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Speaker 1: We're gonna give you a little not really whatever? Yeah, anyone,

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Speaker 1: what is that? I thought you're in distress? That your

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Speaker 1: bow every time you pound? Uh, it's like every thrust? No, okay,

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Speaker 1: my bad would yas how we hear me? No, we

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Speaker 1: are not sorry that for that's like bro. Sorry, Hey, guys,

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Speaker 1: welcome to another week. We have a week to a

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Speaker 1: motherfucker one. Are we alive? Are they? Are we ghost?

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Speaker 1: Is we zombies? If this is what's left over going? Huh,

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Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. Hi guys, I'm wheezy. Welcome to another

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Speaker 1: episode of our show. Today. We have a close friend,

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Speaker 1: my bestie and to assistant what's been his title on

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Speaker 1: the show, you want to say? Told manager of No.

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Speaker 1: I called myself like the code tour manager because like

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Speaker 1: he's like, you call assistant, you do much more than yeah,

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Speaker 1: you do way more than that. And for those of

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Speaker 1: just Wheelie and I putting them on, y'all may have

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Speaker 1: seen him, sell t shirts, help with our songs, help

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Speaker 1: with you. He's been helping us always before we had

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Speaker 1: a manager. Yeah, from the beginning. You guys may have

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Speaker 1: also heard him before, if y'all start started all the

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Speaker 1: way back from four years ago forever. He fuck the murderer.

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Speaker 1: It's it's fourteen. About to say it's earlier. I did

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Speaker 1: murderer and men on the deal. Yes, And let me

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Speaker 1: tell you something. I have flashbacks with people be like,

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Speaker 1: thought some streams these are horny forviews. No, Bennie is

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Speaker 1: you know. I'm so glad he's part of our Horrible

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Speaker 1: Decisions team along with Bens. That's really like our cot

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Speaker 1: so Bennie's here. You know, it's just a merry and

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Speaker 1: gay New Year with you here, you know. So I

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Speaker 1: wanted to talk about something different because we've had so

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Speaker 1: many gay men in and particularly with Vinnie, I just

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Speaker 1: it would be like our gay men be like gay episodes,

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Speaker 1: and so I'm glad, like we're gonna just talk about

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Speaker 1: goddamn dating as people despite our sexuality, because it's not like,

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Speaker 1: we get it for him, um no. But it was

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Speaker 1: so like, what can we talk about with Vinnie? And

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Speaker 1: I feel like this has been a trend in your

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Speaker 1: we're gonna talk about Daddy's today Before we get to

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Speaker 1: Daddy specifically, I'm not talking about just Mandy and I

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Speaker 1: having old bays. I'm talking Daddy's like plus let's says okay,

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Speaker 1: and they love him to y'all. Let me just explain.

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Speaker 1: During the Bandami, we went to I came to Boston

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Speaker 1: It's just that you are, for example, this is just

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Speaker 1: Some days he's like, come back. It's just maybe maybe

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Speaker 1: it was definitely some and the Eagle, the eagle here

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Speaker 1: your hand in front of your face. But why is

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Speaker 1: here's a cheap code as well, if you just like

423
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Speaker 1: scrunch your butt cheeks together, like as I used, scrunch

424
00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:03,879
Speaker 1: your butt cheeks together, they could feel like you're pussy

425
00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 1: in all of that just grabbing the dick. So yeah,

426
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:08,879
Speaker 1: so just scrunch your butt cheeks together and then I

427
00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:15,399
Speaker 1: love you. It kiggls me too. I'm like, oh, you

428
00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:16,680
Speaker 1: can do it on a subway ride. You can do

429
00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:18,040
Speaker 1: that while you're driving the word. You could do it

430
00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:20,720
Speaker 1: while you're just sending at home my time. You should

431
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:23,560
Speaker 1: definitely do it, though, I think because it helps withougles.

432
00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 1: I think he was mean because it helps your orgasms.

433
00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:29,960
Speaker 1: It helps, you know, Americans love changes. She Nike isn't

434
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Speaker 1: it night or something? The Adidas is really Ida? All right,

435
00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 1: let's just say these think It's a song for a

436
00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:49,960
Speaker 1: fucking clothing brands like we Man. You know, I do

437
00:23:50,080 --> 00:24:07,280
Speaker 1: love saying Luis Guci. It's Italian. Maybe they say, like Google,

438
00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:15,679
Speaker 1: just Gucci. No, okay, okay, the horrible this is our

439
00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:18,840
Speaker 1: whole factor. I really love this one. This is all

440
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:20,879
Speaker 1: about stone Wall. For those of you who know what

441
00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:22,480
Speaker 1: stone Wall is and you know it as a bar

442
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:26,320
Speaker 1: in New York, that's true, it is, But where did

443
00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:29,040
Speaker 1: it become a monument? How did that actually happen? What

444
00:24:29,200 --> 00:24:31,320
Speaker 1: you may not know about Stonewall is that there were

445
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:34,920
Speaker 1: actual Stonewall riots and known as the stone Wall Uprising.

446
00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:37,840
Speaker 1: So basically, let me tell you what Wikipedia said, but

447
00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:40,639
Speaker 1: let me translate it. So stone Wall was like a

448
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:42,520
Speaker 1: place where people had to go hide and be gay,

449
00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:44,360
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying on the bisitionary ship because

450
00:24:44,359 --> 00:24:47,520
Speaker 1: they couldn't really be gay outside. So then what ended

451
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:50,240
Speaker 1: up happening was there was like a whole fucking gay

452
00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:54,199
Speaker 1: revolution and ship Nia was writing tearing ship up, they

453
00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:57,440
Speaker 1: were sucking it up. It's very like, um, I believe

454
00:24:57,520 --> 00:25:00,280
Speaker 1: there's this piece on the wall outside or some thing

455
00:25:00,359 --> 00:25:02,480
Speaker 1: that's like broken off from that having been in a while,

456
00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:07,720
Speaker 1: still open. Oh yeah, yeah, ing and village. Um. But

457
00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:09,719
Speaker 1: this was around the fifties and the sixties, because very

458
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 1: few establishments welcomed gay people in the nineteen fifties and

459
00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:15,760
Speaker 1: six and that was both male and women. Uh. And

460
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:17,720
Speaker 1: it was owned by the mafia at the time, and

461
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 1: it catered to a bunch of patrons, um, butch lesbians. Um.

462
00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:24,439
Speaker 1: That's where the term um, I'm sorry to cut off,

463
00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:26,119
Speaker 1: that's where the term are you a friend of Dorothy's?

464
00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:29,040
Speaker 1: Came from because you couldn't you couldn't ask somebody I

465
00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:30,879
Speaker 1: didn't know that they were gay. So you'd be like, here,

466
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:32,640
Speaker 1: you were friend of Dorothy's, and that's how you didn't

467
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:34,960
Speaker 1: know if they were gay. Like really, that's what you

468
00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:39,520
Speaker 1: learned when because he probably was going there during the

469
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:42,960
Speaker 1: Brandon called his good Judy and he was like, you

470
00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:44,480
Speaker 1: got all these gay friends and nobody ever called you

471
00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:46,640
Speaker 1: the good judy And I was like, well, you ain't

472
00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:49,600
Speaker 1: never called him your good duty because because you know,

473
00:25:53,560 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 1: bitch on a millennial. Okay. So there were police raids

474
00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:08,200
Speaker 1: on the gay bars, right offerers, offerers. Officers quickly lost control.

475
00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:21,280
Speaker 1: They are officalbum defund the police, y'all. Ship. So the

476
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:24,160
Speaker 1: tensions between the New York City Police and gay residents

477
00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:27,880
Speaker 1: of Greenwage erupted into more protests into evening, several nights,

478
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:31,280
Speaker 1: going over and over into weeks. Um and basically, who

479
00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:37,720
Speaker 1: through the first brick? I don't know, John say exactly.

480
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:40,440
Speaker 1: I never forget that ship. I didn't know that friend.

481
00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:42,120
Speaker 1: Never forget that I didn't know she threw the first

482
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:44,920
Speaker 1: break through that brick. Now, because when women been the

483
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:51,760
Speaker 1: leaders out here in the trans woman women, black, our

484
00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:56,399
Speaker 1: last black president, um Obama. You know, he made it

485
00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:59,000
Speaker 1: a monument of whatever. And this was a very important

486
00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:02,000
Speaker 1: thing because to me it was the first like gay monument.

487
00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:04,719
Speaker 1: I mean what it represented, it was a big fucking deal. Um,

488
00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:06,439
Speaker 1: so it is considered a monument and it's a bar,

489
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:09,680
Speaker 1: which is like toughest fuck. But last year June, well

490
00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 1: two years ago now June seen it was the anniversary

491
00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:19,840
Speaker 1: fifty World Pride in NYC. I was out with Christopher.

492
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:23,040
Speaker 1: It was fucking insane. Dog couldn't even like next year.

493
00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:26,200
Speaker 1: Last year Pride was so much fun. So it was

494
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:28,359
Speaker 1: World Pride because of stone Wall and all that. So

495
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:30,440
Speaker 1: every year there's a World Pride. You were wanting to

496
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:32,720
Speaker 1: go to tell Aviv so bad I remember, Yeah, I

497
00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 1: did want to go to Tel Aviv really bad. I

498
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 1: just want to go somewhere else and celebrate pride, like

499
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:40,120
Speaker 1: in another country, because I will tell you New York

500
00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:43,840
Speaker 1: was fun, but it's very corporate now. It's corporate it is,

501
00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:46,439
Speaker 1: I mean, it probably is everywhere, but like I've experienced

502
00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 1: New York Pride before, I want to go like outside

503
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:50,920
Speaker 1: of the US and see what that experience, because not

504
00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:54,000
Speaker 1: in some places it's even more free. Like mother was

505
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:56,960
Speaker 1: just walking down the street naked. Mm hmm. Yeah. I

506
00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:58,639
Speaker 1: want to go wherever that is. Okay, you know what

507
00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:04,399
Speaker 1: I mean? And hell, yeah, we're happy gay. I mean

508
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:07,880
Speaker 1: you'll be in dad, Yeah, we buy. We don't get

509
00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:11,159
Speaker 1: you've ever seen me? The gayest I've ever seen you.

