WEBVTT - Ask Banya: Wiener Thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>Scrubbing in with Beca, Tilly and Tanya wrap an iHeartRadio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in scrub dub dumb California.

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<v Speaker 3>Hello.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 3>I love scrub dub dup scrub dub dub.

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<v Speaker 4>I do it every week.

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<v Speaker 2>At tune. It's a Dear Bonnia episode. So congrats.

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<v Speaker 4>Everybody was about Tommy and Molly, So thanks for nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>Thing still just the allegations, just allegend.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, just the alleged I will have.

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<v Speaker 2>I do want to say last week's or yeah, last

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<v Speaker 2>week's Dear Bonnia episode. I answered a question about Haley

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<v Speaker 2>and Crystal posted the video. The video thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 2>It was hard to get out and I so much love,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was such a conversational thing that I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>intend for it to be like a moment, Like I

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<v Speaker 2>really didn't intend for it to be a moment. I

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<v Speaker 2>was just you know, giving advice. And I also feel

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<v Speaker 2>like I've said a lot of those things on like

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram and questions and stuff. So it was funny in

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<v Speaker 2>like the nicest way. How how much love I.

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<v Speaker 5>Got that I would have thought about her forever is

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<v Speaker 5>like out of a movie.

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<v Speaker 4>Honestly, Yeah, it needs to be like a name of

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<v Speaker 4>one of her songs.

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<v Speaker 6>Honestly, someone was like the way back, so casually just

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<v Speaker 6>said like the most romantic ever. But again, I feel

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<v Speaker 6>like I've said that before, so I felt like I

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<v Speaker 6>was repeating myself.

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<v Speaker 4>You weren't. You've never said any of that before.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess on my maybe somewhere else I've said it.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, or I've thought it.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know, but or you probably said it to

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<v Speaker 4>like people in the comfort of your own.

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<v Speaker 2>Walls, just me and Phoebe Phoebe before, maybe I would

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<v Speaker 2>have thought about her forever. I thought about it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but thank y'all. It's true, like I always have felt

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<v Speaker 2>so supported by the scrubbing and listeners of scrubbers and

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<v Speaker 2>you guys, and Easton does make me feel like I

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<v Speaker 2>could cry every time I talk about him look at him.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's sweet. Yeah, But anyways, we have more questions

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<v Speaker 2>to hard hitting questions and emails.

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<v Speaker 4>And and Mark is back here.

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<v Speaker 2>I am still with the mask.

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<v Speaker 7>Take the mask off, I can yeah, okay, see that

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<v Speaker 7>I'm not going to see.

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<v Speaker 2>Give him a real voice.

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<v Speaker 4>This is the muffled, is not it anymore?

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<v Speaker 1>Just right there. We go, spewing germs everywhere.

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<v Speaker 4>I have an open container over here.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, but that has been sitting there for a gross time.

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<v Speaker 2>I think she needs to be done.

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<v Speaker 1>From anonymous, I'll be honest.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm not no g scrubber, but was introduced to your

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<v Speaker 7>podcast on a recent road trip with mcgal Palace.

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<v Speaker 1>We're all devoted scrubbers and they had it on.

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<v Speaker 7>They gave me the lowdown, and I love both of

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<v Speaker 7>your stories and also the dynamic of the four of you.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm now a listener.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm writing because I know I am a Becca to

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<v Speaker 7>the core, and I wanted to ask her how Haley

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<v Speaker 7>deals with her personality. I'm almost a year into my

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<v Speaker 7>relationship and I love my boyfriend, but he has difficulty

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<v Speaker 7>dealing with my aloofness and avoidant attachment style. I very

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<v Speaker 7>much related to Becca when she mentioned in a recent

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<v Speaker 7>podcast but wanted to sometimes throw away her phone because

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<v Speaker 7>everyone has access. I am so this. I sometimes turn

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<v Speaker 7>off my phone as I wind down and not even

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<v Speaker 7>my boyfriend gets through, and he gets frustrated. It's not

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<v Speaker 7>that I don't love him, it's just me. I've been

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<v Speaker 7>like this all my life. You and Haley have been

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<v Speaker 7>together a while now, can you give me any advice

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<v Speaker 7>on this front. I don't know if I will change

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<v Speaker 7>or if I want to. I just know I want

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<v Speaker 7>to be with him love A dedicated a listener.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, oh, first of all, thank you for yeah, have

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<v Speaker 2>you what do you call it? Like a influenced listener,

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<v Speaker 2>Like someone who just happened to be in the car just.

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<v Speaker 4>Got their cherry pop Jesus, it's really.

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<v Speaker 2>What the old scrubbing and cherry.

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<v Speaker 4>Bob every single of us at some point for seven years.

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<v Speaker 2>True, So anyways, welcome after that. Here's the thing that

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<v Speaker 2>complicates this advice for me is because Hailey is the exception.

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<v Speaker 2>She's not the rule. She's the exception.

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<v Speaker 4>Does everybody know what famous movie that is from?

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<v Speaker 1>I know the phrase, I didn't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I used to watch it every Friday night. Tanya is

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<v Speaker 2>the main character. We've talked about this so many times.

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<v Speaker 1>You're kind of the main character.

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<v Speaker 2>He's just not that Indian.

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<v Speaker 4>It's just not that into you.

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<v Speaker 2>Great movie. I watched it on the plane to gosh. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>we can't get sidetracked. So I really like Hailey is

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<v Speaker 2>the only person who has been able to climb over

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<v Speaker 2>this wall that I have built. She has a special

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<v Speaker 2>ladder and so she's been able to access access to

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<v Speaker 2>me in a way that no one ever has been

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<v Speaker 2>able to and so she is the exception to that.

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<v Speaker 2>So I think it would be really hard. I think

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<v Speaker 2>it would be really really hard for her if I

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<v Speaker 2>was still aloof and needed space in the way that

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<v Speaker 2>I have needed in the past. Because like even sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>when we're going to bed, He'll be like about to

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<v Speaker 2>enter rim sleep and she's like, hey, can you look

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<v Speaker 2>at me so we can connect.

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<v Speaker 4>Before we're going to bed, and about she is so mean,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like thirty.

