WEBVTT - Why Listening to Your Body Is So Hard 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:05.400 I won't let my body out out everything that I'm made. 0:00:05.600 --> 0:00:09.200 DOT won't spend my life trying to change. I'm learning 0:00:09.240 --> 0:00:13.000 to love who I am. I get I'm strong, I 0:00:13.039 --> 0:00:19.600 feel free, I know who everybody me. It's beautiful. And 0:00:19.640 --> 0:00:24.560 then will always out with if you feel it, with 0:00:24.680 --> 0:00:28.400 yours in the air, She'll some love to the boot there. 0:00:28.560 --> 0:00:33.360 Let's say good day and did you and die out 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:38.440 hey outweigh fam. Happy Saturday. Amy and Lisa here and 0:00:38.800 --> 0:00:42.080 it's just us, no guests today, but we're gonna be 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:44.400 going over some really important stuff. But I do want 0:00:44.400 --> 0:00:46.960 to start off with just a little story that went 0:00:47.040 --> 0:00:51.280 down between Lisa and myself this week. Well, I guess 0:00:51.280 --> 0:00:53.400 where it started. Lisa's I was in the pantry and 0:00:53.440 --> 0:00:57.400 I was getting some chips out and realized like, oh wow, 0:00:57.840 --> 0:01:00.160 look at this, Like I have this whole pantry full 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:03.240 of food and access to this food, and I can 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:06.160 have it whenever I wanted. And these were tortilla chips. 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:09.399 I think they maybe were even like siete, and I 0:01:09.480 --> 0:01:12.039 thought back, I had a flashback to oh my gosh, 0:01:12.080 --> 0:01:15.080 I remember when I used to put siete chips in 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:18.160 a food safe to where you could set a timer. 0:01:18.560 --> 0:01:21.280 If you had it, then you couldn't get back into 0:01:21.319 --> 0:01:25.480 that box of food. Really, they sell it for food cigarettes, 0:01:25.959 --> 0:01:28.440 cell phones, like if you have a certain limit where 0:01:28.440 --> 0:01:30.440 you're trying to stay off of something, you can lock 0:01:30.520 --> 0:01:33.280 it away. It was marketed as food to me, and 0:01:33.280 --> 0:01:36.959 even on Amazon they have eminem's in the clear container 0:01:37.280 --> 0:01:40.000 or they have cell phones, so really can be used 0:01:40.000 --> 0:01:42.280 for anything. But we're calling it a food safe because 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:44.119 it was in my pantry, so it was a food safe. 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:47.760 And I would lock myself out at the chips for 0:01:47.840 --> 0:01:50.080 twenty four hours because I felt like if I had 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:53.080 had my quote unquote serving, then I didn't need to 0:01:53.120 --> 0:01:55.680 have them again, and this was a way to ensure 0:01:56.000 --> 0:01:59.480 that I didn't eat them. And I was working with 0:02:00.040 --> 0:02:02.280 a you know, honestly, I don't even know if their 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:05.760 registered dietitian or what their credentials are, but it was 0:02:05.800 --> 0:02:08.919 someone that I had paid money to to help advise 0:02:09.040 --> 0:02:12.280 me on my eating and that person introduced me to 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:14.320 a food safe. I never heard of a food safe, 0:02:14.400 --> 0:02:18.520 and looking back, I'm thinking, what in the world. So 0:02:18.560 --> 0:02:21.600 then I text Lisa the food safe and she's thinking, what, 0:02:21.760 --> 0:02:24.799 I've never even heard of this? So is that seriously, 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:26.880 that's something you've never heard of. I mean, I've heard 0:02:26.880 --> 0:02:30.520 of people doing things like putting maybe locks on their 0:02:30.560 --> 0:02:33.680 own refrigerator so they don't eat at night and stuff 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:35.920 like that, But I never heard of the term the 0:02:35.960 --> 0:02:39.120 food safe before, and I never heard of like you 0:02:39.160 --> 0:02:41.079 can put your own time limit I guess of when 0:02:41.160 --> 0:02:43.519 you can reopen it. So I'm just curious now I 0:02:43.560 --> 0:02:46.120 feel like we all understand the concept of the food safe. 0:02:46.280 --> 0:02:50.080 What was it like mentally when the box locked for you? Like, 0:02:50.400 --> 0:02:54.040 did it quote unquote work? Did you stop thinking about 0:02:54.120 --> 0:02:56.400 the chips? Did you find another way to get chips? 