date. Oh,
Speaker 1: it's plenty of women to date, Like the actively singing
Speaker 1: like they don't know how to be single, So we
Speaker 1: hold for actively singing single data. I mean, what's wrong
Speaker 1: would be in the hose? You're right, Okay, you're right, Okay,
Speaker 1: it's nothing wrong with saying yeah that's what they call okay.
Speaker 1: So have a lot of women who don't know how
Speaker 1: to be single. They don't know, they just know how.
Speaker 1: They kind of honestly only know how to follow what
Speaker 1: a man is attached themselves to men. Yeah, so like
Speaker 1: by meaning to be single, like I said, correct me
Speaker 1: if I'm long again. So a lot of single girls
Speaker 1: will end up kind of just finding one guy and
Speaker 1: like sticking with you just the next one instead of
Speaker 1: just sucking them and learning how to like bounce or
Speaker 1: at least dating around having some fun here and having
Speaker 1: going on this day and being like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: if I'm not sure about this guy, maybe I'll go
Speaker 1: into these other three dates and see if if something
Speaker 1: happens there. A lot of women don't know how to
Speaker 1: do that. They go on one date and it'll be okay,
Speaker 1: and then they'd be like, Okay, that's what I'm sticking with.
Speaker 1: A lot of women are like, how tell me how
Speaker 1: to like detach from doing stuff like that. And that's
Speaker 1: what whole coaching is because it's just like that you
Speaker 1: really do. It's funny because we literally emotional data. I
Speaker 1: know how to like something that was very like, I'm
Speaker 1: not well, I have my form. I just um, you know,
Speaker 1: I kind of think about myself and I was like,
Speaker 1: you know, I just weigh out the options, like, okay,
Speaker 1: well I'm talking to these three guys, right, this one
Speaker 1: I like, I think he's attractive, I think he's educated,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. But this one I think he has
Speaker 1: a great future. The sex is great with him, but
Speaker 1: I'm not sure about the emotional what's her name, she's
Speaker 1: got to have it, Nolo Darling. Yeah yeah, really this one,
Speaker 1: this one, this one got this. I'm Mandy Darling. That's
Speaker 1: that's all. That's all. It's just like weighing your options.
Speaker 1: So this is the question I have for you, because
Speaker 1: Dubbs literally said, you help her to get things out
Speaker 1: of men. So you're single, dating um, and you decide,
Speaker 1: you know what, I want to be a paid hope,
Speaker 1: not just a free hope. I want to get I
Speaker 1: want to be the hole to get shit out. And
Speaker 1: this is a lot of listeners like how do I
Speaker 1: get do give me money? We get so many questions
Speaker 1: from our listeners because she's had her rent paid up
Speaker 1: for a year. I have my rent, I'll be on payroll. Um,
Speaker 1: So we we get a lot of questions from women
Speaker 1: like I'm dealing with this nigga. How do I get
Speaker 1: a hunt of dollars out of them? How do I
Speaker 1: get my phone bill paid? How do I get something
Speaker 1: where I'm not feeling like I'm a prostitute. What do
Speaker 1: you tell women on how to get ship out of
Speaker 1: these niggas? Oh yeah, she bless me? How we back,
Speaker 1: She's like, first of all, exactly. First of all, it's
Speaker 1: really simple. Uh, you ain't a good hole if you're
Speaker 1: not a paid hole. Okay, so just don't even call
Speaker 1: yourself a home if you can't get out of you
Speaker 1: can't if you're not getting paid, because honestly, you're just
Speaker 1: wasting your own time and you're wasting your you're wasting energy,
Speaker 1: You're wasting a lot of stuff. So if you are
Speaker 1: just giving yourself a way for free, you're really just
Speaker 1: a waste of energy. You have to go. You gotta go.
Speaker 1: You gotta be straight up and let them know, like, look,
Speaker 1: I'm not showing up unless I have this paid first,
Speaker 1: or like, don't be ubering yourselves to the dick, Like,
Speaker 1: like I get at two different things. I get uber SUV.
