WEBVTT - "Are You Jealous?" feat Chris Kabs

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<v Speaker 1>Talk talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with an

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<v Speaker 1>opinion to talk back. What's up, y'all? Thank you for

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<v Speaker 1>tuning in for a new episode that we Talk Back

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<v Speaker 1>and Show dedicated to you. Nigga's and knees Hose sher

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<v Speaker 1>co host a j holiday What up? It's y'all, it's me.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm tired as fun. I need know my name just now?

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<v Speaker 1>Who am I? It's to me mry Hole. I love

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<v Speaker 1>you all wants to get thank you all for coming back. Man?

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<v Speaker 1>She how was your weekend? Girl? Girl? I do watching

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<v Speaker 1>nothing that stupid. I didn't look you know, I've seen that.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you see that post on Instagram? And was like

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<v Speaker 1>uh ms Piggy and kermit? Uh when when my friends

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<v Speaker 1>asked me what I did this weekend and I'd be

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<v Speaker 1>like nothing, but all the pictures is like sniffet coke

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<v Speaker 1>getting fuck. That's me. Yeah that's you. I ain't seen it,

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<v Speaker 1>but that's definitely your ass. That's me. Hey, I ain't

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<v Speaker 1>do muching nothing, just you know, adult entertainment, y'all. I

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<v Speaker 1>flew my ass back to Jamaica again. I just got

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<v Speaker 1>off the plane. I literally got off the plane and

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<v Speaker 1>came to the microphone, like literally, it's tired. I got

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<v Speaker 1>that little tan I had so much see you can

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<v Speaker 1>see it ain't and I'm a little brown, brown brown. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>lay out the order a girl. I ain't do nothing

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<v Speaker 1>but smoke and eat and lay up in the sun.

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<v Speaker 1>Like that sounds fun. It was good, but I'm happy

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<v Speaker 1>to be back to y'all kind of shame. What's that

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<v Speaker 1>going on in stupid internet news agent girl? The whole world?

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to put this disclaimer. Excuse me, I

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<v Speaker 1>am now for real. I've always been an observer, but

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<v Speaker 1>that's all I'm doing now because y'all motherfucker's be letting

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<v Speaker 1>people like really transmit your energy. So this week Kanye

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<v Speaker 1>West did UH Fashion Week and he wore a white

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<v Speaker 1>Lives Matter shirt. He had on a black white Lives

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<v Speaker 1>Matter shirt and calling Candice Owens had on a white

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<v Speaker 1>black Lives Matter shirt. And that's what I meant, White

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<v Speaker 1>lives matter? The internet mad, Black people mad? What do

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<v Speaker 1>you think about that? Groundn't give a funk about me either, one,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you? Not right now. Honestly, it's like just being

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<v Speaker 1>an observer for once, because when y'all be putting too

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<v Speaker 1>much emotion into into ship. If anybody wanted to do

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<v Speaker 1>some god that magic, they got all you'll attention, all

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<v Speaker 1>your energy, everything wrapped up. Do what the funk they

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<v Speaker 1>want to do with you. So just be an observer.

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<v Speaker 1>Just watch look what he was going on. I would

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<v Speaker 1>like to see, like what was you know why? So

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<v Speaker 1>y'all know the terminology black has no legal standing in

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<v Speaker 1>America anyway, So you know, black Lives Matter, that organization

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<v Speaker 1>was definitely built off of the backs of dead black men.

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<v Speaker 1>So black lives the actual phrase. Yes, it's a real thing, right,

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<v Speaker 1>but BLM isn't. It's not a good thing, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. So why would you be an uproar

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<v Speaker 1>because a black person is wearing a white Lives Matter shirt,

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<v Speaker 1>But it's okay for a white person to wear a

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<v Speaker 1>Black Lives Matter shirt? Like do white lives not matter?

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<v Speaker 1>Of course white lives matter, but it's the context. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I understand that white Lives Matter is just a reactionary

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<v Speaker 1>like phrase, you know, to you know, funk with Black

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<v Speaker 1>Lives Matter. We understand all that, right, but there was

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<v Speaker 1>a time that black people black was not a race,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's still not. You know what I'm saying. So

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<v Speaker 1>we shouldn't even be using the term black as far

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<v Speaker 1>as I'm concerned. So what you want to be called,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm indigenous Americans. If we go to the if we

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<v Speaker 1>go to the Olympics, we're not Black Americans. In the Olympics,

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<v Speaker 1>we're Americans. But when we come home, were black Americans. Mhm.

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<v Speaker 1>You see what I'm saying. So in order for us

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<v Speaker 1>to those of those people are from China, they're from

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<v Speaker 1>their Asian we're from here. I ain't from here. Girl.

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<v Speaker 1>On a on the US Census that the definition of

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<v Speaker 1>black and black American is any persons that can tie

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<v Speaker 1>themselves back to any racial groups. In Africa, there's no

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<v Speaker 1>such thing as racial groups in Africa as ethnic groups.

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<v Speaker 1>You see what I'm saying, So that even a definition

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<v Speaker 1>and all the legal ship we use in America is

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<v Speaker 1>fucking false. You should not be that mad about this

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<v Speaker 1>period and up until I don't know, the eighteen hundreds,

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<v Speaker 1>black mint pale. So when did the definition change? I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. Are we black or are we white? I'm black?

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<v Speaker 1>Are we black or are we white? Black? Question? And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm black, y'all, and I'm black and black and I'm black, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I like, I like definitions, and I like, so you're

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<v Speaker 1>a white person for the last, for the last I'll

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<v Speaker 1>say ten years. When I do uh anything legal documents,

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<v Speaker 1>I either put other white or Indians. I never put

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<v Speaker 1>black African American, but at least the last or seen years.

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<v Speaker 1>But why would you put white though? Because you get

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<v Speaker 1>benefits the funk. You automatically get put in this little

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<v Speaker 1>small box when you check black because they the system,

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<v Speaker 1>especially with AI now they're looking for that. So they

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<v Speaker 1>just if it's a job applicate, just throw your ship

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<v Speaker 1>out when you hit black American. Do you see what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying? So the ship is systematic, So it would

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<v Speaker 1>be in your best benefit to pick some other ship

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<v Speaker 1>other than black in America. I'm just gonna go, would

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<v Speaker 1>I am? I don't know what else happening, but you've

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<v Speaker 1>been gone. All types of ship happened, So I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if y'all was so disconnected. I disconnected, Okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>was just in the water, that's it. What else happening? Child?

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<v Speaker 1>So this niggad boy A B and Sonia Brown he

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<v Speaker 1>going ham on internet? You'll he don't posted a picture

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<v Speaker 1>of Tom Brady White Gazelle A picture from when they

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<v Speaker 1>won the the I don't even know what year was it.

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<v Speaker 1>It might have been last year, whenever the last super

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<v Speaker 1>Bowl they won. She gave him this big, old, nice

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<v Speaker 1>little hug and it looks pretty intimate, you know. And

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<v Speaker 1>they're in the middle of getting divorced because the apparently

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<v Speaker 1>sources say that they have, you know, been consulting with

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<v Speaker 1>a divorse divorce attorney. And I feel like gossip in

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<v Speaker 1>to see them niggas being on everybody business because maybe

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<v Speaker 1>about a month ago, uh, she put out there that

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<v Speaker 1>they were living separately in separate homes. And now this

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<v Speaker 1>this week and why he posted a picture I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Caption on the picture says, put that ship on. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what. I don't know, but I'm sure that

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<v Speaker 1>woman was hugging him because she was excited that they

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<v Speaker 1>won the super Bowl. That was it. And then this

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<v Speaker 1>is kind of like when Faith took picture with Tupac

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<v Speaker 1>and then he posted it and made it look like

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<v Speaker 1>he was fucking Faith I'm talking about. Yeah, I remember that.

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<v Speaker 1>But A B was living with these people during that season,

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<v Speaker 1>so they could have they could have built they could

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<v Speaker 1>have built a report. I understand. I see how you're

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<v Speaker 1>looking at it like, yeah, they could have you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we family, hoya, but you've been living with us for

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<v Speaker 1>the lat for the whole six month season or whatever

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<v Speaker 1>we won, and maybe he's making I don't oh, some

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<v Speaker 1>type of riff between tem Brady with this. This is

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<v Speaker 1>why you don't let motherfucker's in your house. Period. I

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<v Speaker 1>gottn't let you stay in my house. Welcome to you

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<v Speaker 1>to my home with my family and my children. And

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<v Speaker 1>this is what you do, even if you're don't funk

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<v Speaker 1>with me, no more, don't do that. Don't do that.

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<v Speaker 1>And everybody saying, oh, ct E, that's all you see

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<v Speaker 1>in the comments ct But y'all want to hear what

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<v Speaker 1>I think about this. Also, y'all can google this. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't be lying, y'all. Baby is white. No, No, Gizelle

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<v Speaker 1>is a witch. Even her husband has said that. Google it.

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<v Speaker 1>Gizelle is a witch. She does ritual, she does all

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<v Speaker 1>these things. She set to alter up for her son.

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<v Speaker 1>These are all things that people in this lifestyle do, right.

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<v Speaker 1>And I bet you if he divorces that woman, she's

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<v Speaker 1>the lifeline. She had been telling him when he was

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<v Speaker 1>gonna win what Super Bowls? When to play when not

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<v Speaker 1>to play? She had been she has been guiding him

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<v Speaker 1>through his winds. Okay, if he separates from that woman,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all watched that, they're gonna be looking like y'all remember

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<v Speaker 1>a fat door on End Game Marvel End Game and

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<v Speaker 1>nig had got fat. That's gonna be Tom Brady you

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<v Speaker 1>want and we watched, uh A b loses fucking mind?

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<v Speaker 1>What did what did they do to him in that house?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, girl, this is all like you'd be

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<v Speaker 1>just really thinking. Then you'm a deep thinker. But she

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<v Speaker 1>also are with yourself, So which is be? Noh, witches

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<v Speaker 1>be knowing? M h. I'm just saying, okay, because you

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<v Speaker 1>do be just saying some ship. I don't. First of all,

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<v Speaker 1>I do not saying I don't. I promise you I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>The only other thing I saw this week and I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, you know what, j T JT was defending

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<v Speaker 1>a little oozy because people will be coming for her

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<v Speaker 1>basically because of how her man dressed and ship like that.

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<v Speaker 1>And she was like, y'all think the way people dress

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<v Speaker 1>and how they express themselves as what defines him sexually.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's the truth. You know what I'm saying, so

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<v Speaker 1>men have been wearing fucking leggings and ship like that forever.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll be going too deep nowadays. But if your nigga

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<v Speaker 1>came home with a belly person, and it depends on

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<v Speaker 1>the nigga, because I would definitely date an eccentric as

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<v Speaker 1>rock star type nigga. I would. I'd be liking different.

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<v Speaker 1>Would have to be a literal rock star. He would

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<v Speaker 1>have to be a little That's what I'm saying. He

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<v Speaker 1>would have to be him. Because if you're working at

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<v Speaker 1>public walk around with a belly ring, I'll be like,

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<v Speaker 1>I ain't gonna be able to do it. So j

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<v Speaker 1>T was like, who's he dating me? And we honestly

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<v Speaker 1>have two different audiences. So nothing bothered me more than

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<v Speaker 1>when he doing what he wants. Y'all tag me and

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<v Speaker 1>say this year man, yes ho, that's my man, my

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<v Speaker 1>good man, my rich man, my respectful man, my little man,

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<v Speaker 1>my successful rock star heart. Y'all yeah, because the girl

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<v Speaker 1>there like, that's her man. I don't care what he pierces, asshole.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't give a fun that's her man. You know again,

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<v Speaker 1>we're just observing. That's all we do. We just hit

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<v Speaker 1>up observed to tell y'all what the funk we stop? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I went mine, I went minded barely when you ain't

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<v Speaker 1>about to come home with no damn asshole, Piers. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>come on, is that a thing? I don't know? I'm

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<v Speaker 1>pretty sure people got that little meat right above their asshole,

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<v Speaker 1>right at the crease of the butt, Pierce. Somewhere. Somebody

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<v Speaker 1>got that. Somebody did it do all in memory? Stupid?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, y'all listen. So we do have a special

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<v Speaker 1>guest on we talked back this week, y'all stay tuned. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>right after this break, we're gonna have Chris haves on.

