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Speaker 1: welcome to yet another episode of horrible decisions. I believe

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Speaker 1: your girl, Mandy B. And I'm sitting next to Wheezy

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Speaker 1: girl's sexual assault. And I'm just playing, honestly finished and

426
00:20:00,880 --> 00:20:03,200
Speaker 1: the girls funny too, and maybe like these are the

427
00:20:03,200 --> 00:20:05,040
Speaker 1: biggest celebrities she's ever seen and whatever, and you're in

428
00:20:05,040 --> 00:20:07,639
Speaker 1: this fucking dopest Rebecca apartment. I get it, But we

429
00:20:07,680 --> 00:20:09,920
Speaker 1: need to start teaching girls how to fucking feel good

430
00:20:09,960 --> 00:20:12,560
Speaker 1: enough about themselves that somebody will see them again. That

431
00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:14,359
Speaker 1: you don't need to suck his dick tonight. She even

432
00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:16,280
Speaker 1: texted her the next day. Look at that you didn't

433
00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:19,560
Speaker 1: suck him? What was going through your head that you

434
00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:23,439
Speaker 1: didn't think to leave? She did leave? No, like initially

435
00:20:23,520 --> 00:20:25,720
Speaker 1: because you didn't want to do anything. I was honestly

436
00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:28,240
Speaker 1: as embarrassing as it is. I mean, this is seven

437
00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:29,800
Speaker 1: years ago, so I'm comfortable enough to say it. I

438
00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:32,040
Speaker 1: think I was just so excited and overwhelmed, and I

439
00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:36,600
Speaker 1: felt chosen, like this guy is so huge, and like, honestly,

440
00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:39,239
Speaker 1: it's a feeling I can't explain. You're feeling like you can.

441
00:20:39,359 --> 00:20:41,280
Speaker 1: I've never had slept with someone like that in my life,

442
00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:44,560
Speaker 1: and I was just really overwhelmed and I felt special

443
00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:46,359
Speaker 1: that I was there, and I felt like, Okay, if

444
00:20:46,400 --> 00:20:49,280
Speaker 1: I'm here, I have to It was very strange. He

445
00:20:49,359 --> 00:20:51,920
Speaker 1: wasn't rough with me, he wasn't rude. He was kind

446
00:20:51,920 --> 00:20:53,520
Speaker 1: of like all right, Like it wasn't like, you know,

447
00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:55,719
Speaker 1: sweet or kissing or anything, but it was very like,

448
00:20:55,720 --> 00:20:57,359
Speaker 1: I brought this girl upstairs, you know what to do, right,

449
00:20:57,400 --> 00:20:59,440
Speaker 1: And it kind of made me feel like obligated. I mean,

450
00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:03,520
Speaker 1: I've learned along the years. Um, there's been times I

451
00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:06,240
Speaker 1: went over um somebody's house and it was four am

452
00:21:06,320 --> 00:21:07,760
Speaker 1: and I didn't want to funk. I was on my

453
00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:09,720
Speaker 1: period and he was just like, so why he came

454
00:21:09,720 --> 00:21:11,320
Speaker 1: over here to where he didn't ask me to you know,

455
00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:13,200
Speaker 1: use my mouth. And it's just like I didn't want

456
00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:15,400
Speaker 1: to do none of that. And so as a female,

457
00:21:15,680 --> 00:21:18,400
Speaker 1: to me now being twenty seven years old, I think

458
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:23,000
Speaker 1: that there are certain situations that women should just eliminate

459
00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:25,080
Speaker 1: themselves from being a part of. And so I wanted

460
00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:27,480
Speaker 1: to ask you this, but I want to well, I

461
00:21:27,520 --> 00:21:30,399
Speaker 1: wanted to ask you three different things. Um, if a

462
00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:34,159
Speaker 1: woman does these things, does a man expect sex? So

463
00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:37,080
Speaker 1: the first one, of course, was going to date, going

464
00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:41,240
Speaker 1: on a date, going up to your house after a date, yes, yes,

465
00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:45,359
Speaker 1: coming to your house after what certain hour means sex,

466
00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:49,800
Speaker 1: say after ten o'clock to me, that's what it is,

467
00:21:49,840 --> 00:21:53,520
Speaker 1: o'clock after ten o'clock. Yes. And the third one being

468
00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:58,960
Speaker 1: flown out. Oh, so that's so, that's what I'm saying.

469
00:21:58,960 --> 00:22:01,240
Speaker 1: So those three flown out, I feel like you shouldn't

470
00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:03,440
Speaker 1: put yourself in a space. I mean, I've gotten flown

471
00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:04,960
Speaker 1: out and haven't had to have sex. It was a

472
00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:10,159
Speaker 1: friend of mine, of guy it right, So that's what

473
00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:12,520
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So for our for for a female, I

474
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:16,400
Speaker 1: like you want another room? Yes, saying so for for

475
00:22:16,400 --> 00:22:19,399
Speaker 1: females who are putting themselves in situations where they don't

476
00:22:19,400 --> 00:22:21,800
Speaker 1: want to engage in sex. I think it's important that women,

477
00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:24,640
Speaker 1: because it's okay to be to make a decision later.

478
00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:26,640
Speaker 1: But don't hop on a flight if you don't want

479
00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:28,400
Speaker 1: to suck the nigga, don't go to his house after

480
00:22:28,440 --> 00:22:30,080
Speaker 1: a date if you don't want to the nigga, and

481
00:22:30,119 --> 00:22:32,760
Speaker 1: don't be trying to ask him or have him come over.

482
00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:34,760
Speaker 1: You go over to him after ten pm. But I

483
00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:38,040
Speaker 1: just do want to say we all don't know. Maybe

484
00:22:38,040 --> 00:22:39,480
Speaker 1: she thought she was going to and maybe he was

485
00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:41,560
Speaker 1: like the putting in the fingers in the mouth, like

486
00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:44,159
Speaker 1: that ship is hot, but not if you're not into it.

487
00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:47,159
Speaker 1: Not if you're not into it, and honestly undressing her.

488
00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:49,560
Speaker 1: She said within two minutes her clothes were off. That

489
00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:51,520
Speaker 1: ship would have made me want to not suck nicket too.

490
00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:54,359
Speaker 1: So maybe she did. You have the choice to decide,

491
00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:56,960
Speaker 1: you don't. I don't care if I'm naked. I don't care.

492
00:22:57,200 --> 00:22:58,760
Speaker 1: A lot of people aren't gonna agree. Like, I'm not

493
00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:00,480
Speaker 1: gonna lie. I don't have a Could you put the

494
00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:02,200
Speaker 1: condom on in my chain of my mind? I said, no,

495
00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:03,719
Speaker 1: oh bitch. I had a guy get all the way

496
00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:05,440
Speaker 1: naked and I was super into him and his dick

497
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:08,120
Speaker 1: was small, and then I was just like, you know what,

498
00:23:09,119 --> 00:23:11,520
Speaker 1: I don't think we should be doing this. What I'm

499
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:14,320
Speaker 1: serious because I just knew it. I wasn't gonna feel ship.

500
00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:19,960
Speaker 1: I just the record. Hold on the third question. You

501
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:24,159
Speaker 1: asked me, no women ever have to have sex? How

502
00:23:24,200 --> 00:23:26,440
Speaker 1: you don't want to happen because you said I you

503
00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:33,119
Speaker 1: have to. But but it's implied to the thousand degree. Okay,

504
00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:35,240
Speaker 1: yeah you should like, I mean, I agree. So it's

505
00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:37,520
Speaker 1: crazy because a lot of our listeners have been asking

506
00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:39,880
Speaker 1: us to talk about the me Too movement and it's

507
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:43,080
Speaker 1: something that me and Wheezy Um. Apparently we were told

508
00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:46,359
Speaker 1: quote unquote that we missed the mark in um and

509
00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:49,520
Speaker 1: discussing it. Um. I read it in all, screenshot you

510
00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:52,800
Speaker 1: and show you the message the Twitter. It was a Tweetum.

511
00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:56,760
Speaker 1: We were told me that. Um. It's also something to

512
00:23:56,800 --> 00:24:00,199
Speaker 1: where me and Wheezy both have just different idea is

513
00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:02,080
Speaker 1: and we do come off as feminists. We are here

514
00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:04,960
Speaker 1: about women empowerment, but even something like this where we

515
00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 1: don't all the way agree with the woman, it was

516
00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:10,080
Speaker 1: just like, are we gonna be attacked because we don't

517
00:24:10,119 --> 00:24:11,639
Speaker 1: believe this? There was also we were just on the

518
00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:14,080
Speaker 1: Premium Pete Show and if you guys looked, there was

519
00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:18,040
Speaker 1: one of these letters also written by a member of Dream.

520
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:21,160
Speaker 1: She wrote about um Nick Carter from the Backstreet Boys,

521
00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:24,520
Speaker 1: pretty much the same exact as these and sorry story

522
00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 1: where she felt like, oh my god, he's Nick Carter.

523
00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:28,920
Speaker 1: I I have to do this and it's just like

524
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:31,240
Speaker 1: so I think even if you ladies are dealing with

525
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:33,600
Speaker 1: these men of power. There ain't no different than these

526
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:36,320
Speaker 1: regularly luk story. If I'm working with you and I

527
00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 1: walk into your jerking off, that's too fucking much, Harvey Weinstein,

528
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:42,000
Speaker 1: too much. I'm so mad because I love House of Cars.

529
00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:45,080
Speaker 1: But Kevin Spacey, the ship he pulled, it's wrong. It's

530
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:48,880
Speaker 1: motherfucking wrong. But now we have these blurred lines going

531
00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:51,120
Speaker 1: on where it's just like, and this is I don't

532
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 1: want to business, not to victim blame. This is just

533
00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:55,159
Speaker 1: because I know she felt that way. She didn't. I

534
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 1: don't think I don't think this girl wanted anything. Bitch

535
00:24:56,880 --> 00:24:58,879
Speaker 1: called the cops. Why are you writing a story if

536
00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:01,600
Speaker 1: you were sexually salts did go to the cops and

537
00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 1: file a report. I don't think her writing to a

538
00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 1: whole news article to me that just didn't say that

539
00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:10,040
Speaker 1: you were really assaulted. I felt like she. I don't

540
00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:11,720
Speaker 1: think this girl wanted anything from me. I think that

541
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:13,600
Speaker 1: was the way for her to feel better about what

542
00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:16,920
Speaker 1: happened to her. Well, it's trash because it affects someone's

543
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:20,600
Speaker 1: life when when you're tying, when you're tying it to

544
00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:24,639
Speaker 1: sexual assault, and we've seen people lose their fucking careers

545
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:26,919
Speaker 1: and and all of that over this stuff. So to me,

546
00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:30,639
Speaker 1: that specific incident, you felt like it was okay that

547
00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:32,639
Speaker 1: she went over to the apartment. I don't think she

548
00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:34,600
Speaker 1: should have, but I think that there's a lot of

549
00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:36,520
Speaker 1: things that she might have wanted to have sex and

550
00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:38,600
Speaker 1: then maybe he was trashed, and so when you didn't

551
00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:43,080
Speaker 1: want to have I have been like your uber outside.

552
00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:45,520
Speaker 1: We can't fun tonight, but thank you for coming over.

553
00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:50,040
Speaker 1: Like there's ways to just eliminate yourself from being in situations.

554
00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:52,960
Speaker 1: So it's just like, to me, you're a whole ass

555
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:56,280
Speaker 1: human being and you're not fucking like you have feet,

556
00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:58,480
Speaker 1: you have legs walking the funk out Now. I want

557
00:25:58,480 --> 00:26:00,320
Speaker 1: real quick to talk about this. I want y'all both

558
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:03,120
Speaker 1: to tell me what you think about what Lisa said. So, um,

559
00:26:03,560 --> 00:26:07,119
Speaker 1: let's check this out. So and bullshit. I didn't like

560
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:08,560
Speaker 1: it at Lisa. I love you, and I know you

561
00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:10,800
Speaker 1: said he's not block people that you that didn't release

562
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:16,680
Speaker 1: me because honestly, this is why I funk with Lisa,

563
00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:18,919
Speaker 1: because I followed her after Umhugh have to die and

564
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:20,520
Speaker 1: she was like, y'all, niggas is wild and he was

565
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:24,720
Speaker 1: doing this some super woke ship. So if y'all have

566
00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:27,760
Speaker 1: been feeling the wokeness of the podcast, here we go

567
00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:29,920
Speaker 1: with the woke segment. All right, here we go, ho tips.

568
00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:34,239
Speaker 1: I've been quiet about this season, Sorry bullshit, because I've

569
00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:37,200
Speaker 1: been carefully listening watching you defend a man you've never met. Here,

570
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:39,360
Speaker 1: what excuses you come up with? See the strategies you'll

571
00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:42,119
Speaker 1: try to prove what happened was nothing. I hope you

572
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 1: know survivors and fems are watching, because unfortunately, this is

573
00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:47,320
Speaker 1: constant behavior. I cannot count how many times I've been

574
00:26:47,359 --> 00:26:50,200
Speaker 1: coerced and guilted into performing sexual acts I never wanted

575
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:52,119
Speaker 1: to do. I cannot tell you how many times I

576
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:54,280
Speaker 1: was rushed and pushed, But it was more than enough

577
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:56,760
Speaker 1: time for me to believe that I was existing to please.

578
00:26:57,400 --> 00:26:59,280
Speaker 1: I was conditioned to believe that my desire with my

579
00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:01,560
Speaker 1: body and my needs boundaries never mattered. And sadly I'm

580
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:03,440
Speaker 1: not the only one. What he did is called coercion.

581
00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:06,240
Speaker 1: It's despicable, traumatic, wrong, and so many of you do it.

582
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:09,639
Speaker 1: Coercion is stripping someone of their agency through guilt tripping, nagging,

583
00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 1: and entitlement. That is a fact, and it is not okay.

584
00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 1: Sex is about communication and consent, but you'll totally miss

585
00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,359
Speaker 1: that because you've been conditioned to see what fems that

586
00:27:18,440 --> 00:27:24,800
Speaker 1: fems are receptibles, not people. I'm high when you when

587
00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 1: you describe your best sexual encounters, you describe it as

588
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 1: what the female let you do, how far she let

589
00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:30,840
Speaker 1: you go, and what she let you do to her.

590
00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:33,119
Speaker 1: You never hear about what she liked and her desires

591
00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:34,840
Speaker 1: and how you made her feel. Because it's meant to

592
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:37,120
Speaker 1: boost your ego, it also boils down to you seeing

593
00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 1: us at all as objects. All of this I agree

594
00:27:39,119 --> 00:27:42,000
Speaker 1: with so far. What does these did is rape culture.

595
00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:45,240
Speaker 1: It is violent, it is disgusting. Y'all are running to

596
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,120
Speaker 1: defend him because you think of the times you've pulled

597
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 1: your hand to someone's repeatedly wind for head, push for penetration,

598
00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:53,880
Speaker 1: lie to create a foulk comfort, only to push again

599
00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:56,000
Speaker 1: until they break down and give in. It's not hard

600
00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:58,399
Speaker 1: to ask your partner what they like, how they want it,

601
00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:00,600
Speaker 1: and what they want to do. That's where you want

602
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:03,440
Speaker 1: me to suck. You did that and she didn't reply.

603
00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:07,280
Speaker 1: That's why communication always leads to a better time. If

604
00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:09,000
Speaker 1: you can't take a few seconds to ask these questions,

605
00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:11,560
Speaker 1: then you should not be fucking Consent isn't just about

606
00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:14,119
Speaker 1: saying yes, It's about creating a safe enough environment to

607
00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 1: say no, Okay, Um, yeah, I think she just wanted

608
00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:24,440
Speaker 1: to be on her hotep? What do you think of money? Um?

609
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 1: You know, I don't think I think it was. I

610
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 1: really I agree with you. I think it was the

611
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:37,639
Speaker 1: whole celebrity thing. And I think it took her a

612
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 1: while to snap out of it, like to be like, look,

613
00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:43,360
Speaker 1: I don't want this, you know. I really think that's

614
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:45,120
Speaker 1: just what it was. That's why I went on for

615
00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:50,160
Speaker 1: so long, because yeah, I think she I think I

616
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 1: think she was just like really caught up by the

617
00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:56,120
Speaker 1: whole situation. Said and then she paid her pussy. She

618
00:28:56,120 --> 00:29:03,320
Speaker 1: gottam no, I both you just said that what and

619
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:05,560
Speaker 1: then said, oh, but she was over there. Niggas can

620
00:29:05,640 --> 00:29:07,880
Speaker 1: eat your pussy and you don't have to suck them.

621
00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 1: I mean but no, no, I mean you're right. No,

622
00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 1: you're right, but a lot of niggas. You can change

623
00:29:13,600 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 1: your mind, right, but I have changed my mind. But

624
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:18,000
Speaker 1: I have put it in my pussy. I can change

625
00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 1: my mind. It's my right. It's okay, But i'd be

626
00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:21,360
Speaker 1: having nigga's come over and say I just want to

627
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:23,760
Speaker 1: eat your pussy, and I'd be like, Okay, they say

628
00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:25,240
Speaker 1: they just want to eat your pussy because they know

629
00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:27,360
Speaker 1: they got the fun. No match, I mean, like you said,

630
00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:30,720
Speaker 1: you just want to eat especially if they did get small.

631
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:34,360
Speaker 1: The niggas know they take the risk, but most likely

632
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 1: and be like, all I put it in, she did it.

633
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:41,760
Speaker 1: I don't know. To me, Lisa's Plusson's read talking about

634
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 1: violent and coercion, he pointed at his dick and said,

635
00:29:44,760 --> 00:29:47,280
Speaker 1: suck my dick, or he just pointed at his dick.

636
00:29:47,280 --> 00:29:48,800
Speaker 1: I don't even think he said. I don't think it was.

637
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:51,760
Speaker 1: I think that doesn't make a lot of people's experiences.

