1 00:00:00,680 --> 00:00:05,920 Speaker 1: Talk talk. We're just too unapologetically black women with an 2 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:12,600 Speaker 1: opinion to talk back. What's up, y'all? Thank you for 3 00:00:12,640 --> 00:00:14,960 Speaker 1: tuning in for a new episode that we Talk Back 4 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:18,239 Speaker 1: and Show dedicated to you. Nigga's and knees Hose sher 5 00:00:18,320 --> 00:00:22,439 Speaker 1: co host a j holiday What up? It's y'all, it's me. 6 00:00:26,800 --> 00:00:32,720 Speaker 1: I'm tired as fun. I need know my name just now? 7 00:00:33,479 --> 00:00:38,600 Speaker 1: Who am I? It's to me mry Hole. I love 8 00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:41,360 Speaker 1: you all wants to get thank you all for coming back. Man? 9 00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:44,680 Speaker 1: She how was your weekend? Girl? Girl? I do watching 10 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:48,320 Speaker 1: nothing that stupid. I didn't look you know, I've seen that. 11 00:00:48,400 --> 00:00:50,400 Speaker 1: Did you see that post on Instagram? And was like 12 00:00:50,680 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 1: uh ms Piggy and kermit? Uh when when my friends 13 00:00:54,520 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 1: asked me what I did this weekend and I'd be 14 00:00:57,040 --> 00:00:59,560 Speaker 1: like nothing, but all the pictures is like sniffet coke 15 00:00:59,640 --> 00:01:03,480 Speaker 1: getting fuck. That's me. Yeah that's you. I ain't seen it, 16 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 1: but that's definitely your ass. That's me. Hey, I ain't 17 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 1: do muching nothing, just you know, adult entertainment, y'all. I 18 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:19,040 Speaker 1: flew my ass back to Jamaica again. I just got 19 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:21,280 Speaker 1: off the plane. I literally got off the plane and 20 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:25,920 Speaker 1: came to the microphone, like literally, it's tired. I got 21 00:01:25,959 --> 00:01:29,560 Speaker 1: that little tan I had so much see you can 22 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 1: see it ain't and I'm a little brown, brown brown. Yeah, 23 00:01:33,920 --> 00:01:36,080 Speaker 1: lay out the order a girl. I ain't do nothing 24 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 1: but smoke and eat and lay up in the sun. 25 00:01:43,720 --> 00:01:48,560 Speaker 1: Like that sounds fun. It was good, but I'm happy 26 00:01:48,560 --> 00:01:54,280 Speaker 1: to be back to y'all kind of shame. What's that 27 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:59,520 Speaker 1: going on in stupid internet news agent girl? The whole world? 28 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:03,200 Speaker 1: I just want to put this disclaimer. Excuse me, I 29 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 1: am now for real. I've always been an observer, but 30 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: that's all I'm doing now because y'all motherfucker's be letting 31 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:13,920 Speaker 1: people like really transmit your energy. So this week Kanye 32 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:19,400 Speaker 1: West did UH Fashion Week and he wore a white 33 00:02:19,440 --> 00:02:22,160 Speaker 1: Lives Matter shirt. He had on a black white Lives 34 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:25,440 Speaker 1: Matter shirt and calling Candice Owens had on a white 35 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:29,840 Speaker 1: black Lives Matter shirt. And that's what I meant, White 36 00:02:29,880 --> 00:02:34,720 Speaker 1: lives matter? The internet mad, Black people mad? What do 37 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:37,480 Speaker 1: you think about that? Groundn't give a funk about me either, one, 38 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:42,880 Speaker 1: thank you? Not right now. Honestly, it's like just being 39 00:02:42,880 --> 00:02:45,160 Speaker 1: an observer for once, because when y'all be putting too 40 00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:48,560 Speaker 1: much emotion into into ship. If anybody wanted to do 41 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:51,320 Speaker 1: some god that magic, they got all you'll attention, all 42 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 1: your energy, everything wrapped up. Do what the funk they 43 00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 1: want to do with you. So just be an observer. 44 00:02:57,360 --> 00:02:59,960 Speaker 1: Just watch look what he was going on. I would 45 00:03:00,080 --> 00:03:03,320 Speaker 1: like to see, like what was you know why? So 46 00:03:03,400 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 1: y'all know the terminology black has no legal standing in 47 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:12,200 Speaker 1: America anyway, So you know, black Lives Matter, that organization 48 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:16,160 Speaker 1: was definitely built off of the backs of dead black men. 49 00:03:16,880 --> 00:03:20,839 Speaker 1: So black lives the actual phrase. Yes, it's a real thing, right, 50 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:25,360 Speaker 1: but BLM isn't. It's not a good thing, you know 51 00:03:25,400 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So why would you be an uproar 52 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:31,000 Speaker 1: because a black person is wearing a white Lives Matter shirt, 53 00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:32,679 Speaker 1: But it's okay for a white person to wear a 54 00:03:32,720 --> 00:03:36,040 Speaker 1: Black Lives Matter shirt? Like do white lives not matter? 55 00:03:38,600 --> 00:03:44,320 Speaker 1: Of course white lives matter, but it's the context. So yeah, 56 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:48,680 Speaker 1: I understand that white Lives Matter is just a reactionary 57 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:53,160 Speaker 1: like phrase, you know, to you know, funk with Black 58 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 1: Lives Matter. We understand all that, right, but there was 59 00:03:55,960 --> 00:03:59,000 Speaker 1: a time that black people black was not a race, 60 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:02,120 Speaker 1: and it's still not. You know what I'm saying. So 61 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:04,440 Speaker 1: we shouldn't even be using the term black as far 62 00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:07,320 Speaker 1: as I'm concerned. So what you want to be called, 63 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:12,520 Speaker 1: I'm indigenous Americans. If we go to the if we 64 00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:15,560 Speaker 1: go to the Olympics, we're not Black Americans. In the Olympics, 65 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:20,960 Speaker 1: we're Americans. But when we come home, were black Americans. Mhm. 66 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:23,880 Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. So in order for us 67 00:04:23,880 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 1: to those of those people are from China, they're from 68 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:33,720 Speaker 1: their Asian we're from here. I ain't from here. Girl. 69 00:04:33,800 --> 00:04:38,000 Speaker 1: On a on the US Census that the definition of 70 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:43,279 Speaker 1: black and black American is any persons that can tie 71 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:48,160 Speaker 1: themselves back to any racial groups. In Africa, there's no 72 00:04:48,240 --> 00:04:52,200 Speaker 1: such thing as racial groups in Africa as ethnic groups. 73 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:55,479 Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying, So that even a definition 74 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:57,880 Speaker 1: and all the legal ship we use in America is 75 00:04:57,920 --> 00:05:00,960 Speaker 1: fucking false. You should not be that mad about this 76 00:05:01,200 --> 00:05:04,480 Speaker 1: period and up until I don't know, the eighteen hundreds, 77 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:09,760 Speaker 1: black mint pale. So when did the definition change? I 78 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:13,120 Speaker 1: don't know. Are we black or are we white? I'm black? 79 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 1: Are we black or are we white? Black? Question? And 80 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:22,279 Speaker 1: I'm black, y'all, and I'm black and black and I'm black, y'all. 81 00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:27,960 Speaker 1: I like, I like definitions, and I like, so you're 82 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:32,159 Speaker 1: a white person for the last, for the last I'll 83 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:36,800 Speaker 1: say ten years. When I do uh anything legal documents, 84 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:41,800 Speaker 1: I either put other white or Indians. I never put 85 00:05:41,800 --> 00:05:44,559 Speaker 1: black African American, but at least the last or seen years. 86 00:05:44,960 --> 00:05:47,920 Speaker 1: But why would you put white though? Because you get 87 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:51,200 Speaker 1: benefits the funk. You automatically get put in this little 88 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:55,240 Speaker 1: small box when you check black because they the system, 89 00:05:55,320 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 1: especially with AI now they're looking for that. So they 90 00:05:58,480 --> 00:06:00,920 Speaker 1: just if it's a job applicate, just throw your ship 91 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 1: out when you hit black American. Do you see what 92 00:06:03,200 --> 00:06:07,599 Speaker 1: I'm saying? So the ship is systematic, So it would 93 00:06:07,640 --> 00:06:10,040 Speaker 1: be in your best benefit to pick some other ship 94 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:14,719 Speaker 1: other than black in America. I'm just gonna go, would 95 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:21,720 Speaker 1: I am? I don't know what else happening, but you've 96 00:06:21,720 --> 00:06:25,640 Speaker 1: been gone. All types of ship happened, So I don't 97 00:06:25,640 --> 00:06:29,240 Speaker 1: know if y'all was so disconnected. I disconnected, Okay, I 98 00:06:29,360 --> 00:06:34,240 Speaker 1: was just in the water, that's it. What else happening? Child? 99 00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:39,640 Speaker 1: So this niggad boy A B and Sonia Brown he 100 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:42,039 Speaker 1: going ham on internet? You'll he don't posted a picture 101 00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:46,200 Speaker 1: of Tom Brady White Gazelle A picture from when they 102 00:06:46,240 --> 00:06:50,240 Speaker 1: won the the I don't even know what year was it. 103 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:52,440 Speaker 1: It might have been last year, whenever the last super 104 00:06:52,480 --> 00:06:54,880 Speaker 1: Bowl they won. She gave him this big, old, nice 105 00:06:54,920 --> 00:06:58,000 Speaker 1: little hug and it looks pretty intimate, you know. And 106 00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:00,400 Speaker 1: they're in the middle of getting divorced because the apparently 107 00:07:00,560 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: sources say that they have, you know, been consulting with 108 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 1: a divorse divorce attorney. And I feel like gossip in 109 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:08,240 Speaker 1: to see them niggas being on everybody business because maybe 110 00:07:08,279 --> 00:07:10,880 Speaker 1: about a month ago, uh, she put out there that 111 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 1: they were living separately in separate homes. And now this 112 00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 1: this week and why he posted a picture I don't know. 113 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:22,960 Speaker 1: Caption on the picture says, put that ship on. I 114 00:07:22,960 --> 00:07:24,600 Speaker 1: don't know what. I don't know, but I'm sure that 115 00:07:24,600 --> 00:07:26,880 Speaker 1: woman was hugging him because she was excited that they 116 00:07:26,880 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 1: won the super Bowl. That was it. And then this 117 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:32,840 Speaker 1: is kind of like when Faith took picture with Tupac 118 00:07:33,280 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 1: and then he posted it and made it look like 119 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:39,560 Speaker 1: he was fucking Faith I'm talking about. Yeah, I remember that. 120 00:07:39,600 --> 00:07:43,040 Speaker 1: But A B was living with these people during that season, 121 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:46,000 Speaker 1: so they could have they could have built they could 122 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:47,840 Speaker 1: have built a report. I understand. I see how you're 123 00:07:47,840 --> 00:07:49,240 Speaker 1: looking at it like, yeah, they could have you know, 124 00:07:49,280 --> 00:07:51,520 Speaker 1: we family, hoya, but you've been living with us for 125 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:53,400 Speaker 1: the lat for the whole six month season or whatever 126 00:07:54,240 --> 00:08:00,280 Speaker 1: we won, and maybe he's making I don't oh, some 127 00:08:00,320 --> 00:08:03,680 Speaker 1: type of riff between tem Brady with this. This is 128 00:08:03,720 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 1: why you don't let motherfucker's in your house. Period. I 129 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:09,200 Speaker 1: gottn't let you stay in my house. Welcome to you 130 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:11,680 Speaker 1: to my home with my family and my children. And 131 00:08:11,720 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 1: this is what you do, even if you're don't funk 132 00:08:14,440 --> 00:08:17,480 Speaker 1: with me, no more, don't do that. Don't do that. 133 00:08:17,760 --> 00:08:20,160 Speaker 1: And everybody saying, oh, ct E, that's all you see 134 00:08:20,200 --> 00:08:23,040 Speaker 1: in the comments ct But y'all want to hear what 135 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:28,360 Speaker 1: I think about this. Also, y'all can google this. I 136 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:33,199 Speaker 1: don't be lying, y'all. Baby is white. No, No, Gizelle 137 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 1: is a witch. Even her husband has said that. Google it. 138 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:39,480 Speaker 1: Gizelle is a witch. She does ritual, she does all 139 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:41,559 Speaker 1: these things. She set to alter up for her son. 140 00:08:41,679 --> 00:08:45,400 Speaker 1: These are all things that people in this lifestyle do, right. 