1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 1: Welcome. You are now listening to the Professional Girl Professional 2 00:00:37,479 --> 00:00:40,720 Speaker 1: It's your girl, Ebena from the Professional Homegirl podcast, the 3 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:43,680 Speaker 1: only place where you would hear interviews from women of 4 00:00:43,720 --> 00:00:47,199 Speaker 1: color anonymously on stories that were enlightened and expand on 5 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:50,800 Speaker 1: taboo topics. Now, if you hear someone that sounds familiar, 6 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:54,000 Speaker 1: mind the business that pays you. Child, Please support the 7 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 1: show by leaving a five star review by some merch 8 00:00:57,400 --> 00:00:59,960 Speaker 1: or simply share these stories with your Professional home Girl. 9 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:05,039 Speaker 1: You never know, these storylines can be someone else's lifeline. Now, 10 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:07,640 Speaker 1: please keep in mind that all of my guests are anonymous. 11 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 1: So let's begin this week's episode. We'll child, I have 12 00:01:11,880 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 1: to bring you back, but we almost. She just got 13 00:01:13,760 --> 00:01:15,600 Speaker 1: in school, y'all. She gotta go home to her family. 14 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 1: But I gotta bring you back because that's I don't 15 00:01:17,920 --> 00:01:22,280 Speaker 1: even think people understand the things that we can't see. Right, 16 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:27,920 Speaker 1: Why mayn't tell you the proverbs? I think it's proverb 17 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:31,120 Speaker 1: six and thirteen where it says, by way of a prostitute, 18 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:33,360 Speaker 1: will it bring a man down to a piece of bread? 19 00:01:33,920 --> 00:01:37,440 Speaker 1: Mm hmm that scripture? Why the funk would you want 20 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:42,679 Speaker 1: to deal with a whole? Right? Why would you nigga. 21 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:45,120 Speaker 1: Nobody should have enough power in this world to bring 22 00:01:45,160 --> 00:01:49,400 Speaker 1: me down to a piece of bread. Then you got 23 00:01:49,400 --> 00:01:51,680 Speaker 1: me fucked up. But you know what, if a lot 24 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 1: of men knew that scripture, they would think twice about 25 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 1: the people that they deal with. So one of the 26 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 1: things me and my husb would tell each other all 27 00:01:56,960 --> 00:02:01,160 Speaker 1: the time, because because we were always at each other throat, 28 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 1: just because I've been through a lot of hell in 29 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,440 Speaker 1: my life, and the hell I've been through in life 30 00:02:06,560 --> 00:02:10,360 Speaker 1: he has never experienced before, so he's still learning where 31 00:02:10,360 --> 00:02:13,120 Speaker 1: I'm the one with the most experience in the relationship, 32 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:15,400 Speaker 1: like I have the experience of a fifty year old 33 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:18,840 Speaker 1: and we're both in our early thirties. So I have 34 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:21,000 Speaker 1: to try to keep myself calm. But some stuff you 35 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:23,440 Speaker 1: do is triggering, and I have to remind myself he's 36 00:02:23,480 --> 00:02:25,680 Speaker 1: a human being. He's not the man that I've been 37 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:27,920 Speaker 1: with before. But he might do some ship that looked 38 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 1: like them, and he'd have made a mistake, and in 39 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:32,799 Speaker 1: my mind, my mind will make myself believe that that 40 00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:36,760 Speaker 1: ship is permanent. And I have to go in and say, 41 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:38,919 Speaker 1: you know what, Father God, I got the authority over 42 00:02:39,040 --> 00:02:42,240 Speaker 1: unclean spirits. Father removed. It's unclean spirit type of thing, 43 00:02:42,800 --> 00:02:46,640 Speaker 1: you know, because everybody go through stuff and their marriages 44 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 1: and stuff like that, and everybody go through stuff, not 45 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:53,920 Speaker 1: just in marriage, but as an individual. And sometimes I 46 00:02:54,040 --> 00:03:00,680 Speaker 1: forget my husband is an indivisual, y'all, And it's so y'all. 47 00:03:00,720 --> 00:03:04,600 Speaker 1: We can be so hard, we can be so fucking 48 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:09,440 Speaker 1: hard on each other. And some of these people, some 49 00:03:09,480 --> 00:03:12,960 Speaker 1: of these men are not feeling that and feeling that marriage. 50 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 1: They just feeling that being with you. Mm hmmm, because 51 00:03:16,760 --> 00:03:23,040 Speaker 1: you too strict, right, And I had to learn don't 52 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:26,120 Speaker 1: be rob rob Rod today. And that's a hard that's 53 00:03:26,120 --> 00:03:29,359 Speaker 1: a hard thing. It takes. It takes a I talk 54 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:32,520 Speaker 1: at thirties, okay, because I feel like when you've got 55 00:03:32,760 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 1: kindred experience. And my birthday just passed. It was February eighth. 56 00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:41,960 Speaker 1: What so with you and Aquarius? Yeah? Oh water? Yeah, 57 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 1: there you go. You're not um No, I'm Scorpio, I'm water. 58 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 1: I'm deep water. That's why that's what I'm like. Yo. 59 00:03:50,120 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm I'm hearing myself. Yeah, deep water girl, 60 00:03:54,080 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 1: deep water do a girl, Yeah, tell me real quick, 61 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 1: because I understand my element and I don't do the horror. 62 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:02,440 Speaker 1: I don't do the horse ghost guys, I don't do that. 63 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:07,520 Speaker 1: But you gotta understand your element and your your foundation 64 00:04:07,640 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 1: of how you think and how you reason with things 65 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:14,000 Speaker 1: in respect to your decision makings and stuff like that, 66 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:16,880 Speaker 1: and just how you feel about things. With water, I 67 00:04:16,880 --> 00:04:20,640 Speaker 1: can either heal you or kill you if you get 68 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:22,520 Speaker 1: into it with me. You pissed me, I was gonna 69 00:04:22,520 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 1: be a fucking tsunami. You gotta think about how you wanna. 70 00:04:25,279 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 1: You get what I'm saying, like, don't do don't push 71 00:04:30,240 --> 00:04:32,640 Speaker 1: because I'm already close to the edge. Ship. I ain't 72 00:04:32,640 --> 00:04:36,760 Speaker 1: known killer, but don't push me. Okay, but it's some 73 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:41,280 Speaker 1: it's some ship. You know, water could be very dangerous. Um. 74 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:42,880 Speaker 1: And that's how, like I said, that's how I know 75 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:46,760 Speaker 1: so much about human trafficking and just you know, through 76 00:04:46,760 --> 00:04:49,599 Speaker 1: my expertise, and my expertise just don't come from my 77 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:53,400 Speaker 1: human experience. You know, my expertise comes from my divine 78 00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:57,520 Speaker 1: resource of having a great relationship with God and unders 79 00:04:57,680 --> 00:05:02,479 Speaker 1: being privy to information that most people wouldn't even uh with, 80 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:06,760 Speaker 1: would wouldn't even see, They wouldn't see it unless somebody 81 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:09,320 Speaker 1: who actually been through that type of health could pointed 82 00:05:09,360 --> 00:05:12,800 Speaker 1: out to you, Um, like for instance, Um and John 83 00:05:12,839 --> 00:05:15,040 Speaker 1: eight forty four, Jesus was talking to a group of 84 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:18,400 Speaker 1: Jews and these this group of Jews, he said, listen, 85 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 1: your daddy, not my daddy. And he said, your father 86 00:05:21,720 --> 00:05:24,200 Speaker 1: is Satan. Then at the end of the scripture he said, 87 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:27,760 Speaker 1: and Satan is the father of lies. Now, when I 88 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:31,040 Speaker 1: saw that, you will read that like that right, you 89 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: wouldn't think nothing of it. But as it refers to 90 00:05:33,640 --> 00:05:36,360 Speaker 1: the human trafficking, it explains a lot of the reason 91 00:05:36,440 --> 00:05:42,160 Speaker 1: why girls call a pimps or their buyers daddy. See 92 00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:45,600 Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Because we're not dealing with our father, 93 00:05:45,760 --> 00:05:48,800 Speaker 1: We're dealing with the father of lies. And I love 94 00:05:48,920 --> 