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Speaker 1: Hey, folks.

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Speaker 2: In this episode, our Love Stories series continues today a

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Speaker 2: couple that's been together eight years, but marriage hasn't been

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Speaker 2: on the table. Well at least it wasn't before they

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Speaker 2: did this interview with us. And with that, welcome to

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Speaker 2: this Cuffing season edition.

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Speaker 1: Of Amy and TJ.

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Speaker 2: Rose. When you agree that as we've been going through

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Speaker 2: this and it's been a blast, some of the couples

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Speaker 2: like have a little you see a little light bulb

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Speaker 2: things in the interview with us that maybe they hadn't

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Speaker 2: been thinking about.

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Speaker 1: It's been fun to watch.

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Speaker 3: It has been fun to watch.

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Speaker 4: Look, all of the couples who we've been interviewing are

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Speaker 4: happy couples. They're all in different stages of their relationships,

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Speaker 4: but all of them have been tried and tested. I

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Speaker 4: think it's fair to say. And I love that we

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Speaker 4: heard from Kevin and Austin saying, Hey, if it ain't broke,

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Speaker 4: don't fix it.

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Speaker 3: But then I started to see them.

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Speaker 4: Realize how much they love each other and are committed

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Speaker 4: to each other through answering the questions we've been asking

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Speaker 4: all of the couples, and it was cool to see

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Speaker 4: that that at the end they were happier than they

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Speaker 4: were at the beginning of the conversation, which is a

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Speaker 4: good sign as they were talking about their relationship.

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Speaker 2: Well, I think we were too after this conversation with them,

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Speaker 2: and that I'm not being dramatic. After every single conversation

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Speaker 2: with a couple, it's been encouraging. There's been something that

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Speaker 2: has been comforting about knowing somebody else is going through

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Speaker 2: the exact same thing, even though you know it in

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Speaker 2: your mind that other couples are dealing with it, to

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Speaker 2: hear them openly talk about it, it's just it's been nice.

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Speaker 2: And I think no couple would agree to come on

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Speaker 2: if a couple wasn't solid and we were asking some

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Speaker 2: of these questions, that they could get nasty.

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Speaker 4: It's true, and that's a good point. And you'll notice,

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Speaker 4: and I'm not saying that celebrity couples aren't good, but

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Speaker 4: a lot of celebrity couples won't do interviews together for

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Speaker 4: those reasons. And if you think about it, you don't

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Speaker 4: see married celebrity couples oftentimes sitting down for an interview,

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Speaker 4: and so we feel really honored. Yeah, that we were

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Speaker 4: able to secure this many amazing celebrity couples to actually

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Speaker 4: let us ask them anything. There were no rules, No

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Speaker 4: one said, hey, don't go there, don't ask us about this.

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Speaker 4: They just trusted us with discussing fully their relationship, the ups,

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Speaker 4: the downs, the highs, the lows.

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Speaker 3: And that's not easy to talk about in a public setting.

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Speaker 1: No, I didn't think about it.

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Speaker 2: I was thinking that some of our couples that we

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Speaker 2: did later, I said, well, they had the option, they

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Speaker 2: the early ones. Actually, no, most of these we got

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Speaker 2: them airing. So none of these couples knew what was

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Speaker 2: And they trusted their own relationship enough to know we

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Speaker 4: That's the bigger point point, right, that they trusted one

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Speaker 4: can go even talked about this with Austin and Kevin.

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Speaker 4: You can go and take your relationship even to a

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Speaker 4: party and come back in a fight because someone said

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Speaker 3: So imagine doing.

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Speaker 4: That recorded for a podcast for anyone to listen to.

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Speaker 1: Do I have it right?

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Speaker 3: That's trust?

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Speaker 1: I think I have it right.

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Speaker 2: Not a single edit has been made to any of

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Speaker 2: these We let it ride, and not a single couple

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Speaker 2: has come to us and said, hey, can you pluck

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Speaker 2: that part out or nothing? Not once, So that's been awesome.

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Speaker 2: I mean, we talk about Kevin and Austin. You all

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Speaker 2: know these names. Kevin McHale and Austin McKenzie. Two they

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Speaker 2: met through their careers. It's fair to say most of

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Speaker 4: Yes, they met on the job, which so often happens.

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Speaker 4: You know, we might have had that same experience. But yes,

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Speaker 4: Kevin McHale or my daughters love him. They actually were

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Speaker 3: But he, of course is from Glee.

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Speaker 4: Anyone who loved that show, as my daughters did, knows

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Speaker 4: he played Artie Abrams and then Austin McKenzie, who had

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Speaker 4: Broadway performance of Spring Awakening. He's a singer, he's an actor,

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Speaker 4: so it's just it's a cool story. They're both in

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Speaker 4: but they seem to be handling it with such grace

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Speaker 4: and getting stronger by the day. So they really did

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Speaker 4: blow us away with openness. And what we love about

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Speaker 4: the series is we talk to couples, as we mentioned,

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Speaker 4: from all different stages of life. But there are in

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Speaker 4: some our age differences. There is race differences, there are

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Speaker 4: something relatable about all of them to our relationship and

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Speaker 4: I'm hoping to your relationship as well. So please take

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Speaker 4: a listen to the love story of Kevin McHale and

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Speaker 4: Austin McKenzie. Kevin and Austin join us now. Thank you

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Speaker 4: both for being with us. How you doing pretty good?

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Speaker 5: Thank you for having us?

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Speaker 3: Well? You look adorable to together? Uh you do? You

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Speaker 3: just look so sweet? I love it. I love love.

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Speaker 4: So we start off by asking everyone the same first question,

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Speaker 4: each of you, if you would give us three words

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Speaker 4: to describe your relationship right now.

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Speaker 3: Kevin will start with you, Oh, right.

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Speaker 5: Now, Okay, exciting, communicative, Wow, settled in a good way

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Speaker 5: like that or he settles for me? But like we're content.

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Speaker 5: Maybe I'm living to change the content the truth comes out.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I would say, uh, funny, honest, and.

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Speaker 7: I don't know. I think it's sexual, Like yeah, yeah, sexual,

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Speaker 7: you know what?

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Speaker 2: And a ho tell you all and all the conversation

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Speaker 2: we've had with couples, you all hit about three or

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Speaker 2: even four words that we've heard for the first time. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and what you all said, so that is that's kind

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Next question here, though, when you all first met, was

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Speaker 5: No, I would.

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Speaker 6: Actually say yes, but not, but not at all the

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Speaker 6: way we have chemistry now, okay, fair like we both

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Speaker 6: both definitely we both definitely saw something and had a

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Speaker 7: I think the goals were different. The goals were very different.

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Speaker 1: Do explain.

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Speaker 5: We met when we worked together. We filmed this mini

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Speaker 5: series nine eight and a half years ago, almost nine

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Speaker 5: and so I came into it being like, who is

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Speaker 5: didn't come off as the friendliest person.

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Speaker 7: I am. Let me just preface, I am I just.

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Speaker 5: Didn't come yes, okay, that's why I put that in.

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Speaker 7: I didn't come off me either.

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Speaker 5: No, just a little cold, cold, little cold.

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Speaker 1: I get that a lot too often.

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Speaker 5: It's okay, okay, okay, introspective, you know it's not okay.

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Speaker 5: I can get along, like I'll adapt to any situation,

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Speaker 5: and I'm like, I'm not going to be in this

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Speaker 5: have a good report. So my goal going into it

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Speaker 5: I'm going to figure you out, and and I sort

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Speaker 5: of did. I just there wasn't any ulterior motives in

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Speaker 5: I want to hook up with him. It wasn't like that.

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Speaker 5: It was simply started from how can we make this

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Speaker 5: maybe we need each other as friends and that's how.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, we had.

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Speaker 6: We had very different goals there because I saw I

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Speaker 6: remember seeing you and thinking, well, because at the time

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Speaker 6: I was, I was the early twenties. I was a

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Speaker 6: total mess and you know, like like we all were,

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Speaker 6: and think for yourself, that's true. Actually you were fine.

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Speaker 6: And I saw him and my first thought was next,

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Speaker 6: there's another one. I found one, and so I just

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Speaker 6: you know, what is it? Hook hook and sink. Isn't

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Speaker 6: that what it's It's not a hook and sinker.

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Speaker 1: Hook and sink, hook line and sinker hook on.

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Speaker 7: Yes, like easy catch and then we'll be done. It'll

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Speaker 6: That's I saw you saw it as like a you know,

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Speaker 5: It would be amazing though, if I had a radar

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Speaker 7: Yeah, a little.

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Speaker 4: Late, eventually it worked out, so you played the long

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Speaker 3: Who said I love you first?

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Speaker 6: Who said I love you first? Austin did, which is

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Speaker 6: funny because yeah, I mean we started. I feel like

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Speaker 6: our roles in our in this relationship have have like

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Speaker 6: over the years changed a lot like he used to.

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Speaker 6: I don't know, just like the fact that I came

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Speaker 6: be a hookup of fun show mance and then I

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Speaker 6: ended up saying I love you.

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Speaker 5: First tricked you?

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Speaker 7: You did?

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Speaker 2: Okay, Kevin, you've playing worked dell us here we ask

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Speaker 2: everybody this, what is the age difference? You've kind of

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Speaker 2: alluded to it, but what is the age difference? And

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Speaker 2: it has it had an impact at all on your

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Speaker 2: relationship one way or another?

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Speaker 7: Massive? It's a huge age difference.

