WEBVTT - Conversations About Stay At Home(less) Moms 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:04.400 Wash up, and welcome back to another episode of No 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:07.520 Sealer's Podcast with your hosts now fuck that with your 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:18.600 load glasses Malone? Yeah what you what are you all? Yeah? 0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:22.680 I can't tell you just be talking mess. 0:00:22.880 --> 0:00:25.599 That's a lie you so obviously your phone said, oh yeah, 0:00:25.640 --> 0:00:28.319 so what are you? Oh yeah about shucking information with us? 0:00:28.400 --> 0:00:32.879 Man? Oh yeah, yeah, that was exactly. 0:00:33.200 --> 0:00:36.279 Oh yeah, that's why I got that. That's when that 0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:37.560 deposit hit. Yeah. 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:45.559 Okay, okay, you still get goosebumps when the deposit hit. 0:00:45.800 --> 0:00:48.200 Oh yeah, man, because I'm still trying to make this money. 0:00:48.200 --> 0:00:48.400 Man. 0:00:48.640 --> 0:00:51.080 Everybody ain't like you g you go, you're. 0:00:50.960 --> 0:00:56.400 Hustling, so your mind. I'm not hustling. 0:00:56.520 --> 0:00:58.360 No, I know you are, but I'm just saying, like 0:00:58.400 --> 0:01:01.120 I'm trying to get like you so excited. 0:01:03.440 --> 0:01:08.120 Thinkers like oh I was like all right, you know 0:01:08.200 --> 0:01:10.479 that's not just like that was just like unexpected, That's 0:01:10.520 --> 0:01:11.640 what it was. 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:13.720 You get that, Yeah, here you go. 0:01:13.800 --> 0:01:17.400 You'd be like, oh, somebody old just money, they paid 0:01:17.400 --> 0:01:17.720 it back? 0:01:17.880 --> 0:01:22.000 Yeah? Nice? Right, And you know it's it's cool when 0:01:22.040 --> 0:01:25.119 you like want somebody some money and you ain't really 0:01:25.160 --> 0:01:27.600 tripping about it because you had it. So when it 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:31.000 just comes back. You're like, oh, ship cool. 0:01:30.840 --> 0:01:32.800 Because you didn't really expect it, or no, he was 0:01:32.840 --> 0:01:35.640 gonna get it exactly. Yeah, so you're not you know 0:01:36.959 --> 0:01:39.240 when they hit it's like, oh. 0:01:38.959 --> 0:01:45.840 Yeah, he's still my stuff. 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:57.160 It's crazy. It's such a good segue to what I 0:01:57.200 --> 0:02:01.600 wanted to talk about, the money. No, So did you 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:03.000 see the ig I sent you. 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:04.920 The homeless mom? 0:02:05.200 --> 0:02:05.520 Yes? 0:02:05.840 --> 0:02:06.160 Yes? 0:02:07.560 --> 0:02:08.280 Did you look at it? 0:02:08.320 --> 0:02:09.960 Brit Yes? I did. 0:02:10.840 --> 0:02:11.880 What did you think. 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:18.600 I didn't? Okay? So she was pretty much I didn't 0:02:18.600 --> 0:02:22.400 get it, Like, what don't you get me? She was 0:02:22.440 --> 0:02:25.320 documenting it was the. 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:27.960 Only thing I didn't get was the first video what 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:31.280 with the kid? The son? The son? The kid? 0:02:31.960 --> 0:02:33.720 Was that the reason she was homeless? 0:02:33.840 --> 0:02:36.440 Right? That's why I was So the kid cussed her 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:38.480 out and the daddy didn't do nothing about it, and 0:02:38.520 --> 0:02:41.760 then she ended up being homeless but his baby, and 0:02:41.800 --> 0:02:43.840 then she went back and got pregnant by him again. 