Speaker 1: Talk talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with an
Speaker 1: opinion to talk back. What's up, y'all? Thank you for
Speaker 1: tuning in for a new episode that we Talk Back
Speaker 1: and Show dedicated to you. Nigga's and knees Hose sher
Speaker 1: co host a j holiday What up? It's y'all, it's me.
Speaker 1: I'm tired as fun. I need know my name just now?
Speaker 1: Who am I? It's to me mry Hole. I love
Speaker 1: you all wants to get thank you all for coming back. Man?
Speaker 1: She how was your weekend? Girl? Girl? I do watching
Speaker 1: nothing that stupid. I didn't look you know, I've seen that.
Speaker 1: Did you see that post on Instagram? And was like
Speaker 1: uh ms Piggy and kermit? Uh when when my friends
Speaker 1: asked me what I did this weekend and I'd be
Speaker 1: like nothing, but all the pictures is like sniffet coke
Speaker 1: getting fuck. That's me. Yeah that's you. I ain't seen it,
Speaker 1: but that's definitely your ass. That's me. Hey, I ain't
Speaker 1: do muching nothing, just you know, adult entertainment, y'all. I
Speaker 1: flew my ass back to Jamaica again. I just got
Speaker 1: off the plane. I literally got off the plane and
Speaker 1: came to the microphone, like literally, it's tired. I got
Speaker 1: that little tan I had so much see you can
Speaker 1: see it ain't and I'm a little brown, brown brown. Yeah,
Speaker 1: lay out the order a girl. I ain't do nothing
Speaker 1: but smoke and eat and lay up in the sun.
Speaker 1: Like that sounds fun. It was good, but I'm happy
Speaker 1: to be back to y'all kind of shame. What's that
Speaker 1: going on in stupid internet news agent girl? The whole world?
Speaker 1: I just want to put this disclaimer. Excuse me, I
Speaker 1: am now for real. I've always been an observer, but
Speaker 1: that's all I'm doing now because y'all motherfucker's be letting
Speaker 1: people like really transmit your energy. So this week Kanye
Speaker 1: West did UH Fashion Week and he wore a white
Speaker 1: Lives Matter shirt. He had on a black white Lives
Speaker 1: Matter shirt and calling Candice Owens had on a white
Speaker 1: black Lives Matter shirt. And that's what I meant, White
Speaker 1: lives matter? The internet mad, Black people mad? What do
Speaker 1: you think about that? Groundn't give a funk about me either, one,
Speaker 1: thank you? Not right now. Honestly, it's like just being
Speaker 1: an observer for once, because when y'all be putting too
Speaker 1: much emotion into into ship. If anybody wanted to do
Speaker 1: some god that magic, they got all you'll attention, all
Speaker 1: your energy, everything wrapped up. Do what the funk they
Speaker 1: want to do with you. So just be an observer.
Speaker 1: Just watch look what he was going on. I would
Speaker 1: like to see, like what was you know why? So
Speaker 1: y'all know the terminology black has no legal standing in
Speaker 1: America anyway, So you know, black Lives Matter, that organization
Speaker 1: was definitely built off of the backs of dead black men.
Speaker 1: So black lives the actual phrase. Yes, it's a real thing, right,
Speaker 1: but BLM isn't. It's not a good thing, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So why would you be an uproar
Speaker 1: because a black person is wearing a white Lives Matter shirt,
Speaker 1: But it's okay for a white person to wear a
Speaker 1: Black Lives Matter shirt? Like do white lives not matter?
Speaker 1: Of course white lives matter, but it's the context. So yeah,
Speaker 1: I understand that white Lives Matter is just a reactionary
Speaker 1: like phrase, you know, to you know, funk with Black
Speaker 1: Lives Matter. We understand all that, right, but there was
Speaker 1: a time that black people black was not a race,
Speaker 1: and it's still not. You know what I'm saying. So
Speaker 1: we shouldn't even be using the term black as far
Speaker 1: as I'm concerned. So what you want to be called,
Speaker 1: I'm indigenous Americans. If we go to the if we
Speaker 1: go to the Olympics, we're not Black Americans. In the Olympics,
Speaker 1: we're Americans. But when we come home, were black Americans. Mhm.
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. So in order for us
Speaker 1: to those of those people are from China, they're from
Speaker 1: their Asian we're from here. I ain't from here. Girl.
Speaker 1: On a on the US Census that the definition of
Speaker 1: black and black American is any persons that can tie
Speaker 1: themselves back to any racial groups. In Africa, there's no
Speaker 1: such thing as racial groups in Africa as ethnic groups.
Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying, So that even a definition
Speaker 1: and all the legal ship we use in America is
Speaker 1: fucking false. You should not be that mad about this
Speaker 1: period and up until I don't know, the eighteen hundreds,
Speaker 1: black mint pale. So when did the definition change? I
Speaker 1: don't know. Are we black or are we white? I'm black?
Speaker 1: Are we black or are we white? Black? Question? And
Speaker 1: I'm black, y'all, and I'm black and black and I'm black, y'all.
Speaker 1: I like, I like definitions, and I like, so you're
Speaker 1: a white person for the last, for the last I'll
Speaker 1: say ten years. When I do uh anything legal documents,
Speaker 1: I either put other white or Indians. I never put
Speaker 1: black African American, but at least the last or seen years.
Speaker 1: But why would you put white though? Because you get
Speaker 1: benefits the funk. You automatically get put in this little
Speaker 1: small box when you check black because they the system,
Speaker 1: especially with AI now they're looking for that. So they
Speaker 1: just if it's a job applicate, just throw your ship
Speaker 1: out when you hit black American. Do you see what
Speaker 1: I'm saying? So the ship is systematic, So it would
Speaker 1: be in your best benefit to pick some other ship
Speaker 1: other than black in America. I'm just gonna go, would
Speaker 1: I am? I don't know what else happening, but you've
Speaker 1: been gone. All types of ship happened, So I don't
Speaker 1: know if y'all was so disconnected. I disconnected, Okay, I
Speaker 1: was just in the water, that's it. What else happening? Child?
Speaker 1: So this niggad boy A B and Sonia Brown he
Speaker 1: going ham on internet? You'll he don't posted a picture
Speaker 1: of Tom Brady White Gazelle A picture from when they
Speaker 1: won the the I don't even know what year was it.
Speaker 1: It might have been last year, whenever the last super
Speaker 1: Bowl they won. She gave him this big, old, nice
Speaker 1: little hug and it looks pretty intimate, you know. And
Speaker 1: they're in the middle of getting divorced because the apparently
Speaker 1: sources say that they have, you know, been consulting with
Speaker 1: a divorse divorce attorney. And I feel like gossip in
Speaker 1: to see them niggas being on everybody business because maybe
Speaker 1: about a month ago, uh, she put out there that
Speaker 1: they were living separately in separate homes. And now this
Speaker 1: this week and why he posted a picture I don't know.
Speaker 1: Caption on the picture says, put that ship on. I
Speaker 1: don't know what. I don't know, but I'm sure that
Speaker 1: woman was hugging him because she was excited that they
Speaker 1: won the super Bowl. That was it. And then this
Speaker 1: is kind of like when Faith took picture with Tupac
Speaker 1: and then he posted it and made it look like
Speaker 1: he was fucking Faith I'm talking about. Yeah, I remember that.
Speaker 1: But A B was living with these people during that season,
Speaker 1: so they could have they could have built they could
Speaker 1: have built a report. I understand. I see how you're
Speaker 1: looking at it like, yeah, they could have you know,
Speaker 1: we family, hoya, but you've been living with us for
Speaker 1: the lat for the whole six month season or whatever
Speaker 1: we won, and maybe he's making I don't oh, some
Speaker 1: type of riff between tem Brady with this. This is
Speaker 1: why you don't let motherfucker's in your house. Period. I
Speaker 1: gottn't let you stay in my house. Welcome to you
Speaker 1: to my home with my family and my children. And
Speaker 1: this is what you do, even if you're don't funk
Speaker 1: with me, no more, don't do that. Don't do that.
