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Speaker 1: What did you call them? Be a listener?

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Speaker 2: Oh, but didn't I didn't get I didn't catch a

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Speaker 2: like d listeners. Hey, guys, thank you for joining us

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Speaker 2: for another week of Brown Ambition.

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Speaker 1: Yes.

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Speaker 2: Is it weird to you when you find out that

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Speaker 2: random people listen to the show and they're like, oh, hey,

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Speaker 3: Or sometimes when I like someone said something to me,

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Speaker 3: You you know what, Like, luckily my family doesn't really

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Speaker 3: But it'll be weird because somebody will be like, oh,

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Speaker 2: Because it's so we're really open on this show. I

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Speaker 2: But how how is your week?

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Speaker 1: Ben? It's been much? Yeah, it's been good.

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Speaker 3: So the the Live Richer Academy reopen registration again.

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Speaker 1: Uh it's been eight months. And I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 3: Have you ever done something or created something and you're like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: So it sucks because especially like I'm like, I always

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Speaker 3: And now, honestly, I love the Academy you have to

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Speaker 3: It's so dope's it feels good like we're finally at

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Speaker 1: So the Literature Academy is a online school that I

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Speaker 1: created to really help women take their personal finances to

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Speaker 3: So if you're interested, you can always go to Live

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Speaker 2: Just live vicariously through my crazy ass wedding and you'll

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Speaker 1: They are chilling, chilling, talking about I was wire tapped.

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Speaker 1: Could you honestly just shut up? Just just shut up,

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Speaker 3: The FBI everyone, what are you talking about? That doesn't

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Speaker 2: I mean, what what's it going to take to get this

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Speaker 3: like he had just come from I think Puerto Rico

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00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:53,119
Speaker 3: or the Dominican Republican. He couldn't speak any English, and

434
00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:55,440
Speaker 3: I remember worried, being worried, like, oh, you know, how's

435
00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:57,560
Speaker 3: he kind of acclimated the class because he's not going

436
00:20:57,600 --> 00:20:58,640
Speaker 3: to be able to communicate.

437
00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:01,560
Speaker 1: And like, I remember, like the kids were like, you know,

438
00:21:01,600 --> 00:21:02,640
Speaker 1: he came in day.

439
00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:05,400
Speaker 3: One playing and then I had to pull a little

440
00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:07,080
Speaker 3: girl to the side she was playing with him. I said,

441
00:21:07,080 --> 00:21:10,240
Speaker 3: you know, just so you know, you know, Gino doesn't

442
00:21:10,240 --> 00:21:12,520
Speaker 3: speak any English. She looked at me like I was crazy,

443
00:21:12,560 --> 00:21:13,520
Speaker 3: like what are you talking about?

444
00:21:14,320 --> 00:21:14,840
Speaker 1: You can write?

445
00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:18,439
Speaker 3: And I thought to myself, Wow, kids communicate on a

446
00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:19,440
Speaker 3: totally different level.

447
00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:22,640
Speaker 1: She's like, he doesn't speak English, like, but yet they.

448
00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:26,240
Speaker 3: Were speaking maybe yeah, exactly like we like they were

449
00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:28,639
Speaker 3: talking and they were playing and you know, like and

450
00:21:28,720 --> 00:21:31,600
Speaker 3: I thought, wow, Like it was clear they were communicating

451
00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:33,520
Speaker 3: and they had worked out a little game that they

452
00:21:33,560 --> 00:21:36,159
Speaker 3: were playing, and I thought, wow, how because at three

453
00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:38,959
Speaker 3: and four, you know, kids speak they're like, you know, hey, Mims, Tiffany,

454
00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:41,520
Speaker 3: I'm hungry. It's not like she's like, oh you know, so,

455
00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:43,520
Speaker 3: I'm like, well, he's speaking to you in Spanish and

456
00:21:43,520 --> 00:21:45,560
Speaker 3: you're speaking to him back in English, and yet they

457
00:21:45,600 --> 00:21:48,879
Speaker 3: were communicating obviously beyond just language, and I'm just it

458
00:21:48,920 --> 00:21:51,640
Speaker 3: just made me remember like, wow, kids are so awesome.

459
00:21:51,960 --> 00:21:54,600
Speaker 3: And he didn't have any trouble on me. His really

460
00:21:54,640 --> 00:21:57,400
Speaker 3: within like a month or two, he started to really

461
00:21:57,400 --> 00:22:00,960
Speaker 3: pick up on certain words and able to like string

462
00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:03,719
Speaker 3: sentences together without any sort of like formal These are

463
00:22:03,720 --> 00:22:04,639
Speaker 3: your English lessons.

464
00:22:04,640 --> 00:22:07,600
Speaker 1: And I just thought, wow, oh yeah, yeah, kids are awesome.

465
00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:09,919
Speaker 2: I think my fiancee learned English from The Price Is Right.

466
00:22:09,960 --> 00:22:13,000
Speaker 2: He told me he would watch The Prices Right and

467
00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:14,959
Speaker 2: like all these like sitcoms with his grandma. That's how

468
00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:17,480
Speaker 2: he learned. The kids are kids are amazing and those

469
00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:20,120
Speaker 2: boys were adorable, so he.

