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Speaker 1: But the problem is is we come to God with

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Speaker 1: your parer. That's it. So, Jesse, here's your task. What

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Speaker 1: do you do now? You take it one day at

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Speaker 1: going to lose his mind. He's not going to quit

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Speaker 1: your task, one day at a time. And what happens is, Buddy,

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Speaker 1: And then you keep going another day, another day, another week,

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Speaker 1: And then you go, I'm smiling. I'm thinking of the

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Speaker 1: And then they smile and you smile, and you're you're

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Speaker 1: spreading that joy and you're you're moving forward. You're never

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Speaker 1: gonna move on because they're always a part of you.

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Speaker 1: You're never gonna forget them. You're never gonna separate further

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Speaker 1: That's never You're gonna go to your grave, buddy. You're

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Speaker 1: gonna go to your grave with a good, strong memory

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Speaker 1: we said on the last podcast, the level, the level

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Speaker 1: level of love that you had for them. So the

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Speaker 1: fact that you're grieving means the fact that you loved them,

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Speaker 1: and that is infinitely more valuable. That you loved them

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Speaker 1: and then they impacted you and you carry on. Now

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Speaker 1: that you're carrying on their name. You're passing on to

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Speaker 1: So it's a really cool way to connect. Yeah. So

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Speaker 1: back to the podcast with old Burns y Y digging

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Speaker 1: into more questions here. If you have a question, email

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Speaker 1: it back over to you. Okay, we have the subjects

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Speaker 1: My name is Cody. I'm from upstate of South Carolina.

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Speaker 1: I came across some of your YouTube videos and started

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Speaker 1: looking for your music and found your podcast. I'm really

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Speaker 1: thankful for you guys and the way you take a

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Speaker 1: stand in your faith and giving more believers hope. I

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Speaker 1: have a wife of eight years, two sons aged six

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Speaker 1: and two. I also work a full time job where

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Speaker 1: I'm a supervisor. As my kids get older and my

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Speaker 1: job gets more and more demanding, I feel pulled in

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Speaker 1: so many directions that I just can't breathe. I work

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Speaker 1: with my boys. The boys are really attached to me,

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Speaker 1: Then my wife wants me to give her attention and

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Speaker 1: do stuff she wants me to get done. Any advice

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Speaker 1: on managing time with all this and getting some time

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Speaker 1: to breathe, Thanks God bless Cody. We can all relate

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Speaker 1: to that, buddy. Yeah, good question, great question. Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: sure there's a lot of folks, I mean a lot

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Speaker 1: of folks out there, especially in our culture, that are

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Speaker 1: stretched thin and stuffed full too much. Yeah, so let's

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Speaker 1: dive in a wife of eight years. Yeah, you're also

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Speaker 1: in a very this is Cody. You're also Cody in

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Speaker 1: a very busy time just of life, right, very like

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Speaker 1: you do. You're in a season of life where you

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Speaker 1: you're a supervisor, so you also have that means you

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Speaker 1: also have a lot of people working under you that

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Speaker 1: are depending on you and your leadership, and they're not

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Speaker 1: all moving in the same direction, which is probably frustrating.

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Speaker 1: You didn't even say any of that, but I just

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Speaker 1: know it from you. Being a supervisor. You got boys,

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Speaker 1: two boys too, is not easy, especially that two year old.

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Speaker 1: He's attached to you. He takes a lot of energy.

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Speaker 1: Everyone knows that. Of course your wife wants her attention

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Speaker 1: and that yeah, absolutely she wants you to get stuff done. Yes,

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Speaker 1: so managing time and still getting time for you to breathe.

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Speaker 1: Let's start with anytime I think about time management, I

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Speaker 1: what I would recommend Cody is going through a seven

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Speaker 1: how many hours you're doing it, starting when you wake

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Speaker 1: seven days, and then review on the eighth day, review

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Speaker 1: So it could be you know, for you woke up

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Speaker 1: give your commute to work. That takes time. Then you

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Speaker 1: have you know, you could block out your day, like

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Speaker 1: with your lunch break, what does that look like? When

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Speaker 1: then all the way up to your lights out, look

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Speaker 1: hours doing that, and you'll immediately start finding things that

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Speaker 1: you could either eliminate or help to make better. Right, absolutely,

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Speaker 1: So let's put it this way, since we were just

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Speaker 1: watching ESPN for half the time. Right, yep, Well let's

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Speaker 1: this the most the best workout, like can Okay, well

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Speaker 1: what do you want to work out? Hey? Well, I

639
00:37:03,360 --> 00:37:06,080
Speaker 1: want to here, here's my goals. Okay, so you have

640
00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:10,000
Speaker 1: to first set your goals right at the gym, and

641
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 1: then you have you work Okay, here's here's my workout.

642
00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:14,160
Speaker 1: I go on Mondays and this is what I do.

643
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:17,120
Speaker 1: And you get done with that, and you just feel

644
00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:20,440
Speaker 1: more accomplished. You feel better. You were able to give

645
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:26,080
Speaker 1: the smaller amount of workouts and exercises you did. Those

646
00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:29,640
Speaker 1: muscle groups were given more attention and worked out better

647
00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:33,200
Speaker 1: knowing that tomorrow I'm going to hit my legs and

648
00:37:33,239 --> 00:37:36,080
Speaker 1: I'm going to give those the attention, and eventually you're

649
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:39,360
Speaker 1: going to reach your goal. So bringing that back to

650
00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:41,279
Speaker 1: the family and the work and everything you have, you

651
00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 1: have to kind of like establish your goals, like what

652
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:46,719
Speaker 1: what do you want your family like to look like?