Speaker 1: And everybody saying, oh, ct E, that's all you see
Speaker 1: in the comments ct But y'all want to hear what
Speaker 1: I think about this. Also, y'all can google this. I
Speaker 1: don't be lying, y'all. Baby is white. No, No, Gizelle
Speaker 1: is a witch. Even her husband has said that. Google it.
Speaker 1: Gizelle is a witch. She does ritual, she does all
Speaker 1: these things. She set to alter up for her son.
Speaker 1: These are all things that people in this lifestyle do, right.
Speaker 1: And I bet you if he divorces that woman, she's
Speaker 1: the lifeline. She had been telling him when he was
Speaker 1: gonna win what Super Bowls? When to play when not
Speaker 1: to play? She had been she has been guiding him
Speaker 1: through his winds. Okay, if he separates from that woman,
Speaker 1: y'all watched that, they're gonna be looking like y'all remember
Speaker 1: a fat door on End Game Marvel End Game and
Speaker 1: nig had got fat. That's gonna be Tom Brady you
Speaker 1: want and we watched, uh A b loses fucking mind?
Speaker 1: What did what did they do to him in that house?
Speaker 1: I don't know, girl, this is all like you'd be
Speaker 1: just really thinking. Then you'm a deep thinker. But she
Speaker 1: also are with yourself, So which is be? Noh, witches
Speaker 1: be knowing? M h. I'm just saying, okay, because you
Speaker 1: do be just saying some ship. I don't. First of all,
Speaker 1: I do not saying I don't. I promise you I don't.
Speaker 1: The only other thing I saw this week and I
Speaker 1: was like, you know what, j T JT was defending
Speaker 1: a little oozy because people will be coming for her
Speaker 1: basically because of how her man dressed and ship like that.
Speaker 1: And she was like, y'all think the way people dress
Speaker 1: and how they express themselves as what defines him sexually.
Speaker 1: And that's the truth. You know what I'm saying, so
Speaker 1: men have been wearing fucking leggings and ship like that forever.
Speaker 1: We'll be going too deep nowadays. But if your nigga
Speaker 1: came home with a belly person, and it depends on
Speaker 1: the nigga, because I would definitely date an eccentric as
Speaker 1: rock star type nigga. I would. I'd be liking different.
Speaker 1: Would have to be a literal rock star. He would
Speaker 1: have to be a little That's what I'm saying. He
Speaker 1: would have to be him. Because if you're working at
Speaker 1: public walk around with a belly ring, I'll be like,
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna be able to do it. So j
Speaker 1: T was like, who's he dating me? And we honestly
Speaker 1: have two different audiences. So nothing bothered me more than
Speaker 1: when he doing what he wants. Y'all tag me and
Speaker 1: say this year man, yes ho, that's my man, my
Speaker 1: good man, my rich man, my respectful man, my little man,
Speaker 1: my successful rock star heart. Y'all yeah, because the girl
Speaker 1: there like, that's her man. I don't care what he pierces, asshole.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't give a fun that's her man. You know again,
Speaker 1: we're just observing. That's all we do. We just hit
Speaker 1: up observed to tell y'all what the funk we stop? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I went mine, I went minded barely when you ain't
Speaker 1: about to come home with no damn asshole, Piers. Now,
Speaker 1: come on, is that a thing? I don't know? I'm
Speaker 1: pretty sure people got that little meat right above their asshole,
Speaker 1: right at the crease of the butt, Pierce. Somewhere. Somebody
Speaker 1: got that. Somebody did it do all in memory? Stupid?
Speaker 1: All right, y'all listen. So we do have a special
Speaker 1: guest on we talked back this week, y'all stay tuned. Okay,
Speaker 1: right after this break, we're gonna have Chris haves on.
Speaker 1: We're talking jealousy. All right, y'all be back listen. So
Speaker 1: we have a special guest on we talked back this week. Personally,
Speaker 1: I think he's like the next up and coming biggest
Speaker 1: afrobeats artists. If you want to consider to consider yourself
Speaker 1: that I don't know. But we have Chris Gabs on.
Speaker 1: We talked back all the way from Dublin, Ireland. What's up, Chris?
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for having me tell our listeners
Speaker 1: a little bit about yourself. Chris. You know I'm Chris
Speaker 1: Gabs born in Africa. More specifically, in Congo, raised in Sweden, Stockholm,
Speaker 1: and moved to Ireland at fourteen. I'm a music producer,
Speaker 1: creative person. I'm a friend, I'm my brother and my cousin,
Speaker 1: my son. You know, I'm a lover, you know, guy man,
Speaker 1: I'm a happy person general. I love I love life
Speaker 1: and I love the idea of living. Think there's a
Speaker 1: beautiful thing just to be a life. Yeah, Chris is
Speaker 1: a super lovel boy. Okay, let's be so just jumping that.
Speaker 1: DM Chris cat crist Cabs on Instagram. So how did
Speaker 1: you get into music, Chris? I think they started with
Speaker 1: my family, you know, my whole family. It's it's musical.
Speaker 1: My dad used to be a quiet master, you know,
Speaker 1: back in the seminies whatever. Church yeah, church yeah, church, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's where he met my mom. Mom was also acquired
Speaker 1: master as well. So the mad in the same church.
Speaker 1: Long story short, feel in love, got married and they
Speaker 1: made me and then I remember I remember one time
Speaker 1: because because my daddy used to have this you know,
Speaker 1: back in Africa, right, he used to have this huge
Speaker 1: cave right where he kept he stored all types of instruments,
Speaker 1: you know, conarls, drums, bays, whatever, somehow fed a lot
Speaker 1: with with with with drums. So drums was like my
Speaker 1: first instrument that I started learning by myself. So I said,
Speaker 1: don't play drums, and from drums and moved to piano.
Speaker 1: From piano, I started learning how to produce be Shout
Speaker 1: out to my uncle Fabrics. He's the one that actually
Speaker 1: introduced the whole software music software. So he showed me
Speaker 1: back in Germany. He goes, hey, you know, with your talent,
Speaker 1: you could really do more. And then he introduced to
Speaker 1: me the software called Cube's back then and from Cube's
Speaker 1: start learning how to program music on computer. And fast
Speaker 1: forward now we're here, right, So Chris produces music. So
Speaker 1: I know one of my favorite songs is more and
Speaker 1: I love Jealousy and the beats on these songs are exceptional. Okay,
Speaker 1: my favorite songs from Chris appreciate. So wait, you you
Speaker 1: you produced the songs, but is it also you who
Speaker 1: recorded the song or is everything? So basically I have
Speaker 1: a production company, you know, and within the company we
Speaker 1: have I have a studio with all types of equipment
Speaker 1: in order to produce sound, you know, to be representable
Speaker 1: for the radio, for the listeners. So I have that.
Speaker 1: So that's like eight of of of me bringing into
Speaker 1: the industry. So I have the ability to create sound
Speaker 1: from scratch, you know, picking sound and you know which
Speaker 1: one works in and which one not. So I just
Speaker 1: have the ear to know watch sound works with watch sound.
Speaker 1: And by doing that, you know, um, I can create whatever.
Speaker 1: I played piano, I play keys and play drums, and
Speaker 1: that's how I made all my songs, just by hearing
Speaker 1: and and then you create. I write as well, but
Speaker 1: I do have few writers around. Uh. One of my
Speaker 1: main write us is J L. Well, that's the guy
Speaker 1: on the track no Joke. He wrote. He co wrote
Speaker 1: some of my songs with me. But I do write
Speaker 1: my own songs like I do, I do compose the concept.