Speaker 1: You're talking about women that are wanting just money. Then
Speaker 1: now we need to talk about women that are in
Speaker 1: a relationship that need a man to be more assertive
Speaker 1: or take care of things. Okay, So let's start with
Speaker 1: dating and like things like a uber Okay, so um,
Speaker 1: come see me, gus saying I want you to see me.
Speaker 1: Let's talk about New York you uptown New York City now,
Speaker 1: because we know that it's okay to drive yourself to
Speaker 1: someone else living in another state. However, we in New
Speaker 1: York City, y'all. And um, I'm not going to a
Speaker 1: nigga on the train. So then it's like that after
Speaker 1: the club, niggas be like, come see me. I'm drunk. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm so, how do you how would you sit here? Say? Because, well, well,
Speaker 1: let's say how we do this. I'll say what I
Speaker 1: normally say. You say what you're saying. You tell me
Speaker 1: what what you told the host to say? Um, so
Speaker 1: it's pretty I mean, it's funny. It's pretty simple. My texts.
Speaker 1: You got my uber? Okay, if I'm interested, I'll send
Speaker 1: my address. Oh I feel like, okay, it sounds great.
Speaker 1: I'll be like, here's my address. I feel like that's fine.
Speaker 1: What do you do? I feel like that's leaving it
Speaker 1: too open. I like that, send my uber? You are emotional,
Speaker 1: so and you want people to read come and pick
Speaker 1: me up? Send my Uh what time is my car driving? Oh? Yes,
Speaker 1: I like that one. Let me know how much time?
Speaker 1: I guess? Yeah, because I need to get ready first,
Speaker 1: like or someone like myself right there? Maybe your girl
Speaker 1: out there like me, that. I'm like, I sometimes can't
Speaker 1: say it like that. Why that word? Because you're you
Speaker 1: have I'll say that. I think that comes from your
Speaker 1: just independence and not seeming like you need anything from
Speaker 1: a man. And we talked about that a lot. Thank you,
Speaker 1: coach me. I mean, I'm just saying so, and I
Speaker 1: think and I think a lot of females do do this,
Speaker 1: especially whether it's a celebrity or whether it's a regular guy.
Speaker 1: A lot of girls feel like me and you have
Speaker 1: talked about talked about money bag girl. So a lot
Speaker 1: of girls feel like if they ask a guy to
Speaker 1: do something, they look needy, and then they look like
Speaker 1: gold diggers, and then they look like someone that a
Speaker 1: guy can't wife. And to me, in reality, if you're
Speaker 1: dealing with a guy, the least he could do it
Speaker 1: gets you a uber to come see him or even
Speaker 1: going out on a date. What do you think about
Speaker 1: we have a guy. I mean, I like the assertiveness.
Speaker 1: So if you just say sending uba, I like that. Okay,
Speaker 1: I like that. If you ask for your approaching, I
Speaker 1: don't like that. They don't. They don't because and you
Speaker 1: look scared and you look like it almost kind of
Speaker 1: feels like it looks like, oh, I've never done yeah,
Speaker 1: so why are you trying to get it out of me?
Speaker 1: I think my experiences with the sugaring so to speak,
Speaker 1: not like this. But I have never the most money
Speaker 1: I've ever got write my whole RAMT page that was
Speaker 1: and I never asked for it, And so I guess
Speaker 1: that I sometimes worry about asking because I feel like
Speaker 1: it'll be too neaty. It's so funny because they told
Speaker 1: me out of his mouth, I did this for you
Speaker 1: because I know you were going to do it bout yourself.
Speaker 1: And it's so just kind of unlucky like that. And
Speaker 1: it's different from who I deal with because the men
Speaker 1: in my life, the men in my life who have
Speaker 1: been about giving me money, the one he put me
Speaker 1: on payroll without asking. But it was also if I
Speaker 1: went on a trip, let me look up your hotel.
Speaker 1: I'm going to get your hotel, where do you want
Speaker 1: to stay? Or the other guy that I had, I
Speaker 1: would I would be kind of tiptoeing around like I
Speaker 1: kind of need help with this. I have summer school.