470
00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:20,600
Speaker 1: Was so happy.

471
00:22:20,640 --> 00:22:23,720
Speaker 3: I was like, look at and first of all, when

472
00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:26,000
Speaker 3: you see like boys who are friends, because like you know,

473
00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:26,720
Speaker 3: when boys.

474
00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:29,679
Speaker 2: Get older, they're too cool to like hang like to

475
00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:31,080
Speaker 2: say that they love their friends.

476
00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:33,919
Speaker 1: But friend, yeah they are too cool for that. But

477
00:22:33,960 --> 00:22:36,520
Speaker 1: then yeah, boys they're so sweet.

478
00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:40,920
Speaker 2: But again they need to just be preserved somewhere, not ruined.

479
00:22:41,960 --> 00:22:44,359
Speaker 3: And I'm glad that his mom and his parents, you know,

480
00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:46,200
Speaker 3: they're like because you know, that's to be commended to

481
00:22:46,240 --> 00:22:48,399
Speaker 3: because they they could have you know, not been like

482
00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:49,720
Speaker 3: what no, you know.

483
00:22:52,200 --> 00:22:55,200
Speaker 2: And re read at Harvard come on, yes, and that

484
00:22:55,400 --> 00:23:01,280
Speaker 2: fabulous tweed off the shoulder, delightful, she's like your business suits.

485
00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:03,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, she was like, so I made it to Harvard.

486
00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:06,120
Speaker 1: That opening line was everything horrible.

487
00:23:06,320 --> 00:23:08,560
Speaker 2: I had no idea. I mean that just shows I

488
00:23:08,840 --> 00:23:11,040
Speaker 2: she really doesn't like speak loud about it or stoud

489
00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:13,160
Speaker 2: about it. But I had no idea she was. She

490
00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:16,800
Speaker 2: was like building clinics and like schools and stuff, and uh,

491
00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:20,360
Speaker 2: where is she from Trinidad? Yeah, Trinidad and Tobagel.

492
00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:23,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, awesome, because you're right.

493
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:25,640
Speaker 3: You know, when you think of Rihanna, you think of like, oh,

494
00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:28,000
Speaker 3: badgirl Rihanna, and not realizing just how much.

495
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:30,760
Speaker 1: Good she does in the world, not just musically.

496
00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:35,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, because I remember I kind of was awakened to

497
00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:37,480
Speaker 3: it last year. I went to Black Girls Rock and

498
00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 3: they honored her for the things she was doing. They

499
00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:41,479
Speaker 3: had like a little montage video and I was like,

500
00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:47,159
Speaker 3: wow they did Okay, Yeah.

501
00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:47,800
Speaker 2: It does feel like yeah, I remember, because she like

502
00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:50,399
Speaker 2: she took time and talked with the little girls and stuff.

503
00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:50,680
Speaker 1: Yeah.

504
00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:52,760
Speaker 2: She seems like a really you know, I've read some

505
00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 2: of her interviews and I like what she has to

506
00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:58,439
Speaker 2: say about relationships a lot. She says she's like single,

507
00:23:58,480 --> 00:24:00,600
Speaker 2: she's been single, and she was talking talking about how

508
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:03,600
Speaker 2: she's just enjoying being by herself and and you know,

509
00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:05,640
Speaker 2: not dating right now. It doesn't really feel the need

510
00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:09,040
Speaker 2: to date. And I don't know. I think, yeah, I think,

511
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:10,840
Speaker 2: I don't know. Maybe it's just me, but I feel

512
00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:15,200
Speaker 2: like I underestimated Rihanna is just like the work.

513
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:18,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, she's you know, totally deeper than just the

514
00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:21,040
Speaker 3: weed smoking Rihanna we see on our Instagram.

515
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:26,040
Speaker 2: Sorry, I'm not I did not know. I apologize and

516
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:29,720
Speaker 2: other cute news. Can Blue Ivy get more fabulous?

517
00:24:30,160 --> 00:24:32,840
Speaker 1: I know this hair? I'm like, yeah, get into these braids.

518
00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:34,359
Speaker 2: Did you see that they went to the Beauty and

519
00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:37,919
Speaker 2: the Beast premiere? What a charmed life, as Little Girl leads.

520
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:40,280
Speaker 2: I'm waiting for the VHS tape to come out, not

521
00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:42,160
Speaker 2: even the real one. My dad would get the bootleg

522
00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:45,760
Speaker 2: VHS tapes. I remember watching Pocahontas and for the I

523
00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:47,960
Speaker 2: didn't realize how much I was missing as a kid

524
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 2: because I only saw like half the screen in every movie.

525
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:53,360
Speaker 2: My dad would get off the street like the bootleg

526
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:55,960
Speaker 2: VHS is and I'd be like, is there. I would

527
00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:58,359
Speaker 2: think that there was laughing tracks. No, that's just people

528
00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:03,040
Speaker 2: in the theater laughing like all these I remember I

529
00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:05,960
Speaker 2: watched the real version of Pocahontas as an adult, and

530
00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:11,040
Speaker 2: I was like, where's a laughing at like all the

531
00:25:11,119 --> 00:25:16,600
Speaker 2: parts of the Little Raccoon. The audience would crack up, Yeah, seriously,

532
00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:18,879
Speaker 2: and there would be like, you know, the like because

533
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:20,919
Speaker 2: the camera whatever camera this was back in the nineties.

