1 00:00:12,360 --> 00:00:14,440 Speaker 1: Another thing I wanted to talk about is like how 2 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:17,599 Speaker 1: do you know what you're looking for in relationship? Like 3 00:00:17,640 --> 00:00:19,960 Speaker 1: you could say, I want a partner. I want someone 4 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:22,120 Speaker 1: who's handsome, I want someone who loves me. I want 5 00:00:22,120 --> 00:00:23,720 Speaker 1: someone who cares about me. I want this. 6 00:00:23,800 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 2: I want that. 7 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:26,599 Speaker 1: Then you could find it, but like it's just not 8 00:00:26,760 --> 00:00:30,080 Speaker 1: quite it, Like maybe the chemistry is just not quite there. 9 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:32,440 Speaker 1: Maybe the sex is great, but maybe you don't want 10 00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:34,520 Speaker 1: to have sex that much, maybe you're in a weird place. 11 00:00:34,600 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: Like how do you know when to be logical and chemical? 12 00:00:39,240 --> 00:00:42,080 Speaker 1: Like how do you know when to make listen, I'm intervening. 13 00:00:42,320 --> 00:00:45,559 Speaker 1: This is an amazing person, and I'm going to like 14 00:00:46,360 --> 00:00:49,600 Speaker 1: make this happen because life is too short, and you 15 00:00:49,640 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 1: want a good partner who cares about you, Like, how 16 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:53,960 Speaker 1: do you know when to do that? Because the person 17 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:57,440 Speaker 1: that you are attracted to and have chemistry with will 18 00:00:57,560 --> 00:01:00,000 Speaker 1: often not be the person that's good for you. 19 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 2: So when do you intervene? 20 00:01:02,040 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 1: Because then it's like I'm gonna be alone or I'm 21 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:06,679 Speaker 1: going to be with this person who's like almost there 22 00:01:06,720 --> 00:01:09,040 Speaker 1: when I'm being sensible and logical, Like how do you 23 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:12,759 Speaker 1: do that? Because ultimately it's not about Like when you're 24 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:14,119 Speaker 1: seventy eight, you're not gonna think. 25 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:15,039 Speaker 2: About who you want to have sex with. 26 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:17,000 Speaker 1: You're gonna think about who's there for you when you 27 00:01:17,040 --> 00:01:18,720 Speaker 1: don't feel well and you want to take a walk 28 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 1: in the park and who's loyal. You're not going to 29 00:01:20,959 --> 00:01:23,839 Speaker 1: care how big a ball are they are on Wall Street, 30 00:01:23,880 --> 00:01:26,399 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like or a million things? 31 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:28,680 Speaker 1: How much they like to go out and party? Like 32 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:31,399 Speaker 1: what are you gonna think about? And how do you 33 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:33,760 Speaker 1: make that decision of when like you're going pros and 34 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:36,440 Speaker 1: cons and just going with the list versus like what 35 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:39,679 Speaker 1: your heart wants or what your chemistry wants or you know, 36 00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:41,520 Speaker 1: when are you using your heart and your mind and 37 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:44,680 Speaker 1: your gut and when are you convincing yourself? Is that 38 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:47,800 Speaker 1: settling or is it not settling? As you get older? 39 00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:50,600 Speaker 1: As you get older, are you more willing to settle 40 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:53,560 Speaker 1: because you want different things and you realize that, Like 41 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 1: it's the wisdom of the staircase. It's like the chemistry 42 00:01:56,520 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 1: is not going to be the whole thing? 