Speaker 1: How much do you need? And it was literally, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna give you a number if you don't tell me.
Speaker 1: So I've had guys literally be like how much do
Speaker 1: you want? So it sounds like you need to ask
Speaker 1: for what you want exactly exactly, and a lot of
Speaker 1: men like that and they'll tell you no if they
Speaker 1: don't have it, or you'll negotiating and you take it
Speaker 1: to them. That's the thing, that's the part. I feel
Speaker 1: like a lot of the things that I have a
Speaker 1: problem with in my coaching is women not understanding that
Speaker 1: they have the part they compower, they can control it.
Speaker 1: Like you can't walk away if he says that, would
Speaker 1: be like, okay, fuck you, nigga, like block, Like it's
Speaker 1: really that easy. Now. If he says, oh, I'm not
Speaker 1: paying it because use a gold dig or what is it,
Speaker 1: you can literally block him in mid attack. I want
Speaker 1: to ask. So there's a lot of women that are
Speaker 1: out there that let's say they might have a a
Speaker 1: bill that's do or something like that, and maybe that
Speaker 1: let's say they want into their home. Girl, I can't
Speaker 1: afford to pay this bill, blond She's like, well, don't
Speaker 1: you be fucking with that? Blah blah blah. I shall
Speaker 1: do that. I said, why are you ask me money?
Speaker 1: Ain't every man that you a man that you can
Speaker 1: ask this for, and what are your expectations with that?
Speaker 1: Because that's the truth. Like, just because I'm sucking that nigga,
Speaker 1: does that mean I can really ask him for right? Like?
Speaker 1: I can't you saying it? Should? Well Cutty Cutty does
Speaker 1: a challenge whatever, nigga, you fucking ask him for a
Speaker 1: hundred dollars and see what his responses. So even stuff
Speaker 1: like that, like just to see now see, yeah, you
Speaker 1: rolled your eyes when Cutty said this because I feel
Speaker 1: like that's too fucking cheap. Yeah, yeah, well, okay a
Speaker 1: hundred dollars is Petty does do that online she'll say
Speaker 1: say something about like whatever, and then her ideology of
Speaker 1: it Cutty ain't broke, She's doing well for herself, and
Speaker 1: she'll say ship like I don't need it either, But
Speaker 1: wouldn't it be nice not to pay for my phone bill?
Speaker 1: She's like, that's one bill eliminated. Wouldn't it be nice
Speaker 1: not to pay for my nails or mine weave or
Speaker 1: my hair or whatever. That's so back to the question,
Speaker 1: is every nigger that you're sucking with really someone that
Speaker 1: you can ask money for? And shouldn't be girls be
Speaker 1: doing this when their homegirls like why don't you blah
Speaker 1: blah blah. No, Okay, honestly, honestly not know. Every guy
Speaker 1: is not somebody that you can ask for money, um,
Speaker 1: but you can decide to cut them off if they're
Speaker 1: not doing that. Some men are just not into It's
Speaker 1: just like with sugaring, right, some men. I've had sugar
Speaker 1: daddies that were not into the whole giving you directly
Speaker 1: money in your hands. And some guys feel like that too,
Speaker 1: like I don't want to give you money directly in
Speaker 1: your hand. I'll pay for something for you, you know.
Speaker 1: So every man is not like that, and every man
Speaker 1: will kind of take offense. That happened to me the
Speaker 1: dude that so my red doesn't cost sixt gs, but
Speaker 1: he put me in an apartment that was five gs
Speaker 1: a month. When I first moved to any Art, I
Speaker 1: never got a dollar in my hand from him, like
Speaker 1: the most exactly front road of Beyonce, private it all
Speaker 1: the ship and never had cash. And actually, at one
Speaker 1: point in time I was kind of broke when I
Speaker 1: was dating him, and I was like, oh my fucking god, dud,
Speaker 1: this nigga just want me lou batons and ills and
Speaker 1: don't let me be broke and get some expensive say okay,
Speaker 1: even wait, why is that funked up? If I'm broke
Speaker 1: right now and you're buying me fucking six seven, eight
Speaker 1: hundred dollar heels and I don't have that in my account?
