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Speaker 1: This is Kelly Henderson and you are listening to the

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Speaker 1: Velvet's Edge podcast. It is the day after the election.

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Speaker 1: I am personally completely emotionally drained, and UM, I've been

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Speaker 1: all over the place just with my emotions, with the chaos,

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Speaker 1: with the back and forth. UM. And so I wasn't

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Speaker 1: sure what I was going to post on the podcast

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Speaker 1: today because I wanted it to be appropriate for the times. UM.

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Speaker 1: I did end up having a conversation with Jake Woodard,

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Speaker 1: who is a spiritual healer and author and the host

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Speaker 1: of the Awake with Jake Show podcast. I've been following

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Speaker 1: his work for a while and UM, I really have

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Speaker 1: been intrigued, mostly by his focus on the masculine and

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Speaker 1: feminine energies inside of all of us. So we talked

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Speaker 1: a lot about that. But I really lead this conversation

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Speaker 1: with where I was emotionally, and Jake was so gracious

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Speaker 1: dealing with and the processing through what is happening in

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Speaker 1: our country right now. UM. But back to the masculine

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Speaker 1: and feminine energies. What we talked about a lot with

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Speaker 1: those was the spiritual healing that the awareness of those

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Speaker 1: look like as wounds, what those can look like when

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Speaker 1: affect our relationships. It's fascinating to me what we are

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Speaker 1: drawn to energy wise without even a conscious awareness of this.

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Speaker 1: So through this podcast, I really discovered how important it

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Speaker 1: is to spiritual healing, uh figuring out which energy we

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Speaker 1: that energy and it can truly be a guide for

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Speaker 1: how we navigate our lives. We recorded this podcast, As

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Speaker 1: I said, it's the day after the election, so I'm

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Speaker 1: I'm putting it up that also the same day, which

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Speaker 1: is very odd. But it was such a good conversation

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Speaker 1: and so healing for me that I really felt like

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Speaker 1: you guys might need to hear it today. He also

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Speaker 1: just walked me through dealing with this emotional exhaustion that

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Speaker 1: I'm feeling um and it turned into kind of a

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Speaker 1: mini session for me of just expressing some vulnerability honestly,

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Speaker 1: and some tears came out, of course, but just of

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Speaker 1: my own current struggles and blocks within my own feminine

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Speaker 1: energy and just how that's manifesting in my life. Um,

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Speaker 1: I'm a deep female energy, which is of no surprise

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Speaker 1: to me, but I'm wondering if you guys are feeling

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Speaker 1: what I'm feeling, uh it, just in life in general,

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Speaker 1: in relationships, in your bodies. Listen to this conversation and

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Speaker 1: please message me at Kelly at velvet's edge dot com

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Speaker 1: or all my Instagram at velvets Edge if you do

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Speaker 1: resonate with anything that was said here today on this podcast.

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Speaker 1: I do this podcast. I do the Velvet Edge podcast

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Speaker 1: because it really helps me to connect with you guys

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Speaker 1: over real topics, to talk about true feelings, even to

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Speaker 1: talk about true struggles. It just helps me heal. So

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Speaker 1: I really thank you guys for listening, and thank you

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Speaker 1: so much for continuing to share your stories with me.

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Speaker 1: It helps me more than you know. Here's my conversation

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Speaker 1: with one of my new favorite healers, Jake Widard. Okay, so,

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Speaker 1: I was just telling you that I am completely emotionally

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Speaker 1: were just telling me. So basically, I mean in our world,

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Speaker 1: know I'm really esoteric right now, right off the bat,

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Speaker 1: You know, it's not about the politicians or the election.

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Speaker 1: And what do you say? Like, first of all, is

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Speaker 1: Distractions are a great way to stay away from it,

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Speaker 1: with having more of a masculine core, but there are

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Speaker 1: men that have more of a feminine core, And most

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Speaker 1: women identify with having more of a feminine core, but

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Speaker 1: there are women that have masculine cores as well. The

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Speaker 1: mask on energy. To break this down in a very

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Speaker 1: simple context, and this once again is going to be

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Speaker 1: a lot we're going to talk about, So I would

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Speaker 1: just invite the listeners to just digest this and take

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Speaker 1: what resonates. And the masculine energy basically is your structure,

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Speaker 1: your direction, your clarity of purpose, your logical mind. The

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Speaker 1: mind of the masculine person is the problem solving mind.

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Speaker 1: It is your giving energy. Where the feminine essence of

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Speaker 1: feminine energy is your receptive energy, is your feelings, your emotions,

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Speaker 1: your intuition. It is the essence of love, the vibration

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Speaker 1: of love. Where the essence of the masculine energy would

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Speaker 1: be freedom, consciousness, presence, right where the feminine qualities are

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Speaker 1: more about the feelings and the sensation and the vulnerability

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Speaker 1: and surrendering to the natural flow of the universe. The

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Speaker 1: way that I could give you an analogy around it

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Speaker 1: is basically, if you look at the feminine energy as

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Speaker 1: river water flowing through the flow of the water, and

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Speaker 1: the river bed that holds the water flowing would be

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Speaker 1: like the masculine support the supportive energy that holds the

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Speaker 1: container for the feminine to flow through. Now it's it's

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Speaker 1: everywhere in nature. Once again, the yen and the young

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Speaker 1: energies exist within nature because look at the truth, the

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Speaker 1: trunk in the roots that go down into the mother

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Speaker 1: would be like the masculine essence, where the branches and

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Speaker 1: the leaves flow out in the wind are more the

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Speaker 1: feminine energy. The wind flowing through the trees is more

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Speaker 1: like the feminine energy. So we can see the examples

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Speaker 1: how basically the things that are structured and still is

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Speaker 1: more of like the masculine energy, where the things that

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Speaker 1: are flowing and moving and constantly changing direction is the

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Speaker 1: feminine essence. Now, we've also been very imbalanced, and I

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Speaker 1: want to say this as well, we have been extremely

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Speaker 1: imbalanced within this planet of the human emotions and the

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Speaker 1: human energy because we have put masculine energy on a

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Speaker 1: pedestal and which has caused massive amounts of repression within

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Speaker 1: the feminine energy within all of us. So that's why

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Speaker 1: you see a lot of people that are emotionally numb.

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Speaker 1: They can't feel their emotions. They're disconnected from the intuition,

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Speaker 1: they're disconnected from loves, they're disconnected from being able to

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Speaker 1: feel anything because they're hiding out in their logical masculine mind,

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Speaker 1: always working, always doing, always leading and structuring and supporting,

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Speaker 1: and they're burned out energetically because their their energies are imbalanced,

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Speaker 1: and it's creating physical, emotional, and energetic imbalances within that

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Speaker 1: human being. So we Okay, I have so many questions. Sorry,

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to process through what the first one to be? Okay, First,

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Speaker 1: I want to say I took the quiz on your site,

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Speaker 1: and I, which was no surprise to me, got predominantly female.

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Speaker 1: Like I was a thirteen on the scale of zero

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Speaker 1: to fifteen, like scale one one side being masculine, one

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Speaker 1: side being feminine. I was a thirteen all the way

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Speaker 1: to feminine. So it is our goal to be imbalance

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Speaker 1: with feminine and masculine energy within our own selves. So

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Speaker 1: the thing is with this and and I want to

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Speaker 1: only very actions how I answer this question. To have

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Speaker 1: harmony within your energies, you would be operating from a

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Speaker 1: sense of flow, but you also have structure in your life. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So it's like, let's look at it like a glass

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Speaker 1: of water. Now with the container, which would be we

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Speaker 1: could call the mask on the structure of the container

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Speaker 1: and the water inside of it. Which would be the

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Speaker 1: feminine essence. They have perfect balance, so the cup holds

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Speaker 1: the water, but if that cup breaks, the water goes

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Speaker 1: all over the floor, so there's too much flow. Or

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Speaker 1: if there's no water in the cup, then it's very

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Speaker 1: dry and you have nothing to drink, which is too

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Speaker 1: much structure. Okay, So a very simple way in which

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Speaker 1: we can have harmony between our inner mask in feminine

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Speaker 1: energies is creating more flow with a strong sense of

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Speaker 1: structure and being grounded so to have harmony and balance

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Speaker 1: between your inner energies. Yes, that is why many people

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Speaker 1: are not happy in this life. Number one, because they're

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Speaker 1: not operating from their natural core essence, meaning that for example,

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Speaker 1: if you are a feminine core woman and you are

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Speaker 1: in your masculine energy of the day because you work

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Speaker 1: at a high stress corporate job, you're maybe your single

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Speaker 1: mother taking care of your kids all day long and

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Speaker 1: leading and guiding, protecting, structuring. You're always in this masculine

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Speaker 1: energy field, and you are repressing and neglecting your feminine energy,

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Speaker 1: You're going to have imbalances within your life. This can

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Speaker 1: even manifest as physical pains in your body because your

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Speaker 1: body has a consciousness of its own. Okay, So okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm processing. So if you like, okay, because I'm a

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Speaker 1: thirteen on the feminine scale, I probably do you think

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Speaker 1: I'm repressing some of my masculine energy. I guess in

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Speaker 1: that question when you said the thing about like it's

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Speaker 1: where you find your direction, your purpose, you know all

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Speaker 1: of this thing. I have been feeling very lacking in

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Speaker 1: those areas the last year. Probably, So is that like

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Speaker 1: the thing that I would want to tap into here

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Speaker 1: maybe being healing some masculine energy. So there the answer

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Speaker 1: to that could be yes, and I could we could

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Speaker 1: dig more into that. But here's the thing. Because your

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Speaker 1: core is feminine, you identify so much with feminine qualities

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Speaker 1: as long as you're operating from that natural core essence,

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Speaker 1: and you don't, you aren't treating imbalances because you're too

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Speaker 1: in your emotions you're two and your feelings you're too ungrounded.