00:05:51,880 Speaker 1: that scripture because Jesus made sure that we understood that 95 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:54,919 Speaker 1: Satan did not lose his position as a father just 96 00:05:54,960 --> 00:05:58,880 Speaker 1: because he was an enemy. Mm hmm. And we have 97 00:05:58,960 --> 00:06:02,040 Speaker 1: to think about that. Just just because they got the title, 98 00:06:02,120 --> 00:06:06,120 Speaker 1: that doesn't mean that that's who they are. But the 99 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 1: Bible says that God will put enmity between the woman 100 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 1: and the snake, And so we we have to really, 101 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:16,640 Speaker 1: you know, we have this discarnement, we have these tools, 102 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 1: we we have all of this stuff that we we 103 00:06:19,360 --> 00:06:22,839 Speaker 1: need to make these good judgments, but we still don't. 104 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 1: We invite some stuff in our life, some of us, 105 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:31,880 Speaker 1: some of us are we are just at the disadvantage 106 00:06:31,880 --> 00:06:34,680 Speaker 1: of the things that we pray about. But this we 107 00:06:34,839 --> 00:06:37,719 Speaker 1: pray for, we at the mercy of it because we 108 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:39,599 Speaker 1: don't really know we asked it when we say, okay, 109 00:06:39,600 --> 00:06:42,840 Speaker 1: God use me right, Okay, are you ready to do 110 00:06:42,920 --> 00:06:45,360 Speaker 1: this unto death? Because I do this unto death. I mean, 111 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:47,479 Speaker 1: and this is what I'm gonna do for the rest 112 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:50,640 Speaker 1: of my life. This is what I'm gonna do because 113 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 1: it's not just the power of my testimony. It's not 114 00:06:53,360 --> 00:06:56,080 Speaker 1: loving my life, my life unto death, meaning people's lives 115 00:06:56,080 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 1: are at state when we don't do the podcast like this. 116 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:00,560 Speaker 1: That's why I love you. You are cont and created, 117 00:07:00,640 --> 00:07:03,920 Speaker 1: you are black, You a Gordius, You're beautiful and black, sister, 118 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:09,640 Speaker 1: you sucking thank you. But when people like you can 119 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:14,560 Speaker 1: bring this kind of content into context and people get 120 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:17,520 Speaker 1: to have the advantage of having Jesus as well as 121 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 1: understanding somebody else's experience, because a lot of people won't 122 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 1: be able to hear me, you know, the the church 123 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:25,360 Speaker 1: wouldn't be able to hear me this way, because they'd 124 00:07:25,360 --> 00:07:27,800 Speaker 1: be like, oh, well, you know, because too much ship 125 00:07:27,920 --> 00:07:30,240 Speaker 1: like that. But I still might have something in my mouth. 126 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:32,200 Speaker 1: There's a wisdom and what it is that I'm saying 127 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:35,400 Speaker 1: that can help keep your children together, that can help 128 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:38,120 Speaker 1: keep your marriage together, keep you from walking out, showing 129 00:07:38,160 --> 00:07:41,280 Speaker 1: you how to pray. This is why my my new 130 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:44,400 Speaker 1: strong advantages teaching women how to pray for their husbands 131 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:46,920 Speaker 1: when they're getting caught up in this type of stuff, 132 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:49,040 Speaker 1: when they getting caught up in this demonic heral and 133 00:07:49,080 --> 00:07:54,520 Speaker 1: this a cultu uh spirit of of sexual explortation, right, 134 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 1: because you can't think you exempt just because you're married. 135 00:07:58,320 --> 00:08:01,160 Speaker 1: You ain't exempt. You ain't saying only you ain't gonna 136 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:04,200 Speaker 1: deal with, right, and you're gonna need somebody to talk 137 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:06,720 Speaker 1: to so people can talk about the ship. I'll talk 138 00:08:06,760 --> 00:08:09,720 Speaker 1: about all day long. But what we haven't what what 139 00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:13,320 Speaker 1: what is disgusting to me is that it's many people 140 00:08:13,440 --> 00:08:16,000 Speaker 1: that do go to church, we still have not figured 141 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:18,200 Speaker 1: out how to bring in the conversation of sex to 142 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 1: the church. And that is an enemy to us because 143 00:08:22,760 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 1: the only way to defeat the enemy. The number one 144 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 1: rule of war is to know who your enemy is 145 00:08:27,760 --> 00:08:32,200 Speaker 1: to learn them, and you can't learn them when the 146 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:35,079 Speaker 1: church don't have The church got so many excuses about 147 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 1: sex when the church need to have a conversation about sex. 148 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:41,480 Speaker 1: So you got everybody making up in their mind what 149 00:08:41,520 --> 00:08:45,080 Speaker 1: they think sex is or the ideas that make sex 150 00:08:45,160 --> 00:08:49,679 Speaker 1: work and the functionality of it and the faculties of it. 151 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:52,360 Speaker 1: That because it's in their mind and nobody has taught 152 00:08:52,440 --> 00:08:56,439 Speaker 1: them or mentored them about sex and healthy sexual relationship 153 00:08:56,559 --> 00:08:59,280 Speaker 1: and not even coming from their pastor then it's like, 154 00:08:59,320 --> 00:09:03,640 Speaker 1: well set up to whatever I believe sexes, the culture 155 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:10,400 Speaker 1: of it, the demonization of it is right right when 156 00:09:10,400 --> 00:09:17,040 Speaker 1: we could just definitely have a conversation right right, right 157 00:09:17,720 --> 00:09:20,839 Speaker 1: right now. Tell us about the day when you met 158 00:09:20,880 --> 00:09:26,160 Speaker 1: your navy recruiter, the day to change in life. Listen, yoh, 159 00:09:26,320 --> 00:09:29,079 Speaker 1: let me tell you something. Navy recruiters are the worst. 160 00:09:29,600 --> 00:09:33,120 Speaker 1: They are persistent, gird That's what I mean by the worst. 161 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:37,200 Speaker 1: R Man. So at that time, I was working at 162 00:09:37,200 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 1: a sex store in Green Spot Mall and I we 163 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:42,080 Speaker 1: used to I would I would go to school during 164 00:09:42,080 --> 00:09:44,160 Speaker 1: the day because I went to Fructure Beauty school, and 165 00:09:44,200 --> 00:09:46,800 Speaker 1: then at night time I was stripping at night and 166 00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:48,480 Speaker 1: then sometimes I would get home so late that I 167 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:50,760 Speaker 1: wouldn't have enough time to sleep. So then I would 168 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:52,800 Speaker 1: just stay up and go to work the next morning. 169 00:09:53,360 --> 00:09:57,600 Speaker 1: And the green Spoint mag One entrance would only be opening. 170 00:09:57,600 --> 00:10:00,240 Speaker 1: The insrance that would be open. What would be the 171 00:10:00,320 --> 00:10:03,000 Speaker 1: interest to the military, the army of the Navy, the 172 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:05,920 Speaker 1: Air Force, in the marine, in the coast guard. And 173 00:10:05,960 --> 00:10:08,080 Speaker 1: so I would go through that interest. And in the 174 00:10:08,120 --> 00:10:11,480 Speaker 1: morning they had what you called dippers. They would come 175 00:10:11,480 --> 00:10:14,520 Speaker 1: out and they live pt gear and stuffing. They'd be 176 00:10:14,559 --> 00:10:16,400 Speaker 1: out there running and stuff like that. And it was 177 00:10:16,480 --> 00:10:19,520 Speaker 1: this neighbor recruited. His name was Reese Tyler, and Reese 178 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:22,600 Speaker 1: used to see me every single morning. He would come 179 00:10:22,640 --> 00:10:25,520 Speaker 1: and get the door for me. He was a straight gentleman, 180 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:28,880 Speaker 1: handsome young man, light skinned and green eyes. I mean 181 00:10:29,040 --> 00:10:31,560 Speaker 1: everything you can think of you wanting the man. He 182 00:10:31,760 --> 00:10:34,040 Speaker 1: was just short, you know. It just it was never 183 00:10:34,080 --> 00:10:36,840 Speaker 1: my type kind of thing, because I dealt with, you know, 184 00:10:37,559 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 1: me and who was ready to give away money, not 185 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:41,560 Speaker 1: men who was gonna teach you how to make your 186 00:10:41,600 --> 00:10:44,400 Speaker 1: own money. So he wasn't the type of person I 187 00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:48,000 Speaker 1: would be attracted to, you see what I'm saying. And 188 00:10:48,120 --> 00:10:50,240 Speaker 1: so you know. Every day it would just be that 189 00:10:50,320 --> 00:10:53,199 Speaker 1: conversation he would have with me, just you know how 190 00:10:53,280 --> 00:10:56,120 Speaker 1: you're doing, you know what you've been up to today. 