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<v Speaker 2>Minutes to connect for like before I was about about

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<v Speaker 2>fall asleep. So I do think that would be really

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<v Speaker 2>hard for her. But I think the challenges that you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you want to be with him, so he hasn't been

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<v Speaker 2>able to access that place that like Hayley's been been

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<v Speaker 2>able to access for me. But I think it's just

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<v Speaker 2>having dedicated time and maybe also having a conversation when

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<v Speaker 2>you can fill yourself needing that distance in space, like

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<v Speaker 2>giving him loving reassurance that it's for you, it has

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<v Speaker 2>nothing to do with him, and letting him know that

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<v Speaker 2>you love him. But you need to like fully cut

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<v Speaker 2>yourself off from like conversation like anyone needing you, because

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes you just don't want to be needed. And that's

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<v Speaker 2>just I'm not I'm just gonna stick up for the

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<v Speaker 2>boyfriend here, you know, just I agree, I'm I'm with them,

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<v Speaker 2>I get it.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm just gonna say that relationships are compromise, and if

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<v Speaker 4>he needs a little reassurance while you're winding down, maybe

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<v Speaker 4>you find a happy medium, you know what I mean,

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe you don't turn the phone off, Maybe you like

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<v Speaker 4>give him like the whatever the thing is that they

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<v Speaker 4>can go straight to your ringer or whatever, like you

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<v Speaker 4>just compromise, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think I think that's what I'm saying, Like, Hey,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm about to put my phone on silent, and I

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<v Speaker 2>love you so much I cannot wait to catch up later.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just gonna like disconnect for a minute. I love you,

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<v Speaker 2>And that way there's no like feeling of being ignored

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<v Speaker 2>or he didn't know it was humming and feels like

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<v Speaker 2>just shut off without a warning, because I think anyone,

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<v Speaker 2>even I would be hurt if someone if Haley just

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<v Speaker 2>was like I need to shut down, I need space

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<v Speaker 2>and didn't give me a heads up and then she

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<v Speaker 2>just put her phone. Well, do not disturb. I'd be upset.

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<v Speaker 4>I'd be losing it, we know.

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<v Speaker 2>So do y'all have any advice if you're because if

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<v Speaker 2>if if your wives did that or while y'all were dating.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that would that would that would freak me out.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I would like it. I'm I'm more like,

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<v Speaker 1>tell ya, I'm always connected.

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<v Speaker 2>But what would make you feel like that?

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<v Speaker 7>Yes, hey, I love you, I'm going on, I need

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<v Speaker 7>to disconnect for a couple of hours.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I'm kind of like, well, I don't count right,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't count as right.

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<v Speaker 4>I know I would feel like from me should connect right.

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<v Speaker 7>So I think that's great. I think that's the best

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<v Speaker 7>you can do. But it still might lead the insecurities.

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<v Speaker 5>That was something that was really hard for me to

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<v Speaker 5>get over because I dated a lot of women that

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<v Speaker 5>would like if they were mad, they just wouldn't talk

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<v Speaker 5>to me or something like. That was a thing that

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<v Speaker 5>was like, So if I didn't hear from Alison for

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<v Speaker 5>like a few hours, oh gosh, she's mad at me,

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<v Speaker 5>you know. And she sat me down on a and

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<v Speaker 5>she's like, if I'm mad at you, I will tell

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<v Speaker 5>you right away.

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<v Speaker 1>You will not.

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<v Speaker 5>You will know immediately that I have that something is wrong.

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<v Speaker 5>That's not how I do things. I don't just like,

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<v Speaker 5>we'll ignore you forever. So if I'm ignoring you because

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<v Speaker 5>I'm doing something else, or my phone died, or I

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<v Speaker 5>just don't want to be on my phone, you don't

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<v Speaker 5>have to worry. And that was great, and uh, that's

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<v Speaker 5>and so sometimes I don't want to hear from her

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<v Speaker 5>for days weeks at a time, and it's cool.

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<v Speaker 1>Baby.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't know, and part of me goes, is

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<v Speaker 2>this your person? But it sounds like she's really I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like you were getting at but it sounds like

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<v Speaker 2>to that access, she sounds like she's sure that this

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<v Speaker 2>is her person.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know if she's sure.

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<v Speaker 2>She says, I just know that I want to be

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<v Speaker 2>with him.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I'm not, that's not my person. I'm not seeing

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<v Speaker 4>her say this is the one.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, she's and some basically those different words. I

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<v Speaker 2>just know I want to be with them. I think

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<v Speaker 2>you try this. I think you try communicating when you

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<v Speaker 2>need space, reassure him, give him love so that he

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<v Speaker 2>knows that you're not abandoning him and that's what I think.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that will help.

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<v Speaker 7>There we go next up another anonymous I have a

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<v Speaker 7>question after hearing the Becca Moore podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys talked.

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<v Speaker 7>About either to tell your friend if their partner is cheating,

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<v Speaker 7>and my anxiety arose because I've been dealing with this

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<v Speaker 7>exact issue. My friends live overseas, but we're home for

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<v Speaker 7>a funeral earlier this year. My friend, the wife went

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<v Speaker 7>home earlier than the husband.

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<v Speaker 1>It happened.

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<v Speaker 7>I happen to be out with a single friend one

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<v Speaker 7>night and for fun, we were going through her tender matches,

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<v Speaker 7>and later that night she sent me a screenshot of

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<v Speaker 7>my friend's husband on Tinder. I've really struggled but whether

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<v Speaker 7>or not to say anything. They have a family, and

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<v Speaker 7>because they live overseas, I don't really one hundred percent

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<v Speaker 7>know their situation, Like maybe they have an open marriage,

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<v Speaker 7>they don't talk about it. I've been struggling because I

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<v Speaker 7>don't want to be the per and that could potentially

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<v Speaker 7>blow up a family.

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<v Speaker 2>Help. I have a great advice for this. I think

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<v Speaker 2>you take us you take the screenshot, or say hey,

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<v Speaker 2>my friend, I think there's someone using your husband's photo

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<v Speaker 2>and I just want to let you know, they're using

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<v Speaker 2>his photo on a dating like they're using him on

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<v Speaker 2>a date, which I very well could be they could be. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but that way you're off the hook because you're like,

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<v Speaker 2>you're not saying he's cheating, You're just saying, hey, uh,

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<v Speaker 2>his photo and name is being used on a day.

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<v Speaker 4>Is this ostentatious that he hasn't? Thank you so much?

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you, thank you, thank you. It happened after I

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<v Speaker 4>became demir. If he is that ostentatious to be on

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<v Speaker 4>a dating app with a family with his photo, then

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<v Speaker 4>he deserves to be caught.

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<v Speaker 1>Well that's the thing. You may still blow up the family,

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<v Speaker 1>but this family needs to be blown up.

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<v Speaker 2>They can blow it up within themselves. And all you

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<v Speaker 2>did was like, hey, I'm trying to help out. Yeah right,

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<v Speaker 2>you did not. You will not be responsible for whatever

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<v Speaker 2>happens with this, but because you know it will release

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<v Speaker 2>your conscious right.

