Speaker 1: Says, Hey, Granger, this is Jesse from Azel, Texas. I
Speaker 1: just wanted to ask you if you ever struggle with
Speaker 1: depression and anxiety from time to time, and if you do,
Speaker 1: how do you deal with it. I'm in a really
Speaker 1: dark place in my life right now. My dad and
Speaker 1: grandpa were both killed in a car accident three months
Speaker 1: ago in Dallas. Other than my wife and kids, those
Speaker 1: were the two most important people in my life and
Speaker 1: now they're both gone at the same time. Why for what?
Speaker 1: So many good things to talk about today and one
Speaker 1: of my favorite people to talk about it with, Bernie Calcote.
Speaker 1: I'm back on the podcast. You keep asking me, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna keep coming. I'm not asking you. In fact, I'm
Speaker 1: like you again. But people keep people keep emailing. I
Speaker 1: want more Bernie. People comment and say, bring Bernie back,
Speaker 1: and so that's what I'm doing. You could email me
Speaker 1: anything you want Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. If
Speaker 1: you have a question, I will answer it, and Bernie
Speaker 1: is one of the best people to talk about your
Speaker 1: questions with. We go back twenty plus years a friendship
Speaker 1: of dissecting life's problems of our own together. We've had
Speaker 1: We've sat around many times and had a beer or
Speaker 1: two and discussed something deep in our lives, or many
Speaker 1: phone calls. I've called you and said, Bernie, I got
Speaker 1: talked to you about something, man, something going on in
Speaker 1: my life. Can you help me? And you've done the
Speaker 1: same back to me. And I love your advice. And
Speaker 1: what's odd about Granger and I is that although our
Speaker 1: lives look very different, I feel like we have experienced
Speaker 1: some things just across the board that are very similar
Speaker 1: in life. And so that's that's very much helped us.
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, you're going through that, man, I'm going
Speaker 1: through that. Oh you dude, you turned me onto this
Speaker 1: and this, you know, So yeah, we have I think
Speaker 1: that's a good way to put it, because guys, we
Speaker 1: don't have answers for you. We can dissect your questions
Speaker 1: and bring our experience and discuss them. That's that's what
Speaker 1: we can do. And we hope that you take, you know,
Speaker 1: some encouragement and some inspiration from it to dig into
Speaker 1: God's word, dig into community, find some stillness, and that's
Speaker 1: where you're gonna find your answers, find your way out
Speaker 1: of being stuck or trying to make a hard decision
Speaker 1: or trying to get it started. How do we start
Speaker 1: something that we've been wanted to do? And like you
Speaker 1: said last week, what this would be really cool is
Speaker 1: if we one day we hosted a live podcast me
Speaker 1: and you and answered people's questions live, had a live
Speaker 1: studio audience and people could stand up on a microphone
Speaker 1: and just and then you could ask your question, and
Speaker 1: then we could ask a couple back to get the
Speaker 1: full story. But what I want this podcast to be
Speaker 1: wherever you're listening, thank you for thank you for tuning in.
Speaker 1: I want this to feel like we're sitting around a
Speaker 1: campfire and we've cracked a few beers and you say,
Speaker 1: can I ask you guys something something I've been dealing with,
Speaker 1: or something I've been wondering, or something I've been worried about,
Speaker 1: And we could go, huh, let's let's dissect this and
Speaker 1: take a long time to answer it. And so some
Speaker 1: great questions lines up lined up today. Can I do
Speaker 1: a quick shout out Josh Thacker, my brother in law,
Speaker 1: faithful listener, nice ye guy, loves you, loves everything you do,
Speaker 1: and was thrilled as much as me when you asked
Speaker 1: me to come on. But I saw him just the
Speaker 1: other day and he's just so encouraging and it encouraged
Speaker 1: me just the way that he talked about this podcast
Speaker 1: and what we get to do, and so just love
Speaker 1: you man. Tune up. That's awesome. If if you if
Speaker 1: this podcast means anything to you, if you've listened before
Speaker 1: and you hear a question that maybe you're going through,
Speaker 1: if someone else is going through something similar, the best
Speaker 1: thing you could do for Bernie and I is share
Speaker 1: it with that person. Just say hey, dude, because this
Speaker 1: is what I do with other with other things YouTube
Speaker 1: videos or podcasts. Send it to your buddy and say hey,
Speaker 1: start at minute eighteen thirty and do that's your life
Speaker 1: right now, brilliant. So we would love nothing more than
Speaker 1: to grow this audience on here for that reason. It's
Speaker 1: so fulfilling for us. By the ways. One time someone
Speaker 1: said on a comment and they said, Granger, be careful
Speaker 1: dealing with these people and their questions, because you don't
Speaker 1: want to get pulled down into this dark world of
Speaker 1: dealing with their anxiety. And I just I just thought, man,
Speaker 1: that's my calling to some level, like bring it on.
Speaker 1: I want to get down in the dirt with some
Speaker 1: of these questions and into it, because that's that's a
Speaker 1: fulfillment of some sort to me, to be able to
Speaker 1: dig in. I'm not worried about me losing my sense
Speaker 1: of reality by dealing with all these other questions. I'm
Speaker 1: not worried about it. I know you're not. Yep. So
Speaker 1: I'm gonna start with at least one or two light
Speaker 1: questions starting with this one once again. The email is
Speaker 1: Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. The first question comes
Speaker 1: from Jacob that says, Hey, Granger my name is Jake.
Speaker 1: I'm from Grand Island, Nebraska. I'm twenty nine years old.
Speaker 1: My question is have you ever done any fishing in Nebraska?
Speaker 1: If so, where? If not, you should check out some
Speaker 1: of the canals here. If you're into catfish, what are
Speaker 1: your favorite things to fish for and what type of
Speaker 1: big fish are there in Texas. Thanks for your podcast.
Speaker 1: I enjoy watching. Thank you, Jake. I have not. I've
Speaker 1: been to Nebraska many many times to tour, but I've
Speaker 1: never fished there and I didn't even really know about
Speaker 1: these canals he's speaking of sounds cool. I've never even
Speaker 1: been to Nebraska, So, dude, Nebraska is I'm going to
Speaker 1: tag along next time Granger goes that you should, actually,
Speaker 1: because if it wasn't for touring, I could say that
Speaker 1: I could start a lot of things with that sentence
Speaker 1: if it wasn't for touring. But I've gotten to see
Speaker 1: the flyover states that as a Texas boy, I typically
Speaker 1: wouldn't see, like Iowa, Nebraska, Illinois, Wyoming, Ohio, South Dakota,
Speaker 1: North Dakota, Kansas. There's a lot of these places that
Speaker 1: just the bread basket of America, just good people and beautiful,
Speaker 1: beautiful places. And you go to in the summertime when
Speaker 1: it's everything is starting to turn brown in Texas and
Speaker 1: you go to Iowa, Nebraska, and it's just rolling, beautiful
Speaker 1: green cornfields and a red barn on a hill with
Speaker 1: a white farmhouse and a windmill, and you're just like,
Speaker 1: that's America right there. Yeah, that is America right there.