638
00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 1: But I will tell you I am sorry. He should

639
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:56,960
Speaker 1: have known that girls uncomfortable like and you know what,

640
00:29:57,080 --> 00:29:59,160
Speaker 1: he took advantage of his celebrity. I'm not saying just

641
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:03,560
Speaker 1: how it was, just like, however did we didn't want

642
00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 1: about it? How is he supposed to know she's uncomfortable

643
00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:07,720
Speaker 1: when bitch, you do the same thing. You'll go to

644
00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:09,920
Speaker 1: a nigga's house and say I don't feel like I

645
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:14,200
Speaker 1: don't know if the girl is sitting there telling you

646
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:16,080
Speaker 1: maybe not tonight, maybe not right now, and she's like

647
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:17,800
Speaker 1: tightening up. Come on, do you want to a girl

648
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:19,600
Speaker 1: like that? I'm just so funny. I've said that to

649
00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:21,680
Speaker 1: a nigger and it's just to make my pussy one out.

650
00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:24,080
Speaker 1: I just feel like it was just too much moving around.

651
00:30:24,080 --> 00:30:26,040
Speaker 1: If she wanted, she would have opened. You're a different

652
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 1: type ofho. Can we talk to the average person there?

653
00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 1: Don't move your lads bad because they don't pay for us.

654
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 1: We got no spot because I'm excited about this one. Okay,

655
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:40,960
Speaker 1: we got kick of the Um. Have you listened to

656
00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:43,600
Speaker 1: one of our shows yet? Money? Yes? Which one I

657
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:45,560
Speaker 1: listened to? The last when we play people on a

658
00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 1: blast because people be like, yeah, I listened to it,

659
00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:49,600
Speaker 1: and he could be like, which one? No? No, I

660
00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 1: mean I'm still listening. Yeah, I know the last one

661
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:57,880
Speaker 1: I listened to the last one with Yoming that was

662
00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:01,480
Speaker 1: a little rain Man. All right, This one, I feel

663
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:04,440
Speaker 1: like it is some creep shit. This is called fetishism.

664
00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:06,800
Speaker 1: It's a very plain word, and it's an arousal to

665
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:09,920
Speaker 1: objects that have been in physical contact with the desired person.

666
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 1: You want to fuck? What so I've masked like a

667
00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:15,480
Speaker 1: lot of voice boxers on, and I wonder if that's

668
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:18,800
Speaker 1: it or like dumpster diving for like celebrities when people like, yes,

669
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 1: that's weird as fun, But I mean, it's not that crazy,

670
00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 1: isn't it. I'm trying to right now. Had the shirt on,

671
00:31:28,720 --> 00:31:32,200
Speaker 1: I might be like, you're gonna I'm a stand bro.

672
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 1: That's gonna make your pussy to taco about. Like, there's

673
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:37,480
Speaker 1: a lot of things I would do to get close

674
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:39,800
Speaker 1: to Beyonce if she had a smelly pair of panties

675
00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:44,479
Speaker 1: and I had to be fibay, I might smell from

676
00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:46,600
Speaker 1: I'm not telling you how much I would pay for them,

677
00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:49,920
Speaker 1: but yes, I just want to know where he pussy

678
00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:51,520
Speaker 1: smell like dog, because I bet you, even when it's

679
00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:55,239
Speaker 1: at as mustiest, is still like lavender. It's just like

680
00:31:55,320 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 1: expired lavender. Trash bro. Tr do not know at all?

681
00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:06,920
Speaker 1: K to corner store. Actually you masturbated or like touch

682
00:32:06,960 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 1: yourself with something that someone had that you wanted to fuck. No,

683
00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:16,640
Speaker 1: I really don't do that. That's some WPS panties that

684
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 1: white people. Wait, what that is the thing? What did

685
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:26,240
Speaker 1: you just say doing in socks? People always like masturbate

686
00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:31,120
Speaker 1: inside of shoes. I wish you would masturbate them some

687
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 1: of my motherfucking heels. Oh wait, you let the internet?

688
00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:38,080
Speaker 1: Oh yes, yes, I did have an ex who took

689
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:40,920
Speaker 1: my who liked my shoes, and he would exx with

690
00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:42,920
Speaker 1: my shoes and my clothes and he would do that.

691
00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:44,480
Speaker 1: So I do know what we gotta limit that is,

692
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:47,520
Speaker 1: Steve Man, I don't know how to go income. You're

693
00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:49,200
Speaker 1: not doing that with my red bottoms. I'm like, oh

694
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:50,800
Speaker 1: my god, look the first thing to pop up. I

695
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:53,640
Speaker 1: secretly borrow shoes from my lady friends and masturbate into them.

696
00:32:54,360 --> 00:32:56,680
Speaker 1: People tender frowned down upon this when they see you

697
00:32:56,720 --> 00:32:58,960
Speaker 1: lick the inside of their shoes. Wait wait, they lick

698
00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:05,320
Speaker 1: their own cops. What okay? You know he like, I

699
00:33:05,360 --> 00:33:07,440
Speaker 1: don't like. I don't, but you have jerked off inside

700
00:33:07,440 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 1: of shoe. Okay, that's not weird at all. What kind

701
00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:17,960
Speaker 1: of shoe was it? What kind of shoe? Okay, that's

702
00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:25,040
Speaker 1: not too expensive? Can we hear him? Can we hear him? No? No,

703
00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:26,560
Speaker 1: we we gotta get Can we get you on the

704
00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:31,120
Speaker 1: mic real quick? Oh? Hey, hey, Dallas pan, we I

705
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 1: met you at the Hi. Wait we got to get

706
00:33:34,680 --> 00:33:36,280
Speaker 1: that on the mic, though, Come on, because we really

707
00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:38,920
Speaker 1: need to get this crocodile Caviclin ship with this. Did

708
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:42,160
Speaker 1: you come in? Okay, so we have someone in the

709
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:45,040
Speaker 1: room who has all right, I'm talking about a pair

710
00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 1: of fire ask black Label Calvin Klin. Does it matter

711
00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:53,080
Speaker 1: if they're like fire or like I mean, they just

712
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:56,080
Speaker 1: just the design was obviously thought of where you turned

713
00:33:56,120 --> 00:33:59,160
Speaker 1: off by her wearing them first and then you wanted

714
00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:01,160
Speaker 1: to masturbate an them. Well, I gotta be honest with you.

715
00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:03,480
Speaker 1: No one had put the shoe on yet, but I

716
00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 1: imagine the person wearing the shoe, whoa how fire they

717
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 1: would be. They were just gonna be so fucking incredible.

718
00:34:11,760 --> 00:34:15,799
Speaker 1: And did you buy this? Well? Actually I was. I

719
00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:18,440
Speaker 1: was working at Marshall's at the time, and I'm in

720
00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:22,480
Speaker 1: the back. I wasn't. I mean, yeah, I was younger.

721
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 1: Marshalls didn't get in my car. I was. I was.

722
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 1: I was in my thirties now, I was. I was

723
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:32,239
Speaker 1: just in the backstock room and I was like, Yo,

724
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 1: the person that's gonna wear this shoe was gonna be

725
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:38,799
Speaker 1: so fucking fire, She's gonna be beautiful, and she's gonna

726
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 1: let me fuck because I made her laugh and ship,

727
00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:46,600
Speaker 1: Oh my god, like her calfs are so crazy, and

728
00:34:47,160 --> 00:34:51,240
Speaker 1: I just I gave it up. Aside aside from the shoes,

729
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:54,240
Speaker 1: you would say you're a man with a foot fetish,

730
00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 1: I would say that I like nice shoes. I would

731
00:34:58,160 --> 00:34:59,879
Speaker 1: say that I like nice shoes. I don't. I don't

732
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,719
Speaker 1: considered that so much a foot fetish. But but but I

733
00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:05,879
Speaker 1: love the architecture of just a really nice heel and

734
00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:09,440
Speaker 1: what it does to the person wearing it, the confidence

735
00:35:09,440 --> 00:35:12,200
Speaker 1: that it gives them, the tautness that it gives their

736
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:16,759
Speaker 1: because he's just so, the way that it makes I mean,

737
00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 1: a superhelo makes you walk a certain way. And I

738
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:23,279
Speaker 1: love And this all goes through your mind, does you

739
00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:27,360
Speaker 1: kidding me? You kidding me? The older you get, you

740
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 1: start processing all this. You see somebody in heels, you

741
00:35:29,640 --> 00:35:33,080
Speaker 1: can be like, oh, they just got those heels. They

742
00:35:33,080 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 1: don't even know how to walk on yet. They don't

743
00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:37,799
Speaker 1: know how walking yet. Y'all can tell when we're just

744
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:40,480
Speaker 1: breaking in a shoe right right now, right now, I'm

745
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:41,839
Speaker 1: gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you when the last

746
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:48,640
Speaker 1: time you got your eyebrows threaded? Microblade? Thank you? Okay, okay,

747
00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to come and inspect that when he

748
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:54,400
Speaker 1: went on the premium show and he said that he

749
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:57,600
Speaker 1: sucked a mother and a daughter. This is better than that.

750
00:35:57,760 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 1: Hold over a second. The god is in the detail.

751
00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:04,400
Speaker 1: Else that's crazy. Do you buy shoes for women? Like?

752
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 1: Are you do you currently have a wife? I am

753
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:09,400
Speaker 1: married actually And and the crazy thing, the true story

754
00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:12,759
Speaker 1: is that my wife, um, her feet are actually two

755
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:16,680
Speaker 1: different sizes. So she has to go to Norshroom because

756
00:36:16,719 --> 00:36:20,080
Speaker 1: northrom Norshroom is the only department store that will let

757
00:36:20,120 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 1: you buy like you know, it's not like a half

758
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:26,640
Speaker 1: size off. There's more than a whole size difference between Yeah,

759
00:36:26,719 --> 00:36:28,920
Speaker 1: so Norsham will let you actually have one shoe and

760
00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:31,560
Speaker 1: one size one shoe another size. But she's the one

761
00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:33,920
Speaker 1: who kind of got me out of She kind of

762
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:36,400
Speaker 1: show what my story was my issue was, which was

763
00:36:36,480 --> 00:36:38,759
Speaker 1: what was your issue? We are not an issue? I

764
00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:41,480
Speaker 1: want to go ahead. And I had a small collection

765
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:45,560
Speaker 1: of heels um and she bought just a jerk off

766
00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:47,440
Speaker 1: in bro Is this real? This is real? This is

767
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:50,160
Speaker 1: some real ship I had. She came to my apartment,

768
00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:52,239
Speaker 1: man and she got to just see all the ship

769
00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:54,760
Speaker 1: that I collect and ship that I had fucking hoarded

770
00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:57,680
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. And I had, like I had

771
00:36:57,719 --> 00:37:02,960
Speaker 1: baby clothes with matching adult clothes. Like I had adult

772
00:37:03,160 --> 00:37:06,960
Speaker 1: Polo Bear sweater, four of them with the matching baby sweater.

773
00:37:07,400 --> 00:37:10,319
Speaker 1: Why for when I had a child that we could

774
00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 1: twin up? Oh, I thought this was still get sexual.

775
00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:15,480
Speaker 1: I was starting to freak out, all right, But no, no, no, no,

776
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:17,239
Speaker 1: no no no. And I had and I had, I

777
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:20,320
Speaker 1: had a collection of Again, I worked at Marshals and

778
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:21,960
Speaker 1: and every now and then they would get in these

779
00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:27,800
Speaker 1: incredible designer uh like these cow and con joints in

780
00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:32,839
Speaker 1: the house. Yes, she was like, yo, whose shoes are these? Like?

781
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:35,000
Speaker 1: Whose shoes are you at? They're too small to fit

782
00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 1: your We did, guys, we did not playing this. These

783
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:45,479
Speaker 1: are just they were the first thing she was concerned about.

784
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:47,839
Speaker 1: The real talk. Was like she was like, Yo, can

785
00:37:47,880 --> 00:37:51,200
Speaker 1: these shoes fit you? And I was like no. She

786
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 1: thought you were cross. She thought I might be you know,

787
00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 1: I might have might have that in my steee. But

788
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:59,040
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, that's too far. No, But

789
00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 1: I just I love the architecture, I love the design

790
00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:04,880
Speaker 1: of them. I'm just imagining. And this is what I

791
00:38:04,920 --> 00:38:06,680
Speaker 1: told him myself I said, I just imagine the person

792
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:08,759
Speaker 1: that's gonna put these on, how they're gonna have to

793
00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 1: walk in them, the confidence that they're gonna have because

794
00:38:11,120 --> 00:38:13,000
Speaker 1: people are gonna be looking at them. People are gonna

795
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:16,279
Speaker 1: be like, oh my god. This come stem from this

796
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:20,360
Speaker 1: is something else. No, it stems from me just loving

797
00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:25,400
Speaker 1: being attracted to a confident woman. And it doesn't have

798
00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:27,279
Speaker 1: to be the heel she has on. She could have

799
00:38:27,320 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 1: on skippies. But she could again have her eyebrows micro blazard.

800
00:38:34,160 --> 00:38:36,839
Speaker 1: But whatever, whatever that she got, whatever that she done,

801
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:40,759
Speaker 1: you could build a bit if you wanted to. First

802
00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:43,759
Speaker 1: of all, first of all, all these all these robot chicks,

803
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:48,600
Speaker 1: that's from my brain. Sex dolls, they're from Dallas, pen guys,

804
00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:51,480
Speaker 1: that's from That's from my brain totally, all right. And

805
00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:53,439
Speaker 1: and and the reason why we have anyse sex dollars

806
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 1: now anyway is because sex dollars they haven't been programmedyet

807
00:38:56,640 --> 00:39:04,120
Speaker 1: to say me too, shit, Yeah, we're going to go

808
00:39:04,200 --> 00:39:06,160
Speaker 1: into our horrible decision with our guests for the week

809
00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:14,680
Speaker 1: apologizing I don't know what that was awesome, Like, I

810
00:39:14,920 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 1: never knew. You also say, like when you hear fetishes,

811
00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 1: like the first thing someone's like, oh my god, this

812
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 1: is so weird. And then when you kind of describe

813
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:24,360
Speaker 1: it almost normalized, it's where we're like, yeah, okay, okay,

814
00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:26,279
Speaker 1: it makes sense. Right. You carry at first and it's

815
00:39:26,320 --> 00:39:28,400
Speaker 1: very jarring, and then it's like, no, it's about the confidence,

816
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:30,440
Speaker 1: and it's when it's naughty to do it, and like

817
00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 1: it's we're not judging, yeah, although we kind of are,

818
00:39:33,640 --> 00:39:35,879
Speaker 1: but now I'm just like, uh no. But we talked

819
00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:38,360
Speaker 1: about kinks all the time. She was super judging. We

820
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:40,279
Speaker 1: we had toe fucking as a kink. I don't know

821
00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:42,000
Speaker 1: if that's something you've ever done. I feel like that's

822
00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:45,560
Speaker 1: going down your house now, But you have you put

823
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:49,920
Speaker 1: your toe up your wife's any or I don't. I

824
00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:52,880
Speaker 1: don't understand why there's nothing on our body that cannot

825
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:57,239
Speaker 1: be fun. We're gonna leave it with that. Listen, I

826
00:39:57,280 --> 00:39:59,880
Speaker 1: got a big gas rushings, bitch, I mean, I mean

827
00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:02,000
Speaker 1: still I'm still a man. I'm still a man. Okay,

828
00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:05,600
Speaker 1: nothing goes in my ass larger than a pinky, or

829
00:40:05,680 --> 00:40:11,439
Speaker 1: less loving than a tongue. Loving your work right right,

830
00:40:11,640 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 1: but there's nothing I got any belly button. So wait, wait, okay,

831
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:20,719
Speaker 1: now we're going now we're going to you, you can

832
00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:25,400
Speaker 1: put your finger in the We're going let me smell

833
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:27,839
Speaker 1: it after let me smell it was not that bad,

834
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:33,920
Speaker 1: but the any when do we draw the line? Well, well,

835
00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:36,160
Speaker 1: Lupie said, we we did a show with Loupie and

836
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:37,920
Speaker 1: um Lupy said he'd be putting his tongue in his

837
00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:41,319
Speaker 1: wife nose and she loved it. Oh my god, my

838
00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:44,920
Speaker 1: wife being there like, oh yeah, I was so I

839
00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:51,719
Speaker 1: was called gripping my purse. So now, well that was

840
00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:53,840
Speaker 1: a great ass kink of the week. That would probably

841
00:40:53,880 --> 00:41:00,239
Speaker 1: be probably one of the best. Um, so what we're

842
00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:02,600
Speaker 1: gonna do for this show is do you know why

843
00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:04,719
Speaker 1: you have redeemed yourself for up that studio time? I

844
00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:07,239
Speaker 1: love you again. I was so that we missed that

845
00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:11,719
Speaker 1: studios time, but this is all we wanted. She was

846
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:13,920
Speaker 1: holding the ground. I had to record audio clips from

847
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:16,560
Speaker 1: my goddamn iPhone. Okay, I stuck myself in a work

848
00:41:16,560 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 1: conference room and I was like, I'm still on the call, Jen,

849
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:23,600
Speaker 1: I'm still I'm doing something for work. Yes, So do

850
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:25,279
Speaker 1: you want to talk about what we're about to get

851
00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:29,200
Speaker 1: into with Imani for the US? First? Why I wanted

852
00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:31,200
Speaker 1: to do this with you. Yeah, like the parties and stuff.

853
00:41:31,239 --> 00:41:35,160
Speaker 1: Let's go in to that. Okay. So I'm dating consultant

854
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:37,480
Speaker 1: in life coach, and what I do is I talked

855
00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 1: to these women about what they want individually, and um,

856
00:41:41,040 --> 00:41:44,319
Speaker 1: it's all dependent upon you really and your goal. Some

857
00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:46,240
Speaker 1: women really just want to work with me to build

858
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:48,880
Speaker 1: their confidence, for me to really get into them about

859
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:52,800
Speaker 1: why they what they should do to build their confidence

860
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:55,440
Speaker 1: and why they aren't confident. You know. Then there's some

861
00:41:55,520 --> 00:41:57,560
Speaker 1: women who come to me and they're like, look, bitch,

862
00:41:57,640 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 1: I just want to be a home I just got

863
00:41:59,560 --> 00:42:01,880
Speaker 1: out of ship for five years and I want to

864
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:03,319
Speaker 1: I want to date, but I want to know how

865
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:05,439
Speaker 1: to do this right. And so that's what I'm gonna

866
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:07,120
Speaker 1: tell you. I'm gonna tell you where to go, what

867
00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:09,759
Speaker 1: to do, what to wear, who to talk to, when

868
00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:12,719
Speaker 1: to stop talking to them, who to attract and who

869
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:16,839
Speaker 1: not to give any play too. And I always tell them,

870
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:20,479
Speaker 1: you have they got sixty seconds if you do talk

871
00:42:20,520 --> 00:42:23,319
Speaker 1: to them to impress you. And there's a there's key

872
00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:25,359
Speaker 1: things that you need to be looking for and they

873
00:42:25,360 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 1: will say those things. Dr let me tell you how

874
00:42:32,200 --> 00:42:36,239
Speaker 1: they go. We're gonna talking about we were jerking off

875
00:42:36,239 --> 00:42:44,040
Speaker 1: in Calicorni. But here we go. So every man, I've

876
00:42:44,080 --> 00:42:46,560
Speaker 1: done this a thousand times, especially in my whole days.