191 00:10:56,400 --> 00:10:59,280 Speaker 1: Let me get the door for you. You know, uh, 192 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:01,959 Speaker 1: you know you need to come join the navy. You 193 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:03,840 Speaker 1: know it's a lot of gentlemen in the navy. You know, 194 00:11:03,840 --> 00:11:05,640 Speaker 1: there's a lot of men to get the door for you. 195 00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:09,520 Speaker 1: You know, um um, if you can use all that skill, 196 00:11:09,600 --> 00:11:11,120 Speaker 1: I see you get the work on time. You can 197 00:11:11,200 --> 00:11:12,959 Speaker 1: use that skill, you get the work on time. You 198 00:11:12,960 --> 00:11:15,480 Speaker 1: can use that in the navy. You know. That's all 199 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:18,440 Speaker 1: he kept saying. Everything he was doing, he would say, 200 00:11:18,520 --> 00:11:20,280 Speaker 1: you know, you could do that same thing in the navy. 201 00:11:20,320 --> 00:11:23,400 Speaker 1: And so that's what I heard all the time, the 202 00:11:23,480 --> 00:11:25,760 Speaker 1: same way I heard if I got pregnant all the time, 203 00:11:25,800 --> 00:11:28,120 Speaker 1: I can have somewhere to stay well, because that man 204 00:11:28,240 --> 00:11:30,360 Speaker 1: kept talking to me about the Navy all the time. 205 00:11:30,800 --> 00:11:33,920 Speaker 1: When I I girl, I was at Passion Cabaret. And 206 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:36,920 Speaker 1: this is in Houston, Texas, y'all. Passion don't exist anymore, 207 00:11:36,960 --> 00:11:39,240 Speaker 1: but in some people that don't know about Passion Cabaret. 208 00:11:40,520 --> 00:11:42,680 Speaker 1: It was on forty five in the Door Shepherd, and 209 00:11:43,080 --> 00:11:47,000 Speaker 1: I remember I got my asswhip this particular day, um 210 00:11:47,040 --> 00:11:49,960 Speaker 1: by by my Trumpican, the one I was made to 211 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 1: live with me and my kids so Tom doesn't win 212 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:55,600 Speaker 1: on I'm Abouttom bitch at this particular point, and it 213 00:11:55,720 --> 00:11:58,440 Speaker 1: was something that happened. I didn't make no money or 214 00:11:58,480 --> 00:12:02,560 Speaker 1: I was mean to the to the UH manager something 215 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:06,080 Speaker 1: my dead and I pissed him off and this motherer's 216 00:12:06,120 --> 00:12:08,319 Speaker 1: just hauled off and hit me in front of everybody. 217 00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:10,840 Speaker 1: And so I remember, you know, the next day I 218 00:12:10,880 --> 00:12:12,600 Speaker 1: had a black eye and I kept trying to put 219 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:14,440 Speaker 1: the makeup on it and stuff, but I was crying 220 00:12:14,480 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 1: so much every time I put the makeup on it. 221 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:20,920 Speaker 1: The makeup was when state and um that one particular morning, 222 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:23,640 Speaker 1: I saw a wreath and you know, going to work 223 00:12:23,679 --> 00:12:26,720 Speaker 1: and stuff like that, and uh he saw it, and 224 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:31,040 Speaker 1: I remember him just asking me, you know, whenever you're ready, 225 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:35,280 Speaker 1: we could do it today, We could do it today. 226 00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:38,240 Speaker 1: Let's just do it today. He didn't ask me about 227 00:12:38,240 --> 00:12:40,760 Speaker 1: my black eye. He didn't ask me, you know, about 228 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:45,760 Speaker 1: how it happened. You know, it was because you know, 229 00:12:45,880 --> 00:12:49,640 Speaker 1: girls can talk a women could talk rather and you know, 230 00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:51,160 Speaker 1: by the time he asked me how I was doing 231 00:12:51,240 --> 00:12:53,360 Speaker 1: it went into all the way how I was doing 232 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:58,040 Speaker 1: into everything, and it was like he didn't hear none 233 00:12:58,040 --> 00:13:00,920 Speaker 1: of that. Ship when you're ready to take this test, 234 00:13:01,720 --> 00:13:05,040 Speaker 1: you can take this test. You do qualify. I don't 235 00:13:05,080 --> 00:13:07,880 Speaker 1: care about your tattoos. I don't care that you don't 236 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:11,079 Speaker 1: have you know everything, it is unique and this is 237 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:13,560 Speaker 1: during the time, so you cannot get in the military 238 00:13:13,640 --> 00:13:16,920 Speaker 1: with the g D at this particular time. This was 239 00:13:16,960 --> 00:13:19,880 Speaker 1: when we had just had the nine eleven had just happened, 240 00:13:20,280 --> 00:13:24,880 Speaker 1: So it was like five years into nine eleven, um, 241 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:28,000 Speaker 1: you know, during the war with Afghanistan and stuff, and 242 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:31,120 Speaker 1: the Navy started relaxing some of these restrictions on you know, 243 00:13:31,200 --> 00:13:33,760 Speaker 1: who could get in and stuff like that. And so 244 00:13:34,160 --> 00:13:36,400 Speaker 1: that was one of the things that qualified me to 245 00:13:36,480 --> 00:13:38,480 Speaker 1: even be in the military, because I kept telling him, 246 00:13:38,480 --> 00:13:41,079 Speaker 1: I was like, I don't qualify, like it was so 247 00:13:41,360 --> 00:13:45,800 Speaker 1: it was so bad. I was. I was a depressed individual. 248 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:49,400 Speaker 1: I had no confidence. And you would think somebody who 249 00:13:49,400 --> 00:13:51,160 Speaker 1: can get on stage and take their clothes off would 250 00:13:51,200 --> 00:13:54,319 Speaker 1: have the most confidence. No, I had the most training, 251 00:13:54,800 --> 00:13:58,480 Speaker 1: and I was groomed for how to handle that particular crown. 252 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:01,240 Speaker 1: I was not grown in trained on how to handle 253 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:05,640 Speaker 1: corporate America. Mm hmm. I was not ready to actually 254 00:14:05,679 --> 00:14:08,440 Speaker 1: put my name on something and commit to something long 255 00:14:08,520 --> 00:14:11,000 Speaker 1: time and have a plan for my life on my future. 256 00:14:12,040 --> 00:14:14,400 Speaker 1: That is the most scariest fucking thing you can do 257 00:14:14,480 --> 00:14:17,920 Speaker 1: in the world when you are not independent person. I 258 00:14:17,960 --> 00:14:20,440 Speaker 1: was codependent. I didn't have to worry about that ship 259 00:14:20,520 --> 00:14:22,400 Speaker 1: because my pim did all of that for me. I 260 00:14:22,400 --> 00:14:25,560 Speaker 1: don't get what people don't get about that ship. You know, 261 00:14:25,760 --> 00:14:29,480 Speaker 1: if it does, it does bother me because people will say, 262 00:14:29,520 --> 00:14:31,320 Speaker 1: you know you you do all of this stuff. You 263 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:33,360 Speaker 1: do now how you know? How did you do this? 264 00:14:33,440 --> 00:14:35,920 Speaker 1: And how did you do that? And how do you know? No, 265 00:14:36,080 --> 00:14:38,120 Speaker 1: it's not a how do you do? It was like 266 00:14:38,200 --> 00:14:41,800 Speaker 1: every stage of excellence that I got into my life, 267 00:14:41,920 --> 00:14:44,680 Speaker 1: that was somebody who believed in me, just such as yourself, 268 00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:48,240 Speaker 1: and and would say, you know what, I honor you, 269 00:14:48,400 --> 00:14:51,960 Speaker 1: woman of God, but what you went through, give me 270 00:14:52,120 --> 00:14:54,160 Speaker 1: tell me what you learned about that. I want to know. 271 00:14:54,280 --> 00:14:57,280 Speaker 1: And you know what, you are worthy? You were excellent 272 00:14:57,320 --> 00:15:00,080 Speaker 1: and you are awesome and those words are affirmation and 273 00:15:00,120 --> 00:15:01,960 Speaker 1: it's what would make me say, you know what, maybe 274 00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:04,120 Speaker 1: I am worthy. Maybe I can't take this to the 275 00:15:04,200 --> 00:15:07,040 Speaker 1: next level. And want to do something more with my life. 276 00:15:07,160 --> 00:15:12,560 Speaker 1: So every advantage, every opportunity for advancement, somebody would say 277 00:15:12,560 --> 00:15:15,320 Speaker 1: something positive that made me want to be a better 278 00:15:15,440 --> 00:15:20,040 Speaker 1: meet every single time. And when I ended up going 279 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:22,280 Speaker 1: to the Navy, I remember because, like I said, it 280 00:15:22,360 --> 00:15:25,320 Speaker 1: was the beginning of the war. And um, you know 281 00:15:25,360 --> 00:15:31,080 Speaker 1: we all got our badges for um for um what 282 00:15:31,280 --> 00:15:37,840 Speaker 1: is it? Um terrorism? Our national terrorism? Um, like just 283 00:15:38,400 --> 00:15:42,000 Speaker 1: uh badge. I can't think it was calling that because 284 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:46,920 Speaker 1: I'm I ain't been a militarian so long. Um. I 285 00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:50,280 Speaker 1: remember us watching the movie they were showing some of 286 00:15:50,280 --> 00:15:52,080 Speaker 1: the scenes of what happened when you go to war, 287 00:15:52,600 --> 00:15:55,240 Speaker 1: so for the Afghan War and stuff like that, and 288 00:15:55,280 --> 00:15:59,720 Speaker 1: you know we're standing there with our uh recruit hads 289 00:15:59,800 --> 00:16:02,920 Speaker 1: on on and you cannot take the recruit head off 290 00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:05,120 Speaker 1: until you get to like the final stage so you 291 00:16:05,120 --> 00:16:07,400 Speaker 1: can put the semen hat on. And so before you 292 00:16:07,400 --> 00:16:09,200 Speaker 1: put the semen hand on, they make you watch this 293 00:16:09,280 --> 00:16:10,920 Speaker 1: video that show you would have liked to go to 294 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:12,920 Speaker 1: war and to show you what it's like to not 295 00:16:13,040 --> 00:16:16,200 Speaker 1: leave a man behind. And I remember watching that movie 296 00:16:16,760 --> 00:16:19,320 Speaker 1: and we're all standing there. We have been sleep. The problem, 297 00:16:19,360 --> 00:16:21,680 Speaker 1: we have not had any sleep this is the end 298 00:16:21,680 --> 00:16:27,160 Speaker 1: of training. And I'm just like Boo who crying because 299 00:16:27,800 --> 00:16:31,120 Speaker 1: at that particular point, and it brought me right back 300 00:16:31,160 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 1: to that scripture what Jesus said, He's the one who 301 00:16:35,120 --> 00:16:38,120 Speaker 1: would leave the ninety nine and would not lead in 302 00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:39,960 Speaker 1: and would go back to get the one. He's the 303 00:16:39,960 --> 00:16:42,640 Speaker 1: one who would never leave the one behind. And I 304 00:16:43,160 --> 00:16:48,360 Speaker 1: kept thinking, oh my god, I'm the one God didn't leave. 