Speaker 1: It I've never fished in Nebraska. To answer question Jake,
Speaker 1: I probably should. In Texas, we have a lot of
Speaker 1: largemouth bass. Of course, we have a lot of catfish.
Speaker 1: What we have interesting in Texas that's a little bit
Speaker 1: different than Nebraska is we have a coast, and so
Speaker 1: we also have I'm not into deep sea fishing, my
Speaker 1: stomach can't handle it. But you're kind of from the
Speaker 1: coast a little bit. You're from Yeah, but I was just,
Speaker 1: you know, a poor boy going to the levee catching
Speaker 1: Flounder's well, it's about what we could do. So that's
Speaker 1: where I read it. Go That's where I was going
Speaker 1: to go. Though it's because regardless of who you are,
Speaker 1: it takes some money to go out deep sea. I
Speaker 1: can't do that. But going to what we call the
Speaker 1: Laguna Madre, which is there's a bay that goes from
Speaker 1: South Texas, Mexico, all the way up through Galveston, and
Speaker 1: there's this space in between. There's usually a long island
Speaker 1: and then there's a space between the island and the
Speaker 1: shore that it's the bay, and it's in many spots
Speaker 1: it's like two to four feet deep the whole way through,
Speaker 1: and there's flounder and redfish and trout and sting ray
Speaker 1: and you could literally walk through it because it's so
Speaker 1: shallow and that Some of the most fun fishing I've
Speaker 1: ever been in my life is take especially if you
Speaker 1: can get on a little flat bottom boat and just
Speaker 1: go out a little bit and you can get into
Speaker 1: some red fish, when they're spawning. Yeah, those are fighting
Speaker 1: fish man. So here. So let me just say here
Speaker 1: is the secret that I never revealed to you guys. Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, Burn is a city boy. Okay, Nation, I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: don't just like off the podcast. Okay, but here's the thing.
Speaker 1: I'm a city boy from a small town, from a
Speaker 1: small town. But that doesn't make doesn't make any how
Speaker 1: are you a city boy from a small town? What
Speaker 1: does that even mean? Because like I lived, I live
Speaker 1: in the city. I've lived in cities. I like the cities.
Speaker 1: I love the city life. I do love. There's there's
Speaker 1: things about like country life, you know, outdoors ee everything
Speaker 1: that I love. But I wasn't raised with my dad
Speaker 1: taking me hunting and fishing. And but I need your help.
Speaker 1: I need your guidance, the king of Yee Nation. I
Speaker 1: need your help to I have a compound bow that
Speaker 1: my wife tells me how to sell because I don't
Speaker 1: know how to shoot it. Can you help me with that? Well? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you've been the ye farm we have where you have
Speaker 1: targets right out here for that just we actually have
Speaker 1: a rack two doors over where we're sitting. That's a
Speaker 1: rack that holds compound boats. Okay, you guys are gonna
Speaker 1: witness this. There's gonna be the slow conversion to I
Speaker 1: know how to do outdoor stuff better than I do now.
Speaker 1: I used I used to fish more than I do.
Speaker 1: But easy, easy, easy, I'm bringing the bow. Next time
Speaker 1: you do the podcast, bring your bow. We'll make sure
Speaker 1: it's set up right. And then we have targets. Right
Speaker 1: out here, Parker goes out for as a stress relief
Speaker 1: and yeah, shoots his compound bow. And that's the That's
Speaker 1: the easiest thing you could have said to me if
Speaker 1: you said I have a fly rod or I have
Speaker 1: a new deer rifle that takes a lot more effort
Speaker 1: to do those things. Well, I want to know how
Speaker 1: to do those things too. I did go fly fishing
Speaker 1: in Park City on the Provo River last September, and
Speaker 1: I caught like five trout. It was it was like
Speaker 1: one of the best experiences ever. I did have a guide,
Speaker 1: but you know, all right, we all got guides in life, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it was really awesome. So I I am from
Speaker 1: the city, I confess, but I'm here to learn more
Speaker 1: about the country boy life. Let's go teach me your
Speaker 1: ways country country life is in your heart, not in
Speaker 1: your closet. We like to say that a lot here.
Speaker 1: It's it's not about there's plenty of country dudes that
Speaker 1: that are trapped because of work and family. Usually they're
Speaker 1: trapped in a concrete jungle. And then there's plenty of
Speaker 1: people that live on farms and ranches that are don't
Speaker 1: know anything about it. Yeah, so there it goes both ways.
Speaker 1: You're right, I know you you're from a small town.
Speaker 1: You just because your dad didn't take you hunting and
Speaker 1: fishing does not change anything about what's in your heart. Right,
Speaker 1: that might have been the best piece of this whole question,
Speaker 1: that what you brought up. Thank you, Jake so Burne.
Speaker 1: Do you want to take the reins here on some
Speaker 1: of these subjects, on these emails that I have? Uh? Yeah, sure. Wow,
Speaker 1: we have pulled in too many directions. Oh, we have
Speaker 1: history question, we have granger I need some advice. We
Speaker 1: have promotion, we have alcoholic veteran needs help. We have
Speaker 1: a please read in all caps, and we have faith
Speaker 1: in friends, fan reactions, we have playing overseas. Some of
Speaker 1: these are ones we didn't answer from last week's podcast.
Speaker 1: When you're here, anything stick out I want to go
Speaker 1: to the first one, but before we do that, I
Speaker 1: want to go to the please read, because I don't
Speaker 1: want people thinking that if they're more creative with their
Speaker 1: subject line, we're going to pick it, We're going to
Speaker 1: It's just, Hey, what do we like that? What are
Speaker 1: we feeling here? Let's go with it, says Hey Grangeer.
Speaker 1: This is Jesse from Azel, Texas. I just wanted to
Speaker 1: ask you if you ever struggle with depression and anxiety
Speaker 1: from time to time, and if you do, how do
Speaker 1: you deal with it. I'm in a really dark place
Speaker 1: in my life right now. My dad and grandpa were
Speaker 1: both killed in a car accident three months ago in Dallas.
Speaker 1: Other than my wife and kids, those were the two
Speaker 1: most important people in my life, and now they're both
Speaker 1: gone at the same time. Why for what? Why couldn't
Speaker 1: they stay here to get to know their grandchildren better.
Speaker 1: It's all part of God's plan, But I still struggle
Speaker 1: with it every day and sometimes it makes life really difficult.
Speaker 1: One thing that does help me is when I'm down.
Speaker 1: When I'm down, it's cranking up dirt road driveway or
Speaker 1: Remington while I'm cruising some back roads in the small towns.
Speaker 1: I know both most of those both of those albums
Speaker 1: better than any of than my own two hands, it says. Anyways,
Speaker 1: thanks for all you do and continue to do. I
Speaker 1: love country things. Keep up the great work, Jesse. Thank you,
Speaker 1: Jesse for your kind words. You didn't have to put
Speaker 1: those in there into this email, but thank you for
Speaker 1: that excellent question, so relevant to human beings, so natural
Speaker 1: for you to feel that way. I'm gonna first of all,
Speaker 1: validate your feelings here and just say it's natural for
Speaker 1: you to lose your dad and your grandpa in a
Speaker 1: car accident three months ago, and it's natural for you
Speaker 1: to say why, for what, Why couldn't they be here
Speaker 1: to get to know their grandchildren. So you are justified
Speaker 1: in thinking that. Now me and Bernie are going to
Speaker 1: take in a new direction. But I first wanted to
Speaker 1: validate this, and I also want to say I'm so
Speaker 1: sorry for your loss. We struggle as humans. We will
Speaker 1: have struggle, we will have suffering, we will have pain.
