Speaker 1: Guess what decision We're about to make a horrible decision.
Speaker 1: We're gonna give you a little not really whatever? Yeah, anyone,
Speaker 1: what is that? I thought you're in distress? That your
Speaker 1: bow every time you pound? Uh, it's like every thrust? No, okay,
Speaker 1: my bad would yas how we hear me? No, we
Speaker 1: are not sorry that for that's like bro. Sorry, Hey, guys,
Speaker 1: welcome to another week. We have a week to a
Speaker 1: motherfucker one. Are we alive? Are they? Are we ghost?
Speaker 1: Is we zombies? If this is what's left over going? Huh,
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. Hi guys, I'm wheezy. Welcome to another
Speaker 1: episode of our show. Today. We have a close friend,
Speaker 1: my bestie and to assistant what's been his title on
Speaker 1: the show, you want to say? Told manager of No.
Speaker 1: I called myself like the code tour manager because like
Speaker 1: I'll be there for most of the dates dates, and
Speaker 1: then because we actually did have a tour manager. So
Speaker 1: he's like, you call assistant, you do much more than yeah,
Speaker 1: you do way more than that. And for those of
Speaker 1: y'all who like came to our tours when it was
Speaker 1: just Wheelie and I putting them on, y'all may have
Speaker 1: seen him, sell t shirts, help with our songs, help
Speaker 1: with you. He's been helping us always before we had
Speaker 1: a manager. Yeah, from the beginning. You guys may have
Speaker 1: also heard him before, if y'all start started all the
Speaker 1: way back from four years ago forever. He fuck the murderer.
Speaker 1: It's it's fourteen. About to say it's earlier. I did
Speaker 1: murderer and men on the deal. Yes, And let me
Speaker 1: tell you something. I have flashbacks with people be like,
Speaker 1: oh you fuck the murdering And I'm like, oh bitch, yeah,
Speaker 1: and like I literally like go through the experience all
Speaker 1: over again, be like, oh, yeah, I did. He had
Speaker 1: to climb out a bathroom window, or at least he
Speaker 1: thought some streams these are horny forviews. No, Bennie is
Speaker 1: you know. I'm so glad he's part of our Horrible
Speaker 1: Decisions team along with Bens. That's really like our cot
Speaker 1: ye now yeah, but so shout out to them. But yeah,
Speaker 1: so Bennie's here. You know, it's just a merry and
Speaker 1: gay New Year with you here, you know. So I
Speaker 1: wanted to talk about something different because we've had so
Speaker 1: many gay men in and particularly with Vinnie, I just
Speaker 1: it would be like our gay men be like gay episodes,
Speaker 1: and so I'm glad, like we're gonna just talk about
Speaker 1: goddamn dating as people despite our sexuality, because it's not like,
Speaker 1: you know, we're trying to like be like tell us
Speaker 1: all about your gay ship. But also like I'm gonna
Speaker 1: because I think you'd right, that's pretty much what I'm
Speaker 1: talking about really, which is which is I'm not trying
Speaker 1: to yell anyone's yuck, but it's not mine. I mean,
Speaker 1: we get it for him, um no. But it was
Speaker 1: difficult because I was like, Minnie has so many stories,
Speaker 1: so like, what can we talk about with Vinnie? And
Speaker 1: I feel like this has been a trend in your
Speaker 1: life for as long as I've known you. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: we're gonna talk about Daddy's today Before we get to
Speaker 1: Daddy specifically, I'm not talking about just Mandy and I
Speaker 1: having old bays. I'm talking Daddy's like plus let's says okay,
Speaker 1: and they love him to y'all. Let me just explain.
Speaker 1: During the Bandami, we went to I came to Boston
Speaker 1: because I missed you, and I surprised him for the birthday,
Speaker 1: and we went to this gay bar where it was
Speaker 1: socially distanced. It was really difficult, by the way, because
Speaker 1: like gauges me on top of each other because that's
Speaker 1: how they like speak and definitely say hello. So this
Speaker 1: was really weird, Like even if you stood up and
Speaker 1: went to another table, like but they did. Well, what's
Speaker 1: the name of that Cathy's Cathy's Cathedral station. There are
Speaker 1: some really cute niggas in there. They're always I hate
Speaker 1: parting with Justin for that reason, Like I hate going
Speaker 1: on and being like they don't like me. You're walking
Speaker 1: like they're not even here for me, and I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: why my hair? You do always look your right now. Anyway,
Speaker 1: I just only pointed out how many good looking men
Speaker 1: there were in there, because I don't know if you
Speaker 1: saw them because you were looking at the A RP
Speaker 1: table a friend and if you can remember, they all
Speaker 1: have their masks on. Everybody else too. They're responsible no no, no,
Speaker 1: because they might have died. Wait, they probably all have
Speaker 1: underlying condition. And it was so serious that not only
Speaker 1: I said this about Bennie, what's your friend Julissa, not
Speaker 1: what's his name Julissa Bunt Jared Jared, but he got
Speaker 1: all the eager Julissa, and he was like, there goes
Speaker 1: Benny's friends. Everybody knows you like oh and it is insane,
Speaker 1: Like literally, I don't know what the silver hair, white
Speaker 1: hair does. I'm not gonna lie. I like the little
Speaker 1: the salt and pepper now to say I need the
Speaker 1: pepper in there. I don't want all salt, A little
Speaker 1: salt and pepper, and like the bald a little bit.
Speaker 1: Damn you gonna like my nigga the bald? The bald does?
Speaker 1: I don't know. You want to bald spot out? You
Speaker 1: want to let it shine? Bitch? Do you wanted to
Speaker 1: put sunscreen on it? Give it to me? Wait? But
Speaker 1: do you like the hair around? Like? You don't mean
Speaker 1: I don't need the hair around? But you know, sometimes
Speaker 1: if they're bald, they like shave the whole thing. But
Speaker 1: if I got to say during the summertime, the shadows, okay.
Speaker 1: But if I have to say, baby, let me put
Speaker 1: some sunscreen on your head in the summertime, that's it
Speaker 1: right there for me. Why, I don't know, I like it.
Speaker 1: I wonder if you got isn't daddy issue? I don't know,
Speaker 1: you know. I talked to my therapist about it because
Speaker 1: I was truly concerned, and I was like, listen, um,
Speaker 1: you know, my father was a little absent, but I
Speaker 1: had male figures in my life plenty, probably more than
Speaker 1: just a father. I had like a father and eight cousins.
Speaker 1: And so I was like, are these daddy issues? She
Speaker 1: was like no, And I was like, you could like older,
Speaker 1: you can like, but I thought it was rooted in
Speaker 1: like my father not being there. And she was like,
Speaker 1: but you had male figures all around you the whole time.
Speaker 1: They thought it was a daddy thing, because well, maybe not.
Speaker 1: It's just that you are, for example, this is just
Speaker 1: me telling what I know. But Vinnie is in someone's will.
Speaker 1: And I just feel like when you're shout up you've God,
Speaker 1: because that are in your thirties or forties, like that
Speaker 1: never really comes right. You don't really talk about this
Speaker 1: like that. But I wondered when that When you told
Speaker 1: me that that day, I was like, I wonder if
Speaker 1: that's a protector thing, like he makes you feel. I
Speaker 1: think I do like the stability, and I do like
Speaker 1: the it's until until he came along, I thought it
Speaker 1: was like no games and like they knew what they
Speaker 1: wanted and he was going to be like solid. But
Speaker 1: it turns out they're just children too. Man. He always
Speaker 1: said that working around too. No, I'm not gonna lie,
Speaker 1: but and I think I compare it between like rich
Speaker 1: and regular niggas to like all everybody is like how
Speaker 1: they just do. I don't know if it's covideo pandemica,
Speaker 1: but like the motherfucker's everywhere, and like, some days he's
Speaker 1: loved me, some days he don't want to be around me.
Speaker 1: Some days he's like, come back. It's just maybe maybe
Speaker 1: he's losing it. He might be losing Maybe some days
Speaker 1: he forgets who you are, you know what. He ain't
Speaker 1: that old, but maybe the side of dementia. But wait,
Speaker 1: I don't know, does he know you're doing this today? Um?
Speaker 1: Kind of stop it? I s sorry. I mean I
Speaker 1: like him. He's cute, but like he's cute, he's fun,
Speaker 1: he's super chill. Um, but you know, he don't know
Speaker 1: what he wants. He doesn't know what he wants and
Speaker 1: he's almost half of a century. I think it's because
Speaker 1: he had a very long relationship. He had a very
Speaker 1: long relationship. Prize that's in a marriage. I don't deal
Speaker 1: with those seven marriages February makes it almost like three years.
Speaker 1: Is what do I find the most interesting about this
Speaker 1: is this is what he was telling me about their
Speaker 1: in the pandemic. Okay, he wasn't with somebody else that
Speaker 1: that was him, So I was like the Providence one. Okay,
Speaker 1: I want to dive into something interesting because it when
Speaker 1: you're dating someone at this age. Right, So Pete Town
Speaker 1: tells what pet so? Pete Town is a gay community,
Speaker 1: just like here in New York, there's Fire Island, there's
Speaker 1: PiZZ Town. At a typical cod in Massachusetts. It's about
Speaker 1: a ninety minute fairy ride from Boston or you could
Speaker 1: drive and it takes like three hours. Um, and it's
Speaker 1: just gay as fun. Well, straight people are starting to
Speaker 1: come in now, but it's really gay as fun. Was
Speaker 1: upset I want want literally just made it seem like
Speaker 1: straight people were colonizers. And I don't know if it's
Speaker 1: y'all colonized and someone every track grun let me tell you?