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Speaker 5: How dare you?

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Speaker 7: I had to change the stuper before okay.

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Speaker 5: Depends it is almost five years or not a little

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Speaker 5: over five years? Yeah, five years ish.

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Speaker 7: He's my senior.

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Speaker 5: And I would say, like the any sort of differences

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Speaker 5: it has caused this like in social references and like

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Speaker 5: stories like oh yeah, when I was growing up, it

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Speaker 5: really makes me feel elderly. Oh, like like when you

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Speaker 5: don't understand their Robbie Williams Robbie. That movie Better Man

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Speaker 5: Robbie Williams. Was like, I grew up obsessed with Robbi

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Speaker 5: Williams and he didn't know.

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Speaker 3: Oh, you know what.

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Speaker 4: I interviewed him when he came out that I love him.

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Speaker 3: It was the biggest deal.

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Speaker 7: Right think I had mine recently, Like I feel like

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Speaker 5: It's like the hell you know, when you're younger and

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Speaker 5: We've been together a little over eight years and I

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Speaker 5: So if I wake up to morrow we should get married.

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Speaker 5: How do you feel about that? Then maybe that's a discussion.

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Speaker 6: One of our strong strongest suits in this relationship is

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Speaker 6: that just happened completely organically. And we are talking about

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Speaker 5: Just it's very going has happened. We're like, we're obsessed

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Speaker 5: I just want us to have some jewelry.

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Speaker 2: You know what.

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Speaker 2: Your answer is really interesting because so many people think, Okay,

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Speaker 1: You'll are taking things.

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Speaker 2: Just as it comes, and it seems to be working

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Speaker 2: It just kind of happened. It almost happens to havece.

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Speaker 2: And how do you think your relationship would be different

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Speaker 4: On?

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Speaker 6: I think that's just because I come from a family

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Speaker 6: I do worry, And of course I do worry of

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Speaker 7: Easy it was.

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Speaker 6: The way we talk about it, or at least the

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Speaker 5: I know I have the same concerns, like if it

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Speaker 5: It got to the point where like, this makes no

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Speaker 6: There is also I feel like for me, there is

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Speaker 4: Well, yeah, I hadn't even thought about that, but that

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Speaker 5: Not exactly.

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Speaker 4: You've made a commitment to one another, correct, I mean,

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Speaker 4: Like have you articulated it? We haven't asked anyone else

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Speaker 5: Good question.

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Speaker 6: I actually don't know if we've ever really talked about

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Speaker 7: But I mean, I.

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Speaker 5: Maybe it's the same thing I've never been married.

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Speaker 6: I don't know, but.

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Speaker 5: It's I think the level comment I've talked about, at

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Speaker 5: I don't know how I'm gonna feel about you in

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Speaker 5: if he meets somebody out at a coffee shop all

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Speaker 6: And if Kevin finds someone that he is happier with,

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Speaker 6: I would be devastated. It would change my entire life.

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Speaker 6: think maybe another way to word what you're saying is like,

444
00:21:43,160 --> 00:21:46,159
Speaker 6: I think we're both committed to being fully present with

445
00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:51,880
Speaker 6: each other and being present in the moment. And you know, luckily,

446
00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:54,879
Speaker 6: for the past eight years, every moment has been that

447
00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:55,720
Speaker 6: we are.

448
00:21:55,560 --> 00:21:56,720
Speaker 7: Deeply in love with each other.

449
00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:00,879
Speaker 6: I always go back to too that, Uh, you know,

450
00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:03,000
Speaker 6: after a certain amount of years, it became super clear

451
00:22:03,080 --> 00:22:05,960
Speaker 6: that Kevin is my person more than I would call

452
00:22:06,119 --> 00:22:07,879
Speaker 6: my husband or a boyfriend or a partner.

453
00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:12,640
Speaker 7: He's my person. And so I guess, in a bit

454
00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:13,600
Speaker 7: of a marriage.

455
00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:15,720
Speaker 6: Way, I see that as a As a I take

456
00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:19,840
Speaker 6: that commitment seriously as you know, when things get really hard,

457
00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:22,959
Speaker 6: when we argue or you know, whatever comes up, I

458
00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:26,000
Speaker 6: am committed to No, this is my person and I'm

459
00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:28,359
Speaker 6: gonna we're gonna work through this and get stronger and

460
00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:32,040
Speaker 6: better after it, and not and not just thinking, oh,

461
00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:34,440
Speaker 6: something came up. This is too serious. Clearly we're not

462
00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:40,399
Speaker 6: He's not my person anymore. It's trusting that, trusting the

463
00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:43,160
Speaker 6: best moments, you know, trusting how I feel then when

464
00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:44,320
Speaker 6: it's not the best moments.

465
00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:46,840
Speaker 1: That that was one. I'm not kidding you all.

466
00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:49,679
Speaker 2: That might be the most insightful answer we've had to

467
00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:50,160
Speaker 2: that question.

468
00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:52,399
Speaker 7: Hey, I just learned between the no.

469
00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 2: But I'm saying both of you all there because people

470
00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:58,240
Speaker 2: view it differently. Talk about that was a great answer

471
00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:01,080
Speaker 2: the other day about you know what, there's something significant

472
00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:03,239
Speaker 2: about standing in front of the people you love and

473
00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:06,480
Speaker 2: declaring to them that this is the person you love.

474
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:07,880
Speaker 1: All that makes sense.

475
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:10,160
Speaker 2: And then other people have practical reasons for getting married

476
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:12,679
Speaker 2: and what it means legally and all these things. But

477
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:15,719
Speaker 2: you all gave just it was the most romantic and

478
00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:18,160
Speaker 2: unromantic answer.

479
00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:21,480
Speaker 1: Yeah we're great, but yeah it's cool today we'll see.

480
00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:25,360
Speaker 3: What it's an honest answer.

481
00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:27,399
Speaker 4: And I don't know how much you all know about us,

482
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:29,439
Speaker 4: but we both between us, we have four divorces, so

483
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:31,320
Speaker 4: we've both been divorced twice, and.

484
00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:32,399
Speaker 1: We shall not lead with that.

485
00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:35,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, but we've been contemplating whether or not we should

486
00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:37,600
Speaker 4: get married or not, you know, And we haven't moved

487
00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:40,159
Speaker 4: in together either, but we spend every single night and

488
00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:43,359
Speaker 4: day together, so it's we're at that point now. But

489
00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:46,200
Speaker 4: it's cool to hear you say because we've also struggled

490
00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:47,920
Speaker 4: with what we call each other.

491
00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:50,520
Speaker 3: I like, he's my person. That's a really really cool

492
00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:51,800
Speaker 3: way to talk about it.

493
00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:55,119
Speaker 4: Austin, you alluded to this, and we've asked everybody this,

494
00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:56,879
Speaker 4: But how often do you have sex?

495
00:23:57,280 --> 00:23:58,960
Speaker 3: And has it changed over the years.

496
00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:06,000
Speaker 6: Honestly, it only really changes if usually when both of

497
00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:08,160
Speaker 6: us are super busy. If just one person is busy,

498
00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:12,640
Speaker 6: it doesn't really change it. If we're both super.

499
00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:14,159
Speaker 7: Busy, or if.

500
00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:19,240
Speaker 6: I've been very open about like mental health that I

501
00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:22,640
Speaker 6: struggle with, so like, if I'm going through something, usually

502
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:26,760
Speaker 6: well that'll take a back seat. But other than that, honestly,

503
00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:31,040
Speaker 6: I mean, I feel like it's like every other day,

504
00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:33,880
Speaker 6: every two days, every year, every other day, every two days.

505
00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:34,520
Speaker 5: It's probably right.

506
00:24:34,640 --> 00:24:37,120
Speaker 6: I mean when I've talked, Yeah, I can. I can

507
00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:39,760
Speaker 6: consider that's one of the words I use sexual. I

508
00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:42,240
Speaker 6: think that we're both very Yeah, you.

509
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:43,880
Speaker 2: Know, here's what I'll follow up. I don't think we've

510
00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:46,440
Speaker 2: asked this follow up before. But is it a matter

511
00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:51,359
Speaker 2: of your because you all said it, ah, yeah once

512
00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:54,400
Speaker 2: every couple of days, is this something you make sure

513
00:24:54,480 --> 00:24:58,920
Speaker 2: you schedule or it naturally happens? Because I will speak

514
00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:00,920
Speaker 2: for Robes and I a couple of days go about

515
00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:02,320
Speaker 2: you know what, we're not quite right?

516
00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:04,439
Speaker 1: What's been going on with us?

517
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 4: Oh?

518
00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:04,920
Speaker 6: Yeah?

519
00:25:05,200 --> 00:25:06,399
Speaker 1: Or you know what I'm saying.

520
00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:08,200
Speaker 2: So is that a matter if it just kind of

521
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:12,120
Speaker 2: naturally occurs, organically it happens, or do you all make

522
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:14,440
Speaker 2: a conscious effort to all right, there's been a couple

523
00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 2: of days.

524
00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:16,240
Speaker 3: Here to prioritize it.

525
00:25:16,280 --> 00:25:17,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, prioritize good work.

526
00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:23,159
Speaker 5: I would say a little of both, but mostly of

527
00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:27,360
Speaker 5: the time organically. Yeah, because what I've also learned, because

528
00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:29,080
Speaker 5: I think we tried to do that a couple of times,

529
00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:34,120
Speaker 5: schedule it and that just kills it. Yeah, I can't

530
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:34,760
Speaker 5: handle it, you.