Speaker 1: Oh my nigga's we got you this gift because you
Speaker 1: want to see you in this gift and now you
Speaker 1: just every time we want, I'm gonna act like my
Speaker 1: ankle broke. And that's why I got to wear flats.
Speaker 1: We just don't remember how I myself from that, but
Speaker 1: I was very scared to ask for cash, especially someone
Speaker 1: that was that generous right times like that. It's it's
Speaker 1: it's okay. Understand and understanding you that it was not
Speaker 1: understandings to you. No, I'm talking about if she needs
Speaker 1: money and she's completely broken at this time, I was
Speaker 1: what I was taking The dude that was doing that,
Speaker 1: he was taking me to fucking thousand dollars. He was
Speaker 1: spending money, but not giving her money to spend money
Speaker 1: on you already, he's then you should have just asked him.
Speaker 1: But he don't understand me selling these shoes. No, he's
Speaker 1: not gonna understand. He will definitely understand if you asked him, Look,
Speaker 1: I need a hundred fifty dollars. I need three hundred
Speaker 1: dollars right now more than you know. I need three
Speaker 1: hundred dollars right now. So that's funny because this is
Speaker 1: how the apartment thing happens, so everybody's out of other happened.
Speaker 1: So like I I, I was going somewhere with him
Speaker 1: and Panama, and I was like, honestly, like, I'm so
Speaker 1: uncomfortable being here. I'm just really stressed out, Like I'm
Speaker 1: also moved to New York and I can't believe how
Speaker 1: much money I've spending around. I'm like looking at these
Speaker 1: shitty as places, like I feel stupid in here. That's
Speaker 1: what I said to him, Like every time you get
Speaker 1: me something, I feel stupid. And he's like, you you
Speaker 1: don't have to like and I was like he started
Speaker 1: talking about money, and I was like, dude, I can
Speaker 1: this is how much I can afford. At the time,
Speaker 1: I was likenth, that's all I can afford. And you know,
Speaker 1: you can't get sh up in this mother really and
Speaker 1: I had to live in the city. And then it
Speaker 1: just started coming from there. It was like I expressed
Speaker 1: that stress and then he fixed it. I didn't know
Speaker 1: I was gonna be you know, forty four law. I
Speaker 1: was in the apartment one night, high on Molly and
Speaker 1: I started crying. I was like, I don't know, but
Speaker 1: get so so. Dubb said that you of course helped
Speaker 1: her with even her dating apps and her her dating page.
Speaker 1: But she's literally looking to get things out of people
Speaker 1: she's dating. How early can you let the nigga know
Speaker 1: you trying to get shit out of him as soon
Speaker 1: as possible, as soon as you, guys have a conversation. Honestly,
Speaker 1: first of all, you what you want to do is
Speaker 1: you always got to communicate that uh with on dating apps,
Speaker 1: with your online appearance and in person with your appearance.
Speaker 1: And I know that's why I can wearing my Chanelle bag,
Speaker 1: my Cardier braves, put on my dates. Yeah, and like that,
Speaker 1: So you should invest in. And I like what you're saying.
Speaker 1: I want to just like to this for a second.
Speaker 1: Homeboy and Mind took this bitch to Mexico, right, and
Speaker 1: he was like, oh, modifies out. Well whatever he calls
Speaker 1: me when he gets home. He's like, yo, I don't
Speaker 1: know if it's a dude. They bought her this ship
Speaker 1: or if she's really doing that well in her job.
Speaker 1: He's like, put everything down to her lipstick? Is should now?