305 00:16:50,880 --> 00:16:56,960 Speaker 1: It would position me. What position mean for such as 306 00:16:57,120 --> 00:17:01,680 Speaker 1: this understand what it is like, how hard it is 307 00:17:01,720 --> 00:17:06,520 Speaker 1: to actually leave a life like that and to go 308 00:17:06,560 --> 00:17:11,119 Speaker 1: into corporate America without feeling like you judge or people 309 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:13,040 Speaker 1: don't like you, or people don't want to work next 310 00:17:13,080 --> 00:17:16,800 Speaker 1: to you because of your life. And to see all 311 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:20,120 Speaker 1: of these white people, you know, these white people and 312 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:23,480 Speaker 1: these black people and these Asian people, you know, so 313 00:17:23,560 --> 00:17:27,320 Speaker 1: many people from around the world, the majority white people, 314 00:17:30,119 --> 00:17:32,480 Speaker 1: but you know, sit it next to them and eat 315 00:17:32,520 --> 00:17:36,359 Speaker 1: with them and and breathe their air, and just to 316 00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:40,239 Speaker 1: be considerate if you if be considered it equal. And 317 00:17:40,400 --> 00:17:44,320 Speaker 1: it's like, first I was hustling goaf for y'all money, 318 00:17:45,520 --> 00:17:50,760 Speaker 1: but now I have to be the one who might 319 00:17:50,800 --> 00:17:53,639 Speaker 1: have to go in and save somebody's life and they 320 00:17:53,720 --> 00:17:55,720 Speaker 1: might be white, they might be black, like it would 321 00:17:55,760 --> 00:17:58,920 Speaker 1: it didn't matter the color. But I will be chosen 322 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:01,920 Speaker 1: to save a lot when I needed to be saved. 323 00:18:03,600 --> 00:18:09,639 Speaker 1: And that was the toughest transition of my life. That 324 00:18:09,760 --> 00:18:13,280 Speaker 1: was the toughest trans because I still needed to be 325 00:18:13,359 --> 00:18:17,320 Speaker 1: saved and I had to transition my mind out of 326 00:18:18,119 --> 00:18:22,680 Speaker 1: you've already been rescued. Now you got to continue to survive. 327 00:18:22,760 --> 00:18:26,520 Speaker 1: Now you got to continue this fight. And that is 328 00:18:26,600 --> 00:18:30,199 Speaker 1: when the war happens, because people, when you grow and 329 00:18:30,240 --> 00:18:33,000 Speaker 1: you do better with your life, people and people remember 330 00:18:33,000 --> 00:18:35,800 Speaker 1: where you was. People will leave you where they remembered 331 00:18:35,800 --> 00:18:38,000 Speaker 1: to you and not let you move forward with your 332 00:18:38,040 --> 00:18:42,679 Speaker 1: memories because of their memory of you. And that was 333 00:18:42,720 --> 00:18:45,560 Speaker 1: the war I've had to deal with four years of 334 00:18:45,640 --> 00:18:48,520 Speaker 1: my life because people had already knew that. And it 335 00:18:48,600 --> 00:18:50,560 Speaker 1: was so funny and I made so many jokes. When 336 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:52,280 Speaker 1: I was in the Navy and I served my country 337 00:18:52,280 --> 00:18:54,800 Speaker 1: probably for eight years, everybody knew I was a stripper. 338 00:18:55,400 --> 00:18:59,080 Speaker 1: I did not hide that ship from no fucking body nobody. 339 00:18:59,359 --> 00:19:01,359 Speaker 1: I didn't have children. If we had to go to 340 00:19:01,400 --> 00:19:03,439 Speaker 1: work and it was time to go to work, and 341 00:19:03,440 --> 00:19:05,800 Speaker 1: I didn't have nobody to keep my kids. And we 342 00:19:05,920 --> 00:19:07,600 Speaker 1: was on the weekend. My kids was coming to fucking 343 00:19:07,600 --> 00:19:11,439 Speaker 1: work with me, right. My captains didn't say nothing that 344 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:13,920 Speaker 1: you know what they would say. And and this is 345 00:19:13,960 --> 00:19:18,800 Speaker 1: the difference between broke people and rich white men, because 346 00:19:18,840 --> 00:19:21,760 Speaker 1: you could be a broke white person too. My captains 347 00:19:21,800 --> 00:19:23,720 Speaker 1: and them, you know what they would tell me, Well, 348 00:19:23,920 --> 00:19:28,400 Speaker 1: looks like the navy is growing. Mm hmm. That was it. 349 00:19:29,320 --> 00:19:32,240 Speaker 1: I wasn't offended by that or nothing. Everybody would chuckle 350 00:19:32,520 --> 00:19:34,199 Speaker 1: and keep it going. And if I needed to do 351 00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:37,440 Speaker 1: some work, uh, and my kids, was there something people, 352 00:19:37,560 --> 00:19:40,000 Speaker 1: I'll just hand them out here. Y'all help me until 353 00:19:40,040 --> 00:19:43,320 Speaker 1: I can get this the gun over here. To me, 354 00:19:44,000 --> 00:19:48,840 Speaker 1: that was the greatest beat sister big brothers, sisterhood, brotherhood 355 00:19:48,880 --> 00:19:52,560 Speaker 1: you could ever have on God's green earth right there. 356 00:19:53,040 --> 00:19:55,639 Speaker 1: That to be around people who really stood up and 357 00:19:55,720 --> 00:19:57,560 Speaker 1: to say, you know, I got your six I got 358 00:19:57,560 --> 00:20:00,440 Speaker 1: your back for real, I got your backs. So that's 359 00:20:00,480 --> 00:20:02,720 Speaker 1: why even with raising my kids, who was, like I said, 360 00:20:02,880 --> 00:20:06,360 Speaker 1: always so confusing to me. Are people say certain things 361 00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:09,960 Speaker 1: about you and stuff? And I'm just like my kids 362 00:20:09,960 --> 00:20:12,960 Speaker 1: wanted me everywhere I went. They the same experiences I had. 363 00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:15,720 Speaker 1: They had them too, like we we because we grew 364 00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:17,960 Speaker 1: up with each other. So my kids and not we 365 00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:23,240 Speaker 1: have a very very different relationship with each other because 366 00:20:23,240 --> 00:20:26,000 Speaker 1: we grew up with each other. So and speaking of 367 00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:29,160 Speaker 1: your kids, how has your relationship with adults from your 368 00:20:29,240 --> 00:20:31,719 Speaker 1: childhood and pack your journey with motherhood? Because I can 369 00:20:31,760 --> 00:20:35,480 Speaker 1: already tell your hands on all. Oh, I am definitely 370 00:20:35,520 --> 00:20:38,840 Speaker 1: a hands on sucking moth. You know what. Um, I 371 00:20:38,920 --> 00:20:46,120 Speaker 1: was just talking to my my ex sister in law 372 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:50,959 Speaker 1: about this. Um that was that was recently something that 373 00:20:51,080 --> 00:20:54,760 Speaker 1: had happened that you know. So my daughter dad is 374 00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:58,920 Speaker 1: is my trafficker. He's one of my traffickers. And um, 375 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:01,359 Speaker 1: I finally came out and said, like who he was 376 00:21:01,480 --> 00:21:03,280 Speaker 1: and stuff like that. I'm not gonna mention it here, 377 00:21:03,400 --> 00:21:05,320 Speaker 1: y'all gonna have to find it somewhere else because I 378 00:21:05,359 --> 00:21:10,640 Speaker 1: ain't messy. But he had he no, I no, necessarily, 379 00:21:10,920 --> 00:21:13,120 Speaker 1: I mean he ain't nobody to know, but I mean ship, 380 00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:15,720 Speaker 1: he needs somebody to look out for. I wouldn't do 381 00:21:15,760 --> 00:21:18,840 Speaker 1: business with him or let my children bear up, you know, 382 00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:22,840 Speaker 1: no ship like that. But I was just talking about that, 383 00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:29,159 Speaker 1: you know. UM. I was telling her, um, because he 384 00:21:29,200 --> 00:21:35,719 Speaker 1: had did some shady ship. And and and I written 385 00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:38,960 Speaker 1: her message and I said, you know, the same energy 386 00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:41,720 Speaker 1: that y'all had about me growing up, raising my children, 387 00:21:42,280 --> 00:21:46,479 Speaker 1: I need y'all to have the same energy about you know, 388 00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:50,800 Speaker 1: him when he's doing things that are frustrating the progress 389 00:21:51,720 --> 00:21:56,520 Speaker 1: of of me being where I'm at right now, but 390 00:21:56,680 --> 00:21:59,359 Speaker 1: just where my children are right now, Like keep the 391 00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:03,399 Speaker 1: keeping positive, don't don't don't take me back to where 392 00:22:04,080 --> 00:22:08,000 Speaker 1: where I was because I'm not there. But he not 393 00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:11,439 Speaker 1: gonna do the same thing y'all was okay with thinking 394 00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:15,399 Speaker 1: I was doing and then just past him on the 395 00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:17,280 Speaker 1: hand and say, oh, he just made the boo boo, 396 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:19,399 Speaker 1: it's gonna be all right, No, because that's not how 397 00:22:19,480 --> 00:22:24,679 Speaker 1: y'all did me. Y'all, y'all, this was torture. It was 398 00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:28,719 Speaker 1: it was terroristic, It's what this was. Um. And I 399 00:22:28,800 --> 00:22:32,080 Speaker 1: was not acknowledged as a good mother at all, you know, 400 00:22:32,560 --> 00:22:34,399 Speaker 1: And when because it was when I stood up the 401 00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:37,800 Speaker 1: court and with the court you know, the judge was uh, 402 00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:40,640 Speaker 1: you know, insulting me and saying, you know, oh, don't 403 00:22:40,800 --> 00:22:42,800 Speaker 1: tell him the court room, Oh don't be like this mother. 