Speaker 1: If we haven't already or if we're not currently going
Speaker 1: through it, then we will. Why because we're humans and
Speaker 1: that's what's promised in a fallen world. But there's a
Speaker 1: big butt here. We each have our own struggles and
Speaker 1: our own story in our own way. Meaning whatever I've
Speaker 1: gone through and whatever Bernie's gone through, we cannot directly
Speaker 1: relate to losing a dad and a granddad in a
Speaker 1: car accident at the same time, because that is your
Speaker 1: story and that is your pain and your loss. And
Speaker 1: so I'm so sorry that you you had to go
Speaker 1: through that. Do you know where you want to start
Speaker 1: with this guy? Yeah, So I would say a similar sentiment,
Speaker 1: It's just terrible. You're you're still very much in the
Speaker 1: throes of grief, Yeah, which is natural. You you have
Speaker 1: to work through those. I hope that you have God's
Speaker 1: were near to you as hope, as a foundation, as
Speaker 1: a reference, a point of reference to help not answer,
Speaker 1: but to help navigate through that question of why and
Speaker 1: why now and all that. I hope that you have
Speaker 1: community around you. And also, you know, I know that
Speaker 1: when we've lost people that counseling is very helpful to
Speaker 1: help process the feeling of grief and of you know,
Speaker 1: trauma and whatever it is that you're experiencing. So I'll
Speaker 1: first say that, and Grain, I'm not sure which direction
Speaker 1: you want to go, but let me just draw from
Speaker 1: my own experience. There was a time that I had
Speaker 1: to process what I was feeling and what I had experienced.
Speaker 1: And I think I've mentioned this on the podcast before.
Speaker 1: There was a time where I had to let my
Speaker 1: feelings go and I had to remember the standards that
Speaker 1: I had for my life, and that my standards were
Speaker 1: going to dictate my life, mind, body, and spirit. My
Speaker 1: standards were going to dictate how I live those out
Speaker 1: versus letting my feelings continue to be the thing that
Speaker 1: talked to me. You know, that directed my actions. And
Speaker 1: I know that everybody has the timing of that is
Speaker 1: going to be very different for each of us. For me,
Speaker 1: there was, you know, recently, there was a very clear moment,
Speaker 1: and I remember journaling about all of this, and I
Speaker 1: remember waking up one day and making the choice today,
Speaker 1: I'm choosing my standards like this, you know, from my
Speaker 1: form my mind and protecting my mind and building a
Speaker 1: strong mind. Here is my standard. My spirit, the word
Speaker 1: of God is my standard. My my body, my exercise
Speaker 1: is my standard. So I'm not just gonna hit snooze
Speaker 1: and stay in bed anymore. No, I'm gonna get up.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna read God's word. I'm gonna meditate,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna work out, I'm going to like continue to
Speaker 1: do these things. And through that and the relationships around me,
Speaker 1: I help. It helped me to find some healing. Absolutely.
Speaker 1: So do you have any grandparents left or grandpaus? I
Speaker 1: have one grandmother, yeah, yes, so when grandmother left, yeah,
Speaker 1: I do not have I do not have my grandfather's left,
Speaker 1: and I do not have my dad left. So one
Speaker 1: thing I could, Jesse, I could relate to you in
Speaker 1: fact that I don't have a dad or a granddad,
Speaker 1: And it does affect me when I think about this
Speaker 1: fairy tale world of the grandpa's. We always think of
Speaker 1: this image of speaking of fishing. We think of grandpa
Speaker 1: fishing with the grandson and they're fishing for catfish on
Speaker 1: the shore and the kid says, Grandpa, tell me about
Speaker 1: the good old days, you know, like it's a Judd's
Speaker 1: country music song. And we think of this just beautiful picture,
Speaker 1: and then we go to our lives and go, well,
Speaker 1: my kids, my kids don't have a grandpa. And then
Speaker 1: even worse than that, I think, man, my dad, my
Speaker 1: dad would have been that guy. He would have been
Speaker 1: the guy to take on fishing and to stand on
Speaker 1: the shore and talk about life. He would have been
Speaker 1: such a great grandpa in that way. And he died,
Speaker 1: and I'm sure that those kind of thoughts are go
Speaker 1: through your mind. Jesse. The best part of your email
Speaker 1: is that you said, I know it's all part of
Speaker 1: God's plan. Unfortunately you added a butt right after that.
Speaker 1: You don't have to add that butt. I understand that
Speaker 1: you struggle. What I want to do for you right now, Jesse,
Speaker 1: is I want to change the why. You said why why,
Speaker 1: and you could put a God at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, why God, why would you do this? This
Speaker 1: was a great little plan we had and you know what,
Speaker 1: this is a great setup and now it's gone. I
Speaker 1: just I want to change the why into a instead
Speaker 1: of why God, change it to what do you need
Speaker 1: from me? Now? God? What do you want from me
Speaker 1: through this? And if you start focusing on that, it
Speaker 1: flips the whole script. Instead of acting like it's his
Speaker 1: fault and he made a bad decision, like did you
Speaker 1: mess up? Well, God doesn't mess up. He doesn't. He
Speaker 1: does not mess up, So you can't think, oh, God,
Speaker 1: you took the wrong one. You took the wrong Grandpa.
Speaker 1: This was perfect, you took my dad, this was a
Speaker 1: good plan. You messed up. Instead, flip the script and go,
Speaker 1: You're always right. So what do I need to do
Speaker 1: with this, this plan, this purpose, this life that you
Speaker 1: have now rolled out for me? That's a little bit
Speaker 1: different than I thought it was going to be? What
Speaker 1: do I do with this now? And it flips the
Speaker 1: script and puts it back on you to start listening
Speaker 1: to more and following more of that purpose and that plan.
Speaker 1: And there's a million directions you can go. But when
Speaker 1: you flip it from you messed up? God, why'd you
Speaker 1: do this? Which is a sentiment that everyone could relate to,
Speaker 1: you flip it to Okay, this is the hand I
Speaker 1: was dealt. Now what am I going to do with this?
Speaker 1: How am I going to carry on Dad and Grandpa's
Speaker 1: legacy and teach my kids? Where do I go from here?
Speaker 1: And your whole world opens up at that point when
Speaker 1: you realize that it wasn't an accident that your grandpa
Speaker 1: and dad died. Now, a lot of people are going
Speaker 1: to disagree when they hear that, But I believe that
Speaker 1: God is sovereign, He's controlled, He controls everything. He has
Speaker 1: everything for a plan. He's God the Living because to God,
Speaker 1: all people are alive all the time. There is no death.
Speaker 1: I look at it like this. Have I told you
Speaker 1: the fish, the fish and they We've talked a lot
Speaker 1: about fish, the fish, and the mud puddle. So it's like,
Speaker 1: look at it this way. This is how God sees it.