0:02:56.760 --> 0:02:59.120 Did you wait until that twenty four hours was up 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:01.200 and then run back to that same bag of chips 0:03:01.200 --> 0:03:02.880 that was in the safe? Well, I mean I think 0:03:03.000 --> 0:03:04.800 in a way it did a job because I wouldn't 0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:06.680 eat the whole bag, and that's what I was trying 0:03:06.720 --> 0:03:10.160 to avoid, was eating the whole bag or eating too 0:03:10.240 --> 0:03:13.840 much in one day. I know, it just continued the 0:03:13.880 --> 0:03:18.679 obsession and the addiction to this and I couldn't lock 0:03:18.760 --> 0:03:21.600 away everything. Well that's my question to do. Okay, so 0:03:21.639 --> 0:03:23.840 now the chips are locked up, is it like okay, 0:03:23.880 --> 0:03:26.880 I'm gonna you know, forage for something else. Yeah, because 0:03:26.880 --> 0:03:30.720 I had not done the work to reset my brain 0:03:30.800 --> 0:03:34.079 as to why I kept going in for more and 0:03:34.120 --> 0:03:37.080 more and more, And that took a lot of work 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:40.400 and read like I read several books, had to unlearned 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:43.560 like a lot of things, but constantly, Like here's what 0:03:43.720 --> 0:03:47.560 a brain over binge taught me. In my binges and 0:03:47.640 --> 0:03:50.400 where I would go, I would go to the pantry 0:03:50.800 --> 0:03:54.520 and have to like stop and walk away. And once 0:03:54.600 --> 0:03:59.240 I walked away enough, I started to unlearn some of 0:03:59.280 --> 0:04:01.920 the stuff because I was in Also, I was no 0:04:02.000 --> 0:04:05.280 longer restricting, so then my body was like, oh cool, 0:04:05.640 --> 0:04:08.720 like I actually have fuel. So if you keep telling 0:04:08.720 --> 0:04:12.000 your brain no and walking away, then that gets easier 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:14.440 the more times I did it. So anyway, I when 0:04:14.520 --> 0:04:17.039 I had the food safe, I was still living in 0:04:17.200 --> 0:04:21.120 such a place of restriction. So my body was craving 0:04:21.160 --> 0:04:24.480 food and I was denying it on all kinds of levels, 0:04:24.520 --> 0:04:27.720 including walking my food away. Yeah. I mean for myself 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:30.719 and clients that I've worked with, it's like even when 0:04:30.760 --> 0:04:32.599 we say okay, I'm not going to have this food, 0:04:32.880 --> 0:04:35.280 we jump to the next food, and oftentimes we do 0:04:35.360 --> 0:04:38.560 what's called like food chasing, almost where we just keep 0:04:38.800 --> 0:04:42.360 chasing after eating and we just keep changing what it is. Okay, 0:04:42.360 --> 0:04:43.880 so now we're not having the chips, but now we've 0:04:43.920 --> 0:04:46.480 moved on to popcorn. Okay, now I've had salty. Let 0:04:46.480 --> 0:04:47.800 me move on to sweet, let me move on to 0:04:47.880 --> 0:04:49.640 head sweet, let me move back on to salty. And 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:52.240 it becomes this whole thing where at the end of it, 0:04:52.279 --> 0:04:56.919 you just feel really uncomfortable physically and emotionally. You know, 0:04:57.000 --> 0:05:00.120 you're consumed with guilt, You're frustrated. You don't know why 0:05:00.160 --> 0:05:02.200 you're like this, because I mean, I know when I've 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:04.279 been in those situations, Amy, I don't know about you. 