141 00:08:46,360 --> 00:08:50,160 Speaker 1: And I bet you if he divorces that woman, she's 142 00:08:50,200 --> 00:08:52,520 Speaker 1: the lifeline. She had been telling him when he was 143 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:54,960 Speaker 1: gonna win what Super Bowls? When to play when not 144 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:57,240 Speaker 1: to play? She had been she has been guiding him 145 00:08:58,000 --> 00:09:01,720 Speaker 1: through his winds. Okay, if he separates from that woman, 146 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:03,960 Speaker 1: y'all watched that, they're gonna be looking like y'all remember 147 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:08,000 Speaker 1: a fat door on End Game Marvel End Game and 148 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:11,360 Speaker 1: nig had got fat. That's gonna be Tom Brady you 149 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:15,960 Speaker 1: want and we watched, uh A b loses fucking mind? 150 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:17,760 Speaker 1: What did what did they do to him in that house? 151 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:22,440 Speaker 1: I don't know, girl, this is all like you'd be 152 00:09:22,520 --> 00:09:28,439 Speaker 1: just really thinking. Then you'm a deep thinker. But she 153 00:09:28,600 --> 00:09:31,640 Speaker 1: also are with yourself, So which is be? Noh, witches 154 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 1: be knowing? M h. I'm just saying, okay, because you 155 00:09:36,800 --> 00:09:40,360 Speaker 1: do be just saying some ship. I don't. First of all, 156 00:09:40,679 --> 00:09:44,840 Speaker 1: I do not saying I don't. I promise you I don't. 157 00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:46,720 Speaker 1: The only other thing I saw this week and I 158 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:50,360 Speaker 1: was like, you know what, j T JT was defending 159 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:52,840 Speaker 1: a little oozy because people will be coming for her 160 00:09:53,200 --> 00:09:55,920 Speaker 1: basically because of how her man dressed and ship like that. 161 00:09:56,360 --> 00:09:58,640 Speaker 1: And she was like, y'all think the way people dress 162 00:09:58,679 --> 00:10:01,319 Speaker 1: and how they express themselves as what defines him sexually. 163 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 1: And that's the truth. You know what I'm saying, so 164 00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:08,160 Speaker 1: men have been wearing fucking leggings and ship like that forever. 165 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:13,000 Speaker 1: We'll be going too deep nowadays. But if your nigga 166 00:10:13,040 --> 00:10:21,360 Speaker 1: came home with a belly person, and it depends on 167 00:10:21,360 --> 00:10:25,000 Speaker 1: the nigga, because I would definitely date an eccentric as 168 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:28,440 Speaker 1: rock star type nigga. I would. I'd be liking different. 169 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:30,720 Speaker 1: Would have to be a literal rock star. He would 170 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:33,760 Speaker 1: have to be a little That's what I'm saying. He 171 00:10:33,800 --> 00:10:36,040 Speaker 1: would have to be him. Because if you're working at 172 00:10:36,160 --> 00:10:39,960 Speaker 1: public walk around with a belly ring, I'll be like, 173 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:44,120 Speaker 1: I ain't gonna be able to do it. So j 174 00:10:44,280 --> 00:10:46,840 Speaker 1: T was like, who's he dating me? And we honestly 175 00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:49,880 Speaker 1: have two different audiences. So nothing bothered me more than 176 00:10:49,920 --> 00:10:52,680 Speaker 1: when he doing what he wants. Y'all tag me and 177 00:10:52,720 --> 00:10:56,320 Speaker 1: say this year man, yes ho, that's my man, my 178 00:10:56,480 --> 00:11:00,240 Speaker 1: good man, my rich man, my respectful man, my little man, 179 00:11:01,120 --> 00:11:06,920 Speaker 1: my successful rock star heart. Y'all yeah, because the girl 180 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:10,720 Speaker 1: there like, that's her man. I don't care what he pierces, asshole. 181 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:15,200 Speaker 1: I wouldn't give a fun that's her man. You know again, 182 00:11:15,280 --> 00:11:18,520 Speaker 1: we're just observing. That's all we do. We just hit 183 00:11:18,600 --> 00:11:24,040 Speaker 1: up observed to tell y'all what the funk we stop? Yeah, 184 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:26,520 Speaker 1: I went mine, I went minded barely when you ain't 185 00:11:26,520 --> 00:11:29,520 Speaker 1: about to come home with no damn asshole, Piers. Now, 186 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:32,400 Speaker 1: come on, is that a thing? I don't know? I'm 187 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:35,160 Speaker 1: pretty sure people got that little meat right above their asshole, 188 00:11:35,400 --> 00:11:38,120 Speaker 1: right at the crease of the butt, Pierce. Somewhere. Somebody 189 00:11:38,120 --> 00:11:43,640 Speaker 1: got that. Somebody did it do all in memory? Stupid? 190 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:48,240 Speaker 1: All right, y'all listen. So we do have a special 191 00:11:48,240 --> 00:11:51,360 Speaker 1: guest on we talked back this week, y'all stay tuned. Okay, 192 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:54,080 Speaker 1: right after this break, we're gonna have Chris haves on. 193 00:11:54,240 --> 00:12:03,839 Speaker 1: We're talking jealousy. All right, y'all be back listen. So 194 00:12:03,920 --> 00:12:08,319 Speaker 1: we have a special guest on we talked back this week. Personally, 195 00:12:08,360 --> 00:12:11,400 Speaker 1: I think he's like the next up and coming biggest 196 00:12:11,640 --> 00:12:14,640 Speaker 1: afrobeats artists. If you want to consider to consider yourself 197 00:12:14,640 --> 00:12:18,640 Speaker 1: that I don't know. But we have Chris Gabs on. 198 00:12:18,840 --> 00:12:24,360 Speaker 1: We talked back all the way from Dublin, Ireland. What's up, Chris? 199 00:12:25,679 --> 00:12:27,840 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for having me tell our listeners 200 00:12:27,840 --> 00:12:31,040 Speaker 1: a little bit about yourself. Chris. You know I'm Chris 201 00:12:31,080 --> 00:12:38,880 Speaker 1: Gabs born in Africa. More specifically, in Congo, raised in Sweden, Stockholm, 202 00:12:40,080 --> 00:12:44,160 Speaker 1: and moved to Ireland at fourteen. I'm a music producer, 203 00:12:44,679 --> 00:12:48,280 Speaker 1: creative person. I'm a friend, I'm my brother and my cousin, 204 00:12:48,600 --> 00:12:54,200 Speaker 1: my son. You know, I'm a lover, you know, guy man, 205 00:12:54,240 --> 00:12:58,400 Speaker 1: I'm a happy person general. I love I love life 206 00:12:58,440 --> 00:13:00,400 Speaker 1: and I love the idea of living. Think there's a 207 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:03,800 Speaker 1: beautiful thing just to be a life. Yeah, Chris is 208 00:13:03,800 --> 00:13:07,000 Speaker 1: a super lovel boy. Okay, let's be so just jumping that. 209 00:13:07,160 --> 00:13:14,680 Speaker 1: DM Chris cat crist Cabs on Instagram. So how did 210 00:13:14,720 --> 00:13:17,120 Speaker 1: you get into music, Chris? I think they started with 211 00:13:17,160 --> 00:13:20,160 Speaker 1: my family, you know, my whole family. It's it's musical. 212 00:13:20,480 --> 00:13:23,720 Speaker 1: My dad used to be a quiet master, you know, 213 00:13:23,920 --> 00:13:29,680 Speaker 1: back in the seminies whatever. Church yeah, church yeah, church, Yeah, 214 00:13:29,760 --> 00:13:32,280 Speaker 1: that's where he met my mom. Mom was also acquired 215 00:13:32,360 --> 00:13:35,400 Speaker 1: master as well. So the mad in the same church. 216 00:13:36,240 --> 00:13:39,960 Speaker 1: Long story short, feel in love, got married and they 217 00:13:40,040 --> 00:13:43,800 Speaker 1: made me and then I remember I remember one time 218 00:13:43,840 --> 00:13:46,560 Speaker 1: because because my daddy used to have this you know, 219 00:13:46,720 --> 00:13:50,040 Speaker 1: back in Africa, right, he used to have this huge 220 00:13:50,520 --> 00:13:55,199 Speaker 1: cave right where he kept he stored all types of instruments, 221 00:13:55,840 --> 00:14:00,480 Speaker 1: you know, conarls, drums, bays, whatever, somehow fed a lot 222 00:14:00,520 --> 00:14:03,840 Speaker 1: with with with with drums. So drums was like my 223 00:14:03,960 --> 00:14:07,840 Speaker 1: first instrument that I started learning by myself. So I said, 224 00:14:07,920 --> 00:14:11,439 Speaker 1: don't play drums, and from drums and moved to piano. 225 00:14:11,720 --> 00:14:14,439 Speaker 1: From piano, I started learning how to produce be Shout 226 00:14:14,440 --> 00:14:17,600 Speaker 1: out to my uncle Fabrics. He's the one that actually 227 00:14:17,920 --> 00:14:23,480 Speaker 1: introduced the whole software music software. So he showed me 228 00:14:23,640 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 1: back in Germany. He goes, hey, you know, with your talent, 229 00:14:27,440 --> 00:14:30,880 Speaker 1: you could really do more. And then he introduced to 230 00:14:30,880 --> 00:14:34,840 Speaker 1: me the software called Cube's back then and from Cube's 231 00:14:35,160 --> 00:14:39,520 Speaker 1: start learning how to program music on computer. And fast 232 00:14:39,560 --> 00:14:44,840 Speaker 1: forward now we're here, right, So Chris produces music. So 233 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:48,480 Speaker 1: I know one of my favorite songs is more and 234 00:14:48,520 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 1: I love Jealousy and the beats on these songs are exceptional. Okay, 235 00:14:54,800 --> 00:14:58,920 Speaker 1: my favorite songs from Chris appreciate. So wait, you you 236 00:14:58,920 --> 00:15:01,480 Speaker 1: you produced the songs, but is it also you who 237 00:15:01,520 --> 00:15:06,640 Speaker 1: recorded the song or is everything? So basically I have 238 00:15:06,720 --> 00:15:10,840 Speaker 1: a production company, you know, and within the company we 239 00:15:10,960 --> 00:15:16,120 Speaker 1: have I have a studio with all types of equipment 240 00:15:16,320 --> 00:15:20,440 Speaker 1: in order to produce sound, you know, to be representable 241 00:15:20,480 --> 00:15:23,400 Speaker 1: for the radio, for the listeners. So I have that. 242 00:15:23,640 --> 00:15:28,160 Speaker 1: So that's like eight of of of me bringing into 243 00:15:28,200 --> 00:15:32,440 Speaker 1: the industry. So I have the ability to create sound 244 00:15:32,480 --> 00:15:36,000 Speaker 1: from scratch, you know, picking sound and you know which 245 00:15:36,040 --> 00:15:39,280 Speaker 1: one works in and which one not. So I just 246 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:42,760 Speaker 1: have the ear to know watch sound works with watch sound. 247 00:15:43,640 --> 00:15:47,880 Speaker 1: And by doing that, you know, um, I can create whatever. 248 00:15:47,920 --> 00:15:51,040 Speaker 1: I played piano, I play keys and play drums, and 249 00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:53,440 Speaker 1: that's how I made all my songs, just by hearing 250 00:15:53,560 --> 00:15:59,520 Speaker 1: and and then you create. I write as well, but 251 00:15:59,560 --> 00:16:02,920 Speaker 1: I do have few writers around. Uh. One of my 252 00:16:02,960 --> 00:16:05,320 Speaker 1: main write us is J L. Well, that's the guy 253 00:16:05,360 --> 00:16:08,760 Speaker 1: on the track no Joke. He wrote. He co wrote 254 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:11,440 Speaker 1: some of my songs with me. But I do write 255 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:14,680 Speaker 1: my own songs like I do, I do compose the concept. 