1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,719 Speaker 1: My wife might be cheating on me. I want a divorce, 2 00:00:02,759 --> 00:00:05,880 Speaker 1: but it will destroy our lives. Part two, Dakota. This 3 00:00:05,960 --> 00:00:09,240 Speaker 1: is the second installment in our five part series Are 4 00:00:09,240 --> 00:00:11,560 Speaker 1: you ready for the tld on the recame so ready, 5 00:00:11,600 --> 00:00:14,000 Speaker 1: so TLDR to catch you all up to speed. Opie 6 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:16,880 Speaker 1: discovers his wife's affair through hidden messages and meets with 7 00:00:16,880 --> 00:00:20,120 Speaker 1: her lover, who reveals details about the relationship, including her 8 00:00:20,239 --> 00:00:22,840 Speaker 1: false claim that Opie cheated on the wife. 9 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:23,599 Speaker 2: That's crazy. 10 00:00:23,760 --> 00:00:27,360 Speaker 1: The lover provides evidence to support Opie's divorce case and 11 00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:31,040 Speaker 1: distances himself from the entire situation. Opie's wife becomes frantic, 12 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:34,440 Speaker 1: apologizing for her actions. Opie plans to confront his wife 13 00:00:34,479 --> 00:00:35,879 Speaker 1: in a face to face We're going to get into 14 00:00:35,880 --> 00:00:38,360 Speaker 1: that in this episode, and get a DNA test to 15 00:00:38,400 --> 00:00:42,000 Speaker 1: confirm his kid's paternity. He is emotionally devastated, but focused 16 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:44,000 Speaker 1: on securing custody and moving. 17 00:00:43,720 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 2: Forward with the divorce process. 18 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:48,319 Speaker 3: That was a pretty good TLDR, pretty good shout out, 19 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:50,320 Speaker 3: so fee that wrapped it all up in a nice 20 00:00:50,360 --> 00:00:52,839 Speaker 3: little that was Yes, it's nice. 21 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:55,560 Speaker 1: So let's get into the big, fat, juicy f date. 22 00:00:55,960 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 1: I will post here it because I don't have time 23 00:00:57,840 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 1: to deal with the trolls. Hey guys, a lot of 24 00:00:59,840 --> 00:01:02,160 Speaker 1: you an update. I'm really busy these days, but a 25 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:05,120 Speaker 1: lot has happened, so let me share. Strangely enough, I 26 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:08,240 Speaker 1: find writing about this very therapeutic. By the way, this 27 00:01:08,280 --> 00:01:11,520 Speaker 1: comes from our Rageus spread eight eighty seven six on 28 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:14,199 Speaker 1: the arsash okay short time subot it. So my last 29 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:16,759 Speaker 1: update was when I was at the hotel that night, 30 00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:19,600 Speaker 1: my wife's best friend called me and said that she 31 00:01:19,680 --> 00:01:22,520 Speaker 1: would be near her with the kids. My relationship with 32 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:24,360 Speaker 1: her is great, and in my eyes, she is by 33 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:27,040 Speaker 1: far my wife's best friend. I don't know if it's 34 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:29,480 Speaker 1: like the friend that he likes the most or his 35 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:32,280 Speaker 1: wife's closest friend. Maybe both, but I digress. She called 36 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 1: me early Wednesday morning saying that she was driving the 37 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 1: kids to school because my wife couldn't stop crying. I 38 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 1: jumped in the car, picked up my friend, a witness, 39 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:42,759 Speaker 1: and we went to my house. Honestly, I can say 40 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:45,320 Speaker 1: it was much easier than I expected. 41 00:01:44,880 --> 00:01:47,880 Speaker 2: To kick her out. Oh easier than expected. 42 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:50,840 Speaker 1: Yes, it wasn't the fastest process. It took about two hours, 43 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: but in the end she left without police involvement. I 44 00:01:53,640 --> 00:01:56,040 Speaker 1: bet he was, like he just was fully expecting to 45 00:01:56,120 --> 00:01:58,440 Speaker 1: get the cops involved. He just wanted like a swat 46 00:01:58,440 --> 00:02:00,640 Speaker 1: team of one hundred people to storm. It was way 47 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 1: easier than I expected. No flash bangs, no concussive grades. 48 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:06,000 Speaker 1: All right, boys, we're ready to ram the door. Three 49 00:02:06,080 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 1: two one. She cried, begging for forgiveness, said she would 50 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:12,919 Speaker 1: quote unquote explain everything. She screamed, begged again, and didn't 51 00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:15,320 Speaker 1: listen to her friend or my lawyer. I even told 52 00:02:15,320 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 1: her that if she didn't leave, I would call the 53 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:20,560 Speaker 1: police and do everything in my power to have her deported. Still, 54 00:02:20,800 --> 00:02:23,919 Speaker 1: she didn't want to leave. That doesn't sound easy so far. Yeah, 55 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:27,720 Speaker 1: it sounds like pulling teeth. Actually, she just wanted to 56 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:30,680 Speaker 1: talk to me. I decided to lie to her. I 57 00:02:30,800 --> 00:02:33,200 Speaker 1: told her to leave if she loved me so I 58 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:35,440 Speaker 1: could have some space, and that I would call her 59 00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 1: later when I had thought everything out. Oping doing none 60 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:40,960 Speaker 1: of that, I'm guessing I just wanted her out of 61 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 1: my property. She left with some clothes shortly after. Since then, 62 00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:47,720 Speaker 1: she's been living with her best friend. During the day, 63 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:49,960 Speaker 1: I handled a lot of things I needed to do. 64 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:52,080 Speaker 1: I changed the locks at the house and the gates. 65 00:02:52,200 --> 00:02:54,080 Speaker 1: I cut her off from everything that was in my 66 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:57,080 Speaker 1: name that she used. I also hired a babysitter at Melody. 67 00:02:57,200 --> 00:02:59,560 Speaker 1: On Monday, I spoke with a female coworker who has 68 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 1: younger kids kis, and she recommended Melody. Melody no longer 69 00:03:03,160 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 1: works for my coworker because her husband now works from home, so. 70 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:07,960 Speaker 2: They don't need her anymore. Melody is really nice. 71 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:11,000 Speaker 1: She's from Asia, she speaks great English and the local language. 72 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 1: She drives, cooks cleans, has a great CV and resume, 73 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:15,800 Speaker 1: and has no criminal record, so I agreed to have 74 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:18,880 Speaker 1: her work for me. I also had myself and the 75 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:21,600 Speaker 1: kids tested for sti's. 76 00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:24,120 Speaker 4: I think, yeah, you can, you can like get STDs 77 00:03:24,200 --> 00:03:26,519 Speaker 4: from like your parents. 78 00:03:26,480 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 3: Well just like from being while you're being Ah, didn't 79 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:32,840 Speaker 3: that happen a long time ago? 80 00:03:33,160 --> 00:03:38,360 Speaker 1: It? It did? Is dotting his eyes and crossing his 81 00:03:38,480 --> 00:03:42,160 Speaker 1: t's till the pen breaks through the the table. 82 00:03:42,360 --> 00:03:45,760 Speaker 2: It's a little conspiracy slash whatever. 83 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:48,840 Speaker 3: Like it just sounds like this is such like a 84 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 3: flip out of out of the wife. 85 00:03:51,120 --> 00:03:53,160 Speaker 2: Is she going through like a manic episode or something. 86 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:55,840 Speaker 3: I feel like that would be more easily identifiable though 87 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:58,600 Speaker 3: that I think other things you. 88 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:01,400 Speaker 1: Could be right. Well, I'm hey, we don't know everything yet, 89 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 1: and she has I think exhibited some behavior that I 90 00:04:04,320 --> 00:04:06,640 Speaker 1: think could live. I think you could be right, because 91 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:08,840 Speaker 1: this does seem to be very out of character. 92 00:04:09,120 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, And her response is just like not. 93 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:14,240 Speaker 1: I think you might be onto something. When my kids 94 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:16,440 Speaker 1: asked whether their mom was after school, I told them 95 00:04:16,560 --> 00:04:19,039 Speaker 1: we were separating for now. They had some questions, but 96 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:20,640 Speaker 1: I told them if they wanted to talk to her, 97 00:04:20,720 --> 00:04:22,719 Speaker 1: they could let me know. Both of my sons said 98 00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:25,479 Speaker 1: it was okay, and that was that they met Melody 99 00:04:25,520 --> 00:04:27,680 Speaker 1: and they seemed normal around her. My wife called me 100 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:30,800 Speaker 1: the whole day and sent countless messages. Then on Thursday, 101 00:04:30,960 --> 00:04:34,040 Speaker 1: I had another chaotic situation with her. I drove my 102 00:04:34,120 --> 00:04:36,280 Speaker 1: kids to school and my daughter to kindergarten. They came 103 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:38,320 Speaker 1: back home. I was doing some things on the PC 104 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:41,000 Speaker 1: while Melody was doing some chores when I got a 105 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:43,200 Speaker 1: call from the school where both of my sons go. 106 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:45,800 Speaker 1: The principal called to say my wife had tried to 107 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 1: see my older son during class, but security had stopped her. Dude, 108 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:52,720 Speaker 1: I bet Opie was thrilled. He was like, yes, finally, 109 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 1: some suited up goons are ready to just like apprehend 110 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:00,080 Speaker 1: he suited up goose. 