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:06.120 I mean, I know you had the food safe at 0:05:06.160 --> 0:05:09.040 the moment, But when I've been in any of those situations, 0:05:09.080 --> 0:05:13.360 I feel like I'm possessed, Like you can't stop me 0:05:13.480 --> 0:05:17.880 from getting that food, whether it's ordering a food online 0:05:18.080 --> 0:05:20.680 or going very far out of my way to get it, 0:05:20.800 --> 0:05:24.680 or just eating anything that's almost available. And it's so 0:05:24.800 --> 0:05:28.920 interesting because never did I think that at that time, 0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:32.320 and I think you too, that the inner work could 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:35.560 change your relationship to all these foods, like we thought 0:05:35.640 --> 0:05:38.040 that it was the foods. Let me lock them up 0:05:38.160 --> 0:05:41.440 for me, I did things like trying to suppress my appetite, 0:05:41.480 --> 0:05:43.359 Like I thought I was the problem. You thought you 0:05:43.400 --> 0:05:46.599 were the problem, so you tried to control yourself or 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:50.599 the things that were impeding you from feeling like you 0:05:50.600 --> 0:05:52.960 could just be a normal person who just eats chips, 0:05:53.200 --> 0:05:55.640 you know. Yeah, I didn't trust myself. Like at the 0:05:55.680 --> 0:05:57.920 end of the day, I didn't know how to listen 0:05:58.000 --> 0:06:01.560 to my body's cues. I didn't have my body probably 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:04.039 quite literally was trying to communicate to me in my 0:06:04.120 --> 0:06:07.280 brain like we're hungry. We're actually are starving even though 0:06:07.320 --> 0:06:10.880 you're feeding us so much. Uh sometimes, but I had 0:06:10.960 --> 0:06:14.719 so many bouts of restriction as well that I never 0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:17.760 knew how to accurately read what in the world was 0:06:17.839 --> 0:06:20.720 going on. Yeah, and I think that like a lot 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:23.040 of everybody here listening, like take a moment to think 0:06:23.040 --> 0:06:25.720 about what's one food that you feel like you just 0:06:25.800 --> 0:06:27.760 can't keep in the house. I feel like everybody kind 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:29.400 of has that one food that they can't keep in 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:32.120 the house that they won't buy. If they do buy, 0:06:32.160 --> 0:06:34.800 they might do things like eat a few and then 0:06:35.000 --> 0:06:37.960 actually throw out the rest of them because it's just 0:06:38.560 --> 0:06:41.320 they can't be controlled. Or they might go ahead and 0:06:41.360 --> 0:06:43.760 make the healthier version of the thing that they can't 0:06:43.880 --> 0:06:47.200 have because this food has proven to them so many 0:06:47.240 --> 0:06:49.840 times that they're out of control with it. For me, 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:52.800 that was chocolate covered almonds. I did not think that 0:06:52.839 --> 0:06:55.040 I could be do a handful of chocolate covered almonds, 0:06:55.080 --> 0:06:58.080 because whenever I had the almonds, I had all of 0:06:58.440 --> 0:07:00.960 the almonds. And that's one of the foods that I 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:03.400 really still enjoyed to this day. And I find it 0:07:03.560 --> 0:07:07.560 so interesting that I have a few and I'm like, wow, 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:09.560 this this is good, and i put the rest back, 0:07:09.600 --> 0:07:12.200 and sometimes the almonds will sit there for a month, 0:07:12.320 --> 0:07:15.360 two months, you know. And not because I locked them up, 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:17.200 and not because I said I could only have three 0:07:17.200 --> 0:07:20.480 a day, and not for any other reason other than 0:07:20.800 --> 0:07:24.280 I made peace with them. I stopped demonizing them. I 0:07:24.320 --> 0:07:27.680 allowed myself to actually trust them. And then on top 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:31.000 of just the almonds, I eat enough regularly and have 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:34.200 well balanced so I'm not turning to the almonds like 0:07:34.400 --> 0:07:37.080 by the point where I have no calories or energy 0:07:37.160 --> 0:07:39.040 left in me that all I can do is kind 0:07:39.040 --> 0:07:41.480 of gobble them all up, if that makes any sense. 