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Speaker 2: So I don't care. Am I the a hole? Send

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Speaker 2: her maybe to like a new country in a cage.

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Speaker 2: Don't let her out feed or scraps.

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Speaker 1: Speaking of cages, we've been let out of our cage,

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Speaker 1: yes we have.

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Speaker 2: This is not a green screen anymore, guys, this is

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Speaker 2: this is real. We are in Bali right now. Can

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Speaker 2: you say that? Okay says we can say that. Yes,

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Speaker 2: it's been approved. Producer gave us the thumb stuff just

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Speaker 2: kidding save us. He's keeping us under duress. Yeah, look

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Speaker 2: at these terrible conditions that we're living. Yeah, do you

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Speaker 2: think we could live in this condition? But yeah, so

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Speaker 2: this we're gonna be doing this episode from this villain

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Speaker 2: Bali and many more. So let's get into it. Let's

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Speaker 2: get into it.

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Speaker 1: I twenty seven female, got engaged with my fiance, thirty

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Speaker 1: four male, right before COVID and due to the pandemic,

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Speaker 1: have experienced delay after hand.

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Speaker 2: DEMI always ruining weddings.

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Speaker 1: But finally we have begun planning and are aiming at

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Speaker 1: a mid May twenty fourth wedding. My mother asked me

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Speaker 1: bridal party because after marrying my brother, she moved several

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Speaker 2: After the mom married.

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Speaker 1: The brothers read my brother, my mother asked me if

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Speaker 1: she moved several states away and has expressed feelings of

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Speaker 1: being isolated without family around. I could understand, so I agreed. Okay,

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Speaker 1: but big butt, big butts always we love big butts.

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Speaker 2: My sister in law has been nothing short of a nightmare. Well,

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Speaker 2: shout out to Disney for making sure I hate every

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Speaker 2: You know she's actually looking like a smash honestly a

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Speaker 2: expand that boody too. Also like tightness.

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Speaker 1: My bridesmaids all assisted in handwriting and sending out our

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Speaker 1: had different shapes of pink to work from. She also

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Speaker 1: at home mom and I know things are tight right now,

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Speaker 1: But the final straw came when I found the dress

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Speaker 2: Alasta girl would not have this problem.

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Speaker 1: Everyone was encouraging, and I still had plenty of time

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Speaker 1: So when I got home that night, I noticed on

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Speaker 2: I've seen it. Yes, I could not help myself.

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Speaker 1: I called her exploding, adding that she was not going

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Speaker 2: Would I think OP already gave her a chance? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Out exact her out.

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Speaker 1: My mother in law has called me and told me

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Speaker 2: She asked if I could find it in my.

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Speaker 2: So am I the ahole? Who? I mean? I want

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Speaker 2: to know what all of y'all think. Put your answers

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Speaker 2: know where would you stand in like the first fumble

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Speaker 1: At the end of the day, this is my wedding, Like, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I want to have people in my bridesmaid's party that

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Speaker 1: anything wrong, like just someone I don't like enjoy anestalie.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I would love to hear your stories from bachelor

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Speaker 2: and bachelorette parties. Put it in the commons. But John,

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Speaker 2: let's come to this.

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Speaker 1: Update for further update, my brother called me and wanted

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Speaker 2: Hey, that's the definition of a good fiance.

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Speaker 1: When my mom said we are family and we shouldn't

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Speaker 2: I mean, the brother didn't do anything majorly wrong. He's

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Speaker 1: It'd be like I pushed you in the face, and

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Speaker 1: I'm like Riley apologized to say I'm right now as producer.

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Speaker 1: Rather do it es two good very.

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Speaker 2: Go see if it works now.

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Speaker 2: I know.

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Speaker 1: The woman deserves the most stately apology, the most qually apologies.

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Speaker 2: That you've ever seen in all my.

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Speaker 1: Mass I really thought that planning a wedding was going

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Speaker 2: There is a final update.

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Speaker 1: My sister in law finally said that she absolutely hates me,

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Speaker 1: and it all stems there's like no.

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Speaker 2: Resolution, right, Yeah, everyone hates each other.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but final update, everyone hates each other at the end,

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Speaker 1: and it all stems from me ceasing to further loan

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Speaker 2: I don't know how much money my mom is loaned

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Speaker 1: After my brother got a really steady job with steady income,

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Speaker 1: them feel like beggars rather than family. You are beggars,

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Speaker 1: Oh you got forty two grand from her? Shut the

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Speaker 1: fuck up. I told her that she has no respect

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Speaker 2: I told her that I hoped.

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Speaker 1: It didn't affect my relationship with my niece slash nephew,

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Speaker 1: if all she does.

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Speaker 2: Is spew hatred towards me.

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Speaker 1: I wish that she had been honest before I asked

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Speaker 2: Neither is my mom. Who.

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Speaker 1: Wow, there was so much more than a good amount

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Speaker 1: of juice, A good amount of juice in that juice.

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Speaker 2: So what is the question here? Like? All right? My question?

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Speaker 2: So the bachelor and bachelorette parties are were the bridal

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Speaker 2: to know each other, and I feel like that's when

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Speaker 2: the chaos starts. And so I want to know any

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Speaker 1: Let us know in the commons. Shure there's some juicy ones.

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Speaker 1: I remember one of my friends in Australia. He was

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Speaker 1: part of thunder down Under, which is like an Australian

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Speaker 1: stripping group.

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Speaker 2: Oh boy, and so he would wear the speedo's and

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Speaker 2: all the stuff and like do the hip thrust, and

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Speaker 2: he would do bachelorette parties. He said that the whole

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Speaker 2: thunder down Under troop ran through the actual person that

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Speaker 2: was going to get married. Wow, like all of them. Okay,

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Speaker 2: the bar has been set. Uh share your stories.

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Speaker 1: Because it was like like it was not clean, it

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Speaker 1: there to experience it.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 1: We don't have a first hand with fourthand but this

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Speaker 2: good parenting move. I'm gonna say it anyway. Walk them

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Speaker 2: It seems like the thing you want to do is okay,

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Speaker 2: So not the ale. That's that's our opinion. But we're

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Speaker 2: So for all those kid lovers, that's wrong. For those

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Speaker 1: Something might be. Idiots, man, I just we've just evolved

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Speaker 2: What are we doing. Let's go, let's let's get it.

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Speaker 1: My mother in law forced me to eat her disgusting

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Speaker 2: Am I a whole never going to do a nice

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Speaker 1: My husband, thirty male, and I twenty eight female, have

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Speaker 2: Wait, so Op's husband likes it, Yes, loves it. Oh

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Speaker 1: It's been almost two years of me pretending no eating

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Speaker 1: that's crazy cottage cheesiest mac and cheese, damn dude, So

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Speaker 2: I've just decided to tell her.

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Speaker 1: It was a family dinner where my husband's parents had

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Speaker 1: her so called famous mac and cheese. Damn really putting

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Speaker 1: them the oh call, that's so called famous mac and cheese.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't even have ten thousand followers on Instagram.

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Speaker 1: Actually we don't have to follows on Instagram. Did our

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Speaker 1: Instagram's trash? Yeah it is Instagram? Please, yeah, give us clout.

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Speaker 1: I almost threw up at the smell and I couldn't

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Speaker 2: The baby loves my mac and cheese. I know that's

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Speaker 1: And I just went right out with it and said,

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Speaker 1: Everything else tastes delicious, but this is the one thing

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Speaker 2: That's tough. My husband was on my side and tried

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Speaker 1: To his mother, but all I know is that it

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Speaker 2: Damn. Imagine someone's identity being that wrapped up in mac

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Speaker 1: Also, I think we're going to get some more details

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Speaker 2: What's wrong with the mac and cheese? You might ask her?

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Speaker 1: Oh god, oh god, what is it? Mac and cheese

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Speaker 2: Mac and cheese.

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Speaker 1: I don't have a problem with the greens or onion,

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Speaker 2: Mac and cheese, kimchi and salmon. That's weird.

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Speaker 1: However, the reason why I think I might have been

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Speaker 2: What does that mean, just adding a new ingredient exactly?

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Speaker 1: Her entire family clearly loves it, and I tell her

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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole? And there's a quick edit.

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Speaker 1: I did tell her because I'm pregnant, it wasn't possible

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Speaker 2: Another edit, I'm French in my husband's family. French makes sense,

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Speaker 2: there you go, Yeah, snooty French people.

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Speaker 1: I'm French and my husband's family is Korean, so that

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Speaker 2: I do enjoy Salmon kis Yeah, it makes sense.

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00:20:01,640 --> 00:20:04,679
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it really depends on which dishes it's served with.

440
00:20:04,760 --> 00:20:06,840
Speaker 1: And since I've been pregnant, I've developed in a version

441
00:20:06,840 --> 00:20:09,200
Speaker 1: to several foods that I used to love.

442
00:20:09,680 --> 00:20:12,600
Speaker 2: I feel like it could be like a cultural difference, right,

443
00:20:12,680 --> 00:20:15,480
Speaker 2: a kind of like thing where it's like maybe all

444
00:20:15,520 --> 00:20:18,199
Speaker 2: of the Korean people like think like, oh this is

445
00:20:18,280 --> 00:20:20,480
Speaker 2: dankas and all the French people are like the same,

446
00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:24,360
Speaker 2: you know, my five star French dining kind of deal, right.

447
00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:28,720
Speaker 1: I still think because she feels like she's going to

448
00:20:28,800 --> 00:20:31,760
Speaker 1: be sick, like maybe she could have been like five

449
00:20:31,800 --> 00:20:34,919
Speaker 1: percent more dimplomatic, but like being like I'm sorry, like

450
00:20:34,920 --> 00:20:37,240
Speaker 1: I don't you know, I don't think this is the

451
00:20:37,240 --> 00:20:38,959
Speaker 1: best thing for me to eat right now, Like what

452
00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:39,840
Speaker 1: else are you going to do?

453
00:20:40,000 --> 00:20:42,840
Speaker 2: Like start throwing up, like or maybe just say like, hey,

454
00:20:42,920 --> 00:20:45,760
Speaker 2: I'm just lactose intolerant. Damn.

455
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Speaker 1: That is why I don't think. I don't think OP

456
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Speaker 1: is the A hole, though I kind of want.

457
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Speaker 2: I want.

458
00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:53,680
Speaker 1: I want this is perfect because we very rarely disagree.

459
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Speaker 1: So I want the audience to put a whole or

460
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Speaker 1: not the A hole, to take a little bit of

461
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Speaker 1: the ah'll just suck it up.

462
00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:02,240
Speaker 2: Yeah. Second out, Well, let's let's let the audience society

463
00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:04,040
Speaker 2: a little bit the A hole just like put it

464
00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:06,000
Speaker 2: on your plate and say like, don't eat. It's like, hey,

465
00:21:06,040 --> 00:21:08,199
Speaker 2: like I I'm full. Actually maybe that might be an

466
00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:09,440
Speaker 2: insol that's just samful.

467
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Speaker 1: Let's I say let's say you don't like it, just

468
00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:13,880
Speaker 1: sam full, I'm not in the mood for a mac

469
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Speaker 1: and cheek, and I would, but I think I think

470
00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:17,679
Speaker 1: she's that What would you do if you're like, how

471
00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:19,359
Speaker 1: do you politely declined food?

472
00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:22,080
Speaker 2: That's a question. That's that's also a good question. Yeah,

473
00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:23,920
Speaker 2: how do you politely declined food? Because I feel like

474
00:21:23,960 --> 00:21:25,520
Speaker 2: in a lot of cultures, for a lot of people

475
00:21:25,800 --> 00:21:29,160
Speaker 2: like it is very declining food is kind of seen

476
00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:31,840
Speaker 2: as a as a big affront one hundred percent. So

477
00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:35,120
Speaker 2: I'm curious how you would do that. And also, what's

478
00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:37,040
Speaker 2: the worst meal that anyone has ever cooked for you?

479
00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:41,320
Speaker 2: I'm curious about that. Just eating period eating. Yeah, my

480
00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:45,520
Speaker 2: dumb husband feels threatened by my c so I divorced

481
00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:47,360
Speaker 2: his dumb ass, the a hole.

482
00:21:47,560 --> 00:21:50,000
Speaker 1: Finally we are divorcing dumb men. I think we should

483
00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:50,840
Speaker 1: just go all females.

484
00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:54,320
Speaker 2: Are you really you're trying to just de chose? Let's go.

485
00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:57,320
Speaker 2: As the title says, he came home one day and

486
00:21:57,359 --> 00:22:00,040
Speaker 2: gave me logins to some i Q test and I

487
00:22:00,040 --> 00:22:03,600
Speaker 2: I scored higher than him. Yikes. First he was in disbelief,

488
00:22:03,720 --> 00:22:05,760
Speaker 2: I can't believe you've done this. Then a bit sulky.

489
00:22:05,840 --> 00:22:07,720
Speaker 2: I thought the whole thing was stupid and never thought

490
00:22:07,880 --> 00:22:11,320
Speaker 2: or experience that I'm smarter, and I never understood the

491
00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:14,040
Speaker 2: logic of these tests. IQ was in everything, folks, as

492
00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:17,760
Speaker 2: you can see here. Yes, anyway, since then, he has changed.

493
00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:20,080
Speaker 2: He doesn't want to cuddle or kiss me or anything.

494
00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:23,560
Speaker 2: Last Saturday, we attended a birthday party for my little nephew,

495
00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:27,159
Speaker 2: and my husband spent the evening chatting up my sister

496
00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:31,520
Speaker 2: in law's sister, who is very pretty god from an

497
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:34,639
Speaker 2: IQ test. Imagine realizing that your wife is smart and

498
00:22:34,680 --> 00:22:37,240
Speaker 2: then being like, yeah, I'm not attracted to you anymore.

499
00:22:37,400 --> 00:22:39,720
Speaker 2: Can you get a little botomy? When we got home,

500
00:22:39,920 --> 00:22:42,960
Speaker 2: I had just had it up docked there with him

501
00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:45,479
Speaker 2: and started crying because he ignored me for the last

502
00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:50,040
Speaker 2: three weeks. Three weeks now he's flirting with other people.

503
00:22:50,080 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 2: Oh my god. He denied everything, he denied changing since

504
00:22:53,560 --> 00:22:56,840
Speaker 2: the test, but I wasn't backing down this time. Good,

505
00:22:57,080 --> 00:22:59,320
Speaker 2: no back down, girl. I told him that I wasn't

506
00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:03,680
Speaker 2: stupid obviously IQ test, Yeah you look, get it, tommy,

507
00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:07,280
Speaker 2: and that he stopped being affectionate since that damn day.

508
00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:10,000
Speaker 2: He finally admitted that he was turned off by the

509
00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:13,400
Speaker 2: fact and wasn't attracted to me. I asked him if

510
00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:16,640
Speaker 2: he still wasn't attracted to me, and why I haven't changed.

511
00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:19,360
Speaker 2: I'm still me. He apologized and said that he would

512
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:22,119
Speaker 2: put his sheep together and that he knows how silly

513
00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:25,000
Speaker 2: this is, but he's been wary around me since. I

514
00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:27,640
Speaker 2: still think he's turned off by me. But what can

515
00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:30,520
Speaker 2: I do? And there is an update? Oh my god.

516
00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:33,560
Speaker 2: I want to know, like, how important is being smart

517
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:35,760
Speaker 2: or not smart to you in a relationship. Put your

518
00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:38,520
Speaker 2: comments in the comments below, But I don't know. John,

519
00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:40,080
Speaker 2: what do you think about this? Sam? What do we

520
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 2: always say on this show?

521
00:23:41,040 --> 00:23:45,040
Speaker 1: There's got to be red flat, there's always so red flash.

522
00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:47,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, there's no way like this IQ test suddenly

523
00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:51,080
Speaker 2: turns this guy into like a raving lunatic. He was

524
00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:53,439
Speaker 2: a lunatic much before the moon came out. You know,

525
00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:54,960
Speaker 2: I want to know what you guys would do in

526
00:23:54,960 --> 00:23:57,560
Speaker 2: this situation. But let's get into the updates. Let's do it.

527
00:23:57,560 --> 00:24:02,280
Speaker 2: We're taking a break. Yep, yep, sounds about right. So

528
00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:05,119
Speaker 2: I told my husband that I have had enough. He

529
00:24:05,160 --> 00:24:07,159
Speaker 2: has obviously had a change of heart and I'm not

530
00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:09,040
Speaker 2: going to be there to witness him falling out of

531
00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:12,080
Speaker 2: love with me. The mere thought is painful. He called

532
00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:14,760
Speaker 2: me drama and said that while his reaction was bitter

533
00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:18,480
Speaker 2: and stupid, I'm taking a huge leap and the wrong direction.

534
00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:21,439
Speaker 2: How would you know, dummy, since he already acknowledged his

535
00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:24,400
Speaker 2: mistake and is working towards being better, I told him

536
00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:27,600
Speaker 2: that it wasn't true. He is still avoiding me. I

537
00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:30,840
Speaker 2: am a leper. I also asked to see his phone.

538
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:35,720
Speaker 1: Oh just excuse here we go, here we go?

539
00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:38,640
Speaker 2: How do we miss that? We Actually he has been

540
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:42,440
Speaker 2: talking a bit too friendly to a coworker. It started

541
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:45,800
Speaker 2: immediately after this whole test thing, like he was determined

542
00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:47,440
Speaker 2: to hurt me or I don't know what he was

543
00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:49,679
Speaker 2: trying to accomplish otherwise. In one of the texts, he

544
00:24:49,720 --> 00:24:52,920
Speaker 2: complained that I was neglectful and full of myself. How

545
00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:55,879
Speaker 2: ironic to pretend that I'm the neglectful one when he

546
00:24:55,960 --> 00:24:58,800
Speaker 2: has not even kissed my cheek in over a month.

547
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:02,639
Speaker 2: You know, hey, if you don't kiss him, someone else is,

548
00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:05,200
Speaker 2: That's right? Not one of us? Maybe Sam? Yeah, I'm single.

549
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:07,000
Speaker 2: I actually went on a date last night, that's true?

550
00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:11,159
Speaker 2: Which post story story? Yes? Sorry boy, will give you

551
00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:14,560
Speaker 2: the thirty details, all right. It felt like it was

552
00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:16,600
Speaker 2: only a matter of time before he would cheat on me,

553
00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:19,480
Speaker 2: and I'm not staying for that, so I asked to

554
00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:22,320
Speaker 2: move out. This morning, he texted me that he loved me,

555
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:24,719
Speaker 2: and then he was so weak. He didn't know what

556
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:26,480
Speaker 2: he was trying to prove to me or to himself.

557
00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:30,360
Speaker 2: But he loves me and finds me very attractive physically,

558
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:32,840
Speaker 2: just not intellectually. Yeah, of course he has been so

559
00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:35,600
Speaker 2: cold with me, flirting with everyone that looked his way,

560
00:25:35,640 --> 00:25:37,600
Speaker 2: and now he was all loving and affectionate. He wants

561
00:25:37,680 --> 00:25:40,320
Speaker 2: us to try therapy, and he suggested that he needed to

562
00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:42,720
Speaker 2: work on his insecurities with a therapist too. We have

563
00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:47,320
Speaker 2: a daughter together who's eight months old. No, oh no,

564
00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:50,119
Speaker 2: that changes things, all changes things that we love more

565
00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:52,080
Speaker 2: than anything. But I don't know. Why does it feel

566
00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:54,280
Speaker 2: like it is over and that I don't trust him anymore?

567
00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:56,560
Speaker 2: I feel like I know now what he's capable of

568
00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:59,560
Speaker 2: when faced with adversity and going through rough patches is

569
00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:02,680
Speaker 2: covitable in every marriage. I don't like his method of

570
00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:06,200
Speaker 2: dealing with it. This is a great last line. Oh God,

571
00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:11,440
Speaker 2: I'm too intelligent to put up with this damn bro

572
00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:15,200
Speaker 2: that final line. Yeah, okay, So like if they were

573
00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:18,200
Speaker 2: married without kids, easy, Like, I feel like he's proven

574
00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:20,520
Speaker 2: that he's not worth your time with kids. I feel

575
00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:23,320
Speaker 2: like might be worth seeing if he could repair something.

576
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 2: We love a good divorce chant, you know. But yeah

577
00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:28,679
Speaker 2: we they listen. Hey, guys, I will can't all the

578
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:30,920
Speaker 2: way to the cows come home till the cows come home.

579
00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:32,000
Speaker 2: And you know, there are a lot of.

580
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:34,119
Speaker 1: Cows around here, so that's probably by some cows in

581
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:35,879
Speaker 1: the morning run, that is true, or in Bali by

582
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:38,399
Speaker 1: the way, But yeah, no, I feel like ultimately, like

583
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:40,680
Speaker 1: even though there is a child, that doesn't mean that

584
00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:45,520
Speaker 1: she's obligated to stick around, you know. But I totally

585
00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:47,000
Speaker 1: hear what you're saying, which is like I feel like

586
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:51,160
Speaker 1: a child there, Like could she sacrifice even more than

587
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 1: she has up to this point to see if there's

588
00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:55,800
Speaker 1: something that can be done that would But.

589
00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:57,960
Speaker 2: Speaking of I had a date last night, That's true.

590
00:26:58,040 --> 00:27:01,359
Speaker 2: I did. I was surfing at Sun's and as I

591
00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:03,840
Speaker 2: was going in, there was this cute Australian girl and

592
00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:06,119
Speaker 2: I started talking to her. I was like, hey, like

593
00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:08,719
Speaker 2: I gotta go surf, but maybe we should you know

594
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:12,000
Speaker 2: chat sometime we get your Instagram? Got her Instagram yep,

595
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 2: and I was like, all right here, let me show

596
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 2: you what I actually said. She said, lovely to meet you, Darles.

597
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 2: How is your surf? I said, haha, almost died. Rocks

598
00:27:20,359 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 2: came out of nowhere? Want to get drinks right now?

599
00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:28,439
Speaker 2: Is this the reintroduction to Sam's love chronicles. I'm not

600
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:31,160
Speaker 2: gonna push anything, but if you know, time will tell.

601
00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:34,119
Speaker 2: But you know what else we gotta tell? Ooh, that's

602
00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:35,280
Speaker 2: next story we do.

603
00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:38,080
Speaker 1: My wife tried to make me babysit on my day off,

604
00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:40,399
Speaker 1: so I told her that's your job.

605
00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:41,880
Speaker 2: So I walked out on her.

606
00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:43,640
Speaker 1: Am I the a hole? Yeah, walk out on her

607
00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:46,720
Speaker 1: and the baby. Wow, you know what this happened for itself.

608
00:27:46,720 --> 00:27:49,879
Speaker 1: This baby doesn't respect my boundaries of not needing to

609
00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:52,240
Speaker 1: watch it. So I thirty five male, had been married

610
00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:55,000
Speaker 1: to my wife thirty two female, for seven years. We

611
00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:57,760
Speaker 1: have two children together, six male and three female.

612
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,680
Speaker 2: Nice. She takes care of the house and baby sits.

613
00:28:00,520 --> 00:28:02,320
Speaker 1: The kids most of the time because she's a stay

614
00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:05,240
Speaker 1: at home mom, but we evenly split chores and childcare

615
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:07,800
Speaker 1: on weekends when I get home from work. My wife

616
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:10,040
Speaker 1: is much more social than I am. We move to

617
00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 1: her home state from mine because she wanted to be

618
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 1: closer to her parents and her childhood friends. Now she's

619
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:16,880
Speaker 1: a lot more social than I am.

620
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:17,919
Speaker 2: She goes on.

621
00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 1: Three to four girls trips a year. I'm happy to

622
00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:22,119
Speaker 1: babysit the kids full time in her absence. Three to

623
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 1: four girls trips a year. How long are these girls trips?

624
00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:26,080
Speaker 2: I mean, you know, a.

625
00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:29,600
Speaker 1: Quarter for three month trips? Yes, honey. When I'm home

626
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 1: for my four days a year, I do not want

627
00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:32,320
Speaker 1: to see these children.

628
00:28:32,480 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 2: I'm exhausted.

629
00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 1: I'm more of a homebody anyway, so I usually just

630
00:28:36,359 --> 00:28:38,480
Speaker 1: like to paint in the spare room or play video

631
00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 1: games every once in a while instead of traveling out

632
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 1: of state. I don't really take time off work unless

633
00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:45,720
Speaker 1: we do something as a family. For the past three

634
00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:47,920
Speaker 1: or four months, I was very busy on a major

635
00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 1: project at work. I've been working sixty hour weeks, and frankly,

636
00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 1: I'm exhausted with the stress. I kind of feel like,

637
00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:56,880
Speaker 1: with all this extra time he's spending at work, is

638
00:28:56,920 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 1: there something else.

639
00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:01,480
Speaker 2: That she's doing or he I don't know. We're hearing

640
00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:03,520
Speaker 2: about a lot of girls' trips. We're hearing about a

641
00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:06,640
Speaker 2: lot more work hours for me. Right now, it feels

642
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:09,840
Speaker 2: like the work stuff is independent from the girls trip.

643
00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:13,400
Speaker 1: But what about sloppy conspiracy theories? That's true, that's what

644
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:14,480
Speaker 1: about the messy tea?