Speaker 1: How important is it for people in the music business
Speaker 1: to be able to do you know a lot of
Speaker 1: this stuff yourself, you know what I'm saying, Because even
Speaker 1: like with us with podcasting, you know, one monkey ain't
Speaker 1: gonna stop no show over here because we can pretty
Speaker 1: much do a lot of this stuff ourselves. So how
Speaker 1: important is that you know, learning the actual business music business,
Speaker 1: and you know, also being able to do your own
Speaker 1: production right. So for me, it was more like I
Speaker 1: didn't know about I didn't know about the business, you know,
Speaker 1: I didn't I didn't know Like I remember my first beat,
Speaker 1: the assoul to any artists was five euros that's like
Speaker 1: twenty dollars, you know. Because I didn't know my worth,
Speaker 1: I didn't know how to go about it right. So
Speaker 1: it took me a good ten years to study to
Speaker 1: just know what to do, how to do, how to capitalize,
Speaker 1: how to negotiate and this and that, you know. But
Speaker 1: again it can with error. I've made a lot of
Speaker 1: mistakes in the process because I just didn't know what
Speaker 1: to do with it, you know. But of course the
Speaker 1: fact that I was always hungry, I was passionate, I
Speaker 1: had there's there's there's passion to just be great, you know,
Speaker 1: because when you want to be great, you do whatever
Speaker 1: it takes to be great, you know. And by doing that,
Speaker 1: you start doing your own due diligence, you know, you
Speaker 1: start learning about productions and royalties and being registered like
Speaker 1: you know, copyright my Chris Gay's name is now licensed
Speaker 1: and all that stuff. That I'm not just an artist,
Speaker 1: I'm a business. You know. There was no feelings in business.
Speaker 1: It's a fact and report only. You start learning about that.
Speaker 1: It start just to become more mature, mature, mature, um.
Speaker 1: So basically it was more like the more I know,
Speaker 1: the better I could negotiate. Right, The more I know,
Speaker 1: the better I knew how to how to navigate through
Speaker 1: the industry. Because the industry that I'm all is very toxic,
Speaker 1: very complex. So if you you don't have the right
Speaker 1: the right mindset or the right information that anybody can
Speaker 1: use you, it's a game. So there was a song
Speaker 1: that I was listening to you of yours a little
Speaker 1: while ago, Jealousy Did you write that? I wrote that
Speaker 1: song from scratch everything, every words, So that came from
Speaker 1: a personal place. Let's talk about it. Broke us up.
Speaker 1: Where are you from? Where are you from? Where are
Speaker 1: you from? How dad you get here? Get here? Get here?
Speaker 1: I'd be trying to run away from you? You you
Speaker 1: for more? Pretty much this was a well what happened?
Speaker 1: Tell us the story behind the motivation. Basically, the song
Speaker 1: I was inspired by by my own life, life life situation.
Speaker 1: You know, I had this this this this person who
Speaker 1: I used to date back in the day, who didn't
Speaker 1: understand my lifestyle, who didn't understand my schedule or my
Speaker 1: my slipping pattern, you know, because because being in all,
Speaker 1: it's like we could be bad sleeping. Then if if
Speaker 1: I'm inspired, I wake up in the middle of the
Speaker 1: night and start creating as to create. That's what you're saying.
Speaker 1: One time, one time, One time, I was actually doing it,
Speaker 1: and then I got its tongue in my head. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I love you, hold on, I have something to play
Speaker 1: in my head. I know it's weird, I get it,
Speaker 1: but I have to go and just later on some
Speaker 1: cause she never understood my lifestyle. She just didn't get it.
Speaker 1: And then every time when I was in fun or
Speaker 1: we could being a date and then I see I
Speaker 1: see a number in the name, I'm like, yo, this person,
Speaker 1: it's the next big deal. I gotta pick it up.
Speaker 1: She goes she can't wait. I'm like, either I make
Speaker 1: her weight and then we're gonna end up taking this
Speaker 1: bus to date, or I pick up this car next
Speaker 1: time we don't drive and we see this today, you choose,
Speaker 1: And then things got toxic because she never understood how
Speaker 1: this game works. Don't answer that phone exactly like we're
Speaker 1: crying over here, listening like you you let me pick
Speaker 1: up this car and next time, we're gonna be on
Speaker 1: the on the jet or I'll tell him to call
Speaker 1: and letter and then we're gonna steer taking this bus
Speaker 1: and trained to do whatever we're going. You choose, then
Speaker 1: she goes a great but then eventually I was like,
Speaker 1: you know what, it's not gonna work because jealousy going
Speaker 1: the way. You can't understand that in this industry, you
Speaker 1: did it with men, men and women and gage people
Speaker 1: too sometimes also want you. So it's gonna hard for
Speaker 1: me to make her understand that it's a game of throne. Man.
Speaker 1: You know, you have to understand or just don't try.
Speaker 1: And then she walked away. So she basically she wanted
Speaker 1: to be prioritized over your career. Yeah, well back then
Speaker 1: I wasn't really in that space to prioritizing anybody because
Speaker 1: I was very very on my game. I was like, no,
Speaker 1: like you you just got here. I've been doing this
Speaker 1: before you came here. As why would I just told
Speaker 1: my life away because of pussy? You know what I'm saying, Well,
Speaker 1: if you viewed her as pussy, then exactly I kind
Speaker 1: of help you just get rid of her then, right,
Speaker 1: If you viewed her as pussy, I mean if that's
Speaker 1: why she presented to me, So that's why she I
Speaker 1: guess that's what she wanted me to see. Are you
Speaker 1: saying that's all the value she had? That's what I'm
Speaker 1: trying to say, that's the thing that she presented first.
Speaker 1: Oh my life. Are you sure you ain't present that
Speaker 1: dick first? Do you think there's healthy jealousy in a relationship? Yeah,
Speaker 1: of course. If if you don't a jealous then you
Speaker 1: don't care. I want you to. I want you to
Speaker 1: be jealous. I want you to to ask me who's
Speaker 1: who's calling you. I want you to ask me what
Speaker 1: time you're coming home. I want you to to to
Speaker 1: feed up away from doing certain things. Even though you
Speaker 1: trust me, but I still want you to feel a
Speaker 1: little bit, you know, jealous about what I'm doing. If
Speaker 1: we have a jealous God while not having a jealous
Speaker 1: woman or man. But at the same rate, you just
Speaker 1: said that you you left a relationship with somebody who
Speaker 1: because she was too jealous. But you do, at the
Speaker 1: same time want somebody who be talking you, questioning you.
Speaker 1: You want a little toxicity, it's what you're saying. It's
Speaker 1: more like I want you to know what I'm doing,
Speaker 1: But don't don't doubt me. I don't like people down
Speaker 1: because I got no reason to lie to you. If
Speaker 1: you ask me where you were, yeah, I'm here, I'm
Speaker 1: doing next z. That's that's the truth. I don't. You
Speaker 1: don't pay me to be your man. You don't pay
Speaker 1: me to have sex with you. You don't pay me
Speaker 1: to be with you. So what would allow to you?
Speaker 1: I mean I would like to my boss, maybe my manager.
Speaker 1: He was all the time for no reason. Nobody analyzed. Okay,
Speaker 1: what that mean? African nigga at an adjective. I'm a
Speaker 1: freaking man who never been to slaved, thank god. So
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't understand. Nigga, what do you mean?
Speaker 1: You just got finished? All right? Don't play because before
Speaker 1: we started recording, he just said how much he uses
Speaker 1: nigga for emphasis. And now you're not a nigga. I'm
Speaker 1: a proud, i freaking man and Okay, So basically, in
Speaker 1: your eyes, jealousy is necessary in the relationship to a
Speaker 1: certain extent. What's that line, though? How do you know
Speaker 1: when you've reached that line? I think it's when it's
Speaker 1: getting unhealthy, unbalanced, unreasonable, toxic, when you're still asking dumb
Speaker 1: questions like how long were you were you on the phone?
Speaker 1: Tail or how far you from home? Or like every
Speaker 1: time I want to call you, you don't pick up,
Speaker 1: but then you call me back after ten minutes, after
Speaker 1: five minutes, you know, like um, or when you get home,
Speaker 1: let me smell your dick. Put your pads down and
Speaker 1: let me smell your dick right now. If you do that,
Speaker 1: we'll be done. Like It's kind of like, because you
Speaker 1: see my my my red flag is when you doubt me.
