Speaker 1: Uh.
Speaker 2: You ever have those days where you just never get
Speaker 2: to shower or do the things you'd like to do
Speaker 2: for your body.
Speaker 3: This is why I know I can never go camping. Hi, everybody,
Speaker 3: welcome to adulta. So this is Jordan Carlos and I
Speaker 3: could never go camping. In fact, I don't even like
Speaker 3: to connect airplanes because that feels like camping for me.
Speaker 3: Anytime I have to use a public toilet more than
Speaker 3: like two times in a day.
Speaker 2: Huh No.
Speaker 3: That's why every time I go to an airport bar,
Speaker 3: they're like, do you want six or nine ounces of wine?
Speaker 4: I'm like, bitch, look at my face.
Speaker 3: You know there are enough anti bacterial wipes.
Speaker 4: Give me the nine ounce. Just keep it coming. Act
Speaker 4: like it's a coft a cup in a diner, at
Speaker 4: a truck stop. I get serious.
Speaker 3: The worst thing, though, is getting a little bit too tipsy.
Speaker 3: The plane is delayed, and now you are tipsy and
Speaker 3: have to sober up on a plane. That's the motherfucker wors.
Speaker 3: It feels like you're living in Christmas story. Yes, like
Speaker 3: you're in the Christmas path and the present in the
Speaker 3: future and just like I just wanted a turkey to bring.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Chris John Gabers gave me a edible once before
Speaker 2: I made a transcontinental flight, and why why Well, I
Speaker 2: thought it would be fine, and it definitely was not,
Speaker 2: and so I basically saw God and my face melted.
Speaker 2: And then this lady was just like she's like, are
Speaker 2: you okay? And all I could think to myself was
Speaker 2: nobody loses their mind in comfort. Plus that's what held
Speaker 2: it together. But I was sweating, and I was like,
Speaker 2: I'll never do edibles again. Wrong, very wrong, but like
Speaker 2: you need your own space.
Speaker 3: I think if you're gonna do edibles because everything is
Speaker 3: so unpredictable in a plane, you don't know how high
Speaker 3: you're gonna have to go to like pass the turbulence.
Speaker 3: Like that's crazy, I will say, like two plastic cups
Speaker 3: of wine. I'm ready to watch any movie and act
Speaker 3: like it's good. You can show me any horrible movie
Speaker 3: and I'll start crying.
Speaker 4: I was watching The Man named Auto.
Speaker 2: The man named Yes, Yes, Tom Hanks, which.
Speaker 3: Is like, yeah, the no old movies reab whatever is
Speaker 3: Tom Hanks, So of course it's amazing. But the way
Speaker 3: I cry, Jordan, people were asking me if I'm okay,
Speaker 3: The way I was sobbing man.
Speaker 4: I was like, this is something he'll do his visual shit,
Speaker 4: he'll do it to you, won't he do it?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Won't you do it every time? Thirty six thousand
Speaker 2: feet that's the Tom Hanks effect, all right. People on
Speaker 2: the ground are like, I can live through this, Captain Phillips,
Speaker 2: not such a big deal, babe. You put me up
Speaker 2: in the stratosphere. It's like, yeah, water works. And by
Speaker 2: the way, what's actually happening? Have you read this? Psychologically?
Speaker 2: You're afraid of falling out of the sky and that's
Speaker 2: why you're like at the seat of emotion And why
Speaker 2: march at the penguins too, mo marchin? That'll mess with
Speaker 2: your emotion? Yeah, it really does.
Speaker 3: And plus like the stuff that's not supposed to be
Speaker 3: that funny is hilarious.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I really want to be like one of those people
Speaker 3: that have like all the screens out. They've got their phone,
Speaker 3: they've got their iPad, and they got their computer.
Speaker 4: There's always like a grid.
Speaker 3: They're always just like punning stuff is some sort of
Speaker 3: like like what do you like you don't have like
Speaker 3: five minutes to yourself, but being on a plane is
Speaker 3: a busy person really just feel like you have a
Speaker 3: good spot at Starbucks to do some work.
Speaker 2: I'm impressed by them. Listen, I'm impressed by you. I'm
Speaker 2: impressed by you. I'm impressed. Yes, we are mall cops.
Speaker 2: We have segue here we are Okay. What I do
Speaker 2: love about our guest. She is wildly hilarious.
Speaker 3: And unusually humble for someone who is so talented that
Speaker 3: it just blows my mind. And yes, ride that pony.
Speaker 3: And anyways, Sunita is the truth. She is kind, she
Speaker 3: is fun, she is smart, she is hilariou.
Speaker 2: Why do you sell right now? Smile?
Speaker 5: I know I'm like quoting the Poopoo Pie movie.
Speaker 2: Great.
Speaker 3: Anyways, you guys, I hope you have so much fun
Speaker 3: listening to the rest of this episode, as much fun
Speaker 3: as Jordan is having right now.
Speaker 4: So give it up.
Speaker 2: Give it up for Sune the money. How can they
Speaker 2: give it up? Remember we talked about this.
Speaker 4: We did we talked about a time.
Speaker 2: Oh that stays with me. Don't find a pound found found?
Speaker 5: I like it. Don your hair SOI braiden?
Speaker 2: Yep, just got them done yesterday, fresh set?