256 00:16:15,160 --> 00:16:18,200 Speaker 1: How important is it for people in the music business 257 00:16:18,280 --> 00:16:19,720 Speaker 1: to be able to do you know a lot of 258 00:16:19,720 --> 00:16:21,520 Speaker 1: this stuff yourself, you know what I'm saying, Because even 259 00:16:21,520 --> 00:16:24,640 Speaker 1: like with us with podcasting, you know, one monkey ain't 260 00:16:24,640 --> 00:16:26,640 Speaker 1: gonna stop no show over here because we can pretty 261 00:16:26,680 --> 00:16:29,200 Speaker 1: much do a lot of this stuff ourselves. So how 262 00:16:29,240 --> 00:16:33,280 Speaker 1: important is that you know, learning the actual business music business, 263 00:16:33,520 --> 00:16:35,440 Speaker 1: and you know, also being able to do your own 264 00:16:35,440 --> 00:16:39,040 Speaker 1: production right. So for me, it was more like I 265 00:16:39,040 --> 00:16:42,600 Speaker 1: didn't know about I didn't know about the business, you know, 266 00:16:42,640 --> 00:16:46,480 Speaker 1: I didn't I didn't know Like I remember my first beat, 267 00:16:46,520 --> 00:16:49,280 Speaker 1: the assoul to any artists was five euros that's like 268 00:16:49,480 --> 00:16:53,080 Speaker 1: twenty dollars, you know. Because I didn't know my worth, 269 00:16:53,120 --> 00:16:56,400 Speaker 1: I didn't know how to go about it right. So 270 00:16:56,480 --> 00:16:59,160 Speaker 1: it took me a good ten years to study to 271 00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:02,960 Speaker 1: just know what to do, how to do, how to capitalize, 272 00:17:03,000 --> 00:17:06,560 Speaker 1: how to negotiate and this and that, you know. But 273 00:17:06,640 --> 00:17:08,919 Speaker 1: again it can with error. I've made a lot of 274 00:17:08,960 --> 00:17:11,359 Speaker 1: mistakes in the process because I just didn't know what 275 00:17:11,440 --> 00:17:14,639 Speaker 1: to do with it, you know. But of course the 276 00:17:14,680 --> 00:17:17,240 Speaker 1: fact that I was always hungry, I was passionate, I 277 00:17:17,320 --> 00:17:21,959 Speaker 1: had there's there's there's passion to just be great, you know, 278 00:17:22,160 --> 00:17:24,879 Speaker 1: because when you want to be great, you do whatever 279 00:17:24,880 --> 00:17:28,439 Speaker 1: it takes to be great, you know. And by doing that, 280 00:17:28,680 --> 00:17:30,520 Speaker 1: you start doing your own due diligence, you know, you 281 00:17:30,800 --> 00:17:37,440 Speaker 1: start learning about productions and royalties and being registered like 282 00:17:37,520 --> 00:17:40,679 Speaker 1: you know, copyright my Chris Gay's name is now licensed 283 00:17:40,720 --> 00:17:42,840 Speaker 1: and all that stuff. That I'm not just an artist, 284 00:17:42,840 --> 00:17:47,639 Speaker 1: I'm a business. You know. There was no feelings in business. 285 00:17:47,480 --> 00:17:51,199 Speaker 1: It's a fact and report only. You start learning about that. 286 00:17:51,240 --> 00:17:55,080 Speaker 1: It start just to become more mature, mature, mature, um. 287 00:17:55,119 --> 00:17:57,879 Speaker 1: So basically it was more like the more I know, 288 00:17:58,840 --> 00:18:01,639 Speaker 1: the better I could negotiate. Right, The more I know, 289 00:18:01,760 --> 00:18:04,280 Speaker 1: the better I knew how to how to navigate through 290 00:18:04,280 --> 00:18:07,040 Speaker 1: the industry. Because the industry that I'm all is very toxic, 291 00:18:07,359 --> 00:18:10,120 Speaker 1: very complex. So if you you don't have the right 292 00:18:10,880 --> 00:18:13,840 Speaker 1: the right mindset or the right information that anybody can 293 00:18:13,960 --> 00:18:16,520 Speaker 1: use you, it's a game. So there was a song 294 00:18:16,640 --> 00:18:19,480 Speaker 1: that I was listening to you of yours a little 295 00:18:19,480 --> 00:18:22,399 Speaker 1: while ago, Jealousy Did you write that? I wrote that 296 00:18:22,480 --> 00:18:26,040 Speaker 1: song from scratch everything, every words, So that came from 297 00:18:26,080 --> 00:18:35,359 Speaker 1: a personal place. Let's talk about it. Broke us up. 298 00:18:37,760 --> 00:18:40,320 Speaker 1: Where are you from? Where are you from? Where are 299 00:18:40,320 --> 00:18:43,880 Speaker 1: you from? How dad you get here? Get here? Get here? 300 00:18:44,160 --> 00:18:47,399 Speaker 1: I'd be trying to run away from you? You you 301 00:18:49,040 --> 00:18:53,040 Speaker 1: for more? Pretty much this was a well what happened? 302 00:18:53,080 --> 00:18:56,080 Speaker 1: Tell us the story behind the motivation. Basically, the song 303 00:18:56,400 --> 00:18:59,520 Speaker 1: I was inspired by by my own life, life life situation. 304 00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:02,960 Speaker 1: You know, I had this this this this person who 305 00:19:02,960 --> 00:19:05,600 Speaker 1: I used to date back in the day, who didn't 306 00:19:05,680 --> 00:19:11,000 Speaker 1: understand my lifestyle, who didn't understand my schedule or my 307 00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:14,280 Speaker 1: my slipping pattern, you know, because because being in all, 308 00:19:14,359 --> 00:19:17,120 Speaker 1: it's like we could be bad sleeping. Then if if 309 00:19:17,160 --> 00:19:19,440 Speaker 1: I'm inspired, I wake up in the middle of the 310 00:19:19,560 --> 00:19:23,560 Speaker 1: night and start creating as to create. That's what you're saying. 311 00:19:23,960 --> 00:19:27,200 Speaker 1: One time, one time, One time, I was actually doing it, 312 00:19:27,760 --> 00:19:29,600 Speaker 1: and then I got its tongue in my head. I'm like, 313 00:19:30,119 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 1: I love you, hold on, I have something to play 314 00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:36,280 Speaker 1: in my head. I know it's weird, I get it, 315 00:19:36,520 --> 00:19:38,800 Speaker 1: but I have to go and just later on some 316 00:19:38,880 --> 00:19:46,399 Speaker 1: cause she never understood my lifestyle. She just didn't get it. 317 00:19:47,400 --> 00:19:49,240 Speaker 1: And then every time when I was in fun or 318 00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:51,879 Speaker 1: we could being a date and then I see I 319 00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:54,280 Speaker 1: see a number in the name, I'm like, yo, this person, 320 00:19:55,400 --> 00:19:57,280 Speaker 1: it's the next big deal. I gotta pick it up. 321 00:19:57,680 --> 00:20:01,800 Speaker 1: She goes she can't wait. I'm like, either I make 322 00:20:01,920 --> 00:20:04,639 Speaker 1: her weight and then we're gonna end up taking this 323 00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:09,680 Speaker 1: bus to date, or I pick up this car next 324 00:20:09,680 --> 00:20:13,040 Speaker 1: time we don't drive and we see this today, you choose, 325 00:20:13,520 --> 00:20:16,160 Speaker 1: And then things got toxic because she never understood how 326 00:20:16,200 --> 00:20:22,120 Speaker 1: this game works. Don't answer that phone exactly like we're 327 00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:28,800 Speaker 1: crying over here, listening like you you let me pick 328 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:31,639 Speaker 1: up this car and next time, we're gonna be on 329 00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:34,479 Speaker 1: the on the jet or I'll tell him to call 330 00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:36,520 Speaker 1: and letter and then we're gonna steer taking this bus 331 00:20:36,520 --> 00:20:41,280 Speaker 1: and trained to do whatever we're going. You choose, then 332 00:20:41,320 --> 00:20:44,840 Speaker 1: she goes a great but then eventually I was like, 333 00:20:45,040 --> 00:20:47,040 Speaker 1: you know what, it's not gonna work because jealousy going 334 00:20:47,080 --> 00:20:49,879 Speaker 1: the way. You can't understand that in this industry, you 335 00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:53,040 Speaker 1: did it with men, men and women and gage people 336 00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:56,600 Speaker 1: too sometimes also want you. So it's gonna hard for 337 00:20:56,640 --> 00:21:02,440 Speaker 1: me to make her understand that it's a game of throne. Man. 338 00:21:02,800 --> 00:21:06,600 Speaker 1: You know, you have to understand or just don't try. 339 00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:09,639 Speaker 1: And then she walked away. So she basically she wanted 340 00:21:09,680 --> 00:21:13,920 Speaker 1: to be prioritized over your career. Yeah, well back then 341 00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:19,440 Speaker 1: I wasn't really in that space to prioritizing anybody because 342 00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:22,040 Speaker 1: I was very very on my game. I was like, no, 343 00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:26,879 Speaker 1: like you you just got here. I've been doing this 344 00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:29,520 Speaker 1: before you came here. As why would I just told 345 00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:34,200 Speaker 1: my life away because of pussy? You know what I'm saying, Well, 346 00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:37,200 Speaker 1: if you viewed her as pussy, then exactly I kind 347 00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:39,560 Speaker 1: of help you just get rid of her then, right, 348 00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:42,520 Speaker 1: If you viewed her as pussy, I mean if that's 349 00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:45,399 Speaker 1: why she presented to me, So that's why she I 350 00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:47,560 Speaker 1: guess that's what she wanted me to see. Are you 351 00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:50,520 Speaker 1: saying that's all the value she had? That's what I'm 352 00:21:50,520 --> 00:21:52,920 Speaker 1: trying to say, that's the thing that she presented first. 353 00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:56,040 Speaker 1: Oh my life. Are you sure you ain't present that 354 00:21:56,119 --> 00:22:04,040 Speaker 1: dick first? Do you think there's healthy jealousy in a relationship? Yeah, 355 00:22:04,080 --> 00:22:06,800 Speaker 1: of course. If if you don't a jealous then you 356 00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:09,439 Speaker 1: don't care. I want you to. I want you to 357 00:22:09,480 --> 00:22:11,600 Speaker 1: be jealous. I want you to to ask me who's 358 00:22:11,640 --> 00:22:13,720 Speaker 1: who's calling you. I want you to ask me what 359 00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:16,679 Speaker 1: time you're coming home. I want you to to to 360 00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:19,040 Speaker 1: feed up away from doing certain things. Even though you 361 00:22:19,080 --> 00:22:20,680 Speaker 1: trust me, but I still want you to feel a 362 00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:23,920 Speaker 1: little bit, you know, jealous about what I'm doing. If 363 00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:26,520 Speaker 1: we have a jealous God while not having a jealous 364 00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:30,239 Speaker 1: woman or man. But at the same rate, you just 365 00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:33,200 Speaker 1: said that you you left a relationship with somebody who 366 00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:36,520 Speaker 1: because she was too jealous. But you do, at the 367 00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:42,000 Speaker 1: same time want somebody who be talking you, questioning you. 368 00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:45,280 Speaker 1: You want a little toxicity, it's what you're saying. It's 369 00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:47,359 Speaker 1: more like I want you to know what I'm doing, 370 00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:50,800 Speaker 1: But don't don't doubt me. I don't like people down 371 00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:52,680 Speaker 1: because I got no reason to lie to you. If 372 00:22:52,680 --> 00:22:55,120 Speaker 1: you ask me where you were, yeah, I'm here, I'm 373 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:57,720 Speaker 1: doing next z. That's that's the truth. I don't. You 374 00:22:57,720 --> 00:22:59,920 Speaker 1: don't pay me to be your man. You don't pay 375 00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:02,399 Speaker 1: me to have sex with you. You don't pay me 376 00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:04,359 Speaker 1: to be with you. So what would allow to you? 377 00:23:04,880 --> 00:23:07,600 Speaker 1: I mean I would like to my boss, maybe my manager. 378 00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:14,080 Speaker 1: He was all the time for no reason. Nobody analyzed. Okay, 379 00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:21,600 Speaker 1: what that mean? African nigga at an adjective. I'm a 380 00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:26,320 Speaker 1: freaking man who never been to slaved, thank god. So 381 00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:28,400 Speaker 1: I don't. I don't understand. Nigga, what do you mean? 382 00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:32,240 Speaker 1: You just got finished? All right? Don't play because before 383 00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:35,000 Speaker 1: we started recording, he just said how much he uses 384 00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:44,040 Speaker 1: nigga for emphasis. And now you're not a nigga. I'm 385 00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:49,720 Speaker 1: a proud, i freaking man and Okay, So basically, in 386 00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:55,119 Speaker 1: your eyes, jealousy is necessary in the relationship to a 387 00:23:55,200 --> 00:23:59,239 Speaker 1: certain extent. What's that line, though? How do you know 388 00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:02,840 Speaker 1: when you've reached that line? I think it's when it's 389 00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:10,480 Speaker 1: getting unhealthy, unbalanced, unreasonable, toxic, when you're still asking dumb 390 00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:13,720 Speaker 1: questions like how long were you were you on the phone? 