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<v Speaker 4>You can say, like, I think somebody's catfishing, ye, your

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<v Speaker 4>husband's photos. This is so crazy. But then to put

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<v Speaker 4>it on her to get to the bottom.

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<v Speaker 2>Of it, said, hey, what's going on with this?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Is this you?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, boom. Good advice, But.

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<v Speaker 4>That was actually pretty quick on your feet.

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<v Speaker 7>I need some advice about what to do in a

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<v Speaker 7>post real life Gray's romance. I'm a nurse and I

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<v Speaker 7>started hooking up with one of the surgeons back in April.

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<v Speaker 7>A few weeks in a dating I found out he

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<v Speaker 7>had been seriously dating another of our co workers, but

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<v Speaker 7>was on a break when we started things. He went

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<v Speaker 7>on a trip with her for his birthday and lied

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<v Speaker 7>about going on the trip, saying he was going by himself.

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<v Speaker 7>When she came back ten and with a Hawaii necklace,

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<v Speaker 7>I knew it wasn't the coincidence. We stopped talking for

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<v Speaker 7>a bet. He said some really hurtful things. We saw

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<v Speaker 7>each other every day at work. We were in procedures

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<v Speaker 7>together with him and his girlfriend awkward. So slowly he

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<v Speaker 7>came back into my life, shut her back with our

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<v Speaker 7>daily phone calls, and would hook up here and there.

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<v Speaker 7>Fast forward to now I don't work at that hospital anymore.

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<v Speaker 7>I've moved across the country. The girlfriend ended up hearing

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<v Speaker 7>a rumor from one of the other surgeons that I

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<v Speaker 7>slipped and told months ago, and she.

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<v Speaker 1>Broke up with him.

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<v Speaker 7>He won't confirm it because he knows it will kill

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<v Speaker 7>her to know the truth. The question is, so, here's

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<v Speaker 7>the deal. They're not together. I don't work there, but

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<v Speaker 7>she's been fishing for answers, reaching out to some of

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<v Speaker 7>my friends from work and trying to contact me.

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<v Speaker 1>Should I be honest with her? Or do I move

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<v Speaker 1>on and let it go?

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<v Speaker 2>There's more?

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<v Speaker 1>But wait, there's more.

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<v Speaker 7>He recently put his resignation in because of the whole situation.

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<v Speaker 7>I feel horrible that he lost his girlfriend and his

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<v Speaker 7>job because of our secret fling. Do you think telling

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<v Speaker 7>her would help me feel better about the whole situation

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<v Speaker 7>or what do I do?

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<v Speaker 4>There's something that just makes me so uncomfortable about like

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<v Speaker 4>this actually being reality. It's like soakes really it's so funny,

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<v Speaker 4>or like oh, watch on grays now. I mean then

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<v Speaker 4>thinking about like somebody getting surgery and having like that

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<v Speaker 4>weird dynamic in the surgery room makes me so uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 2>That they could be just like working on someone saving

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<v Speaker 2>their life while.

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<v Speaker 4>They're like awkward tension, or like someone's thinking about the

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<v Speaker 4>someone's wiener, like you know what I mean, Like I

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<v Speaker 4>don't know, there's just all of it just makes me so.

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<v Speaker 8>Uncozy that my mind didn't go there once the wiener

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<v Speaker 8>but that's common for me, and that's common.

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<v Speaker 7>Less than anyone in this room. I would imagine you

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<v Speaker 7>think about Wieners less than anyone in this room.

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<v Speaker 4>Honestly, think about Wieners all the time. Like I'm not joking.

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<v Speaker 4>They crossed my mind at least a minimum of three

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<v Speaker 4>times a day, just like the general like the gens,

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<v Speaker 4>well Robbie's obviously, but like just the magic of it,

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<v Speaker 4>like like throws and my I don't know it, just

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<v Speaker 4>all of it is so fascinating to me, Like we

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<v Speaker 4>don't have a body part like that us.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, right right, thank you for sharing.

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<v Speaker 1>That's very interesting, fascinating.

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<v Speaker 4>I do I think about I will say, at least

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<v Speaker 4>three times a day.

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<v Speaker 1>They are fascinating.

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<v Speaker 7>You're right, yeah, they are a very unique part about

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<v Speaker 7>the part of the right.

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<v Speaker 4>And my robb is like, you guys have boobs. It's

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<v Speaker 4>kind of the same thing, you know, it's just.

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<v Speaker 1>Not they turned into torpedoes.

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<v Speaker 2>And could launch miss.

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<v Speaker 1>Material.

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<v Speaker 2>You know. This is the thing. I'm curious about this

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<v Speaker 2>what if if people, well women think about this multiple

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<v Speaker 2>times a day. I feel like you're h hit me up.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what I've learned about the scrubbers as

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<v Speaker 2>Tonya is never as the tots are strong.

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<v Speaker 4>The tots are strong and they have weird minds.

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<v Speaker 2>I appreciate that you called them the tots without any

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<v Speaker 2>arguments catching on, isn't it?

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>I like them.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, anyways, back we decide the anonymous. Here's my thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think there's any reason that you need to

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<v Speaker 2>talk to her, Like you have moved on, you're not

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<v Speaker 2>working there, you're not with him, you're not talking to him,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't see her. However, if you feel like it

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<v Speaker 2>will somehow make you feel better about the situation by

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<v Speaker 2>talking to her and like giving her honest truth because

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<v Speaker 2>it sounds like this guy just lied to everyone he

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<v Speaker 2>was involved with, then I say, have a phone call,

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<v Speaker 2>but like, you don't need to be best friends with her.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't.

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<v Speaker 4>This happened to me once. Actually, was I with you?

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<v Speaker 4>I can't remember where I was. I was on vacation

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<v Speaker 4>with was it you?

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<v Speaker 2>No, you were on vacation I think with Paulina and Sophia.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, that's what I thought that I thought. And then

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<v Speaker 4>some girl called me who was dating a guy that

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<v Speaker 4>I dated in my past, and basically asked me she

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<v Speaker 4>said she saw my name and his phone and she

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<v Speaker 4>thought that he was cheating with me, I guess, And

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, you could not be farther from the truth,

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<v Speaker 4>like this is so I talked to her. I mean

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<v Speaker 4>it was like a brief con wasn't sitting there like

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<v Speaker 4>chit chatting and having a long conversation. But I talked

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<v Speaker 4>to her and was like, he's her mind. Yeah, because

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<v Speaker 4>I can't remember again. I think I was reaching out

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<v Speaker 4>about We were texting about something super super inocuous. Thank you,

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<v Speaker 4>thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you get the own diction yeary.