Speaker 1: Why would you doubt me? Why? Why you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. It's kind of like if I see for me,
Speaker 1: if that girl takes me something, I believe you, Like
Speaker 1: I've got no reason not to unless you can make
Speaker 1: a reason to not believe. I'm very black and white
Speaker 1: if I if I tell you, I'll maintain minutes. If
Speaker 1: I'm led, I'll give a reason why I'm late. If
Speaker 1: you doubt me twice, A'm mad. I'm like, why would
Speaker 1: you doubt me for what? You know? You know? My mom?
Speaker 1: I mean, I liked my mom my dad because it's
Speaker 1: my dad. But like I just met you four days ago.
Speaker 1: What m like? I said, I'm a freaking man, I'm different,
Speaker 1: all right, four days obviously that's a bit much to
Speaker 1: be questioning those things. But if you're in a real
Speaker 1: relationship after one week, so who's yeah, what I'm telling you,
Speaker 1: even what I'm saying. No, that's that's asking because I
Speaker 1: wouldn't want you asking those questions of me after four days.
Speaker 1: Ship happening before you got here, sir, relaxed. You know,
Speaker 1: I've been leaving for thirty or four years plus before
Speaker 1: I met you, So like, what do you mean? Where
Speaker 1: was I I was leaving you? Like? What do you like? What?
Speaker 1: What do you mean? Like? What? What? What's your body?
Speaker 1: If ask me that question? Do you pay me to
Speaker 1: be here? Like gold on, I take a person. At
Speaker 1: that point, I feel like I'm always jealous. It don't
Speaker 1: take much to make me jealous, but I'm so player,
Speaker 1: Like I'm not gonna You're not gonna know I'm jealous
Speaker 1: about some ship, but I'm almost always jealous. Toxic that is?
Speaker 1: How is that toxic? Because you don't express your jealousy,
Speaker 1: you don't even express that ship. I think that's toxic.
Speaker 1: How if I don't let you know if I'm if
Speaker 1: I don't like something about whatever you're doing. I'd be like, hey, listen,
Speaker 1: I don't feel good about this. I don't like the
Speaker 1: way you talk about Now we're gonna talk about I think.
Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna be toxic, but I'm ampressing. What
Speaker 1: do you mean? I mean? How do I just just
Speaker 1: basically off this eighteen minute conversation we just had. I
Speaker 1: feel like, yeah, you might be toxic, babe, because you
Speaker 1: just said, why are you expressing that you're jealous? After
Speaker 1: knowing me for four days? And now you're telling actually, like,
Speaker 1: why aren't you expressing it? That's toxic? That's what I said.
Speaker 1: What I say was, it's all depending on your questions
Speaker 1: and how you go about it. It's your approach, m
Speaker 1: it's your it's your approach, like how you I think
Speaker 1: it's all down to your tone, right, your energy, and
Speaker 1: I feel those things and you could ask me the
Speaker 1: most harsh question ever. But if you haven't the right
Speaker 1: approach and the right that the right energy, I'll be oh, yeah, actually, yeah,
Speaker 1: this did this happened? Lets you go, you go, whether
Speaker 1: you versus so talk to me nice. Okay, So it's
Speaker 1: the tone, virgo, talk to me nice? Can you give
Speaker 1: examples of healthy jealousy. Like I was like looking at
Speaker 1: a list of different things, and I didn't realize there
Speaker 1: was such a thing as healthy jealousy. I think I'm very, uh,
Speaker 1: territorial type of man. So I think I'm protective type
Speaker 1: of guy. If you're my wife, my girl, or my
Speaker 1: future girlfriend or a future fiance, I'll be protective because
Speaker 1: I care about you, right, because I love you. So
Speaker 1: if you love someone, you would have a sense of
Speaker 1: um ownership. You own that you don't own her, but
Speaker 1: you own the situation to your own situation, right, I
Speaker 1: want you to feel protected. Your baby, you're good, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm only calling to check up and you okay,
Speaker 1: how was your day? Baby? By the time, would you
Speaker 1: be hung? Okay? Let me know how it works, goes
Speaker 1: allow you and mess you have a last baby, Bam.
Speaker 1: That's just me making sure that you're good and I'm
Speaker 1: good because if if I don't call you, you're the
Speaker 1: same person who's gonna say, baby, how come? How come
Speaker 1: you never come even the work even you know, quick call,
Speaker 1: you know, even a text. So I make sure that
Speaker 1: and also let me know, let me know if I'm
Speaker 1: doing too much, you know, if you feel like I'm
Speaker 1: too much in your case, just let me know. My
Speaker 1: damn baby. Location says that you had burger king, but
Speaker 1: it ain't your lunch break, so what you're doing there? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I would be like, yo, baby, I called into this
Speaker 1: phone call. We spoke for four minutes, and you told me.
Speaker 1: You told me you're going to work, but that on
Speaker 1: your white toop your online. So I'm trying to figure
Speaker 1: if you're working or you're on the phone. It's on
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. But like, I don't, I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't think like that anymore. I used to think
Speaker 1: like that. That's what I was about to say, because
Speaker 1: you said tone right matters, right, So somebody can really
Speaker 1: be like jealous and kind of stalker ish but have
Speaker 1: a nice tone about their questions. Mhm, that that would
Speaker 1: be you. You're calling with a nice tone about the question, right.
Speaker 1: The woman could ask the very same thing, but her
Speaker 1: tone is a little bit different. So then that that's
Speaker 1: the bad jealousy. Yeah, think that's it. That's that's the
Speaker 1: same ship. One person just being a little bit more finessy,
Speaker 1: if that's even a word. Okay, you're just but you're
Speaker 1: still like stalking me. You still acting asking me questions
Speaker 1: that you shouldn't be asking me. Yeah, that's why we
Speaker 1: have this thing called open communication. If you have any
Speaker 1: problem with that, said, Oh, baby, I don't like the
Speaker 1: way you talk to I don't like do you ask questions?
Speaker 1: How do I just trust? How about whatever? Right? That's me?
Speaker 1: Like if something bothers me, yoh, we're gonna talk about it.
Speaker 1: In fact, I'll book it in my calendar. Yo, baby, Tuesday,
Speaker 1: five pm, we're gonna go to DMA. We're gonna talk
Speaker 1: because it's it's it's all about protecting your mental So
Speaker 1: if if you're attitudes start your affects my mental we
Speaker 1: gotta talk about it. Man, it's my life first, right,
Speaker 1: So when I say like, keep it in my mind
Speaker 1: that that's not me not communicating because I am the
Speaker 1: type of person that I have to communicate how I
Speaker 1: feel about somethinghere else I can't sleep at night. So
Speaker 1: it'd be like the small little things, Like I said,
Speaker 1: I get jealous about everything. It'd be little ship that
Speaker 1: I gotta keep to myself because it might be petty
Speaker 1: for me to even ask you about it. Sho, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna ask you about now those little things I duped,
Speaker 1: I jopped, and then eventually one day you're gonna explode
Speaker 1: from a little thing. So I always talk, man, it's
Speaker 1: it's it's um. It's um therapeutic to just talk, because
Speaker 1: that's that's all we have. Me I'm the opposite. I
Speaker 1: don't get jealous about nothing. I don't never get jealous
Speaker 1: and then be thinking like do you even care? But
Speaker 1: I do care. If you don't get jealous, then it's
Speaker 1: gonna be hard for me to trust you. Why I
Speaker 1: don't get jealous, Like how I can trust you? Then
Speaker 1: I would like be like okay for a lot of ship.
Speaker 1: I mean yeah, but so nothing bothers you that a
Speaker 1: man does with another woman. That's what we're saying. Like
Speaker 1: if you talk to somebody and you see him doing
Speaker 1: something or I don't know, so you don't get jealous
Speaker 1: about anything and got a question of nigga about some ship,
Speaker 1: That's that's what we're saying. Not really, I don't feel
Speaker 1: like I get like really jealous and be like ready
Speaker 1: to ask them something about some ship. I want you
Speaker 1: to know how much ship now? Only jealous, only jealousy
Speaker 1: and make you buy somebody windows who window? I said,
Speaker 1: I bus whether you did it or not. Last week
Speaker 1: you said he was busting windows that I don't think
Speaker 1: that was jealousy. I think that was retaliation. It was different.