391 00:24:13,720 --> 00:24:19,080 Speaker 1: Tail or how far you from home? Or like every 392 00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:20,840 Speaker 1: time I want to call you, you don't pick up, 393 00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:22,760 Speaker 1: but then you call me back after ten minutes, after 394 00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:27,000 Speaker 1: five minutes, you know, like um, or when you get home, 395 00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:29,080 Speaker 1: let me smell your dick. Put your pads down and 396 00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:30,919 Speaker 1: let me smell your dick right now. If you do that, 397 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:32,840 Speaker 1: we'll be done. Like It's kind of like, because you 398 00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:35,919 Speaker 1: see my my my red flag is when you doubt me. 399 00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:39,440 Speaker 1: Why would you doubt me? Why? Why you know what 400 00:24:39,440 --> 00:24:41,679 Speaker 1: I'm saying. It's kind of like if I see for me, 401 00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:43,879 Speaker 1: if that girl takes me something, I believe you, Like 402 00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:47,439 Speaker 1: I've got no reason not to unless you can make 403 00:24:47,480 --> 00:24:50,680 Speaker 1: a reason to not believe. I'm very black and white 404 00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:53,480 Speaker 1: if I if I tell you, I'll maintain minutes. If 405 00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:55,119 Speaker 1: I'm led, I'll give a reason why I'm late. If 406 00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:57,600 Speaker 1: you doubt me twice, A'm mad. I'm like, why would 407 00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:01,320 Speaker 1: you doubt me for what? You know? You know? My mom? 408 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:03,640 Speaker 1: I mean, I liked my mom my dad because it's 409 00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:06,560 Speaker 1: my dad. But like I just met you four days ago. 410 00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:10,920 Speaker 1: What m like? I said, I'm a freaking man, I'm different, 411 00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:14,720 Speaker 1: all right, four days obviously that's a bit much to 412 00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:17,480 Speaker 1: be questioning those things. But if you're in a real 413 00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:24,280 Speaker 1: relationship after one week, so who's yeah, what I'm telling you, 414 00:25:25,320 --> 00:25:29,080 Speaker 1: even what I'm saying. No, that's that's asking because I 415 00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:31,680 Speaker 1: wouldn't want you asking those questions of me after four days. 416 00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:35,280 Speaker 1: Ship happening before you got here, sir, relaxed. You know, 417 00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:38,520 Speaker 1: I've been leaving for thirty or four years plus before 418 00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:40,800 Speaker 1: I met you, So like, what do you mean? Where 419 00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:46,240 Speaker 1: was I I was leaving you? Like? What do you like? What? 420 00:25:46,560 --> 00:25:48,280 Speaker 1: What do you mean? Like? What? What? What's your body? 421 00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:50,600 Speaker 1: If ask me that question? Do you pay me to 422 00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:54,000 Speaker 1: be here? Like gold on, I take a person. At 423 00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:58,200 Speaker 1: that point, I feel like I'm always jealous. It don't 424 00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:00,760 Speaker 1: take much to make me jealous, but I'm so player, 425 00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:03,600 Speaker 1: Like I'm not gonna You're not gonna know I'm jealous 426 00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:10,480 Speaker 1: about some ship, but I'm almost always jealous. Toxic that is? 427 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:15,960 Speaker 1: How is that toxic? Because you don't express your jealousy, 428 00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:18,720 Speaker 1: you don't even express that ship. I think that's toxic. 429 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:25,320 Speaker 1: How if I don't let you know if I'm if 430 00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:28,080 Speaker 1: I don't like something about whatever you're doing. I'd be like, hey, listen, 431 00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:30,080 Speaker 1: I don't feel good about this. I don't like the 432 00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:34,080 Speaker 1: way you talk about Now we're gonna talk about I think. 433 00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:39,240 Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna be toxic, but I'm ampressing. What 434 00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:42,040 Speaker 1: do you mean? I mean? How do I just just 435 00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:45,439 Speaker 1: basically off this eighteen minute conversation we just had. I 436 00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:49,399 Speaker 1: feel like, yeah, you might be toxic, babe, because you 437 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:53,480 Speaker 1: just said, why are you expressing that you're jealous? After 438 00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:56,240 Speaker 1: knowing me for four days? And now you're telling actually, like, 439 00:26:56,280 --> 00:27:00,560 Speaker 1: why aren't you expressing it? That's toxic? That's what I said. 440 00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:03,240 Speaker 1: What I say was, it's all depending on your questions 441 00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:05,800 Speaker 1: and how you go about it. It's your approach, m 442 00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:09,400 Speaker 1: it's your it's your approach, like how you I think 443 00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:13,439 Speaker 1: it's all down to your tone, right, your energy, and 444 00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:17,240 Speaker 1: I feel those things and you could ask me the 445 00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:20,480 Speaker 1: most harsh question ever. But if you haven't the right 446 00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:24,600 Speaker 1: approach and the right that the right energy, I'll be oh, yeah, actually, yeah, 447 00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:29,160 Speaker 1: this did this happened? Lets you go, you go, whether 448 00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:34,040 Speaker 1: you versus so talk to me nice. Okay, So it's 449 00:27:34,040 --> 00:27:42,920 Speaker 1: the tone, virgo, talk to me nice? Can you give 450 00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:46,919 Speaker 1: examples of healthy jealousy. Like I was like looking at 451 00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,640 Speaker 1: a list of different things, and I didn't realize there 452 00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:55,720 Speaker 1: was such a thing as healthy jealousy. I think I'm very, uh, 453 00:27:55,920 --> 00:28:02,560 Speaker 1: territorial type of man. So I think I'm protective type 454 00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:05,480 Speaker 1: of guy. If you're my wife, my girl, or my 455 00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:09,840 Speaker 1: future girlfriend or a future fiance, I'll be protective because 456 00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:13,560 Speaker 1: I care about you, right, because I love you. So 457 00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:16,159 Speaker 1: if you love someone, you would have a sense of 458 00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:21,920 Speaker 1: um ownership. You own that you don't own her, but 459 00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:29,959 Speaker 1: you own the situation to your own situation, right, I 460 00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:34,720 Speaker 1: want you to feel protected. Your baby, you're good, Yeah, 461 00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:38,760 Speaker 1: I'm I'm only calling to check up and you okay, 462 00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:40,640 Speaker 1: how was your day? Baby? By the time, would you 463 00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:42,680 Speaker 1: be hung? Okay? Let me know how it works, goes 464 00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:45,480 Speaker 1: allow you and mess you have a last baby, Bam. 465 00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:49,920 Speaker 1: That's just me making sure that you're good and I'm 466 00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:52,800 Speaker 1: good because if if I don't call you, you're the 467 00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:55,560 Speaker 1: same person who's gonna say, baby, how come? How come 468 00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:57,760 Speaker 1: you never come even the work even you know, quick call, 469 00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:01,000 Speaker 1: you know, even a text. So I make sure that 470 00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:03,920 Speaker 1: and also let me know, let me know if I'm 471 00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:07,880 Speaker 1: doing too much, you know, if you feel like I'm 472 00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:10,920 Speaker 1: too much in your case, just let me know. My 473 00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:14,920 Speaker 1: damn baby. Location says that you had burger king, but 474 00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:18,480 Speaker 1: it ain't your lunch break, so what you're doing there? Yeah, 475 00:29:18,560 --> 00:29:20,600 Speaker 1: I would be like, yo, baby, I called into this 476 00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:23,200 Speaker 1: phone call. We spoke for four minutes, and you told me. 477 00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:25,640 Speaker 1: You told me you're going to work, but that on 478 00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:28,120 Speaker 1: your white toop your online. So I'm trying to figure 479 00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:30,880 Speaker 1: if you're working or you're on the phone. It's on 480 00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:33,200 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. But like, I don't, I don't. 481 00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:35,400 Speaker 1: I don't think like that anymore. I used to think 482 00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:37,479 Speaker 1: like that. That's what I was about to say, because 483 00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:42,160 Speaker 1: you said tone right matters, right, So somebody can really 484 00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:45,240 Speaker 1: be like jealous and kind of stalker ish but have 485 00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:49,840 Speaker 1: a nice tone about their questions. Mhm, that that would 486 00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:53,200 Speaker 1: be you. You're calling with a nice tone about the question, right. 487 00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:55,600 Speaker 1: The woman could ask the very same thing, but her 488 00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:58,120 Speaker 1: tone is a little bit different. So then that that's 489 00:29:58,160 --> 00:30:03,280 Speaker 1: the bad jealousy. Yeah, think that's it. That's that's the 490 00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:06,880 Speaker 1: same ship. One person just being a little bit more finessy, 491 00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:11,120 Speaker 1: if that's even a word. Okay, you're just but you're 492 00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:15,640 Speaker 1: still like stalking me. You still acting asking me questions 493 00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:19,600 Speaker 1: that you shouldn't be asking me. Yeah, that's why we 494 00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:23,840 Speaker 1: have this thing called open communication. If you have any 495 00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:25,720 Speaker 1: problem with that, said, Oh, baby, I don't like the 496 00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:27,440 Speaker 1: way you talk to I don't like do you ask questions? 497 00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:31,640 Speaker 1: How do I just trust? How about whatever? Right? That's me? 498 00:30:31,880 --> 00:30:36,400 Speaker 1: Like if something bothers me, yoh, we're gonna talk about it. 499 00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:41,360 Speaker 1: In fact, I'll book it in my calendar. Yo, baby, Tuesday, 500 00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:45,400 Speaker 1: five pm, we're gonna go to DMA. We're gonna talk 501 00:30:47,040 --> 00:30:50,280 Speaker 1: because it's it's it's all about protecting your mental So 502 00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:54,880 Speaker 1: if if you're attitudes start your affects my mental we 503 00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:58,920 Speaker 1: gotta talk about it. Man, it's my life first, right, 504 00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:00,880 Speaker 1: So when I say like, keep it in my mind 505 00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:04,160 Speaker 1: that that's not me not communicating because I am the 506 00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:06,680 Speaker 1: type of person that I have to communicate how I 507 00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:09,560 Speaker 1: feel about somethinghere else I can't sleep at night. So 508 00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:11,880 Speaker 1: it'd be like the small little things, Like I said, 509 00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:13,920 Speaker 1: I get jealous about everything. It'd be little ship that 510 00:31:13,960 --> 00:31:16,000 Speaker 1: I gotta keep to myself because it might be petty 511 00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:20,280 Speaker 1: for me to even ask you about it. Sho, I'm 512 00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:23,560 Speaker 1: gonna ask you about now those little things I duped, 513 00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:26,280 Speaker 1: I jopped, and then eventually one day you're gonna explode 514 00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:29,080 Speaker 1: from a little thing. So I always talk, man, it's 515 00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:35,440 Speaker 1: it's it's um. It's um therapeutic to just talk, because 516 00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:38,640 Speaker 1: that's that's all we have. Me I'm the opposite. I 517 00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:41,680 Speaker 1: don't get jealous about nothing. I don't never get jealous 518 00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:44,480 Speaker 1: and then be thinking like do you even care? But 519 00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:47,800 Speaker 1: I do care. If you don't get jealous, then it's 520 00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:50,480 Speaker 1: gonna be hard for me to trust you. Why I 521 00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:55,960 Speaker 1: don't get jealous, Like how I can trust you? Then 522 00:31:56,600 --> 00:32:00,360 Speaker 1: I would like be like okay for a lot of ship. 523 00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:05,000 Speaker 1: I mean yeah, but so nothing bothers you that a 524 00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:08,800 Speaker 1: man does with another woman. That's what we're saying. Like 525 00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:11,000 Speaker 1: if you talk to somebody and you see him doing 526 00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:14,920 Speaker 1: something or I don't know, so you don't get jealous 527 00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:18,120 Speaker 1: about anything and got a question of nigga about some ship, 528 00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:21,520 Speaker 1: That's that's what we're saying. Not really, I don't feel 529 00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:24,120 Speaker 1: like I get like really jealous and be like ready 530 00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:26,520 Speaker 1: to ask them something about some ship. I want you 531 00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:34,440 Speaker 1: to know how much ship now? Only jealous, only jealousy 532 00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:37,240 Speaker 1: and make you buy somebody windows who window? I said, 533 00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:40,480 Speaker 1: I bus whether you did it or not. Last week 534 00:32:40,520 --> 00:32:43,600 Speaker 1: you said he was busting windows that I don't think 535 00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:49,480 Speaker 1: that was jealousy. I think that was retaliation. It was different. 