Speaker 5: What you got a hat on the fresh set?
Speaker 2: I gotta go?
Speaker 5: You know, Oh you gotta do go. You better keep
Speaker 5: it fresh.
Speaker 2: Well. The hat matches to shoes. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: I like it.
Speaker 3: I love that for you. I got my hair braided?
Speaker 3: What two, three, three, four, three weeks ago?
Speaker 2: The answers in my eyes, and yes it was about
Speaker 2: three or four weeks ago. But you you look can't.
Speaker 5: Be fucked up. No, I have to get my hair done.
Speaker 3: It sucks when you have to get your hair done,
Speaker 3: especially when it's like braided and it's just you know,
Speaker 3: it just starts pulling, slipping and shit.
Speaker 2: But it looks good. Your hair looks great. What doesn't
Speaker 2: her hair look good? Everybody? Oh my god, the quid?
Speaker 2: I need the quid. That was the right look. I
Speaker 2: know that you went to the Caribbean. That must have
Speaker 2: been nice.
Speaker 5: I did. I took a vacation.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I went to Grand Cayman Island, which is crazy
Speaker 3: because I'm not like an old rich white dude because
Speaker 3: that's where they go and hide their money. But does
Speaker 3: this really great hotel called Palm Heikes in Grand Caman Island.
Speaker 5: They are not paying me money to do this shit.
Speaker 3: They should, But this is why I like it. You
Speaker 3: can go and not be a rich person and still
Speaker 3: feel rich. And it's one of those islands because my
Speaker 3: mom's from Jamaica, my dad's from Haiti. So like, I
Speaker 3: love those places, but I can't go all the time,
Speaker 3: Thank you. I can't go all the time because I'm
Speaker 3: like one, I can't bring two boxes shit for everybody too.
Speaker 3: Is it gonna be safe? And so Grant came in
Speaker 3: very safe. Also, the hotel is run by these really
Speaker 3: cute queer guys. It was wild being the Caribbean and
Speaker 3: seeing like queer couples and families.
Speaker 5: I said, this is what it's supposed to fucking be. Yeah,
Speaker 5: so palm heikes.
Speaker 3: If you are queer questioning or whatever the fuck you
Speaker 3: is and you want to go to the Caribbean and
Speaker 3: like shake whatever titties you got, palm heikes. Grant Caman
Speaker 3: was great. It was also nice being away with my husband.
Speaker 3: Like having sex in a hotel room is great. You
Speaker 3: ain't gotta clean anything up, just walk away, leave a
Speaker 3: little tip on the dress up.
Speaker 5: Come back. Oh it's great.
Speaker 3: Just like I realized, do you eve any pictures of
Speaker 3: your kids in your bedroom?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 5: I gotta play some differently.
Speaker 2: You gotta turn them down. You gotta turn them down.
Speaker 2: That's right. Yeah, they're on the wall. I mean, oh okay,
Speaker 2: turn him around right? Oh my goodness, Yeah, that's that's
Speaker 2: that's kind of weird. But sex and hotel rooms. Sex
Speaker 2: and hotel rooms is a little tough. You ever put that,
Speaker 2: You ever put that like sign out front, it's just
Speaker 2: like do not disturb.
Speaker 3: No, you better walk in and see this. No, I'm sorry,
Speaker 3: you better walk in and see vs.
Speaker 2: Yikes. Yeah, that's amazing, okay with that.
Speaker 5: In fact, I keep it a little jark.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I love every part of it. Okay, good metaphorically, So
Speaker 2: tell me more, like what did y'all do?
Speaker 3: Like you don't know, you know what what happened? My
Speaker 3: husband he loves to like do activities and ship and
Speaker 3: so he wanted to get like a wave runner as no,
Speaker 3: he wanted to go snorkeling. I'm like, I'll wait for you,
Speaker 3: like you know, once in a while, I'll do something.
Speaker 3: But it really was just like three and a half days.
Speaker 3: So I was like, I'm gonna sit and drink and
Speaker 3: eat and fuck and go home.
Speaker 2: That could have been I'm.
Speaker 5: Is it Sunday school? What the fuck? See what happens
Speaker 5: when there's one bar open.
Speaker 2: I just love that. That sounds like an amazing trap song.
Speaker 6: It's like e anpha askar alpha efare.
Speaker 2: We now write for rap shit. Okay.
Speaker 5: It was very nice. Also, like doing a little elbowl
Speaker 5: in another country. Oh that food tastes so good.
Speaker 2: You're like, oh my god, oh, oh my god, I'm
Speaker 2: actually going in the same place. I'm excited. That's right. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: you might for gotta go. That's right, that's him, You're going.
Speaker 2: That's the reason why I got a call and they
Speaker 2: were like, we want you to do stand up there
Speaker 2: And I was like, okay, are you serious. Yeah, they
Speaker 2: won't be hand up there.
Speaker 5: That's amazing.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I ain't ash Yeah yeah yeah. My like between
Speaker 3: the freckles and the backfat, I'm like, don't ask me ship,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean? Like, like my work was
Speaker 3: finding a fucking bathe suit to look good.
Speaker 5: Stop.
Speaker 3: But that's so nice. It's gonna it's very fucking fun.
Speaker 3: I'm excited for you.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, you know what.