Speaker 1: Are you kidding me? Place Angels the parliam is still
Speaker 1: very much. I mean like there are some there are
Speaker 1: some places like Provincetown. Like when I first went there,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, there's gonna be gay nigas everywhere.
Speaker 1: Everybody's gonna be holding hands, blah blah. But then I
Speaker 1: just saw straight couples with little kids everywhere, and I
Speaker 1: was like, go away, you have the whole other state.
Speaker 1: Like I only felt that way at the nude beach.
Speaker 1: People started bringing their kids. This is not the place.
Speaker 1: Well this is See I'm okay with the nude beaches
Speaker 1: because like in Spain, their kids at the beach. But like,
Speaker 1: there's literally on Prime Sound there's a beach called Boy
Speaker 1: Beach and it's literally where the men go and they
Speaker 1: be they close to the dick dot. It's but men,
Speaker 1: you know, be out there doing what they do. We
Speaker 1: brought up the dots on an episode, yeah, because he
Speaker 1: was like, oh god, you have the ditk. Yeah. No.
Speaker 1: But the thing see, speaking of that, I've watched this
Speaker 1: summer straight couples walk to the dick talk and be like,
Speaker 1: oh this is where it is. It's become a torch attraction.
Speaker 1: So I can't get you wanted to go just like
Speaker 1: that with your call. It not because they're they're fucking
Speaker 1: taking pictures? Are you trying to get your but if
Speaker 1: an he has kicked me out of spaces I'm not welcome.
Speaker 1: And one time he can see or pretty and he
Speaker 1: was like, where'd you go the cock? When I was
Speaker 1: the first say and I was like, oh, where are
Speaker 1: we gonna go? He was like, we go eat and
Speaker 1: then you can go home. Oh wait, you didn't let
Speaker 1: her go to the car, Like there's some places I
Speaker 1: would be like, Asante brought me to the car. I
Speaker 1: was right there and then I turned around and that
Speaker 1: it was definitely some and the Eagle, the eagle here
Speaker 1: in New York. I would never let a woman come
Speaker 1: with me. Why because baby, it's pravy. We didn't go
Speaker 1: to that one club private were almost got sucked in
Speaker 1: the room but maybe no no, no, no no, no, second
Speaker 1: in the in the dark room. Yeah, so we know
Speaker 1: you are. That's why you want horrible club. This is
Speaker 1: I'm gonna think. This was the guy who was like,
Speaker 1: you guys have coach at meth do it all. Yeah.
Speaker 1: We went to the gate because like in Europe, a
Speaker 1: lot of gay clubs have the bathroom and then like
Speaker 1: a room that is really dark, like you cannot see
Speaker 1: your hand in front of your face. But why is
Speaker 1: that fun? And because you have anonymous sex instead of
Speaker 1: going to somebody like, you just have anonymous, so you
Speaker 1: just grab that's probably problem. Let me way around. It
Speaker 1: was a really crazy night first off, because one we
Speaker 1: came to fucking where were we? Wait? Wait, I know
Speaker 1: you want to tell your story. We've never talked about
Speaker 1: a dark room. We're about to talk about so we
Speaker 1: So the night starts off with us going to a
Speaker 1: lesbian club, right, So Bennie is already like, bitch, you're
Speaker 1: about to have me in here. We need to get ht.
Speaker 1: So I was like okay, So I go to the bathroom.
Speaker 1: I come back. I was like, don't be upset. The
Speaker 1: drugs accidentally fell on the toilet. So this was like
Speaker 1: we're leaving. So we go to the gay club, which
Speaker 1: was really fun, like it was cute. Nieces was dancing
Speaker 1: on boxes like we was having a good time, and
Speaker 1: I knew he wanted to leave me for a minute,
Speaker 1: but I do want to be left alone because like
Speaker 1: it's a foreign country or whatever. So we go downstairs
Speaker 1: and I see lockers. I'm like, what's that for? And
Speaker 1: he's like, oh bitch, He's like do you I'll be
Speaker 1: right back. And then I see condoms. I was like, no,
Speaker 1: I want to see what it's like. I want to
Speaker 1: see what it's like. Never has been he held in
Speaker 1: my hand like this, it's like that happen he puts
Speaker 1: me for just it depends on the club, honestly. They
Speaker 1: can be really big or they can be like just
Speaker 1: like the size of what the regular I'd say, like
Speaker 1: a big living room. Yeah, okay, but sometimes they have
Speaker 1: like cubicles and stalls but with no doors, so you
Speaker 1: can go in there and like it's a small room.
Speaker 1: But you did you know you can you cannot see
Speaker 1: the person he said, walk in front of me. So
Speaker 1: Vinnie is like, asked to ask with me, right, So
Speaker 1: his dick is in your but no, I still have everything.
Speaker 1: Everything is still zipped up behind him. So Vinnie's in
Speaker 1: front of me, and I'm like feeling people grab on me,
Speaker 1: and I'm like laughing because I'm like, is that him?
Speaker 1: I don't know how we got separated, but a man
Speaker 1: came right behind me grab my ass. I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm a girl, he said, I don't care because if
Speaker 1: if you're if you're in the dark room, it basically
Speaker 1: means you give consent to be touched grabbed, Like that's
Speaker 1: what you go in there for. You would you go
Speaker 1: in there and like literally they just be like they
Speaker 1: start touching you. You You can't be like, no, that's what
Speaker 1: you went in there for. But you can't. But you
Speaker 1: can't just pop like you don't know, well you would know,
Speaker 1: but you know what that mouth though that we did?
Speaker 1: Did you play at all in this room? Now? Was
Speaker 1: this was a creepy one? Wait? Did you left me?
Speaker 1: I've never been man, I did. I didn't progue. I
Speaker 1: didn't progue, but I didn't do it in Barcelona, okay,
Speaker 1: and so wait, our men already just on their knees.
Speaker 1: But some people, some people are just standing there waiting
Speaker 1: for somebody to hear anyone fucking But I think people
Speaker 1: were definitely getting the dicks on you. Dark rooms are
Speaker 1: dark rooms are thinking in Europe, and I mean for
Speaker 1: the most part, I know, and they're really fun. Honestly,
Speaker 1: they're really fun. Well I thought you went in one
Speaker 1: because I ended up talking to this game and now
Speaker 1: we've talked about sometimes on the show how meth is
Speaker 1: very popular on Grinder, doing a certain type of drugs
Speaker 1: like that, right, which I considered drugs that are like
Speaker 1: not for me. But anyway, we go upstairs and I'm
Speaker 1: telling the dude about how ship dropped in the toilet right, like, wait,
Speaker 1: it was meth. No, it wasn't math, Mandy. Oh we
Speaker 1: don't know, okay. But I was just telling like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, that time you just said drugs that you
Speaker 1: did so I didn't know, Okay, Okay. I was telling
Speaker 1: the guy about how like, oh I dropped all ablama
Speaker 1: toilet and he was like, oh my god, girl. He
Speaker 1: was like, I can get whatever you want. Remember him,
Speaker 1: It was like we can get co can get. I
Speaker 1: was like wow. I remember looking at him and being
Speaker 1: like whatever you left me with his ass? I don't
Speaker 1: know why. And he was like, no, let's just find it.
Speaker 1: We can just find it. I just know who has it.
Speaker 1: We go in the dark room. I was like, you
Speaker 1: don't get math, get your nicks in the dark room
Speaker 1: by someone you don't know. It's a police. That's why
Speaker 1: I walked away. I said, no, he do, we gotta go.
Speaker 1: That's the walked away. But you're already like this for
Speaker 1: people are feeling free. You don't want to be judgy.
Speaker 1: But also like we were doing a shot together and
Speaker 1: I was like, well I went with this hair on
Speaker 1: one shot with you I just remember. I remember, like,
Speaker 1: I remember looking at him and being like, girl, let's
Speaker 1: take the shot and walk away, right because also he smells.
Speaker 1: But you know, whatever he did, we're ever going to
Speaker 1: go to a gay club again. I don't know. Ain't
Speaker 1: nothing going to be open. What club? Unless they got
Speaker 1: it in Atlanta. That's the only place. We are not
Speaker 1: doing that. Let's just go to an l ship A
Speaker 1: downer on this, but I recently found out that porn
Speaker 1: hub had removed all unverified content, did you guys? So
Speaker 1: there was a lot of reports of exploitation, apparently about
Speaker 1: a hundred and eighteen videos, which doesn't sound like a lot,
Speaker 1: but it's enough about missing kids. Um, I think half
Speaker 1: of them were missing kids. So there's an watchdog group
Speaker 1: called the Internet watch Foundation, and they found a hundred
Speaker 1: and eighteen instances. They said that it was a hundred
Speaker 1: eighteen too many. The service UM was defensive in its report,
Speaker 1: believing it had been UM singled out due to its
Speaker 1: focus on adult content. It's clear that porn hub is
Speaker 1: being targeted. This is from porn Hub, by the way,
Speaker 1: not because of our policies and how we compared to
Speaker 1: our peers, but because we are in a adult content platform,
Speaker 1: the service rights there. These are the same forces that
Speaker 1: have been spent fifty years demonizing Playboy, the National Endowment
Speaker 1: for the Arts, Facility sex education, LGBTQ rights, women's rights,
Speaker 1: and every American Library Association. Today it happens to be
Speaker 1: porn Hub. Mandy, I love porn Hub and I will
Speaker 1: never use it again. Well, it's crazy, because I do
Speaker 1: want to bring up it's funny that they're just like, oh,
Speaker 1: they're just attacking us because we are um more this way.