111 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 2: Edging No edging that also describes yesterday's stream. 112 00:05:05,279 --> 00:05:07,760 Speaker 1: Oh goodness, suited up goons. 113 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 3: Oh ah, yeah, no, he's clearly thirsty for law enforcement 114 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 3: to be involved. 115 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:14,680 Speaker 1: Oh yes. She caused a scene and claimed that she 116 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:17,120 Speaker 1: hadn't seen her kids for two days. I immediately jumped 117 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:18,799 Speaker 1: in the car and headed over. It took me about 118 00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:21,320 Speaker 1: thirty minutes to get there. During those thirty minutes, the 119 00:05:21,360 --> 00:05:23,719 Speaker 1: principal called again and said that she'd spoken with my 120 00:05:23,760 --> 00:05:27,240 Speaker 1: wife and that the school psychologists had contacted Child Protective 121 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:31,240 Speaker 1: Services because apparently that's required by law in these situations. 122 00:05:31,480 --> 00:05:36,000 Speaker 1: It's not so maybe CPS complicated things. When I arrived 123 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:38,760 Speaker 1: at school, my wife begged me to talk, cried, and 124 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 1: repeated the same things in front of the school staff. 125 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:43,560 Speaker 1: They explained to me that my wife hadn't told them 126 00:05:43,720 --> 00:05:45,920 Speaker 1: she hadn't seen the kids for two days and was scared. 127 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:49,360 Speaker 1: Then a woman from CPS arrived and immediately started accusing 128 00:05:49,400 --> 00:05:52,120 Speaker 1: me of stealing the kids from their mom. I was shocked. 129 00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:54,159 Speaker 1: She accused me like I was some kind of criminal. 130 00:05:54,240 --> 00:05:56,560 Speaker 1: To be honest, my wife defended me in front of them, 131 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:59,360 Speaker 1: saying I didn't steal the kids and hadn't forbidden her 132 00:05:59,360 --> 00:06:01,320 Speaker 1: from seeing them. She just wanted to come back to 133 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:03,880 Speaker 1: the house. She claims she would do anything to make 134 00:06:03,920 --> 00:06:06,680 Speaker 1: things right. When she said that, the CPS worker and 135 00:06:06,720 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 1: the principle attacked me again, even suggesting that my wife 136 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 1: should call the police, assuming that I had kicked her 137 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:15,039 Speaker 1: out without reason and that I was being aggressive. 138 00:06:15,279 --> 00:06:15,960 Speaker 2: Yeah. 139 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:19,920 Speaker 1: Come on, police versus police. They both get their own 140 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 1: like police escorts, and they just duke it out. They're 141 00:06:23,560 --> 00:06:24,240 Speaker 1: like Pokemon. 142 00:06:24,560 --> 00:06:28,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, my police are gonna fight your police wife. 143 00:06:28,839 --> 00:06:33,760 Speaker 1: I choose cheat go. At that point, I had had enough. 144 00:06:34,040 --> 00:06:36,720 Speaker 1: I immediately called my lawyer. I thought I was gonna 145 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:39,400 Speaker 1: say the police. He was busy, but he said he 146 00:06:39,440 --> 00:06:41,720 Speaker 1: would come and advise me not to speak to them. 147 00:06:42,080 --> 00:06:44,800 Speaker 1: I waited in silence. My wife went on, explaining everything 148 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:48,880 Speaker 1: about our lives, mostly honestly, and again said that she 149 00:06:48,920 --> 00:06:51,640 Speaker 1: would change, that I should forgive her, and that she 150 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:54,800 Speaker 1: loved me. While she was speaking, everyone seemed to support her. 151 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:57,640 Speaker 1: I was just speechless. Then she tried to hug or 152 00:06:57,680 --> 00:07:00,400 Speaker 1: kiss me. I pushed her away. The CPS this woman 153 00:07:00,520 --> 00:07:03,039 Speaker 1: then said that I had clear signs of being an abuser. 154 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:05,159 Speaker 1: I was about to say a lot of things, but 155 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:08,359 Speaker 1: I stayed silent. My wife told her that that wasn't true, 156 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: and that I had never raised my voice, let alone 157 00:07:11,080 --> 00:07:13,160 Speaker 1: my hand to her. She said it was her fault, 158 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:15,600 Speaker 1: but she loved me and couldn't live without me. 159 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:18,680 Speaker 3: It sounds like an NCPs would be like, well, we 160 00:07:18,720 --> 00:07:21,200 Speaker 3: can tell what you actually meant is that he like, 161 00:07:21,680 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 3: you know, yeah. 162 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:24,120 Speaker 2: Is clearly abusive. 163 00:07:24,240 --> 00:07:26,400 Speaker 1: But in fairness, it's like, dude, it's such it's such 164 00:07:26,440 --> 00:07:28,920 Speaker 1: like a hard situation because like you're coming in and 165 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 1: like I guess they I guess they weren't informed ahead 166 00:07:32,920 --> 00:07:35,760 Speaker 1: of time of what the situation is. So it's like, like, 167 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:37,640 Speaker 1: what's going on? You know what I mean? 168 00:07:37,800 --> 00:07:41,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess with no with little to no information, 169 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 3: it is natural, I think for people to back up, 170 00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:45,920 Speaker 3: like the wife in the situation. 171 00:07:45,600 --> 00:07:48,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, and not even not even necessarily that that's right, 172 00:07:48,240 --> 00:07:49,840 Speaker 1: but it's like it would just be like, okay, what 173 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 1: is what? What is are you trying to keep the king? 174 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 1: I think I would probably be like, at a bare minimum, 175 00:07:55,360 --> 00:07:57,760 Speaker 1: like oh, are you trying to like steal the kids 176 00:07:57,880 --> 00:08:00,920 Speaker 1: away or something like that? Why why can't the mom see? 177 00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 1: Because because even in you know, divorce and stuff like that. Yeah, 178 00:08:03,400 --> 00:08:05,960 Speaker 1: they still have custody and you know people can see 179 00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:08,800 Speaker 1: the kids. But pooh, I digress. Before my lawyer arrived, 180 00:08:08,880 --> 00:08:12,000 Speaker 1: another woman from CPS came and she was just like 181 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:12,679 Speaker 1: the first one. 182 00:08:12,840 --> 00:08:13,520 Speaker 2: I was the worst. 183 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:16,360 Speaker 1: My wife was sweet and innocent whatever op he says. 184 00:08:16,440 --> 00:08:19,000 Speaker 1: The lawyer arrived and was furious. He went through all 185 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:22,160 Speaker 1: the details about me and my wife, focusing on immigration issues. 186 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 1: I'm just imagining him just like reading from like the 187 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:27,560 Speaker 1: giant list of evidence that he that he has prepared. 188 00:08:27,560 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 1: He's like five twenty three. Baby, That booty is so big, 189 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:33,480 Speaker 1: fat and juicy. I want to bite. 190 00:08:34,160 --> 00:08:37,280 Speaker 2: She was talking to keon uh conspiracy theory. 191 00:08:37,679 --> 00:08:40,360 Speaker 4: Ke Well, no, he's older in it, mon, Like, could 192 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:42,600 Speaker 4: this speak on but maybe no years ago? 193 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:46,360 Speaker 1: I mean he's basically around he's almost the same age 194 00:08:46,360 --> 00:08:46,840 Speaker 1: as this guy. 195 00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 2: Keon, Oh he's not. 196 00:08:49,080 --> 00:08:52,559 Speaker 1: He is as as op or the young as the 197 00:08:52,600 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 1: cheater as the young no the oh. 198 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I guess so Kean is secretly and independently 199 00:08:58,120 --> 00:08:59,600 Speaker 3: wealthy European dude. 200 00:09:00,400 --> 00:09:02,920 Speaker 1: We know he said that she didn't work, had no 201 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:05,760 Speaker 1: place to live, might be deported, and was mentally unstable. 202 00:09:05,840 --> 00:09:08,080 Speaker 1: He also cited articles in the law that showed that 203 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:10,000 Speaker 1: they had no right to make demands like that. While 204 00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:12,679 Speaker 1: he was speaking my wife, my wife realized that he 205 00:09:12,840 --> 00:09:16,400 Speaker 1: was my divorce lawyer she didn't even know until just now, 206 00:09:17,679 --> 00:09:20,360 Speaker 1: and started attacking him, asking how he could be so 207 00:09:20,440 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 1: cruel and heartless. The principal told us to leave the 208 00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:26,000 Speaker 1: office while they spoke. My God, we waited in the hallway. 