653
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 1: What kind of involvement do you want to have with

654
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:51,160
Speaker 1: your kids? What kind of what kind of date nights

655
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:53,880
Speaker 1: do you want to have? What with work? What is

656
00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:57,400
Speaker 1: your what do you see your supervisor role looking like?

657
00:37:58,520 --> 00:38:02,680
Speaker 1: I think you prepare and then you, like Granger said,

658
00:38:02,719 --> 00:38:06,440
Speaker 1: whenever you are in that thing, you be completely present

659
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:10,080
Speaker 1: in that thing, knowing that one you're going to serve

660
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:12,799
Speaker 1: that thing better. Whatever it is, your kids or your job,

661
00:38:13,040 --> 00:38:16,120
Speaker 1: you're going to serve it better being fully present and

662
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:18,440
Speaker 1: that those other things. You've already prepared a lot of

663
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 1: time for those things, so they're gonna get and when

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Speaker 1: they do get you, when their time comes, they're getting

665
00:38:22,560 --> 00:38:27,480
Speaker 1: all of you. They're not getting a distracted, disproportionate part

666
00:38:27,520 --> 00:38:30,960
Speaker 1: of you that they're getting all of you. Man, I

667
00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:33,800
Speaker 1: could go so many places with this Cody, And because

668
00:38:33,840 --> 00:38:36,680
Speaker 1: I love this kind of stuff, So here, I'm gonna

669
00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:40,439
Speaker 1: give you some task here. You need that those seven

670
00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:42,520
Speaker 1: days of recording what you're doing first, because you got

671
00:38:42,560 --> 00:38:44,279
Speaker 1: to have a starting point so that then you could

672
00:38:44,320 --> 00:38:47,080
Speaker 1: look at and like I said, don't change anything before

673
00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:48,759
Speaker 1: you start writing it down, because you want to look

674
00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:52,160
Speaker 1: at what you did. But here's after you do that,

675
00:38:52,719 --> 00:38:54,560
Speaker 1: you're then going to be able to tweak. And I

676
00:38:54,600 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 1: would suggest, I would suggest this, first, get up earlier. Yeah,

677
00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:03,160
Speaker 1: you are a five or five thirty guy, five thirty.

678
00:39:03,680 --> 00:39:06,360
Speaker 1: I am too. Me and Bernie are both five thirty am.

679
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 1: We wake up and I do not start work related

680
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:13,719
Speaker 1: things at five thirty in the morning. I get up.

681
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:17,040
Speaker 1: That is my time, Cody. You need your time if

682
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:19,400
Speaker 1: you want time to breathe that. Look at this. When

683
00:39:19,440 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 1: you get on an airplane and they say, in case

684
00:39:22,239 --> 00:39:25,520
Speaker 1: of a low pressure situation, they're going to drop mask out,

685
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:29,239
Speaker 1: you put your mask on you first, and then you

686
00:39:29,239 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 1: put the mask on your children. They do that because

687
00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:35,399
Speaker 1: you have to be in good health to be able

688
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Speaker 1: to take care of anybody else. So you need to

689
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:40,640
Speaker 1: be good. If you want to give your wife the time,

690
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:43,320
Speaker 1: and give your boys the time, and give your employees

691
00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:45,319
Speaker 1: the time, you need to be good first. So I

692
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:48,800
Speaker 1: would suggest, first set that alarm five or five thirty.

693
00:39:48,840 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 1: That seems to be like the time right there, and

694
00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:54,400
Speaker 1: you get up and you have your coffee, it's quiet,

695
00:39:54,680 --> 00:39:57,239
Speaker 1: no one in the house is awake, it's still dark outside.

696
00:39:57,719 --> 00:40:02,080
Speaker 1: You could do your reading. You could do like that's

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00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:04,000
Speaker 1: usually my Bible time. That's when I pull out and

698
00:40:04,000 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 1: I have a little reading plan and I love it.

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00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:08,919
Speaker 1: I crave it. No one's gonna bother me. I don't

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00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:11,279
Speaker 1: check my phone, I don't check my text I don't

701
00:40:11,360 --> 00:40:14,880
Speaker 1: check my emails. It's me and a cup of coffee

702
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:18,880
Speaker 1: and a quiet environment. Everyone's asleep, and I open up

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00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:21,960
Speaker 1: the Word of God. That's me. That is something Now,

704
00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:25,359
Speaker 1: it's like Christmas morning. Every morning. I have to do that.

705
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:27,799
Speaker 1: I do it seven days a week. Oh, I have

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00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:30,279
Speaker 1: to because I love it so much. It's also going

707
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:31,879
Speaker 1: to force you to go to bed a little bit

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00:40:31,880 --> 00:40:33,760
Speaker 1: earlier because you're just not gonna be able to function.

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00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:37,040
Speaker 1: If you're going to bed at midnight, it's gonna catch

710
00:40:37,120 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 1: up with you. So you're gonna push your whole nighttime

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00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:42,600
Speaker 1: routine up, which I think is valuable because you start

712
00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:45,879
Speaker 1: getting into trash time I talk. I like to call

713
00:40:45,920 --> 00:40:48,799
Speaker 1: it at night when your brain's tired, and that's the

714
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:52,400
Speaker 1: time when it's easier just to cruise Instagram or cruise Netflix,

715
00:40:52,680 --> 00:40:55,600
Speaker 1: or watch ESPN way too long, where you've seen the

716
00:40:55,600 --> 00:40:59,479
Speaker 1: same news rotate twice in a row and you're having

717
00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:03,520
Speaker 1: meaningless conversations with your wife. It doesn't matter. So you're

718
00:41:03,520 --> 00:41:05,479
Speaker 1: gonna go to bed earlier, which I think is good too.

