WEBVTT - Dear Chiquis: I Have a Chisme Question About Your Tía Pita

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<v Speaker 1>your question at the sound of the.

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<v Speaker 2>Beat, My cheeky is I just had a question. So

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know why, but I have a difficult time

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<v Speaker 2>Letty and my boyfriend take care of me. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>he does have a really good job. He obviously makes

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<v Speaker 2>more than me. But I just feel bad asking him

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<v Speaker 2>for help when I need help financially, or even allowing

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<v Speaker 2>him to pay for things that I mean, he obviously

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<v Speaker 2>could pay for. I don't know what to do about it,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's kind of getting to the point where it's

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<v Speaker 2>kind of bothering him that I don't allow him to

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<v Speaker 2>help me. But I don't know. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 2>it's like the independent woman in me or I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know why I feel like that. I just need some

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<v Speaker 2>advice because I feel like I'm getting out of hand.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you, love you by oh.

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<v Speaker 1>Mama Sif I get you, I understand it is for

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<v Speaker 1>sure that whole independent I got this, I could do

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<v Speaker 1>it myself. Thing that is good, but if it goes

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<v Speaker 1>too far, it can be bad, especially with the man.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm telling you this from personal experience. A man

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<v Speaker 1>wants to take care of his woman. Mind you. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if I shared this here, but I can

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<v Speaker 1>pay for my own nils when I go get my nails,

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<v Speaker 1>and I love getting my nils done every week. And

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<v Speaker 1>I asked the media the other day. I was like, Babe,

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<v Speaker 1>can you please send me some like through cash app.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have any more money in my cash app

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<v Speaker 1>and he said, yeah, what do you need And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to get my nails done and I just

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<v Speaker 1>want to have money in there, and he was like, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>of course, and he sent me money and it made

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<v Speaker 1>him feel so good. Mind you, I make money, I'm good,

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<v Speaker 1>but it makes them feel needed and wanted and you

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<v Speaker 1>have to feed that in him, because a man needs that.

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<v Speaker 1>He knows you got it. He loves you. He knows

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<v Speaker 1>you're an independent woman. He knows that, but he also

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<v Speaker 1>wants to feel my woman needs me, like I want

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<v Speaker 1>to take care of her. It also could be an

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<v Speaker 1>insecurity of yours that you're like, if I take, if

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<v Speaker 1>I take, and then it doesn't work, and he's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>throw it in my face. You gro We got to

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<v Speaker 1>get that out of our head because it does is

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<v Speaker 1>no good. They get it. They then you have to

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<v Speaker 1>allow him. Just let him ask him like can I

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<v Speaker 1>have a hundred bucks? Don't say borrow? Can I have

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<v Speaker 1>one hundred dollars? I want to get my nails done

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever I need to pay this bill. He believe me,

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<v Speaker 1>he's he's he's gonna love it. He's gonna love it

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<v Speaker 1>because he knows you're an independent woman. He knows that already.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have to show him that. Let yourself be

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<v Speaker 1>vulnerable and be loved. I promise you it'll make your

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<v Speaker 1>relationship a lot better. We got to feed the king

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<v Speaker 1>and our men. The more you feed that, they feel, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>it gets better. They're like they want to take care

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<v Speaker 1>of you more, try it, let those guards down grow.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the best thing you're gonna be able to do

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<v Speaker 1>for yourself and for that man, for your relationship. Let

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<v Speaker 1>me know how it goes. We're gonna move on to

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<v Speaker 1>the next question. And her name is Raina.

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<v Speaker 3>First to the foremost. I want to say that you

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<v Speaker 3>are my go to girl when I'm at work. I

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<v Speaker 3>listen to you at work when I can. And another

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<v Speaker 3>thing I want to commend you for guando this is

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<v Speaker 3>con dios tolo. I just absolutely love that, and that

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<v Speaker 3>just inspires me and makes me know what kind of

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<v Speaker 3>person you are. You're very genuine and you just give

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<v Speaker 3>me good vibes. I have a cheese my question. I

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<v Speaker 3>know that you're very open to your fans. I want

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<v Speaker 3>to know how you feel about your Tapita and everything

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<v Speaker 3>she has to say about in regards to your family,

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<v Speaker 3>to your mom. Told you Alita because she's said some

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<v Speaker 3>manner stuff. That's what I want to know. But take

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<v Speaker 3>care and I'll still keep on listening to you. Okay. Bye.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, Raina, you are so cute. I love

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<v Speaker 1>your question. I love how you started off. Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>so much, grateful and grateful to have you here. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so my theia beat them. I don't talk to her

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<v Speaker 1>a lot when I see her. She's gone on my

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<v Speaker 1>concerts without ever asking me for a ticket. She buys

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<v Speaker 1>her own tickets, her books, all my merch like. She's

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<v Speaker 1>very supportive of my career, and she's always loved me.