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Speaker 1: Then it doesn't it's not necessarily going to be like

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Speaker 1: at like, you're not going to show up fifty percent

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Speaker 1: of time and your mask on fifty percent of time,

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Speaker 1: and you're feminine, You're going to show up from a

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Speaker 1: place that feels natural to your body. Okay, so for example,

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Speaker 1: I'm more of a masculine identified core person I noticed

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Speaker 1: about myself energetically, so I show up most of the

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Speaker 1: time as masculine energy right as more leading, guiding, protecting,

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Speaker 1: structuring all those qualities. But I also honor my feminine

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Speaker 1: essence because if I didn't, I would become numb. I

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Speaker 1: would lose flow in my life, I would lose creativity,

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Speaker 1: I would lose expression. All of those things because they are,

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Speaker 1: they compliment each other, they balance each other, and so

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Speaker 1: it's not that you have a fifty fifty perfect balance

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Speaker 1: within your body. It's more about aligning with your natural

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Speaker 1: core essence and bringing in both energies to create harmony

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Speaker 1: within yourself. And that could even look like because if

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Speaker 1: you had, for example, if you had a scale in

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Speaker 1: front of you right now, and you put ten marbles

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Speaker 1: on one side that that total the pound, and you

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Speaker 1: put one marble on the other side that weighed a pound,

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Speaker 1: and they leveled each other out perfectly, it's not to

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Speaker 1: say that the ten marbles are better because you have

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Speaker 1: ten of those qualities and only one of the masks.

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Speaker 1: And it's more about like creating a balance with make

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Speaker 1: sure that makes total sense actually, and I like what

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Speaker 1: you said about um because I am so strong in

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Speaker 1: the feminine like or I have such a strong feminine energy.

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Speaker 1: It is about the balance, though, in the structure around

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Speaker 1: feeling all that stuff, because I'm such a feeler and

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Speaker 1: so a lot of times when I feel imbalanced is

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Speaker 1: when I'm having these huge reactions to things and it's

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Speaker 1: not like, oh, I need to control myself in those

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Speaker 1: but there isn't structure around it. Or maybe I'm not

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Speaker 1: taking care of myself in a time where I need

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Speaker 1: a little extra self care so that I can process

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Speaker 1: through those emotions in a more calm way or you know,

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Speaker 1: more more um productive way. Does that make Is that

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Speaker 1: kind of in line with what you're saying. Yes, okay,

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Speaker 1: And that's the thing. Having awareness of your energies is

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Speaker 1: so so important. For example, if I'm sitting or just

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Speaker 1: working all day long and I get really in my head,

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Speaker 1: I know that I need femine an energy in that moment.

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Speaker 1: I need the yin essence to cool down my hot

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Speaker 1: yawing essence, meaning the yen is very cooling. Okay. You

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Speaker 1: we can look at yain like like water and young

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Speaker 1: energy to masculine energy is like fire, okay, and that's

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Speaker 1: why I'm going to get into this as well. Sexually speaking,

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Speaker 1: men with a masculine corps has to understand that the

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Speaker 1: feminine energy is like water. It takes time to boil

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Speaker 1: and heat up, where the young energy is already very hot,

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Speaker 1: ready to go, right, So we have to honor that

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Speaker 1: within the feminine qualities within if if we're engaging in

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Speaker 1: a romantic sense, because sexually speaking, the feminine essence, the

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Speaker 1: feminine feminine woman is so sexually advanced compared to the

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Speaker 1: young masculine man because is it's just it's so much

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Speaker 1: more powerful. And that's why men have to be aware

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Speaker 1: of this, because if you want to have harmony in

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Speaker 1: your relationship, you have to understand begin and the young

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Speaker 1: energies and how they're working in your life. And if

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Speaker 1: you don't understand them, then you will create all kinds

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Speaker 1: of and balances. And eventually what happened a lot of

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Speaker 1: times because both people get into the same energy field,

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Speaker 1: the same type of energy, masculine masculine or feminine feminine,

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Speaker 1: and they start to repel each other energetically because it's

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Speaker 1: just like magnets, positive positive repelling, negative negative repelling. Positive

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Speaker 1: negative attract. Okay, that is fascinating to me. So like

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking about it in terms of my my own

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Speaker 1: relationship and I Okay, I just said I'm very feminine

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Speaker 1: and from what I know of my boyfriend, he's very

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Speaker 1: masculine energy. So is that what drew us to together initially?

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Speaker 1: That opposite? Okay, can you talk through that a little bit? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: So energetically, you you attract your reciprocal your reciprocal energy.

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Speaker 1: Look at the cells in your body. Every single cell

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Speaker 1: in your body has a positive and negative charge. If

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Speaker 1: the polarity between those cells was to become neutral, meaning positive, positive, negative, negative,

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Speaker 1: you would drop dead right now. Polarity, the polarizing charge,

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Speaker 1: is what creates this reality, the shadows right without there

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Speaker 1: there's dark and there's light. There's a sun and there's

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Speaker 1: a moon. There is an opposite, extreme polarizing charge to

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Speaker 1: everything in this universe. So are we in relationship with

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Speaker 1: the opposite? Are we drawn to the opposite? Um? You

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Speaker 1: know how they say you're drawn to certain relationships to

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Speaker 1: heal your own wounds or to you know, maybe I'm

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Speaker 1: thinking in this case, like if you have an imbalance,

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Speaker 1: would you be drawn to someone that is so strong

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Speaker 1: and that other energy to almost try to heal your

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Speaker 1: own imbalance. Yes, because that's how yin and yan works,

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Speaker 1: That's how mass wint and feminine balance each other. Like

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Speaker 1: for example, my girlfriend and I, Melissa, she is very feminine, okay,

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Speaker 1: she is very cooling to my masculine energy. Okay, So

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Speaker 1: where I lack with the patients, the gentleness of softness

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Speaker 1: of feminine qualities, she's very strong in. But I am

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Speaker 1: very strong with direction, structure, clarity like that. Those are

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Speaker 1: my strengths. So we bring that together in that balance,

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Speaker 1: that harmony allows for a beautiful, harmonious relationship to unfold. Okay,

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Speaker 1: But you did mention that if you operate, if you

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Speaker 1: both start operating and maybe both masculine are both feminine,

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Speaker 1: that it can you can bump up against issues. And

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Speaker 1: so I've two questions regarding that. One one is why

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Speaker 1: does that happen? Like would I are there times because

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking through like you know, when things are we're

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Speaker 1: in a fight or when we're bumping up against each other,

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Speaker 1: is it because one of us is trying too hard

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Speaker 1: to adjust to the other's energy or living in the

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Speaker 1: other's energy too much. So there's many factors at play here,

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Speaker 1: and if you were to give me a specific example,

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Speaker 1: I can speak more intuitively to it for your situation. Um, okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to think because if here's the thing, if

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Speaker 1: you don't feel safe, yeah with your partner, yeah, you

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Speaker 1: will shut down emotionally and you will put up a

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Speaker 1: maskling shield and you will will repel him energetically. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that actually makes total sense. A lot of times, more

644
00:38:49,440 --> 00:38:52,839
Speaker 1: of the issue is I am like, blah, here's all

645
00:38:52,840 --> 00:38:55,520
Speaker 1: these feelings. Let's talk about feelings. Let's talk about feelings.

646
00:38:55,520 --> 00:38:59,520
Speaker 1: And because he comes from such a masculine place, sometimes

647
00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:03,040
Speaker 1: I'm overwhelming him with that. Like it I think, you know,

648
00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:08,320
Speaker 1: like his energy isn't naturally to that, and so he'll

649
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 1: do it for a certain amount of time. But if

650
00:39:10,680 --> 00:39:13,120
Speaker 1: then I keep pushing and pushing and pushing, and maybe

651
00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:17,200
Speaker 1: this is where me not having any structure around all

652
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:20,640
Speaker 1: of my emotions. What is the question that you are

653
00:39:20,719 --> 00:39:24,439
Speaker 1: pushing because you want to be seen and you want

654
00:39:24,480 --> 00:39:30,560
Speaker 1: your emotions probably to be praised. Probably what is that

655
00:39:32,520 --> 00:39:36,160
Speaker 1: the feminine wants to be seen and cherished And there's

656
00:39:36,320 --> 00:39:39,280
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with that. So if you're not feeling seen

657
00:39:39,719 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 1: and appreciated by your partner, You're going to start to

658
00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:50,720
Speaker 1: become imbalanced, and it wounded, feminine energy would be very small.

659
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 1: It would be very shameful of themselves. Remember, the feminine

660
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:58,440
Speaker 1: essence is inward, where the massmun energy is outward. So

661
00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:02,440
Speaker 1: that's why mass when people are very really spoken fine,

662
00:40:03,080 --> 00:40:06,319
Speaker 1: when it becomes wounded, it could become very shameful of

663
00:40:06,360 --> 00:40:12,800
Speaker 1: themselves and they become very repressed. So in those moments

664
00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:16,880
Speaker 1: when you're spewing out all of your emotions and just

665
00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:21,879
Speaker 1: kind of emotionally dumping on your partner, that may be

666
00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:25,319
Speaker 1: because if you look at it deeper route here, why

667
00:40:25,480 --> 00:40:28,080
Speaker 1: are you what are you lacking in that moment? What

668
00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:31,640
Speaker 1: do you really need from him in that moment? That's interesting.

669
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:36,640
Speaker 1: I guess validation, validation from what I don't know, do

670
00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 1: not get validation from when you were a little girl.

671
00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 1: I mean, my initial, just my immediate response was going

672
00:40:42,120 --> 00:40:44,960
Speaker 1: to be that I was okay, just like that I

673
00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 1: was enough as is. And you know, I've always been

674
00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:54,239
Speaker 1: a deep feeler, and so I have found um in

675
00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:56,399
Speaker 1: certain times in my life, and I think a lot

676
00:40:56,440 --> 00:41:00,600
Speaker 1: in my childhood that maybe I felt overwhelming to parents

677
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:03,439
Speaker 1: or you know, just just like a lot that that

678
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:09,480
Speaker 1: too much? Too much? Maybe? Yeah, And who specifically said

679
00:41:09,520 --> 00:41:11,800
Speaker 1: that to you? That really stuck with you? I actually

680
00:41:11,840 --> 00:41:16,840
Speaker 1: don't know that anyone specifically said that. I think maybe

681
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 1: it was something I picked up one because of stuff

682
00:41:19,560 --> 00:41:21,680
Speaker 1: going on in my parents lives, you know, like I

683
00:41:21,760 --> 00:41:23,520
Speaker 1: don't I don't know that it was like an intentional

684
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 1: uh you, But I do think that there was some

685
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:30,480
Speaker 1: high stress situations happening when I was younger that maybe

686
00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 1: they couldn't handle it, you know, like if that makes sense.