531
00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:35,159
Speaker 7: Can handle it?

532
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:37,360
Speaker 5: Now we have to plan this. I'm out.

533
00:25:37,680 --> 00:25:39,879
Speaker 7: Yeah, it took it.

534
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,840
Speaker 5: It's like the biggest deflator. I don't I've had this

535
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 5: discussion with other people too, Like I just I don't

536
00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:46,840
Speaker 5: know what it is. I wish we could. It would

537
00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:49,560
Speaker 5: be a lot easier if we could. I know, you

538
00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 5: can just fit it into the schedule and then fit

539
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:57,680
Speaker 5: it in, But no, I I feel scheduling really doesn't

540
00:25:57,680 --> 00:25:58,960
Speaker 5: work for me, and I do have to say because

541
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:01,200
Speaker 5: I think it would work for you, And we try

542
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:03,880
Speaker 5: to do that a little bit. And Austin has been

543
00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:08,920
Speaker 5: even very good about adapting in recognizing that it does

544
00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 5: not work for me, and so he tries to make

545
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:14,040
Speaker 5: it look organic even though he may be planning on

546
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:14,680
Speaker 5: it in his head.

547
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:16,680
Speaker 7: Well, I get that.

548
00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:21,479
Speaker 6: Not to get too into detail, but for gay men

549
00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:24,960
Speaker 6: there is preparation involved, and so there does have to

550
00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:27,359
Speaker 6: be like a little bit of like planning of like

551
00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:31,280
Speaker 6: making sure the feelers are out there and making sure

552
00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 6: that like, Okay, I think we're going to get into

553
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:34,480
Speaker 6: this mood now we have.

554
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 7: I think I think I can speak for both of

555
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 7: us that we both have have How do I say this?

556
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 6: We both have have played around in the playing field

557
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:52,879
Speaker 6: of sexual experiences with other men, and we're each other's

558
00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 6: best sex.

559
00:26:55,280 --> 00:26:57,840
Speaker 7: I hope you agree, but yeah, the best sex of

560
00:26:57,840 --> 00:26:58,240
Speaker 7: my life.

561
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:01,640
Speaker 6: So he's the best sex in my life, and so

562
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,080
Speaker 6: I want to have sex with him all the time.

563
00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 2: Truly, I'm glad we didn't add that to our Can

564
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:09,440
Speaker 2: you imagine if we asked all the couples, Hey, has

565
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:11,320
Speaker 2: your spouse been the best sex of your life?

566
00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:12,440
Speaker 1: I know, yeah, that would.

567
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:17,600
Speaker 3: No no, no, no, no no, I don't want what I was.

568
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 5: This recently came up with We were we were around

569
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:25,240
Speaker 5: a couple friend of mine last week and they were

570
00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:28,639
Speaker 5: very open. Were our whole friend group, for the record,

571
00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:33,920
Speaker 5: is very open about talking about these intimate sexual details,

572
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:38,640
Speaker 5: especially like no judgment. We asked questions like straight, gay,

573
00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:40,639
Speaker 5: whatever it is. I don't know why, but that's sort

574
00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 5: of like the friend group we've curated I've always had

575
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:49,200
Speaker 5: and this they're straight, they're married, and and it was

576
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:50,760
Speaker 5: the first time they were admitting to each other that

577
00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:52,640
Speaker 5: it was like the best they were each other's best

578
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,879
Speaker 5: sex they've ever had. And I was like, are you lying?

579
00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:56,919
Speaker 5: Are you trying to make the other person feel And

580
00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:59,359
Speaker 5: they were going above and beyond to like prove that

581
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 5: they meant to. And I was like, this is great.

582
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:06,360
Speaker 5: It's like, yeah, so like who's next? Who else? Who

583
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:08,639
Speaker 5: was weirdly quiet in the room right now and not

584
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:09,360
Speaker 5: answering this?

585
00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:12,840
Speaker 3: Oh no, no, oh no?

586
00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:18,240
Speaker 4: So how you also mentioned this a little bit. Everybody fights?

587
00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:20,240
Speaker 4: How often would you say you fight?

588
00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:22,040
Speaker 3: And what do you fight? Is there something you fight

589
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:25,360
Speaker 3: the most about?

590
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:27,959
Speaker 5: I'm not a fighter.

591
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:31,199
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean, yeah, you know you're not a fighter.

592
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:34,800
Speaker 7: I'm not a fighter. I just I'm very passionate.

593
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:39,920
Speaker 5: I will say this because I'm not really a fighter.

594
00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:46,920
Speaker 5: I think that leads to maybe more unintended avoidance of

595
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 5: situations where my objective is to be super overly communicative.

596
00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 5: But Austin has been really good, like you mentioned earlier

597
00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:01,800
Speaker 5: about like protecting or like the happiness or the happiness

598
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:04,720
Speaker 5: or the relationship at all times when there have been

599
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 5: disagreements where I've been like, ugh, this is I don't

600
00:29:06,960 --> 00:29:09,040
Speaker 5: want to talk, this is dumb. Do we even need

601
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 5: to do this, He'll be like, no, we need to.

602
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 5: We really need to figure this out. It's one of

603
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 5: those things like we're not going to bed angry, like,

604
00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 5: let's talk through it. And before we were even technically together,

605
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 5: there were a couple of times where I think, you know,

606
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:27,720
Speaker 5: I didn't know what we were and I was frustrated

607
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:32,080
Speaker 5: and I would pick a fight without realizing it always,

608
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:33,880
Speaker 5: you know, not imagining I was ever someone that would

609
00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 5: do that. And he's one of my favorite things about

610
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:39,640
Speaker 5: him is that he's so smart and the way he

611
00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 5: could break down. He's like, Okay, so I think what

612
00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 5: you're doing right now as like you're picking a fight

613
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:47,920
Speaker 5: because of X, Y and Z, and just like sort

614
00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 5: of read me and I can be objective about myself

615
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 5: and I was like, oh, yeah, you're you're right, And

616
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:59,240
Speaker 5: every single time and it's come up and it may be.

617
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:05,000
Speaker 5: I don't think there's one thing that we necessarily disagree

618
00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:07,240
Speaker 5: about or fight about, but regardless of what it is,

619
00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 5: it's always handled in a similar way where we sort

620
00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:13,160
Speaker 5: of have to keep each other in check, keep each

621
00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 5: other honest. And he's very good at making sure I

622
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:19,479
Speaker 5: don't just sweep it under the rug or shut it down,

623
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 5: because I'm pretty good at that. And it's taught me

624
00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:27,840
Speaker 5: to also think about how I want to approach those

625
00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:32,920
Speaker 5: situations beforehand, which has been great because it's great to

626
00:30:32,920 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 5: be able to like learn things about yourself and have

627
00:30:35,200 --> 00:30:38,200
Speaker 5: the person you love the most teach those things, and

628
00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:41,480
Speaker 5: it's not a judgmental thing. It's you know, I'm thirty

629
00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:44,880
Speaker 5: six and I'm still learning things every time. We do

630
00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:50,520
Speaker 5: have an uncomfortable communication, and we respect each other enough

631
00:30:50,520 --> 00:30:54,000
Speaker 5: to be able to be honest. Yeah, but like there's

632
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:56,800
Speaker 5: no low blows. You know, we don't like I'm not

633
00:30:56,800 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 5: trying to just piss you off to like get my

634
00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:02,240
Speaker 5: job in. We don't do that. It's like I don't

635
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:04,280
Speaker 5: need to do that. I don't want to make you upset.

636
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 5: But let's be very clear about what we're saying.

637
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:08,480
Speaker 7: Yeah, we're also like.

638
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 6: So unfiltered with each other that, Uh, I don't think

639
00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:15,800
Speaker 6: we have that many fights because we always dress things

640
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 6: in a moment like dude, you're really pissing me off today,

641
00:31:19,400 --> 00:31:20,400
Speaker 6: can you please stop?

642
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 7: Or like why the hell did you say that at

643
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:22,959
Speaker 7: that party?

644
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:26,160
Speaker 6: Like, well, we'll just like we're super honest and we

645
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:29,240
Speaker 6: know that, like we can say anything in front of

646
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 6: each other and there'll be no judgment.

647
00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:41,680
Speaker 2: Kevin, next question here, we asked everybody this. You mentioned

648
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 2: it in your answer there, But it sounds like you

649
00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 2: all make a point not to go to bed angry,

650
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:47,600
Speaker 2: do you.

651
00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:50,600
Speaker 5: Yeah, as Austin is very good at that. There have

652
00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 5: definitely been times where I've wanted to pull the eject

653
00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:54,960
Speaker 5: button and I'm like, I'm done with this conversation. Here's

654
00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 5: the dovet good night.

655
00:31:58,000 --> 00:31:58,400
Speaker 4: I don't know.

656
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:02,240
Speaker 5: I try to me, I'm like, I know the answer

657
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 5: to this, Like how you know? It's like one of

658
00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:07,040
Speaker 5: those things you get frustrated or annoyed. I'm like, how

659
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:11,760
Speaker 5: are you not getting this? But that's no reason, you

660
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:14,840
Speaker 5: know now, in this moment of peace, that's no reason too.