510
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:12,840
Speaker 1: I think it was when we went to Pride and

511
00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:15,240
Speaker 1: we were together and we were in the West Village

512
00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:20,159
Speaker 1: and you were you were literally I don't you were

513
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:23,440
Speaker 1: just diking out. I don't know that she was like

514
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:25,040
Speaker 1: I literally had to look at her and be like

515
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 1: she had her doc market and I was like, I

516
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:34,600
Speaker 1: can't remember what year, but I was remember being extremely

517
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 1: drunk and just looking at you and being like, is

518
00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 1: that my friend? She's embarrassing me. To be honest with you,

519
00:28:41,000 --> 00:28:42,959
Speaker 1: Like when I first moved to New York, they were

520
00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:45,040
Speaker 1: just like hotter gay girls because there was more of

521
00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:51,280
Speaker 1: them and a lot of models were gay. But let's

522
00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 1: let's not bring that bitch up. That's sucking Lessian party

523
00:28:57,240 --> 00:28:59,760
Speaker 1: and like, I just learned so much about Venus took

524
00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:02,000
Speaker 1: me to the best lesbian party I've been to New York.

525
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 1: Mad girls in their new Horrible Decisions. Yea, they was amazingly.

526
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:07,920
Speaker 1: I told you, don't do them lesbian parties. They fight

527
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:09,560
Speaker 1: too much for me. Oh bitch, they we're about to

528
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:11,800
Speaker 1: fight me. I wasn't talking with me. I can't do

529
00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 1: that ship. They fight some with me. Our fourth or

530
00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:15,680
Speaker 1: fifth time hanging out, we were dancing together and I

531
00:29:15,720 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 1: was like, why do you want to fight me? She's like, oh,

532
00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 1: they know my ex girls. Cool. I was like, no,

533
00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 1: the fights for me. Let me tell you something. I'm

534
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:27,680
Speaker 1: not scared of nobody. I'm not scared of one Latina.

535
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 1: I'm scared of their cousins. That's what I'm scared of.

536
00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:32,120
Speaker 1: So you know what I'm saying, Like, if I see one, like,

537
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:34,480
Speaker 1: I ain't worried about that whole but they never they

538
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 1: never rolling back for one and that's the girl and

539
00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:40,200
Speaker 1: they got their family. I feel like black people like

540
00:29:40,400 --> 00:29:41,720
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, if I got my ask,

541
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 1: like you could like people take a l. Spanish people

542
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:47,920
Speaker 1: don't give a funk dog. They don't They don't fucking

543
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 1: care what fight have been in with a fucking Spanish bitch. Sorry,

544
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:53,720
Speaker 1: I'm not trying to talk about them like that, but

545
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 1: that whole you know what I'm saying. We was outside

546
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:57,520
Speaker 1: of Taboo. I was beating her ass and then I'll

547
00:29:57,560 --> 00:30:00,880
Speaker 1: started getting my ass book and I was like, she

548
00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:05,959
Speaker 1: underneath me. You do you know how Orlando roll? I mean,

549
00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:08,080
Speaker 1: you know Orlando, you and you know the party with

550
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:10,160
Speaker 1: which when I was in Orlando and I went to

551
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 1: the club with my cousins, like in Orlando you hang

552
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 1: out with your family because everybody ain't leave their housepital

553
00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:20,000
Speaker 1: last couple of years like keep everyone. No one moves

554
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:23,680
Speaker 1: out looking crazy. The girl was underneath me right because

555
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:25,120
Speaker 1: I was on top of her, and then her friends

556
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:27,480
Speaker 1: jumped off top of me. When I was getting my

557
00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:30,440
Speaker 1: ass by her friends, she was still underneath me, talking

558
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:36,200
Speaker 1: about that's why you getting sucked up. I was like

559
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 1: Damn it was sucked up. I had to scratch your

560
00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:45,479
Speaker 1: ponytail get thrown around for that I was wearing at

561
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:47,640
Speaker 1: this point. Okay, but that's the smart one used to

562
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:51,240
Speaker 1: queen because I can't after that I was trying to do.

563
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 1: You had to like every time I have a wig on,

564
00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:56,960
Speaker 1: something happens. I remember that's used to wear wigs at

565
00:30:56,960 --> 00:30:59,360
Speaker 1: the Jamaican parties. And you knew the so little bitches,

566
00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 1: the jam she was she was, you don't remember. Wait,

567
00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 1: this is a little bit. I knew a little about it,

568
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:10,360
Speaker 1: but she used to do the handtime met her. I

569
00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:15,440
Speaker 1: met her right before the breast listen let me and

570
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:18,640
Speaker 1: then I came like two weeks later she had We

571
00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 1: used to do the Jamaican parties and she'd be like,

572
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:23,800
Speaker 1: you just sew this on the top to my brain underneath,

573
00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:26,600
Speaker 1: like we would sew the wigs down like niggas, and

574
00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:30,240
Speaker 1: I didn't know where they did. And the Jamaican niggas

575
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 1: had many bitches. But I was always like really nice

576
00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:34,960
Speaker 1: to everybody. And that was my way now to like

577
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:37,080
Speaker 1: get a fight because I only had like four or

578
00:31:37,120 --> 00:31:39,280
Speaker 1: five fights under my belt at that part. But then

579
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:42,960
Speaker 1: once I moved downtown and the Jamaican parties that lived together.

580
00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:44,520
Speaker 1: And I came back, I said, I got to fight,

581
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:47,600
Speaker 1: but we can yeah, And I was like, this is

582
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 1: also another problem. Why you had to be like on

583
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 1: your p's and queues because of the Jamaican parties. They

584
00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:56,000
Speaker 1: don't wear heels, sneakers and flats. Of course, are you

585
00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:58,240
Speaker 1: gonna get yours because the bitch ain't gonna trip over

586
00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:04,360
Speaker 1: her heels because she ain't. And no shoes. They come prepared.

587
00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:07,880
Speaker 1: They're making you Ever watched Day Friday, so no shoes

588
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 1: making zero maybe on top of trash cans. That's why

589
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 1: it's their foot jumping from the speacause you know what,

590
00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:16,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give Jamaican's over Latinas only because they'll cut me. Absolutely,

591
00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:20,000
Speaker 1: the show will because the blame right unda where the

592
00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 1: you at? Hey, y'all, by the way, I am leaving

593
00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 1: the b X, so your gonna yet. But it's the lick. Okay,

594
00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:36,000
Speaker 1: I got it, I got it. It's good job. One

595
00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:38,880
Speaker 1: of the writers I worked with, he's helping me with

596
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:40,440
Speaker 1: Ship and he's like, give me back to the Elis.

597
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:48,600
Speaker 1: He's like, I'm gonna call you elis like lesbian that

598
00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 1: was funny. Okay, the horrible decision for this week are

599
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 1: all about Daddy's. I'm gonna bring it back to a

600
00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:55,800
Speaker 1: kink of the week that we've talked about before. It

601
00:32:55,880 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 1: called gerontophilia, attraction to the elderly. Where are you to say?

602
00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 1: You like that? I know? But what I want to

603
00:33:03,080 --> 00:33:06,480
Speaker 1: know is, what's the oldest you've been with my nigga?

604
00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:14,320
Speaker 1: Your turn? Uh? When? Oh wow? There was an older

605
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:16,440
Speaker 1: guy when I first came back to Boston, when I

606
00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:19,440
Speaker 1: was like nineteen, Think he lied about his age. No,

607
00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 1: he told me his age. I don't know what I

608
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:26,600
Speaker 1: was thinking, but the man had to be like in

609
00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:29,800
Speaker 1: his mind you I was nineteen, He had to be

610
00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:36,720
Speaker 1: in his late not seven sixties, early seventies, early seventies.

611
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:41,680
Speaker 1: What are you? How open was his as I was

612
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:46,040
Speaker 1: gonna go there? It was loose. First of all, the

613
00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:52,680
Speaker 1: throat was gone gone. I can see that. I know,

614
00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:55,000
Speaker 1: the teeth was intact. And this motherfucker was like. The

615
00:33:55,080 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 1: motherfucker was like, I eat dark chocolate before sex. You

616
00:33:57,840 --> 00:33:59,240
Speaker 1: know it helps. And I was like, help with what

617
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:02,840
Speaker 1: you mean me? And like we were at his house

618
00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:06,560
Speaker 1: like drinking wine. And he lived above Boston Commons, so

619
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:08,560
Speaker 1: he could see the whole garden whatever. You know, he

620
00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:13,560
Speaker 1: lived in one of the fancy places. I was about

621
00:34:13,600 --> 00:34:15,480
Speaker 1: to say it all the time. No, no, no, he was,

622
00:34:15,719 --> 00:34:19,680
Speaker 1: and uh it wasn't. It was. There's no such thing

623
00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:21,840
Speaker 1: as a loose ask because really, like if men know

624
00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:23,360
Speaker 1: what they're doing, they just tighten it up. There's no

625
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:25,560
Speaker 1: the thing as a loose ask. But it was. It

626
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:27,759
Speaker 1: was one of those things that like on the ride home,

627
00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:32,800
Speaker 1: I was like, what the fuck are you doing? Honestly,

628
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:36,680
Speaker 1: it's not even it wasn't hanging. There's no, there's nothing honestly,

629
00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:40,959
Speaker 1: like there was nothing negative or anything about his body,

630
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:42,759
Speaker 1: you know, like he's an older gentleman. Like it was

631
00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:46,080
Speaker 1: an older body, but a gentleman. He was a gentleman.