687
00:41:35,440 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 1: And I just picked up on that, and the message

688
00:41:37,680 --> 00:41:39,880
Speaker 1: got put in my head that that was that I

689
00:41:39,960 --> 00:41:43,840
Speaker 1: was too much. And I keep repeating that in relationships

690
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:48,040
Speaker 1: for sure. So the little girl that lives within you,

691
00:41:48,040 --> 00:41:53,160
Speaker 1: you're in her child, she was like she wasn't supported

692
00:41:53,239 --> 00:41:56,360
Speaker 1: and validated when she was young, and the way that

693
00:41:56,440 --> 00:42:00,680
Speaker 1: she needed to sow what you say to her in

694
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:03,960
Speaker 1: this moment? What does she need to hear kind of

695
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:10,200
Speaker 1: cry on this podcast? I mean, and you don't need

696
00:42:10,239 --> 00:42:11,799
Speaker 1: to have it all figured out right now? Yeah, I

697
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:14,200
Speaker 1: don't know, That's why I would that would probably be

698
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:17,120
Speaker 1: some stuff for me to look into, I think. Again.

699
00:42:17,160 --> 00:42:21,840
Speaker 1: My immediate response was you're not too much. You're exactly

700
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 1: as you should be. So am I looking for my

701
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 1: partner to tell me that and fix that? You tell

702
00:42:27,280 --> 00:42:29,879
Speaker 1: me if I think so. And that's a heavy load

703
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:33,880
Speaker 1: to put on your partner constantly, Yeah, because they have

704
00:42:33,960 --> 00:42:36,759
Speaker 1: their own stuff that they're working through. We all do, right, Yeah.

705
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:40,080
Speaker 1: And I would also invite you to fully feel your

706
00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:44,839
Speaker 1: feelings and not turn away from them because within that

707
00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:47,440
Speaker 1: pain that you feel and that discomfort that you feel

708
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:50,719
Speaker 1: is great healing. And you're not too much in this

709
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:56,600
Speaker 1: moment for me or any listener. Right now, I'm sitting

710
00:42:56,600 --> 00:42:58,279
Speaker 1: here like, oh, you should talk. You have to talk.

711
00:42:58,320 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 1: You have to talk, You have to talk, and all

712
00:43:00,040 --> 00:43:03,440
Speaker 1: to do is cry, which is battling feminine and masculine

713
00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:07,680
Speaker 1: energy out assume, Oh why are you? Why are you

714
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:11,239
Speaker 1: what you feel in this momentum? Because I'm doing a

715
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:16,400
Speaker 1: podcast and I keep telling myself, you know, I have

716
00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:23,640
Speaker 1: to perform essentially versus just be in this moment, which

717
00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:27,200
Speaker 1: is the masculine imprinting on you that you need to

718
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:31,400
Speaker 1: be productive in this world in order to be a success,

719
00:43:32,480 --> 00:43:36,000
Speaker 1: leading by example to feel into your feminine emotions. Don't

720
00:43:36,040 --> 00:43:38,399
Speaker 1: you think that's the most inspiring thing that you could

721
00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:42,640
Speaker 1: ever do for anyone. Um, I do believe that, yes,

722
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:47,040
Speaker 1: because within the feminine there's great power and there's also

723
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:54,280
Speaker 1: great healing. So where do these wounds? These wounds start

724
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:57,439
Speaker 1: when we're children, I'm assuming because we just dug into

725
00:43:57,520 --> 00:44:02,759
Speaker 1: my inner child. Um, what is a masculine wound show

726
00:44:02,880 --> 00:44:08,080
Speaker 1: up as in people's lives? I think that you've seen

727
00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:10,400
Speaker 1: a lot of that, just like we all have, you know,

728
00:44:10,440 --> 00:44:14,160
Speaker 1: I mean, that's pretty pretty obvious, the masculine wounding. I

729
00:44:14,160 --> 00:44:21,600
Speaker 1: mean it manifests as force controlled, dominance, anger, and you know,

730
00:44:21,640 --> 00:44:24,560
Speaker 1: the big thing with the wounded masculine it is just

731
00:44:24,680 --> 00:44:28,200
Speaker 1: trying to control the feminine and repress the feminine because

732
00:44:29,920 --> 00:44:33,440
Speaker 1: it's almost like they can't control the wind. Like the

733
00:44:33,480 --> 00:44:36,080
Speaker 1: wounded masculine mind can't control the wind, so it tries

734
00:44:36,120 --> 00:44:38,759
Speaker 1: to control it, tries to repress it. It tries to

735
00:44:38,800 --> 00:44:40,600
Speaker 1: stop the wind from blowing because it doesn't know what

736
00:44:40,640 --> 00:44:43,759
Speaker 1: to do with it, right, But it's so attracted to

737
00:44:43,800 --> 00:44:48,920
Speaker 1: the wind sexually and energetically, it doesn't know what to

738
00:44:48,960 --> 00:44:50,160
Speaker 1: do with this, so it just it just tries to

739
00:44:50,200 --> 00:44:54,560
Speaker 1: control and repress it. And oftentimes masculine people repress the

740
00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:57,600
Speaker 1: feminine energy within themselves. And when they do that, they

741
00:44:57,640 --> 00:45:00,560
Speaker 1: also do it in the romantic relationship as well, because

742
00:45:00,560 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 1: they shut down emotionally and just cut themselves off from feeling. So,

743
00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:09,719
Speaker 1: is that what we'll see in relationship showing up as

744
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:14,960
Speaker 1: just the emotional unavailability, just the um what like? What

745
00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 1: does that look like? I guess in a relationship. Well,

746
00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 1: it also works the same thing, same way with polarity,

747
00:45:21,040 --> 00:45:23,759
Speaker 1: as we're talking about polarity with wounded polarity. And this

748
00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:25,919
Speaker 1: is something I also speak about and teach about, which

749
00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:30,479
Speaker 1: is basically wounded mask and will attract wounded feminine vice versa.

750
00:45:30,920 --> 00:45:33,880
Speaker 1: So the wounded because remember they're being brought together to

751
00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:36,400
Speaker 1: hell and awaken if they choose to and not be

752
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:42,520
Speaker 1: victims of their relationship, but this they're being brought together.

753
00:45:42,880 --> 00:45:45,160
Speaker 1: So like, for example, the wounded feminine was very small

754
00:45:45,200 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 1: and repressed will often attract a wounded masklin man or

755
00:45:49,200 --> 00:45:52,680
Speaker 1: if it's it could be it could be same sex relationship,

756
00:45:52,719 --> 00:45:56,880
Speaker 1: any type of relationship. Wounded masculine person that is repressive

757
00:45:56,920 --> 00:46:01,120
Speaker 1: and controlling of the person who feels mall and powerless

758
00:46:01,160 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 1: and shame. Powerless and shame are probably the two most

759
00:46:04,960 --> 00:46:11,000
Speaker 1: common things for wounded feminine energy mm hmm, and what

760
00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:16,600
Speaker 1: is it for masculine anger and control? Criticism is another

761
00:46:16,600 --> 00:46:21,319
Speaker 1: big thing to being critical, very critical. And here's the

762
00:46:21,320 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 1: thing too, is like a lot of feminine women are

763
00:46:24,560 --> 00:46:28,880
Speaker 1: already very hard on themselves. So when a man or

764
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:30,520
Speaker 1: it doesn't once again doesn't have to be a man,

765
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:34,200
Speaker 1: it could be a woman. A masculine person is hard

766
00:46:34,640 --> 00:46:38,719
Speaker 1: on that person that's already beats himself up seven with

767
00:46:38,760 --> 00:46:41,480
Speaker 1: their emotions, the way they look, the way they address,

768
00:46:41,719 --> 00:46:44,399
Speaker 1: how their body looks, and they're picking themselves apart. Now

769
00:46:44,560 --> 00:46:49,200
Speaker 1: here comes the masculine person who's very critical. Doesn't understand

770
00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:53,239
Speaker 1: that when you treat a feminine person with your criticism

771
00:46:53,280 --> 00:46:57,800
Speaker 1: and judgment, they close. The feminine closes like a flower

772
00:46:58,560 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 1: because if you if you take care and support that flower,

773
00:47:04,480 --> 00:47:09,200
Speaker 1: that flower will open and give you beautiful radiance, beautiful smells,

774
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 1: beautiful colors, beautiful everything. But if you're hard on that flower,

775
00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:16,719
Speaker 1: that flower is going to close its petals because it

776
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:22,120
Speaker 1: doesn't feel safe. So is like, if you're closing the

777
00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:25,800
Speaker 1: flower as you're describing it, and you are a strong

778
00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:30,480
Speaker 1: feminine energy, is that leaning too far into the masculine side?

779
00:47:30,960 --> 00:47:34,480
Speaker 1: For your natural state. I'm not I'm not clear in

780
00:47:34,520 --> 00:47:36,640
Speaker 1: your question here. I think I'm having a hard time

781
00:47:36,760 --> 00:47:40,799
Speaker 1: verbalizing it. It's like like I'm thinking of, Um, if

782
00:47:40,840 --> 00:47:44,160
Speaker 1: someone was to criticize me and I'm in my wounded

783
00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:48,920
Speaker 1: feminine energy. Um, you say, I think that's right, Like

784
00:47:49,000 --> 00:47:51,239
Speaker 1: I would kind of shut down even more because I'm

785
00:47:51,239 --> 00:47:54,439
Speaker 1: already the messages in my head are always usually very

786
00:47:54,480 --> 00:47:56,640
Speaker 1: harsh anyway. Like, that's something I really have to be

787
00:47:56,680 --> 00:47:59,440
Speaker 1: conscious of, is the things I'm saying to myself. And

788
00:47:59,520 --> 00:48:03,600
Speaker 1: so if someone else validates that or like says something

789
00:48:04,000 --> 00:48:07,080
Speaker 1: in general that I can interpret as one of those

790
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:11,319
Speaker 1: critical thinking patterns of mine, I do shut down. And

791
00:48:11,360 --> 00:48:14,359
Speaker 1: what I interpret masculine energy to be is kind of

792
00:48:14,400 --> 00:48:19,000
Speaker 1: shut down from emotion, burying, repressing, all of that kind

793
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:22,000
Speaker 1: of stuff. Is that accurate? Or am I getting them confused?