534
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:22,919
Speaker 2: It wasn't even a good camera, so people recording in

535
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:25,240
Speaker 2: the theater would like you cut off parts of the screen.

536
00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:25,880
Speaker 1: Yeah.

537
00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:28,040
Speaker 2: So I was like, oh, I know she was. That

538
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:30,160
Speaker 2: was such a big land and that was a big boat.

539
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:33,399
Speaker 1: Yes, hilarious laughing.

540
00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:37,280
Speaker 2: Meanwhile, Blue Ibby is getting to go to the damn premiere.

541
00:25:37,359 --> 00:25:39,640
Speaker 2: She's like, I'm gonna see this two weeks earlier than

542
00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:44,360
Speaker 2: anybody else. Fabulous and like the cutest mommy and me outfits.

543
00:25:44,359 --> 00:25:47,040
Speaker 2: I don't know if you saw yet, but theances were

544
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:49,400
Speaker 2: in like a fabulous green dress and blue Ivy matches

545
00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:52,040
Speaker 2: and she's smiling. I don't feel like I see Blue

546
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:53,040
Speaker 2: Ivy smile very much.

547
00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:56,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I feel like she does it.

548
00:25:56,600 --> 00:25:58,359
Speaker 3: But you saw like she there was a picture of

549
00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:01,159
Speaker 3: her and her father like front row at like a

550
00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:03,080
Speaker 3: basketball game and they're making the same kind of like

551
00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:04,919
Speaker 3: face and I was like, oh, the.

552
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:05,720
Speaker 2: All Star game.

553
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:09,200
Speaker 1: Yeah. So let's just wait till these twins get here.

554
00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:10,720
Speaker 1: They're gonna be stomping the yard.

555
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:13,400
Speaker 2: I don't know if the world is ready. I know,

556
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:16,359
Speaker 2: and she looks like she's nine months pregnant already, like

557
00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 2: she got the secret for a long time.

558
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:20,919
Speaker 1: I have to say, like, well, I guess twins are different.

559
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:23,480
Speaker 3: Like looking at her pregnant now, I could see where

560
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 3: people were.

561
00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:26,120
Speaker 1: Like, she wasn't pregnant before, but then again, these are twins.

562
00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 2: Stop it. She was pregnant. Come on, but she posted

563
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:34,119
Speaker 2: pictures of her pregnant billy, I know, but she.

564
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:34,920
Speaker 1: Didn't look that pregnant.

565
00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:36,480
Speaker 3: But anyway, I'm gonna let it go because I'm going

566
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 3: to say that she is very pregnant, clearly pregnant. Yes,

567
00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 3: and I cannot wait to see these babies pop out.

568
00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:44,720
Speaker 1: Queen Bee right, I would wait a girl.

569
00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:47,679
Speaker 2: Oh, I don't know. I hope it's two boys. I

570
00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:49,520
Speaker 2: think two boy twins. That's adorable.

571
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:54,560
Speaker 3: Oh man, they're gonna be tearing up all these young

572
00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:56,679
Speaker 3: girls out here. Get ready for your heart to be broken.

573
00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:59,680
Speaker 2: Oh lord, they just need to be like the antithesis

574
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:02,600
Speaker 2: of the Kanye West babies. That's all the West babies.

575
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:03,520
Speaker 2: I don't even want to know.

576
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:06,200
Speaker 3: Right, Oh, but North is just so cute and I

577
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:09,399
Speaker 3: don't see much of Saint sat West that name.

578
00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:10,200
Speaker 2: I was trying to think of that baby's name.

579
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, but they're both really just like I mean, North

580
00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 3: is gorgeous and Saint is so cute.

581
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:17,119
Speaker 1: So well, you never know.

582
00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 3: Up being the most normal, you know, sometimes people come

583
00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:23,479
Speaker 3: from crazy parents and end up being super normal.

584
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:30,639
Speaker 2: Like who give me some examples? Those Jackson kids are

585
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:32,000
Speaker 2: kind of I don't know.

586
00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think, like, yeah, who has crazy parents

587
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:36,320
Speaker 1: and they're normal?

588
00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 2: Who will be optimistic?

589
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:40,359
Speaker 1: Yes, exactly, That's what We'll just say that.

590
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:43,440
Speaker 3: Maybe there's some grand there's some praying, uh praying uncles

591
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:45,239
Speaker 3: and aunties and uncles in their life that are like

592
00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,480
Speaker 3: praying coverage over them, the blood of Jesus.

593
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:49,359
Speaker 2: All that I wish upon them. Many good therapists.

594
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:07,439
Speaker 3: Yes it is time to break or boom boom, I

595
00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:11,000
Speaker 3: will tell you I'm gonna take a brown break from

596
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:14,240
Speaker 3: this helter skelter schizophrenic weather.

