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Speaker 1: My fiance stole my best friend's proposal idea, so I

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Speaker 1: for two years and just got.

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Speaker 2: Engaged last week.

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Speaker 1: The engagement itself was wonderful, but I couldn't help but

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Speaker 1: notice how similar it was to a conversation I had

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Speaker 1: with my best friend twenty three female of over a decade,

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Speaker 1: a conversation that happened many many moons ago, in which

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Speaker 1: she detailed exactly what she would do if she proposed

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Speaker 1: to me, and it was very specific to my general

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Speaker 1: likes and interests, and I mean specific at the time,

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Speaker 1: I told her that sounds perfect and hold on to

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Speaker 1: that for later. It's pretty clear to me that he

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Speaker 1: did approach her and she let him know about his plan.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Lady Astron and the Arsage. Okay, storytime, sat,

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Speaker 1: I reread it about your stories there, We're to keep

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Speaker 1: going to the story. So after the day itself, I

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Speaker 1: told my new fiance that it was cute that he

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Speaker 1: asked her how I wanted to be proposed to, but

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Speaker 1: I joked that he stole her entire very detailed plan,

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Speaker 1: so it was more her proposal than his. He went

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Speaker 1: quiet and then got angry. Then it all came out. Oh,

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Speaker 1: so the friend was like, this is how I'm going

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Speaker 3: You gave me my besties proposal. Yeah, not your own proposal,

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Speaker 3: but I mean, if it's so good, if it sounds perfect,

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Speaker 3: how good was it?

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Speaker 2: The shoe fits?

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Speaker 1: He said that he always felt second place to my

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Speaker 1: my religious family, that I have been lying about my preferences,

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Speaker 1: and that I'm probably having an affair with my friend.

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Speaker 1: I was shocked. He's never expressed this to me before.

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Speaker 1: Really quick, really quick.

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Speaker 4: That's a perfect time to just, you know, release those thoughts,

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Speaker 4: not before obviously.

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Speaker 1: His response not great, no, not great no, but questioned

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Speaker 1: for you, yes, if you propose, and did a bunch

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Speaker 1: of research from like friends and family to see what

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Speaker 1: would be the perfect proposal. And then after you propose,

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Speaker 1: your girlfriend was like, that was more of my friend's

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Speaker 2: How would you feel terrible?

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Speaker 3: Now? I feel like there's two very possible cases. There

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Speaker 3: is one case where he did what you said, which

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Speaker 3: she's like, he interviewed around, like I asked all these

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Speaker 3: people and they're like, oh, we had this conversation and

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Speaker 3: and like she literally broke it all down. I remember

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Speaker 3: all the details. It'll be perfect because it's going to

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Speaker 3: be like, you know what she's always dreamed like, it's

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Speaker 3: like how girl like little girls always have dream about

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Speaker 3: and it'll be kind of like that. And I also

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Speaker 3: see another scenario where, uh, what if it was like, oh,

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Speaker 3: play make sure to play baby baby Baby, oh, because

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Speaker 3: You were so lazy you didn't you didn't actually you know,

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Maybe this is controversial, but I think he is a

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Speaker 4: I think it depends on how she said that. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: and yeah, the issue was the flare up. And also

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Speaker 4: I'm curious about the how long ago this conversation was.

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Speaker 1: It was ten years ago. The conversation with her friend

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Speaker 1: like asks her friends, and their friend's like, oh, perfect,

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Speaker 1: we had this conversation. This is exactly how she would want.

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Speaker 4: To I'm sure he's thinking, oh, ten years ago, or

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Speaker 4: about the conversation that they had, and so he's like, oh,

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I feel like it was probably I don't know, I

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Speaker 4: It's not enough to get super upset about. It's just

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Speaker 4: this wasn't very personal. It could seem like a cop

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Speaker 1: But now but now, and like it kind of brings

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Speaker 3: Going from like, oh, you gave me the best friend's

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Speaker 2: With the best friend.

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Speaker 1: Ye what? And to be clear, Dutch Casana says, you

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Speaker 1: And what the What this guy is basically saying is

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Speaker 3: Oh man, so let's keep going. I think there's a

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Speaker 1: I was shocked. He's never expressed this to me before.