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<v Speaker 1>We're talking jealousy. All right, y'all be back listen. So

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<v Speaker 1>we have a special guest on we talked back this week. Personally,

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<v Speaker 1>I think he's like the next up and coming biggest

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<v Speaker 1>afrobeats artists. If you want to consider to consider yourself

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<v Speaker 1>that I don't know. But we have Chris Gabs on.

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<v Speaker 1>We talked back all the way from Dublin, Ireland. What's up, Chris?

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much for having me tell our listeners

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit about yourself. Chris. You know I'm Chris

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<v Speaker 1>Gabs born in Africa. More specifically, in Congo, raised in Sweden, Stockholm,

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<v Speaker 1>and moved to Ireland at fourteen. I'm a music producer,

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<v Speaker 1>creative person. I'm a friend, I'm my brother and my cousin,

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<v Speaker 1>my son. You know, I'm a lover, you know, guy man,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a happy person general. I love I love life

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<v Speaker 1>and I love the idea of living. Think there's a

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful thing just to be a life. Yeah, Chris is

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<v Speaker 1>a super lovel boy. Okay, let's be so just jumping that.

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<v Speaker 1>DM Chris cat crist Cabs on Instagram. So how did

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<v Speaker 1>you get into music, Chris? I think they started with

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<v Speaker 1>my family, you know, my whole family. It's it's musical.

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<v Speaker 1>My dad used to be a quiet master, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>back in the seminies whatever. Church yeah, church yeah, church, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's where he met my mom. Mom was also acquired

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<v Speaker 1>master as well. So the mad in the same church.

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<v Speaker 1>Long story short, feel in love, got married and they

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<v Speaker 1>made me and then I remember I remember one time

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<v Speaker 1>because because my daddy used to have this you know,

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<v Speaker 1>back in Africa, right, he used to have this huge

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<v Speaker 1>cave right where he kept he stored all types of instruments,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, conarls, drums, bays, whatever, somehow fed a lot

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<v Speaker 1>with with with with drums. So drums was like my

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<v Speaker 1>first instrument that I started learning by myself. So I said,

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<v Speaker 1>don't play drums, and from drums and moved to piano.

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<v Speaker 1>From piano, I started learning how to produce be Shout

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<v Speaker 1>out to my uncle Fabrics. He's the one that actually

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<v Speaker 1>introduced the whole software music software. So he showed me

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<v Speaker 1>back in Germany. He goes, hey, you know, with your talent,

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<v Speaker 1>you could really do more. And then he introduced to

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<v Speaker 1>me the software called Cube's back then and from Cube's

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<v Speaker 1>start learning how to program music on computer. And fast

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<v Speaker 1>forward now we're here, right, So Chris produces music. So

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<v Speaker 1>I know one of my favorite songs is more and

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<v Speaker 1>I love Jealousy and the beats on these songs are exceptional. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>my favorite songs from Chris appreciate. So wait, you you

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<v Speaker 1>you produced the songs, but is it also you who

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<v Speaker 1>recorded the song or is everything? So basically I have

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<v Speaker 1>a production company, you know, and within the company we

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<v Speaker 1>have I have a studio with all types of equipment

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<v Speaker 1>in order to produce sound, you know, to be representable

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<v Speaker 1>for the radio, for the listeners. So I have that.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's like eight of of of me bringing into

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<v Speaker 1>the industry. So I have the ability to create sound

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<v Speaker 1>from scratch, you know, picking sound and you know which

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<v Speaker 1>one works in and which one not. So I just

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<v Speaker 1>have the ear to know watch sound works with watch sound.

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<v Speaker 1>And by doing that, you know, um, I can create whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>I played piano, I play keys and play drums, and

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<v Speaker 1>that's how I made all my songs, just by hearing

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<v Speaker 1>and and then you create. I write as well, but

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<v Speaker 1>I do have few writers around. Uh. One of my

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<v Speaker 1>main write us is J L. Well, that's the guy

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<v Speaker 1>on the track no Joke. He wrote. He co wrote

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<v Speaker 1>some of my songs with me. But I do write

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<v Speaker 1>my own songs like I do, I do compose the concept.

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<v Speaker 1>How important is it for people in the music business

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<v Speaker 1>to be able to do you know a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>this stuff yourself, you know what I'm saying, Because even

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<v Speaker 1>like with us with podcasting, you know, one monkey ain't

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<v Speaker 1>gonna stop no show over here because we can pretty

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<v Speaker 1>much do a lot of this stuff ourselves. So how

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<v Speaker 1>important is that you know, learning the actual business music business,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, also being able to do your own

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<v Speaker 1>production right. So for me, it was more like I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know about I didn't know about the business, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't I didn't know Like I remember my first beat,

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<v Speaker 1>the assoul to any artists was five euros that's like

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<v Speaker 1>twenty dollars, you know. Because I didn't know my worth,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know how to go about it right. So

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<v Speaker 1>it took me a good ten years to study to

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<v Speaker 1>just know what to do, how to do, how to capitalize,

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<v Speaker 1>how to negotiate and this and that, you know. But

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<v Speaker 1>again it can with error. I've made a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>mistakes in the process because I just didn't know what

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<v Speaker 1>to do with it, you know. But of course the

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<v Speaker 1>fact that I was always hungry, I was passionate, I

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<v Speaker 1>had there's there's there's passion to just be great, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>because when you want to be great, you do whatever

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<v Speaker 1>it takes to be great, you know. And by doing that,

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<v Speaker 1>you start doing your own due diligence, you know, you

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<v Speaker 1>start learning about productions and royalties and being registered like

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<v Speaker 1>you know, copyright my Chris Gay's name is now licensed

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<v Speaker 1>and all that stuff. That I'm not just an artist,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a business. You know. There was no feelings in business.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a fact and report only. You start learning about that.

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<v Speaker 1>It start just to become more mature, mature, mature, um.

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<v Speaker 1>So basically it was more like the more I know,

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<v Speaker 1>the better I could negotiate. Right, The more I know,

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<v Speaker 1>the better I knew how to how to navigate through

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<v Speaker 1>the industry. Because the industry that I'm all is very toxic,

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<v Speaker 1>very complex. So if you you don't have the right

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<v Speaker 1>the right mindset or the right information that anybody can

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<v Speaker 1>use you, it's a game. So there was a song

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<v Speaker 1>that I was listening to you of yours a little

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<v Speaker 1>while ago, Jealousy Did you write that? I wrote that

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<v Speaker 1>song from scratch everything, every words, So that came from

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<v Speaker 1>a personal place. Let's talk about it. Broke us up.

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<v Speaker 1>Where are you from? Where are you from? Where are

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<v Speaker 1>you from? How dad you get here? Get here? Get here?

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<v Speaker 1>I'd be trying to run away from you? You you

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<v Speaker 1>for more? Pretty much this was a well what happened?

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<v Speaker 1>Tell us the story behind the motivation. Basically, the song

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<v Speaker 1>I was inspired by by my own life, life life situation.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I had this this this this person who

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<v Speaker 1>I used to date back in the day, who didn't

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<v Speaker 1>understand my lifestyle, who didn't understand my schedule or my

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<v Speaker 1>my slipping pattern, you know, because because being in all,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like we could be bad sleeping. Then if if

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<v Speaker 1>I'm inspired, I wake up in the middle of the

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<v Speaker 1>night and start creating as to create. That's what you're saying.

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<v Speaker 1>One time, one time, One time, I was actually doing it,

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<v Speaker 1>and then I got its tongue in my head. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I love you, hold on, I have something to play

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<v Speaker 1>in my head. I know it's weird, I get it,

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<v Speaker 1>but I have to go and just later on some

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<v Speaker 1>cause she never understood my lifestyle. She just didn't get it.

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<v Speaker 1>And then every time when I was in fun or

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<v Speaker 1>we could being a date and then I see I

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<v Speaker 1>see a number in the name, I'm like, yo, this person,

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<v Speaker 1>it's the next big deal. I gotta pick it up.

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<v Speaker 1>She goes she can't wait. I'm like, either I make

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<v Speaker 1>her weight and then we're gonna end up taking this

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<v Speaker 1>bus to date, or I pick up this car next

0:20:09.680 --> 0:20:13.040
<v Speaker 1>time we don't drive and we see this today, you choose,

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<v Speaker 1>And then things got toxic because she never understood how

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<v Speaker 1>this game works. Don't answer that phone exactly like we're

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<v Speaker 1>crying over here, listening like you you let me pick

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<v Speaker 1>up this car and next time, we're gonna be on

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<v Speaker 1>the on the jet or I'll tell him to call

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<v Speaker 1>and letter and then we're gonna steer taking this bus

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<v Speaker 1>and trained to do whatever we're going. You choose, then

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<v Speaker 1>she goes a great but then eventually I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, it's not gonna work because jealousy going

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<v Speaker 1>the way. You can't understand that in this industry, you

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<v Speaker 1>did it with men, men and women and gage people

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<v Speaker 1>too sometimes also want you. So it's gonna hard for

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<v Speaker 1>me to make her understand that it's a game of throne. Man.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you have to understand or just don't try.

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<v Speaker 1>And then she walked away. So she basically she wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to be prioritized over your career. Yeah, well back then

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't really in that space to prioritizing anybody because

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<v Speaker 1>I was very very on my game. I was like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>like you you just got here. I've been doing this

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<v Speaker 1>before you came here. As why would I just told

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<v Speaker 1>my life away because of pussy? You know what I'm saying, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>if you viewed her as pussy, then exactly I kind

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<v Speaker 1>of help you just get rid of her then, right,

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<v Speaker 1>If you viewed her as pussy, I mean if that's

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<v Speaker 1>why she presented to me, So that's why she I

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<v Speaker 1>guess that's what she wanted me to see. Are you

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<v Speaker 1>saying that's all the value she had? That's what I'm

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<v Speaker 1>trying to say, that's the thing that she presented first.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my life. Are you sure you ain't present that

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<v Speaker 1>dick first? Do you think there's healthy jealousy in a relationship? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>of course. If if you don't a jealous then you

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<v Speaker 1>don't care. I want you to. I want you to

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<v Speaker 1>be jealous. I want you to to ask me who's

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<v Speaker 1>who's calling you. I want you to ask me what

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<v Speaker 1>time you're coming home. I want you to to to

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<v Speaker 1>feed up away from doing certain things. Even though you

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<v Speaker 1>trust me, but I still want you to feel a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit, you know, jealous about what I'm doing. If

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<v Speaker 1>we have a jealous God while not having a jealous

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<v Speaker 1>woman or man. But at the same rate, you just

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<v Speaker 1>said that you you left a relationship with somebody who

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<v Speaker 1>because she was too jealous. But you do, at the

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<v Speaker 1>same time want somebody who be talking you, questioning you.

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<v Speaker 1>You want a little toxicity, it's what you're saying. It's

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<v Speaker 1>more like I want you to know what I'm doing,

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<v Speaker 1>But don't don't doubt me. I don't like people down

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<v Speaker 1>because I got no reason to lie to you. If

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<v Speaker 1>you ask me where you were, yeah, I'm here, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>doing next z. That's that's the truth. I don't. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't pay me to be your man. You don't pay

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<v Speaker 1>me to have sex with you. You don't pay me

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<v Speaker 1>to be with you. So what would allow to you?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I would like to my boss, maybe my manager.