Speaker 5: Here's one thing in your fucking forties.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and also in my late thirties, every cocktail I
Speaker 3: order on vacation should come with the side of thumbs.
Speaker 3: The fire between my tits. It was it's so bad.
Speaker 3: People are doing shots. I'm like, huh, how you make
Speaker 3: that medicine go down? Honestly, can't swallow anything like that anymore.
Speaker 2: Do you drink in the pool? Do you like to
Speaker 2: like drink and the kind of stuff? Yeah?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I like to sit on a noodle?
Speaker 2: Yes, go on, and what about a tation thing like
Speaker 2: you like to float? Then we really.
Speaker 5: Should get some more show. But listen, Yeah, you know,
Speaker 5: I feel like I work very hard. I never take
Speaker 5: a vacation.
Speaker 2: Yeah you don't.
Speaker 5: I don't.
Speaker 2: You need to take more? Okay, this is what this
Speaker 2: is about. This is a big intervention for you. We
Speaker 2: want you to Yeah, well it could have been at
Speaker 2: a nice place. I was. I saw your eye gs,
Speaker 2: you were out there thriving. I was so happy for you.
Speaker 2: I was like, look at it.
Speaker 5: Yeah. Yeah, there's this quote.
Speaker 3: I always say, the tools that you need to survive
Speaker 3: won't be the tools you need to thrive. So it's
Speaker 3: like a different set of skills to like, you worked
Speaker 3: for it, now fucking figure.
Speaker 5: Out how to enjoy it like outwardly, you know what
Speaker 5: I mean? So, like, vacations are new for me.
Speaker 3: I'm used to like bring the kids on, taking care
Speaker 3: of them, bringing my parents, taking care of them, and
Speaker 3: so it was nice just to be like, I'll have
Speaker 3: the tuna crudo again. Yeah, I don't want the glass
Speaker 3: of it. Was like, give me the fucking bottle.
Speaker 2: Vacation, yes, yes, yes, Michelle, Yes, all right, so we
Speaker 2: should get to our next guest, our next guest. Yes,
Speaker 2: you might have seen her and everything everywhere all at once.
Speaker 2: Perhaps you've seen that, yes, among one of the things.
Speaker 2: Please give it up for the very talented, animazing Sunita money. Yes, yes, yes,
Speaker 2: it's well what a get.
Speaker 5: What is going on? Not much? Just not much?
Speaker 2: How much at all? You're doing so much?
Speaker 5: Like I guess. Yeah, it's been like really up and down.
Speaker 7: I gotta say I'm in like a lull right now,
Speaker 7: a moment of rest, which is hard.
Speaker 5: It is kind of hard to like turn off. It is.
Speaker 3: People don't realize when you're in this business you have
Speaker 3: to always be on, always be prepared. You'll get an
Speaker 3: audition a PM. Please put yourself on tape tomorrow. It
Speaker 3: can fucking change your life. It's only seventeen pages. Please
Speaker 3: do it now. Memorize it, memorize it all and then
Speaker 3: we fucking do it. It's like an emotional tap dance,
Speaker 3: and you know what, my knees are fucking tired. And
Speaker 3: so when there's nothing to look forward to, you're like.
Speaker 4: Oh, what do I do?
Speaker 3: I guess I just clean my closet against But yeah,
Speaker 3: there's always gonna be something else too, And I feel
Speaker 3: like that's the great part and the terrible part about
Speaker 3: this business is that you never know what's gonna happen.
Speaker 5: Right, It's like a weird thing to make peace with.
Speaker 3: That's me when I get into the car with my kids,
Speaker 3: I never know how it's gonna go.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm also a catastrophizer. You guys, I'm fine.
Speaker 3: You want to be friends with a catastrophizer because we've
Speaker 3: already thought about everything before it even fucking happens.
Speaker 5: Okay, you're a good mom.
Speaker 3: Then yeah, I'm driving over the White Stone Bridge with
Speaker 3: two little ones in the back. If some fucking fuck
Speaker 3: face fucking does some thing, how am I gonna get
Speaker 3: both of them out of the fucking car seats while
Speaker 3: we're going to bitch?
Speaker 7: I think I'm fine, kind of like you said, I'm fun.
Speaker 7: I'm also fun. It's like amazing to have healthcare in
Speaker 7: the Union, but if you don't work, you lose your
Speaker 7: health care. Like, yeah, it's kind of crazy, that's really
Speaker 7: It's hitting me in this like lot where you're just like, yeah,
Speaker 7: you want to take it in and you want to
Speaker 7: be like rest is okay, and I want to work
Speaker 7: on other things and like live my life. And then
Speaker 7: you're like, wait, I also want to go to the doctor,
Speaker 7: and like, yeah, I need health insurance.
Speaker 5: That's a weird thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, when you're an artist, it feels like you eat
Speaker 2: what you kill. You have to keep making money in
Speaker 2: order to you know, have the ability to go to
Speaker 2: the doctor. But I was just in Canada and I
Speaker 2: saw this. I remember one day I saw a fifty
Speaker 2: year old man with a skateboard. He was definitely kicking
Speaker 2: fifty in the ass, and I was like, that man
Speaker 2: has universal health care. Yeah, you know what I mean. Like,
Speaker 2: and they complain up there, They're.