719
00:41:05,880 --> 00:41:09,720
Speaker 1: And then exactly what Bernie's saying, if you start planning

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Speaker 1: your day and this is, this is, I'll give you

721
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:16,359
Speaker 1: some things to start with. Start with the cell phone.

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00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:19,839
Speaker 1: You make it very clear with your boss that your

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00:41:19,920 --> 00:41:22,319
Speaker 1: phone for work. And I'm sorry, I don't know your

724
00:41:22,360 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 1: work and I don't know the exact hours, but I

725
00:41:24,600 --> 00:41:27,359
Speaker 1: would say something I'm going to average out here. Your

726
00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 1: phone turns on at eight am and it turns off

727
00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 1: at six pm. That's a long window. But you do

728
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:37,480
Speaker 1: not reply to a text or a call or an

729
00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:41,840
Speaker 1: email after your given time, which I'm suggesting six pm.

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00:41:42,560 --> 00:41:44,520
Speaker 1: We're actually we're building a house right now. And the

731
00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:49,440
Speaker 1: construction supervisor, when I first met him day one, he said,

732
00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:51,759
Speaker 1: what's that man? Who's a super cool guy named Rob.

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00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:55,120
Speaker 1: We met, we talked, and he said, just so you know,

734
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Speaker 1: I have family time. So my phone comes on at

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Speaker 1: eight am and it cuts off at six pm. And

736
00:42:00,800 --> 00:42:02,719
Speaker 1: they're just not going to reply. After that, he made

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00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:06,040
Speaker 1: it clear it wasn't rude, and I respected that. And

738
00:42:06,080 --> 00:42:08,560
Speaker 1: to this day, I'll think of something I need to

739
00:42:08,560 --> 00:42:10,120
Speaker 1: ask Rob and I look at my watch and at

740
00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:13,279
Speaker 1: six oh five, I don't text him, I don't call them.

741
00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:17,439
Speaker 1: I gotta wait till tomorrow. You establish how people treat

742
00:42:17,480 --> 00:42:20,399
Speaker 1: you and how people communicate with you from the way

743
00:42:20,480 --> 00:42:23,759
Speaker 1: you respond to them, and no one is going to

744
00:42:23,800 --> 00:42:26,120
Speaker 1: blame you. You're not a twenty four to seven guy. Man.

745
00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 1: You can't be that. You can't have your phone on

746
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 1: your nightstand and answer it at midnight because there's a

747
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:33,160
Speaker 1: problem at work. Like I said, I don't know what

748
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:36,000
Speaker 1: your job is. If you're a brain surgeon, it's just

749
00:42:36,120 --> 00:42:39,640
Speaker 1: there's gonna it's gonna be different. But start with your

750
00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:42,840
Speaker 1: cell phone and establish your times when it's on for work,

751
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:47,600
Speaker 1: and do not deviate from that. If you have your

752
00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:50,200
Speaker 1: weekends off and you're with your boys, you're not looking

753
00:42:50,239 --> 00:42:52,799
Speaker 1: at your phone work related. The second thing I will

754
00:42:52,880 --> 00:42:58,000
Speaker 1: do is schedule, Just like Bernie said, schedule your entire week,

755
00:42:58,800 --> 00:43:00,440
Speaker 1: and you could do it daily. You could do it

756
00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:02,440
Speaker 1: during your five thirty when we wake up and you're

757
00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 1: having your coffee. That could be a good time to say,

758
00:43:04,719 --> 00:43:06,960
Speaker 1: all right, what am I gonna do today? And there's

759
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:09,719
Speaker 1: so many good apps for reminders and checklists and to

760
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:12,279
Speaker 1: do lists you set. You go, okay, I got this,

761
00:43:12,280 --> 00:43:13,799
Speaker 1: this this, I got this meeting, I get this. It's

762
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:15,479
Speaker 1: gonna be a busy day because of this. And here's

763
00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:19,279
Speaker 1: my lunch. And then you look at that and it's

764
00:43:19,320 --> 00:43:21,560
Speaker 1: no more, no less than what you write down. And

765
00:43:21,600 --> 00:43:25,440
Speaker 1: then your wife schedule her in there. I know that

766
00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:29,399
Speaker 1: doesn't sound romantic, but you need to schedule your family time,

767
00:43:29,600 --> 00:43:32,799
Speaker 1: your kid time, and your wifetime in your book. So

768
00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:36,080
Speaker 1: you go, Thursday night dinner, We're gonna go to dinner

769
00:43:36,280 --> 00:43:39,360
Speaker 1: at six o'clock and you're gonna put that and nothing

770
00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:41,440
Speaker 1: will take you out. That is your schedule. So if

771
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:44,000
Speaker 1: your boss calls and goes, hey actually need you to

772
00:43:44,040 --> 00:43:48,880
Speaker 1: work late, you go, I'm so sorry, I have something

773
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:51,880
Speaker 1: I cannot get out of on Thursday. Because this in

774
00:43:51,920 --> 00:43:53,960
Speaker 1: your schedule. You're going to dinner with your wife. You're giving.

775
00:43:54,120 --> 00:43:56,440
Speaker 1: And when you're with her at dinner, the phone's down

776
00:43:56,800 --> 00:43:59,600
Speaker 1: and it's babe, tell me about your day. You're soaking

777
00:43:59,640 --> 00:44:02,960
Speaker 1: in her. It's a good adult conversation, and you the

778
00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 1: same thing with your kids. You schedule your kids times.