Speaker 1: I think that's you holding on some ship for too long. Loaded.
Speaker 1: I think that's what it is. And you see, that's
Speaker 1: why I support and and and a champion girls oh man,
Speaker 1: who who are very fearless to open conversations, like sometimes
Speaker 1: it's not always pretty, just to talk about it, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So because I don't want to
Speaker 1: be with someone for so long and it's like hiding
Speaker 1: things in my heart and howdy how doing things? And
Speaker 1: because I'm I'm a show temper, Like I have a
Speaker 1: very show temper. So if I don't let my ship out,
Speaker 1: eventually one day we're gonna have I don't w w
Speaker 1: E Like, you know, it's not nice. Do you have
Speaker 1: a time that you can remember where you acted out
Speaker 1: of jealousy and you look back and it was like damn, yeah,
Speaker 1: can you share with it? Can you share with us
Speaker 1: one of those times? Um? Oh my god, yeah, I
Speaker 1: should go on. I wasn't they performing right? Oh that's
Speaker 1: a that's a bad one. Oh my god, I was
Speaker 1: on stage performing my show, my gig. My girl came
Speaker 1: to see me, right, so she was on the front row.
Speaker 1: I'm doing my show performing, put your hands in the air,
Speaker 1: singing my son. The band is doing good. I'm feeling good.
Speaker 1: Whatever I saw my girl had baby, you know, I'm saying, like,
Speaker 1: the vibe is great. And then there was this dude
Speaker 1: that I don't really funk. I don't like this guy energy.
Speaker 1: I just don't like this guy. But then because according
Speaker 1: to the people, we were looking like so we kind
Speaker 1: of have the same vibe, same high, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So that day what I was performing, he
Speaker 1: just he walked straight out into my girl and start
Speaker 1: talking to my girl like we spending some ship to
Speaker 1: my girl, and while I'm actually doing my performance and
Speaker 1: I'm seeing him doing that. And then after that he
Speaker 1: stood ride behind my girl watching me. So my girl
Speaker 1: was like in front of her and then he was
Speaker 1: like behind her. So then it made it seemed like
Speaker 1: they were together. So I'm doing my set, I shared
Speaker 1: you not I caught my set short. That's that's the
Speaker 1: go down't says to the audience. And I dressed that
Speaker 1: nigga was m down, yo, mind you I'm performing White
Speaker 1: Dot and I see this, this guy doing this, my girl,
Speaker 1: you're good? Yeah, yeah, whatever you and my girl doing this.
Speaker 1: I'm start looking up mind you she short looking up.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I know, I don't know why. I caught
Speaker 1: my yo. I told my band Bloom got the song.
Speaker 1: I put the mic back on the understand, I walked down.
Speaker 1: I went to the guy. I'm like, my nigga, you're good, bro,
Speaker 1: what's you doing? But my girand was like day, she
Speaker 1: was like Chris, she was actually I mean, he was
Speaker 1: actually begging you up. Now he wasn't stuff lying to me.
Speaker 1: I know this guy. Now, he was actually begging you out.
Speaker 1: You're lying to me man. One, I was embarrassed. Two,
Speaker 1: he was actually telling her how good I was on stage.
Speaker 1: That was embarrassing. Yeah, you're like, damn, he's doing this thing,
Speaker 1: ain't it Now? I cut that ship short. That's the
Speaker 1: last motherfucker song. Cut it right now. Let me talk
Speaker 1: to you a real quick. Yeah. I think that's my
Speaker 1: highlight of my jealousy moment. I think that's then the win.
Speaker 1: I started to be more, you know, more open that
Speaker 1: you don't own that person. She has her own life,
Speaker 1: you know, learn how to trust your women. Don't trust
Speaker 1: a guy, but learning how to trust a woman. That's
Speaker 1: kind of how I am now, Like I'm learning how
Speaker 1: to trust the person I'm with because I know her.
Speaker 1: I don't know whoever it comes to her comes to home.
Speaker 1: Because most of my women are also attractive. It's flattering
Speaker 1: when niggas want your girl, that that means that you've
Speaker 1: got something good. That's good jealousy, right, So that's the
Speaker 1: time where jealousy is good. So we should get into
Speaker 1: the list that we have, you know, some some healthy
Speaker 1: jealousy and a relationship. And that's actually like the first
Speaker 1: one someone is giving flirtatious vibes to your partner, like
Speaker 1: that can make you want them more, right, or it
Speaker 1: can make you in your show? Oh man, you see
Speaker 1: I think today's it's my first time pretty nast story.
Speaker 1: Because my manager didn't understand what's happening. He was like, hey, Chris,
Speaker 1: you got nine more minutes. What's going on? I mean,
Speaker 1: we gotta pay for the full set? Go back on stage.
Speaker 1: And then after that I couldn't go back. I was
Speaker 1: like that, it's cool man, whatever you know. But definitely
Speaker 1: I like the idea of people floating with my girlfriend,
Speaker 1: but you just be able. I want you to handle it.
Speaker 1: I want you to deal with it. Don't tell me
Speaker 1: or tell me. I said, how I look at this guy?
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Yeah, so look, I'm a
Speaker 1: gym in out and i'd be flirting and I want
Speaker 1: to be able to flirt for the rest of my life.
Speaker 1: So the second one is your partner is giving flirtatious
Speaker 1: vibes to someone else. How would you feel about that?
Speaker 1: I don't talk to her. You don't like it, though,
Speaker 1: I don't like it. Do you flirt with other women
Speaker 1: while in the relationship? Let me think I don't because
Speaker 1: I don't because if I'm with you, because I'm a
Speaker 1: fan of you, because I enjoy your your physique, your
Speaker 1: your mind, your everything. Like I don't get with you
Speaker 1: just because of beaty. No, it's because I just like
Speaker 1: what I'm seeing and I wanted the thing for me
Speaker 1: if I learnt. That's where it's kind of like, I
Speaker 1: mean much you consider flirting though, because flirting could be
Speaker 1: just like a little too laughy, a little too jokey
Speaker 1: with a woman this outside of your relationship, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I might be like looking at flirting even though it's
Speaker 1: not that d It's not I'm a I'm a flirty guy.
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's not har do it right, we're talking
Speaker 1: about your partner. Yeah, so so so now I'm a
Speaker 1: flirty woman. Like I'm a flirty woman, but I don't
Speaker 1: mean no harm and I don't want to be with
Speaker 1: this other person. I just like to talk to people. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think that's me too. I think I'm a very
Speaker 1: nice guy, and some guys and get the wrong message,
Speaker 1: Like I had girls send me gifts because that though
Speaker 1: we were working on something. I'm like, no, we just
Speaker 1: you know, we just whatever that is friends, so and
Speaker 1: then y'a saying and then't blocking me everywhere I'm following
Speaker 1: me ship. But it's kind of like I'm a nice guy,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm a brand, you know, Like for me,
Speaker 1: I see that as a new customer, as a new
Speaker 1: consumer as well. I'm not gonna rule that bag because
Speaker 1: it's a nice way to roll that up. Mind you,
Speaker 1: if if no one moving to your partner, you should
Speaker 1: be worried, Why don't yes, exactly? Okay, my last boyfriend
Speaker 1: wasn't the most attractive, and but I loved him for
Speaker 1: different reasons like his personality you Mogus did, Yeah, like
Speaker 1: you Mogus did, and but he wasn't the most attractive looking.
Speaker 1: But you know what I thought, I was never jealous
Speaker 1: in that aspect. I think it's important, you know. For me,
Speaker 1: I've always go for the look first. I'm sorry, most man,
Speaker 1: that's most men, visual preachers like aesthetic. Oh, I never
Speaker 1: gonna figure out the rest, you know, And I could
Speaker 1: keep you too, if if if if, if you good
Speaker 1: at you know sax or good at COFFI I can't
Speaker 1: stand and bad you turns me off man, right man?