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<v Speaker 4>Ostentatious? I'm not inocuous, but yeah, So I told her.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, yeah, I hit him up because something,

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<v Speaker 4>and he responded it was literally nothing. If he is

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<v Speaker 4>cheating on you, it's not with me, So keep your

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<v Speaker 4>searching because 'tis not me.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I think it sounds like it'll it will probably

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<v Speaker 2>ease your mind, and he's her mind if y'all just

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<v Speaker 2>have a conversation and can talk about it. But I

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<v Speaker 2>just am saying, if you're ready to move on and

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<v Speaker 2>let it be in the past, let it be in

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<v Speaker 2>the past.

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<v Speaker 1>And don't feel horrible that he lost his girlfriend.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that thing to do with you or her. This

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<v Speaker 2>was his doing and he's a liar.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you would feel better talking to her, talk

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<v Speaker 1>to her, you know, women.

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<v Speaker 2>Loving women wlwi WP platonic.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you get it all off your chest. You'll feel better.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe you'll feel better maybe just you know, yes, I

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<v Speaker 1>say it's fine, do it. Can we take a break?

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<v Speaker 1>Would you guys?

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<v Speaker 2>Mind?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my god?

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<v Speaker 7>Oh he's the next one. Mikayla's got one coming up

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<v Speaker 7>and it is religion based.

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<v Speaker 1>Icy coming back.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, we are back, and this is from Mikayla.

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<v Speaker 7>MICHAELA says, I'm a huge Frian of the podcast. I'm

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<v Speaker 7>a fairly religious person and believe that God showed me

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<v Speaker 7>this podcast when I really needed it.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks God.

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<v Speaker 7>I know that both of you are modern women with

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<v Speaker 7>a strong faith, but you also go against some of

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<v Speaker 7>the typical rules of what a Christian should do swearing, sexuality, sex, etc.

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<v Speaker 7>Despite the judgments of other Christians, you hold true to

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<v Speaker 7>your faith and ignore would people think of you. So

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<v Speaker 7>my question is how do you block out other people's

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<v Speaker 7>judgments of your faith. I'm going through an interesting faith

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<v Speaker 7>journey right now, and I find myself thinking about what

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<v Speaker 7>other people think about my faith more than what God does.

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<v Speaker 7>How do I stop that? Any advice would be very appreciated.

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<v Speaker 7>Love you both in the podcast is amazing.

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<v Speaker 4>So nice. Thank you Michaela, Thanks Mikaelea. People are critical.

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<v Speaker 2>Of every little.

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<v Speaker 4>Thing, and people judge for every little thing, and I

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<v Speaker 4>find it I have such a different opinion because I

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<v Speaker 4>just feel like my faith is my relations my relationship

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<v Speaker 4>with God. That is something that's mine. Nobody can take

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<v Speaker 4>that from me, nobody can judge that. Or if you do,

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<v Speaker 4>then that's on you. Like I would get DMS all

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<v Speaker 4>the time a woman of God. How do you believe

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<v Speaker 4>in the zodiac? And I'm like, if you don't, then

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<v Speaker 4>you don't. It's a fun, silly thing that I like to, like,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, like play around with and think about and

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<v Speaker 4>engage with, and like I just find it fun and silly.

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<v Speaker 4>It's not that deep. I think that's kind of where

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<v Speaker 4>my mentality is. So I just think people are going

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<v Speaker 4>to judge you for everything, and I think you just

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<v Speaker 4>have to not care what people think about you.

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<v Speaker 2>I think when it comes to like the rules of

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<v Speaker 2>Christianity output rules quotes, every single person likes to cherry

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<v Speaker 2>pick which parts they choose to judge people based on

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<v Speaker 2>and I will say, actually, the hardest thing I have

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<v Speaker 2>had to navigate is judge is is worrying or trying

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<v Speaker 2>not to care about what Christians think about me. Like

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<v Speaker 2>I think, out of anyone that I've gotten like negativity

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<v Speaker 2>or hate from, they have been people of faith, and

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<v Speaker 2>so I've had to just go, you know what, like

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<v Speaker 2>we disagree with each other, like they dis agree with

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<v Speaker 2>who I love and who I'm in a relationship with.

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<v Speaker 2>And to be honest, some of these people, if there

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<v Speaker 2>even if it's a heterosexual relationship, and if the guy

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<v Speaker 2>is someone that I would disagree with and his beliefs

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<v Speaker 2>and how he treats woman or something, I could be like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't agree with who you're married to or who

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<v Speaker 2>you're in a relationship with. So I think it's like

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<v Speaker 2>I at this moment where I realized that I could

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<v Speaker 2>just go on this rant about how much I love

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<v Speaker 2>doctor Pepper, and the people who love Coke will always

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<v Speaker 2>be like, how could you love doctor Pepper over Coke?

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<v Speaker 2>Like it's the og, how could you love that more?

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<v Speaker 2>And it's like you there is someone that's always going

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<v Speaker 2>to have an opinion on something that you do, whether

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<v Speaker 2>it's faith related, what you eat while you're saying just

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<v Speaker 2>totally innocuous. I don't know or word of the podcast,

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<v Speaker 2>but I think that the whole thing with faith, and

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<v Speaker 2>I do think it's different because I grew up in

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<v Speaker 2>it so like it all the rules and what's right

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<v Speaker 2>and wrong. We're like ingrained in me at a very

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<v Speaker 2>developmental age where I soaked everything in, so like trying

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<v Speaker 2>to navigate what I believe and where I stand in

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<v Speaker 2>my faith, in my relationship with God has been such

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<v Speaker 2>a challenge because when you're told something when you're young,

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<v Speaker 2>it feels like that's the truth and there's no other

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<v Speaker 2>truth and there's no room to question it. So when

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<v Speaker 2>you get older and you start questioning something that's been

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<v Speaker 2>your truth for so long, it's so scary and you

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<v Speaker 2>either have to like go through it and see the

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<v Speaker 2>light at the end of the tunnel, or you just

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<v Speaker 2>stay in the place where you are where you're like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm now questioning something that I can't find the answer to.

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<v Speaker 2>And the truth is I don't know a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>the things. I'm not a scholar. I only know what

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<v Speaker 2>else Tanya is a scholar today. That's right, but I

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<v Speaker 2>think you just I think what you said is like,

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<v Speaker 2>having a relationship with God is such a personal thing,

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<v Speaker 2>and I think that you need to focus on what

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<v Speaker 2>that is over what other people think, because people will

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<v Speaker 2>always have an opinion.