597
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:15,119
Speaker 1: I'm like, what it's.

598
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:17,920
Speaker 2: Abny, Like I am in the northeast right now.

599
00:28:18,200 --> 00:28:21,159
Speaker 3: I don't even know like what Like every day I'm like,

600
00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:25,320
Speaker 3: so is it T shirt or literally snorkel like it's

601
00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:27,800
Speaker 3: it's so crazy where and it could even go from

602
00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:29,479
Speaker 3: hour to hour, like it could start the day off

603
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 3: you're like, oh, what's so nice out my life jacket,

604
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:33,960
Speaker 3: and then three hours later you're like getting out of

605
00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:35,240
Speaker 3: the car, You're like, oh, my gosh, I should have

606
00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 3: brought my north face. And so I'm tired of Mother

607
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:41,120
Speaker 3: Nature's inconsistency. I'm not just I mean, I have to

608
00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:43,400
Speaker 3: say I'm glad we didn't have a super terrible winter

609
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:46,160
Speaker 3: in the Northeast, but it's.

610
00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 2: Just but it's still winter, they'd like to remind you.

611
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:50,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I'm always like pulling out like that.

612
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:53,000
Speaker 3: Like literally, I'm like I have some of my like

613
00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:55,600
Speaker 3: spring clothes out and I'm like, wait, but there's not

614
00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:56,240
Speaker 3: enough room.

615
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,360
Speaker 1: I have like every type of coat available. I'm always

616
00:28:59,400 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 1: like I'm not sure.

617
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:01,880
Speaker 3: Literally, I'll put a code on, walk outside and walk

618
00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:03,320
Speaker 3: way back and be like, no, I think I need

619
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:05,840
Speaker 3: this one. So I'm just taking a break from all

620
00:29:05,880 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 3: of this this uncertain weather, and hopefully we will the

621
00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:13,160
Speaker 3: weather will officially break and we can smooth our way

622
00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 3: into spring.

623
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:21,239
Speaker 2: So my my break, uh, my boost rather is going

624
00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:26,040
Speaker 2: to be for couples counseling. I speaking of TMI. You

625
00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 2: should all know. So one of the investments that we

626
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:30,480
Speaker 2: made when we were planning for the wedding is one

627
00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:34,440
Speaker 2: a financial advisor financial planner, and two I kept putting

628
00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:37,120
Speaker 2: it off. We kept like having trouble finding a good counselor.

629
00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 2: But I thought it would be important for us to

630
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:41,760
Speaker 2: do some sort of like pre marital counseling. You know,

631
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:43,960
Speaker 2: a lot of you know, they sell like I don't know,

632
00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 2: I felt like I was at one point I was

633
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:48,320
Speaker 2: gonna like spend six hundred dollars and do like a

634
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:51,440
Speaker 2: membership to some fitness club, and like, I don't know

635
00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 2: if I was. I just thought, man, if I'm gonna

636
00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:55,280
Speaker 2: put this money into like looking good for the wedding,

637
00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:57,440
Speaker 2: we need to at least put money into like our

638
00:29:57,480 --> 00:30:01,000
Speaker 2: actual relationship. And not that we have a ton of issues,

639
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:03,440
Speaker 2: but I feel like a lot some people do form

640
00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:09,040
Speaker 2: like uh, religious premarital counseling, Like especially Catholics, you go

641
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 2: to the church and you do it through your church,

642
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:12,960
Speaker 2: or you do a like an all day seminar and

643
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:15,920
Speaker 2: then you meet with your officiant or your pastor or whoever.

644
00:30:16,720 --> 00:30:20,160
Speaker 2: But since we're not really religious. I decided to just

645
00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:23,680
Speaker 2: I just started googling, like couples counseling programs in New York,

646
00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:27,920
Speaker 2: and I found I found a few different people who

647
00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:31,440
Speaker 2: specialize in couple counseling, and we landed upon this woman

648
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 2: who's who's from Jersey City, and she has a practice

649
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:38,080
Speaker 2: here which is really convenient, but she specializes in a

650
00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:40,680
Speaker 2: it's awkward, I'm not gonna lie. She specializes in a

651
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 2: type of therapy that you were. It's all about like

652
00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:47,120
Speaker 2: validating the other person and like that you heard them,

653
00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:48,680
Speaker 2: and so it's a lot of repeating what the other

654
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:52,000
Speaker 2: person said. Like if you say, if Tiffany is like, hey, Mandy,

655
00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:55,240
Speaker 2: I feel like you talk a lot on the podcast

656
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 2: and I'd really enjoy for you to not talk so much,

657
00:30:58,000 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 2: then I would have to say, Tiffany, I hear that

658
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:02,760
Speaker 2: you said that I talk a lot. Did I understand you?

659
00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:03,000
Speaker 1: Right?

660
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:06,040
Speaker 2: And back and forth. And we did our first session

661
00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 2: a few weeks back, and it was it was awkward,

662
00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 2: but in the very first session what was great is that,

663
00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 2: like it was forcing sometimes relationships, one person is a talker, yea,

664
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:20,520
Speaker 2: the other person isn't. And I'm you can probably guess

665
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 2: which one of us is the talker.