645
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 2: What if the work.

646
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:19,160
Speaker 1: Trip is the trip he's taking to the receptionist vagina? Wow,

647
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:21,080
Speaker 1: you know I was thinking the other way, But now

648
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:23,560
Speaker 1: we have two conspiracy theories. So when the project was

649
00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:25,760
Speaker 1: finally coming to an end, I told my wife I'm

650
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 1: taking a day off and I won't be doing any

651
00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:30,480
Speaker 1: work around the house. Of course, I'd still clean up

652
00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:32,800
Speaker 1: after myself, but I didn't want to do any chores

653
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 1: or do childcare on that one day. I told her

654
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:38,280
Speaker 1: that two weeks in advance, and she agreed Man's asking

655
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 1: for one day. How dare he twenty four hours? How

656
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:42,200
Speaker 1: many seconds?

657
00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:42,400
Speaker 2: Is that?

658
00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:45,320
Speaker 1: At least more than three? I also reminded her three

659
00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:49,480
Speaker 1: days before. Man really wants this day off. He desperately

660
00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 1: needs this day off. However, when that day came, my

661
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:55,520
Speaker 1: wife just forgot about the agreement.

662
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:56,480
Speaker 2: What do you mean?

663
00:29:57,040 --> 00:29:59,480
Speaker 1: I was in the painting room and my wife interrupted

664
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:01,760
Speaker 1: me tell telling me that she needed me to give

665
00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 1: our daughter a bath because she spilt milk all over

666
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:06,640
Speaker 1: herself and couldn't do it because she had to wash

667
00:30:06,680 --> 00:30:10,800
Speaker 1: the dishes. It was annoying, but whatever, it happens. Later on,

668
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:13,160
Speaker 1: while I was playing video games, my wife tells me

669
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:15,560
Speaker 1: our son needs help for his math homework. I asked

670
00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:18,600
Speaker 1: her why can't she help him herself. She said it's

671
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:21,240
Speaker 1: because she has some work to do. This work was

672
00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:24,240
Speaker 1: actually her best friend coming over and chatting for an hour.

673
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 2: Man wanted one day, you know, one measley day. You know.

674
00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:30,280
Speaker 2: This really pissed me off.

675
00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:33,080
Speaker 1: So after I helped my son and the best friend left,

676
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:35,320
Speaker 1: I told my wife I'm leaving the house for four

677
00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 1: to five hours. She asked me where I was going.

678
00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:39,240
Speaker 1: I told her I'm just going to chill in the

679
00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:41,720
Speaker 1: park and do whatever. She said that she needs me

680
00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:43,880
Speaker 1: to help out with the chores and the kids. I

681
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:47,440
Speaker 1: told her that today was my day off from all work,

682
00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:50,960
Speaker 1: including housework, and it's her job to babysit the kids.

683
00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 2: On this day before I left the house.

684
00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 1: When I came back, she was acting cold and calling

685
00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:58,000
Speaker 1: me an a hole for just abandoning her and the kids.

686
00:30:58,160 --> 00:31:01,360
Speaker 2: He asked for one day. He asked me multiple times, two.

687
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:04,960
Speaker 1: Weeks in advance, three days in advance on the day of, like, and.

688
00:31:05,080 --> 00:31:06,040
Speaker 2: He's getting paid for it.

689
00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:08,760
Speaker 1: Still, I think she's being dramatic. But when I spoke

690
00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:11,320
Speaker 1: to my sister, she said parenting is a twenty four

691
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:12,280
Speaker 1: to seven jobs.

692
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 2: So am I the ahole? It is a twenty four

693
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 2: to seven job. But I think the great thing about

694
00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 2: having two parents is you can give each other breaks

695
00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:22,960
Speaker 2: when you feel like you need it exactly. It's not

696
00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:26,560
Speaker 2: like parenting can be mentally exhausted one hundred percent. As

697
00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 2: a parent, I totally know, yeah, but I say it's

698
00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:32,680
Speaker 2: eleven children that a certain privileges. I think he's not

699
00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 2: asking for that much. And I don't get what the

700
00:31:35,240 --> 00:31:38,920
Speaker 2: sister's saying. You can ask for a day off if

701
00:31:38,920 --> 00:31:40,280
Speaker 2: you feel like it would be good for you.

702
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:42,239
Speaker 1: And I think, like the big thing here is like

703
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:46,680
Speaker 1: it was very clearly communicated well in advance, which you know,

704
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:48,760
Speaker 1: like if he is like wakes up one day, he's like,

705
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:51,320
Speaker 1: I'm exhausted, I'm dead, I'm doing all this stuff. Would

706
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:53,440
Speaker 1: you mind it? Like, I think that could be fine

707
00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:54,720
Speaker 1: as well, But that's not what he did.

708
00:31:55,080 --> 00:31:57,959
Speaker 2: It was crazy overkill what he did to prepare for

709
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:00,360
Speaker 2: this single day. Yes, I don't know. I think I

710
00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:01,840
Speaker 2: think the wife is a little bit of the ahold,

711
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 2: But I would love to know what everyone else thinks,

712
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:04,760
Speaker 2: Oh one hundred percent? What would you do?

713
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 1: And also like, if you have kids, what's your parenting style?

714
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:08,360
Speaker 1: How do you do breaks?

715
00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:11,960
Speaker 2: You know? Or do you do breaks? Do you switch

716
00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:14,400
Speaker 2: off between one of you managing the kids and the

717
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 2: other managing the kids. I would love to know what

718
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 2: your parenting styles are and how you would approach the situation.

719
00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:20,040
Speaker 2: Put your answers in the comments.

720
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 1: But Sam, you know what, I never want to break

721
00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:25,120
Speaker 1: from what your sweet lips reading me this next story.

722
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 2: I will put my sweet lips to this next story.

723
00:32:28,280 --> 00:32:31,560
Speaker 2: Oh god, am I the apple for announcing my wife's

724
00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:34,680
Speaker 2: second pregnancy in front of my sister who can't have

725
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:37,680
Speaker 2: kids and asked us for money for an IVF treatment.

726
00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:39,640
Speaker 2: Sometimes you just got to rub it in, you know,

727
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:41,920
Speaker 2: like salt in the wound. They say it's good to

728
00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 2: put salt in the wind. My wife and I have

729
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 2: a three year old son and we're expecting our second

730
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:50,440
Speaker 2: child next year. Both our children were conceived via IVF.

731
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:53,720
Speaker 2: We spent years trying for a first with no success,

732
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 2: and it took four cycles of IVF to have them,

733
00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:58,840
Speaker 2: which that's expensive, like probably forty K could be more.

734
00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 2: It was brutal on my wife. Yeah, yeah, we both

735
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:05,200
Speaker 2: felt like trying for biological children was the way to

736
00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:07,480
Speaker 2: go for us. We tried naturally for a second child

737
00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:10,600
Speaker 2: after our first turn one, but had zero luck. We

738
00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:13,240
Speaker 2: were left with money for one cycle of IVF, which

739
00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:16,240
Speaker 2: we decided to pursue if we didn't have any luck naturally,

740
00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:19,080
Speaker 2: which we didn't. So they're like, okay, let's send it.

741
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 2: Except around a year ago, my wife and I were

742
00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:24,640
Speaker 2: gearing up to start the ball rolling on her IVF

743
00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:27,800
Speaker 2: journey when my sister came and asked if she could

744
00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:31,200
Speaker 2: have the money to try IVF herself. My sister has

745
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:33,880
Speaker 2: no biological kids, but does have an eleven year old

746
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:38,880
Speaker 2: step son. She has endometriosis and PCOS with PCOS.

747
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 1: Oh, now we have someone to look stuff up for us, Riley,

748
00:33:42,080 --> 00:33:43,000
Speaker 1: Siri or fired.

749
00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:46,720
Speaker 2: So no more periods means maybe no more kids. It

750
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 2: sounds like at least reduced chances, so rouses the chances

751
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:51,959
Speaker 2: of having a child. Yeah, and she has never been

752
00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:54,240
Speaker 2: able to have a child. Her step son is not

753
00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:56,680
Speaker 2: very close to her and they've had problems with him

754
00:33:56,720 --> 00:33:58,440
Speaker 2: since the start of the marriage. Her step son has

755
00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 2: always brought up the fact that his married again too

756
00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:03,800
Speaker 2: soon after his mom died, and how my sister is

757
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:05,040
Speaker 2: trying to replace her.

758
00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:08,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, when you're getting that told to you by an

759
00:34:08,480 --> 00:34:10,480
Speaker 1: eleven year old kid, that.

760
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:14,880
Speaker 2: Ye, dude, they just know how to fucking go after

761
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:17,520
Speaker 2: your throat. Really though he ran away from home three

762
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:21,400
Speaker 2: times already, we also had the police and Child Protective

763
00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:24,360
Speaker 2: Services on their door because he tried to get removed

764
00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:28,560
Speaker 2: from their care. Oh my god, kid is rebelling. Our

765
00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:30,960
Speaker 2: main reason for saying no is we wanted to give

766
00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:32,799
Speaker 2: her son a sibling. But I can't lie and say.

767
00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:35,359
Speaker 2: The dynamic in her home wasn't on my mind too,

768
00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:37,160
Speaker 2: and I wasn't sure it was a good idea to

769
00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 2: bring a new baby into their home when things are

770
00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:40,719
Speaker 2: as bad as they are.

771
00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:44,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, babies don't solve problems, They just cause more ad

772
00:34:44,840 --> 00:34:45,080
Speaker 1: to it.

773
00:34:45,680 --> 00:34:48,080
Speaker 2: We waited for my wife to be far enough along

774
00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:51,360
Speaker 2: before announcing our last IVF cycle worked. We did this

775
00:34:51,400 --> 00:34:54,320
Speaker 2: at a family dinner. Everyone was happy for us, everyone

776
00:34:54,680 --> 00:34:57,920
Speaker 2: except sister and her husband. It is She started making

777
00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:00,120
Speaker 2: snarky comments about how it was no big deal we

778
00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:02,680
Speaker 2: already had another kid. I told her, given our struggles,

779
00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:04,640
Speaker 2: it was a big deal. Our parents told her she

780
00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:07,080
Speaker 2: should be happy for us. She then starts ranting and

781
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:10,480
Speaker 2: raving about how selfish we are to deny her motherhood

782
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:12,480
Speaker 2: and deny her and her husband the chance to have

783
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:15,359
Speaker 2: a family together. Our other sister pointed out about her

784
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:18,480
Speaker 2: step son. She told her she's not his mother and

785
00:35:18,520 --> 00:35:20,600
Speaker 2: he hates her guts, so it's not like she'll ever

786
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:24,880
Speaker 2: get any joy out of mother. Oh my god, nuclear,

787
00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:26,760
Speaker 2: Jesus nuclear.

788
00:35:26,960 --> 00:35:29,680
Speaker 1: I understand that it's that you know she's going through

789
00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 1: it too, but it's like that is just so obviously

790
00:35:33,760 --> 00:35:36,000
Speaker 1: just say like, hey, I hate that you're having another kid.

791
00:35:36,120 --> 00:35:39,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, like come on, like I did a little bit. Yeah.

792
00:35:39,400 --> 00:35:41,480
Speaker 2: I told her I was sorry she could not have

793
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:43,160
Speaker 2: a kid of her own, but she didn't get to

794
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:47,400
Speaker 2: demand we sacrifice a second child for her trills. She

795
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:50,360
Speaker 2: then told me I held her stepson against her. I

796
00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:52,640
Speaker 2: told her I couldn't say that. It hadn't crossed my

797
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:54,880
Speaker 2: mind that bringing a child into what is already a

798
00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:58,120
Speaker 2: complicated mess would be a bad idea, All right, Opie,

799
00:35:58,200 --> 00:35:59,160
Speaker 2: Maybe a little too far.

800
00:35:59,480 --> 00:36:02,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was beside the point because we wanted another child.

801
00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:05,439
Speaker 1: He told me I was an actol for humiliating her

802
00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:07,319
Speaker 1: in front of the whole family and picking a fight

803
00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:09,920
Speaker 1: with her. I told her she picked the fight, not me,

804
00:36:10,360 --> 00:36:13,319
Speaker 1: But I didn't gauge. So am I the a hole?

805
00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:14,959
Speaker 1: I want to know what everyone else thinks? What would

806
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 1: you do in this situation? But John, what do you think?

807
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 1: Here's my question? Why do people think babies magically solve problems?

808
00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:23,320
Speaker 2: I don't know, because it's like it's it's hard to

809
00:36:23,440 --> 00:36:23,920
Speaker 2: raise a kid.

810
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 1: I just want to understand where this like mythical idea,

811
00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:27,879
Speaker 1: Like where did it come from?

812
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 2: I think people that don't have kids are thinking like,

813
00:36:30,239 --> 00:36:32,400
Speaker 2: oh my god, it's like like a cute little like

814
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 2: golden retriever. But that looks like me right, you know,

815
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:39,279
Speaker 2: like babies. I think people think babies are just going

816
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:41,879
Speaker 2: to be like cute, easy things to just like hang

817
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:43,359
Speaker 2: out with, And that's just not the case.

818
00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:46,279
Speaker 1: Have these people seen a baby, like, I don't know.

819
00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:47,240
Speaker 1: It just makes me think you've.

820
00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:48,920
Speaker 2: Only seen the cute parts of a baby. You also

821
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:51,160
Speaker 2: don't know what you're getting into when you're becoming a parent.

822
00:36:51,280 --> 00:36:51,760
Speaker 2: That's true.

823
00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 1: And you know what, we've seen even more flawed logic

824
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:56,759
Speaker 1: on this podcast, so I guess, but the sister is

825
00:36:56,880 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 1: so out of line, Like I totally under stand, and

826
00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 1: you know, empathize that you're going through it as well,

827
00:37:04,120 --> 00:37:06,319
Speaker 1: and you know it's probably hard to see, like, oh, like,

828
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:08,040
Speaker 1: I'm trying so hard for a kid. They have a

829
00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:11,640
Speaker 1: kid I can't afford IVF like, like, I understand that

830
00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:15,680
Speaker 1: that doesn't give you license to completely tear someone down.

831
00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:18,960
Speaker 2: And you're also not entitled to someone's money or there

832
00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:21,160
Speaker 2: I mean, and that money equals a second child too,

833
00:37:21,280 --> 00:37:23,960
Speaker 2: so you're not entitled to their second born child. Yes,

834
00:37:24,080 --> 00:37:25,360
Speaker 2: we would love to know what you think. Put your

835
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:29,560
Speaker 2: answers in the comments below. And what would you sacrifice

836
00:37:29,640 --> 00:37:31,960
Speaker 2: your second born child for? Oh let us know in

837
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 2: the comments.

838
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:35,799
Speaker 1: My girlfriend is dumping me because I committed the ultimate sin,

839
00:37:36,040 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 1: not closing a door, and I'm the ahole dude.

840
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:46,000
Speaker 2: Honestly, these relationships make me just want to Welcome to

841
00:37:46,040 --> 00:37:47,839
Speaker 2: the Bali episode. Yeah, let's go.

842
00:37:48,280 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 1: My girlfriend twenty four female and I twenty three male,

843
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:53,759
Speaker 1: have been together for almost three years now. We get

844
00:37:53,760 --> 00:37:56,360
Speaker 1: along well and didn't fight much, which is why I'm confused.

845
00:37:56,520 --> 00:37:59,360
Speaker 1: Over this situation. Okay, girlfriend lives on her own in

846
00:37:59,400 --> 00:38:01,640
Speaker 1: her own apartment and works full time, whereas I am

847
00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:03,960
Speaker 1: still living with my parents until I finished college. I

848
00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:06,600
Speaker 1: was originally planning on moving in with my girlfriend into

849
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:09,400
Speaker 1: her apartment once she renews a lease until we had

850
00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:10,120
Speaker 1: her disagreement.

851
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:13,719
Speaker 2: All right, what's the disagreement? What's this relationship ending disagreement?

852
00:38:13,880 --> 00:38:18,400
Speaker 2: She said? She only asked that I keep our door closed,

853
00:38:18,680 --> 00:38:20,920
Speaker 2: especially at night. What are the secrets? What are you hiding?

854
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:24,080
Speaker 1: I was understandable about the situation, so when I first

855
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:26,680
Speaker 1: spent the night over, I made sure to check if

856
00:38:26,719 --> 00:38:29,600
Speaker 1: the closet door was closed while she slept. Why is

857
00:38:29,600 --> 00:38:32,759
Speaker 1: she like afraid of monsters? Maybe months went by and

858
00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:35,840
Speaker 1: there was an instance where I did accidentally forget to

859
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:37,719
Speaker 1: close it. She'd wake up the next day and ask

860
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:39,560
Speaker 1: me about it, Hey, did you forget to close the.

861
00:38:39,520 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 2: Door last night?

862
00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:43,400
Speaker 1: I apologized for it, and she'd say something like, please,

863
00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:46,879
Speaker 1: do not ever forget next time.

864
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:49,080
Speaker 2: Dude. I feel like she's really scared of the dark.

865
00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:51,680
Speaker 1: I had no problem with that at first, though lately

866
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:54,759
Speaker 1: it's getting pretty annoying. It felt like that's all she

867
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:58,040
Speaker 1: wanted to talk about first thing in the morning every days.

868
00:38:58,400 --> 00:39:00,920
Speaker 2: Close the door, Hey babe, how are you doing? I

869
00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:02,840
Speaker 2: don't know, open like the door.

870
00:39:03,520 --> 00:39:05,719
Speaker 1: I voiced my feelings on it one day, and she

871
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:09,359
Speaker 1: just responded by saying, well, then just please close the door.

872
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:12,200
Speaker 2: It's not that hard. I sometimes deal with sleep paralysis.

873
00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:14,680
Speaker 1: I got irritated by that because it just felt like

874
00:39:14,840 --> 00:39:16,280
Speaker 1: she wanted a reason to nagamy.

875
00:39:16,400 --> 00:39:18,880
Speaker 2: One day I went over to visit her. I decided

876
00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:24,640
Speaker 2: to purposely leave that closet door. Wow. Wow, OPI chose

877
00:39:24,680 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 2: a violence. He woke up and chose he chose? The

878
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:28,319
Speaker 2: demon said, I left it.

879
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:30,880
Speaker 1: Open while she slept in her bed, and while I

880
00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:33,360
Speaker 1: slept on the living room couch, and I just wanted

881
00:39:33,360 --> 00:39:36,280
Speaker 1: to see what would happen. I assumed nothing happened because

882
00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:39,399
Speaker 1: I didn't hear anything. However, next day, when I woke up,

883
00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 1: she was sitting at the kitchen table, looking like she

884
00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:44,879
Speaker 1: had been trying her eyes out.

885
00:39:44,960 --> 00:39:48,120
Speaker 2: They were really puffy to the sleep paralysis. Demon did

886
00:39:48,160 --> 00:39:48,880
Speaker 2: something naughty.

887
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:50,960
Speaker 1: Before I could even say a word, she said, I

888
00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 1: have told you so many times that I wanted that

889
00:39:54,160 --> 00:39:57,000
Speaker 1: closet door closed. It's all I've ever asked of you,

890
00:39:57,080 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 1: and you can't even do that.

891
00:39:58,560 --> 00:39:59,840
Speaker 2: Here's where I might be the A.

892
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:02,960
Speaker 1: I got angry that she was already nagging me about

893
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:04,960
Speaker 1: this first thing in the morning. So I told her

894
00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:07,520
Speaker 1: that she's a grown woman and she can't rely on

895
00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:10,360
Speaker 1: dumb stickers to help her over something that happened to

896
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:12,040
Speaker 1: her years ago, and she needed.

897
00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:14,040
Speaker 2: To get over it. Wait what happened? Okay? Yeah, this

898
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:17,000
Speaker 2: is there's something more under a lot more that could

899
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:19,600
Speaker 2: happened in two thousand and one, when Monsters Ink was released,

900
00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:22,520
Speaker 2: she told me to leave, so I did because I

901
00:40:22,560 --> 00:40:22,959
Speaker 2: was mad.

902
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:25,040
Speaker 1: It's been a week since then and I haven't heard

903
00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:27,480
Speaker 1: anything from her. I don't want to break up over this,

904
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:30,000
Speaker 1: but I want to know if what I said was wrong.

905
00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:32,319
Speaker 1: My parents and friends are just saying my girlfriend is

906
00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:36,520
Speaker 1: being dramatic, but I want some unbiased opinions on this subject.

907
00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:38,359
Speaker 2: I want to know what the what is the thing

908
00:40:38,400 --> 00:40:38,960
Speaker 2: that happened?

909
00:40:39,080 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 1: Okay, so there is an edit where I don't think.

910
00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:43,759
Speaker 1: I don't think you're going to predict it. Actually, what

911
00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:45,520
Speaker 1: is your do you want to make a prediction?

912
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 2: I'm assuming monsters inc at it.

913
00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:50,680
Speaker 1: I want to clarify that my girlfriend never leaves the

914
00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:53,200
Speaker 1: closet door open. I would go in and get something

915
00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:56,120
Speaker 1: out and would occasionally forget to close the door. The

916
00:40:56,200 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 1: door also makes an unbearable speaking noise when you're.

917
00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:00,760
Speaker 2: Trying to close it. We have a quick comment.

918
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 1: She told me that a homeless man snuck into her parents'

919
00:41:03,960 --> 00:41:06,640
Speaker 1: home and hid in her closet, and when she woke up,

920
00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:09,239
Speaker 1: she could see his eyes in the dark staring at her.

921
00:41:10,040 --> 00:41:11,640
Speaker 2: That is terrifying.

922
00:41:11,920 --> 00:41:16,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, now, I think opc he was thankfully arrested and

923
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:20,680
Speaker 1: nothing beyond that happened to her. And there's one final update.

924
00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:23,480
Speaker 1: My now X and I were together for two years,

925
00:41:23,600 --> 00:41:25,800
Speaker 1: would have been three years next month.

926
00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:28,600
Speaker 2: They broke up because the man could not close the closet.

927
00:41:28,680 --> 00:41:30,960
Speaker 2: But it's like like so many things.

928
00:41:31,120 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's so much there's so much air, there's so

929
00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:37,320
Speaker 1: much always a closet.

930
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:40,040
Speaker 2: Door, but there's just always there's always so much more. Yeah, man,

931
00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:43,239
Speaker 2: I mean it sounds like op was a little bit inconsiderate,

932
00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:46,640
Speaker 2: but it also sounds like the girlfriend was very sensitive

933
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:50,200
Speaker 2: to this small thing rightfully so though, Like I mean,

934
00:41:50,239 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 2: imagine when she was a kid. So it's like trauma unresolved. Yeah,

935
00:41:54,760 --> 00:41:59,400
Speaker 2: it's just yeah, that is so crazy. My BFF told

936
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:02,040
Speaker 2: me that being too tired to go to our birthday

937
00:42:02,520 --> 00:42:06,400
Speaker 2: wasn't an excuse, so I clapped back. But now I

938
00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:07,319
Speaker 2: think I took it too far.

939
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:09,920
Speaker 1: Depends on what kind of clap are we talking about.

940
00:42:09,960 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 1: Are we clapping them in the face with your hands,

941
00:42:12,560 --> 00:42:16,719
Speaker 1: you know? Are you clapping with the best friend's significant other?

942
00:42:17,160 --> 00:42:19,319
Speaker 2: Yes? And I think give them all clap four them

943
00:42:19,360 --> 00:42:22,200
Speaker 2: and give them the clap and clap back. So I

944
00:42:22,440 --> 00:42:26,759
Speaker 2: thirty five female, have two children, five male and three female,

945
00:42:26,760 --> 00:42:29,319
Speaker 2: and a baby who was only sixteen weeks old. My

946
00:42:29,400 --> 00:42:32,760
Speaker 2: first two pregnancies gone quite smoothly, a few bumps along

947
00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:35,840
Speaker 2: the way, but not many problems. My third pregnancy was

948
00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:39,920
Speaker 2: really tough. I got diagnosed with pre clampsia, put to

949
00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:42,480
Speaker 2: bed rest for six weeks, and had an emergency C

950
00:42:42,680 --> 00:42:45,560
Speaker 2: section during with both me and the baby almost died.

951
00:42:45,680 --> 00:42:49,919
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, that's an awful intense period of time.

952
00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:52,200
Speaker 2: I stayed in the hospital for longer than two weeks,

953
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:54,759
Speaker 2: but I was deemed healthy enough to be released. My

954
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:57,120
Speaker 2: husband has been beside me in the delivery room all

955
00:42:57,160 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 2: three times and does most of the chores and takes

956
00:42:59,560 --> 00:43:01,440
Speaker 2: care of the cause kids while I recover and make

957
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:03,759
Speaker 2: sure I have everything I need. We have saved more

958
00:43:03,800 --> 00:43:05,640
Speaker 2: than enough money from both of our jobs to have

959
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:08,040
Speaker 2: the ability to afford to stay at home for as

960
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 2: long as needed, which is nice. My best friend will

961
00:43:10,200 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 2: call her Ashley, has been my BFF since elementary school.

962
00:43:13,680 --> 00:43:16,560
Speaker 2: We've never missed each other's birthdays, no matter what was

963
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:19,239
Speaker 2: going on in our lives or how far apart we are.