404 00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:44,800 Speaker 1: She she has sex with me and in front of 405 00:22:44,800 --> 00:22:48,280 Speaker 1: her children, and nobody say that ship to him, and 406 00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:49,760 Speaker 1: he stood in court and talk with the court. He 407 00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:51,520 Speaker 1: had been with me since I was sixteen years old, 408 00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:54,640 Speaker 1: at the age when you cannot consent to sex, had 409 00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:59,800 Speaker 1: that same fucking energy. So I didn't. I didn't respond 410 00:22:59,840 --> 00:23:02,760 Speaker 1: to her what idea was. I herded her message, but 411 00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:05,320 Speaker 1: I knew the position that she was gonna take because 412 00:23:05,320 --> 00:23:09,600 Speaker 1: she specifically said, you know, it's about the kid, and 413 00:23:09,960 --> 00:23:11,639 Speaker 1: it was. It was about the kid. That's basically what 414 00:23:11,760 --> 00:23:15,880 Speaker 1: her message was. And I looked at the missing it's 415 00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:18,680 Speaker 1: about the kids. It's about the kid. And I looked 416 00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:21,800 Speaker 1: at the message, and she reminded me of everything I 417 00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:26,080 Speaker 1: experienced as a child when people dismissed how what they 418 00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:32,040 Speaker 1: did made me feel. My felis was dismissed. What happened 419 00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:34,879 Speaker 1: to me was dismissed. And it's not so much that 420 00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:38,119 Speaker 1: it was just you know, so much of dismissal. It 421 00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:43,080 Speaker 1: was the non acknowledgement. So the people in my family, 422 00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:46,120 Speaker 1: especially like my mother side of the family, I don't 423 00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:52,720 Speaker 1: talk to them at all because you you know more 424 00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:56,080 Speaker 1: about my life than apparently I know more about my life. 425 00:23:56,400 --> 00:24:04,040 Speaker 1: But there has been no acknowledgement, uh of redemption of Hey, 426 00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:07,160 Speaker 1: we was wrong. We took the wrong attitude, we went 427 00:24:07,200 --> 00:24:10,600 Speaker 1: about this the wrong way. We should have supported you more. 428 00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:15,040 Speaker 1: It's still let me raw, raw, raw about the decisions 429 00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:16,800 Speaker 1: you made as a child. And I'm like, well, I 430 00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:21,480 Speaker 1: made those decisions in self defense of the the need 431 00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:25,679 Speaker 1: lack of yes, surviving, but the lack of opportunity that 432 00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:30,240 Speaker 1: existed for me. And all I ever wanted was for 433 00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:32,520 Speaker 1: that to be acknowledged. And what I had to come 434 00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:34,520 Speaker 1: to the conclusion was and what I had to learn. 435 00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:38,399 Speaker 1: And I was talking to my my mentor, Jennifer Homan. 436 00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:43,760 Speaker 1: We were talking. I love her, um she she we 437 00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:46,080 Speaker 1: were talking and one of the things she told me, 438 00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:49,679 Speaker 1: she said, the same people that hurt you, you do 439 00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:54,960 Speaker 1: not need them to heal you. And I had to 440 00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:59,600 Speaker 1: think about that, and I was like that that that 441 00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:02,920 Speaker 1: was my problem. That was my problem the whole time. 442 00:25:02,960 --> 00:25:05,359 Speaker 1: I wanted the people who had hurt me so bad 443 00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:08,760 Speaker 1: to hear me where I was hurting that and really 444 00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:11,399 Speaker 1: not necessarily to hear me' all, but because I know 445 00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:14,640 Speaker 1: we got podcasters are listening, but to have that conversation 446 00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:18,480 Speaker 1: with me and tell me what you was thinking, tell 447 00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:21,119 Speaker 1: me in all honestly, and then let me tell you 448 00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:22,800 Speaker 1: what I was thinking, not just walk around with this 449 00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:27,320 Speaker 1: prejudgmental view of me without me being able to explain 450 00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:29,240 Speaker 1: to you. You you know, like, hey, oh did I 451 00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:31,399 Speaker 1: do that when I was younger? Okay, cool, Here's what 452 00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:35,000 Speaker 1: I was staying, Here's what I was going through, right, Okay, fine, 453 00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:40,119 Speaker 1: But you also acknowledge and having accountability of your hand 454 00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:43,360 Speaker 1: in my ship, because a lot of them had their 455 00:25:43,359 --> 00:25:45,359 Speaker 1: hand and my ship. And then they just they just 456 00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:47,800 Speaker 1: they want to be so far removed, and I'm like, 457 00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:50,840 Speaker 1: how can you remove yourself you participated in this bullshit 458 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:53,800 Speaker 1: happening to me? Because if they removed themselves and that's 459 00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:55,239 Speaker 1: the way of them saying that they never had they 460 00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:57,280 Speaker 1: was never a part of it. Yeah, that was never 461 00:25:57,280 --> 00:25:59,000 Speaker 1: a part of it. They don't want no guilty in 462 00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:02,679 Speaker 1: it and stuff, and so I I feel like, you know, 463 00:26:04,680 --> 00:26:09,560 Speaker 1: it's just they got the freedom to live their life. 464 00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:12,639 Speaker 1: I know that that. You know, sometimes people feel like, 465 00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:14,480 Speaker 1: you know, they're on eggs shells because they're waiting to 466 00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:16,320 Speaker 1: see they listen to wait to see if I'm gonna 467 00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:18,280 Speaker 1: say their name, and I'm just put it out there, 468 00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:20,400 Speaker 1: you ain't worth me saying your name. You ain't worth 469 00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:22,840 Speaker 1: me talking about publicly on me, sending people to your 470 00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:26,480 Speaker 1: page or you know people did sent franchise and your 471 00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:29,199 Speaker 1: businesses and stuff like that, you know, because that's not 472 00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:33,000 Speaker 1: what it was about. It's truly about healing. Now, DFPS, 473 00:26:33,800 --> 00:26:37,920 Speaker 1: I funk with them. I funk with them because the 474 00:26:37,960 --> 00:26:44,920 Speaker 1: commissioner a DFPS Jamie Masters. They Jamie Master, uh, Blanca 475 00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:50,600 Speaker 1: Denise and Adam McCleod, they had met me, uh some 476 00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:54,679 Speaker 1: event we had done and and um, they wanted to 477 00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:57,159 Speaker 1: hear they heard my story and stuff like that, and 478 00:26:57,200 --> 00:26:58,879 Speaker 1: they say, you know what, we want you to tell 479 00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:01,040 Speaker 1: your story to the apartment because we want to know 480 00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:03,320 Speaker 1: where we failed you at and when we messed up at. 481 00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:07,800 Speaker 1: And at that point I saw not just corporate social responsibility, 482 00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:13,000 Speaker 1: but corporate sustainability. All are you know black girls who 483 00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:16,080 Speaker 1: have been traffic, black girls who have been treated unjustly 484 00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:19,720 Speaker 1: by the criminal justice system, how did they fare well 485 00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:22,960 Speaker 1: after you know of stuff have happened, and what can 486 