209 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:28,360 Speaker 1: My wife cried and tried talking to me, but I 210 00:09:28,440 --> 00:09:30,960 Speaker 1: just looked at the security guard, who was clearly amused 211 00:09:30,960 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 1: by the lunacy I had to deal with. The principal 212 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:35,920 Speaker 1: left to bring the kids. My older son asked what 213 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:38,240 Speaker 1: was going on, and I just told him to answer 214 00:09:38,360 --> 00:09:41,000 Speaker 1: whatever they asked. After a few minutes, the principal called 215 00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:43,360 Speaker 1: us into the office. The first CPS worker said the 216 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:45,960 Speaker 1: kids had spoken and given the most important details. I 217 00:09:45,960 --> 00:09:47,560 Speaker 1: asked what they had said, and she told me that 218 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:49,800 Speaker 1: both my sons said they wanted to stay with me 219 00:09:50,000 --> 00:09:52,440 Speaker 1: and that they enjoyed being with me. They repeated this 220 00:09:52,480 --> 00:09:54,680 Speaker 1: in front of me and my wife. Oh dude, it's 221 00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:57,120 Speaker 1: just so sad when the kids are involved like this, and. 222 00:09:57,200 --> 00:09:59,320 Speaker 2: Like, yeah, why you got why they have to do that? 223 00:09:59,440 --> 00:10:01,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's it was a little like I get I 224 00:10:01,280 --> 00:10:03,480 Speaker 1: get them saying like, hey, uh are. 225 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:05,160 Speaker 2: You having fun? Do you do you feel good? 226 00:10:05,200 --> 00:10:07,040 Speaker 1: Do you feel like nerve like like kind of like 227 00:10:07,360 --> 00:10:09,800 Speaker 1: off to the side like a shirt, like getting those assurances. 228 00:10:09,800 --> 00:10:13,320 Speaker 4: Well, no, no, no, no, mom or dad pick right now 229 00:10:13,679 --> 00:10:17,200 Speaker 4: on the streets with the mom or home cozy with dad. Apparently, 230 00:10:17,360 --> 00:10:20,679 Speaker 4: boxer mansion. That's your choice. Kids, They chose mansion, they 231 00:10:20,760 --> 00:10:21,040 Speaker 4: chose me. 232 00:10:21,240 --> 00:10:22,960 Speaker 2: They're like, we know our mom doesn't have a job, 233 00:10:23,440 --> 00:10:24,120 Speaker 2: staying with dad. 234 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:26,160 Speaker 1: Yeah right, they're not. They're not trying to be in 235 00:10:26,200 --> 00:10:30,360 Speaker 1: a struggling like family YouTuber's blog and my older son 236 00:10:30,440 --> 00:10:32,520 Speaker 1: even moved a little so she couldn't hug him. 237 00:10:32,920 --> 00:10:36,400 Speaker 2: Oh wait, do they know about the situation? Do they 238 00:10:36,400 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 2: know about the cheating? Yeah? Because I'm confused about this. 239 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:42,600 Speaker 4: So I've seen in other stories where the parents will 240 00:10:42,640 --> 00:10:44,960 Speaker 4: plot and like like say. 241 00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:45,640 Speaker 1: Oh, what's this? 242 00:10:45,760 --> 00:10:48,679 Speaker 4: These are messages from mom and another guy, and then 243 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:51,280 Speaker 4: the kids like come to realization that Mom's a bad guy. 244 00:10:51,440 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 1: I'm paraphrasing, but I believe the almost exact quote was 245 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:58,160 Speaker 1: I told them that we were separated. I answered any 246 00:10:58,280 --> 00:11:02,640 Speaker 1: questions that they had, but it did didn't specify, so 247 00:11:02,720 --> 00:11:05,400 Speaker 1: I he did not. I don't think he like spelled 248 00:11:05,400 --> 00:11:08,880 Speaker 1: out anything explicitly, but to this I feel like, yeah, 249 00:11:08,920 --> 00:11:10,960 Speaker 1: maybe he did say something in fact, like you know, 250 00:11:11,360 --> 00:11:15,560 Speaker 1: mommy got with another man and that wasn't me daddy, 251 00:11:15,880 --> 00:11:18,920 Speaker 1: and uh, that wasn't great or something. 252 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:21,280 Speaker 2: Mommy likes a man who's not your daddy. 253 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:24,959 Speaker 4: Mommy's getting piped down by other daddy. 254 00:11:25,360 --> 00:11:28,840 Speaker 2: That's not me daddy piped down. Why don't you pipe 255 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:33,200 Speaker 2: down with that, buddy. Here's how many pumps per round too. Yeah, 256 00:11:33,240 --> 00:11:35,479 Speaker 2: he said, I'm gonna I'm gonna show you. 257 00:11:36,840 --> 00:11:40,319 Speaker 1: I made this graph right here, like, look at these photos. 258 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:43,560 Speaker 2: Your mother said to this man, Oh goodness, I don't 259 00:11:43,600 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 2: want to see you anymore, blanket please. 260 00:11:49,040 --> 00:11:51,840 Speaker 1: After that they left, the CPS workers told us we 261 00:11:51,880 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 1: needed to reach an agreement about the kids. I told 262 00:11:54,480 --> 00:11:57,080 Speaker 1: them that we would take care of everything else. I 263 00:11:57,160 --> 00:11:59,120 Speaker 1: needed to, yeah, because they're like, hey, we can't have 264 00:11:59,160 --> 00:12:02,480 Speaker 1: you guys like bombarding our school every day with like 265 00:12:02,520 --> 00:12:06,320 Speaker 1: your lawyers and police. Then they handed me a paper 266 00:12:06,360 --> 00:12:08,400 Speaker 1: to sign. It was in the local language, so I 267 00:12:08,440 --> 00:12:10,360 Speaker 1: took some time to read it. Why Laura grabbed the 268 00:12:10,360 --> 00:12:12,600 Speaker 1: paper told me not to sign it and pointed out 269 00:12:12,720 --> 00:12:14,719 Speaker 1: that they wanted me to sign so they would have 270 00:12:14,840 --> 00:12:18,080 Speaker 1: legal grounds to visit my home every week unannounced to 271 00:12:18,240 --> 00:12:20,600 Speaker 1: check how I was doing with the kids. My lawyer 272 00:12:20,600 --> 00:12:23,280 Speaker 1: blasted them, saying they were doing it for their bonuses 273 00:12:23,360 --> 00:12:25,440 Speaker 1: and had no legal right for me to ask me 274 00:12:25,480 --> 00:12:28,720 Speaker 1: to sign. They said that they would contact their supervisors 275 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:31,840 Speaker 1: and that the police would probably contact me. I left 276 00:12:31,880 --> 00:12:34,600 Speaker 1: immediately and no one's contacted me since then. My wife 277 00:12:34,640 --> 00:12:37,800 Speaker 1: stormed after me, begging to talk, but I just drove off. 278 00:12:37,920 --> 00:12:39,840 Speaker 1: When the kids came home, I talked with them about 279 00:12:39,920 --> 00:12:42,240 Speaker 1: everything that had happened. They told me that they had 280 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:44,720 Speaker 1: heard my wife crying and begging me to listen to 281 00:12:44,760 --> 00:12:47,439 Speaker 1: her on Tuesday when I sent her that message, so 282 00:12:47,520 --> 00:12:52,920 Speaker 1: they know it was her faults. So at a bare minimum, 283 00:12:52,920 --> 00:12:54,400 Speaker 1: that's how they know. 284 00:12:54,640 --> 00:12:55,480 Speaker 2: They know the truth. 285 00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:58,439 Speaker 1: Smart kids. I drove them the football practice, and my 286 00:12:58,520 --> 00:13:01,400 Speaker 1: daughter stayed with Melody. She likes Melody a lot. My 287 00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:04,440 Speaker 1: son's even helped Melody clean up after dinner, something they 288 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:05,680 Speaker 1: would never do with my wife. 289 00:13:05,800 --> 00:13:08,440 Speaker 2: I see you in the chat like Rod Doggan, he 290 00:13:08,480 --> 00:13:08,960 Speaker 2: does do that. 291 00:13:09,840 --> 00:13:12,760 Speaker 1: The chat wasn't saying that that far, but I mean 292 00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:17,640 Speaker 1: at least Wow, Melody, she's so motherly to my kids. 293 00:13:18,200 --> 00:13:21,920 Speaker 1: She's taking such great care of my kids. She moms 294 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:24,280 Speaker 1: number two, Mom too, Mom two point. I was just 295 00:13:24,280 --> 00:13:25,960 Speaker 1: putting an icy out there. I'm just putt an icy 296 00:13:26,040 --> 00:13:27,280 Speaker 1: in the comments. If you see it too. If now 297 00:13:27,320 --> 00:13:30,280 Speaker 1: you can don't do anything, I'm just throwing it out there. 298 00:13:30,280 --> 00:13:32,880 Speaker 1: We'll see. So. I think deep down they know they 299 00:13:32,880 --> 00:13:35,480 Speaker 1: need to behave their best and support me during this time. Again, 300 00:13:35,600 --> 00:13:37,960 Speaker 1: my wife calls me twenty four to seven. I think 301 00:13:38,320 --> 00:13:40,520 Speaker 1: she should be in the Guinness World Records now free 302 00:13:40,520 --> 00:13:43,240 Speaker 1: sponsors for most calls and messages. Today it's been much 303 00:13:43,280 --> 00:13:46,520 Speaker 1: better though. Everything at school was fine. My daughter stayed 304 00:13:46,520 --> 00:13:49,360 Speaker 1: home because it's a free day. Melody is doing her 305 00:13:49,400 --> 00:13:52,240 Speaker 1: hair and they're singing together. They're a great duo for now, 306 00:13:52,720 --> 00:13:54,880 Speaker 1: almost like a mother daughter duo. 307 00:13:55,120 --> 00:14:00,360 Speaker 2: Almost like a mother and a daughter interacting with one another. Hmmm. 308 00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:04,040 Speaker 1: My wife's best friend called me, I believe the one 309 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:07,240 Speaker 1: that like had the kids and saw him yesterday afternoon 310 00:14:07,320 --> 00:14:09,440 Speaker 1: to say that my wife wanted to see the kids. 311 00:14:09,480 --> 00:14:11,920 Speaker 1: I said it was okay, she can do it. Yeah, 312 00:14:11,960 --> 00:14:13,280 Speaker 1: you want to see my new wife too. 313 00:14:13,600 --> 00:14:13,760 Speaker 2: Uh. 314 00:14:16,160 --> 00:14:18,800 Speaker 1: They arrived and my wife immediately saw that I had 315 00:14:18,880 --> 00:14:21,320 Speaker 1: changed the gates. My daughter was very happy to see her. 316 00:14:21,520 --> 00:14:23,920 Speaker 1: My wife cried when she saw her and waited for 317 00:14:23,960 --> 00:14:28,040 Speaker 1: my sons. I can just acknowledge that, like again, she's 318 00:14:28,080 --> 00:14:30,000 Speaker 1: the one that like did all of these things wrong, 319 00:14:30,080 --> 00:14:33,080 Speaker 1: but she made her advent Jesseelina. She has to deal 320 00:14:33,080 --> 00:14:35,360 Speaker 1: with the consequences of her actions. But it just always 321 00:14:35,360 --> 00:14:38,080 Speaker 1: sucks to not be able to see your kids. 322 00:14:38,560 --> 00:14:40,160 Speaker 2: It's her own fault. She made her own bed. 323 00:14:40,200 --> 00:14:42,680 Speaker 1: But it's just you can feel bad about that. And 324 00:14:42,840 --> 00:14:45,040 Speaker 1: for the kids to see their mom cry, you know, 325 00:14:45,080 --> 00:14:47,040 Speaker 1: it's tragic. It's tragic. 