877
00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:53,600
Speaker 1: That's how I developed. They were then will come to you,

878
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:55,760
Speaker 1: and they have come to you with the same thing. Okay,

879
00:42:56,000 --> 00:42:58,200
Speaker 1: you you'll be sitting there at a bar. They always

880
00:42:58,200 --> 00:42:59,640
Speaker 1: want to mess with the women that don't want to

881
00:42:59,680 --> 00:43:01,759
Speaker 1: be met. Swizz. You gotta look like you're having fun

882
00:43:02,320 --> 00:43:04,440
Speaker 1: and not looking for nobody because they can see that

883
00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:07,160
Speaker 1: they're looking for that man. So we haven't been nodding

884
00:43:07,160 --> 00:43:10,279
Speaker 1: their head. Yeah, they they know. They know I want

885
00:43:10,320 --> 00:43:13,400
Speaker 1: you to interject when you feel like a yeah. So

886
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:17,080
Speaker 1: first they're gonna talk to you. They're gonna be like, uh,

887
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:21,839
Speaker 1: ask you about something stupid that has They're gonna ask

888
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:25,239
Speaker 1: you for the time the iPhone? Where did you get

889
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:26,680
Speaker 1: your shoes? I said, why do you like them? Do

890
00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:28,000
Speaker 1: you want to buy a prayer for your girlfriend or

891
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:31,239
Speaker 1: another one for me? They're gonna actually something and then

892
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 1: they're gonna slide. They're gonna slide and joke like no,

893
00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:36,640
Speaker 1: not for my girlfriend, maybe for my ex girlfriend. And

894
00:43:36,719 --> 00:43:39,279
Speaker 1: then they're gonna say keep going from there. So from

895
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:42,440
Speaker 1: then they're gonna be like oh so, uh yeah, while

896
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:44,879
Speaker 1: are you in town? What do you do? And then

897
00:43:45,120 --> 00:43:47,279
Speaker 1: from there they're going to keep turning it, flipping it

898
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:50,040
Speaker 1: back on them. Well, I'm an executive at such and

899
00:43:50,040 --> 00:43:51,719
Speaker 1: such and such. That's the first thing you want to

900
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:54,040
Speaker 1: look for them telling you what their position is, what

901
00:43:54,080 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 1: they're doing, because that's what's gonna tell you. How about

902
00:43:57,239 --> 00:44:00,600
Speaker 1: if they have money, or if you wasting your time

903
00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:02,520
Speaker 1: with a broke ass dude who's probably going to ask

904
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:05,360
Speaker 1: you to take him out, Like they're a drug dealer.

905
00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:09,080
Speaker 1: I was about to say, or let's talk about illegal ship. Okay,

906
00:44:09,160 --> 00:44:14,400
Speaker 1: So a drug dealer. You know they're not gonna back.

907
00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:19,200
Speaker 1: You don't know they're going you know, it's just there

908
00:44:19,560 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 1: and they got there's an eye sole the kilo look

909
00:44:22,160 --> 00:44:28,320
Speaker 1: in your face trying to know it. Sure drug dealers,

910
00:44:28,400 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 1: they're really they had no no class about it. They

911
00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 1: will show you the hundreds before any absolutely pay that

912
00:44:37,840 --> 00:44:39,400
Speaker 1: thinking out in the pocket and it will be a

913
00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:42,960
Speaker 1: four dollar bill and they're gonna drop a hunting so petty,

914
00:44:43,000 --> 00:44:47,000
Speaker 1: you've got a five nigger. They go to the bathroom,

915
00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:50,239
Speaker 1: come back, and this headed was sticking out there. Yeah. Yeah,

916
00:44:50,280 --> 00:44:53,680
Speaker 1: it's really obvious. They're so check off for the for

917
00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:55,360
Speaker 1: the work. They bring that up, e what I was

918
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:57,440
Speaker 1: asking for the work? And then they're going to ask you.

919
00:44:57,560 --> 00:45:01,560
Speaker 1: They're gonna be like, oh, so um, what are you drinking? Um?

920
00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 1: And then they're gonna act like they know something about

921
00:45:03,560 --> 00:45:05,759
Speaker 1: the wine or whatever that you're drinking. Oh, that's all

922
00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:08,680
Speaker 1: I had that back when I was in dubde no

923
00:45:08,840 --> 00:45:13,879
Speaker 1: no no, so yeah, they never even drink drink it before,

924
00:45:15,080 --> 00:45:17,759
Speaker 1: so it's gonna be them and they act interested though

925
00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:20,719
Speaker 1: that's them. They act interested in what you drink because

926
00:45:20,719 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 1: they want to remember that for the date. So after that,

927
00:45:23,719 --> 00:45:25,879
Speaker 1: then they're going to ask you if they're really really

928
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:27,879
Speaker 1: interested in you, so you know, what are you doing

929
00:45:27,960 --> 00:45:30,799
Speaker 1: after this? That's when they're gonna ask you, oh, let's

930
00:45:30,840 --> 00:45:32,600
Speaker 1: catch up after this. But that's when you want to

931
00:45:32,640 --> 00:45:35,279
Speaker 1: turn them down and say, actually, I have plans after this,

932
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:37,960
Speaker 1: So what we're gonna do is so after that, he's

933
00:45:38,000 --> 00:45:42,759
Speaker 1: gonna be like, oh, so oh um, so I mean,

934
00:45:42,880 --> 00:45:45,520
Speaker 1: how can I catch up with you after this? Or

935
00:45:47,840 --> 00:45:50,040
Speaker 1: you'd be like, I mean, well, I have to look

936
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:53,320
Speaker 1: at my schedule, but I do have some stuff playing,

937
00:45:53,400 --> 00:45:55,640
Speaker 1: but maybe I'll be free. And you always give them

938
00:45:55,680 --> 00:45:57,680
Speaker 1: a date that's more convenient for you, because you don't

939
00:45:57,719 --> 00:46:03,480
Speaker 1: want to seem too available, right a bit if you

940
00:46:03,480 --> 00:46:08,160
Speaker 1: don't want to be exactly okay, because if you hop

941
00:46:08,200 --> 00:46:10,239
Speaker 1: on that first one, they are going to play with

942
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:13,360
Speaker 1: your time. And I've worked with women who thought like,

943
00:46:13,640 --> 00:46:15,200
Speaker 1: but he's so cute, you know, I want to hop

944
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:17,840
Speaker 1: on it, and I was like, don't do it, and

945
00:46:17,920 --> 00:46:21,239
Speaker 1: they still went against me late he would just play

946
00:46:21,280 --> 00:46:24,320
Speaker 1: with this time. Okay. Oh I'm sorry, I'm so tired tonight.

947
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:27,799
Speaker 1: Let me catch you tomorrow. Oh I'm so sorry. I'd

948
00:46:27,840 --> 00:46:30,600
Speaker 1: answer your text last night. Let me catch you on Friday.

949
00:46:30,719 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 1: And they'll keep doing it. So you want to make

950
00:46:33,040 --> 00:46:36,120
Speaker 1: sure that your time is the most important. My my

951
00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:39,440
Speaker 1: big rule is turning down the first dage. Okay, so

952
00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:41,560
Speaker 1: you talk about what needs to be done when you

953
00:46:41,680 --> 00:46:45,319
Speaker 1: first meet a guy. Now, our friend that introduced us

954
00:46:45,360 --> 00:46:48,120
Speaker 1: to you also said you teach women how to get

955
00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:50,640
Speaker 1: things out of men, not only date men, but you

956
00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:54,440
Speaker 1: teach women. And then and the niggas is rolling their

957
00:46:54,520 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 1: eys is two thousand dollars and right, so you also

958
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:01,640
Speaker 1: you are still teach women. And this is where the

959
00:47:01,719 --> 00:47:04,440
Speaker 1: episode was. We wanted to talk about worth Now. In

960
00:47:04,560 --> 00:47:06,319
Speaker 1: this episode, I don't want to say we're gonna talk

961
00:47:06,320 --> 00:47:09,000
Speaker 1: about bitches selling a pussy because there's a difference. There's

962
00:47:09,040 --> 00:47:11,080
Speaker 1: a difference in putting a price on your pussy and

963
00:47:11,120 --> 00:47:13,320
Speaker 1: a difference from getting things out of men that you

964
00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:16,359
Speaker 1: funk with. So we have three different types of things

965
00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:18,560
Speaker 1: that women need to know they're worth for. So I'm

966
00:47:18,560 --> 00:47:20,600
Speaker 1: gonna run them down and then you pick them how

967
00:47:20,680 --> 00:47:23,239
Speaker 1: you want, all right. The first one is cheating, How

968
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:24,960
Speaker 1: to deal with it? Do you say things like that?

969
00:47:25,320 --> 00:47:27,360
Speaker 1: Situation ships, how to get out of them? How to

970
00:47:27,480 --> 00:47:29,879
Speaker 1: be a girlfriend. These are just top three things people

971
00:47:29,880 --> 00:47:32,000
Speaker 1: are always asking questions about how to be a girlfriend,

972
00:47:32,040 --> 00:47:33,279
Speaker 1: do you need it? How to ask for more? Do

973
00:47:33,320 --> 00:47:35,719
Speaker 1: you start dating other people? And then the next one

974
00:47:35,960 --> 00:47:39,759
Speaker 1: is sex for pay sugaring. It's how how do you

975
00:47:39,800 --> 00:47:41,840
Speaker 1: get shut out of niggas? And I got some advice

976
00:47:41,920 --> 00:47:44,000
Speaker 1: for that one because I'm kind of a pro with that.

977
00:47:44,600 --> 00:47:47,839
Speaker 1: But what bitch, I'm just saying, um, but what kind

978
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:55,200
Speaker 1: of shoes you've got? No seem mad? And he's mad? Cheating, cheating,

979
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:57,760
Speaker 1: So the question for that basically is for our listeners,

980
00:47:57,800 --> 00:48:00,320
Speaker 1: who are you know, keeping the track? What should a

981
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:03,120
Speaker 1: woman what should a woman expect out of a man,

982
00:48:03,600 --> 00:48:05,520
Speaker 1: and how does she value her worth after she's been

983
00:48:05,600 --> 00:48:09,920
Speaker 1: cheated cheated on? Wow, that's that's interesting because I was

984
00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:16,080
Speaker 1: an ever cheater. So it's like that, have you had

985
00:48:16,120 --> 00:48:17,759
Speaker 1: any clients reach out to you that been cheated on?

986
00:48:17,920 --> 00:48:22,480
Speaker 1: Needed help? Um, it's like, if they are cheating, I

987
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:24,759
Speaker 1: feel like they don't tell me they're cheated on. I

988
00:48:24,840 --> 00:48:26,600
Speaker 1: feel like they'll tell me it was a break or

989
00:48:27,000 --> 00:48:30,680
Speaker 1: if something something was happening. They don't tell me, Oh, yeah,

990
00:48:30,760 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 1: he just left with another woman. I feel like for

991
00:48:32,840 --> 00:48:39,719
Speaker 1: some it's a lot of yeah, and it's funny and

992
00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:42,279
Speaker 1: that they stayed too, So it's so funny you say that.

993
00:48:42,360 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys watched Mary to Medicine.

994
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:46,000
Speaker 1: I'm a huge fan of it. It's actually a really

995
00:48:46,040 --> 00:48:49,040
Speaker 1: good show. And Dr Jackie, which is one of the doctors.

996
00:48:49,120 --> 00:48:52,160
Speaker 1: She's an O B. G yan At. Her husband got

997
00:48:52,200 --> 00:48:54,440
Speaker 1: caught in the tabloids cheating on her, and I think

998
00:48:54,480 --> 00:48:57,319
Speaker 1: one of the biggest things that she faced was whether

999
00:48:57,400 --> 00:48:58,960
Speaker 1: to stay with him or not just because and there

1000
00:48:59,040 --> 00:49:01,399
Speaker 1: was a whole episode. He bought her a Louis bag,

1001
00:49:01,640 --> 00:49:04,040
Speaker 1: he bought her flowers, He bought her jewelry. He bought

1002
00:49:04,080 --> 00:49:06,320
Speaker 1: her like a diamond for their fifteenth anniverse like, and

1003
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:08,719
Speaker 1: he was flooding her with gifts. And I think one

1004
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:11,200
Speaker 1: of the things was, and she said in the confessional,

1005
00:49:11,520 --> 00:49:13,879
Speaker 1: people don't think I'm crazy if I stay? Are people

1006
00:49:13,960 --> 00:49:16,480
Speaker 1: gonna think I'm not secure enough to be by myself?

1007
00:49:16,600 --> 00:49:19,000
Speaker 1: And are people gonna look at me a certain way?

1008
00:49:19,400 --> 00:49:24,400
Speaker 1: And so do you feel like a woman devalues herself

1009
00:49:24,600 --> 00:49:27,319
Speaker 1: for staying with a man after she cheated. I feel

1010
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:30,560
Speaker 1: like it does all depend on your own confidence, because honestly,

1011
00:49:31,160 --> 00:49:34,680
Speaker 1: if you if you want to stay, you go ahead

1012
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:37,840
Speaker 1: and stay. You know, only people, only you to understand

1013
00:49:38,120 --> 00:49:43,000
Speaker 1: what you have, right. But um, if you do decide,

1014
00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:46,640
Speaker 1: if you do decide that you're gonna stay, I do

1015
00:49:47,480 --> 00:49:50,919
Speaker 1: suggest that you give him a run for his money first, Yeah,

1016
00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:54,560
Speaker 1: because that bitch got a fucking rock on her. Goddamn.

1017
00:49:54,920 --> 00:49:57,160
Speaker 1: Do you not just go back like, Okay, you know

1018
00:49:57,360 --> 00:49:59,719
Speaker 1: he know with home is, don't do that, you know,

1019
00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 1: don't do that, don't have that, don't do that, because

1020
00:50:06,880 --> 00:50:09,359
Speaker 1: then it's just he's just gonna do it like he liked,

1021
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:10,800
Speaker 1: Oh it's a new day of school. You know what

1022
00:50:10,840 --> 00:50:12,960
Speaker 1: I want to say, I do appreciate you saying because

1023
00:50:13,200 --> 00:50:16,759
Speaker 1: I am really exhausted with women thinking that other women

1024
00:50:16,760 --> 00:50:20,759
Speaker 1: are shitty for leaving someone that cheated when and it's

1025
00:50:20,800 --> 00:50:23,759
Speaker 1: like we're made to guilt trip ourselves so much, you know,

1026
00:50:24,239 --> 00:50:26,960
Speaker 1: and I feel like we don't think we're worth enough. Actually,

1027
00:50:26,960 --> 00:50:29,120
Speaker 1: as much as I love Crystal, she said on the

1028
00:50:29,200 --> 00:50:31,840
Speaker 1: read about Cardi B, like I was just about to

1029
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:34,160
Speaker 1: go to the Cardi B she did, so Cardis said,

1030
00:50:34,239 --> 00:50:35,520
Speaker 1: you know what am I gonna do? Just find another

1031
00:50:35,560 --> 00:50:38,359
Speaker 1: nigga that cheats on me? And Crystal references feel bad

1032
00:50:39,160 --> 00:50:40,920
Speaker 1: that you don't have enough worth to feel like you

1033
00:50:40,960 --> 00:50:43,759
Speaker 1: can meet someone else, But what if you really have

1034
00:50:43,920 --> 00:50:47,600
Speaker 1: something great? Right to me? Like when it's a nigga

1035
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:50,279
Speaker 1: like that, it's like sex probably didn't mean ship, right,

1036
00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:53,279
Speaker 1: that's the truth. Do I give up all this love

1037
00:50:53,360 --> 00:50:54,880
Speaker 1: and all these things I have for some for some

1038
00:50:54,960 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 1: bitchy fu one night? Does that really means he doesn't

1039
00:50:57,160 --> 00:50:59,000
Speaker 1: respect me or love me? Or like? What is it?

1040
00:50:59,560 --> 00:51:02,680
Speaker 1: And so I like hearing that from you that you

1041
00:51:02,760 --> 00:51:05,400
Speaker 1: know it is between you two? So what are some things?

1042
00:51:05,560 --> 00:51:07,800
Speaker 1: Like what about is there a thing where it's like

1043
00:51:07,840 --> 00:51:09,640
Speaker 1: okay if it's been six months and they cheats no,

1044
00:51:09,840 --> 00:51:11,400
Speaker 1: or like, what do you think about that? I mean,

1045
00:51:12,239 --> 00:51:14,279
Speaker 1: And do you coach women that go through this or

1046
00:51:14,320 --> 00:51:16,480
Speaker 1: is it more so for the beginning phases, because if

1047
00:51:16,520 --> 00:51:18,040
Speaker 1: it is, we definitely want to talk more about that.

1048
00:51:18,360 --> 00:51:20,520
Speaker 1: But have you talked with women and coached them through

1049
00:51:20,880 --> 00:51:23,520
Speaker 1: either staying with their partner or leaving their partner and

1050
00:51:23,840 --> 00:51:26,560
Speaker 1: getting back into the dating See, it's a little it's

1051
00:51:26,560 --> 00:51:30,719
Speaker 1: a little weird to explain because anytime that a man

1052
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:33,000
Speaker 1: I feel like, they come to me and they tell

1053
00:51:33,080 --> 00:51:34,879
Speaker 1: me that their boyfriend because I do deal with women

1054
00:51:34,920 --> 00:51:37,880
Speaker 1: who are in relationships and a lot of them have

1055
00:51:38,040 --> 00:51:43,799
Speaker 1: a problem with not just cheating, but boundaries period, Like where, um,

1056
00:51:44,640 --> 00:51:46,680
Speaker 1: is it okay? If I allow him to do that?