666
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:23,000
Speaker 3: I was gonna say, you probably guess which one of

667
00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 3: us between like likely, Yeah, you're like, clearly both of

668
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:30,880
Speaker 3: us are the talkers in our relationship.

669
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:33,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we're fine, we'll have no problem communicating. But

670
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:35,960
Speaker 2: in the relationship you don't realize how much can go

671
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 2: unsaid or like some people, like you may think the

672
00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:41,000
Speaker 2: other person's fine, but they don't have a way of

673
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:45,640
Speaker 2: verbalizing it. And anyway, our first session it was like uncomfortable.

674
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:47,120
Speaker 2: It's kind of like going back to the gym, or

675
00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:49,560
Speaker 2: like going to the gym for the first time, where

676
00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 2: you're really kind of like it's awkward and you're out

677
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:54,080
Speaker 2: of like shape and you're not really used to the

678
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 2: machines yet. But our second and third sessions were actually

679
00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:01,920
Speaker 2: really good, and I'm feeling like there's no negativity. It

680
00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 2: just kind of just kind of feels like a positive.

681
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:07,040
Speaker 2: At the beginning of each session, we meditate, which sounds

682
00:32:07,120 --> 00:32:10,280
Speaker 2: kind of weird, but uh, we meditate for a couple minutes,

683
00:32:10,320 --> 00:32:14,760
Speaker 2: and then what I've liked about it and what we

684
00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:17,720
Speaker 2: haven't done before is it's funny because we met each

685
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 2: other late in our adult life, not late but like

686
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:24,640
Speaker 2: in our late twenties and you've missed a whole lifetime

687
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:27,040
Speaker 2: before that, Like you don't know each other as kids.

688
00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 2: You don't know what you went through as teenagers and

689
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 2: that kind of thing. And in this type of counseling

690
00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:35,800
Speaker 2: she's having us, we're finding out things about each other

691
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 2: about our childhood that we never knew about. And like

692
00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:42,800
Speaker 2: it's crazy, like little things in your childhood can manifest

693
00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:44,720
Speaker 2: in your relationship as an adult. I know that made

694
00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:47,360
Speaker 2: sound like duh, but for me it was like, oh,

695
00:32:47,520 --> 00:32:49,680
Speaker 2: that's why I do that thing, or like that's why

696
00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:52,920
Speaker 2: he does that thing. And it's like I feel like

697
00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:56,160
Speaker 2: I'm learning even more about this person who I've known

698
00:32:56,160 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 2: for five years. You know, I just feel good about it.

699
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:03,960
Speaker 2: I feel like it's it's it's like it makes me

700
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 2: feel I mean, I was already confident about marrying him,

701
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:09,440
Speaker 2: but it's it's just I feel like we're getting stronger

702
00:33:09,520 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 2: even going through this, and I don't know, I I

703
00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:13,200
Speaker 2: it's a good investment.

704
00:33:13,320 --> 00:33:15,120
Speaker 1: I feel like, no, that is.

705
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't think people recognize or realize if

706
00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:21,720
Speaker 3: you're not in a relationship, because I always forget until

707
00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:24,600
Speaker 3: I get into a relationship. I'm like, oh, it's a

708
00:33:24,600 --> 00:33:26,720
Speaker 3: lot of work and not work, Like oh, you know,

709
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:28,680
Speaker 3: people are like, oh, if it's love, it's not work.

710
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:32,360
Speaker 3: Yes it is, like it is, it's just and meaning

711
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:35,480
Speaker 3: like if people would just step out of the whole

712
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:38,760
Speaker 3: love part of the relationship and just call it a relationship,

713
00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:42,080
Speaker 3: meaning like it's work with my sisters, it's work with

714
00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:45,080
Speaker 3: my parents, it's work with my friends, and the work

715
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 3: doesn't mean necessarily that it's like, oh, like this begrudging,

716
00:33:48,440 --> 00:33:51,000
Speaker 3: like oh my god, I always have no like if

717
00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:52,560
Speaker 3: I want to hang out my friends, I have to

718
00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 3: call them and make plans and see them, and it's work,

719
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:58,080
Speaker 3: you know, meaning that I have to make an effort.

720
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:00,360
Speaker 3: And so same thing with your love relationship, if there's

721
00:34:00,360 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 3: still effort that needs to be made in order to

722
00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:06,400
Speaker 3: maintain a good relationship.

723
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:08,040
Speaker 1: And so sometimes I.

724
00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:10,960
Speaker 3: Forget or just I guess people in general forget that, like, yeah,

725
00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:13,719
Speaker 3: you have to put in effort if you want, you know,

726
00:34:13,800 --> 00:34:16,320
Speaker 3: what you have with this person to be strong and

727
00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:18,480
Speaker 3: is knowing that it's not always going to be perfect.

728
00:34:18,680 --> 00:34:21,280
Speaker 3: But one good thing like I really like about Superman

729
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 3: is that I although I'm a good talker, I'm not

730
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:29,560
Speaker 3: necessarily always a good communicator, and he's actually to me

731
00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:31,680
Speaker 3: a better communicator than I am.