661
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:20,719
Speaker 5: If the partner is not getting it, or does not

662
00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:24,960
Speaker 5: feel one hundred percent heard or understood, or doesn't feel

663
00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:29,680
Speaker 5: like we're one hundred percent linked and SYNCD in that moment,

664
00:32:29,760 --> 00:32:34,560
Speaker 5: then that's my moment as a partner to step up

665
00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 5: and be like, Okay, how do we how do we

666
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:39,960
Speaker 5: get there? How do we communicate this? What do we

667
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:41,360
Speaker 5: need to What do you need to hear from me?

668
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:42,920
Speaker 5: What am I not? What do you think I'm not

669
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:46,160
Speaker 5: getting from you? And so he's good at reminding, because

670
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:47,960
Speaker 5: there's been several times in bed where he's like, we're

671
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:50,640
Speaker 5: not going to bed angry.

672
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 6: I just take I take cliches very seriously. I think

673
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:57,960
Speaker 6: there's a reason that cliches are cliche, Like I've heard

674
00:32:58,120 --> 00:33:01,760
Speaker 6: in every wedding ceremony, you know, don't go to bed angry,

675
00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:03,080
Speaker 6: and they must say it for a reason.

676
00:33:03,160 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 7: It's always stuck with me. So I just take that

677
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 7: very seriously.

678
00:33:07,920 --> 00:33:08,880
Speaker 3: That's very cool.

679
00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 4: I love I love the Why the hell did you

680
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:13,520
Speaker 4: say that at that party? That is such a like

681
00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 4: classic you come back from something you've been drinking. Oh

682
00:33:18,120 --> 00:33:20,440
Speaker 4: my god, that just that was hilarious.

683
00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:22,960
Speaker 5: To the flip side of that is awesome. It'll be like,

684
00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:24,840
Speaker 5: why the hell did I say that at that party?

685
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 5: And I'm like, no, No, it's fine, don't worry. No,

686
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:28,400
Speaker 5: that's cute.

687
00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:32,959
Speaker 4: What do you each love the most about the others?

688
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 5: Really hard, there's a lot.

689
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:37,400
Speaker 7: I want to guess what you're gonna say about me.

690
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:40,320
Speaker 2: Now, Cam you mentioned earlier you love that he was

691
00:33:40,360 --> 00:33:42,880
Speaker 2: so smart. He is and favorite thing.

692
00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:44,760
Speaker 5: I think his intelligence.

693
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 6: I was gonna say, can you clarify that? I think

694
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:53,360
Speaker 6: I like books smart you are. You're an idiot, like

695
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:56,880
Speaker 6: right now that you're stupid, but you're so smart. I

696
00:33:56,920 --> 00:34:03,120
Speaker 6: think the umbrella is probably his intelligence, which includes his talent,

697
00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:05,720
Speaker 6: which I think is super hot. He's so good at

698
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:08,839
Speaker 6: so many things. And like the passion for that is

699
00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:14,400
Speaker 6: one of my absolutely favorite things about him. But something

700
00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:16,759
Speaker 6: I have found, and I think we both found that

701
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 6: I never even imagine necessarily looking for in a relationship

702
00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:24,880
Speaker 6: that has really come to the forefront to maybe be

703
00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:29,200
Speaker 6: the number one most important thing is our shared sense

704
00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:29,720
Speaker 6: of humor.

705
00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:31,239
Speaker 7: Yeah, that's like he can be.

706
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 5: It's so similar and it's punchy, real and like really quick.

707
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:41,839
Speaker 5: He's so quick. It's infuriating, but I love it well

708
00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 5: that he's so quick.

709
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:44,319
Speaker 6: We're holding back a lot of a banter right now

710
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 6: because we actually say this a lot where we'll be

711
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:49,360
Speaker 6: out in public around friends and maybe there's people that

712
00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:51,440
Speaker 6: know us that well, and we'll be in the car

713
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:53,960
Speaker 6: on the way home being like people might think that

714
00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:56,320
Speaker 6: we're mad at each other or something because our banter

715
00:34:56,600 --> 00:35:01,200
Speaker 6: is so constant. Yeah, people might misinterpret it's like we're funny.

716
00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:07,319
Speaker 6: We say, like we're like we're like mentally boxing each other. Yeah,

717
00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:12,120
Speaker 6: like we like just like yeah, we're completely that's that's

718
00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:12,439
Speaker 6: the word.

719
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 5: Sorry. And I like to be pushed and like that

720
00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:20,840
Speaker 5: was a better joke than I got in Like, oh

721
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:24,719
Speaker 5: that was good, Okay, Like I and it's and I

722
00:35:24,760 --> 00:35:27,799
Speaker 5: love that it's the same, you know, it's I don't know,

723
00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:33,040
Speaker 5: constantly think about if we did not have that, like

724
00:35:33,080 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 5: how would this work, would it work at all? And

725
00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:40,400
Speaker 5: I'm and I honestly think that's probably like the secret

726
00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:45,919
Speaker 5: ingredient to all of this is that shared I don't

727
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:47,680
Speaker 5: know if it's a sense of humor or sense of

728
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 5: taste and things like that, because it also applies to

729
00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:51,479
Speaker 5: music and all these things.

730
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:55,239
Speaker 6: But I have to say two things. It's really hard

731
00:35:55,239 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 6: to me to humor is a huge one. But here

732
00:35:57,239 --> 00:35:59,880
Speaker 6: he said that if I'm being totally honest, and I

733
00:35:59,920 --> 00:36:03,480
Speaker 6: know I keep talking about it, like the sex that

734
00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:08,600
Speaker 6: we have, you're really making me no, I mean like no, well, yes,

735
00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:12,520
Speaker 6: it can't be that good. No, But like if we're

736
00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:15,080
Speaker 6: just being honest, if we're being if.

737
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:17,840
Speaker 7: We're being honest in this relationship.

738
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:21,440
Speaker 6: I like, I have a lot of sexual needs and

739
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:24,759
Speaker 6: desires and it's amazing that I'm with someone that can

740
00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:25,960
Speaker 6: completely fulfill those.

741
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:27,760
Speaker 7: So that is a big thing, damn.

742
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 6: But then also just your groundedness, because I'm so I'm

743
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:35,160
Speaker 6: never on the ground, I'm never on the planet, and

744
00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 6: he's he's the one who in a great way balances

745
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:41,640
Speaker 6: me so that way, I'm at least hovering above the ground.

746
00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:44,800
Speaker 5: And every time you're trying to run up against it,

747
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:45,919
Speaker 5: I'm like, cut it out.

748
00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:48,919
Speaker 7: This is where we are.

749
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:53,680
Speaker 2: This is now not this is the most difficult transition

750
00:36:53,719 --> 00:36:56,400
Speaker 2: we've had from that question to this next question, because

751
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:58,680
Speaker 2: you all gave such a fun answer to that one,

752
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 2: we have to talk about finance is now how how

753
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:05,279
Speaker 2: do you all it's a big one for couples. How

754
00:37:05,320 --> 00:37:09,279
Speaker 2: do you handle finances? Do you have separate accounts, do

755
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:11,880
Speaker 2: you have joint everything together it's half and how do

756
00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:12,359
Speaker 2: you all do it?

757
00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:14,520
Speaker 7: I was actually just thinking about this the other day.

758
00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:21,280
Speaker 7: I really like how it's it's funny, like we've never even.

759
00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:24,879
Speaker 6: Really talked about this logistically, But I think he knows

760
00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:27,719
Speaker 6: me so well that he knows to respect.

761
00:37:27,320 --> 00:37:30,319
Speaker 7: My independence in the sense that.

762
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:35,920
Speaker 6: We're always going to be making our own money, you know,

763
00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:40,319
Speaker 6: our own money. And at the same time though, as

764
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:43,360
Speaker 6: far as helping each other out, I mean, when I

765
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:46,920
Speaker 6: need help, he'll help vice versa in the sense of like,

766
00:37:47,880 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 6: if you you know, we want to we want to

767
00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:51,560
Speaker 6: help each other, so why not do it, you know,

768
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:54,520
Speaker 6: financially speaking. But no, I think that he just really

769
00:37:55,920 --> 00:37:59,400
Speaker 6: We respect each other's independence financially and have never felt

770
00:37:59,400 --> 00:38:00,279
Speaker 6: like there's a need to.

771
00:38:01,520 --> 00:38:04,120
Speaker 7: Join any of that together. Yeah, we never even talked

772
00:38:04,120 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 7: about it, and that's the way I want it.

773
00:38:06,440 --> 00:38:08,279
Speaker 5: Now that you've brought this up, we'll be back in

774
00:38:08,360 --> 00:38:16,040
Speaker 5: thirty God, if you ask for a joint bank account

775
00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:18,959
Speaker 5: after this.

776
00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:22,080
Speaker 2: You can fight about it tonight, right before you go to.

777
00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:27,840
Speaker 5: Bed under that duvet. Sound deep and he'll be fuming.

778
00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:34,000
Speaker 4: How do you guys handle just household stuff? Because this

779
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:38,759
Speaker 4: also causes fights from the dishes, to the laundry to

780
00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:41,480
Speaker 4: all of the thing cooking clean everything. How do you

781
00:38:41,520 --> 00:38:42,920
Speaker 4: guys handle it? How do you split it up?

782
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:43,520
Speaker 5: Well?

783
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 6: I well, like I said, I'm another word to say

784
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:46,800
Speaker 6: is like spacey.

785
00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:50,160
Speaker 7: I'm a very spacey person. So I'll have.

786
00:38:51,160 --> 00:38:54,440
Speaker 6: Parts of the house or moments in a week where

787
00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:58,000
Speaker 6: like everything's very clean, but then two days go by

788
00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:01,120
Speaker 6: and I like neglect that I've laundry on the counter,

789
00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:04,600
Speaker 6: or like I don't know, cups.

