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Speaker 2: Andrea is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named

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Speaker 2: Christopher Andrew. Thank you for your email. Before we get

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Speaker 2: into your date and stuff, how long has it been

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Speaker 2: since you talked to Christopher?

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Speaker 3: It's been a couple of weeks.

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Speaker 2: A couple of weeks. And how many times you try

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Speaker 2: to reach out to him in the couple weeks.

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Speaker 3: I've only texted him two times, but like I feel

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Speaker 3: like that's enough that somebody should write back.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yeah, Exa definitely. Do you think there's a

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Speaker 4: reason for that. Did anything happen?

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Speaker 5: Uh? Well, let me tell you about the date first,

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Speaker 5: because like I thought, everything went really well, like the

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Speaker 5: dinner was amazing.

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Speaker 3: But then we also we did sleep together, so I

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Speaker 3: don't know, maybe it was like fast for him. I

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Speaker 3: don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't Does that still apply?

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Speaker 4: Juwbel Do you think that that's still a thing if

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Speaker 4: somebody hooks up too fast and it's like, oh, okay.

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Speaker 2: By has always been a plus for me. It's never

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Speaker 2: been a problem for me, Like even if you're thinking

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Speaker 2: about future dating, it's never been a thing, you know,

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Speaker 2: because I was like, hey, I would do the same thing.

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Speaker 2: So I don't judge, like I just based it on

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Speaker 2: a person, right, But for some people it is okay.

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Speaker 4: So then how did you get to that point? Why

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Speaker 4: don't we go back to the very beginning and see

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Speaker 4: where it goes?

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Speaker 3: Okay, Well, I mean he has a really good job,

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Speaker 3: which is like, you know, it's a really good fine

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Speaker 3: on a date, like Tony's reliable and they've made it

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Speaker 3: to having a good job, had ambition, you know. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: and also he was like really hot okay, and we

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Speaker 3: hit it off like we were like cracking jokes talking,

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Speaker 3: you know. I just you know, that's why I said

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Speaker 3: to them, I was like, great, this is great, just.

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Speaker 2: Trying to keep him around for a while. Maybe he

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Speaker 2: sniffed you out, girl, he wasn't ready. Did he stay

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Speaker 2: over or did you guys do your thing? And then

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Speaker 2: he went home right away.

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Speaker 3: He stayed over, but he had to leave really early

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Speaker 3: in the morning, so he like left, we didn't really

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Speaker 2: That's better anyway, And how was the good vibe?

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Speaker 3: It was sweet? He just like gave me a kiss,

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Speaker 3: and it's like it's sort he had to go.

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Speaker 2: I mean that has been all that he wanted.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe, I mean he's a guy. I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but I think sometimes you get more of a

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Speaker 4: vibe because you obviously want to talk to him again. Though, So,

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Speaker 4: like what about him made you feel aside from his job,

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Speaker 4: you know, aside from the fact that he's hot, was

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Speaker 4: there anything else that was like that drew you to him.

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Speaker 5: Well, he's just really easy to get along with, and

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Speaker 5: it just felt like everything was happening really organically, and like,

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Speaker 5: I don't know, there's a lot of chemistry and it

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Speaker 3: It like it felt like, you know, like a heightened experience.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, And the only thing you can think of

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Speaker 2: is maybe you hooked up with him too quick.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Either, I guess like you're saying, maybe that's all

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Speaker 3: he wanted. I don't know. But then like why not

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Speaker 3: go like go to a bar, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 3: Why go on a date before us?

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Speaker 2: Like, I don't know, Well, Andrea, do you have a

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Speaker 2: good job.

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Speaker 3: I have a pretty good job. Yeah, because you know, I.

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Speaker 4: Don't know if he's the one with a really good job,

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Speaker 4: and if maybe he didn't feel like it was an

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Speaker 4: equal situation, then maybe I just want it to be

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Speaker 2: Because it's just so predictable people.

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Speaker 4: If you're going to look up with somebody, then at

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Speaker 4: least call him back period, Right.

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Speaker 3: I mean I think so, you know, and I've found.

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Speaker 2: To communicate that if that's all you're looking for, just

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Speaker 2: say it, because I've done that before when I've been

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Speaker 2: dating and I've been like, I'm not interested in anything

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Speaker 2: but tonight, And usually it's better because they're like, cool,

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Speaker 2: thanks for clarifying, let's get crazy. Yeah you know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I wish you would have said that

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Speaker 3: if that were the case. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: See, we can figure it out for you. We'll play

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Speaker 2: a song come back, and then call him and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you and maybe

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Speaker 2: get you another another date. Okay, Okay, come back. Get

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of your First Date follow Up,

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Speaker 2: and Andrea is on the phone and she's getting ghosted

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Speaker 2: by a dude named Christopher. She has no idea why.

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Speaker 2: She thinks maybe it's because she hooked up with him

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Speaker 2: too quickly, because they went on one date and then

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Speaker 2: they hooked up as for the rest of the date.

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Speaker 2: Andrea refresh everybody's memory before we call him. On your

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Speaker 2: date with Christopher.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he just we got along really well. You know,

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Speaker 3: we have got me at dinner. He has a great job.