964
00:43:19,280 --> 00:43:21,080
Speaker 2: I guess that's why their BFFs. Yeah, there you go.

965
00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:24,040
Speaker 2: She also was aware of my troubles, as a BFF

966
00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:26,440
Speaker 2: would be. Yesterday was her birthday, so in the morning

967
00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:28,839
Speaker 2: I was feeling below par and I was too tired

968
00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:30,640
Speaker 2: to get out of bed. So my husband took care

969
00:43:30,680 --> 00:43:32,640
Speaker 2: of all the kids and helped me shower, like he

970
00:43:32,680 --> 00:43:35,480
Speaker 2: did one hundred times before my pregnancies and postpartum. How

971
00:43:35,520 --> 00:43:38,040
Speaker 2: do you help someone shower pick them up? You say, hey, baby,

972
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:40,080
Speaker 2: let me lasa you down, let me tell you head

973
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:42,520
Speaker 2: in the shower. That's how you help someone shower. That

974
00:43:42,719 --> 00:43:43,200
Speaker 2: is true.

975
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:45,000
Speaker 1: You got a lot of milk that needs to be

976
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:46,440
Speaker 1: got to let it out, you know what I mean,

977
00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:47,359
Speaker 1: a lot of things to help.

978
00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:48,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe Ashley should help.

979
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:52,480
Speaker 1: Okay, you keep going, You keep going when it was

980
00:43:52,520 --> 00:43:53,400
Speaker 1: around two pm.

981
00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:55,120
Speaker 2: I was feeling a little better, but I was still

982
00:43:55,160 --> 00:43:57,840
Speaker 2: worn out, so I called Ashley. Our birthday party was

983
00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:00,160
Speaker 2: scheduled at three pm, and I was supposed to I

984
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:02,880
Speaker 2: have a two thirty PM. I waited until two pm

985
00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:05,680
Speaker 2: because I knew how important her birthday is and I

986
00:44:05,719 --> 00:44:07,600
Speaker 2: was hoping that I would feel good enough to come over.

987
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:10,040
Speaker 2: But then I told her that, hey, I'm sorry, but

988
00:44:10,120 --> 00:44:11,880
Speaker 2: I'm afraid I won't be able to come to your

989
00:44:11,880 --> 00:44:13,960
Speaker 2: birthday party because I'm not feeling well. She asked what

990
00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:16,920
Speaker 2: was wrong, and I told her I was extremely exhausted

991
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:18,760
Speaker 2: and there was no way I could be at her party.

992
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:22,400
Speaker 2: I literally heard her sigh and angrily, she said, but

993
00:44:22,440 --> 00:44:25,239
Speaker 2: what about our promise, our best friend promise. I broke

994
00:44:25,320 --> 00:44:28,000
Speaker 2: my arm while racing, and I still traveled one thousand

995
00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:31,719
Speaker 2: miles for your birthday. But you can't drive twenty miles

996
00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 2: to see me. If you're a fat ass and reach

997
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:36,840
Speaker 2: a grocery store, then you would come here if you

998
00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:40,800
Speaker 2: actually cared. She said that. She said that no. That's

999
00:44:40,880 --> 00:44:43,120
Speaker 2: when I became mad and told her, well, if you

1000
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:45,880
Speaker 2: had kids, you would understand, and that's when she said

1001
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:48,440
Speaker 2: fuck you and hung out that was the entire conversation.

1002
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 2: You might think, what's so bad about saying if you

1003
00:44:50,640 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 2: had kids, actually can't get pregnant due to an incident

1004
00:44:54,000 --> 00:44:57,160
Speaker 2: that happened during our younger college days and the topic

1005
00:44:57,360 --> 00:44:59,960
Speaker 2: is extremely sensitive to her, so me saying that was

1006
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:02,680
Speaker 2: extremely vile. This morning, I woke up feeling much better,

1007
00:45:02,719 --> 00:45:05,480
Speaker 2: and I attempted to contact Ashley so I could apologize,

1008
00:45:05,520 --> 00:45:07,800
Speaker 2: but she wouldn't pick up and ignored my text messages.

1009
00:45:07,920 --> 00:45:10,560
Speaker 2: My husband said that I shouldn't apologize because if she

1010
00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:12,920
Speaker 2: was a real friend, she would have shown concern and

1011
00:45:13,080 --> 00:45:16,360
Speaker 2: worry instead of anger and attitude of a brat. So

1012
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:19,080
Speaker 2: she deserved my comeback. But I feel so guilty for

1013
00:45:19,120 --> 00:45:21,480
Speaker 2: bringing up her inability to have kids, and I feel

1014
00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:23,880
Speaker 2: like such an asshole for doing so. So am I

1015
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:24,439
Speaker 2: the a whole?

1016
00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:26,800
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm very curious to know what you guys

1017
00:45:26,840 --> 00:45:29,080
Speaker 1: think of a whole or not. But so basically the

1018
00:45:29,160 --> 00:45:31,840
Speaker 1: rundown of events was like she was feeling really exhausted

1019
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:34,200
Speaker 1: after all of this, like literally almost died.

1020
00:45:34,360 --> 00:45:37,440
Speaker 2: I mean, breaking an arm is not death. Come on. Yeah,

1021
00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:40,560
Speaker 2: and not only her but also her child an emotional

1022
00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:43,160
Speaker 2: roller coaster, and you know, like the clap back of

1023
00:45:43,200 --> 00:45:46,240
Speaker 2: like if you had kids, you would understand. Rough but true,

1024
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:48,200
Speaker 2: like your priorities changed when you have kids.

1025
00:45:48,400 --> 00:45:51,440
Speaker 1: If she had said that and her friend didn't have

1026
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:54,200
Speaker 1: her situation, I would have been like, yeah, like literally

1027
00:45:54,239 --> 00:45:55,759
Speaker 1: nowhere near being the a hole, right.

1028
00:45:55,840 --> 00:45:58,360
Speaker 2: And it's not like saying you'll never understand because you

1029
00:45:58,400 --> 00:46:00,960
Speaker 2: can't have kids. That's different saying if you had kids

1030
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 2: you would understand. It's still a little bit of a

1031
00:46:02,680 --> 00:46:03,040
Speaker 2: dick move.

1032
00:46:03,200 --> 00:46:07,640
Speaker 1: The best friend is being so massively unempathetic to Ope's

1033
00:46:07,719 --> 00:46:11,400
Speaker 1: current situation. She's gone through this like massively awfully horrific

1034
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:13,879
Speaker 1: event and she wants to rest please. I would tell

1035
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:17,080
Speaker 1: her preemptively, like stay home. They can celebrate together at

1036
00:46:17,120 --> 00:46:19,319
Speaker 1: a different time too. But maybe that's what Ope could

1037
00:46:19,320 --> 00:46:21,040
Speaker 1: have said to make it a little bit better. It's like, hey,

1038
00:46:21,040 --> 00:46:23,279
Speaker 1: I would love to celebrate you know another time. Just

1039
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:25,480
Speaker 1: today it's like been really rough for me. Ope totally

1040
00:46:25,480 --> 00:46:28,359
Speaker 1: could have worded it differently, But I understand that kind

1041
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:31,160
Speaker 1: of like guttural knee jerk reaction after being like so

1042
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:33,560
Speaker 1: viciously attacked for like something that you don't deserve to

1043
00:46:33,560 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 1: be attacked for at all. So I'm personally going not

1044
00:46:35,560 --> 00:46:37,239
Speaker 1: the A whole, but I want to know what you

1045
00:46:37,280 --> 00:46:38,360
Speaker 1: all think in the comments.

1046
00:46:38,440 --> 00:46:40,320
Speaker 2: I would love to know what everyone else think. And also,

1047
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 2: what would you do for your best friend?

1048
00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:44,760
Speaker 1: Cute best friends stories? Cute best friend stories?

1049
00:46:44,800 --> 00:46:47,839
Speaker 2: What is the most amount of adversity you've faced but

1050
00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:50,080
Speaker 2: still gone to hang out with your best friend? Should

1051
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:52,200
Speaker 2: we get into this next story? Let's do it.

1052
00:46:52,280 --> 00:46:54,360
Speaker 1: My sister wants me to move my wedding because she

1053
00:46:54,480 --> 00:46:55,680
Speaker 1: can't find a babysitter.

1054
00:46:55,760 --> 00:46:57,799
Speaker 2: I don't want to, am I the A whole? Move

1055
00:46:57,800 --> 00:47:00,920
Speaker 2: your wedding. Yeah, consult everyone who's at give them a

1056
00:47:00,960 --> 00:47:03,360
Speaker 2: when to meet, and then make sure that you schedule

1057
00:47:03,400 --> 00:47:04,960
Speaker 2: it according to their free time.

1058
00:47:05,000 --> 00:47:07,160
Speaker 1: We just need a fifteen minute window that works for

1059
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:09,560
Speaker 1: all three hundred people. We got to be accommodating, right,

1060
00:47:09,600 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 1: easy enough, exactly. I female twenty four, am getting married

1061
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:16,239
Speaker 1: to my fiance, male twenty six in October this year. Congrats.

1062
00:47:16,239 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 1: We got engaged in January and couldn't be more excited.

1063
00:47:18,640 --> 00:47:21,280
Speaker 1: It's a very small wedding and we're inviting only close

1064
00:47:21,320 --> 00:47:25,680
Speaker 1: family and friends. The problem is my sister, Lisa, female thirty.

1065
00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:28,680
Speaker 1: Fuck you Lisa, Yeah, fuck you Lisa, saying a single

1066
00:47:28,760 --> 00:47:31,000
Speaker 1: Lisa has a two year old son with her husband.

1067
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:34,200
Speaker 1: I don't have a super affectionate relationship with Lisa for

1068
00:47:34,320 --> 00:47:37,440
Speaker 1: multiple reasons that I can't fit into this post. We

1069
00:47:37,480 --> 00:47:40,560
Speaker 1: send out the wedding invites last month. Our wedding ceremonies

1070
00:47:40,600 --> 00:47:43,000
Speaker 1: starts at one thirty PM, and we asked our guests

1071
00:47:43,000 --> 00:47:45,440
Speaker 1: to please arrive at the venue by one o'clock sharp.

1072
00:47:45,560 --> 00:47:48,040
Speaker 1: The venue is in our hometown, so it's close by

1073
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:51,640
Speaker 1: the majority of people on our guest list, including Lisa.

1074
00:47:51,920 --> 00:47:55,400
Speaker 1: Lisa told me that that time wouldn't work because of

1075
00:47:55,400 --> 00:47:57,200
Speaker 1: her two year olds nap schedule.

1076
00:47:57,360 --> 00:48:00,000
Speaker 2: You should not schedule anything according to your two years

1077
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:02,320
Speaker 2: That's called good parenting. Yeah, exactly.

1078
00:48:02,400 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 1: Hey, buddy, I know you really need food right now,

1079
00:48:04,480 --> 00:48:05,680
Speaker 1: but daddy's got a zoom meeting.

1080
00:48:05,719 --> 00:48:08,680
Speaker 2: Daddy's got a cheat on your mom. Daddy has need.

1081
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:11,520
Speaker 2: It's Samuel Donner with his eleven children. Your mother and

1082
00:48:11,560 --> 00:48:14,560
Speaker 2: I are going our separate ways. But she doesn't know. God,

1083
00:48:14,600 --> 00:48:16,000
Speaker 2: I don't know if I want to be known for.

1084
00:48:15,960 --> 00:48:18,319
Speaker 1: That, that's your new calling card. She said that he

1085
00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 1: takes a nap at twelve and that she is not

1086
00:48:20,800 --> 00:48:22,960
Speaker 1: forcing him to be awake so she can get him

1087
00:48:23,000 --> 00:48:25,360
Speaker 1: ready for an event, or he will be a terror.

1088
00:48:25,520 --> 00:48:27,440
Speaker 1: I don't have kids, but I thought this was a

1089
00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 1: silly reason. I asked Lisa if she could find a babysitter,

1090
00:48:30,760 --> 00:48:33,399
Speaker 1: and she said that she can't because everyone that she.

1091
00:48:33,480 --> 00:48:34,880
Speaker 2: Trusts will be at the wedding.

1092
00:48:35,000 --> 00:48:38,279
Speaker 1: I suggested that they at least attend the reception, but

1093
00:48:38,400 --> 00:48:41,160
Speaker 1: she said that she won't if she can't.

1094
00:48:40,920 --> 00:48:43,080
Speaker 2: Be at the wedding. Your two year old to not

1095
00:48:43,120 --> 00:48:45,880
Speaker 2: dictate your life. Literally, just like put that thing in

1096
00:48:45,920 --> 00:48:47,040
Speaker 2: her room and go to the wedding.

1097
00:48:47,080 --> 00:48:49,840
Speaker 1: Once again, excellent parenting advice from Sam. It's what the

1098
00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:54,600
Speaker 1: people need. The Nobel Piece Prize for Parenting goes to

1099
00:48:54,840 --> 00:48:57,520
Speaker 1: She told me that she won't attend a wedding unless

1100
00:48:57,560 --> 00:49:00,640
Speaker 1: we change a time, so I told her that can't

1101
00:49:00,719 --> 00:49:02,759
Speaker 1: do that. I was quite hurt by this. I wasn't

1102
00:49:02,800 --> 00:49:04,680
Speaker 1: sure how to react in the moment, so I just

1103
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:08,080
Speaker 1: abruptly ended the conversation with an excuse. A few days later,

1104
00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:10,600
Speaker 1: Lisa asked me if I thought about her suggestion.

1105
00:49:11,000 --> 00:49:14,760
Speaker 2: God, girl, what are you doing moving your entire wedding.

1106
00:49:14,960 --> 00:49:18,920
Speaker 2: That's not a suggestion, that's fucking crazy maniac. I reminded

1107
00:49:18,960 --> 00:49:21,840
Speaker 2: her that there's no way we can change the time.

1108
00:49:21,960 --> 00:49:24,319
Speaker 2: She told me that she hopes I'm happy that they

1109
00:49:24,360 --> 00:49:27,279
Speaker 2: aren't attending, and said that everyone is going to ask

1110
00:49:27,360 --> 00:49:30,120
Speaker 2: why she's not there, and it's all because I can't

1111
00:49:30,120 --> 00:49:33,920
Speaker 2: accommodate my nephew. You think that more people will ask

1112
00:49:34,160 --> 00:49:37,640
Speaker 2: why she's not there? Then why you moved an entire wedding.

1113
00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:40,160
Speaker 1: Oh hey, like we're moving the time. Oh hey, no worries.

1114
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:41,840
Speaker 1: I hope everything's okay. It's like, oh yeah, it's my

1115
00:49:41,840 --> 00:49:45,439
Speaker 1: nephew's naf time. It'll be like, what excuse me? That's

1116
00:49:45,520 --> 00:49:48,560
Speaker 1: a crazy ask, asshole, ask for sure.

1117
00:49:48,320 --> 00:49:49,240
Speaker 2: And your own sister.

1118
00:49:49,480 --> 00:49:51,680
Speaker 1: I could see some Karen who's like, you know, five

1119
00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:53,319
Speaker 1: cousins down the line, like.

1120
00:49:53,760 --> 00:49:57,279
Speaker 2: Move your wedding for my nephew, But this is your sister. Ridiculous.

1121
00:49:57,400 --> 00:50:01,520
Speaker 1: God, she called me bridezilla and has walcked me. Oh

1122
00:50:01,560 --> 00:50:05,560
Speaker 1: my god, my mom is pestering me to make amends

1123
00:50:05,760 --> 00:50:08,719
Speaker 1: with Lisa. But I just don't think I am in

1124
00:50:09,040 --> 00:50:12,000
Speaker 1: the wrong. This beel is pretty clear cut. Op is

1125
00:50:12,000 --> 00:50:14,320
Speaker 1: the biggest a hole I've ever No, I'm just kidding.

1126
00:50:14,400 --> 00:50:17,439
Speaker 2: Nah, dude, OPI you are not the ahole at all,

1127
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:21,080
Speaker 2: crazy out of your mind ask, yeah, I would just

1128
00:50:21,120 --> 00:50:22,600
Speaker 2: like not care if sheep, you know, it didn't come.

1129
00:50:22,600 --> 00:50:24,360
Speaker 1: I feel like we've seen a lot of stories lately

1130
00:50:24,400 --> 00:50:27,160
Speaker 1: where it's like, this is someone's wedding something that they're like,

1131
00:50:27,239 --> 00:50:29,560
Speaker 1: not only is it something that they've been looking forward

1132
00:50:29,600 --> 00:50:32,040
Speaker 1: to their entire life. They've put so much effort, bloodsweed

1133
00:50:32,080 --> 00:50:34,000
Speaker 1: and tears into planning, and then you come along with

1134
00:50:34,040 --> 00:50:34,640
Speaker 1: this bullshit.

1135
00:50:34,760 --> 00:50:37,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, like, let me enjoy my wedding, please. Your only

1136
00:50:38,080 --> 00:50:40,560
Speaker 2: job is to help me enjoy my wedding more, not

1137
00:50:40,800 --> 00:50:42,880
Speaker 2: try to make it more miserable. Worst kind of people.

1138
00:50:42,920 --> 00:50:44,279
Speaker 2: But I don't know, what do you think? How do

1139
00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:47,320
Speaker 2: you even solve this problem? I have no idea.

1140
00:50:47,360 --> 00:50:51,000
Speaker 1: Also, what is the most insane requests that people have

1141
00:50:51,160 --> 00:50:51,600
Speaker 1: made for.

1142
00:50:51,640 --> 00:50:52,800
Speaker 2: You at your wedding?

1143
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:55,839
Speaker 1: I am actively sabotaging my company because my.

1144
00:50:55,840 --> 00:50:59,359
Speaker 2: Boss is a freaking moron. I hope they fire me. Well,

1145
00:50:59,680 --> 00:51:02,200
Speaker 2: this is petty, and I don't care. I've worked at

1146
00:51:02,200 --> 00:51:04,560
Speaker 2: a company for two years. In that time, I've gone

1147
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:09,319
Speaker 2: from an incredible asset to the company to babysitter out.

1148
00:51:09,400 --> 00:51:12,000
Speaker 2: I wish I was joking. This company is owned by

1149
00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:15,720
Speaker 2: several people, but managed by a relative to the higher ups.

1150
00:51:15,760 --> 00:51:19,800
Speaker 2: A guy who has never worked for anyone excecuse, mommy,

1151
00:51:20,440 --> 00:51:23,560
Speaker 2: owes the company? Pay me, mommy? I want to wait.

1152
00:51:23,719 --> 00:51:27,799
Speaker 2: He's the guy who was incapable of doing anything himself,

1153
00:51:28,040 --> 00:51:31,319
Speaker 2: someone who will one day take over the company, who

1154
00:51:31,320 --> 00:51:35,279
Speaker 2: currently can't even figure out Bluetooth. That's pretty sad. That's sad.

1155
00:51:35,520 --> 00:51:38,360
Speaker 2: Moron would be a compliment. You think I'm being harsh

1156
00:51:38,480 --> 00:51:42,920
Speaker 2: on my boss or exaggerating. I wish, I wish I

1157
00:51:43,040 --> 00:51:45,960
Speaker 2: was being dramatic. But this is Reddit, where there is

1158
00:51:46,120 --> 00:51:49,319
Speaker 2: never drama. That's right. Last phone call I had from

1159
00:51:49,400 --> 00:51:53,200
Speaker 2: him was him asking where he was. No, I'm serious.

1160
00:51:53,880 --> 00:51:57,640
Speaker 2: Here's a quote. Ope, I'm driving, Where am I? He

1161
00:51:57,719 --> 00:52:00,840
Speaker 2: asked me to track his phone, find his location, and

1162
00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:03,200
Speaker 2: see if I can find a store near him that

1163
00:52:03,440 --> 00:52:06,880
Speaker 2: sells a certain item. He can't. Oh, you can't remember

1164
00:52:06,880 --> 00:52:09,360
Speaker 2: the name of the store either or where it is exactly.

1165
00:52:09,680 --> 00:52:13,480
Speaker 2: And then I am the GPS voice navigating him, using

1166
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:15,960
Speaker 2: the phone tracker to tell him where to turn. This

1167
00:52:16,360 --> 00:52:19,960
Speaker 2: is my life. Fifty plus phone calls a day from

1168
00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:22,879
Speaker 2: that man. Sheeese, Ope, did you get my email? Yes?

1169
00:52:22,920 --> 00:52:25,760
Speaker 2: I responded to it and answered your questions. Oh good,

1170
00:52:25,960 --> 00:52:28,640
Speaker 2: read it out for me. I proceed to read the email,

1171
00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:31,359
Speaker 2: he is happy. Fast forward two hours and I get a.

1172
00:52:31,480 --> 00:52:34,480
Speaker 1: Scathing email from him responding to my reply, Oh Pee,

1173
00:52:34,640 --> 00:52:36,799
Speaker 1: why did you email me again when we just talked

1174
00:52:36,840 --> 00:52:37,880
Speaker 1: about this on the phone.

1175
00:52:37,920 --> 00:52:39,080
Speaker 2: This waste my time.

1176
00:52:39,960 --> 00:52:43,320
Speaker 1: I no longer do my regular job. I've been transitioned

1177
00:52:43,440 --> 00:52:45,800
Speaker 1: into his personal assistant role, even though I did not

1178
00:52:45,880 --> 00:52:48,400
Speaker 1: want it at all, to the point where I'm currently

1179
00:52:48,440 --> 00:52:51,480
Speaker 1: searching for a new job. The company is bleeding money.

1180
00:52:51,560 --> 00:52:54,000
Speaker 2: Boss is supposed to be figuring out why, but this

1181
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:56,920
Speaker 2: guy can't even pour himself a cup of coffee from

1182
00:52:56,880 --> 00:52:59,480
Speaker 2: a machine we've had for six years. In my day

1183
00:52:59,520 --> 00:53:02,160
Speaker 2: to day, I also assist other departments. I have access

1184
00:53:02,160 --> 00:53:05,480
Speaker 2: to various software. I work alongside multiple managers and assist

1185
00:53:05,520 --> 00:53:07,439
Speaker 2: with their projects as well. When I'm not being asked

1186
00:53:07,440 --> 00:53:10,759
Speaker 2: to identify the brand of sock the boss's wearing so

1187
00:53:10,800 --> 00:53:13,520
Speaker 2: he can figure out where to buy more and have

1188
00:53:13,719 --> 00:53:17,200
Speaker 2: be called to have them set aside a package for

1189
00:53:17,320 --> 00:53:19,280
Speaker 2: me so I don't have to walk through the store

1190
00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:23,560
Speaker 2: looking for theselike an idiot. Based on my observations, I

1191
00:53:23,680 --> 00:53:27,439
Speaker 2: found several problems that are costing us money, either by

1192
00:53:27,440 --> 00:53:31,480
Speaker 2: purchasing distribution or just a general lack of adequate price adjustments.

1193
00:53:31,640 --> 00:53:33,560
Speaker 2: Some were serious enough that I even spoke to a

1194
00:53:33,560 --> 00:53:36,480
Speaker 2: different department manager who was impressed and took me to

1195
00:53:36,520 --> 00:53:38,440
Speaker 2: the CEO to ask if I can be moved to

1196
00:53:38,480 --> 00:53:41,279
Speaker 2: their department to help fix some of the identify problems.

1197
00:53:41,440 --> 00:53:45,040
Speaker 2: The CEO is the boss's mother, Sweet old nepotism baby.

1198
00:53:45,560 --> 00:53:47,840
Speaker 2: I get told that I am not allowed to transfer,

1199
00:53:48,040 --> 00:53:50,920
Speaker 2: that I am far too valuable a personal assistant to

1200
00:53:50,960 --> 00:53:53,960
Speaker 2: be shared with other departments that boss will handle and

1201
00:53:54,000 --> 00:53:56,640
Speaker 2: oversee the changes that need to be made. Manager and

1202
00:53:56,719 --> 00:53:59,879
Speaker 2: I were stunned. Turns out mother wants to step away

1203
00:53:59,880 --> 00:54:02,719
Speaker 2: from the company and wants this boss to run it.

1204
00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:06,680
Speaker 2: Igno competent guy that can't even use Google Maps. Oh

1205
00:54:06,719 --> 00:54:08,720
Speaker 2: my god, that boss.

1206
00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:10,600
Speaker 1: Just needs more projects to work on to get a

1207
00:54:10,600 --> 00:54:13,080
Speaker 1: better understanding of how to run the company. Yeah, let's

1208
00:54:13,080 --> 00:54:16,239
Speaker 1: give him more things that he'll never understand. We just

1209
00:54:16,239 --> 00:54:19,440
Speaker 1: need to train him on how to find socks.

1210
00:54:19,560 --> 00:54:21,920
Speaker 2: So the boss gets called in and told that I

1211
00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:25,600
Speaker 2: identified several issues. Then the boss needs to get resolved.