Speaker 1: I used to date this girl in time. She had
Speaker 1: money and she had a big house, she had everything,
Speaker 1: but she had a worse eyted you. That couldn't be wrong.
Speaker 1: So number three on the list was your partners bragging
Speaker 1: when you're in a rough place. That's supposed to be healthy,
Speaker 1: jealousy when you're jealous because they're in a good spot
Speaker 1: and they're bragging on their ship, and then you're in
Speaker 1: a rough space. Just let's say your song is doing
Speaker 1: numbers and you're like excited about it and my life
Speaker 1: show just got canceled. Yo, You're so stupid and you
Speaker 1: come hard a healthy jealousy because I could make me
Speaker 1: feel better about what what's going on with me because
Speaker 1: you had a good day, because something went well for
Speaker 1: my partner, right, so yeah, what what what? What I'm
Speaker 1: experiencing could be sucked up. But at the same time,
Speaker 1: I could be jealous, you know, but not like so
Speaker 1: I want to funk up his damn whatever he has
Speaker 1: going on, but it would make me feel good that
Speaker 1: he has a good thing happening all while I'm fucked
Speaker 1: up for the day. Now, for me, it's more like
Speaker 1: your happiness is it's my happiness. Like I'll be happy
Speaker 1: for you because because because the way I was built,
Speaker 1: you know, always being inspired by people's success and and
Speaker 1: and in progress. It's like, I don't know how to
Speaker 1: be jealous. I don't know how to just because see me,
Speaker 1: I don't know if I could handle it that way.
Speaker 1: If I'm like really sitting in the midst of upset
Speaker 1: over all that I've taken and you're bragging, I might
Speaker 1: like express some happiness for you, but I will also say, like,
Speaker 1: I know I probably could be a little bit more
Speaker 1: happy for you right now, but I'm just really upset
Speaker 1: about my live show. But I'm so happy that they're
Speaker 1: happened for you, But give me. I think I think
Speaker 1: your partners should have at least emotional you know, intelligence
Speaker 1: to know when to celebrate, you know, to know when
Speaker 1: to what I'm saying like, they should just know that's
Speaker 1: not we can't make those assumptions. That's how should get
Speaker 1: sucked up, you know what I'm saying, like, yeah, you
Speaker 1: would love for them to just know when not to
Speaker 1: come home bragging. But I mean if I didn't know,
Speaker 1: and I just come home and tell you my good thing,
Speaker 1: and then you don't have a good thing to share,
Speaker 1: you know. So the next one says, um, your partner
Speaker 1: treats another activity like a second relationship. So that's essentially
Speaker 1: what you were experiencing with this woman, you know, while
Speaker 1: you're you know, in the music industry. This is your career,
Speaker 1: right and she was jealous about that essentially yea and
Speaker 1: all the things that comes comes with it. I guess
Speaker 1: you know what's funny, Actually, you know I came with
Speaker 1: your stair. I just I don't care no more about
Speaker 1: what my partner thinks about me as well, because I'm
Speaker 1: coming to let me break it down. Let me let
Speaker 1: me explain it, right. It's kind of like, do you
Speaker 1: know when you have this self love and you know
Speaker 1: you just love your life, you feel like, look, I
Speaker 1: don't need you. I want you to be my partner, right,
Speaker 1: So I'm basically removing that burden of of needed right,
Speaker 1: like there is no pressure. I just want you to
Speaker 1: be you for me, Like I'm expecting nothing but love
Speaker 1: and respect from you, right, and then I want you
Speaker 1: I'll also give you the same. Let's have that because
Speaker 1: like all the extra ship it brings, it brings nothing
Speaker 1: but unhappiness, toxicity, and stress. So what I'm saying, if
Speaker 1: you stress my life for for too long, I'll walk away.
Speaker 1: That is because I care about my life so much
Speaker 1: and I just started living, and I'm saying, my life
Speaker 1: is moving forward and I want you to be a
Speaker 1: part of it. You know what I'm saying, Let's let's
Speaker 1: talk about that. Let's talk about life. Let's talk about life.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like all the jealousies, I mean,
Speaker 1: you can't control me. I can't control you, So I'm
Speaker 1: only hoping that you're not gonna hurt me vice versa.
Speaker 1: That's the truth though, the reason why I don't do
Speaker 1: those things because I have self discipline for me. So
Speaker 1: that's why I guess so upset when they just doubt
Speaker 1: you that they don't like what why what? Why are
Speaker 1: you assuming that I'm doing something wrong? Do you have proof? Oh?
Speaker 1: That's what, that's what. That's what we get toxic because
Speaker 1: now you you wanna argue. Okay, let's go. Let's go
Speaker 1: like I got time. Because now, because you can't understand,
Speaker 1: most of my songs came from toxicity. My my third single,
Speaker 1: it came from toxicity literally every words. So sometimes you know,
Speaker 1: my create situation just to be inspired to keep these
Speaker 1: women around, like these toxic women, so they can keep
Speaker 1: your content very lively. I got hunted for the songs.
Speaker 1: Hunting for the songs and and and all songs is
Speaker 1: based on reality. See, somebody, I don't understand how this
Speaker 1: is healthy? Uh, jealousy. The next one says, your partner
Speaker 1: goes on the trip or has an experienced that you
Speaker 1: aren't a part of. Now. See, I was the same
Speaker 1: guy that I was talking about earlier. I was living
Speaker 1: in Florida at the time and one of my co
Speaker 1: workers I was working for Alta and there was this
Speaker 1: fifty something year old white lady that worked with me,
Speaker 1: and she just worked to have something to do. She
Speaker 1: was very wealthy and they had a private plane, her
Speaker 1: and her husband, and he was the pilot and she
Speaker 1: was and she was just so smitten with me, and
Speaker 1: she was like, we're both off on Tuesday. Let's get
Speaker 1: on the plane and let's go to Atlanta and let's
Speaker 1: go shopping. M And I'm like, hell yeah, I ain't
Speaker 1: never wrote on the PJ before, right, right. So then
Speaker 1: I talked to my man about it, and he forbid
Speaker 1: me to go insecure because he couldn't go that's a mess. Stop, yo,
Speaker 1: I've paid a trip to my girl just to go
Speaker 1: have phone. Yes, you know your money, pucket money, go
Speaker 1: with your friend, had some far I see you next week.
Speaker 1: I'll see you on Tuesdays. Because I don't see how
Speaker 1: that's healthy jealousy. This is the healthy jealousy list. He
Speaker 1: not lived. No, he's not happy, he's he's just insecure. Basically,
Speaker 1: he never imagined you'd been in proper yet. And he
Speaker 1: didn't want me on that plane. He was like, what
Speaker 1: they trying to do? Funk you on the plane. I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: you got a friend. That's fifty not he didn't see
Speaker 1: he didn't he didn't see it coming. You didn't know
Speaker 1: that one day, my good might be in the proper jet.
Speaker 1: He only saw you been a boss trained uber's talking
Speaker 1: about what do you mean, how is it possible doing
Speaker 1: that ship without me in the air? Didn't Oh wow,
Speaker 1: I would have. I would have went and we would
Speaker 1: have broke up. Oh did y'all live together though? Yeah?
Speaker 1: We lived together. Just to keep the peace in my house.
Speaker 1: I just didn't go. You know, imagine him being invited
Speaker 1: onto a private jet and you causing some rockets and
Speaker 1: him he would still have wind and just you would
Speaker 1: have Just that's where things be. That's unfair because like
Speaker 1: you would have been careful him to go, because he's
Speaker 1: a man exactly like my, my, my, my. When I
Speaker 1: have a girl, if you guys, don't you know nowadays
Speaker 1: for some reason, girlfriends they got a bunch of many friends.
Speaker 1: I don't know what it is about that ship, right,
Speaker 1: but I get it right, I get the same way.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, So I understand. So if
Speaker 1: my girl has to go out with some man friends
Speaker 1: for gold card or do you know what, I don't
Speaker 1: allow cinema. That's one thing I don't allow together. No,
Speaker 1: you're not gonna go with the main friends and movies.