Speaker 1: Because God doesn't see death. He sees it us as
Speaker 1: eternal beings. So right now we're all in this muddy puddle.
Speaker 1: And I noticed this last summer when I was driving
Speaker 1: down this country road to get to the farm. There's
Speaker 1: this muddy puddle in the middle of a creek that's
Speaker 1: starting to go dry. And in Texas, this creek will
Speaker 1: go all the way dry and eventually it'll be completely
Speaker 1: gone and dried up, will be nothing left. So I
Speaker 1: saw this puddle and I saw fish in the puddle,
Speaker 1: and I was thinking, those fish don't know that they're
Speaker 1: all going to die in that puddle. And it's like
Speaker 1: if I was going to play God in that situation,
Speaker 1: and I go and get one fish out a time,
Speaker 1: and I take the fish and I put it in
Speaker 1: a bucket and I take it to a beautiful, big
Speaker 1: lake that never goes dry, that has abundant food, abundant
Speaker 1: every resources. It's perfect. And I take What would the
Speaker 1: other fish say, is I pick up one and take
Speaker 1: it to the lake. They'd say, oh no, why you're God.
Speaker 1: He's gone, he's got forever. We're we're gonna miss him,
Speaker 1: We're never gonna see him again. And me at playing
Speaker 1: God in this situation, I'm like, would you just hush,
Speaker 1: I'm just taking you one at a time to the lake.
Speaker 1: The lake you'll see everybody again. It's abundant, it's beautiful.
Speaker 1: You're living in a mud puddle. You're living in a
Speaker 1: tragic mud puddle that is going dry, and I'm going
Speaker 1: to dry up. And I feel like, in a way,
Speaker 1: God is taking one at a time. He takes us,
Speaker 1: and he takes us out of this terrible mud hole
Speaker 1: and that we think is perfect because it's our world,
Speaker 1: it's only thing we know, and it puts us in
Speaker 1: the lake. And if you realize that your dad and
Speaker 1: your grandpa were never meant to do anything past this point.
Speaker 1: This was always their story. It was always written this way,
Speaker 1: that that car crash that happened with them was always
Speaker 1: supposed to happen that way, then you don't live in
Speaker 1: this weird alternate reality of Dad would have been. Dad
Speaker 1: would have been sixty seven today and you would have
Speaker 1: been at my son's graduation and he's there's the empty
Speaker 1: chair where he would have been sitting, and no, that's impossible, right,
Speaker 1: but never was going to happen. Yeah, now that's that.
Speaker 1: I love when you speak in parables, dude, I love it.
Speaker 1: I'm serious. I think that we all understand when it's
Speaker 1: spoken in parables. That's so good. So don't be the
Speaker 1: fish in the mud puddle. That's, you know, asking why.
Speaker 1: The other part of this is it's completely okay to
Speaker 1: be where you are. You're three months after a tragic
Speaker 1: car accident. Just keep processing, keep pushing in. And I'd
Speaker 1: venture to say, Jesse, right, yep. Venture to say Jesse
Speaker 1: that there was a point in your life where things
Speaker 1: were pretty good and you said a prayer God, I
Speaker 1: just I want to know you more deeply. Could have
Speaker 1: been as simple as that. What suffering and struggle and
Speaker 1: trials and these things do to us is they make
Speaker 1: us more dependent on God. They help us to know
Speaker 1: him more, so we in a way, he's kind of
Speaker 1: answering our prayers. It just sometimes doesn't come the way
Speaker 1: we want because it's like, oh, God, I want to
Speaker 1: know you more. I know what you've been through in
Speaker 1: your life that you would say, Man, I know God
Speaker 1: so much more deeply through this than when everything was good,
Speaker 1: because we tend to not be as dependent, but when
Speaker 1: we are just like stripped, vulnerable, hurting and pain, it's
Speaker 1: like weird. God's like, hey, you know, come to me
Speaker 1: all who are weird. I'll give you rest, like I'll
Speaker 1: be your comforter. I'll give you everything that you need.
Speaker 1: But the problem is is we come to God with
Speaker 1: most of what we need, we think, and so He's like, well,
Speaker 1: I can't help you. But if you're asking, then I'm
Speaker 1: going to take this away. I'm going to take this away.
Speaker 1: I'm going to take this away. Then I can answer
Speaker 1: your parer. That's it. So, Jesse, here's your task. What
Speaker 1: do you do now? You take it one day at
Speaker 1: a time. You comfort your mother, You comfort your grandmother
Speaker 1: she's still around. You give them what you need. You
Speaker 1: serve them, serve your mother who's now a widow. You
Speaker 1: be the rock that your family needs. Let your wife
Speaker 1: and your kids look to you and say, man, Dad
Speaker 1: lost his dad and his grandpa, and he's still there
Speaker 1: for us. He's still strong, he's still the backbone. He's
Speaker 1: still emotional about it. Every once in a while I
Speaker 1: see him cry about it. He's real, he's vulnerable, but
Speaker 1: he's not going to give up on us. He's not
Speaker 1: going to lose his mind. He's not going to quit
Speaker 1: on this family. He's not going to quit on his
Speaker 1: own mother. He's taking care of her, he's bringing her meals,
Speaker 1: he's bringing her over, he's trying to comfort her. That's
Speaker 1: your task, one day at a time. And what happens is, Buddy,
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, the year goes by and you go,
Speaker 1: it's the year anniversary of Dad and Grandpa. And you
Speaker 1: look back and you go, am I a little bit
Speaker 1: stronger than I was at ground zero? Day one? Yes?
Speaker 1: And then you keep going another day, another day, another week,
Speaker 1: another month, and then you're two years in. Then you go,
Speaker 1: I miss Dad and Grandpa, but I'm not as sad
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Speaker 1: And then you go, I'm smiling. I'm thinking of the
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Speaker 1: You go, you know what's funny, Your grandpa love that
Speaker 1: chocolate cake too. He loved it. You're just like your grandpa.
Speaker 1: And then they smile and you smile, and you're you're
Speaker 1: spreading that joy and you're you're moving forward. You're never
Speaker 1: gonna move on because they're always a part of you.
Speaker 1: You're never gonna forget them. You're never gonna separate further
Speaker 1: and further till you think I can't even remember my dad.
Speaker 1: That's never You're gonna go to your grave, buddy. You're
Speaker 1: gonna go to your grave with a good, strong memory
Speaker 1: of your dad and his impact on your life. And
Speaker 1: we said on the last podcast, the level, the level
Speaker 1: of your grief that you have for them equals the
Speaker 1: level of love that you had for them. So the
Speaker 1: fact that you're grieving means the fact that you loved them,
Speaker 1: and that is infinitely more valuable. That you loved them
Speaker 1: and then they impacted you and you carry on. Now
Speaker 1: that legacy, that's your blood, man, that is your genetics
Speaker 1: that you're carrying on their name. You're passing on to
Speaker 1: your kids, and that is powerful, and that is how
Speaker 1: you fight this this anxiety and depression day by day
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Speaker 1: pulled in too many directions. That was the one from
Speaker 1: the last time in right now Okay, says hey Grader.