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:49.200 No, so what happened was so okay. So the person's 0:02:49.240 --> 0:02:54.200 IG is I think it's pronounced the nay girl d 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:57.520 A h n A y g y a l L. 0:02:58.800 --> 0:03:03.040 And so her story is she was with a guy, 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:06.440 they broke up, they had she had a baby on 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:08.640 her own. They broke up, she got back with the dude, 0:03:09.760 --> 0:03:13.560 and so the son fucked her up, like did some 0:03:13.720 --> 0:03:16.239 to her to hurt her. And then after that the 0:03:16.320 --> 0:03:19.800 baby daddy punched on her put her in the hospital 0:03:19.840 --> 0:03:21.480 and she was in the hospital for two days. 0:03:21.520 --> 0:03:22.800 Oh, I didn't see that part. 0:03:23.040 --> 0:03:25.200 Yeah, I sent it to you, so you have to 0:03:25.200 --> 0:03:26.280 take time to go through it. 0:03:26.520 --> 0:03:27.079 It was a lot. 0:03:27.560 --> 0:03:30.200 It was a lot, right, but yes, it's right there, right. 0:03:31.919 --> 0:03:34.360 I didn't see the kid and everything, and I seen 0:03:34.400 --> 0:03:36.320 that she said that they didn't do anything, that they 0:03:36.320 --> 0:03:38.400 didn't say nothing, and he said he didn't care and 0:03:38.400 --> 0:03:40.440 he stumped out didn't call her like a bitch or 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:41.840 something or something or I. 0:03:41.840 --> 0:03:45.400 Don't The post is called the one specifically, it's called 0:03:45.400 --> 0:03:48.040 life It's Crazy, and it says I was a single mom, 0:03:48.440 --> 0:03:51.560 got back with my baby daddy. Now now I'm a 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:55.360 pregnant single mom and left do to a DV situation 0:03:55.520 --> 0:03:58.440 which had me in the hospital for two days. Currently 0:03:58.520 --> 0:04:03.240 homeless because I couldn't deal with it, right, Okay, So 0:04:03.320 --> 0:04:08.080 that is her post after day two of being It's 0:04:08.080 --> 0:04:10.160 between day two of being homeless and day three of 0:04:10.200 --> 0:04:15.360 being homeless. Being a homeless mom, homeless and the funny part, 0:04:15.560 --> 0:04:17.800 like checking the whole shit out that blew my mind. 0:04:17.800 --> 0:04:20.640 And she was like, I'm a stay at home homeless mom. 0:04:22.160 --> 0:04:25.120 I just thought it okay, so now I get it 0:04:25.120 --> 0:04:27.760 because I was like, okay, are we discussing the fact 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:29.440 that she's documenting this, and like. 0:04:30.920 --> 0:04:32.880 It was a few it was a few things we 0:04:32.920 --> 0:04:36.840 should discuss. But it was just crazy to see. It 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:40.080 was like, I'm ana stay at homes? 0:04:40.600 --> 0:04:43.440 Well, no, because it what it sounds like or what 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:48.360 I think. She she went to a shelter. So I 0:04:48.800 --> 0:04:51.440 went through this situation. Oh I did. I went to 0:04:51.440 --> 0:04:54.680 an emergency shelter. I was there thirty days. And then 0:04:54.680 --> 0:04:58.560 I went to a home, a domestic violence home, and 0:04:59.200 --> 0:05:01.400 you know, you we couldn't know the address and stuff, 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:06.200 but it was moms and with their children and we 0:05:06.200 --> 0:05:08.279 would share different rooms. It was like a really like 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:11.200 big house or whatnot. So you can leave like on 0:05:11.240 --> 0:05:13.960 the weekends. After you've been there, you can't have contact 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:16.880 with someone for like her people for like seventy two hours. 