00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:26,560 Speaker 1: the department do to be better and and have just 487 00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:29,800 Speaker 1: situational awareness? I thought that was really really cool. And 488 00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:33,040 Speaker 1: the commissioner, she got up on stage after I told 489 00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:37,200 Speaker 1: my story and she apologized to me publicly m hmm. 490 00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:41,040 Speaker 1: And when she did that, she removed and and to 491 00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:43,120 Speaker 1: mind you, this was an apology to twenty years after 492 00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:48,119 Speaker 1: the fact. She removed twenty years of her by just 493 00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:55,080 Speaker 1: saying we are sorry and we see you. That I mean, 494 00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:57,480 Speaker 1: even thinking about it right now brings me to tears, 495 00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:01,399 Speaker 1: and it brought me to the script you're in the 496 00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:04,960 Speaker 1: Bible when God says that when a man's ways please God, 497 00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:08,200 Speaker 1: he will make even his enemies be at peace with 498 00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:13,520 Speaker 1: him m hm. And I stand on that word. I 499 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:16,880 Speaker 1: stand on that conviction. I am totally convicted about that. 500 00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:19,240 Speaker 1: And I honestly believe that if you have an art 501 00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:21,480 Speaker 1: with your brother, because that's what the word says, then 502 00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:23,480 Speaker 1: you need to go talk to your brother and about 503 00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:26,920 Speaker 1: that art and y'all solve the matter. But there are 504 00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:29,640 Speaker 1: some people who do not believe the word and stand 505 00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:31,399 Speaker 1: on the word that way, where if they have an 506 00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:33,760 Speaker 1: art about something that they want to have that conversation. 507 00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:36,080 Speaker 1: Some people just you know, like I said, they want 508 00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:38,240 Speaker 1: to be far removed when they had so much of 509 00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:42,880 Speaker 1: a hand and the adultification in the human trafficking and 510 00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:45,400 Speaker 1: and and let me tell you my human trafficking was 511 00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:48,480 Speaker 1: more or less around people protecting the person who was 512 00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:54,920 Speaker 1: trafficking me. You understand what I'm saying. So I dealt 513 00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:58,600 Speaker 1: with that all my life, watching watching somebody who had 514 00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:01,000 Speaker 1: trafficed me and done all these things to me. You know, 515 00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:05,040 Speaker 1: live like a protect the class of citizen. While I suffered, 516 00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:09,520 Speaker 1: I suffered. I fought to get my kids back. You know, 517 00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:11,480 Speaker 1: it took me almost teen years to get my kids back, 518 00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:13,320 Speaker 1: and I had to go study law, and I ain't 519 00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:15,320 Speaker 1: know a goddamn think about law. I knew a goddamn 520 00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:17,680 Speaker 1: think about a pleading. And the reason why law is 521 00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:19,960 Speaker 1: so difficult to understand is because you have to know 522 00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:23,600 Speaker 1: the king's language. That's why in courts there's a judge 523 00:29:23,760 --> 00:29:27,480 Speaker 1: or a magistrate. It's the king's language. You need to 524 00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:31,400 Speaker 1: You need everybody needs to. Everybody, especially if you walk 525 00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:33,960 Speaker 1: around calling yourself a king and queen, you need to 526 00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:38,360 Speaker 1: have the fucking Robert's Rule in your back pocket because 527 00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:40,720 Speaker 1: you need to know the king's language. You cannot walk 528 00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:43,840 Speaker 1: around here. The same conversation I'm having with y'all on 529 00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:46,480 Speaker 1: this podcast is not the same conversation that I'm having 530 00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:49,280 Speaker 1: with legislators when I'm standing before a democratic and Republican 531 00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:51,440 Speaker 1: men put it in my case about why we should 532 00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:54,920 Speaker 1: push this law forward. They don't get this out of 533 00:29:55,000 --> 00:29:57,320 Speaker 1: it and I ain't cos with you, do. I tell 534 00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:58,959 Speaker 1: it like it is, y'all tell the lie it is. 535 00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:01,520 Speaker 1: But you gotta remember I'm in office and I'm talking 536 00:30:01,560 --> 00:30:05,320 Speaker 1: to kings, so you have to have the language of 537 00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:08,400 Speaker 1: a king. You can't go to the king with the 538 00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:13,000 Speaker 1: with a peasants tongue. Mm hmm. So y'all stop that. 539 00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:16,480 Speaker 1: Stop that. You can't be all I'm a queen. You 540 00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:18,800 Speaker 1: out here ra ra raw in every five minutes, No nigga. 541 00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:24,560 Speaker 1: I'm in advocacy. My raw raw is different, not non nigga. Okay. 542 00:30:27,760 --> 00:30:31,560 Speaker 1: I doesn't want to make sure we clear, not hands down. 543 00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:34,800 Speaker 1: This has been one of my favorite episodes. We got 544 00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:38,480 Speaker 1: two questions and that's it. That's it. The first question 545 00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:43,160 Speaker 1: is how do we help someone who was in this situation? Well, 546 00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:46,600 Speaker 1: so I do human trafficking prevag and that's when NAS 547 00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:50,720 Speaker 1: Network Incorporated is about. We help the children of the pimpster, 548 00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:54,600 Speaker 1: children of the victims of sex trafficking, the children of 549 00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:57,080 Speaker 1: the prostitutes, because those are the ones that get left 550 00:30:57,320 --> 00:31:00,320 Speaker 1: through the crack and or or fall through the crack. 551 00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:02,480 Speaker 1: They're the one that get caught in together because people 552 00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:04,680 Speaker 1: automatically so that if the parent is like that, the 553 00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:07,520 Speaker 1: child is gonna be like that um as well. And 554 00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:10,400 Speaker 1: you've got some moms who are just leaving their kids, 555 00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:13,760 Speaker 1: their younger kids at home with the older siblings, and 556 00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:18,440 Speaker 1: the older siblers can't live life because they're raising your children, okay, 557 00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:21,880 Speaker 1: and so that that that's a problem, and so you 558 00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:24,160 Speaker 1: you don't you don't want that. And those kids end 559 00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:27,040 Speaker 1: up being audotified and having to fine food and having 560 00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:29,080 Speaker 1: to find keep the shell to keep the lights on 561 00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:31,880 Speaker 1: so to say, you know, or keep the bills paying 562 00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:34,320 Speaker 1: and stuff like that. And and the reason why prostitutional 563 00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:36,960 Speaker 1: raiders are going up because kids are hungry. But one 564 00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:38,880 Speaker 1: of the things I tell people, you know, not just 565 00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:41,719 Speaker 1: to be vigilant, but to make sure you know, if 566 00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:44,360 Speaker 1: you got a kid that's at school and you see 567 00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:47,000 Speaker 1: their hungry, meaning they're going to the somebody who don't 568 00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:48,960 Speaker 1: just eat the one place they always going back to. 569 00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:53,280 Speaker 1: Seconds and third, third, that's something's going on. Sometimes it's 570 