326 00:14:47,120 --> 00:14:49,680 Speaker 3: It's tragic, but it would also be tragic if I 327 00:14:49,680 --> 00:14:52,320 Speaker 3: didn't point out that it's not actually lay down, it's 328 00:14:52,400 --> 00:14:54,200 Speaker 3: lie down. Someone in the comments pointed out that we 329 00:14:54,200 --> 00:14:56,240 Speaker 3: were wrong about that, and it's you make your bed 330 00:14:56,320 --> 00:15:00,120 Speaker 3: and you lie in it, which is appropriate because she's lying. 331 00:15:00,360 --> 00:15:03,040 Speaker 2: She was lying and now she's lying in her bed, 332 00:15:03,120 --> 00:15:05,280 Speaker 2: but she also laid with the other guy. 333 00:15:05,960 --> 00:15:09,320 Speaker 1: It. Yeah, can we talk about it. 334 00:15:10,080 --> 00:15:13,960 Speaker 3: We're all right everywhere, right, yeah, yeah, everyone guys chat right, 335 00:15:14,000 --> 00:15:15,200 Speaker 3: We're right, So it's okay. 336 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:18,760 Speaker 1: Uh Alaska is the capital of Australia. 337 00:15:18,840 --> 00:15:20,360 Speaker 2: We don't need to double check. I don't know. We 338 00:15:20,400 --> 00:15:22,480 Speaker 2: had the grammar police. We got a chance. 339 00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:26,600 Speaker 1: Sorry, I hate grammar police. I'm trying to do my best, 340 00:15:26,720 --> 00:15:28,000 Speaker 1: just trying to grammar right. 341 00:15:28,320 --> 00:15:31,480 Speaker 2: Let me prove so hard that my geography is actually 342 00:15:31,560 --> 00:15:32,000 Speaker 2: really good. 343 00:15:32,200 --> 00:15:38,760 Speaker 1: End of episode bonus stick around so you get over there. 344 00:15:40,920 --> 00:15:42,240 Speaker 2: To see breath Riley. 345 00:15:42,160 --> 00:15:43,880 Speaker 1: I know what caused you to laugh, but I'm not 346 00:15:43,920 --> 00:15:46,720 Speaker 1: going to go any further on it. But both of 347 00:15:46,760 --> 00:15:49,920 Speaker 1: them told her that they didn't want to be with 348 00:15:49,960 --> 00:15:50,560 Speaker 1: her right now. 349 00:15:53,040 --> 00:15:55,200 Speaker 2: If I found out my mom was trifling, I might 350 00:15:55,240 --> 00:15:56,440 Speaker 2: not want to be around her either. 351 00:15:57,680 --> 00:16:00,280 Speaker 1: I told them to talk a little with her because 352 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:03,000 Speaker 1: she was crying on the street, but they refused and 353 00:16:03,080 --> 00:16:04,960 Speaker 1: went to their bedroom and later went out to play 354 00:16:04,960 --> 00:16:07,200 Speaker 1: with friends. I told her to leave, and she begged 355 00:16:07,200 --> 00:16:09,640 Speaker 1: me again to give her a chance to tell me everything. 356 00:16:09,880 --> 00:16:12,360 Speaker 1: I told her she needs to wait to talk to 357 00:16:12,400 --> 00:16:16,240 Speaker 1: me until I receive the DNA test results. Remember those? 358 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:19,960 Speaker 1: Remember those? Oh no, She put my daughter on the 359 00:16:20,040 --> 00:16:22,440 Speaker 1: ground and just stared at me for about ten seconds, 360 00:16:22,440 --> 00:16:26,000 Speaker 1: completely frozen. Honestly, at that moment, I thought the kids 361 00:16:26,080 --> 00:16:29,840 Speaker 1: weren't mine. 362 00:16:30,120 --> 00:16:30,600 Speaker 2: You thought. 363 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:34,680 Speaker 1: She was shocked and said that the kids were mine. Okay, Okay, 364 00:16:35,720 --> 00:16:38,640 Speaker 1: that's what she said. What she said, that's what she said. 365 00:16:38,680 --> 00:16:41,680 Speaker 2: Oh, well, we've proven that she's a bit of a liar. Yeah, 366 00:16:41,720 --> 00:16:42,360 Speaker 2: and that she. 367 00:16:42,240 --> 00:16:45,120 Speaker 1: Couldn't believe that I was even saying that. I think 368 00:16:45,120 --> 00:16:47,840 Speaker 1: it was the moment that she finally realized what she 369 00:16:47,920 --> 00:16:50,440 Speaker 1: had done. She repeated that the kids were mine and 370 00:16:50,520 --> 00:16:53,680 Speaker 1: jumped into her car. I talked a little with her friend, 371 00:16:54,040 --> 00:16:56,840 Speaker 1: and I could see that my wife was crying like crazy. 372 00:16:57,320 --> 00:16:57,800 Speaker 1: They left. 373 00:16:57,800 --> 00:16:58,720 Speaker 2: After that, my. 374 00:16:58,720 --> 00:17:01,840 Speaker 1: Wife's friend brought my daughter her back. She said, my 375 00:17:01,920 --> 00:17:04,880 Speaker 1: wife locked herself in the bedroom and she called her 376 00:17:04,880 --> 00:17:07,560 Speaker 1: parents to confess everything and is in a state of 377 00:17:07,600 --> 00:17:11,720 Speaker 1: shock that I've tested our kids. The kids are mine. 378 00:17:11,880 --> 00:17:15,119 Speaker 1: She never looked at anyone during the marriage except the 379 00:17:15,160 --> 00:17:17,199 Speaker 1: affair partner. I think this is the best friend saying this. 380 00:17:17,280 --> 00:17:20,080 Speaker 1: Maybe My wife told her friend that she can't believe 381 00:17:20,119 --> 00:17:22,520 Speaker 1: what she did and that she just knows she lost 382 00:17:22,640 --> 00:17:25,520 Speaker 1: everything when I did the DNA test, because she thinks 383 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:28,520 Speaker 1: it's very extreme and that I don't trust her at all. 384 00:17:28,640 --> 00:17:31,679 Speaker 1: Her parents called me tonight. The in laws have entered 385 00:17:31,880 --> 00:17:35,200 Speaker 1: the chat. If we know anything, Riley, If we know anything, 386 00:17:35,200 --> 00:17:36,720 Speaker 1: how many stories have we read together? Riley? 387 00:17:36,800 --> 00:17:37,080 Speaker 2: Oh? 388 00:17:37,160 --> 00:17:41,240 Speaker 1: My gosh, thousdands thousands, thousands. If we know anything about 389 00:17:41,280 --> 00:17:44,200 Speaker 1: in laws is that they get crazy. Yeah, is that 390 00:17:44,240 --> 00:17:48,320 Speaker 1: they can come in and make a already insane situation 391 00:17:48,960 --> 00:17:52,160 Speaker 1: just a off the Richter scale earthquake of insanity. 392 00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:52,400 Speaker 2: Yeah. 393 00:17:52,440 --> 00:17:55,400 Speaker 4: I see, Like, Okay, you got a husband that's one 394 00:17:55,440 --> 00:18:00,359 Speaker 4: basketball team. Uh, the wife that's another basketball team. And 395 00:18:00,880 --> 00:18:04,200 Speaker 4: in laws I've always seen as referees. They're the ones 396 00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 4: that usually determine and sway the game a little bit more. 397 00:18:07,160 --> 00:18:10,440 Speaker 1: And they're just like foul, fowl, foul, flagrant, and they're 398 00:18:10,440 --> 00:18:12,520 Speaker 1: like and they're like, I just I didn't even dribble 399 00:18:12,560 --> 00:18:14,240 Speaker 1: the ball, Like foul, You're out of the game. 400 00:18:14,359 --> 00:18:16,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, you're banned from the league. 401 00:18:16,520 --> 00:18:19,639 Speaker 1: Like wait what Her parents called me tonight to say 402 00:18:19,800 --> 00:18:22,560 Speaker 1: they are furious as an understatement who we met at 403 00:18:23,640 --> 00:18:26,280 Speaker 1: Her mom begged me not to cut contact with them 404 00:18:26,320 --> 00:18:28,520 Speaker 1: and my kids because remember they are the grandparents, don't forget. 405 00:18:28,560 --> 00:18:30,639 Speaker 1: I told her that they can always call and visit, 406 00:18:30,680 --> 00:18:32,959 Speaker 1: but I will not allow my kids to leave Asia 407 00:18:33,040 --> 00:18:35,719 Speaker 1: before we divorced, because I think they're back in wife's 408 00:18:35,720 --> 00:18:36,280 Speaker 1: home country. 409 00:18:36,440 --> 00:18:36,640 Speaker 2: Right. 410 00:18:36,760 --> 00:18:38,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, she was fine with that, and she thanks me. 411 00:18:39,160 --> 00:18:42,080 Speaker 1: Her father told me that my wife is no longer 412 00:18:42,119 --> 00:18:43,760 Speaker 1: welcome in their home. 413 00:18:44,000 --> 00:18:48,960 Speaker 3: Okay, so the Manahutan disowned what disowning their daughter. 414 00:18:48,960 --> 00:18:50,240 Speaker 2: She really ain't gotten nowhere to go. 415 00:18:50,400 --> 00:18:53,560 Speaker 1: They are disgusted by what she did and told her 416 00:18:53,720 --> 00:18:58,880 Speaker 1: not to contact them anymore. No contact with their own 417 00:18:58,920 --> 00:19:02,560 Speaker 1: adult child, the mother of their grandchildren. They are very 418 00:19:02,600 --> 00:19:05,960 Speaker 1: conservative and have been married for over forty years, so 419 00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:08,919 Speaker 1: this was somewhat expected. Their reaction, that is, her older 420 00:19:08,920 --> 00:19:11,840 Speaker 1: brother said the same thing. He blocked her and told 421 00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:17,840 Speaker 1: me he's disgusted that she's his sister. Whoa, yikes, let's 422 00:19:17,840 --> 00:19:20,720 Speaker 1: talk about that before the next update. They all gave 423 00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:23,439 Speaker 1: me their full support and asked me to keep them 424 00:19:23,480 --> 00:19:26,520 Speaker 1: informed about everything. They even FaceTime with my kids for 425 00:19:26,560 --> 00:19:28,639 Speaker 1: a bit and they had a good time. That's about 426 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:31,240 Speaker 1: it for now. Hopefully the weekend will be much easier. 427 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:35,040 Speaker 1: I'm very tired mentally and physically. Tomorrow we're going to 428 00:19:35,080 --> 00:19:37,920 Speaker 1: watch a football game with my friend's family, and I'm 429 00:19:38,000 --> 00:19:40,720 Speaker 1: hoping that my wife will give me some peace. Since 430 00:19:40,760 --> 00:19:43,080 Speaker 1: I told her about the DNA tests, he hasn't called 431 00:19:43,119 --> 00:19:44,960 Speaker 1: me anymore. She went from like one hundred calls a 432 00:19:45,040 --> 00:19:47,400 Speaker 1: day to zero, So that's at least one good thing. 433 00:19:47,720 --> 00:19:50,439 Speaker 1: I'm still waiting for said DNA test. We don't know 434 00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:53,920 Speaker 1: for sure. My youngest son's seventh birthday is next Saturday, 435 00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:56,720 Speaker 1: so that's going to be another huge challenge to be 436 00:19:56,800 --> 00:19:59,399 Speaker 1: around my wife. But it is what it is. 437 00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:02,040 Speaker 2: Thank you for your advice and kind words. 438 00:20:02,359 --> 00:20:06,920 Speaker 1: Now, you guys think that this episode's over, we are 439 00:20:06,960 --> 00:20:10,399 Speaker 1: literally not even fully at the halfway mark yet. 440 00:20:10,400 --> 00:20:11,200 Speaker 2: On this story. 