1057
00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:49,320
Speaker 1: Will it ruin my relationship? If I say something about it?

1058
00:51:49,960 --> 00:51:53,080
Speaker 1: You know? What does he is he should? Will I

1059
00:51:53,160 --> 00:51:55,960
Speaker 1: look like the jealous girlfriend? If I say something? Am

1060
00:51:56,000 --> 00:51:58,120
Speaker 1: I being too possessive? And they come and talk? What

1061
00:51:58,200 --> 00:52:01,520
Speaker 1: do you say about so? And if it's something they

1062
00:52:01,520 --> 00:52:04,120
Speaker 1: don't like, we it's all up to them, you know.

1063
00:52:04,200 --> 00:52:06,200
Speaker 1: If it's something they don't like and I tell I

1064
00:52:06,320 --> 00:52:09,080
Speaker 1: talked to them about how to deal with it individually.

1065
00:52:09,480 --> 00:52:13,680
Speaker 1: But the thing is with the cheating. I always suggest

1066
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:16,480
Speaker 1: at least playing like you're gonna leave first, at least

1067
00:52:16,800 --> 00:52:20,000
Speaker 1: at least at least play like you're gonna leave, and

1068
00:52:20,080 --> 00:52:22,480
Speaker 1: you need to be serious about it. I don't care

1069
00:52:22,520 --> 00:52:25,319
Speaker 1: if he's calling you, showing up at your house, showing

1070
00:52:25,400 --> 00:52:28,520
Speaker 1: up at your house, your job, your job, whatever, buying

1071
00:52:28,560 --> 00:52:32,080
Speaker 1: you whatever, take the gifts, but you need at least

1072
00:52:32,520 --> 00:52:41,719
Speaker 1: be likely if you're exactly exactly. But don't but don't

1073
00:52:41,760 --> 00:52:45,080
Speaker 1: be like, oh yeah, my man love No, no, because

1074
00:52:45,120 --> 00:52:47,640
Speaker 1: he ain't learned his lesson yet. So what you need

1075
00:52:47,760 --> 00:52:49,840
Speaker 1: to do is you need to keep that going. You

1076
00:52:49,920 --> 00:52:52,800
Speaker 1: need to keep it running along. And also I do

1077
00:52:53,040 --> 00:52:55,799
Speaker 1: suggest you do date around a little bit or at

1078
00:52:55,880 --> 00:53:00,080
Speaker 1: least and make him believe that the face you need to.

1079
00:53:00,520 --> 00:53:02,480
Speaker 1: You need to make him believe that you're dating around

1080
00:53:02,480 --> 00:53:04,840
Speaker 1: a little bit, just to prove to yourself that you

1081
00:53:05,000 --> 00:53:08,040
Speaker 1: have other options and to prove to him that nigga,

1082
00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:14,480
Speaker 1: don't sunk with me, Like it's not what a situation ships. Okay,

1083
00:53:14,600 --> 00:53:16,960
Speaker 1: I don't do those. That's just it, that's just it.

1084
00:53:17,480 --> 00:53:19,520
Speaker 1: I don't like this, I don't I don't do those

1085
00:53:19,640 --> 00:53:23,440
Speaker 1: now like I don't like that. I don't do that. Now,

1086
00:53:23,480 --> 00:53:25,960
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you why. The question we had um

1087
00:53:26,080 --> 00:53:27,719
Speaker 1: a few weeks ago was a girl saying, how do

1088
00:53:27,800 --> 00:53:29,560
Speaker 1: I get him to make me his girlfriend? They were

1089
00:53:29,719 --> 00:53:32,520
Speaker 1: dating for two years at right in and say, oh,

1090
00:53:32,800 --> 00:53:35,960
Speaker 1: I know I'm the only person he's sleeping with and

1091
00:53:36,520 --> 00:53:39,239
Speaker 1: they don't know what to do. Wait wait, the man

1092
00:53:39,360 --> 00:53:41,719
Speaker 1: over there said, Nope, when you guys say that, that's

1093
00:53:41,760 --> 00:53:48,520
Speaker 1: a lie. Yeah, exactly, that's why you. Okay, but or well,

1094
00:53:48,600 --> 00:53:50,640
Speaker 1: hold on, let me stop that there, because maybe no commitment.

1095
00:53:50,680 --> 00:53:54,000
Speaker 1: A lot of men just don't want to commit. It's

1096
00:53:54,040 --> 00:53:55,600
Speaker 1: not a lot. It's not a lot, and it's not

1097
00:53:55,760 --> 00:53:58,359
Speaker 1: a lot that even understanding that, I don't know. I've

1098
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:02,360
Speaker 1: heard some homeboys tell me that there and it's crazy.

1099
00:54:02,520 --> 00:54:04,719
Speaker 1: No he said that, And I know guys who have

1100
00:54:04,840 --> 00:54:07,080
Speaker 1: said I just don't want a girlfriend right now, and bitch,

1101
00:54:07,120 --> 00:54:09,879
Speaker 1: a month later, he got a motherfucking girlfriend. I think

1102
00:54:09,920 --> 00:54:12,440
Speaker 1: it's no. But even if you want to be with

1103
00:54:12,840 --> 00:54:15,400
Speaker 1: the girl that wrote in that told us about this

1104
00:54:15,480 --> 00:54:17,200
Speaker 1: guy for two years, and how do we explain this girl?

1105
00:54:17,719 --> 00:54:20,840
Speaker 1: It's hard. So the letter that we didn't read last episode,

1106
00:54:20,880 --> 00:54:23,720
Speaker 1: basically this girl wrote in and said, we do everything

1107
00:54:23,800 --> 00:54:25,919
Speaker 1: like boyfriend and girlfriend. He's at my house five times

1108
00:54:25,960 --> 00:54:28,719
Speaker 1: a week. We're fucking. We're two years. Two years they

1109
00:54:28,800 --> 00:54:30,959
Speaker 1: were doing and then he finally wrote like I asked

1110
00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:33,800
Speaker 1: her to be his girl after two years, so she

1111
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:36,880
Speaker 1: said she she said, she asked the multiple times and

1112
00:54:36,960 --> 00:54:39,000
Speaker 1: he said no, and then finally he asked her. And

1113
00:54:40,000 --> 00:54:42,440
Speaker 1: about now. She just kept going to what they were,

1114
00:54:42,760 --> 00:54:44,920
Speaker 1: what they were doing. I mean he probably got tired.

1115
00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:49,560
Speaker 1: I mean women, sorry, part of me look and she's

1116
00:54:49,680 --> 00:54:52,960
Speaker 1: she's an agreeance and you agree with that because it's

1117
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:56,640
Speaker 1: like it's like, are you that one, uh that stayed

1118
00:54:56,840 --> 00:55:00,399
Speaker 1: after all the bullshit? Because this is what I try

1119
00:55:00,440 --> 00:55:03,160
Speaker 1: to talk to women that are in relationships and try

1120
00:55:03,200 --> 00:55:05,400
Speaker 1: to remind women who because you know, a lot of

1121
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:06,960
Speaker 1: women carry a lot of pride when they are in

1122
00:55:07,040 --> 00:55:11,359
Speaker 1: relationships and they aren't single women. I try to remind them,

1123
00:55:11,560 --> 00:55:13,640
Speaker 1: maybe you were just the one that stuck around and

1124
00:55:13,719 --> 00:55:25,000
Speaker 1: stayed when everybody else somebody, because that's usually what it is.

1125
00:55:25,200 --> 00:55:28,520
Speaker 1: Maybe you were just the one that stuck around through

1126
00:55:28,520 --> 00:55:32,000
Speaker 1: the bullshit and and and the mail in the room

1127
00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:36,920
Speaker 1: is shaking his head, Chris, you agree, you know that?

1128
00:55:38,160 --> 00:55:39,880
Speaker 1: When I was with you know who, the first man

1129
00:55:39,960 --> 00:55:43,160
Speaker 1: a little it and I left him um for cheating

1130
00:55:43,200 --> 00:55:45,879
Speaker 1: and he was just like emotionally abusive. The next check

1131
00:55:45,960 --> 00:55:47,480
Speaker 1: that he got with she was like, you just mad

1132
00:55:47,560 --> 00:55:51,000
Speaker 1: that he left you, And I'm like, girl, that nigga

1133
00:55:51,120 --> 00:55:54,760
Speaker 1: sucked your sister. Yeah, and it's still sucking other bitches

1134
00:55:54,880 --> 00:55:58,759
Speaker 1: like you enjoy the Lubutan's dude, right, I understand like

1135
00:55:58,800 --> 00:56:00,960
Speaker 1: bitches will put up through ship just not to work

1136
00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:03,880
Speaker 1: or pay bills or you know, there's a few bits

1137
00:56:03,920 --> 00:56:05,560
Speaker 1: we all know. And it's funny. Well we we talked

1138
00:56:05,560 --> 00:56:08,359
Speaker 1: about that too. Even with the situations of a lot

1139
00:56:08,440 --> 00:56:11,160
Speaker 1: of women who are dealing with these celebrities, these celebrity

1140
00:56:11,200 --> 00:56:14,239
Speaker 1: men or men of power, they'll take a situation ship

1141
00:56:14,840 --> 00:56:18,239
Speaker 1: because they feel like that's good enough to be in

1142
00:56:18,760 --> 00:56:22,920
Speaker 1: without getting that title. They are getting played played played

1143
00:56:23,960 --> 00:56:26,719
Speaker 1: are hard thing too, because I think a lot of

1144
00:56:26,880 --> 00:56:31,080
Speaker 1: people don't want to rock the boat. And I think

1145
00:56:31,120 --> 00:56:35,160
Speaker 1: the one thing that I've done with mine is I

1146
00:56:35,280 --> 00:56:37,640
Speaker 1: was telling Mandy recently when lover boy and I talked

1147
00:56:37,640 --> 00:56:39,799
Speaker 1: about titles and I finally know I was gonna get one,

1148
00:56:39,800 --> 00:56:42,080
Speaker 1: I was like, wown't know, she only even't want it now,

1149
00:56:42,440 --> 00:56:44,399
Speaker 1: Like we're not going to get into that either because

1150
00:56:44,440 --> 00:56:46,719
Speaker 1: it's a little emotional and wheys like, I don't I

1151
00:56:46,760 --> 00:56:48,520
Speaker 1: don't know when I'm ready to talk about this on air,

1152
00:56:48,719 --> 00:56:52,000
Speaker 1: but yeah, she's Once it finally happened, I was like, well,

1153
00:56:52,280 --> 00:56:54,000
Speaker 1: it's not even what she doesn't know if that's what

1154
00:56:54,120 --> 00:56:56,640
Speaker 1: she wants. So I think it's important too. I think

1155
00:56:56,800 --> 00:56:59,640
Speaker 1: I just didn't play the field, and that was the problem.

1156
00:56:59,719 --> 00:57:03,600
Speaker 1: That's when I was in my situation ship. We were

1157
00:57:03,600 --> 00:57:05,319
Speaker 1: talking about dating other people, but I really didn't want

1158
00:57:05,320 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 1: to anybody else, right, I don't care. He was all

1159
00:57:06,680 --> 00:57:09,080
Speaker 1: I can think about. Once I found out he'd make

1160
00:57:09,160 --> 00:57:12,239
Speaker 1: me something, I was like, well, wait, wait, wait, I

1161
00:57:12,280 --> 00:57:15,080
Speaker 1: should be as a mother jail And so I think

1162
00:57:15,120 --> 00:57:19,000
Speaker 1: it's funny in situation ships too, Um, you feel like

1163
00:57:19,160 --> 00:57:21,880
Speaker 1: a woman should be vocal about what she wants or

1164
00:57:21,920 --> 00:57:25,240
Speaker 1: should she just ride the way, because that's say you're saying,

1165
00:57:25,360 --> 00:57:26,440
Speaker 1: I don't do them. I don't do them. But some

1166
00:57:26,480 --> 00:57:28,760
Speaker 1: people don't really even realize there anyone yet. Okay, so

1167
00:57:29,200 --> 00:57:32,160
Speaker 1: let's let's take this back. So when I'm dealing with women,

1168
00:57:32,600 --> 00:57:36,320
Speaker 1: um who are dating, and they're like, immediately when they

1169
00:57:36,400 --> 00:57:38,800
Speaker 1: start with me, I know what I want. You don't

1170
00:57:38,840 --> 00:57:40,560
Speaker 1: know what you want because you don't know who you're

1171
00:57:40,560 --> 00:57:42,960
Speaker 1: gonna meet, and you don't know what situations you're gonna

1172
00:57:43,000 --> 00:57:44,800
Speaker 1: meet them. Man, you don't know what you're gonna want

1173
00:57:44,840 --> 00:57:47,040
Speaker 1: from them. You may just meet a guy that is

1174
00:57:47,200 --> 00:57:51,120
Speaker 1: great for sex, but you can't see yourself being with him.

1175
00:57:51,360 --> 00:57:54,200
Speaker 1: And then you may meet a guy that's perfect like

1176
00:57:54,360 --> 00:57:57,360
Speaker 1: for dating and hanging out a little friends and got

1177
00:57:57,400 --> 00:58:03,200
Speaker 1: a little bit to spend. But that's why I'd be

1178
00:58:03,280 --> 00:58:05,520
Speaker 1: liking aun kind of early, because if your dick ain't

1179
00:58:05,560 --> 00:58:07,960
Speaker 1: what it is need to be, we probably not go on,

1180
00:58:08,080 --> 00:58:11,560
Speaker 1: motherfucker keep going. It's like, Okay, I like you a

1181
00:58:11,600 --> 00:58:18,000
Speaker 1: little bit too much. Letmember that I waited to dude.

1182
00:58:18,040 --> 00:58:20,600
Speaker 1: You remember him in Orlando. He was like buying me

1183
00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:22,200
Speaker 1: out for the clothes and take me to dinner as

1184
00:58:22,200 --> 00:58:23,880
Speaker 1: me and my mom, and I was like, oh my god,

1185
00:58:23,880 --> 00:58:26,280
Speaker 1: I love him. And then finally it was time to

1186
00:58:26,320 --> 00:58:28,200
Speaker 1: have sex and it was so special and I was like,

1187
00:58:28,320 --> 00:58:32,120
Speaker 1: where's your dick? And it was I think that's a

1188
00:58:32,160 --> 00:58:33,640
Speaker 1: good way to look at it. You just never know

1189
00:58:33,760 --> 00:58:36,200
Speaker 1: if they're going to be that exact package exactly, so

1190
00:58:36,440 --> 00:58:40,800
Speaker 1: it's like have fun and sitation. The situation ships I

1191
00:58:40,960 --> 00:58:44,760
Speaker 1: just feel like you gotta be confident in yourself enough

1192
00:58:44,920 --> 00:58:48,280
Speaker 1: to date out. You have to. You have to be

1193
00:58:48,480 --> 00:58:52,320
Speaker 1: like you got in situation ships. Never be too sure

1194
00:58:52,600 --> 00:58:56,880
Speaker 1: about the partner that you had if it's a situation ship. Seriously,

1195
00:58:57,760 --> 00:59:01,640
Speaker 1: always tas the waters, always, because there may be somebody

1196
00:59:01,720 --> 00:59:03,880
Speaker 1: who may have sent you in a situation ship, you

1197
00:59:03,960 --> 00:59:08,520
Speaker 1: got a little freedom. Okay, so it may be somebody

1198
00:59:08,640 --> 00:59:11,400
Speaker 1: who may be a little bit better in some areas.

1199
00:59:11,680 --> 00:59:13,919
Speaker 1: And even if they aren't the whole package, at least

1200
00:59:13,960 --> 00:59:17,720
Speaker 1: you got these picks. Okay. Don't eliminate your picks for

1201
00:59:17,800 --> 00:59:23,439
Speaker 1: a situation ship. Okay, yeah, don't. You're not do not unders.

1202
00:59:23,440 --> 00:59:26,160
Speaker 1: They're not reoccurring. What about women that are dating and

1203
00:59:26,240 --> 00:59:29,840
Speaker 1: that want more from the situation. A lot of people

1204
00:59:29,880 --> 00:59:32,400
Speaker 1: are writing about that, and I think they're at that

1205
00:59:32,440 --> 00:59:34,160
Speaker 1: point where it's like, you know, you're early on, it's

1206
00:59:34,160 --> 00:59:37,880
Speaker 1: a few months and you're kind of just stagnant. How

1207
00:59:37,960 --> 00:59:40,520
Speaker 1: do you take it to more? How do you or

1208
00:59:40,640 --> 00:59:45,120
Speaker 1: do you not? Okay, so, uh, you have the conversation

1209
00:59:45,600 --> 00:59:48,280
Speaker 1: and you say it communication, You say it, and you

1210
00:59:48,440 --> 00:59:51,200
Speaker 1: make it real short and sweet because these things you know,

1211
00:59:51,400 --> 00:59:53,520
Speaker 1: you don't don't hit you don't hit you with a hull.

1212
00:59:54,320 --> 01:00:00,520
Speaker 1: You know what the fun said saying what I thought

1213
01:00:00,520 --> 01:00:05,960
Speaker 1: we were I thought we were wrong, wrong, But we're

1214
01:00:06,000 --> 01:00:07,720
Speaker 1: not good. We're good. That's all you need to know

1215
01:00:07,800 --> 01:00:09,280
Speaker 1: to be good. No, nigga, that's not all it is.