Speaker 1: My name is Cody. I'm from upstate of South Carolina.
Speaker 1: I came across some of your YouTube videos and started
Speaker 1: looking for your music and found your podcast. I'm really
Speaker 1: thankful for you guys and the way you take a
Speaker 1: stand in your faith and giving more believers hope. I
Speaker 1: have a wife of eight years, two sons aged six
Speaker 1: and two. I also work a full time job where
Speaker 1: I'm a supervisor. As my kids get older and my
Speaker 1: job gets more and more demanding, I feel pulled in
Speaker 1: so many directions that I just can't breathe. I work
Speaker 1: all day, I come home and cook and do stuff
Speaker 1: with my boys. The boys are really attached to me,
Speaker 1: so I pretty much take care of what they need.
Speaker 1: Then my wife wants me to give her attention and
Speaker 1: do stuff she wants me to get done. Any advice
Speaker 1: on managing time with all this and getting some time
Speaker 1: to breathe, Thanks God bless Cody. We can all relate
Speaker 1: to that, buddy. Yeah, good question, great question. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: sure there's a lot of folks, I mean a lot
Speaker 1: of folks out there, especially in our culture, that are
Speaker 1: stretched thin and stuffed full too much. Yeah, so let's
Speaker 1: dive in a wife of eight years. Yeah, you're also
Speaker 1: in a very this is Cody. You're also Cody in
Speaker 1: a very busy time just of life, right, very like
Speaker 1: you do. You're in a season of life where you
Speaker 1: do have a lot of things and people that are
Speaker 1: gonna be kind of tugging at you, naturally young kids. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're a supervisor, so you also have that means you
Speaker 1: also have a lot of people working under you that
Speaker 1: are depending on you and your leadership, and they're not
Speaker 1: all moving in the same direction, which is probably frustrating.
Speaker 1: You didn't even say any of that, but I just
Speaker 1: know it from you. Being a supervisor. You got boys,
Speaker 1: two boys too, is not easy, especially that two year old.
Speaker 1: He's attached to you. He takes a lot of energy.
Speaker 1: Everyone knows that. Of course your wife wants her attention
Speaker 1: and that yeah, absolutely she wants you to get stuff done. Yes,
Speaker 1: so managing time and still getting time for you to breathe.
Speaker 1: Let's start with anytime I think about time management, I
Speaker 1: always want to go first to time blocking and when
Speaker 1: what I would recommend Cody is going through a seven
Speaker 1: day period one week of first of all, without changing anything,
Speaker 1: without doing anything differently than your current life. Start writing
Speaker 1: down you're a full day and what you're doing and
Speaker 1: how many hours you're doing it, starting when you wake
Speaker 1: up all the way down to lights out. Do that
Speaker 1: seven days, and then review on the eighth day, review
Speaker 1: your previous week and look at where you're putting your time.
Speaker 1: So it could be you know, for you woke up
Speaker 1: at this time and took thirty minutes to make coffee
Speaker 1: brush my teeth, take a shower, get dressed, then you
Speaker 1: give your commute to work. That takes time. Then you
Speaker 1: have you know, you could block out your day, like
Speaker 1: with your lunch break, what does that look like? When
Speaker 1: you get home? What do you do at night? And
Speaker 1: then all the way up to your lights out, look
Speaker 1: at that and you are going to find instantly you're
Speaker 1: gonna look at that and go I literally spent two
Speaker 1: hours doing that, and you'll immediately start finding things that
Speaker 1: you could either eliminate or help to make better. Right, absolutely,
Speaker 1: So let's put it this way, since we were just
Speaker 1: talking about speaking in parables. Let's say you go to
Speaker 1: the gym and you throw the headphones in and you
Speaker 1: walk in and you're like, okay, let's uh maybe walk
Speaker 1: over to the bench. I'm going to do that. And
Speaker 1: then you're like, okay, well, man, my legs are still
Speaker 1: kind of sore, but I need to work those out,
Speaker 1: so I'm going to do that. And then and then
Speaker 1: you're kind of like, man, I don't really know what
Speaker 1: to do next, and so then you know, you just
Speaker 1: kind of work your way around. You kind of get
Speaker 1: frustrated a little bit because you don't have anybody guiding you,
Speaker 1: but you're trying to get a good workout in. You
Speaker 1: don't really feel it's hard to push yourself, so your
Speaker 1: workout is kind of halfway anyway. You you know, have
Speaker 1: a TV at the gym, so you end up just
Speaker 1: watching ESPN for half the time. Right, yep, Well let's
Speaker 1: change that to something more like Granger saying. Let's say
Speaker 1: that you prepare before you go to the gym and
Speaker 1: you talk with somebody else. Hey, I'm trying to make
Speaker 1: this the most the best workout, like can Okay, well
Speaker 1: what do you want to work out? Hey? Well, I
Speaker 1: want to here, here's my goals. Okay, so you have
Speaker 1: to first set your goals right at the gym, and
Speaker 1: then you have you work Okay, here's here's my workout.
Speaker 1: I go on Mondays and this is what I do.
Speaker 1: And you get done with that, and you just feel
Speaker 1: more accomplished. You feel better. You were able to give
Speaker 1: the smaller amount of workouts and exercises you did. Those
Speaker 1: muscle groups were given more attention and worked out better
Speaker 1: knowing that tomorrow I'm going to hit my legs and
Speaker 1: I'm going to give those the attention, and eventually you're
Speaker 1: going to reach your goal. So bringing that back to
Speaker 1: the family and the work and everything you have, you
Speaker 1: have to kind of like establish your goals, like what
Speaker 1: what do you want your family like to look like?
Speaker 1: What kind of involvement do you want to have with
Speaker 1: your kids? What kind of what kind of date nights
Speaker 1: do you want to have? What with work? What is
Speaker 1: your what do you see your supervisor role looking like?
Speaker 1: I think you prepare and then you, like Granger said,
Speaker 1: whenever you are in that thing, you be completely present
Speaker 1: in that thing, knowing that one you're going to serve
Speaker 1: that thing better. Whatever it is, your kids or your job,
Speaker 1: you're going to serve it better being fully present and
Speaker 1: that those other things. You've already prepared a lot of
Speaker 1: time for those things, so they're gonna get and when
Speaker 1: they do get you, when their time comes, they're getting
Speaker 1: all of you. They're not getting a distracted, disproportionate part
Speaker 1: of you that they're getting all of you. Man, I
Speaker 1: could go so many places with this Cody, And because
Speaker 1: I love this kind of stuff, So here, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: give you some task here. You need that those seven
Speaker 1: days of recording what you're doing first, because you got
Speaker 1: to have a starting point so that then you could
Speaker 1: look at and like I said, don't change anything before
Speaker 1: you start writing it down, because you want to look
Speaker 1: at what you did. But here's after you do that,
Speaker 1: you're then going to be able to tweak. And I
Speaker 1: would suggest, I would suggest this, first, get up earlier. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you are a five or five thirty guy, five thirty.
Speaker 1: I am too. Me and Bernie are both five thirty am.