732
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:33,359
Speaker 1: Even though he doesn't talk as much as.

733
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:35,399
Speaker 2: I do, he does more with less.

734
00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 1: Yes, So because.

735
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 3: I'll be like, well, I'm fine, I'm fying whatever, you know,

736
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:41,120
Speaker 3: he'll just be like okay.

737
00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:44,680
Speaker 1: So it seems like the issue is this is that

738
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:46,600
Speaker 1: how you feel? You know what, I'm like, Yeah, that's

739
00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 1: how i'm you.

740
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:50,279
Speaker 2: Know, he would love it, he'd be he'd be a

741
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:50,759
Speaker 2: rock star.

742
00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:52,799
Speaker 1: So he's really good.

743
00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 3: And then to me, I will be the type that

744
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:56,400
Speaker 3: I'll talk around it because I might not want to

745
00:34:56,400 --> 00:34:57,719
Speaker 3: say directly, but.

746
00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:00,359
Speaker 1: He's really like straight to the point, like no, let's

747
00:35:00,440 --> 00:35:00,880
Speaker 1: unearth it.

748
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 3: Let's say because I'm always afraid that like, oh no,

749
00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:05,480
Speaker 3: this means we're gonna break up. You know, every time

750
00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:07,239
Speaker 3: you like don't agree, you're like, oh my god, it's over,

751
00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:08,640
Speaker 3: And he's like, make.

752
00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:11,600
Speaker 2: Sure in the beginning, Oh for sure. You don't never

753
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:14,359
Speaker 2: look at your old G chats. By the way, don't

754
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:16,680
Speaker 2: ever go back to the early beginning of your relationship

755
00:35:16,719 --> 00:35:17,719
Speaker 2: and read your old G chats.

756
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:21,359
Speaker 1: Don't do it like it's always tell him you don't

757
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:21,960
Speaker 1: want to be with me.

758
00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:24,719
Speaker 3: Oh my god, like, you know, like it could be

759
00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:28,719
Speaker 3: something disagreement over something so silly because I don't know,

760
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:31,560
Speaker 3: Like I'm always like worst case scenario, like oh god,

761
00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:32,719
Speaker 3: he's gonna want his ring back.

762
00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:36,720
Speaker 1: I knew I should have made dinner. I promise, Oh god,

763
00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 1: I was gonna make me low. I did it, and

764
00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:40,600
Speaker 1: he's frustrated.

765
00:35:40,719 --> 00:35:42,240
Speaker 3: You know, he's not gonna be to be his wife

766
00:35:42,320 --> 00:35:43,640
Speaker 3: because I should have made the meat loaf.

767
00:35:43,719 --> 00:35:45,880
Speaker 1: But I'm like, he's like, Tiffany, it's that serious.

768
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:48,000
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, I want a meet Low if you promise,

769
00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 3: but it's okay, we can go out to eat.

770
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:51,720
Speaker 1: I'm like okay, and he's like, why do you always

771
00:35:51,719 --> 00:35:53,879
Speaker 1: go to the extreme? I'm like, I don't know.

772
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:57,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I think that would actually be good for us,

773
00:35:57,440 --> 00:35:59,680
Speaker 3: I mean, or at least for me, because I know that,

774
00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:00,719
Speaker 3: Like I guess.

775
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 1: It's just like this weird feeling of is this real?

776
00:36:04,719 --> 00:36:05,640
Speaker 1: Is it gonna work out?

777
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:07,319
Speaker 3: Is it gonna you know, you have all of these

778
00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:11,120
Speaker 3: questions and because they tell you all scary statistics about marriage,

779
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:11,480
Speaker 3: you know.

780
00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 2: It's like we know too much. Yeah, I really envy

781
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:17,799
Speaker 2: people from past generations where it was like just get

782
00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 2: a job and you get a wife and you get

783
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:20,640
Speaker 2: a house and that's it, and have some kids and

784
00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:23,360
Speaker 2: there's just very simple. And now it's like we have

785
00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:27,400
Speaker 2: so many options and we're so connected and we have

786
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:31,359
Speaker 2: so much access to people and experiences and things. It's

787
00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:35,560
Speaker 2: so hard to have like a traditional relationship now. And

788
00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:38,319
Speaker 2: I think for me, it's like I was definitely the

789
00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:41,719
Speaker 2: one who was championing the whole, like, let's do marriage counseling.

790
00:36:42,239 --> 00:36:45,200
Speaker 2: My mom was divorced three times. I have no illusions

791
00:36:45,239 --> 00:36:47,920
Speaker 2: about marriage, and I'm trying to do things like kind

792
00:36:47,920 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 2: of learn from mistakes that I've seen in my life.

793
00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:54,560
Speaker 2: But the fact that you showed up, I mean just

794
00:36:54,600 --> 00:36:56,520
Speaker 2: setting across from that person, knowing that they showed up

795
00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:59,799
Speaker 2: at this really uncomfortable session with you and they're in

796
00:36:59,880 --> 00:37:02,759
Speaker 2: it and they're not you know, that's that was huge

797
00:37:02,760 --> 00:37:04,360
Speaker 2: for me. Just the fact that he showed up, that

798
00:37:04,480 --> 00:37:07,600
Speaker 2: was like, Okay, that means a lot just being there.