1216
01:00:09,800 --> 01:00:15,160
Speaker 1: So yeah, I making you have I know we've been

1217
01:00:15,200 --> 01:00:18,240
Speaker 1: talking to truth up here, niggas. We had a couple

1218
01:00:19,160 --> 01:00:26,640
Speaker 1: multiplied by a couple, have we before? No, no, you

1219
01:00:26,640 --> 01:00:32,200
Speaker 1: don't talk about yeah you but no, Yeah, you keep

1220
01:00:32,240 --> 01:00:35,080
Speaker 1: it real short, you keep it concise. I always say,

1221
01:00:35,440 --> 01:00:39,280
Speaker 1: don't make it no shorter than three sentences, but no

1222
01:00:39,440 --> 01:00:43,320
Speaker 1: longer than five sentences. So definitely a paragraph. Yeah, you're

1223
01:00:43,320 --> 01:00:46,240
Speaker 1: saying you need to text about this and keep us

1224
01:00:46,720 --> 01:00:50,200
Speaker 1: keep up, keep a record, Yeah, write it down, get

1225
01:00:50,240 --> 01:00:53,600
Speaker 1: a legal pad, yes, get write it down, but would

1226
01:00:53,600 --> 01:00:55,640
Speaker 1: also be on the phone, right, Yes, if you bring

1227
01:00:55,720 --> 01:00:59,240
Speaker 1: it up, just don't long wind yourself and that don't

1228
01:00:59,280 --> 01:01:01,800
Speaker 1: do that. Let's get the perfect they know they know

1229
01:01:01,920 --> 01:01:04,000
Speaker 1: what to do. I'm having fun with this pen and

1230
01:01:04,240 --> 01:01:06,400
Speaker 1: now the weeds were enough. Yeah, can you cross out

1231
01:01:06,480 --> 01:01:11,240
Speaker 1: that name? All right? What do you like? What would

1232
01:01:11,240 --> 01:01:13,160
Speaker 1: you say? Here's a girl she's been dating to do

1233
01:01:13,280 --> 01:01:16,120
Speaker 1: for three months. Let's just say make make a six

1234
01:01:16,200 --> 01:01:19,120
Speaker 1: three months is still earlier. Situation. Ship turns into like, nigga,

1235
01:01:19,120 --> 01:01:22,520
Speaker 1: we've been dating half a year? What's up? Okay, nigger,

1236
01:01:22,560 --> 01:01:24,440
Speaker 1: that's half a year. We're at the halfway mark, all right,

1237
01:01:24,720 --> 01:01:27,040
Speaker 1: six month, let's say six months. So they're getting along there,

1238
01:01:27,040 --> 01:01:31,840
Speaker 1: fucking let's saying wrong wrong? I met your friends, you

1239
01:01:31,960 --> 01:01:36,840
Speaker 1: met my friends. Um, maybe you you instagram and shipped together.

1240
01:01:37,080 --> 01:01:38,880
Speaker 1: But you're not calling each other names, you snap you,

1241
01:01:39,120 --> 01:01:44,400
Speaker 1: you're only catching the arm on dates. That's just the arm. Okay,

1242
01:01:44,800 --> 01:01:48,600
Speaker 1: I'm tired of you're watching this picture? How do I get?

1243
01:01:55,280 --> 01:01:56,840
Speaker 1: You know? Because bitches really be on this ship. They'd

1244
01:01:56,880 --> 01:01:59,680
Speaker 1: be posting niggles with a little know what doesn't need

1245
01:01:59,760 --> 01:02:08,640
Speaker 1: to be explain what. I hate that ship? But she

1246
01:02:08,800 --> 01:02:11,640
Speaker 1: wants more? Now what do they do? What? What does

1247
01:02:11,680 --> 01:02:15,480
Speaker 1: she say to him? You you texting? Are talking? We

1248
01:02:15,560 --> 01:02:18,960
Speaker 1: a role play right now? Okay? Okay? So he on

1249
01:02:19,080 --> 01:02:28,200
Speaker 1: the phone talking, you'd be like so and they know

1250
01:02:28,320 --> 01:02:36,080
Speaker 1: that silent you were thinking about. They know they know

1251
01:02:36,200 --> 01:02:40,640
Speaker 1: it's about to get real. Okay, So how long do

1252
01:02:40,760 --> 01:02:43,920
Speaker 1: you think that we are about to be dating and

1253
01:02:44,040 --> 01:02:49,080
Speaker 1: not serious or exclusive? And let them man say uh

1254
01:02:50,280 --> 01:02:54,160
Speaker 1: you know, because I'm chilling. Okay, I'm here. Let me

1255
01:02:54,160 --> 01:03:02,360
Speaker 1: be the niggas. I just answer what you're talking about.

1256
01:03:02,360 --> 01:03:03,880
Speaker 1: I thought we were showing you ain't happy with me?

1257
01:03:06,160 --> 01:03:11,720
Speaker 1: What's up? Why are you talking like this? We we No,

1258
01:03:12,120 --> 01:03:16,720
Speaker 1: I'm not happy. Simple, So you wasn't happy last night?

1259
01:03:23,720 --> 01:03:27,440
Speaker 1: Like that's what I'm saying that and give them the

1260
01:03:27,520 --> 01:03:30,160
Speaker 1: answers that you don't want to give. Tell them, no,

1261
01:03:30,360 --> 01:03:34,240
Speaker 1: I'm not happy. And I think I think unless we're

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01:03:34,240 --> 01:03:37,280
Speaker 1: about to make a move towards something more serious than

1263
01:03:37,560 --> 01:03:43,040
Speaker 1: we need to start spending less time together. Okay, but

1264
01:03:43,160 --> 01:03:44,880
Speaker 1: a lot of bitches. If the dick is really good,

1265
01:03:45,400 --> 01:03:50,040
Speaker 1: that's kind of I don't know if I can get

1266
01:03:50,040 --> 01:03:53,680
Speaker 1: out and demote him. And you got to show him

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01:03:53,720 --> 01:03:57,000
Speaker 1: that he's demoted and that you are dating dating, I

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01:03:57,080 --> 01:03:58,360
Speaker 1: tell you what you did? You know, let me tell

1269
01:03:58,360 --> 01:03:59,720
Speaker 1: you what she's saying that because it works because you

1270
01:03:59,800 --> 01:04:03,120
Speaker 1: must have picks. That's why you don't getting if that's

1271
01:04:03,120 --> 01:04:07,680
Speaker 1: the only dick. Exactly, Damn we need atation. I need atation,

1272
01:04:08,840 --> 01:04:12,959
Speaker 1: you need. I was about to say, she's speaking fact

1273
01:04:14,200 --> 01:04:16,360
Speaker 1: and how did Weezy do in her interpretation of man

1274
01:04:20,840 --> 01:04:24,640
Speaker 1: get the adjectives cored um, No, she did. That was

1275
01:04:24,680 --> 01:04:34,160
Speaker 1: great to routine. The moment you break routine, you can

1276
01:04:34,200 --> 01:04:35,919
Speaker 1: have the mil for free, which is why I said,

1277
01:04:36,160 --> 01:04:39,600
Speaker 1: um at that six month mark, three months is still

1278
01:04:39,680 --> 01:04:41,160
Speaker 1: to me puppy love. You're still kind of getting to

1279
01:04:41,200 --> 01:04:43,240
Speaker 1: know each other, especially depending how much time you spend together.

1280
01:04:43,640 --> 01:04:45,840
Speaker 1: Six months, like I said, that's half a year. And

1281
01:04:46,040 --> 01:04:48,760
Speaker 1: I love that we did this because to me, and

1282
01:04:48,800 --> 01:04:50,760
Speaker 1: I want to ask you this, um, because this is

1283
01:04:50,800 --> 01:04:53,480
Speaker 1: the issue that I haven't had something instilled in my mind. Um.

1284
01:04:54,040 --> 01:04:58,920
Speaker 1: So to me, I've been fucking this guy for four

1285
01:04:59,040 --> 01:05:02,120
Speaker 1: years now and I'm comfortable with my situation. But a

1286
01:05:02,160 --> 01:05:03,640
Speaker 1: lot of friends are like, why you ain't make him

1287
01:05:03,640 --> 01:05:05,720
Speaker 1: your boyfriend? Why don't even make him your boyfriend? And

1288
01:05:05,840 --> 01:05:07,680
Speaker 1: to me, in my mind, I've had this type of

1289
01:05:07,720 --> 01:05:11,720
Speaker 1: relationship before, and do you feel that it's hard to

1290
01:05:12,520 --> 01:05:16,000
Speaker 1: even um, kind of require a man to make you

1291
01:05:16,080 --> 01:05:18,320
Speaker 1: more after four years of sucking? Like, how do you

1292
01:05:18,800 --> 01:05:20,880
Speaker 1: if you're doing what you're doing? Like I've had a

1293
01:05:20,920 --> 01:05:23,240
Speaker 1: guys say which we never had to go on days

1294
01:05:23,280 --> 01:05:25,560
Speaker 1: before his Mandy Loki asking for advice right now, I

1295
01:05:25,680 --> 01:05:30,640
Speaker 1: don't want seven no, but I've had this before Christmas

1296
01:05:30,920 --> 01:05:33,360
Speaker 1: that's how good the dick is it? Literally mind you,

1297
01:05:33,440 --> 01:05:35,280
Speaker 1: he don't even celebrate Christmas. And I said, this is

1298
01:05:35,280 --> 01:05:40,640
Speaker 1: the present. I ain't gonna be honest with you because

1299
01:05:40,720 --> 01:05:43,600
Speaker 1: you had four Christmas if it's been four years, And well,

1300
01:05:43,600 --> 01:05:46,760
Speaker 1: I was in Singapore, Um the come on, world traveler.

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01:05:47,000 --> 01:05:50,000
Speaker 1: Don't you know I'm not gonna drop where I was. Well,

1302
01:05:50,040 --> 01:05:55,120
Speaker 1: I just did, but no, no, but it's so it's

1303
01:05:55,160 --> 01:05:57,640
Speaker 1: not necessarily with him, but it was with and I'll

1304
01:05:57,640 --> 01:06:00,560
Speaker 1: say his name or Patty Cake from high school. I

1305
01:06:00,600 --> 01:06:02,600
Speaker 1: don't know if you remember Patty Kate. So there's two

1306
01:06:02,680 --> 01:06:05,400
Speaker 1: niggas that were I've had this situation with where I

1307
01:06:05,520 --> 01:06:08,160
Speaker 1: wanted more. I don't want more. I just wanted to

1308
01:06:08,280 --> 01:06:11,680
Speaker 1: tell you forever you don't you don't have to let

1309
01:06:11,720 --> 01:06:15,920
Speaker 1: me talked about what I wouldn't want him as my boyfriend.

1310
01:06:15,960 --> 01:06:20,120
Speaker 1: You were like, forever I want to die and he'll

1311
01:06:20,160 --> 01:06:22,919
Speaker 1: be with him in an event, you know what I'm saying. Huh?

1312
01:06:23,000 --> 01:06:24,240
Speaker 1: And you were like, I don't even know if I

1313
01:06:24,280 --> 01:06:25,560
Speaker 1: want to do that because I know you'd be flirting

1314
01:06:25,560 --> 01:06:26,920
Speaker 1: with niggas. I don't know. I don't flirt with the

1315
01:06:27,000 --> 01:06:29,400
Speaker 1: nigga that I just had involved in my Now, why

1316
01:06:29,440 --> 01:06:31,360
Speaker 1: would you even think I'd flirted with him because you

1317
01:06:31,760 --> 01:06:34,080
Speaker 1: bit you flirted with Loopie, bit you flirted with Tomer.

1318
01:06:34,800 --> 01:06:36,520
Speaker 1: Listen back to the episode. You act like you wanted

1319
01:06:36,520 --> 01:06:38,080
Speaker 1: the three soon with him and his wife. She's a

1320
01:06:38,280 --> 01:06:41,440
Speaker 1: very flirty girl, and I don't need you making it

1321
01:06:41,480 --> 01:06:45,200
Speaker 1: seem like you ready to suck him. I like his dick,

1322
01:06:45,320 --> 01:06:48,160
Speaker 1: and I'm not wanting to share anymore. I was. I

1323
01:06:48,400 --> 01:06:50,520
Speaker 1: was trying to offer his dick to her one time,

1324
01:06:50,920 --> 01:06:53,200
Speaker 1: but now that it's consistent dick, I don't want to share.

1325
01:06:55,080 --> 01:06:57,440
Speaker 1: It's consistent dick. That was the thanks for the good

1326
01:06:57,480 --> 01:07:00,240
Speaker 1: dick gift. That's all it was. You were such I

1327
01:07:00,360 --> 01:07:02,800
Speaker 1: swear that's all it was. The dick was good. Anyways,

1328
01:07:02,840 --> 01:07:06,040
Speaker 1: back to the question I've how do I make my boyfriend?

1329
01:07:08,160 --> 01:07:10,000
Speaker 1: I don't want to make him my boyfriend, but I

1330
01:07:10,080 --> 01:07:12,080
Speaker 1: did want to make my boyfriend, and I did want

1331
01:07:12,080 --> 01:07:16,240
Speaker 1: to make Patty Cake my boyfriend. And at the point

1332
01:07:16,360 --> 01:07:18,360
Speaker 1: that I wanted to make my boyfriend, we had already

1333
01:07:18,400 --> 01:07:22,800
Speaker 1: been fucking for three, four five years, and so even

1334
01:07:22,840 --> 01:07:25,120
Speaker 1: when I went to Patty Cake and kind of wanted more,

1335
01:07:26,040 --> 01:07:27,800
Speaker 1: that was the question, Like we was cool with what

1336
01:07:27,960 --> 01:07:31,040
Speaker 1: we've been why you want more now? And so do

1337
01:07:31,120 --> 01:07:33,600
Speaker 1: you have girls? And I know you hate situation ships,

1338
01:07:33,800 --> 01:07:35,760
Speaker 1: but this is a thing where you think you just

1339
01:07:35,880 --> 01:07:38,160
Speaker 1: want them for one thing, and then after a while

1340
01:07:38,200 --> 01:07:39,960
Speaker 1: you kind of start to like him, and then you're like, funk,

1341
01:07:40,000 --> 01:07:42,280
Speaker 1: I put myself into this one bubble? Can I get

1342
01:07:42,320 --> 01:07:45,760
Speaker 1: out of it? Um? Like I said, that's up to you.

1343
01:07:46,080 --> 01:07:49,080
Speaker 1: You decide what you want, and I just end up

1344
01:07:49,120 --> 01:07:51,160
Speaker 1: just keeping the dick. Then I guess, Dick, it is okay.

1345
01:07:51,160 --> 01:07:53,560
Speaker 1: You don't want me. So that's the thing. And I think,

1346
01:07:54,200 --> 01:07:55,760
Speaker 1: let me tell me if I'm wrong. I don't tell

1347
01:07:55,760 --> 01:07:57,720
Speaker 1: me if I'm wrong. I think that the reason you're

1348
01:07:57,720 --> 01:08:01,880
Speaker 1: giving this answer is because you are giving ultimatums and

1349
01:08:01,960 --> 01:08:04,000
Speaker 1: if someone's not prepared to stop it because they're not

1350
01:08:04,000 --> 01:08:05,840
Speaker 1: going to be a girlfriend, that's why you're saying you

1351
01:08:05,960 --> 01:08:07,720
Speaker 1: got to figure out what you want. Because if you

1352
01:08:08,120 --> 01:08:09,840
Speaker 1: are really gonna say I want to be your girlfriend

1353
01:08:09,840 --> 01:08:11,680
Speaker 1: and you need to stick by that, then you need

1354
01:08:11,720 --> 01:08:13,360
Speaker 1: to be prepared to walk away if they don't let

1355
01:08:13,360 --> 01:08:14,920
Speaker 1: it happen. And I'm not walking away from the and

1356
01:08:14,920 --> 01:08:16,960
Speaker 1: then that's when I think you'd be able to more

1357
01:08:17,640 --> 01:08:21,200
Speaker 1: of something. Someone taking you serious, all right? Yeah, Like

1358
01:08:21,400 --> 01:08:24,280
Speaker 1: it's totally up to you. I feel like a lot

1359
01:08:24,360 --> 01:08:27,080
Speaker 1: of us are pressured into stuff because of time and

1360
01:08:27,280 --> 01:08:29,240
Speaker 1: all of that stuff. But if you don't see him

1361
01:08:29,280 --> 01:08:32,000
Speaker 1: as your boyfriend, you don't see more. And you got

1362
01:08:32,120 --> 01:08:34,040
Speaker 1: to see him as more than that for real if

1363
01:08:34,080 --> 01:08:36,040
Speaker 1: you want to real relations. Yeah, I know these niggas

1364
01:08:36,080 --> 01:08:38,439
Speaker 1: gonna be like even Jordan's. He'd be like, he's not

1365
01:08:38,520 --> 01:08:41,240
Speaker 1: going away. We're gonna be forever for life, Like he

1366
01:08:41,360 --> 01:08:42,960
Speaker 1: wants me for life, but don't want to be with me.

1367
01:08:43,840 --> 01:08:46,120
Speaker 1: Are you okay with that? I mean we don't talk

1368
01:08:46,120 --> 01:08:50,920
Speaker 1: to because I'm not okay with it now, but I

1369
01:08:50,960 --> 01:08:53,920
Speaker 1: mean if he come to town. Wait, I want to

1370
01:08:53,960 --> 01:08:55,760
Speaker 1: go to the next one. Now. We had an episode

1371
01:08:55,920 --> 01:08:59,160
Speaker 1: on Patreon where we discussed um sugar dating and things

1372
01:08:59,240 --> 01:09:02,000
Speaker 1: like that. This is a question we had passport Cutty.

1373
01:09:02,040 --> 01:09:03,320
Speaker 1: Do you know how that is? She wrote a book

1374
01:09:03,400 --> 01:09:06,760
Speaker 1: about It's called The m and Man for Money and

1375
01:09:06,840 --> 01:09:08,599
Speaker 1: she basically teaches them and how to get money, ask

1376
01:09:08,640 --> 01:09:11,000
Speaker 1: some money like that. You wrote in your eyes, but

1377
01:09:11,040 --> 01:09:12,840
Speaker 1: you t hose how to get this ship. So let's

1378
01:09:12,880 --> 01:09:15,559
Speaker 1: go Whyes, right, you did just wrote your eyes Because

1379
01:09:15,920 --> 01:09:19,200
Speaker 1: I feel like there's been a lot of comparison between

1380
01:09:19,360 --> 01:09:22,000
Speaker 1: me and her. Oh, because you call yourself a home coach,

1381
01:09:22,040 --> 01:09:24,400
Speaker 1: and she she calls herself to Hoch. No, I don't

1382
01:09:24,439 --> 01:09:27,400
Speaker 1: call myself a home coach. It's certain women who want

1383
01:09:27,479 --> 01:09:31,280
Speaker 1: to be hosed that I helped them coch coach with that.

1384
01:09:31,439 --> 01:09:33,800
Speaker 1: How I work with real quick, real quick. I love

1385
01:09:33,840 --> 01:09:36,560
Speaker 1: that you just said that. How do you coach a

1386
01:09:36,640 --> 01:09:39,439
Speaker 1: bit to be a hope? What are the things you say?