Speaker 3: Just like we have to wait, oh for hours to
Speaker 3: see a doctor.
Speaker 2: I'm like, you don't have to pay what the fuck?
Speaker 2: You know? We have to wait to earn money to
Speaker 2: see a doctor? Asshole? You know, like they have it
Speaker 2: so good up there, folks do, and.
Speaker 3: You can't stop breathing, and I feel like in that respect,
Speaker 3: you can't stop dancing, like you have to keep entertaining.
Speaker 2: You have to keep grinding in order to make it happen.
Speaker 2: So do you feel like afraid to rest? Or do
Speaker 2: you do you feel like you need to be like
Speaker 2: nose to grindstone, Like what are you gonna do? A
Speaker 2: You're gonna actually rest? Sit in that moment?
Speaker 5: It's really hard.
Speaker 7: I'm like trying to but also I'm trying to like
Speaker 7: take it as a gift. How often do I get
Speaker 7: to think about my.
Speaker 5: Future or like long term plans?
Speaker 7: I do feel like we're also thinking about the next
Speaker 7: thing or like that next audition. It's going to change
Speaker 7: your life. But it's to zoom out too and not
Speaker 7: just think. So what's the word micro? I guess sure,
Speaker 7: kind of not think about myself so much and just
Speaker 7: try to like be a little more spaced out in
Speaker 7: time in a way, you know, like so mushrooms.
Speaker 3: So like, do you have time to watch shows that
Speaker 3: you've done? Like I loved you in Glow?
Speaker 5: Oh so cu cu I don't really rewatch my stuff?
Speaker 5: Have you seen yourself in Glow? I mean when it
Speaker 5: came oh, very good. It's like hard to rewatch for
Speaker 5: watch myself.
Speaker 3: We have I believe we have an actor slash director
Speaker 3: that was also in Glow.
Speaker 7: In the world we do, we do in the audience
Speaker 7: the voice of Kimmy Gayes.
Speaker 3: Also you want to only Kimmi gy what everybody?
Speaker 5: Kimmy absolutely? Rosenblatt.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you've got the entire cast is here you guys.
Speaker 2: Good to see you.
Speaker 5: This is your life.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 3: When I look back at that moment in time, Glow
Speaker 3: like especially like the female led and shows like Oranges
Speaker 3: and New Black, and then like later Tales in the
Speaker 3: City not so female led, but you get it, like
Speaker 3: very diverse, like other platforms just weren't doing shit like that.
Speaker 3: Like I remember watching Glow growing up. Yes, I remember, ye,
Speaker 3: I aged well, but I remember watching that shit and
Speaker 3: to see people I know and love out there doing it,
Speaker 3: it felt like you guys were actually doing your stunts.
Speaker 5: Yes, yeah, it was so fun.
Speaker 7: We had like three ish weeks of wrestling training before
Speaker 7: we would start the web alone, the wedgies alone, and
Speaker 7: they were like we could freely pick them.
Speaker 5: It was amazing. Ye, we were like queen. Yeah, it
Speaker 5: was like clown school.
Speaker 7: It was like acting training in this grand like Greek
Speaker 7: theater kind of way, because I didn't like really go
Speaker 7: to acting school. But to like have a wrestling coach
Speaker 7: Chava Garrera Junior, like legend, a guess in the audience
Speaker 7: of recognition, yes, legend teach us like how to take
Speaker 7: up space was so like everything was a metaphor about
Speaker 7: how to like live your life, like you can have
Speaker 7: this whole superhero inside and like beam this confidence and
Speaker 7: fall and get back up and fail and people support
Speaker 7: you like so much trust and so much like intimacy
Speaker 7: and like hands in your vagina.
Speaker 5: And like the best way. It was so nice, My favorite.
Speaker 7: Can I just say when you were saying, like shooting
Speaker 7: that it's set in nineteen eighty five based on this
Speaker 7: like Original Wrestling League, the Gorgeous Ladies of Wrestling, but
Speaker 7: shooting it in twoenty sixteen, and like being on set,
Speaker 7: Kimmy will remember this when the election results were rolling
Speaker 7: in Oh fuck, and we were shooting a wrestling match
Speaker 7: between Liberty Bell and the Russian Cat, Yes Zoya and
Speaker 7: Liberty Bell, like that was happening. That was just like happening,
Speaker 7: ye set in in fiction while we were just like
Speaker 7: watching in like leotards with our ass hanging out and
Speaker 7: like glittering eyelashes, just watching like every state role it's
Speaker 7: like red and it just being like what is happening?
Speaker 7: Like nineteen eighty five on top of twenty sixteen was
Speaker 7: just this really meta experience, but like we were in
Speaker 7: the bubble of it being okay, the feminists like bubble
Speaker 7: protecting each other, and it was just like so uplifting
Speaker 7: and so you know what.
Speaker 3: I'm taking that frustration out in the leotard and a wedgie, right,
Speaker 3: and we.
Speaker 7: Got exactly amazing.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I love that. Oh my, really empowering. Oh one clap.
Speaker 3: I know, it's fine, it's fine. You're just talking about bakes.
Speaker 3: Have you and your man gone somewhere together?
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, l oh el he's always traveling. Yeah, but
Speaker 7: our latest trip together was to India, which he had
Speaker 7: never been and I hadn't been in like ten years.