0:05:16.920 --> 0:05:18.960 Then you get to leave on the weekends and things 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:24.000 like that. And some people they do have jobs, but 0:05:24.160 --> 0:05:27.400 when you're in that emergency shelter part or whatnot. You 0:05:27.440 --> 0:05:30.200 can't go to work, which they'll you know, send a 0:05:30.240 --> 0:05:32.919 note or whatnot. So maybe she means as far as 0:05:32.960 --> 0:05:35.719 because she's in that home that situation, there are people 0:05:35.760 --> 0:05:39.040 that do have jobs. But she's just like, I know, 0:05:39.279 --> 0:05:40.240 I'm gonna stay at home. 0:05:40.720 --> 0:05:43.200 My kids come first. I'm a mom, frad But it 0:05:43.279 --> 0:05:45.800 was just funny that those two words like stay at 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:48.360 home homeless mom. 0:05:48.440 --> 0:05:52.000 I was like, she don't have a home, well, but 0:05:52.080 --> 0:05:54.080 she doesn't have a Like it's like a choice that 0:05:54.160 --> 0:05:57.360 you're staying home and you're home, but you can go 0:05:57.480 --> 0:05:58.080 get a job. 0:05:59.000 --> 0:06:01.920 No, but I think so she had and people were 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:04.160 saying that in the comments, That's what I thought. They 0:06:04.160 --> 0:06:06.159 were like, oh, you know what, like why do you 0:06:06.160 --> 0:06:09.640 still have a phone, Like so if she sold her 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:11.200 phone that she can't get a place. 0:06:11.240 --> 0:06:12.120 You can't get a place. 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:14.719 Yeah, she could get a room for a night with 0:06:15.360 --> 0:06:18.440 you know, but she's a content creator, Like she's taking 0:06:18.480 --> 0:06:21.599 on the professional field of being a content creator. That's 0:06:21.600 --> 0:06:23.200 her job, right, that's her career. 0:06:23.480 --> 0:06:26.640 She accepting fifty dollars posts now she's making she's making 0:06:26.720 --> 0:06:27.520 some money, some money. 0:06:27.560 --> 0:06:29.840 Yeah, because it's crazy. 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:32.080 She said she had like a thousand or was it 0:06:32.120 --> 0:06:34.960 a million views or something like in a few weeks. 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:37.560 Right, Like one of her posts is when the food 0:06:37.600 --> 0:06:40.600 stamps hit, right, and it's like one million views. 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:44.000 Ay, that'd be real. When the food stamps hit and 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:48.760 you ain't got no money, yeah, buddy, And that's another 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:50.360 one you go dollar. 0:06:51.040 --> 0:06:52.560 I you know, I felt to her when she says 0:06:52.600 --> 0:06:57.000 she was her daughter was hungry and so she was 0:06:57.000 --> 0:06:58.680 trying to give her chips and stuff like that. She 0:06:58.760 --> 0:07:01.039 really had no money because I remember not even having like, 0:07:01.560 --> 0:07:04.599 you know, a Jack in the box chicken sandwiches. Them 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:07.279 was Life Savers, the little nine nine cent chicken sandwich, 0:07:07.400 --> 0:07:10.600 the little two dollars tacos or whatever. So you know, 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:14.760 I felt that somebody had like gave her some food 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:17.040 and then people were like sending money and stuff like that. 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:19.400 But this is the time where I mean, for me, 0:07:19.480 --> 0:07:22.280 I'm like, Okay, that's cool. She not just sitting on 0:07:22.320 --> 0:07:26.000 her ask like she is making content to make money. Yeah, 0:07:26.560 --> 0:07:27.560 so that's cool. 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:30.720 Day seven of the Homeless Mom has three point six 0:07:30.800 --> 0:07:35.800 million views. Creative Day nine is a Homeless Mom has 0:07:35.840 --> 0:07:36.920 one point two million. 