WEBVTT - Two Things Can Be True At The Same Time: Part 6 [The Mini-Series] (Normalizing the In-Betweens and Healing From Extremism) (Outweigh)

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<v Speaker 1>I won't let my body out be outwait everything that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm made done, won't spend my life trying to change.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm learning to love who I am again. I'm strong,

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<v Speaker 2>I feel free, I know every pardon me, it's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>And then we'll always out way if you feel.

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<v Speaker 2>It, but yours here, She'll some love to the view.

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<v Speaker 2>Why get there? Take you one day? Anta? Did you?

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<v Speaker 2>And die out Way? Happy Saturday.

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<v Speaker 3>Outweigh Amy here with my co host Leanne Ellington. Hello, Hello,

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<v Speaker 3>we are continuing our mini series on two things can

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<v Speaker 3>be True at the same time.

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<v Speaker 2>This is part six of that.

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<v Speaker 3>There will be eight in total, so you can go

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<v Speaker 3>back and listen to the previous five. But today's two

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<v Speaker 3>things can be true at the same time is your

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<v Speaker 3>life can be amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>You can be living in gratitude.

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<v Speaker 3>Experiencing joy, and you can also be going through some

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<v Speaker 3>sort of a mental emotional or spiritual breakdown, existential crisis, whatever.

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<v Speaker 3>I've definitely experienced all of that at the same time,

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<v Speaker 3>so it can be true. And I think that when

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<v Speaker 3>it comes to Outweigh and listening to this podcast, like

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<v Speaker 3>if you're coming here for like you're feeling lost in

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<v Speaker 3>the weeds, of your eating disorder, or you have a

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<v Speaker 3>loved one that is or you don't really know where

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<v Speaker 3>to go next. This is a dose of encouragement for you.

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<v Speaker 3>Leanna and I have both come out of eating disorders.

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<v Speaker 3>We're both in recovery, so we both are our hope.

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<v Speaker 3>But I know it can be like, Okay, yeah, yeah, y'all,

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<v Speaker 3>y'all did it. Yay, good for you. But this mini

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<v Speaker 3>series is also just to give you little bits of

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<v Speaker 3>insight into like you may be feeling one way, but

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<v Speaker 3>also it's okay to allow yourself to feel the other way.

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<v Speaker 3>And the beautiful part about healing when you do get

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<v Speaker 3>into recovery is you feel more. Because for me, my

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<v Speaker 3>eating disorder was very numbing. I numbed, I numbed, D numbed.

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<v Speaker 3>I pushed down. I pushed down. But at the same

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<v Speaker 3>time I knew I was feeling so much, but I

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<v Speaker 3>couldn't really figure it all out. And the beautiful part

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<v Speaker 3>is as you work your way through towards recovery, you

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<v Speaker 3>take the next right step, and sometimes it might be

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<v Speaker 3>a few steps backwards, but that's okay. There's still steps

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<v Speaker 3>and you have the opportunity to step forward. And so

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<v Speaker 3>Leanne and I what we hope from this series is

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<v Speaker 3>that you know, once you start feeling all the feels

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<v Speaker 3>and maybe you are in that place that you'll give

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<v Speaker 3>yourself permission to recognize all these beautiful things about you.

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<v Speaker 2>And some may seem like, well, how is this happening?

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<v Speaker 3>If this is happening, and Land's the brain expert that's

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<v Speaker 3>giving us permission to say, well, this is why your

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<v Speaker 3>brain might be doing that, and it's totally normal.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And I think you said a weekly dose of encouragement.

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<v Speaker 1>I also want to stack on reality because it's not

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<v Speaker 1>always pretty, it doesn't always have a nice bow wrapped

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<v Speaker 1>around it.

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<v Speaker 2>It is definitely not linear, and.

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<v Speaker 1>I think sometimes we might, at least for me and

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<v Speaker 1>the way I work with, we put to try on

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<v Speaker 1>this story of like am I doing it wrong if

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<v Speaker 1>I'm also experiencing this, and we try to put ourselves

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<v Speaker 1>in a box of what's air quotes normal and just

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<v Speaker 1>giving ourselves permission to just let whatever we're experiencing be

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<v Speaker 1>whatever we're experiencing without having to put a label on it.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I mean even a few months ago now,

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<v Speaker 1>I remember we were meeting at Radner and I was like, Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>by the way, here's who's going to show up at Radner.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I things are great, you know, life is good,

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<v Speaker 1>all the things, and I'm in the midst of some