Speaker 1: I don't know because I know what I do in
Speaker 1: the movies. If you're my friend, what you do in
Speaker 1: the movies. I'm an artist. I'm saying, I'm trying. I'm
Speaker 1: talking for inspiration. So I know what I did the
Speaker 1: movie saying I'm trying to find you inspiration. Uh, I
Speaker 1: just know what I do. So if it nigger, who
Speaker 1: is it? Who is a female friend? Of all the places?
Speaker 1: Nickle that win? He said, movies, No, nig I'm going
Speaker 1: with you, nigga right be at the black at the back,
Speaker 1: just making sure you know what I'm watching my movie.
Speaker 1: Don't mind me to do your thing. No, that's not
Speaker 1: fair because I'm dripping that we go to the movies,
Speaker 1: and it's just batonic because I like to watch horror
Speaker 1: films and the guy was dealing with did not like
Speaker 1: horror films. So my homeboy, we would go see scary movies.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go with you. I'll get used to it.
Speaker 1: I watched I watched a few thous in advent. I
Speaker 1: will get used to it now, I mean for me, again,
Speaker 1: it's it's all about trust, right, but certain things you
Speaker 1: just know you know. Um. For me, I think that
Speaker 1: if you are in a relationship, you know, you gotta
Speaker 1: conduct yourself and sush because you're not single. So I
Speaker 1: think that, Um, it's it's complicated. Man. Again, being jealous
Speaker 1: it's a good thing. It is getting messed up when
Speaker 1: you don't know how to control it. I think everyone
Speaker 1: is jealous. My poppylar, jealous, my dog and jealous. Come
Speaker 1: on now, yeah, it's just natural, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: When I spent too much time with friends, are like
Speaker 1: doing to my stuff and then I don't give attention.
Speaker 1: She's gonna scratch my leg. That's gonna give me some
Speaker 1: ash legs and ship. Yeah, but j'al is it. It's
Speaker 1: a it's a feeling that you just uh you know,
Speaker 1: a manager, right. So um. At the top of the
Speaker 1: unhealthy list, the very first one is they want you alone.
Speaker 1: And this is like they want you alone all the time,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like they're trying to take
Speaker 1: up every moment of your free time. I know. I
Speaker 1: was talking to somebody just the other day and she
Speaker 1: was talking about her daughter and how you know, her
Speaker 1: daughter just came up for work. Her and a guy
Speaker 1: like FaceTime all the time, every day, all all throughout
Speaker 1: the day. They live. They live in separate houses. They
Speaker 1: always face time and right. So this particular day, she
Speaker 1: came up from work and she just wanted to chill
Speaker 1: her daughter. So the guy was like, Okay, you want
Speaker 1: to chill, I'll talk to you next week Sunday. Like
Speaker 1: that's abuse because you don't want to face time because
Speaker 1: you just want to chill and have some you time,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna punish you and tell you okay, then I'm
Speaker 1: not going to talk to you until next week Sunday. Then. See,
Speaker 1: that's not even that's not even toxicity at this point.
Speaker 1: That's just been that's hitler, bro, That's just it's abusive,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So jealousy can be good.
Speaker 1: There's healthy jealousy and there's the abusive. But that's no jealousy.
Speaker 1: That's controlling. That's that's that's that's them trying to literally
Speaker 1: manipulate your your mind. Mm hmm. And I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I was never that type of guy, but I always
Speaker 1: wanted to feel like I'm controlling something until when I
Speaker 1: lost that something or that someone that taught me that
Speaker 1: you can only control yourself. That's it, right, I can
Speaker 1: only control me. But I think it comes with with practice. Man,
Speaker 1: it's really all here. It's it's mental, you know, learning
Speaker 1: how to I'm learning how to respect and control yourself.
Speaker 1: That's uh, some emotional excuse right there. So yeah, so
Speaker 1: I think that you can't teach your men how to
Speaker 1: love you. There's you know, what to do with you.
Speaker 1: If they don't you have, you can't teach them unless
Speaker 1: you have a weird power to change your or to
Speaker 1: do better the man, right, because I do. But I
Speaker 1: do feel like, yeah, so yeah, when I always have
Speaker 1: to teach people how you want to be treated, you
Speaker 1: kind of have to guide people in a way because
Speaker 1: they'll just you know, they'll handle you how the last
Speaker 1: person allowed them. Yeah. But also it's kind of like,
Speaker 1: come on, if I want to be with time bam
Speaker 1: or edge A, right, I should be in this eight
Speaker 1: five percent awhere kind of I know what to do,
Speaker 1: I know how to behave at least, and then it's
Speaker 1: me studying you been learning how you as a person,
Speaker 1: But you shouldn't teach me how to love you tell
Speaker 1: me things you like and things that you don't like,
Speaker 1: and then with the help of my emotional skill capacity,
Speaker 1: I'll be able to to navigate through your universe. Because
Speaker 1: it's because because being a woman, it's a whole. It's
Speaker 1: a whole university. Man, you gotta learn that ship if
Speaker 1: you if you're dumb from the jump, you're not gonna
Speaker 1: handle that ship. It's really intellect like to make me
Speaker 1: to go to woman university. Women I had, they're all
Speaker 1: gonna fail. The men too. That's the thing. Women were
Speaker 1: just different. Men and women are just different. So if
Speaker 1: there was such a thing man university, women university, we
Speaker 1: may all fail because we're just differ. And I would
Speaker 1: be good at some of the classes. But me too,
Speaker 1: I mean some of them. But you know, men don't
Speaker 1: think most men do not happen, not when it comes
Speaker 1: to not when it comes to women. No, uh yeah,
Speaker 1: I just love you with you, that's fine. I think.
Speaker 1: Hold on, let's talk about it, right. I think there's
Speaker 1: some men having tigty. I think I do. It's a
Speaker 1: small percentage of men. Yeah, more percentage. I would love
Speaker 1: to be in not you know what I'm saying. In
Speaker 1: a minority like, I don't mind because I think that
Speaker 1: what I enjoy the most now, maybe because now I'm
Speaker 1: more mature or more woke, I don't know what it is.
Speaker 1: I enjoyed the process of knowing someone. I think that's
Speaker 1: the most beautiful experience because it's beautiful learning how to talk,
Speaker 1: learning the the body languages, things that piste them off,
Speaker 1: or the like, or what type of conversation they like,
Speaker 1: while vibe their own white music, that listening to what
Speaker 1: artists that like. Just that stage, you know, I think
Speaker 1: that that's beautiful. You know, I don't I don't rush
Speaker 1: that stage anymore like I used to rush, like they
Speaker 1: just smash, just have sex. But as you grow, you
Speaker 1: want quality, right, So quality it comes to me patience
Speaker 1: and what I'm saying, so you you have to build
Speaker 1: that thing. You have to build quality because you can
Speaker 1: have quality, right, I'm also have quality. But if we
Speaker 1: don't build equality space, then we're just wasting time. So quality,
Speaker 1: so quality space, you have to build it. So it
Speaker 1: comes with with a lot of communication. So that process
Speaker 1: of no someone new, it's it's it's always magical to me.
Speaker 1: And as soon as you you you've mastered that, then
Speaker 1: you guys. You guys are pretty much best friends. That's
Speaker 1: how that was safety start. That's how you start feeling
Speaker 1: safe and you know you know whatever you feel because
Speaker 1: these men know me. So listen, y'all, when we come
Speaker 1: back off this break, I'm gonna get into this dumb
Speaker 1: Bach story. We'll be back dumb bitch stories because we've
Speaker 1: all been a dumb Bach at least once or twice.
Speaker 1: All right, listen, So this dumb Bach story comes from
Speaker 1: one of our listeners. I believe this came out from Twitter.