441 00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:13,359 Speaker 1: On this story, there's a lot of meat left on 442 00:20:13,400 --> 00:20:17,760 Speaker 1: this bone. There's a lot of meat left to eat 443 00:20:18,560 --> 00:20:19,000 Speaker 1: of meat. 444 00:20:19,160 --> 00:20:21,600 Speaker 2: Could you do that again? That's a nice sound that's 445 00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:23,160 Speaker 2: that's a perfect sound effect. 446 00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:29,399 Speaker 1: But let's talk about grandparents. Okay, let stop. 447 00:20:29,240 --> 00:20:33,000 Speaker 2: Laughing at Riley talking about grandparents. You think this is 448 00:20:33,040 --> 00:20:33,400 Speaker 2: a joke. 449 00:20:33,480 --> 00:20:35,920 Speaker 1: Riley, I was gonna say something just horrible, horrible. 450 00:20:36,040 --> 00:20:40,199 Speaker 2: Yeah, talk about booters. Is that what you want to 451 00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:41,080 Speaker 2: talk about right now? 452 00:20:41,880 --> 00:20:45,359 Speaker 3: You sound so defeated by whatever was in your own head. 453 00:20:46,040 --> 00:20:48,480 Speaker 2: You're just like, yeah, I was going to say something terrible. 454 00:20:48,520 --> 00:20:50,000 Speaker 2: It is fine about. 455 00:20:49,840 --> 00:20:54,359 Speaker 4: It, but uh, grandparent laws do they exist in Asia? 456 00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:59,480 Speaker 2: Do they exist anywhere? Those aren't real? I like grandparent laws. 457 00:20:59,480 --> 00:21:02,080 Speaker 1: I think he's a of it. Yeah that's a good 458 00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:05,760 Speaker 1: question though, because I feel like, yeah, I feel like 459 00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:08,560 Speaker 1: there could be something about so I think maybe we 460 00:21:08,560 --> 00:21:13,480 Speaker 1: could pull grandparents too harsh or not? Were the grandparents 461 00:21:14,119 --> 00:21:19,480 Speaker 1: too harsh or not? I honestly, dude, Yeah, it's like like, look, 462 00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:23,760 Speaker 1: I think that it is good to because what happens 463 00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:25,480 Speaker 1: oftentimes is the grandparents like. 464 00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:28,159 Speaker 2: No, she didn't do anything wrong. How could you punish her? 465 00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:29,639 Speaker 2: How could you? You have to stay with her, You 466 00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:31,080 Speaker 2: have to stay together for the kids. Da da da 467 00:21:31,119 --> 00:21:31,520 Speaker 2: da dah. 468 00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:34,440 Speaker 1: So yeah, they're not doing that, but it's like, honestly, 469 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:37,640 Speaker 1: right now, like I feel like it's gonna be healthy 470 00:21:37,680 --> 00:21:39,400 Speaker 1: for her to at least be able to talk to 471 00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:40,320 Speaker 1: her parents. 472 00:21:40,359 --> 00:21:41,840 Speaker 2: They don't have to, You're right exactly. 473 00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:44,840 Speaker 3: They're they're cutting off her only like sort of support 474 00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:46,520 Speaker 3: like lifeline at this point. 475 00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:49,159 Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's like, yeah, they don't have to be 476 00:21:49,280 --> 00:21:51,960 Speaker 1: like oh yeah, no, you're fine, You're perfect, Like yeah, 477 00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:52,960 Speaker 1: they can still. 478 00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:55,160 Speaker 2: Be like, hey you you fed up big time? Yeah 479 00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:56,159 Speaker 2: of course. Yeah. 480 00:21:56,240 --> 00:21:59,679 Speaker 1: Darlene says she didn't cheat on her parents too harsh. 481 00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:04,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a staggering lack of I think sympathy for me. Yeah. 482 00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:09,919 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, like again, she didn't you know, she 483 00:22:10,040 --> 00:22:12,359 Speaker 3: made her bed and now she's lying in it. Yeah, 484 00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:14,760 Speaker 3: maybe it's just a cultural thing for wherever, you know, 485 00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:17,440 Speaker 3: whatever country they're from. It's like that's just like a 486 00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:19,720 Speaker 3: hard line you do not cross where it's. You know, 487 00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:22,920 Speaker 3: once you get married, you stay faithful and if you don't, 488 00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:24,280 Speaker 3: you are like trash. 489 00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:26,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, Opie said, the parents are like the whole family. 490 00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:28,879 Speaker 1: I guess with the brother too, is like very conservative. 491 00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:32,000 Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know, it's just from my perspective. 492 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:33,840 Speaker 3: It's like when you're talking about family, like that's like 493 00:22:33,960 --> 00:22:36,400 Speaker 3: right or die type stuff. It's like, yeah, you still 494 00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:38,879 Speaker 3: back them up even when you know they're wrong, or 495 00:22:39,200 --> 00:22:41,879 Speaker 3: you don't, you don't back them. Yeah, you're still you 496 00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:44,320 Speaker 3: continue a relationship there, Yeah, you're still there. 497 00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:47,240 Speaker 1: You still you still continue our relationship. And if anything, 498 00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:49,440 Speaker 1: it's better because you can be like low key, I'm 499 00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:51,480 Speaker 1: all you got and and the right thing to do. 500 00:22:51,560 --> 00:22:53,520 Speaker 1: I feel like it is like I'm going to I'm 501 00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:55,480 Speaker 1: going to make sure you know that you fed up 502 00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:59,320 Speaker 1: and keep you accountable to do to never slip up 503 00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:02,120 Speaker 1: like that ever again. And yeah, you need to learn 504 00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:08,160 Speaker 1: it's not just the punishment. It's not rehabilitation, reiing reconditioning 505 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:10,600 Speaker 1: a lot of rewords. It's it's that right, It's like 506 00:23:10,920 --> 00:23:13,240 Speaker 1: you need to like actually learn and grow from this, 507 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:18,520 Speaker 1: not just be like just nuked with punishments for no like. 508 00:23:18,800 --> 00:23:20,080 Speaker 2: But and again and all this. 509 00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,680 Speaker 3: It really feels like to me that this all came 510 00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:26,800 Speaker 3: from like a an episode or something. Yeah, something, some 511 00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:29,880 Speaker 3: kind of something snapped, some switch flipped in her brain. Yeah, 512 00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:32,919 Speaker 3: And then for like however long that lasted, she was 513 00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:35,080 Speaker 3: like trying to do it, and then it got to a. 514 00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:37,560 Speaker 2: Point where she was like, what the hell am I doing? 515 00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:39,239 Speaker 1: This is over? I'm done with this. 516 00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:42,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, So that to me sounds like something under the 517 00:23:42,760 --> 00:23:45,840 Speaker 3: surface that nobody in the story fully understands, including her. 518 00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:48,000 Speaker 1: Yeah. I feel like I feel like yeah, And I 519 00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:51,120 Speaker 1: also think that honestly, op should tell the grandparents like, hey, 520 00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:54,760 Speaker 1: I appreciate you supporting me, obviously, but like I actually 521 00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:56,320 Speaker 1: don't think it's a good move to cut her eye 522 00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,000 Speaker 1: right now, because also, like she could get worse this 523 00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:00,560 Speaker 1: at the end of the day, this is the mother 524 00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:02,840 Speaker 1: of my children, the mother of your grandchildren, exactly. We 525 00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:05,440 Speaker 1: need her to get into a good mental state because 526 00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:09,160 Speaker 1: again she is literally her mother. Rehabilitation. Thank you dread 527 00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:12,000 Speaker 1: Jodah for rehabilitation for the wife, like she needs to 528 00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:15,040 Speaker 1: like learn and grow from these these mistakes and if anything, 529 00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:17,280 Speaker 1: you know, work on being a better mom and all 530 00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:19,440 Speaker 1: all these things. And yeah, I feel like I feel 531 00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:21,879 Speaker 1: like they're just gonna like push her to spiral out further, 532 00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:24,400 Speaker 1: which is not good for anybody. Yeah, everyone loses that sinary. 533 00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:25,480 Speaker 2: We're trying to make her crash out. 534 00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:28,360 Speaker 1: Dude. Oh fixed pole, Okay, you guys can well yeah, 535 00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:30,239 Speaker 1: vote vote real quick because I want to see right 536 00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:31,520 Speaker 1: before we get into the next episodry. 