1212
00:54:25,760 --> 00:54:29,000
Speaker 2: Boss then gets mad at mother, telling her she doesn't

1213
00:54:29,040 --> 00:54:31,799
Speaker 2: have time to do that. Mother says she understands, and

1214
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:37,760
Speaker 2: he is a that we busy. Boh my god, again,

1215
00:54:37,800 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 2: I'm not joking. Sitcoms can't even write this kind of

1216
00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:43,000
Speaker 2: Boss later calls me into his office and tells me

1217
00:54:43,080 --> 00:54:45,800
Speaker 2: that I'm going to work on fixing all of these issues,

1218
00:54:45,960 --> 00:54:48,719
Speaker 2: but that I'm going to give all my notes, tell

1219
00:54:48,760 --> 00:54:50,680
Speaker 2: him how I fixed it, and he will present it

1220
00:54:50,680 --> 00:54:52,759
Speaker 2: to the board. So it just sounds like, oh, he

1221
00:54:53,000 --> 00:54:55,640
Speaker 2: is now running the company, but not being paid to

1222
00:54:55,640 --> 00:54:57,760
Speaker 2: do it and not giving being given the title.

1223
00:54:57,880 --> 00:55:01,200
Speaker 1: But now that you have co roll of the beer

1224
00:55:01,200 --> 00:55:03,680
Speaker 1: wheel of the ship, could you just shoot a hole

1225
00:55:03,719 --> 00:55:04,200
Speaker 1: on the floor.

1226
00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:06,680
Speaker 2: What you have is with the boys in the biz

1227
00:55:06,760 --> 00:55:10,920
Speaker 2: called leverage. Oh god, leve my rich and you can't hear.

1228
00:55:12,040 --> 00:55:14,400
Speaker 2: Boss then proceeds to leave for the day, calling me

1229
00:55:14,520 --> 00:55:16,960
Speaker 2: later to ask what kind of mustard was the mustard

1230
00:55:16,960 --> 00:55:19,600
Speaker 2: he liked most on his Deli sandwiches. Stop it, get

1231
00:55:19,680 --> 00:55:20,080
Speaker 2: some help.

1232
00:55:20,280 --> 00:55:23,040
Speaker 1: He then proceeded to lecture me on mustard because the

1233
00:55:23,120 --> 00:55:25,799
Speaker 1: answer I gave him was obviously not the right kind

1234
00:55:25,800 --> 00:55:26,320
Speaker 1: of mustard.

1235
00:55:26,400 --> 00:55:28,359
Speaker 2: And then I need to pay more attention to things

1236
00:55:28,400 --> 00:55:28,880
Speaker 2: like that.

1237
00:55:28,880 --> 00:55:31,399
Speaker 1: That's the kind of attitude we needed this company. That's

1238
00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:33,120
Speaker 1: the right kind of mustard.

1239
00:55:33,760 --> 00:55:36,799
Speaker 2: You go joking? I hung up the phone. It picked

1240
00:55:36,880 --> 00:55:39,920
Speaker 2: up all my notes on this bleeding money situation slash

1241
00:55:39,960 --> 00:55:43,359
Speaker 2: project and proceeded to shred them. I hope I get

1242
00:55:43,400 --> 00:55:45,560
Speaker 2: fired and John, there is an update. I want to

1243
00:55:45,600 --> 00:55:46,640
Speaker 2: know what you think. I want to know what the

1244
00:55:46,640 --> 00:55:49,600
Speaker 2: audience thinks. But personally, I would steer the ship.

1245
00:55:49,320 --> 00:55:52,480
Speaker 1: A little bit longer to have the ability to sabotage

1246
00:55:52,520 --> 00:55:55,320
Speaker 1: and to not do it, you know, for some financial incentive.

1247
00:55:55,400 --> 00:55:58,120
Speaker 1: Here's what I'm thinking, though, continuing to deal with this

1248
00:55:58,239 --> 00:56:00,879
Speaker 1: for any more amount of time. What OP is doing

1249
00:56:00,960 --> 00:56:05,800
Speaker 1: right now is if OP gets themselves fired, almost certainly,

1250
00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:08,000
Speaker 1: especially at this level of the company, they're getting a

1251
00:56:08,080 --> 00:56:11,319
Speaker 1: severance package. So A, you get to stop dealing with

1252
00:56:11,360 --> 00:56:14,359
Speaker 1: this BS, and B you get immediately paid for it.

1253
00:56:14,440 --> 00:56:17,320
Speaker 2: Definitely a lesser bag. Well, but if you get fired,

1254
00:56:17,400 --> 00:56:19,600
Speaker 2: you sometimes don't get severance if it's with cause.

1255
00:56:19,840 --> 00:56:23,240
Speaker 1: That Oh that's a good point.

1256
00:56:23,320 --> 00:56:25,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, So let's get into this up. Let's get

1257
00:56:25,520 --> 00:56:28,480
Speaker 2: these bags. Despite a few interviews, I am still in

1258
00:56:28,560 --> 00:56:30,439
Speaker 2: this god forsaken shit.

1259
00:56:30,520 --> 00:56:31,280
Speaker 1: Old God.

1260
00:56:31,480 --> 00:56:34,000
Speaker 2: You may be wondering, so OP, did you get fired

1261
00:56:34,040 --> 00:56:38,439
Speaker 2: for shredding the project notes? Nope, lectured, Yes, got told

1262
00:56:38,480 --> 00:56:42,120
Speaker 2: I was in disappointments. Also, yes, things that have happened

1263
00:56:42,200 --> 00:56:45,440
Speaker 2: since then. Boss has determined that fixing these issues isn't

1264
00:56:45,520 --> 00:56:48,319
Speaker 2: actually that important after all, and that me shredding the

1265
00:56:48,360 --> 00:56:51,360
Speaker 2: documents was it a huge loss. Ross proceeded to inform

1266
00:56:51,360 --> 00:56:53,400
Speaker 2: me that I was looking for problems and that I

1267
00:56:53,440 --> 00:56:57,240
Speaker 2: should keep my nose clean regarding company matters aka stop

1268
00:56:57,280 --> 00:56:59,120
Speaker 2: trying to find things that are wrong that he would

1269
00:56:59,160 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 2: have to fix its Like, don't me, don't worry about it.

1270
00:57:01,600 --> 00:57:05,239
Speaker 2: We like, like, chill your harsh about Nollo, bro. Could

1271
00:57:05,280 --> 00:57:08,240
Speaker 2: we like like maybe a house with like a pool

1272
00:57:08,239 --> 00:57:10,960
Speaker 2: in it and.

1273
00:57:09,880 --> 00:57:13,640
Speaker 1: And like record outside. Yeah, yeah, let's just lighter cash

1274
00:57:13,680 --> 00:57:16,080
Speaker 1: on fire. On a good note, I have actually stopped

1275
00:57:16,120 --> 00:57:19,000
Speaker 1: doing my job. I don't get paid enough for this shit.

1276
00:57:19,240 --> 00:57:21,320
Speaker 2: That's it gets a smart move. I've realized I can't

1277
00:57:21,320 --> 00:57:24,280
Speaker 2: get fired at this point, not because it's impossible because

1278
00:57:24,320 --> 00:57:27,400
Speaker 2: the funds aren't there to do severance. I'd even be

1279
00:57:27,520 --> 00:57:30,200
Speaker 2: warned that our paychecks might bounce next week and that

1280
00:57:30,200 --> 00:57:32,280
Speaker 2: they will be writing a manual checks that we can

1281
00:57:32,320 --> 00:57:34,880
Speaker 2: take to the bank teller and have them check if

1282
00:57:34,920 --> 00:57:37,400
Speaker 2: there is enough money before we have them. God, the

1283
00:57:37,520 --> 00:57:40,560
Speaker 2: ship is going down. On that note, here are additional

1284
00:57:40,600 --> 00:57:43,600
Speaker 2: things I have done this past month. Replace my boss's

1285
00:57:43,640 --> 00:57:47,120
Speaker 2: pens in his office entirely with crayons. Her just the

1286
00:57:47,160 --> 00:57:50,440
Speaker 2: bathroom set spray fragrance. The boss says he hates with

1287
00:57:50,720 --> 00:57:53,560
Speaker 2: enough supply for the next year, so they can't justify

1288
00:57:53,640 --> 00:57:57,400
Speaker 2: buying more. Wait, what had the boys from the shop

1289
00:57:57,560 --> 00:58:00,880
Speaker 2: string up his office chair from the over head crane?

1290
00:58:01,040 --> 00:58:04,200
Speaker 2: Like put his office chair on a crane? Call All

1291
00:58:04,240 --> 00:58:06,720
Speaker 2: my vendors that I have working relationships with and had

1292
00:58:06,800 --> 00:58:10,800
Speaker 2: bosses authorization removed from all my accounts, citing a need

1293
00:58:10,840 --> 00:58:13,920
Speaker 2: for three signature approvals to override Ope. He's making a

1294
00:58:13,960 --> 00:58:17,400
Speaker 2: hell Yeah. Destroyed my notes for fixing the inventory system,

1295
00:58:17,440 --> 00:58:20,520
Speaker 2: which has been neglected for fifteen years, and I reorganized

1296
00:58:20,560 --> 00:58:23,360
Speaker 2: it to a functional point. This was deemed not necessary,

1297
00:58:23,480 --> 00:58:26,880
Speaker 2: so I removed all my work and shreded those documents too. Wow.

1298
00:58:27,000 --> 00:58:29,760
Speaker 2: I listened to music all day or podcast despite the

1299
00:58:29,760 --> 00:58:32,680
Speaker 2: policy against it. I take extra long breaks up to

1300
00:58:32,760 --> 00:58:35,479
Speaker 2: an hour where I disappear. I took a week off

1301
00:58:35,600 --> 00:58:38,560
Speaker 2: with only five hours notice and came back to being

1302
00:58:38,640 --> 00:58:42,200
Speaker 2: not fired. Seriously, I didn't get paid enough for this,

1303
00:58:42,440 --> 00:58:45,200
Speaker 2: pits and that is the end. Wow? Okay, I think

1304
00:58:45,240 --> 00:58:48,840
Speaker 2: I think that is a smart move. I mean, Sunside.

1305
00:58:49,120 --> 00:58:51,600
Speaker 2: Better than being paid more for work that you are

1306
00:58:51,640 --> 00:58:55,880
Speaker 2: doing is being paid for no work you are doing

1307
00:58:56,000 --> 00:58:59,800
Speaker 2: for just absolutely sitting on your butt. Yes, straight, goofing straight.

1308
00:59:00,440 --> 00:59:02,760
Speaker 2: You know, Op made one of the right choices.

1309
00:59:02,880 --> 00:59:07,280
Speaker 1: Could you imagine making living off of making stupid jokes

1310
00:59:07,560 --> 00:59:13,320
Speaker 1: sitting around or listening to stupid jokes? Yeah, damn, you'd

1311
00:59:13,320 --> 00:59:17,360
Speaker 1: have to be a complete idiot to listen to this exactly.

1312
00:59:16,960 --> 00:59:19,560
Speaker 2: But we appreciate that you do. Honestly, we appreciate the

1313
00:59:19,600 --> 00:59:23,400
Speaker 2: OKOP fam so much. Thank you for listening. Also to

1314
00:59:23,480 --> 00:59:26,480
Speaker 2: this vacation episode of OKOP where it's all right now, you.

1315
00:59:26,400 --> 00:59:28,280
Speaker 1: Know, wow wow, right as the breeze picks up and

1316
00:59:28,280 --> 00:59:31,240
Speaker 1: gives us a little Beyonce hair tussle with that, Let's

1317
00:59:31,240 --> 00:59:33,439
Speaker 1: get into the next story. I ban my friend's wife

1318
00:59:33,480 --> 00:59:36,560
Speaker 1: from the wedding. I don't care she's huming garbage. Am

1319
00:59:36,560 --> 00:59:37,560
Speaker 1: I've ahole.

1320
00:59:37,280 --> 00:59:39,400
Speaker 2: Take that trash average and I don't like you, and

1321
00:59:39,440 --> 00:59:42,040
Speaker 2: I want you to be compacted and a trash compactor

1322
00:59:42,200 --> 00:59:43,800
Speaker 2: and not hear your screams.

1323
00:59:44,240 --> 00:59:48,240
Speaker 1: So I thirty three male, am getting married next summer. Congratulations.

1324
00:59:48,440 --> 00:59:50,920
Speaker 1: I invited a friend from university to my wedding, but

1325
00:59:51,120 --> 00:59:55,040
Speaker 1: intentionally did not give him a plus one for his wife.

1326
00:59:55,240 --> 00:59:58,120
Speaker 2: You hate his wife without telling me? Yeah, exactly, no,

1327
00:59:58,240 --> 01:00:00,080
Speaker 2: he thought me. He told me his wife and I

1328
01:00:00,080 --> 01:00:01,080
Speaker 2: I do not get on.

1329
01:00:01,240 --> 01:00:03,760
Speaker 1: She attended university with us, and we had our fair

1330
01:00:03,800 --> 01:00:07,320
Speaker 1: share of fights then and rather a large fuss some

1331
01:00:07,440 --> 01:00:08,360
Speaker 1: five odd years ago.

1332
01:00:08,640 --> 01:00:10,880
Speaker 2: We live on opposite sides of our country and.

1333
01:00:10,960 --> 01:00:13,200
Speaker 1: Only see each other a couple of times a year,

1334
01:00:13,320 --> 01:00:16,200
Speaker 1: if that for special occasions like other friend's weddings. His

1335
01:00:16,240 --> 01:00:19,720
Speaker 1: wife and I can be generally cordial now, but mostly.

1336
01:00:19,320 --> 01:00:21,880
Speaker 2: Avoid and ignore one another. What's so wrong with his

1337
01:00:21,960 --> 01:00:24,760
Speaker 2: other wife? I want to know. I'm not sure, but

1338
01:00:24,840 --> 01:00:26,920
Speaker 2: I have to imagine that the tea will be spilt.

1339
01:00:27,080 --> 01:00:29,439
Speaker 2: I want the tea to be tea is just like

1340
01:00:29,440 --> 01:00:33,040
Speaker 2: it was, like hot wax dripping down my ansle, glazing

1341
01:00:33,120 --> 01:00:33,880
Speaker 2: your assle.

1342
01:00:34,120 --> 01:00:36,320
Speaker 1: They got married around four years ago, and I was

1343
01:00:36,400 --> 01:00:37,880
Speaker 1: not invited to their wedding.

1344
01:00:38,240 --> 01:00:41,560
Speaker 2: Okay, So that's okay, So the beef is on both sides.

1345
01:00:41,840 --> 01:00:44,680
Speaker 1: My friend told me, in no uncertain terms that he

1346
01:00:44,960 --> 01:00:47,360
Speaker 1: wanted me there but his wife did not, and that

1347
01:00:47,440 --> 01:00:50,120
Speaker 1: he chose to respect her wishes on her big day.

1348
01:00:50,080 --> 01:00:53,360
Speaker 2: It's two people's big day. How close friend is ope

1349
01:00:53,600 --> 01:00:54,400
Speaker 2: with this friend?

1350
01:00:54,640 --> 01:00:58,120
Speaker 1: I don't know if they're absolute best friends, but like

1351
01:00:58,160 --> 01:01:01,320
Speaker 1: friends from university sounds a pretty Even if you weren't

1352
01:01:01,320 --> 01:01:03,680
Speaker 1: like absolute, like like number one friend, that's still a

1353
01:01:03,720 --> 01:01:04,360
Speaker 1: decent bond.

1354
01:01:04,520 --> 01:01:07,520
Speaker 2: I would say, yeah, but to not invite that person

1355
01:01:07,520 --> 01:01:09,720
Speaker 2: to your wedding, like how good of a friend could

1356
01:01:09,720 --> 01:01:11,960
Speaker 2: they be? Or how big of a cock are you?

1357
01:01:12,000 --> 01:01:15,640
Speaker 1: Exactly? That's true booty hole glazed with wax la. I mean,

1358
01:01:15,760 --> 01:01:19,760
Speaker 1: just like completely dominated. I was disappointed, but understanding, and

1359
01:01:19,840 --> 01:01:22,760
Speaker 1: I never let it affect our friendship. I was having

1360
01:01:22,760 --> 01:01:25,880
Speaker 1: a big wedding and all guests with spouses, fiances and

1361
01:01:25,960 --> 01:01:30,440
Speaker 1: serious girlfriends and boyfriends all getting plus ones except for

1362
01:01:30,640 --> 01:01:31,200
Speaker 1: said friend.

1363
01:01:31,400 --> 01:01:33,880
Speaker 2: So now we're going tit for tat. Well, no, tit

1364
01:01:33,920 --> 01:01:36,720
Speaker 2: for tat would be like not inviting him to your

1365
01:01:36,720 --> 01:01:39,800
Speaker 2: wedding at all. He didn't invite you to yours exactly.

1366
01:01:39,960 --> 01:01:41,560
Speaker 1: It wasn't like, oh you can't have a plus one.

1367
01:01:41,560 --> 01:01:43,160
Speaker 1: It's like you can't be here, period.

1368
01:01:43,480 --> 01:01:45,520
Speaker 2: He's already already doing to him a favor.

1369
01:01:45,640 --> 01:01:48,520
Speaker 1: Good point. It is not a numbers issue. I simply

1370
01:01:48,680 --> 01:01:51,800
Speaker 1: do not want his wife and attendance. I have considered

1371
01:01:51,800 --> 01:01:55,080
Speaker 1: the likelihood that my friend will RSVP not given the

1372
01:01:55,160 --> 01:01:56,320
Speaker 1: lack of a plus one, But.

1373
01:01:56,360 --> 01:01:59,240
Speaker 2: I am okay with this outcome. I have no intention

1374
01:01:59,360 --> 01:01:59,960
Speaker 2: of telling.

1375
01:01:59,800 --> 01:02:01,760
Speaker 1: Him ahead of time that most others are getting a

1376
01:02:01,760 --> 01:02:04,240
Speaker 1: plus one, but I'm aware that he is most likely

1377
01:02:04,400 --> 01:02:07,080
Speaker 1: going to find out. My fiance and I obviously discussed

1378
01:02:07,080 --> 01:02:09,640
Speaker 1: this matter, and she is fully supportive of this decision.

1379
01:02:09,680 --> 01:02:11,800
Speaker 2: That's good. That's good. If the fiance's on board, that's

1380
01:02:11,800 --> 01:02:13,600
Speaker 2: a you know, that's one for the team. One hundred

1381
01:02:13,600 --> 01:02:14,120
Speaker 2: percent agree.

1382
01:02:14,280 --> 01:02:16,680
Speaker 1: Other friends that I've spoken to tell me that I'm

1383
01:02:16,680 --> 01:02:19,840
Speaker 1: being ruthless and basically should not have even invited my

1384
01:02:19,920 --> 01:02:21,880
Speaker 1: friend if I wasn't going to give him a plus

1385
01:02:21,920 --> 01:02:23,120
Speaker 1: one for his wife.

1386
01:02:23,240 --> 01:02:24,919
Speaker 2: So am I the a whole?

1387
01:02:25,240 --> 01:02:30,360
Speaker 1: There is an edit where we learn the origin story

1388
01:02:30,440 --> 01:02:34,040
Speaker 1: of the beef, but I would love to see in

1389
01:02:34,080 --> 01:02:36,320
Speaker 1: the comments right now, ahole or not as of this?

1390
01:02:36,480 --> 01:02:37,800
Speaker 1: But Sam, what are you thinking?

1391
01:02:37,920 --> 01:02:41,000
Speaker 2: I mean, do those friends know the context? Like, do

1392
01:02:41,080 --> 01:02:44,320
Speaker 2: they know that the wife specifically made it so that

1393
01:02:44,440 --> 01:02:46,560
Speaker 2: he couldn't attend his friend's wedding at all?

1394
01:02:46,880 --> 01:02:49,280
Speaker 1: And there's this thing we're about to find out that

1395
01:02:49,400 --> 01:02:51,720
Speaker 1: the wife did do they know that as well.

1396
01:02:51,840 --> 01:02:53,760
Speaker 2: Again, I think it's your wedding. You could do whatever

1397
01:02:53,800 --> 01:02:56,040
Speaker 2: you want. And it's like she probably wouldn't want to

1398
01:02:56,040 --> 01:02:58,440
Speaker 2: come anyway. But even if she did come, would it

1399
01:02:58,480 --> 01:03:01,840
Speaker 2: really ruined things. There's enough beef where it would ruin things.

1400
01:03:01,960 --> 01:03:04,280
Speaker 2: It depends on our past. I think. I don't think

1401
01:03:04,320 --> 01:03:07,560
Speaker 2: OP owes the wife anything. Absolutely owes the wife nothing.

1402
01:03:07,600 --> 01:03:09,760
Speaker 1: I do wonder like the friends were saying, like, oh,

1403
01:03:09,800 --> 01:03:12,320
Speaker 1: you should have just not even sent him the invite

1404
01:03:12,440 --> 01:03:15,040
Speaker 1: versus sending them the invite without the plus one.

1405
01:03:15,480 --> 01:03:17,560
Speaker 2: Why no, But he wants to invite his friend. Ye,

1406
01:03:18,360 --> 01:03:20,320
Speaker 2: then he's just doing what his friend did to him,

1407
01:03:20,440 --> 01:03:22,680
Speaker 2: which I think is more of an apple move. Yeah,

1408
01:03:22,720 --> 01:03:25,480
Speaker 2: although if it's a good friend, then maybe this isn't

1409
01:03:25,520 --> 01:03:27,360
Speaker 2: just a good friend. If I had that situation, what

1410
01:03:27,480 --> 01:03:29,000
Speaker 2: I would have said, it's like, hey, I want you

1411
01:03:29,080 --> 01:03:31,200
Speaker 2: to come, but like I don't want your wife to come.

1412
01:03:31,280 --> 01:03:33,800
Speaker 1: I think that is that's the most reasonable thing to do.

1413
01:03:34,200 --> 01:03:36,560
Speaker 1: OP is kind of like doing it biomission and just

1414
01:03:36,600 --> 01:03:37,440
Speaker 1: like here's your invite.

1415
01:03:37,480 --> 01:03:38,800
Speaker 2: That's it. I don't think that's a bad thing.

1416
01:03:38,960 --> 01:03:41,480
Speaker 1: But let's get into this edit with the sweet beef.

1417
01:03:41,720 --> 01:03:44,440
Speaker 1: Let's get this beef sizzling. Since a lot of you

1418
01:03:44,640 --> 01:03:47,200
Speaker 1: are talking about the fuss, I will give a little

1419
01:03:47,200 --> 01:03:51,080
Speaker 1: bit more context. She my friend's wife, cheated on my

1420
01:03:51,160 --> 01:03:52,440
Speaker 1: friend at university.

1421
01:03:52,680 --> 01:03:53,520
Speaker 2: They broke up.

1422
01:03:53,840 --> 01:03:56,400
Speaker 1: I was not as warmed to her afterwards, but not

1423
01:03:56,560 --> 01:03:59,920
Speaker 1: outwardly mean. She wanted him back. He asked for advice,

1424
01:04:00,120 --> 01:04:06,320
Speaker 1: and I said, don't do it. D good advice.

1425
01:04:06,440 --> 01:04:08,960
Speaker 2: I'm not getting good vibes from her. She sucks.

1426
01:04:09,080 --> 01:04:11,960
Speaker 1: He took her back anyways, obviously his right to do so,

1427
01:04:12,160 --> 01:04:14,680
Speaker 1: but I remained more distant from her. Not sure if

1428
01:04:14,720 --> 01:04:17,080
Speaker 1: my friend told her that I advised them that they

1429
01:04:17,120 --> 01:04:19,560
Speaker 1: remained broken up, to which I would not be surprised.

1430
01:04:19,600 --> 01:04:22,360
Speaker 2: Probably. Yeah, it sounds like if you're in a relationship

1431
01:04:22,480 --> 01:04:26,080
Speaker 2: like I would assume, I would say most unless someone

1432
01:04:26,160 --> 01:04:29,280
Speaker 2: explicitly says don't tell your partner or whatever, I would

1433
01:04:29,320 --> 01:04:31,600
Speaker 2: assume that, like you share most things.

1434
01:04:31,480 --> 01:04:34,120
Speaker 1: In the relationship, Yeah, one hundred percent. Or if it

1435
01:04:34,160 --> 01:04:37,080
Speaker 1: was just me not being as friendly. But she turned

1436
01:04:37,160 --> 01:04:41,120
Speaker 1: nasty on me, nastier than a three day old curdled glaze.

1437
01:04:42,840 --> 01:04:43,680
Speaker 2: Five years ago.

1438
01:04:43,880 --> 01:04:46,640
Speaker 1: I called her out for her bitchy behavior after she

1439
01:04:46,760 --> 01:04:48,480
Speaker 1: hurt me with multiple rude comments.

1440
01:04:48,680 --> 01:04:49,920
Speaker 2: Alcohol was involved.

1441
01:04:49,960 --> 01:04:53,240
Speaker 1: And I admittedly could have handled the situation with morphinesse.