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<v Speaker 1>I've always I've never had an issue with her. She

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<v Speaker 1>loved my mom very much. My mom loved her very much.

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<v Speaker 1>She has been a bit problematic in some ways in

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<v Speaker 1>the family, never with me, but again, I never done

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<v Speaker 1>anything to cause that with her. I know she has

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<v Speaker 1>issues with my grandma and a lot of my family

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<v Speaker 1>members and stuff. I don't necessarily agree with how she

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<v Speaker 1>goes about it. To be honest, I don't like to

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<v Speaker 1>like get involved or play into that because it's just

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<v Speaker 1>it's a lot, you know, and our family is so

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<v Speaker 1>public and it hurts me. You know, it hurts me

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<v Speaker 1>very much. If I have to come out and defend

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<v Speaker 1>my siblings, I'm gonna do that, and I'm gonna say

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<v Speaker 1>what I gotta say. But even then I try to

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<v Speaker 1>be very careful because at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 1>there's love there. Things will never be the same. I

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<v Speaker 1>highly doubt that, but I don't want anything bad to

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<v Speaker 1>happen to them, you know. So my Tapita, like I

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<v Speaker 1>have no issue with her, Like I honestly I love her.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm grateful that she goes out there and defends me

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<v Speaker 1>like sometimes, like I see that she defends me, I'm like, wow,

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<v Speaker 1>I've never not once asked her to do that. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's the love that and appreciation she has for

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<v Speaker 1>my mom. And she's just like she's known me since

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<v Speaker 1>she knows my heart, you know. So I'm just I'm

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<v Speaker 1>grateful with that, and she supports my siblings. It's just

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<v Speaker 1>there's so many things that have happened, and I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to leave it at that because a lot of the

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<v Speaker 1>things she ain't lying, you know. Anyways, you know what.

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<v Speaker 3>That's it, Raina.

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<v Speaker 1>That's how am I end it? Because that's it. That's

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<v Speaker 1>all I'm gonna say. But there's your question. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>that's the answer to your question. Thank you again for listening. Okay, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>so we have another question from an anonymous listeners Animo.

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<v Speaker 3>Penza la Politica.

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<v Speaker 1>Mexico and Politica and Canal the Molocras then Borta or

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<v Speaker 1>Bye Alice Grist for pre Junta Okay, guys, So she's

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<v Speaker 1>basically asking me, for those of you that don't speak Spanish,

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<v Speaker 1>she's asking me what I think about politics Mexico, United States,

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<v Speaker 1>if I get involved, if I just ignore it altogether,

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<v Speaker 1>Like what do I think? That's a great question. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna answer her in Spanish and I'll translate. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>por joke catas sore la politica la aurita and jo

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<v Speaker 1>no meto mene is mi reson oago perom no mocho

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<v Speaker 1>and la politica pork and new opinion st controller competamente

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<v Speaker 1>affected em amne in mentalmente paro iago look jo sumano

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<v Speaker 1>come persona comtista, the una Louisa was positiveneste mundo cambiar

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<v Speaker 1>and my persona para job persona mental meneferte affected government,

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<v Speaker 1>Jose came lost presidentes pen You are affected, you know

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<v Speaker 1>nomals and is the home affected especial public and put

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<v Speaker 1>continues opomas dam more eluse as basicamente. So, guys, basically,

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<v Speaker 1>what I told her is that I try my best

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<v Speaker 1>not to get involved in politics, especially with this election

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<v Speaker 1>that just happened. Of course, it's my responsibility to vote

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<v Speaker 1>and to do my part, but I like to just

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<v Speaker 1>separate myself because I feel like it's something that I

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<v Speaker 1>don't have control over. It's something that even if I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to change it, I can't. I just have to

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<v Speaker 1>do my part and separate myself from it and really

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<v Speaker 1>just do inner work and try to be a positive

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<v Speaker 1>voice in the world and everything that I do, and

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<v Speaker 1>just work on myself so that it doesn't mentally affect

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<v Speaker 1>me as much, because I used to let it affect

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<v Speaker 1>me a lot, and it was causing a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>anger and anxiety in me, and I just decided to say,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna do my part as a human being

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<v Speaker 1>and help the world in any way that I can,

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<v Speaker 1>and try to get people to do more of that

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<v Speaker 1>so that as a whole we feel better emotionally mentally.

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<v Speaker 1>But I try not to get involved in politics, to

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<v Speaker 1>be honest. So that's what I was telling her. Perro

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<v Speaker 1>and La thank you everyone for listening to Dear Cheeky's

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