00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:55,480 Speaker 1: not just old. That kid is a teenager and they're 571 00:31:55,480 --> 00:31:58,760 Speaker 1: being hungry. Sometimes they might be their kids may got 572 00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:01,080 Speaker 1: to go to work that not and they got no 573 00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:05,920 Speaker 1: food to eat because they are on the street, or 574 00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:08,880 Speaker 1: they got to go, you know, hook up with their 575 00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:11,640 Speaker 1: mama's John or hook up with their own sugar daddy 576 00:32:12,080 --> 00:32:18,040 Speaker 1: and they're tired, right, and people don't think about that. UM. 577 00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:21,719 Speaker 1: I love my Impact partners crop Stoppers at Houston who 578 00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:25,920 Speaker 1: have allowed me to develop and train um a lot 579 00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:28,959 Speaker 1: of corporate companies on him and trafficing, but as well 580 00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:32,080 Speaker 1: as we've come up with the Child Safety Kids. Now, 581 00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:35,080 Speaker 1: I know the Child Safety kids seem corny, but they're 582 00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:38,520 Speaker 1: not corny. UM. You know, if you got a kid 583 00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:40,800 Speaker 1: right now, you took your kids to the doctor, I 584 00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:44,160 Speaker 1: guarantee you everything that the doctor wrote up about your children. 585 00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:46,880 Speaker 1: You're not walking out the doctor's office with that information. 586 00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:50,360 Speaker 1: You understand what I'm saying. And so with the Child 587 00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:52,720 Speaker 1: Safety Kid, we want to put that power back into 588 00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:56,160 Speaker 1: the parents hands and we want them to start writing 589 00:32:56,160 --> 00:33:00,040 Speaker 1: down everything that is identifiable about their child in the 590 00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:02,560 Speaker 1: Child Safety Kid. So the doctors shouldn't be on the 591 00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:06,000 Speaker 1: ones walking around with the teeth identifying markers and stuff. 592 00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:08,160 Speaker 1: You should have it too. They shouldn't be the only 593 00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:10,960 Speaker 1: one walking around with DNA samples. You should have DNA 594 00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:13,840 Speaker 1: samples of your own children. But most importantly, the first 595 00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:17,320 Speaker 1: part of the DNA is the fingerprinting, and so your 596 00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:19,720 Speaker 1: fringk and put your own children and you keep that 597 00:33:19,760 --> 00:33:24,240 Speaker 1: in the safe. I mean, just simple things to protect 598 00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:26,360 Speaker 1: our kids. A lot of our kids come up missing, 599 00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:29,680 Speaker 1: a lot of our kids become abductive. Abduction is not 600 00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:33,400 Speaker 1: human trafficking, and abduction is an abduction. So sometimes you 601 00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:38,800 Speaker 1: do have an abduction offenders who traffic girls. But if 602 00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:42,200 Speaker 1: if sex trafficking has not happened, then you just didn't 603 00:33:42,200 --> 00:33:45,840 Speaker 1: with an abduction. And even in that situation or that scenario, 604 00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:48,560 Speaker 1: you want to be able to have some DNA to 605 00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:50,360 Speaker 1: give to the police so that they can start their 606 00:33:50,360 --> 00:33:54,680 Speaker 1: preliminary investigation. You wanna be you want to be able 607 00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:56,800 Speaker 1: to give somebody who's looking for your kid, if your 608 00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:59,720 Speaker 1: kid come up missing, it's more information than they ask 609 00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:04,120 Speaker 1: for because you did the due diligence before the situation happened. 610 00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:09,239 Speaker 1: You want to take control of your house. And so 611 00:34:09,360 --> 00:34:11,399 Speaker 1: this is whether you're a parent, this is whether you're 612 00:34:11,400 --> 00:34:13,400 Speaker 1: a teacher. I give this out to a lot of 613 00:34:13,440 --> 00:34:17,040 Speaker 1: teachers uh encourage their parents to get them as well, 614 00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:20,000 Speaker 1: things like that to that nature, um you want to 615 00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:25,200 Speaker 1: be cautious of you know, um massage, brothels and things 616 00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:27,439 Speaker 1: like that. Like right now, we we have over thirty 617 00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:32,719 Speaker 1: and listen, uh bronthels that are next to you know, schools, 618 00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:36,880 Speaker 1: and we have one of the largest uh I s 619 00:34:36,960 --> 00:34:39,640 Speaker 1: d S independent school districts in the world, which is 620 00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:43,560 Speaker 1: Houston uh Independent School District. And you know, of course 621 00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:46,520 Speaker 1: we have a lot of problems, but one of those 622 00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:49,719 Speaker 1: you know problems is having that wrap around service for 623 00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:53,520 Speaker 1: for what I for my specialty. Because nobody's thinking sex 624 00:34:53,719 --> 00:34:57,040 Speaker 1: is a social impediment to students that they can't focus 625 00:34:57,080 --> 00:35:01,240 Speaker 1: and do their work. But sex is a impedimental students 626 00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:03,600 Speaker 1: that they can't do focus and do their work. It's 627 00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:07,000 Speaker 1: not not only sex. When you ask sex with social media, 628 00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:11,919 Speaker 1: you got a very diverse component. When you ask sex 629 00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:16,080 Speaker 1: social media and then only fast, then you gotta super outrage, 630 00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:22,120 Speaker 1: a superimposed diverse component to this child thinking, being able 631 00:35:22,160 --> 00:35:26,960 Speaker 1: to concentrate their developmental skills, how fast they understand adult life, 632 00:35:27,239 --> 00:35:31,200 Speaker 1: you know, wanting to exercise independence, um, and wanting to 633 00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:34,560 Speaker 1: understand money and and and how money is using and 634 00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:36,719 Speaker 1: how it's purpose for. But when you get kids that 635 00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:39,640 Speaker 1: understand money and they only understand one type of currency 636 00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:42,319 Speaker 1: and how that currency is used only one way, you 637 00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:46,680 Speaker 1: got a problem mm hmmm, because you're gonna have a 638 00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:50,440 Speaker 1: bunch of kids that's facilitating criminal activity versus children that 639 00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:55,480 Speaker 1: are out here being entrepreneurs. And that makes all the difference. 640 00:35:55,719 --> 00:35:58,960 Speaker 1: That's why we need people like me with and stuff 641 00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:01,560 Speaker 1: because I deal with at excusing kid instead of dealt 642 00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:04,040 Speaker 1: with the justice or have impact been impacted by the 643 00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:06,680 Speaker 1: justice system or the ju without justice system. I mean, 644 00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:09,920 Speaker 1: that's that's what I'm here for. But you know, you 645 00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:12,560 Speaker 1: the size are clear. If your home girl got an 646 00:36:12,560 --> 00:36:16,239 Speaker 1: iPhone fit team and they ain't an out there but 647 00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:18,160 Speaker 1: you know her mama and them my wealtha and food 648 00:36:18,200 --> 00:36:20,080 Speaker 1: stunds and they ain't got that kind of money. Okay, 649 00:36:20,080 --> 00:36:23,839 Speaker 1: since what's up where you're getting all this money from? 650 00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:25,640 Speaker 1: You know those kind of questions that if you're in 651 00:36:25,680 --> 00:36:28,080 Speaker 1: school and you're dealing with somebody at school and you 652 00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:29,960 Speaker 1: you get a little boy and they he he hi 653 00:36:30,080 --> 00:36:32,439 Speaker 1: high and about running a train on the girl. Okay, 654 00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:34,080 Speaker 1: well do you need to ask more questions? That they 655 00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:37,120 Speaker 1: read the train of the girl. They just sex traffic somebody. Right, 656 00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:40,719 Speaker 1: if you got a daughter and your daughter dating of 657 