790
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 7: In the sink or something like that.

791
00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:10,960
Speaker 6: I always get to it eventually, but he doesn't care.

792
00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:15,520
Speaker 5: I don't think the advantage of him of us not

793
00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:19,880
Speaker 5: living together for six years was the amount of time

794
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:23,920
Speaker 5: we've spent at each other's respective homes and when you

795
00:39:23,960 --> 00:39:26,919
Speaker 5: see I think other people interact with Like we both

796
00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:32,359
Speaker 5: had roommates and things like that, where he fully picked

797
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:35,319
Speaker 5: up on the things that bother me and I picked

798
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:38,480
Speaker 5: up the things that bother him just from observation. So

799
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:42,560
Speaker 5: when it came to moving in with one another, he

800
00:39:42,600 --> 00:39:45,200
Speaker 5: would automatically start He's like, I know there's dishes in

801
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:47,839
Speaker 5: the sink because he witnessed that. I didn't love when

802
00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:50,600
Speaker 5: dishes get left in the sink, and I didn't say anything.

803
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:53,520
Speaker 5: And to me, it's like the fact that you're even

804
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:57,680
Speaker 5: acknowledging that I know you're paying attention, and that means

805
00:39:57,800 --> 00:40:00,279
Speaker 5: a lot, and so I'm not worried about it because

806
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:01,840
Speaker 5: I know you will get to it and you always do.

807
00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:05,399
Speaker 5: And so there's a difference between you know, when it's

808
00:40:05,440 --> 00:40:08,320
Speaker 5: like college days and you're leaving a pile of bowls

809
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:11,520
Speaker 5: and the sink and the laundries everywhere and gets gross

810
00:40:11,960 --> 00:40:14,719
Speaker 5: like it's that's It's never like that with us, and

811
00:40:14,760 --> 00:40:17,919
Speaker 5: I think it's because we've been able to find those

812
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:19,360
Speaker 5: things out from one another beforehand.

813
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:21,080
Speaker 6: We also have like we have two dogs, we have

814
00:40:21,080 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 6: a cat. I like we don't have kids. I feel

815
00:40:23,239 --> 00:40:25,759
Speaker 6: like we kind of live in like a in some

816
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:28,080
Speaker 6: ways a bit of like a bachelor house where it's

817
00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:31,520
Speaker 6: like it's chill, like if there's you know, a couple

818
00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:33,800
Speaker 6: of things on the counter, who cares, Like we've.

819
00:40:33,600 --> 00:40:34,600
Speaker 7: Never ever thought about it.

820
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 5: We're both pretty clean, Like.

821
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:38,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, we both we don't care about But am I

822
00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:40,480
Speaker 2: hearing it right that it sounds like you all divvy

823
00:40:40,600 --> 00:40:44,240
Speaker 2: up in terms of you clean your shit, I'll clean mine.

824
00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 2: You wash your clothes and dishes, I'll wash my clothes

825
00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 2: and dishes.

826
00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:49,960
Speaker 5: Yes, it's fully that. It's I think it's sort of

827
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 5: the same as finances, like we take care of ourselves.

828
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:54,839
Speaker 5: We take care of our stuff. Yeah, and there's never

829
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:59,680
Speaker 5: an issue. To be honest, I want like I'll have

830
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:02,239
Speaker 5: a clean your come every two weeks, you know, like

831
00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:03,640
Speaker 5: that sort of thing. He's like, we don't need that,

832
00:41:03,640 --> 00:41:05,680
Speaker 5: we can do that ourselves. Like no, no, no, no, I

833
00:41:05,719 --> 00:41:09,080
Speaker 5: want that. I need that. There's a little deeper clean there. Yeah,

834
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:14,759
Speaker 5: I get to that would take us let me just yeah, never,

835
00:41:15,239 --> 00:41:16,799
Speaker 5: that's on me. I want that. So I got that.

836
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:22,120
Speaker 7: We've never got heads on that think you but who cooks? Uh,

837
00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:23,200
Speaker 7: he's never cooked a day.

838
00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:27,360
Speaker 6: I'm not like a huge cook, like I used to

839
00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 6: be a pastry chef and so like I do quite

840
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 6: a bit of baking, but like, I'm not a huge cook.

841
00:41:32,280 --> 00:41:34,680
Speaker 6: But of the two of us, I am. He doesn't

842
00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:37,319
Speaker 6: know where anything. Yeah, he's not a cook. He can

843
00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 6: hardly make cereal.

844
00:41:39,000 --> 00:41:40,719
Speaker 5: I'm good at eggs.

845
00:41:40,680 --> 00:41:42,400
Speaker 7: That's true. You make a good French omelet.

846
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:42,920
Speaker 5: Thank you.

847
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 7: That's literally it. That's it. I love that.

848
00:41:49,040 --> 00:41:51,000
Speaker 3: Have you all? Oh goo, you mentioned this? How much

849
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:52,760
Speaker 3: alone time do you all need from one another?

850
00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:55,719
Speaker 7: It's definitely changed a lot because I feel like.

851
00:41:57,360 --> 00:42:00,320
Speaker 6: My alone time is time with my friends, my best friends,

852
00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:01,719
Speaker 6: Like I don't I don't need to.

853
00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:04,040
Speaker 5: I'm not your best friend, your best.

854
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:06,680
Speaker 6: Friend, but I don't have to like be alone alone

855
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:09,799
Speaker 6: from Like I just that being hanging out with my

856
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:13,480
Speaker 6: friends is enough, like to keep the balance of like

857
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:15,080
Speaker 6: not spending all my time with him.

858
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:16,120
Speaker 7: But I don't know.

859
00:42:16,600 --> 00:42:20,240
Speaker 5: We were very intentional about when we seriously talked about

860
00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:25,399
Speaker 5: moving in with one another, creating a space, because after

861
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:27,520
Speaker 5: a year being together, Austin did say, do you think

862
00:42:27,520 --> 00:42:30,080
Speaker 5: we should move in together? And it was a quick no.

863
00:42:31,080 --> 00:42:33,880
Speaker 5: I know how much you need your loan space, and

864
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:36,000
Speaker 5: I don't want you to resent me after a couple

865
00:42:35,960 --> 00:42:37,719
Speaker 5: of months of living in here and being around me

866
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:40,600
Speaker 5: all the time, and same for me, like, let's not

867
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 5: force it. So when it did come time to move

868
00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:46,719
Speaker 5: in with one another, there's a guest bedroom, and so

869
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:49,799
Speaker 5: to me it was sort of like, why don't you

870
00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:53,520
Speaker 5: set up like that's your room. We have our shared

871
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:56,719
Speaker 5: bedroom and all that, but you can set up use

872
00:42:56,760 --> 00:42:59,000
Speaker 5: it as your office, use it as your recording studio.

873
00:42:59,320 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 5: If you want to seep in there some nights just

874
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:03,120
Speaker 5: because you're up late, you're working late, that can be

875
00:43:03,719 --> 00:43:05,800
Speaker 5: your space. And I'm not going to take it personally,

876
00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:08,560
Speaker 5: that is, that is whatever you want to do in there.

877
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:12,239
Speaker 5: He took it a little too seriously. He still do

878
00:43:12,360 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 5: not disturb thing from a hotel and puts it on

879
00:43:15,640 --> 00:43:19,799
Speaker 5: the handle and locks the door. So that was not

880
00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:21,000
Speaker 5: pre negotiated.

881
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 6: It's funny, actually, like I really need my space. But

882
00:43:26,120 --> 00:43:30,120
Speaker 6: the way that's manifested some really well know. The way

883
00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 6: that's manifested is I will fall I'll sleep on the

884
00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 6: couch sometimes, which seems like so dramatic, but it's just

885
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:39,319
Speaker 6: like I feel like sleeping somewhere else tonight.

886
00:43:39,360 --> 00:43:40,440
Speaker 7: I'm going to sleep on the cat.

887
00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:42,360
Speaker 5: Well, when I met him, he was sleeping on the

888
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:44,400
Speaker 5: couch in his apartment because he prefers sleeping.

889
00:43:44,400 --> 00:43:47,000
Speaker 4: I love the couch, so really, you are just you

890
00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:49,720
Speaker 4: are describing t J Helps like I see a couch,

891
00:43:51,120 --> 00:43:52,760
Speaker 4: it's his favorite place to sleep.

892
00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 7: Yeah. Yeah, I struggle to get off the couch at

893
00:43:57,239 --> 00:43:57,480
Speaker 7: night to.

894
00:43:58,080 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 5: Every night He's like, why don't you just leap down

895
00:43:59,640 --> 00:44:02,760
Speaker 5: with him? No, I'm not doing this. I'm not playing

896
00:44:02,760 --> 00:44:04,239
Speaker 5: this game because I don't want to fall a seat

897
00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:06,160
Speaker 5: for forty five minutes and wake up more tired and

898
00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:08,759
Speaker 5: then have to go downstairs to the bed. I'm not

899
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:11,440
Speaker 5: playing this game with you. You can stay up here, but

900
00:44:11,520 --> 00:44:12,399
Speaker 5: I'm going down.

901
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:14,200
Speaker 7: I almost pricked them into it last night.

902
00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 3: Oh my god, this is a negotiation. We have all

903
00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:20,320
Speaker 3: the time too that it's so funny.