0:07:41.920 --> 0:07:43.560 I have a lot of foods that are on that 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:46.320 list now anything is welcome in my home. But probably 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:50.240 the most recent example, like literally in my freezer right 0:07:50.280 --> 0:07:53.400 now is Girl scott Cookies thin Mints, and I love 0:07:53.520 --> 0:07:56.800 keeping them in the freezer, but if Girl Scout cookie 0:07:57.200 --> 0:08:01.760 season came around, I was always terrified because I'm like, oh, great, 0:08:01.840 --> 0:08:03.440 now I'm going to get a box at thin Mints 0:08:03.480 --> 0:08:04.960 and I'm going to have to eat the whole thing 0:08:05.200 --> 0:08:06.800 or I'm going to take a few and have to 0:08:06.880 --> 0:08:09.720 throw the rest out, because again I don't trust myself. 0:08:09.920 --> 0:08:13.040 And now I share this, and Lisa, you share this too, 0:08:13.080 --> 0:08:15.240 as hope not to be like, heyy look at us. 0:08:15.280 --> 0:08:17.520 We can keep this food in our house, but that 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:20.280 you can get there, because I used to be so 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:23.920 envious of people that could do that, like buy a 0:08:23.960 --> 0:08:26.200 box of Girl Scout cookies and not eat at all 0:08:26.320 --> 0:08:28.160 the day you bought them, or not have to throw 0:08:28.200 --> 0:08:32.880 them out. And so I am walking testimony to the 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:35.680 fact that I've got the thin Mints in my freezer 0:08:35.880 --> 0:08:38.480 and there are days I don't even think about them 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:40.319 in there. And I opened it up and I'm like, oh, 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:42.480 there's the thin mints, and I get whatever else I needed, 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:44.680 and I closed the door and then eventually, if I 0:08:44.720 --> 0:08:47.080 want one, I eat it. If not, I don't. So 0:08:47.120 --> 0:08:49.280 it's so fascinating though, because I think that, you know, 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:51.360 everybody listening is probably like, oh, I want to get 0:08:51.400 --> 0:08:52.920 to that place. I want to get to that place 0:08:52.960 --> 0:08:54.680 where I can have the thin mint in my house, 0:08:54.679 --> 0:08:56.880 the chocolate covered almonds. I've had clients say that they 0:08:56.880 --> 0:08:58.640 can't keep dried mango in the house. I mean, it 0:08:58.640 --> 0:09:01.640 could be any food that you just tear through. It 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:04.080 does not need to be, you know, any type of 0:09:04.400 --> 0:09:06.880 indulgent type thing. Yeah, it does not need to be 0:09:06.880 --> 0:09:08.680 an indulgent type food. It could literally be a piece 0:09:08.679 --> 0:09:10.880 of dried fruit. It could be raisins. You know. Overall, 0:09:10.920 --> 0:09:13.520 I care. And the one thing that I will say 0:09:13.520 --> 0:09:16.880 about my own quote unquote arrival or my AHA moment, 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:19.160 and I don't know if you feel this way, is 0:09:19.280 --> 0:09:22.920 that wasn't the goal. I didn't go after the goal 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:25.199 of fixing my relationship to food so that I could 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:27.720 keep chocolate covered almonds in the house. I did the 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:29.880 inner work so that I could have inner peace, and 0:09:29.920 --> 0:09:33.480 a side effect one day was walking into the almonds 0:09:33.520 --> 0:09:36.199 and realizing that I bought them a month ago and 0:09:36.360 --> 0:09:40.640 I was still working through them, not because I restricted, 0:09:40.720 --> 0:09:42.920 not because I allowed myself to have a certain amount, 0:09:43.200 --> 0:09:45.800 but because they were just almonds and they were just 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:48.560 there and there was no big