536 00:32:51,560 --> 00:33:00,400 Speaker 1: I think that's you holding on some ship for too long. Loaded. 537 00:33:00,840 --> 00:33:03,440 Speaker 1: I think that's what it is. And you see, that's 538 00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:09,040 Speaker 1: why I support and and and a champion girls oh man, 539 00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:16,320 Speaker 1: who who are very fearless to open conversations, like sometimes 540 00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:19,480 Speaker 1: it's not always pretty, just to talk about it, you 541 00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:21,520 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So because I don't want to 542 00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:24,880 Speaker 1: be with someone for so long and it's like hiding 543 00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:26,920 Speaker 1: things in my heart and howdy how doing things? And 544 00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:32,120 Speaker 1: because I'm I'm a show temper, Like I have a 545 00:33:32,240 --> 00:33:35,640 Speaker 1: very show temper. So if I don't let my ship out, 546 00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:40,320 Speaker 1: eventually one day we're gonna have I don't w w 547 00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:43,600 Speaker 1: E Like, you know, it's not nice. Do you have 548 00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:46,320 Speaker 1: a time that you can remember where you acted out 549 00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:51,240 Speaker 1: of jealousy and you look back and it was like damn, yeah, 550 00:33:51,800 --> 00:33:53,479 Speaker 1: can you share with it? Can you share with us 551 00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:57,400 Speaker 1: one of those times? Um? Oh my god, yeah, I 552 00:33:57,440 --> 00:34:02,640 Speaker 1: should go on. I wasn't they performing right? Oh that's 553 00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:05,800 Speaker 1: a that's a bad one. Oh my god, I was 554 00:34:05,880 --> 00:34:10,879 Speaker 1: on stage performing my show, my gig. My girl came 555 00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:13,759 Speaker 1: to see me, right, so she was on the front row. 556 00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:17,839 Speaker 1: I'm doing my show performing, put your hands in the air, 557 00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:21,480 Speaker 1: singing my son. The band is doing good. I'm feeling good. 558 00:34:21,560 --> 00:34:24,759 Speaker 1: Whatever I saw my girl had baby, you know, I'm saying, like, 559 00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:27,960 Speaker 1: the vibe is great. And then there was this dude 560 00:34:28,080 --> 00:34:30,279 Speaker 1: that I don't really funk. I don't like this guy energy. 561 00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:33,840 Speaker 1: I just don't like this guy. But then because according 562 00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:37,600 Speaker 1: to the people, we were looking like so we kind 563 00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:40,160 Speaker 1: of have the same vibe, same high, you know what 564 00:34:40,160 --> 00:34:44,640 Speaker 1: I'm saying. So that day what I was performing, he 565 00:34:44,840 --> 00:34:49,560 Speaker 1: just he walked straight out into my girl and start 566 00:34:49,600 --> 00:34:51,360 Speaker 1: talking to my girl like we spending some ship to 567 00:34:51,400 --> 00:34:54,160 Speaker 1: my girl, and while I'm actually doing my performance and 568 00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:59,080 Speaker 1: I'm seeing him doing that. And then after that he 569 00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:03,040 Speaker 1: stood ride behind my girl watching me. So my girl 570 00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:06,320 Speaker 1: was like in front of her and then he was 571 00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:08,840 Speaker 1: like behind her. So then it made it seemed like 572 00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:14,000 Speaker 1: they were together. So I'm doing my set, I shared 573 00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:19,080 Speaker 1: you not I caught my set short. That's that's the 574 00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:21,440 Speaker 1: go down't says to the audience. And I dressed that 575 00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:29,239 Speaker 1: nigga was m down, yo, mind you I'm performing White 576 00:35:29,320 --> 00:35:32,120 Speaker 1: Dot and I see this, this guy doing this, my girl, 577 00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:34,800 Speaker 1: you're good? Yeah, yeah, whatever you and my girl doing this. 578 00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:38,200 Speaker 1: I'm start looking up mind you she short looking up. 579 00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:41,600 Speaker 1: I'm like, I know, I don't know why. I caught 580 00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:45,560 Speaker 1: my yo. I told my band Bloom got the song. 581 00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:49,480 Speaker 1: I put the mic back on the understand, I walked down. 582 00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:52,319 Speaker 1: I went to the guy. I'm like, my nigga, you're good, bro, 583 00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:57,360 Speaker 1: what's you doing? But my girand was like day, she 584 00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:00,600 Speaker 1: was like Chris, she was actually I mean, he was 585 00:36:00,640 --> 00:36:04,320 Speaker 1: actually begging you up. Now he wasn't stuff lying to me. 586 00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:06,839 Speaker 1: I know this guy. Now, he was actually begging you out. 587 00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:11,279 Speaker 1: You're lying to me man. One, I was embarrassed. Two, 588 00:36:11,520 --> 00:36:16,080 Speaker 1: he was actually telling her how good I was on stage. 589 00:36:16,680 --> 00:36:19,799 Speaker 1: That was embarrassing. Yeah, you're like, damn, he's doing this thing, 590 00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:22,360 Speaker 1: ain't it Now? I cut that ship short. That's the 591 00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:29,680 Speaker 1: last motherfucker song. Cut it right now. Let me talk 592 00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:33,480 Speaker 1: to you a real quick. Yeah. I think that's my 593 00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:35,759 Speaker 1: highlight of my jealousy moment. I think that's then the win. 594 00:36:35,840 --> 00:36:41,040 Speaker 1: I started to be more, you know, more open that 595 00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:44,319 Speaker 1: you don't own that person. She has her own life, 596 00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:47,719 Speaker 1: you know, learn how to trust your women. Don't trust 597 00:36:47,760 --> 00:36:49,799 Speaker 1: a guy, but learning how to trust a woman. That's 598 00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:52,080 Speaker 1: kind of how I am now, Like I'm learning how 599 00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:54,200 Speaker 1: to trust the person I'm with because I know her. 600 00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:57,120 Speaker 1: I don't know whoever it comes to her comes to home. 601 00:36:57,600 --> 00:37:01,320 Speaker 1: Because most of my women are also attractive. It's flattering 602 00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:04,880 Speaker 1: when niggas want your girl, that that means that you've 603 00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:08,200 Speaker 1: got something good. That's good jealousy, right, So that's the 604 00:37:08,280 --> 00:37:10,440 Speaker 1: time where jealousy is good. So we should get into 605 00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:13,640 Speaker 1: the list that we have, you know, some some healthy 606 00:37:13,880 --> 00:37:16,919 Speaker 1: jealousy and a relationship. And that's actually like the first 607 00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:21,080 Speaker 1: one someone is giving flirtatious vibes to your partner, like 608 00:37:21,160 --> 00:37:23,040 Speaker 1: that can make you want them more, right, or it 609 00:37:23,080 --> 00:37:28,960 Speaker 1: can make you in your show? Oh man, you see 610 00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:31,160 Speaker 1: I think today's it's my first time pretty nast story. 611 00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:34,680 Speaker 1: Because my manager didn't understand what's happening. He was like, hey, Chris, 612 00:37:34,800 --> 00:37:36,920 Speaker 1: you got nine more minutes. What's going on? I mean, 613 00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:39,960 Speaker 1: we gotta pay for the full set? Go back on stage. 614 00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:42,239 Speaker 1: And then after that I couldn't go back. I was 615 00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:46,080 Speaker 1: like that, it's cool man, whatever you know. But definitely 616 00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:49,800 Speaker 1: I like the idea of people floating with my girlfriend, 617 00:37:50,040 --> 00:37:51,800 Speaker 1: but you just be able. I want you to handle it. 618 00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:54,400 Speaker 1: I want you to deal with it. Don't tell me 619 00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:56,399 Speaker 1: or tell me. I said, how I look at this guy? 620 00:37:56,960 --> 00:37:59,480 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Yeah, so look, I'm a 621 00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:02,080 Speaker 1: gym in out and i'd be flirting and I want 622 00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:03,759 Speaker 1: to be able to flirt for the rest of my life. 623 00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:08,640 Speaker 1: So the second one is your partner is giving flirtatious 624 00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:12,120 Speaker 1: vibes to someone else. How would you feel about that? 625 00:38:13,160 --> 00:38:15,759 Speaker 1: I don't talk to her. You don't like it, though, 626 00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:20,560 Speaker 1: I don't like it. Do you flirt with other women 627 00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:26,160 Speaker 1: while in the relationship? Let me think I don't because 628 00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:31,680 Speaker 1: I don't because if I'm with you, because I'm a 629 00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:37,879 Speaker 1: fan of you, because I enjoy your your physique, your 630 00:38:38,040 --> 00:38:40,920 Speaker 1: your mind, your everything. Like I don't get with you 631 00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:44,600 Speaker 1: just because of beaty. No, it's because I just like 632 00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:46,960 Speaker 1: what I'm seeing and I wanted the thing for me 633 00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:51,400 Speaker 1: if I learnt. That's where it's kind of like, I 634 00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:54,160 Speaker 1: mean much you consider flirting though, because flirting could be 635 00:38:54,239 --> 00:38:56,880 Speaker 1: just like a little too laughy, a little too jokey 636 00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:59,759 Speaker 1: with a woman this outside of your relationship, Like, yeah, 637 00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:03,200 Speaker 1: I might be like looking at flirting even though it's 638 00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:07,839 Speaker 1: not that d It's not I'm a I'm a flirty guy. 639 00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:13,879 Speaker 1: I'm like, it's not har do it right, we're talking 640 00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:17,160 Speaker 1: about your partner. Yeah, so so so now I'm a 641 00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:19,640 Speaker 1: flirty woman. Like I'm a flirty woman, but I don't 642 00:39:19,680 --> 00:39:22,080 Speaker 1: mean no harm and I don't want to be with 643 00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:25,439 Speaker 1: this other person. I just like to talk to people. Yeah, 644 00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:27,440 Speaker 1: I think that's me too. I think I'm a very 645 00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:31,560 Speaker 1: nice guy, and some guys and get the wrong message, 646 00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:33,680 Speaker 1: Like I had girls send me gifts because that though 647 00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:36,920 Speaker 1: we were working on something. I'm like, no, we just 648 00:39:38,239 --> 00:39:41,080 Speaker 1: you know, we just whatever that is friends, so and 649 00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:43,280 Speaker 1: then y'a saying and then't blocking me everywhere I'm following 650 00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:46,719 Speaker 1: me ship. But it's kind of like I'm a nice guy, 651 00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,239 Speaker 1: you know, I'm a brand, you know, Like for me, 652 00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:52,040 Speaker 1: I see that as a new customer, as a new 653 00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:56,000 Speaker 1: consumer as well. I'm not gonna rule that bag because 654 00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:58,520 Speaker 1: it's a nice way to roll that up. Mind you, 655 00:39:58,640 --> 00:40:03,680 Speaker 1: if if no one moving to your partner, you should 656 00:40:03,680 --> 00:40:10,920 Speaker 1: be worried, Why don't yes, exactly? Okay, my last boyfriend 657 00:40:11,040 --> 00:40:14,640 Speaker 1: wasn't the most attractive, and but I loved him for 658 00:40:14,719 --> 00:40:19,160 Speaker 1: different reasons like his personality you Mogus did, Yeah, like 659 00:40:19,280 --> 00:40:24,760 Speaker 1: you Mogus did, and but he wasn't the most attractive looking. 