Speaker 1: We wake up and I do not start work related
Speaker 1: things at five thirty in the morning. I get up.
Speaker 1: That is my time, Cody. You need your time if
Speaker 1: you want time to breathe that. Look at this. When
Speaker 1: you get on an airplane and they say, in case
Speaker 1: of a low pressure situation, they're going to drop mask out,
Speaker 1: you put your mask on you first, and then you
Speaker 1: put the mask on your children. They do that because
Speaker 1: you have to be in good health to be able
Speaker 1: to take care of anybody else. So you need to
Speaker 1: be good. If you want to give your wife the time,
Speaker 1: and give your boys the time, and give your employees
Speaker 1: the time, you need to be good first. So I
Speaker 1: would suggest, first set that alarm five or five thirty.
Speaker 1: That seems to be like the time right there, and
Speaker 1: you get up and you have your coffee, it's quiet,
Speaker 1: no one in the house is awake, it's still dark outside.
Speaker 1: You could do your reading. You could do like that's
Speaker 1: usually my Bible time. That's when I pull out and
Speaker 1: I have a little reading plan and I love it.
Speaker 1: I crave it. No one's gonna bother me. I don't
Speaker 1: check my phone, I don't check my text I don't
Speaker 1: check my emails. It's me and a cup of coffee
Speaker 1: and a quiet environment. Everyone's asleep, and I open up
Speaker 1: the Word of God. That's me. That is something Now,
Speaker 1: it's like Christmas morning. Every morning. I have to do that.
Speaker 1: I do it seven days a week. Oh, I have
Speaker 1: to because I love it so much. It's also going
Speaker 1: to force you to go to bed a little bit
Speaker 1: earlier because you're just not gonna be able to function.
Speaker 1: If you're going to bed at midnight, it's gonna catch
Speaker 1: up with you. So you're gonna push your whole nighttime
Speaker 1: routine up, which I think is valuable because you start
Speaker 1: getting into trash time I talk. I like to call
Speaker 1: it at night when your brain's tired, and that's the
Speaker 1: time when it's easier just to cruise Instagram or cruise Netflix,
Speaker 1: or watch ESPN way too long, where you've seen the
Speaker 1: same news rotate twice in a row and you're having
Speaker 1: meaningless conversations with your wife. It doesn't matter. So you're
Speaker 1: gonna go to bed earlier, which I think is good too.
Speaker 1: And then exactly what Bernie's saying, if you start planning
Speaker 1: your day and this is, this is, I'll give you
Speaker 1: some things to start with. Start with the cell phone.
Speaker 1: You make it very clear with your boss that your
Speaker 1: phone for work. And I'm sorry, I don't know your
Speaker 1: work and I don't know the exact hours, but I
Speaker 1: would say something I'm going to average out here. Your
Speaker 1: phone turns on at eight am and it turns off
Speaker 1: at six pm. That's a long window. But you do
Speaker 1: not reply to a text or a call or an
Speaker 1: email after your given time, which I'm suggesting six pm.
Speaker 1: We're actually we're building a house right now. And the
Speaker 1: construction supervisor, when I first met him day one, he said,
Speaker 1: what's that man? Who's a super cool guy named Rob.
Speaker 1: We met, we talked, and he said, just so you know,
Speaker 1: I have family time. So my phone comes on at
Speaker 1: eight am and it cuts off at six pm. And
Speaker 1: they're just not going to reply. After that, he made
Speaker 1: it clear it wasn't rude, and I respected that. And
Speaker 1: to this day, I'll think of something I need to
Speaker 1: ask Rob and I look at my watch and at
Speaker 1: six oh five, I don't text him, I don't call them.
Speaker 1: I gotta wait till tomorrow. You establish how people treat
Speaker 1: you and how people communicate with you from the way
Speaker 1: you respond to them, and no one is going to
Speaker 1: blame you. You're not a twenty four to seven guy. Man.
Speaker 1: You can't be that. You can't have your phone on
Speaker 1: your nightstand and answer it at midnight because there's a
Speaker 1: problem at work. Like I said, I don't know what
Speaker 1: your job is. If you're a brain surgeon, it's just
Speaker 1: there's gonna it's gonna be different. But start with your
Speaker 1: cell phone and establish your times when it's on for work,
Speaker 1: and do not deviate from that. If you have your
Speaker 1: weekends off and you're with your boys, you're not looking
Speaker 1: at your phone work related. The second thing I will
Speaker 1: do is schedule, Just like Bernie said, schedule your entire week,
Speaker 1: and you could do it daily. You could do it
Speaker 1: during your five thirty when we wake up and you're
Speaker 1: having your coffee. That could be a good time to say,
Speaker 1: all right, what am I gonna do today? And there's
Speaker 1: so many good apps for reminders and checklists and to
Speaker 1: do lists you set. You go, okay, I got this,
Speaker 1: this this, I got this meeting, I get this. It's
Speaker 1: gonna be a busy day because of this. And here's
Speaker 1: my lunch. And then you look at that and it's
Speaker 1: no more, no less than what you write down. And
Speaker 1: then your wife schedule her in there. I know that
Speaker 1: doesn't sound romantic, but you need to schedule your family time,
Speaker 1: your kid time, and your wifetime in your book. So
Speaker 1: you go, Thursday night dinner, We're gonna go to dinner
Speaker 1: at six o'clock and you're gonna put that and nothing
Speaker 1: will take you out. That is your schedule. So if
Speaker 1: your boss calls and goes, hey actually need you to
Speaker 1: work late, you go, I'm so sorry, I have something
Speaker 1: I cannot get out of on Thursday. Because this in
Speaker 1: your schedule. You're going to dinner with your wife. You're giving.
Speaker 1: And when you're with her at dinner, the phone's down
Speaker 1: and it's babe, tell me about your day. You're soaking
Speaker 1: in her. It's a good adult conversation, and you the
Speaker 1: same thing with your kids. You schedule your kids times.
Speaker 1: You don't have to always do this the rest of
Speaker 1: your life, but you, because you emailed me code, you
Speaker 1: need to establish this early and so you'd need to
Speaker 1: be regimented about it. Yep, yeah, no, I think that's great.