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<v Speaker 1>like spiritual existential awakening breakdown to break through, right, and

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<v Speaker 1>that's who I am. And I remember you're like, thank

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<v Speaker 1>you so much for just being real, you know, and

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<v Speaker 1>giving y'all. Y'all, I'm definitely a Tennessee and now giving

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<v Speaker 1>yourselves permission to just keep it real and it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>have to look a certain way. So I know if

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<v Speaker 1>somebody had told me in the midst of all of

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<v Speaker 1>my stuff that, hey, some days you're going to feel

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<v Speaker 1>like you're breaking down, and some days you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>feel like your you know, air quotes messed up whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's actually okay and normal, that would have given

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<v Speaker 1>me a lot of relief just knowing that, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>But I also know that any time I've had some

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<v Speaker 1>sort of air quote setback.

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<v Speaker 2>It's always setting me up for something.

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<v Speaker 1>But this is where I really want to talk about

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<v Speaker 1>the power of choice, because we can choose to look

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<v Speaker 1>at the lows and when we're feeling all the feels

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<v Speaker 1>and all of that as something that's happening to us

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<v Speaker 1>or you know, kind of that victim story. And when

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<v Speaker 1>I see victim story, it's not always this very obvious

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<v Speaker 1>woe is me kind of story. And even if that

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<v Speaker 1>is your version of the victim mode, no shame about it.

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<v Speaker 1>I've had my version. I know when my victim story

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<v Speaker 1>shows up and I see her and I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>there she is, right, So there's no shame about it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not good, bad, right, or wrong.

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<v Speaker 3>It just is.

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<v Speaker 1>But we really want to be aware of it because

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<v Speaker 1>it's really important to feel the feels and feel the suck,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, when something sucks, feel the suck, but not

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<v Speaker 1>to sit in it, not to become a victim to it.

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<v Speaker 1>So when I talk about this idea of a victim story,

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<v Speaker 1>the woe is me and kind of feeling sorry for ourselves,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a little.

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<v Speaker 2>Bit more obvious.

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<v Speaker 1>But sometimes it's this sneaky, insidious victim story that comes

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<v Speaker 1>that's like, this is who you're always going to be,

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<v Speaker 1>this is just what you do.

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<v Speaker 2>Might as well not not even try to change.

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<v Speaker 3>It, you know, that'vember feeling that, like whenever it like

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<v Speaker 3>a binge would be happening, or I would go a

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<v Speaker 3>few days and it wouldn't or weeks, and then it

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<v Speaker 3>would happen and I'd be like, well, I guess this

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<v Speaker 3>is just.

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<v Speaker 2>How life is.

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<v Speaker 3>This is my life and nobody else is experiencing this,

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<v Speaker 3>because that's before anybody was.

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<v Speaker 2>Really talking about that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yep, Like I didn't even know years and years ago,

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<v Speaker 3>had to google, Like I didn't know binge eating was

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<v Speaker 3>a thing, Like I just I thought I was literally

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<v Speaker 3>the only person in the world that couldn't control myself

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<v Speaker 3>for twenty minutes at a time and I would zombie out. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>but I remember thinking this is just how it is.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, absolutely, And I wouldn't have even known at the

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<v Speaker 1>time that that was like a sneaky victim story because

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<v Speaker 1>what it does. I call it a game over plot

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<v Speaker 1>line in our narrative, in our brain game over, meaning

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<v Speaker 1>like I might as well not even try to shift it,

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<v Speaker 1>because if this is how it is, like game over,

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<v Speaker 1>this is this is I just have to accept it,

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<v Speaker 1>versus like, no, this is just what i've actist and

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<v Speaker 1>this is what has been.

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<v Speaker 2>But I have the power to take ownership of it

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<v Speaker 2>and shift it.

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<v Speaker 1>But notice I didn't say, like, you know, just toughen

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<v Speaker 1>up and suck suck it up and skip right through it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, no, feel the feels, feel the suck, but

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<v Speaker 2>don't sit in it.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't become a victim to it. But also after you

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<v Speaker 1>feel the suck, ask what meaning can I give it

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<v Speaker 1>that can actually empower me? Like not why is this

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<v Speaker 1>happening to me? Why is this happening for me? And

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<v Speaker 1>I used to hear that and think it sounded cheesy,

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<v Speaker 1>to be honest, a lot of this stuff, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>first of all, if you have that inner skeptic or

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<v Speaker 1>that inner you know, your cynical about it. Me too,