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<v Speaker 4>And you're so right about the rules. People cherry pick

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<v Speaker 4>they're like, well you're a Christian, you shouldn't do this',

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<v Speaker 4>but they're swearing and they're drinking.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's like, when you really look at it, like

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<v Speaker 2>pick what. Literally, you can meet any single Christian and

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<v Speaker 2>if they have a judgment for you, they could cherry

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<v Speaker 2>pick something, and you could cherry pick something too. On

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<v Speaker 2>the flips contrast, yeah, contradict.

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<v Speaker 1>Taking religion out of it.

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<v Speaker 7>The biggest gift you can give yourself is to stop

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<v Speaker 7>caring what other people think about you and what you do.

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<v Speaker 7>And I really try to express this to my daughters,

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<v Speaker 7>and it doesn't seem to be working because they care.

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<v Speaker 1>I get it.

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<v Speaker 4>It's very debilitating, it really is when you care about

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<v Speaker 4>what people think so deeply, like it really can, like

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<v Speaker 4>it can change the trajectory of your life, like truly.

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<v Speaker 2>But just remember you could be the ripest, juiciest, most

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<v Speaker 2>beautiful peach on a tree and there's still someone who

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<v Speaker 2>just doesn't like peaches.

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<v Speaker 4>Yea, like I prefer a watermelon.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but it doesn't I mean you've done anything wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm in a pretty good place with it.

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<v Speaker 7>When I was younger, I remember if I would get

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<v Speaker 7>honked at when driving, whether I did anything wrong or not,

0:23:07.920 --> 0:23:10.480
<v Speaker 7>it would rock me, like the whole drive home and

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<v Speaker 7>the rest of the day I'm thinking.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, oh man, that got honked at me.

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<v Speaker 7>Like I'm like, it would bother me so much, like

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<v Speaker 7>I'd be a little bit mad, but also embarrassed and

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<v Speaker 7>also like like was he right?

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<v Speaker 1>Did I do something wrong? I would really bother me.

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<v Speaker 7>And now I'm like, hey, how you doing okay? Whatever,

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<v Speaker 7>and then you move on. I'm in a much better

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<v Speaker 7>place with it. But I guess we'll have to go

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<v Speaker 7>on that journey.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, we do. We go on that journey.

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<v Speaker 2>Just return it with road rage, which is also something

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<v Speaker 2>that I need to work. It's not the right problem,

0:23:36.960 --> 0:23:40.280
<v Speaker 2>it's not, but it's better than just like feeling debilitated

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<v Speaker 2>by their cruelty.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm always just like, God, bless you, God bless you.

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<v Speaker 4>You must be having a horrible day that you need

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<v Speaker 4>to honk your horn that much at me, Like sometimes

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<v Speaker 4>I hope your day turns around.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I can have a gentle spirit and I can

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<v Speaker 2>do that, but sometimes I get I get on their

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<v Speaker 2>tail until they in the studio. One day and someone

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<v Speaker 2>a guy cut me off and I honked at him

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<v Speaker 2>to let him know he was in my lane and

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<v Speaker 2>he had his middle finger up to his windshield. I

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<v Speaker 2>saw in my rear view he had it up, and

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<v Speaker 2>then as he passed me, he did it, and I've

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<v Speaker 2>slammed on my horn and like chased him until I

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<v Speaker 2>did get off that.

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<v Speaker 4>No, don't get don't the bird he gave me the bird? Also,

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<v Speaker 4>who does that anymore?

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<v Speaker 2>Like you grow up like.

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<v Speaker 3>Me?

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<v Speaker 4>No, the guy that was flicking you off.

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<v Speaker 1>The finger does dated doesn't give me?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's giving my get on TikTok.

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<v Speaker 1>Speaking of what are we doing that dance? You sent

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<v Speaker 1>us a dance a few weeks ago?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, I don't even know if it's trending anymore.

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<v Speaker 7>But we can try anonymous h beca Tanya Mark and Easton.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm a huge Day One fan. I'm one Tanya to

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<v Speaker 7>my core. But people please are like Becca, Yeah, how.

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<v Speaker 2>We're viewed the people pleaser?

0:25:06.119 --> 0:25:08.560
<v Speaker 4>You are you always talk about how your people please are.

0:25:09.080 --> 0:25:11.000
<v Speaker 2>I think we're all kind of people pleaser.

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<v Speaker 5>Skurvers are like I'm Atania because I'm insane, or I'm

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<v Speaker 5>a becket because I like fast food.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, characteristics.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway.

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<v Speaker 7>I dated a guy in high school for two months.

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<v Speaker 7>We broke up, and I started in my now husband.

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<v Speaker 7>We've been together for eight years now. We live in

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<v Speaker 7>a small town. We run into this guy and his

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<v Speaker 7>now wife a decent amount.

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<v Speaker 1>I think she really hates me.

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<v Speaker 7>I thought I was just overthinking it for a while,

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<v Speaker 7>but after the past few years, anytime I'm around, she

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<v Speaker 7>will grab him to leave or intentionally ignore me. I mean,

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<v Speaker 7>this is in high school for two months. She's also

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<v Speaker 7>made comments to mutual friends that she doesn't like me

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<v Speaker 7>because of us dating prior. Him and I never talk

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<v Speaker 7>unless we see each other out and say hello, nothing more.

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<v Speaker 7>It all seems so silly, but I let it bother me.

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<v Speaker 7>This kind of gets back to what we're talking about

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<v Speaker 7>other people's opinions. I haven't reached out to her a

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<v Speaker 7>few years back and expressed how I'm happy for the

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<v Speaker 7>two of them, and I hope that we're good.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have any advice moving forward.

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<v Speaker 7>I wish I could just not let it bother me,

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<v Speaker 7>but public situations are super uncomfortable, even for a quick hello.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't want there to be tensioned. But is this

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<v Speaker 7>a lost cause to care about making better? Ps currently

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<v Speaker 7>going through infertility and IVF and your podcast has been

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<v Speaker 7>a top source of cheering me up.

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<v Speaker 1>So love you guys. That's very nice.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, first of all, anonymous, good luck on your IVF journey.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, good luck. We're thinking and prying for a beautiful.

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<v Speaker 4>Boisterous Is that like a big lots more energetic.

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<v Speaker 1>How about just a happy result?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Happy result? Yeah, but we love you.