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Speaker 1: He's complained in the past I spend too much time

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Speaker 1: I could without losing my best friend. But I had

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Speaker 1: no idea he thinks I'm having an affair. I tried

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Speaker 1: to reassure him, but I thought it would be better

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Speaker 1: We haven't been in contact, and though I haven't told

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Speaker 1: to do all I can to fix this relationship. Was

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Speaker 1: I an a hole for making that joke? So I

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Speaker 2: Well, and what was the joke? Yeah? Joke?

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Speaker 1: Okay, so just so, the joke was shows he he proposed,

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Speaker 1: and it was basically this like very elaborate proposal, but

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Speaker 1: it was a proposal that her, her friend and her

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Speaker 1: And then I'm guessing Opie's boyfriend talked to her best

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Speaker 2: My friend did. Yeah, that was the joke that she made.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I can understand that'd be tough to

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you're having a bear with your best friend like whoa,

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Speaker 5: where's that?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah that I think that is a crazy response

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Speaker 1: If if that was his response and not the terrible thing,

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Speaker 1: then she would have been the a hole. Yeah, the

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Speaker 1: whole point. But because of how terrible his response is

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Speaker 1: far exceeds he over a hold he he out a

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Speaker 1: hold her. But let's get into the relevant comments.

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Speaker 5: Let's know it.

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Speaker 1: So kid in fourteen twelve says Info. So, when you

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Speaker 1: Because, oh and another another thing. She they wrote this

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Speaker 1: When you heard the idea, you were telling her that

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Speaker 1: is not out what you wanted? And if not, what

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Speaker 1: what did you expect out of this situation? Oh, P responds,

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Speaker 1: At the time I had met my fiance and we

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Speaker 3: So is it was it kind of what I was

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Speaker 5: Yeah, he's like, well, you love her so much, you

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think I agree with this comment, But what

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Speaker 1: I think if he responded in a different way, it

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Speaker 1: uh she would have been like only the a hole

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Speaker 4: And I also feel like that's not necessarily something you

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Speaker 4: well I didn't like your proposal.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, yeah, I think there's a weirdness to it.

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Speaker 1: we're gonna read some more. You're going to read some more. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Dixie Blue Seal says, so she literally said what she

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Speaker 2: But I want to hear more. Let's hear more.

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Speaker 1: So verdict from Reddit is a whole Oh everyone thought

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Speaker 1: a hole and the update. I would like to start

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Speaker 1: by saying thank you to everyone who responded to this post.

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Speaker 1: It put things into a better perspective for me. I

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Speaker 1: apologize to my partner, not just for the joke, but

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Speaker 1: before we end this really quick. I got like a

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Speaker 3: So we all learned being a hole to your partner

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Speaker 1: So as for whether I'm going to dramatically elope with

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Speaker 2: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives.

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Speaker 5: Time for okop relash.

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Speaker 1: My big MEI daddy is blackmailing me because I went

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Speaker 2: But I have something up my sleeve, so you.

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Speaker 5: Get him with the double whammie no surre.

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Speaker 1: Like a magician. She he's tholen some black male black magic.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna predict, not the a hole. Why not?

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Speaker 1: I female twenty three, have a beautiful child and another

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Speaker 3: I like that, Like you're just listening to the middle

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Speaker 2: Like is that a thing? Ladies?

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Speaker 1: Can you please put it in the comments? If I

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Speaker 1: So I did some things that I'm not proud of,

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Speaker 1: I spent years after this being made to comply to

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Speaker 1: what he's doing is falling under the blackmail law and

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Speaker 1: So I guess apparently if you're using something someone has

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Speaker 2: Bring those to court is legally blackmail. Wow, this is

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the lawyer took on the case and filed blackmail

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Speaker 1: I responded with, yes, I did some terrible things. I

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Speaker 1: A good bit of people agree. I have paid my

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Speaker 2: So am I the A hole?