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<v Speaker 1>He was all the time for no reason. Nobody analyzed. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>what that mean? African nigga at an adjective. I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>freaking man who never been to slaved, thank god. So

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't understand. Nigga, what do you mean?

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<v Speaker 1>You just got finished? All right? Don't play because before

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<v Speaker 1>we started recording, he just said how much he uses

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<v Speaker 1>nigga for emphasis. And now you're not a nigga. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a proud, i freaking man and Okay, So basically, in

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<v Speaker 1>your eyes, jealousy is necessary in the relationship to a

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<v Speaker 1>certain extent. What's that line, though? How do you know

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<v Speaker 1>when you've reached that line? I think it's when it's

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<v Speaker 1>getting unhealthy, unbalanced, unreasonable, toxic, when you're still asking dumb

0:24:10.560 --> 0:24:13.720
<v Speaker 1>questions like how long were you were you on the phone?

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<v Speaker 1>Tail or how far you from home? Or like every

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<v Speaker 1>time I want to call you, you don't pick up,

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<v Speaker 1>but then you call me back after ten minutes, after

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<v Speaker 1>five minutes, you know, like um, or when you get home,

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<v Speaker 1>let me smell your dick. Put your pads down and

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<v Speaker 1>let me smell your dick right now. If you do that,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll be done. Like It's kind of like, because you

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<v Speaker 1>see my my my red flag is when you doubt me.

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<v Speaker 1>Why would you doubt me? Why? Why you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. It's kind of like if I see for me,

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<v Speaker 1>if that girl takes me something, I believe you, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I've got no reason not to unless you can make

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<v Speaker 1>a reason to not believe. I'm very black and white

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<v Speaker 1>if I if I tell you, I'll maintain minutes. If

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<v Speaker 1>I'm led, I'll give a reason why I'm late. If

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<v Speaker 1>you doubt me twice, A'm mad. I'm like, why would

0:24:57.640 --> 0:25:01.320
<v Speaker 1>you doubt me for what? You know? You know? My mom?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I liked my mom my dad because it's

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<v Speaker 1>my dad. But like I just met you four days ago.

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<v Speaker 1>What m like? I said, I'm a freaking man, I'm different,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, four days obviously that's a bit much to

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<v Speaker 1>be questioning those things. But if you're in a real

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<v Speaker 1>relationship after one week, so who's yeah, what I'm telling you,

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<v Speaker 1>even what I'm saying. No, that's that's asking because I

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't want you asking those questions of me after four days.

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<v Speaker 1>Ship happening before you got here, sir, relaxed. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been leaving for thirty or four years plus before

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<v Speaker 1>I met you, So like, what do you mean? Where

0:25:41.000 --> 0:25:46.240
<v Speaker 1>was I I was leaving you? Like? What do you like? What?

0:25:46.560 --> 0:25:48.280
<v Speaker 1>What do you mean? Like? What? What? What's your body?

0:25:48.320 --> 0:25:50.600
<v Speaker 1>If ask me that question? Do you pay me to

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<v Speaker 1>be here? Like gold on, I take a person. At

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<v Speaker 1>that point, I feel like I'm always jealous. It don't

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<v Speaker 1>take much to make me jealous, but I'm so player,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm not gonna You're not gonna know I'm jealous

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<v Speaker 1>about some ship, but I'm almost always jealous. Toxic that is?

0:26:11.000 --> 0:26:15.960
<v Speaker 1>How is that toxic? Because you don't express your jealousy,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't even express that ship. I think that's toxic.

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<v Speaker 1>How if I don't let you know if I'm if

0:26:25.320 --> 0:26:28.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't like something about whatever you're doing. I'd be like, hey, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't feel good about this. I don't like the

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<v Speaker 1>way you talk about Now we're gonna talk about I think.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I'm gonna be toxic, but I'm ampressing. What

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<v Speaker 1>do you mean? I mean? How do I just just

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<v Speaker 1>basically off this eighteen minute conversation we just had. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like, yeah, you might be toxic, babe, because you

0:26:49.520 --> 0:26:53.480
<v Speaker 1>just said, why are you expressing that you're jealous? After

0:26:53.560 --> 0:26:56.240
<v Speaker 1>knowing me for four days? And now you're telling actually, like,

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<v Speaker 1>why aren't you expressing it? That's toxic? That's what I said.

0:27:00.560 --> 0:27:03.240
<v Speaker 1>What I say was, it's all depending on your questions

0:27:03.280 --> 0:27:05.800
<v Speaker 1>and how you go about it. It's your approach, m

0:27:06.600 --> 0:27:09.400
<v Speaker 1>it's your it's your approach, like how you I think

0:27:09.440 --> 0:27:13.439
<v Speaker 1>it's all down to your tone, right, your energy, and

0:27:13.480 --> 0:27:17.240
<v Speaker 1>I feel those things and you could ask me the

0:27:17.280 --> 0:27:20.480
<v Speaker 1>most harsh question ever. But if you haven't the right

0:27:20.560 --> 0:27:24.600
<v Speaker 1>approach and the right that the right energy, I'll be oh, yeah, actually, yeah,

0:27:24.720 --> 0:27:29.160
<v Speaker 1>this did this happened? Lets you go, you go, whether

0:27:29.240 --> 0:27:34.040
<v Speaker 1>you versus so talk to me nice. Okay, So it's

0:27:34.040 --> 0:27:42.920
<v Speaker 1>the tone, virgo, talk to me nice? Can you give

0:27:42.960 --> 0:27:46.919
<v Speaker 1>examples of healthy jealousy. Like I was like looking at

0:27:46.960 --> 0:27:49.640
<v Speaker 1>a list of different things, and I didn't realize there

0:27:49.760 --> 0:27:55.720
<v Speaker 1>was such a thing as healthy jealousy. I think I'm very, uh,

0:27:55.920 --> 0:28:02.560
<v Speaker 1>territorial type of man. So I think I'm protective type

0:28:02.560 --> 0:28:05.480
<v Speaker 1>of guy. If you're my wife, my girl, or my

0:28:05.560 --> 0:28:09.840
<v Speaker 1>future girlfriend or a future fiance, I'll be protective because

0:28:09.840 --> 0:28:13.560
<v Speaker 1>I care about you, right, because I love you. So

0:28:13.640 --> 0:28:16.159
<v Speaker 1>if you love someone, you would have a sense of

0:28:17.960 --> 0:28:21.920
<v Speaker 1>um ownership. You own that you don't own her, but

0:28:22.040 --> 0:28:29.959
<v Speaker 1>you own the situation to your own situation, right, I

0:28:30.000 --> 0:28:34.720
<v Speaker 1>want you to feel protected. Your baby, you're good, Yeah,

0:28:34.800 --> 0:28:38.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm only calling to check up and you okay,

0:28:38.760 --> 0:28:40.640
<v Speaker 1>how was your day? Baby? By the time, would you

0:28:40.680 --> 0:28:42.680
<v Speaker 1>be hung? Okay? Let me know how it works, goes

0:28:42.760 --> 0:28:45.480
<v Speaker 1>allow you and mess you have a last baby, Bam.

0:28:45.680 --> 0:28:49.920
<v Speaker 1>That's just me making sure that you're good and I'm

0:28:49.960 --> 0:28:52.800
<v Speaker 1>good because if if I don't call you, you're the

0:28:52.840 --> 0:28:55.560
<v Speaker 1>same person who's gonna say, baby, how come? How come

0:28:55.640 --> 0:28:57.760
<v Speaker 1>you never come even the work even you know, quick call,

0:28:57.840 --> 0:29:01.000
<v Speaker 1>you know, even a text. So I make sure that

0:29:01.640 --> 0:29:03.920
<v Speaker 1>and also let me know, let me know if I'm

0:29:03.920 --> 0:29:07.880
<v Speaker 1>doing too much, you know, if you feel like I'm

0:29:07.920 --> 0:29:10.920
<v Speaker 1>too much in your case, just let me know. My

0:29:11.080 --> 0:29:14.920
<v Speaker 1>damn baby. Location says that you had burger king, but

0:29:14.960 --> 0:29:18.480
<v Speaker 1>it ain't your lunch break, so what you're doing there? Yeah,

0:29:18.560 --> 0:29:20.600
<v Speaker 1>I would be like, yo, baby, I called into this

0:29:20.680 --> 0:29:23.200
<v Speaker 1>phone call. We spoke for four minutes, and you told me.

0:29:23.280 --> 0:29:25.640
<v Speaker 1>You told me you're going to work, but that on

0:29:25.680 --> 0:29:28.120
<v Speaker 1>your white toop your online. So I'm trying to figure

0:29:28.960 --> 0:29:30.880
<v Speaker 1>if you're working or you're on the phone. It's on

0:29:31.240 --> 0:29:33.200
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. But like, I don't, I don't.

0:29:33.400 --> 0:29:35.400
<v Speaker 1>I don't think like that anymore. I used to think

0:29:35.480 --> 0:29:37.479
<v Speaker 1>like that. That's what I was about to say, because

0:29:37.840 --> 0:29:42.160
<v Speaker 1>you said tone right matters, right, So somebody can really

0:29:42.200 --> 0:29:45.240
<v Speaker 1>be like jealous and kind of stalker ish but have

0:29:45.320 --> 0:29:49.840
<v Speaker 1>a nice tone about their questions. Mhm, that that would

0:29:49.840 --> 0:29:53.200
<v Speaker 1>be you. You're calling with a nice tone about the question, right.

0:29:53.240 --> 0:29:55.600
<v Speaker 1>The woman could ask the very same thing, but her

0:29:55.640 --> 0:29:58.120
<v Speaker 1>tone is a little bit different. So then that that's

0:29:58.160 --> 0:30:03.280
<v Speaker 1>the bad jealousy. Yeah, think that's it. That's that's the

0:30:03.320 --> 0:30:06.880
<v Speaker 1>same ship. One person just being a little bit more finessy,

0:30:06.960 --> 0:30:11.120
<v Speaker 1>if that's even a word. Okay, you're just but you're

0:30:11.120 --> 0:30:15.640
<v Speaker 1>still like stalking me. You still acting asking me questions

0:30:15.720 --> 0:30:19.600
<v Speaker 1>that you shouldn't be asking me. Yeah, that's why we

0:30:19.760 --> 0:30:23.840
<v Speaker 1>have this thing called open communication. If you have any

0:30:23.880 --> 0:30:25.720
<v Speaker 1>problem with that, said, Oh, baby, I don't like the

0:30:25.720 --> 0:30:27.440
<v Speaker 1>way you talk to I don't like do you ask questions?

0:30:27.840 --> 0:30:31.640
<v Speaker 1>How do I just trust? How about whatever? Right? That's me?

0:30:31.880 --> 0:30:36.400
<v Speaker 1>Like if something bothers me, yoh, we're gonna talk about it.