0:07:36.960 --> 0:07:39.480 Because everybody knows you honestly, everybody knows. They want to 0:07:39.480 --> 0:07:40.040 know what's going on. 0:07:40.360 --> 0:07:44.800 She's she's transparent, she's showing like real life, and a 0:07:44.840 --> 0:07:47.840 lot of people, like you said, are nosy and they 0:07:47.840 --> 0:07:50.720 want to see and she want a story to tell, 0:07:50.840 --> 0:07:52.760 so it's like, you want to see what's going on 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:56.960 and she gets yeah, you know what I mean, it's 0:07:56.960 --> 0:07:58.120 like watching reality show. 0:07:58.640 --> 0:08:01.560 It's real though, And to my homeboys and they was like, 0:08:01.640 --> 0:08:03.880 and I don't want to see this, and I'm like, 0:08:04.040 --> 0:08:07.320 I would prefer to see see Like I always had 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:12.239 big visions for social media. I thought people would show 0:08:12.280 --> 0:08:15.200 their lives and then you could realize as human beings 0:08:15.200 --> 0:08:19.480 were all connected. But what happened was niggas got social 0:08:19.520 --> 0:08:21.320 media and just started to like. 0:08:21.840 --> 0:08:26.720 Yeah, yeah, yes, it's horrible. 0:08:27.560 --> 0:08:30.040 It's like you can make your life to be whatever 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:33.200 it is on social media, you know, like this is 0:08:33.200 --> 0:08:37.360 who I am and that shit be what it's not real, 0:08:37.640 --> 0:08:38.000 you know. 0:08:38.080 --> 0:08:39.920 And that's what I like. I was telling my homide 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:44.040 like I appreciated that. Obviously, you have to do some 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:46.880 homework on her situation right on Instagram and she got 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:49.200 a YouTube and you could check her out right, but 0:08:49.840 --> 0:08:51.640 you have to look at it because you just see 0:08:51.679 --> 0:08:54.800 a homeless person, and you just think all the craziest 0:08:54.840 --> 0:08:58.000 stuff and I'm like you. One thing that I got 0:08:58.040 --> 0:09:00.000 really good at what the internet is. I stopped taking 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:03.440 and like the shortcuts to figure out a whole situation. 0:09:03.960 --> 0:09:06.000 So like, if I'll see a clip of a video 0:09:06.040 --> 0:09:08.680 where somebody was speaking, I'm gonna go lot, look at 0:09:08.679 --> 0:09:11.680 the whole video and like, so for her situation, like, 0:09:11.720 --> 0:09:13.560 I seen the same thing. It was like day seven 0:09:13.640 --> 0:09:16.240 is a homeless mom, and I'm like, damn, she homeless. 0:09:16.280 --> 0:09:18.920 So I watched the content and I was like, man, 0:09:19.040 --> 0:09:20.800 So I was like, why is she homeless? So I 0:09:20.880 --> 0:09:24.040 went through her page and I went through all probably 0:09:24.080 --> 0:09:26.920 about thirty to forty posts. I was like, okay, I 0:09:27.000 --> 0:09:31.959 got updated on her situation within you know, fifteen minutes. 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:34.880 I was like, oh, I see what's going on. And 0:09:34.960 --> 0:09:37.840 at this point she's she went to an emergency shelter 0:09:37.960 --> 0:09:39.040 to try to push. 0:09:38.880 --> 0:09:41.800 Like to get Section eight. Yeah, that's why I So 0:09:41.880 --> 0:09:43.800 I went to the emergency shelter too to try to 0:09:43.800 --> 0:09:46.640 push the Section eight. It didn't. I went to a 0:09:46.640 --> 0:09:51.360 transitional home and then from there I was supposed to 0:09:51.400 --> 0:09:54.400 go to another type of like transition, but by that 0:09:54.480 --> 0:09:57.280 time I took all the resources I was working, I was, 0:09:57.520 --> 0:09:59.240 you know, so I just moved and got my own 0:09:59.360 --> 0:10:01.560 like two bedroom apartment. I could How long was you 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:02.800 wait for the section eight? 