660 00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:27,360 Speaker 1: But you know what I thought, I was never jealous 661 00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:33,279 Speaker 1: in that aspect. I think it's important, you know. For me, 662 00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:38,960 Speaker 1: I've always go for the look first. I'm sorry, most man, 663 00:40:39,080 --> 00:40:45,359 Speaker 1: that's most men, visual preachers like aesthetic. Oh, I never 664 00:40:45,440 --> 00:40:49,000 Speaker 1: gonna figure out the rest, you know, And I could 665 00:40:49,080 --> 00:40:52,759 Speaker 1: keep you too, if if if if, if you good 666 00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:59,719 Speaker 1: at you know sax or good at COFFI I can't 667 00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:03,960 Speaker 1: stand and bad you turns me off man, right man? 668 00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:06,879 Speaker 1: I used to date this girl in time. She had 669 00:41:07,120 --> 00:41:10,600 Speaker 1: money and she had a big house, she had everything, 670 00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:13,359 Speaker 1: but she had a worse eyted you. That couldn't be wrong. 671 00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:18,840 Speaker 1: So number three on the list was your partners bragging 672 00:41:18,920 --> 00:41:22,800 Speaker 1: when you're in a rough place. That's supposed to be healthy, 673 00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:26,880 Speaker 1: jealousy when you're jealous because they're in a good spot 674 00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:28,840 Speaker 1: and they're bragging on their ship, and then you're in 675 00:41:28,920 --> 00:41:32,319 Speaker 1: a rough space. Just let's say your song is doing 676 00:41:32,480 --> 00:41:37,879 Speaker 1: numbers and you're like excited about it and my life 677 00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:47,520 Speaker 1: show just got canceled. Yo, You're so stupid and you 678 00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:50,400 Speaker 1: come hard a healthy jealousy because I could make me 679 00:41:50,560 --> 00:41:53,480 Speaker 1: feel better about what what's going on with me because 680 00:41:53,560 --> 00:41:55,680 Speaker 1: you had a good day, because something went well for 681 00:41:55,800 --> 00:41:58,960 Speaker 1: my partner, right, so yeah, what what what? What I'm 682 00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:02,080 Speaker 1: experiencing could be sucked up. But at the same time, 683 00:42:02,160 --> 00:42:05,080 Speaker 1: I could be jealous, you know, but not like so 684 00:42:05,239 --> 00:42:07,920 Speaker 1: I want to funk up his damn whatever he has 685 00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:11,800 Speaker 1: going on, but it would make me feel good that 686 00:42:11,960 --> 00:42:14,360 Speaker 1: he has a good thing happening all while I'm fucked 687 00:42:14,400 --> 00:42:17,640 Speaker 1: up for the day. Now, for me, it's more like 688 00:42:19,040 --> 00:42:22,239 Speaker 1: your happiness is it's my happiness. Like I'll be happy 689 00:42:22,239 --> 00:42:25,440 Speaker 1: for you because because because the way I was built, 690 00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:28,960 Speaker 1: you know, always being inspired by people's success and and 691 00:42:29,120 --> 00:42:33,719 Speaker 1: and in progress. It's like, I don't know how to 692 00:42:33,840 --> 00:42:40,000 Speaker 1: be jealous. I don't know how to just because see me, 693 00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:42,680 Speaker 1: I don't know if I could handle it that way. 694 00:42:42,719 --> 00:42:45,160 Speaker 1: If I'm like really sitting in the midst of upset 695 00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:50,000 Speaker 1: over all that I've taken and you're bragging, I might 696 00:42:50,160 --> 00:42:53,840 Speaker 1: like express some happiness for you, but I will also say, like, 697 00:42:55,520 --> 00:42:57,200 Speaker 1: I know I probably could be a little bit more 698 00:42:57,280 --> 00:42:59,919 Speaker 1: happy for you right now, but I'm just really upset 699 00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:04,879 Speaker 1: about my live show. But I'm so happy that they're 700 00:43:04,920 --> 00:43:08,200 Speaker 1: happened for you, But give me. I think I think 701 00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:12,560 Speaker 1: your partners should have at least emotional you know, intelligence 702 00:43:12,640 --> 00:43:14,879 Speaker 1: to know when to celebrate, you know, to know when 703 00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:19,960 Speaker 1: to what I'm saying like, they should just know that's 704 00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:22,759 Speaker 1: not we can't make those assumptions. That's how should get 705 00:43:22,840 --> 00:43:25,080 Speaker 1: sucked up, you know what I'm saying, like, yeah, you 706 00:43:25,120 --> 00:43:27,200 Speaker 1: would love for them to just know when not to 707 00:43:27,280 --> 00:43:29,680 Speaker 1: come home bragging. But I mean if I didn't know, 708 00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:31,520 Speaker 1: and I just come home and tell you my good thing, 709 00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:33,880 Speaker 1: and then you don't have a good thing to share, 710 00:43:34,080 --> 00:43:36,720 Speaker 1: you know. So the next one says, um, your partner 711 00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:40,360 Speaker 1: treats another activity like a second relationship. So that's essentially 712 00:43:40,440 --> 00:43:43,359 Speaker 1: what you were experiencing with this woman, you know, while 713 00:43:43,640 --> 00:43:47,000 Speaker 1: you're you know, in the music industry. This is your career, 714 00:43:47,239 --> 00:43:51,759 Speaker 1: right and she was jealous about that essentially yea and 715 00:43:51,840 --> 00:43:54,280 Speaker 1: all the things that comes comes with it. I guess 716 00:43:54,960 --> 00:43:56,880 Speaker 1: you know what's funny, Actually, you know I came with 717 00:43:56,960 --> 00:43:59,680 Speaker 1: your stair. I just I don't care no more about 718 00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:06,960 Speaker 1: what my partner thinks about me as well, because I'm 719 00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:08,920 Speaker 1: coming to let me break it down. Let me let 720 00:44:08,920 --> 00:44:11,120 Speaker 1: me explain it, right. It's kind of like, do you 721 00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:14,040 Speaker 1: know when you have this self love and you know 722 00:44:14,440 --> 00:44:18,520 Speaker 1: you just love your life, you feel like, look, I 723 00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:23,160 Speaker 1: don't need you. I want you to be my partner, right, 724 00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:29,200 Speaker 1: So I'm basically removing that burden of of needed right, 725 00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:31,279 Speaker 1: like there is no pressure. I just want you to 726 00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:35,080 Speaker 1: be you for me, Like I'm expecting nothing but love 727 00:44:35,239 --> 00:44:39,000 Speaker 1: and respect from you, right, and then I want you 728 00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:44,920 Speaker 1: I'll also give you the same. Let's have that because 729 00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:47,960 Speaker 1: like all the extra ship it brings, it brings nothing 730 00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:53,200 Speaker 1: but unhappiness, toxicity, and stress. So what I'm saying, if 731 00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:58,520 Speaker 1: you stress my life for for too long, I'll walk away. 732 00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:01,480 Speaker 1: That is because I care about my life so much 733 00:45:01,640 --> 00:45:05,200 Speaker 1: and I just started living, and I'm saying, my life 734 00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:08,000 Speaker 1: is moving forward and I want you to be a 735 00:45:08,080 --> 00:45:11,600 Speaker 1: part of it. You know what I'm saying, Let's let's 736 00:45:11,640 --> 00:45:16,919 Speaker 1: talk about that. Let's talk about life. Let's talk about life. 737 00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:20,880 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like all the jealousies, I mean, 738 00:45:21,040 --> 00:45:24,839 Speaker 1: you can't control me. I can't control you, So I'm 739 00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:27,680 Speaker 1: only hoping that you're not gonna hurt me vice versa. 740 00:45:28,080 --> 00:45:30,719 Speaker 1: That's the truth though, the reason why I don't do 741 00:45:30,880 --> 00:45:36,480 Speaker 1: those things because I have self discipline for me. So 742 00:45:36,760 --> 00:45:39,440 Speaker 1: that's why I guess so upset when they just doubt 743 00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:42,520 Speaker 1: you that they don't like what why what? Why are 744 00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:47,440 Speaker 1: you assuming that I'm doing something wrong? Do you have proof? Oh? 745 00:45:47,560 --> 00:45:49,399 Speaker 1: That's what, that's what. That's what we get toxic because 746 00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:53,440 Speaker 1: now you you wanna argue. Okay, let's go. Let's go 747 00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:59,600 Speaker 1: like I got time. Because now, because you can't understand, 748 00:45:59,640 --> 00:46:02,920 Speaker 1: most of my songs came from toxicity. My my third single, 749 00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:08,880 Speaker 1: it came from toxicity literally every words. So sometimes you know, 750 00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:13,680 Speaker 1: my create situation just to be inspired to keep these 751 00:46:13,760 --> 00:46:16,359 Speaker 1: women around, like these toxic women, so they can keep 752 00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:20,240 Speaker 1: your content very lively. I got hunted for the songs. 753 00:46:22,840 --> 00:46:26,800 Speaker 1: Hunting for the songs and and and all songs is 754 00:46:26,880 --> 00:46:30,840 Speaker 1: based on reality. See, somebody, I don't understand how this 755 00:46:31,040 --> 00:46:34,880 Speaker 1: is healthy? Uh, jealousy. The next one says, your partner 756 00:46:34,960 --> 00:46:37,160 Speaker 1: goes on the trip or has an experienced that you 757 00:46:37,280 --> 00:46:39,680 Speaker 1: aren't a part of. Now. See, I was the same 758 00:46:39,719 --> 00:46:42,200 Speaker 1: guy that I was talking about earlier. I was living 759 00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:45,040 Speaker 1: in Florida at the time and one of my co 760 00:46:45,160 --> 00:46:48,120 Speaker 1: workers I was working for Alta and there was this 761 00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:51,560 Speaker 1: fifty something year old white lady that worked with me, 762 00:46:51,680 --> 00:46:53,759 Speaker 1: and she just worked to have something to do. She 763 00:46:53,960 --> 00:46:57,279 Speaker 1: was very wealthy and they had a private plane, her 764 00:46:57,360 --> 00:47:01,120 Speaker 1: and her husband, and he was the pilot and she 765 00:47:01,280 --> 00:47:03,160 Speaker 1: was and she was just so smitten with me, and 766 00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:07,080 Speaker 1: she was like, we're both off on Tuesday. Let's get 767 00:47:07,160 --> 00:47:09,080 Speaker 1: on the plane and let's go to Atlanta and let's 768 00:47:09,080 --> 00:47:12,359 Speaker 1: go shopping. M And I'm like, hell yeah, I ain't 769 00:47:12,360 --> 00:47:15,759 Speaker 1: never wrote on the PJ before, right, right. So then 770 00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:19,000 Speaker 1: I talked to my man about it, and he forbid 771 00:47:19,080 --> 00:47:24,920 Speaker 1: me to go insecure because he couldn't go that's a mess. Stop, yo, 772 00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:28,920 Speaker 1: I've paid a trip to my girl just to go 773 00:47:29,000 --> 00:47:33,440 Speaker 1: have phone. Yes, you know your money, pucket money, go 774 00:47:33,560 --> 00:47:35,200 Speaker 1: with your friend, had some far I see you next week. 775 00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:38,080 Speaker 1: I'll see you on Tuesdays. Because I don't see how 776 00:47:38,160 --> 00:47:41,400 Speaker 1: that's healthy jealousy. This is the healthy jealousy list. He 777 00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:46,280 Speaker 1: not lived. No, he's not happy, he's he's just insecure. Basically, 778 00:47:46,560 --> 00:47:48,920 Speaker 1: he never imagined you'd been in proper yet. And he 779 00:47:48,960 --> 00:47:50,480 Speaker 1: didn't want me on that plane. He was like, what 780 00:47:50,560 --> 00:47:52,719 Speaker 1: they trying to do? Funk you on the plane. I'm like, no, 781 00:47:55,800 --> 00:47:58,680 Speaker 1: you got a friend. That's fifty not he didn't see 782 00:48:01,360 --> 00:48:06,000 Speaker 1: he didn't he didn't see it coming. You didn't know 783 00:48:06,080 --> 00:48:07,719 Speaker 1: that one day, my good might be in the proper jet. 784 00:48:10,960 --> 00:48:18,399 Speaker 1: He only saw you been a boss trained uber's talking 785 00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:21,319 Speaker 1: about what do you mean, how is it possible doing 786 00:48:21,400 --> 00:48:30,719 Speaker 1: that ship without me in the air? Didn't Oh wow, 787 00:48:32,040 --> 00:48:33,640 Speaker 1: I would have. I would have went and we would 788 00:48:33,680 --> 00:48:36,359 Speaker 1: have broke up. Oh did y'all live together though? Yeah? 789 00:48:36,440 --> 00:48:38,640 Speaker 1: We lived together. Just to keep the peace in my house. 