799
00:37:08,040 --> 00:37:10,440
Speaker 2: And also I tend to focus on the financial and

800
00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 2: I don't know if you do that too, but I've

801
00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:15,360
Speaker 2: been so worried about our money being right and budgeting

802
00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:17,560
Speaker 2: and staying on budget for the wedding, and you know,

803
00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:20,719
Speaker 2: we're very healthy financially. But then it's like, okay, so

804
00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:23,880
Speaker 2: how is our relationship doing throughout all of this? And

805
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:26,360
Speaker 2: it's been nice to just focus on that, just you know,

806
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 2: that personal aspect, and I'm sure they'll find some psychological

807
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:33,879
Speaker 2: reasons why I'm so obsessed with money too and how

808
00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:36,799
Speaker 2: that influences the relationship, but I think it's money well spent.

809
00:37:36,920 --> 00:37:40,200
Speaker 2: And if you're wondering the cost of the sessions, I

810
00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:43,640
Speaker 2: actually negotiated because neither of our insurance, first of all,

811
00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:47,960
Speaker 2: go to your insurance. Neither of our insurance insurance covers

812
00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 2: this type of counseling, which so means we had to

813
00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:53,319
Speaker 2: pay out of pocket. But a lot of therapists will

814
00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:58,080
Speaker 2: do a sliding scale, so we're getting we our sessions

815
00:37:58,120 --> 00:38:03,040
Speaker 2: are one fifty per session, and they are therapists typically

816
00:38:03,080 --> 00:38:05,839
Speaker 2: charges three hundred, and so when she found out that

817
00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 2: we actually, what I did is I was like, I

818
00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:10,400
Speaker 2: was really looking to spend one fifty and she said, okay,

819
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:14,120
Speaker 2: that's what she said after she initially said three hundreds,

820
00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:16,120
Speaker 2: she said, yeah, I usually do a sliding scale for

821
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:18,480
Speaker 2: people who don't have who insurance won't cover. I do

822
00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:20,680
Speaker 2: one seventy five and I said, I'm we're looking to

823
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:24,759
Speaker 2: do one fifty, and she said okay, And she's on

824
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:27,239
Speaker 2: the she's not old, she's not young. So I think

825
00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 2: I got someone who's like in the middle, the middle

826
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:32,279
Speaker 2: of the you know, younger people tend to charge less

827
00:38:32,280 --> 00:38:35,239
Speaker 2: and old or more established. Some people were quoting us

828
00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:40,239
Speaker 2: four hundred, five hundred dollars a session, like crazy, So

829
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:42,759
Speaker 2: one fifty. I can live with a couple every couple

830
00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:45,080
Speaker 2: of weeks before the wedding and then I don't. I

831
00:38:45,120 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 2: don't know how long we're going to do it. We

832
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:49,400
Speaker 2: haven't signed a contract. I guess just until you know,

833
00:38:49,680 --> 00:38:54,759
Speaker 2: we decide to take a break.

834
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:00,560
Speaker 1: That's good.

835
00:39:00,760 --> 00:39:02,560
Speaker 3: I know we said for this this week. I know

836
00:39:03,160 --> 00:39:05,360
Speaker 3: normally we do our tips tips, but I think for tips.

837
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:06,799
Speaker 3: I'm just going to give you guys an update because

838
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:09,400
Speaker 3: so many of you tweeted me saying, oh, no, I

839
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:11,120
Speaker 3: haven't heard about the house. Guess you didn't get it.

840
00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:15,040
Speaker 3: I'm like, well, aren't you, guys, dark dark Danita's right,

841
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:16,080
Speaker 3: it's not a microwave.

842
00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:18,120
Speaker 2: He can't just press two minutes and have a house.

843
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:21,080
Speaker 1: They're like, didn't hear from you? Oh? Next time?

844
00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 3: I'm like, now, actually, what happened was, you know, we

845
00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:27,719
Speaker 3: put the offer in, they accepted the offer, and then

846
00:39:27,760 --> 00:39:30,840
Speaker 3: we entered into attorney review, which usually only lasts a

847
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:33,480
Speaker 3: couple of days, but our attorney review is a little

848
00:39:33,520 --> 00:39:34,080
Speaker 3: bit longer.

849
00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:37,920
Speaker 2: Wait just sorry, just so back up, and like, so,

850
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:39,680
Speaker 2: where were you at in the house in the buying

851
00:39:39,680 --> 00:39:42,279
Speaker 2: process For people who may not remember or haven't heard

852
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:43,479
Speaker 2: about the hull saga yet.

853
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:46,480
Speaker 3: The last time we spoke, I spoke about, you know,

854
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:50,880
Speaker 3: really wanting to buy investment property with Superman and to

855
00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:54,040
Speaker 3: get him because I have the budget nee son my business,

856
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:58,280
Speaker 3: and I really wanted him to have additional income outside

857
00:39:58,280 --> 00:39:59,839
Speaker 3: of his normal job.