794
00:48:23,800 --> 00:48:26,960
Speaker 1: So there, there's definitely truth in what you're saying. I

795
00:48:27,000 --> 00:48:30,520
Speaker 1: feel as if the wounded mask in person shuts down

796
00:48:30,920 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 1: and puts their shield up emotionally. Now, when the wounded

797
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:37,719
Speaker 1: feminine person feels that they actually are going into their

798
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:40,839
Speaker 1: mask when energy because they don't feel safe. Okay, That's

799
00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:43,560
Speaker 1: what I was trying to say. So they're withdrawing because

800
00:48:43,760 --> 00:48:46,000
Speaker 1: it's like when a turtle goes into its shell, it

801
00:48:46,120 --> 00:48:50,680
Speaker 1: withdraws right, yes, because it doesn't feel safe, It doesn't

802
00:48:50,680 --> 00:48:53,319
Speaker 1: want it doesn't want a predator to hurt it. And

803
00:48:53,360 --> 00:48:55,920
Speaker 1: that's exactly what's happening. And with the feminine in that

804
00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:59,759
Speaker 1: moment is they are withdrawing from being hurt because they

805
00:48:59,760 --> 00:49:04,080
Speaker 1: don't feel safe. So how, for example, we use you

806
00:49:04,320 --> 00:49:07,760
Speaker 1: for example, how you would shift that in that moment

807
00:49:08,280 --> 00:49:12,240
Speaker 1: is by opening your body back up, standing in your truth,

808
00:49:12,760 --> 00:49:16,600
Speaker 1: standing in your light, and speaking from a place of

809
00:49:16,760 --> 00:49:22,360
Speaker 1: clarity and love how you feel in that moment. Okay,

810
00:49:23,040 --> 00:49:27,759
Speaker 1: not closing, not repressing, not shutting down. But when you

811
00:49:27,880 --> 00:49:31,120
Speaker 1: do this, you have to do it from a place

812
00:49:31,120 --> 00:49:34,279
Speaker 1: of your truth and not your pain, because if you

813
00:49:34,400 --> 00:49:36,440
Speaker 1: do it from your pain, you're only going to create

814
00:49:36,440 --> 00:49:40,319
Speaker 1: more toxicity and the relationship. But if you say from

815
00:49:40,320 --> 00:49:44,960
Speaker 1: a very grounded place, listen, I feel very unsafe in

816
00:49:45,000 --> 00:49:46,880
Speaker 1: this moment, are you not like the way that you

817
00:49:46,960 --> 00:49:56,160
Speaker 1: just criticize me? That actually, go ahead, go ahead. You

818
00:49:56,160 --> 00:49:59,200
Speaker 1: you start to empower yourself. And if your partner is

819
00:49:59,239 --> 00:50:01,880
Speaker 1: awake and trying to be you know, trying to be awake,

820
00:50:02,560 --> 00:50:06,439
Speaker 1: they will listen, they will respect that. Wow, Like, I'm

821
00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:08,880
Speaker 1: so sorry, did not mean to hurt you. Because in

822
00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 1: the masculine mind or thinking how can how can I

823
00:50:12,640 --> 00:50:17,880
Speaker 1: fix this right? How canna make this better? Their problem solvers.

824
00:50:17,920 --> 00:50:20,160
Speaker 1: So the feminine has to be willing to give the

825
00:50:20,280 --> 00:50:26,439
Speaker 1: masculine something too fix, you know, like give them, give them,

826
00:50:26,520 --> 00:50:28,520
Speaker 1: give them a problem to come up with a solution for.

827
00:50:30,280 --> 00:50:35,200
Speaker 1: That's a good one, right yeah, well okay. So Also

828
00:50:35,280 --> 00:50:37,319
Speaker 1: because you just said if you're if you're standing in

829
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:40,160
Speaker 1: your truth and you're saying it in this grounded place,

830
00:50:40,239 --> 00:50:42,440
Speaker 1: I mean that to me sounds like embodying both your

831
00:50:42,480 --> 00:50:45,960
Speaker 1: feminine and your masculine energy. And when you come from

832
00:50:45,960 --> 00:50:49,239
Speaker 1: a place of pain, like I know for me, you know,

833
00:50:49,280 --> 00:50:50,840
Speaker 1: this is hard for me to admit. I don't like

834
00:50:50,920 --> 00:50:54,840
Speaker 1: this about myself. But I am a very reactive person,

835
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:57,400
Speaker 1: you know, Like I said, I have feel things so deeply,

836
00:50:57,680 --> 00:51:01,800
Speaker 1: and a lot of times, if my wound gets pushed

837
00:51:01,800 --> 00:51:03,440
Speaker 1: at or pushed at, or you know, if there is

838
00:51:03,520 --> 00:51:06,440
Speaker 1: criticism or anything like that, I react from a place

839
00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:10,080
Speaker 1: of anger. And that doesn't feel you know, all right

840
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:13,000
Speaker 1: to just react period, And it's just so big it

841
00:51:13,040 --> 00:51:16,600
Speaker 1: doesn't feel in line with um even what I'm trying

842
00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:20,840
Speaker 1: to accomplish. But so that's just obviously staying in my

843
00:51:20,920 --> 00:51:25,759
Speaker 1: pain and my wound, right, Yeah. I mean the thing

844
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:30,440
Speaker 1: is the way that you alcumis that is not reacting

845
00:51:30,480 --> 00:51:34,879
Speaker 1: and giving into your pain, but honoring your pain by

846
00:51:35,000 --> 00:51:39,040
Speaker 1: saying the words out loud. I feel very unsafe in

847
00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:42,880
Speaker 1: this moment. I feel very judged right now. I feel

848
00:51:42,920 --> 00:51:46,560
Speaker 1: that your criticism is causing me to close my heart now,

849
00:51:46,760 --> 00:51:49,879
Speaker 1: like you're you're a stupid idiot. You just hurt me, right?

850
00:51:51,239 --> 00:51:54,520
Speaker 1: That one doesn't go over that Well, no it doesn't,

851
00:51:54,520 --> 00:51:57,760
Speaker 1: because now what are you doing. You're perpetuating your own

852
00:51:57,840 --> 00:52:01,600
Speaker 1: pain right now. You're projecting your pain back ont of

853
00:52:01,640 --> 00:52:08,120
Speaker 1: that person, creating a toxic cycle. Yes, And and it's

854
00:52:08,160 --> 00:52:11,520
Speaker 1: so interesting because I feel like what you just described

855
00:52:11,680 --> 00:52:16,160
Speaker 1: that dynamic in general, Um, it feels like you're both

856
00:52:16,239 --> 00:52:19,240
Speaker 1: leading from your wounds and then you're both attacking the wounds,

857
00:52:19,920 --> 00:52:23,839
Speaker 1: not the healing aspect. You know, of this whole entire

858
00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:26,919
Speaker 1: thing where you could lean into healing together or being

859
00:52:26,960 --> 00:52:31,319
Speaker 1: awakened together and walking through that together. Yeah, I mean, really,

860
00:52:31,320 --> 00:52:33,520
Speaker 1: what you're doing is just stroking each other's egos at

861
00:52:33,560 --> 00:52:41,080
Speaker 1: that point. Yeah, you know, it's like yeah, exactly, Yeah,

862
00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:45,439
Speaker 1: So what what do you say? I mean, I've read

863
00:52:45,480 --> 00:52:48,759
Speaker 1: a lot on your Instagram about killing the polarity in

864
00:52:48,960 --> 00:52:52,200
Speaker 1: within relationships, and so what would you say to couples

865
00:52:52,200 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 1: if they're listening and they're hearing this, like oh, yes,

866
00:52:55,160 --> 00:52:57,920
Speaker 1: like that's the dynamic in our relationship, or even like

867
00:52:57,960 --> 00:53:00,120
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be a romantic relationship, because I

868
00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:02,640
Speaker 1: feel like this applies to all aspects of my life,

869
00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:06,480
Speaker 1: like my work, relationships, my friendships. So how do you

870
00:53:07,320 --> 00:53:11,120
Speaker 1: kill the polarity and meet somewhere in the middle with

871
00:53:11,160 --> 00:53:15,960
Speaker 1: each other? So I mean, how do you want to

872
00:53:15,960 --> 00:53:19,239
Speaker 1: address this from a romantic relationship standpoint or like a

873
00:53:19,400 --> 00:53:23,200
Speaker 1: neutral grounded me because there's many different angles. Okay, let's

874
00:53:23,200 --> 00:53:25,880
Speaker 1: go romantic because I think that's that thing. I do

875
00:53:26,080 --> 00:53:33,560
Speaker 1: think that we of course I do, obviously, but also

876
00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:35,960
Speaker 1: I do I do find I know in my life,

877
00:53:36,000 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 1: I tend to pick the people who are going to

878
00:53:37,600 --> 00:53:40,200
Speaker 1: force me to do my work on myself, and I

879
00:53:40,320 --> 00:53:42,440
Speaker 1: found that amongst a lot of my friends. To you,

880
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:46,080
Speaker 1: you find the relationship that's going to push you into healing.

881
00:53:46,120 --> 00:53:47,640
Speaker 1: And so I know that's something that I want to

882
00:53:47,680 --> 00:53:49,440
Speaker 1: bring to my relationship, and I think a lot of

883
00:53:49,440 --> 00:53:52,239
Speaker 1: people that I know do too. Yeah, I mean, so

884
00:53:52,320 --> 00:53:56,000
Speaker 1: you'll find that you're like best friends that you have

885
00:53:56,360 --> 00:53:59,800
Speaker 1: no polarity with will often be of the same energy.

886
00:54:00,560 --> 00:54:03,319
Speaker 1: You know, you can think about your best girlfriends, you're

887
00:54:03,320 --> 00:54:06,799
Speaker 1: not sexually attracting them the way in which you are.

888
00:54:06,880 --> 00:54:09,759
Speaker 1: A masculine man or the opposite, or a masculine woman.

889
00:54:09,920 --> 00:54:13,080
Speaker 1: You know if you're in it. Once again, it's its energies.

890
00:54:14,040 --> 00:54:17,640
Speaker 1: It's you'll find that in your relationships like my friends,

891
00:54:17,840 --> 00:54:20,800
Speaker 1: like my guy friends are very masculine. There's no sexual

892
00:54:20,800 --> 00:54:25,040
Speaker 1: attraction between me and that other masculine energy, right, And

893
00:54:25,080 --> 00:54:30,200
Speaker 1: it's the same concept of in romantic relationships, going back

894
00:54:30,239 --> 00:54:33,880
Speaker 1: to that what you were just talking about, it's romantic

895
00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:39,600
Speaker 1: relationships work best that I've found when you both understand

896
00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:45,319
Speaker 1: what your core energy is and how you want to

897
00:54:45,520 --> 00:54:49,160
Speaker 1: show up and be treated in that relationship. So, if

898
00:54:49,200 --> 00:54:52,719
Speaker 1: you know that your core energy is feminine, you know

899
00:54:52,840 --> 00:54:56,640
Speaker 1: that you identify more with the softness, the gentleness to love,

900
00:54:56,800 --> 00:55:01,960
Speaker 1: the feelings, the emotions, You're going to want a masculine

901
00:55:02,040 --> 00:55:09,879
Speaker 1: person who supportive of all of that, and a lot

902
00:55:09,920 --> 00:55:15,320
Speaker 1: of masculine people do not understand that that component there,

903
00:55:15,520 --> 00:55:19,520
Speaker 1: because they have to realize that you're not gating another

904
00:55:19,560 --> 00:55:23,920
Speaker 1: mask on person. You're gating a feminine person. And the

905
00:55:24,080 --> 00:55:29,239
Speaker 1: feminine identifies with more of the soft, sensual things, and

906
00:55:29,239 --> 00:55:32,000
Speaker 1: and once again does that doesn't make the feminine weak.