43 00:01:57,720 --> 00:01:58,400 Speaker 2: Like what is it? 44 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:01,000 Speaker 1: Or that you get older, it's like wait a second, 45 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:03,920 Speaker 1: someone has kids? You want someone with kids or doesn't 46 00:02:03,960 --> 00:02:05,600 Speaker 1: have kids you want someone who doesn't have kids, or 47 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:07,920 Speaker 1: someone who can absorb into your life, or someone who's 48 00:02:08,280 --> 00:02:10,840 Speaker 1: just a good person, or someone who fits in with 49 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:14,800 Speaker 1: your family, or someone who culturally aligns. Like there are 50 00:02:14,840 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 1: some couples that I see that seem like they align 51 00:02:17,720 --> 00:02:20,240 Speaker 1: as much as like want to have sex with and 52 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 1: are obsessed with all the time because it's the way 53 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:25,440 Speaker 1: they were raised. How they choose a partner, like Justin 54 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 1: Bieber and Hayley, Like it seems like they knew each 55 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:33,440 Speaker 1: other from church and their families, so it was aligned. Well, 56 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:36,760 Speaker 1: no relationship is perfect, they're both in the public eye. 57 00:02:36,840 --> 00:02:40,320 Speaker 1: They understand each other. It seems like they are aligned, 58 00:02:40,720 --> 00:02:42,519 Speaker 1: And I feel like that's a lot of what's going 59 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:46,120 Speaker 1: on with the core where people are connecting because of alignment. 60 00:02:46,400 --> 00:02:49,360 Speaker 1: I would give another example of a celebrity like Messi 61 00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:52,200 Speaker 1: who I was reading that he and his wife grew 62 00:02:52,320 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 1: up together like as kids. That's alignment, you know. Is 63 00:02:56,800 --> 00:02:59,080 Speaker 1: that really like, oh my god, I want to have 64 00:02:59,120 --> 00:03:01,080 Speaker 1: sex with this person but all the time like or 65 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:04,160 Speaker 1: is that more? We come from the same cultural background, 66 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:06,639 Speaker 1: we understand each other, our families understand each other. 67 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:09,920 Speaker 2: We are supportive of each other, we're loyal to each other. 68 00:03:10,000 --> 00:03:11,400 Speaker 2: We've known each other our whole lives. 69 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:14,400 Speaker 1: That's like a loyalty and a companionship and a partnership 70 00:03:14,680 --> 00:03:17,200 Speaker 1: that's different. You kind of grew up together. So it's 71 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:20,799 Speaker 1: just like, how do you decide on what is right 72 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 1: for you? Because there are people that I connect with 73 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:27,120 Speaker 1: very deeply and that I have loved or loved, but 74 00:03:27,240 --> 00:03:30,119 Speaker 1: that there are many elements to it that are difficult 75 00:03:30,160 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 1: to overcome. Many elements to them, to their personality type 76 00:03:35,680 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 1: and traits, to their family dynamic, to different things that 77 00:03:41,800 --> 00:03:45,200 Speaker 1: make them seem not compatible, but I love them. Then 78 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:48,800 Speaker 1: there are other people that are super compatible, and sometimes 79 00:03:48,840 --> 00:03:51,960 Speaker 1: I feel like, wait, is this my person I'm convincing 80 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:53,440 Speaker 1: myself Like it's very difficult. 81 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:55,640 Speaker 2: So I want to know how you know how to choose. 82 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:57,600 Speaker 1: I don't know if it's just the heart wants what 83 00:03:57,600 --> 00:03:59,800 Speaker 1: the heart wants when you know, you know, like, I 84 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:04,640 Speaker 1: reserve the right to not entirely note and I'm working 85 00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:07,560 Speaker 1: on that in therapy. Another thing I'd like to say 86 00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:10,360 Speaker 1: about women is that they're more difficult in the dating process. 87 00:04:10,760 --> 00:04:13,800 Speaker 1: In the dating community that we have, the men are 88 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:17,520 Speaker 1: more sage, more sound, more stable, more calm, more trust 89 00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 1: the process and don't seem like they're in a desperate rush, 90 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:22,880 Speaker 1: even if they know they want to meet their life 91 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:25,479 Speaker 1: partner right now. So this is a cautionary tale to women. 92 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 1: You cannot act desperate. You cannot be blood in the water. 93 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:31,159 Speaker 1: There is a line between knowing what you want and 94 00:04:31,200 --> 00:04:33,960 Speaker 1: going to get it, and being direct and being a 95 00:04:34,000 --> 00:04:36,279 Speaker 1: cocker spaniel that walks in the house, a peace everywhere, 96 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:40,080 Speaker 1: like can't control your bladder, like relax, okay, scared, money 97 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:42,799 Speaker 1: never wins. You're not going to meet someone by being desperate, 98 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:46,160 Speaker 1: by being a beggar, by settling, by doing the volume business. 