0:30:37.040 --> 0:30:41.360
<v Speaker 1>In fact, I'll book it in my calendar. Yo, baby, Tuesday,

0:30:41.520 --> 0:30:45.400
<v Speaker 1>five pm, we're gonna go to DMA. We're gonna talk

0:30:47.040 --> 0:30:50.280
<v Speaker 1>because it's it's it's all about protecting your mental So

0:30:50.560 --> 0:30:54.880
<v Speaker 1>if if you're attitudes start your affects my mental we

0:30:54.960 --> 0:30:58.920
<v Speaker 1>gotta talk about it. Man, it's my life first, right,

0:30:58.960 --> 0:31:00.880
<v Speaker 1>So when I say like, keep it in my mind

0:31:00.920 --> 0:31:04.160
<v Speaker 1>that that's not me not communicating because I am the

0:31:04.200 --> 0:31:06.680
<v Speaker 1>type of person that I have to communicate how I

0:31:06.680 --> 0:31:09.560
<v Speaker 1>feel about somethinghere else I can't sleep at night. So

0:31:09.800 --> 0:31:11.880
<v Speaker 1>it'd be like the small little things, Like I said,

0:31:11.880 --> 0:31:13.920
<v Speaker 1>I get jealous about everything. It'd be little ship that

0:31:13.960 --> 0:31:16.000
<v Speaker 1>I gotta keep to myself because it might be petty

0:31:16.280 --> 0:31:20.280
<v Speaker 1>for me to even ask you about it. Sho, I'm

0:31:20.320 --> 0:31:23.560
<v Speaker 1>gonna ask you about now those little things I duped,

0:31:23.760 --> 0:31:26.280
<v Speaker 1>I jopped, and then eventually one day you're gonna explode

0:31:26.720 --> 0:31:29.080
<v Speaker 1>from a little thing. So I always talk, man, it's

0:31:29.160 --> 0:31:35.440
<v Speaker 1>it's it's um. It's um therapeutic to just talk, because

0:31:35.440 --> 0:31:38.640
<v Speaker 1>that's that's all we have. Me I'm the opposite. I

0:31:38.680 --> 0:31:41.680
<v Speaker 1>don't get jealous about nothing. I don't never get jealous

0:31:41.680 --> 0:31:44.480
<v Speaker 1>and then be thinking like do you even care? But

0:31:44.600 --> 0:31:47.800
<v Speaker 1>I do care. If you don't get jealous, then it's

0:31:47.800 --> 0:31:50.480
<v Speaker 1>gonna be hard for me to trust you. Why I

0:31:50.480 --> 0:31:55.960
<v Speaker 1>don't get jealous, Like how I can trust you? Then

0:31:56.600 --> 0:32:00.360
<v Speaker 1>I would like be like okay for a lot of ship.

0:32:01.240 --> 0:32:05.000
<v Speaker 1>I mean yeah, but so nothing bothers you that a

0:32:05.040 --> 0:32:08.800
<v Speaker 1>man does with another woman. That's what we're saying. Like

0:32:08.840 --> 0:32:11.000
<v Speaker 1>if you talk to somebody and you see him doing

0:32:11.040 --> 0:32:14.920
<v Speaker 1>something or I don't know, so you don't get jealous

0:32:14.960 --> 0:32:18.120
<v Speaker 1>about anything and got a question of nigga about some ship,

0:32:18.160 --> 0:32:21.520
<v Speaker 1>That's that's what we're saying. Not really, I don't feel

0:32:21.560 --> 0:32:24.120
<v Speaker 1>like I get like really jealous and be like ready

0:32:24.160 --> 0:32:26.520
<v Speaker 1>to ask them something about some ship. I want you

0:32:26.560 --> 0:32:34.440
<v Speaker 1>to know how much ship now? Only jealous, only jealousy

0:32:34.440 --> 0:32:37.240
<v Speaker 1>and make you buy somebody windows who window? I said,

0:32:37.240 --> 0:32:40.480
<v Speaker 1>I bus whether you did it or not. Last week

0:32:40.520 --> 0:32:43.600
<v Speaker 1>you said he was busting windows that I don't think

0:32:43.640 --> 0:32:49.480
<v Speaker 1>that was jealousy. I think that was retaliation. It was different.

0:32:51.560 --> 0:33:00.400
<v Speaker 1>I think that's you holding on some ship for too long. Loaded.

0:33:00.840 --> 0:33:03.440
<v Speaker 1>I think that's what it is. And you see, that's

0:33:03.440 --> 0:33:09.040
<v Speaker 1>why I support and and and a champion girls oh man,

0:33:09.160 --> 0:33:16.320
<v Speaker 1>who who are very fearless to open conversations, like sometimes

0:33:16.360 --> 0:33:19.480
<v Speaker 1>it's not always pretty, just to talk about it, you

0:33:19.480 --> 0:33:21.520
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. So because I don't want to

0:33:21.520 --> 0:33:24.880
<v Speaker 1>be with someone for so long and it's like hiding

0:33:24.920 --> 0:33:26.920
<v Speaker 1>things in my heart and howdy how doing things? And

0:33:28.040 --> 0:33:32.120
<v Speaker 1>because I'm I'm a show temper, Like I have a

0:33:32.240 --> 0:33:35.640
<v Speaker 1>very show temper. So if I don't let my ship out,

0:33:37.080 --> 0:33:40.320
<v Speaker 1>eventually one day we're gonna have I don't w w

0:33:40.400 --> 0:33:43.600
<v Speaker 1>E Like, you know, it's not nice. Do you have

0:33:43.680 --> 0:33:46.320
<v Speaker 1>a time that you can remember where you acted out

0:33:46.320 --> 0:33:51.240
<v Speaker 1>of jealousy and you look back and it was like damn, yeah,

0:33:51.800 --> 0:33:53.479
<v Speaker 1>can you share with it? Can you share with us

0:33:53.520 --> 0:33:57.400
<v Speaker 1>one of those times? Um? Oh my god, yeah, I

0:33:57.440 --> 0:34:02.640
<v Speaker 1>should go on. I wasn't they performing right? Oh that's

0:34:02.640 --> 0:34:05.800
<v Speaker 1>a that's a bad one. Oh my god, I was

0:34:05.880 --> 0:34:10.879
<v Speaker 1>on stage performing my show, my gig. My girl came

0:34:10.920 --> 0:34:13.759
<v Speaker 1>to see me, right, so she was on the front row.

0:34:15.360 --> 0:34:17.839
<v Speaker 1>I'm doing my show performing, put your hands in the air,

0:34:18.000 --> 0:34:21.480
<v Speaker 1>singing my son. The band is doing good. I'm feeling good.

0:34:21.560 --> 0:34:24.759
<v Speaker 1>Whatever I saw my girl had baby, you know, I'm saying, like,

0:34:24.880 --> 0:34:27.960
<v Speaker 1>the vibe is great. And then there was this dude

0:34:28.080 --> 0:34:30.279
<v Speaker 1>that I don't really funk. I don't like this guy energy.

0:34:30.440 --> 0:34:33.840
<v Speaker 1>I just don't like this guy. But then because according

0:34:33.880 --> 0:34:37.600
<v Speaker 1>to the people, we were looking like so we kind

0:34:37.640 --> 0:34:40.160
<v Speaker 1>of have the same vibe, same high, you know what

0:34:40.160 --> 0:34:44.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. So that day what I was performing, he

0:34:44.840 --> 0:34:49.560
<v Speaker 1>just he walked straight out into my girl and start

0:34:49.600 --> 0:34:51.360
<v Speaker 1>talking to my girl like we spending some ship to

0:34:51.400 --> 0:34:54.160
<v Speaker 1>my girl, and while I'm actually doing my performance and

0:34:54.239 --> 0:34:59.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm seeing him doing that. And then after that he

0:34:59.160 --> 0:35:03.040
<v Speaker 1>stood ride behind my girl watching me. So my girl

0:35:03.200 --> 0:35:06.320
<v Speaker 1>was like in front of her and then he was

0:35:06.400 --> 0:35:08.840
<v Speaker 1>like behind her. So then it made it seemed like

0:35:08.960 --> 0:35:14.000
<v Speaker 1>they were together. So I'm doing my set, I shared

0:35:14.040 --> 0:35:19.080
<v Speaker 1>you not I caught my set short. That's that's the

0:35:19.120 --> 0:35:21.440
<v Speaker 1>go down't says to the audience. And I dressed that

0:35:21.560 --> 0:35:29.239
<v Speaker 1>nigga was m down, yo, mind you I'm performing White

0:35:29.320 --> 0:35:32.120
<v Speaker 1>Dot and I see this, this guy doing this, my girl,

0:35:32.400 --> 0:35:34.800
<v Speaker 1>you're good? Yeah, yeah, whatever you and my girl doing this.

0:35:34.920 --> 0:35:38.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm start looking up mind you she short looking up.

0:35:38.680 --> 0:35:41.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I know, I don't know why. I caught

0:35:41.719 --> 0:35:45.560
<v Speaker 1>my yo. I told my band Bloom got the song.

0:35:45.960 --> 0:35:49.480
<v Speaker 1>I put the mic back on the understand, I walked down.

0:35:50.280 --> 0:35:52.319
<v Speaker 1>I went to the guy. I'm like, my nigga, you're good, bro,

0:35:52.600 --> 0:35:57.360
<v Speaker 1>what's you doing? But my girand was like day, she

0:35:57.560 --> 0:36:00.600
<v Speaker 1>was like Chris, she was actually I mean, he was

0:36:00.640 --> 0:36:04.320
<v Speaker 1>actually begging you up. Now he wasn't stuff lying to me.

0:36:04.400 --> 0:36:06.839
<v Speaker 1>I know this guy. Now, he was actually begging you out.

0:36:07.520 --> 0:36:11.279
<v Speaker 1>You're lying to me man. One, I was embarrassed. Two,

0:36:11.520 --> 0:36:16.080
<v Speaker 1>he was actually telling her how good I was on stage.

0:36:16.680 --> 0:36:19.799
<v Speaker 1>That was embarrassing. Yeah, you're like, damn, he's doing this thing,

0:36:19.880 --> 0:36:22.360
<v Speaker 1>ain't it Now? I cut that ship short. That's the

0:36:22.480 --> 0:36:29.680
<v Speaker 1>last motherfucker song. Cut it right now. Let me talk

0:36:29.680 --> 0:36:33.480
<v Speaker 1>to you a real quick. Yeah. I think that's my

0:36:33.600 --> 0:36:35.759
<v Speaker 1>highlight of my jealousy moment. I think that's then the win.

0:36:35.840 --> 0:36:41.040
<v Speaker 1>I started to be more, you know, more open that

0:36:41.920 --> 0:36:44.319
<v Speaker 1>you don't own that person. She has her own life,

0:36:45.400 --> 0:36:47.719
<v Speaker 1>you know, learn how to trust your women. Don't trust

0:36:47.760 --> 0:36:49.799
<v Speaker 1>a guy, but learning how to trust a woman. That's

0:36:49.840 --> 0:36:52.080
<v Speaker 1>kind of how I am now, Like I'm learning how

0:36:52.120 --> 0:36:54.200
<v Speaker 1>to trust the person I'm with because I know her.

0:36:54.280 --> 0:36:57.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't know whoever it comes to her comes to home.

0:36:57.600 --> 0:37:01.320
<v Speaker 1>Because most of my women are also attractive. It's flattering

0:37:01.400 --> 0:37:04.880
<v Speaker 1>when niggas want your girl, that that means that you've

0:37:04.920 --> 0:37:08.200
<v Speaker 1>got something good. That's good jealousy, right, So that's the

0:37:08.280 --> 0:37:10.440
<v Speaker 1>time where jealousy is good. So we should get into

0:37:10.680 --> 0:37:13.640
<v Speaker 1>the list that we have, you know, some some healthy

0:37:13.880 --> 0:37:16.919
<v Speaker 1>jealousy and a relationship. And that's actually like the first

0:37:17.000 --> 0:37:21.080
<v Speaker 1>one someone is giving flirtatious vibes to your partner, like

0:37:21.160 --> 0:37:23.040
<v Speaker 1>that can make you want them more, right, or it

0:37:23.080 --> 0:37:28.960
<v Speaker 1>can make you in your show? Oh man, you see

0:37:28.960 --> 0:37:31.160
<v Speaker 1>I think today's it's my first time pretty nast story.