779
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:09,279
Speaker 1: You don't have to always do this the rest of

780
00:44:09,320 --> 00:44:11,799
Speaker 1: your life, but you, because you emailed me code, you

781
00:44:11,800 --> 00:44:14,040
Speaker 1: need to establish this early and so you'd need to

782
00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:18,359
Speaker 1: be regimented about it. Yep, yeah, no, I think that's great.

783
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:24,760
Speaker 1: The last thing that I'll add is that you also

784
00:44:24,920 --> 00:44:32,640
Speaker 1: have to understand that your boss or your colleagues, your friends,

785
00:44:32,719 --> 00:44:35,800
Speaker 1: just being on social media or living in the world

786
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:39,040
Speaker 1: we live in, you're gonna see things that entice you

787
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:42,680
Speaker 1: to cross your boundaries in order to accomplish more things,

788
00:44:42,760 --> 00:44:46,960
Speaker 1: to earn more things, to do more things. So at

789
00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:49,799
Speaker 1: the end of the day you need to, you know,

790
00:44:49,960 --> 00:44:53,200
Speaker 1: kind of do what everything Granger's talking about, but then

791
00:44:53,239 --> 00:44:57,160
Speaker 1: pray over it and say, God, I I trust that

792
00:44:57,239 --> 00:45:02,439
Speaker 1: you're gonna bless my work, gonna bless my focus. You're

793
00:45:02,440 --> 00:45:06,880
Speaker 1: gonna bless the amount that I am investing in people

794
00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:11,360
Speaker 1: and the work you've put in front of me, and

795
00:45:11,360 --> 00:45:13,960
Speaker 1: and what ends up coming the reward that comes from

796
00:45:13,960 --> 00:45:17,919
Speaker 1: that you're gonna find and and this is the tricky part,

797
00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:21,359
Speaker 1: is to find contentment and what comes of it and

798
00:45:21,440 --> 00:45:24,440
Speaker 1: not say, oh, man, well I know I said that

799
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:26,880
Speaker 1: six PM thing or whatever it was. But man, my

800
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:30,200
Speaker 1: boss said, if I just worked till seven for the

801
00:45:30,239 --> 00:45:33,520
Speaker 1: next month, I'm gonna get this bonus or I'm gonna

802
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 1: get this new opportunity. And so, like you said, you

803
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 1: you stick to those things, not you know, out of

804
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 1: like a militant nature, but you stick to them out

805
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:48,399
Speaker 1: of faithfulness to your priorities and saying, look, I'm gonna

806
00:45:48,400 --> 00:45:51,720
Speaker 1: I'm content with the amount of money that I'm gonna

807
00:45:51,760 --> 00:45:58,719
Speaker 1: make because I'm not willing to give up the other

808
00:45:58,800 --> 00:46:03,840
Speaker 1: things that i have priorities, ties time with my family, space,

809
00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:06,880
Speaker 1: margin in my day to serve others and take a

810
00:46:06,880 --> 00:46:09,040
Speaker 1: phone call or sit and talk with somebody that needs

811
00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:13,600
Speaker 1: to talk with somebody. If I was just always go go,

812
00:46:13,600 --> 00:46:16,759
Speaker 1: go and stuff everything thin and wanted to accomplish more,

813
00:46:17,400 --> 00:46:19,399
Speaker 1: I would basically have to say, hey, Grandeur, I can't

814
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:23,000
Speaker 1: talk right now. I go I'm working. But if you

815
00:46:23,120 --> 00:46:25,640
Speaker 1: leave that margin and you're okay, you're just saying, hey,

816
00:46:26,680 --> 00:46:29,640
Speaker 1: God's going to provide, and be content in that because

817
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:31,960
Speaker 1: you're always going to see things that you can continue

818
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:34,400
Speaker 1: to just push those boundaries on and it's just not

819
00:46:34,440 --> 00:46:36,720
Speaker 1: really worth it. I've learned. You said the word contentment

820
00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:41,880
Speaker 1: I've learned in maturity that that how important that word

821
00:46:42,080 --> 00:46:47,400
Speaker 1: is and biblically what that word means. Being content, Being content,

822
00:46:47,440 --> 00:46:51,439
Speaker 1: Paul says, I have learned to be content in all circumstances,

823
00:46:51,760 --> 00:46:57,359
Speaker 1: so that that is true. Maturity of a man is

824
00:46:57,440 --> 00:47:02,719
Speaker 1: knowing that there's always another opportunity, there's always another problem,

825
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:06,160
Speaker 1: there's always another bad situation with one of your employees,

826
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:10,680
Speaker 1: There's always another bonus you could be getting always, and

827
00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:13,319
Speaker 1: sometimes you have to know when to cut it off

828
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:15,800
Speaker 1: and just be content where you are. In my life,

829
00:47:16,160 --> 00:47:19,440
Speaker 1: I have tour dates coming in. I could be on paper,

830
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:22,520
Speaker 1: I could be a lot more successful to the rest

831
00:47:22,560 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 1: of the world if I just accepted everything and fought

832
00:47:26,160 --> 00:47:29,399
Speaker 1: every battle and fixed every problem and didn't get any

833
00:47:29,440 --> 00:47:32,480
Speaker 1: sleep and neglected my family and took another tour date

834
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:34,799
Speaker 1: that came in that replaced a little family vacation all

835
00:47:34,840 --> 00:47:37,359
Speaker 1: was supposed to be having, and then took another date

836
00:47:37,400 --> 00:47:39,919
Speaker 1: that missed a good buddy of mine that's getting married.

837
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:41,359
Speaker 1: I'm not going to be at his wedding now because

838
00:47:41,400 --> 00:47:43,520
Speaker 1: there's a tour date that's going to make more money.