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<v Speaker 1>I was too, And that's why the brain stuff really

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<v Speaker 1>helped me.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I call it science with a splash of

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<v Speaker 2>woo woo.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, like it's like all the stuff that I

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<v Speaker 1>used to call kind of touchy feeling emotional stuff, the

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<v Speaker 1>stuff that I actually like believe in wholeheartedly. Now that

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<v Speaker 1>used to feel very foreign to me. I was very like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>give me a plan, let's logic and reason our way

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<v Speaker 1>through it. And I was very hardened. My heart was

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<v Speaker 1>very hardened, and I had to be tough and I

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<v Speaker 1>had to, you know, show everybody I was okay, and

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<v Speaker 1>show people I was smart and successful in all these things.

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<v Speaker 1>But again that in itself is its own coping mechanism.

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<v Speaker 1>But that being said, if you're going through any type

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<v Speaker 1>of anything, right, I do invite you to look for

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<v Speaker 1>what is the breakthrough on the other side of it.

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<v Speaker 2>We get so kind of focused on the suck. We

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<v Speaker 2>get focused on the problem.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, one of my favorite quotes is nothing

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<v Speaker 1>passes until it teaches you what you need to learn.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's true.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, if you're and we're going to talk about this

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<v Speaker 1>actually in another two things can be a true episode

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<v Speaker 1>coming up about you know, the difference between regressing and

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<v Speaker 1>moving backwards and all of that. But part of it

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<v Speaker 1>too is like you might not be experiencing something from

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<v Speaker 1>the same altitude that you had the last time, or

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<v Speaker 1>you might have new altitude.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, But if you are looking for it.

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<v Speaker 1>To be the reason why you're never going to solve

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<v Speaker 1>it or never heal it, You're going to sink deeper

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<v Speaker 1>and deeper. And when I say your spirit, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of this is in our heart, it's in

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<v Speaker 1>our soul, it's in our spirit, and that's when the

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<v Speaker 1>physical stuff comes in and totally separates us from it. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>we no nout, we disconnect. We really just shove everything down.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's why again I'm inviting you, like, what if

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<v Speaker 1>some of this conversation that we might think is like

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<v Speaker 1>a food and body thing, what if it was like

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<v Speaker 1>a heart, soul, spirit and brain conversation too, And that

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<v Speaker 1>when you're going through some sort of like again, you

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<v Speaker 1>can have everything can be roses and butterflies in one

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<v Speaker 1>air of your life, but you can also coincidingly be

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<v Speaker 1>going through some sort of spiritual awakening, breakdown to break through,

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<v Speaker 1>existential crisis, whatever it is. And what I'm inviting you

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<v Speaker 1>into is like, what if you don't give it that

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<v Speaker 1>meaning that it's bad or wrong or you're doing something

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<v Speaker 1>air quotes wrong, and that that was just part of

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<v Speaker 1>it And two things can be true at the same

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<v Speaker 1>time and it doesn't have to mean anything other than that.

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<v Speaker 3>Dig a little deeper into breakdown to break through.

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<v Speaker 1>So you know, when we're in the midst of something,

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<v Speaker 1>breakdown for men can look in many ways. Right, it

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<v Speaker 1>might be I'm in a spiral of shame and self

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<v Speaker 1>condemnation and stress. Right, breakdown could be you know, I've

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<v Speaker 1>hit the end of my road and I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>giving up and that hopelessness kinds of kind of creepy

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<v Speaker 1>breakdown can be like I feel so alone, I feel

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<v Speaker 1>so isolated, I feel messed up, unworthy, broken, all the things.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, And I could tell you a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>the former storylines of my breakdowns, but a breakdown right

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<v Speaker 1>now might be, you know what, so many things are

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<v Speaker 1>piling up in my life right now, and I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like I've reached my limit, and I just feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I need to cry, and I need to maybe for

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<v Speaker 1>a moment, even be MOPy poudy, victimy for just a

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<v Speaker 1>minute in a very kind of strategic way, because again,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't want to shove it down like let it out,

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<v Speaker 1>give yourself permission to be irrational, erratic, you know, victimy, whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>But again we don't want to sit in it. But

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<v Speaker 1>it's really important to feel to suck. But any type

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<v Speaker 1>of breakdown, so you know, for me, honestly, what I

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<v Speaker 1>would call most recently my versions of breakdowns or when

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<v Speaker 1>I give myself permission to not be okay in that

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<v Speaker 1>moment and let myself cry, or I'm more of a

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<v Speaker 1>crier than a screamer.