0:37:31.200 --> 0:37:34.680
<v Speaker 1>Because my manager didn't understand what's happening. He was like, hey, Chris,

0:37:34.800 --> 0:37:36.920
<v Speaker 1>you got nine more minutes. What's going on? I mean,

0:37:36.960 --> 0:37:39.960
<v Speaker 1>we gotta pay for the full set? Go back on stage.

0:37:40.800 --> 0:37:42.239
<v Speaker 1>And then after that I couldn't go back. I was

0:37:42.280 --> 0:37:46.080
<v Speaker 1>like that, it's cool man, whatever you know. But definitely

0:37:46.640 --> 0:37:49.800
<v Speaker 1>I like the idea of people floating with my girlfriend,

0:37:50.040 --> 0:37:51.800
<v Speaker 1>but you just be able. I want you to handle it.

0:37:51.800 --> 0:37:54.400
<v Speaker 1>I want you to deal with it. Don't tell me

0:37:54.840 --> 0:37:56.399
<v Speaker 1>or tell me. I said, how I look at this guy?

0:37:56.960 --> 0:37:59.480
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. Yeah, so look, I'm a

0:37:59.560 --> 0:38:02.080
<v Speaker 1>gym in out and i'd be flirting and I want

0:38:02.120 --> 0:38:03.759
<v Speaker 1>to be able to flirt for the rest of my life.

0:38:03.800 --> 0:38:08.640
<v Speaker 1>So the second one is your partner is giving flirtatious

0:38:09.440 --> 0:38:12.120
<v Speaker 1>vibes to someone else. How would you feel about that?

0:38:13.160 --> 0:38:15.759
<v Speaker 1>I don't talk to her. You don't like it, though,

0:38:16.280 --> 0:38:20.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't like it. Do you flirt with other women

0:38:20.600 --> 0:38:26.160
<v Speaker 1>while in the relationship? Let me think I don't because

0:38:27.080 --> 0:38:31.680
<v Speaker 1>I don't because if I'm with you, because I'm a

0:38:31.800 --> 0:38:37.879
<v Speaker 1>fan of you, because I enjoy your your physique, your

0:38:38.040 --> 0:38:40.920
<v Speaker 1>your mind, your everything. Like I don't get with you

0:38:41.160 --> 0:38:44.600
<v Speaker 1>just because of beaty. No, it's because I just like

0:38:44.800 --> 0:38:46.960
<v Speaker 1>what I'm seeing and I wanted the thing for me

0:38:48.400 --> 0:38:51.400
<v Speaker 1>if I learnt. That's where it's kind of like, I

0:38:51.440 --> 0:38:54.160
<v Speaker 1>mean much you consider flirting though, because flirting could be

0:38:54.239 --> 0:38:56.880
<v Speaker 1>just like a little too laughy, a little too jokey

0:38:56.920 --> 0:38:59.759
<v Speaker 1>with a woman this outside of your relationship, Like, yeah,

0:38:59.800 --> 0:39:03.200
<v Speaker 1>I might be like looking at flirting even though it's

0:39:03.239 --> 0:39:07.839
<v Speaker 1>not that d It's not I'm a I'm a flirty guy.

0:39:08.160 --> 0:39:13.879
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, it's not har do it right, we're talking

0:39:13.880 --> 0:39:17.160
<v Speaker 1>about your partner. Yeah, so so so now I'm a

0:39:17.280 --> 0:39:19.640
<v Speaker 1>flirty woman. Like I'm a flirty woman, but I don't

0:39:19.680 --> 0:39:22.080
<v Speaker 1>mean no harm and I don't want to be with

0:39:22.200 --> 0:39:25.439
<v Speaker 1>this other person. I just like to talk to people. Yeah,

0:39:25.480 --> 0:39:27.440
<v Speaker 1>I think that's me too. I think I'm a very

0:39:27.560 --> 0:39:31.560
<v Speaker 1>nice guy, and some guys and get the wrong message,

0:39:31.640 --> 0:39:33.680
<v Speaker 1>Like I had girls send me gifts because that though

0:39:33.880 --> 0:39:36.920
<v Speaker 1>we were working on something. I'm like, no, we just

0:39:38.239 --> 0:39:41.080
<v Speaker 1>you know, we just whatever that is friends, so and

0:39:41.120 --> 0:39:43.280
<v Speaker 1>then y'a saying and then't blocking me everywhere I'm following

0:39:43.280 --> 0:39:46.719
<v Speaker 1>me ship. But it's kind of like I'm a nice guy,

0:39:46.800 --> 0:39:49.239
<v Speaker 1>you know, I'm a brand, you know, Like for me,

0:39:49.600 --> 0:39:52.040
<v Speaker 1>I see that as a new customer, as a new

0:39:52.120 --> 0:39:56.000
<v Speaker 1>consumer as well. I'm not gonna rule that bag because

0:39:56.080 --> 0:39:58.520
<v Speaker 1>it's a nice way to roll that up. Mind you,

0:39:58.640 --> 0:40:03.680
<v Speaker 1>if if no one moving to your partner, you should

0:40:03.680 --> 0:40:10.920
<v Speaker 1>be worried, Why don't yes, exactly? Okay, my last boyfriend

0:40:11.040 --> 0:40:14.640
<v Speaker 1>wasn't the most attractive, and but I loved him for

0:40:14.719 --> 0:40:19.160
<v Speaker 1>different reasons like his personality you Mogus did, Yeah, like

0:40:19.280 --> 0:40:24.760
<v Speaker 1>you Mogus did, and but he wasn't the most attractive looking.

0:40:25.440 --> 0:40:27.360
<v Speaker 1>But you know what I thought, I was never jealous

0:40:27.440 --> 0:40:33.279
<v Speaker 1>in that aspect. I think it's important, you know. For me,

0:40:34.000 --> 0:40:38.960
<v Speaker 1>I've always go for the look first. I'm sorry, most man,

0:40:39.080 --> 0:40:45.359
<v Speaker 1>that's most men, visual preachers like aesthetic. Oh, I never

0:40:45.440 --> 0:40:49.000
<v Speaker 1>gonna figure out the rest, you know, And I could

0:40:49.080 --> 0:40:52.759
<v Speaker 1>keep you too, if if if if, if you good

0:40:52.800 --> 0:40:59.719
<v Speaker 1>at you know sax or good at COFFI I can't

0:40:59.719 --> 0:41:03.960
<v Speaker 1>stand and bad you turns me off man, right man?

0:41:04.719 --> 0:41:06.879
<v Speaker 1>I used to date this girl in time. She had

0:41:07.120 --> 0:41:10.600
<v Speaker 1>money and she had a big house, she had everything,

0:41:11.200 --> 0:41:13.359
<v Speaker 1>but she had a worse eyted you. That couldn't be wrong.

0:41:14.239 --> 0:41:18.840
<v Speaker 1>So number three on the list was your partners bragging

0:41:18.920 --> 0:41:22.800
<v Speaker 1>when you're in a rough place. That's supposed to be healthy,

0:41:22.880 --> 0:41:26.880
<v Speaker 1>jealousy when you're jealous because they're in a good spot

0:41:27.000 --> 0:41:28.840
<v Speaker 1>and they're bragging on their ship, and then you're in

0:41:28.920 --> 0:41:32.319
<v Speaker 1>a rough space. Just let's say your song is doing

0:41:32.480 --> 0:41:37.879
<v Speaker 1>numbers and you're like excited about it and my life

0:41:37.920 --> 0:41:47.520
<v Speaker 1>show just got canceled. Yo, You're so stupid and you

0:41:47.640 --> 0:41:50.400
<v Speaker 1>come hard a healthy jealousy because I could make me

0:41:50.560 --> 0:41:53.480
<v Speaker 1>feel better about what what's going on with me because

0:41:53.560 --> 0:41:55.680
<v Speaker 1>you had a good day, because something went well for

0:41:55.800 --> 0:41:58.960
<v Speaker 1>my partner, right, so yeah, what what what? What I'm

0:41:59.080 --> 0:42:02.080
<v Speaker 1>experiencing could be sucked up. But at the same time,

0:42:02.160 --> 0:42:05.080
<v Speaker 1>I could be jealous, you know, but not like so

0:42:05.239 --> 0:42:07.920
<v Speaker 1>I want to funk up his damn whatever he has

0:42:08.040 --> 0:42:11.800
<v Speaker 1>going on, but it would make me feel good that

0:42:11.960 --> 0:42:14.360
<v Speaker 1>he has a good thing happening all while I'm fucked

0:42:14.400 --> 0:42:17.640
<v Speaker 1>up for the day. Now, for me, it's more like

0:42:19.040 --> 0:42:22.239
<v Speaker 1>your happiness is it's my happiness. Like I'll be happy

0:42:22.239 --> 0:42:25.440
<v Speaker 1>for you because because because the way I was built,

0:42:25.840 --> 0:42:28.960
<v Speaker 1>you know, always being inspired by people's success and and

0:42:29.120 --> 0:42:33.719
<v Speaker 1>and in progress. It's like, I don't know how to

0:42:33.840 --> 0:42:40.000
<v Speaker 1>be jealous. I don't know how to just because see me,

0:42:40.360 --> 0:42:42.680
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if I could handle it that way.

0:42:42.719 --> 0:42:45.160
<v Speaker 1>If I'm like really sitting in the midst of upset

0:42:45.280 --> 0:42:50.000
<v Speaker 1>over all that I've taken and you're bragging, I might

0:42:50.160 --> 0:42:53.840
<v Speaker 1>like express some happiness for you, but I will also say, like,

0:42:55.520 --> 0:42:57.200
<v Speaker 1>I know I probably could be a little bit more

0:42:57.280 --> 0:42:59.919
<v Speaker 1>happy for you right now, but I'm just really upset

0:43:00.080 --> 0:43:04.879
<v Speaker 1>about my live show. But I'm so happy that they're

0:43:04.920 --> 0:43:08.200
<v Speaker 1>happened for you, But give me. I think I think

0:43:08.239 --> 0:43:12.560
<v Speaker 1>your partners should have at least emotional you know, intelligence

0:43:12.640 --> 0:43:14.879
<v Speaker 1>to know when to celebrate, you know, to know when

0:43:14.960 --> 0:43:19.960
<v Speaker 1>to what I'm saying like, they should just know that's

0:43:20.000 --> 0:43:22.759
<v Speaker 1>not we can't make those assumptions. That's how should get

0:43:22.840 --> 0:43:25.080
<v Speaker 1>sucked up, you know what I'm saying, like, yeah, you

0:43:25.120 --> 0:43:27.200
<v Speaker 1>would love for them to just know when not to

0:43:27.280 --> 0:43:29.680
<v Speaker 1>come home bragging. But I mean if I didn't know,

0:43:29.800 --> 0:43:31.520
<v Speaker 1>and I just come home and tell you my good thing,

0:43:31.600 --> 0:43:33.880
<v Speaker 1>and then you don't have a good thing to share,

0:43:34.080 --> 0:43:36.720
<v Speaker 1>you know. So the next one says, um, your partner

0:43:36.760 --> 0:43:40.360
<v Speaker 1>treats another activity like a second relationship. So that's essentially

0:43:40.440 --> 0:43:43.359
<v Speaker 1>what you were experiencing with this woman, you know, while

0:43:43.640 --> 0:43:47.000
<v Speaker 1>you're you know, in the music industry. This is your career,

0:43:47.239 --> 0:43:51.759
<v Speaker 1>right and she was jealous about that essentially yea and

0:43:51.840 --> 0:43:54.280
<v Speaker 1>all the things that comes comes with it. I guess

0:43:54.960 --> 0:43:56.880
<v Speaker 1>you know what's funny, Actually, you know I came with

0:43:56.960 --> 0:43:59.680
<v Speaker 1>your stair. I just I don't care no more about

0:44:00.960 --> 0:44:06.960
<v Speaker 1>what my partner thinks about me as well, because I'm

0:44:07.000 --> 0:44:08.920
<v Speaker 1>coming to let me break it down. Let me let

0:44:08.920 --> 0:44:11.120
<v Speaker 1>me explain it, right. It's kind of like, do you

0:44:11.200 --> 0:44:14.040
<v Speaker 1>know when you have this self love and you know

0:44:14.440 --> 0:44:18.520
<v Speaker 1>you just love your life, you feel like, look, I

0:44:18.600 --> 0:44:23.160
<v Speaker 1>don't need you. I want you to be my partner, right,

0:44:23.400 --> 0:44:29.200
<v Speaker 1>So I'm basically removing that burden of of needed right,

0:44:29.400 --> 0:44:31.279
<v Speaker 1>like there is no pressure. I just want you to

0:44:31.400 --> 0:44:35.080
<v Speaker 1>be you for me, Like I'm expecting nothing but love

0:44:35.239 --> 0:44:39.000
<v Speaker 1>and respect from you, right, and then I want you

0:44:41.000 --> 0:44:44.920
<v Speaker 1>I'll also give you the same. Let's have that because

0:44:44.960 --> 0:44:47.960
<v Speaker 1>like all the extra ship it brings, it brings nothing

0:44:48.000 --> 0:44:53.200
<v Speaker 1>but unhappiness, toxicity, and stress. So what I'm saying, if

0:44:53.239 --> 0:44:58.520
<v Speaker 1>you stress my life for for too long, I'll walk away.