0:10:02.880 --> 0:10:03.800 How long was you there? 0:10:04.600 --> 0:10:08.000 So emergency shelter was the thirty days, and then the 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:12.559 house that was another that was sixty days. And then 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:16.120 I moved to the transitional apartment. This was in downtown 0:10:16.640 --> 0:10:19.480 LA and I was there for a year. And so 0:10:19.679 --> 0:10:22.679 it was a building where it was it was like 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:25.120 eighteen to twenty four years old. You had to have 0:10:25.160 --> 0:10:28.960 one child. It was an old hotel that they took 0:10:29.120 --> 0:10:31.760 and they gout it and they made little studio apartments 0:10:32.320 --> 0:10:35.319 and then they had a childcare downstairs like a childcare 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:37.560 center where it was a school facility. And then they 0:10:37.600 --> 0:10:42.560 had a like a cafeteria like a lunch like dining 0:10:42.760 --> 0:10:45.200 or cafeteria. And so that was requirement. You would have 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:48.679 to eat with your child every night. But it was good, 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:50.959 you know, because they would fix the food and then 0:10:50.960 --> 0:10:53.320 you would, you know, say you're eating with your child. 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:55.560 A lot of people are learning, like, you know, certain 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:59.559 social skills, and they had you know, like different classes 0:10:59.679 --> 0:11:02.160 and you know stuff like that. So I mean, I 0:11:02.200 --> 0:11:04.240 took it really you know, I took it really serious, 0:11:04.320 --> 0:11:05.559 and I learned a lot. 0:11:05.720 --> 0:11:07.960 So you was in abuse, somebody was with me a 0:11:08.000 --> 0:11:09.280 real abusive relationship. 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:14.880 Well, no, I wasn't in a I just wanted to 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:16.920 try to you know, I wanted to leave my situation. 0:11:17.080 --> 0:11:20.679 I wanted to try to get Section eight. And they're like, 0:11:20.760 --> 0:11:24.760 if you go to a shelf around you could get 0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:25.400 section eight. 0:11:25.520 --> 0:11:25.840 Sure. 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:29.240 Well, at the time at the time, my mom so 0:11:29.280 --> 0:11:32.240 at the time, my mom, she was staying with my grandmother. 0:11:33.160 --> 0:11:37.200 She was going to school with my mom, Darryl, you know, 0:11:37.320 --> 0:11:39.319 and my sister. They were living with my grandmother and 0:11:39.360 --> 0:11:41.360 my mom was in school, so of course I can 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:43.960 stay with my grandmother. But it was like I just 0:11:44.040 --> 0:11:47.520 had this thing of like, you know what I you know, 0:11:48.640 --> 0:11:51.840 I need to like do for myself and get out there. 0:11:51.960 --> 0:11:53.880 And like my mom was crying, like she didn't want 0:11:53.920 --> 0:11:54.240 me to go. 0:11:54.360 --> 0:11:54.920 The van came. 0:11:57.240 --> 0:12:00.079 The van came. I didn't know what was going on 0:12:00.200 --> 0:12:02.440 because you couldn't tell them, you couldn't say where you 0:12:02.480 --> 0:12:06.080 were going or anything. I couldn't talk to her until 0:12:06.080 --> 0:12:08.480 it was like seventy two hours, just to let her 0:12:08.520 --> 0:12:10.360 know I was good and everything, and So I was 0:12:10.360 --> 0:12:13.720 in a I was young. I was probably like twenty 0:12:15.080 --> 0:12:19.200 two something like that. I have rolling. So I had rolling, 0:12:19.640 --> 0:12:21.839 and I just knew I needed to like do that 0:12:21.920 --> 0:12:25.360 for me because you know, I had to do it 0:12:25.400 --> 0:12:27.800 for me, and it it it helped me. I think. 