99 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:50,960 Speaker 1: It's a quality versus quantity model. You sit, you hold, 100 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:53,600 Speaker 1: you wait, you go for what you want. You don't 101 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:55,479 Speaker 1: sit on the couch and expect a man to fly 102 00:04:55,720 --> 00:04:59,159 Speaker 1: down the chimney like Santa Claus. But women are more 103 00:04:59,200 --> 00:05:00,400 Speaker 1: difficult with this. 104 00:05:01,600 --> 00:05:03,280 Speaker 2: So I say to. 105 00:05:03,279 --> 00:05:06,520 Speaker 1: You, during the holidays, you're going to be thinking about 106 00:05:06,600 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 1: that you're alone, that you wish you could meet someone, 107 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:11,680 Speaker 1: you want to be with someone. I say to you, 108 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:15,800 Speaker 1: be patient, write your list out, think about exactly what 109 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 1: you want, what you're willing to compromise on, what you're 110 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:20,279 Speaker 1: willing to settle on, It doesn't mean you're settling overall. 111 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:22,039 Speaker 1: It just means it is a New York City apartment. 112 00:05:22,080 --> 00:05:24,279 Speaker 1: You're not getting every single thing. And at a certain 113 00:05:24,320 --> 00:05:26,040 Speaker 1: age you start to think about the different things that 114 00:05:26,080 --> 00:05:28,680 Speaker 1: are important. Who's going to be there when you are ill. 115 00:05:28,880 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 1: Who's good to your kids, who's kind, who's loving, who's patient, 116 00:05:31,520 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 1: who's easy, who's Eurotic? Whose family is a nightmare? Whose 117 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:38,400 Speaker 1: kids you can't handle? Like, who is a different religion, 118 00:05:38,400 --> 00:05:41,719 Speaker 1: who lives somewhere different? Like, think, write it out, write 119 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 1: it down. The holidays is a time when people are 120 00:05:56,839 --> 00:06:00,920 Speaker 1: reflecting and thinking and feeling a little bit neat. And 121 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:04,719 Speaker 1: I have met people during this time, so I think 122 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:08,279 Speaker 1: you should be very open because it's exciting. Like you 123 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:10,559 Speaker 1: meet someone the night before you're about to go away, 124 00:06:10,720 --> 00:06:12,680 Speaker 1: and then you get excited and they're going there, you're 125 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:17,960 Speaker 1: going here, or you're online dating and you're connecting because 126 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:20,080 Speaker 1: you're both home with your family, and you're sort of 127 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:22,720 Speaker 1: talking about what that's like. Like, I definitely think it's 128 00:06:22,760 --> 00:06:26,400 Speaker 1: like a warm and cozy time that you could not 129 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:29,080 Speaker 1: necessarily go out with someone. Maybe you could for a 130 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 1: nice holiday, you know, turtleneck snowy drink, but also just 131 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 1: to start talking and connecting and have something to look 132 00:06:36,040 --> 00:06:36,480 Speaker 1: forward to. 133 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 2: Okay. 134 00:06:37,440 --> 00:06:40,320 Speaker 1: Also set yourself up for success for New Year's Eve. Okay, 135 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:43,480 Speaker 1: stop this now. Don't plan something where you're gonna get 136 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:45,800 Speaker 1: blackout and you're gonna drink too much. Okay, be sensible 137 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 1: and you're drinking. I don't mean to be your mother, 138 00:06:47,360 --> 00:06:49,680 Speaker 1: but I am your mother. Be sensible with your drinking. 139 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:51,839 Speaker 1: Make sure you're hydrating in between and before. If you 140 00:06:51,839 --> 00:06:53,360 Speaker 1: have to get an IV before. If you're one of 141 00:06:53,360 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 1: those people that drinks too much, be reasonable about it 142 00:06:56,560 --> 00:06:59,880 Speaker 1: because alcohol will make your emotions crash and you feel 143 00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:02,560 Speaker 1: worse and more sad. I do not want that midnight 144 00:07:02,640 --> 00:07:05,279 Speaker 1: to hit you wrong. I need you to prepare and 145 00:07:05,320 --> 00:07:07,440 Speaker 1: wrap yourself in bubble wrap. If you are alone and 146 00:07:07,440 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 1: you're the type of person that has had New Year's 147 00:07:09,840 --> 00:07:11,720 Speaker 1: Eves where you get said, you get loan and you 148 00:07:11,720 --> 00:07:14,320 Speaker 1: start thinking about your ex, you better fucking prepare yourself. 