1442
01:04:53,400 --> 01:04:56,840
Speaker 1: Our interaction ruined a wonderful evening. Once we sobered up

1443
01:04:56,840 --> 01:04:59,200
Speaker 1: the following day, I apologize for my part, and I

1444
01:04:59,200 --> 01:05:02,680
Speaker 1: expected to say in return. Instead, she not only refused

1445
01:05:02,720 --> 01:05:06,400
Speaker 1: to apologize or accept any blame, but she also entirely

1446
01:05:06,440 --> 01:05:11,520
Speaker 1: rejected my apology. Oh okay, So I feel like we've

1447
01:05:11,520 --> 01:05:13,439
Speaker 1: gotten a pretty good picture here.

1448
01:05:14,520 --> 01:05:16,360
Speaker 2: I think, Op, he's.

1449
01:05:16,200 --> 01:05:19,040
Speaker 1: Not the egle a million percent. Like everything we learned

1450
01:05:19,080 --> 01:05:20,240
Speaker 1: made the wife more and more.

1451
01:05:20,160 --> 01:05:25,840
Speaker 2: Than She is a cheating dirt bag yep, and deserves

1452
01:05:25,880 --> 01:05:28,160
Speaker 2: to be taken out with dirt. That is true, you know,

1453
01:05:28,400 --> 01:05:31,200
Speaker 2: put it in the dump where she belongs. I feel

1454
01:05:31,240 --> 01:05:33,880
Speaker 2: like the friend sounds like a cork. Yeah, Like I

1455
01:05:33,880 --> 01:05:35,600
Speaker 2: mean the fact that she cheated on him and he

1456
01:05:35,680 --> 01:05:38,000
Speaker 2: still stayed with her, and then that she said no,

1457
01:05:38,120 --> 01:05:41,000
Speaker 2: you can't invite your friend, Yeah he did. It sounds

1458
01:05:41,040 --> 01:05:43,480
Speaker 2: like he's he's whipped to the max. He's just ball

1459
01:05:43,560 --> 01:05:43,960
Speaker 2: in chain.

1460
01:05:44,080 --> 01:05:47,040
Speaker 1: Oh please, darling, please let me invite my friend. No,

1461
01:05:47,320 --> 01:05:49,040
Speaker 1: oh please, Darling, don't cheat on me.

1462
01:05:49,280 --> 01:05:51,800
Speaker 2: I will and you will watch. Yeah, you'll love a watch.

1463
01:05:51,840 --> 01:05:56,360
Speaker 2: I love watching me with everyone. Thank you for ruining

1464
01:05:56,360 --> 01:05:59,080
Speaker 2: my life. But I would love to hear stories of

1465
01:05:59,240 --> 01:06:02,240
Speaker 2: you being a cock that too. Have you been packed?

1466
01:06:02,560 --> 01:06:03,360
Speaker 2: Have you been a click?

1467
01:06:03,480 --> 01:06:05,880
Speaker 1: Speaking of which, could you just bawl and gag me

1468
01:06:06,120 --> 01:06:07,360
Speaker 1: with this next story?

1469
01:06:07,480 --> 01:06:09,480
Speaker 2: I will, I will, I will. First let me let

1470
01:06:09,520 --> 01:06:12,240
Speaker 2: me glaze you up, though, drip it. I refuse to

1471
01:06:12,280 --> 01:06:15,960
Speaker 2: watch my son's kids because they're not my responsibility. But

1472
01:06:16,040 --> 01:06:18,600
Speaker 2: now he's taking it too far. I mean, how far

1473
01:06:18,600 --> 01:06:21,400
Speaker 2: are we taken? As far as you can murder? I

1474
01:06:22,080 --> 01:06:27,560
Speaker 2: seventy one female. Oo, so grainy have a son thirty

1475
01:06:27,640 --> 01:06:30,480
Speaker 2: nine male, whose wife thirty six female, gave birth to

1476
01:06:30,520 --> 01:06:33,640
Speaker 2: their fourth child nine months ago. All of her births

1477
01:06:33,800 --> 01:06:37,000
Speaker 2: have taken a long time, and she has been induced

1478
01:06:37,000 --> 01:06:40,000
Speaker 2: the last two times, including this one. My husband seventy

1479
01:06:40,040 --> 01:06:42,680
Speaker 2: two male, and I were babysitting the three older kids,

1480
01:06:42,760 --> 01:06:46,280
Speaker 2: five male, four female, and two females. She was induced

1481
01:06:46,320 --> 01:06:48,360
Speaker 2: at eight in the morning, and by one in the

1482
01:06:48,400 --> 01:06:52,760
Speaker 2: afternoon there was not much progress, if any at all. Wow, yikes.

1483
01:06:53,000 --> 01:06:55,200
Speaker 2: Since the kids are a handful, I told my son

1484
01:06:55,320 --> 01:06:57,640
Speaker 2: he needed to come home to help for a few hours.

1485
01:06:57,840 --> 01:07:00,720
Speaker 2: Says it looked like it would take a really long time.

1486
01:07:01,040 --> 01:07:04,280
Speaker 2: Because girl knows how to be in labor for a while. Yep.

1487
01:07:04,720 --> 01:07:07,480
Speaker 2: Since they live half an hour away from the hospital,

1488
01:07:07,600 --> 01:07:09,840
Speaker 2: he could go back if anything happened, so it's not

1489
01:07:09,880 --> 01:07:11,960
Speaker 2: like he wouldn't be present when the child was born,

1490
01:07:12,040 --> 01:07:14,440
Speaker 2: which I, of course understand is a big moment for

1491
01:07:14,520 --> 01:07:15,160
Speaker 2: him and his wife.

1492
01:07:16,080 --> 01:07:19,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I understand a little bit, but like, I don't know,

1493
01:07:19,480 --> 01:07:21,200
Speaker 1: I'm kind of siding with the sun.

1494
01:07:21,720 --> 01:07:24,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sorry, right now, I'm siding with the son.

1495
01:07:24,400 --> 01:07:27,919
Speaker 2: It's like I would want to be there with my wife. Yeah.

1496
01:07:27,960 --> 01:07:30,600
Speaker 1: And also like you've been watching them for I guess

1497
01:07:30,880 --> 01:07:32,440
Speaker 1: just the beginning of the day, Like.

1498
01:07:32,640 --> 01:07:36,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, how hard is it? Really? Like, I think asking

1499
01:07:36,120 --> 01:07:38,919
Speaker 2: your parents to watch your kids for a day while

1500
01:07:38,920 --> 01:07:40,800
Speaker 2: your wife is in labor isn't a crazy thing that

1501
01:07:40,960 --> 01:07:45,040
Speaker 2: the weirdest regrest Ever, my son took a great defense

1502
01:07:45,240 --> 01:07:47,200
Speaker 2: to my request and told me to suck it up,

1503
01:07:47,360 --> 01:07:50,160
Speaker 2: bribe the kids with treats. I don't given her MyPad

1504
01:07:50,240 --> 01:07:52,280
Speaker 2: or something whatever worked for us, and that there was

1505
01:07:52,360 --> 01:07:54,760
Speaker 2: no way he could leave his wife's side unless it

1506
01:07:54,800 --> 01:07:56,960
Speaker 2: was an emergency with one of the kids, like they

1507
01:07:56,960 --> 01:07:59,280
Speaker 2: were admitted to a hospital or something. I told him

1508
01:07:59,320 --> 01:08:02,840
Speaker 2: the kids were their responsibility and that they couldn't expect

1509
01:08:02,920 --> 01:08:06,160
Speaker 2: us to babysit around the clock if this took days.

1510
01:08:06,600 --> 01:08:08,480
Speaker 2: He told me we should not have said yes to

1511
01:08:08,560 --> 01:08:11,360
Speaker 2: babysit at all if we wouldn't stick it out, since

1512
01:08:11,400 --> 01:08:13,960
Speaker 2: one never knows how long birth will take, but that

1513
01:08:14,040 --> 01:08:16,280
Speaker 2: he would get someone to come, and then he hung up.

1514
01:08:16,360 --> 01:08:18,880
Speaker 2: Three hours later, someone showed up and we went home.

1515
01:08:19,120 --> 01:08:21,720
Speaker 2: We offered a babysit for a few hours the next day,

1516
01:08:21,840 --> 01:08:24,679
Speaker 2: but our offer was declined because the people who came

1517
01:08:24,720 --> 01:08:27,360
Speaker 2: to relieve us stayed until the baby was born and

1518
01:08:27,439 --> 01:08:30,479
Speaker 2: my son came home. After this, they have not asked

1519
01:08:30,520 --> 01:08:34,400
Speaker 2: us to babysit once and has hired a sitter instead,

1520
01:08:34,560 --> 01:08:36,680
Speaker 2: which we feel is a waste of money since we

1521
01:08:36,920 --> 01:08:41,160
Speaker 2: are available for free, but only for a couple hours, only.

1522
01:08:41,120 --> 01:08:43,599
Speaker 1: One or two hours max. Here book book of time

1523
01:08:43,600 --> 01:08:46,679
Speaker 1: on my calendar. I'm a pretty busy schedule, so they're

1524
01:08:46,680 --> 01:08:49,360
Speaker 1: probably retired. We get to see the grandkids if we

1525
01:08:49,520 --> 01:08:53,120
Speaker 1: visit them, but they very seldom visit us compared to before.

1526
01:08:53,640 --> 01:08:57,160
Speaker 1: I mean, you complained about looking after the kids when

1527
01:08:57,200 --> 01:08:59,960
Speaker 1: your son's wife was in labor, Like, what do you expect?

1528
01:09:00,479 --> 01:09:03,120
Speaker 1: I tried talking to both my son and daughter in law,

1529
01:09:03,160 --> 01:09:05,840
Speaker 1: but they said they felt we didn't respect them at

1530
01:09:05,840 --> 01:09:09,599
Speaker 1: all since we wouldn't even let her give birth in peace.

1531
01:09:09,880 --> 01:09:12,840
Speaker 1: My husband and I agree that they are overreacting since

1532
01:09:12,880 --> 01:09:15,559
Speaker 1: she did not, in fact give birth until seven the

1533
01:09:15,560 --> 01:09:19,479
Speaker 1: next morning, twenty three hours after being induced, and our

1534
01:09:19,520 --> 01:09:21,960
Speaker 1: son could have easily helped us with the kids for

1535
01:09:22,000 --> 01:09:22,920
Speaker 1: a few hours.

1536
01:09:23,200 --> 01:09:26,320
Speaker 2: All right, bro, how do you know? It's not like

1537
01:09:26,400 --> 01:09:29,120
Speaker 2: this woman is like having a walk in the park

1538
01:09:29,160 --> 01:09:32,040
Speaker 2: and getting a massage for twenty four hours. She's literally

1539
01:09:32,040 --> 01:09:35,439
Speaker 2: giving birth for twenty four hours. That is probably one

1540
01:09:35,479 --> 01:09:37,880
Speaker 2: of the most difficult twenty four hours you could have.

1541
01:09:38,000 --> 01:09:40,479
Speaker 1: Literally, And how is she so commid to like, oh,

1542
01:09:40,560 --> 01:09:42,559
Speaker 1: we know that the baby's not going to be born

1543
01:09:42,600 --> 01:09:44,360
Speaker 1: in this time. When not, it's like you actually have

1544
01:09:44,520 --> 01:09:47,280
Speaker 1: no life. Maybe something happens and they start and they

1545
01:09:47,400 --> 01:09:47,880
Speaker 1: like it go.

1546
01:09:47,920 --> 01:09:51,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know who knows? Yeah, this is ridiculous. So

1547
01:09:51,439 --> 01:09:53,800
Speaker 2: am I the apple? Like my son says, I am

1548
01:09:53,960 --> 01:09:56,599
Speaker 2: for helping us with the kids even if his wife

1549
01:09:56,720 --> 01:10:00,120
Speaker 2: was being induced, but have little to no progress. I

1550
01:10:00,120 --> 01:10:02,800
Speaker 2: want to know what all of you think. Yeah, this

1551
01:10:02,880 --> 01:10:05,040
Speaker 2: seems cut and clear, but John, what are your thoughts?

1552
01:10:05,080 --> 01:10:07,439
Speaker 2: There's a little bit of an edit the ahole, Like,

1553
01:10:07,600 --> 01:10:09,360
Speaker 2: how do you not go to support?

1554
01:10:09,560 --> 01:10:12,320
Speaker 1: And here's my thing too, you've literally watched them for

1555
01:10:12,400 --> 01:10:14,519
Speaker 1: like part of a day. I don't know about you,

1556
01:10:14,560 --> 01:10:17,600
Speaker 1: but whenever I would go to visit my grandparents, it

1557
01:10:17,640 --> 01:10:20,519
Speaker 1: would be like several days a week, we're hanging out,

1558
01:10:20,520 --> 01:10:22,160
Speaker 1: We're going to the park, we're getting ice cream, or

1559
01:10:22,439 --> 01:10:24,959
Speaker 1: we're doing our own thing, like playing with toys, watch exactly,

1560
01:10:25,200 --> 01:10:28,240
Speaker 1: Like it's not that crazy of a thing.

1561
01:10:28,520 --> 01:10:31,760
Speaker 2: So, yeah, it seems a little ridiculous. Seems a little ridiculous.

1562
01:10:31,880 --> 01:10:34,400
Speaker 2: There is an edit. This is my first ever post.

1563
01:10:34,640 --> 01:10:36,840
Speaker 2: I have nothing to do with the woman making weird

1564
01:10:36,880 --> 01:10:41,280
Speaker 2: comments about autoimmune issues caused by a dog. I guess

1565
01:10:41,280 --> 01:10:43,800
Speaker 2: that's out of context. Okay, my daughter in law was

1566
01:10:43,840 --> 01:10:46,479
Speaker 2: not an active labor. When I asked, they were walking

1567
01:10:46,479 --> 01:10:49,240
Speaker 2: around in the hospital trying to get things started. We

1568
01:10:49,240 --> 01:10:52,320
Speaker 2: were staying at their house. We only wanted some relief,

1569
01:10:52,400 --> 01:10:55,559
Speaker 2: we were planning to continue babysitting. Saying we only wanted

1570
01:10:55,560 --> 01:10:58,960
Speaker 2: to do five hours total is unfair. So here's my thing.

1571
01:10:59,240 --> 01:11:02,360
Speaker 1: It's not that she wasn't like literally in labor at

1572
01:11:02,360 --> 01:11:05,519
Speaker 1: that moment. It's like, Okay, here's this like general event

1573
01:11:05,720 --> 01:11:09,519
Speaker 1: of like the event, the birth, the massive event, the

1574
01:11:09,560 --> 01:11:12,400
Speaker 1: birth is happening. I just don't want to think about

1575
01:11:12,680 --> 01:11:14,559
Speaker 1: is my time clock running out?

1576
01:11:14,600 --> 01:11:16,640
Speaker 2: Like yeah, this feels like like like I want to

1577
01:11:16,640 --> 01:11:19,840
Speaker 2: focus on my child. I think it's okay to assume

1578
01:11:19,880 --> 01:11:21,880
Speaker 2: if you have a good relationship with your parents, it's

1579
01:11:21,960 --> 01:11:23,600
Speaker 2: okay to assume they could mine your kids for a

1580
01:11:23,640 --> 01:11:25,639
Speaker 2: couple days. Yeah, this is just too ridiculous. And also

1581
01:11:25,640 --> 01:11:27,080
Speaker 2: it's the two of them, So one of them can

1582
01:11:27,120 --> 01:11:29,200
Speaker 2: go out and get something while the other stays there.

1583
01:11:29,320 --> 01:11:32,000
Speaker 2: Hire another babysitter. If the grandparents are like, all right,

1584
01:11:32,040 --> 01:11:33,680
Speaker 2: we need like a break of a few hours, the

1585
01:11:33,760 --> 01:11:35,800
Speaker 2: grandparents can hire a babies that are like you, just

1586
01:11:35,840 --> 01:11:37,280
Speaker 2: like take them to the park for a little bit,

1587
01:11:37,320 --> 01:11:40,080
Speaker 2: tire them out. Of course, granted I'm not You're gonna

1588
01:11:40,080 --> 01:11:41,960
Speaker 2: be a great grandma though, Oh dude, I'm going to

1589
01:11:42,000 --> 01:11:45,400
Speaker 2: be the biggest, baddest grandma you ever seen in your life.

1590
01:11:45,960 --> 01:11:48,800
Speaker 2: G I LF emphasis on the G. What does that

1591
01:11:48,840 --> 01:11:52,839
Speaker 2: stand for? What does it stand for? Tell us Siley,

1592
01:11:53,320 --> 01:11:57,160
Speaker 2: what does it stand for? Laze? Tension broken? But you

1593
01:11:57,240 --> 01:11:59,439
Speaker 2: know what, tension we never want to break? Oh what

1594
01:11:59,600 --> 01:12:02,280
Speaker 2: the second atention we're having right now? Oh my god,

1595
01:12:02,360 --> 01:12:05,240
Speaker 2: you and me. Oh, the person looking into my eyes

1596
01:12:05,600 --> 01:12:08,439
Speaker 2: across that screen a million miles away. Maybe I'm a

1597
01:12:08,479 --> 01:12:11,879
Speaker 2: hot guilt in your area ready to meet. So please

1598
01:12:12,200 --> 01:12:16,680
Speaker 2: tippity type into the comments below. If your grandparents are

1599
01:12:16,720 --> 01:12:20,120
Speaker 2: your parents? Would mind your kids? That's true? And delivery

1600
01:12:20,200 --> 01:12:22,639
Speaker 2: room stories and I would love to hear litries. Let's

1601
01:12:22,640 --> 01:12:22,920
Speaker 2: hear it.

1602
01:12:23,160 --> 01:12:26,240
Speaker 1: My girlfriend says she's depressed, but I just think she's lazy.

1603
01:12:26,320 --> 01:12:28,400
Speaker 1: I'm so supportive of her mental health.

1604
01:12:28,640 --> 01:12:31,640
Speaker 2: I've a whole so supportive, so supportive.

1605
01:12:31,880 --> 01:12:35,679
Speaker 1: I twenty nine male, have always supported my girlfriend twenty

1606
01:12:35,680 --> 01:12:36,280
Speaker 1: three female.

1607
01:12:36,400 --> 01:12:36,960
Speaker 2: Sounds like it.

1608
01:12:37,000 --> 01:12:39,080
Speaker 1: We have been together for four years now and lived

1609
01:12:39,080 --> 01:12:42,400
Speaker 1: together for one. She's always had anxiety as well as depression,

1610
01:12:42,439 --> 01:12:45,160
Speaker 1: where some months are worse than others. I have supported

1611
01:12:45,160 --> 01:12:47,439
Speaker 1: her through all of this and understand that it's very

1612
01:12:47,439 --> 01:12:50,000
Speaker 1: hard for her. In January, she lost her job due

1613
01:12:50,000 --> 01:12:52,920
Speaker 1: to the current world circumstances. By March she hit a

1614
01:12:52,960 --> 01:12:56,560
Speaker 1: low point with not eating as much, crying and irritability,

1615
01:12:56,640 --> 01:12:59,519
Speaker 1: typical traits of depression. I have comforted her as much

1616
01:12:59,520 --> 01:13:00,000
Speaker 1: as possible.

1617
01:13:00,560 --> 01:13:02,120
Speaker 2: What have you done? List it out?

1618
01:13:02,400 --> 01:13:05,040
Speaker 1: I have comforted her as much as possible and taken

1619
01:13:05,080 --> 01:13:09,280
Speaker 1: care of everything whatever that means the glazing. However, at

1620
01:13:09,320 --> 01:13:11,800
Speaker 1: the beginning of June, I was allowed back to work,

1621
01:13:11,880 --> 01:13:14,599
Speaker 1: and since the house has fallen to shambles, I am

1622
01:13:14,640 --> 01:13:17,040
Speaker 1: too tired by the time I come home to do anything,

1623
01:13:17,160 --> 01:13:19,760
Speaker 1: even cook. Most nights we order takeout and on the

1624
01:13:19,840 --> 01:13:23,759
Speaker 1: rare occasion she makes food. Floors aren't being washed, Hovering,

1625
01:13:23,960 --> 01:13:27,360
Speaker 1: vacuuming I'm assuming isn't being done. Laundry is a mountain,

1626
01:13:27,479 --> 01:13:29,600
Speaker 1: and dishes are everywhere.

1627
01:13:29,840 --> 01:13:30,479
Speaker 2: Oh my god.

1628
01:13:30,840 --> 01:13:32,519
Speaker 1: I try to keep on top of it, but with

1629
01:13:32,600 --> 01:13:35,960
Speaker 1: work it's almost impossible. She is home all day. She

1630
01:13:36,120 --> 01:13:38,920
Speaker 1: lies in bed till late in the afternoon, watches Netflix,

1631
01:13:39,040 --> 01:13:41,800
Speaker 1: eats a bowl of cereal, and naps. That's about it.

1632
01:13:42,520 --> 01:13:44,759
Speaker 2: I mean that she's definitely depressed. Yeah, yeah, for sure.

1633
01:13:44,840 --> 01:13:46,439
Speaker 2: That's like all the signs of the passion. If you're

1634
01:13:46,439 --> 01:13:49,880
Speaker 2: watching Netflix, you're depressed. I've I mean fair enough.

1635
01:13:49,960 --> 01:13:52,439
Speaker 1: I've gently tried to coax her to do more, and

1636
01:13:52,520 --> 01:13:55,679
Speaker 1: she says that she will, but never does. I finally

1637
01:13:55,720 --> 01:13:57,920
Speaker 1: snapped and told her I was sick of her doing

1638
01:13:57,960 --> 01:14:00,320
Speaker 1: nothing all day and leaving the housework to me. That

1639
01:14:00,400 --> 01:14:02,599
Speaker 1: if she is here and I am working, she needs

1640
01:14:02,640 --> 01:14:04,840
Speaker 1: to be pulling her weight, she got upset, and that

1641
01:14:04,880 --> 01:14:06,719
Speaker 1: she wants to do more but she can never find

1642
01:14:06,720 --> 01:14:08,200
Speaker 1: the motivation, and that she's.

1643
01:14:08,040 --> 01:14:08,960
Speaker 2: Tired all the time.

1644
01:14:09,080 --> 01:14:11,439
Speaker 1: I said, I understood she was depressed, but it is

1645
01:14:11,439 --> 01:14:13,760
Speaker 1: an excuse to do nothing and be lazy. No one

1646
01:14:13,840 --> 01:14:16,639
Speaker 1: likes housework, but I won't take any more excuses about it.

1647
01:14:16,720 --> 01:14:18,439
Speaker 1: She needs to start doing it or leave.

1648
01:14:18,520 --> 01:14:21,760
Speaker 2: Op's asking like, basically her to stop being depressed. Yeah,

1649
01:14:21,800 --> 01:14:24,360
Speaker 2: it's like, could you just stop stop being depressed at work?

1650
01:14:24,400 --> 01:14:27,000
Speaker 2: Could you just take your emotions and just turn it off?

1651
01:14:27,280 --> 01:14:29,439
Speaker 2: Like could you just do the light switch, just go flick.

1652
01:14:29,600 --> 01:14:31,920
Speaker 1: The next day, I come home to a clean house

1653
01:14:32,120 --> 01:14:34,559
Speaker 1: and a note from her saying that she's sorry and

1654
01:14:35,040 --> 01:14:37,160
Speaker 1: is going to be staying with her mother. Her mom

1655
01:14:37,200 --> 01:14:39,880
Speaker 1: helps her clean before they left. I tried calling, but

1656
01:14:39,920 --> 01:14:42,160
Speaker 1: she won't pick up. When I rang her house, her

1657
01:14:42,200 --> 01:14:45,240
Speaker 1: mother answered and had a lot to say. She was furious,

1658
01:14:45,320 --> 01:14:47,760
Speaker 1: telling me about how she is struggling and that I

1659
01:14:47,800 --> 01:14:50,519
Speaker 1: am making her worse, that I should be supporting her,

1660
01:14:50,640 --> 01:14:51,880
Speaker 1: not ignoring that she is in a.

1661
01:14:51,800 --> 01:14:53,040
Speaker 2: Bad place, and so on.

1662
01:14:53,120 --> 01:14:55,680
Speaker 1: I told her my girlfriend had been crying all day

1663
01:14:55,680 --> 01:14:57,519
Speaker 1: in her bedroom and I feel awful.

1664
01:14:57,600 --> 01:15:00,240
Speaker 2: I never wanted to hurt her. I just snapped.

1665
01:15:00,400 --> 01:15:02,519
Speaker 1: I tried to get her mother to get my girlfriend

1666
01:15:02,560 --> 01:15:04,080
Speaker 1: on the phone, but she wouldn't speak to me.

1667
01:15:04,280 --> 01:15:05,959
Speaker 2: It felt like a lose lose situation.

1668
01:15:06,280 --> 01:15:08,840
Speaker 1: On one hand, I know depression results in a lack

1669
01:15:08,880 --> 01:15:11,559
Speaker 1: of motivation and cleanliness.

1670
01:15:11,880 --> 01:15:16,240
Speaker 2: Just I feel like coop just like WebMD depression.

1671
01:15:16,439 --> 01:15:19,120
Speaker 1: And on the other hand, I can't stand to see

1672
01:15:19,120 --> 01:15:22,040
Speaker 1: our home in such chaos. I have never had depression,

1673
01:15:22,200 --> 01:15:24,640
Speaker 1: so I can't say for sure how bad it truly is.