537 00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:33,720 Speaker 4: Guys, polls messed up. Now it's fixed. 538 00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:34,520 Speaker 1: Now it's fixed. 539 00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:37,920 Speaker 2: In laws too harsh? Or are they? Are they justified? 540 00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:40,919 Speaker 1: Yes? If these are these are different. We don't know 541 00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:43,360 Speaker 1: what country and Asia they're in. But of the formal 542 00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:47,040 Speaker 1: of countries in Asia that have formal grandtaring parenting laws, 543 00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:52,440 Speaker 1: China does, India does, South Korea has limited, Philippines has limited, yes, 544 00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:56,520 Speaker 1: and Singapore limited. Japan no. Japan does not have grand 545 00:24:56,960 --> 00:24:58,480 Speaker 1: grandparent laws. 546 00:24:58,320 --> 00:24:59,800 Speaker 2: To protect according to Chadji. 547 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:04,879 Speaker 1: According to chat gbts so, Malaysia no, Thailand's limited, Indonesia no. 548 00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:07,000 Speaker 1: I feel like they might be in like Jakarta, or something, 549 00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:11,120 Speaker 1: Vietnam limited, Pakistan, yes they do, Bangladesh is limited, Sri 550 00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:14,840 Speaker 1: Lanka's limited, Nepal No me and Mar no. Yeah, so 551 00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:19,200 Speaker 1: it's it's it's basically a mixed bag mean war. Yeah 552 00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:21,440 Speaker 1: you didn't know that geography? 553 00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:22,760 Speaker 2: Well didn't you? 554 00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:22,960 Speaker 1: Did? 555 00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:25,680 Speaker 3: They switch it back to me and maar oh because 556 00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:28,760 Speaker 3: they yeah, it was myr and then going through a tussle. 557 00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:29,080 Speaker 1: I don't. 558 00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:30,480 Speaker 2: I don't know, and they did they go back. 559 00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:33,320 Speaker 1: I'm not sort of like how we bansterer and read stories. 560 00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:34,320 Speaker 1: It's true. 561 00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:36,680 Speaker 2: Back me up, Josephine. Does my Ammar still exist? Or 562 00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:37,280 Speaker 2: am I crazy? 563 00:25:37,359 --> 00:25:39,080 Speaker 1: Let us know? But oh what did what did the 564 00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:42,399 Speaker 1: pole say? Okay, so sixty one percent of chat thinks 565 00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:45,960 Speaker 1: it's too harsh, thirty nine percent say not thirty nine 566 00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:48,760 Speaker 1: Almost half of chat right now is saying that it 567 00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:50,720 Speaker 1: was not too harsh for the parents and brother to 568 00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:52,760 Speaker 1: cut her off. I disagree, like we've we've already said 569 00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:56,280 Speaker 1: our piece on it. But maybe they're from wherever there, 570 00:25:56,600 --> 00:25:59,479 Speaker 1: who knows. But let's get into this next update update 571 00:25:59,560 --> 00:25:59,960 Speaker 1: the kids. 572 00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:03,760 Speaker 2: Huzzah father, you all day? 573 00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:07,560 Speaker 1: Then you go crazy? Yeah, the good crazy though? 574 00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:10,560 Speaker 2: Hello? Hello, Yes I am the father. Yes, thank you. 575 00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:13,359 Speaker 1: Oh my goodness. I mean, I knew ninety nine percent 576 00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:16,399 Speaker 1: of the kids are mine, but you never know. You 577 00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:18,439 Speaker 1: never know there could be that one percent of the 578 00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:21,480 Speaker 1: three children you have in the end. I thought my 579 00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:22,800 Speaker 1: wife was a loyal woman. 580 00:26:22,920 --> 00:26:23,600 Speaker 2: But she isn't. 581 00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:26,960 Speaker 1: I can finally breathe easy now, and it feels much 582 00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:30,040 Speaker 1: easier whenever see the results today, I was so scared 583 00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:32,119 Speaker 1: to look at them. I had to take ten minutes 584 00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:34,480 Speaker 1: before I could even check. Dang, if someone had told 585 00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:36,280 Speaker 1: me this would be my life. But here we are. 586 00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:39,040 Speaker 1: I started working again today and Melody is taking care 587 00:26:39,040 --> 00:26:41,720 Speaker 1: of everything. My friend and his wife are helping her. 588 00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:43,680 Speaker 1: She sent me pictures of the kids when she picked 589 00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:45,800 Speaker 1: them up from school and when they were eating. She's 590 00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:48,320 Speaker 1: really good and the kids love her. The last five 591 00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:50,960 Speaker 1: days were mentally tough. Remember this has all happened in 592 00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:53,720 Speaker 1: the span of like a week, so let me start weekend. 593 00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:55,960 Speaker 1: My wife didn't call me at all after I told 594 00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:58,480 Speaker 1: her about the DNA test. She was still sending me messages, 595 00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:00,480 Speaker 1: but no calls. Her friend told me she looks like 596 00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:03,600 Speaker 1: crap and she's acting like she's having a mental breakdown. 597 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:06,280 Speaker 1: She would send me about thirty messages a day before 598 00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:08,680 Speaker 1: it was one hundred and fifty to two hundred messages 599 00:27:08,720 --> 00:27:11,119 Speaker 1: a day. At least. Most of the messages were something like, 600 00:27:11,240 --> 00:27:14,200 Speaker 1: good morning, have a great day. I'm so sorry for everything. 601 00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:16,080 Speaker 1: Please call me if you feel like it, or I'm 602 00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:18,520 Speaker 1: so proud of how you're handling everything, or I can't 603 00:27:18,520 --> 00:27:20,680 Speaker 1: express how sorry I am. I wish i'd never gone 604 00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:22,840 Speaker 1: out that night. I wish i'd told you immediately. Do 605 00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:24,040 Speaker 1: we just block at you do? 606 00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:27,200 Speaker 2: I guess he's still collecting for divorce. 607 00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:29,879 Speaker 4: Well the lawyer can do that. You can talk to 608 00:27:29,960 --> 00:27:30,879 Speaker 4: me through my lawyer. 609 00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:33,119 Speaker 1: But like, she's not gonna text lawyer. 610 00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:35,520 Speaker 3: He's bringing this back to his lawyer and they're giggling 611 00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:36,280 Speaker 3: about it together. 612 00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:39,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, he's like him and his lawyer getting giggly. 613 00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:41,879 Speaker 1: She would sometimes change the wording, but the content was 614 00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:44,560 Speaker 1: always the same. She also sent me some pictures of 615 00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:47,119 Speaker 1: us and the kids, okay, from the past, vacations, us 616 00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:49,240 Speaker 1: on the couch, at restaurants, et cetera, et cetera. I 617 00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:51,840 Speaker 1: love how she sends him just like vacations. And she 618 00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:54,880 Speaker 1: would send a fair partner something. 619 00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:57,680 Speaker 2: That's like like let me get out of a divorce. 620 00:27:57,720 --> 00:27:58,119 Speaker 4: Here you go. 621 00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:00,800 Speaker 1: I guess she's just trying what ever she can think of, 622 00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:05,480 Speaker 1: you know, well, not anything, but you know, not anything, 623 00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:08,480 Speaker 1: not quiet, some things. Until yesterday, she would face time 624 00:28:08,520 --> 00:28:11,640 Speaker 1: with my daughter every day. My sons both still refuse 625 00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:12,320 Speaker 1: to talk to her. 626 00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:13,040 Speaker 2: I guess she. 627 00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:14,800 Speaker 1: Didn't come to pick her up. I don't know why, 628 00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:17,920 Speaker 1: but as her friend says, she doesn't seem normal right now. Again, 629 00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:21,960 Speaker 1: I think this further leans me towards Dakota's theory. He's 630 00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:25,359 Speaker 1: been saying throughout the series, something's going on might be 631 00:28:25,359 --> 00:28:31,640 Speaker 1: a mental break. Oh my god, it's possible. I mean, 632 00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:33,400 Speaker 1: I think I think anything of that. 633 00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:38,920 Speaker 3: Well, that's just what they always did in House the show. 634 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:42,200 Speaker 3: Everything was always lupis. 