0:44:59.360 --> 0:45:01.480
<v Speaker 1>That is because I care about my life so much

0:45:01.640 --> 0:45:05.200
<v Speaker 1>and I just started living, and I'm saying, my life

0:45:05.280 --> 0:45:08.000
<v Speaker 1>is moving forward and I want you to be a

0:45:08.080 --> 0:45:11.600
<v Speaker 1>part of it. You know what I'm saying, Let's let's

0:45:11.640 --> 0:45:16.919
<v Speaker 1>talk about that. Let's talk about life. Let's talk about life.

0:45:18.360 --> 0:45:20.880
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying, Like all the jealousies, I mean,

0:45:21.040 --> 0:45:24.839
<v Speaker 1>you can't control me. I can't control you, So I'm

0:45:24.920 --> 0:45:27.680
<v Speaker 1>only hoping that you're not gonna hurt me vice versa.

0:45:28.080 --> 0:45:30.719
<v Speaker 1>That's the truth though, the reason why I don't do

0:45:30.880 --> 0:45:36.480
<v Speaker 1>those things because I have self discipline for me. So

0:45:36.760 --> 0:45:39.440
<v Speaker 1>that's why I guess so upset when they just doubt

0:45:39.520 --> 0:45:42.520
<v Speaker 1>you that they don't like what why what? Why are

0:45:42.560 --> 0:45:47.440
<v Speaker 1>you assuming that I'm doing something wrong? Do you have proof? Oh?

0:45:47.560 --> 0:45:49.399
<v Speaker 1>That's what, that's what. That's what we get toxic because

0:45:49.440 --> 0:45:53.440
<v Speaker 1>now you you wanna argue. Okay, let's go. Let's go

0:45:53.680 --> 0:45:59.600
<v Speaker 1>like I got time. Because now, because you can't understand,

0:45:59.640 --> 0:46:02.920
<v Speaker 1>most of my songs came from toxicity. My my third single,

0:46:03.600 --> 0:46:08.880
<v Speaker 1>it came from toxicity literally every words. So sometimes you know,

0:46:09.280 --> 0:46:13.680
<v Speaker 1>my create situation just to be inspired to keep these

0:46:13.760 --> 0:46:16.359
<v Speaker 1>women around, like these toxic women, so they can keep

0:46:16.400 --> 0:46:20.240
<v Speaker 1>your content very lively. I got hunted for the songs.

0:46:22.840 --> 0:46:26.800
<v Speaker 1>Hunting for the songs and and and all songs is

0:46:26.880 --> 0:46:30.840
<v Speaker 1>based on reality. See, somebody, I don't understand how this

0:46:31.040 --> 0:46:34.880
<v Speaker 1>is healthy? Uh, jealousy. The next one says, your partner

0:46:34.960 --> 0:46:37.160
<v Speaker 1>goes on the trip or has an experienced that you

0:46:37.280 --> 0:46:39.680
<v Speaker 1>aren't a part of. Now. See, I was the same

0:46:39.719 --> 0:46:42.200
<v Speaker 1>guy that I was talking about earlier. I was living

0:46:42.239 --> 0:46:45.040
<v Speaker 1>in Florida at the time and one of my co

0:46:45.160 --> 0:46:48.120
<v Speaker 1>workers I was working for Alta and there was this

0:46:48.320 --> 0:46:51.560
<v Speaker 1>fifty something year old white lady that worked with me,

0:46:51.680 --> 0:46:53.759
<v Speaker 1>and she just worked to have something to do. She

0:46:53.960 --> 0:46:57.279
<v Speaker 1>was very wealthy and they had a private plane, her

0:46:57.360 --> 0:47:01.120
<v Speaker 1>and her husband, and he was the pilot and she

0:47:01.280 --> 0:47:03.160
<v Speaker 1>was and she was just so smitten with me, and

0:47:03.280 --> 0:47:07.080
<v Speaker 1>she was like, we're both off on Tuesday. Let's get

0:47:07.160 --> 0:47:09.080
<v Speaker 1>on the plane and let's go to Atlanta and let's

0:47:09.080 --> 0:47:12.359
<v Speaker 1>go shopping. M And I'm like, hell yeah, I ain't

0:47:12.360 --> 0:47:15.759
<v Speaker 1>never wrote on the PJ before, right, right. So then

0:47:15.840 --> 0:47:19.000
<v Speaker 1>I talked to my man about it, and he forbid

0:47:19.080 --> 0:47:24.920
<v Speaker 1>me to go insecure because he couldn't go that's a mess. Stop, yo,

0:47:25.600 --> 0:47:28.920
<v Speaker 1>I've paid a trip to my girl just to go

0:47:29.000 --> 0:47:33.440
<v Speaker 1>have phone. Yes, you know your money, pucket money, go

0:47:33.560 --> 0:47:35.200
<v Speaker 1>with your friend, had some far I see you next week.

0:47:35.560 --> 0:47:38.080
<v Speaker 1>I'll see you on Tuesdays. Because I don't see how

0:47:38.160 --> 0:47:41.400
<v Speaker 1>that's healthy jealousy. This is the healthy jealousy list. He

0:47:41.520 --> 0:47:46.280
<v Speaker 1>not lived. No, he's not happy, he's he's just insecure. Basically,

0:47:46.560 --> 0:47:48.920
<v Speaker 1>he never imagined you'd been in proper yet. And he

0:47:48.960 --> 0:47:50.480
<v Speaker 1>didn't want me on that plane. He was like, what

0:47:50.560 --> 0:47:52.719
<v Speaker 1>they trying to do? Funk you on the plane. I'm like, no,

0:47:55.800 --> 0:47:58.680
<v Speaker 1>you got a friend. That's fifty not he didn't see

0:48:01.360 --> 0:48:06.000
<v Speaker 1>he didn't he didn't see it coming. You didn't know

0:48:06.080 --> 0:48:07.719
<v Speaker 1>that one day, my good might be in the proper jet.

0:48:10.960 --> 0:48:18.399
<v Speaker 1>He only saw you been a boss trained uber's talking

0:48:18.400 --> 0:48:21.319
<v Speaker 1>about what do you mean, how is it possible doing

0:48:21.400 --> 0:48:30.719
<v Speaker 1>that ship without me in the air? Didn't Oh wow,

0:48:32.040 --> 0:48:33.640
<v Speaker 1>I would have. I would have went and we would

0:48:33.680 --> 0:48:36.359
<v Speaker 1>have broke up. Oh did y'all live together though? Yeah?

0:48:36.440 --> 0:48:38.640
<v Speaker 1>We lived together. Just to keep the peace in my house.

0:48:38.880 --> 0:48:42.120
<v Speaker 1>I just didn't go. You know, imagine him being invited

0:48:42.200 --> 0:48:45.360
<v Speaker 1>onto a private jet and you causing some rockets and

0:48:45.480 --> 0:48:47.600
<v Speaker 1>him he would still have wind and just you would

0:48:47.640 --> 0:48:54.200
<v Speaker 1>have Just that's where things be. That's unfair because like

0:48:54.440 --> 0:48:56.120
<v Speaker 1>you would have been careful him to go, because he's

0:48:56.160 --> 0:49:01.360
<v Speaker 1>a man exactly like my, my, my, my. When I

0:49:01.440 --> 0:49:04.480
<v Speaker 1>have a girl, if you guys, don't you know nowadays

0:49:04.560 --> 0:49:07.480
<v Speaker 1>for some reason, girlfriends they got a bunch of many friends.

0:49:07.520 --> 0:49:09.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't know what it is about that ship, right,

0:49:09.600 --> 0:49:12.879
<v Speaker 1>but I get it right, I get the same way.

0:49:16.440 --> 0:49:19.359
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying, So I understand. So if

0:49:19.480 --> 0:49:23.760
<v Speaker 1>my girl has to go out with some man friends

0:49:23.800 --> 0:49:28.279
<v Speaker 1>for gold card or do you know what, I don't

0:49:28.280 --> 0:49:34.320
<v Speaker 1>allow cinema. That's one thing I don't allow together. No,

0:49:34.680 --> 0:49:36.160
<v Speaker 1>you're not gonna go with the main friends and movies.

0:49:36.239 --> 0:49:37.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't know because I know what I do in

0:49:37.560 --> 0:49:40.759
<v Speaker 1>the movies. If you're my friend, what you do in

0:49:40.800 --> 0:49:44.319
<v Speaker 1>the movies. I'm an artist. I'm saying, I'm trying. I'm

0:49:44.360 --> 0:49:46.480
<v Speaker 1>talking for inspiration. So I know what I did the

0:49:46.560 --> 0:49:51.120
<v Speaker 1>movie saying I'm trying to find you inspiration. Uh, I

0:49:51.239 --> 0:49:54.680
<v Speaker 1>just know what I do. So if it nigger, who

0:49:54.800 --> 0:49:58.400
<v Speaker 1>is it? Who is a female friend? Of all the places?

0:49:58.760 --> 0:50:02.759
<v Speaker 1>Nickle that win? He said, movies, No, nig I'm going

0:50:02.800 --> 0:50:09.080
<v Speaker 1>with you, nigga right be at the black at the back,

0:50:09.239 --> 0:50:12.759
<v Speaker 1>just making sure you know what I'm watching my movie.

0:50:12.960 --> 0:50:15.920
<v Speaker 1>Don't mind me to do your thing. No, that's not

0:50:16.040 --> 0:50:19.360
<v Speaker 1>fair because I'm dripping that we go to the movies,

0:50:19.520 --> 0:50:21.799
<v Speaker 1>and it's just batonic because I like to watch horror

0:50:21.880 --> 0:50:24.600
<v Speaker 1>films and the guy was dealing with did not like

0:50:24.840 --> 0:50:28.040
<v Speaker 1>horror films. So my homeboy, we would go see scary movies.

0:50:28.480 --> 0:50:30.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna go with you. I'll get used to it.