Speaker 1: But there was actually a story a couple of months
Speaker 1: ago where a woman was trying to get a video
Speaker 1: taken down that she did not consent to have recorded.
Speaker 1: And there's a lot of things in the amateur realm
Speaker 1: of porn hub where there are i think one woman
Speaker 1: also had a rape up there and she continuously told
Speaker 1: them to take it down and they didn't. So not
Speaker 1: only are you know, are they saying that, uh, not
Speaker 1: only is porn Hub sitting here trying to act like
Speaker 1: it's just this organization that is attacking them, there are
Speaker 1: actual victims of assault and women who were videotaped, and
Speaker 1: there's not he said like, hey, down people upload whatever.
Speaker 1: We will take it like it's so easy to take
Speaker 1: it down. I just cannot believe to even say what
Speaker 1: the response was so funny And that's really what it is,
Speaker 1: because right, like when you have a user uploaded platform
Speaker 1: like a Reddit or a YouTube, I mean anything where
Speaker 1: or Instagram, right, and it comes down once, you know,
Speaker 1: just to be like, oh, they're coming for us. But
Speaker 1: I think something needs to be changed. It has to
Speaker 1: be something. Like you said, Instagram can easily take things
Speaker 1: down because they have a community guidelines, you know, community
Speaker 1: guidelines that are set. To me, I feel like maybe
Speaker 1: porn hub is maybe too lenient in their community guidelines
Speaker 1: because to me, if someone is saying that's a video
Speaker 1: of me and I was getting assaulted, you should take
Speaker 1: it down immediately. There should immediately. There shouldn't be a
Speaker 1: back and forth regarding clicks or views or anither that
Speaker 1: Like if I come to you and say there's a
Speaker 1: violation because you actually do protect victims, that should be anything.
Speaker 1: I feel like they were dope. I love that they
Speaker 1: hired like um shout out to d Nasty, like they
Speaker 1: hired her to do their words, like the higher communities.
Speaker 1: It's not just like sex workers, like I think and
Speaker 1: I mean even ms be nasty. She came on and
Speaker 1: said she actually likes that. Not only is it used
Speaker 1: to for exposure for her, but she gets paid on
Speaker 1: porn hub as well. So it's one of our friends. UM,
Speaker 1: shout out to Mia Woods. She's dating one of our
Speaker 1: friends and she uploads her videos on there like she does.
Speaker 1: Only fans get paid. They get paid. Um. But you
Speaker 1: can also use for free X and x x or
Speaker 1: x videos. There's also you porn. I used to use
Speaker 1: that way back in the day. I will say the
Speaker 1: only thing about X and x X that I do
Speaker 1: not like And I will tell you now if you're
Speaker 1: one of those porn watchers like me, they're suggested videos
Speaker 1: are often never in the same category of the videos
Speaker 1: that you're watching. Stuff. It's been you know what I
Speaker 1: mean to suggestive videos is all. And then you're making
Speaker 1: my dick point. We got to go back to thebrary here.
Speaker 1: Their algorithms sucks for suggestive videos to use. Um, I
Speaker 1: use xxx videos. Um, I use Twitter Twitter. I told
Speaker 1: you Twitter Twitter, I got my little two minutes. You
Speaker 1: let me tell you or to go to the media
Speaker 1: file and then exactly you just go to the media
Speaker 1: and you just keep scrolling. I mean, you're gonna hit
Speaker 1: one account, but you just keep podcast pro sex work
Speaker 1: and y'all because they're trying to scam the No, I'm not.
Speaker 1: Because it's people who have only fans who use Twitter
Speaker 1: as a platform to like it. And you know, all
Speaker 1: my you know, if I really like it or I
Speaker 1: bust the nut to that one, I will retweet. Came
Speaker 1: to this, came to this, sweetheart. And so if you
Speaker 1: guys have some other suggestions, by the way, please leave
Speaker 1: them in the YouTube comments. Tweet us, tell us, like
Speaker 1: where you're watching your freeport at? What platforms do you like?
Speaker 1: What's use your friendly? Because I ain't a port with
Speaker 1: that ship. Donate some money to some child trafficking victims
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Speaker 1: for us, a sex tip for anybody any Well, it's
Speaker 1: gonna be for men. Pull out all right, No, no,
Speaker 1: no kidding, no's kidding. No, it's just the beginning of
Speaker 1: my film I don't work. I'm tired of the unwanted.
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. Okay, okay, there you like, So when
Speaker 1: you're having sex, pull out of the vagina or the
Speaker 1: booty hole. And when you enter, enter slowly and do keegels. Men,
Speaker 1: do keegeles as you're going back in, because what's gonna
Speaker 1: happen is you're kind of forcing blood flow to your dick,
Speaker 1: and so if you're already hard, it's gonna pulse and
Speaker 1: it's also gonna go up and down. So I like when, yeah,
Speaker 1: so I I didn't know men could do keegles. I
Speaker 1: didn't know. That's when they know. So men, if you
Speaker 1: don't know how to do keegoes, when you're peeing, you pee,
Speaker 1: stop it, stop it. That's not stop, it's that working.
Speaker 1: That's if you don't know how to work the muscle.
Speaker 1: That's how you activate the muscle. So if you don't
Speaker 1: know how to do it, go to pee and when
Speaker 1: you're peeing, stop it. And then like you, once you
Speaker 1: learn how to do it, once you learn how to
Speaker 1: make your dick jump, which is really keegels, um, you
Speaker 1: just do that when you're entering them slowly, and it
Speaker 1: really provides a different sensation. Like I've had dudes to
Speaker 1: be like what is that? Like? Nothing, that's so just
Speaker 1: do keegles. Pull out and then do keegles as you
Speaker 1: slowly enter, and it literally provides well inside of you,
Speaker 1: just like he's like pulling on his dick pull out.
Speaker 1: What's crazy is I've given that suggestion to women too,
Speaker 1: Like there's a way for us to do keegels while
Speaker 1: dick is inside. So we're gripping the dick and it
Speaker 1: feels so good. It's easily done when you lay down
Speaker 1: flat and a man is behind you. And it's also
Speaker 1: here's a cheap code as well, if you just like
Speaker 1: scrunch your butt cheeks together, like as I used, scrunch
Speaker 1: your butt cheeks together, they could feel like you're pussy
Speaker 1: in all of that just grabbing the dick. So yeah,
Speaker 1: so just scrunch your butt cheeks together and then I
Speaker 1: love you. It kiggls me too. I'm like, oh, you
Speaker 1: can do it on a subway ride. You can do
Speaker 1: that while you're driving the word. You could do it
Speaker 1: while you're just sending at home my time. You should
Speaker 1: definitely do it, though, I think because it helps withougles.
Speaker 1: I think he was mean because it helps your orgasms.
Speaker 1: It helps, you know, Americans love changes. She Nike isn't
Speaker 1: it night or something? The Adidas is really Ida? All right,
Speaker 1: let's just say these think It's a song for a
Speaker 1: fucking clothing brands like we Man. You know, I do
Speaker 1: love saying Luis Guci. It's Italian. Maybe they say, like Google,
Speaker 1: just Gucci. No, okay, okay, the horrible this is our
Speaker 1: whole factor. I really love this one. This is all
Speaker 1: about stone Wall. For those of you who know what
Speaker 1: stone Wall is and you know it as a bar
Speaker 1: in New York, that's true, it is, But where did
Speaker 1: it become a monument? How did that actually happen? What
Speaker 1: you may not know about Stonewall is that there were
Speaker 1: actual Stonewall riots and known as the stone Wall Uprising.
Speaker 1: So basically, let me tell you what Wikipedia said, but
Speaker 1: let me translate it. So stone Wall was like a
Speaker 1: place where people had to go hide and be gay,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying on the bisitionary ship because
Speaker 1: they couldn't really be gay outside. So then what ended
Speaker 1: up happening was there was like a whole fucking gay
Speaker 1: revolution and ship Nia was writing tearing ship up, they
Speaker 1: were sucking it up. It's very like, um, I believe
Speaker 1: there's this piece on the wall outside or some thing
Speaker 1: that's like broken off from that having been in a while,
Speaker 1: still open. Oh yeah, yeah, ing and village. Um. But
Speaker 1: this was around the fifties and the sixties, because very
Speaker 1: few establishments welcomed gay people in the nineteen fifties and
Speaker 1: six and that was both male and women. Uh. And
Speaker 1: it was owned by the mafia at the time, and
Speaker 1: it catered to a bunch of patrons, um, butch lesbians. Um.
Speaker 1: That's where the term um, I'm sorry to cut off,
Speaker 1: that's where the term are you a friend of Dorothy's?
Speaker 1: Came from because you couldn't you couldn't ask somebody I
Speaker 1: didn't know that they were gay. So you'd be like, here,
Speaker 1: you were friend of Dorothy's, and that's how you didn't
Speaker 1: know if they were gay. Like really, that's what you
Speaker 1: learned when because he probably was going there during the
Speaker 1: Brandon called his good Judy and he was like, you
Speaker 1: got all these gay friends and nobody ever called you
Speaker 1: the good judy And I was like, well, you ain't
Speaker 1: never called him your good duty because because you know,
Speaker 1: bitch on a millennial. Okay. So there were police raids
Speaker 1: on the gay bars, right offerers, offerers. Officers quickly lost control.