0:26:43.440 --> 0:26:44.480
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So this is really interesting because when I was in

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<v Speaker 2>San Diego, I had this thing with this guy and

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<v Speaker 2>it was I wouldn't even call it a thing, Like

0:26:53.119 --> 0:26:57.760
<v Speaker 2>we kissed a few times, that's a thing, but like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm saying, like it was, yeah, we made out of

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<v Speaker 2>a couple of times, three times. No, No, it was

0:27:05.680 --> 0:27:09.720
<v Speaker 2>very quite innocent. But he was like super Christian. I

0:27:09.760 --> 0:27:11.439
<v Speaker 2>think I was like his first kid. Like it was,

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<v Speaker 2>but in the in the in that time, it felt significant,

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<v Speaker 2>but like in the grand scheme of things, it's nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>He then fell in love with his now wife, who

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<v Speaker 2>he was he is obsessed with, like since high school,

0:27:22.560 --> 0:27:26.800
<v Speaker 2>he's been obsessed with her, and she even to this

0:27:26.880 --> 0:27:30.000
<v Speaker 2>day still has me blocked on Instagram from seeing her page.

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<v Speaker 2>And I just think it's the weirdest thing. Like I

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<v Speaker 2>ran into them. They live I think in La now

0:27:35.560 --> 0:27:37.680
<v Speaker 2>and I ran into them at a like a breakfast

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<v Speaker 2>spot with Haley, and I was like, Oh, it's my

0:27:39.080 --> 0:27:43.280
<v Speaker 2>girlfriend Hailey and just cold as ice to me, and

0:27:43.320 --> 0:27:46.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, God, I mean, I guess that's just someone't

0:27:48.359 --> 0:27:55.800
<v Speaker 2>my girlfriend women, And I just it bothered me, like

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<v Speaker 2>for a long time, and after that, I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>what a miserable Like she just has a lot of

0:28:01.880 --> 0:28:06.359
<v Speaker 2>insecurities and feels like whatever that comes from is not

0:28:06.920 --> 0:28:09.120
<v Speaker 2>my issue to worry about anymore.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, honestly, I have a it's not the same situation,

0:28:13.280 --> 0:28:15.080
<v Speaker 4>but I had to have somebody in my life that

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<v Speaker 4>it is very uncomfortable. Yeah, whenever we're around him, it

0:28:20.560 --> 0:28:22.959
<v Speaker 4>does get very tense and there's like this awkward tension

0:28:23.320 --> 0:28:25.840
<v Speaker 4>and it's just it's just the cross I have to bear.

0:28:27.240 --> 0:28:30.800
<v Speaker 4>But I too have somebody in my life that it's

0:28:30.840 --> 0:28:33.760
<v Speaker 4>so awkward. And I, again, I did nothing wrong blocked

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<v Speaker 4>me on social media, like really just does not like me,

0:28:37.000 --> 0:28:41.200
<v Speaker 4>and I again, did absolutely nothing wrong in the situation,

0:28:41.680 --> 0:28:43.120
<v Speaker 4>and it would it got to me for a very

0:28:43.160 --> 0:28:44.880
<v Speaker 4>long time, like it would I would just fixate on

0:28:44.920 --> 0:28:46.640
<v Speaker 4>it because I was just I would make me upset,

0:28:46.800 --> 0:28:50.400
<v Speaker 4>like does it like it seeps into my happy, positive

0:28:50.520 --> 0:28:53.280
<v Speaker 4>energy and it makes me dark because it's so dark

0:28:53.320 --> 0:28:56.400
<v Speaker 4>and like who cares. It's like, get over yourself. But

0:28:56.440 --> 0:28:59.040
<v Speaker 4>at the end of the day, there's literally nothing that

0:28:59.080 --> 0:29:03.040
<v Speaker 4>you can do. Quite literally, you've told them I'm happy

0:29:03.080 --> 0:29:05.480
<v Speaker 4>for you, guys like you can not you're married, Like,

0:29:05.520 --> 0:29:08.200
<v Speaker 4>there's nothing that you can do. People are just going

0:29:08.280 --> 0:29:10.760
<v Speaker 4>to be bitter or be whatever they are, and you

0:29:10.800 --> 0:29:11.600
<v Speaker 4>just have to let them be.

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<v Speaker 7>People hate that there's anyone else in the world that

0:29:14.160 --> 0:29:17.000
<v Speaker 7>has made out with their partner or slept with their

0:29:17.040 --> 0:29:19.440
<v Speaker 7>partner or seen their partner naked or all that stuff.

0:29:19.440 --> 0:29:22.320
<v Speaker 7>It drives them crazy because they let it drive them crazy.

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<v Speaker 7>You're right, there's nothing you can do. Kill her with

0:29:24.440 --> 0:29:27.520
<v Speaker 7>kindness when you see her be the better person, and

0:29:27.560 --> 0:29:29.760
<v Speaker 7>that's it. It's her issue to deal with and she's

0:29:29.760 --> 0:29:30.760
<v Speaker 7>not going to deal with.

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<v Speaker 2>It, no, sadly, and it's it's got nothing to do

0:29:33.760 --> 0:29:36.040
<v Speaker 2>with you. I think it would be any woman that

0:29:36.480 --> 0:29:38.920
<v Speaker 2>had that looked at him in a romantic way. So

0:29:39.760 --> 0:29:42.000
<v Speaker 2>all you can do is be kind and try to

0:29:42.360 --> 0:29:44.280
<v Speaker 2>not ever be around her as much as you can.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, why we shall leave the town as we grew

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<v Speaker 1>up in.

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<v Speaker 7>By the way, this is why we need to get

0:29:49.520 --> 0:29:51.360
<v Speaker 7>out of town, go see the world a little bit,

0:29:51.360 --> 0:29:53.080
<v Speaker 7>because when you grow up in the small towns, these

0:29:53.080 --> 0:29:53.680
<v Speaker 7>things fester.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, but you're doing great, and you're you're amazing, and

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<v Speaker 2>we love of you.

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<v Speaker 1>How many more do we have time for? Beckaly?

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<v Speaker 2>I would say we have time for one? Pick a

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<v Speaker 2>good one. One more.

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<v Speaker 4>We're getting dicey on the time.

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<v Speaker 7>One more, but I have to take a break, see

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<v Speaker 7>that one more, so we'll make it a butte.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, all right, we're back for our final dear question.

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<v Speaker 7>Dug through the whole mail bag and shows this one

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<v Speaker 7>for the last one today.

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<v Speaker 4>You don't have a mail bag.

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<v Speaker 7>We have a big mail bag mail box, Yeah, says

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<v Speaker 7>two back, and it's spell wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>It's cute.

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<v Speaker 7>My sister has been with a guy for seven years.