0:12:28.040 --> 0:12:30.800 Sure, Yeah, you start getting skills that you didn't have initially. 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:32.640 Yeah, you know, I was a young mom. I had 0:12:32.679 --> 0:12:34.600 him at nineteen. I don't know what the hell was. 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:40.360 You Ever been in abusive relationship like a physical one? Yeah, ritt, 0:12:40.480 --> 0:12:44.120 You ever been in that? Ever kicked your ass? Yeah? 0:12:44.559 --> 0:12:48.680 No, I've had more so like like verb like mentally 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:51.440 like verbal and mental like yeah. 0:12:51.760 --> 0:12:54.120 Like oh, you told about the story with niggas, like yeah, 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:55.040 nobody who wants you? 0:12:55.200 --> 0:12:58.240 Yeah, that that type stuff, And you know, if it 0:12:58.280 --> 0:13:00.640 wasn't for me, you wouldn't have, you know, stuff like that, 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:03.400 like try to like, ain't nobody gonna want you? You know, 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:05.199 just that type of stuff, like you know. 0:13:05.160 --> 0:13:08.160 I do not believe niggas. Actually that ship is crazive 0:13:08.200 --> 0:13:08.440 to me. 0:13:08.520 --> 0:13:10.640 Really, it's yeah, it's yeah. 0:13:11.120 --> 0:13:13.160 That niggas would talk like that. I ain't never told 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:14.640 to me, girl, if it wasn't for. 0:13:14.720 --> 0:13:17.160 Me, I can't even get dressed to like go to 0:13:17.200 --> 0:13:20.080 the store. It was like I was in my twenties 0:13:20.120 --> 0:13:22.000 and you want to be cute all the time, you know, 0:13:22.360 --> 0:13:24.200 It's like why why you need to do all that 0:13:24.320 --> 0:13:26.880 go to the store and it was just a lot. 0:13:27.080 --> 0:13:30.040 It was Yeah, it was mariad and speak to me 0:13:30.120 --> 0:13:33.920 because I had on this like just dress or whatever 0:13:34.040 --> 0:13:37.120 and you couldn't even see anything, but just because because 0:13:37.160 --> 0:13:38.880 it was one of those like the back was kind 0:13:38.880 --> 0:13:41.160 of out so you couldn't wear a bra, but you 0:13:41.160 --> 0:13:43.240 you couldn't see. It wasn't see through, no shit like that. 0:13:43.280 --> 0:13:46.760 And to day, no, it wasn't. It was like a 0:13:46.800 --> 0:13:50.920 flowy like little dresses with summertime. Because he asked me, 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:53.679 said you got a bronze and I was like, no, 0:13:53.800 --> 0:13:55.520 this dresses and have one, you know he didn't. He 0:13:55.640 --> 0:13:58.520 was like, yeah, okay, the fuck and you start going 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:00.520 off and telling me like you ain't shit and this 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:02.400 is now You're out here trying to show your TDS 0:14:02.400 --> 0:14:04.160 and I'm like, are you serious? And I promise y'all 0:14:04.280 --> 0:14:06.640 was no cleavage. It was one of those I wish 0:14:06.679 --> 0:14:08.760 I had a fucking picture. It literally was just like 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:12.000 one of those nice little little flow slow dresses and 0:14:12.040 --> 0:14:14.360 it was long something. 0:14:15.440 --> 0:14:17.040 Let me ask you all something, and it's gonna be 0:14:17.040 --> 0:14:20.200 tough because it requires accountability to some degree. And I 0:14:20.240 --> 0:14:23.040 know like women and accountability is like oil and water. 0:14:23.280 --> 0:14:24.400 Oh whatever, don't do me. 0:14:24.680 --> 0:14:27.640 I'm just saying this for real. Right, do you think 0:14:27.680 --> 0:14:30.160 you read? Do you think you ever wrote it? Like 0:14:30.240 --> 0:14:32.840 wore something that was inappropriate to be in a relationship? 