deal to have them 0:09:48.600 --> 0:09:50.280 at that point. I don't know if you had that 0:09:50.320 --> 0:09:53.000 type of same journey, Amy, or if you's kind of 0:09:53.040 --> 0:09:55.480 as always like, well, I just want to you know. 0:09:55.600 --> 0:09:57.439 I think it's a little bit of both. That the 0:09:57.520 --> 0:10:01.199 chaos you feel inside when you're dealing any type of 0:10:01.240 --> 0:10:05.160 addiction or disorder or something that's going on where you 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:09.400 clearly have an unhealthy relationship with X y Z. You 0:10:09.520 --> 0:10:13.679 feel chaotic, you don't feel calm, You're in a constant 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:16.320 state of like goo goo Google, Like your brain is 0:10:16.400 --> 0:10:19.400 just spinning with all of these thoughts. We've talked before 0:10:19.440 --> 0:10:23.400 about the freedom that you get just even in your brain, 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:26.480 and I think that that's where, um that the space 0:10:26.559 --> 0:10:29.360 that we take up when we're obsessing over certain things 0:10:29.400 --> 0:10:31.800 that don't matter, then it frees you up to really 0:10:32.200 --> 0:10:36.679 take in things that matter. And for me, I wanted 0:10:36.720 --> 0:10:38.720 to put in the work because I wanted to be 0:10:38.800 --> 0:10:41.840 able to have the bandwidth for that. I no longer 0:10:41.960 --> 0:10:46.720 wanted to waste all of this space and energy on 0:10:47.040 --> 0:10:49.760 something that did nothing for me. I mean maybe in 0:10:50.400 --> 0:10:53.240 the moments where I was almost like an out of 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:57.600 body experience. I had this temporary like high of assorts, 0:10:57.600 --> 0:11:00.920 but that was fleeting super quick, and so then I 0:11:00.960 --> 0:11:03.000 was left with what And those are just in the 0:11:03.040 --> 0:11:06.319 moments where you know, I was eating and maybe having 0:11:06.360 --> 0:11:08.400 negative thoughts or different things that were going on, but 0:11:08.440 --> 0:11:10.439 those thoughts And you've spoken to this too, like you 0:11:10.440 --> 0:11:12.880 would lay your head down at night thinking about it, 0:11:12.960 --> 0:11:15.360 you would wake up in the morning thinking about it. 0:11:15.600 --> 0:11:18.880 And so yeah, just the peace. It was so busy, 0:11:19.080 --> 0:11:20.720 It was so just busy. You know, you said the 0:11:20.720 --> 0:11:23.000 word calm, and I think that's what it comes down to. 0:11:23.400 --> 0:11:26.560 On March one, so on Sunday, I'm kicking off the 0:11:26.600 --> 0:11:30.240 next session of for the Noise Hungerfulness. And I spent 0:11:30.320 --> 0:11:34.360 two years working on this course, and it really boils 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:38.760 down to helping to take people from mind body disconnection 0:11:38.920 --> 0:11:42.280 back to connection. And when we're in that disconnected space, 0:11:42.559 --> 0:11:45.959 it's like we can't read our bodies, we don't trust ourselves. 0:11:46.280 --> 0:11:48.560 We are so busy trying to figure out what we 0:11:48.600 --> 0:11:50.640 need to do to make up for eating this, that 0:11:50.679 --> 0:11:53.520 we're buying food safes, that we're just so busy trying 0:11:53.520 --> 0:11:56.240 to control from the exterior that we've lost that inner 0:11:56.320 --> 0:12:00.959 connection that all of us are born with. And last 0:12:01.040 --> 0:12:04.679 year I got so nerdy and into the research when 0:12:04.679 --> 0:12:08.400 I started to look into something called inter reception. So 0:12:08.480 --> 0:12:11.320 it's a big word. And what I love about this 0:12:11.559 --> 0:12:14.640 is that we have a sense in our body called 0:12:14.679 --> 0:12:19.079 inter reception, and it's how our bodies communicate exactly what 0:12:19.160 --> 0:12:23.320 they need, and it's how our brain represents exactly what's 0:12:23.320 --> 0:12:25.640 happening in our body. So the body and brain are 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:28.760 just like constantly communicating, and the bodies communicating with the 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:30.959 brain what it