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<v Speaker 2>But whatever it is for you, I'm both okay I'm.

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<v Speaker 3>Both and and there is a chemical release that's happening

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<v Speaker 3>when So if you are someone that suppresses, I would

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<v Speaker 3>encourage you to figure out if you're a car or

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<v Speaker 3>a screamer or both, because there is some sort of

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<v Speaker 3>release that feels so good. And in those breakdown moments

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<v Speaker 3>with you know, I just love that you said break

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<v Speaker 3>down to breakthrough because I feel like in the breakdown,

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<v Speaker 3>after we've not suppressed and felt the things and whatever

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<v Speaker 3>we live, it's almost as though you're not a fork

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<v Speaker 3>in the road, and which way are you going to go?

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<v Speaker 3>Are we going to continue with the breakdown or are

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<v Speaker 3>we going to look for the breakthrough?

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely and work for the breakthrough.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And like sometimes you got to tear down walls

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<v Speaker 1>to put up new ones, you know, and it's not

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<v Speaker 1>always pretty. And so the breakdowns and again you can

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<v Speaker 1>replace it with whatever word resonates with you. And if

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<v Speaker 1>you're listening to this and you're like, sometimes I shut

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<v Speaker 1>down sometimes I just want to escape, like whatever it is,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're feeling all the feels whatever, you might have

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<v Speaker 1>tendencies to make wrong or give meaning that you're doing

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<v Speaker 1>something wrong or regressing or I should be stronger than

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<v Speaker 1>this or I should know better is a big one

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<v Speaker 1>for my clients. Right, So whatever it is, like, look

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<v Speaker 1>at like find the gold in that, find the beauty

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<v Speaker 1>in it.

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<v Speaker 2>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>One of something I found online I sent to one

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<v Speaker 1>of my clients because she was experiencing something, actual circumstances

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<v Speaker 1>in her life, you know that were hard. She came

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<v Speaker 1>to me and she's like, Okay, leam, I'm noticing my

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<v Speaker 1>victim voice come up.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I was just coaching her through it.

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<v Speaker 1>But I found something online and it just says, replacing

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<v Speaker 1>why is this happening to me? With what is this

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<v Speaker 1>trying to teach me? Is a game changer. Things happen

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<v Speaker 1>for us to learn and grow from. When we realize this,

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<v Speaker 1>our perspective shifts from disempowered to empowered. And I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's really the if we were to simplify this, like

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<v Speaker 1>the breakdown to break through, it's a perspective shift. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>skip over the suck, like get feel the feels. But

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<v Speaker 1>then it's like, Okay, what is now possible for me?

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<v Speaker 1>What can I create from this? What do I need

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<v Speaker 1>to learn?

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<v Speaker 2>God? For me? I say, God, what are you trying

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<v Speaker 2>to teach me here?

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<v Speaker 1>What have I not yet experienced, mastered, learned, have the

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<v Speaker 1>insight and awareness right where am I trying to fix

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<v Speaker 1>something outside of me when something inside of me feels

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<v Speaker 1>like it needs some love and attention and care.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's where I come back to full circle. It's

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<v Speaker 2>the power of choice.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to choose to take radical ownership of your journey,

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<v Speaker 1>of your story, of your ability to influence all the

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<v Speaker 1>things that you can influence, and then of course release

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<v Speaker 1>the things that you really can't control. But that's a choice,

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<v Speaker 1>and shifting your perspective is a choice. And having aware

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<v Speaker 1>of sitting here listening to this podcast bettering yourself where

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<v Speaker 1>we're not always talking about roses and butterflies, is a choice.

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<v Speaker 1>But you're obviously listening to this because you're somebody who

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<v Speaker 1>wants to take radical ownership of your life. So the

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<v Speaker 1>breakdown to break through, the breakthrough is a choice in

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<v Speaker 1>my opinion.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, and since we mentioned experiencing joy is one of

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<v Speaker 3>the things that is on the opposite of experiencing the pain,

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<v Speaker 3>and two things can happen at the same time, Like

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<v Speaker 3>you could be experiencing the loss of someone in your

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<v Speaker 3>life but also get some really exciting news and then

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<v Speaker 3>feel guilty about celebrating it because you should be grieving

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<v Speaker 3>that it all can sort of happen at the same time.

