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Speaker 1: Stop, you know what I mean. There's a child now

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Speaker 2: Finally.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and you guys have been dating, long distance, driving

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Speaker 6: So my parents had just moved to Florida and to

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Speaker 2: This is you and your and my boyfriend.

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Speaker 6: Okay, yes, yes, and well now Beyonce, okay, but we've

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Speaker 1: This is your dad that did this, Yes, my dad. Wow,

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Speaker 6: I think that's exactly what it was. And I feel

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Speaker 6: can we change it to a king bed please?

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Speaker 6: I'm thirty years old. I think I can handle it.

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Speaker 1: We're giving them the allowance of telling us that they're

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Speaker 1: I mean, wait until you find sex toys in your

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Speaker 2: And I know you can't contain yourself at work, but

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Speaker 5: You know?

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Speaker 2: Where did I get sur privacy?

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Speaker 1: My husband asked my Catholic parents for permission to move in.

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Speaker 2: My mom's a virgin. It was an accurate Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Right, Yeah, I had a twin brother and girls would

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Speaker 1: You know. What's funny is my parents will deny this,

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Speaker 2: So it was kind of the other way. Jory but

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Speaker 1: By the way, only we truly only have thirteen listeners.

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Speaker 1: I know, I know the people who call it your

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Speaker 6: You guys too.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure that exists. Though, I'm sure that exists. You

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Speaker 5: Oh, my brother in law is like that, he's got

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Speaker 6: This, Like they're like seven and eight, Like, what are

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Speaker 5: I'm gonna get hate for this is crazy, Like I

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Speaker 2: But it's like you'll never date them, they'll never be boys.

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Speaker 1: You guys are my sisters, and here my sister knows this.

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Speaker 1: I generally will stay out of it generally, but there's

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Speaker 2: And like that's just it.

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Speaker 1: And the thing is people believe me, like people should

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Speaker 1: And same with Colin. Like something happens to him, his

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Speaker 2: I'll make that go away. Do you have people are

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Speaker 2: Yeah. See it is a very serious topic for me.

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Speaker 2: I like it. Yeah, so you tell Big Tim Oh

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Speaker 1: Beggar's Pizza. You'll never see me coming. Nope, he'll come

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Speaker 1: That was how my dad did it. You know, the

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