839
00:47:44,040 --> 00:47:46,799
Speaker 1: I could do that, and what would I have to

840
00:47:46,800 --> 00:47:49,720
Speaker 1: show for it? In my life. That's right, Or let's

841
00:47:49,719 --> 00:47:53,279
Speaker 1: just flip the script on that and say, because what

842
00:47:53,320 --> 00:47:55,880
Speaker 1: you're trying to do in saying no to some of

843
00:47:55,880 --> 00:47:59,120
Speaker 1: these tour dates is be faithful to your priorities. But

844
00:47:59,239 --> 00:48:01,240
Speaker 1: your career is a priority. It's a work that God's

845
00:48:01,280 --> 00:48:03,520
Speaker 1: put in front of you. So what if the inverse

846
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:09,359
Speaker 1: of that would be just declining all opportunities? Exactly So

847
00:48:09,560 --> 00:48:13,520
Speaker 1: it's it's exactly right. We have been given these things

848
00:48:13,560 --> 00:48:18,239
Speaker 1: to steward our work, our families, our children, and it

849
00:48:18,760 --> 00:48:21,440
Speaker 1: is a tough it's a tough balance and you're kind

850
00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:23,680
Speaker 1: of in the throes of it right now. You're kind

851
00:48:23,680 --> 00:48:27,080
Speaker 1: of growing your career, you're growing your family, and growing

852
00:48:27,800 --> 00:48:30,440
Speaker 1: pains is a real thing. So just keep keep fighting.

853
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:33,800
Speaker 1: Take some of the things, the practical things that grizz

854
00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:37,279
Speaker 1: has just told you, and put them into action. These

855
00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:40,520
Speaker 1: are all just words and experiences. But the part where

856
00:48:40,560 --> 00:48:42,560
Speaker 1: all of this starts to change our lives is when

857
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:45,040
Speaker 1: we say I'm going to do that. I love this question, Cody.

858
00:48:45,040 --> 00:48:47,719
Speaker 1: I'm so glad you asked it. I've heard before that

859
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:52,640
Speaker 1: life is life is juggling. You're juggling constantly now. But remember,

860
00:48:52,680 --> 00:48:55,320
Speaker 1: as you're juggling that when you have these juggling balls,

861
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:59,000
Speaker 1: you have your rubber juggling balls and your glass juggling balls.

862
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 1: So as you're juggling all these together, remember there's some

863
00:49:02,160 --> 00:49:04,319
Speaker 1: of them you could drop and they're gonna bounce. Some

864
00:49:04,360 --> 00:49:06,319
Speaker 1: of you drop and they're going to break. So just

865
00:49:06,719 --> 00:49:08,759
Speaker 1: keep in mind where your glass ones are that to me,

866
00:49:08,800 --> 00:49:11,320
Speaker 1: that your family and your kids. There's certain ones you

867
00:49:11,360 --> 00:49:15,320
Speaker 1: cannot drop, and there's certain ones that's usually work related

868
00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:18,480
Speaker 1: or hobby related that you could occasionally drop them. They're

869
00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:20,360
Speaker 1: gonna bounce right back up into your arms. Those are

870
00:49:20,400 --> 00:49:26,399
Speaker 1: the rubber ones. So life is a juggle. You'll enjoy it, dude.

871
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:35,600
Speaker 1: Parable nobody's business this week. Here's the one, says, here's

872
00:49:35,600 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 1: it says, Hey Granger. Here's an easy question. What are

873
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:43,400
Speaker 1: your top three favorite eras slash events and history? And why?

874
00:49:44,040 --> 00:49:47,759
Speaker 1: It comes from Lakeisha. Okay, I'll let you. I'll let

875
00:49:47,800 --> 00:49:52,000
Speaker 1: the history buff take this one first. That's a tough one, Lakeisha.

876
00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:57,640
Speaker 1: It's tough. What are my three favorite eras? I love?

877
00:49:59,239 --> 00:50:03,279
Speaker 1: I mean, should we discount biblical times? I mean I

878
00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:05,200
Speaker 1: don't think you can. I mean I think we're talking

879
00:50:05,200 --> 00:50:09,240
Speaker 1: about history because wouldn't you want to see the life,

880
00:50:09,320 --> 00:50:13,000
Speaker 1: the teachings of Christ, the three years of ministry of Christ. Yeah,

881
00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:16,080
Speaker 1: we got to add that in there. I love that,

882
00:50:16,760 --> 00:50:19,960
Speaker 1: And Bernie and I both look at we look at

883
00:50:20,040 --> 00:50:25,319
Speaker 1: Christianity as a historical event. So there's a difference. I

884
00:50:25,360 --> 00:50:28,640
Speaker 1: know some of you have asked questions like about faith

885
00:50:28,719 --> 00:50:32,240
Speaker 1: and spirituality and kind of thrown out the word religion,

886
00:50:32,880 --> 00:50:35,200
Speaker 1: and I do want to say that I am. I

887
00:50:35,560 --> 00:50:38,680
Speaker 1: kind of reject the word religion when it comes to

888
00:50:38,760 --> 00:50:43,200
Speaker 1: Christianity because I'm religious when it comes to working out.

889
00:50:43,800 --> 00:50:49,080
Speaker 1: I'm religious when it comes to making my tour list.

890
00:50:49,200 --> 00:50:52,640
Speaker 1: I mean my set list on tour. I'm religious when

891
00:50:52,680 --> 00:50:57,040
Speaker 1: it comes to eating certain things and making my coffee

892
00:50:57,080 --> 00:51:01,080
Speaker 1: and making my shakes. And so religion is a tough word.