0:14:33.880 --> 0:14:35.600 Like we was like, you know what, this is a lot? 0:14:40.320 --> 0:14:42.600 Are you think? Are you and are you of the 0:14:42.680 --> 0:14:44.120 are you of the people that feel like, well I 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:45.520 should be able to wear what I want? You should 0:14:45.560 --> 0:14:47.560 just be okay with it. No? 0:14:47.760 --> 0:14:52.200 I think that dang Like every like body that I 0:14:52.240 --> 0:14:54.560 was with, they didn't have a problem I because I'd 0:14:54.600 --> 0:14:56.520 be like, is this like I was, is this you 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:57.360 think this is too much? 0:14:57.440 --> 0:14:58.720 Like what do you think? 0:14:59.240 --> 0:15:02.480 No? I I don't think so. No, I don't think so. 0:15:02.640 --> 0:15:05.320 What about you? You ever think you wore something inappropriate? 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:09.520 Well it's probably a bit too far. No, Have y'all 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:11.960 ever think somebody wore something that was inappropriate that was 0:15:12.000 --> 0:15:12.640 a bit too far? 0:15:13.680 --> 0:15:14.840 That's it in a relationship. 0:15:14.960 --> 0:15:18.480 Sure, Like let's say Kiki Palmer with us at that time. 0:15:19.040 --> 0:15:25.480 That wasn't inappropriate. I mean, it was listen her, but 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:27.280 when she turned around, I didn't know all her ass 0:15:27.320 --> 0:15:27.520 was out. 0:15:27.600 --> 0:15:29.400 I didn't know either until that's when you. 0:15:29.320 --> 0:15:31.080 Saw her ass was out. So you're saying that's still 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:34.520 not inappropriate? Is it like a code that y'all give 0:15:34.560 --> 0:15:36.440 from a text? Was like, don't break the woman cold, 0:15:36.520 --> 0:15:39.760 don't Actually, yeah, I just got your women are accountable. 0:15:40.760 --> 0:15:41.960 Yeah, don't you do it? 0:15:42.240 --> 0:15:43.880 Do not admit that you No. 0:15:44.080 --> 0:15:47.720 Honestly, when we talked about this already, like if you 0:15:47.800 --> 0:15:50.160 in a relationship, yeah, it's different, you know what I mean. 0:15:50.240 --> 0:15:54.200 But I was more upset about that situation because it 0:15:54.240 --> 0:15:56.880 was more like you're you're a mom. It wasn't more. 0:15:57.040 --> 0:15:59.680 It wasn't more about the whole you're not respecting your 0:15:59.800 --> 0:16:01.920 man in I think it was more they put more 0:16:01.920 --> 0:16:04.720 emphasis on your your your mom, you can't be sexy 0:16:04.760 --> 0:16:05.880 at all, like don't well. 0:16:05.720 --> 0:16:08.440 That's what you were saying, but anybody else. I think 0:16:08.440 --> 0:16:10.600 they got it to where it's like, oh, you she 0:16:10.720 --> 0:16:12.640 got a man, Like that's why I think that you 0:16:12.760 --> 0:16:15.200 just didn't want to sex. I think instead of him 0:16:15.240 --> 0:16:18.000 saying yes, you're a mom part, he should have just been. 0:16:17.880 --> 0:16:21.000 Like the fuck you doing what money would have been? Like, 0:16:21.000 --> 0:16:21.680 are you serious? 0:16:24.680 --> 0:16:27.840 But do you think that, like as somebody's mother, you 0:16:27.840 --> 0:16:29.680 should be walking around being sexy. 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:32.520 I'm sexy all the time and I have a freaking son. 0:16:32.640 --> 0:16:35.840 So yeah, so y'all think that. So you're saying that 0:16:37.840 --> 0:16:40.400 you could be a sexy having her as sexy like 0:16:40.440 --> 0:16:41.080 her ass out. 0:16:41.200 --> 0:16:42.280 I'm saying, you don't think that. 0:16:42.320 --> 0:16:43.400 I don't think I don't. 0:16:43.480 --> 0:16:46.120 You don't think there's a weird prefix that a stranger 0:16:46.160 --> 0:16:47.920 would look at you and think of sex. You don't 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:50.000 think to some degree that might be a little bit 0:16:50.120 --> 0:16:52.560 like a lot, that that's the goal. 0:16:52.400 --> 0:16:55.080 Like man always was about sex. I can be in something. 