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Speaker 2: Justin is on the phone today for our first Day

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Speaker 2: follow up. He's getting ghosted by Laurie. Find out what

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Speaker 2: they did on their date in just the second But first, Justin,

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Speaker 2: how long has it been since you heard from LORI?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's been probably like three weeks.

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Speaker 4: So what was your last interaction with Laurie?

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Speaker 3: Like, well, so we went on a we went on

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Speaker 3: a date and ended up having a nice night and

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Speaker 3: went back to my house and you know, had a

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Speaker 3: nice night. We hooked up.

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Speaker 2: Oh, then that was the.

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Speaker 3: Last time I saw her. So it was after that

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Speaker 3: date that we had.

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Speaker 2: So you guys actually hooked up and she's ghosting you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. So there was a weird moment earlier on in

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Speaker 3: the night that I had made reservations at a nice

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Speaker 3: much later in the evening then I had originally planned.

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Speaker 3: So we got there, realized the reservation was wrong, and

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Speaker 3: so we just had a lot of time to kill

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Speaker 3: before our dinner, So we ended up just walking down well,

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Speaker 3: ended up walking down the street. There was a bowling

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Speaker 3: like we had a really great time. We had dinner

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Speaker 3: and then you know, like I said, we went back

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Speaker 3: to my place afterwards, and everything felt really great to me.

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Speaker 3: I feel like the only reason that she'd be ghosting

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I mean, she ended up hooking up with you, anyway,

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Speaker 4: I don't know that that really was a deal breaker

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but she.

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Speaker 4: Didn't even text you like thank you for the hookup

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Speaker 4: or for the anything, thank you for the day.

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Speaker 3: There was nothing afterwards she left, So I had got

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Speaker 4: Gone, So not even a goodbye, justin what did you do?

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Speaker 2: And that's what I want to try to find that,

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Speaker 2: So you don't have any idea.

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Speaker 3: I only thought would have been the weird mix up

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Speaker 3: with the reservation. I can't think of anything else that happened, well.

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Speaker 4: What happened in bed? Was there anything weird that happened

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Speaker 4: there that might have scared her away, Like I don't

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Speaker 3: I don't think I did it, not, you know, not

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Speaker 3: to my knowledge at leak.

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Speaker 2: Okay, good, So.

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Speaker 4: Have you actually tried to reach out to her though?

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Speaker 4: Were you like it was? Did you say thank you

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Speaker 4: and it was nice to meet you or anything along

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Speaker 3: I mean I definitely have texted. I mentioned, you know, like, hey,

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Speaker 3: sorry for the mix up at the restaurant. I sent

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Speaker 3: that in a text. But you know, oh, like I said,

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Speaker 3: I got nothing back. So I really love a chance

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Speaker 3: to apologize if that's a real problem, because I.

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Speaker 4: Was also just thinking if you didn't reach out to her,

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Speaker 4: then maybe she thinks you're ghosting her. Oh yeah, that's true,

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Speaker 4: because they're like communication can be a little tricky, you know,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she left out really saying anything. I felt very felt,

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Speaker 3: very sudden, and I have no idea what I did.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, we'll try to figure it out for you

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Speaker 2: to play song come back and then call her and

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Speaker 2: see she tell us why she's ghosting you, and try

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Speaker 2: to get you another date. If you still won't. Okay,

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Speaker 2: sounds good. All right, we'll play song come back. Get

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's first Day follow up.

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Speaker 2: Justin is on the phone and it's been three weeks

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Speaker 2: since he's heard from Laurie and he really liked her too.

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Speaker 2: They actually had what sounds like a lot of fun

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Speaker 2: on their date. Before we give her a call to

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Speaker 2: try to find out why she's ghosting Justin, justin refresh

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Speaker 2: everybody's memory about your date with Louri.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so we went on a date three weeks ago.

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Speaker 3: I made a reservation at a nice restaurant. We ended

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Speaker 4: Set man fed bowling in a good night.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, we're about to call her and see

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Speaker 2: if she'll tell us why she's go seeing? Are you ready?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Let's do it all right?

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Speaker 2: Here we go? Hello him, Lori please?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, him with glory.

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Speaker 2: Hey, Laurie, how are you. My name is Jubil and

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Speaker 2: I host a show called The Jubile Show. It's a

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Speaker 4: The whole show is here, Lori.

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Speaker 3: Hi?

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Speaker 5: Oh what Hi?

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Speaker 4: Everybody? Hi?

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Speaker 2: I'm Victoria Victoria and I probably shouldn't host the show.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, it's a party?

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Speaker 3: Okay, Hi?

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Speaker 4: What's that?

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Speaker 2: Not much any idea why we're calling you?

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Speaker 5: I've heard of like radio stations calling people for like

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Speaker 5: second date update kind of things before, but I'm hoping that's.

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Speaker 3: Not what this is.

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Speaker 2: Well it's not. It's a first date follow up.

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Speaker 4: Different.

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Speaker 2: It's the same but different. That is actually what it is, though.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, wait, oh my god, no way, are you kidding me?

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Speaker 2: No, you went on a date recently and you've been

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Speaker 2: ghosting him for like three weeks, and they want to

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Speaker 5: I mean, there's only one person I can think of

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Speaker 2: He emailed us and said that he was trying to

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Speaker 6: Yes, yes, I know.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. We went on a date. We went pulling. It

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Speaker 5: I was like, wait, what, you know, like what's going on?

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Speaker 4: Know what I mean, what if it's family.

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Speaker 5: Oh I don't think so. I mean that's kind of

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Speaker 4: And I had to get out of there.

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Speaker 5: I like bolhood and left, and I didn't know what

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Speaker 4: Well, it wasn't a drawer, so it wasn't it wasn't

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Speaker 4: That's completely understandable, but there is no part of you

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Speaker 5: Well, I didn't want him to think I was snooping either.

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Speaker 5: You know, like I wasn't trying to do like recon

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Speaker 5: Felt really weird and awkward and I just love.

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Speaker 5: I mean, yeah, sure, yeah, that'd be great.

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Speaker 3: So it's just been in my drawer. It was out,

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Speaker 5: is it over?

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Speaker 3: I mean we had we had a great two years.

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Speaker 5: Any Hell yeah, I mean I appreciate you telling me

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Speaker 5: thank you. You know I I really do like you.

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Speaker 5: I think you're really great, and you know I would

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Speaker 2: So, Laurie, would you like to go on another date

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Speaker 2: with Justin? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would do that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Justin, Quick, clean your apartment out, go get a story.

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Speaker 4: I've got to burn pictures.

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