Speaker 7: And it was like a double date my parents and
Speaker 7: just like me and Kenny and my parents. Oh my god,
Speaker 7: I have two older siblings, so it wasn't like just
Speaker 7: the two of us and me And what.
Speaker 5: Nationality is your husband? Arian? Cowboys? Why did you say.
Speaker 2: I didn't watch that match. I know that strain.
Speaker 3: Yeah, sorry, yeah for white.
Speaker 5: Oh he's here, he's here, he's here. Yeah, he's here,
Speaker 5: he should be. Let's see what.
Speaker 7: Oh he's sitting next to Kenny Gateway, Kenny Warren in
Speaker 7: the house.
Speaker 2: A jazz musician. Right, that's right.
Speaker 5: Did your research?
Speaker 2: That's so cool. No, I knew that. I knew that
Speaker 2: because you and I had a conversations.
Speaker 3: Were actually that I've been occupied.
Speaker 2: I thought it was I thought it was the most
Speaker 2: It was burned in my brain because it was the
Speaker 2: most romantic way to meet somebody, which was like at
Speaker 2: bar Barbs over here, and like he was playing like
Speaker 2: whatever instrument.
Speaker 5: He plays, what is it a clarinet? I wish I
Speaker 5: could do it?
Speaker 2: Did he play trumpet?
Speaker 5: A clarinet? Impression? It's the trumpet.
Speaker 2: I mean, that's so cool. I would love to be
Speaker 2: on a fire escape in a muscle shirt playing trumpet,
Speaker 2: like you know, that's that's that's really beautiful. And so
Speaker 2: you met when he.
Speaker 5: Was Did he take the trump to India?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 7: And here's that he brought it on our honeymoon. We
Speaker 7: have a third in the relationship and her name is Trumpet.
Speaker 7: But no, it's it was beautiful because it's such a
Speaker 7: like cultural connection to any like to everyone and everything.
Speaker 5: It was amazing.
Speaker 7: There's like a video I have of him just like
Speaker 7: playing the trumpet on the roof of like the clothes anyhouse.
Speaker 5: Roll that beautiful bean footage.
Speaker 7: My little cousins were just like so excited and into it,
Speaker 7: and it was very sweet. It was like a very nice,
Speaker 7: Oh my God, bringing together.
Speaker 5: I love that. We're gonna answer some questions now. And
Speaker 5: I feel like this isn't read it? Yeah, you read it.
Speaker 7: Where the hell are all these hot Brooklyn people finding
Speaker 7: their clothes?
Speaker 2: I thought that was.
Speaker 5: Whenever I go thrifting, I have no luck?
Speaker 7: How do I be stylish?
Speaker 5: Wow?
Speaker 7: Rights, Like sounds like we've covered it.
Speaker 2: Part of the question. But I think sometimes going to
Speaker 2: a neighborhood where like wearing vintage or whatever it is
Speaker 2: isn't fashionable, then going to those three stores is more
Speaker 2: helpful because the people have passed him up. What I'm
Speaker 2: trying to say is go to bay Ridge.
Speaker 5: You're going today.
Speaker 3: Places not the A Places I love my friends that
Speaker 3: are stylish, and I asked them to come with me,
Speaker 3: or I'll send them pictures in the dressing room or
Speaker 3: I'll like legit, go to Pinterest or ig influencers, because
Speaker 3: it really is about your body shape too, right, and
Speaker 3: like what.
Speaker 2: You feel comfortable wearing.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I like to hit people up. Take your friend,
Speaker 5: that's very fashionable. I've always been like a weirdo.
Speaker 7: I used to like cut his neck holes out of
Speaker 7: pillowcases and armholes and like, yes, I think like Dobby
Speaker 7: the Elf did that and Harry Potter love it. I
Speaker 7: was like, I love these pillowcases that we have and
Speaker 7: this is like high school.
Speaker 5: I would like make my own clothes. I don't know.
Speaker 7: I've always been really interior like fashion stuff.
Speaker 2: I love that making your own You.
Speaker 5: Know who did that too, Jennifer Lopez really yeah?
Speaker 4: And looking at Empire.
Speaker 2: Okay, this question is how can we bring the spice
Speaker 2: back with three kids in a small space, opposite work
Speaker 2: schedules and no babysitter. It's not gonna happen. I hate
Speaker 2: to tell you that. What do you think, Michelle, no babysitter,
Speaker 2: three kids. Already you had a good time, you know
Speaker 2: what I mean?
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, you did it. You got.
Speaker 2: Three in the city. That is wild. Where do you
Speaker 2: put three children in.
Speaker 3: The city on top of each other, can you do
Speaker 3: a quickie while they're like watching Patrol Malana?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: We're like, can you bring a friend over? Okay, okay,
Speaker 3: you watch the kids?
Speaker 5: What's wrong with you?
Speaker 2: Literally you just said can you bring a friend over?
Speaker 2: End of sentence.
Speaker 5: I was like, OK, it's about to finish. I got
Speaker 5: you go shad a lipsies?
Speaker 3: Yeah, like a friend or a cousin. I think you
Speaker 3: got to split them up, right, that's a lot. The
Speaker 3: three kids is a lot for little one person.
Speaker 5: It is?