Speaker 1: The last thing that I'll add is that you also
Speaker 1: have to understand that your boss or your colleagues, your friends,
Speaker 1: just being on social media or living in the world
Speaker 1: we live in, you're gonna see things that entice you
Speaker 1: to cross your boundaries in order to accomplish more things,
Speaker 1: to earn more things, to do more things. So at
Speaker 1: the end of the day you need to, you know,
Speaker 1: kind of do what everything Granger's talking about, but then
Speaker 1: pray over it and say, God, I I trust that
Speaker 1: you're gonna bless my work, gonna bless my focus. You're
Speaker 1: gonna bless the amount that I am investing in people
Speaker 1: and the work you've put in front of me, and
Speaker 1: and what ends up coming the reward that comes from
Speaker 1: that you're gonna find and and this is the tricky part,
Speaker 1: is to find contentment and what comes of it and
Speaker 1: not say, oh, man, well I know I said that
Speaker 1: six PM thing or whatever it was. But man, my
Speaker 1: boss said, if I just worked till seven for the
Speaker 1: next month, I'm gonna get this bonus or I'm gonna
Speaker 1: get this new opportunity. And so, like you said, you
Speaker 1: you stick to those things, not you know, out of
Speaker 1: like a militant nature, but you stick to them out
Speaker 1: of faithfulness to your priorities and saying, look, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: I'm content with the amount of money that I'm gonna
Speaker 1: make because I'm not willing to give up the other
Speaker 1: things that i have priorities, ties time with my family, space,
Speaker 1: margin in my day to serve others and take a
Speaker 1: phone call or sit and talk with somebody that needs
Speaker 1: to talk with somebody. If I was just always go go,
Speaker 1: go and stuff everything thin and wanted to accomplish more,
Speaker 1: I would basically have to say, hey, Grandeur, I can't
Speaker 1: talk right now. I go I'm working. But if you
Speaker 1: leave that margin and you're okay, you're just saying, hey,
Speaker 1: God's going to provide, and be content in that because
Speaker 1: you're always going to see things that you can continue
Speaker 1: to just push those boundaries on and it's just not
Speaker 1: really worth it. I've learned. You said the word contentment
Speaker 1: I've learned in maturity that that how important that word
Speaker 1: is and biblically what that word means. Being content, Being content,
Speaker 1: Paul says, I have learned to be content in all circumstances,
Speaker 1: so that that is true. Maturity of a man is
Speaker 1: knowing that there's always another opportunity, there's always another problem,
Speaker 1: there's always another bad situation with one of your employees,
Speaker 1: There's always another bonus you could be getting always, and
Speaker 1: sometimes you have to know when to cut it off
Speaker 1: and just be content where you are. In my life,
Speaker 1: I have tour dates coming in. I could be on paper,
Speaker 1: I could be a lot more successful to the rest
Speaker 1: of the world if I just accepted everything and fought
Speaker 1: every battle and fixed every problem and didn't get any
Speaker 1: sleep and neglected my family and took another tour date
Speaker 1: that came in that replaced a little family vacation all
Speaker 1: was supposed to be having, and then took another date
Speaker 1: that missed a good buddy of mine that's getting married.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to be at his wedding now because
Speaker 1: there's a tour date that's going to make more money.
Speaker 1: I could do that, and what would I have to
Speaker 1: show for it? In my life. That's right, Or let's
Speaker 1: just flip the script on that and say, because what
Speaker 1: you're trying to do in saying no to some of
Speaker 1: these tour dates is be faithful to your priorities. But
Speaker 1: your career is a priority. It's a work that God's
Speaker 1: put in front of you. So what if the inverse
Speaker 1: of that would be just declining all opportunities? Exactly So
Speaker 1: it's it's exactly right. We have been given these things
Speaker 1: to steward our work, our families, our children, and it
Speaker 1: is a tough it's a tough balance and you're kind
Speaker 1: of in the throes of it right now. You're kind
Speaker 1: of growing your career, you're growing your family, and growing
Speaker 1: pains is a real thing. So just keep keep fighting.
Speaker 1: Take some of the things, the practical things that grizz
Speaker 1: has just told you, and put them into action. These
Speaker 1: are all just words and experiences. But the part where
Speaker 1: all of this starts to change our lives is when
Speaker 1: we say I'm going to do that. I love this question, Cody.
Speaker 1: I'm so glad you asked it. I've heard before that
Speaker 1: life is life is juggling. You're juggling constantly now. But remember,
Speaker 1: as you're juggling that when you have these juggling balls,
Speaker 1: you have your rubber juggling balls and your glass juggling balls.
Speaker 1: So as you're juggling all these together, remember there's some
Speaker 1: of them you could drop and they're gonna bounce. Some
Speaker 1: of you drop and they're going to break. So just
Speaker 1: keep in mind where your glass ones are that to me,
Speaker 1: that your family and your kids. There's certain ones you
Speaker 1: cannot drop, and there's certain ones that's usually work related
Speaker 1: or hobby related that you could occasionally drop them. They're
Speaker 1: gonna bounce right back up into your arms. Those are
Speaker 1: the rubber ones. So life is a juggle. You'll enjoy it, dude.
Speaker 1: Parable nobody's business this week. Here's the one, says, here's
Speaker 1: it says, Hey Granger. Here's an easy question. What are
Speaker 1: your top three favorite eras slash events and history? And why?
Speaker 1: It comes from Lakeisha. Okay, I'll let you. I'll let
Speaker 1: the history buff take this one first. That's a tough one, Lakeisha.
Speaker 1: It's tough. What are my three favorite eras? I love?
Speaker 1: I mean, should we discount biblical times? I mean I
Speaker 1: don't think you can. I mean I think we're talking
Speaker 1: about history because wouldn't you want to see the life,
Speaker 1: the teachings of Christ, the three years of ministry of Christ. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we got to add that in there. I love that,
Speaker 1: And Bernie and I both look at we look at
Speaker 1: Christianity as a historical event. So there's a difference. I
Speaker 1: know some of you have asked questions like about faith
Speaker 1: and spirituality and kind of thrown out the word religion,
Speaker 1: and I do want to say that I am. I
Speaker 1: kind of reject the word religion when it comes to
Speaker 1: Christianity because I'm religious when it comes to working out.
Speaker 1: I'm religious when it comes to making my tour list.
Speaker 1: I mean my set list on tour. I'm religious when
Speaker 1: it comes to eating certain things and making my coffee
Speaker 1: and making my shakes. And so religion is a tough word.
Speaker 1: I like to throw that out. But we look at
Speaker 1: Christianity as a historical event. So our faith is based
Speaker 1: on the Word of God that we read in the Bible,
Speaker 1: but it's also backed by historical evidence. And so the
Speaker 1: reason I say that is because it is not a
Speaker 1: fairy dust religion that some man had a dream under
Speaker 1: a tree, that an angel visited him and spoke spoke
Speaker 1: a prophecy, and we just believe it. Why because he
Speaker 1: said it and we feel it. It's more than that,
Speaker 1: we believe it because it's it's a set of historical
Speaker 1: events that happened, but in front of eyewitnesses that wrote
Speaker 1: it down during the lifetime of other eyewitnesses at one
Speaker 1: time during the resurrection, over five hundred at one time,
Speaker 1: five hundred people saw it. So I look at biblical
Speaker 1: history as a big backbone of the reason I believe it. Yeah, Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I was, I was tracking with you. I I would
Speaker 1: take that for sure. I think medieval times would be
Speaker 1: kind of cool. Yeah, not because I'm like, you know,
Speaker 1: well versed in uh anything that actually happened, but based
Speaker 1: on the entertainment that I've seen, I think that the
Speaker 1: medieval times would be kind of cool just to see,
Speaker 1: like how did you guys live without these things? And
Speaker 1: what did you do? What did you do for like
Speaker 1: what did you do for fun? Like what did you
Speaker 1: you know? I say the same thing about the Old West.
Speaker 1: The Old West fascinates me, and I'm a huge fan
Speaker 1: of Western movies. It fascinates me because it was a
Speaker 1: time period following the Civil War that and it's like
Speaker 1: post Civil War pre railroad, there's a twenty year time.