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<v Speaker 7>They recently got engaged. In My entire family and extended

0:30:56.240 --> 0:30:59.440
<v Speaker 7>family all dislike him. They started getting young, so I

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<v Speaker 7>think at for we all just saw him as being immature.

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<v Speaker 7>He'd grow out of it one day, But boy, he

0:31:03.480 --> 0:31:06.720
<v Speaker 7>never has. My sister does everything around the house and

0:31:06.800 --> 0:31:09.280
<v Speaker 7>gives him whatever he wants. Whenever he has an opinion,

0:31:09.320 --> 0:31:13.040
<v Speaker 7>my sister automatically agrees with him without any question. He

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<v Speaker 7>makes comments and does things that are rude without even

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<v Speaker 7>realizing it. For example, he proposed and had an engagement

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<v Speaker 7>party on the same day as my cousin's high school

0:31:21.000 --> 0:31:23.880
<v Speaker 7>graduation and the instead. If my cousins loved my sister,

0:31:24.160 --> 0:31:26.920
<v Speaker 7>they'd find a way to be the engagement party. He

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<v Speaker 7>once told my dad he doesn't need to help my

0:31:28.760 --> 0:31:30.880
<v Speaker 7>sister out around the house because he makes more money

0:31:30.920 --> 0:31:33.440
<v Speaker 7>than she does. He will come over to use my

0:31:33.520 --> 0:31:35.720
<v Speaker 7>dad's tools to work on his car and not even

0:31:35.720 --> 0:31:37.440
<v Speaker 7>come h to come and not even come in to

0:31:37.440 --> 0:31:39.680
<v Speaker 7>SAYHU to the family. These are just a few of

0:31:39.720 --> 0:31:42.560
<v Speaker 7>the many examples as to the point where every little

0:31:42.600 --> 0:31:45.120
<v Speaker 7>thing he does drives our family crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>What do we do?

0:31:47.160 --> 0:31:47.320
<v Speaker 3>You know?

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<v Speaker 2>I was saying earlier that like if someone I used

0:31:50.880 --> 0:31:54.720
<v Speaker 2>to get so defensive about someone not like supporting my relationship,

0:31:54.800 --> 0:31:57.080
<v Speaker 2>like I would get like, how could they it's just love,

0:31:57.160 --> 0:31:59.960
<v Speaker 2>you know, And now I see like these things, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>I would never support someone.

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<v Speaker 1>I really like this. I don't have to help out

0:32:06.800 --> 0:32:07.640
<v Speaker 1>around the house because.

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<v Speaker 2>Rage. It's so I know.

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<v Speaker 4>But here's the thing. Rage to you, rage to me,

0:32:18.480 --> 0:32:23.600
<v Speaker 4>rage to you, It is not rage to this anonymous.

0:32:22.760 --> 0:32:24.320
<v Speaker 2>Sister that sounds brainwashed.

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<v Speaker 4>Whatever the case may be. I feel like the problem

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<v Speaker 4>is because I I have been so many situations in

0:32:32.080 --> 0:32:35.400
<v Speaker 4>my life where like, not it doesn't it's not happening

0:32:35.400 --> 0:32:36.880
<v Speaker 4>to me, but like there are people in my life

0:32:36.880 --> 0:32:38.880
<v Speaker 4>who don't like the person that this person is dating,

0:32:38.960 --> 0:32:41.560
<v Speaker 4>or their brother or their sister or whatever their cousin.

0:32:42.320 --> 0:32:45.200
<v Speaker 4>And I feel like when you get involved, especially when

0:32:45.240 --> 0:32:47.760
<v Speaker 4>it's this far down the line, like speak up. If

0:32:47.760 --> 0:32:50.160
<v Speaker 4>it's early days and they're dating somebody and they're saying

0:32:50.200 --> 0:32:51.800
<v Speaker 4>some of this stuff, like I would throw up a

0:32:51.800 --> 0:32:53.920
<v Speaker 4>flag and be like that sounds sus and like I

0:32:53.960 --> 0:32:56.440
<v Speaker 4>would really reassess. But I feel like when it gets

0:32:56.440 --> 0:32:59.240
<v Speaker 4>to this, oh my life, I feel like when it

0:32:59.320 --> 0:33:02.360
<v Speaker 4>gets to I feel like, what it gets to this point,

0:33:02.400 --> 0:33:05.800
<v Speaker 4>like you can't you can't say something without damaging your

0:33:05.800 --> 0:33:09.920
<v Speaker 4>relationship with your sister, Like you just can't.

0:33:11.040 --> 0:33:14.480
<v Speaker 2>I just should have said yes sooner.

0:33:14.600 --> 0:33:16.320
<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's sad they started dating when they were young.

0:33:16.400 --> 0:33:18.640
<v Speaker 7>So I'm sure that the sister has like self esteemishes

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<v Speaker 7>she doesn't think she can do any better than this guy.

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<v Speaker 7>And also there's a chance that she really does love

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<v Speaker 7>him and there's something about him that no one else

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<v Speaker 7>is seeing. She knows him better than anybody else. But

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<v Speaker 7>also when you start dating so young, you don't know

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<v Speaker 7>what else is out there, you have nothing to compare

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<v Speaker 7>it to.

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<v Speaker 4>But also like, you're not the savior.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you know, I'm a sibling.

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<v Speaker 1>What she can do.

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<v Speaker 4>You're not the savior. You're the sibling, and your job

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<v Speaker 4>as the sibling is to support your sibling. And if

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<v Speaker 4>it ends up, if they end up divorced, you're gonna

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<v Speaker 4>be there to pick up the pieces.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't know. I mean, I don't really know.

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<v Speaker 2>I really don't know what to say because I think

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<v Speaker 2>a whole family plus extended family hating someone speaks volumes.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think that when you're in a bad situation

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<v Speaker 2>and you are not able to see how people view

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<v Speaker 2>your partner in a negative light, I think that's concerning

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<v Speaker 2>Because I think.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't think you realize, what if this all this family,

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<v Speaker 4>if the family and the extended family they all come

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<v Speaker 4>out and they say we don't like this person and

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<v Speaker 4>why it needs to be like whatever it is, then

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<v Speaker 4>your sister is going to turn into a shell and

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<v Speaker 4>she is going to be inward and she's not gonna

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<v Speaker 4>trust anybody, and she's gonna be go further and further

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<v Speaker 4>or deep into this relationship. He's gonna be the only

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<v Speaker 4>thing that she has. She's gonna it's just gonna. I

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<v Speaker 4>just I just don't think you're thinking it through.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know though, because then it's like she gets

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<v Speaker 2>married and then has to deal with legal stuff if

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<v Speaker 2>something goes down. I just think it's worth having a

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<v Speaker 2>conversation with her privately, not like a family meeting, but like, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>when he says things like this, does he ever say

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<v Speaker 2>those things to you? Like is he? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I think there's a heart to heart that you can

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<v Speaker 2>have as a sister. I feel like if my sister

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<v Speaker 2>was dating someone who I didn't think was healthy, I

0:35:08.560 --> 0:35:10.399
<v Speaker 2>would I would have a heart to heart with her

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<v Speaker 2>and say like I love you, and what I see

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<v Speaker 2>as your sister is can be hurtful some of the

0:35:19.400 --> 0:35:21.880
<v Speaker 2>things that he says. So I just want to make

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<v Speaker 2>sure that you that this is what you want to

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<v Speaker 2>go through with, because marriage is a big deal.