907
00:55:33,200 --> 00:55:35,080
Speaker 1: It's just it's just like the sun in the moon

908
00:55:35,480 --> 00:55:37,400
Speaker 1: is not the sun is greater than the moon, and

909
00:55:37,440 --> 00:55:39,120
Speaker 1: the moon is greater than or the moon is greater

910
00:55:39,120 --> 00:55:41,400
Speaker 1: than the sun. It's just that's what it is. This

911
00:55:41,560 --> 00:55:46,880
Speaker 1: is different, it is, it is different exactly. So in

912
00:55:47,000 --> 00:55:51,120
Speaker 1: order for you to have polarity in that relationship, you

913
00:55:51,200 --> 00:55:55,400
Speaker 1: must be conscious of how the energies are working in

914
00:55:55,440 --> 00:55:58,640
Speaker 1: the relationship. And if you notice, for example, if you're

915
00:55:58,640 --> 00:56:02,840
Speaker 1: a masculine man and you've noticed your partner, your feminine

916
00:56:02,880 --> 00:56:08,040
Speaker 1: partner start to shut down and she's not feeling safe,

917
00:56:08,200 --> 00:56:11,920
Speaker 1: so you're you're watching her body her Oftentimes, the feminist

918
00:56:11,920 --> 00:56:14,719
Speaker 1: speaks through their body. They speak through their breath, They

919
00:56:14,760 --> 00:56:17,160
Speaker 1: speak to the tone, they speak to the textures of

920
00:56:17,200 --> 00:56:20,040
Speaker 1: the clothes are wearing, and how they're holding their body,

921
00:56:20,080 --> 00:56:23,319
Speaker 1: and and are they guarding themselves that they crossing their arms,

922
00:56:23,360 --> 00:56:26,239
Speaker 1: are they you know, all these little subtle things you

923
00:56:26,280 --> 00:56:30,160
Speaker 1: have to become conscious of. Okay, why is she not

924
00:56:30,200 --> 00:56:32,880
Speaker 1: feeling safe in this moment? Now, as a mass on person,

925
00:56:33,640 --> 00:56:36,560
Speaker 1: I'm I'm the protector of this relationship. I'm gonna show

926
00:56:36,640 --> 00:56:39,040
Speaker 1: up in a way that's gonna bring more safety and

927
00:56:39,080 --> 00:56:43,000
Speaker 1: more consciousness to this moment. How can I bring that

928
00:56:43,239 --> 00:56:46,359
Speaker 1: to this relationship? And just ask her, Hey, what are

929
00:56:46,360 --> 00:56:48,600
Speaker 1: you needing for me in this moment? And she may

930
00:56:48,719 --> 00:56:51,239
Speaker 1: she may push you away, she may say nothing, she

931
00:56:51,280 --> 00:56:54,680
Speaker 1: may try to fight it. But no, the true sacred

932
00:56:54,840 --> 00:57:00,480
Speaker 1: masculine shows up with presence, groundness, open heart and tegrity,

933
00:57:01,160 --> 00:57:05,160
Speaker 1: and he's just there and he just he's present, he's

934
00:57:05,200 --> 00:57:09,120
Speaker 1: crownded and because of that alone, she starts to soften

935
00:57:09,160 --> 00:57:12,440
Speaker 1: back up and feel safe. A lot of times women,

936
00:57:13,680 --> 00:57:18,680
Speaker 1: feminine women start to react from place of being like

937
00:57:19,040 --> 00:57:22,440
Speaker 1: emotional and where some people would say, oh, she's just

938
00:57:22,480 --> 00:57:26,840
Speaker 1: being crazy, but really she just wanting to feel safe

939
00:57:26,880 --> 00:57:29,560
Speaker 1: and to feel seen and to feel heart in that moment.

940
00:57:32,280 --> 00:57:37,360
Speaker 1: So then on the flip side, what about if, um,

941
00:57:37,480 --> 00:57:40,920
Speaker 1: the masculine energy in your partner is like you see that,

942
00:57:41,880 --> 00:57:44,720
Speaker 1: uh you see either I don't know if you read

943
00:57:44,720 --> 00:57:46,320
Speaker 1: their body language or what does it look like in

944
00:57:46,360 --> 00:57:50,080
Speaker 1: a masculine energy, So like, how would the feminine do

945
00:57:50,120 --> 00:57:54,640
Speaker 1: that for the mask? Yes, right, So this is the

946
00:57:54,720 --> 00:57:58,840
Speaker 1: thing too, and this is the great question. Masculine people

947
00:57:59,040 --> 00:58:02,160
Speaker 1: are great problem solvers. They don't need you to step

948
00:58:02,200 --> 00:58:06,480
Speaker 1: in and lead them in that moment, but they are

949
00:58:06,520 --> 00:58:08,640
Speaker 1: great problem solvers. So a lot of times mask on

950
00:58:08,680 --> 00:58:11,280
Speaker 1: people when they're going through something, they really just want

951
00:58:11,280 --> 00:58:13,200
Speaker 1: to figure it out on their own. They may ask

952
00:58:13,280 --> 00:58:16,720
Speaker 1: for space and they honestly, the thing that's really hard

953
00:58:16,720 --> 00:58:19,000
Speaker 1: for a lot of men, like mascul men especially, is

954
00:58:19,040 --> 00:58:20,600
Speaker 1: to say, hey, I just need some space right now.

955
00:58:20,640 --> 00:58:23,520
Speaker 1: I just gotta process my stuff, like because like the

956
00:58:23,800 --> 00:58:26,880
Speaker 1: mass energy has like this warrior energy where there like

957
00:58:27,320 --> 00:58:29,080
Speaker 1: they're going to figure it out and they're going to

958
00:58:29,200 --> 00:58:33,640
Speaker 1: like complete the mission. And if the woman steps in

959
00:58:33,760 --> 00:58:37,720
Speaker 1: and tries to lead or guide or protect or save

960
00:58:37,840 --> 00:58:41,240
Speaker 1: him or mother him, she may she over a period

961
00:58:41,280 --> 00:58:46,480
Speaker 1: of time, she may actually emasculate him and take almost

962
00:58:46,480 --> 00:58:48,760
Speaker 1: like start to take away the polarity of the relationship.

963
00:58:50,640 --> 00:58:54,600
Speaker 1: So it's important that when you see your masculine partner

964
00:58:55,160 --> 00:59:00,000
Speaker 1: and whatever he's doing, that you understand that your energy alone,

965
00:59:00,560 --> 00:59:07,800
Speaker 1: your feminine yin essence alone, is naturally healing to the masculine.

966
00:59:08,600 --> 00:59:11,520
Speaker 1: It naturally does it on its own. The vibrational essence

967
00:59:11,960 --> 00:59:15,520
Speaker 1: of your energy is already healing to his masculine core.

968
00:59:16,520 --> 00:59:22,320
Speaker 1: So just yes, you are the flower, the radiant flower,

969
00:59:23,040 --> 00:59:28,480
Speaker 1: the vibrancy, the radiance of your feminine heart energetically is

970
00:59:28,520 --> 00:59:32,240
Speaker 1: what's healing to the masculine. So your soft touch, your

971
00:59:32,360 --> 00:59:37,000
Speaker 1: yin essence, your loving voice, every single tone and vibration

972
00:59:37,120 --> 00:59:41,160
Speaker 1: of the feminine is so naturally healing to the masculine.

973
00:59:41,400 --> 00:59:44,600
Speaker 1: That's why when women start to think, oh, I gotta

974
00:59:44,600 --> 00:59:46,520
Speaker 1: save him, I gotta protect him, I gotta I gotta

975
00:59:46,520 --> 00:59:49,840
Speaker 1: coach him through this in this moment, that's that's where

976
00:59:49,840 --> 00:59:53,840
Speaker 1: that's where they're they're going wrong, because all the masculine

977
00:59:53,840 --> 00:59:56,800
Speaker 1: really needs is just your feminine essence, your your yin

978
00:59:57,040 --> 01:00:00,600
Speaker 1: essence that is already healing to the man is going

979
01:00:01,600 --> 01:00:04,840
Speaker 1: They don't need you to coach them. Yeah, that's fascinating

980
01:00:04,920 --> 01:00:07,480
Speaker 1: to me to think about, because I think I always

981
01:00:07,520 --> 01:00:09,840
Speaker 1: interpret like, if the people in my life, who I

982
01:00:09,880 --> 01:00:13,880
Speaker 1: can think of that our masculine energies I do, I

983
01:00:13,920 --> 01:00:16,280
Speaker 1: want to jump in and try to help them. And

984
01:00:16,360 --> 01:00:20,040
Speaker 1: that's not necessarily what they need. They need my ability

985
01:00:20,040 --> 01:00:24,880
Speaker 1: to listen, my ability love, yes, your compassion, your love,

986
01:00:25,360 --> 01:00:29,680
Speaker 1: your gentleness, your softness, everything that you are, Kelly, is

987
01:00:29,720 --> 01:00:35,000
Speaker 1: exactly what the masculine requires. That's that's all it needs.

988
01:00:36,120 --> 01:00:39,720
Speaker 1: It doesn't need your problem solving abilities, it doesn't need

989
01:00:39,760 --> 01:00:44,000
Speaker 1: your logic right just yes, you have it, and you

990
01:00:44,080 --> 01:00:47,560
Speaker 1: have of course, but it's not with the mass one

991
01:00:47,640 --> 01:00:49,200
Speaker 1: is needing in that moment, because if the mass one

992
01:00:49,280 --> 01:00:54,440
Speaker 1: is in pain, oftentimes it's like the feminine energy is

993
01:00:54,440 --> 01:00:57,040
Speaker 1: actually what's gonna heal, and and not even not even

994
01:00:57,040 --> 01:00:59,800
Speaker 1: necessarily from a woman, but within themselves also because men

995
01:00:59,840 --> 01:01:04,040
Speaker 1: have femine energy to that feminine essence is the healing energy.