904
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:22,399
Speaker 1: We look forward to having a double date with you guys.

905
00:44:23,800 --> 00:44:26,319
Speaker 2: I would love that Robot and Kevin are going to.

906
00:44:26,320 --> 00:44:27,000
Speaker 1: Stay at the table.

907
00:44:27,080 --> 00:44:28,920
Speaker 2: Me and you also can go out of having cigarette

908
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:30,479
Speaker 2: and talk about what the hell these two?

909
00:44:30,960 --> 00:44:31,320
Speaker 5: Wow?

910
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:38,800
Speaker 6: Yeah, okay, wait, you had men a cigarette.

911
00:44:42,880 --> 00:44:43,759
Speaker 1: It's that time of year.

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913
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914
00:44:49,719 --> 00:44:52,880
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915
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916
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Speaker 8: But now they're learning from each other and getting it right,

917
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918
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Speaker 5: I do Part two.

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924
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Speaker 1: Couples counseling. Have you all ever done it? In it?

925
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:19,480
Speaker 4: Now?

926
00:45:19,680 --> 00:45:20,840
Speaker 1: Keep it up? Interested in it?

927
00:45:20,920 --> 00:45:22,360
Speaker 5: What we haven't?

928
00:45:22,560 --> 00:45:23,000
Speaker 7: We haven't.

929
00:45:23,080 --> 00:45:25,680
Speaker 6: I'm not opposed to it, never opposed to it, never

930
00:45:25,680 --> 00:45:28,080
Speaker 6: ever opposed to it. I just think that our communication

931
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:31,919
Speaker 6: is so crystal clear and so consistent that not that

932
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:34,080
Speaker 6: that's like what we'll fix everything, but we just have

933
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:36,080
Speaker 6: always squashed issues.

934
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 7: Right as they happen.

935
00:45:37,760 --> 00:45:40,279
Speaker 5: Yeah. I think if there was ever a moment that

936
00:45:40,320 --> 00:45:43,200
Speaker 5: would arise that we would need it, yeah, we would.

937
00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:45,080
Speaker 6: I'd be way more open to it than he would,

938
00:45:45,520 --> 00:45:48,279
Speaker 6: and one hundred percent we've talked about it in the past,

939
00:45:48,360 --> 00:45:49,799
Speaker 6: Like there was one time where I was like, maybe

940
00:45:49,800 --> 00:45:51,719
Speaker 6: we should and you were like, we don't need to

941
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Speaker 6: do that.

942
00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:55,560
Speaker 5: I fully turned into the person I don't like. It

943
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:57,680
Speaker 5: was very weird your parents. I don't know if that's

944
00:45:57,680 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 5: ever happened to you, but I thought all the time.

945
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:06,239
Speaker 5: My initial reaction was like, wait a minute, yeah, like,

946
00:46:06,280 --> 00:46:09,799
Speaker 5: who is that? We don't you going to do for us?

947
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:11,920
Speaker 7: That's exactly how not.

948
00:46:11,960 --> 00:46:16,680
Speaker 5: I don't even have to an accent. But I did

949
00:46:16,719 --> 00:46:18,520
Speaker 5: have my oh no, I think we're fine, And then

950
00:46:18,560 --> 00:46:21,200
Speaker 5: I had a moment with myself. I was like, wait,

951
00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:23,799
Speaker 5: why is that my initial reaction too?

952
00:46:23,920 --> 00:46:26,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's cool though. That self reflection is important.

953
00:46:27,040 --> 00:46:29,879
Speaker 4: I love that what it oh in the middle when

954
00:46:29,920 --> 00:46:32,920
Speaker 4: you do fight, have either one of you ever gotten

955
00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:35,439
Speaker 4: so angry that you've threatened to break up, walk out,

956
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:37,040
Speaker 4: leave the relationship?

957
00:46:37,560 --> 00:46:38,920
Speaker 7: Not vocally.

958
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:43,040
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, you text it?

959
00:46:44,320 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 7: Oh no, just I just I just wow thought it.

960
00:46:48,400 --> 00:46:49,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, I just elaborate.

961
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:51,320
Speaker 7: Well, I told you, I'm very passionate.

962
00:46:51,360 --> 00:46:53,719
Speaker 6: I get very emotional, and so sometimes in my head

963
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:55,920
Speaker 6: I'm just like, well, then I guess I guess I'll

964
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:56,440
Speaker 6: just leave him.

965
00:46:56,440 --> 00:46:58,200
Speaker 7: Then I'll teach him a lesson, but.

966
00:46:58,239 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 1: You never threw it in his face and threaten No.

967
00:47:01,239 --> 00:47:02,160
Speaker 7: But the but the.

968
00:47:02,080 --> 00:47:05,200
Speaker 6: Idea of punishing him by saying we can't be digger anymore,

969
00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:09,440
Speaker 6: like is so appealing sometimes, Oh my god, like that

970
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:12,480
Speaker 6: that's what's so annoying about being in like a really

971
00:47:12,560 --> 00:47:13,719
Speaker 6: beautiful relationship.

972
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:15,400
Speaker 5: Is that why you have to stay in?

973
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:15,640
Speaker 4: It?

974
00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:16,799
Speaker 5: Is not in my face?

975
00:47:16,880 --> 00:47:19,200
Speaker 6: Yeah, Like sometimes I just want to get back at you, like, fine,

976
00:47:19,239 --> 00:47:21,200
Speaker 6: you're never going to see me again, you know, like,

977
00:47:21,200 --> 00:47:24,000
Speaker 6: how dare you say that stupid thing at the party?

978
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:27,239
Speaker 5: Okay, So I read some my Twitter thread last week

979
00:47:27,400 --> 00:47:31,160
Speaker 5: about this person was saying I'm a couple's counselor I've

980
00:47:31,200 --> 00:47:32,480
Speaker 5: been doing it for a couple of years. Here like

981
00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:35,439
Speaker 5: the top ten things I've learned that make a successful couple.

982
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:38,440
Speaker 5: And I read it. I was like, oh, we have

983
00:47:38,520 --> 00:47:41,040
Speaker 5: all these And the one I found really interesting was

984
00:47:41,080 --> 00:47:44,000
Speaker 5: like the ethical fighting. And we alluded to this earlier,

985
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:46,400
Speaker 5: but that's the exact same thing. There's never been a community,

986
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:51,319
Speaker 5: there's never been a an intentional conversation about this is

987
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:52,799
Speaker 5: how we're going to argue and this is how we're

988
00:47:52,800 --> 00:47:56,600
Speaker 5: going to fight. But we inherently I think know that

989
00:47:56,600 --> 00:47:58,800
Speaker 5: about each other, Like we're not going to just throw

990
00:47:59,600 --> 00:48:02,080
Speaker 5: things in each other's face just so you can get

991
00:48:02,120 --> 00:48:03,440
Speaker 5: the reaction and satisfaction.

992
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:05,200
Speaker 7: But I keep it locked and loaded. I have a

993
00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 7: list of things I would love to throw in his face.

994
00:48:07,160 --> 00:48:10,160
Speaker 7: But okay, because we are respectful fighters.

995
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:12,759
Speaker 2: Okay, next question though, and we're going to get out

996
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:17,719
Speaker 2: of Austin's head to do this one. What is the

997
00:48:17,800 --> 00:48:21,920
Speaker 2: closest you all have actually come to breaking up or

998
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:22,960
Speaker 2: ending the relationship?

999
00:48:23,600 --> 00:48:25,799
Speaker 7: Oh? Definitely early on, many.

1000
00:48:25,520 --> 00:48:27,000
Speaker 5: Times, many times.

1001
00:48:27,280 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 7: Yeah, we were a mess in the beginning.

1002
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:30,360
Speaker 5: Yeah I wasn't.

1003
00:48:30,600 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 7: No, but I just feel like we like I.

1004
00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:36,440
Speaker 5: Was going through it, and okay, we got together. This

1005
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:40,160
Speaker 5: is probably not the healthiest thing. We got together. And

1006
00:48:40,640 --> 00:48:42,600
Speaker 5: I had just gotten out of a long term relationship

1007
00:48:43,000 --> 00:48:47,479
Speaker 5: almost immediately into this. He was going through all kinds

1008
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:49,120
Speaker 5: of things, and I think that adage of like, if

1009
00:48:49,120 --> 00:48:51,040
Speaker 5: you can't love yourself, how are you going to you know, RuPaul,

1010
00:48:51,800 --> 00:48:53,720
Speaker 5: how are you going to love somebody else where? He

1011
00:48:54,080 --> 00:48:58,400
Speaker 5: was working on himself and so how can you be

1012
00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:01,440
Speaker 5: the partner you should be in a relationship if you're

1013
00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:06,120
Speaker 5: not operating at your fullest capacity? And so at the beginning,

1014
00:49:06,160 --> 00:49:08,120
Speaker 5: I was like, well, I'm obsessed with him, I'm crazy

1015
00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:10,600
Speaker 5: about him and in love with him, but I think

1016
00:49:10,640 --> 00:49:12,920
Speaker 5: this is gonna be like six months. Like I just

1017
00:49:13,160 --> 00:49:15,080
Speaker 5: I don't know how this is going to work.

1018
00:49:15,280 --> 00:49:17,160
Speaker 7: I still don't. We got to eight half years.

1019
00:49:17,200 --> 00:49:19,239
Speaker 5: No, it's like it's like we've blinked and we've got

1020
00:49:19,239 --> 00:49:19,839
Speaker 5: we got to eight.