0:50:30.760 --> 0:50:35.560
<v Speaker 1>I watched I watched a few thous in advent. I

0:50:35.600 --> 0:50:38.560
<v Speaker 1>will get used to it now, I mean for me, again,

0:50:38.680 --> 0:50:42.279
<v Speaker 1>it's it's all about trust, right, but certain things you

0:50:42.480 --> 0:50:45.640
<v Speaker 1>just know you know. Um. For me, I think that

0:50:46.360 --> 0:50:49.200
<v Speaker 1>if you are in a relationship, you know, you gotta

0:50:49.239 --> 0:50:53.440
<v Speaker 1>conduct yourself and sush because you're not single. So I

0:50:53.640 --> 0:50:58.800
<v Speaker 1>think that, Um, it's it's complicated. Man. Again, being jealous

0:50:58.960 --> 0:51:01.399
<v Speaker 1>it's a good thing. It is getting messed up when

0:51:01.600 --> 0:51:03.600
<v Speaker 1>you don't know how to control it. I think everyone

0:51:03.719 --> 0:51:08.080
<v Speaker 1>is jealous. My poppylar, jealous, my dog and jealous. Come

0:51:08.120 --> 0:51:11.080
<v Speaker 1>on now, yeah, it's just natural, you know what I'm saying.

0:51:11.239 --> 0:51:13.960
<v Speaker 1>When I spent too much time with friends, are like

0:51:14.120 --> 0:51:15.920
<v Speaker 1>doing to my stuff and then I don't give attention.

0:51:15.960 --> 0:51:17.719
<v Speaker 1>She's gonna scratch my leg. That's gonna give me some

0:51:17.840 --> 0:51:22.920
<v Speaker 1>ash legs and ship. Yeah, but j'al is it. It's

0:51:22.960 --> 0:51:26.080
<v Speaker 1>a it's a feeling that you just uh you know,

0:51:26.800 --> 0:51:30.759
<v Speaker 1>a manager, right. So um. At the top of the

0:51:31.040 --> 0:51:34.360
<v Speaker 1>unhealthy list, the very first one is they want you alone.

0:51:34.920 --> 0:51:37.480
<v Speaker 1>And this is like they want you alone all the time,

0:51:37.719 --> 0:51:39.239
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, Like they're trying to take

0:51:39.320 --> 0:51:42.160
<v Speaker 1>up every moment of your free time. I know. I

0:51:42.280 --> 0:51:43.880
<v Speaker 1>was talking to somebody just the other day and she

0:51:44.040 --> 0:51:47.040
<v Speaker 1>was talking about her daughter and how you know, her

0:51:47.080 --> 0:51:48.759
<v Speaker 1>daughter just came up for work. Her and a guy

0:51:49.000 --> 0:51:52.360
<v Speaker 1>like FaceTime all the time, every day, all all throughout

0:51:52.360 --> 0:51:54.080
<v Speaker 1>the day. They live. They live in separate houses. They

0:51:54.120 --> 0:51:56.600
<v Speaker 1>always face time and right. So this particular day, she

0:51:56.680 --> 0:51:58.319
<v Speaker 1>came up from work and she just wanted to chill

0:51:58.480 --> 0:52:02.440
<v Speaker 1>her daughter. So the guy was like, Okay, you want

0:52:02.440 --> 0:52:06.759
<v Speaker 1>to chill, I'll talk to you next week Sunday. Like

0:52:06.880 --> 0:52:11.120
<v Speaker 1>that's abuse because you don't want to face time because

0:52:11.160 --> 0:52:13.040
<v Speaker 1>you just want to chill and have some you time,

0:52:13.840 --> 0:52:15.879
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna punish you and tell you okay, then I'm

0:52:15.920 --> 0:52:19.120
<v Speaker 1>not going to talk to you until next week Sunday. Then. See,

0:52:20.120 --> 0:52:23.120
<v Speaker 1>that's not even that's not even toxicity at this point.

0:52:23.160 --> 0:52:29.239
<v Speaker 1>That's just been that's hitler, bro, That's just it's abusive,

0:52:29.520 --> 0:52:31.520
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. So jealousy can be good.

0:52:31.560 --> 0:52:35.320
<v Speaker 1>There's healthy jealousy and there's the abusive. But that's no jealousy.

0:52:35.400 --> 0:52:42.360
<v Speaker 1>That's controlling. That's that's that's that's them trying to literally

0:52:42.440 --> 0:52:49.000
<v Speaker 1>manipulate your your mind. Mm hmm. And I'm not gonna lie.

0:52:50.760 --> 0:52:53.640
<v Speaker 1>I was never that type of guy, but I always

0:52:53.640 --> 0:52:57.719
<v Speaker 1>wanted to feel like I'm controlling something until when I

0:52:57.880 --> 0:53:01.320
<v Speaker 1>lost that something or that someone that taught me that

0:53:02.840 --> 0:53:08.000
<v Speaker 1>you can only control yourself. That's it, right, I can

0:53:08.080 --> 0:53:13.080
<v Speaker 1>only control me. But I think it comes with with practice. Man,

0:53:13.320 --> 0:53:17.239
<v Speaker 1>it's really all here. It's it's mental, you know, learning

0:53:17.280 --> 0:53:23.280
<v Speaker 1>how to I'm learning how to respect and control yourself.

0:53:24.520 --> 0:53:30.800
<v Speaker 1>That's uh, some emotional excuse right there. So yeah, so

0:53:31.000 --> 0:53:33.360
<v Speaker 1>I think that you can't teach your men how to

0:53:33.440 --> 0:53:36.239
<v Speaker 1>love you. There's you know, what to do with you.

0:53:36.719 --> 0:53:39.920
<v Speaker 1>If they don't you have, you can't teach them unless

0:53:40.040 --> 0:53:41.800
<v Speaker 1>you have a weird power to change your or to

0:53:41.840 --> 0:53:44.520
<v Speaker 1>do better the man, right, because I do. But I

0:53:44.600 --> 0:53:47.680
<v Speaker 1>do feel like, yeah, so yeah, when I always have

0:53:47.760 --> 0:53:50.360
<v Speaker 1>to teach people how you want to be treated, you

0:53:50.719 --> 0:53:52.879
<v Speaker 1>kind of have to guide people in a way because

0:53:52.880 --> 0:53:54.879
<v Speaker 1>they'll just you know, they'll handle you how the last

0:53:54.920 --> 0:53:56.920
<v Speaker 1>person allowed them. Yeah. But also it's kind of like,

0:53:57.160 --> 0:53:59.399
<v Speaker 1>come on, if I want to be with time bam

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<v Speaker 1>or edge A, right, I should be in this eight

0:54:02.280 --> 0:54:04.160
<v Speaker 1>five percent awhere kind of I know what to do,

0:54:04.280 --> 0:54:08.680
<v Speaker 1>I know how to behave at least, and then it's

0:54:08.719 --> 0:54:11.600
<v Speaker 1>me studying you been learning how you as a person,

0:54:11.880 --> 0:54:16.480
<v Speaker 1>But you shouldn't teach me how to love you tell

0:54:16.560 --> 0:54:19.040
<v Speaker 1>me things you like and things that you don't like,

0:54:20.120 --> 0:54:25.719
<v Speaker 1>and then with the help of my emotional skill capacity,

0:54:25.760 --> 0:54:29.440
<v Speaker 1>I'll be able to to navigate through your universe. Because

0:54:29.560 --> 0:54:34.560
<v Speaker 1>it's because because being a woman, it's a whole. It's

0:54:34.560 --> 0:54:39.400
<v Speaker 1>a whole university. Man, you gotta learn that ship if

0:54:39.480 --> 0:54:42.080
<v Speaker 1>you if you're dumb from the jump, you're not gonna

0:54:42.080 --> 0:54:46.000
<v Speaker 1>handle that ship. It's really intellect like to make me

0:54:46.080 --> 0:54:54.960
<v Speaker 1>to go to woman university. Women I had, they're all

0:54:55.040 --> 0:55:00.759
<v Speaker 1>gonna fail. The men too. That's the thing. Women were

0:55:00.840 --> 0:55:03.000
<v Speaker 1>just different. Men and women are just different. So if

0:55:03.040 --> 0:55:07.320
<v Speaker 1>there was such a thing man university, women university, we

0:55:07.600 --> 0:55:12.359
<v Speaker 1>may all fail because we're just differ. And I would

0:55:12.360 --> 0:55:14.520
<v Speaker 1>be good at some of the classes. But me too,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean some of them. But you know, men don't

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<v Speaker 1>think most men do not happen, not when it comes

0:55:21.320 --> 0:55:25.759
<v Speaker 1>to not when it comes to women. No, uh yeah,

0:55:25.960 --> 0:55:29.160
<v Speaker 1>I just love you with you, that's fine. I think.

0:55:31.360 --> 0:55:33.839
<v Speaker 1>Hold on, let's talk about it, right. I think there's

0:55:33.880 --> 0:55:37.239
<v Speaker 1>some men having tigty. I think I do. It's a

0:55:37.360 --> 0:55:42.520
<v Speaker 1>small percentage of men. Yeah, more percentage. I would love

0:55:42.600 --> 0:55:44.840
<v Speaker 1>to be in not you know what I'm saying. In

0:55:45.239 --> 0:55:48.840
<v Speaker 1>a minority like, I don't mind because I think that

0:55:50.480 --> 0:55:54.560
<v Speaker 1>what I enjoy the most now, maybe because now I'm

0:55:54.600 --> 0:55:56.600
<v Speaker 1>more mature or more woke, I don't know what it is.

0:55:56.760 --> 0:56:01.399
<v Speaker 1>I enjoyed the process of knowing someone. I think that's

0:56:01.440 --> 0:56:07.840
<v Speaker 1>the most beautiful experience because it's beautiful learning how to talk,

0:56:08.160 --> 0:56:12.960
<v Speaker 1>learning the the body languages, things that piste them off,

0:56:13.760 --> 0:56:17.160
<v Speaker 1>or the like, or what type of conversation they like,

0:56:17.680 --> 0:56:20.239
<v Speaker 1>while vibe their own white music, that listening to what

0:56:20.360 --> 0:56:25.319
<v Speaker 1>artists that like. Just that stage, you know, I think

0:56:25.360 --> 0:56:28.560
<v Speaker 1>that that's beautiful. You know, I don't I don't rush

0:56:28.600 --> 0:56:30.480
<v Speaker 1>that stage anymore like I used to rush, like they

0:56:30.560 --> 0:56:33.440
<v Speaker 1>just smash, just have sex. But as you grow, you

0:56:33.520 --> 0:56:36.440
<v Speaker 1>want quality, right, So quality it comes to me patience

0:56:38.360 --> 0:56:40.480
<v Speaker 1>and what I'm saying, so you you have to build

0:56:40.520 --> 0:56:43.640
<v Speaker 1>that thing. You have to build quality because you can

0:56:43.760 --> 0:56:47.400
<v Speaker 1>have quality, right, I'm also have quality. But if we

0:56:47.440 --> 0:56:51.480
<v Speaker 1>don't build equality space, then we're just wasting time. So quality,

0:56:51.680 --> 0:56:55.520
<v Speaker 1>so quality space, you have to build it. So it

0:56:55.600 --> 0:56:59.560
<v Speaker 1>comes with with a lot of communication. So that process

0:56:59.640 --> 0:57:03.520
<v Speaker 1>of no someone new, it's it's it's always magical to me.

0:57:03.880 --> 0:57:07.759
<v Speaker 1>And as soon as you you you've mastered that, then

0:57:07.880 --> 0:57:10.359
<v Speaker 1>you guys. You guys are pretty much best friends. That's

0:57:10.400 --> 0:57:13.800
<v Speaker 1>how that was safety start. That's how you start feeling

0:57:13.880 --> 0:57:17.520
<v Speaker 1>safe and you know you know whatever you feel because

0:57:17.600 --> 0:57:20.560
<v Speaker 1>these men know me. So listen, y'all, when we come

0:57:20.640 --> 0:57:22.560
<v Speaker 1>back off this break, I'm gonna get into this dumb

0:57:22.600 --> 0:57:28.800
<v Speaker 1>Bach story. We'll be back dumb bitch stories because we've

0:57:28.840 --> 0:57:30.880
<v Speaker 1>all been a dumb Bach at least once or twice.