893
00:51:01,120 --> 00:51:03,680
Speaker 1: I like to throw that out. But we look at

894
00:51:03,760 --> 00:51:09,880
Speaker 1: Christianity as a historical event. So our faith is based

895
00:51:09,880 --> 00:51:11,800
Speaker 1: on the Word of God that we read in the Bible,

896
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:18,319
Speaker 1: but it's also backed by historical evidence. And so the

897
00:51:18,360 --> 00:51:21,200
Speaker 1: reason I say that is because it is not a

898
00:51:21,480 --> 00:51:25,759
Speaker 1: fairy dust religion that some man had a dream under

899
00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:28,720
Speaker 1: a tree, that an angel visited him and spoke spoke

900
00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:32,640
Speaker 1: a prophecy, and we just believe it. Why because he

901
00:51:32,760 --> 00:51:35,960
Speaker 1: said it and we feel it. It's more than that,

902
00:51:36,400 --> 00:51:39,279
Speaker 1: we believe it because it's it's a set of historical

903
00:51:39,440 --> 00:51:43,400
Speaker 1: events that happened, but in front of eyewitnesses that wrote

904
00:51:43,400 --> 00:51:46,600
Speaker 1: it down during the lifetime of other eyewitnesses at one

905
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:49,560
Speaker 1: time during the resurrection, over five hundred at one time,

906
00:51:50,680 --> 00:51:55,239
Speaker 1: five hundred people saw it. So I look at biblical

907
00:51:55,320 --> 00:52:03,440
Speaker 1: history as a big backbone of the reason I believe it. Yeah, Like, yeah,

908
00:52:03,440 --> 00:52:07,040
Speaker 1: I was, I was tracking with you. I I would

909
00:52:07,080 --> 00:52:13,799
Speaker 1: take that for sure. I think medieval times would be

910
00:52:13,880 --> 00:52:18,680
Speaker 1: kind of cool. Yeah, not because I'm like, you know,

911
00:52:18,920 --> 00:52:25,240
Speaker 1: well versed in uh anything that actually happened, but based

912
00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:28,319
Speaker 1: on the entertainment that I've seen, I think that the

913
00:52:28,360 --> 00:52:30,239
Speaker 1: medieval times would be kind of cool just to see,

914
00:52:30,280 --> 00:52:33,920
Speaker 1: like how did you guys live without these things? And

915
00:52:33,960 --> 00:52:37,359
Speaker 1: what did you do? What did you do for like

916
00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:40,200
Speaker 1: what did you do for fun? Like what did you

917
00:52:40,200 --> 00:52:42,760
Speaker 1: you know? I say the same thing about the Old West.

918
00:52:43,239 --> 00:52:46,480
Speaker 1: The Old West fascinates me, and I'm a huge fan

919
00:52:46,560 --> 00:52:49,839
Speaker 1: of Western movies. It fascinates me because it was a

920
00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:55,000
Speaker 1: time period following the Civil War that and it's like

921
00:52:55,920 --> 00:53:01,319
Speaker 1: post Civil War pre railroad, there's a twenty year time.

922
00:53:01,640 --> 00:53:03,719
Speaker 1: You could even get even narrower. It could be like

923
00:53:03,760 --> 00:53:08,480
Speaker 1: a ten year period when there was these cowboys taking

924
00:53:09,200 --> 00:53:15,960
Speaker 1: driving cattle north to auction from from Texas, from Mexico,

925
00:53:16,160 --> 00:53:19,560
Speaker 1: from Oklahoma, driving them north up to Montana and selling

926
00:53:19,560 --> 00:53:24,000
Speaker 1: them in Kansas City and selling them. It's that only

927
00:53:24,080 --> 00:53:26,600
Speaker 1: happened in a short period of time when these old

928
00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:30,200
Speaker 1: Civil War veterans needed work and there was no fences

929
00:53:30,239 --> 00:53:33,799
Speaker 1: and no railroad. And yet during that short time we

930
00:53:33,880 --> 00:53:37,600
Speaker 1: have we have put that into the fantasies of mankind

931
00:53:38,360 --> 00:53:42,560
Speaker 1: ever since, and the movies and books and culture and

932
00:53:44,160 --> 00:53:49,240
Speaker 1: heroes and cowboys have just they just became this legacy.

933
00:53:50,080 --> 00:53:52,160
Speaker 1: And I love to watch your Western and it's usually

934
00:53:52,239 --> 00:53:54,640
Speaker 1: the same type idea on every movie. I'll watch it

935
00:53:54,680 --> 00:53:57,640
Speaker 1: all over again because you think about the old saloon

936
00:53:57,680 --> 00:54:01,160
Speaker 1: and kicking open the doors and there's the girls. When

937
00:54:01,200 --> 00:54:04,400
Speaker 1: you walk up to the bar and you say whiskey yeah,

938
00:54:04,920 --> 00:54:08,759
Speaker 1: and they slide you take a shot, and you slide

939
00:54:08,800 --> 00:54:10,399
Speaker 1: it back and he pours another one out of the

940
00:54:10,440 --> 00:54:12,520
Speaker 1: same looking it looks like a wine bottle, but it's

941
00:54:12,560 --> 00:54:14,640
Speaker 1: full of whiskey. Pours it and he slides it and

942
00:54:14,640 --> 00:54:17,400
Speaker 1: it's like you're dirty. It's like you're you're so thirsty.