632
00:34:46,200 --> 00:34:47,759
Speaker 1: But like it was one of those things for me

633
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 1: where like I was so like caught up in it

634
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:51,600
Speaker 1: at the time that I was like, oh, this is

635
00:34:51,640 --> 00:34:53,759
Speaker 1: so he's rich blah blah blahlah blah blah. And then

636
00:34:53,800 --> 00:34:55,080
Speaker 1: I sucked him, and then after I left, I was

637
00:34:55,160 --> 00:35:00,360
Speaker 1: like and I'm so poor. Yeah. I was like, you know,

638
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:04,840
Speaker 1: so after not after because because it was probably for

639
00:35:04,920 --> 00:35:06,360
Speaker 1: me it was hot. My d was like nineteen at

640
00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 1: the times. So it was really hot and I was like,

641
00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:10,160
Speaker 1: oh yeah, yeah great, but like it was a there

642
00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:13,279
Speaker 1: was a there was a difference in age. So did

643
00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:15,839
Speaker 1: you keep seeing him? What kind of names do these

644
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:20,080
Speaker 1: guys have? The mom and grinder old man name that's

645
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:23,200
Speaker 1: a black one. Oh do you wait, white old man

646
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:26,239
Speaker 1: or this black old man? Like a common name that

647
00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 1: they have on grinder dick. Well, a lot of them

648
00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:33,399
Speaker 1: just put a lot of them just put not generous. Wait,

649
00:35:33,560 --> 00:35:36,120
Speaker 1: so they put like the the no sign and a

650
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:38,920
Speaker 1: flower because it means like I'm old, but I'm not

651
00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:41,680
Speaker 1: going to suck you for money. They want to be

652
00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:47,880
Speaker 1: about m M. So I brought up something that you

653
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 1: didn't remember. Let's go back to another gay pride weekend

654
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 1: with a mutual friend and this is when you kicked

655
00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:55,920
Speaker 1: me out again. I just want to tell you guys,

656
00:35:56,160 --> 00:36:00,239
Speaker 1: so this okay, but that pride like I have not

657
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:04,279
Speaker 1: been that lit in life since that pride like, I

658
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:07,680
Speaker 1: don't think I've been that just continuously lit. You know,

659
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:09,880
Speaker 1: when you drunk for like four or six hours, you

660
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:11,600
Speaker 1: have Oh, I thought she was gonna say you have

661
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:13,719
Speaker 1: been that lit friend. You were that lit the day

662
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 1: that you said we were in that casino to that

663
00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:20,759
Speaker 1: young little boy, she needs to get big. Wait what

664
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:22,719
Speaker 1: did you do? Okay? That was that was out the

665
00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:27,080
Speaker 1: country you don't count. Which when we were in Spain,

666
00:36:27,400 --> 00:36:29,360
Speaker 1: I got, first of all, I don't like gambling, right,

667
00:36:29,400 --> 00:36:31,120
Speaker 1: but I'll go to a casino and like I will

668
00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:36,520
Speaker 1: drink my ass. Okay, keep bringing drink. Loves to drink.

669
00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:40,960
Speaker 1: It was late and I was like, go ahead, gamble gambling, sorry,

670
00:36:42,840 --> 00:36:46,200
Speaker 1: drinking right. So I'm in there just taking back drinks

671
00:36:46,400 --> 00:36:49,160
Speaker 1: and there was like this cute younger you know, Canadian mofucking.

672
00:36:49,200 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 1: I was like, suck her like I was literally like

673
00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 1: I was trying to pick her out at the bar.

674
00:36:55,160 --> 00:36:59,439
Speaker 1: Oh my god. And what he's like though, I remember

675
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:01,960
Speaker 1: seeing the video and being like, oh god, why were

676
00:37:02,040 --> 00:37:05,440
Speaker 1: we out? It was because I was winning, and like

677
00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:06,960
Speaker 1: I was like, we can't leave it, and he was

678
00:37:06,960 --> 00:37:08,719
Speaker 1: like okay. He was really nice about it because he

679
00:37:08,760 --> 00:37:10,640
Speaker 1: knows when I'm in my zonwnly me alone and they're

680
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:12,960
Speaker 1: already lickering him up because they see that like I'm

681
00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 1: trying to play. So we get to the bar and

682
00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:18,800
Speaker 1: the guy was flirting with me, but Minnie was just

683
00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:23,160
Speaker 1: making sure that he hear him, like the guy was like, oh,

684
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:25,600
Speaker 1: how long you guys here? Whenever the funk. She has

685
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:28,960
Speaker 1: her own she can fuck you tonight. She has her

686
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:33,160
Speaker 1: own room. You know. He was wading and then playing

687
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:36,080
Speaker 1: in a whisper and he goes just like this, do

688
00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:40,920
Speaker 1: you not want Canadian bacon tonight? You don't want to

689
00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 1: taste Canadian bacon. That was the night that when we

690
00:37:45,320 --> 00:37:47,960
Speaker 1: got back to our airbnb, I Loki went into the

691
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:56,399
Speaker 1: host room and fell asleep. Oh that's right. So here's

692
00:37:56,440 --> 00:37:59,560
Speaker 1: what happened. He still rated us five stars because he

693
00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:01,719
Speaker 1: got how drunk. I was like, that's how fund up

694
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:04,799
Speaker 1: I was. Okay, his door was right next to our door,

695
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 1: like that his door was. So I got up in

696
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:10,319
Speaker 1: the middle of the night to pee and went into

697
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:13,160
Speaker 1: his room and fell asleep on his bed. Wait next

698
00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:15,439
Speaker 1: to him? Was he? No, he wasn't there. He works nights.

699
00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:17,680
Speaker 1: He came in in the morning. It was like, what

700
00:38:17,760 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 1: are you doing? And I was like, oh shit, and

701
00:38:20,640 --> 00:38:23,040
Speaker 1: like I'm pretty sure he could smell the alcohol or whatever,

702
00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:25,040
Speaker 1: but he was just like he rated her five stares.

703
00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:27,759
Speaker 1: He's like, oh it was a great hold on. But

704
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:30,680
Speaker 1: let me tell you what about the whole thing, though.

705
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:34,520
Speaker 1: He tells me in the morning He's like, yo, I

706
00:38:34,600 --> 00:38:36,239
Speaker 1: had a dream last night, but I don't know if

707
00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:38,359
Speaker 1: it happened, And I was like, what are you talking about.

708
00:38:38,400 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 1: He's like, no, it was a dream. So the whole

709
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:43,239
Speaker 1: so we were in Barcelona for like three more days, right,

710
00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 1: and the whole time is I couldn't figure out if

711
00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:49,399
Speaker 1: it was a dream real because we never see our host.

712
00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:51,480
Speaker 1: So I was like, I don't know if it happened,

713
00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:54,520
Speaker 1: but like, I think he was sucking me up in

714
00:38:54,560 --> 00:38:55,800
Speaker 1: the head, like I couldn't eve enjoy the rest of

715
00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:59,120
Speaker 1: But then we got this review and I was like, fuck,

716
00:38:59,360 --> 00:39:03,960
Speaker 1: he happened, friendly, polite, orderly, I have any stranger situation

717
00:39:04,160 --> 00:39:08,200
Speaker 1: with Vinnie, but nothing very important. You know, it was strange,

718
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:10,319
Speaker 1: you know, I'm up with guy drunk, like you can

719
00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:12,600
Speaker 1: tell that. I was like because he was cute though,

720
00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:15,360
Speaker 1: and look when he looked like a daddy, so you

721
00:39:15,480 --> 00:39:20,320
Speaker 1: wanted him to maybe we always get goofed and literally

722
00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:22,359
Speaker 1: my ship is me and Vinnie because we always drop

723
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:24,840
Speaker 1: it together. But I just really thought it was a

724
00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:27,160
Speaker 1: fucking dream. And we're on the flight going to another city,

725
00:39:27,200 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 1: and the ships that I have stranger situation. We've been

726
00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:36,480
Speaker 1: like it did happen. But the oldest guy, I think

727
00:39:36,560 --> 00:39:43,879
Speaker 1: was like late sixties, early seven. So let's go back

728
00:39:43,920 --> 00:39:47,720
Speaker 1: to the story from Pride. So here's what happened. Here's

729
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:49,920
Speaker 1: what we're gonna start with how it started, and then

730
00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:52,359
Speaker 1: we're gonna say what happens when I came home? Now,

731
00:39:52,400 --> 00:39:57,319
Speaker 1: when he came home. So it's Pride in Orlando. We're

732
00:39:57,400 --> 00:39:59,959
Speaker 1: at this building called the Waverley. It's downtown. It was cute.

733
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:01,799
Speaker 1: It was the look and what the little gaye remember

734
00:40:01,840 --> 00:40:04,360
Speaker 1: that one that worked with us. Yes, he was Scott

735
00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 1: and he was like, oh my god, honey. They're like,

736
00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:09,319
Speaker 1: I don't hang out with those kinds. And they were

737
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:11,279
Speaker 1: a hot mess. It was old dudes and they had

738
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 1: drinking drugs. They had everything lay out. So I was

739
00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:16,879
Speaker 1: at that party just getting lit. So people started leaving

740
00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:18,160
Speaker 1: the party, but I just felt like, you know what,

741
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:20,200
Speaker 1: I'm with my friends, Bennie and one of our other friends.

742
00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:23,080
Speaker 1: I'm like, why I'm about to leave. So then it's Bennie,

743
00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:27,160
Speaker 1: our friend, and the gay older gentleman who owned the home,

744
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:28,839
Speaker 1: and everybody's kind of looking at me. And I don't

745
00:40:28,840 --> 00:40:30,239
Speaker 1: think there was uber at the time. But then he

746
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:32,080
Speaker 1: was like, what are you about to do? And I

747
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:34,759
Speaker 1: was like, we're hanging out. I was being like, hey,

748
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:36,680
Speaker 1: so what are you doing? And then I'm like, I

749
00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:38,239
Speaker 1: don't what do you mean like that there? I can't

750
00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 1: get a car, like I can't get a cab, like

751
00:40:39,680 --> 00:40:41,560
Speaker 1: the streets are blocked off for Pride, and I'm like,

752
00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:43,719
Speaker 1: it's like a thirty minute walk home. And he was like, girl,

753
00:40:43,800 --> 00:40:48,320
Speaker 1: it's nice weather. Like get your take. He gives me

754
00:40:48,600 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 1: his corded headphones. I remember that, just listen to a song.

755
00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:55,200
Speaker 1: I was like, listening to a song. I'm still at

756
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:58,480
Speaker 1: this point what I'm trying to say, confused at what's

757
00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 1: going on. I almost got Oh my god, that's never

758
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:04,640
Speaker 1: what happens. Okay, wait, let me This is why I

759
00:41:04,680 --> 00:41:06,680
Speaker 1: think I was leaning on him so much. I worked

760
00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 1: for a company at the time that was in the

761
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:10,240
Speaker 1: Gay Pride parade. I was a manager for a company

762
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 1: and I made out with one of the employees and

763
00:41:12,640 --> 00:41:15,440
Speaker 1: it was videotaped and sent to everybody in the district.