Speaker 7: Is it like totally crazy to talk to your kids
Speaker 7: and tell them what's up?
Speaker 5: Like we we have.
Speaker 7: To Actually, you guys need to take care of yourselves.
Speaker 7: The peanut, butter and the jelly are on the table.
Speaker 7: We need forty five minutes.
Speaker 5: I don't know minutes. I don't know what shower. We
Speaker 5: have to take a long shower. Yeah, we have to
Speaker 5: take a long shower. And can you tell the straight
Speaker 5: up be careful if you want to fuck? You might
Speaker 5: have the fourth Very good points.
Speaker 2: Absolutely good question. Great question. I think what you do
Speaker 2: in that instance? I say played eight Like that's like
Speaker 2: the best. Yeah, I'll throw them in the basement. They'll
Speaker 2: watch Moana it'll be great and you can go and
Speaker 2: have another kid.
Speaker 5: Here's the next question.
Speaker 3: What's the line between being a a friend and stopping
Speaker 3: them from making a big mistake?
Speaker 2: Oh my god? When you can see the train wreck
Speaker 2: just happening, just barreling off.
Speaker 5: God, I mean, I think it's there.
Speaker 3: If it's physical, Like, if it's physical, then I'm gonna
Speaker 3: step in. But I feel like, you know, it's like
Speaker 3: watching your kids jump off as something I'm supposed to,
Speaker 3: you know, for like the fourth time, you know what
Speaker 3: I mean. It's like, well, that's part of their journey too, right,
Speaker 3: And what will be great is to lend them your
Speaker 3: ear for the next year because they're gonna really have
Speaker 3: to process that shit.
Speaker 2: Yeah, have you ever have you ever had to like
Speaker 2: jump on a grenade and like just tell a friend, like,
Speaker 2: jump there's grenades and you jump on that. Just see
Speaker 2: it again, jump on a grenade like a grenade. I
Speaker 2: guess we just eat footnotes, all right. So I step
Speaker 2: in and say, like, I.
Speaker 7: Feel like there's one I like couldn't hide it, like
Speaker 7: I didn't have a poker face or whatever, Like I
Speaker 7: couldn't be the friend who was gonna listen for the
Speaker 7: next year, and.
Speaker 5: I was She's like, do I good?
Speaker 7: No?
Speaker 5: Bad?
Speaker 7: Like I've had that experience once and that was kind
Speaker 7: of that was the one, and I feel like I'm
Speaker 7: gonna step off, you know, I'll just I'll just be
Speaker 7: chill and let let the train wreck hafe be there because.
Speaker 3: What happens too is like when it's that toxic and
Speaker 3: you step in, then all of a sudden you're the
Speaker 3: new thing in their relationship and you're the new thing
Speaker 3: to blame and.
Speaker 5: It's just like you bitch.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's just better for people to like
Speaker 3: figure it out and just to be there.
Speaker 5: You know, I'll be there to buy you around. Good friend. Okay,
Speaker 5: that's question. This isn't pink. Just to let you know
Speaker 5: this pen is pink.
Speaker 7: How long do you date someone as in go on
Speaker 7: dates until you have the conversation about becoming their boyfriend?
Speaker 5: Oh, relatable question. They're hyping up their own question. What sorry,
Speaker 5: I was so distracted. Can you ask that question again? Yes,
Speaker 5: now that it's not a cold read, I'll go faster.
Speaker 7: How long do you date someone as in go on
Speaker 7: dates until you have the conversation about becoming their boyfriend?
Speaker 2: That's a yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: Don I feel like it should be almost like just
Speaker 1: the understanding, Like I think if you have to have
Speaker 1: a conversation. I think if you're if you go like
Speaker 1: on two or three dates and you have to have
Speaker 1: a conversation about what are we are?
Speaker 2: It just go somewhere else.
Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, god people, Okay.
Speaker 2: It cannot be organic. You have to have nine dates
Speaker 2: and on the tenth like a punch.
Speaker 3: You can't assume that someone is down like you're down.
Speaker 3: Like people have different definitions of what being in a
Speaker 3: relationship is, right, So I feel like if you are
Speaker 3: on a third day and you guys are calling each
Speaker 3: other like up to and at the bottom of the day,
Speaker 3: if you're texting each other like put your food or
Speaker 3: some shit, you know what I mean? Like after the
Speaker 3: third day, if you feel like, oh, we really like
Speaker 3: each other, like have a little conversation. But honestly, I'm
Speaker 3: not Steve Harvey. I can't tell you that you know
Speaker 3: what I mean, Like, definitely after you have sex. Please
Speaker 3: don't be bowed up with someone and not know what.
Speaker 5: They feel like. Right, that's crazy.
Speaker 2: Ten dates is a lot and that's a lot of dates.
Speaker 5: Does it say ten dates.
Speaker 2: I think it said, like how many dates?
Speaker 5: Where's the number?
Speaker 7: No number, just like you've been going on dates and
Speaker 7: how long? Oh do you wait until you have that conversation?
Speaker 3: Well, now if you're feeling it doing yeah, that's right, Yeah,
Speaker 3: you're feeling.
Speaker 2: It, just get help do it right at this show.
Speaker 5: I'll tell you this.