943
00:54:17,440 --> 00:54:19,600
Speaker 1: You've been out on the on the prairie all day

944
00:54:19,920 --> 00:54:22,120
Speaker 1: and the first thing you drink is whiskey, not water,

945
00:54:23,560 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 1: probably because the water was nasty anyway. Man. And then

946
00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:31,120
Speaker 1: you see the guy. The guy comes out of the shadows,

947
00:54:31,200 --> 00:54:34,160
Speaker 1: and you're like everybody's barstools kind of like, you know,

948
00:54:34,239 --> 00:54:36,640
Speaker 1: pull back. Yeah, man, i'd love to you not from

949
00:54:36,680 --> 00:54:39,920
Speaker 1: around here. Yeah, yeah, the teeth of the guy that's

950
00:54:39,920 --> 00:54:42,360
Speaker 1: playing poker in the corner, or it's the sheriff that

951
00:54:42,400 --> 00:54:45,920
Speaker 1: walks through the double doors and says, where'd you come from? Yeah?

952
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:49,040
Speaker 1: You know, like, man, I love it. Remember when we

953
00:54:49,440 --> 00:54:51,720
Speaker 1: decided to hop the or try to hop the railroads

954
00:54:51,719 --> 00:54:54,640
Speaker 1: and almost got run over, and then and we slept

955
00:54:54,680 --> 00:54:59,080
Speaker 1: out in somebody else's pasture surrounded by cows. The next

956
00:54:59,080 --> 00:55:01,000
Speaker 1: morning we ended up get back on the railroads and

957
00:55:01,040 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 1: walking into that small little cafe. I feel like that's

958
00:55:04,040 --> 00:55:06,239
Speaker 1: what people did when we walked in, because we were

959
00:55:06,360 --> 00:55:10,000
Speaker 1: just like dirty as anything. Small town cafe. We walk

960
00:55:10,080 --> 00:55:16,360
Speaker 1: in and it's just like, dude, everybody's looking at us.

961
00:55:16,440 --> 00:55:19,239
Speaker 1: So I want to go one more place world War two.

962
00:55:20,000 --> 00:55:23,839
Speaker 1: I'm so passionate about World War two and that era

963
00:55:23,920 --> 00:55:26,560
Speaker 1: of history, and I'll tell you why, because that was

964
00:55:26,600 --> 00:55:30,440
Speaker 1: a time similar to the Old West, when things were changing,

965
00:55:30,520 --> 00:55:33,239
Speaker 1: like technology was changing so fast, and there was a

966
00:55:33,320 --> 00:55:38,400
Speaker 1: time when Germany was going to take over the whole world,

967
00:55:39,440 --> 00:55:41,360
Speaker 1: and they had a plan for it, and if it

968
00:55:41,480 --> 00:55:43,560
Speaker 1: wasn't been for just a few mistakes here and there,

969
00:55:43,719 --> 00:55:46,400
Speaker 1: they would have done it. And the fact that the world,

970
00:55:46,760 --> 00:55:50,520
Speaker 1: a lot of the world, came together as allies and

971
00:55:50,640 --> 00:55:54,600
Speaker 1: defeated them and flipped the script where they went from

972
00:55:54,680 --> 00:55:58,400
Speaker 1: the aggressor to the defenders of their homeland in Germany.

973
00:55:58,560 --> 00:56:02,200
Speaker 1: And we want it through the air. The majority of

974
00:56:02,239 --> 00:56:07,879
Speaker 1: World War two was one from superior airpower. And what

975
00:56:08,239 --> 00:56:11,839
Speaker 1: really gets me going and gets me just thinking is,

976
00:56:13,760 --> 00:56:15,800
Speaker 1: first of all, that kind of war will never happen again,

977
00:56:16,920 --> 00:56:20,960
Speaker 1: and the way that our airpower dominated them. So my

978
00:56:21,000 --> 00:56:23,680
Speaker 1: grandpa was a pilot of the B twenty four bomber,

979
00:56:24,520 --> 00:56:27,160
Speaker 1: so I might be a little biased in that way,

980
00:56:27,200 --> 00:56:34,560
Speaker 1: but in the war in Europe, we decimated their cities. Terrible,

981
00:56:35,040 --> 00:56:39,120
Speaker 1: terrible thing that we did. We had to Americans bombed

982
00:56:39,160 --> 00:56:41,919
Speaker 1: by day, the British bombed by night, and we never

983
00:56:42,000 --> 00:56:44,279
Speaker 1: stopped once we had a foothold on them, and we

984
00:56:44,320 --> 00:56:48,560
Speaker 1: had them on the run. We were manufacturing aircraft in

985
00:56:48,600 --> 00:56:53,280
Speaker 1: the United States in the Ford plant, the GMC plant.

986
00:56:53,480 --> 00:56:56,000
Speaker 1: No more automobiles were being made. We flipped it all

987
00:56:56,040 --> 00:57:00,560
Speaker 1: to aircraft. There was women making these bomber planes in there.

988
00:57:01,160 --> 00:57:05,040
Speaker 1: And the country has never united like that. It never

989
00:57:05,120 --> 00:57:07,560
Speaker 1: had before and it never has to this day. Like

990
00:57:07,600 --> 00:57:11,560
Speaker 1: we did in those few short years to beat Germany.

991
00:57:11,840 --> 00:57:15,120
Speaker 1: We all came together and we made war bonds, and

992
00:57:15,160 --> 00:57:18,400
Speaker 1: we got our money together. We stocked food together, we

993
00:57:18,800 --> 00:57:22,720
Speaker 1: collected metal together, we collected rubber together. We are women

994
00:57:22,760 --> 00:57:26,960
Speaker 1: that were widows or had men overseas. They came together

995
00:57:27,000 --> 00:57:29,760
Speaker 1: in these factories, and the factories said, here's the keys.