790 00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:42,120 Speaker 1: I just didn't go. You know, imagine him being invited 791 00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:45,360 Speaker 1: onto a private jet and you causing some rockets and 792 00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:47,600 Speaker 1: him he would still have wind and just you would 793 00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:54,200 Speaker 1: have Just that's where things be. That's unfair because like 794 00:48:54,440 --> 00:48:56,120 Speaker 1: you would have been careful him to go, because he's 795 00:48:56,160 --> 00:49:01,360 Speaker 1: a man exactly like my, my, my, my. When I 796 00:49:01,440 --> 00:49:04,480 Speaker 1: have a girl, if you guys, don't you know nowadays 797 00:49:04,560 --> 00:49:07,480 Speaker 1: for some reason, girlfriends they got a bunch of many friends. 798 00:49:07,520 --> 00:49:09,040 Speaker 1: I don't know what it is about that ship, right, 799 00:49:09,600 --> 00:49:12,879 Speaker 1: but I get it right, I get the same way. 800 00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:19,359 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, So I understand. So if 801 00:49:19,480 --> 00:49:23,760 Speaker 1: my girl has to go out with some man friends 802 00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:28,279 Speaker 1: for gold card or do you know what, I don't 803 00:49:28,280 --> 00:49:34,320 Speaker 1: allow cinema. That's one thing I don't allow together. No, 804 00:49:34,680 --> 00:49:36,160 Speaker 1: you're not gonna go with the main friends and movies. 805 00:49:36,239 --> 00:49:37,520 Speaker 1: I don't know because I know what I do in 806 00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:40,759 Speaker 1: the movies. If you're my friend, what you do in 807 00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:44,319 Speaker 1: the movies. I'm an artist. I'm saying, I'm trying. I'm 808 00:49:44,360 --> 00:49:46,480 Speaker 1: talking for inspiration. So I know what I did the 809 00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:51,120 Speaker 1: movie saying I'm trying to find you inspiration. Uh, I 810 00:49:51,239 --> 00:49:54,680 Speaker 1: just know what I do. So if it nigger, who 811 00:49:54,800 --> 00:49:58,400 Speaker 1: is it? Who is a female friend? Of all the places? 812 00:49:58,760 --> 00:50:02,759 Speaker 1: Nickle that win? He said, movies, No, nig I'm going 813 00:50:02,800 --> 00:50:09,080 Speaker 1: with you, nigga right be at the black at the back, 814 00:50:09,239 --> 00:50:12,759 Speaker 1: just making sure you know what I'm watching my movie. 815 00:50:12,960 --> 00:50:15,920 Speaker 1: Don't mind me to do your thing. No, that's not 816 00:50:16,040 --> 00:50:19,360 Speaker 1: fair because I'm dripping that we go to the movies, 817 00:50:19,520 --> 00:50:21,799 Speaker 1: and it's just batonic because I like to watch horror 818 00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:24,600 Speaker 1: films and the guy was dealing with did not like 819 00:50:24,840 --> 00:50:28,040 Speaker 1: horror films. So my homeboy, we would go see scary movies. 820 00:50:28,480 --> 00:50:30,040 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go with you. I'll get used to it. 821 00:50:30,760 --> 00:50:35,560 Speaker 1: I watched I watched a few thous in advent. I 822 00:50:35,600 --> 00:50:38,560 Speaker 1: will get used to it now, I mean for me, again, 823 00:50:38,680 --> 00:50:42,279 Speaker 1: it's it's all about trust, right, but certain things you 824 00:50:42,480 --> 00:50:45,640 Speaker 1: just know you know. Um. For me, I think that 825 00:50:46,360 --> 00:50:49,200 Speaker 1: if you are in a relationship, you know, you gotta 826 00:50:49,239 --> 00:50:53,440 Speaker 1: conduct yourself and sush because you're not single. So I 827 00:50:53,640 --> 00:50:58,800 Speaker 1: think that, Um, it's it's complicated. Man. Again, being jealous 828 00:50:58,960 --> 00:51:01,399 Speaker 1: it's a good thing. It is getting messed up when 829 00:51:01,600 --> 00:51:03,600 Speaker 1: you don't know how to control it. I think everyone 830 00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:08,080 Speaker 1: is jealous. My poppylar, jealous, my dog and jealous. Come 831 00:51:08,120 --> 00:51:11,080 Speaker 1: on now, yeah, it's just natural, you know what I'm saying. 832 00:51:11,239 --> 00:51:13,960 Speaker 1: When I spent too much time with friends, are like 833 00:51:14,120 --> 00:51:15,920 Speaker 1: doing to my stuff and then I don't give attention. 834 00:51:15,960 --> 00:51:17,719 Speaker 1: She's gonna scratch my leg. That's gonna give me some 835 00:51:17,840 --> 00:51:22,920 Speaker 1: ash legs and ship. Yeah, but j'al is it. It's 836 00:51:22,960 --> 00:51:26,080 Speaker 1: a it's a feeling that you just uh you know, 837 00:51:26,800 --> 00:51:30,759 Speaker 1: a manager, right. So um. At the top of the 838 00:51:31,040 --> 00:51:34,360 Speaker 1: unhealthy list, the very first one is they want you alone. 839 00:51:34,920 --> 00:51:37,480 Speaker 1: And this is like they want you alone all the time, 840 00:51:37,719 --> 00:51:39,239 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like they're trying to take 841 00:51:39,320 --> 00:51:42,160 Speaker 1: up every moment of your free time. I know. I 842 00:51:42,280 --> 00:51:43,880 Speaker 1: was talking to somebody just the other day and she 843 00:51:44,040 --> 00:51:47,040 Speaker 1: was talking about her daughter and how you know, her 844 00:51:47,080 --> 00:51:48,759 Speaker 1: daughter just came up for work. Her and a guy 845 00:51:49,000 --> 00:51:52,360 Speaker 1: like FaceTime all the time, every day, all all throughout 846 00:51:52,360 --> 00:51:54,080 Speaker 1: the day. They live. They live in separate houses. They 847 00:51:54,120 --> 00:51:56,600 Speaker 1: always face time and right. So this particular day, she 848 00:51:56,680 --> 00:51:58,319 Speaker 1: came up from work and she just wanted to chill 849 00:51:58,480 --> 00:52:02,440 Speaker 1: her daughter. So the guy was like, Okay, you want 850 00:52:02,440 --> 00:52:06,759 Speaker 1: to chill, I'll talk to you next week Sunday. Like 851 00:52:06,880 --> 00:52:11,120 Speaker 1: that's abuse because you don't want to face time because 852 00:52:11,160 --> 00:52:13,040 Speaker 1: you just want to chill and have some you time, 853 00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:15,879 Speaker 1: I'm gonna punish you and tell you okay, then I'm 854 00:52:15,920 --> 00:52:19,120 Speaker 1: not going to talk to you until next week Sunday. Then. See, 855 00:52:20,120 --> 00:52:23,120 Speaker 1: that's not even that's not even toxicity at this point. 856 00:52:23,160 --> 00:52:29,239 Speaker 1: That's just been that's hitler, bro, That's just it's abusive, 857 00:52:29,520 --> 00:52:31,520 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So jealousy can be good. 858 00:52:31,560 --> 00:52:35,320 Speaker 1: There's healthy jealousy and there's the abusive. But that's no jealousy. 859 00:52:35,400 --> 00:52:42,360 Speaker 1: That's controlling. That's that's that's that's them trying to literally 860 00:52:42,440 --> 00:52:49,000 Speaker 1: manipulate your your mind. Mm hmm. And I'm not gonna lie. 861 00:52:50,760 --> 00:52:53,640 Speaker 1: I was never that type of guy, but I always 862 00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:57,719 Speaker 1: wanted to feel like I'm controlling something until when I 863 00:52:57,880 --> 00:53:01,320 Speaker 1: lost that something or that someone that taught me that 864 00:53:02,840 --> 00:53:08,000 Speaker 1: you can only control yourself. That's it, right, I can 865 00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:13,080 Speaker 1: only control me. But I think it comes with with practice. Man, 866 00:53:13,320 --> 00:53:17,239 Speaker 1: it's really all here. It's it's mental, you know, learning 867 00:53:17,280 --> 00:53:23,280 Speaker 1: how to I'm learning how to respect and control yourself. 868 00:53:24,520 --> 00:53:30,800 Speaker 1: That's uh, some emotional excuse right there. So yeah, so 869 00:53:31,000 --> 00:53:33,360 Speaker 1: I think that you can't teach your men how to 870 00:53:33,440 --> 00:53:36,239 Speaker 1: love you. There's you know, what to do with you. 871 00:53:36,719 --> 00:53:39,920 Speaker 1: If they don't you have, you can't teach them unless 872 00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:41,800 Speaker 1: you have a weird power to change your or to 873 00:53:41,840 --> 00:53:44,520 Speaker 1: do better the man, right, because I do. But I 874 00:53:44,600 --> 00:53:47,680 Speaker 1: do feel like, yeah, so yeah, when I always have 875 00:53:47,760 --> 00:53:50,360 Speaker 1: to teach people how you want to be treated, you 876 00:53:50,719 --> 00:53:52,879 Speaker 1: kind of have to guide people in a way because 877 00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:54,879 Speaker 1: they'll just you know, they'll handle you how the last 878 00:53:54,920 --> 00:53:56,920 Speaker 1: person allowed them. Yeah. But also it's kind of like, 879 00:53:57,160 --> 00:53:59,399 Speaker 1: come on, if I want to be with time bam 880 00:53:59,600 --> 00:54:02,200 Speaker 1: or edge A, right, I should be in this eight 881 00:54:02,280 --> 00:54:04,160 Speaker 1: five percent awhere kind of I know what to do, 882 00:54:04,280 --> 00:54:08,680 Speaker 1: I know how to behave at least, and then it's 883 00:54:08,719 --> 00:54:11,600 Speaker 1: me studying you been learning how you as a person, 884 00:54:11,880 --> 00:54:16,480 Speaker 1: But you shouldn't teach me how to love you tell 885 00:54:16,560 --> 00:54:19,040 Speaker 1: me things you like and things that you don't like, 886 00:54:20,120 --> 00:54:25,719 Speaker 1: and then with the help of my emotional skill capacity, 887 00:54:25,760 --> 00:54:29,440 Speaker 1: I'll be able to to navigate through your universe. Because 888 00:54:29,560 --> 00:54:34,560 Speaker 1: it's because because being a woman, it's a whole. It's 889 00:54:34,560 --> 00:54:39,400 Speaker 1: a whole university. Man, you gotta learn that ship if 890 00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:42,080 Speaker 1: you if you're dumb from the jump, you're not gonna 891 00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:46,000 Speaker 1: handle that ship. It's really intellect like to make me 892 00:54:46,080 --> 00:54:54,960 Speaker 1: to go to woman university. Women I had, they're all 893 00:54:55,040 --> 00:55:00,759 Speaker 1: gonna fail. The men too. That's the thing. Women were 894 00:55:00,840 --> 00:55:03,000 Speaker 1: just different. Men and women are just different. So if 895 00:55:03,040 --> 00:55:07,320 Speaker 1: there was such a thing man university, women university, we 896 00:55:07,600 --> 00:55:12,359 Speaker 1: may all fail because we're just differ. And I would 897 00:55:12,360 --> 00:55:14,520 Speaker 1: be good at some of the classes. But me too, 898 00:55:14,760 --> 00:55:17,719 Speaker 1: I mean some of them. But you know, men don't 899 00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:21,279 Speaker 1: think most men do not happen, not when it comes 900 00:55:21,320 --> 00:55:25,759 Speaker 1: to not when it comes to women. No, uh yeah, 901 00:55:25,960 --> 00:55:29,160 Speaker 1: I just love you with you, that's fine. I think. 902 00:55:31,360 --> 00:55:33,839 Speaker 1: Hold on, let's talk about it, right. I think there's 903 00:55:33,880 --> 00:55:37,239 Speaker 1: some men having tigty. I think I do. It's a 904 00:55:37,360 --> 00:55:42,520 Speaker 1: small percentage of men. Yeah, more percentage. I would love 905 00:55:42,600 --> 00:55:44,840 Speaker 1: to be in not you know what I'm saying. In 906 00:55:45,239 --> 00:55:48,840 Speaker 1: a minority like, I don't mind because I think that 907 00:55:50,480 --> 00:55:54,560 Speaker 1: what I enjoy the most now, maybe because now I'm 908 00:55:54,600 --> 00:55:56,600 Speaker 1: more mature or more woke, I don't know what it is. 909 00:55:56,760 --> 00:56:01,399 Speaker 1: I enjoyed the process of knowing someone. I think that's 910 00:56:01,440 --> 00:56:07,840 Speaker 1: the most beautiful experience because it's beautiful learning how to talk, 911 00:56:08,160 --> 00:56:12,960 Speaker 1: learning the the body languages, things that piste them off, 912 00:56:13,760 --> 00:56:17,160 Speaker 1: or the like, or what type of conversation they like, 913 00:56:17,680 --> 00:56:20,239 Speaker 1: while vibe their own white music, that listening to what 914 00:56:20,360 --> 00:56:25,319 Speaker 1: artists that like. Just that stage, you know, I think 915 00:56:25,360 --> 00:56:28,560 Speaker 1: that that's beautiful. You know, I don't I don't rush 916 00:56:28,600 --> 00:56:30,480 Speaker 1: that stage anymore like I used to rush, like they 917 00:56:30,560 --> 00:56:33,440 Speaker 1: just smash, just have sex. But as you grow, you 918 00:56:33,520 --> 00:56:36,440 Speaker 1: want quality, right, So quality it comes to me patience 919 00:56:38,360 --> 00:56:40,480 Speaker 1: and what I'm saying, so you you have to build 920 00:56:40,520 --> 00:56:43,640 Speaker 1: that thing. You have to build quality because you can 921 00:56:43,760 --> 00:56:47,400 Speaker 1: have quality, right, I'm also have quality. But if we 922 00:56:47,440 --> 00:56:51,480 Speaker 1: don't build equality space, then we're just wasting time. So quality, 923 00:56:51,680 --> 00:56:55,520 Speaker 1: so quality space, you have to build it. So it 924 00:56:55,600 --> 00:56:59,560 Speaker 1: comes with with a lot of communication. So that process 925 00:56:59,640 --> 00:57:03,520 Speaker 1: of no someone new, it's it's it's always magical to me. 926 00:57:03,880 --> 00:57:07,759 Speaker 1: And as soon as you you you've mastered that, then 927 00:57:07,880 --> 00:57:10,359 Speaker 1: you guys. You guys are pretty much best friends. That's 928 00:57:10,400 --> 00:57:13,800 Speaker 1: how that was safety start. That's how you start feeling 929 00:57:13,880 --> 00:57:17,520 Speaker 1: safe and you know you know whatever you feel because 930 00:57:17,600 --> 00:57:20,560 Speaker 1: these men know me. So listen, y'all, when we come 931 00:57:20,640 --> 00:57:22,560 Speaker 1: back off this break, I'm gonna get into this dumb 932 00:57:22,600 --> 00:57:28,800 Speaker 1: Bach story. We'll be back dumb bitch stories because we've 933 00:57:28,840 --> 00:57:30,880 Speaker 1: all been a dumb Bach at least once or twice. 