Speaker 1: They are officalbum defund the police, y'all. Ship. So the
Speaker 1: tensions between the New York City Police and gay residents
Speaker 1: of Greenwage erupted into more protests into evening, several nights,
Speaker 1: going over and over into weeks. Um and basically, who
Speaker 1: through the first brick? I don't know, John say exactly.
Speaker 1: I never forget that ship. I didn't know that friend.
Speaker 1: Never forget that I didn't know she threw the first
Speaker 1: break through that brick. Now, because when women been the
Speaker 1: leaders out here in the trans woman women, black, our
Speaker 1: last black president, um Obama. You know, he made it
Speaker 1: a monument of whatever. And this was a very important
Speaker 1: thing because to me it was the first like gay monument.
Speaker 1: I mean what it represented, it was a big fucking deal. Um,
Speaker 1: so it is considered a monument and it's a bar,
Speaker 1: which is like toughest fuck. But last year June, well
Speaker 1: two years ago now June seen it was the anniversary
Speaker 1: fifty World Pride in NYC. I was out with Christopher.
Speaker 1: It was fucking insane. Dog couldn't even like next year.
Speaker 1: Last year Pride was so much fun. So it was
Speaker 1: World Pride because of stone Wall and all that. So
Speaker 1: every year there's a World Pride. You were wanting to
Speaker 1: go to tell Aviv so bad I remember, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: did want to go to Tel Aviv really bad. I
Speaker 1: just want to go somewhere else and celebrate pride, like
Speaker 1: in another country, because I will tell you New York
Speaker 1: was fun, but it's very corporate now. It's corporate it is,
Speaker 1: I mean, it probably is everywhere, but like I've experienced
Speaker 1: New York Pride before, I want to go like outside
Speaker 1: of the US and see what that experience, because not
Speaker 1: in some places it's even more free. Like mother was
Speaker 1: just walking down the street naked. Mm hmm. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: want to go wherever that is. Okay, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean? And hell, yeah, we're happy gay. I mean
Speaker 1: you'll be in dad, Yeah, we buy. We don't get
Speaker 1: you've ever seen me? The gayest I've ever seen you.
Speaker 1: I think it was when we went to Pride and
Speaker 1: we were together and we were in the West Village
Speaker 1: and you were you were literally I don't you were
Speaker 1: just diking out. I don't know that she was like
Speaker 1: I literally had to look at her and be like
Speaker 1: she had her doc market and I was like, I
Speaker 1: can't remember what year, but I was remember being extremely
Speaker 1: drunk and just looking at you and being like, is
Speaker 1: that my friend? She's embarrassing me. To be honest with you,
Speaker 1: Like when I first moved to New York, they were
Speaker 1: just like hotter gay girls because there was more of
Speaker 1: them and a lot of models were gay. But let's
Speaker 1: let's not bring that bitch up. That's sucking Lessian party
Speaker 1: and like, I just learned so much about Venus took
Speaker 1: me to the best lesbian party I've been to New York.
Speaker 1: Mad girls in their new Horrible Decisions. Yea, they was amazingly.
Speaker 1: I told you, don't do them lesbian parties. They fight
Speaker 1: too much for me. Oh bitch, they we're about to
Speaker 1: fight me. I wasn't talking with me. I can't do
Speaker 1: that ship. They fight some with me. Our fourth or
Speaker 1: fifth time hanging out, we were dancing together and I
Speaker 1: was like, why do you want to fight me? She's like, oh,
Speaker 1: they know my ex girls. Cool. I was like, no,
Speaker 1: the fights for me. Let me tell you something. I'm
Speaker 1: not scared of nobody. I'm not scared of one Latina.
Speaker 1: I'm scared of their cousins. That's what I'm scared of.
Speaker 1: So you know what I'm saying, Like, if I see one, like,
Speaker 1: I ain't worried about that whole but they never they
Speaker 1: never rolling back for one and that's the girl and
Speaker 1: they got their family. I feel like black people like
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, if I got my ask,
Speaker 1: like you could like people take a l. Spanish people
Speaker 1: don't give a funk dog. They don't They don't fucking
Speaker 1: care what fight have been in with a fucking Spanish bitch. Sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to talk about them like that, but
Speaker 1: that whole you know what I'm saying. We was outside
Speaker 1: of Taboo. I was beating her ass and then I'll
Speaker 1: started getting my ass book and I was like, she
Speaker 1: underneath me. You do you know how Orlando roll? I mean,
Speaker 1: you know Orlando, you and you know the party with
Speaker 1: which when I was in Orlando and I went to
Speaker 1: the club with my cousins, like in Orlando you hang
Speaker 1: out with your family because everybody ain't leave their housepital
Speaker 1: last couple of years like keep everyone. No one moves
Speaker 1: out looking crazy. The girl was underneath me right because
Speaker 1: I was on top of her, and then her friends
Speaker 1: jumped off top of me. When I was getting my
Speaker 1: ass by her friends, she was still underneath me, talking
Speaker 1: about that's why you getting sucked up. I was like
Speaker 1: Damn it was sucked up. I had to scratch your
Speaker 1: ponytail get thrown around for that I was wearing at
Speaker 1: this point. Okay, but that's the smart one used to
Speaker 1: queen because I can't after that I was trying to do.
Speaker 1: You had to like every time I have a wig on,
Speaker 1: something happens. I remember that's used to wear wigs at
Speaker 1: the Jamaican parties. And you knew the so little bitches,
Speaker 1: the jam she was she was, you don't remember. Wait,
Speaker 1: this is a little bit. I knew a little about it,
Speaker 1: but she used to do the handtime met her. I
Speaker 1: met her right before the breast listen let me and
Speaker 1: then I came like two weeks later she had We
Speaker 1: used to do the Jamaican parties and she'd be like,
Speaker 1: you just sew this on the top to my brain underneath,
Speaker 1: like we would sew the wigs down like niggas, and
Speaker 1: I didn't know where they did. And the Jamaican niggas
Speaker 1: had many bitches. But I was always like really nice
Speaker 1: to everybody. And that was my way now to like
Speaker 1: get a fight because I only had like four or
Speaker 1: five fights under my belt at that part. But then
Speaker 1: once I moved downtown and the Jamaican parties that lived together.
Speaker 1: And I came back, I said, I got to fight,
Speaker 1: but we can yeah, And I was like, this is
Speaker 1: also another problem. Why you had to be like on
Speaker 1: your p's and queues because of the Jamaican parties. They
Speaker 1: don't wear heels, sneakers and flats. Of course, are you
Speaker 1: gonna get yours because the bitch ain't gonna trip over
Speaker 1: her heels because she ain't. And no shoes. They come prepared.
Speaker 1: They're making you Ever watched Day Friday, so no shoes
Speaker 1: making zero maybe on top of trash cans. That's why
Speaker 1: it's their foot jumping from the speacause you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give Jamaican's over Latinas only because they'll cut me. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: the show will because the blame right unda where the
Speaker 1: you at? Hey, y'all, by the way, I am leaving
Speaker 1: the b X, so your gonna yet. But it's the lick. Okay,
Speaker 1: I got it, I got it. It's good job. One
Speaker 1: of the writers I worked with, he's helping me with
Speaker 1: Ship and he's like, give me back to the Elis.
Speaker 1: He's like, I'm gonna call you elis like lesbian that
Speaker 1: was funny. Okay, the horrible decision for this week are
Speaker 1: all about Daddy's. I'm gonna bring it back to a
Speaker 1: kink of the week that we've talked about before. It
Speaker 1: called gerontophilia, attraction to the elderly. Where are you to say?
Speaker 1: You like that? I know? But what I want to
Speaker 1: know is, what's the oldest you've been with my nigga?
Speaker 1: Your turn? Uh? When? Oh wow? There was an older
Speaker 1: guy when I first came back to Boston, when I
Speaker 1: was like nineteen, Think he lied about his age. No,
Speaker 1: he told me his age. I don't know what I
Speaker 1: was thinking, but the man had to be like in
Speaker 1: his mind you I was nineteen, He had to be
Speaker 1: in his late not seven sixties, early seventies, early seventies.
Speaker 1: What are you? How open was his as I was
Speaker 1: gonna go there? It was loose. First of all, the
Speaker 1: throat was gone gone. I can see that. I know,
Speaker 1: the teeth was intact. And this motherfucker was like. The
Speaker 1: motherfucker was like, I eat dark chocolate before sex. You
Speaker 1: know it helps. And I was like, help with what
Speaker 1: you mean me? And like we were at his house
Speaker 1: like drinking wine. And he lived above Boston Commons, so
Speaker 1: he could see the whole garden whatever. You know, he
Speaker 1: lived in one of the fancy places. I was about
Speaker 1: to say it all the time. No, no, no, he was,
Speaker 1: and uh it wasn't. It was. There's no such thing
Speaker 1: as a loose ask because really, like if men know
Speaker 1: what they're doing, they just tighten it up. There's no
Speaker 1: the thing as a loose ask. But it was. It
Speaker 1: was one of those things that like on the ride home,
Speaker 1: I was like, what the fuck are you doing? Honestly,
Speaker 1: it's not even it wasn't hanging. There's no, there's nothing honestly,
Speaker 1: like there was nothing negative or anything about his body,
Speaker 1: you know, like he's an older gentleman. Like it was
Speaker 1: an older body, but a gentleman. He was a gentleman.