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Speaker 1: John's about to get into the breakdown, but before he does,

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Speaker 1: think you know? Is OP being the a hole? Is

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Speaker 1: There's some good lawyers out there, But John, what do

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Speaker 3: This one's really hard because also also it's like what

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Speaker 2: Like did she harm anybody? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: And like what's like what is he using as as

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Speaker 2: I don't.

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Speaker 5: Yet I agree, it's just too too unclear.

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Speaker 1: But again I don't like, you know, it's it's hard

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Speaker 5: Or if we can blindly make decisions.

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Speaker 1: And yeah's people blindly make a decision and just rumble

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Speaker 3: Am I the a hole for telling my husband's female

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Speaker 2: Okayop? This is Okayop.

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Speaker 1: I'm Samuel Daughter and I'm John Fry, and we tell

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Speaker 1: the funniest stories of the Internet. In fact, John, I

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Speaker 1: want to get into spaceship go to frickin Mars Burrow

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Speaker 1: they got a Martian that is watching. Okop, Because dang straight,

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Speaker 1: everyone in the world and Mars and beyond should be

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Speaker 1: watching the show.

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Speaker 5: All the universes you know.

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Speaker 1: Sextron nine, Oh yeah, dude, Cextron nine damn they love.

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Speaker 5: We have a whole fan club over there. They do

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Speaker 5: they do uranus youranus? Am I the a hole? Am

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Speaker 5: I the anal cavity of the universe?

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Speaker 1: John, I heard on your exploration adventure Through the Stars

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Speaker 1: and through the sky. You found a story that might

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Speaker 1: put a twinkle in my eye.

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Speaker 3: Me and my boy Elon, we discovered it's check it out.

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Speaker 3: Elon is the meme. King too is like a hardcore

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Speaker 3: redditor foreshore or someone on his team has to be

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Speaker 3: doing something. There's no way he's not. Am I the

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Speaker 3: a hole for telling my husband's female friend you are not.

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Speaker 2: His best friend?

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Speaker 5: That just seems mean, you know, maybe or maybe not.

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Speaker 2: Maybe she deserves it. Let's see.

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Speaker 1: Let's get to it at the TikTok God to decide

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Speaker 2: That's what's right.

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Speaker 3: Long story short, My husband has one of those female friends.

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Speaker 2: What are those females?

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Speaker 3: I guess it's like someone who's like slyly trying to like,

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Speaker 3: you know, I will call her Sarah Sarah going to

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Speaker 2: Sarah, Oh disgusting. I would never do such a thing.

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Speaker 3: Sure and I get along fine, but every once in

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Speaker 2: That's a little much.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't ever want to say to someone else's

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Speaker 1: More about him? Do you even know blah blah blah

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Speaker 5: I would never tell you that.

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Speaker 2: Oh my God killed me deep in the throes of

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Speaker 2: a passion.

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Speaker 3: Now she's one in a big group of about eleven friends.

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Speaker 3: I've talked to my husband about her several times, but

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Speaker 3: it's so many added up micro actions that it's hard

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Speaker 3: to tell her offer one singular thing without looking crazy.

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Speaker 3: So it's like her things are so tiny that it's

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Speaker 3: like it's weird to call her out for one specific thing.

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Speaker 2: I guess it's.

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Speaker 1: One of those situations where it's like you're kind of

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Speaker 1: gauging intent. Yeah, and like the person knows how to

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Speaker 1: respect the boundary but also disrespected at the same time.

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Speaker 1: It's like towing the line. Hewing the line, but I

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Speaker 1: am of the opinion, and I'll wait to hear the story.

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Speaker 1: But I'm kind of the opinion that if it sounds

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Speaker 1: crazy to call someone out, then you're probably being crazy.

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Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, yeah, yeah, but let's we'll see, we'll see.

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Speaker 2: Well.

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Speaker 3: This past weekend, the group of friends got together for

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Speaker 3: the first time since.

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Speaker 5: We were all boosted.