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<v Speaker 3>But I was trying to search up for this Ted

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<v Speaker 3>talk that I watched, and now I can't remember what

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<v Speaker 3>it was called, but I talked about it on four

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<v Speaker 3>things because what was the key word? And it makes

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<v Speaker 3>me think of Donald Miller giving us what does this

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<v Speaker 3>make possible in any situation that you face?

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<v Speaker 2>But she had done this whole study.

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<v Speaker 3>Of people that were, you know, truly content in life

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<v Speaker 3>and had joy, and there was people that you know,

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<v Speaker 3>said they did, but then it didn't line up when

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<v Speaker 3>they were you know, they asked all these questions, they

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<v Speaker 3>had to fill everything out, and she said that the

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<v Speaker 3>ninety percent of people, Now I'm paraphrasing and making stuff

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<v Speaker 3>up just to give you a picture of sort of

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<v Speaker 3>what it was, is like ninety percent of people would

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<v Speaker 3>have said, oh, yeah, I'm this way, but she said, really,

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<v Speaker 3>it's only like five or ten percent of people that

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<v Speaker 3>really are. And in the five to ten percent of

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<v Speaker 3>people that we found truly experience that joy any adversity

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<v Speaker 3>they face in life, they have that question, what what

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<v Speaker 3>does this make possible? For me? What can I do

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<v Speaker 3>with this now? Not why exactly what you just said?

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm going to find that Ted talk it, but

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<v Speaker 3>it was, you know, someone got di notsed with cancer,

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<v Speaker 3>and instead of being like, why is this happening to me?

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<v Speaker 3>She said what is important in life to me? And

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<v Speaker 3>she made a list of what's important so that she

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<v Speaker 3>could focus on that. A guy was having a really

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<v Speaker 3>difficult time with his boss at work, and instead of

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<v Speaker 3>saying why does she treat me this way? Or why

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<v Speaker 3>is our relationship so strange? He said, what can I

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<v Speaker 3>do to show her I am valuable?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>And so the what is huge? So I just was

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<v Speaker 3>going to go off on that.

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<v Speaker 2>For a second. Yeah, don't quote me on any of that,

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<v Speaker 2>but it is.

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<v Speaker 1>That is the gist of it, absolutely, And I'll even

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<v Speaker 1>stack on that asking yourself why. I'm not saying that

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't matter, but it's not going to make a difference.

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<v Speaker 1>So the big ones are why is this happening? Why

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<v Speaker 1>am I like that? Why do I do that? Why

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<v Speaker 1>can't I stop that? The why questions? Again, it's not

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<v Speaker 1>that they don't matter, but they're not going to make

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<v Speaker 1>a difference in how you show up from here on out.

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<v Speaker 1>But those what questions, as you were just saying, Amy,

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<v Speaker 1>those can actually shift the trajectory and move you into

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<v Speaker 1>solution thinking, because why questions not all the time, but

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<v Speaker 1>are ten are going to tend to be more focused

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<v Speaker 1>on the problem versus what we really want is a

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<v Speaker 1>way out of the problem and solution. So those what

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<v Speaker 1>questions are going to bring you more solution focused versus

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<v Speaker 1>those why questions tend to tend to take you down.

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<v Speaker 2>The rabbit hole of the problem. Well, there you go.

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<v Speaker 3>That is part six of two things can be true

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<v Speaker 3>at the same time. And Leanne and I both hope

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<v Speaker 3>that you have the day that you need to have.

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<v Speaker 3>And if you need to cry, cry, yes, if you

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<v Speaker 3>need to scream, scream, you.

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<v Speaker 2>Need to hit some things at one of those places.

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<v Speaker 2>I googled the on YouTube.

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<v Speaker 3>I just looked up a lions roar because I remember

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<v Speaker 3>doing that in yoga and it feeling really good. So

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<v Speaker 3>I found someone leading the process of that on YouTube,

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<v Speaker 3>and I sat down and I did it the other

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<v Speaker 3>day and it felt so good. So look up the

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<v Speaker 3>lion r r are. It's very empowering. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 3>it's very therapeutic, very so Leanne, where can people find.

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<v Speaker 1>You Stressless eating dot com if you want to hear

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<v Speaker 1>more about the whole process of rewiring your brain when

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<v Speaker 1>it comes to food, your body, yourself image, your body

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<v Speaker 1>image and Leanne ellington.

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<v Speaker 3>Over on Instagram and I Am at Radio Amy on

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<v Speaker 3>socials and radioimy dot com. We'll see you next Saturday

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<v Speaker 3>for part seven.

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<v Speaker 2>Bye bye