1387
01:09:40,439 --> 01:09:43,200
Speaker 1: It's plenty of women who don't really know how to date. Oh,

1388
01:09:43,280 --> 01:09:45,679
Speaker 1: it's plenty of women to date, Like the actively singing

1389
01:09:46,360 --> 01:09:48,479
Speaker 1: like they don't know how to be single, So we

1390
01:09:48,640 --> 01:09:51,680
Speaker 1: hold for actively singing single data. I mean, what's wrong

1391
01:09:51,720 --> 01:09:55,719
Speaker 1: would be in the hose? You're right, Okay, you're right, Okay,

1392
01:09:55,960 --> 01:10:00,360
Speaker 1: it's nothing wrong with saying yeah that's what they call okay.

1393
01:10:00,479 --> 01:10:02,160
Speaker 1: So have a lot of women who don't know how

1394
01:10:02,200 --> 01:10:04,439
Speaker 1: to be single. They don't know, they just know how.

1395
01:10:04,920 --> 01:10:08,760
Speaker 1: They kind of honestly only know how to follow what

1396
01:10:08,920 --> 01:10:11,680
Speaker 1: a man is attached themselves to men. Yeah, so like

1397
01:10:12,200 --> 01:10:13,920
Speaker 1: by meaning to be single, like I said, correct me

1398
01:10:13,920 --> 01:10:16,960
Speaker 1: if I'm long again. So a lot of single girls

1399
01:10:17,040 --> 01:10:18,760
Speaker 1: will end up kind of just finding one guy and

1400
01:10:18,880 --> 01:10:21,320
Speaker 1: like sticking with you just the next one instead of

1401
01:10:21,400 --> 01:10:23,760
Speaker 1: just sucking them and learning how to like bounce or

1402
01:10:23,800 --> 01:10:26,960
Speaker 1: at least dating around having some fun here and having

1403
01:10:27,320 --> 01:10:29,400
Speaker 1: going on this day and being like, I don't know,

1404
01:10:29,479 --> 01:10:31,360
Speaker 1: if I'm not sure about this guy, maybe I'll go

1405
01:10:31,439 --> 01:10:35,280
Speaker 1: into these other three dates and see if if something

1406
01:10:35,360 --> 01:10:37,080
Speaker 1: happens there. A lot of women don't know how to

1407
01:10:37,160 --> 01:10:40,639
Speaker 1: do that. They go on one date and it'll be okay,

1408
01:10:40,960 --> 01:10:43,519
Speaker 1: and then they'd be like, Okay, that's what I'm sticking with.

1409
01:10:44,280 --> 01:10:47,479
Speaker 1: A lot of women are like, how tell me how

1410
01:10:47,720 --> 01:10:51,040
Speaker 1: to like detach from doing stuff like that. And that's

1411
01:10:51,080 --> 01:10:55,479
Speaker 1: what whole coaching is because it's just like that you

1412
01:10:55,640 --> 01:10:58,960
Speaker 1: really do. It's funny because we literally emotional data. I

1413
01:10:59,040 --> 01:11:04,040
Speaker 1: know how to like something that was very like, I'm

1414
01:11:04,080 --> 01:11:09,760
Speaker 1: not well, I have my form. I just um, you know,

1415
01:11:10,040 --> 01:11:13,160
Speaker 1: I kind of think about myself and I was like,

1416
01:11:13,960 --> 01:11:17,519
Speaker 1: you know, I just weigh out the options, like, okay,

1417
01:11:17,640 --> 01:11:21,120
Speaker 1: well I'm talking to these three guys, right, this one

1418
01:11:21,240 --> 01:11:23,799
Speaker 1: I like, I think he's attractive, I think he's educated,

1419
01:11:23,840 --> 01:11:26,439
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. But this one I think he has

1420
01:11:26,439 --> 01:11:28,760
Speaker 1: a great future. The sex is great with him, but

1421
01:11:28,880 --> 01:11:32,800
Speaker 1: I'm not sure about the emotional what's her name, she's

1422
01:11:32,800 --> 01:11:36,240
Speaker 1: got to have it, Nolo Darling. Yeah yeah, really this one,

1423
01:11:36,520 --> 01:11:41,240
Speaker 1: this one, this one got this. I'm Mandy Darling. That's

1424
01:11:41,360 --> 01:11:45,479
Speaker 1: that's all. That's all. It's just like weighing your options.

1425
01:11:45,520 --> 01:11:47,120
Speaker 1: So this is the question I have for you, because

1426
01:11:47,400 --> 01:11:51,800
Speaker 1: Dubbs literally said, you help her to get things out

1427
01:11:51,840 --> 01:11:55,920
Speaker 1: of men. So you're single, dating um, and you decide,

1428
01:11:55,960 --> 01:11:57,840
Speaker 1: you know what, I want to be a paid hope,

1429
01:11:57,960 --> 01:12:00,040
Speaker 1: not just a free hope. I want to get I

1430
01:12:00,080 --> 01:12:01,360
Speaker 1: want to be the hole to get shit out. And

1431
01:12:01,840 --> 01:12:03,439
Speaker 1: this is a lot of listeners like how do I

1432
01:12:03,439 --> 01:12:06,000
Speaker 1: get do give me money? We get so many questions

1433
01:12:06,080 --> 01:12:08,600
Speaker 1: from our listeners because she's had her rent paid up

1434
01:12:08,600 --> 01:12:11,800
Speaker 1: for a year. I have my rent, I'll be on payroll. Um,

1435
01:12:12,200 --> 01:12:16,400
Speaker 1: So we we get a lot of questions from women

1436
01:12:16,520 --> 01:12:19,360
Speaker 1: like I'm dealing with this nigga. How do I get

1437
01:12:19,640 --> 01:12:21,160
Speaker 1: a hunt of dollars out of them? How do I

1438
01:12:21,200 --> 01:12:23,280
Speaker 1: get my phone bill paid? How do I get something

1439
01:12:23,680 --> 01:12:26,200
Speaker 1: where I'm not feeling like I'm a prostitute. What do

1440
01:12:26,360 --> 01:12:28,560
Speaker 1: you tell women on how to get ship out of

1441
01:12:28,600 --> 01:12:30,599
Speaker 1: these niggas? Oh yeah, she bless me? How we back,

1442
01:12:31,680 --> 01:12:35,320
Speaker 1: She's like, first of all, exactly. First of all, it's

1443
01:12:35,360 --> 01:12:39,760
Speaker 1: really simple. Uh, you ain't a good hole if you're

1444
01:12:39,800 --> 01:12:44,880
Speaker 1: not a paid hole. Okay, so just don't even call

1445
01:12:44,960 --> 01:12:47,519
Speaker 1: yourself a home if you can't get out of you

1446
01:12:47,640 --> 01:12:50,519
Speaker 1: can't if you're not getting paid, because honestly, you're just

1447
01:12:50,640 --> 01:12:54,479
Speaker 1: wasting your own time and you're wasting your you're wasting energy,

1448
01:12:54,520 --> 01:12:58,960
Speaker 1: You're wasting a lot of stuff. So if you are

1449
01:12:59,080 --> 01:13:01,880
Speaker 1: just giving yourself a way for free, you're really just

1450
01:13:02,040 --> 01:13:06,000
Speaker 1: a waste of energy. You have to go. You gotta go.

1451
01:13:06,520 --> 01:13:10,040
Speaker 1: You gotta be straight up and let them know, like, look,

1452
01:13:10,560 --> 01:13:13,679
Speaker 1: I'm not showing up unless I have this paid first,

1453
01:13:15,320 --> 01:13:17,920
Speaker 1: or like, don't be ubering yourselves to the dick, Like,

1454
01:13:19,800 --> 01:13:24,800
Speaker 1: like I get at two different things. I get uber SUV.

1455
01:13:24,920 --> 01:13:28,160
Speaker 1: You're talking about women that are wanting just money. Then

1456
01:13:28,200 --> 01:13:29,640
Speaker 1: now we need to talk about women that are in

1457
01:13:29,680 --> 01:13:31,439
Speaker 1: a relationship that need a man to be more assertive

1458
01:13:31,520 --> 01:13:33,519
Speaker 1: or take care of things. Okay, So let's start with

1459
01:13:34,280 --> 01:13:37,720
Speaker 1: dating and like things like a uber Okay, so um,

1460
01:13:38,200 --> 01:13:41,280
Speaker 1: come see me, gus saying I want you to see me.

1461
01:13:41,320 --> 01:13:43,439
Speaker 1: Let's talk about New York you uptown New York City now,

1462
01:13:43,720 --> 01:13:46,439
Speaker 1: because we know that it's okay to drive yourself to

1463
01:13:46,520 --> 01:13:49,240
Speaker 1: someone else living in another state. However, we in New

1464
01:13:49,320 --> 01:13:52,560
Speaker 1: York City, y'all. And um, I'm not going to a

1465
01:13:52,640 --> 01:13:56,000
Speaker 1: nigga on the train. So then it's like that after

1466
01:13:56,080 --> 01:13:59,519
Speaker 1: the club, niggas be like, come see me. I'm drunk. Okay,

1467
01:13:59,560 --> 01:14:03,519
Speaker 1: I'm so, how do you how would you sit here? Say? Because, well, well,

1468
01:14:03,560 --> 01:14:05,519
Speaker 1: let's say how we do this. I'll say what I

1469
01:14:05,680 --> 01:14:07,360
Speaker 1: normally say. You say what you're saying. You tell me

1470
01:14:07,479 --> 01:14:11,080
Speaker 1: what what you told the host to say? Um, so

1471
01:14:11,800 --> 01:14:19,920
Speaker 1: it's pretty I mean, it's funny. It's pretty simple. My texts.

1472
01:14:20,000 --> 01:14:24,920
Speaker 1: You got my uber? Okay, if I'm interested, I'll send

1473
01:14:24,960 --> 01:14:29,960
Speaker 1: my address. Oh I feel like, okay, it sounds great.

1474
01:14:29,960 --> 01:14:32,519
Speaker 1: I'll be like, here's my address. I feel like that's fine.

1475
01:14:32,600 --> 01:14:35,280
Speaker 1: What do you do? I feel like that's leaving it

1476
01:14:35,439 --> 01:14:40,759
Speaker 1: too open. I like that, send my uber? You are emotional,

1477
01:14:40,880 --> 01:14:43,880
Speaker 1: so and you want people to read come and pick

1478
01:14:43,920 --> 01:14:47,760
Speaker 1: me up? Send my Uh what time is my car driving? Oh? Yes,

1479
01:14:47,880 --> 01:14:50,320
Speaker 1: I like that one. Let me know how much time?

1480
01:14:50,360 --> 01:14:52,760
Speaker 1: I guess? Yeah, because I need to get ready first,

1481
01:14:52,880 --> 01:14:56,120
Speaker 1: like or someone like myself right there? Maybe your girl

1482
01:14:56,160 --> 01:14:58,439
Speaker 1: out there like me, that. I'm like, I sometimes can't

1483
01:14:58,840 --> 01:15:01,840
Speaker 1: say it like that. Why that word? Because you're you

1484
01:15:01,960 --> 01:15:04,080
Speaker 1: have I'll say that. I think that comes from your

1485
01:15:04,160 --> 01:15:07,599
Speaker 1: just independence and not seeming like you need anything from

1486
01:15:07,640 --> 01:15:09,880
Speaker 1: a man. And we talked about that a lot. Thank you,

1487
01:15:10,200 --> 01:15:12,320
Speaker 1: coach me. I mean, I'm just saying so, and I

1488
01:15:12,439 --> 01:15:14,840
Speaker 1: think and I think a lot of females do do this,

1489
01:15:15,200 --> 01:15:18,120
Speaker 1: especially whether it's a celebrity or whether it's a regular guy.

1490
01:15:18,439 --> 01:15:20,320
Speaker 1: A lot of girls feel like me and you have

1491
01:15:20,400 --> 01:15:24,000
Speaker 1: talked about talked about money bag girl. So a lot

1492
01:15:24,080 --> 01:15:27,280
Speaker 1: of girls feel like if they ask a guy to

1493
01:15:27,400 --> 01:15:30,200
Speaker 1: do something, they look needy, and then they look like

1494
01:15:30,320 --> 01:15:32,120
Speaker 1: gold diggers, and then they look like someone that a

1495
01:15:32,200 --> 01:15:34,760
Speaker 1: guy can't wife. And to me, in reality, if you're

1496
01:15:34,800 --> 01:15:38,040
Speaker 1: dealing with a guy, the least he could do it

1497
01:15:38,160 --> 01:15:40,559
Speaker 1: gets you a uber to come see him or even

1498
01:15:40,760 --> 01:15:42,519
Speaker 1: going out on a date. What do you think about

1499
01:15:44,160 --> 01:15:50,960
Speaker 1: we have a guy. I mean, I like the assertiveness.

1500
01:15:51,840 --> 01:15:55,080
Speaker 1: So if you just say sending uba, I like that. Okay,

1501
01:15:55,439 --> 01:15:58,800
Speaker 1: I like that. If you ask for your approaching, I

1502
01:15:58,840 --> 01:16:03,120
Speaker 1: don't like that. They don't. They don't because and you

1503
01:16:03,240 --> 01:16:06,840
Speaker 1: look scared and you look like it almost kind of

1504
01:16:06,880 --> 01:16:10,400
Speaker 1: feels like it looks like, oh, I've never done yeah,

1505
01:16:13,560 --> 01:16:14,920
Speaker 1: so why are you trying to get it out of me?

1506
01:16:15,080 --> 01:16:17,960
Speaker 1: I think my experiences with the sugaring so to speak,

1507
01:16:18,040 --> 01:16:20,760
Speaker 1: not like this. But I have never the most money

1508
01:16:20,760 --> 01:16:23,240
Speaker 1: I've ever got write my whole RAMT page that was

1509
01:16:25,439 --> 01:16:29,160
Speaker 1: and I never asked for it, And so I guess

1510
01:16:29,200 --> 01:16:33,000
Speaker 1: that I sometimes worry about asking because I feel like

1511
01:16:33,080 --> 01:16:35,400
Speaker 1: it'll be too neaty. It's so funny because they told

1512
01:16:35,439 --> 01:16:38,160
Speaker 1: me out of his mouth, I did this for you

1513
01:16:38,320 --> 01:16:40,479
Speaker 1: because I know you were going to do it bout yourself.

1514
01:16:40,800 --> 01:16:43,240
Speaker 1: And it's so just kind of unlucky like that. And

1515
01:16:43,320 --> 01:16:45,760
Speaker 1: it's different from who I deal with because the men

1516
01:16:45,840 --> 01:16:47,840
Speaker 1: in my life, the men in my life who have

1517
01:16:48,880 --> 01:16:51,040
Speaker 1: been about giving me money, the one he put me

1518
01:16:51,120 --> 01:16:54,200
Speaker 1: on payroll without asking. But it was also if I

1519
01:16:54,280 --> 01:16:57,080
Speaker 1: went on a trip, let me look up your hotel.

1520
01:16:57,080 --> 01:16:58,880
Speaker 1: I'm going to get your hotel, where do you want

1521
01:16:58,880 --> 01:17:01,240
Speaker 1: to stay? Or the other guy that I had, I

1522
01:17:01,280 --> 01:17:04,160
Speaker 1: would I would be kind of tiptoeing around like I

1523
01:17:04,280 --> 01:17:05,960
Speaker 1: kind of need help with this. I have summer school.

1524
01:17:06,240 --> 01:17:09,040
Speaker 1: How much do you need? And it was literally, I'm

1525
01:17:09,080 --> 01:17:10,640
Speaker 1: not gonna give you a number if you don't tell me.

1526
01:17:10,920 --> 01:17:12,960
Speaker 1: So I've had guys literally be like how much do

1527
01:17:13,000 --> 01:17:14,720
Speaker 1: you want? So it sounds like you need to ask

1528
01:17:14,800 --> 01:17:18,680
Speaker 1: for what you want exactly exactly, and a lot of

1529
01:17:18,760 --> 01:17:20,840
Speaker 1: men like that and they'll tell you no if they

1530
01:17:20,880 --> 01:17:23,439
Speaker 1: don't have it, or you'll negotiating and you take it

1531
01:17:23,520 --> 01:17:26,000
Speaker 1: to them. That's the thing, that's the part. I feel

1532
01:17:26,000 --> 01:17:28,120
Speaker 1: like a lot of the things that I have a

1533
01:17:28,200 --> 01:17:31,240
Speaker 1: problem with in my coaching is women not understanding that

1534
01:17:31,439 --> 01:17:34,880
Speaker 1: they have the part they compower, they can control it.

1535
01:17:35,439 --> 01:17:38,559
Speaker 1: Like you can't walk away if he says that, would

1536
01:17:38,560 --> 01:17:43,280
Speaker 1: be like, okay, fuck you, nigga, like block, Like it's

1537
01:17:43,400 --> 01:17:46,960
Speaker 1: really that easy. Now. If he says, oh, I'm not

1538
01:17:47,080 --> 01:17:49,479
Speaker 1: paying it because use a gold dig or what is it,

1539
01:17:49,600 --> 01:17:52,200
Speaker 1: you can literally block him in mid attack. I want

1540
01:17:52,200 --> 01:17:55,680
Speaker 1: to ask. So there's a lot of women that are

1541
01:17:55,760 --> 01:18:00,200
Speaker 1: out there that let's say they might have a a

1542
01:18:00,280 --> 01:18:01,600
Speaker 1: bill that's do or something like that, and maybe that

1543
01:18:01,720 --> 01:18:03,679
Speaker 1: let's say they want into their home. Girl, I can't

1544
01:18:03,680 --> 01:18:05,559
Speaker 1: afford to pay this bill, blond She's like, well, don't

1545
01:18:05,600 --> 01:18:08,080
Speaker 1: you be fucking with that? Blah blah blah. I shall

1546
01:18:08,160 --> 01:18:11,360
Speaker 1: do that. I said, why are you ask me money?

1547
01:18:11,360 --> 01:18:14,280
Speaker 1: Ain't every man that you a man that you can

1548
01:18:14,320 --> 01:18:17,080
Speaker 1: ask this for, and what are your expectations with that?

1549
01:18:17,160 --> 01:18:19,639
Speaker 1: Because that's the truth. Like, just because I'm sucking that nigga,

1550
01:18:19,640 --> 01:18:23,320
Speaker 1: does that mean I can really ask him for right? Like?