996
01:01:04,040 --> 01:01:08,320
Speaker 1: Because how we heal is through going into our emotional body,

997
01:01:08,360 --> 01:01:12,640
Speaker 1: which is the feminine energy. And we call upon this

998
01:01:13,360 --> 01:01:17,440
Speaker 1: feminine essence to heal ourselves, to become vulnerable, to surrender

999
01:01:17,480 --> 01:01:20,280
Speaker 1: into our pain, and to cry and release it out.

1000
01:01:21,800 --> 01:01:24,240
Speaker 1: I just find this also fascinating because when I hear

1001
01:01:24,280 --> 01:01:27,360
Speaker 1: the word polarity, I immediately like to think of that

1002
01:01:27,400 --> 01:01:30,880
Speaker 1: within our relationship. I was I would feel like, oh no, no,

1003
01:01:30,880 --> 01:01:32,840
Speaker 1: no, no no, you don't want to be on opposite ends.

1004
01:01:32,920 --> 01:01:35,800
Speaker 1: But what you're explaining to me is and what I'm

1005
01:01:35,800 --> 01:01:38,720
Speaker 1: starting to understand is those opposite ends or what make

1006
01:01:38,800 --> 01:01:45,000
Speaker 1: it work? Yes, wow, because it's it's how polarity works

1007
01:01:45,040 --> 01:01:49,560
Speaker 1: in this realm. Yeah. If if we didn't have polarity,

1008
01:01:49,680 --> 01:01:53,000
Speaker 1: then this the thing is, like, we wouldn't have anything

1009
01:01:53,000 --> 01:01:56,880
Speaker 1: in this world because nothing, nothing would be polarizing and

1010
01:01:56,920 --> 01:02:02,720
Speaker 1: nothing would be attractive. We are vibrational beings, right, And

1011
01:02:02,760 --> 01:02:06,040
Speaker 1: that's the thing is like realizing that everything has that

1012
01:02:06,120 --> 01:02:09,200
Speaker 1: polarizing charge in all areas of life. If you look

1013
01:02:09,240 --> 01:02:12,640
Speaker 1: at it every it's shown everywhere. You can look at it,

1014
01:02:12,880 --> 01:02:18,000
Speaker 1: every single thing, and there is that that that balancing energy.

1015
01:02:18,160 --> 01:02:21,360
Speaker 1: And the reason why it's balancing is because it's nature.

1016
01:02:21,600 --> 01:02:26,000
Speaker 1: We are nature. Let's talk about it sexually, because you

1017
01:02:26,080 --> 01:02:28,560
Speaker 1: kind of touched on this when you said the masculine

1018
01:02:28,640 --> 01:02:32,080
Speaker 1: energy gets there a lot faster. The feminine energy is

1019
01:02:32,160 --> 01:02:35,320
Speaker 1: more of a process, which I think a lot of

1020
01:02:35,360 --> 01:02:37,919
Speaker 1: people assume that's how men and women work in most

1021
01:02:37,920 --> 01:02:40,960
Speaker 1: cases anyway, right, Like I mean, I think like a

1022
01:02:41,000 --> 01:02:44,000
Speaker 1: lot of times it's it's talked about with women as like, oh,

1023
01:02:44,040 --> 01:02:46,560
Speaker 1: women have a harder time orgasm ng or anything like that.

1024
01:02:46,600 --> 01:02:50,480
Speaker 1: But it's the feminine energy in general is a lot slower,

1025
01:02:50,600 --> 01:02:52,480
Speaker 1: is what I heard you say earlier. Can you kind

1026
01:02:52,480 --> 01:02:56,160
Speaker 1: of touch on all of those topics best of course? Yeah,

1027
01:02:56,400 --> 01:03:00,640
Speaker 1: and you're saying it exactly right too. Okay, the thing

1028
01:03:00,760 --> 01:03:05,560
Speaker 1: is we're speaking sexually in the sense. Well, first of all,

1029
01:03:05,720 --> 01:03:08,320
Speaker 1: we have to address a shame around sexuality, and sex

1030
01:03:08,400 --> 01:03:11,080
Speaker 1: is something that is not talked about. We're not taught

1031
01:03:11,120 --> 01:03:16,440
Speaker 1: anything about sacred sexuality. Porn is an all time high,

1032
01:03:16,560 --> 01:03:19,080
Speaker 1: and and you know that's the thing is basically, when

1033
01:03:19,080 --> 01:03:21,760
Speaker 1: people have sex, are using each other's bodies just to masturbate,

1034
01:03:23,440 --> 01:03:27,240
Speaker 1: just to have an ejaculation or maybe an orgasm, right,

1035
01:03:27,280 --> 01:03:30,760
Speaker 1: and then it's very primal, very animalistic. We have sex,

1036
01:03:30,840 --> 01:03:34,120
Speaker 1: and that's the thing. And when we go our separate ways. Yeah,

1037
01:03:35,000 --> 01:03:43,880
Speaker 1: So something that maskeline men have to understand is the

1038
01:03:44,040 --> 01:03:48,640
Speaker 1: feminine does take time to warm up, and she warms

1039
01:03:48,880 --> 01:03:55,320
Speaker 1: up through the quality of your character and your integrity

1040
01:03:55,480 --> 01:04:03,040
Speaker 1: and your presence those things. I'm sorry, but it's so true. Yes,

1041
01:04:03,400 --> 01:04:07,400
Speaker 1: And if those things are not in alignment, she has

1042
01:04:07,440 --> 01:04:11,720
Speaker 1: an antenna that is plugged into the freaking cosmic grid.

1043
01:04:12,240 --> 01:04:15,080
Speaker 1: She can feel everything in your body. So if you're

1044
01:04:15,120 --> 01:04:18,400
Speaker 1: coming to her from a place of lust and horny nous,

1045
01:04:18,440 --> 01:04:20,800
Speaker 1: and you're just trying to penetrate her to get your

1046
01:04:20,800 --> 01:04:25,080
Speaker 1: own ego desires off. She's gonna shut down and she

1047
01:04:25,240 --> 01:04:26,880
Speaker 1: may have sex with you out of your out of

1048
01:04:26,880 --> 01:04:29,800
Speaker 1: her own guilt because she she wants to please you,

1049
01:04:30,280 --> 01:04:33,120
Speaker 1: but she's actually doing herself with disservice because she's taking

1050
01:04:33,200 --> 01:04:36,920
Speaker 1: love or not allowing loves to flow in that moment. Wow,

1051
01:04:38,800 --> 01:04:41,320
Speaker 1: And that's hard to hear. That's hard to hear this people,

1052
01:04:41,360 --> 01:04:45,760
Speaker 1: because we live in a very uh dog eat dog world.

1053
01:04:46,120 --> 01:04:50,520
Speaker 1: You know, it's like it's everybody's so sexually ramped up,

1054
01:04:50,840 --> 01:04:54,600
Speaker 1: and it's it's everywhere, it's everywhere. We live in such

1055
01:04:54,640 --> 01:04:58,000
Speaker 1: an overly sexualized culture. But no one, not no one.

1056
01:04:58,440 --> 01:05:02,880
Speaker 1: Most people have not even come close to mastering their

1057
01:05:02,920 --> 01:05:09,560
Speaker 1: sexual energy, especially within men. Why is that because you

1058
01:05:09,600 --> 01:05:13,200
Speaker 1: have to be in touch with the emotional aspect of

1059
01:05:13,280 --> 01:05:17,080
Speaker 1: your energy to really master it, as well as a

1060
01:05:17,120 --> 01:05:21,320
Speaker 1: spiritual and energetic compulsia. So basically, if we look at

1061
01:05:21,360 --> 01:05:25,160
Speaker 1: like the Chokolra system for seven chakras, which you know,

1062
01:05:25,240 --> 01:05:28,440
Speaker 1: there's so much we do go in through that. Most people,

1063
01:05:28,560 --> 01:05:33,840
Speaker 1: most human beings are locked in the first three chocolates. Okay.

1064
01:05:34,000 --> 01:05:36,800
Speaker 1: The first chakra is the root, which is your connection

1065
01:05:36,840 --> 01:05:40,960
Speaker 1: to earth. Your second is your sacred, which is your

1066
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Speaker 1: connection to your sexuality, your expression, your creativity. Your third

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01:05:45,480 --> 01:05:49,440
Speaker 1: is your place of personal power. Now, most people get

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01:05:49,480 --> 01:05:52,040
Speaker 1: locked in those first three chakolras and they can't ascend

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Speaker 1: into the higher cosmic energy centers, if you will, And

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01:05:58,200 --> 01:06:04,000
Speaker 1: because they're still identified ying with your ego desires of safety, security, sexuality, lust,

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01:06:04,760 --> 01:06:09,080
Speaker 1: and needing power over people, right, which is all like

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01:06:09,160 --> 01:06:14,120
Speaker 1: very ego stuff. So because many people have it transcended,

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01:06:15,240 --> 01:06:20,120
Speaker 1: they're earthly grabbings, the earthly clingings, if you will, they

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01:06:20,120 --> 01:06:22,760
Speaker 1: stay trapped in in the in that in that vortex

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Speaker 1: of constant just lusting after people, lusting after experiences, left,

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01:06:28,160 --> 01:06:34,720
Speaker 1: lusting after the next high. And basically what what people

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01:06:34,720 --> 01:06:40,880
Speaker 1: need to understand is that sex is truly sacred. Okay.