Speaker 1: He said, she'll have one cheap pair of clothes in there,
Speaker 1: and he's like everything is. He noticed her lipstick. Now
Speaker 1: he's forty two years old. I was like, I couldn't
Speaker 1: believe he said. He said her makeup is Y S
Speaker 1: L and channel, and I was like, that's when he
Speaker 1: knew I have to treat her like this. Yeah, he
Speaker 1: said that she wanted a necklace and he said she
Speaker 1: got to pay for it. And he was like, to
Speaker 1: exactly that fear in there? How can get because I
Speaker 1: got some mixed whatever that called. It's three dollars. But
Speaker 1: it's funny because me and my friends talked about this,
Speaker 1: and I think it's important for women to know that
Speaker 1: you'll get approached based on how you carry yourself. So
Speaker 1: if a man sees you're rocking a Chanel bagg er,
Speaker 1: you're wearing red bottoms, or you have certain brands of
Speaker 1: makeup with you, they're gonna be like, oh, ship, I
Speaker 1: gotta treat this woman. I gotta take her to certain restaurants.
Speaker 1: I can't be doing the two for twenty at Applebee's like,
Speaker 1: and so I think the girls that have these things
Speaker 1: that clearly can't afford them. Let's no, we're not gonna
Speaker 1: do no, no, no, no, no, no, I'm serious. What
Speaker 1: about girls that have nice things that like? Is it
Speaker 1: okay to let a man know that other men have
Speaker 1: been doing this for you like that? Because out there
Speaker 1: that's just like, you know, bottle girl, but you got
Speaker 1: really expensive No bottle girls. I did that. So she
Speaker 1: worked at the mall and got a channel. There you go,
Speaker 1: she working at the mall, she got expensive and she
Speaker 1: don't work at a sort itself chanel. So you better
Speaker 1: be ready to buy her more expensive ship if you
Speaker 1: want to be a part of her life. That's just
Speaker 1: what it is. And it's okay to let men know that,
Speaker 1: Like you haven't get an these things from other men?
Speaker 1: Do you think that that's a turn off or like
Speaker 1: I gotta some men they're okay with it because they
Speaker 1: don't really care. And this some men are like they
Speaker 1: want to know so they know what to keep up with.
Speaker 1: And it's something it's like, it's none of your bus
Speaker 1: I was giving this one guy a blowjob. Clearly I
Speaker 1: used my hands a lot, and I had my Cardier
Speaker 1: bracelet on and after and after we got done fucking,
Speaker 1: he was like, so you just got five thousand dollars
Speaker 1: on your risk. He was like, um, oh, you'll be
Speaker 1: working with some boss niggas. Huh, yes he did. And
Speaker 1: even just by that he knew like she won't be
Speaker 1: no bum niggas, Like I'm gonna have to approach her
Speaker 1: a certain way to even rank amongst these other niggas.
Speaker 1: I'm sure that approach her. And of course it helps,
Speaker 1: like just with again, how you carry yourself, the way
Speaker 1: you can talk. Once a female starts saying she's well
Speaker 1: traveled and then travel places, niggas you know what to
Speaker 1: feel like they have to stick in the fust um
Speaker 1: when I talk about going places with my girlfriends and
Speaker 1: who dropped the sponsored thing? Guys, A lot of times
Speaker 1: we might have flew coach. Um, okay, let's get to
Speaker 1: this on how long we've been recording this in real life?
Speaker 1: Oh no, bro, we listen. Thank you guys. This has
Speaker 1: been an episode of you want you want to answer
Speaker 1: the quick advice? We got one homemail and then it's
Speaker 1: a roup. Okay, I didn't know it's been Did you
Speaker 1: feel like that it's because Dallas Pan came in talking
Speaker 1: about some goddamn squirting his shoes. We was like, dog, oh,
Speaker 1: this is good. I can't believe you missed this. This
Speaker 1: ship is so good. Okay, so we're gonna do one
Speaker 1: homemail with us. Please feel free to okay, Hi, hi girls.