Speaker 1: But like it was one of those things for me
Speaker 1: where like I was so like caught up in it
Speaker 1: at the time that I was like, oh, this is
Speaker 1: so he's rich blah blah blahlah blah blah. And then
Speaker 1: I sucked him, and then after I left, I was
Speaker 1: like and I'm so poor. Yeah. I was like, you know,
Speaker 1: so after not after because because it was probably for
Speaker 1: me it was hot. My d was like nineteen at
Speaker 1: the times. So it was really hot and I was like,
Speaker 1: oh yeah, yeah great, but like it was a there
Speaker 1: was a there was a difference in age. So did
Speaker 1: you keep seeing him? What kind of names do these
Speaker 1: guys have? The mom and grinder old man name that's
Speaker 1: a black one. Oh do you wait, white old man
Speaker 1: or this black old man? Like a common name that
Speaker 1: they have on grinder dick. Well, a lot of them
Speaker 1: just put a lot of them just put not generous. Wait,
Speaker 1: so they put like the the no sign and a
Speaker 1: flower because it means like I'm old, but I'm not
Speaker 1: going to suck you for money. They want to be
Speaker 1: about m M. So I brought up something that you
Speaker 1: didn't remember. Let's go back to another gay pride weekend
Speaker 1: with a mutual friend and this is when you kicked
Speaker 1: me out again. I just want to tell you guys,
Speaker 1: so this okay, but that pride like I have not
Speaker 1: been that lit in life since that pride like, I
Speaker 1: don't think I've been that just continuously lit. You know,
Speaker 1: when you drunk for like four or six hours, you
Speaker 1: have Oh, I thought she was gonna say you have
Speaker 1: been that lit friend. You were that lit the day
Speaker 1: that you said we were in that casino to that
Speaker 1: young little boy, she needs to get big. Wait what
Speaker 1: did you do? Okay? That was that was out the
Speaker 1: country you don't count. Which when we were in Spain,
Speaker 1: I got, first of all, I don't like gambling, right,
Speaker 1: but I'll go to a casino and like I will
Speaker 1: drink my ass. Okay, keep bringing drink. Loves to drink.
Speaker 1: It was late and I was like, go ahead, gamble gambling, sorry,
Speaker 1: drinking right. So I'm in there just taking back drinks
Speaker 1: and there was like this cute younger you know, Canadian mofucking.
Speaker 1: I was like, suck her like I was literally like
Speaker 1: I was trying to pick her out at the bar.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. And what he's like though, I remember
Speaker 1: seeing the video and being like, oh god, why were
Speaker 1: we out? It was because I was winning, and like
Speaker 1: I was like, we can't leave it, and he was
Speaker 1: like okay. He was really nice about it because he
Speaker 1: knows when I'm in my zonwnly me alone and they're
Speaker 1: already lickering him up because they see that like I'm
Speaker 1: trying to play. So we get to the bar and
Speaker 1: the guy was flirting with me, but Minnie was just
Speaker 1: making sure that he hear him, like the guy was like, oh,
Speaker 1: how long you guys here? Whenever the funk. She has
Speaker 1: her own she can fuck you tonight. She has her
Speaker 1: own room. You know. He was wading and then playing
Speaker 1: in a whisper and he goes just like this, do
Speaker 1: you not want Canadian bacon tonight? You don't want to
Speaker 1: taste Canadian bacon. That was the night that when we
Speaker 1: got back to our airbnb, I Loki went into the
Speaker 1: host room and fell asleep. Oh that's right. So here's
Speaker 1: what happened. He still rated us five stars because he
Speaker 1: got how drunk. I was like, that's how fund up
Speaker 1: I was. Okay, his door was right next to our door,
Speaker 1: like that his door was. So I got up in
Speaker 1: the middle of the night to pee and went into
Speaker 1: his room and fell asleep on his bed. Wait next
Speaker 1: to him? Was he? No, he wasn't there. He works nights.
Speaker 1: He came in in the morning. It was like, what
Speaker 1: are you doing? And I was like, oh shit, and
Speaker 1: like I'm pretty sure he could smell the alcohol or whatever,
Speaker 1: but he was just like he rated her five stares.
Speaker 1: He's like, oh it was a great hold on. But
Speaker 1: let me tell you what about the whole thing, though.
Speaker 1: He tells me in the morning He's like, yo, I
Speaker 1: had a dream last night, but I don't know if
Speaker 1: it happened, And I was like, what are you talking about.
Speaker 1: He's like, no, it was a dream. So the whole
Speaker 1: so we were in Barcelona for like three more days, right,
Speaker 1: and the whole time is I couldn't figure out if
Speaker 1: it was a dream real because we never see our host.
Speaker 1: So I was like, I don't know if it happened,
Speaker 1: but like, I think he was sucking me up in
Speaker 1: the head, like I couldn't eve enjoy the rest of
Speaker 1: But then we got this review and I was like, fuck,
Speaker 1: he happened, friendly, polite, orderly, I have any stranger situation
Speaker 1: with Vinnie, but nothing very important. You know, it was strange,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm up with guy drunk, like you can
Speaker 1: tell that. I was like because he was cute though,
Speaker 1: and look when he looked like a daddy, so you
Speaker 1: wanted him to maybe we always get goofed and literally
Speaker 1: my ship is me and Vinnie because we always drop
Speaker 1: it together. But I just really thought it was a
Speaker 1: fucking dream. And we're on the flight going to another city,
Speaker 1: and the ships that I have stranger situation. We've been
Speaker 1: like it did happen. But the oldest guy, I think
Speaker 1: was like late sixties, early seven. So let's go back
Speaker 1: to the story from Pride. So here's what happened. Here's
Speaker 1: what we're gonna start with how it started, and then
Speaker 1: we're gonna say what happens when I came home? Now,
Speaker 1: when he came home. So it's Pride in Orlando. We're
Speaker 1: at this building called the Waverley. It's downtown. It was cute.
Speaker 1: It was the look and what the little gaye remember
Speaker 1: that one that worked with us. Yes, he was Scott
Speaker 1: and he was like, oh my god, honey. They're like,
Speaker 1: I don't hang out with those kinds. And they were
Speaker 1: a hot mess. It was old dudes and they had
Speaker 1: drinking drugs. They had everything lay out. So I was
Speaker 1: at that party just getting lit. So people started leaving
Speaker 1: the party, but I just felt like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm with my friends, Bennie and one of our other friends.
Speaker 1: I'm like, why I'm about to leave. So then it's Bennie,
Speaker 1: our friend, and the gay older gentleman who owned the home,
Speaker 1: and everybody's kind of looking at me. And I don't
Speaker 1: think there was uber at the time. But then he
Speaker 1: was like, what are you about to do? And I
Speaker 1: was like, we're hanging out. I was being like, hey,
Speaker 1: so what are you doing? And then I'm like, I
Speaker 1: don't what do you mean like that there? I can't
Speaker 1: get a car, like I can't get a cab, like
Speaker 1: the streets are blocked off for Pride, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: it's like a thirty minute walk home. And he was like, girl,
Speaker 1: it's nice weather. Like get your take. He gives me
Speaker 1: his corded headphones. I remember that, just listen to a song.
Speaker 1: I was like, listening to a song. I'm still at
Speaker 1: this point what I'm trying to say, confused at what's
Speaker 1: going on. I almost got Oh my god, that's never
Speaker 1: what happens. Okay, wait, let me This is why I
Speaker 1: think I was leaning on him so much. I worked
Speaker 1: for a company at the time that was in the
Speaker 1: Gay Pride parade. I was a manager for a company
Speaker 1: and I made out with one of the employees and
Speaker 1: it was videotaped and sent to everybody in the district.
Speaker 1: So I was already getting drunk and bugging out because
Speaker 1: I couldn't believe I did. She was fine, though, but Anyway,
Speaker 1: I walked home company movie New York. That's right. So anyway,
Speaker 1: I'm at home. Two hours later, Vinnie strolls in with
Speaker 1: our friend, who he cannot stop making fun of because
Speaker 1: they've never had sex, and he's like going on and
Speaker 1: on about how our friend was talking to this man,
Speaker 1: and they tell me about a situation where the man
Speaker 1: was getting spit roasted. And for those of you who
Speaker 1: don't know what means, you're fucking someone and then they're
Speaker 1: sucking someone else's dick. And apparently the man had an
Speaker 1: issue with his neck. What was that? So apparently the
Speaker 1: man had you know, he was an older gentleman and
Speaker 1: apparently he had I don't know if it was a
Speaker 1: our accident or what it is, but he had had
Speaker 1: a neck injury. And he before pride, took off the
Speaker 1: neck brace because you know, he just wants to be
Speaker 1: cool and cute and you know, but he probably should
Speaker 1: have had the neck brace. Song. And so when you
Speaker 1: were when you were stinking your dick in his mouth,
Speaker 1: he'd be like, gentle on my neck, on my neck,
Speaker 1: And the whole time I was like, what the fund
Speaker 1: is he talking to about? And then like we come
Speaker 1: to find out that this man literally had a neck
Speaker 1: brace that he was supposed to have on. He could
Speaker 1: have literally died, but he I love it for him.
Speaker 1: You know, at this point, you so I want to know,
Speaker 1: how do you ever make older men call you daddy? Um?
Speaker 1: There was a guy that I was sleeping with who
Speaker 1: does call me daddy, which is very, uh, empowering. I think,
Speaker 1: do you like being called daddy? I do for some reason.