635 00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:44,440 Speaker 1: And then House was like, it's not lupus, Riley, you 636 00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:47,840 Speaker 1: shut up, Riley, you shut your sweet beautiful lips. 637 00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:53,760 Speaker 2: Riley. 638 00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:57,680 Speaker 3: No, I'm not falling for it. Maybe it's Madder baby, 639 00:28:57,880 --> 00:29:01,600 Speaker 3: It could be mader baby. What's the matter, baby, nothing? 640 00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:02,640 Speaker 2: What's going on with you? 641 00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:07,360 Speaker 1: Don't don't don't make me bring out suit, John, don't 642 00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:11,480 Speaker 1: make me bring out You have no power job, you 643 00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:12,360 Speaker 1: have no jacket. 644 00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:13,640 Speaker 2: Ah. 645 00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:17,080 Speaker 1: Anyways, So on Saturday, my brother called me. I hadn't 646 00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:19,520 Speaker 1: told him or anyone in my family what was going on. 647 00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:21,760 Speaker 1: Whenever they would ask to see my kids or me 648 00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:24,080 Speaker 1: and my wife, I would come up with an excuse 649 00:29:24,200 --> 00:29:26,840 Speaker 1: of why my wife wasn't actually around. I knew she 650 00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:30,200 Speaker 1: hadn't told them until she actually did. So my brother 651 00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:32,680 Speaker 1: called and told me that she confessed everything to him. 652 00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:35,080 Speaker 1: He was shocked and couldn't believe it. He thought that 653 00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:38,800 Speaker 1: we were joking with him. Yes, people, with all the evidence, 654 00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:41,800 Speaker 1: no one could believe it, even even his own wife 655 00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:43,240 Speaker 1: telling them they didn't think it was real. 656 00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:45,640 Speaker 2: I think that's a deep fake. 657 00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:48,640 Speaker 1: That's a deep fake. I think people would rather believe 658 00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:51,160 Speaker 1: that she became the president of the United States of 659 00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:55,160 Speaker 1: America than believe this. That's how shocking this betrayal is. 660 00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:58,080 Speaker 1: My brother's wife is very close to my wife. After 661 00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:01,040 Speaker 1: hearing about everything, she cut all content with her. My 662 00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:03,840 Speaker 1: brother did the same. At first, I thought she did 663 00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:06,040 Speaker 1: it to show me support, even though they were really 664 00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:08,480 Speaker 1: close to me, but no, she did it because she's 665 00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:11,200 Speaker 1: also disgusted by my wife and doesn't want someone like 666 00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:14,200 Speaker 1: her around my brother or her husband. I actually laughed 667 00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:16,920 Speaker 1: at this, but I appreciated the support. So my wife 668 00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:20,080 Speaker 1: lost one of the last people she can rely. I'm 669 00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:22,320 Speaker 1: just worried about her. I'm just I'm just what do 670 00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:25,720 Speaker 1: you mean, She's got Wilson in her box? Dude, she's 671 00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:26,400 Speaker 1: got her box. 672 00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:27,440 Speaker 2: Wilson's in her box. 673 00:30:27,760 --> 00:30:30,440 Speaker 1: You know, the ball the vault. That's a reference. I 674 00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:31,840 Speaker 1: did get Tom Hanks. 675 00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:35,080 Speaker 2: No, I just thought you was making making a joke. 676 00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:39,600 Speaker 3: Oh Damn might be the fair partner's name. 677 00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:42,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, anyway, could have been. 678 00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:44,360 Speaker 2: We don't know. 679 00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:47,959 Speaker 1: She probably has a lot of friends now. 680 00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:50,880 Speaker 2: Any Honestly, she honestly sounds like she needs help. 681 00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:53,360 Speaker 3: But I feel bad for her, Like, at this point 682 00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:56,360 Speaker 3: she's made mistakes, but for God's sake, she doesn't deserve 683 00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:58,440 Speaker 3: her entire support system being cut out of her life. 684 00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:01,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, there is some is such a thing as a 685 00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:05,480 Speaker 1: you've done a crime, but your punishment is more doesn't 686 00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:06,120 Speaker 1: fit the crime. 687 00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:07,960 Speaker 2: It's too much. 688 00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:11,080 Speaker 1: I think everyone would be better off if she had 689 00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:14,360 Speaker 1: some kind of her crimes. 690 00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:17,200 Speaker 2: He should be get divorced and you need to get 691 00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:17,560 Speaker 2: a job. 692 00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:20,920 Speaker 3: Now, Yeah, that's that's an You can't have custody of 693 00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:21,600 Speaker 3: the kids all the time. 694 00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:24,800 Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, that that would be faireness. But I digress. 695 00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:27,480 Speaker 1: My brother said that they would try to visit soon, 696 00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:30,000 Speaker 1: so I am glad for that. Then my parents called me, 697 00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:32,640 Speaker 1: what do we think they're gonna do? 698 00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:35,520 Speaker 2: Guys, Sorry, I was just laughing because rise, he is 699 00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:36,000 Speaker 2: an idiot. 700 00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:42,320 Speaker 3: But instead of putting Tom Hans Tom Hanks, he put 701 00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:48,280 Speaker 3: Tom Hans. The famous movie in my head is Tom Hanks. 702 00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:53,120 Speaker 3: But he's just got massive hands and he's Tom Hands. 703 00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:54,040 Speaker 2: I like that. 704 00:31:54,440 --> 00:31:56,560 Speaker 3: I like that, And he never talks. He just like 705 00:31:56,920 --> 00:32:01,200 Speaker 3: smacks people with big, big mitts. Tom, I'm gonna cry. 706 00:32:01,600 --> 00:32:03,600 Speaker 1: He would have stayed the captain if he was Tom Hands. 707 00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:05,440 Speaker 1: But anyways, yeah, you could have. 708 00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:07,760 Speaker 2: Just he could have paddled the whole boat man. 709 00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:12,840 Speaker 1: Come on, guys, go on now, they'll try to correct her. 710 00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:14,760 Speaker 4: I know you mean thank you, but you know what 711 00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:16,640 Speaker 4: I mean because these idiots. 712 00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:20,520 Speaker 3: You know, now everyone in chat now knows exactly what 713 00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:23,120 Speaker 3: kind of stupid I am, because I'm losing it over 714 00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:27,000 Speaker 3: Tom Hands, Like, oh my god, I'm crying over Tom 715 00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:27,680 Speaker 3: Hands right now. 716 00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:33,120 Speaker 1: But he says, my father supports whatever decision I make 717 00:32:33,200 --> 00:32:34,960 Speaker 1: and tells me to do what's best for me and 718 00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:37,800 Speaker 1: the kids. On the other hand, my mother says I 719 00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:40,200 Speaker 1: should forgive my wife, she should forgive my wife on 720 00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:44,160 Speaker 1: the other hand, because she's a human, she's made a mistake, 721 00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:46,520 Speaker 1: and she's remorseful and ready to do anything. Okay, so 722 00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:50,760 Speaker 1: at least somebody is like, not completely just like nuking. 723 00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:53,520 Speaker 2: Their relationship and going to contact with her. She needs 724 00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:55,720 Speaker 2: at least one friend God saying. 