764
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:17,600
Speaker 1: So I was already getting drunk and bugging out because

765
00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:19,880
Speaker 1: I couldn't believe I did. She was fine, though, but Anyway,

766
00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 1: I walked home company movie New York. That's right. So anyway,

767
00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:32,600
Speaker 1: I'm at home. Two hours later, Vinnie strolls in with

768
00:41:32,680 --> 00:41:35,399
Speaker 1: our friend, who he cannot stop making fun of because

769
00:41:35,440 --> 00:41:38,520
Speaker 1: they've never had sex, and he's like going on and

770
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 1: on about how our friend was talking to this man,

771
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 1: and they tell me about a situation where the man

772
00:41:44,880 --> 00:41:46,520
Speaker 1: was getting spit roasted. And for those of you who

773
00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:48,960
Speaker 1: don't know what means, you're fucking someone and then they're

774
00:41:49,000 --> 00:41:52,040
Speaker 1: sucking someone else's dick. And apparently the man had an

775
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 1: issue with his neck. What was that? So apparently the

776
00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:57,480
Speaker 1: man had you know, he was an older gentleman and

777
00:41:57,640 --> 00:41:59,840
Speaker 1: apparently he had I don't know if it was a

778
00:42:00,000 --> 00:42:02,759
Speaker 1: our accident or what it is, but he had had

779
00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:07,680
Speaker 1: a neck injury. And he before pride, took off the

780
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:09,279
Speaker 1: neck brace because you know, he just wants to be

781
00:42:09,360 --> 00:42:13,000
Speaker 1: cool and cute and you know, but he probably should

782
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:16,000
Speaker 1: have had the neck brace. Song. And so when you

783
00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:19,600
Speaker 1: were when you were stinking your dick in his mouth,

784
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:23,359
Speaker 1: he'd be like, gentle on my neck, on my neck,

785
00:42:24,080 --> 00:42:26,160
Speaker 1: And the whole time I was like, what the fund

786
00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:29,319
Speaker 1: is he talking to about? And then like we come

787
00:42:29,400 --> 00:42:31,520
Speaker 1: to find out that this man literally had a neck

788
00:42:31,560 --> 00:42:33,279
Speaker 1: brace that he was supposed to have on. He could

789
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 1: have literally died, but he I love it for him.

790
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:46,440
Speaker 1: You know, at this point, you so I want to know,

791
00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 1: how do you ever make older men call you daddy? Um?

792
00:42:51,200 --> 00:42:54,160
Speaker 1: There was a guy that I was sleeping with who

793
00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:59,839
Speaker 1: does call me daddy, which is very, uh, empowering. I think,

794
00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:02,880
Speaker 1: do you like being called daddy? I do for some reason.

795
00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:05,440
Speaker 1: When they're older than me, it's like a power thing.

796
00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:08,160
Speaker 1: I get it. But if they're younger than me and

797
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:09,880
Speaker 1: they call me daddy, I'm like it out. I like

798
00:43:09,960 --> 00:43:12,040
Speaker 1: when girls call me daddy. Yeah, I don't know. I

799
00:43:12,160 --> 00:43:13,960
Speaker 1: honestly don't know what it is. It's definitely like a

800
00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:16,000
Speaker 1: power thing, I think because I've had like a twenty

801
00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:17,399
Speaker 1: five year old called me daddy and I'm like, which,

802
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:20,239
Speaker 1: I'm only thirty. It's not fun. But shout out to

803
00:43:20,360 --> 00:43:22,799
Speaker 1: Kristen Um. I don't know if you've ever met her.

804
00:43:22,840 --> 00:43:24,640
Speaker 1: I've never met her, but you know she's met friend.

805
00:43:24,920 --> 00:43:26,920
Speaker 1: She came on her show, but like, yeah, she's like

806
00:43:27,080 --> 00:43:28,799
Speaker 1: her girl. We called her daddy, be called her mommy,

807
00:43:28,840 --> 00:43:31,600
Speaker 1: all kinds of ship and I don't know. I don't

808
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:35,560
Speaker 1: but when you're like in some real gay ship, Oh

809
00:43:35,680 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 1: my god, and girls like fuck me daddy, that that

810
00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:40,319
Speaker 1: is very not feminist because we should not be trying

811
00:43:40,360 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 1: to do the masculine and feminine roles in So then

812
00:43:46,680 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 1: when you try your strap on on, why do you

813
00:43:48,560 --> 00:43:51,799
Speaker 1: call it your dick? You it looked like a dick

814
00:43:51,840 --> 00:43:59,279
Speaker 1: animated jump by I literally did. I would No, I mean,

815
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:02,560
Speaker 1: it is my dick every once in a while, like

816
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:06,040
Speaker 1: Nigel has called me daddy or I've called him daddy

817
00:44:06,400 --> 00:44:08,000
Speaker 1: and like it turned me on. But I was like,

818
00:44:08,680 --> 00:44:10,839
Speaker 1: I just called the man. You don't ever call any

819
00:44:10,840 --> 00:44:21,239
Speaker 1: of them granddaddy, like you know, you don't know, no,

820
00:44:21,600 --> 00:44:23,800
Speaker 1: because now for the last three years they've been like

821
00:44:24,280 --> 00:44:27,839
Speaker 1: twenty years older than me and younger, which doesn't put

822
00:44:27,880 --> 00:44:31,160
Speaker 1: them in granddaddy. No, twenty years older, okay, doesn't put

823
00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 1: them in daddy. Stage puts them in daddy, like firm

824
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:37,760
Speaker 1: daddy for daddy. But that can get it up. Where's

825
00:44:37,760 --> 00:44:39,480
Speaker 1: the QUI Yeah, yeah, I wanted to ask this before.

826
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:44,480
Speaker 1: I thought you're younger, you can show affection to guys

827
00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:46,279
Speaker 1: in public because you've kind of grown up in an era.

828
00:44:46,440 --> 00:44:48,279
Speaker 1: Actually not you particularly, but I mean because I know,

829
00:44:48,480 --> 00:44:50,879
Speaker 1: you know, you've had some issues with school and being gay,

830
00:44:51,760 --> 00:44:53,800
Speaker 1: but like it's a little more known for you. Do

831
00:44:53,840 --> 00:44:55,719
Speaker 1: you find that like with older men, they're a little

832
00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:57,480
Speaker 1: bit like scared to give you affection, Like tell us

833
00:44:57,480 --> 00:45:00,720
Speaker 1: about that. I do feel that the the older generation,

834
00:45:00,840 --> 00:45:03,799
Speaker 1: like p d A is somewhat of an awkward thing

835
00:45:03,880 --> 00:45:07,399
Speaker 1: for them because a lot of them, one if you're

836
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:09,560
Speaker 1: dealing with an older man, a lot of times, uh,

837
00:45:09,680 --> 00:45:11,680
Speaker 1: they came out later in life. So they came out

838
00:45:11,680 --> 00:45:13,480
Speaker 1: after they had kids, or they came out after they've

839
00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:16,160
Speaker 1: been married, or they came out like after being in

840
00:45:16,200 --> 00:45:19,000
Speaker 1: the closet for twenty thirty years. So a lot of

841
00:45:19,080 --> 00:45:22,320
Speaker 1: them still have some of them have shame behind it,

842
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:24,080
Speaker 1: and then some of them just it's just not what

843
00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:26,880
Speaker 1: they do, and like you have to learn to understand.

844
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:28,399
Speaker 1: Like for some of them, it's just not what they're

845
00:45:28,440 --> 00:45:30,719
Speaker 1: comfortable with. So when you go out on dates, if

846
00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:33,200
Speaker 1: the waiter comes, like, does he automatically act like your

847
00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 1: dad and you're his son or something? No, I mean

848
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:37,520
Speaker 1: you just you can I mean you can tell by

849
00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 1: the way the motherfucker's looking at me that they want

850
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:41,280
Speaker 1: to suck me. Like you can tell it's a different

851
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 1: type of relationship. But there's some people who just aren't.

852
00:45:44,360 --> 00:45:46,440
Speaker 1: Like Nigel is not comfortable holding hands in public, but

853
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:48,040
Speaker 1: every once in a while he'll grab my hand and

854
00:45:48,040 --> 00:45:54,120
Speaker 1: I'll be like, oh, is that something that you ever wear,

855
00:45:54,280 --> 00:45:56,960
Speaker 1: like down the street? Like I was gonna say, like

856
00:45:57,000 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 1: pe town, he likes doing it? No, no, no, just

857
00:45:59,000 --> 00:46:02,239
Speaker 1: randomly is it? What is it something that you do

858
00:46:02,440 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 1: want more of them? I mean, if you if you

859
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:06,319
Speaker 1: deal with older guys, is something you've just gotten used

860
00:46:06,360 --> 00:46:08,880
Speaker 1: to or me, p d A is cool, but like

861
00:46:08,960 --> 00:46:11,640
Speaker 1: I'm okay without it. I've never really do too much.

862
00:46:11,680 --> 00:46:14,279
Speaker 1: I'm I'm more of a like like grabbed every once

863
00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:16,880
Speaker 1: in a while, or I'm I'm an rub your shoulder um,

864
00:46:17,239 --> 00:46:18,640
Speaker 1: or like every once in a while, I'll just like

865
00:46:18,719 --> 00:46:20,680
Speaker 1: touch you like I don't need to like hold your

866
00:46:20,680 --> 00:46:22,360
Speaker 1: hand down the street and skip like that's not me.

867
00:46:23,719 --> 00:46:26,520
Speaker 1: I've never even really seen you make out. Yeah, my

868
00:46:26,600 --> 00:46:29,920
Speaker 1: day is really tall, so us holding hands, we have

869
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:33,279
Speaker 1: to be farther apart from even do like a little

870
00:46:34,040 --> 00:46:36,400
Speaker 1: coming close. I can't want to see Sometimes if you

871
00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:39,319
Speaker 1: go into before Rhona, like when we would go into

872
00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:41,120
Speaker 1: a bar, I would like species but and then go

873
00:46:41,160 --> 00:46:43,160
Speaker 1: see my friends and he go talk to his Oh

874
00:46:43,239 --> 00:46:46,320
Speaker 1: that's cute, Like look ahead, look all right, I have

875
00:46:46,560 --> 00:46:48,680
Speaker 1: the last thing before we get to homemail that I

876
00:46:49,040 --> 00:46:51,640
Speaker 1: think it's really interesting because it was a dynamic I

877
00:46:51,680 --> 00:46:54,319
Speaker 1: thought about recently. So the man that Vinnie's dating has

878
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:56,920
Speaker 1: an ex husband, right, yes, and he's been around him.