996
00:57:30,080 --> 00:57:31,840
Speaker 1: We no longer are going to make cars. You do

997
00:57:31,920 --> 00:57:34,040
Speaker 1: whatever you got to do, make airplanes. And then we

998
00:57:34,080 --> 00:57:36,840
Speaker 1: took those airplanes and we flew them over Germany every

999
00:57:36,920 --> 00:57:40,680
Speaker 1: single day and bombed the crap out of them. And

1000
00:57:40,920 --> 00:57:42,800
Speaker 1: it's a terrible Like I said, it's a terrible thing.

1001
00:57:42,880 --> 00:57:45,960
Speaker 1: I loved the country of Germany. I love visiting and

1002
00:57:46,000 --> 00:57:48,880
Speaker 1: it breaks my heart that we were forced to do that.

1003
00:57:49,160 --> 00:57:51,200
Speaker 1: We had to because that was the only way at

1004
00:57:51,200 --> 00:57:52,560
Speaker 1: the time, it's the only way we knew how, and

1005
00:57:52,600 --> 00:57:54,120
Speaker 1: it's the only way it was winning the war. But

1006
00:57:54,200 --> 00:57:59,120
Speaker 1: we decimated these ancient medieval cities, and we didn't have

1007
00:57:59,160 --> 00:58:02,600
Speaker 1: strategic bombing, We didn't have good precisions, so we were

1008
00:58:02,640 --> 00:58:06,000
Speaker 1: just just go just dropping on and hoping that we

1009
00:58:06,120 --> 00:58:09,920
Speaker 1: hit the refinery, and half the time we were hitting neighborhoods.

1010
00:58:10,520 --> 00:58:12,880
Speaker 1: And that's the terrible thing about World War two. But

1011
00:58:12,920 --> 00:58:16,920
Speaker 1: it's just so fascinating that and they were not surrendering

1012
00:58:17,040 --> 00:58:20,280
Speaker 1: during this whole They were fighting to the end. And

1013
00:58:20,400 --> 00:58:23,520
Speaker 1: so I don't think we'll ever see God willing, we'll

1014
00:58:23,560 --> 00:58:25,479
Speaker 1: never see the world in that kind of state again.

1015
00:58:26,160 --> 00:58:29,200
Speaker 1: And it wasn't before that, with that kind of devastation.

1016
00:58:30,440 --> 00:58:33,720
Speaker 1: So yeah, I have to put that in there. Let

1017
00:58:33,760 --> 00:58:37,560
Speaker 1: me ask you this, the B twenty four music video.

1018
00:58:37,760 --> 00:58:40,640
Speaker 1: Is it still up on the internet? Yeah? It is, Okay,

1019
00:58:40,680 --> 00:58:43,200
Speaker 1: go watch that. You haven't seen it that it's a

1020
00:58:43,240 --> 00:58:45,640
Speaker 1: parody by the way, Yeah, but it's amazing. You know,

1021
00:58:45,800 --> 00:58:48,680
Speaker 1: this guy can do a parody like nobody else. So

1022
00:58:48,760 --> 00:58:52,880
Speaker 1: I did Biblical I did Medieval we only because I

1023
00:58:52,920 --> 00:58:54,560
Speaker 1: want to get on the horse and do the thing.

1024
00:58:54,680 --> 00:58:56,680
Speaker 1: The jousts. But I want to make sure my sticks

1025
00:58:56,720 --> 00:58:58,480
Speaker 1: a little bit longer than the other person's. That would

1026
00:58:58,520 --> 00:59:02,560
Speaker 1: be kind of cool in the armor and everything. My third,

1027
00:59:02,960 --> 00:59:06,160
Speaker 1: I would think I would want to live in the

1028
00:59:06,280 --> 00:59:13,800
Speaker 1: era where space travel is as common as air flight

1029
00:59:13,920 --> 00:59:19,080
Speaker 1: right now. Yes, I think I think that's I hope

1030
00:59:19,080 --> 00:59:22,520
Speaker 1: I'm still alive. I feel like there's people working on

1031
00:59:22,560 --> 00:59:24,800
Speaker 1: that becoming something very common. But I think that that

1032
00:59:24,840 --> 00:59:27,840
Speaker 1: would be absolutely to be able to see the Earth

1033
00:59:29,440 --> 00:59:32,200
Speaker 1: from that viewpoint, I think that would be pretty cool.

1034
00:59:32,320 --> 00:59:34,000
Speaker 1: We're running out of time here on this podcast, but

1035
00:59:34,040 --> 00:59:36,560
Speaker 1: I want to show you, Bernie, if anyone can google

1036
00:59:37,000 --> 00:59:43,919
Speaker 1: google Berlin nineteen forty five and look at this. You're

1037
00:59:43,960 --> 00:59:51,760
Speaker 1: talking the whole city is destroyed. Wow, the aerial shots

1038
00:59:51,800 --> 00:59:55,560
Speaker 1: of Berlin is it's just like look at you can

1039
00:59:55,600 --> 00:59:59,880
Speaker 1: just zoom in and it's just nothing but rubble. Wow. Crazy.

1040
01:00:00,280 --> 01:00:03,600
Speaker 1: That's all we got. You guys are awesome. All right, Hey,

1041
01:00:04,000 --> 01:00:06,920
Speaker 1: thanks for having me back, guys on the best yegee,

1042
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:09,320
Speaker 1: thanks for joining me on the Granger Smith Podcast. I

1043
01:00:09,400 --> 01:00:11,960
Speaker 1: appreciate all of you. Guys. You could help me out

1044
01:00:12,080 --> 01:00:15,320
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1045
01:00:15,600 --> 01:00:18,840
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1046
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1047
01:00:23,000 --> 01:00:25,160
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1048
01:00:25,200 --> 01:00:29,200
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1049
01:00:29,280 --> 01:00:31,760
Speaker 1: gmail dot com. Yi