Speaker 1: If I'm not mistaken, Uh, please keep anonymous exclamation points. First,
Speaker 1: let me say how much I love y'all podcasts and
Speaker 1: how unapologetically you both are. Um, here's my dumb bag
Speaker 1: story that y'all helped me out of. Beginning of the summer,
Speaker 1: my ex and I got back in contact soon after
Speaker 1: he got out of jail. We met up and he
Speaker 1: fed me all the bs he could. We ended up
Speaker 1: getting intimate, but nothing penetrative. Somewhere during this I listened
Speaker 1: to one of your episodes and y'all mentioned how it's
Speaker 1: possible for people to have her bees and not know
Speaker 1: until getting tested. Bells went off when I heard that
Speaker 1: especially since he gave me mono when we first got together.
Speaker 1: So I got tested, and surely enough that bum gave
Speaker 1: me clamidia. Ladies. I swear if I didn't listen to
Speaker 1: y'all and get tested, I would not have known. So
Speaker 1: so thank you for that. I wrote him a letter
Speaker 1: telling him off, and I haven't contacted him since. Keep
Speaker 1: on talking back, miss A j and Tam Bam is
Speaker 1: clearly needed and gave you the clowp. That's the clown.
Speaker 1: I don't confused that she said they weren't intimate. I
Speaker 1: guess at some point they did get intimate. Thing. You
Speaker 1: can't get clamidia from talking, and you can't just walk out.
Speaker 1: You can't just fly from city to city with it either.
Speaker 1: The fact that the man came from Peason, you don't
Speaker 1: know who we're sucking him, so you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: You don't know man, right, she might be lucky she
Speaker 1: only had climedia. Yeah, if you made the climedia is treatable, right.
Speaker 1: I have no idea, But I mean, if you make
Speaker 1: him back from from jail after I don't know how
Speaker 1: many years, best believe he did something to someone or
Speaker 1: someone did something to him. So not coming home and
Speaker 1: then started doesn't mean it has to be gay. They
Speaker 1: could have the CEO or something like that about to judge. Man,
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm just spinking from from Harry stories. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I hate when people say that though, because there's something word.
Speaker 1: I don't like women, right, I'm not a lesbian, so
Speaker 1: something word to ever happened to me where I end
Speaker 1: up in prison. I don't need sex to survive. That's
Speaker 1: the same for men. So just because a man ends
Speaker 1: up in prison for some reason, because none of us
Speaker 1: are exempt, anything could happen. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You can end up in that situation. You mean to
Speaker 1: tell me you're gonna automatically be gay when you get this.
Speaker 1: That doesn't make sense. You don't have to be gay too,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. I don't know, man, you
Speaker 1: gotta be gay. No, I had to spend one time.
Speaker 1: You told me. One time. I was walking to Bobby Shop.
Speaker 1: When I walking in and this is Bob. He goes
Speaker 1: to me, damn you look good, Damn you lucky. I'm
Speaker 1: not gay. I was like, huh, what it goes to me?
Speaker 1: Damn you look good? Didn't go Damn you lucky? I'm
Speaker 1: not gay, So so now what am I supposed to
Speaker 1: do with the information, Like, Okay, should I said, I mean,
Speaker 1: should I say thank you? Or should I say? What
Speaker 1: do you mean? You know what I'm saying? So I
Speaker 1: was I wasn't sure. I was confused. It's kind of
Speaker 1: I had no reaction because he said, damn me lucky,
Speaker 1: I'm not gay. So I was like, kind of like, so,
Speaker 1: y'all people whom they do some ship but they're gay.
Speaker 1: I mean maybe he's mad enough to maybe, you know,
Speaker 1: because I feel like the no homeo thing like that
Speaker 1: men feel like they have to say is unnecessary if
Speaker 1: you're not gay, Like but anything, y'all make everything y'all
Speaker 1: do gay not us Like y'all can't even even to
Speaker 1: go without feeling gay, Glizzie, they'd be breaking the popping
Speaker 1: it in their mouth instead of biting it. I've been
Speaker 1: eating it like that now too, though I say, guys, hey,
Speaker 1: I love you, bro, I love it bro. That's me.
Speaker 1: I don't say it pause. Fact's been the whole pause.
Speaker 1: That's the meaning. In Europe, we don't need to say pause.
Speaker 1: We just talked whatever, and then depending on how you
Speaker 1: you take it, we don't we don't. We don't say.
Speaker 1: I think that's a New York thing. Honestly, in New York,
Speaker 1: niggas is pausing everything. Because sometimes i'd be talking to
Speaker 1: club iuse I'm just talking, and then and then someone
Speaker 1: gonna say pause, nigga. I'm like, what you mean? What
Speaker 1: pause for? You said? I'm just talking, just just talking freely.
Speaker 1: It's talking. You know, I'm from Europe, I'm from England.
Speaker 1: Just talking. If I getting man, but I'm not gay.
Speaker 1: If I go to jail, I'm gay. If I go
Speaker 1: to jail, if I like not, it depends on how
Speaker 1: long the bid is. Yeah, that's gonna be a bunch
Speaker 1: of ugly bitches in there. You're gonna still be gay.
Speaker 1: If I'm in there for the long haul. If I
Speaker 1: got to do like the rest of my life, and
Speaker 1: they're yeah, I'm gonna give me a girlfriend, why not.
Speaker 1: If I go to jail, I would have no friends.
Speaker 1: I would say my set all day because I know
Speaker 1: I'm taught, I'm cocky, I'm Brown's. You know, I got
Speaker 1: red live and everything. They're gonna be like, Oho, you
Speaker 1: gonna take that booty, Oh man, you gotta give me
Speaker 1: Look at this That's what I like. Chris. Let our
Speaker 1: listeners know where they can find you at. I know
Speaker 1: you gotta um a new single out called No Joke
Speaker 1: right now as well, video coming soon y'all. So let
Speaker 1: our listeners know where they can find you at. They
Speaker 1: can find me everywhere. Chris Calves on Instagram Cast with
Speaker 1: the K Chris sEH all right, cash K. You can
Speaker 1: find me on Google, same name everywhere pretty much, Facebook, Twitter, Clubhouse,
Speaker 1: Chris galas everywhere. My new single No Jokers all right
Speaker 1: now as we speak, UM featuring Ja. That's my guy,
Speaker 1: UM dropping my EAP next year, you know, be shout
Speaker 1: out to my team, shout to my followers. Yeah, man,
Speaker 1: I'm out here. Thank you, Thank you, Chris, thank you,
Speaker 1: Thank you. All right, y'all listen. Oh sorry, go ahead, Chris, No, no,
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean it was beautiful, you know, just
Speaker 1: being here. Usually most of my podcast is man, you know,
Speaker 1: I never had in a real American podcast, So you
Speaker 1: guys are my first. Man. Thank you. Yeah, yeah, my first.
Speaker 1: That's why I was excited. I'm like, man, I want
Speaker 1: to do this. You know, I was like, man, I
Speaker 1: want to do this. You know, Thank you man for
Speaker 1: believing in me and and and I said for giving
Speaker 1: me this, this lovely outlet, you know, and I have fun. Man,
Speaker 1: you guys are beautiful, pretty man. How to choose? Man,
Speaker 1: you try to choose. We appreciate you. To Chris, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm a fan. I'm a big fan. I'm gonna always
Speaker 1: promote your music because I believe in it. It's some
Speaker 1: good ship. And I you know, I think I'm an
Speaker 1: A and R. Okay, I know good music when I
Speaker 1: hear it. All right, y'all, so listen. If you enjoyed
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Speaker 1: This is your co host, A J. Holiday. Y'all can
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Speaker 1: running right now. Okay, so we're gonna talk about Yeah,
Speaker 1: we want to tell me and went up? What are
Speaker 1: you talking about? I told you several times? Is up? Yeah?
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Speaker 1: So if anybody wants to call and talk to myself
Speaker 1: a j or Tam, y'all can do that. You can
Speaker 1: set up a schedule a consultation um to have a
Speaker 1: one on one, uh, you know, to talk about your
Speaker 1: dumb bit shit or your same shit. We were just
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Speaker 1: All right, y'all, it's Tim, ma'am. I'm official Tam Bam
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Speaker 1: Thank y'all so much for tuning in. Once again, we
Speaker 1: really appreciate every every last one of you. I remember
Speaker 1: to speak now and never hold your peace