1551
01:18:23,439 --> 01:18:26,519
Speaker 1: I can't you saying it? Should? Well Cutty Cutty does

1552
01:18:26,560 --> 01:18:29,240
Speaker 1: a challenge whatever, nigga, you fucking ask him for a

1553
01:18:29,320 --> 01:18:32,160
Speaker 1: hundred dollars and see what his responses. So even stuff

1554
01:18:32,240 --> 01:18:34,680
Speaker 1: like that, like just to see now see, yeah, you

1555
01:18:34,800 --> 01:18:37,559
Speaker 1: rolled your eyes when Cutty said this because I feel

1556
01:18:37,600 --> 01:18:42,280
Speaker 1: like that's too fucking cheap. Yeah, yeah, well, okay a

1557
01:18:42,360 --> 01:18:44,599
Speaker 1: hundred dollars is Petty does do that online she'll say

1558
01:18:44,720 --> 01:18:48,320
Speaker 1: say something about like whatever, and then her ideology of

1559
01:18:48,360 --> 01:18:50,920
Speaker 1: it Cutty ain't broke, She's doing well for herself, and

1560
01:18:51,000 --> 01:18:52,600
Speaker 1: she'll say ship like I don't need it either, But

1561
01:18:52,840 --> 01:18:54,880
Speaker 1: wouldn't it be nice not to pay for my phone bill?

1562
01:18:55,200 --> 01:18:57,120
Speaker 1: She's like, that's one bill eliminated. Wouldn't it be nice

1563
01:18:57,160 --> 01:18:58,640
Speaker 1: not to pay for my nails or mine weave or

1564
01:18:58,680 --> 01:19:02,479
Speaker 1: my hair or whatever. That's so back to the question,

1565
01:19:03,280 --> 01:19:05,360
Speaker 1: is every nigger that you're sucking with really someone that

1566
01:19:05,439 --> 01:19:07,680
Speaker 1: you can ask money for? And shouldn't be girls be

1567
01:19:07,800 --> 01:19:09,519
Speaker 1: doing this when their homegirls like why don't you blah

1568
01:19:09,560 --> 01:19:17,200
Speaker 1: blah blah. No, Okay, honestly, honestly not know. Every guy

1569
01:19:17,360 --> 01:19:21,080
Speaker 1: is not somebody that you can ask for money, um,

1570
01:19:21,520 --> 01:19:23,920
Speaker 1: but you can decide to cut them off if they're

1571
01:19:23,960 --> 01:19:27,240
Speaker 1: not doing that. Some men are just not into It's

1572
01:19:27,280 --> 01:19:30,120
Speaker 1: just like with sugaring, right, some men. I've had sugar

1573
01:19:30,200 --> 01:19:33,360
Speaker 1: daddies that were not into the whole giving you directly

1574
01:19:33,479 --> 01:19:37,320
Speaker 1: money in your hands. And some guys feel like that too,

1575
01:19:37,479 --> 01:19:39,800
Speaker 1: like I don't want to give you money directly in

1576
01:19:39,880 --> 01:19:42,840
Speaker 1: your hand. I'll pay for something for you, you know.

1577
01:19:43,040 --> 01:19:45,320
Speaker 1: So every man is not like that, and every man

1578
01:19:45,400 --> 01:19:47,840
Speaker 1: will kind of take offense. That happened to me the

1579
01:19:48,000 --> 01:19:50,600
Speaker 1: dude that so my red doesn't cost sixt gs, but

1580
01:19:50,640 --> 01:19:52,439
Speaker 1: he put me in an apartment that was five gs

1581
01:19:52,439 --> 01:19:54,360
Speaker 1: a month. When I first moved to any Art, I

1582
01:19:55,200 --> 01:19:57,560
Speaker 1: never got a dollar in my hand from him, like

1583
01:19:57,680 --> 01:20:00,840
Speaker 1: the most exactly front road of Beyonce, private it all

1584
01:20:00,880 --> 01:20:03,720
Speaker 1: the ship and never had cash. And actually, at one

1585
01:20:03,760 --> 01:20:05,880
Speaker 1: point in time I was kind of broke when I

1586
01:20:05,960 --> 01:20:07,800
Speaker 1: was dating him, and I was like, oh my fucking god, dud,

1587
01:20:07,800 --> 01:20:12,479
Speaker 1: this nigga just want me lou batons and ills and

1588
01:20:12,920 --> 01:20:17,280
Speaker 1: don't let me be broke and get some expensive say okay,

1589
01:20:19,640 --> 01:20:23,120
Speaker 1: even wait, why is that funked up? If I'm broke

1590
01:20:23,280 --> 01:20:25,960
Speaker 1: right now and you're buying me fucking six seven, eight

1591
01:20:26,040 --> 01:20:29,080
Speaker 1: hundred dollar heels and I don't have that in my account?

1592
01:20:29,320 --> 01:20:33,240
Speaker 1: Oh my nigga's we got you this gift because you

1593
01:20:33,280 --> 01:20:34,840
Speaker 1: want to see you in this gift and now you

1594
01:20:35,000 --> 01:20:38,240
Speaker 1: just every time we want, I'm gonna act like my

1595
01:20:38,280 --> 01:20:40,000
Speaker 1: ankle broke. And that's why I got to wear flats.

1596
01:20:40,840 --> 01:20:43,439
Speaker 1: We just don't remember how I myself from that, but

1597
01:20:43,880 --> 01:20:47,800
Speaker 1: I was very scared to ask for cash, especially someone

1598
01:20:47,880 --> 01:20:50,559
Speaker 1: that was that generous right times like that. It's it's

1599
01:20:50,880 --> 01:20:54,800
Speaker 1: it's okay. Understand and understanding you that it was not

1600
01:20:56,360 --> 01:21:00,639
Speaker 1: understandings to you. No, I'm talking about if she needs

1601
01:21:00,760 --> 01:21:03,479
Speaker 1: money and she's completely broken at this time, I was

1602
01:21:04,040 --> 01:21:05,479
Speaker 1: what I was taking The dude that was doing that,

1603
01:21:05,560 --> 01:21:07,439
Speaker 1: he was taking me to fucking thousand dollars. He was

1604
01:21:07,520 --> 01:21:09,960
Speaker 1: spending money, but not giving her money to spend money

1605
01:21:10,040 --> 01:21:13,880
Speaker 1: on you already, he's then you should have just asked him.

1606
01:21:13,960 --> 01:21:16,599
Speaker 1: But he don't understand me selling these shoes. No, he's

1607
01:21:16,600 --> 01:21:20,439
Speaker 1: not gonna understand. He will definitely understand if you asked him, Look,

1608
01:21:21,000 --> 01:21:23,280
Speaker 1: I need a hundred fifty dollars. I need three hundred

1609
01:21:23,280 --> 01:21:28,680
Speaker 1: dollars right now more than you know. I need three

1610
01:21:28,760 --> 01:21:30,640
Speaker 1: hundred dollars right now. So that's funny because this is

1611
01:21:30,680 --> 01:21:34,080
Speaker 1: how the apartment thing happens, so everybody's out of other happened.

1612
01:21:34,120 --> 01:21:38,360
Speaker 1: So like I I, I was going somewhere with him

1613
01:21:39,080 --> 01:21:42,640
Speaker 1: and Panama, and I was like, honestly, like, I'm so

1614
01:21:42,800 --> 01:21:45,200
Speaker 1: uncomfortable being here. I'm just really stressed out, Like I'm

1615
01:21:45,200 --> 01:21:46,960
Speaker 1: also moved to New York and I can't believe how

1616
01:21:47,040 --> 01:21:48,559
Speaker 1: much money I've spending around. I'm like looking at these

1617
01:21:48,560 --> 01:21:51,519
Speaker 1: shitty as places, like I feel stupid in here. That's

1618
01:21:51,520 --> 01:21:53,519
Speaker 1: what I said to him, Like every time you get

1619
01:21:53,560 --> 01:21:57,040
Speaker 1: me something, I feel stupid. And he's like, you you

1620
01:21:57,120 --> 01:21:59,160
Speaker 1: don't have to like and I was like he started

1621
01:21:59,160 --> 01:22:00,600
Speaker 1: talking about money, and I was like, dude, I can

1622
01:22:00,800 --> 01:22:02,000
Speaker 1: this is how much I can afford. At the time,

1623
01:22:02,040 --> 01:22:04,080
Speaker 1: I was likenth, that's all I can afford. And you know,

1624
01:22:04,120 --> 01:22:06,479
Speaker 1: you can't get sh up in this mother really and

1625
01:22:06,520 --> 01:22:08,920
Speaker 1: I had to live in the city. And then it

1626
01:22:09,040 --> 01:22:11,280
Speaker 1: just started coming from there. It was like I expressed

1627
01:22:11,320 --> 01:22:13,200
Speaker 1: that stress and then he fixed it. I didn't know

1628
01:22:13,280 --> 01:22:16,920
Speaker 1: I was gonna be you know, forty four law. I

1629
01:22:17,000 --> 01:22:19,320
Speaker 1: was in the apartment one night, high on Molly and

1630
01:22:19,360 --> 01:22:26,120
Speaker 1: I started crying. I was like, I don't know, but

1631
01:22:26,800 --> 01:22:29,920
Speaker 1: get so so. Dubb said that you of course helped

1632
01:22:29,960 --> 01:22:34,519
Speaker 1: her with even her dating apps and her her dating page.

1633
01:22:34,880 --> 01:22:37,160
Speaker 1: But she's literally looking to get things out of people

1634
01:22:37,240 --> 01:22:40,640
Speaker 1: she's dating. How early can you let the nigga know

1635
01:22:40,720 --> 01:22:42,960
Speaker 1: you trying to get shit out of him as soon

1636
01:22:43,040 --> 01:22:46,040
Speaker 1: as possible, as soon as you, guys have a conversation. Honestly,

1637
01:22:46,320 --> 01:22:47,960
Speaker 1: first of all, you what you want to do is

1638
01:22:48,040 --> 01:22:52,200
Speaker 1: you always got to communicate that uh with on dating apps,

1639
01:22:52,320 --> 01:22:55,639
Speaker 1: with your online appearance and in person with your appearance.

1640
01:22:55,640 --> 01:22:57,599
Speaker 1: And I know that's why I can wearing my Chanelle bag,

1641
01:22:57,680 --> 01:23:03,360
Speaker 1: my Cardier braves, put on my dates. Yeah, and like that,

1642
01:23:03,600 --> 01:23:05,840
Speaker 1: So you should invest in. And I like what you're saying.

1643
01:23:06,400 --> 01:23:08,320
Speaker 1: I want to just like to this for a second.

1644
01:23:08,479 --> 01:23:11,200
Speaker 1: Homeboy and Mind took this bitch to Mexico, right, and

1645
01:23:11,280 --> 01:23:14,080
Speaker 1: he was like, oh, modifies out. Well whatever he calls

1646
01:23:14,160 --> 01:23:16,760
Speaker 1: me when he gets home. He's like, yo, I don't

1647
01:23:16,760 --> 01:23:18,240
Speaker 1: know if it's a dude. They bought her this ship

1648
01:23:18,680 --> 01:23:20,519
Speaker 1: or if she's really doing that well in her job.

1649
01:23:20,600 --> 01:23:22,720
Speaker 1: He's like, put everything down to her lipstick? Is should now?

1650
01:23:22,960 --> 01:23:24,800
Speaker 1: He said, she'll have one cheap pair of clothes in there,

1651
01:23:24,840 --> 01:23:28,840
Speaker 1: and he's like everything is. He noticed her lipstick. Now

1652
01:23:29,080 --> 01:23:31,599
Speaker 1: he's forty two years old. I was like, I couldn't

1653
01:23:31,600 --> 01:23:33,800
Speaker 1: believe he said. He said her makeup is Y S

1654
01:23:33,960 --> 01:23:36,560
Speaker 1: L and channel, and I was like, that's when he

1655
01:23:36,680 --> 01:23:38,840
Speaker 1: knew I have to treat her like this. Yeah, he

1656
01:23:38,880 --> 01:23:40,880
Speaker 1: said that she wanted a necklace and he said she

1657
01:23:40,960 --> 01:23:42,800
Speaker 1: got to pay for it. And he was like, to

1658
01:23:43,320 --> 01:23:48,280
Speaker 1: exactly that fear in there? How can get because I

1659
01:23:48,520 --> 01:23:51,400
Speaker 1: got some mixed whatever that called. It's three dollars. But

1660
01:23:53,840 --> 01:23:56,000
Speaker 1: it's funny because me and my friends talked about this,

1661
01:23:56,080 --> 01:23:58,120
Speaker 1: and I think it's important for women to know that

1662
01:23:58,640 --> 01:24:01,600
Speaker 1: you'll get approached based on how you carry yourself. So

1663
01:24:01,720 --> 01:24:04,080
Speaker 1: if a man sees you're rocking a Chanel bagg er,

1664
01:24:04,120 --> 01:24:07,160
Speaker 1: you're wearing red bottoms, or you have certain brands of

1665
01:24:07,240 --> 01:24:09,920
Speaker 1: makeup with you, they're gonna be like, oh, ship, I

1666
01:24:10,000 --> 01:24:12,400
Speaker 1: gotta treat this woman. I gotta take her to certain restaurants.

1667
01:24:12,680 --> 01:24:15,240
Speaker 1: I can't be doing the two for twenty at Applebee's like,

1668
01:24:15,720 --> 01:24:17,920
Speaker 1: and so I think the girls that have these things

1669
01:24:17,960 --> 01:24:21,040
Speaker 1: that clearly can't afford them. Let's no, we're not gonna

1670
01:24:21,080 --> 01:24:23,400
Speaker 1: do no, no, no, no, no, no, I'm serious. What

1671
01:24:23,520 --> 01:24:26,760
Speaker 1: about girls that have nice things that like? Is it

1672
01:24:26,840 --> 01:24:28,320
Speaker 1: okay to let a man know that other men have

1673
01:24:28,400 --> 01:24:33,000
Speaker 1: been doing this for you like that? Because out there

1674
01:24:33,120 --> 01:24:35,360
Speaker 1: that's just like, you know, bottle girl, but you got

1675
01:24:35,520 --> 01:24:38,600
Speaker 1: really expensive No bottle girls. I did that. So she

1676
01:24:38,680 --> 01:24:40,240
Speaker 1: worked at the mall and got a channel. There you go,

1677
01:24:40,400 --> 01:24:41,880
Speaker 1: she working at the mall, she got expensive and she

1678
01:24:41,920 --> 01:24:44,840
Speaker 1: don't work at a sort itself chanel. So you better

1679
01:24:44,880 --> 01:24:46,760
Speaker 1: be ready to buy her more expensive ship if you

1680
01:24:46,840 --> 01:24:48,439
Speaker 1: want to be a part of her life. That's just

1681
01:24:48,560 --> 01:24:50,479
Speaker 1: what it is. And it's okay to let men know that,

1682
01:24:50,560 --> 01:24:51,840
Speaker 1: Like you haven't get an these things from other men?

1683
01:24:51,880 --> 01:24:53,560
Speaker 1: Do you think that that's a turn off or like

1684
01:24:53,720 --> 01:24:58,760
Speaker 1: I gotta some men they're okay with it because they

1685
01:24:58,840 --> 01:25:01,519
Speaker 1: don't really care. And this some men are like they

1686
01:25:01,600 --> 01:25:03,439
Speaker 1: want to know so they know what to keep up with.

1687
01:25:03,720 --> 01:25:05,960
Speaker 1: And it's something it's like, it's none of your bus

1688
01:25:06,080 --> 01:25:08,600
Speaker 1: I was giving this one guy a blowjob. Clearly I

1689
01:25:08,720 --> 01:25:10,639
Speaker 1: used my hands a lot, and I had my Cardier

1690
01:25:10,720 --> 01:25:14,479
Speaker 1: bracelet on and after and after we got done fucking,

1691
01:25:14,880 --> 01:25:17,240
Speaker 1: he was like, so you just got five thousand dollars

1692
01:25:17,280 --> 01:25:20,640
Speaker 1: on your risk. He was like, um, oh, you'll be

1693
01:25:20,720 --> 01:25:24,200
Speaker 1: working with some boss niggas. Huh, yes he did. And

1694
01:25:24,600 --> 01:25:28,760
Speaker 1: even just by that he knew like she won't be

1695
01:25:29,160 --> 01:25:31,720
Speaker 1: no bum niggas, Like I'm gonna have to approach her

1696
01:25:31,720 --> 01:25:34,360
Speaker 1: a certain way to even rank amongst these other niggas.

1697
01:25:34,360 --> 01:25:36,679
Speaker 1: I'm sure that approach her. And of course it helps,

1698
01:25:36,760 --> 01:25:39,200
Speaker 1: like just with again, how you carry yourself, the way

1699
01:25:39,240 --> 01:25:41,599
Speaker 1: you can talk. Once a female starts saying she's well

1700
01:25:41,680 --> 01:25:44,920
Speaker 1: traveled and then travel places, niggas you know what to

1701
01:25:45,000 --> 01:25:47,360
Speaker 1: feel like they have to stick in the fust um

1702
01:25:47,880 --> 01:25:51,040
Speaker 1: when I talk about going places with my girlfriends and

1703
01:25:52,280 --> 01:25:56,479
Speaker 1: who dropped the sponsored thing? Guys, A lot of times

1704
01:25:56,560 --> 01:26:00,800
Speaker 1: we might have flew coach. Um, okay, let's get to

1705
01:26:00,880 --> 01:26:05,160
Speaker 1: this on how long we've been recording this in real life?

1706
01:26:06,080 --> 01:26:08,519
Speaker 1: Oh no, bro, we listen. Thank you guys. This has

1707
01:26:08,560 --> 01:26:11,200
Speaker 1: been an episode of you want you want to answer

1708
01:26:11,240 --> 01:26:14,320
Speaker 1: the quick advice? We got one homemail and then it's

1709
01:26:14,320 --> 01:26:16,400
Speaker 1: a roup. Okay, I didn't know it's been Did you

1710
01:26:16,479 --> 01:26:18,960
Speaker 1: feel like that it's because Dallas Pan came in talking

1711
01:26:18,960 --> 01:26:22,599
Speaker 1: about some goddamn squirting his shoes. We was like, dog, oh,

1712
01:26:22,680 --> 01:26:24,280
Speaker 1: this is good. I can't believe you missed this. This

1713
01:26:24,280 --> 01:26:26,280
Speaker 1: ship is so good. Okay, so we're gonna do one

1714
01:26:26,320 --> 01:26:31,800
Speaker 1: homemail with us. Please feel free to okay, Hi, hi girls.