Speaker 3: The second time I saw my husband then boyfriend, we
Speaker 3: weren't even like boyfriend girl. We didn't even put that
Speaker 3: shit on it because it was supposed to be one
Speaker 3: night stand.
Speaker 5: Like he went back to Amsterdam.
Speaker 3: It was like months later, and I was like, Okay,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna take this trip to come see you because
Speaker 3: you asked, but I'm I bring my best friend.
Speaker 5: That's a guy.
Speaker 3: We're gonna share a hotel room. He's my big brother.
Speaker 3: You better be comfortable with it. Like I was putting
Speaker 3: all all these reasons for him not to be into it,
Speaker 3: and at the end of it seven days later, I
Speaker 3: was like, this is crazy. You are my world and
Speaker 3: I said a feeling yeah, and he's like, oh my god,
Speaker 3: me too.
Speaker 5: I'm like do you love me?
Speaker 7: Wow?
Speaker 5: Wow? Putting it out there though.
Speaker 3: I get fucked that and he said I have feelings
Speaker 3: of love towards.
Speaker 2: You, which is a beautiful gesture.
Speaker 5: I said, that's not.
Speaker 3: Good enough, that's amterdam. I'm in New York, you know.
Speaker 3: I said, do you love me?
Speaker 5: And he's like, I definitely have feelings of love towards you.
Speaker 3: And I say, you have to say it. He's like,
Speaker 3: are you making me say it? And I'm like yes,
Speaker 3: and so he said it. And it's fifteen years later.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Man, you gotta tell these motherfuckers.
Speaker 5: Sometime, the situation.
Speaker 3: You know, you guys tell these motherfuckers sometimes, and that's okay.
Speaker 5: It's the same space. You love me. You're never gonna
Speaker 5: do any better.
Speaker 2: It's the best.
Speaker 5: Yes, Yes, that's right.
Speaker 2: You have to try. You have to try. I think,
Speaker 2: you know. I with my wife, I gave it time,
Speaker 2: not like the number of dates, but like time. And
Speaker 2: after like three months, I said, I was like, I
Speaker 2: really I love you. And then she dumped me and
Speaker 2: and then I bought a car that I couldn't drive
Speaker 2: because it was stick, and then she taught me how
Speaker 2: to drive the stick and she did I'm not talking
Speaker 2: about sex, I'm talking about actual clutches, and and so
Speaker 2: we got back together that way. So I mean I
Speaker 2: I'd say just in the car, didn't it's like very cramped.
Speaker 2: H and it's not what you think it's going to
Speaker 2: be like in the movies, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: You're like, oh, that parking break, Yeah, that's a break.
Speaker 2: It's a major yeah, butthole and then but not not
Speaker 2: a fun way all right. So the point is what
Speaker 2: is the point? The point is you have to you
Speaker 2: have to try, you have to say something. You have
Speaker 2: to take a risk. No risk, No, you can't really
Speaker 2: like to say, what's the weather report going to be
Speaker 2: on an outdate? You know, like you have to just
Speaker 2: like take a stab and see if it happens. Even
Speaker 2: if you do get dumb, guess what, you can get
Speaker 2: back together. It can happen, you know, should happen.
Speaker 5: Thank you laughing at the advice.
Speaker 2: You know what.
Speaker 5: We've done.
Speaker 3: Guess what's the most adult thing you want to do
Speaker 3: for yourself that you haven't done yet?
Speaker 2: Oh god, yeah, spotlights on you.
Speaker 5: Okay, that I haven't done yet.
Speaker 7: I will just say looking into the dex credits for
Speaker 7: leasing an electric vehicle, that's like it's a good like
Speaker 7: buying a car, an electric one for the environment.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I've never bought a car before.
Speaker 2: Where do you plug one in in New York City?
Speaker 7: And that's really where I'm starting. That's the big question.
Speaker 7: We don't have a garage or a house. But what
Speaker 7: if I just went to Whole Foods regularly, yeah.
Speaker 5: And made it my own house like parking lot.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 7: In five years, it'll it'll work out, you know what
Speaker 7: I mean, The infrastructure will be there.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 5: Well I'm excited for you. I can't wait to see
Speaker 5: what you write.
Speaker 3: Oh, thank you, it's time. It's gonna be I mean
Speaker 3: about it and everything everywhere all at once. Sorry I
Speaker 3: forgot to ask how the fuck was it was?
Speaker 7: The It was amazing and it was like the last
Speaker 7: day before the pandemic shutdown. We'd like did we were
Speaker 7: stuffing like hot dog fingers in our mouths, being like
Speaker 7: is this serve?
Speaker 5: And then the pandemic happened.
Speaker 3: It's so funny how like every job is almost linked
Speaker 3: to like what's happening in the world.
Speaker 5: It's so true, you know what I mean, it really is. Yeah,
Speaker 5: it's like the script of your life. Did you go
Speaker 5: to the oscars?
Speaker 7: I didn't, That's okay, I mean, I'm like those are
Speaker 7: like some of my best friends. I'm so so thrilled
Speaker 7: for them, the Daniels and a lot of the cast.
Speaker 5: So it's yeah.
Speaker 7: I was just like, were you in a Little John video?
Speaker 7: I was same, directors.
Speaker 5: Turned down for what music video? Are you a video?
Speaker 1: Hoo?