needs, and then the brain lets us 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:33.880 know what to do to assist in it. So an 0:12:33.920 --> 0:12:37.400 easy example of this being intact would be when you 0:12:37.440 --> 0:12:39.920 have to urinate. You know, you go to the bathroom 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:43.320 when you are cold, you get a jacket. Right. But 0:12:43.360 --> 0:12:45.680 when it comes to things like food, Oh I want 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:49.679 this food or I'm hungry, we have so much noise 0:12:49.760 --> 0:12:52.880 that infiltrated the way of letting us know that we 0:12:52.920 --> 0:12:55.280 shouldn't feel hungry, that hunger is a bad thing, that 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:57.640 eating is a bad thing, that eating eating certain foods 0:12:57.640 --> 0:12:59.959 at certain times and certain amounts are a bad thing. 0:13:00.480 --> 0:13:04.640 That we've become disconnected to that queue and now we're 0:13:04.679 --> 0:13:06.360 kind of left in this place of like, well, I 0:13:06.400 --> 0:13:09.040 don't know how to listen to my body. You know, 0:13:09.120 --> 0:13:12.560 I think all of our listeners would agree or or say, 0:13:12.880 --> 0:13:15.079 I want to get there, but I don't know how 0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:19.120 to get there. And that's so scary because how how 0:13:19.160 --> 0:13:20.839 do you get there? How do you take those next 0:13:20.880 --> 0:13:23.560 steps besides for listening to podcasts, reading books? You know, 0:13:23.640 --> 0:13:27.480 how do you reform that trust in your body when 0:13:27.520 --> 0:13:30.080 everything you've learned and picked up along the way has 0:13:30.120 --> 0:13:32.480 been sent to disrupt it when it comes to food? 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:35.640 And so is this course? And I'm I'm speaking as 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:41.120 someone who has taken Lisa's courses and highly benefited from them. 0:13:41.400 --> 0:13:44.559 Lisa is a huge part of why I am where 0:13:44.559 --> 0:13:48.480 I am, and I found her on Instagram, so I'm 0:13:48.880 --> 0:13:52.520 beyond thankful they're at the time. I'll frame it like 0:13:52.559 --> 0:13:55.520 a puzzle, because I'm really into puzzles now. But I 0:13:55.600 --> 0:13:59.040 had maybe this little, a little, teeny tiny puzzle, but 0:13:59.120 --> 0:14:03.040 there were several different pieces to the puzzle that I needed, 0:14:03.120 --> 0:14:06.160 and Lisa and her courses were one of them. And 0:14:06.240 --> 0:14:10.520 so is that something that you unpack in the course obviously, 0:14:10.679 --> 0:14:12.920 like what can we expect? Yeah, So, I mean all 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:14.720 of my courses and all of the work that I 0:14:14.760 --> 0:14:16.440 do in this world when it comes to food, and 0:14:16.480 --> 0:14:18.760 just like life has to come down to coming back 0:14:18.760 --> 0:14:23.080 home to our bodies and allowing ourselves to experience body awareness. 0:14:23.080 --> 0:14:25.720 Our bodies are sending us information all the time, whether 0:14:25.720 --> 0:14:28.840 it's about our emotions or are how cold we are 0:14:28.960 --> 0:14:31.200 or how hungry we are, or whatever it is that 0:14:31.240 --> 0:14:33.920 we need the body is, or we're anxious, or you know, 0:14:33.960 --> 0:14:37.400 whatever it is, it's sending us communication signals. But there's 0:14:37.480 --> 0:14:40.840 so much going on exterior wise or coming from the 0:14:40.880 --> 0:14:45.040 outside coming in that we're really numb to that beautiful 0:14:45.080 --> 0:14:49.040 connection that's intact. And so mindfulness is kind of the 0:14:49.120 --> 0:14:52.080 key to all of my work and what I found 0:14:52.120 --> 0:14:54.760 fascinating when I started to learn about inter reception because 0:14:54.760 --> 0:14:56.640 as soon as I was like, wait a minute, this 0:14:56.720 --> 0:14:59.760 is something we all have. There's research to prove this stuff. 