Speaker 1: When they're older than me, it's like a power thing.
Speaker 1: I get it. But if they're younger than me and
Speaker 1: they call me daddy, I'm like it out. I like
Speaker 1: when girls call me daddy. Yeah, I don't know. I
Speaker 1: honestly don't know what it is. It's definitely like a
Speaker 1: power thing, I think because I've had like a twenty
Speaker 1: five year old called me daddy and I'm like, which,
Speaker 1: I'm only thirty. It's not fun. But shout out to
Speaker 1: Kristen Um. I don't know if you've ever met her.
Speaker 1: I've never met her, but you know she's met friend.
Speaker 1: She came on her show, but like, yeah, she's like
Speaker 1: her girl. We called her daddy, be called her mommy,
Speaker 1: all kinds of ship and I don't know. I don't
Speaker 1: but when you're like in some real gay ship, Oh
Speaker 1: my god, and girls like fuck me daddy, that that
Speaker 1: is very not feminist because we should not be trying
Speaker 1: to do the masculine and feminine roles in So then
Speaker 1: when you try your strap on on, why do you
Speaker 1: call it your dick? You it looked like a dick
Speaker 1: animated jump by I literally did. I would No, I mean,
Speaker 1: it is my dick every once in a while, like
Speaker 1: Nigel has called me daddy or I've called him daddy
Speaker 1: and like it turned me on. But I was like,
Speaker 1: I just called the man. You don't ever call any
Speaker 1: of them granddaddy, like you know, you don't know, no,
Speaker 1: because now for the last three years they've been like
Speaker 1: twenty years older than me and younger, which doesn't put
Speaker 1: them in granddaddy. No, twenty years older, okay, doesn't put
Speaker 1: them in daddy. Stage puts them in daddy, like firm
Speaker 1: daddy for daddy. But that can get it up. Where's
Speaker 1: the QUI Yeah, yeah, I wanted to ask this before.
Speaker 1: I thought you're younger, you can show affection to guys
Speaker 1: in public because you've kind of grown up in an era.
Speaker 1: Actually not you particularly, but I mean because I know,
Speaker 1: you know, you've had some issues with school and being gay,
Speaker 1: but like it's a little more known for you. Do
Speaker 1: you find that like with older men, they're a little
Speaker 1: bit like scared to give you affection, Like tell us
Speaker 1: about that. I do feel that the the older generation,
Speaker 1: like p d A is somewhat of an awkward thing
Speaker 1: for them because a lot of them, one if you're
Speaker 1: dealing with an older man, a lot of times, uh,
Speaker 1: they came out later in life. So they came out
Speaker 1: after they had kids, or they came out after they've
Speaker 1: been married, or they came out like after being in
Speaker 1: the closet for twenty thirty years. So a lot of
Speaker 1: them still have some of them have shame behind it,
Speaker 1: and then some of them just it's just not what
Speaker 1: they do, and like you have to learn to understand.
Speaker 1: Like for some of them, it's just not what they're
Speaker 1: comfortable with. So when you go out on dates, if
Speaker 1: the waiter comes, like, does he automatically act like your
Speaker 1: dad and you're his son or something? No, I mean
Speaker 1: you just you can I mean you can tell by
Speaker 1: the way the motherfucker's looking at me that they want
Speaker 1: to suck me. Like you can tell it's a different
Speaker 1: type of relationship. But there's some people who just aren't.
Speaker 1: Like Nigel is not comfortable holding hands in public, but
Speaker 1: every once in a while he'll grab my hand and
Speaker 1: I'll be like, oh, is that something that you ever wear,
Speaker 1: like down the street? Like I was gonna say, like
Speaker 1: pe town, he likes doing it? No, no, no, just
Speaker 1: randomly is it? What is it something that you do
Speaker 1: want more of them? I mean, if you if you
Speaker 1: deal with older guys, is something you've just gotten used
Speaker 1: to or me, p d A is cool, but like
Speaker 1: I'm okay without it. I've never really do too much.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm more of a like like grabbed every once
Speaker 1: in a while, or I'm I'm an rub your shoulder um,
Speaker 1: or like every once in a while, I'll just like
Speaker 1: touch you like I don't need to like hold your
Speaker 1: hand down the street and skip like that's not me.
Speaker 1: I've never even really seen you make out. Yeah, my
Speaker 1: day is really tall, so us holding hands, we have
Speaker 1: to be farther apart from even do like a little
Speaker 1: coming close. I can't want to see Sometimes if you
Speaker 1: go into before Rhona, like when we would go into
Speaker 1: a bar, I would like species but and then go
Speaker 1: see my friends and he go talk to his Oh
Speaker 1: that's cute, Like look ahead, look all right, I have
Speaker 1: the last thing before we get to homemail that I
Speaker 1: think it's really interesting because it was a dynamic I
Speaker 1: thought about recently. So the man that Vinnie's dating has
Speaker 1: an ex husband, right, yes, and he's been around him.
Speaker 1: I think his birthday dinner. Did you and write him
Speaker 1: or something? Um? He was they're still friends and ship
Speaker 1: the friends and interesting because this is some ship. I
Speaker 1: feel like an our age on our age people the
Speaker 1: men were dating where it's like hell no, do you
Speaker 1: think that it has to do with age one? Or
Speaker 1: because for one, if I break up with my nigga,
Speaker 1: I can make new friends were in a different community.
Speaker 1: But if we're gay and we got the same friends
Speaker 1: and we're going to the same bars and it's the
Speaker 1: same ship, do you feel like what do you think
Speaker 1: it is that's made you feel okay with it? Because
Speaker 1: at first you weren't, but you're learning. I think the
Speaker 1: relationship dynamics are a bit different. The relationships dynamics are
Speaker 1: a bit different. So like when you break up sometimes
Speaker 1: if it's bad, then you're like fuck them, and then
Speaker 1: you want to just kind of discard that whole party
Speaker 1: of your life. But if it's not necessarily bad and
Speaker 1: you still care for the person, you'll I think you
Speaker 1: work through the awkward, annoying I don't want to be
Speaker 1: around them phase. How long are they broken up with?
Speaker 1: You met him? Uh? Two years, I think, But like
Speaker 1: I also have to like respect his history before me,
Speaker 1: because that's like there's you were with a person for
Speaker 1: like almost twenty years before me, and just because I
Speaker 1: walk in, I want you to forget everything you have. No,
Speaker 1: that's dumb, that's selfish. I think that even heterosexual couples
Speaker 1: should look that way, because I think a lot of times,
Speaker 1: like even I actually just had this conversation with with
Speaker 1: my partner. We've only been together eight months, but when
Speaker 1: we first started dating, he did he was dating someone else,
Speaker 1: And we recently had this conversation where I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: you still talk to her, but she was in the picture.
Speaker 1: And so that's the thing too that we were talking about,
Speaker 1: like there are going to be people that because I
Speaker 1: have this history with, I can't expect you to just
Speaker 1: completely cut everyone out of your past because I'm now
Speaker 1: in your present and it's it's honestly though, for for
Speaker 1: when we're dating, we do have to respect that. Sometimes
Speaker 1: it takes longer, especially if someone didn't end badly to
Speaker 1: cut people off. And also it's like if they have
Speaker 1: to they have friends together and stuff like that, like
Speaker 1: of course you're gonna hang out with all the friends,
Speaker 1: You're all gonna want to be around each other, Like
Speaker 1: you just have to be cool with it. I think
Speaker 1: it's a big thing with confidence to like, you know,
Speaker 1: dating old security who's in his forties right, Like, I
Speaker 1: make sure that as long as I think that there's
Speaker 1: been some significant time and like enough, not just like
Speaker 1: a few months or just sucked her before me or
Speaker 1: something like that, but time enough, in substantial time I
Speaker 1: think within the relationship, like I have to respect that.
Speaker 1: I have to respect that, like when someone has a
Speaker 1: birthday party or like an event they're going through that,
Speaker 1: Like maybe you'll come through and I expect that ship.
Speaker 1: But I'll be real, I don't think x's are an
Speaker 1: issue as long as they're respectful. There's a few niggas
Speaker 1: that I used to funk with that I'm not going
Speaker 1: to be respectful with, Like I would say lover boy
Speaker 1: for one, if he gets a new girlfriend. I'm always
Speaker 1: going to flirt with him. I don't care hospital dick
Speaker 1: never and ever, will I ever ever be like that's
Speaker 1: a better word you want to call this, say happy birthday?
Speaker 1: Oh my godness, just disrespectful what I'm saying, Like, there's
Speaker 1: just some where the connection is so strong to see.
Speaker 1: I think that that is the problem though, Like in
Speaker 1: terms of I think different when it's someone you're in
Speaker 1: you were in love with, No, but I'm talking about
Speaker 1: you being on the other end. That's the problem, which
Speaker 1: is why there there becomes this problem when cut me
Speaker 1: off in if I'm letting you, if I'm allowing you
Speaker 1: to have these relationships, I would hope that you make
Speaker 1: sure that person also respects me. And you're saying you ain't,
Speaker 1: You ain't respecting ship. I don't not with only because
Speaker 1: I think that ownership that still your dick is what
Speaker 1: is what it is. No, Like there's a part of
Speaker 1: me sometimes I just feel feel the same way. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell you right now, Like if a nigga asked
Speaker 1: me and I came into a relationship and they were like, yo,
Speaker 1: what about him, I'd be like, oh, like if I
Speaker 1: see him, like I don't know we have a thing.