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Speaker 1: And I feel something that I've come to realize within myself,

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Speaker 1: and that took me many years. Believe me, I was

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01:06:46,920 --> 01:06:49,000
Speaker 1: no saint when it comes to this, but it took

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01:06:49,000 --> 01:06:53,840
Speaker 1: me many years to discover that when you engage sexually

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01:06:53,840 --> 01:06:59,640
Speaker 1: with another person, there should be a emotional, spiritual, energetic

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01:06:59,680 --> 01:07:02,600
Speaker 1: component it there and to bring in those qualities of

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01:07:02,600 --> 01:07:07,440
Speaker 1: consciousness into that space, because if there is not, you

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01:07:07,480 --> 01:07:11,040
Speaker 1: can damage your energetic field. And this is for all

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Speaker 1: human beings. This is for all human beings because when

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01:07:15,120 --> 01:07:18,000
Speaker 1: you engage sexually, that is the most vulnerable role you

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01:07:18,000 --> 01:07:21,960
Speaker 1: will ever be with someone's spiritually, energetically, emotionally, everything. So

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Speaker 1: by opening your body up to another person, to another being,

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01:07:27,160 --> 01:07:33,000
Speaker 1: you create things that happen. Right, So it's first of all,

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01:07:33,000 --> 01:07:36,000
Speaker 1: it's important to be very conscious of who you're having

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Speaker 1: sex with, Okay, and you know that. The thing is,

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01:07:39,320 --> 01:07:41,680
Speaker 1: there's no judgment if you want to have you know,

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01:07:41,960 --> 01:07:44,720
Speaker 1: random one night stands, do, do you whatever. But like

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Speaker 1: I'm saying, if you if you're really wanting to walk

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Speaker 1: this path of spiritual awakening, you start to really tune

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01:07:50,360 --> 01:07:56,320
Speaker 1: in to the subtle vibrations of everything so interesting and

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Speaker 1: so much to digest. Honestly, it's like it's like stuff

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Speaker 1: that I feel a new sort of like like this

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01:08:05,680 --> 01:08:07,400
Speaker 1: all it's you know, it seems like, oh yeah, this

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01:08:07,440 --> 01:08:10,680
Speaker 1: makes sense, like a maskine energy, feminine energy, but it's

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01:08:10,760 --> 01:08:14,560
Speaker 1: so much deeper, and it's like the wounding aspect of

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Speaker 1: it is just completely fascinating to me. Because I'm thinking

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Speaker 1: about my own life in the ways that I bring

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01:08:21,680 --> 01:08:25,760
Speaker 1: my feminine wound to the table. And um, I don't

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01:08:25,840 --> 01:08:28,080
Speaker 1: think that I had any awareness of that, you know,

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01:08:28,160 --> 01:08:31,360
Speaker 1: Like I think I think we can easily look at oh, well,

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Speaker 1: that's just like a trigger for me, or that those

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01:08:33,160 --> 01:08:35,120
Speaker 1: are like the therapy terms, right, like oh that's a

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01:08:35,120 --> 01:08:37,920
Speaker 1: trigger or that's a whatever, But it doesn't really look

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Speaker 1: at healing the energy wound of that. Yeah, I mean

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01:08:44,520 --> 01:08:48,920
Speaker 1: it's because it's those shadows are very deep. Yeah, the shame,

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01:08:49,200 --> 01:08:54,200
Speaker 1: the shame around sex is extremely deek. So it's much

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01:08:54,200 --> 01:08:58,240
Speaker 1: easier just to go wash some corn and masturbate and

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01:08:58,360 --> 01:09:01,040
Speaker 1: visualize your partner in fantasy has about your partner who

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01:09:01,040 --> 01:09:03,200
Speaker 1: you love to have. It's much easier to do that

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01:09:03,520 --> 01:09:06,720
Speaker 1: instead of actually being in a conscious relationship where you

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01:09:06,840 --> 01:09:15,840
Speaker 1: have a deepening with another person. Extremely extremely healing within

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01:09:15,920 --> 01:09:19,880
Speaker 1: that sense, and it can also be very transcendental. So

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Speaker 1: I mean, there is there can be great healing through

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Speaker 1: conscious sexuality. Remember we are we are born out of

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Speaker 1: the womb. That womb can give life force, right, So,

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01:09:33,000 --> 01:09:37,440
Speaker 1: like we have just disregarded that and we have forgotten

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Speaker 1: the beauty of sacred sexuality. And and really coming from

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Speaker 1: a place of deepening ourselves so we can go more

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Speaker 1: deep with a romantic partner. And it's it's scary for

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Speaker 1: for most people. Like I know, I've talked to a

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Speaker 1: lot of men that have like performance anxiety, right, So

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you're or heard about this before,

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01:10:00,960 --> 01:10:05,519
Speaker 1: but basically it's when a man feels like he can't

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01:10:05,520 --> 01:10:09,400
Speaker 1: perform sexually to please his woman or or if he's

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01:10:09,400 --> 01:10:11,160
Speaker 1: with a woman, or it could be another man whatever,

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Speaker 1: But basically that's because a lot of times he hasn't

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01:10:17,200 --> 01:10:22,320
Speaker 1: trained himself sexually to bring the energy up from his

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01:10:22,439 --> 01:10:26,400
Speaker 1: lower energy centers the route bringing the energy up all

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01:10:26,439 --> 01:10:28,120
Speaker 1: the way through his heart, all the way through the

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01:10:28,120 --> 01:10:33,880
Speaker 1: crown of his head, to bring spiritual healing through him.

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01:10:33,920 --> 01:10:37,800
Speaker 1: So most men just ejaculated three to five minutes, and

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01:10:37,880 --> 01:10:40,679
Speaker 1: that's kind of the whole shebang. And oftentimes they don't

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01:10:40,720 --> 01:10:44,680
Speaker 1: do they don't take care of the feminine woman in

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01:10:44,720 --> 01:10:49,000
Speaker 1: the sense where they're like, oh wow, like maybe we

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01:10:49,040 --> 01:10:51,760
Speaker 1: should do some four play, you know, Maybe maybe I

1143
01:10:51,760 --> 01:10:54,439
Speaker 1: should set the tempo, Maybe I should light a candle,

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01:10:54,479 --> 01:10:56,920
Speaker 1: Maybe I should put on some soft music. Maybe I

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01:10:56,960 --> 01:11:01,559
Speaker 1: should put some nice leaning down. Maybe I should be

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01:11:01,800 --> 01:11:09,200
Speaker 1: nice to her forty eight hours before. Yeah, I'm being

1147
01:11:09,520 --> 01:11:17,559
Speaker 1: very serious. The woman is tuned in emotionally. She's so

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01:11:17,600 --> 01:11:20,679
Speaker 1: emotionally tuned in that if earlier that day you said

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01:11:20,680 --> 01:11:23,640
Speaker 1: something nasty to her, just like critical or even not

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01:11:23,720 --> 01:11:25,479
Speaker 1: even doesn't have to nas even something just a little

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01:11:25,520 --> 01:11:28,360
Speaker 1: bit critical. She made close sexually for an entire week,

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01:11:29,160 --> 01:11:30,920
Speaker 1: and you're like, what the hell, man, she doesn't even

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01:11:31,000 --> 01:11:32,360
Speaker 1: she doesn't even want to have sex to me, What

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01:11:32,400 --> 01:11:35,360
Speaker 1: the hell am I doing wrong here? Well, your critical

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01:11:35,479 --> 01:11:41,360
Speaker 1: nature is causing her to close. So your masculine wound

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01:11:41,760 --> 01:11:45,640
Speaker 1: is essentially causing her to close. That could definitely be

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01:11:45,680 --> 01:11:47,960
Speaker 1: a part of it. I mean going on there. You know,

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01:11:49,800 --> 01:11:53,840
Speaker 1: this thing is the relationships. There's so much going on,

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01:11:54,640 --> 01:11:59,680
Speaker 1: and it's it really comes down to the harmony of

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01:12:00,040 --> 01:12:03,040
Speaker 1: your again and your young energies, first within yourself and

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01:12:03,080 --> 01:12:06,360
Speaker 1: then in the physical manifestation of the relationship, because you

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01:12:06,400 --> 01:12:10,559
Speaker 1: can only bring to that relationship what you have shield

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01:12:10,880 --> 01:12:13,479
Speaker 1: and gone through within yourself. If you're only gonna offer

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01:12:13,520 --> 01:12:15,880
Speaker 1: that same energy to your partner, or you're just gonna

1165
01:12:15,880 --> 01:12:19,360
Speaker 1: project your own wounds onto your partner. What's so interesting

1166
01:12:19,400 --> 01:12:21,679
Speaker 1: to think about with the masculine energy to like the

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01:12:21,760 --> 01:12:25,360
Speaker 1: situation you just described, like the setting, the candles, the music,

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01:12:25,520 --> 01:12:29,400
Speaker 1: all of that stuff. Um, it also is very vulnerable

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01:12:29,479 --> 01:12:34,320
Speaker 1: probably and for someone if in a heavy masculine energy,

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01:12:34,520 --> 01:12:37,160
Speaker 1: like what if they got rejected or any of those

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01:12:37,280 --> 01:12:39,559
Speaker 1: kind of things, Like I would imagine that that is

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01:12:40,040 --> 01:12:43,680
Speaker 1: somewhat difficult. Yeah, well, they have to want to put

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01:12:43,680 --> 01:12:47,799
Speaker 1: the private and egos to be vulnerable, to feel into

1174
01:12:48,360 --> 01:12:53,320
Speaker 1: the sensations of the feminine to even start to understand them,

1175
01:12:53,640 --> 01:12:57,360
Speaker 1: you know, like you want to engage sexually with them,

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01:12:57,400 --> 01:12:59,000
Speaker 1: but you have to you have to really start to

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01:12:59,080 --> 01:13:03,559
Speaker 1: understand them and understand that she closes when she doesn't

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01:13:03,560 --> 01:13:07,040
Speaker 1: feel safe. What does the masculine energy do when it

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01:13:07,080 --> 01:13:12,679
Speaker 1: doesn't feel safe? Fight? Um, depends on how much work

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01:13:12,720 --> 01:13:17,919
Speaker 1: they've done on themselves. Yeah. Um. You know what's interesting

1181
01:13:18,000 --> 01:13:21,760
Speaker 1: is there's so many different things that I could say

1182
01:13:21,760 --> 01:13:23,479
Speaker 1: to that, And I feel like when the mass and

1183
01:13:23,600 --> 01:13:28,479
Speaker 1: energy doesn't feel safe, it's it's going to put up

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01:13:28,840 --> 01:13:31,080
Speaker 1: that shield. And it's it's very similar to like you know,

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01:13:31,320 --> 01:13:34,320
Speaker 1: as it just may not be as intense like if

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01:13:34,800 --> 01:13:36,519
Speaker 1: when a man does it, it's very intense, like when

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01:13:36,520 --> 01:13:39,040
Speaker 1: a man doesn't feel safe, you can you can like

1188
01:13:39,120 --> 01:13:42,639
Speaker 1: really feel like his like warrior essence come out and

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01:13:42,800 --> 01:13:45,240
Speaker 1: like you can almost like physically see a shield. It's like,