149 00:07:14,520 --> 00:07:17,600 Speaker 1: Be with your kid and make dinner together and be home. 150 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:20,080 Speaker 1: Have people at a house where you're not out going 151 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:21,880 Speaker 1: from one place to the next. And when you do 152 00:07:21,960 --> 00:07:25,120 Speaker 1: a location or company move, the mojo gets lost. That 153 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:27,000 Speaker 1: always happens. Let's go here, let's go there, and then 154 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:29,520 Speaker 1: you're miserable in between, or you don't catch the ball 155 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 1: because you're in transit, Like all that shit is stuff, 156 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:35,760 Speaker 1: that's rookie shit. Okay, you don't have your transportation worked out. 157 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:37,600 Speaker 1: You're standing on the street. It's about to be New 158 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:39,240 Speaker 1: Year's Eve when you're in the middle of the street, Like, 159 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 1: young girls, be organized, okay, hydrate, be safe in these ubers. 160 00:07:45,760 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 1: Text somebody who you're in an uber with, like, please 161 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:50,480 Speaker 1: just be smart. Make a plan, Make a New Year's 162 00:07:50,480 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 1: Eve plan that is reasonable. Don't try to hit a 163 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:53,280 Speaker 1: home run. 164 00:07:53,360 --> 00:07:53,680 Speaker 2: Okay. 165 00:07:54,160 --> 00:07:56,680 Speaker 1: Don't try to just stand outside someplace that you don't 166 00:07:56,720 --> 00:07:58,680 Speaker 1: know you're getting into, because it's gonna be a shit 167 00:07:58,760 --> 00:08:02,000 Speaker 1: show and you're gonna have a bad night. Okay, don't 168 00:08:02,040 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 1: get overserved and be a mess, because that's when people 169 00:08:04,320 --> 00:08:06,560 Speaker 1: are taking advantage. Trafficking is big on nights like that. 170 00:08:06,680 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. 171 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:08,120 Speaker 2: Be safe. 172 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:10,560 Speaker 1: So my idea of a New Year's Eve, Like, if 173 00:08:10,600 --> 00:08:14,520 Speaker 1: I'm single and I'm somewhere, I'm parking my ass in 174 00:08:14,560 --> 00:08:16,680 Speaker 1: one place. If I'm away in a nice vacation, I'm 175 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:19,000 Speaker 1: gonna be with my daughter, I'm gonna park my ass 176 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:20,720 Speaker 1: I'm gonna have a table. I'm gonna know I have it. 177 00:08:20,760 --> 00:08:23,120 Speaker 1: I'm gonna get there early. I'm gonna get my real estate, 178 00:08:23,520 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 1: and i'm gonna try to make a toast on New 179 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:27,280 Speaker 1: Year's But if I'm starting to not feel the vibe, 180 00:08:27,440 --> 00:08:29,960 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go home with my daughter and I'm gonna 181 00:08:29,960 --> 00:08:32,640 Speaker 1: snuggle and i'm gonna watch TV, watch a movie with her, 182 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:34,640 Speaker 1: and I'm gonna go to bed and get a good 183 00:08:34,720 --> 00:08:37,760 Speaker 1: night's sleep and set some intentions. You don't need to 184 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:42,600 Speaker 1: make big, giant grants, sweeping, unrealistic resolutions, just baby steps. 185 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:45,679 Speaker 1: You could start your intentions right now. During the holidays. 186 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:48,320 Speaker 1: I am gonna not over drink at dinners because I 187 00:08:48,360 --> 00:08:50,960 Speaker 1: know that my family can be challenging. I'm going to 188 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 1: drink green juices during the day because i know that 189 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:56,440 Speaker 1: i'm gonna be, you know, eating at night. I'm gonna 190 00:08:56,640 --> 00:09:00,240 Speaker 1: set my portion control on one plate of food that 191 00:09:00,240 --> 00:09:02,080 Speaker 1: I choose ahead of time, so I'm not going back 192 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:05,040 Speaker 1: and forth up to the buffet a million times before 193 00:09:05,040 --> 00:09:08,400 Speaker 1: cocktail parties. I am going to snack before I go 194 00:09:08,480 --> 