1674
01:15:24,880 --> 01:15:27,519
Speaker 1: That's why I find it more difficult to one hundred

1675
01:15:27,520 --> 01:15:30,960
Speaker 1: percent empathize. Am I a hole for telling her depression

1676
01:15:31,240 --> 01:15:33,360
Speaker 1: isn't an excuse.

1677
01:15:33,680 --> 01:15:37,080
Speaker 2: Like op Obviously, it shows that he's never been depressed

1678
01:15:37,120 --> 01:15:39,519
Speaker 2: and has never experienced that and just doesn't understand, right,

1679
01:15:39,720 --> 01:15:42,760
Speaker 2: which is like not necessarily his faults, but like you

1680
01:15:42,800 --> 01:15:45,240
Speaker 2: can just see that he's ignorant of how to deal

1681
01:15:45,320 --> 01:15:45,600
Speaker 2: with this.

1682
01:15:45,800 --> 01:15:48,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, first, I think he really needs to be like, Okay,

1683
01:15:48,320 --> 01:15:50,920
Speaker 1: I don't understand, so let me try to figure out

1684
01:15:50,960 --> 01:15:52,400
Speaker 1: like the easiest solution.

1685
01:15:52,600 --> 01:15:53,599
Speaker 2: Let's talk to a therapist.

1686
01:15:53,720 --> 01:15:55,599
Speaker 1: Let's get you with someone who actually, like is a

1687
01:15:55,680 --> 01:15:58,960
Speaker 1: trained professional in this. Just taking that first step alone

1688
01:15:59,120 --> 01:16:01,960
Speaker 1: could actually get the result he wanted without him even

1689
01:16:02,200 --> 01:16:05,160
Speaker 1: having to ask for. You know, hey, could you help

1690
01:16:05,200 --> 01:16:07,439
Speaker 1: around the house more? Like contribute more to the household.

1691
01:16:07,680 --> 01:16:10,400
Speaker 2: Also, maybe him going to therapy too, because like he's

1692
01:16:10,439 --> 01:16:13,560
Speaker 2: obviously not very well equipped to have a relationship. I

1693
01:16:13,640 --> 01:16:17,680
Speaker 2: think it's a grandited person. Maybe it would help to have, like,

1694
01:16:17,760 --> 01:16:20,439
Speaker 2: you know, an explanation from a professional totally of how

1695
01:16:20,479 --> 01:16:22,680
Speaker 2: he can navigate this situation too. I think actually that

1696
01:16:22,720 --> 01:16:24,960
Speaker 2: brings up a good question, Like I imagine a lot

1697
01:16:24,960 --> 01:16:28,080
Speaker 2: of people in the audience have had experiences with depression, Like,

1698
01:16:28,200 --> 01:16:30,080
Speaker 2: what is the best way for you to receive help

1699
01:16:30,120 --> 01:16:33,599
Speaker 2: from a friend or a significant other when you're experiencing depression?

1700
01:16:34,000 --> 01:16:36,720
Speaker 1: You know, I love the beautiful sweet turn that this

1701
01:16:37,240 --> 01:16:39,280
Speaker 1: not one glazed penis joke insight.

1702
01:16:39,400 --> 01:16:44,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, but we're about to get start. Let me tell you.

1703
01:16:44,280 --> 01:16:47,080
Speaker 2: I made sure my friend wouldn't be at my party

1704
01:16:47,200 --> 01:16:50,200
Speaker 2: because I knew she'd ruin it. Now she won't speak

1705
01:16:50,240 --> 01:16:52,280
Speaker 2: to me, Am I the a hole. You're terrible and

1706
01:16:52,320 --> 01:16:54,519
Speaker 2: I hate you. But why do we have to end

1707
01:16:54,520 --> 01:16:57,240
Speaker 2: this friendship? Yeah? Yeah, just suck it up and still

1708
01:16:57,240 --> 01:16:59,320
Speaker 2: be my friend. Just let me hate you, but as friends,

1709
01:16:59,520 --> 01:17:02,120
Speaker 2: I will hate you. But he still love me, appreciate me.

1710
01:17:02,320 --> 01:17:05,519
Speaker 2: I twenty nine female, started a small online book club

1711
01:17:05,640 --> 01:17:08,080
Speaker 2: for booklovers in my city about a year ago. I

1712
01:17:08,120 --> 01:17:09,920
Speaker 2: know it sounds a little nerdy, but it's not like

1713
01:17:10,000 --> 01:17:13,040
Speaker 2: that's so cool, jockey. We're all just some girls who

1714
01:17:13,120 --> 01:17:16,439
Speaker 2: like to read and share our thoughts, especially on historical fiction. Well.

1715
01:17:16,520 --> 01:17:18,720
Speaker 2: I've been seeing a lot of those book balls on

1716
01:17:18,800 --> 01:17:22,160
Speaker 2: TikTok recently, where people throw huge parties where everyone dresses

1717
01:17:22,240 --> 01:17:26,000
Speaker 2: up extravagantly in ball gowns and those intricate masks and

1718
01:17:26,040 --> 01:17:29,080
Speaker 2: parasols and whatnot, and thought it looked super fun, Only

1719
01:17:29,240 --> 01:17:31,600
Speaker 2: there weren't any being held anywhere near me. So I

1720
01:17:31,680 --> 01:17:33,960
Speaker 2: decided to hold it intimate one with the girls from

1721
01:17:33,960 --> 01:17:37,559
Speaker 2: my book club. I need some intimate O big old balls. Yeah,

1722
01:17:37,920 --> 01:17:40,439
Speaker 2: oh yeah. They're about a dozen of us and we've

1723
01:17:40,479 --> 01:17:42,840
Speaker 2: met a multiple times, so we're all good friends. One

1724
01:17:42,840 --> 01:17:44,880
Speaker 2: of the girls is a close friend of mine. I'll

1725
01:17:44,880 --> 01:17:47,760
Speaker 2: call her Sam. Twenty nine females, same, you have something

1726
01:17:47,760 --> 01:17:50,799
Speaker 2: you want to tell us. I'm transitioning and to a book talker.

1727
01:17:50,840 --> 01:17:52,720
Speaker 2: You're getting rid of your book balls. I'm getting rid

1728
01:17:52,720 --> 01:17:56,920
Speaker 2: of my book balls or some book sheets. Ooh, she

1729
01:17:57,080 --> 01:17:59,280
Speaker 2: does not like to dress up at all. She's always

1730
01:17:59,280 --> 01:18:03,120
Speaker 2: in sweats and athletic clothes, never does her makeup or hair,

1731
01:18:03,360 --> 01:18:06,719
Speaker 2: just doesn't really care about her appearance in any formal events.

1732
01:18:06,880 --> 01:18:09,439
Speaker 2: I remember she skipped our prom and wore jeans to

1733
01:18:09,479 --> 01:18:12,240
Speaker 2: her ceremony, which is fine. She's a beautiful girl, but

1734
01:18:12,360 --> 01:18:14,800
Speaker 2: I didn't want that at my ball, so I didn't

1735
01:18:14,840 --> 01:18:17,840
Speaker 2: invite her. Interesting, if you're not going to play by

1736
01:18:17,920 --> 01:18:21,160
Speaker 2: my ball rules, get out. I sent out beautiful invites

1737
01:18:21,160 --> 01:18:23,080
Speaker 2: that I spent a good chunk of money for, rented

1738
01:18:23,120 --> 01:18:25,640
Speaker 2: out a small hall that fit my budget, catered, and

1739
01:18:25,760 --> 01:18:28,280
Speaker 2: only asked my friends to pitch in about twenty dollars

1740
01:18:28,360 --> 01:18:32,000
Speaker 2: each to cover some costs. Everyone bought a beautiful, extravagant

1741
01:18:32,040 --> 01:18:35,160
Speaker 2: gown and accessories, and I got even more excited. Eventually,

1742
01:18:35,200 --> 01:18:37,639
Speaker 2: word made it to Sam and she asked me about

1743
01:18:37,680 --> 01:18:40,040
Speaker 2: the events. She asked if I was really hosting an

1744
01:18:40,040 --> 01:18:42,600
Speaker 2: event for the book club and not inviting her, and

1745
01:18:42,680 --> 01:18:45,559
Speaker 2: after hesitating, I said yes, only because I knew she

1746
01:18:45,640 --> 01:18:48,479
Speaker 2: would never wear a ball gown or put effort into

1747
01:18:48,520 --> 01:18:51,000
Speaker 2: looking good. She said she was upset that I wouldn't

1748
01:18:51,040 --> 01:18:54,280
Speaker 2: want her there even if she wore regular clothes and

1749
01:18:54,360 --> 01:18:56,439
Speaker 2: told her that it's not fair that I put in

1750
01:18:56,520 --> 01:18:58,800
Speaker 2: all this effort for a beautiful event where everyone can

1751
01:18:58,840 --> 01:19:01,000
Speaker 2: be a little extra for one day, and I didn't

1752
01:19:01,040 --> 01:19:03,439
Speaker 2: want her to ruin the aesthetic. He hasn't spoken to

1753
01:19:03,479 --> 01:19:05,760
Speaker 2: me since then, and the ball was two days ago.

1754
01:19:05,920 --> 01:19:08,719
Speaker 2: It was a success, by the way, everyone looked amazing.

1755
01:19:08,800 --> 01:19:11,240
Speaker 2: So am I the asshole for not inviting her because

1756
01:19:11,280 --> 01:19:13,640
Speaker 2: she would ruin the events ruin.

1757
01:19:13,840 --> 01:19:15,960
Speaker 1: I think it would be fine to send her an

1758
01:19:16,000 --> 01:19:18,280
Speaker 1: invite and be like, hey, just you know, this is

1759
01:19:18,280 --> 01:19:20,760
Speaker 1: a black tie event, like when we're cocktail dresses. Men

1760
01:19:20,760 --> 01:19:22,560
Speaker 1: where textedos blah blah blah blah blah. So it's like,

1761
01:19:22,600 --> 01:19:26,040
Speaker 1: all right, you've set the expectation. If that person is like, oh, well,

1762
01:19:26,080 --> 01:19:27,080
Speaker 1: I don't want to do this, and.

1763
01:19:27,080 --> 01:19:29,120
Speaker 2: It sounds like she's part of your book club, it's

1764
01:19:29,120 --> 01:19:32,040
Speaker 2: like you've noticed that she just doesn't dress up for things.

1765
01:19:32,080 --> 01:19:34,200
Speaker 2: But maybe if you explicitly asked, you would, right.

1766
01:19:34,320 --> 01:19:35,920
Speaker 1: You don't know if she'd be like, oh my gosh,

1767
01:19:35,920 --> 01:19:37,439
Speaker 1: like you know what, I'm so excited, I'm gonna go

1768
01:19:37,479 --> 01:19:37,760
Speaker 1: all out.

1769
01:19:37,760 --> 01:19:40,800
Speaker 2: Although it does seem like in the story, and the

1770
01:19:40,840 --> 01:19:43,479
Speaker 2: friend says she said she was upset that I wouldn't

1771
01:19:43,520 --> 01:19:46,839
Speaker 2: want her there even if she wore her regular clothes.

1772
01:19:46,920 --> 01:19:49,200
Speaker 2: So it sounds like the friend is like, I can't

1773
01:19:49,200 --> 01:19:51,720
Speaker 2: believe you wouldn't invite me just because I wouldn't wear

1774
01:19:51,760 --> 01:19:54,599
Speaker 2: a ball gown. Right, Right, In this case, it sounds

1775
01:19:54,600 --> 01:19:57,000
Speaker 2: like the friend is saying I wouldn't wear the ball gown,

1776
01:19:57,200 --> 01:19:59,080
Speaker 2: but I'm still upset you wouldn't invite me just because

1777
01:19:59,120 --> 01:20:00,640
Speaker 2: I wouldn't wear it. Like it so like op was

1778
01:20:00,760 --> 01:20:03,000
Speaker 2: right that the friend wouldn't wear the ball gown. Right,

1779
01:20:03,160 --> 01:20:05,000
Speaker 2: this is a ballgown only event. Yeah, that's an a

1780
01:20:05,080 --> 01:20:07,280
Speaker 2: whole move. Maybe it isn't everyone's a hole. I think

1781
01:20:07,320 --> 01:20:09,040
Speaker 2: everyone's the a hole here. Yeah, but I want to

1782
01:20:09,040 --> 01:20:11,120
Speaker 2: know what everyone else thinks. Yes, one hundred percent. And

1783
01:20:11,200 --> 01:20:13,400
Speaker 2: have you ever done like a theme party? And one

1784
01:20:13,479 --> 01:20:16,320
Speaker 2: friend was just like no, thank you? And how much

1785
01:20:16,400 --> 01:20:18,960
Speaker 2: you love book balls? Let us know in the comments.

1786
01:20:19,040 --> 01:20:21,000
Speaker 2: I Actually, what I do want to know is what

1787
01:20:21,120 --> 01:20:24,439
Speaker 2: is the best theme party you've ever thrown? Yes, or

1788
01:20:24,520 --> 01:20:25,519
Speaker 2: just been to? Period?

1789
01:20:25,600 --> 01:20:28,519
Speaker 1: I threw a poetry party. Yeah, I was there, Yes,

1790
01:20:28,560 --> 01:20:29,080
Speaker 1: it was great.

1791
01:20:29,120 --> 01:20:29,880
Speaker 2: It was so fun.

1792
01:20:30,040 --> 01:20:32,559
Speaker 1: Sophia actually, as many of you now know, had a

1793
01:20:32,560 --> 01:20:35,360
Speaker 1: great poem. About Sam. She made some great analogy to

1794
01:20:35,360 --> 01:20:37,320
Speaker 1: Sam and Google calendar. I can't remember what it was,

1795
01:20:37,360 --> 01:20:38,479
Speaker 1: but a whole crowd was laughing.

1796
01:20:38,640 --> 01:20:40,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, that was a fun night. But yeah, we did

1797
01:20:40,120 --> 01:20:41,920
Speaker 2: like a kind of like a beat Nick poetry night

1798
01:20:41,960 --> 01:20:44,320
Speaker 2: where everyone prepared a poem and snap to it.

1799
01:20:44,360 --> 01:20:46,880
Speaker 1: Tell us are your best theme parties? And with that,

1800
01:20:46,960 --> 01:20:47,880
Speaker 1: let's get into the next one.

1801
01:20:47,960 --> 01:20:48,439
Speaker 2: Let's do it.

1802
01:20:48,520 --> 01:20:51,120
Speaker 1: I told my sister's boyfriend he's evicted from our home

1803
01:20:51,120 --> 01:20:52,599
Speaker 1: and not a member of our family.

1804
01:20:52,680 --> 01:20:55,040
Speaker 2: He's trash am I the a hole. Evicted from the

1805
01:20:55,040 --> 01:20:57,840
Speaker 2: home and evicted from the family in one day. I

1806
01:20:58,000 --> 01:21:01,120
Speaker 2: just ejected you from all of our lives, ejected you

1807
01:21:01,160 --> 01:21:02,040
Speaker 2: from everything you hold.

1808
01:21:02,080 --> 01:21:04,400
Speaker 1: Dear, I want to rip all the love and happiness

1809
01:21:04,479 --> 01:21:06,320
Speaker 1: from your life and kick you to the curb.

1810
01:21:07,400 --> 01:21:08,479
Speaker 2: That's how we do it. Baby.

1811
01:21:08,680 --> 01:21:12,479
Speaker 1: My twenty one male sister seventeen female has this boyfriend

1812
01:21:12,520 --> 01:21:14,320
Speaker 1: who is always around.

1813
01:21:14,680 --> 01:21:16,200
Speaker 2: He acts like he lives here.

1814
01:21:16,240 --> 01:21:18,559
Speaker 1: They've been dating for two years, so he's gotten really

1815
01:21:18,600 --> 01:21:22,720
Speaker 1: comfortable with our family and our house. My little brother fourteen,

1816
01:21:23,000 --> 01:21:25,640
Speaker 1: is sick right now and it's been really stressful. When

1817
01:21:25,680 --> 01:21:27,840
Speaker 1: I'm not at school, I'm either at the hospital with

1818
01:21:27,840 --> 01:21:30,360
Speaker 1: my fourteen year old brother, or at home watching my

1819
01:21:30,400 --> 01:21:31,200
Speaker 1: eight year old brother.

1820
01:21:31,280 --> 01:21:32,200
Speaker 2: It's been a lot.

1821
01:21:32,439 --> 01:21:34,720
Speaker 1: This morning, I was in the kitchen making food to

1822
01:21:34,760 --> 01:21:37,639
Speaker 1: bring my parents at the hospital. When who should walk

1823
01:21:37,720 --> 01:21:42,280
Speaker 1: in My sister's boyfriend. He asked me if I wanted

1824
01:21:42,320 --> 01:21:44,439
Speaker 1: help cooking, and I said no, he.

1825
01:21:44,360 --> 01:21:47,200
Speaker 2: Doesn't even know how to cook. I mean, at least

1826
01:21:47,200 --> 01:21:48,200
Speaker 2: he's offering to help.

1827
01:21:48,320 --> 01:21:50,519
Speaker 1: Guy goes in and is like, hey, do you need help.

1828
01:21:50,520 --> 01:21:56,040
Speaker 1: It's like, how fucking jay The way that OPI was

1829
01:21:56,120 --> 01:21:58,120
Speaker 1: leading up to this, I thought it'd be like, give

1830
01:21:58,160 --> 01:21:59,920
Speaker 1: you all that food for me, I don't care if

1831
01:21:59,920 --> 01:22:02,120
Speaker 1: your parents are in the hospital with your brother, Like,

1832
01:22:02,200 --> 01:22:05,640
Speaker 1: I'm eating this right now, and he's like what. He

1833
01:22:05,720 --> 01:22:08,639
Speaker 1: then proceeded to just stand there in the kitchen, getting

1834
01:22:08,640 --> 01:22:10,720
Speaker 1: in my way. I asked what he was doing, and

1835
01:22:10,760 --> 01:22:12,479
Speaker 1: he said he was waiting for me to be done.

1836
01:22:12,680 --> 01:22:15,240
Speaker 1: I asked why, and he said he was going to

1837
01:22:15,280 --> 01:22:17,720
Speaker 1: make something. I told him that maybe he should go

1838
01:22:17,760 --> 01:22:20,200
Speaker 1: to his house and use his kitchen.

1839
01:22:20,200 --> 01:22:22,559
Speaker 2: Then he said he wasn't trying to bother me.

1840
01:22:22,720 --> 01:22:25,080
Speaker 1: I said that he is bothering me, and I'm sick

1841
01:22:25,120 --> 01:22:28,120
Speaker 1: of him always invading our space. I can't even relax

1842
01:22:28,160 --> 01:22:30,160
Speaker 1: in my own home on the rare moments that I

1843
01:22:30,200 --> 01:22:31,640
Speaker 1: get to myself because.

1844
01:22:31,320 --> 01:22:32,719
Speaker 2: He's always here.

1845
01:22:32,960 --> 01:22:35,240
Speaker 1: He said that I wasn't being fair and he's scared

1846
01:22:35,240 --> 01:22:37,280
Speaker 1: for my brother too, and then I shouldn't take it

1847
01:22:37,320 --> 01:22:39,360
Speaker 1: out on him. I told him to shut up and

1848
01:22:39,360 --> 01:22:41,320
Speaker 1: then he has no idea what he's talking about and

1849
01:22:41,400 --> 01:22:48,879
Speaker 1: to go home. Yeah, oh man, gravy dude, stop trying

1850
01:22:48,920 --> 01:22:49,479
Speaker 1: to help me.

1851
01:22:49,760 --> 01:22:50,559
Speaker 2: I work alone.

1852
01:22:50,880 --> 01:22:53,360
Speaker 1: Then he said it's important to stick together when there's

1853
01:22:53,400 --> 01:22:56,559
Speaker 1: a tragedy. I said, yeah, family stick together. But he

1854
01:22:56,720 --> 01:22:59,000
Speaker 1: isn't a member of our family, so let us have

1855
01:22:59,120 --> 01:23:02,000
Speaker 1: a day or two a week to ourselves and leave

1856
01:23:02,080 --> 01:23:03,759
Speaker 1: us alone every once in a while.

1857
01:23:04,040 --> 01:23:07,479
Speaker 2: My sister was pissed when she came down twenty minutes later.

1858
01:23:07,560 --> 01:23:10,400
Speaker 2: She said that I'm a mean, bitter, douchebag.

1859
01:23:10,560 --> 01:23:12,559
Speaker 1: She said that I had no right to say that

1860
01:23:12,560 --> 01:23:14,840
Speaker 1: to her boyfriend, and he's her guest so he can

1861
01:23:14,880 --> 01:23:16,599
Speaker 1: come over whenever he wants.

1862
01:23:16,720 --> 01:23:18,360
Speaker 2: I didn't want to fight with her, so I just

1863
01:23:18,439 --> 01:23:21,040
Speaker 2: said fine. Was I really being a douchebag? Though? Why

1864
01:23:21,160 --> 01:23:24,799
Speaker 2: is that guy always here? There is an update? But uh,

1865
01:23:24,880 --> 01:23:28,519
Speaker 2: he probably just hates this guy. He's smashing his sister. Whatever.

1866
01:23:28,880 --> 01:23:31,200
Speaker 2: He's probably having to hear it too. They're living in

1867
01:23:31,200 --> 01:23:33,960
Speaker 2: the same house. It's like, damn, I hate it when

1868
01:23:34,200 --> 01:23:38,040
Speaker 2: the walls are continuously shaking whatever. This guy's here. It's

1869
01:23:38,080 --> 01:23:41,400
Speaker 2: like I always hear my sister crying and wailing and

1870
01:23:41,439 --> 01:23:43,800
Speaker 2: saying like, oh God, mourning the loss of her brother

1871
01:23:44,000 --> 01:23:45,320
Speaker 2: with him.

1872
01:23:45,439 --> 01:23:47,879
Speaker 1: We're at the end of a recording session. Ladies and gentlemen,

1873
01:23:48,040 --> 01:23:49,240
Speaker 1: all filters are off.

1874
01:23:49,439 --> 01:23:51,639
Speaker 2: You know who else is healthy? His sister.

1875
01:23:52,120 --> 01:23:56,080
Speaker 1: Oh, here we go, glaze to the We had one

1876
01:23:56,120 --> 01:23:56,680
Speaker 1: more for you.

1877
01:23:57,000 --> 01:24:00,519
Speaker 2: Just so you guys know Riley. Our producer aids the

1878
01:24:00,560 --> 01:24:02,879
Speaker 2: word glazed, so he used as much as possible.

1879
01:24:02,960 --> 01:24:05,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, give a comment for Riley. Throw a comment for

1880
01:24:05,800 --> 01:24:06,759
Speaker 1: some support for Riley.

1881
01:24:06,800 --> 01:24:10,480
Speaker 2: Comment is one f in the chat for Riley's sensitive

1882
01:24:10,520 --> 01:24:11,040
Speaker 2: ear holes.

1883
01:24:11,200 --> 01:24:13,720
Speaker 1: Glaze him with your positivity. Okay, we want him to

1884
01:24:13,720 --> 01:24:16,960
Speaker 1: feel supported on this podcast. All right, shall we finish? Yeah,

1885
01:24:16,960 --> 01:24:19,200
Speaker 1: there's an update. Let's see. Let's see it update. Thank

1886
01:24:19,240 --> 01:24:22,120
Speaker 1: you all for the advice. I did end up talking

1887
01:24:22,120 --> 01:24:24,559
Speaker 1: to my dad. He came home and he spoke to

1888
01:24:24,600 --> 01:24:27,479
Speaker 1: my sister's boyfriend. He told the boyfriend that he needs

1889
01:24:27,520 --> 01:24:30,080
Speaker 1: to not come over before eleven in the morning or

1890
01:24:30,160 --> 01:24:32,240
Speaker 1: be here after seven at night. He also told the

1891
01:24:32,280 --> 01:24:35,040
Speaker 1: boyfriend he can't use our kitchen or let himself into

1892
01:24:35,040 --> 01:24:37,040
Speaker 1: the house. He needs to knock to be let in,

1893
01:24:37,200 --> 01:24:39,000
Speaker 1: and when he is hungry, he needs to go home

1894
01:24:39,080 --> 01:24:41,759
Speaker 1: to get food. My dad also put my brother's games

1895
01:24:41,840 --> 01:24:44,439
Speaker 1: in my brother's room and told the boyfriend not to

1896
01:24:44,479 --> 01:24:47,519
Speaker 1: go into anyone's bedroom that he hasn't been invited. My

1897
01:24:47,560 --> 01:24:50,400
Speaker 1: sister is pretty upset about all this, especially the rule

1898
01:24:50,479 --> 01:24:52,759
Speaker 1: saying that he has to leave by seven pm.

1899
01:24:52,880 --> 01:24:55,839
Speaker 2: Oh, I wonder why she's unhappy about that. That's so weird.

1900
01:24:56,240 --> 01:24:59,080
Speaker 2: Imagine what that possibly could be about. They go to

1901
01:24:59,080 --> 01:25:01,320
Speaker 2: book balls. Oh yeah, let's just say those balls are

1902
01:25:01,439 --> 01:25:01,880
Speaker 2: tended to.