Speaker 1: First off, I love the podcast and I listen all
Speaker 1: the time because not many shows out there direct and
Speaker 1: as fearlessly honest as y'all. Um. I am a thirty
Speaker 1: five year old black man and I've been separated for
Speaker 1: my wife for three years now. I've been dating a
Speaker 1: white woman and we have been fucking so much and
Speaker 1: can never get enough. When we got separated, I came
Speaker 1: back to home to my family, which is my aunt
Speaker 1: and my niece. My only blood family left, and my
Speaker 1: aunt raised me as her son. We came from West
Speaker 1: Africa and got lots of relatives. We look out for
Speaker 1: each other. My aunt cousin has been staying here on
Speaker 1: the couch for a few weeks now. She lost her
Speaker 1: job as an assistant living oh person. He didn't write
Speaker 1: a word for older, rich white women, so she never
Speaker 1: needed an apartment. She's in her mid fifties and all
Speaker 1: her family is still in Africa. My nieces always at
Speaker 1: her friend's house, and Alen's always working, never at home.
Speaker 1: I'm a pisces, comma very freaky. Let me comma PARENTHESI
Speaker 1: excuse me. So I'm always having sex and eating the
Speaker 1: pussy really well. Why are you laughing? It's funny, This
Speaker 1: is really this is really a homemail right here, go ahead.
Speaker 1: I did read this. So I'm always having sex and
Speaker 1: eating the pussy really well. And I made my girl
Speaker 1: spread for the first time recently. All right, dude, humble flex.
Speaker 1: My room is so close to the bathroom and the
Speaker 1: walls are very thin. This lady always acts like she's
Speaker 1: using the bathroom and walks back and forth from the
Speaker 1: living room to the bathroom. I hear her steps in
Speaker 1: front of my room, so she definitely hears us having sex.
Speaker 1: For some reason, me and my girl get more turned
Speaker 1: on knowing she's listening the lady having had an This
Speaker 1: is isn't African. Lady haven't had a man in her
Speaker 1: life for several years now, and I knows she is
Speaker 1: missing being touched by a man. When it's just me
Speaker 1: and her home and we have in a conversation, she
Speaker 1: tells me stories of her youth, and all I can
Speaker 1: think about is just sucking her on the load and
Speaker 1: do her a favorite and fulfill my old lady fantasy.
Speaker 1: But I'm scared she might get offended and tell my
Speaker 1: aunt or just say no and make it really awkward
Speaker 1: between us. Do you guys think I should go for
Speaker 1: it and see what happens or just forget it? A
Speaker 1: fan truly African born American raids the guy you can
Speaker 1: see all my email in my real name. So basically,
Speaker 1: the older lady that lives in his house, this is
Speaker 1: his um aunt's cousin and he which does that not
Speaker 1: make them relatives? Still? No, no, because your aunt is
Speaker 1: that No, no, no, no, no, hold on, let thing
Speaker 1: about it. Your aunt could be your mother. It's your
Speaker 1: mother's sister and she has unless the cousins through marriage,
Speaker 1: it might not be right. I'm assuming they're not relatives. Okay,
Speaker 1: So basically he has a woman, but there's another woman
Speaker 1: in the house who listens to him have sex often,
Speaker 1: and he feels like she's turned on by him sucking,
Speaker 1: and now he wants to have sex with her or
Speaker 1: try to. Is that something that he should do? She's like,
Speaker 1: I'm a life coach for women, just like Alex. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what do you think later the girl? Yeah, he's another girl.
Speaker 1: I mean maybe he doesn't want to fill my old
Speaker 1: lady fantasy he has. He's trying to throw it off
Speaker 1: on her like he's not thinking about it too, because
Speaker 1: it's like you wrote this whole male about somebody that
Speaker 1: you could you hear their steps like you hear their steps.
Speaker 1: So basically, he want to know it's okay for him.