00:09:10,480 Speaker 1: on a high protein snack so I don't get there 195 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:15,600 Speaker 1: over drink down or derves feel guilty binge and start 196 00:09:15,720 --> 00:09:18,800 Speaker 1: off the holidays with the wrong note, just like lock 197 00:09:18,880 --> 00:09:21,040 Speaker 1: the door before you get robbed. But I do say 198 00:09:21,440 --> 00:09:25,240 Speaker 1: for New Year's Eve, have a very sound, safe, not 199 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:28,160 Speaker 1: hit a home run plan, try to get to first base. 200 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:30,920 Speaker 1: Just try to have something that's reasonable and nice and 201 00:09:31,200 --> 00:09:35,000 Speaker 1: with your people, people you know, people you love, people 202 00:09:35,040 --> 00:09:38,640 Speaker 1: you trust. Don't see a great shiny plan and go 203 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:41,920 Speaker 1: hang out with virtual strangers because it seems good, because 204 00:09:41,960 --> 00:09:45,319 Speaker 1: those plans always hit sideways. You're not with your own people, 205 00:09:45,320 --> 00:09:47,480 Speaker 1: you don't feel safe, you're not in the nest, and 206 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:48,160 Speaker 1: it goes wrong. 207 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:49,360 Speaker 2: And this happens at any age. 208 00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:54,240 Speaker 1: Okay, make sure you're set up for a reasonable, attainable plan, 209 00:09:54,880 --> 00:09:57,000 Speaker 1: not like I said, like I'm already I'm away and 210 00:09:57,040 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 1: I'm ready thinking about what my transportation is on New 211 00:09:59,559 --> 00:10:02,640 Speaker 1: Year's z because I don't want to get jammed up. 212 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:07,400 Speaker 1: And the same goes for Christmas, tensions will run high. 213 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:13,240 Speaker 1: Do a yoga practice for fifteen minutes. Take a walk hold. 214 00:10:13,760 --> 00:10:17,160 Speaker 1: I say, when someone sends an email that is very unpleasant, 215 00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:19,280 Speaker 1: that is triggering if you're in the middle of a 216 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:24,480 Speaker 1: divorce or a bad situation, wait six hours to respond. Okay, now. 217 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:27,440 Speaker 1: Sometimes if it's a text, they get triggering. Maybe wait 218 00:10:27,480 --> 00:10:30,880 Speaker 1: an hour, meet two hours, don't respond immediately. So if 219 00:10:30,960 --> 00:10:33,320 Speaker 1: you're sitting at a dinner with someone that says something 220 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 1: political or family or why are you single? 221 00:10:36,440 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 2: Or you gained weight or you lost weight, do you 222 00:10:38,040 --> 00:10:38,400 Speaker 2: look old? 223 00:10:38,480 --> 00:10:41,160 Speaker 1: Or the grays or your kids or whatever, any fucking 224 00:10:41,320 --> 00:10:45,400 Speaker 1: pass ag aggressive comment that some family member will say, 225 00:10:46,360 --> 00:10:48,200 Speaker 1: ask them, are you okay? 226 00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:49,520 Speaker 2: Smile? 227 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:52,640 Speaker 1: Stand up from the table, walk away, get a glass 228 00:10:52,679 --> 00:10:56,080 Speaker 1: of water, cool yourself off, step outside, let the cool 229 00:10:56,120 --> 00:11:00,560 Speaker 1: air hit you. Take ten inhales and exhales, come back 230 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:03,319 Speaker 1: in and sit down. There has nothing to do with you. 231 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:07,200 Speaker 1: What these people are like someone else who's upset or 232 00:11:07,280 --> 00:11:10,120 Speaker 1: miserable or sad or angry, has something going on in 233 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:12,160 Speaker 1: their life that's making them that way. Maybe their life 234 00:11:12,160 --> 00:11:13,599 Speaker 1: didn't turn out the way they wanted it to be. 235 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:15,840 Speaker 1: If they're older, maybe they don't have kids and you 236 00:11:15,880 --> 00:11:18,520 Speaker 1: have perfect kids. Maybe they're poor, maybe they're broke, maybe 237 00:11:18,520 --> 00:11:22,400 Speaker 1: they're addicted. Maybe they're unattractive, maybe they're alone, Maybe they're miserable, 238 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:23,120 Speaker 1: maybe they're jealous. 239 00:11:23,200 --> 00:11:23,719 Speaker 2: It doesn't matter. 240 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:27,480 Speaker 1: It's not your fucking problem, okay, Get ninety nine problems 241 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:29,960 Speaker 1: but that bitch ain't one. So take a deep breath 242 00:11:30,600 --> 00:11:33,480 Speaker 1: and do not engage. Do not take the bait this 243 00:11:33,520 --> 00:11:37,280 Speaker 1: holiday season. Okay, do not take the bait. Love you guys, 244 00:11:37,320 --> 00:12:00,360 Speaker 1: have a happy, healthy holiday, kay,