1021
00:49:19,920 --> 00:49:21,399
Speaker 6: But the fact that we made it through that first

1022
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:23,080
Speaker 6: year I think is crazy and all of her a

1023
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:25,160
Speaker 6: lot of our friends say the same, like spensers off.

1024
00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:30,840
Speaker 5: That I think it was because personality wise were very different,

1025
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:35,960
Speaker 5: but we overlap and this took time to find almost

1026
00:49:35,960 --> 00:49:38,439
Speaker 5: in every other way where our interests are the same.

1027
00:49:38,520 --> 00:49:44,000
Speaker 5: Clearly esses of humor is the same. And I think, yeah,

1028
00:49:44,040 --> 00:49:47,520
Speaker 5: that first year, I don't know if there's like one point,

1029
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:49,120
Speaker 5: but no, there was a lot of up and down.

1030
00:49:49,400 --> 00:49:51,399
Speaker 5: Awesome was going through well, I think I think.

1031
00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 6: I think to Saw, Kevin had been in a relationship

1032
00:49:54,120 --> 00:49:56,719
Speaker 6: for seven years. He knew he at least had a

1033
00:49:56,760 --> 00:49:59,680
Speaker 6: foundation of how relationship worked. I not only had no

1034
00:49:59,719 --> 00:50:02,239
Speaker 6: found of how a relationship worked, but I also didn't

1035
00:50:02,239 --> 00:50:03,759
Speaker 6: want to be in a relationship. I didn't want to

1036
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:07,040
Speaker 6: commit myself to anyone I was afraid of being in

1037
00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 6: love with someone, so.

1038
00:50:08,160 --> 00:50:09,359
Speaker 5: Shouldn't well, you love me.

1039
00:50:10,120 --> 00:50:12,880
Speaker 6: I think it's more like, it's amazing that, like I

1040
00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:14,920
Speaker 6: stayed in it because I just I wasn't ready for

1041
00:50:14,960 --> 00:50:15,680
Speaker 6: a relationship.

1042
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:17,920
Speaker 7: I just happened to meet my person.

1043
00:50:19,080 --> 00:50:20,240
Speaker 3: Well that's awesome.

1044
00:50:20,280 --> 00:50:23,080
Speaker 4: But it sounds like any of the bigger fights happened

1045
00:50:23,120 --> 00:50:26,759
Speaker 4: early on, and that once you got through that, then

1046
00:50:26,840 --> 00:50:28,799
Speaker 4: you guys figured out the dynamic and what worked in

1047
00:50:28,840 --> 00:50:30,040
Speaker 4: how not to upset the other.

1048
00:50:29,920 --> 00:50:30,520
Speaker 7: Person as much.

1049
00:50:30,640 --> 00:50:32,520
Speaker 4: But I see a lot of respect between the two

1050
00:50:32,520 --> 00:50:35,040
Speaker 4: of you and humor, and those two things to me

1051
00:50:35,239 --> 00:50:38,360
Speaker 4: are so so important, and I see both of those

1052
00:50:39,040 --> 00:50:39,960
Speaker 4: alive and well in you.

1053
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:41,560
Speaker 3: It's very cool.

1054
00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:42,960
Speaker 4: Right, we're going to wrap this up. You guys have

1055
00:50:42,960 --> 00:50:46,480
Speaker 4: been so much fun. So you've made lots of references

1056
00:50:46,480 --> 00:50:48,279
Speaker 4: to how great your sex life is. How do you

1057
00:50:48,400 --> 00:50:51,239
Speaker 4: keep the romance alive? Like for couples who want to

1058
00:50:51,280 --> 00:50:54,160
Speaker 4: know it's been eight years, it's been ten years. Maybe

1059
00:50:54,200 --> 00:50:56,040
Speaker 4: it's only been a few years, but you're trying to

1060
00:50:56,080 --> 00:50:58,759
Speaker 4: figure out, what would you say is the secret to

1061
00:50:58,840 --> 00:51:00,480
Speaker 4: keeping your romance alive.

1062
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:03,279
Speaker 5: I don't know if there's just a secret. I look

1063
00:51:03,280 --> 00:51:05,320
Speaker 5: at him and I'm like, I'm still just as attracted

1064
00:51:05,320 --> 00:51:07,560
Speaker 5: to you as I was, if not more. Yeah, the

1065
00:51:07,600 --> 00:51:18,080
Speaker 5: first time I like met you, I guess and I.

1066
00:51:15,239 --> 00:51:20,400
Speaker 6: I've always said this, I think the sexiest part of

1067
00:51:20,480 --> 00:51:24,560
Speaker 6: sex is everything that happens before sex and the foreplay,

1068
00:51:24,600 --> 00:51:28,280
Speaker 6: but not even in the bedroom foreplay, but like flirting

1069
00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:31,760
Speaker 6: and syntactually the things that you're saying.

1070
00:51:32,400 --> 00:51:37,320
Speaker 7: So I think that for me, another thing I love about.

1071
00:51:37,120 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 6: Kevin, Like that I love most about Kevin is that

1072
00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:45,040
Speaker 6: he always says things that surprise me, and whether it's

1073
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:50,279
Speaker 6: sexual or not, like the conversation being fresh and him

1074
00:51:50,360 --> 00:51:51,040
Speaker 6: challenging me.

1075
00:51:52,840 --> 00:51:55,560
Speaker 7: That to me, that for me, that's what keeps the

1076
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:56,239
Speaker 7: romance alive.

1077
00:51:56,920 --> 00:52:02,440
Speaker 5: Damn, you really just big up my ego. I don't

1078
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:05,400
Speaker 5: I have no idea what you're talking about, but you're welcome.

1079
00:52:08,239 --> 00:52:11,520
Speaker 5: I don't know what I say that's surprising, but I

1080
00:52:11,600 --> 00:52:12,520
Speaker 5: got to keep doing it.

1081
00:52:18,480 --> 00:52:20,120
Speaker 6: No, but it's it's not even I mean, it is

1082
00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:23,359
Speaker 6: a compliment, but it's not even saying like you're intentional.

1083
00:52:23,000 --> 00:52:26,160
Speaker 7: About or anything. But just like I don't know, just

1084
00:52:26,200 --> 00:52:29,200
Speaker 7: the honesty in our conversation, that's what keeps it hot

1085
00:52:29,320 --> 00:52:30,759
Speaker 7: to me, is like.

1086
00:52:32,600 --> 00:52:36,279
Speaker 6: That like confidence in like I'm going to say whatever

1087
00:52:36,320 --> 00:52:38,600
Speaker 6: I want to say to you, and if it's stupid

1088
00:52:38,680 --> 00:52:40,800
Speaker 6: or if it's wrong or whatever, if it comes across

1089
00:52:40,800 --> 00:52:44,280
Speaker 6: me or whatever, Like that to me is sexy.

1090
00:52:44,480 --> 00:52:46,880
Speaker 5: And I think receiving that too, of someone that you

1091
00:52:46,920 --> 00:52:50,520
Speaker 5: can feel is still so into you and vice versa,

1092
00:52:50,840 --> 00:52:53,520
Speaker 5: like the confidence of like I can tell he it's

1093
00:52:53,600 --> 00:52:55,799
Speaker 5: shocking to me that he's still into me sexually after

1094
00:52:55,840 --> 00:53:00,399
Speaker 5: eight years and that's exciting, and you know, like, oh

1095
00:53:00,440 --> 00:53:02,839
Speaker 5: my god, you feel the same way I do, Like, yeah,

1096
00:53:02,880 --> 00:53:06,800
Speaker 5: that's that's good. It's nice. It feels like high school

1097
00:53:06,840 --> 00:53:08,560
Speaker 5: on it, like in a way, it feels like it's

1098
00:53:08,960 --> 00:53:13,360
Speaker 5: fresh and new. And obviously there are you know, peaks

1099
00:53:13,360 --> 00:53:15,839
Speaker 5: and valleys because there's things happen in life and that's

1100
00:53:15,880 --> 00:53:19,600
Speaker 5: not top of mind, but generally and even if there's

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00:53:19,719 --> 00:53:22,760
Speaker 5: times when you know it is more of a valley

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00:53:23,400 --> 00:53:27,960
Speaker 5: where you know, life happens. We that's so important to

1103
00:53:27,960 --> 00:53:30,360
Speaker 5: both of us that we definitely know how to like

1104
00:53:30,400 --> 00:53:32,200
Speaker 5: ignite it in one another and make it a.

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00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:35,919
Speaker 7: Focus and priority and travel traveling. We're both we're both

1106
00:53:35,920 --> 00:53:36,399
Speaker 7: sluts for.

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00:53:36,320 --> 00:53:38,760
Speaker 5: True, I mean, what's better than a hotel room?

1108
00:53:38,960 --> 00:53:41,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, we agree, we're in one right now.

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00:53:41,840 --> 00:53:44,200
Speaker 5: I mean, yeah, you're gonna log off, and I know

1110
00:53:44,239 --> 00:53:45,000
Speaker 5: what's gonna happen.

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00:53:45,840 --> 00:53:50,279
Speaker 3: We're in Vegas, baby, so yes, Oh god, we love it.

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00:53:50,320 --> 00:53:52,799
Speaker 6: Oh we love Vegas. Oh that's that's also a great one.

1113
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:54,080
Speaker 6: Vegas will bring the Roman.

1114
00:53:53,920 --> 00:53:54,719
Speaker 7: HUDs, will it?