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Speaker 3: I liked him. You know, it's been two weeks. I

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Speaker 3: texted him twice. I haven't heard anything. I'm hoping it's

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Speaker 3: just something happy with his service or something. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It could be it's a tech issue. Maybe. All right,

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Speaker 2: Well we'll see if we can figure out. We're gonna

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Speaker 2: get him on the phone right now and ask him

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Speaker 2: why is ghosting you, and then see if you still

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Speaker 2: want another date after you hear the reason. Here we go. Hello,

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Speaker 2: I may I speak to Christopher? Please?

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Speaker 6: Uh yeah? Speaking?

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Speaker 2: Hey man? How are you? My name is Jewbel. I

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Speaker 2: host a radio show called the Jewbel Show. Hi, Christopher,

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Speaker 2: I'm on the Jubil Show too. My name is Nina.

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Speaker 5: Hi.

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Speaker 2: I'm Victoria. How's it going.

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Speaker 3: Hey, yeah, no, I listened to The Jubil Show all

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Speaker 3: the time. Yeah, what's up?

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Speaker 2: Oh you do? Well? Then if you listen all the time,

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Speaker 2: have you heard you? Have you heard a first date

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Speaker 6: That's that's the second where you guys like call up

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Speaker 6: to see like somebody's cheating on like their their girlfriend

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Speaker 6: or their boyfriend or something like that.

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Speaker 2: No, that's to catch a cheater. We do that, though,

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Speaker 2: we do do that.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: This one is the one where if you gohost somebody

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Speaker 2: after going on a date, they can email us to

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Speaker 2: get you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them. Okay,

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Speaker 2: and that's what this is.

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Speaker 3: So wait, this isn't the cheating thing.

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Speaker 2: No, this is not. This is a first tape follow up.

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Speaker 2: So you went on a date with someone and you're

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Speaker 2: ghosting them and they want to know why. Oh hell, hello,

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Speaker 2: did he hang up? Yeah? He just hung up?

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Speaker 3: Why are you ghost all of that? Now?

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Speaker 2: Maybe this phone got disconnect? Maybe this soone got disconnected? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: maybe is there a solar flare?

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, yeah, that's really weird. It sounded like

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Speaker 3: he was about to say something and then he hung up.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Maybe well maybe it did drop. Then maybe he

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Speaker 2: didn't hang up. I'm gonna drive and call him back.

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Speaker 6: Okay, okay, uh, hey guys, I really can't talk.

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Speaker 2: What I want to know if you hung up on us?

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Speaker 2: Yes he did, because he's gone again. What man, he's

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Speaker 2: a professional ghoster. Okay, we call him again. Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna try it back again.

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Speaker 3: Hey, listen, listen, guys, I'm married. I can't do this.

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Speaker 2: What and he's gone again? What? Okay?

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Speaker 3: Oh my god?

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Speaker 2: What I guess we know why he wanted to know

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Speaker 2: if it was to catch a cheater segment, and also

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Speaker 2: why he's ghosting you. We just got a twofer married.

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Speaker 3: He took off his ring. Oh my god, it's is crazy.

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Speaker 3: What are you serious right now?

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Speaker 2: He didn't have a ring on or anything when you

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Speaker 3: No, No, definitely not like I always checked people's hands

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Speaker 3: like I'm always checking like garthy and really like I

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Speaker 3: never want I'm really against cheetah and like I've been

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Speaker 3: cheated on before, you know, like I would never do that.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god?

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Speaker 2: Where did you meet him? Was it on an app?

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Speaker 3: It was on an app?

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Speaker 2: Whoa Okay? Yeah wow wow now you know your answer?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, yeah, I guess I do. He should

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Speaker 2: For real, I just came out with it red there.

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Speaker 2: I would have said something else, like yeah, exactly, all

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Speaker 2: of a sudden, Hey, you know what, Hold on one second, Andrea,

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Speaker 2: I just want to see something. Hey, Christopher, would you

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Speaker 2: like to go on another day with Andrea? We'll pay

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Speaker 2: for it, Christopher, he's gone again. Sorry, Andrew, Andrew, I'm

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Speaker 4: I think that there needs to be a rule, and

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Speaker 4: we could start a petition for all dating apps to

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Speaker 4: no are you married?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 4: So then people have to say I mean, I'm sure

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Speaker 2: It's a good idea because some people wouldn't mind, right,

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Speaker 2: They're like, cool, if you want to cheat, right, right,

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Speaker 2: some people would mind exactly. I guess that's why they

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Speaker 2: have Ashley Madison. Well that's what you Yeah, that's the

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Speaker 2: cheating website. Did you just say who? I'm sorry? Well, Andrea,

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Speaker 2: not your fault. You know, you didn't know he lied

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Speaker 2: time that one night. That sucks. I'm sorry, yeah, I

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Speaker 3: I mean I think I should try to find a

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Speaker 4: I don't know, like almost at this point, I mean

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Speaker 4: you feel like, yes, but he's on apps. It's gonna

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Speaker 4: happen again. Do you really want drama in your life

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Because I mean, yeah, girl code don't lie if it

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Speaker 2: There's a lot of time and energy to spend on

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Speaker 2: something too, to track down his wife and then tell

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Speaker 2: her and then have to get involved in their drama.

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Speaker 2: But when you only met him one time. But if

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Speaker 2: she pops up, you tell her everything you know.

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Speaker 4: Andrea Andrewa there, she just want to go find the wife.

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