Speaker 7: I had to tell that to my now husband. I
Speaker 7: was like, when we were dating, he was like showing
Speaker 7: me videos, like music videos.
Speaker 5: He like like rap videos, and I was like, there's
Speaker 5: something you should know about.
Speaker 7: And I had to show him this video because it's
Speaker 7: like really popular and people would like not people team
Speaker 7: teenagers will stop me on the street and be like, yo,
Speaker 7: you dope, And it was so validating and so cool.
Speaker 5: What were you doing in the video?
Speaker 7: Oh?
Speaker 5: I was like, tworking violently.
Speaker 7: It's this ridiculous video where my like, my only salvation
Speaker 7: is to violently like twerk my ass on this other
Speaker 7: character in the video.
Speaker 2: Because there's no reason to turn down?
Speaker 5: Is that how you like?
Speaker 7: Yeah, there's no other way? Yeah you know, yeah, what
Speaker 7: are you gonna turn down for?
Speaker 5: What can she do?
Speaker 8: Tell everybody?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 4: Oh boy?
Speaker 2: Yeah, I did it naturally.
Speaker 4: I didn't even.
Speaker 2: It sounds like we just came off splash mountain or
Speaker 2: something like Ooh, We're so ready.
Speaker 8: We're so ready.
Speaker 5: Listen you guys.
Speaker 2: That was a very fun That was a very fun show.
Speaker 2: We learned a lot about Santa. She's just a very
Speaker 2: authentic person, you know what.
Speaker 3: Somebody told me on set one time we were like
Speaker 3: in between setups where you like move camera angles, and
Speaker 3: so we had about seventeen to twenty minutes of downtime
Speaker 3: and I went to my showrunner immediately, I'm like, should
Speaker 3: we rewrite the scene for next week or whatever?
Speaker 4: She's like, take a break, and I'm like, no, I
Speaker 4: want to be productive.
Speaker 3: And one of them executives from A twenty four said
Speaker 3: breaks can be productive, and that blew my mother fucking
Speaker 3: maya ya yay, because I'm like, okay, what happens when
Speaker 3: we are just allowed to sit, you know, just sit
Speaker 3: in our own space, in our thoughts, and like, what
Speaker 3: the fuck can we come up with?
Speaker 4: And I remember MICHAELA. Cole saying when did she went
Speaker 4: to bath Toad?
Speaker 3: I don't remember what award she won for I May
Speaker 3: Destroy You, but she said that she unplugged, truly unplugged,
Speaker 3: went away and she was like, the things that come
Speaker 3: up when you are quiet are the things that will
Speaker 3: be important to share in Hollywood in New York. You know,
Speaker 3: if you've got a hustle around your job, but you
Speaker 3: really forget that you have this brain, right, yeah, and
Speaker 3: you have memories, you have core memories, and you have
Speaker 3: wishes and wants. You forget how to enjoy them, how
Speaker 3: to see them through. And so when Sanita was talking
Speaker 3: about writing and it's a world that she's creating and
Speaker 3: she doesn't know on the outside looking in, I was
Speaker 3: very excited for her because I know that space.
Speaker 4: But when you're in the eye of.
Speaker 3: The storm, it's fucking scary at shit because you're like, well,
Speaker 3: them commas in the bank accounts don't give a fuck. Yeah,
Speaker 3: but really trusting that you have everything you need and
Speaker 3: you could always clip some coupons, Well yeah, it might
Speaker 3: just work the fuck out.
Speaker 2: I appreciated it. It was It was very refreshing. It
Speaker 2: was because she has so much going on. I'm so
Speaker 2: I was like, thank you for that. Yeah, I see
Speaker 2: her and her success. I'm like, okay, cool, Yeah, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna be ayright. Yeah.
Speaker 4: Everywhere is it the name of the movie again?
Speaker 2: Everything? Everywhere, all at once.
Speaker 5: Yeah. I wrote a joke about that movie for that.
Speaker 2: I remember.
Speaker 3: If everything everywhere was all at once, why was that shit?
Speaker 3: Three and a half hours? Hey, y, all right, you guys,
Speaker 3: thank you so much for hanging with us. What a crazy,
Speaker 3: wild episode. Sorry if we laughed too much, Sorry if
Speaker 3: there was air horn, just kidding.
Speaker 4: You're welcome, motherfucker. Have a good evening. The froze ain't
Speaker 4: gonna make itself. Gotta go.
Speaker 2: This has been an exactly right production.
Speaker 4: Our senior producer is g Holley.
Speaker 2: Our associate producer is Alex Cheat.
Speaker 5: This episode was mixed by John Bradley.
Speaker 2: Our guest booker is Patrick Cottner.
Speaker 5: Additional production support from Hannah Kyle Crichton.
Speaker 2: Theme song and live show DJing is by Don will
Speaker 2: Our live.
Speaker 5: Show producer is Marion Ways.
Speaker 2: Artwork by Jamie Bechtel.
Speaker 5: Photography by Reis vander Most.
Speaker 2: Executive produced by Karen Kilgera, Georgia Hardstark and Daniel Kramer.
Speaker 5: Follow the show on Instagram at Adulting the Pod.
Speaker 2: Email your questions to Adulting Questions at gmail dot com.
Speaker 3: Mmmm