934 00:57:32,360 --> 00:57:34,960 Speaker 1: All right, listen, So this dumb Bach story comes from 935 00:57:35,040 --> 00:57:37,480 Speaker 1: one of our listeners. I believe this came out from Twitter. 936 00:57:38,000 --> 00:57:43,959 Speaker 1: If I'm not mistaken, Uh, please keep anonymous exclamation points. First, 937 00:57:44,040 --> 00:57:46,400 Speaker 1: let me say how much I love y'all podcasts and 938 00:57:46,520 --> 00:57:50,400 Speaker 1: how unapologetically you both are. Um, here's my dumb bag 939 00:57:50,480 --> 00:57:53,800 Speaker 1: story that y'all helped me out of. Beginning of the summer, 940 00:57:54,000 --> 00:57:57,480 Speaker 1: my ex and I got back in contact soon after 941 00:57:57,560 --> 00:57:59,840 Speaker 1: he got out of jail. We met up and he 942 00:58:00,040 --> 00:58:02,840 Speaker 1: fed me all the bs he could. We ended up 943 00:58:02,920 --> 00:58:07,960 Speaker 1: getting intimate, but nothing penetrative. Somewhere during this I listened 944 00:58:08,000 --> 00:58:10,840 Speaker 1: to one of your episodes and y'all mentioned how it's 945 00:58:10,960 --> 00:58:13,720 Speaker 1: possible for people to have her bees and not know 946 00:58:13,920 --> 00:58:17,800 Speaker 1: until getting tested. Bells went off when I heard that 947 00:58:18,120 --> 00:58:22,280 Speaker 1: especially since he gave me mono when we first got together. 948 00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:27,240 Speaker 1: So I got tested, and surely enough that bum gave 949 00:58:27,320 --> 00:58:31,160 Speaker 1: me clamidia. Ladies. I swear if I didn't listen to 950 00:58:31,320 --> 00:58:34,160 Speaker 1: y'all and get tested, I would not have known. So 951 00:58:34,680 --> 00:58:36,800 Speaker 1: so thank you for that. I wrote him a letter 952 00:58:36,920 --> 00:58:41,160 Speaker 1: telling him off, and I haven't contacted him since. Keep 953 00:58:41,240 --> 00:58:43,840 Speaker 1: on talking back, miss A j and Tam Bam is 954 00:58:43,920 --> 00:58:49,959 Speaker 1: clearly needed and gave you the clowp. That's the clown. 955 00:58:50,920 --> 00:58:52,960 Speaker 1: I don't confused that she said they weren't intimate. I 956 00:58:53,000 --> 00:58:57,160 Speaker 1: guess at some point they did get intimate. Thing. You 957 00:58:57,200 --> 00:59:00,200 Speaker 1: can't get clamidia from talking, and you can't just walk out. 958 00:59:00,240 --> 00:59:03,400 Speaker 1: You can't just fly from city to city with it either. 959 00:59:05,400 --> 00:59:08,240 Speaker 1: The fact that the man came from Peason, you don't 960 00:59:08,240 --> 00:59:14,360 Speaker 1: know who we're sucking him, so you know what I'm saying, 961 00:59:14,640 --> 00:59:18,280 Speaker 1: You don't know man, right, she might be lucky she 962 00:59:18,400 --> 00:59:23,400 Speaker 1: only had climedia. Yeah, if you made the climedia is treatable, right. 963 00:59:24,080 --> 00:59:25,800 Speaker 1: I have no idea, But I mean, if you make 964 00:59:25,920 --> 00:59:28,000 Speaker 1: him back from from jail after I don't know how 965 00:59:28,080 --> 00:59:31,160 Speaker 1: many years, best believe he did something to someone or 966 00:59:31,320 --> 00:59:34,320 Speaker 1: someone did something to him. So not coming home and 967 00:59:34,440 --> 00:59:37,000 Speaker 1: then started doesn't mean it has to be gay. They 968 00:59:37,120 --> 00:59:42,440 Speaker 1: could have the CEO or something like that about to judge. Man, 969 00:59:42,440 --> 00:59:46,080 Speaker 1: I'm just I'm just spinking from from Harry stories. Yeah. 970 00:59:46,240 --> 00:59:48,640 Speaker 1: I hate when people say that though, because there's something word. 971 00:59:48,720 --> 00:59:50,880 Speaker 1: I don't like women, right, I'm not a lesbian, so 972 00:59:51,080 --> 00:59:53,000 Speaker 1: something word to ever happened to me where I end 973 00:59:53,080 --> 00:59:56,520 Speaker 1: up in prison. I don't need sex to survive. That's 974 00:59:56,520 --> 00:59:58,600 Speaker 1: the same for men. So just because a man ends 975 00:59:58,680 --> 01:00:00,440 Speaker 1: up in prison for some reason, because none of us 976 01:00:00,480 --> 01:00:03,880 Speaker 1: are exempt, anything could happen. You know what I'm saying. 977 01:00:03,920 --> 01:00:05,320 Speaker 1: You can end up in that situation. You mean to 978 01:00:05,360 --> 01:00:07,960 Speaker 1: tell me you're gonna automatically be gay when you get this. 979 01:00:08,280 --> 01:00:11,280 Speaker 1: That doesn't make sense. You don't have to be gay too, 980 01:00:12,240 --> 01:00:16,320 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. I don't know, man, you 981 01:00:16,400 --> 01:00:20,640 Speaker 1: gotta be gay. No, I had to spend one time. 982 01:00:20,720 --> 01:00:24,160 Speaker 1: You told me. One time. I was walking to Bobby Shop. 983 01:00:24,280 --> 01:00:26,880 Speaker 1: When I walking in and this is Bob. He goes 984 01:00:26,920 --> 01:00:29,200 Speaker 1: to me, damn you look good, Damn you lucky. I'm 985 01:00:29,240 --> 01:00:35,760 Speaker 1: not gay. I was like, huh, what it goes to me? 986 01:00:35,920 --> 01:00:38,840 Speaker 1: Damn you look good? Didn't go Damn you lucky? I'm 987 01:00:38,880 --> 01:00:41,640 Speaker 1: not gay, So so now what am I supposed to 988 01:00:41,680 --> 01:00:47,760 Speaker 1: do with the information, Like, Okay, should I said, I mean, 989 01:00:48,120 --> 01:00:50,240 Speaker 1: should I say thank you? Or should I say? What 990 01:00:50,360 --> 01:00:51,600 Speaker 1: do you mean? You know what I'm saying? So I 991 01:00:51,720 --> 01:00:54,080 Speaker 1: was I wasn't sure. I was confused. It's kind of 992 01:00:54,640 --> 01:00:56,880 Speaker 1: I had no reaction because he said, damn me lucky, 993 01:00:57,000 --> 01:00:58,520 Speaker 1: I'm not gay. So I was like, kind of like, so, 994 01:00:58,920 --> 01:01:02,439 Speaker 1: y'all people whom they do some ship but they're gay. 995 01:01:05,400 --> 01:01:07,920 Speaker 1: I mean maybe he's mad enough to maybe, you know, 996 01:01:08,040 --> 01:01:09,960 Speaker 1: because I feel like the no homeo thing like that 997 01:01:10,080 --> 01:01:12,880 Speaker 1: men feel like they have to say is unnecessary if 998 01:01:12,880 --> 01:01:16,800 Speaker 1: you're not gay, Like but anything, y'all make everything y'all 999 01:01:16,800 --> 01:01:20,160 Speaker 1: do gay not us Like y'all can't even even to 1000 01:01:20,200 --> 01:01:26,120 Speaker 1: go without feeling gay, Glizzie, they'd be breaking the popping 1001 01:01:26,200 --> 01:01:29,520 Speaker 1: it in their mouth instead of biting it. I've been 1002 01:01:29,560 --> 01:01:32,920 Speaker 1: eating it like that now too, though I say, guys, hey, 1003 01:01:33,000 --> 01:01:35,240 Speaker 1: I love you, bro, I love it bro. That's me. 1004 01:01:35,280 --> 01:01:37,880 Speaker 1: I don't say it pause. Fact's been the whole pause. 1005 01:01:37,960 --> 01:01:41,440 Speaker 1: That's the meaning. In Europe, we don't need to say pause. 1006 01:01:41,480 --> 01:01:44,280 Speaker 1: We just talked whatever, and then depending on how you 1007 01:01:44,440 --> 01:01:48,040 Speaker 1: you take it, we don't we don't. We don't say. 1008 01:01:48,360 --> 01:01:51,880 Speaker 1: I think that's a New York thing. Honestly, in New York, 1009 01:01:52,000 --> 01:01:54,880 Speaker 1: niggas is pausing everything. Because sometimes i'd be talking to 1010 01:01:54,920 --> 01:01:57,800 Speaker 1: club iuse I'm just talking, and then and then someone 1011 01:01:57,880 --> 01:02:00,080 Speaker 1: gonna say pause, nigga. I'm like, what you mean? What 1012 01:02:00,920 --> 01:02:08,120 Speaker 1: pause for? You said? I'm just talking, just just talking freely. 1013 01:02:08,200 --> 01:02:10,400 Speaker 1: It's talking. You know, I'm from Europe, I'm from England. 1014 01:02:10,560 --> 01:02:14,880 Speaker 1: Just talking. If I getting man, but I'm not gay. 1015 01:02:20,080 --> 01:02:23,000 Speaker 1: If I go to jail, I'm gay. If I go 1016 01:02:23,080 --> 01:02:25,400 Speaker 1: to jail, if I like not, it depends on how 1017 01:02:25,480 --> 01:02:29,400 Speaker 1: long the bid is. Yeah, that's gonna be a bunch 1018 01:02:29,440 --> 01:02:31,439 Speaker 1: of ugly bitches in there. You're gonna still be gay. 1019 01:02:32,240 --> 01:02:34,400 Speaker 1: If I'm in there for the long haul. If I 1020 01:02:34,480 --> 01:02:36,280 Speaker 1: got to do like the rest of my life, and 1021 01:02:36,320 --> 01:02:39,280 Speaker 1: they're yeah, I'm gonna give me a girlfriend, why not. 1022 01:02:40,440 --> 01:02:42,640 Speaker 1: If I go to jail, I would have no friends. 1023 01:02:42,680 --> 01:02:44,960 Speaker 1: I would say my set all day because I know 1024 01:02:45,240 --> 01:02:47,600 Speaker 1: I'm taught, I'm cocky, I'm Brown's. You know, I got 1025 01:02:48,320 --> 01:02:53,520 Speaker 1: red live and everything. They're gonna be like, Oho, you 1026 01:02:53,640 --> 01:02:58,440 Speaker 1: gonna take that booty, Oh man, you gotta give me 1027 01:02:58,720 --> 01:03:05,600 Speaker 1: Look at this That's what I like. Chris. Let our 1028 01:03:05,760 --> 01:03:07,880 Speaker 1: listeners know where they can find you at. I know 1029 01:03:07,960 --> 01:03:11,959 Speaker 1: you gotta um a new single out called No Joke 1030 01:03:13,160 --> 01:03:16,680 Speaker 1: right now as well, video coming soon y'all. So let 1031 01:03:16,720 --> 01:03:19,520 Speaker 1: our listeners know where they can find you at. They 1032 01:03:19,560 --> 01:03:25,600 Speaker 1: can find me everywhere. Chris Calves on Instagram Cast with 1033 01:03:25,680 --> 01:03:30,800 Speaker 1: the K Chris sEH all right, cash K. You can 1034 01:03:30,840 --> 01:03:36,560 Speaker 1: find me on Google, same name everywhere pretty much, Facebook, Twitter, Clubhouse, 1035 01:03:36,920 --> 01:03:40,040 Speaker 1: Chris galas everywhere. My new single No Jokers all right 1036 01:03:40,080 --> 01:03:44,919 Speaker 1: now as we speak, UM featuring Ja. That's my guy, 1037 01:03:45,880 --> 01:03:50,400 Speaker 1: UM dropping my EAP next year, you know, be shout 1038 01:03:50,400 --> 01:03:53,440 Speaker 1: out to my team, shout to my followers. Yeah, man, 1039 01:03:53,440 --> 01:03:56,880 Speaker 1: I'm out here. Thank you, Thank you, Chris, thank you, 1040 01:03:57,720 --> 01:04:01,880 Speaker 1: Thank you. All right, y'all listen. Oh sorry, go ahead, Chris, No, no, 1041 01:04:02,000 --> 01:04:04,360 Speaker 1: I mean, I mean it was beautiful, you know, just 1042 01:04:04,520 --> 01:04:09,400 Speaker 1: being here. Usually most of my podcast is man, you know, 1043 01:04:09,480 --> 01:04:13,440 Speaker 1: I never had in a real American podcast, So you 1044 01:04:13,480 --> 01:04:17,320 Speaker 1: guys are my first. Man. Thank you. Yeah, yeah, my first. 1045 01:04:17,960 --> 01:04:19,920 Speaker 1: That's why I was excited. I'm like, man, I want 1046 01:04:19,960 --> 01:04:22,480 Speaker 1: to do this. You know, I was like, man, I 1047 01:04:22,600 --> 01:04:24,400 Speaker 1: want to do this. You know, Thank you man for 1048 01:04:25,560 --> 01:04:28,640 Speaker 1: believing in me and and and I said for giving 1049 01:04:28,680 --> 01:04:32,440 Speaker 1: me this, this lovely outlet, you know, and I have fun. Man, 1050 01:04:32,480 --> 01:04:35,960 Speaker 1: you guys are beautiful, pretty man. How to choose? Man, 1051 01:04:38,640 --> 01:04:43,960 Speaker 1: you try to choose. We appreciate you. To Chris, you know, 1052 01:04:44,000 --> 01:04:46,720 Speaker 1: I'm a fan. I'm a big fan. I'm gonna always 1053 01:04:46,760 --> 01:04:48,840 Speaker 1: promote your music because I believe in it. It's some 1054 01:04:49,000 --> 01:04:51,240 Speaker 1: good ship. And I you know, I think I'm an 1055 01:04:51,280 --> 01:04:53,600 Speaker 1: A and R. Okay, I know good music when I 1056 01:04:53,720 --> 01:04:55,640 Speaker 1: hear it. All right, y'all, so listen. If you enjoyed 1057 01:04:55,680 --> 01:04:58,600 Speaker 1: this episode, please tune in every Thursday on your heart 1058 01:04:58,680 --> 01:05:01,320 Speaker 1: radio app or whatever the you get your podcasts at. 1059 01:05:01,760 --> 01:05:04,720 Speaker 1: This is your co host, A J. Holiday. Y'all can 1060 01:05:04,760 --> 01:05:07,880 Speaker 1: follow me on Instagram. AJ Holiday two point oh, y'all, 1061 01:05:07,920 --> 01:05:10,440 Speaker 1: we got a Twitter going listen. We also have we 1062 01:05:10,840 --> 01:05:14,880 Speaker 1: talked back uh e n T dot com up and 1063 01:05:15,000 --> 01:05:19,439 Speaker 1: running right now. Okay, so we're gonna talk about Yeah, 1064 01:05:19,760 --> 01:05:21,600 Speaker 1: we want to tell me and went up? What are 1065 01:05:21,640 --> 01:05:24,760 Speaker 1: you talking about? I told you several times? Is up? Yeah? 1066 01:05:24,800 --> 01:05:27,960 Speaker 1: We live? Okay, we live. We talked back e n 1067 01:05:28,040 --> 01:05:31,640 Speaker 1: T dot com, y'all. We have our website out for consultations. 1068 01:05:32,240 --> 01:05:34,680 Speaker 1: So if anybody wants to call and talk to myself 1069 01:05:34,800 --> 01:05:36,840 Speaker 1: a j or Tam, y'all can do that. You can 1070 01:05:36,880 --> 01:05:40,800 Speaker 1: set up a schedule a consultation um to have a 1071 01:05:40,880 --> 01:05:43,480 Speaker 1: one on one, uh, you know, to talk about your 1072 01:05:43,520 --> 01:05:46,680 Speaker 1: dumb bit shit or your same shit. We were just 1073 01:05:46,840 --> 01:05:50,200 Speaker 1: a girl talk yeah right here business. Whatever you want 1074 01:05:50,240 --> 01:05:54,440 Speaker 1: to talk about were available because we talked back apparently. 1075 01:05:55,600 --> 01:05:58,120 Speaker 1: All right, y'all, it's Tim, ma'am. I'm official Tam Bam 1076 01:05:58,200 --> 01:06:00,960 Speaker 1: on Instagram. Y'all please follow me it. I love y'all. 1077 01:06:01,000 --> 01:06:03,000 Speaker 1: Thank y'all so much for tuning in. Once again, we 1078 01:06:03,240 --> 01:06:07,000 Speaker 1: really appreciate every every last one of you. I remember 1079 01:06:07,080 --> 01:06:09,720 Speaker 1: to speak now and never hold your peace