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<v Speaker 7>Are you happy? That's the key is are you happy?

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<v Speaker 7>Because if she is, then I think you got to yeah,

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<v Speaker 7>step away.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you? Are you genuinely happy? Is this how you?

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<v Speaker 2>Is this the person that you envisioned yourself getting married

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<v Speaker 2>to and the person you envisioned having a life.

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<v Speaker 1>Is he going to be a good dad?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I think it's just asking question. Sometimes it's hard

0:35:44.840 --> 0:35:49.359
<v Speaker 2>to ask questions. Sometimes it's hard to like have hard

0:35:49.440 --> 0:35:52.520
<v Speaker 2>conversations out of fear that you're going to push them

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<v Speaker 2>further away. But I think not having the conversation opens

0:35:57.640 --> 0:36:01.360
<v Speaker 2>up more problems for her down the road. That's my opinion.

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<v Speaker 2>You have different opinions.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's beauty.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the beauty of this podcast.

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<v Speaker 4>You get a little bond, you get a little you know,

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<v Speaker 4>you little Bonnie, a little yeah you, little Bonnie, and

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<v Speaker 4>then you decide.

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<v Speaker 2>And then you decide. We will be in Palm Springs

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<v Speaker 2>as mentioned before. So okay, firstly, let me let me

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<v Speaker 2>let me go back. If you ever have any uh,

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<v Speaker 2>dear Bonnie questions you can always d m us on

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram at scrubbing in pod or email us at scrubbing

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<v Speaker 2>In at iHeartMedia dot com. And as for this weekend

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<v Speaker 2>in Palm Springs, we are going to be doing a

0:36:39.360 --> 0:36:43.239
<v Speaker 2>truth or Drink episode, which we know y'all love, so

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<v Speaker 2>submit your questions too.

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<v Speaker 7>I think Crystal is going to put a sorry, no no, no,

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<v Speaker 7>no no, please finish you.

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<v Speaker 4>I think Crystal is going to do like question box

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<v Speaker 4>on Instagram. Sorry, check out that insta hit that insta.

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<v Speaker 7>Can I give some parameters because it's really hard to

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<v Speaker 7>come up with good truth or Drink questions.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's what the reason is.

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<v Speaker 7>Tanya answers everything, so it's hard to find stuff she's

0:37:09.239 --> 0:37:12.080
<v Speaker 7>not comfortable answering. That's why I remember at the live

0:37:12.120 --> 0:37:15.960
<v Speaker 7>showing in West Hollywood, the question was what's the.

0:37:16.000 --> 0:37:17.880
<v Speaker 1>Largest object you ever put in your rear end?

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<v Speaker 7>Because it's weird to ask a question that Tanya might

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<v Speaker 7>not be comfortable answering, and even that.

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<v Speaker 1>So really think.

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<v Speaker 4>Something maybe different, something you'd like.

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<v Speaker 7>To know about Tanya that she might be uncomfortable asking.

0:37:33.840 --> 0:37:37.480
<v Speaker 7>Same with Becca. Becca has a different tolerance for stuff

0:37:37.480 --> 0:37:40.640
<v Speaker 7>that makes her uncomfortable as answering but so you need to.

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<v Speaker 4>Find Becca drinking the whole time.

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<v Speaker 7>But we also don't want to ask a bunch of

0:37:44.320 --> 0:37:46.239
<v Speaker 7>stuff that Becca would never answer in a million years.

0:37:46.280 --> 0:37:48.560
<v Speaker 1>So that's like a fine line. We got to find.

0:37:48.280 --> 0:37:52.960
<v Speaker 7>Here questions that Becca will answer and stuff that Tanya

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<v Speaker 7>would think twice before answering.

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<v Speaker 2>Might take a shot.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why it's hard. But we'll do our best. Then.

0:37:59.560 --> 0:38:01.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm sure you come up with good stuff. You always do.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so really put your thinking cap on for this.

0:38:07.520 --> 0:38:12.680
<v Speaker 2>And then and then another teaser. We're going to epic Con.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, we're.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, the Old City, the City of the Bean, the Bean.

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<v Speaker 4>We should go to Juliana Ransay.

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<v Speaker 2>You said was going to RPM.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, are you down?

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<v Speaker 2>Sure?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, Okay, great.

0:38:32.200 --> 0:38:34.360
<v Speaker 2>I think there's a lot of restaurants there, so maybe

0:38:34.360 --> 0:38:36.879
<v Speaker 2>we can get a list together and see what comes up.

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<v Speaker 2>So cute. Well will she be there? I don't know.

0:38:40.840 --> 0:38:42.880
<v Speaker 4>I don't know. I imagine like when people have restaurants that

0:38:42.880 --> 0:38:45.520
<v Speaker 4>they're just like sitting at the entrance greeting everyone, welcome

0:38:45.560 --> 0:38:46.240
<v Speaker 4>to my restaurant.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think she's there, but maybe she can meet

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<v Speaker 2>us for a drink or something. Yeah, but we're gonna

0:38:51.239 --> 0:38:53.320
<v Speaker 2>go to Epicom. We're going to interview grays and that

0:38:53.520 --> 0:38:55.680
<v Speaker 2>I mean, I mean a lot of people from all

0:38:55.719 --> 0:38:57.279
<v Speaker 2>different TV.

0:38:57.080 --> 0:38:58.879
<v Speaker 4>Show worlds, like Responders.

0:39:00.320 --> 0:39:02.799
<v Speaker 2>We're not interviewing first or spowners, people that play them

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<v Speaker 2>on television, right right, We're interviewing a lot of actors.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's coming up in September. But we love you

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<v Speaker 2>all so much. Love you have a great weekend. Bye bye,