725 00:32:55,640 --> 00:32:59,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, someone and that one mistake shouldn't be enough to 726 00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:02,400 Speaker 1: forget even years of love and three kids. I immediately 727 00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:04,720 Speaker 1: told her it wasn't just one mistake. If we're going 728 00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:09,440 Speaker 1: by Samuel Donner's Golden Rules, she met four actually, so 729 00:33:10,280 --> 00:33:14,800 Speaker 1: for eleven years of a relationship, that's two two almost 730 00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:17,400 Speaker 1: three Hall passes, but two Hall passes right, so it's 731 00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:21,640 Speaker 1: two of them. But they have one two three kids. 732 00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:25,080 Speaker 1: That means she has five Hall passes. They got together 733 00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:29,920 Speaker 1: the rules sam made. This is Samuel Donner's Golden Rules. Yes, 734 00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:35,520 Speaker 1: according No, according according according to John Fries Golden Rules, 735 00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:38,520 Speaker 1: I have zero Hall basses. So uh. But according to 736 00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:42,760 Speaker 1: Samuel Donner's Golden Rules, her cheating is acceptable. 737 00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:45,640 Speaker 2: No. No, it's a predictive tool. 738 00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:50,760 Speaker 1: Guys, as a predictive tool. 739 00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:51,880 Speaker 2: To say that Tom Hans does not agree with that. 740 00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:55,160 Speaker 2: It's not a Tom Hans sanctioned golden rules. 741 00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:58,000 Speaker 1: So the actual the actual thing is uh, it's it's 742 00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:00,800 Speaker 1: a predictive tool to say, you know, couples who like 743 00:34:01,040 --> 00:34:04,400 Speaker 1: have long long relationship with kids, they're more likely to 744 00:34:04,480 --> 00:34:09,319 Speaker 1: try to work through a like cheating or hardships in 745 00:34:09,360 --> 00:34:12,160 Speaker 1: their relationship for the you know, for the kids, for 746 00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:12,800 Speaker 1: the relationship. 747 00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:15,640 Speaker 2: Except the nature of it is really important as well. 748 00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:18,000 Speaker 3: It's like you've got the time and the sunk costs 749 00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:19,520 Speaker 3: and the kids always do it for the kids. 750 00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:22,640 Speaker 2: Then the nature, the context and the nature of it 751 00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:23,680 Speaker 2: is also It's. 752 00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:27,400 Speaker 1: Very important because the cool's golden rules. Everyone's got a 753 00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:32,960 Speaker 1: gold rule these days, Golden rules, the inflation. But I 754 00:34:32,960 --> 00:34:36,239 Speaker 1: immediately told her it wasn't just one mistake before mistakes 755 00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:38,520 Speaker 1: over the course of one month. Her response was, you 756 00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:41,160 Speaker 1: should ask herself why she did that. Was everything okay 757 00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:43,200 Speaker 1: between the two of you? I hung up immediately. 758 00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:44,640 Speaker 2: I love my mom. 759 00:34:44,760 --> 00:34:46,359 Speaker 1: She's one of the most important people in my life, 760 00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:48,440 Speaker 1: and I would do anything for her. She saved my 761 00:34:48,480 --> 00:34:50,760 Speaker 1: life when I was younger and struggling. If it weren't 762 00:34:50,760 --> 00:34:54,640 Speaker 1: for her, I would probably be deceased or on the streets. 763 00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:57,480 Speaker 1: She's my guardian angel. But I just couldn't believe she 764 00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:00,600 Speaker 1: would say something like that. My father immediately attacked her 765 00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:03,480 Speaker 1: for defending cheaters. She apologized, saying, I just think that 766 00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:06,200 Speaker 1: that's what's best for the kids, and told me whatever 767 00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:09,120 Speaker 1: I decide, she supports me. I did not have the 768 00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:12,040 Speaker 1: energy to keep talking my wife's parents back to them, 769 00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:15,160 Speaker 1: and her brothers still aren't talking to her. They actually 770 00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:17,560 Speaker 1: told me they would send her her remaining things to 771 00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:20,319 Speaker 1: her home country and that she's not allowed to enter 772 00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:23,480 Speaker 1: their house anymore. If we forget all of that, the 773 00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:26,360 Speaker 1: weekend was actually really good. We went with my friend's 774 00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:28,840 Speaker 1: family to watch a football game when shopping, and the 775 00:35:28,880 --> 00:35:32,480 Speaker 1: kids were laughing and smiling, which is what's most important. Now, 776 00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:36,080 Speaker 1: onto another chaos, another chaotic situation with my wife. Lovely, 777 00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:38,760 Speaker 1: we're back to insanity, ladies and gentlemen. Do you guys 778 00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:41,520 Speaker 1: remember how I said that she had stopped calling me. 779 00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:44,040 Speaker 2: You guys, you guys remember that? Yeah, after the DNA test. 780 00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:46,680 Speaker 1: DNA test, she you know, she she was calling one 781 00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:48,680 Speaker 1: hundred to two hundred times a day or whatever it was, 782 00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:50,160 Speaker 1: and then it was radio silence. 783 00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:50,959 Speaker 2: Right, Uh huh? 784 00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:55,120 Speaker 1: What was she doingthing? Was she building up a counter case? 785 00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:58,120 Speaker 1: Was she setting up something to frame op. 786 00:35:58,160 --> 00:35:58,799 Speaker 2: For I don't know. 787 00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:02,640 Speaker 3: Was she doing the Yankees blinky with Tom hands? 788 00:36:02,160 --> 00:36:02,200 Speaker 2: What? 789 00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:05,640 Speaker 1: Bro Listen those hands he knows how to use them. 790 00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:06,720 Speaker 1: That's all I'm gonna say. 791 00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:10,680 Speaker 2: Tom hands. Those that he uses hands, Tom Hans, and 792 00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:11,520 Speaker 2: he's a handy guy. 793 00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:12,400 Speaker 1: He can't help it. 794 00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:13,640 Speaker 2: He's he's all hands. 795 00:36:13,640 --> 00:36:15,960 Speaker 1: He's got that. He's all hands, all hands, no break. 796 00:36:15,880 --> 00:36:18,920 Speaker 2: Formally requesting fan art of Tom Hans please put it 797 00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:21,000 Speaker 2: in the Okay storytime beday. But I don't know she 798 00:36:21,239 --> 00:36:23,120 Speaker 2: was she getting even more unfaithful? 799 00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:25,719 Speaker 1: Well yeah, it didn't last long, her stopping calling me. 800 00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:28,240 Speaker 1: I need to add a little context here. So first, 801 00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:31,320 Speaker 1: my assistant at work for the past fifteen to sixteen 802 00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:36,200 Speaker 1: months is Sarah twenty nine. She's a great worker, professional, smart, kind. 803 00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:40,080 Speaker 1: She's also really attractive, and since she moved here and 804 00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:43,160 Speaker 1: started working with me, she's been single. I told my 805 00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:46,080 Speaker 1: wife about her. Before Sarah started working with me, my 806 00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:49,279 Speaker 1: previous assistant was what was a guy? My wife was 807 00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:52,839 Speaker 1: okay with that, nothing special until she saw Sarah looked 808 00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:57,040 Speaker 1: and realized she was signal single. Then she became cautious irony. Huh. 809 00:36:57,120 --> 00:37:01,400 Speaker 1: Sarah would sometimes message me a knight around nine, and 810 00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:05,000 Speaker 1: while the messages were always about work, my wife would 811 00:37:05,000 --> 00:37:07,400 Speaker 1: get very angry and insecure about it. She would sometimes 812 00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:10,840 Speaker 1: show up at my workplace with the kids without calling first. 813 00:37:10,960 --> 00:37:12,839 Speaker 1: I didn't have a problem with it, as she used 814 00:37:12,880 --> 00:37:15,319 Speaker 1: to do this before Sarah started working with me, but 815 00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:17,799 Speaker 1: now she was doing it to see how Sarah and 816 00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:21,840 Speaker 1: I would react. Over time, my wife's jealousy faded because 817 00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:24,680 Speaker 1: I reassured her nothing was going on, but she was 818 00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:28,600 Speaker 1: still concerned about Sarah's intentions. My wife would say she 819 00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:30,680 Speaker 1: could see Sarah eating. 820 00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:33,839 Speaker 2: Me with her eyes at a little. 821 00:37:35,600 --> 00:37:36,200 Speaker 1: Delicious. 822 00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:38,960 Speaker 2: She was really cold. 823 00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:40,920 Speaker 1: When they were around each other. This Monday, we had 824 00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:43,200 Speaker 1: a really important event at the company. Put an IC 825 00:37:43,360 --> 00:37:45,880 Speaker 1: in the comments because I see something that's about to happen.