0:57:32.360 --> 0:57:34.960
<v Speaker 1>All right, listen, So this dumb Bach story comes from

0:57:35.040 --> 0:57:37.480
<v Speaker 1>one of our listeners. I believe this came out from Twitter.

0:57:38.000 --> 0:57:43.959
<v Speaker 1>If I'm not mistaken, Uh, please keep anonymous exclamation points. First,

0:57:44.040 --> 0:57:46.400
<v Speaker 1>let me say how much I love y'all podcasts and

0:57:46.520 --> 0:57:50.400
<v Speaker 1>how unapologetically you both are. Um, here's my dumb bag

0:57:50.480 --> 0:57:53.800
<v Speaker 1>story that y'all helped me out of. Beginning of the summer,

0:57:54.000 --> 0:57:57.480
<v Speaker 1>my ex and I got back in contact soon after

0:57:57.560 --> 0:57:59.840
<v Speaker 1>he got out of jail. We met up and he

0:58:00.040 --> 0:58:02.840
<v Speaker 1>fed me all the bs he could. We ended up

0:58:02.920 --> 0:58:07.960
<v Speaker 1>getting intimate, but nothing penetrative. Somewhere during this I listened

0:58:08.000 --> 0:58:10.840
<v Speaker 1>to one of your episodes and y'all mentioned how it's

0:58:10.960 --> 0:58:13.720
<v Speaker 1>possible for people to have her bees and not know

0:58:13.920 --> 0:58:17.800
<v Speaker 1>until getting tested. Bells went off when I heard that

0:58:18.120 --> 0:58:22.280
<v Speaker 1>especially since he gave me mono when we first got together.

0:58:23.640 --> 0:58:27.240
<v Speaker 1>So I got tested, and surely enough that bum gave

0:58:27.320 --> 0:58:31.160
<v Speaker 1>me clamidia. Ladies. I swear if I didn't listen to

0:58:31.320 --> 0:58:34.160
<v Speaker 1>y'all and get tested, I would not have known. So

0:58:34.680 --> 0:58:36.800
<v Speaker 1>so thank you for that. I wrote him a letter

0:58:36.920 --> 0:58:41.160
<v Speaker 1>telling him off, and I haven't contacted him since. Keep

0:58:41.240 --> 0:58:43.840
<v Speaker 1>on talking back, miss A j and Tam Bam is

0:58:43.920 --> 0:58:49.959
<v Speaker 1>clearly needed and gave you the clowp. That's the clown.

0:58:50.920 --> 0:58:52.960
<v Speaker 1>I don't confused that she said they weren't intimate. I

0:58:53.000 --> 0:58:57.160
<v Speaker 1>guess at some point they did get intimate. Thing. You

0:58:57.200 --> 0:59:00.200
<v Speaker 1>can't get clamidia from talking, and you can't just walk out.

0:59:00.240 --> 0:59:03.400
<v Speaker 1>You can't just fly from city to city with it either.

0:59:05.400 --> 0:59:08.240
<v Speaker 1>The fact that the man came from Peason, you don't

0:59:08.240 --> 0:59:14.360
<v Speaker 1>know who we're sucking him, so you know what I'm saying,

0:59:14.640 --> 0:59:18.280
<v Speaker 1>You don't know man, right, she might be lucky she

0:59:18.400 --> 0:59:23.400
<v Speaker 1>only had climedia. Yeah, if you made the climedia is treatable, right.

0:59:24.080 --> 0:59:25.800
<v Speaker 1>I have no idea, But I mean, if you make

0:59:25.920 --> 0:59:28.000
<v Speaker 1>him back from from jail after I don't know how

0:59:28.080 --> 0:59:31.160
<v Speaker 1>many years, best believe he did something to someone or

0:59:31.320 --> 0:59:34.320
<v Speaker 1>someone did something to him. So not coming home and

0:59:34.440 --> 0:59:37.000
<v Speaker 1>then started doesn't mean it has to be gay. They

0:59:37.120 --> 0:59:42.440
<v Speaker 1>could have the CEO or something like that about to judge. Man,

0:59:42.440 --> 0:59:46.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm just I'm just spinking from from Harry stories. Yeah.

0:59:46.240 --> 0:59:48.640
<v Speaker 1>I hate when people say that though, because there's something word.

0:59:48.720 --> 0:59:50.880
<v Speaker 1>I don't like women, right, I'm not a lesbian, so

0:59:51.080 --> 0:59:53.000
<v Speaker 1>something word to ever happened to me where I end

0:59:53.080 --> 0:59:56.520
<v Speaker 1>up in prison. I don't need sex to survive. That's

0:59:56.520 --> 0:59:58.600
<v Speaker 1>the same for men. So just because a man ends

0:59:58.680 --> 1:00:00.440
<v Speaker 1>up in prison for some reason, because none of us

1:00:00.480 --> 1:00:03.880
<v Speaker 1>are exempt, anything could happen. You know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>You can end up in that situation. You mean to

1:00:05.360 --> 1:00:07.960
<v Speaker 1>tell me you're gonna automatically be gay when you get this.

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<v Speaker 1>That doesn't make sense. You don't have to be gay too,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. I don't know, man, you

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<v Speaker 1>gotta be gay. No, I had to spend one time.

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<v Speaker 1>You told me. One time. I was walking to Bobby Shop.

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<v Speaker 1>When I walking in and this is Bob. He goes

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<v Speaker 1>to me, damn you look good, Damn you lucky. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not gay. I was like, huh, what it goes to me?

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<v Speaker 1>Damn you look good? Didn't go Damn you lucky? I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not gay, So so now what am I supposed to

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<v Speaker 1>do with the information, Like, Okay, should I said, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>should I say thank you? Or should I say? What

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<v Speaker 1>do you mean? You know what I'm saying? So I

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<v Speaker 1>was I wasn't sure. I was confused. It's kind of

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<v Speaker 1>I had no reaction because he said, damn me lucky,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gay. So I was like, kind of like, so,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all people whom they do some ship but they're gay.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean maybe he's mad enough to maybe, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>because I feel like the no homeo thing like that

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<v Speaker 1>men feel like they have to say is unnecessary if

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<v Speaker 1>you're not gay, Like but anything, y'all make everything y'all

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<v Speaker 1>do gay not us Like y'all can't even even to

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<v Speaker 1>go without feeling gay, Glizzie, they'd be breaking the popping

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<v Speaker 1>it in their mouth instead of biting it. I've been

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<v Speaker 1>eating it like that now too, though I say, guys, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I love you, bro, I love it bro. That's me.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't say it pause. Fact's been the whole pause.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the meaning. In Europe, we don't need to say pause.

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<v Speaker 1>We just talked whatever, and then depending on how you

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<v Speaker 1>you take it, we don't we don't. We don't say.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's a New York thing. Honestly, in New York,

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<v Speaker 1>niggas is pausing everything. Because sometimes i'd be talking to

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<v Speaker 1>club iuse I'm just talking, and then and then someone

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<v Speaker 1>gonna say pause, nigga. I'm like, what you mean? What

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<v Speaker 1>pause for? You said? I'm just talking, just just talking freely.

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<v Speaker 1>It's talking. You know, I'm from Europe, I'm from England.

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<v Speaker 1>Just talking. If I getting man, but I'm not gay.

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<v Speaker 1>If I go to jail, I'm gay. If I go

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<v Speaker 1>to jail, if I like not, it depends on how

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<v Speaker 1>long the bid is. Yeah, that's gonna be a bunch

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<v Speaker 1>of ugly bitches in there. You're gonna still be gay.

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<v Speaker 1>If I'm in there for the long haul. If I

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<v Speaker 1>got to do like the rest of my life, and

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<v Speaker 1>they're yeah, I'm gonna give me a girlfriend, why not.

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<v Speaker 1>If I go to jail, I would have no friends.

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<v Speaker 1>I would say my set all day because I know

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<v Speaker 1>I'm taught, I'm cocky, I'm Brown's. You know, I got

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<v Speaker 1>red live and everything. They're gonna be like, Oho, you

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<v Speaker 1>gonna take that booty, Oh man, you gotta give me

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<v Speaker 1>Look at this That's what I like. Chris. Let our

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<v Speaker 1>listeners know where they can find you at. I know

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<v Speaker 1>you gotta um a new single out called No Joke

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<v Speaker 1>right now as well, video coming soon y'all. So let

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<v Speaker 1>our listeners know where they can find you at. They

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<v Speaker 1>can find me everywhere. Chris Calves on Instagram Cast with

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<v Speaker 1>the K Chris sEH all right, cash K. You can

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<v Speaker 1>find me on Google, same name everywhere pretty much, Facebook, Twitter, Clubhouse,

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<v Speaker 1>Chris galas everywhere. My new single No Jokers all right

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<v Speaker 1>now as we speak, UM featuring Ja. That's my guy,

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<v Speaker 1>UM dropping my EAP next year, you know, be shout

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<v Speaker 1>out to my team, shout to my followers. Yeah, man,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm out here. Thank you, Thank you, Chris, thank you,

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you. All right, y'all listen. Oh sorry, go ahead, Chris, No, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I mean it was beautiful, you know, just

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<v Speaker 1>being here. Usually most of my podcast is man, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I never had in a real American podcast, So you

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<v Speaker 1>guys are my first. Man. Thank you. Yeah, yeah, my first.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I was excited. I'm like, man, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to do this. You know, I was like, man, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to do this. You know, Thank you man for

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<v Speaker 1>believing in me and and and I said for giving

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<v Speaker 1>me this, this lovely outlet, you know, and I have fun. Man,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys are beautiful, pretty man. How to choose? Man,

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<v Speaker 1>you try to choose. We appreciate you. To Chris, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a fan. I'm a big fan. I'm gonna always

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<v Speaker 1>promote your music because I believe in it. It's some

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<v Speaker 1>good ship. And I you know, I think I'm an

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<v Speaker 1>A and R. Okay, I know good music when I

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<v Speaker 1>hear it. All right, y'all, so listen. If you enjoyed

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<v Speaker 1>this episode, please tune in every Thursday on your heart

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<v Speaker 1>This is your co host, A J. Holiday. Y'all can

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<v Speaker 1>follow me on Instagram. AJ Holiday two point oh, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>we got a Twitter going listen. We also have we

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<v Speaker 1>talked back uh e n T dot com up and

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<v Speaker 1>running right now. Okay, so we're gonna talk about Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we want to tell me and went up? What are

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<v Speaker 1>you talking about? I told you several times? Is up? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>We live? Okay, we live. We talked back e n

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<v Speaker 1>T dot com, y'all. We have our website out for consultations.

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<v Speaker 1>So if anybody wants to call and talk to myself

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<v Speaker 1>a j or Tam, y'all can do that. You can

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<v Speaker 1>set up a schedule a consultation um to have a

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<v Speaker 1>one on one, uh, you know, to talk about your

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<v Speaker 1>dumb bit shit or your same shit. We were just

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<v Speaker 1>a girl talk yeah right here business. Whatever you want

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about were available because we talked back apparently.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, y'all, it's Tim, ma'am. I'm official Tam Bam

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<v Speaker 1>on Instagram. Y'all please follow me it. I love y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank y'all so much for tuning in. Once again, we

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<v Speaker 1>really appreciate every every last one of you. I remember

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<v Speaker 1>to speak now and never hold your peace