Speaker 1: I would be honest, what do you I mean like
Speaker 1: it's not really unfit, Like there's unfinished business. There is
Speaker 1: no closure. I need you to find it if if
Speaker 1: she has said anything in this motherfucking minutes, it is that.
Speaker 1: I just I just think that that that you trist
Speaker 1: about everybody knows just came in here. Maybe have Do
Speaker 1: you not know everybody has one? The bit you gotta
Speaker 1: worry about, you know, then you gotta where everybody knows one.
Speaker 1: You're telling me you don't know that one that I'm
Speaker 1: not if I'm if I'm in a relationship now and
Speaker 1: I do respect the person I'm with, there's no way
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell him, just so you know, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: That's gonna be. That's gonna be on your that's gonna
Speaker 1: be look even businessess Like I felt like old Bay
Speaker 1: has a bit should I'd be like, I know that's
Speaker 1: that one little bit that if he ever go to whatever,
Speaker 1: that that's the one he gonna funk with. I always know.
Speaker 1: And I'm just saying, everybody know mine the fun I
Speaker 1: like closure. Let me just read the homemail. Okay, So
Speaker 1: here's a really fun one. Okay. I'm gonna tell you,
Speaker 1: guys wants to make it funny than closure. This is
Speaker 1: some toxic more toxic. I don't give him more. I
Speaker 1: don't know what I'm gonna end up in life, but
Speaker 1: I know a bit. If I'm the door is open,
Speaker 1: you got close it? Do yo. Let me tell you something.
Speaker 1: I really want to run out and run back in. Well,
Speaker 1: I don't care. Anybody sounds crazy too street and be like,
Speaker 1: y'all stop following me. I'm like, okay, find it. Okay.
Speaker 1: So the mail I believe it's from a new listener.
Speaker 1: Uh and I never checked the ms. Please send this
Speaker 1: to Horrible Decisions at Gmail. But he redeemed himself and
Speaker 1: I'll tell you how wheezy. I adore you have been
Speaker 1: obsessed with horrible decisions and I'm listening to you to
Speaker 1: say bitch has me calling everyone a bitch and walking
Speaker 1: around work saying it. I'm just a horror. I'm just
Speaker 1: a fucking horror. I'm not sure where you guys send questions,
Speaker 1: but I'm an emotional bitch. This is a dude, and
Speaker 1: I'm wondering what you got, what you guys got you
Speaker 1: to where you are? How are you both so comfortable
Speaker 1: and confident with your sexuality. What helped you guys get
Speaker 1: to where you are was their defining moment where you
Speaker 1: wanted to be opened up with guys or start having
Speaker 1: group sex. I've never been exposed to the community, so
Speaker 1: listening to you is so amazing. Much love from your
Speaker 1: white listener. Plus ps, I love when Mandy goes off
Speaker 1: about crackers. But why you gotta come for vegans? So
Speaker 1: I said, because he said I sing this song. I said,
Speaker 1: if you sing the song, I'll read this email. So
Speaker 1: I haven't heard this yet, but I am just a hole.
Speaker 1: I am a sounding like a crack horrible. Actually he's
Speaker 1: really cute. I don't I don't know how to judge
Speaker 1: white ke Vegan, but he's a little cute little beg,
Speaker 1: you know. I like the what look at your friend?
Speaker 1: The song? The song still has me huh sound. That's
Speaker 1: how Bretty spears. He is a sound. And then he said,
Speaker 1: where's my record deal? Um? Not there? Okay, So I
Speaker 1: wanted to direct No, he could actually up could have
Speaker 1: been records. Oh my god, I forgot about that, honestly, though,
Speaker 1: shout out. I don't know. I'm actually a little bit
Speaker 1: great why because in three days I'll be like I'm
Speaker 1: and not even know where the fund came from. Now
Speaker 1: you know you are sorry, you gotta get where do
Speaker 1: you live? We got to give him taken come off
Speaker 1: stage and be like, hey, everybody, I'm sucking a motherfucking
Speaker 1: um When did we got? When do we? I wanted
Speaker 1: to do this question with you because you're a man
Speaker 1: and I want to know when was your defining moment
Speaker 1: and did you did you have one? I'm trying to think, dude,
Speaker 1: I have one six last episode. Okay, I'm sorry, I'm
Speaker 1: trying to think. Um, I think for me, it was
Speaker 1: the first time I went to a nude beach in Spain. Um.
Speaker 1: I went to a nude beach and like I have
Speaker 1: like like many men don't speak about it, but a
Speaker 1: lot of men have like body image issues like a
Speaker 1: lot and a lot of men have like eating disorders
Speaker 1: blah blah, and so you know, I was like twenty four,
Speaker 1: probably in the best shape of my life, but still
Speaker 1: was like that. My friends were like, let's go to
Speaker 1: a nude beach. I went to a nude beach and
Speaker 1: then they were like, now let's go to the gate side.
Speaker 1: And I was like, excuse me, and we went to
Speaker 1: the gate side of the nude Beach and like it
Speaker 1: was really cool seeing men in all shapes and all
Speaker 1: sides just fucking chilling lounge and having a good old time.
Speaker 1: And then on that said nude beach, like the old
Speaker 1: man were talking to the young guys and like there
Speaker 1: was just like a melting pot. Everybody was just came
Speaker 1: up and the old man I'm talking to the young
Speaker 1: guys read me like a big of cars. But anyway, um,
Speaker 1: and then I saw people in public having sex, and
Speaker 1: for me, it's stripped a lot of the shame because
Speaker 1: I was like, why are they doing that? That's for
Speaker 1: private And then something about it was re liberating for me.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I think my first time seeing
Speaker 1: people do something that was quote unquote too crazy for
Speaker 1: me made me feel less. I'm like, oh, there's people
Speaker 1: fucking like everybody has sex, oh, because I grew up
Speaker 1: in a place where you know, sex was to be
Speaker 1: had in this dark closet, in this room over here,
Speaker 1: and nobody talked about it. And so for me that
Speaker 1: was kind of like when I finally I came out
Speaker 1: fully and was just like all right, we're just gonna
Speaker 1: be out here. I know mine, chat Roulette, I know mine.
Speaker 1: I was were like feeling weird about my body because
Speaker 1: I had little titties, I mean, and I guess it
Speaker 1: didn't work because I end up buying somebody I really like.
Speaker 1: I was just feeling weird about my body for some
Speaker 1: reason because I thought I had a really weird shape
Speaker 1: and a lot of you asked me how small they were.
Speaker 1: They were like an big a. They're like a budding
Speaker 1: a and I keep good, yeah, because they weren't a bee.
Speaker 1: But they also weren't like totally flat. It was weird.
Speaker 1: But I just remember thinking I wasn't pretty with my
Speaker 1: top off. And when I was on chat Roulette and
Speaker 1: I saw that people were like thinking I was hot,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, because that was just I was
Speaker 1: like fuck it, you know what I mean, Like they
Speaker 1: can't see my face. I could click off of them
Speaker 1: if I want to. And then once I could be
Speaker 1: naked in front of quote unquote strangers, then I was like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: now I could get into this thing. And then I
Speaker 1: actually that my first white guy after that, so I
Speaker 1: really opened up. There's a thing about your body that
Speaker 1: allows you to be sexual in a new way. I
Speaker 1: would say the first uh time I did it. Actually,
Speaker 1: I hate to give a man credit for it, but um,
Speaker 1: it was the guy that I've shared on the podcast
Speaker 1: that actually got me to piss on him because I
Speaker 1: feel like that was like my step into the kink realm.
Speaker 1: But with him, I would say he opened me up
Speaker 1: because we literally would go to sex stores and have
Speaker 1: conversations about what waste not only make me squirt, but
Speaker 1: he was so focused on me feeling pleasure and me
Speaker 1: coming and meet orgasm me and he was my first
Speaker 1: partner to show that my orgasm matter too. And then
Speaker 1: it wasn't all about pleasing the man. It wasn't all
Speaker 1: about his come shot. It was also about mine. And
Speaker 1: so I think from us not only going to the
Speaker 1: sex store together but openly talking about the sex allowed
Speaker 1: me to just be like, I like how comfortable we
Speaker 1: could talk about sex before we have it and after.
Speaker 1: I love laughing, love laughing during sex. I think, who's
Speaker 1: the Slovenian guy fuck that I used to peg him? Well,
Speaker 1: it wasn't a full stop because like I didn't have
Speaker 1: it at the time, but I used to like sucking
Speaker 1: in the asd with like this dildo and we were
Speaker 1: laughing at I was laughing about something once because like
Speaker 1: I bought my head and he was like, you just said.
Speaker 1: You just said last episode you ain't like the comedy
Speaker 1: because Mondigga said the joke in the middle of the
Speaker 1: same I said, if someone told me a joke, I
Speaker 1: mean he's been over there, like, wait, bit, you don't
Speaker 1: flip the script this episode, I'm not. I don't need that.
Speaker 1: But I don't I don't need a full stand up routine.
Speaker 1: While we was thinking, you know, like if we you
Speaker 1: see she's switching up and I laughed during sex because
Speaker 1: we like bumped. Heg but you said you were turned
Speaker 1: around and you were like, what was it? And no,
Speaker 1: he was thinking of a joke. It wasn't a mutual act.