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00:53:54,800 --> 00:54:00,160
Speaker 5: Actually I don't know something the sweet oxygen being pumped

1116
00:54:00,160 --> 00:54:04,600
Speaker 5: into a smoke filled So good.

1117
00:54:05,600 --> 00:54:06,720
Speaker 3: Let the memories begin.

1118
00:54:07,719 --> 00:54:10,480
Speaker 2: But the last one here, guys, is I guess it's

1119
00:54:10,600 --> 00:54:13,960
Speaker 2: obvious and as Austin you might say cliche, but it

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00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:16,520
Speaker 2: has to be asked. Anytime somebody's around someone who is

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00:54:16,560 --> 00:54:19,279
Speaker 2: in a successful and certainly long term relationship, they asked

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00:54:19,320 --> 00:54:21,320
Speaker 2: this question, so we'll ask it of you answered, however,

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00:54:21,360 --> 00:54:22,800
Speaker 2: you like, what.

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00:54:22,880 --> 00:54:25,840
Speaker 1: Is the secret to relationship success?

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Speaker 7: Oh?

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00:54:27,000 --> 00:54:28,239
Speaker 5: I hate when people say this.

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00:54:28,560 --> 00:54:30,280
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, they always ask.

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00:54:31,719 --> 00:54:37,799
Speaker 5: The question. Is good to me? It's like purely communication,

1129
00:54:39,600 --> 00:54:44,319
Speaker 5: But I mean it's in it's setting a standard of communication.

1130
00:54:44,440 --> 00:54:47,560
Speaker 5: Though I think it's not just like, yeah, we have

1131
00:54:47,600 --> 00:54:51,600
Speaker 5: to speak to one another. It's the type and style

1132
00:54:51,640 --> 00:54:55,480
Speaker 5: of communication, what you expect to hear from the other

1133
00:54:55,520 --> 00:54:58,239
Speaker 5: person and from yourself, all the things you know, that

1134
00:54:58,320 --> 00:55:01,960
Speaker 5: encapsulates everything we've just talked about. Where there's no judgment.

1135
00:55:04,960 --> 00:55:08,040
Speaker 5: It's like better out than in, Like let's not harbor

1136
00:55:08,040 --> 00:55:12,319
Speaker 5: any resentments towards one another, and it's not necessarily like,

1137
00:55:12,400 --> 00:55:15,400
Speaker 5: oh it's so much work. If you set that precedent

1138
00:55:15,440 --> 00:55:18,759
Speaker 5: for yourselves, then it's a habit and it's not something

1139
00:55:18,800 --> 00:55:22,759
Speaker 5: you have to think about. And I think pretty early

1140
00:55:22,800 --> 00:55:26,680
Speaker 5: on we establish that. And it's also really rewarding when

1141
00:55:26,760 --> 00:55:31,000
Speaker 5: you realize there's like new levels to communication, Like, oh,

1142
00:55:31,040 --> 00:55:32,839
Speaker 5: I thought we were being really open with each other,

1143
00:55:32,840 --> 00:55:35,080
Speaker 5: but we just unlocked the next level of this somehow.

1144
00:55:35,760 --> 00:55:39,640
Speaker 5: And that only happens through embracing that and like charging

1145
00:55:39,719 --> 00:55:42,120
Speaker 5: right through it when you get into those sticky situations.

1146
00:55:44,080 --> 00:55:46,720
Speaker 5: But yeah, I think just communication.

1147
00:55:46,320 --> 00:55:49,400
Speaker 6: Yeah, I think that goes hand in hand with openness.

1148
00:55:49,640 --> 00:55:53,680
Speaker 6: I feel like I look at all the people I

1149
00:55:53,719 --> 00:55:56,200
Speaker 6: know that are in relationships or have been in relationships,

1150
00:55:56,280 --> 00:56:00,000
Speaker 6: and when I see relationships that are in really rough

1151
00:56:00,120 --> 00:56:05,680
Speaker 6: spots and are at risk, I think it's because one

1152
00:56:05,760 --> 00:56:09,400
Speaker 6: or both partners aren't open to a new perspective to

1153
00:56:09,440 --> 00:56:11,719
Speaker 6: a different person, right, because we all we only we

1154
00:56:11,760 --> 00:56:15,200
Speaker 6: only perceive people to act the same way that we act.

1155
00:56:15,600 --> 00:56:18,200
Speaker 6: You know, Like if I if I think, if I

1156
00:56:18,200 --> 00:56:20,400
Speaker 6: have a certain mechanism in my head, I'm going to

1157
00:56:20,440 --> 00:56:24,080
Speaker 6: assume that everyone else thinks that same way too, and

1158
00:56:24,120 --> 00:56:25,400
Speaker 6: that's going to clash unless.

1159
00:56:25,160 --> 00:56:28,040
Speaker 7: You're open to other perspectives. And to me, that is

1160
00:56:28,080 --> 00:56:31,560
Speaker 7: what works. Yeah, because I think not to on what you're.

1161
00:56:31,400 --> 00:56:35,759
Speaker 6: Saying, but like, I think communication is vital to a relationship,

1162
00:56:35,760 --> 00:56:38,960
Speaker 6: but communication also can lead to honesty as far as

1163
00:56:39,280 --> 00:56:41,640
Speaker 6: maybe that you shouldn't stay together, and I think that's

1164
00:56:41,640 --> 00:56:44,680
Speaker 6: important to communicate about. But I think when we're talking

1165
00:56:44,680 --> 00:56:47,640
Speaker 6: about like keeping a relationship going, I think you just

1166
00:56:47,719 --> 00:56:51,840
Speaker 6: have to be open to changing and being open to

1167
00:56:51,920 --> 00:56:55,800
Speaker 6: someone that's different than you, because there's never going to

1168
00:56:55,880 --> 00:56:57,360
Speaker 6: be a perfect relationship.

1169
00:56:57,520 --> 00:56:58,200
Speaker 7: It doesn't exist.

1170
00:56:58,520 --> 00:57:02,040
Speaker 5: I do think I co signed that because there's been

1171
00:57:02,080 --> 00:57:05,000
Speaker 5: I can't take the amount of times I've learned that

1172
00:57:05,120 --> 00:57:10,399
Speaker 5: over and over again in this relationship where it's like, oh,

1173
00:57:10,480 --> 00:57:12,680
Speaker 5: I don't need an apology, but he needs an apology

1174
00:57:12,920 --> 00:57:18,040
Speaker 5: for example, and unlearning that everything needs to be from

1175
00:57:18,120 --> 00:57:20,800
Speaker 5: just my strict point of view and being open to

1176
00:57:21,520 --> 00:57:25,080
Speaker 5: the compromise and making sure he's getting what he needs

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00:57:25,120 --> 00:57:30,000
Speaker 5: from me. Yeah, you taught me that.

1178
00:57:30,000 --> 00:57:32,040
Speaker 4: That's awesome, And I think so many people are focused

1179
00:57:32,080 --> 00:57:34,160
Speaker 4: on getting what they need. They're not They're not actually

1180
00:57:34,200 --> 00:57:36,880
Speaker 4: doing what relationships will require, which is for you to

1181
00:57:36,880 --> 00:57:38,280
Speaker 4: figure out what the other person needs.

1182
00:57:38,520 --> 00:57:41,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, because you want the other person to be happy

1183
00:57:41,880 --> 00:57:44,920
Speaker 5: and fulfilled, and that means that you are a part

1184
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:48,920
Speaker 5: of that and accomplishing that for that person, and that

1185
00:57:48,920 --> 00:57:51,120
Speaker 5: should be fulfilling for you. It is for me, I

1186
00:57:51,200 --> 00:57:53,520
Speaker 5: know it is for both of us. So it's yeah.

1187
00:57:54,240 --> 00:57:57,880
Speaker 4: Very oh, Kevin and Austin. You guys have been amazing.

1188
00:57:57,920 --> 00:58:01,000
Speaker 4: We have learned so much from you. I know our

1189
00:58:01,040 --> 00:58:04,720
Speaker 4: listeners have to. It's so cool to hear your love

1190
00:58:04,800 --> 00:58:07,880
Speaker 4: story and to see your relationship. And you have a

1191
00:58:07,960 --> 00:58:10,120
Speaker 4: deep friendship too on top of it. But I love

1192
00:58:10,160 --> 00:58:13,480
Speaker 4: the fun you have, I love the humor you have,

1193
00:58:13,720 --> 00:58:15,600
Speaker 4: and just thank you for sharing it with us.

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00:58:15,640 --> 00:58:16,480
Speaker 3: We appreciate you.

1195
00:58:16,960 --> 00:58:17,760
Speaker 5: Thank you so much.

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00:58:17,760 --> 00:58:21,600
Speaker 7: This lovely I fully expect a double date.

1197
00:58:21,680 --> 00:58:27,520
Speaker 6: Yes, it was not kidding, yea honestly, And I feel

1198
00:58:27,560 --> 00:58:30,080
Speaker 6: like significantly more in love than I did when I

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00:58:30,080 --> 00:58:30,440
Speaker 6: woke up.

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00:58:30,720 --> 00:58:32,439
Speaker 7: So not that I wasn't in love when.

1201
00:58:32,320 --> 00:58:35,400
Speaker 5: I woke up, but we needed I'll send you a venmo.

1202
00:58:36,160 --> 00:58:37,600
Speaker 5: Thank you so much for this.

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00:58:39,680 --> 00:58:50,440
Speaker 4: Well, Happy Valentine's Day.