0:16:54.920 --> 0:16:57.400 Totally agree we do to be a nun. But I'm 0:16:57.440 --> 0:16:59.400 saying you don't think you go the extra mile to 0:16:59.480 --> 0:17:03.040 make the cond of sex see work, Like why would 0:17:03.400 --> 0:17:07.280 I never? I never understood this? Right, sexy, But what's 0:17:07.320 --> 0:17:11.800 the point of wanting sexual attention from strangers? 0:17:11.840 --> 0:17:12.760 From strangers? 0:17:12.920 --> 0:17:18.000 Yes, because obviously you're gonna get You're gonna run, don't 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:21.680 do it, stand right there, staying right there, don't run. 0:17:22.840 --> 0:17:24.960 You don't think it's a bit weird that let's say 0:17:25.000 --> 0:17:28.640 you and and your guy go somewhere and another guy 0:17:28.720 --> 0:17:31.440 is looking at you because you're dressing something to demand 0:17:31.640 --> 0:17:34.080 sexual attention from him. 0:17:34.480 --> 0:17:36.359 There's certain things that I'm not gonna wear. 0:17:36.760 --> 0:17:40.240 You know, I didn't see you running again. I said, 0:17:40.280 --> 0:17:42.200 you don't think it's a bit weird that in your 0:17:42.359 --> 0:17:46.000 mind that you're okay with being with your guy and 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:50.240 wearing something that demands sexual attention from people who don't 0:17:50.280 --> 0:17:50.680 know you. 0:17:50.760 --> 0:17:53.200 Well, that depends on what it is that you're wearing. 0:17:53.359 --> 0:17:56.560 I'm not gonna wear something, wear my asses out. Let 0:17:56.600 --> 0:17:59.440 me tell you I'm gonna wear cleavage. Yes, they might, 0:17:59.840 --> 0:18:01.720 I I'm so so. 0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:03.360 I'm asking to you why. 0:18:03.840 --> 0:18:07.200 Person, I don't think it's weird A person because. 0:18:06.960 --> 0:18:09.280 I don't think it's weird. No, I don't. 0:18:09.040 --> 0:18:11.200 He loves that ship. You do not care. I don't 0:18:11.240 --> 0:18:12.560 think you don't care about none of that. 0:18:12.720 --> 0:18:15.800 I'm asking you, how do you care? How don't you care? 0:18:16.080 --> 0:18:18.560 What you like? I would not want somebody who don't 0:18:18.600 --> 0:18:21.439 know me to think of me in a sexual manner like. 0:18:21.480 --> 0:18:23.040 I wouldn't propel that if. 0:18:22.960 --> 0:18:26.040 You're if you're even attractive in a space somebody to 0:18:26.080 --> 0:18:27.720 bet so you. 0:18:27.680 --> 0:18:32.000 Can't you're running again. What you're doing is talking about another. 0:18:32.080 --> 0:18:35.119 You're saying that we should not even want to be attractive. 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:39.000 At all, saying you take the effort to demand. 0:18:39.640 --> 0:18:42.800 Effort to want to look good. See, that's the problem. 0:18:42.880 --> 0:18:44.760 People always think you want to. 0:18:45.000 --> 0:18:47.760 Do that effort to look good and I'm not showing 0:18:48.080 --> 0:18:49.440 that to her. 0:18:49.920 --> 0:18:53.679 That's disingenuous. You just literally it's disingenuous because you just 0:18:53.680 --> 0:18:56.000 said it's sexy and now you're saying good. Those two 0:18:56.080 --> 0:18:58.320 things don't have to amoue to some people. 0:18:58.520 --> 0:19:00.000 Do I look sexy? I look good? 0:19:00.440 --> 0:19:00.680 People? 0:19:01.760 --> 0:19:04.320 Yeah, but that's just somebody. But again that's the people 0:19:04.359 --> 0:19:09.399 that's cheap. If you're cheap and you thin, right, because beauty, sexy, 0:19:09.600 --> 0:19:13.560 all these are independent departments. They don't float it fucking together. 0:19:13.680 --> 0:19:16.800