879
00:46:57,160 --> 00:46:59,040
Speaker 1: I think his birthday dinner. Did you and write him

880
00:46:59,120 --> 00:47:05,920
Speaker 1: or something? Um? He was they're still friends and ship

881
00:47:06,000 --> 00:47:10,400
Speaker 1: the friends and interesting because this is some ship. I

882
00:47:10,480 --> 00:47:12,400
Speaker 1: feel like an our age on our age people the

883
00:47:12,440 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 1: men were dating where it's like hell no, do you

884
00:47:16,160 --> 00:47:19,440
Speaker 1: think that it has to do with age one? Or

885
00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:24,760
Speaker 1: because for one, if I break up with my nigga,

886
00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:27,480
Speaker 1: I can make new friends were in a different community.

887
00:47:28,040 --> 00:47:30,359
Speaker 1: But if we're gay and we got the same friends

888
00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:31,759
Speaker 1: and we're going to the same bars and it's the

889
00:47:31,840 --> 00:47:34,239
Speaker 1: same ship, do you feel like what do you think

890
00:47:34,280 --> 00:47:36,200
Speaker 1: it is that's made you feel okay with it? Because

891
00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:39,040
Speaker 1: at first you weren't, but you're learning. I think the

892
00:47:39,520 --> 00:47:42,600
Speaker 1: relationship dynamics are a bit different. The relationships dynamics are

893
00:47:42,640 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 1: a bit different. So like when you break up sometimes

894
00:47:46,080 --> 00:47:48,040
Speaker 1: if it's bad, then you're like fuck them, and then

895
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:49,680
Speaker 1: you want to just kind of discard that whole party

896
00:47:49,680 --> 00:47:52,160
Speaker 1: of your life. But if it's not necessarily bad and

897
00:47:52,400 --> 00:47:54,680
Speaker 1: you still care for the person, you'll I think you

898
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:57,800
Speaker 1: work through the awkward, annoying I don't want to be

899
00:47:57,880 --> 00:47:59,920
Speaker 1: around them phase. How long are they broken up with?

900
00:48:00,040 --> 00:48:03,520
Speaker 1: You met him? Uh? Two years, I think, But like

901
00:48:04,040 --> 00:48:07,160
Speaker 1: I also have to like respect his history before me,

902
00:48:07,840 --> 00:48:10,960
Speaker 1: because that's like there's you were with a person for

903
00:48:11,080 --> 00:48:13,800
Speaker 1: like almost twenty years before me, and just because I

904
00:48:13,880 --> 00:48:16,200
Speaker 1: walk in, I want you to forget everything you have. No,

905
00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:19,880
Speaker 1: that's dumb, that's selfish. I think that even heterosexual couples

906
00:48:19,920 --> 00:48:22,880
Speaker 1: should look that way, because I think a lot of times,

907
00:48:23,000 --> 00:48:25,480
Speaker 1: like even I actually just had this conversation with with

908
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:28,920
Speaker 1: my partner. We've only been together eight months, but when

909
00:48:29,040 --> 00:48:32,279
Speaker 1: we first started dating, he did he was dating someone else,

910
00:48:32,640 --> 00:48:35,759
Speaker 1: And we recently had this conversation where I was like, oh,

911
00:48:36,000 --> 00:48:37,680
Speaker 1: you still talk to her, but she was in the picture.

912
00:48:38,200 --> 00:48:40,520
Speaker 1: And so that's the thing too that we were talking about,

913
00:48:40,560 --> 00:48:42,360
Speaker 1: like there are going to be people that because I

914
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:44,360
Speaker 1: have this history with, I can't expect you to just

915
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:48,120
Speaker 1: completely cut everyone out of your past because I'm now

916
00:48:48,200 --> 00:48:51,520
Speaker 1: in your present and it's it's honestly though, for for

917
00:48:51,640 --> 00:48:54,440
Speaker 1: when we're dating, we do have to respect that. Sometimes

918
00:48:54,480 --> 00:48:58,000
Speaker 1: it takes longer, especially if someone didn't end badly to

919
00:48:58,080 --> 00:49:00,759
Speaker 1: cut people off. And also it's like if they have

920
00:49:00,880 --> 00:49:02,840
Speaker 1: to they have friends together and stuff like that, like

921
00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:04,759
Speaker 1: of course you're gonna hang out with all the friends,

922
00:49:04,800 --> 00:49:06,440
Speaker 1: You're all gonna want to be around each other, Like

923
00:49:06,520 --> 00:49:07,960
Speaker 1: you just have to be cool with it. I think

924
00:49:08,000 --> 00:49:10,360
Speaker 1: it's a big thing with confidence to like, you know,

925
00:49:10,719 --> 00:49:14,320
Speaker 1: dating old security who's in his forties right, Like, I

926
00:49:14,520 --> 00:49:17,560
Speaker 1: make sure that as long as I think that there's

927
00:49:17,600 --> 00:49:20,200
Speaker 1: been some significant time and like enough, not just like

928
00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:22,120
Speaker 1: a few months or just sucked her before me or

929
00:49:22,160 --> 00:49:24,960
Speaker 1: something like that, but time enough, in substantial time I

930
00:49:25,040 --> 00:49:27,600
Speaker 1: think within the relationship, like I have to respect that.

931
00:49:27,719 --> 00:49:29,960
Speaker 1: I have to respect that, like when someone has a

932
00:49:30,040 --> 00:49:32,239
Speaker 1: birthday party or like an event they're going through that,

933
00:49:32,320 --> 00:49:34,080
Speaker 1: Like maybe you'll come through and I expect that ship.

934
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:36,759
Speaker 1: But I'll be real, I don't think x's are an

935
00:49:36,760 --> 00:49:38,840
Speaker 1: issue as long as they're respectful. There's a few niggas

936
00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 1: that I used to funk with that I'm not going

937
00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:43,479
Speaker 1: to be respectful with, Like I would say lover boy

938
00:49:44,520 --> 00:49:46,360
Speaker 1: for one, if he gets a new girlfriend. I'm always

939
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:48,719
Speaker 1: going to flirt with him. I don't care hospital dick

940
00:49:48,920 --> 00:49:54,920
Speaker 1: never and ever, will I ever ever be like that's

941
00:49:54,960 --> 00:49:56,960
Speaker 1: a better word you want to call this, say happy birthday?

942
00:49:57,520 --> 00:50:02,439
Speaker 1: Oh my godness, just disrespectful what I'm saying, Like, there's

943
00:50:02,480 --> 00:50:04,799
Speaker 1: just some where the connection is so strong to see.

944
00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:06,920
Speaker 1: I think that that is the problem though, Like in

945
00:50:07,160 --> 00:50:09,600
Speaker 1: terms of I think different when it's someone you're in

946
00:50:09,760 --> 00:50:11,680
Speaker 1: you were in love with, No, but I'm talking about

947
00:50:11,680 --> 00:50:13,600
Speaker 1: you being on the other end. That's the problem, which

948
00:50:13,680 --> 00:50:16,320
Speaker 1: is why there there becomes this problem when cut me

949
00:50:16,360 --> 00:50:18,600
Speaker 1: off in if I'm letting you, if I'm allowing you

950
00:50:18,719 --> 00:50:21,719
Speaker 1: to have these relationships, I would hope that you make

951
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:25,680
Speaker 1: sure that person also respects me. And you're saying you ain't,

952
00:50:26,000 --> 00:50:32,600
Speaker 1: You ain't respecting ship. I don't not with only because

953
00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:37,360
Speaker 1: I think that ownership that still your dick is what

954
00:50:37,800 --> 00:50:40,080
Speaker 1: is what it is. No, Like there's a part of

955
00:50:40,200 --> 00:50:44,719
Speaker 1: me sometimes I just feel feel the same way. I'm

956
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:46,960
Speaker 1: gonna tell you right now, Like if a nigga asked

957
00:50:47,000 --> 00:50:50,239
Speaker 1: me and I came into a relationship and they were like, yo,

958
00:50:50,760 --> 00:50:52,440
Speaker 1: what about him, I'd be like, oh, like if I

959
00:50:52,520 --> 00:50:54,040
Speaker 1: see him, like I don't know we have a thing.

960
00:50:54,560 --> 00:50:57,560
Speaker 1: I would be honest, what do you I mean like

961
00:50:57,640 --> 00:51:00,120
Speaker 1: it's not really unfit, Like there's unfinished business. There is

962
00:51:00,160 --> 00:51:05,399
Speaker 1: no closure. I need you to find it if if

963
00:51:05,480 --> 00:51:10,600
Speaker 1: she has said anything in this motherfucking minutes, it is that.

964
00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:20,000
Speaker 1: I just I just think that that that you trist

965
00:51:20,000 --> 00:51:23,560
Speaker 1: about everybody knows just came in here. Maybe have Do

966
00:51:23,600 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 1: you not know everybody has one? The bit you gotta

967
00:51:26,080 --> 00:51:28,200
Speaker 1: worry about, you know, then you gotta where everybody knows one.

968
00:51:28,440 --> 00:51:30,839
Speaker 1: You're telling me you don't know that one that I'm

969
00:51:30,880 --> 00:51:33,040
Speaker 1: not if I'm if I'm in a relationship now and

970
00:51:33,120 --> 00:51:35,399
Speaker 1: I do respect the person I'm with, there's no way

971
00:51:35,400 --> 00:51:37,480
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell him, just so you know, I'm sorry.

972
00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:41,080
Speaker 1: That's gonna be. That's gonna be on your that's gonna

973
00:51:41,080 --> 00:51:48,560
Speaker 1: be look even businessess Like I felt like old Bay

974
00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:50,319
Speaker 1: has a bit should I'd be like, I know that's

975
00:51:50,360 --> 00:51:52,680
Speaker 1: that one little bit that if he ever go to whatever,

976
00:51:53,080 --> 00:51:55,080
Speaker 1: that that's the one he gonna funk with. I always know.

977
00:51:56,120 --> 00:51:58,880
Speaker 1: And I'm just saying, everybody know mine the fun I

978
00:51:59,000 --> 00:52:06,840
Speaker 1: like closure. Let me just read the homemail. Okay, So

979
00:52:07,640 --> 00:52:09,759
Speaker 1: here's a really fun one. Okay. I'm gonna tell you,

980
00:52:09,800 --> 00:52:14,080
Speaker 1: guys wants to make it funny than closure. This is

981
00:52:14,120 --> 00:52:18,440
Speaker 1: some toxic more toxic. I don't give him more. I

982
00:52:18,480 --> 00:52:20,200
Speaker 1: don't know what I'm gonna end up in life, but

983
00:52:20,280 --> 00:52:22,800
Speaker 1: I know a bit. If I'm the door is open,

984
00:52:24,080 --> 00:52:30,520
Speaker 1: you got close it? Do yo. Let me tell you something.