Speaker 1: She coming back and forth and I'm having sex, Like, no,
Speaker 1: there's apartment building and I grew up in the hood. Okay,
Speaker 1: you always gonna hear steps. You're gonna hear people next
Speaker 1: and even when you and you're here in New York,
Speaker 1: they made a brick. It's kind of thick in him
Speaker 1: the project because if it's just the fantasy, there's so
Speaker 1: many women that will probably let you do this that
Speaker 1: are older women. I think that there would be a
Speaker 1: great chance of older women that want to meet someone
Speaker 1: young for just sex. Yeah, and I think that you
Speaker 1: could coolgerls bro, this is the thing. But how old
Speaker 1: is she said? He said, So he's start fine, Okay,
Speaker 1: that's not that's not too bad. Okay, So that's not
Speaker 1: Is that not even an old lady fantasy? I guess
Speaker 1: you know what. I think she older than he made
Speaker 1: a sound, but I do like I think he's saying,
Speaker 1: and this is the thing. Let's say that you do
Speaker 1: have sex with her, right, Danny, she lives with you,
Speaker 1: and you don't want it to be awkward after that's
Speaker 1: sucking awkward? Yeah, I agree, I would say no. And
Speaker 1: if she let's just say, this is all in your head,
Speaker 1: these footstep things like the money's saying, yes, you're right,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be way too awkward, and I think the
Speaker 1: risk is too much. Yeah, I agree, I wouldn't want it.
Speaker 1: But if you want to just talk to the girl
Speaker 1: he's fucking an invite her A WHOA a little far?
Speaker 1: He doesn't even he don't know that was supposed to
Speaker 1: be a senior three somewhere. I mean, if he's having
Speaker 1: great sex with the girl he's currently sucking, and he
Speaker 1: this is a fantasy of his, he should express it
Speaker 1: to the girl he's with, just to see what she says.
Speaker 1: What if she's open to it, now he can knock
Speaker 1: out the fantasy. They're already getting frong on by her
Speaker 1: listening Okay, I believe the lady fantasy and there's no messiness,
Speaker 1: like you cut out all the message. So definitely communicated
Speaker 1: with his current person girlfriend, fucker whatever. I think you
Speaker 1: should another old lady, okay, And you just think I
Speaker 1: think I should go on Tinder. I think you should
Speaker 1: boost the age up to fifty plus. And I think
Speaker 1: you will absolutely have sex easy because I just do.
Speaker 1: I just feel like out of all the things you
Speaker 1: could come up with, like I don't know, moving her
Speaker 1: into a home, I don't know, figuring something now, you
Speaker 1: don't need to live in a home at So I'm
Speaker 1: sorry for a justify. I don't believe that for some reason,
Speaker 1: I just don't believe that he's just making it sing.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, fifty your old women still have options.
Speaker 1: That's not right, isn't that? Like angel like? But you
Speaker 1: know what's the fanto Obama? Right? I know? Not Obama's
Speaker 1: talking about people that look at he does look good.
Speaker 1: I would Obama Obama? Damn. I don't know if I
Speaker 1: love him, so fun me, that's you wild. I'm doing
Speaker 1: for your country. You know, someone asked me today, would
Speaker 1: you um die? Like would you kill yourself? Sacrifice? Yourself
Speaker 1: if you knew Donald Trump be dead after and I said, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: because you're a hotep. I'm sorry. I like my life
Speaker 1: for the great but the Republican Party we get, we're
Speaker 1: gonna get through these four years, y'all, like, just calm
Speaker 1: down and give it up my life though they've still
Speaker 1: got a lot of dick to suck. Calm down. Can
Speaker 1: I get through my career? Can we see this flourish too?
Speaker 1: Maybe that's a fucking big button pushed. We might not.
Speaker 1: So yeah, everybody's pretty much in the room saying no.
Speaker 1: Is this unanimous decision keep your dick in your young,
Speaker 1: thirty five year old pants and don't fuck your grandma? Yeah? Alright,
Speaker 1: and okay, so he said as a fantasy, like just
Speaker 1: so imani um, we do have to wrap this up.
Speaker 1: But for any of our listeners who may want your
Speaker 1: whole coaching um, whether it's relationships, whether it's getting and
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Speaker 1: that I host just dinners for these women, mainly for
Speaker 1: the It was just started for the women that I
Speaker 1: coached in different cities, and then other women who wanted
Speaker 1: to meet me and work with me in the future.
Speaker 1: They also got to meet each other. You guys get
Speaker 1: to talk about, you know, dating and how common your
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Speaker 1: cool because it's like especially if you're just moving into
Speaker 1: a new woman. Yeah, I mean, we drink, we eat,
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