1715
01:26:31,960 --> 01:26:33,600
Speaker 1: First off, I love the podcast and I listen all

1716
01:26:33,600 --> 01:26:35,240
Speaker 1: the time because not many shows out there direct and

1717
01:26:35,280 --> 01:26:38,040
Speaker 1: as fearlessly honest as y'all. Um. I am a thirty

1718
01:26:38,080 --> 01:26:39,760
Speaker 1: five year old black man and I've been separated for

1719
01:26:39,800 --> 01:26:41,479
Speaker 1: my wife for three years now. I've been dating a

1720
01:26:41,560 --> 01:26:45,720
Speaker 1: white woman and we have been fucking so much and

1721
01:26:45,840 --> 01:26:48,400
Speaker 1: can never get enough. When we got separated, I came

1722
01:26:48,439 --> 01:26:50,559
Speaker 1: back to home to my family, which is my aunt

1723
01:26:50,640 --> 01:26:53,560
Speaker 1: and my niece. My only blood family left, and my

1724
01:26:53,640 --> 01:26:56,280
Speaker 1: aunt raised me as her son. We came from West

1725
01:26:56,320 --> 01:26:58,840
Speaker 1: Africa and got lots of relatives. We look out for

1726
01:26:58,920 --> 01:27:01,360
Speaker 1: each other. My aunt cousin has been staying here on

1727
01:27:01,400 --> 01:27:02,880
Speaker 1: the couch for a few weeks now. She lost her

1728
01:27:02,920 --> 01:27:06,439
Speaker 1: job as an assistant living oh person. He didn't write

1729
01:27:06,439 --> 01:27:08,320
Speaker 1: a word for older, rich white women, so she never

1730
01:27:08,400 --> 01:27:10,479
Speaker 1: needed an apartment. She's in her mid fifties and all

1731
01:27:10,520 --> 01:27:13,120
Speaker 1: her family is still in Africa. My nieces always at

1732
01:27:13,120 --> 01:27:14,880
Speaker 1: her friend's house, and Alen's always working, never at home.

1733
01:27:14,920 --> 01:27:18,040
Speaker 1: I'm a pisces, comma very freaky. Let me comma PARENTHESI

1734
01:27:18,080 --> 01:27:20,519
Speaker 1: excuse me. So I'm always having sex and eating the

1735
01:27:20,560 --> 01:27:24,800
Speaker 1: pussy really well. Why are you laughing? It's funny, This

1736
01:27:24,960 --> 01:27:27,160
Speaker 1: is really this is really a homemail right here, go ahead.

1737
01:27:27,160 --> 01:27:29,439
Speaker 1: I did read this. So I'm always having sex and

1738
01:27:29,439 --> 01:27:31,000
Speaker 1: eating the pussy really well. And I made my girl

1739
01:27:31,040 --> 01:27:33,280
Speaker 1: spread for the first time recently. All right, dude, humble flex.

1740
01:27:35,000 --> 01:27:37,240
Speaker 1: My room is so close to the bathroom and the

1741
01:27:37,320 --> 01:27:40,760
Speaker 1: walls are very thin. This lady always acts like she's

1742
01:27:40,840 --> 01:27:43,120
Speaker 1: using the bathroom and walks back and forth from the

1743
01:27:43,200 --> 01:27:45,760
Speaker 1: living room to the bathroom. I hear her steps in

1744
01:27:45,840 --> 01:27:48,040
Speaker 1: front of my room, so she definitely hears us having sex.

1745
01:27:48,560 --> 01:27:50,719
Speaker 1: For some reason, me and my girl get more turned

1746
01:27:50,760 --> 01:27:54,160
Speaker 1: on knowing she's listening the lady having had an This

1747
01:27:54,280 --> 01:27:57,160
Speaker 1: is isn't African. Lady haven't had a man in her

1748
01:27:57,240 --> 01:28:00,160
Speaker 1: life for several years now, and I knows she is

1749
01:28:00,240 --> 01:28:03,120
Speaker 1: missing being touched by a man. When it's just me

1750
01:28:03,280 --> 01:28:06,120
Speaker 1: and her home and we have in a conversation, she

1751
01:28:06,280 --> 01:28:08,640
Speaker 1: tells me stories of her youth, and all I can

1752
01:28:08,680 --> 01:28:10,360
Speaker 1: think about is just sucking her on the load and

1753
01:28:10,439 --> 01:28:13,200
Speaker 1: do her a favorite and fulfill my old lady fantasy.

1754
01:28:13,760 --> 01:28:16,080
Speaker 1: But I'm scared she might get offended and tell my

1755
01:28:16,200 --> 01:28:19,519
Speaker 1: aunt or just say no and make it really awkward

1756
01:28:19,560 --> 01:28:21,320
Speaker 1: between us. Do you guys think I should go for

1757
01:28:21,479 --> 01:28:23,720
Speaker 1: it and see what happens or just forget it? A

1758
01:28:23,840 --> 01:28:27,000
Speaker 1: fan truly African born American raids the guy you can

1759
01:28:27,040 --> 01:28:30,639
Speaker 1: see all my email in my real name. So basically,

1760
01:28:32,080 --> 01:28:34,600
Speaker 1: the older lady that lives in his house, this is

1761
01:28:34,720 --> 01:28:38,880
Speaker 1: his um aunt's cousin and he which does that not

1762
01:28:39,040 --> 01:28:44,400
Speaker 1: make them relatives? Still? No, no, because your aunt is

1763
01:28:45,120 --> 01:28:47,240
Speaker 1: that No, no, no, no, no, hold on, let thing

1764
01:28:47,280 --> 01:28:50,680
Speaker 1: about it. Your aunt could be your mother. It's your

1765
01:28:50,720 --> 01:28:54,000
Speaker 1: mother's sister and she has unless the cousins through marriage,

1766
01:28:54,040 --> 01:28:57,400
Speaker 1: it might not be right. I'm assuming they're not relatives. Okay,

1767
01:28:57,520 --> 01:29:00,240
Speaker 1: So basically he has a woman, but there's another woman

1768
01:29:00,280 --> 01:29:02,080
Speaker 1: in the house who listens to him have sex often,

1769
01:29:02,600 --> 01:29:05,120
Speaker 1: and he feels like she's turned on by him sucking,

1770
01:29:05,160 --> 01:29:07,320
Speaker 1: and now he wants to have sex with her or

1771
01:29:07,600 --> 01:29:14,720
Speaker 1: try to. Is that something that he should do? She's like,

1772
01:29:14,840 --> 01:29:19,800
Speaker 1: I'm a life coach for women, just like Alex. Yeah,

1773
01:29:19,960 --> 01:29:27,400
Speaker 1: what do you think later the girl? Yeah, he's another girl.

1774
01:29:27,800 --> 01:29:31,120
Speaker 1: I mean maybe he doesn't want to fill my old

1775
01:29:31,160 --> 01:29:33,840
Speaker 1: lady fantasy he has. He's trying to throw it off

1776
01:29:34,000 --> 01:29:38,799
Speaker 1: on her like he's not thinking about it too, because

1777
01:29:38,840 --> 01:29:41,320
Speaker 1: it's like you wrote this whole male about somebody that

1778
01:29:41,479 --> 01:29:44,880
Speaker 1: you could you hear their steps like you hear their steps.

1779
01:29:44,880 --> 01:29:46,479
Speaker 1: So basically, he want to know it's okay for him.

1780
01:29:47,600 --> 01:29:49,800
Speaker 1: She coming back and forth and I'm having sex, Like, no,

1781
01:29:50,200 --> 01:29:53,000
Speaker 1: there's apartment building and I grew up in the hood. Okay,

1782
01:29:53,080 --> 01:29:55,280
Speaker 1: you always gonna hear steps. You're gonna hear people next

1783
01:29:55,960 --> 01:29:58,160
Speaker 1: and even when you and you're here in New York,

1784
01:29:58,200 --> 01:29:59,880
Speaker 1: they made a brick. It's kind of thick in him

1785
01:30:00,800 --> 01:30:09,920
Speaker 1: the project because if it's just the fantasy, there's so

1786
01:30:10,040 --> 01:30:11,479
Speaker 1: many women that will probably let you do this that

1787
01:30:11,560 --> 01:30:13,680
Speaker 1: are older women. I think that there would be a

1788
01:30:14,000 --> 01:30:16,120
Speaker 1: great chance of older women that want to meet someone

1789
01:30:16,200 --> 01:30:19,040
Speaker 1: young for just sex. Yeah, and I think that you

1790
01:30:19,120 --> 01:30:22,080
Speaker 1: could coolgerls bro, this is the thing. But how old

1791
01:30:22,160 --> 01:30:26,200
Speaker 1: is she said? He said, So he's start fine, Okay,

1792
01:30:26,360 --> 01:30:30,320
Speaker 1: that's not that's not too bad. Okay, So that's not

1793
01:30:30,560 --> 01:30:32,559
Speaker 1: Is that not even an old lady fantasy? I guess

1794
01:30:33,360 --> 01:30:34,680
Speaker 1: you know what. I think she older than he made

1795
01:30:34,720 --> 01:30:38,200
Speaker 1: a sound, but I do like I think he's saying,

1796
01:30:42,000 --> 01:30:44,680
Speaker 1: and this is the thing. Let's say that you do

1797
01:30:44,800 --> 01:30:48,479
Speaker 1: have sex with her, right, Danny, she lives with you,

1798
01:30:49,680 --> 01:30:51,760
Speaker 1: and you don't want it to be awkward after that's

1799
01:30:51,800 --> 01:30:54,640
Speaker 1: sucking awkward? Yeah, I agree, I would say no. And

1800
01:30:55,920 --> 01:30:58,400
Speaker 1: if she let's just say, this is all in your head,

1801
01:30:58,439 --> 01:31:01,160
Speaker 1: these footstep things like the money's saying, yes, you're right,

1802
01:31:01,200 --> 01:31:02,600
Speaker 1: it's gonna be way too awkward, and I think the

1803
01:31:02,720 --> 01:31:05,479
Speaker 1: risk is too much. Yeah, I agree, I wouldn't want it.

1804
01:31:05,680 --> 01:31:07,559
Speaker 1: But if you want to just talk to the girl

1805
01:31:07,600 --> 01:31:12,760
Speaker 1: he's fucking an invite her A WHOA a little far?

1806
01:31:13,600 --> 01:31:15,560
Speaker 1: He doesn't even he don't know that was supposed to

1807
01:31:15,600 --> 01:31:19,559
Speaker 1: be a senior three somewhere. I mean, if he's having

1808
01:31:19,680 --> 01:31:22,560
Speaker 1: great sex with the girl he's currently sucking, and he

1809
01:31:22,800 --> 01:31:25,760
Speaker 1: this is a fantasy of his, he should express it

1810
01:31:25,800 --> 01:31:27,639
Speaker 1: to the girl he's with, just to see what she says.

1811
01:31:27,680 --> 01:31:29,559
Speaker 1: What if she's open to it, now he can knock

1812
01:31:29,560 --> 01:31:31,400
Speaker 1: out the fantasy. They're already getting frong on by her

1813
01:31:31,439 --> 01:31:35,280
Speaker 1: listening Okay, I believe the lady fantasy and there's no messiness,

1814
01:31:35,439 --> 01:31:37,960
Speaker 1: like you cut out all the message. So definitely communicated

1815
01:31:38,040 --> 01:31:43,120
Speaker 1: with his current person girlfriend, fucker whatever. I think you

1816
01:31:43,120 --> 01:31:48,600
Speaker 1: should another old lady, okay, And you just think I

1817
01:31:48,640 --> 01:31:50,280
Speaker 1: think I should go on Tinder. I think you should

1818
01:31:50,320 --> 01:31:52,120
Speaker 1: boost the age up to fifty plus. And I think

1819
01:31:52,160 --> 01:31:54,720
Speaker 1: you will absolutely have sex easy because I just do.

1820
01:31:55,160 --> 01:31:57,120
Speaker 1: I just feel like out of all the things you

1821
01:31:57,200 --> 01:31:59,559
Speaker 1: could come up with, like I don't know, moving her

1822
01:31:59,600 --> 01:32:02,400
Speaker 1: into a home, I don't know, figuring something now, you

1823
01:32:02,479 --> 01:32:07,040
Speaker 1: don't need to live in a home at So I'm

1824
01:32:07,120 --> 01:32:12,240
Speaker 1: sorry for a justify. I don't believe that for some reason,

1825
01:32:12,280 --> 01:32:14,080
Speaker 1: I just don't believe that he's just making it sing.

1826
01:32:14,240 --> 01:32:18,400
Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, fifty your old women still have options.

1827
01:32:18,479 --> 01:32:21,000
Speaker 1: That's not right, isn't that? Like angel like? But you

1828
01:32:21,080 --> 01:32:29,960
Speaker 1: know what's the fanto Obama? Right? I know? Not Obama's

1829
01:32:29,960 --> 01:32:32,120
Speaker 1: talking about people that look at he does look good.

1830
01:32:32,160 --> 01:32:37,840
Speaker 1: I would Obama Obama? Damn. I don't know if I

1831
01:32:37,880 --> 01:32:39,880
Speaker 1: love him, so fun me, that's you wild. I'm doing

1832
01:32:39,960 --> 01:32:45,240
Speaker 1: for your country. You know, someone asked me today, would

1833
01:32:45,280 --> 01:32:48,519
Speaker 1: you um die? Like would you kill yourself? Sacrifice? Yourself

1834
01:32:48,520 --> 01:32:51,240
Speaker 1: if you knew Donald Trump be dead after and I said, yeah, yeah,

1835
01:32:51,240 --> 01:32:54,479
Speaker 1: because you're a hotep. I'm sorry. I like my life

1836
01:32:56,160 --> 01:33:00,920
Speaker 1: for the great but the Republican Party we get, we're

1837
01:33:00,920 --> 01:33:03,280
Speaker 1: gonna get through these four years, y'all, like, just calm

1838
01:33:03,320 --> 01:33:05,840
Speaker 1: down and give it up my life though they've still

1839
01:33:05,880 --> 01:33:08,240
Speaker 1: got a lot of dick to suck. Calm down. Can

1840
01:33:08,280 --> 01:33:11,120
Speaker 1: I get through my career? Can we see this flourish too?

1841
01:33:11,160 --> 01:33:14,080
Speaker 1: Maybe that's a fucking big button pushed. We might not.

1842
01:33:15,880 --> 01:33:17,960
Speaker 1: So yeah, everybody's pretty much in the room saying no.

1843
01:33:18,080 --> 01:33:21,840
Speaker 1: Is this unanimous decision keep your dick in your young,

1844
01:33:21,920 --> 01:33:25,880
Speaker 1: thirty five year old pants and don't fuck your grandma? Yeah? Alright,

1845
01:33:25,960 --> 01:33:29,880
Speaker 1: and okay, so he said as a fantasy, like just

1846
01:33:30,560 --> 01:33:32,960
Speaker 1: so imani um, we do have to wrap this up.

1847
01:33:33,200 --> 01:33:35,800
Speaker 1: But for any of our listeners who may want your

1848
01:33:35,880 --> 01:33:40,000
Speaker 1: whole coaching um, whether it's relationships, whether it's getting and

1849
01:33:40,080 --> 01:33:42,439
Speaker 1: and parties, let let our listeners know where they can

1850
01:33:42,520 --> 01:33:44,519
Speaker 1: find you, where they can reach you, and kind of

1851
01:33:44,640 --> 01:33:47,639
Speaker 1: the services you offer. Okay, So my website is still

1852
01:33:47,720 --> 01:33:51,960
Speaker 1: under construction, but everything is actual Black Mermaid. Every single

1853
01:33:52,080 --> 01:33:55,559
Speaker 1: thing is actual black people put it. That's actual black

1854
01:33:55,600 --> 01:33:59,439
Speaker 1: Mermaid on Instagram and Twitter all together, so you don't

1855
01:33:59,479 --> 01:34:02,000
Speaker 1: have to go too far to look for me. You

1856
01:34:02,120 --> 01:34:04,280
Speaker 1: looked that up. I'm sure if you don't see me

1857
01:34:04,520 --> 01:34:07,200
Speaker 1: or see somebody talking about me, so it is okay,

1858
01:34:07,560 --> 01:34:12,320
Speaker 1: you will find it. So Also, the parties, the socials

1859
01:34:12,360 --> 01:34:16,920
Speaker 1: that I host just dinners for these women, mainly for

1860
01:34:17,120 --> 01:34:19,240
Speaker 1: the It was just started for the women that I

1861
01:34:19,400 --> 01:34:22,800
Speaker 1: coached in different cities, and then other women who wanted

1862
01:34:22,840 --> 01:34:25,160
Speaker 1: to meet me and work with me in the future.

1863
01:34:25,400 --> 01:34:27,680
Speaker 1: They also got to meet each other. You guys get

1864
01:34:27,720 --> 01:34:31,519
Speaker 1: to talk about, you know, dating and how common your

1865
01:34:31,640 --> 01:34:35,120
Speaker 1: dating woes are you like that, and it's so like

1866
01:34:35,240 --> 01:34:37,599
Speaker 1: cool because it's like especially if you're just moving into

1867
01:34:37,640 --> 01:34:42,880
Speaker 1: a new woman. Yeah, I mean, we drink, we eat,

1868
01:34:42,960 --> 01:34:46,559
Speaker 1: We got I pick a great restaurant. We uh drink,

1869
01:34:46,680 --> 01:34:49,799
Speaker 1: we eat, and we talk about the stuff that common knowledge.

1870
01:34:55,280 --> 01:34:57,680
Speaker 1: We talked about what we can do to navigate these

1871
01:34:57,720 --> 01:35:00,679
Speaker 1: things or what this person did to navigate got something.

1872
01:35:02,040 --> 01:35:04,800
Speaker 1: And guys, just so you know, these services do cost um.

1873
01:35:04,920 --> 01:35:06,439
Speaker 1: If you reach out to her, she can let you

1874
01:35:06,520 --> 01:35:09,360
Speaker 1: know um where her prices would be for the coaching

1875
01:35:09,840 --> 01:35:11,840
Speaker 1: um on a personal level. And then when you have

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