985
00:52:30,719 --> 00:52:33,920
Speaker 1: I really want to run out and run back in. Well,

986
00:52:33,920 --> 00:52:37,400
Speaker 1: I don't care. Anybody sounds crazy too street and be like,

987
00:52:37,480 --> 00:52:44,520
Speaker 1: y'all stop following me. I'm like, okay, find it. Okay.

988
00:52:45,719 --> 00:52:49,000
Speaker 1: So the mail I believe it's from a new listener.

989
00:52:49,680 --> 00:52:51,640
Speaker 1: Uh and I never checked the ms. Please send this

990
00:52:51,719 --> 00:52:54,239
Speaker 1: to Horrible Decisions at Gmail. But he redeemed himself and

991
00:52:54,280 --> 00:52:56,560
Speaker 1: I'll tell you how wheezy. I adore you have been

992
00:52:56,560 --> 00:52:59,200
Speaker 1: obsessed with horrible decisions and I'm listening to you to

993
00:52:59,320 --> 00:53:03,920
Speaker 1: say bitch has me calling everyone a bitch and walking

994
00:53:03,960 --> 00:53:05,520
Speaker 1: around work saying it. I'm just a horror. I'm just

995
00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:07,840
Speaker 1: a fucking horror. I'm not sure where you guys send questions,

996
00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:10,000
Speaker 1: but I'm an emotional bitch. This is a dude, and

997
00:53:10,080 --> 00:53:13,200
Speaker 1: I'm wondering what you got, what you guys got you

998
00:53:13,280 --> 00:53:14,840
Speaker 1: to where you are? How are you both so comfortable

999
00:53:14,840 --> 00:53:17,120
Speaker 1: and confident with your sexuality. What helped you guys get

1000
00:53:17,200 --> 00:53:19,480
Speaker 1: to where you are was their defining moment where you

1001
00:53:19,960 --> 00:53:22,000
Speaker 1: wanted to be opened up with guys or start having

1002
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:24,200
Speaker 1: group sex. I've never been exposed to the community, so

1003
00:53:24,320 --> 00:53:26,560
Speaker 1: listening to you is so amazing. Much love from your

1004
00:53:27,040 --> 00:53:29,759
Speaker 1: white listener. Plus ps, I love when Mandy goes off

1005
00:53:29,760 --> 00:53:33,960
Speaker 1: about crackers. But why you gotta come for vegans? So

1006
00:53:34,239 --> 00:53:37,640
Speaker 1: I said, because he said I sing this song. I said,

1007
00:53:37,640 --> 00:53:41,680
Speaker 1: if you sing the song, I'll read this email. So

1008
00:53:42,200 --> 00:53:47,120
Speaker 1: I haven't heard this yet, but I am just a hole.

1009
00:53:49,400 --> 00:54:02,239
Speaker 1: I am a sounding like a crack horrible. Actually he's

1010
00:54:02,440 --> 00:54:07,280
Speaker 1: really cute. I don't I don't know how to judge

1011
00:54:07,280 --> 00:54:10,000
Speaker 1: white ke Vegan, but he's a little cute little beg,

1012
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:14,359
Speaker 1: you know. I like the what look at your friend?

1013
00:54:14,719 --> 00:54:21,680
Speaker 1: The song? The song still has me huh sound. That's

1014
00:54:21,680 --> 00:54:24,839
Speaker 1: how Bretty spears. He is a sound. And then he said,

1015
00:54:24,840 --> 00:54:28,759
Speaker 1: where's my record deal? Um? Not there? Okay, So I

1016
00:54:28,800 --> 00:54:30,960
Speaker 1: wanted to direct No, he could actually up could have

1017
00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:38,160
Speaker 1: been records. Oh my god, I forgot about that, honestly, though,

1018
00:54:38,280 --> 00:54:41,719
Speaker 1: shout out. I don't know. I'm actually a little bit

1019
00:54:41,840 --> 00:54:45,160
Speaker 1: great why because in three days I'll be like I'm

1020
00:54:48,520 --> 00:54:51,680
Speaker 1: and not even know where the fund came from. Now

1021
00:54:51,719 --> 00:54:53,759
Speaker 1: you know you are sorry, you gotta get where do

1022
00:54:53,960 --> 00:54:56,839
Speaker 1: you live? We got to give him taken come off

1023
00:54:56,880 --> 00:55:01,759
Speaker 1: stage and be like, hey, everybody, I'm sucking a motherfucking

1024
00:55:03,320 --> 00:55:05,640
Speaker 1: um When did we got? When do we? I wanted

1025
00:55:05,800 --> 00:55:07,520
Speaker 1: to do this question with you because you're a man

1026
00:55:07,560 --> 00:55:09,960
Speaker 1: and I want to know when was your defining moment

1027
00:55:10,040 --> 00:55:12,279
Speaker 1: and did you did you have one? I'm trying to think, dude,

1028
00:55:12,280 --> 00:55:21,920
Speaker 1: I have one six last episode. Okay, I'm sorry, I'm

1029
00:55:21,960 --> 00:55:25,680
Speaker 1: trying to think. Um, I think for me, it was

1030
00:55:27,200 --> 00:55:30,319
Speaker 1: the first time I went to a nude beach in Spain. Um.

1031
00:55:30,520 --> 00:55:32,640
Speaker 1: I went to a nude beach and like I have

1032
00:55:32,840 --> 00:55:35,680
Speaker 1: like like many men don't speak about it, but a

1033
00:55:35,760 --> 00:55:38,200
Speaker 1: lot of men have like body image issues like a

1034
00:55:38,280 --> 00:55:40,080
Speaker 1: lot and a lot of men have like eating disorders

1035
00:55:40,080 --> 00:55:43,160
Speaker 1: blah blah, and so you know, I was like twenty four,

1036
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:45,359
Speaker 1: probably in the best shape of my life, but still

1037
00:55:45,440 --> 00:55:47,719
Speaker 1: was like that. My friends were like, let's go to

1038
00:55:47,920 --> 00:55:50,000
Speaker 1: a nude beach. I went to a nude beach and

1039
00:55:50,000 --> 00:55:51,480
Speaker 1: then they were like, now let's go to the gate side.

1040
00:55:51,480 --> 00:55:53,640
Speaker 1: And I was like, excuse me, and we went to

1041
00:55:53,680 --> 00:55:55,759
Speaker 1: the gate side of the nude Beach and like it

1042
00:55:56,000 --> 00:55:59,239
Speaker 1: was really cool seeing men in all shapes and all

1043
00:55:59,320 --> 00:56:02,839
Speaker 1: sides just fucking chilling lounge and having a good old time.

1044
00:56:03,280 --> 00:56:06,399
Speaker 1: And then on that said nude beach, like the old

1045
00:56:06,440 --> 00:56:08,319
Speaker 1: man were talking to the young guys and like there

1046
00:56:08,440 --> 00:56:11,160
Speaker 1: was just like a melting pot. Everybody was just came

1047
00:56:11,239 --> 00:56:14,439
Speaker 1: up and the old man I'm talking to the young

1048
00:56:14,560 --> 00:56:18,440
Speaker 1: guys read me like a big of cars. But anyway, um,

1049
00:56:18,719 --> 00:56:22,960
Speaker 1: and then I saw people in public having sex, and

1050
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:25,719
Speaker 1: for me, it's stripped a lot of the shame because

1051
00:56:25,719 --> 00:56:27,560
Speaker 1: I was like, why are they doing that? That's for

1052
00:56:27,719 --> 00:56:30,920
Speaker 1: private And then something about it was re liberating for me.

1053
00:56:31,040 --> 00:56:32,839
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I think my first time seeing

1054
00:56:32,880 --> 00:56:34,920
Speaker 1: people do something that was quote unquote too crazy for

1055
00:56:35,000 --> 00:56:37,279
Speaker 1: me made me feel less. I'm like, oh, there's people

1056
00:56:37,360 --> 00:56:41,719
Speaker 1: fucking like everybody has sex, oh, because I grew up

1057
00:56:41,719 --> 00:56:44,000
Speaker 1: in a place where you know, sex was to be

1058
00:56:44,080 --> 00:56:46,120
Speaker 1: had in this dark closet, in this room over here,

1059
00:56:46,160 --> 00:56:48,040
Speaker 1: and nobody talked about it. And so for me that

1060
00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:51,160
Speaker 1: was kind of like when I finally I came out

1061
00:56:51,320 --> 00:56:53,000
Speaker 1: fully and was just like all right, we're just gonna

1062
00:56:53,000 --> 00:56:56,160
Speaker 1: be out here. I know mine, chat Roulette, I know mine.

1063
00:56:59,480 --> 00:57:01,640
Speaker 1: I was were like feeling weird about my body because

1064
00:57:01,640 --> 00:57:02,960
Speaker 1: I had little titties, I mean, and I guess it

1065
00:57:02,960 --> 00:57:07,719
Speaker 1: didn't work because I end up buying somebody I really like.

1066
00:57:07,800 --> 00:57:09,680
Speaker 1: I was just feeling weird about my body for some

1067
00:57:09,800 --> 00:57:11,680
Speaker 1: reason because I thought I had a really weird shape

1068
00:57:11,840 --> 00:57:13,520
Speaker 1: and a lot of you asked me how small they were.

1069
00:57:13,640 --> 00:57:16,280
Speaker 1: They were like an big a. They're like a budding

1070
00:57:16,400 --> 00:57:21,800
Speaker 1: a and I keep good, yeah, because they weren't a bee.

1071
00:57:21,960 --> 00:57:24,479
Speaker 1: But they also weren't like totally flat. It was weird.