0:15:00.120 --> 0:15:02.760 This there's a part of our brain called the insula 0:15:02.840 --> 0:15:08.000 cortex that specifically controls our inter receptive awareness. I'm like, okay, 0:15:08.040 --> 0:15:11.040 I can get people to believe that they can do this, 0:15:11.200 --> 0:15:13.600 and believing that they can do this is kind of 0:15:13.600 --> 0:15:16.840 the first step I think of knowing that there's that 0:15:16.920 --> 0:15:19.440 hope that you talked about, right, like, your body is 0:15:19.480 --> 0:15:21.520 meant to do this stuff. Let's just take it back 0:15:21.560 --> 0:15:25.240 to the basics. And so I very quickly found that 0:15:25.360 --> 0:15:27.920 when it comes to inter receptive awareness and being able 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:31.920 to understand our bodies, the best way to improve that 0:15:32.320 --> 0:15:36.760 is through mindfulness practices, by meditation, by stillness, by being 0:15:36.800 --> 0:15:42.320 non judging to our emotions and our sensations, by being nonreactive. Right, 0:15:42.400 --> 0:15:45.280 buying the food safe is reactive amy Right, like me 0:15:45.600 --> 0:15:47.760 going on a diet on Monday because I ate blah 0:15:47.800 --> 0:15:51.600 blah blah is reactive. Okay, But I will say I again, 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:54.760 I was given this information from somebody that I trusted, 0:15:54.880 --> 0:15:57.120 and I feel like a lot of us when if 0:15:57.480 --> 0:15:59.920 listeners now may be like, well, wait a second, I'm 0:16:00.000 --> 0:16:02.120 I'd be doing X, Y and Z. But somebody that 0:16:02.200 --> 0:16:04.400 I look up to in quote unquote health and nutrition 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:06.840 told me to do X, Y and Z. So now 0:16:06.920 --> 0:16:10.600 I know how to to separate the noise. I guess, 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:12.680 I would say, because there are a lot of really 0:16:13.200 --> 0:16:19.560 awesome people, but giving information that would counter exactly what 0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:23.400 we're trying to do here, and by society standards, they're 0:16:23.400 --> 0:16:26.120 not doing anything wrong. So I would just say, like, 0:16:26.240 --> 0:16:28.160 I don't know why I wanted to interject this, but 0:16:28.240 --> 0:16:32.920 that the noise can even come from really respectable people 0:16:33.400 --> 0:16:36.480 that don't mean any harm. So the noise I had 0:16:36.480 --> 0:16:39.320 to shut out was from myself, but also from people 0:16:39.440 --> 0:16:43.320 that are you know, looked to for advice on how 0:16:43.400 --> 0:16:46.440 to care for their bodies, and then at the same 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:49.600 time it was doing me such damage. Well, I think fortunately, 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:51.120 I know this was a number of years ago with 0:16:51.160 --> 0:16:54.200 the food safe you know, the words disordered eating didn't exist, 0:16:54.360 --> 0:16:56.760 and in the absence of talking about this stuff all 0:16:56.760 --> 0:17:00.120 the time, a lot of practitioners weren't trained to know 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:02.880 what disordered eating was. It wasn't brought to the attention, 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:05.639 and so by trying to help you with what you 0:17:05.760 --> 0:17:09.040 came as your problem portions or not being able to 0:17:09.119 --> 0:17:12.160 control yourself, she offered the quote unquote solution. I'm sure 0:17:12.200 --> 0:17:14.080 there's plenty of people that would say that that's you know, 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:17.400 still fine, but you have to dig deeper. And that's 0:17:17.400 --> 0:17:20.359 what I love about this is this isn't a band aid. 0:17:20.600 --> 0:17:26.120 This is more of like going in for surgery. Yeah, well, 0:17:26.160 --> 0:17:28.600 I mean it's really about, you know what, It's called 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:32.399 hunger and fullness. But even that is an oversimplification of 0:17:32.440 --> 0:17:34.800 what this course is. I think most people that hear 0:17:34.800 --> 0:17:37.320 the name forth the noise hungerfulness, I think that it's 0:17:37.320 --> 0:17:39.080 going to be okay. Well, if I could just listen 0:17:39.160 --> 0:17:41.600 to my hunger and listen to my fullness, then everything 0:17:41.640 --> 0:17:44.280 would be easy. My problem is is that I overeat. 