1903
01:25:02,040 --> 01:25:03,880
Speaker 1: The thing is like, if you want to throw a

1904
01:25:03,920 --> 01:25:06,200
Speaker 1: good book ball. By the end, is the book ball empty?

1905
01:25:06,240 --> 01:25:08,879
Speaker 2: It is spent. I think they're drained and everything around

1906
01:25:08,960 --> 01:25:09,880
Speaker 2: them are glaced.

1907
01:25:09,960 --> 01:25:13,000
Speaker 1: Woo, one more baby. My dad asked her if he's

1908
01:25:13,040 --> 01:25:16,880
Speaker 1: been sleeping over. She swore up and down that he wasn't.

1909
01:25:17,120 --> 01:25:19,120
Speaker 1: I don't think that's true, but it doesn't matter. My

1910
01:25:19,160 --> 01:25:22,679
Speaker 1: sister's boyfriend was pretty embarrassed and apologized to my dad.

1911
01:25:22,720 --> 01:25:24,960
Speaker 1: The boyfriend said that he didn't realize that he was

1912
01:25:25,000 --> 01:25:27,240
Speaker 1: being a nuisance. My dad said it was fine and

1913
01:25:27,280 --> 01:25:29,160
Speaker 1: gave him a hug. I told him I was sorry

1914
01:25:29,160 --> 01:25:31,160
Speaker 1: that I snapped at him, and we hugged it out too.

1915
01:25:31,240 --> 01:25:31,719
Speaker 2: That's sweet.

1916
01:25:31,760 --> 01:25:34,200
Speaker 1: So I think everyone is good, even though my sister

1917
01:25:34,320 --> 01:25:36,400
Speaker 1: is pissed at me and my dad. My dad said

1918
01:25:36,400 --> 01:25:38,360
Speaker 1: that she will be better off in the long run

1919
01:25:38,439 --> 01:25:40,920
Speaker 1: because if she wants to see her boyfriend outside of.

1920
01:25:40,920 --> 01:25:44,400
Speaker 2: Those hours, she'll have to leave her room. You really

1921
01:25:44,439 --> 01:25:46,760
Speaker 2: want to going out in the town? Oh yeah, what

1922
01:25:46,800 --> 01:25:49,320
Speaker 2: do you need to do inside the room at seven pm? Nothing?

1923
01:25:49,439 --> 01:25:51,320
Speaker 2: Just break it out for me? Oh yeah, Like, what activity,

1924
01:25:51,400 --> 01:25:53,040
Speaker 2: guys is? You just got to go to his room

1925
01:25:53,080 --> 01:25:54,880
Speaker 2: after seven pm? I could see that. One of my

1926
01:25:54,960 --> 01:25:57,960
Speaker 2: friends recently told me that in eighth grade he got

1927
01:25:58,000 --> 01:26:03,240
Speaker 2: a girlfriend and had like blowja every day. Oh oh, man,

1928
01:26:03,560 --> 01:26:05,639
Speaker 2: I was buying bionicles in eighth grade.

1929
01:26:05,920 --> 01:26:09,400
Speaker 1: I was playing Yu yoh in eighth grade?

1930
01:26:10,080 --> 01:26:12,880
Speaker 2: Did he cheat? Or did I catch an sdi from

1931
01:26:12,920 --> 01:26:16,800
Speaker 2: a koala? That's it? That's it. My female twenty seven

1932
01:26:16,920 --> 01:26:19,160
Speaker 2: husband male twenty eight, and I have been together for

1933
01:26:19,280 --> 01:26:22,280
Speaker 2: five years after being friends for most of my teenage years.

1934
01:26:22,320 --> 01:26:25,599
Speaker 2: We have two sons, and this whole story takes place

1935
01:26:25,680 --> 01:26:28,120
Speaker 2: in March of twenty twenty, when I was three months

1936
01:26:28,120 --> 01:26:30,160
Speaker 2: pregnant with my second child. I had gone to my

1937
01:26:30,320 --> 01:26:34,679
Speaker 2: thirteen week scan and something wasn't right. I fully expected

1938
01:26:34,720 --> 01:26:36,960
Speaker 2: the worst, but my GP just said that it could

1939
01:26:37,000 --> 01:26:40,320
Speaker 2: be something on those scans with my fallopient dobe. Nothing

1940
01:26:40,479 --> 01:26:42,479
Speaker 2: was wrong with my baby and I wanted to get

1941
01:26:42,479 --> 01:26:45,360
Speaker 2: some blood and swabs done. The fact that she's pregnant

1942
01:26:45,840 --> 01:26:48,240
Speaker 2: just clicked. How much worse this is gonna mean?

1943
01:26:48,360 --> 01:26:48,599
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1944
01:26:48,600 --> 01:26:51,640
Speaker 2: When the results came back, my GP called me to

1945
01:26:51,720 --> 01:26:54,680
Speaker 2: come in urgently. That's when she showed me that my

1946
01:26:54,800 --> 01:26:59,840
Speaker 2: tests had returned positive for chlamydia. Oh the kala chlamydia,

1947
01:27:00,000 --> 01:27:03,240
Speaker 2: I'll get you. I was shocked, and my GP knew

1948
01:27:03,360 --> 01:27:05,559
Speaker 2: I had been with my husband for years. She was

1949
01:27:05,600 --> 01:27:07,720
Speaker 2: my doctor all the way back when my first son

1950
01:27:07,800 --> 01:27:10,120
Speaker 2: was born. She knew all of our history. She straight

1951
01:27:10,200 --> 01:27:12,479
Speaker 2: up asked me if our relationship was monogamous, and I

1952
01:27:12,560 --> 01:27:17,000
Speaker 2: of course said yes, Who does that leave the suspects

1953
01:27:17,160 --> 01:27:20,759
Speaker 2: are dwindling. She gave me the rundown of treatments and scripts,

1954
01:27:20,800 --> 01:27:22,640
Speaker 2: telling me that my husband would need to come to

1955
01:27:22,680 --> 01:27:25,920
Speaker 2: be tested as well to confirm before he too would

1956
01:27:25,960 --> 01:27:27,800
Speaker 2: likely need treatment. She said all this with a look

1957
01:27:27,840 --> 01:27:30,160
Speaker 2: of pity. She was thinking it. I was thinking of it.

1958
01:27:30,200 --> 01:27:34,559
Speaker 2: My partner had cheated and given me an sddoo. It sucks.

1959
01:27:34,880 --> 01:27:37,439
Speaker 2: I'm furious and heartbroken. But I go home and I

1960
01:27:37,439 --> 01:27:40,439
Speaker 2: took a long shower, I scrubbed myself clean, and then

1961
01:27:40,479 --> 01:27:43,240
Speaker 2: I sit down in our home. Our family photo hung

1962
01:27:43,240 --> 01:27:45,559
Speaker 2: on the wall mocking me, and I call him. He's

1963
01:27:45,560 --> 01:27:48,000
Speaker 2: at work, and I'm crying on the phone, explaining that

1964
01:27:48,000 --> 01:27:50,600
Speaker 2: I've just been to the doctors and gotten results that

1965
01:27:50,680 --> 01:27:53,880
Speaker 2: I'm positive for chlamydia, and I said, how could you

1966
01:27:53,960 --> 01:27:56,760
Speaker 2: do this, you bastard? All the works. I hang up,

1967
01:27:56,800 --> 01:27:58,840
Speaker 2: and he's calling me over and over, but I'm trying

1968
01:27:58,840 --> 01:28:00,800
Speaker 2: to calm down as I have to collect her son

1969
01:28:00,800 --> 01:28:03,040
Speaker 2: from daycare and I still have to put myself together

1970
01:28:03,120 --> 01:28:05,439
Speaker 2: as a mother. Somehow, I ignore his calls and go

1971
01:28:05,520 --> 01:28:08,080
Speaker 2: about my day utterly crushed. I'm giving her son dinner

1972
01:28:08,080 --> 01:28:09,640
Speaker 2: when he comes home. I go to my room and

1973
01:28:09,720 --> 01:28:11,960
Speaker 2: talk to my husband and he's sitting on the bed

1974
01:28:12,120 --> 01:28:14,960
Speaker 2: holding his head crying. I walk over to him and say,

1975
01:28:15,080 --> 01:28:16,680
Speaker 2: I don't know how you could do this to me

1976
01:28:16,840 --> 01:28:19,519
Speaker 2: and our family, but you've given me an sdd and

1977
01:28:19,640 --> 01:28:22,320
Speaker 2: you also need to get tested and take this medication. Man,

1978
01:28:22,360 --> 01:28:24,880
Speaker 2: he seems so innocent, I know, like crying on the bed.

1979
01:28:24,960 --> 01:28:27,760
Speaker 2: He looks at me, eyes red raw, yelling at me

1980
01:28:27,960 --> 01:28:30,519
Speaker 2: that I am a sick and twisted person for cheating

1981
01:28:30,520 --> 01:28:34,320
Speaker 2: on him getting an SDD and then blaming him for it.

1982
01:28:34,360 --> 01:28:36,120
Speaker 2: So there is an update. Okay, what do you think

1983
01:28:36,160 --> 01:28:39,559
Speaker 2: about this reverse udo card that the husband just pulled on?

1984
01:28:39,680 --> 01:28:42,920
Speaker 1: Ope, we have the title, we know about Kalas. Somehow

1985
01:28:43,040 --> 01:28:45,719
Speaker 1: in the mix we see his reverse youner. I think

1986
01:28:45,760 --> 01:28:49,960
Speaker 1: this man is just grasping his cheeks and just pulling

1987
01:28:50,080 --> 01:28:53,040
Speaker 1: out whatever card he can pull out of his.

1988
01:28:52,920 --> 01:28:56,920
Speaker 2: Tight little bit. Dirtiest filthiest, poopiest card, dirtiest filthiest one. Well,

1989
01:28:57,000 --> 01:28:58,880
Speaker 2: let's get into this update and see where this poop

1990
01:28:58,920 --> 01:29:01,360
Speaker 2: card leads us. So my husband thinks I'm the one

1991
01:29:01,360 --> 01:29:04,360
Speaker 2: who has been unfaithful, and I'm just furious. I have

1992
01:29:04,439 --> 01:29:07,439
Speaker 2: never cheated. He cheated. It's a disgusting act to do

1993
01:29:07,600 --> 01:29:09,439
Speaker 2: to someone you love. But he is adamant that he

1994
01:29:09,680 --> 01:29:13,080
Speaker 2: also never strayed. And our argument ends with us waking

1995
01:29:13,160 --> 01:29:15,559
Speaker 2: up our son. So I go to settle him. When

1996
01:29:15,600 --> 01:29:18,160
Speaker 2: I came out, he packed his bag and said he

1997
01:29:18,320 --> 01:29:19,800
Speaker 2: was leaving. He said he was going to stay with

1998
01:29:19,840 --> 01:29:21,600
Speaker 2: his parents for a bit, and he left and I

1999
01:29:21,640 --> 01:29:23,880
Speaker 2: cried all night. The next few weeks were hell. He

2000
01:29:23,960 --> 01:29:27,559
Speaker 2: tested positive, obviously, both of us still accusing each other.

2001
01:29:27,840 --> 01:29:29,280
Speaker 2: It got to the point where I asked if we

2002
01:29:29,280 --> 01:29:31,840
Speaker 2: could separate, because I didn't see how this could be

2003
01:29:31,880 --> 01:29:35,640
Speaker 2: resolved since neither of us would own up man. He

2004
01:29:35,640 --> 01:29:38,080
Speaker 2: said he would tell me the answer if the pregnancy

2005
01:29:38,120 --> 01:29:42,120
Speaker 2: I was caring truly was his after a paternity test. Oh,

2006
01:29:42,560 --> 01:29:45,360
Speaker 2: not to the paternity test. We went and got the test,

2007
01:29:45,439 --> 01:29:47,599
Speaker 2: and of course it was his child. We went to therapy,

2008
01:29:47,680 --> 01:29:50,800
Speaker 2: which never solved anything, and he eventually moved in. So

2009
01:29:50,920 --> 01:29:53,840
Speaker 2: it's more than two and a half years later. Now, whoa,

2010
01:29:53,920 --> 01:29:58,200
Speaker 2: we just skipped. This is the time travel and Adam

2011
01:29:58,280 --> 01:30:02,080
Speaker 2: is scrolling through TikTok when this with Robert Irwin comes on.

2012
01:30:02,200 --> 01:30:04,160
Speaker 2: He was talking about how the biggest threat to the

2013
01:30:04,200 --> 01:30:07,400
Speaker 2: Kuala population is chlemyte. I swear if a light bulb

2014
01:30:07,400 --> 01:30:09,760
Speaker 2: appeared in his head, it would have shone out through

2015
01:30:09,760 --> 01:30:13,240
Speaker 2: his ears, because I saw him start to piece things together.

2016
01:30:13,479 --> 01:30:17,479
Speaker 2: He no has come to the conclusion that he thinks

2017
01:30:17,880 --> 01:30:20,639
Speaker 2: he did give me chlamydia, but it wasn't through cheating

2018
01:30:20,920 --> 01:30:24,400
Speaker 2: on a human. Back in mid to late twenty nineteen,

2019
01:30:24,640 --> 01:30:28,080
Speaker 2: these quaws were just by the side of the road, exhausted.

2020
01:30:28,160 --> 01:30:30,720
Speaker 2: At one point we pulled over and Adam grabbed some

2021
01:30:30,840 --> 01:30:33,280
Speaker 2: water for these poor guys. One of these fellas was

2022
01:30:33,360 --> 01:30:36,000
Speaker 2: so thirsty and exhausted he was just holding on to

2023
01:30:36,120 --> 01:30:39,400
Speaker 2: my partner's arm as he drank. And yes, Adam picked

2024
01:30:39,479 --> 01:30:42,280
Speaker 2: up this koala and gave him a cuddle, and yes,

2025
01:30:42,600 --> 01:30:46,200
Speaker 2: the koala proceeded to pee all over his shirt and arm.

2026
01:30:46,360 --> 01:30:49,040
Speaker 2: Of course, we laughed it off, moved him off the

2027
01:30:49,120 --> 01:30:51,960
Speaker 2: road track and continued on. Now, being a festival in

2028
01:30:52,000 --> 01:30:54,120
Speaker 2: the middle of the bush, there are only showers that

2029
01:30:54,160 --> 01:30:56,479
Speaker 2: you pay for. We were not planning on using it

2030
01:30:56,520 --> 01:30:59,280
Speaker 2: to shower until the last day. He'd taken off the shirt,

2031
01:30:59,439 --> 01:31:01,719
Speaker 2: washed his hands with bottled water, and then we arrived

2032
01:31:01,760 --> 01:31:04,240
Speaker 2: and set up camp and went to party and forgot

2033
01:31:04,280 --> 01:31:08,639
Speaker 2: all about the koala completely. Over those days we had

2034
01:31:08,720 --> 01:31:11,400
Speaker 2: sex a lot. So we go down the rabbit hole

2035
01:31:11,439 --> 01:31:16,120
Speaker 2: of research and find out that yes, you can catch

2036
01:31:16,200 --> 01:31:20,880
Speaker 2: chlamydia from koala's. I am speechless, you can catch chlamydia

2037
01:31:20,920 --> 01:31:26,720
Speaker 2: from koalafe He wasn't lying. Adam is so fast to

2038
01:31:26,760 --> 01:31:29,400
Speaker 2: make an appointment at our GPS office. We showed up

2039
01:31:29,439 --> 01:31:32,880
Speaker 2: and explained everything, and even she agrees with him that yes,

2040
01:31:33,000 --> 01:31:36,479
Speaker 2: it is possible that the SDD could have originated from

2041
01:31:36,560 --> 01:31:39,760
Speaker 2: koala pis. We were completely asymptomatic, so we could have

2042
01:31:39,840 --> 01:31:42,320
Speaker 2: had it from then and it was only detected during

2043
01:31:42,320 --> 01:31:45,439
Speaker 2: the pregnancy. Since finding this out, it's like my husband

2044
01:31:45,439 --> 01:31:48,599
Speaker 2: has changed again. He's back to the loving, affectionate, caring

2045
01:31:48,600 --> 01:31:51,760
Speaker 2: man he was before the started. He's accepted this explanation

2046
01:31:51,920 --> 01:31:54,080
Speaker 2: so easily. And now how do I wrap my head

2047
01:31:54,080 --> 01:31:56,320
Speaker 2: around the fact that my husband did in fact give

2048
01:31:56,320 --> 01:32:00,479
Speaker 2: me chlamydia but from a koala And John there is update?

2049
01:32:00,680 --> 01:32:03,559
Speaker 2: Oh my god, there's more there is? How can there

2050
01:32:03,640 --> 01:32:06,439
Speaker 2: be more? So far, it looks like we have a happy,

2051
01:32:06,640 --> 01:32:10,400
Speaker 2: happily ever after, But John, it gets worse. I sat

2052
01:32:10,520 --> 01:32:13,240
Speaker 2: my husband down last evening and we spoke about how

2053
01:32:13,280 --> 01:32:15,719
Speaker 2: I'm feeling now that we know the truth. I talked

2054
01:32:15,840 --> 01:32:18,919
Speaker 2: about how much pain I've been through with him accusing

2055
01:32:18,960 --> 01:32:21,800
Speaker 2: me and vice versa, and I apologize for my pardon things,

2056
01:32:21,880 --> 01:32:24,040
Speaker 2: told him how much I loved him and how happy

2057
01:32:24,080 --> 01:32:26,400
Speaker 2: I was to finally put this to rest. Now we

2058
01:32:26,560 --> 01:32:28,880
Speaker 2: know that there is nothing between us. And then he

2059
01:32:28,960 --> 01:32:31,600
Speaker 2: starts fidgeting and getting upset, and then he tells me

2060
01:32:31,840 --> 01:32:34,920
Speaker 2: that actually he did cheat. Yep, I know, but he

2061
01:32:34,960 --> 01:32:36,880
Speaker 2: still didn't give me the STD. He says. In the

2062
01:32:36,920 --> 01:32:39,680
Speaker 2: months after finding out, yes, our relationship was in a

2063
01:32:39,720 --> 01:32:42,080
Speaker 2: really bad place. When he wasn't living at home at

2064
01:32:42,080 --> 01:32:44,240
Speaker 2: the time, he went out and had a one night

2065
01:32:44,280 --> 01:32:46,479
Speaker 2: stand with a girl from a pub in the town over.

2066
01:32:46,600 --> 01:32:50,559
Speaker 2: He explained that he genuinely believed that I cheated. Wow,

2067
01:32:50,600 --> 01:32:52,760
Speaker 2: and after a few drinks he decided he was going

2068
01:32:52,800 --> 01:32:54,880
Speaker 2: to end things with me, so he went ahead with

2069
01:32:54,960 --> 01:32:57,479
Speaker 2: sleeping with this girl. It was his way of going

2070
01:32:57,520 --> 01:33:00,280
Speaker 2: tit for tat. Cheating is a deal breaker for me,

2071
01:33:00,400 --> 01:33:03,680
Speaker 2: and I never slept with anyone. I never considered it

2072
01:33:03,760 --> 01:33:06,080
Speaker 2: a payback tip for tap move against him, So why

2073
01:33:06,120 --> 01:33:08,439
Speaker 2: did he do that to me? I'm heartbroken and part

2074
01:33:08,439 --> 01:33:10,479
Speaker 2: of me wishes we could go back to where before

2075
01:33:10,760 --> 01:33:13,040
Speaker 2: all this happened. I can't break up my family.

2076
01:33:13,120 --> 01:33:16,040
Speaker 1: We have two kids, two dogs, two cats, two cars,

2077
01:33:16,080 --> 01:33:16,920
Speaker 1: and a house together.

2078
01:33:17,040 --> 01:33:19,040
Speaker 2: It would be a mess. I don't know how to

2079
01:33:19,080 --> 01:33:21,080
Speaker 2: take this on now. He could have told me this

2080
01:33:21,240 --> 01:33:23,400
Speaker 2: six months ago when we first found out about this

2081
01:33:23,439 --> 01:33:26,519
Speaker 2: new possibility, but he didn't. He waited until I poured

2082
01:33:26,560 --> 01:33:29,200
Speaker 2: my heart out to him in an apology to dump

2083
01:33:29,400 --> 01:33:31,760
Speaker 2: me with this confession. I guess I'll take a few

2084
01:33:31,800 --> 01:33:35,880
Speaker 2: days to process and then decide things, but I'll probably stay.

2085
01:33:36,040 --> 01:33:37,960
Speaker 2: I love him so much. Even though this has broken

2086
01:33:38,000 --> 01:33:40,320
Speaker 2: a little part of me I just found again. Oh well,

2087
01:33:40,680 --> 01:33:43,840
Speaker 2: life will go on, right. I feel like I have

2088
01:33:43,960 --> 01:33:46,240
Speaker 2: not been on this emotional rollercoaster on his story in

2089
01:33:46,280 --> 01:33:49,520
Speaker 2: a long time, right. I don't know if I necessarily

2090
01:33:49,600 --> 01:33:51,800
Speaker 2: really blame the dude for the one night stand, because

2091
01:33:51,800 --> 01:33:55,160
Speaker 2: it sounds like when they parted ways it was like over.

2092
01:33:55,439 --> 01:33:57,559
Speaker 1: Just the fact that he used it as revenge is

2093
01:33:57,600 --> 01:34:00,600
Speaker 1: like way out. It's whack and hurtful, super like you

2094
01:34:00,640 --> 01:34:02,519
Speaker 1: know what. Like he goes to his parents' house, He's like, man,

2095
01:34:02,560 --> 01:34:04,679
Speaker 1: I really need to like maybe meet some other people,

2096
01:34:04,840 --> 01:34:08,040
Speaker 1: and like, you know, like I almost feel like that could.

2097
01:34:07,800 --> 01:34:10,840
Speaker 2: Have been not as bad in a way, it was

2098
01:34:10,880 --> 01:34:13,240
Speaker 2: so vengeful. Before we jump into this next story, One

2099
01:34:13,360 --> 01:34:16,400
Speaker 2: question for the audience, have you had Colia tell us

2100
01:34:16,439 --> 01:34:17,160
Speaker 2: your stories?

2101
01:34:17,320 --> 01:34:19,880
Speaker 1: My homophobic neighbor is trying to evict me for boning

2102
01:34:19,880 --> 01:34:22,559
Speaker 1: my gay boyfriend. I told him to pound, saying, because

2103
01:34:22,560 --> 01:34:24,080
Speaker 1: it's all pound whoever I want.

2104
01:34:24,400 --> 01:34:27,880
Speaker 2: I've ahole. That is honestly a beautiful statement. I'll pound

2105
01:34:27,960 --> 01:34:30,559
Speaker 2: whoever I want. You go pound out, saying I want

2106
01:34:30,560 --> 01:34:32,640
Speaker 2: you to like remove a layer of skin trying to

2107
01:34:32,640 --> 01:34:34,559
Speaker 2: pound that sand. I wanted to look like a little

2108
01:34:34,600 --> 01:34:36,479
Speaker 2: like dog wiener, you know, and like the dog winner

2109
01:34:36,560 --> 01:34:38,840
Speaker 2: comes out. It's all like red and like raw looking.

2110
01:34:39,040 --> 01:34:41,439
Speaker 1: I do so a bit of a weird one, so

2111
01:34:41,520 --> 01:34:43,640
Speaker 1: please bear with me. I ran an apartment from a

2112
01:34:43,680 --> 01:34:46,200
Speaker 1: man who lives down the street. It's a nice enough apartment,

2113
01:34:46,280 --> 01:34:48,880
Speaker 1: and up until now I've had very few issues. The

2114
01:34:49,000 --> 01:34:54,480
Speaker 1: problem is he's rather conservative and I am rather fabulous.

2115
01:34:54,640 --> 01:34:55,040
Speaker 2: SKay.

2116
01:34:55,280 --> 01:34:57,640
Speaker 1: Once he found out that my boyfriend wasn't just a

2117
01:34:57,680 --> 01:34:59,640
Speaker 1: friend who spent a lot of time with me, he

2118
01:34:59,760 --> 01:35:04,760
Speaker 1: tried to bar him from coming over, literally and figuratively.

2119
01:35:04,960 --> 01:35:07,800
Speaker 1: I told him to pound sand, as the saying goes,

2120
01:35:08,160 --> 01:35:09,160
Speaker 1: love it, God to love it.

2121
01:35:09,600 --> 01:35:09,880
Speaker 2: Now.

2122
01:35:09,920 --> 01:35:13,400
Speaker 1: He sent me a letter stating that effective immediately, there

2123
01:35:13,439 --> 01:35:16,240
Speaker 1: shall be a two hundred and fifty dollars fine.

2124
01:35:16,160 --> 01:35:21,000
Speaker 2: Every time what every time? What? Mmmm mmm? Quote?

2125
01:35:21,080 --> 01:35:24,360
Speaker 1: I commit the sin of homosexuality in my apartment.

2126
01:35:24,439 --> 01:35:26,600
Speaker 2: This guy is about to go down. This is a

2127
01:35:26,640 --> 01:35:30,320
Speaker 2: blessing in disguise. You have receipts and a lawsuit. This

2128
01:35:30,400 --> 01:35:34,800
Speaker 2: is great news. OPI homophobia pays to dah.