00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:43,800 Speaker 1: football play and he the most popular fool about playing 658 00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:46,320 Speaker 1: and he tells his girlfriend, Hey, if you love me, 659 00:36:46,400 --> 00:36:49,040 Speaker 1: then you all sleep with all my football players, my 660 00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:56,560 Speaker 1: my partners with me. Then your son just traffic somebody's daughter, right, right, 661 00:36:57,800 --> 00:37:01,000 Speaker 1: These are conversations that we need to be having, Dad, 662 00:37:01,520 --> 00:37:03,680 Speaker 1: that we're not having if you still walk around he 663 00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:06,360 Speaker 1: talking about some uncle daddy is a is a relative 664 00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:09,640 Speaker 1: uncle daddy probacy, But what's your daughter too? That's a fact. 665 00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:16,120 Speaker 1: And and paying U to be quiet mm hm. And 666 00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:18,560 Speaker 1: you can't just worry about uncle daddy. You got you 667 00:37:18,680 --> 00:37:22,960 Speaker 1: got daddy too. That's you know, perverted. You know we 668 00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:26,800 Speaker 1: still you know we I understand Santa Claus and I 669 00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:31,160 Speaker 1: get I get what people you know are trying to 670 00:37:31,239 --> 00:37:34,160 Speaker 1: imply with Santa Clause. But socially we should be have 671 00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:37,920 Speaker 1: grown out of the whole Santa Clauds situation, because you 672 00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:39,840 Speaker 1: ain't gonna tell me to make my child shit on 673 00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:45,280 Speaker 1: some unmanned known s lap. Right. It's too much ship 674 00:37:45,280 --> 00:37:48,200 Speaker 1: going on, It's too much ship going on in the 675 00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:50,960 Speaker 1: world for that to even be considered a safe space. 676 00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:55,880 Speaker 1: Unknown man, slap. I don't care what the season is. 677 00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:01,560 Speaker 1: That's that's not it, right, Yo. When I was growing up, 678 00:38:01,560 --> 00:38:08,520 Speaker 1: I couldn't sit on nobody's laughing you Hello, Hello, at 679 00:38:08,600 --> 00:38:14,320 Speaker 1: nine o'clock, your bitch apples in the house. The Michael's 680 00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:20,520 Speaker 1: gonna take your ass whole. Right, we was cooking dinner 681 00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:23,440 Speaker 1: when the last time you Now, I hurry up and 682 00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:26,279 Speaker 1: go on to cook dinner. Got humble what you want 683 00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:31,399 Speaker 1: to eat? Let's try something different. I'll be in there 684 00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:33,840 Speaker 1: trying to swan chicken and ship. I don't know. No, 685 00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:44,680 Speaker 1: but no, goddamn, just one no, no, right, But now 686 00:38:44,680 --> 00:38:48,000 Speaker 1: I understand why my white suicer is always making that 687 00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:51,520 Speaker 1: green bean cassero ship. Sometimes I put that ship with 688 00:38:51,600 --> 00:38:56,320 Speaker 1: some cheese and mushrooms, soap hollida thinking in the oven. 689 00:38:56,680 --> 00:39:03,320 Speaker 1: That's it. I get it right. And last, but not least, 690 00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:06,000 Speaker 1: what is your advice to those who are survivors of 691 00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:12,520 Speaker 1: human trafficking? Oh man? Where do I start with the 692 00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:21,080 Speaker 1: advice to human trafficking? Mm hmmmm, I'll start here. The 693 00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:23,719 Speaker 1: Bible says that a wise woman builds a house, but 694 00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:26,399 Speaker 1: a foolish woman pluck it down with her hand. M hmm. 695 00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:30,520 Speaker 1: Notice that the bibble didn't say a wise wife builds 696 00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:34,839 Speaker 1: a house. That means that you need to have your 697 00:39:34,880 --> 00:39:40,480 Speaker 1: own life before you become somebody's wife child. I'd be 698 00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:45,359 Speaker 1: telling these bitches you see what I'm saying. You don't 699 00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:49,080 Speaker 1: need to have your own life. A man is not 700 00:39:49,400 --> 00:39:57,080 Speaker 1: a financial plan. Thanks. You cannot live your life like that, sis, 701 00:39:57,880 --> 00:40:03,359 Speaker 1: big bro like it's it's not going to work. You're 702 00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:07,880 Speaker 1: gonna have to be a facilitator of your own happiness. 703 00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:13,000 Speaker 1: You cannot depend on people to co facilitate your happiness. 704 00:40:13,360 --> 00:40:18,920 Speaker 1: Happiness first of all, the circumstantial. So nobody owes you 705 00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:24,839 Speaker 1: anything for you to be happy, okay, So and then 706 00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:28,320 Speaker 1: you you cannot walk around here expecting everybody to intervene 707 00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:30,720 Speaker 1: in your life. You don't want too many people putting 708 00:40:30,719 --> 00:40:33,440 Speaker 1: your hands on your life and your situation anyways, because 709 00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:35,000 Speaker 1: it would be more of a burden than it is 710 00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:42,800 Speaker 1: a problem. Too much help can be a downfall. Mm hmmm, 711 00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:46,719 Speaker 1: because you need you there are some things, there's some 712 00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:50,120 Speaker 1: things that that by not receiving the help will make 713 00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:52,960 Speaker 1: you be the self starter that you were born to be. 714 00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:57,400 Speaker 1: M hm. Yourself start shouldn't only be the push button 715 00:40:57,440 --> 00:41:03,160 Speaker 1: in your car. Yourself start button should be in your mind. 716 00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:09,200 Speaker 1: You should be able to start something, finish something, complete something, 717 00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:15,400 Speaker 1: begin something. And your ideas do matter, right, they do matter. 718 00:41:15,480 --> 00:41:18,439 Speaker 1: Your creativity does matter. And that's the thing about people 719 00:41:18,440 --> 00:41:21,200 Speaker 1: who've been abused for many years. Usually they're not very 720 00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:26,840 Speaker 1: creative people. And so it is time for you, since 721 00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:30,080 Speaker 1: survivor human trafficking, to go learn some new things about 722 00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:32,120 Speaker 1: you and stop trying to learn people that you're trying 723 00:41:32,120 --> 00:41:35,359 Speaker 1: to be in love with. Set your ass down mm hmm. 724 00:41:36,600 --> 00:41:39,960 Speaker 1: Make them learn you because you're still learning you. Right, 725 00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:45,799 Speaker 1: Get to like you, get to know you, get to 726 00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:50,520 Speaker 1: spend time, get to spend time with yourself and not 727 00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:54,319 Speaker 1: with and stop romanticizing up about the ideas of being 728 00:41:54,320 --> 00:41:56,520 Speaker 1: in a relationship. And don't be quick to be in 729 00:41:56,520 --> 00:41:59,080 Speaker 1: a relationship and quick to be in marriage because marriage 730 00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:02,520 Speaker 1: is a lot of work mm hmm. And it's not 731 00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:10,120 Speaker 1: for everybody. It's a lot a lot of work. So 732 00:42:12,120 --> 00:42:17,000 Speaker 1: that's my advice. I hope it was good. It was fired. 733 00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:20,120 Speaker 1: I am so appreciative of you. I thank YouTube for 734 00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:25,480 Speaker 1: allowing me to find you because I've been looking for 735 00:42:25,600 --> 00:42:28,040 Speaker 1: someone to speak on this topic and I feel like 736 00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:31,680 Speaker 1: you are the epitome of what my brand stands for, 737 00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:35,680 Speaker 1: the professional home girl. So I really, really really thank 738 00:42:35,719 --> 00:42:37,200 Speaker 1: you so much. Like, are we gonna talk off the 739 00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:39,759 Speaker 1: screen because I want to share something with you? But um, 740 00:42:39,800 --> 00:42:43,600 Speaker 1: I'm super excited I met you, like seriously, Oh since 741 00:42:43,640 --> 00:42:45,960 Speaker 1: I love you already and we gonna stay in touch? 742 00:42:46,200 --> 00:42:48,279 Speaker 1: Yes we are. We are because I'm gonna share some 743 00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:51,359 Speaker 1: exciting news that the listeners don't know yet. But if 744 00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:53,600 Speaker 1: you have any questions comments to the serns, please make 745 00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:56,000 Speaker 1: sure the email me a hello at the PSD podcast 746 00:42:56,040 --> 00:43:01,880 Speaker 1: dot com. And until next time, everyone lay her peace