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Speaker 3: My husband and I eloped a few weeks ago, and

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Speaker 3: this was the first time that our friends were really

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Speaker 3: seeing us since we got married. Sarah came right up

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Speaker 3: and got in our face as the group was congratulating

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Speaker 3: us to tell my husband how disappointed she was in

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Speaker 3: him for not telling her about our ceremony, not inviting her,

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Speaker 3: and not even sending her a photo.

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Speaker 2: No photos, this wants to be included, Sarah.

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Speaker 3: He told her nobody except our parents knew, nobody was invited,

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Speaker 3: and we don't have our professional photos back yet. And

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Speaker 3: then the girl started sobbing. How could he do this

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Speaker 3: to her? And she wanted him to be her man

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Speaker 3: of honor when she gets married. She's single, by the way,

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Speaker 3: and he didn't even invite her to his and their

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Speaker 3: friendship now needed some serious TLC to recover.

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Speaker 5: What's TLC Tender Loving Care? Ah, Okay, this is in front.

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Speaker 2: Of a whole group, mind you that I feel like that.

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Speaker 1: I mean, if no one else is invited, like it's

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Speaker 1: your wedding, you don't owe anyone anything.

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Speaker 3: Exactly right now, I couldn't take it anymore and said,

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Speaker 3: he might be your best friend, but you're not his.

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Speaker 3: That was between me and him. You you weren't even

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Speaker 3: a consideration.

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Speaker 2: Oh that last one.

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Speaker 3: That was the twist, baby, Oh, that was the twist

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Speaker 3: of the dagger.

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Speaker 2: Damn bro. She's like, I think that's that's a lot.

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Speaker 2: It's a lot.

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Speaker 3: Both of them are going a little, a little hard man.

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Speaker 3: There was some frosty ooh from the crowd and she

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Speaker 3: left the house. The crowd is split. They were all

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Speaker 3: my husband's friends before I came into the picture, and

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Speaker 3: some think it was uncalled for and that I should

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Speaker 3: have just let my husband handle it.

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Speaker 5: I was mad in the moment, but now I don't know.

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Speaker 5: Did I go too far?

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Speaker 1: I think I think they're right. I think they should

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Speaker 1: have let the husband handle it. Yeah, But honestly, like

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Speaker 1: great burn though, great bird, great bird, I will I

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Speaker 1: will applaud the sickness of the burn. But I think, like,

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Speaker 1: I mean, if this is something that has been bothering

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Speaker 1: the the wife, like the husband should have done something

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Speaker 1: about this situation.

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Speaker 2: Like that's a good point.

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Speaker 1: For that's a very good point. I'm just thinking of

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Speaker 1: my my girlfriend Ariyan. I was ever uncomfortable with my

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Speaker 1: relationship with one of my one of my girlfriends, like

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Speaker 1: that we would have talks about like what is appropriate, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know between my friend and and I, uh, and.

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Speaker 3: You have to communicate that to that person then, yeah,

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Speaker 3: like if it's if it's at that point exactly exactly,

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Speaker 3: like like hey, like you know, I don't know if

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Speaker 3: I feel really comfortable with how you're acting, and you know,

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Speaker 3: neither does my girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so I think it's somewhat on the boyfriend in

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Speaker 1: general or on the husband. Yeah, I think it's somewhat.

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Speaker 1: I think it's somewhat on the husband in general. But

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Speaker 1: I also think that the husband should have spoke up

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Speaker 1: in this situation and and been allowed to to speak

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Speaker 1: up and and say, you know, respond to Sarah himself.

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Speaker 1: Any thoughts, John, Yeah, I kind of agree with you.

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Speaker 3: I think that he definitely should have said something like

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Speaker 3: if it the thing is that.

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Speaker 5: It bothered her, so they should have worked on that.

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Speaker 3: Even if before her like little instances were like too

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Speaker 3: small to be a big deal or whatever, like, they

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Speaker 3: should have had that discussion.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I wonder if Op even brought it up to

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Speaker 5: him yet. That's a good question.

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Speaker 2: If she hasn't a good es, then that's that's like, that's.

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Speaker 5: Kind of on her, that that's on her.

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Speaker 3: You got to communicate that.

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Speaker 1: But uh, you know what, it's always something that you

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Speaker 1: should bring up.

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