2129
01:35:34,880 --> 01:35:37,960
Speaker 1: If I refuse to sign the addendum, he claims that

2130
01:35:38,040 --> 01:35:40,600
Speaker 1: he will file to evict me due to breach of

2131
01:35:40,640 --> 01:35:44,320
Speaker 1: the lease, specifically the clause that the premise shall not

2132
01:35:44,360 --> 01:35:46,520
Speaker 1: be used for illegal activity.

2133
01:35:46,680 --> 01:35:48,360
Speaker 2: How is that illegal? My man?

2134
01:35:48,520 --> 01:35:51,599
Speaker 1: Not only is he backwards in many ways, he just

2135
01:35:51,640 --> 01:35:54,360
Speaker 1: needs to talk to a lawyer. He cites the Massachusetts

2136
01:35:54,360 --> 01:35:59,400
Speaker 1: state Code that criminalizes fornication, sex outside of marriage, and

2137
01:35:59,560 --> 01:36:04,600
Speaker 1: crime against good nature, which he insists means homosexual relations.

2138
01:36:04,680 --> 01:36:07,720
Speaker 1: The statue does not define it any further than that.

2139
01:36:07,960 --> 01:36:11,200
Speaker 1: I look them up and they are evidently real crimes.

2140
01:36:11,439 --> 01:36:14,400
Speaker 1: I know they're not enforceable by any stretch, but have

2141
01:36:14,720 --> 01:36:19,000
Speaker 1: I technically done illegal activity in my apartment? I really

2142
01:36:19,040 --> 01:36:23,080
Speaker 1: don't want to move early, lay Opie. There's no way, no,

2143
01:36:23,240 --> 01:36:26,160
Speaker 1: you have such a countersuit at least started in September,

2144
01:36:26,320 --> 01:36:28,800
Speaker 1: or have an eviction on my record. I know this

2145
01:36:28,840 --> 01:36:31,360
Speaker 1: seems absolutely silly, but the fact that they are still

2146
01:36:31,400 --> 01:36:33,639
Speaker 1: technically crimes in the book gives me.

2147
01:36:33,600 --> 01:36:34,320
Speaker 2: A little pause.

2148
01:36:34,520 --> 01:36:36,680
Speaker 1: Do I need to take this seriously or can I

2149
01:36:36,760 --> 01:36:40,120
Speaker 1: start coming up with more ways to say? Pound Sand?

2150
01:36:40,360 --> 01:36:42,559
Speaker 1: What should I do if he tries to take any

2151
01:36:42,600 --> 01:36:45,000
Speaker 1: further actions? To sue him so much?

2152
01:36:45,080 --> 01:36:49,640
Speaker 2: This is discrimination right easily? Yes? On multiple grounds? Is

2153
01:36:49,640 --> 01:36:50,120
Speaker 2: that the end?

2154
01:36:50,240 --> 01:36:50,320
Speaker 1: No?

2155
01:36:50,560 --> 01:36:52,720
Speaker 2: We have an update, all right, let's hear it.

2156
01:36:52,800 --> 01:36:54,880
Speaker 1: So, first of all, I just wanted to say, wow,

2157
01:36:55,040 --> 01:36:57,640
Speaker 1: the amount of support I've received, both in replies and

2158
01:36:57,680 --> 01:37:02,040
Speaker 1: in personal messages was absolutely amazing. Reddick community common in

2159
01:37:02,360 --> 01:37:06,920
Speaker 1: hot but everything from fantastic advice to hilarious commentary. The

2160
01:37:06,960 --> 01:37:09,360
Speaker 1: person who said Sand is a weird name for a

2161
01:37:09,400 --> 01:37:11,000
Speaker 1: guy had me in stitches.

2162
01:37:11,080 --> 01:37:11,439
Speaker 2: That's it.

2163
01:37:11,560 --> 01:37:14,000
Speaker 1: I feel like people assumed a much worse picture of

2164
01:37:14,000 --> 01:37:16,519
Speaker 1: my landlord, people telling me to buy cameras, et cetera.

2165
01:37:16,680 --> 01:37:19,920
Speaker 1: He's a nice enough person but has some very problematic views.

2166
01:37:20,040 --> 01:37:23,080
Speaker 1: He grew up rural Arkansas, I think that or Alabama,

2167
01:37:23,160 --> 01:37:25,040
Speaker 1: and came to Massachusetts later in life.

2168
01:37:25,080 --> 01:37:25,759
Speaker 2: This was his.

2169
01:37:25,680 --> 01:37:28,360
Speaker 1: First time being a landlord, so he still has this

2170
01:37:28,479 --> 01:37:31,280
Speaker 1: idea in his head that it is his house, so

2171
01:37:31,439 --> 01:37:31,920
Speaker 1: to speak.

2172
01:37:32,080 --> 01:37:34,760
Speaker 2: Oh man, but he doesn't know what he's about to

2173
01:37:34,760 --> 01:37:37,879
Speaker 2: be hit with, about to be hit with all the laws.

2174
01:37:38,040 --> 01:37:40,040
Speaker 2: I mean if ope you wanted. I hope you wanted.

2175
01:37:40,080 --> 01:37:41,960
Speaker 2: I hope you could own that house by the end

2176
01:37:42,000 --> 01:37:42,760
Speaker 2: of the day.

2177
01:37:43,080 --> 01:37:45,960
Speaker 1: Literally, that coupled with the fact that up until now

2178
01:37:46,040 --> 01:37:48,840
Speaker 1: he's avoided even talking with people who are openly gay,

2179
01:37:49,000 --> 01:37:51,040
Speaker 1: led to a lot of vigdorance. I know some of

2180
01:37:51,080 --> 01:37:54,599
Speaker 1: you were hoping I'd screw him over for all he's worth,

2181
01:37:54,800 --> 01:37:56,840
Speaker 1: or torment him with daily updates of.

2182
01:37:56,800 --> 01:37:57,920
Speaker 2: My gay agenda.

2183
01:37:58,080 --> 01:38:00,680
Speaker 1: But alas, I've decided to take the call approach, and

2184
01:38:00,720 --> 01:38:03,000
Speaker 1: it seemed to work. Yesterday I sat down with him

2185
01:38:03,080 --> 01:38:06,120
Speaker 1: and first laid out the various information that you guys

2186
01:38:06,160 --> 01:38:10,519
Speaker 1: helped me find, everything from sexual orientation being a protected class,

2187
01:38:10,600 --> 01:38:13,360
Speaker 1: trouble damages, and the fact that those old laws are

2188
01:38:13,400 --> 01:38:18,479
Speaker 1: one hundred percent completely unenforceable. And he realized very quickly

2189
01:38:18,760 --> 01:38:22,160
Speaker 1: that he was in the wrong, and he fucked up bad.

2190
01:38:22,760 --> 01:38:25,600
Speaker 1: He also admitted that even he didn't know what he

2191
01:38:25,680 --> 01:38:28,720
Speaker 1: defined as the sin of homosexuality.

2192
01:38:28,880 --> 01:38:31,040
Speaker 2: Now you're not sure what you mean, Like, oh, I'm

2193
01:38:31,040 --> 01:38:34,840
Speaker 2: so confused by what I just said, hopefully not enforceable

2194
01:38:34,840 --> 01:38:36,880
Speaker 2: in the court of law. How do you define these

2195
01:38:36,960 --> 01:38:40,120
Speaker 2: random collection of sounds that escape my maup? Please just

2196
01:38:40,120 --> 01:38:41,360
Speaker 2: don't define them. Yeah, don't.

2197
01:38:41,400 --> 01:38:43,960
Speaker 1: What's not Let me just like you know, retreat to

2198
01:38:44,000 --> 01:38:46,679
Speaker 1: my house and you don't go to court, or how

2199
01:38:46,720 --> 01:38:49,439
Speaker 1: he would enforce the fine. He just had a knee

2200
01:38:49,520 --> 01:38:52,639
Speaker 1: jerk reaction to the shocking news. We ended up chatting

2201
01:38:52,640 --> 01:38:55,040
Speaker 1: for about two hours then, and it started with me

2202
01:38:55,120 --> 01:38:57,920
Speaker 1: dispelling a lot of misconceptions about gays. Some of his

2203
01:38:58,040 --> 01:39:00,960
Speaker 1: notions were comically bad, Like if I weren't having the

2204
01:39:01,000 --> 01:39:03,880
Speaker 1: conversation with him, I'd think he were a caricature.

2205
01:39:03,920 --> 01:39:04,479
Speaker 2: He's a lot.

2206
01:39:04,360 --> 01:39:06,960
Speaker 1: Older than me, and his kids recently moved across the

2207
01:39:07,000 --> 01:39:09,280
Speaker 1: country and he was renting out their house for him,

2208
01:39:09,360 --> 01:39:11,479
Speaker 1: so I think he had some notions of being a

2209
01:39:11,680 --> 01:39:14,760
Speaker 1: father figure to me and thinking he could lay down

2210
01:39:14,840 --> 01:39:20,000
Speaker 1: the law or set me straight. Yikes Ooo, buddy, Wow.

2211
01:39:20,160 --> 01:39:23,840
Speaker 1: He seemed genuine and seemed to be legitimately concerned for

2212
01:39:24,000 --> 01:39:26,559
Speaker 1: me and my soul. I reminded him to hate the

2213
01:39:26,640 --> 01:39:29,679
Speaker 1: sin and not the sinner, and that seems to resonate

2214
01:39:29,720 --> 01:39:32,920
Speaker 1: with him. He still doesn't agree with homosexuality or my lifestyle,

2215
01:39:33,040 --> 01:39:35,080
Speaker 1: but he's willing to accept it. He seemed to be

2216
01:39:35,160 --> 01:39:38,040
Speaker 1: earnestly trying, and in my mind, that counts for a

2217
01:39:38,080 --> 01:39:40,959
Speaker 1: lot he agreed to write both me and my boyfriend

2218
01:39:41,000 --> 01:39:43,479
Speaker 1: a letter of apology, which I will be keeping copies

2219
01:39:43,479 --> 01:39:45,439
Speaker 1: of in case this matter does come up again and

2220
01:39:45,520 --> 01:39:47,200
Speaker 1: needs to go to court. The past few days have

2221
01:39:47,240 --> 01:39:49,479
Speaker 1: been super stressful, but it seems to be resolved. If

2222
01:39:49,520 --> 01:39:52,599
Speaker 1: things go well, I might even potentially renew the release

2223
01:39:52,720 --> 01:39:55,680
Speaker 1: come September. It'll still be on guard for any shenanigans,

2224
01:39:55,720 --> 01:39:57,679
Speaker 1: but I think I'll leave the issue where it lies now.

2225
01:39:57,760 --> 01:39:58,559
Speaker 2: If this was all a.

2226
01:39:58,640 --> 01:40:01,960
Speaker 1: Ruse or him backpedaling, I'll go at him with everything

2227
01:40:02,040 --> 01:40:05,040
Speaker 1: I can in the future, but for now, I'm satisfied.

2228
01:40:05,120 --> 01:40:08,200
Speaker 1: I'm truly appreciative for all the people who offered advice

2229
01:40:08,280 --> 01:40:13,120
Speaker 1: and moral and moral support in the original thread. Wow wow,

2230
01:40:13,439 --> 01:40:16,240
Speaker 1: wow man, some good stories in this session.

2231
01:40:16,320 --> 01:40:19,840
Speaker 2: Sounds like the guy became a little less homophobic, not completely,

2232
01:40:19,960 --> 01:40:20,879
Speaker 2: but a little.

2233
01:40:20,720 --> 01:40:22,720
Speaker 1: Less Tire's the thing, Like, Okay, there was kind of

2234
01:40:22,720 --> 01:40:24,519
Speaker 1: two paths, right. There was one path, which is go

2235
01:40:24,560 --> 01:40:26,400
Speaker 1: to the court and sue him out of his brain hole,

2236
01:40:26,439 --> 01:40:27,439
Speaker 1: which I like that path.

2237
01:40:27,520 --> 01:40:30,680
Speaker 2: That's a fun path. That's a mega million doesn't love money, Yeah, right.

2238
01:40:30,760 --> 01:40:32,920
Speaker 2: It's like when Michael kisses Oscar in the office and

2239
01:40:32,920 --> 01:40:35,200
Speaker 2: then he gets like a new car, and then Oscar's like,

2240
01:40:35,240 --> 01:40:37,080
Speaker 2: you know what. Part of me wants them to learn

2241
01:40:37,120 --> 01:40:39,719
Speaker 2: their lesson, but part of me wants to say, keep talking.

2242
01:40:39,800 --> 01:40:42,360
Speaker 2: I want a home theater. Sometimes it pays to be gay.

2243
01:40:42,479 --> 01:40:45,160
Speaker 2: They haven great recall. I've also watched The Office like

2244
01:40:45,240 --> 01:40:46,639
Speaker 2: a thousand times. There you go.

2245
01:40:46,800 --> 01:40:49,720
Speaker 1: I think, what's like so incredible about this is like

2246
01:40:49,760 --> 01:40:52,080
Speaker 1: he's like, Okay, let me sit down and actually have

2247
01:40:52,120 --> 01:40:53,120
Speaker 1: a conversation with.

2248
01:40:53,160 --> 01:40:55,720
Speaker 2: Him, like almost use it as a learning opportunity, very

2249
01:40:55,800 --> 01:40:56,080
Speaker 2: much so.

2250
01:40:56,360 --> 01:41:00,519
Speaker 1: And how much this guy grew and learned and understood

2251
01:41:00,600 --> 01:41:03,200
Speaker 1: in that conversation is immense, and it's so easy, it's

2252
01:41:03,240 --> 01:41:04,639
Speaker 1: so easy to write him off.

2253
01:41:04,680 --> 01:41:08,640
Speaker 2: I think OP did the most angelic thing that they

2254
01:41:08,680 --> 01:41:11,599
Speaker 2: could have done. So props to UOP for, you know,

2255
01:41:11,640 --> 01:41:14,080
Speaker 2: making one person a little less homophobic.

2256
01:41:14,200 --> 01:41:16,960
Speaker 1: That's right, have fun pounding whoever you want, Op, Yeah,

2257
01:41:17,120 --> 01:41:18,080
Speaker 1: pound away.

2258
01:41:18,560 --> 01:41:20,439
Speaker 2: But what we want to hear right now? Oh God,

2259
01:41:20,600 --> 01:41:24,639
Speaker 2: please click ay clack in your keyboards your worst landlord stories.

2260
01:41:24,840 --> 01:41:27,760
Speaker 2: I'm sure there's a lot, so many. I don't they

2261
01:41:27,800 --> 01:41:30,280
Speaker 2: have good landlord stories. My last landlord would tell us

2262
01:41:30,320 --> 01:41:33,200
Speaker 2: stories about like him going over to like Vietnam and

2263
01:41:33,240 --> 01:41:35,080
Speaker 2: like it was actually weird. But he would tell us

2264
01:41:35,120 --> 01:41:37,920
Speaker 2: stories about like how he would get happy endings in Vietnam.

2265
01:41:38,000 --> 01:41:40,400
Speaker 2: I feel like they could go in the the other category,

2266
01:41:40,439 --> 01:41:41,840
Speaker 2: if the choice is in the eye of the But

2267
01:41:41,960 --> 01:41:44,320
Speaker 2: he was funny while he was telling those stories. He

2268
01:41:44,400 --> 01:41:46,960
Speaker 2: is a comedian. Hope he's okay. He was severely overweight.

2269
01:41:47,000 --> 01:41:48,720
Speaker 2: Hopefully he doesn't have the clapp Yeah, we know the

2270
01:41:48,760 --> 01:41:51,000
Speaker 2: man does have the clap. The stories he told definitely

2271
01:41:51,040 --> 01:41:53,679
Speaker 2: has the class. Well, let's get into this next story.

2272
01:41:53,720 --> 01:41:56,600
Speaker 2: So clap away boom. My ex wanted to take my

2273
01:41:56,760 --> 01:42:00,439
Speaker 2: service dog for his ADHD, so I dumped. Am I

2274
01:42:00,520 --> 01:42:01,000
Speaker 2: the a hole.

2275
01:42:01,120 --> 01:42:03,160
Speaker 1: This man wants the dog to do his homework. The

2276
01:42:03,160 --> 01:42:04,280
Speaker 1: dog is just gonna eat his homework.

2277
01:42:04,280 --> 01:42:06,240
Speaker 2: I don't know if the problems that you want solved

2278
01:42:06,280 --> 01:42:08,679
Speaker 2: are going to be solved, but you'll have fun while

2279
01:42:08,760 --> 01:42:11,880
Speaker 2: not solving that. Now, that is true. Service Dogs for ADHD.

2280
01:42:12,000 --> 01:42:15,080
Speaker 2: Brought to you by Mayor Samuel Donner. Yeah. This is from.

2281
01:42:14,880 --> 01:42:17,720
Speaker 1: YouTube subscriber Star Wars one. Awaight, hey, shout out of

2282
01:42:17,720 --> 01:42:19,439
Speaker 1: Star Wars. I've seen a few comments from you. Okay,

2283
01:42:19,520 --> 01:42:22,200
Speaker 1: so let me tell you about my ex. F. I'll

2284
01:42:22,200 --> 01:42:24,560
Speaker 1: be honest. F was a rebound after I had my

2285
01:42:24,640 --> 01:42:25,200
Speaker 1: heart broken.

2286
01:42:25,479 --> 01:42:28,280
Speaker 2: Yikes. Yeah, F was already getting cooked right now. That

2287
01:42:28,439 --> 01:42:30,840
Speaker 2: was mistake number one. F was eighteen at the time

2288
01:42:30,880 --> 01:42:33,040
Speaker 2: and I had recently turned twenty, so I wasn't thinking

2289
01:42:33,080 --> 01:42:34,960
Speaker 2: of an age gap very much. I was still living

2290
01:42:34,960 --> 01:42:37,120
Speaker 2: with my parents and F decided to run away from

2291
01:42:37,160 --> 01:42:39,280
Speaker 2: a home, so my parents allowed them to stay in

2292
01:42:39,320 --> 01:42:41,280
Speaker 2: the spare room for the time being. Thing, that's a

2293
01:42:41,320 --> 01:42:43,920
Speaker 2: crazy situation, already running away from home. I got myself

2294
01:42:43,960 --> 01:42:45,719
Speaker 2: a job working the night shift at a gas station,

2295
01:42:45,800 --> 01:42:47,400
Speaker 2: and I helped them find a job at a different

2296
01:42:47,439 --> 01:42:49,720
Speaker 2: gas station on the day shift. Here's where the red

2297
01:42:49,720 --> 01:42:51,920
Speaker 2: flag started. F would schedule for us to be at

2298
01:42:51,920 --> 01:42:54,559
Speaker 2: social events without taking into consideration that I had an

2299
01:42:54,600 --> 01:42:57,360
Speaker 2: odd sleep schedule because of the night shift, which led

2300
01:42:57,360 --> 01:42:59,960
Speaker 2: to multiple instances of ME having to drive long DISTA

2301
01:43:00,000 --> 01:43:02,800
Speaker 2: distances while exhausted, which is never good for safety. If

2302
01:43:02,840 --> 01:43:05,320
Speaker 2: you've seen my other comments, you'll know that I'm disabled

2303
01:43:05,400 --> 01:43:11,120
Speaker 2: and have pots and fibromyalgia, piromyalgia, I believe, okay, muscle

2304
01:43:11,160 --> 01:43:15,479
Speaker 2: skeletal pain, heart issues, and muscle skeletal pain. So the

2305
01:43:15,520 --> 01:43:18,679
Speaker 2: symptoms had recently started becoming worse and I was fainting

2306
01:43:18,680 --> 01:43:21,320
Speaker 2: more frequently and having trouble walking and standing, and this

2307
01:43:21,400 --> 01:43:24,280
Speaker 2: dude was just planning a whole social calendar. Can we

2308
01:43:24,320 --> 01:43:27,920
Speaker 2: go to a head banging concert? I fucking love de broll.

2309
01:43:28,160 --> 01:43:30,800
Speaker 2: There was one day where they insisted they needed my

2310
01:43:31,000 --> 01:43:33,920
Speaker 2: cane and took it without asking, and then kept leaving

2311
01:43:34,000 --> 01:43:36,479
Speaker 2: it at random places where I couldn't get to it.

2312
01:43:36,520 --> 01:43:39,120
Speaker 2: When I mentioned looking to getting a service dog for myself,

2313
01:43:39,160 --> 01:43:42,080
Speaker 2: they asked me if my dog could help with their ADHD.

2314
01:43:42,280 --> 01:43:45,640
Speaker 2: If you know anything about service dogs, you know that's absurd.

2315
01:43:45,800 --> 01:43:47,720
Speaker 2: But if you don't, service dogs are trained for the

2316
01:43:47,720 --> 01:43:50,519
Speaker 2: specific needs of one disabled person, and there really isn't

2317
01:43:50,520 --> 01:43:53,600
Speaker 2: any task a dog could perform that would help with ADHD.

2318
01:43:54,040 --> 01:43:57,160
Speaker 2: During one of these social outings thirty miles from my house,

2319
01:43:57,200 --> 01:43:58,720
Speaker 2: I didn't really want to attend, but I was the

2320
01:43:58,760 --> 01:44:01,639
Speaker 2: only one that could drive. Ended up having a fainting episode.

2321
01:44:01,680 --> 01:44:03,439
Speaker 2: I guess in the car. For me, all that needs

2322
01:44:03,439 --> 01:44:05,240
Speaker 2: to be done is wake me up, give me some water,

2323
01:44:05,280 --> 01:44:06,840
Speaker 2: give me a few minutes to recover, and I'll be

2324
01:44:06,880 --> 01:44:10,759
Speaker 2: completely fine again. F freaked out and got an ambulance called,

2325
01:44:10,800 --> 01:44:12,600
Speaker 2: and I ended up with my scara stains on my

2326
01:44:12,680 --> 01:44:15,160
Speaker 2: legs because F could do nothing but cry in my

2327
01:44:15,280 --> 01:44:18,040
Speaker 2: lap instead of just shaking me and finding me a drink.

2328
01:44:18,160 --> 01:44:20,599
Speaker 2: All this came to a head when F got neon

2329
01:44:20,720 --> 01:44:23,720
Speaker 2: purple hair dye all over the bathroom. It was like

2330
01:44:23,800 --> 01:44:27,000
Speaker 2: a unicorn exploded and left it there for hours, standing

2331
01:44:27,000 --> 01:44:30,280
Speaker 2: in the countertops, walls, door, floor, rug, and bathtub. And

2332
01:44:30,360 --> 01:44:33,960
Speaker 2: instead of apologizing, F screamed at my mother and slammed

2333
01:44:33,960 --> 01:44:35,800
Speaker 2: the door. They're letting F stay in the house, in

2334
01:44:35,880 --> 01:44:38,960
Speaker 2: their house, slam the door interface before walking out of

2335
01:44:39,040 --> 01:44:42,040
Speaker 2: the house after dark, and pajama shore facetiming with God

2336
01:44:42,080 --> 01:44:44,400
Speaker 2: only knows who. That was the end, and my parents

2337
01:44:44,439 --> 01:44:47,479
Speaker 2: had me tell them to find another living arrangements. They

2338
01:44:47,520 --> 01:44:49,160
Speaker 2: were sort of in charge of my friend group, so

2339
01:44:49,200 --> 01:44:51,160
Speaker 2: I ended up losing a good number of friends, but

2340
01:44:51,240 --> 01:44:53,160
Speaker 2: they all turned out to be assholes anyway. I'm so

2341
01:44:53,280 --> 01:44:55,200
Speaker 2: glad that F is out of my life, and I

2342
01:44:55,200 --> 01:44:57,800
Speaker 2: feel sorry for the constant string of x's they've had

2343
01:44:57,840 --> 01:45:00,519
Speaker 2: since we broke up three years ago. Talk sis can

2344
01:45:00,600 --> 01:45:01,000
Speaker 2: never be.

2345
01:45:01,000 --> 01:45:07,400
Speaker 1: Lonely, man star Rows, You and your family did so

2346
01:45:07,640 --> 01:45:11,360
Speaker 1: much for FM. Honestly, not that way, but you know,

2347
01:45:11,439 --> 01:45:13,920
Speaker 1: like let life f them and everyone else.

2348
01:45:14,200 --> 01:45:16,000
Speaker 2: That's what I'm talking about. I guess I want to

2349
01:45:16,040 --> 01:45:18,880
Speaker 2: hear your worst relationship stories in the commons and shout

2350
01:45:18,880 --> 01:45:20,800
Speaker 2: out to you Starros for dropping your comment.

2351
01:45:20,840 --> 01:45:23,240
Speaker 1: You know, we've been reading a lot more stories from

2352
01:45:23,280 --> 01:45:26,479
Speaker 1: our audience here on YouTube, so yeah, definitely share your stories.

2353
01:45:26,520 --> 01:45:28,640
Speaker 2: We might just read them, show them all right, we'll

2354
01:45:28,640 --> 01:45:28,920
Speaker 2: see so