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01:13:45,280 --> 01:13:47,519
Speaker 1: oh ship, Like he's you know, he's ready for battle

1191
01:13:47,560 --> 01:13:51,960
Speaker 1: almost right. And but once again, it also depends on

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01:13:52,000 --> 01:13:55,200
Speaker 1: how much work he's done on himself, because if he's

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01:13:55,240 --> 01:13:58,240
Speaker 1: in this fight or flight ego response, it's gonna be

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01:13:58,320 --> 01:14:03,240
Speaker 1: very animated, like very like gorilla pounding on my chest

1195
01:14:03,320 --> 01:14:05,960
Speaker 1: kind of animated. Right now, if he's done a lot

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01:14:05,960 --> 01:14:07,680
Speaker 1: of work on himself and he's not just putting on

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01:14:07,720 --> 01:14:10,200
Speaker 1: a show for his ego, he will be able to

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01:14:10,200 --> 01:14:13,640
Speaker 1: bring himself back to center and reground himself through his

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01:14:13,760 --> 01:14:17,080
Speaker 1: breathing and slow down and be able to process his

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01:14:17,160 --> 01:14:22,200
Speaker 1: emotions before he reacts in a violent way. Okay, And

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01:14:22,240 --> 01:14:25,679
Speaker 1: that's very difficult because you know, the ego is ego

1202
01:14:25,800 --> 01:14:29,040
Speaker 1: is freaking strong, and ego is very clever. So like

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01:14:29,360 --> 01:14:31,960
Speaker 1: just when you think you've mastered the ego, it slips

1204
01:14:31,960 --> 01:14:33,800
Speaker 1: out of your grips and sneaks up behind him and

1205
01:14:33,800 --> 01:14:37,320
Speaker 1: punch it in the back of the head. That's how

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01:14:37,360 --> 01:14:44,040
Speaker 1: happens for me. Well, that's everybody, not just you. Uh,

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01:14:44,040 --> 01:14:47,000
Speaker 1: this is fascinating stuff for me if you are listening

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01:14:47,200 --> 01:14:50,080
Speaker 1: and um, you have more questions for Jake. You do

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01:14:50,320 --> 01:14:54,640
Speaker 1: offer an online course for this healing your masculine and

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01:14:54,680 --> 01:14:56,800
Speaker 1: feminine energies, right, Can you tell us a little bit

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01:14:56,800 --> 01:15:00,280
Speaker 1: about that. Yeah, basically I built the course and everything

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01:15:00,280 --> 01:15:03,920
Speaker 1: that we just talked about is has training, video training modules,

1213
01:15:03,960 --> 01:15:07,639
Speaker 1: got of meditations, embodiment worksheets, really just stuff to help

1214
01:15:07,680 --> 01:15:12,240
Speaker 1: you to deepen your connection to the sacred energies, to

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01:15:12,280 --> 01:15:16,800
Speaker 1: your mask on feminine energies. And it's honestly, honestly, Kelly, like,

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01:15:16,800 --> 01:15:20,000
Speaker 1: out of all the healing work I've ever done, learning

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01:15:20,439 --> 01:15:24,400
Speaker 1: the embodiment all of mass femine energies has changed my

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01:15:24,520 --> 01:15:27,680
Speaker 1: entire life. It really has, because it's like it's a

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01:15:27,680 --> 01:15:30,160
Speaker 1: loud structure in my life, but it also has like

1220
01:15:30,200 --> 01:15:34,160
Speaker 1: the creative flow. So like like a lot of people,

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01:15:34,280 --> 01:15:37,559
Speaker 1: they may be very structured, but they don't have any flow,

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01:15:37,720 --> 01:15:40,880
Speaker 1: like any gentle compassion, or they may have a lot

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01:15:40,920 --> 01:15:43,080
Speaker 1: of flow, a lot of feminine energy, but they don't

1224
01:15:43,080 --> 01:15:45,479
Speaker 1: have the structure. So like, when you learn how to

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01:15:45,520 --> 01:15:49,960
Speaker 1: embody those energies within yourself, it is truly a game changer.

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Speaker 1: I love that. And you can find information about this course. Um,

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01:15:56,000 --> 01:15:59,040
Speaker 1: it's on Jake witterd dot com. You do offer other

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01:15:59,360 --> 01:16:02,519
Speaker 1: workshops and retreats. Um, I don't know how you're doing

1229
01:16:02,520 --> 01:16:06,160
Speaker 1: that with covid. Is that still happening right now? Yeah,

1230
01:16:06,200 --> 01:16:09,920
Speaker 1: so we actually went virtual. We went we went virtual

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01:16:10,000 --> 01:16:14,200
Speaker 1: for the last event. It's called heal Um, Harmonize and

1232
01:16:14,280 --> 01:16:17,080
Speaker 1: Body Activate Love, and we had people from all around

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01:16:17,120 --> 01:16:19,320
Speaker 1: the world drop in for a two day live workshop.

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01:16:19,640 --> 01:16:22,120
Speaker 1: I would have done it in person, the retreat in person,

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01:16:23,000 --> 01:16:28,519
Speaker 1: you know, with all this stuff going on a time, Well,

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01:16:28,560 --> 01:16:31,240
Speaker 1: where can people find more information about that? Because I

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01:16:31,439 --> 01:16:33,080
Speaker 1: do want to talk a little bit about the podcast,

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01:16:33,200 --> 01:16:36,280
Speaker 1: but I know your website to me was very informative

1239
01:16:36,320 --> 01:16:39,000
Speaker 1: of the different services you offer. There's these retreats that

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01:16:39,040 --> 01:16:43,639
Speaker 1: if you're looking to even just start exploring a healing journey,

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01:16:44,000 --> 01:16:47,439
Speaker 1: you're you're very um. That is seems like one of

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01:16:47,479 --> 01:16:49,800
Speaker 1: your gifts to help people figure out which direction to

1243
01:16:49,800 --> 01:16:54,200
Speaker 1: start their journey. I appreciate that. Thank you so much. Yeah,

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01:16:54,200 --> 01:16:56,599
Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, just live in a world of social media.

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01:16:56,680 --> 01:17:00,559
Speaker 1: Just yeah, I always always help. We would just you know,

1246
01:17:00,680 --> 01:17:03,000
Speaker 1: first connect to me, connected with me in your heart,

1247
01:17:03,200 --> 01:17:06,599
Speaker 1: and of what I've said, resonates with you then you know,

1248
01:17:06,760 --> 01:17:10,280
Speaker 1: follow me on Instagram, check out my work and I

1249
01:17:10,320 --> 01:17:12,800
Speaker 1: always I always believe that the universe sends the right

1250
01:17:12,840 --> 01:17:17,160
Speaker 1: people to me. Are ready to be open and heal. Man,

1251
01:17:17,280 --> 01:17:21,400
Speaker 1: you are spiritually awakened. I need to get to this

1252
01:17:21,439 --> 01:17:23,759
Speaker 1: place of surrender. I'm still I'm still in the ego

1253
01:17:23,800 --> 01:17:25,320
Speaker 1: place of like I need to go find the people.

1254
01:17:25,360 --> 01:17:28,559
Speaker 1: I need to try to control this. But even the

1255
01:17:28,720 --> 01:17:33,400
Speaker 1: even the thought of needing to get somewhere is a trap.

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01:17:34,479 --> 01:17:39,000
Speaker 1: What do you because all that matters this private moment

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01:17:40,560 --> 01:17:42,680
Speaker 1: and if you're in this, this this thinking of I've

1258
01:17:42,680 --> 01:17:45,400
Speaker 1: got to get somewhere or happiness exists over there, and

1259
01:17:46,760 --> 01:17:49,920
Speaker 1: you know it's like it really is. When you anchor

1260
01:17:49,960 --> 01:17:54,639
Speaker 1: yourself into this present moment of consciousness, that's where all

1261
01:17:54,680 --> 01:17:57,920
Speaker 1: of the bliss is. That's where life is happening. It's

1262
01:17:57,960 --> 01:18:01,040
Speaker 1: not in the future, it's not down the road, it's

1263
01:18:01,120 --> 01:18:08,719
Speaker 1: here now. So people can find you at Jake Woodard

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01:18:08,880 --> 01:18:13,960
Speaker 1: on social media. Correct, yes, it's just my Instagram is

1265
01:18:14,040 --> 01:18:19,760
Speaker 1: Underscore Jake Woodard w O d r D. My podcast

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01:18:19,840 --> 01:18:21,559
Speaker 1: is the Awake with Jakes Show. We have like two

1267
01:18:22,000 --> 01:18:24,200
Speaker 1: episodes on there, so tell us a little bit about

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01:18:24,200 --> 01:18:26,400
Speaker 1: the podcast because I've also been listening to that and

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01:18:26,439 --> 01:18:28,840
Speaker 1: it helped me. It helped me get a kind of

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01:18:28,880 --> 01:18:32,240
Speaker 1: a good base, especially with this masculine and feminine energy.

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01:18:32,320 --> 01:18:34,759
Speaker 1: But you do a lot of healing work on the podcast,

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01:18:34,800 --> 01:18:37,920
Speaker 1: So tell the people what you talk about kind of

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Speaker 1: some of the topics and things they'll find if they

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Speaker 1: listen to the Awake with Jake Show. Yeah, basically you

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Speaker 1: know those guide and meditations on there is more talks

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Speaker 1: about mask on, feminine energies, relationships, healing work, shadow work,

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Speaker 1: breath work, anything, any type of any type of healing

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Speaker 1: modality or healing. You know, I dropped, I dropped energy

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Speaker 1: updates and what I feel is going on with a

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Speaker 1: collective conscious all that stuff. You know, just just really

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Speaker 1: trying to help with the ascension of our species and

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Speaker 1: raising the vibration of our planet. Okay, well, you guys

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Speaker 1: go check out the Awake with Jake Show. It is

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Speaker 1: a really great listen. Um, Jake, thank you so much

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Speaker 1: for being here and thank you for talking through my

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Speaker 1: emotional stuff today. That actually it's I'm gonna re listen

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Speaker 1: to this podcast myself. It's been very helpful for me.

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Speaker 1: I appreciate that. Thank you so much for having me, Kelly.

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Speaker 1: You truly have a beautiful heart and soul and I

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Speaker 1: can feel the love that pours through you. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: That means a lot well, Thank you guys for listening.

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Speaker 1: Go check out Jake Woodard and Jake. Thank you again

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Speaker 1: for being a guest on the Belots podcast. Thank you Kelly,