1072
00:57:24,800 --> 00:57:26,800
Speaker 1: But I just remember thinking I wasn't pretty with my

1073
00:57:26,880 --> 00:57:28,840
Speaker 1: top off. And when I was on chat Roulette and

1074
00:57:28,880 --> 00:57:30,960
Speaker 1: I saw that people were like thinking I was hot,

1075
00:57:31,040 --> 00:57:32,440
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, because that was just I was

1076
00:57:32,520 --> 00:57:34,360
Speaker 1: like fuck it, you know what I mean, Like they

1077
00:57:34,400 --> 00:57:36,240
Speaker 1: can't see my face. I could click off of them

1078
00:57:36,280 --> 00:57:38,120
Speaker 1: if I want to. And then once I could be

1079
00:57:38,200 --> 00:57:41,280
Speaker 1: naked in front of quote unquote strangers, then I was like, oh, well,

1080
00:57:41,360 --> 00:57:43,280
Speaker 1: now I could get into this thing. And then I

1081
00:57:43,680 --> 00:57:45,680
Speaker 1: actually that my first white guy after that, so I

1082
00:57:45,760 --> 00:57:48,400
Speaker 1: really opened up. There's a thing about your body that

1083
00:57:48,520 --> 00:57:50,760
Speaker 1: allows you to be sexual in a new way. I

1084
00:57:50,800 --> 00:57:54,160
Speaker 1: would say the first uh time I did it. Actually,

1085
00:57:54,240 --> 00:57:57,400
Speaker 1: I hate to give a man credit for it, but um,

1086
00:57:58,120 --> 00:58:00,600
Speaker 1: it was the guy that I've shared on the podcast

1087
00:58:00,800 --> 00:58:03,840
Speaker 1: that actually got me to piss on him because I

1088
00:58:03,880 --> 00:58:06,120
Speaker 1: feel like that was like my step into the kink realm.

1089
00:58:06,520 --> 00:58:09,360
Speaker 1: But with him, I would say he opened me up

1090
00:58:09,400 --> 00:58:12,720
Speaker 1: because we literally would go to sex stores and have

1091
00:58:12,920 --> 00:58:16,440
Speaker 1: conversations about what waste not only make me squirt, but

1092
00:58:16,560 --> 00:58:19,760
Speaker 1: he was so focused on me feeling pleasure and me

1093
00:58:20,080 --> 00:58:24,200
Speaker 1: coming and meet orgasm me and he was my first

1094
00:58:24,240 --> 00:58:27,960
Speaker 1: partner to show that my orgasm matter too. And then

1095
00:58:28,040 --> 00:58:30,400
Speaker 1: it wasn't all about pleasing the man. It wasn't all

1096
00:58:30,440 --> 00:58:33,880
Speaker 1: about his come shot. It was also about mine. And

1097
00:58:34,040 --> 00:58:36,920
Speaker 1: so I think from us not only going to the

1098
00:58:37,000 --> 00:58:40,720
Speaker 1: sex store together but openly talking about the sex allowed

1099
00:58:40,760 --> 00:58:43,360
Speaker 1: me to just be like, I like how comfortable we

1100
00:58:43,440 --> 00:58:46,120
Speaker 1: could talk about sex before we have it and after.

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00:58:49,160 --> 00:58:53,200
Speaker 1: I love laughing, love laughing during sex. I think, who's

1102
00:58:53,200 --> 00:58:57,280
Speaker 1: the Slovenian guy fuck that I used to peg him? Well,

1103
00:58:57,600 --> 00:58:59,440
Speaker 1: it wasn't a full stop because like I didn't have

1104
00:58:59,520 --> 00:59:01,160
Speaker 1: it at the time, but I used to like sucking

1105
00:59:01,200 --> 00:59:02,960
Speaker 1: in the asd with like this dildo and we were

1106
00:59:03,080 --> 00:59:04,960
Speaker 1: laughing at I was laughing about something once because like

1107
00:59:04,960 --> 00:59:07,800
Speaker 1: I bought my head and he was like, you just said.

1108
00:59:07,960 --> 00:59:10,920
Speaker 1: You just said last episode you ain't like the comedy

1109
00:59:10,920 --> 00:59:12,760
Speaker 1: because Mondigga said the joke in the middle of the

1110
00:59:12,800 --> 00:59:15,280
Speaker 1: same I said, if someone told me a joke, I

1111
00:59:15,360 --> 00:59:17,480
Speaker 1: mean he's been over there, like, wait, bit, you don't

1112
00:59:17,640 --> 00:59:20,520
Speaker 1: flip the script this episode, I'm not. I don't need that.

1113
00:59:20,600 --> 00:59:23,080
Speaker 1: But I don't I don't need a full stand up routine.

1114
00:59:23,120 --> 00:59:28,800
Speaker 1: While we was thinking, you know, like if we you

1115
00:59:28,880 --> 00:59:34,160
Speaker 1: see she's switching up and I laughed during sex because

1116
00:59:34,200 --> 00:59:37,439
Speaker 1: we like bumped. Heg but you said you were turned

1117
00:59:37,440 --> 00:59:39,000
Speaker 1: around and you were like, what was it? And no,

1118
00:59:39,240 --> 00:59:43,840
Speaker 1: he was thinking of a joke. It wasn't a mutual act.

1119
00:59:44,320 --> 00:59:46,080
Speaker 1: But then I laughed after when he told me, and

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00:59:46,360 --> 00:59:48,560
Speaker 1: I just told him, do you want to Darius? He said,

1121
00:59:48,600 --> 00:59:50,600
Speaker 1: not funny. You can't use my jokes on me. I said, what,

1122
00:59:50,680 --> 00:59:52,960
Speaker 1: God damn was he in you when you asked him

1123
00:59:53,000 --> 00:59:57,440
Speaker 1: what the joke was? Yeah? Actually, did he tell you

1124
00:59:59,000 --> 01:00:01,560
Speaker 1: after the fact, because I just kept saying, I know

1125
01:00:01,640 --> 01:00:02,960
Speaker 1: you want to boot hole, you want to get a

1126
01:00:03,000 --> 01:00:05,040
Speaker 1: nas you want to get a name. Really say booty hole?

1127
01:00:05,440 --> 01:00:07,880
Speaker 1: You say that when you're getting fucked? Or is that

1128
01:00:07,960 --> 01:00:09,680
Speaker 1: like a horrible decision? I say you can put it.

1129
01:00:10,240 --> 01:00:12,520
Speaker 1: You can put it back there, like it's open for you.

1130
01:00:13,160 --> 01:00:17,960
Speaker 1: I don't say you can put it back there, but

1131
01:00:18,160 --> 01:00:21,160
Speaker 1: your but your tone of voice and your demeanor changes,

1132
01:00:21,240 --> 01:00:29,280
Speaker 1: you can put it back there, back there? What yo

1133
01:00:29,880 --> 01:00:33,160
Speaker 1: know what I do? Man? Do you want to say

1134
01:00:33,200 --> 01:00:35,600
Speaker 1: I got a white girl voice? Do you say, body,

1135
01:00:36,720 --> 01:00:39,439
Speaker 1: say you can put it back there? Yeah? You really

1136
01:00:39,440 --> 01:00:42,240
Speaker 1: went from booty to put it back there? Back there?

1137
01:00:43,680 --> 01:00:54,440
Speaker 1: So you don't like back there? Make a right? Use

1138
01:00:54,520 --> 01:00:58,680
Speaker 1: more lube? No? I do be telling him that you

1139
01:00:58,760 --> 01:01:02,960
Speaker 1: need some more have No, I guess you don't need

1140
01:01:02,960 --> 01:01:04,920
Speaker 1: it because it's leather clean. What's the quarter or was

1141
01:01:05,000 --> 01:01:07,360
Speaker 1: he an yes it is? Maybe I do need it

1142
01:01:07,360 --> 01:01:10,040
Speaker 1: because I'll be wearing on my little foe. I hope

1143
01:01:10,040 --> 01:01:11,280
Speaker 1: you clean it, and I hope you take it up.

1144
01:01:12,160 --> 01:01:14,800
Speaker 1: I do to wait? Was there a tip there that

1145
01:01:14,840 --> 01:01:17,480
Speaker 1: we are getting a wait, I'm putting a clip note

1146
01:01:17,640 --> 01:01:23,200
Speaker 1: that we are my bottle? Put it back there? You're annoying?

1147
01:01:23,600 --> 01:01:27,360
Speaker 1: Are you fucking kidding me? Many does nothing by talking

1148
01:01:27,400 --> 01:01:30,800
Speaker 1: about and you're telling me that my white boys. The

1149
01:01:31,080 --> 01:01:34,080
Speaker 1: most nigga ship you say on this podcast, bow and

1150
01:01:34,240 --> 01:01:37,120
Speaker 1: you actually not nigga ship. That is my shoe. You say,

1151
01:01:37,440 --> 01:01:39,960
Speaker 1: put it back there? Put it back there? Is that? Better?

1152
01:01:40,480 --> 01:01:43,760
Speaker 1: Put it back there? Now? Many because now put a

1153
01:01:43,840 --> 01:01:46,520
Speaker 1: bike now? I want to don't you to call that nigga?

1154
01:01:46,520 --> 01:01:48,000
Speaker 1: When the cameras come up and I want to ask,

1155
01:01:48,160 --> 01:01:50,960
Speaker 1: does she really say put it back there? Put it

1156
01:01:51,040 --> 01:01:54,200
Speaker 1: back there? Like? Do you could it? Put it like?

1157
01:01:54,360 --> 01:01:57,440
Speaker 1: You do? Not want to say in my ass? I

1158
01:01:57,480 --> 01:02:01,080
Speaker 1: mean I sometimes say that when you're saying this, like

1159
01:02:01,440 --> 01:02:04,000
Speaker 1: do you think about what you're eating the night before? No?

1160
01:02:04,200 --> 01:02:06,960
Speaker 1: I told you like sometimes especially because it depends if

1161
01:02:07,000 --> 01:02:08,840
Speaker 1: we had like a game night or a cook for him.

1162
01:02:09,160 --> 01:02:12,280
Speaker 1: A lot of what we do we have that's like

1163
01:02:12,320 --> 01:02:15,680
Speaker 1: a false just like what we're doing a game night tonight.

1164
01:02:15,760 --> 01:02:17,200
Speaker 1: He's like, man, you got you know I said, I

1165
01:02:17,240 --> 01:02:19,040
Speaker 1: want to teach you how to play face bro, I

1166
01:02:19,080 --> 01:02:20,680
Speaker 1: forgot a lot of the rules. We gotta teacher how

1167
01:02:20,680 --> 01:02:22,880
Speaker 1: to play. You know. She don't want to play space

1168
01:02:22,920 --> 01:02:24,080
Speaker 1: and tell you something. I don't know how to play

1169
01:02:24,080 --> 01:02:27,280
Speaker 1: space either, are you? Do you know where I grew up?

1170
01:02:27,400 --> 01:02:31,160
Speaker 1: Is this color again? You see that you just play. No.