0:17:44.320 --> 0:17:46.680 I hear this one all the time. I don't know, lately, 0:17:46.680 --> 0:17:48.840 I've been hearing it more often than I restrict. I've 0:17:48.840 --> 0:17:50.960 been hearing of Oh, restriction isn't my problem, Lea. So 0:17:51.000 --> 0:17:53.080 you talk about that all the time over eating is 0:17:53.119 --> 0:17:56.320 my problem. But then when we break down why they overeat, 0:17:56.720 --> 0:18:00.639 it's actually because of restriction. It might be restriction in 0:18:00.640 --> 0:18:03.000 a different way than you had it amy, which is 0:18:03.040 --> 0:18:05.320 different than the way I restricted. So the way that 0:18:05.359 --> 0:18:08.320 I used to restrict was with saying what foods that 0:18:08.359 --> 0:18:12.240 I specifically could eat at what times, by um staving 0:18:12.240 --> 0:18:14.639 off hunger as long as I could, because I viewed 0:18:15.080 --> 0:18:18.000 hunger and feeling it almost as like powerful and it's 0:18:18.000 --> 0:18:19.840 a little bit sick and twisted, but you know, you 0:18:19.840 --> 0:18:23.280 can kind of relate in some way and I thought 0:18:23.320 --> 0:18:25.840 that once I started eating, I wouldn't be able to stop. 0:18:26.160 --> 0:18:28.880 And I proved that to myself every single time, because 0:18:28.920 --> 0:18:32.360 I'd find myself going into meal so hungry that I 0:18:32.400 --> 0:18:35.320 was not selective about what I'd eat. I ate food 0:18:35.440 --> 0:18:38.160 so freaking fast, like it was always like shovel into 0:18:38.200 --> 0:18:41.239 the mouth, and I was always scared I did this. 0:18:41.280 --> 0:18:43.520 Was so unconscious by the way that I didn't know 0:18:43.560 --> 0:18:45.639 when my next meal would be because I was always 0:18:45.640 --> 0:18:47.239 trying to get back to that place of Okay, I'm 0:18:47.240 --> 0:18:49.439 not gonna eat till I'm really really hungry. That it 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:52.479 was like my window of opportunity to eat. But I 0:18:52.520 --> 0:18:55.239 never thought, oh, maybe you should change how you go 0:18:55.359 --> 0:18:58.920 into the meal differently. I thought, oh, I just need 0:18:58.960 --> 0:19:02.400 to control what I eat, if that makes sense. So 0:19:02.880 --> 0:19:06.720 this course isn't just about learning the gentle cues of Oh, 0:19:06.760 --> 0:19:09.400 this is what an appropriate level of hunger should feel 0:19:09.440 --> 0:19:12.000 like when you start a meal. Your blood sugar shouldn't 0:19:12.000 --> 0:19:15.439 be dropped to the floor. You shouldn't feel like you're dizzy, 0:19:15.560 --> 0:19:18.440 you shouldn't be lightheaded, you shouldn't be cranky. In fact, 0:19:18.520 --> 0:19:21.359 it should be just a very undramatic drop in your 0:19:21.359 --> 0:19:24.600 blood sugar before you reach for something to eat. Most 0:19:24.640 --> 0:19:27.080 of the time, of course, there are situations where you know, 0:19:27.119 --> 0:19:28.720 we get a little bit more low and we're not 0:19:28.760 --> 0:19:31.560 as focused on on food. But the other thing that 0:19:31.640 --> 0:19:34.199 this course really hopes to disrupt is this idea that 0:19:34.280 --> 0:19:37.359 the only time we're allowed to eat is because we're 0:19:37.440 --> 0:19:41.560 physically hungry, so that you know, as human beings, I 0:19:41.600 --> 0:19:43.760 think that we just need to recognize that we eat 0:19:43.840 --> 0:19:46.560 for a million and one different reasons. And I call 0:19:46.680 --> 0:19:49.520 these things different types of hunger because all the word 0:19:49.560 --> 0:19:52.639 hunger means is a motivation to eat. And sometimes we 0:19:52.720 --> 0:19:55.840 eat things like chips right when we're not physically hungry. 0:19:55.840 --> 0:19:58.760 So maybe we already had our turkey sandwich for lunch 0:19:58.800 --> 0:20:01.520 and an apple and maybe popcorn, but there's something about 0:20:01.600 --> 0:20:04.320 chips that still sounds good. Right. Most people would say, oh, 0:20:04.320 --> 0:20:06.440 I shouldn't have eaten those I wasn't hungry. But when 0:20:06.440 --> 0:20:09.359 we expand the definition to include something like I include 0:20:09.359 --> 0:20:11.640