Speaker 1: You could even get even narrower. It could be like
Speaker 1: a ten year period when there was these cowboys taking
Speaker 1: driving cattle north to auction from from Texas, from Mexico,
Speaker 1: from Oklahoma, driving them north up to Montana and selling
Speaker 1: them in Kansas City and selling them. It's that only
Speaker 1: happened in a short period of time when these old
Speaker 1: Civil War veterans needed work and there was no fences
Speaker 1: and no railroad. And yet during that short time we
Speaker 1: have we have put that into the fantasies of mankind
Speaker 1: ever since, and the movies and books and culture and
Speaker 1: heroes and cowboys have just they just became this legacy.
Speaker 1: And I love to watch your Western and it's usually
Speaker 1: the same type idea on every movie. I'll watch it
Speaker 1: all over again because you think about the old saloon
Speaker 1: and kicking open the doors and there's the girls. When
Speaker 1: you walk up to the bar and you say whiskey yeah,
Speaker 1: and they slide you take a shot, and you slide
Speaker 1: it back and he pours another one out of the
Speaker 1: same looking it looks like a wine bottle, but it's
Speaker 1: full of whiskey. Pours it and he slides it and
Speaker 1: it's like you're dirty. It's like you're you're so thirsty.
Speaker 1: You've been out on the on the prairie all day
Speaker 1: and the first thing you drink is whiskey, not water,
Speaker 1: probably because the water was nasty anyway. Man. And then
Speaker 1: you see the guy. The guy comes out of the shadows,
Speaker 1: and you're like everybody's barstools kind of like, you know,
Speaker 1: pull back. Yeah, man, i'd love to you not from
Speaker 1: around here. Yeah, yeah, the teeth of the guy that's
Speaker 1: playing poker in the corner, or it's the sheriff that
Speaker 1: walks through the double doors and says, where'd you come from? Yeah?
Speaker 1: You know, like, man, I love it. Remember when we
Speaker 1: decided to hop the or try to hop the railroads
Speaker 1: and almost got run over, and then and we slept
Speaker 1: out in somebody else's pasture surrounded by cows. The next
Speaker 1: morning we ended up get back on the railroads and
Speaker 1: walking into that small little cafe. I feel like that's
Speaker 1: what people did when we walked in, because we were
Speaker 1: just like dirty as anything. Small town cafe. We walk
Speaker 1: in and it's just like, dude, everybody's looking at us.
Speaker 1: So I want to go one more place world War two.
Speaker 1: I'm so passionate about World War two and that era
Speaker 1: of history, and I'll tell you why, because that was
Speaker 1: a time similar to the Old West, when things were changing,
Speaker 1: like technology was changing so fast, and there was a
Speaker 1: time when Germany was going to take over the whole world,
Speaker 1: and they had a plan for it, and if it
Speaker 1: wasn't been for just a few mistakes here and there,
Speaker 1: they would have done it. And the fact that the world,
Speaker 1: a lot of the world, came together as allies and
Speaker 1: defeated them and flipped the script where they went from
Speaker 1: the aggressor to the defenders of their homeland in Germany.
Speaker 1: And we want it through the air. The majority of
Speaker 1: World War two was one from superior airpower. And what
Speaker 1: really gets me going and gets me just thinking is,
Speaker 1: first of all, that kind of war will never happen again,
Speaker 1: and the way that our airpower dominated them. So my
Speaker 1: grandpa was a pilot of the B twenty four bomber,
Speaker 1: so I might be a little biased in that way,
Speaker 1: but in the war in Europe, we decimated their cities. Terrible,
Speaker 1: terrible thing that we did. We had to Americans bombed
Speaker 1: by day, the British bombed by night, and we never
Speaker 1: stopped once we had a foothold on them, and we
Speaker 1: had them on the run. We were manufacturing aircraft in
Speaker 1: the United States in the Ford plant, the GMC plant.
Speaker 1: No more automobiles were being made. We flipped it all
Speaker 1: to aircraft. There was women making these bomber planes in there.
Speaker 1: And the country has never united like that. It never
Speaker 1: had before and it never has to this day. Like
Speaker 1: we did in those few short years to beat Germany.
Speaker 1: We all came together and we made war bonds, and
Speaker 1: we got our money together. We stocked food together, we
Speaker 1: collected metal together, we collected rubber together. We are women
Speaker 1: that were widows or had men overseas. They came together
Speaker 1: in these factories, and the factories said, here's the keys.
Speaker 1: We no longer are going to make cars. You do
Speaker 1: whatever you got to do, make airplanes. And then we
Speaker 1: took those airplanes and we flew them over Germany every
Speaker 1: single day and bombed the crap out of them. And
Speaker 1: it's a terrible Like I said, it's a terrible thing.
Speaker 1: I loved the country of Germany. I love visiting and
Speaker 1: it breaks my heart that we were forced to do that.
Speaker 1: We had to because that was the only way at
Speaker 1: the time, it's the only way we knew how, and
Speaker 1: it's the only way it was winning the war. But
Speaker 1: we decimated these ancient medieval cities, and we didn't have
Speaker 1: strategic bombing, We didn't have good precisions, so we were
Speaker 1: just just go just dropping on and hoping that we
Speaker 1: hit the refinery, and half the time we were hitting neighborhoods.
Speaker 1: And that's the terrible thing about World War two. But
Speaker 1: it's just so fascinating that and they were not surrendering
Speaker 1: during this whole They were fighting to the end. And
Speaker 1: so I don't think we'll ever see God willing, we'll
Speaker 1: never see the world in that kind of state again.
Speaker 1: And it wasn't before that, with that kind of devastation.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I have to put that in there. Let
Speaker 1: me ask you this, the B twenty four music video.
Speaker 1: Is it still up on the internet? Yeah? It is, Okay,
Speaker 1: go watch that. You haven't seen it that it's a
Speaker 1: parody by the way, Yeah, but it's amazing. You know,
Speaker 1: this guy can do a parody like nobody else. So
Speaker 1: I did Biblical I did Medieval we only because I
Speaker 1: want to get on the horse and do the thing.
Speaker 1: The jousts. But I want to make sure my sticks
Speaker 1: a little bit longer than the other person's. That would
Speaker 1: be kind of cool in the armor and everything. My third,
Speaker 1: I would think I would want to live in the
Speaker 1: era where space travel is as common as air flight
Speaker 1: right now. Yes, I think I think that's I hope
Speaker 1: I'm still alive. I feel like there's people working on
Speaker 1: that becoming something very common. But I think that that
Speaker 1: would be absolutely to be able to see the Earth
Speaker 1: from that viewpoint, I think that would be pretty cool.
Speaker 1: We're running out of time here on this podcast, but
Speaker 1: I want to show you, Bernie, if anyone can google
Speaker 1: google Berlin nineteen forty five and look at this. You're
Speaker 1: talking the whole city is destroyed. Wow, the aerial shots
Speaker 1: of Berlin is it's just like look at you can
Speaker 1: just zoom in and it's just nothing but rubble. Wow. Crazy.
Speaker 1: That's all we got. You guys are awesome. All right, Hey,
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