1171
01:02:31,760 --> 01:02:33,680
Speaker 1: I started playing, you know, and niggas like you can't

1172
01:02:33,680 --> 01:02:35,760
Speaker 1: do back, and I was like, what the lost there

1173
01:02:35,800 --> 01:02:37,880
Speaker 1: are rules. I grew up in the woods of Massachusetts,

1174
01:02:37,920 --> 01:02:39,680
Speaker 1: Like we didn't like me and my nigga be going

1175
01:02:39,720 --> 01:02:41,400
Speaker 1: back and forth. But now we got the rules set

1176
01:02:41,440 --> 01:02:43,520
Speaker 1: me and we bring Uno to the nude beach, like,

1177
01:02:43,600 --> 01:02:45,440
Speaker 1: you know, is our game. But I told him I

1178
01:02:45,480 --> 01:02:49,680
Speaker 1: want to teach him how to play face ten face, right,

1179
01:02:51,080 --> 01:02:52,560
Speaker 1: you don't have the patience with face. All right, you

1180
01:02:52,640 --> 01:02:55,720
Speaker 1: guys know at this point, we're about to make our

1181
01:02:55,720 --> 01:02:57,360
Speaker 1: own game, giving all this free promo. It's gonna be

1182
01:02:57,400 --> 01:03:00,720
Speaker 1: called put it back There. Might be a good game.

1183
01:03:02,160 --> 01:03:04,200
Speaker 1: Oh it could be like an operation. Yeah, put it

1184
01:03:04,240 --> 01:03:09,920
Speaker 1: back there. Okay, we're not anyways, guys on ship. Hopefully

1185
01:03:10,040 --> 01:03:12,640
Speaker 1: there is some There is some merch left. If you

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01:03:12,760 --> 01:03:17,200
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1191
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Speaker 1: one that you guys saw last week on Wheezy that

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01:03:45,360 --> 01:03:49,280
Speaker 1: said Monday's are my favorite iron and saying I just

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Speaker 1: love it when you guys put it back there, Thank

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Speaker 1: you guys with a five minute clip. This five minute

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Speaker 1: all caught up on Horrible Decisions. We have over ninety

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Speaker 1: bonus clip because I'm a hunt. Motherfucking this has been

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Speaker 1: you had another episode of horrible Decisions. But I do

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01:04:44,640 --> 01:04:49,000
Speaker 1: want to bring this conversation into my point, um, and

1217
01:04:49,040 --> 01:04:51,600
Speaker 1: I think it's very important specifically to any of our

1218
01:04:51,640 --> 01:04:57,520
Speaker 1: listeners that are dating someone, uh the underlying thing which

1219
01:04:57,560 --> 01:05:01,160
Speaker 1: again we blamed everybody through the whole season except for

1220
01:05:01,320 --> 01:05:04,560
Speaker 1: the person who was the clear suspect, which is crazy.

1221
01:05:04,960 --> 01:05:07,960
Speaker 1: But I wanted to bring up how to know that

1222
01:05:08,040 --> 01:05:14,360
Speaker 1: you're dating a narcissist? Because Nicole Kidman's character was a psychologist, uh,

1223
01:05:14,440 --> 01:05:20,919
Speaker 1: specifically a uh marital couple psychologists. Uh. And so what's

1224
01:05:20,960 --> 01:05:24,560
Speaker 1: crazy is you see that she was very aware in

1225
01:05:24,760 --> 01:05:27,439
Speaker 1: reading the signs of what type of partners she had,

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01:05:27,840 --> 01:05:30,640
Speaker 1: and so I wanted to share that and maybe weezy

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01:05:30,720 --> 01:05:33,280
Speaker 1: if we can go into maybe you know, having the

1228
01:05:33,360 --> 01:05:36,120
Speaker 1: conversation regarding maybe what someone should do if they're in

1229
01:05:36,200 --> 01:05:40,840
Speaker 1: this situation. So what is a narcissist? Um? And again

1230
01:05:41,200 --> 01:05:43,040
Speaker 1: you may not know that you're even with one, but

1231
01:05:43,680 --> 01:05:46,800
Speaker 1: hear me out here lack of empathy for others, an

1232
01:05:46,920 --> 01:05:51,360
Speaker 1: inflated sense of importance, a deep need for excessive attention

1233
01:05:51,440 --> 01:05:56,280
Speaker 1: and admiration, and perpetually troubled relationships. Uh So, maybe someone

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01:05:56,360 --> 01:05:59,000
Speaker 1: who's not close with their family, or you notice that

1235
01:05:59,080 --> 01:06:02,120
Speaker 1: they fall out with all of their friends that you've

1236
01:06:02,160 --> 01:06:04,600
Speaker 1: met and you don't understand why they don't have the

1237
01:06:04,720 --> 01:06:09,880
Speaker 1: same friends, or uh, someone who constantly makes you feel

1238
01:06:09,960 --> 01:06:12,960
Speaker 1: like you're doing wrong. So here's some of the things.

1239
01:06:13,000 --> 01:06:20,560
Speaker 1: The lack of infinity, empathy, manipulative projection, emotionally cold and

1240
01:06:20,680 --> 01:06:22,600
Speaker 1: something that Weezy and I have talked about a lot,

1241
01:06:22,800 --> 01:06:26,680
Speaker 1: gas lighting, and also someone who never takes responsibility for

1242
01:06:26,760 --> 01:06:30,720
Speaker 1: the girls listening. If you want someone who is currently

1243
01:06:31,240 --> 01:06:34,760
Speaker 1: the personification of someone who is a narcissist, y'all know

1244
01:06:34,800 --> 01:06:36,760
Speaker 1: I'm gonna bring it back the same way Wheezy brings

1245
01:06:36,840 --> 01:06:40,560
Speaker 1: up uh sex in the City. Real Housewives of Atlanta,

1246
01:06:41,200 --> 01:06:45,960
Speaker 1: Drew's husband Ralph is in the first two to three

1247
01:06:46,040 --> 01:06:52,240
Speaker 1: episodes completely personifying a fucking narcissist. And if you look

1248
01:06:52,280 --> 01:06:55,480
Speaker 1: at Ralph and you're like, oh my god, my partner

1249
01:06:55,560 --> 01:06:59,800
Speaker 1: does things like this, you may be dating a narcissist. Yeah,

1250
01:07:00,360 --> 01:07:04,680
Speaker 1: I I've definitely dated some narcissists before. I will say

1251
01:07:05,560 --> 01:07:09,000
Speaker 1: something a little problematic here. I kind of hate the

1252
01:07:09,120 --> 01:07:13,360
Speaker 1: term gaslighting. I feel like it's too new and something

1253
01:07:13,480 --> 01:07:15,920
Speaker 1: that's just kind of thrown around, Like I feel like

1254
01:07:15,960 --> 01:07:17,880
Speaker 1: people have said I've gaslighted them, and I'm like, bitch,

1255
01:07:17,920 --> 01:07:20,120
Speaker 1: I don't even know what I'm doing. Like what they

1256
01:07:20,160 --> 01:07:22,040
Speaker 1: could listen to a whole episode you did a we

1257
01:07:22,120 --> 01:07:24,440
Speaker 1: did a whole like you had a whole breakdown of

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01:07:24,520 --> 01:07:27,640
Speaker 1: what gaslighting means. Yeah, I'm saying like I hate it

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Speaker 1: in terms of like how people are abusing the term. However, gaslighting,

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Speaker 1: as far as it comes to a narcissist, is such

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Speaker 1: a gift that you almost can't call it out because

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Speaker 1: when it's it is emotional abuse, but it's to the

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Speaker 1: point where you have no idea that it's happening, right,

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Speaker 1: Like you constantly feel like you're guilty of something. And

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Speaker 1: I think that we saw this in the Undoing with

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Speaker 1: to Grant. I forgot his name in the movie in

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Speaker 1: the show, but even when I did in the Sun,

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Speaker 1: I did like, could he have done it? And I

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Speaker 1: was good, he've done it right, And I think that

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Speaker 1: that was the turning point where she realized, Oh, if

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Speaker 1: he's willing to throw our son in there to to

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Speaker 1: claim his innocence, something is emotionally and mentally wrong with him.

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Speaker 1: I did want to read uh this for those of

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Speaker 1: you who may be using gas lighting and really not

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Speaker 1: sure if you're using it right. Um. I really like

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Speaker 1: this breakdown of what it is. This comes from man

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Speaker 1: of Many dot com. It says gas lighting qualifies as

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Speaker 1: a form of emotional abuse that involves denying a person's

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Speaker 1: experience and making statements such as that never happened or

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Speaker 1: you were too sensitive. The gas lighter uses techniques such

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Speaker 1: as withholding or stone walling, contradict contradicting, or diversion when

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Speaker 1: you bring up something that concerns you and your partner

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Speaker 1: turns it into something you said years before, or deflects

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Speaker 1: it and describes it as conspiracy. They also nimize your

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Speaker 1: feelings and deny the events that definitely occurred. The damage

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Speaker 1: of gaslighting is that it is confusing, isolating, and often

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Speaker 1: results in you questioning your own reality. You may find

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Speaker 1: yourself constantly apologizing and no longer is relaxed and joyful

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Speaker 1: as you once were. I just like that because it

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Speaker 1: takes into kind of the cause and effect of gas lighting.

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Speaker 1: Uh so, uh, if you feel like you know you're

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Speaker 1: not crazy and your man is trying to make you

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Speaker 1: believe something that you know to be true is not true,

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Speaker 1: he's gaslighting and wanting to make you feel like you're crazy. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And I think Nicole Kidman's character was almost driving herself

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Speaker 1: crazy with wanting to believe her her husband that she

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Speaker 1: believed she knew was innocent, but also reading all the

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Speaker 1: signs that nigga, you probably did this ship. You know

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Speaker 1: what's funny when the mom said that when she called

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Speaker 1: her and was like, he killed his sister, I was like,

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Speaker 1: now that's still can't be him because it's twee nigger.

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Speaker 1: I was really thinking the the the girl who died,

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Speaker 1: her son killed her because he found her. I was

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Speaker 1: damn many, which then I thought, Then I thought, Nicole,

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Speaker 1: the granddaddy did it for sure the girl. Then I

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Speaker 1: was thinking that the granddaddy and the son killed girl.

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Speaker 1: I was I thought, literally everybody was the moment doing

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Speaker 1: all that ship. And it's funny because people were actually

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Speaker 1: mad at the at the ending of Hugh Grant being

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Speaker 1: the person. But I thought it was brilliant because I

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Speaker 1: thought it was brilliant too, Because this is um and

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Speaker 1: if you guys remember, if anybody watched the Ted Bundy documentary,

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Speaker 1: this is exactly what happened with Ted Bundy.