Speaker 1: But then I laughed after when he told me, and
Speaker 1: I just told him, do you want to Darius? He said,
Speaker 1: not funny. You can't use my jokes on me. I said, what,
Speaker 1: God damn was he in you when you asked him
Speaker 1: what the joke was? Yeah? Actually, did he tell you
Speaker 1: after the fact, because I just kept saying, I know
Speaker 1: you want to boot hole, you want to get a
Speaker 1: nas you want to get a name. Really say booty hole?
Speaker 1: You say that when you're getting fucked? Or is that
Speaker 1: like a horrible decision? I say you can put it.
Speaker 1: You can put it back there, like it's open for you.
Speaker 1: I don't say you can put it back there, but
Speaker 1: your but your tone of voice and your demeanor changes,
Speaker 1: you can put it back there, back there? What yo
Speaker 1: know what I do? Man? Do you want to say
Speaker 1: I got a white girl voice? Do you say, body,
Speaker 1: say you can put it back there? Yeah? You really
Speaker 1: went from booty to put it back there? Back there?
Speaker 1: So you don't like back there? Make a right? Use
Speaker 1: more lube? No? I do be telling him that you
Speaker 1: need some more have No, I guess you don't need
Speaker 1: it because it's leather clean. What's the quarter or was
Speaker 1: he an yes it is? Maybe I do need it
Speaker 1: because I'll be wearing on my little foe. I hope
Speaker 1: you clean it, and I hope you take it up.
Speaker 1: I do to wait? Was there a tip there that
Speaker 1: we are getting a wait, I'm putting a clip note
Speaker 1: that we are my bottle? Put it back there? You're annoying?
Speaker 1: Are you fucking kidding me? Many does nothing by talking
Speaker 1: about and you're telling me that my white boys. The
Speaker 1: most nigga ship you say on this podcast, bow and
Speaker 1: you actually not nigga ship. That is my shoe. You say,
Speaker 1: put it back there? Put it back there? Is that? Better?
Speaker 1: Put it back there? Now? Many because now put a
Speaker 1: bike now? I want to don't you to call that nigga?
Speaker 1: When the cameras come up and I want to ask,
Speaker 1: does she really say put it back there? Put it
Speaker 1: back there? Like? Do you could it? Put it like?
Speaker 1: You do? Not want to say in my ass? I
Speaker 1: mean I sometimes say that when you're saying this, like
Speaker 1: do you think about what you're eating the night before? No?
Speaker 1: I told you like sometimes especially because it depends if
Speaker 1: we had like a game night or a cook for him.
Speaker 1: A lot of what we do we have that's like
Speaker 1: a false just like what we're doing a game night tonight.
Speaker 1: He's like, man, you got you know I said, I
Speaker 1: want to teach you how to play face bro, I
Speaker 1: forgot a lot of the rules. We gotta teacher how
Speaker 1: to play. You know. She don't want to play space
Speaker 1: and tell you something. I don't know how to play
Speaker 1: space either, are you? Do you know where I grew up?
Speaker 1: Is this color again? You see that you just play. No.
Speaker 1: I started playing, you know, and niggas like you can't
Speaker 1: do back, and I was like, what the lost there
Speaker 1: are rules. I grew up in the woods of Massachusetts,
Speaker 1: Like we didn't like me and my nigga be going
Speaker 1: back and forth. But now we got the rules set
Speaker 1: me and we bring Uno to the nude beach, like,
Speaker 1: you know, is our game. But I told him I
Speaker 1: want to teach him how to play face ten face, right,
Speaker 1: you don't have the patience with face. All right, you
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Speaker 1: you had another episode of horrible Decisions. But I do
Speaker 1: want to bring this conversation into my point, um, and
Speaker 1: I think it's very important specifically to any of our
Speaker 1: listeners that are dating someone, uh the underlying thing which
Speaker 1: again we blamed everybody through the whole season except for
Speaker 1: the person who was the clear suspect, which is crazy.
Speaker 1: But I wanted to bring up how to know that
Speaker 1: you're dating a narcissist? Because Nicole Kidman's character was a psychologist, uh,
Speaker 1: specifically a uh marital couple psychologists. Uh. And so what's
Speaker 1: crazy is you see that she was very aware in
Speaker 1: reading the signs of what type of partners she had,
Speaker 1: and so I wanted to share that and maybe weezy
Speaker 1: if we can go into maybe you know, having the
Speaker 1: conversation regarding maybe what someone should do if they're in
Speaker 1: this situation. So what is a narcissist? Um? And again
Speaker 1: you may not know that you're even with one, but
Speaker 1: hear me out here lack of empathy for others, an
Speaker 1: inflated sense of importance, a deep need for excessive attention
Speaker 1: and admiration, and perpetually troubled relationships. Uh So, maybe someone
Speaker 1: who's not close with their family, or you notice that
Speaker 1: they fall out with all of their friends that you've
Speaker 1: met and you don't understand why they don't have the
Speaker 1: same friends, or uh, someone who constantly makes you feel
Speaker 1: like you're doing wrong. So here's some of the things.
Speaker 1: The lack of infinity, empathy, manipulative projection, emotionally cold and
Speaker 1: something that Weezy and I have talked about a lot,
Speaker 1: gas lighting, and also someone who never takes responsibility for
Speaker 1: the girls listening. If you want someone who is currently
Speaker 1: the personification of someone who is a narcissist, y'all know
Speaker 1: I'm gonna bring it back the same way Wheezy brings
Speaker 1: up uh sex in the City. Real Housewives of Atlanta,
Speaker 1: Drew's husband Ralph is in the first two to three
Speaker 1: episodes completely personifying a fucking narcissist. And if you look
Speaker 1: at Ralph and you're like, oh my god, my partner
Speaker 1: does things like this, you may be dating a narcissist. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I I've definitely dated some narcissists before. I will say
Speaker 1: something a little problematic here. I kind of hate the
Speaker 1: term gaslighting. I feel like it's too new and something
Speaker 1: that's just kind of thrown around, Like I feel like
Speaker 1: people have said I've gaslighted them, and I'm like, bitch,
Speaker 1: I don't even know what I'm doing. Like what they
Speaker 1: could listen to a whole episode you did a we
Speaker 1: did a whole like you had a whole breakdown of
Speaker 1: what gaslighting means. Yeah, I'm saying like I hate it
Speaker 1: in terms of like how people are abusing the term. However, gaslighting,
Speaker 1: as far as it comes to a narcissist, is such
Speaker 1: a gift that you almost can't call it out because
Speaker 1: when it's it is emotional abuse, but it's to the
Speaker 1: point where you have no idea that it's happening, right,
Speaker 1: Like you constantly feel like you're guilty of something. And
Speaker 1: I think that we saw this in the Undoing with
Speaker 1: to Grant. I forgot his name in the movie in
Speaker 1: the show, but even when I did in the Sun,
Speaker 1: I did like, could he have done it? And I
Speaker 1: was good, he've done it right, And I think that
Speaker 1: that was the turning point where she realized, Oh, if
Speaker 1: he's willing to throw our son in there to to
Speaker 1: claim his innocence, something is emotionally and mentally wrong with him.
Speaker 1: I did want to read uh this for those of
Speaker 1: you who may be using gas lighting and really not
Speaker 1: sure if you're using it right. Um. I really like
Speaker 1: this breakdown of what it is. This comes from man
Speaker 1: of Many dot com. It says gas lighting qualifies as
Speaker 1: a form of emotional abuse that involves denying a person's
Speaker 1: experience and making statements such as that never happened or
Speaker 1: you were too sensitive. The gas lighter uses techniques such
Speaker 1: as withholding or stone walling, contradict contradicting, or diversion when
Speaker 1: you bring up something that concerns you and your partner
Speaker 1: turns it into something you said years before, or deflects
Speaker 1: it and describes it as conspiracy. They also nimize your
Speaker 1: feelings and deny the events that definitely occurred. The damage
Speaker 1: of gaslighting is that it is confusing, isolating, and often
Speaker 1: results in you questioning your own reality. You may find
Speaker 1: yourself constantly apologizing and no longer is relaxed and joyful
Speaker 1: as you once were. I just like that because it
Speaker 1: takes into kind of the cause and effect of gas lighting.
Speaker 1: Uh so, uh, if you feel like you know you're
Speaker 1: not crazy and your man is trying to make you
Speaker 1: believe something that you know to be true is not true,
Speaker 1: he's gaslighting and wanting to make you feel like you're crazy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And I think Nicole Kidman's character was almost driving herself
Speaker 1: crazy with wanting to believe her her husband that she
Speaker 1: believed she knew was innocent, but also reading all the
Speaker 1: signs that nigga, you probably did this ship. You know
Speaker 1: what's funny when the mom said that when she called
Speaker 1: her and was like, he killed his sister, I was like,
Speaker 1: now that's still can't be him because it's twee nigger.
Speaker 1: I was really thinking the the the girl who died,
Speaker 1: her son killed her because he found her. I was
Speaker 1: damn many, which then I thought, Then I thought, Nicole,
Speaker 1: the granddaddy did it for sure the girl. Then I
Speaker 1: was thinking that the granddaddy and the son killed girl.
Speaker 1: I was I thought, literally everybody was the moment doing
Speaker 1: all that ship. And it's funny because people were actually
Speaker 1: mad at the at the ending of Hugh Grant being
Speaker 1: the person. But I thought it was brilliant because I
Speaker 1: thought it was brilliant too, Because this is um and
Speaker 1: if you guys remember, if anybody watched the Ted Bundy documentary,
Speaker 1: this is exactly what happened with Ted Bundy.