858
00:40:00,960 --> 00:40:01,960
Speaker 1: And so he works for the.

859
00:40:01,880 --> 00:40:06,000
Speaker 3: City and he does like like maintenance and repair and

860
00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:08,719
Speaker 3: stuff like that for like housing, he does like three

861
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:10,360
Speaker 3: hundred units, and I was like, you know, you should

862
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:12,879
Speaker 3: own property because you're basically like a landlord for three

863
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 3: hundred units.

864
00:40:14,160 --> 00:40:16,800
Speaker 1: You know, why not own property. It can't be harder

865
00:40:16,840 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 1: than what you're doing now.

866
00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:20,040
Speaker 3: And so at first he's a little opposed to it,

867
00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:22,640
Speaker 3: but then I helped him get his credit. I'm really

868
00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:25,479
Speaker 3: strong and like about the seven fifty range. I showed

869
00:40:25,520 --> 00:40:28,440
Speaker 3: him how to save automatically and so for the three

870
00:40:28,520 --> 00:40:30,520
Speaker 3: years that we were dating, he's been saving and his

871
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:33,719
Speaker 3: credit has been growing. And then this year I was like,

872
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 3: you know, or really late last year, I said, you know,

873
00:40:36,200 --> 00:40:38,320
Speaker 3: we should really look into homes and let's at least

874
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:40,040
Speaker 3: explore what that would mean.

875
00:40:40,120 --> 00:40:41,680
Speaker 1: And so we did.

876
00:40:41,760 --> 00:40:46,359
Speaker 3: We started shopping for pre qualifications, and so the part

877
00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:48,040
Speaker 3: in the process where we are now was that we

878
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:48,880
Speaker 3: were home shopping.

879
00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:50,400
Speaker 1: And it was hard at first because.

880
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:52,839
Speaker 3: Newark, where we want to live and where we currently live,

881
00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:55,799
Speaker 3: now it's starting to shift and people are starting to

882
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:59,040
Speaker 3: really take notice. It's becoming like the new Brooklyn, where

883
00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 3: basically you know it undesirable and now it's becoming very desirable.

884
00:41:02,560 --> 00:41:06,520
Speaker 1: But a whole Food's just opened last week, so.

885
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 3: That's like really telling, you know, we've got a Starbucks

886
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:10,520
Speaker 3: places that normally would not be.

887
00:41:10,480 --> 00:41:14,359
Speaker 1: In NewYork when you get a Trader Joe's.

888
00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 3: So we went house shopping. We found this house that

889
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:21,920
Speaker 3: I absolutely loved, and we put an offer in and

890
00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:24,480
Speaker 3: so the people that were selling it it was a

891
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:29,080
Speaker 3: three family house, and they priced it really low, and

892
00:41:29,360 --> 00:41:31,160
Speaker 3: really I know why they priced it low. They priced

893
00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:33,480
Speaker 3: it low so that way they could get a lot

894
00:41:33,520 --> 00:41:35,839
Speaker 3: of interest and like basically like a bidding we're going

895
00:41:35,880 --> 00:41:38,960
Speaker 3: which is what happened. So we ended up paying almost

896
00:41:38,960 --> 00:41:41,160
Speaker 3: one hundred thousand dollars over the zoo.

897
00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:45,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, the pre but honestly that's what we ended up.

898
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:46,279
Speaker 1: What we ended up.

899
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:50,160
Speaker 3: Offering is what the house is worth, basically, because there's

900
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 3: no way that it was worth what they said when

901
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:55,600
Speaker 3: literally there were two families that weren't finished like this

902
00:41:55,640 --> 00:41:58,320
Speaker 3: one was, that were twenty to thirty thousand dollars.

903
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:01,359
Speaker 1: More So, we we found a house that we really liked.

904
00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:02,320
Speaker 1: It was a three family.

905
00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:06,080
Speaker 3: They priced it way below what it was worth, and

906
00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:08,759
Speaker 3: we ended up getting into a bidding war, and at

907
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:11,160
Speaker 3: one point they were like, okay, everyone who's interested, give

908
00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:12,839
Speaker 3: your best and finals the next day.

909
00:42:12,920 --> 00:42:14,879
Speaker 1: So we did. After consulting with.

910
00:42:14,880 --> 00:42:17,680
Speaker 3: Like all of my my lawyer friends, my real estate

911
00:42:17,719 --> 00:42:21,239
Speaker 3: agent friends, we put an offer in about like ninety

912
00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:25,680
Speaker 3: thousand dollars over the asking and because after looking at

913
00:42:25,680 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 3: the comparables in the area, you.

914
00:42:27,160 --> 00:42:29,800
Speaker 1: Know, to see like what other houses of that level of.

915
00:42:29,640 --> 00:42:34,000
Speaker 3: That unit we're going for, we bid below that but

916
00:42:34,040 --> 00:42:35,960
Speaker 3: still like in that range, and we got it.

917
00:42:36,120 --> 00:42:37,680
Speaker 1: Yes, we weren't even the highest bid.

918
00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:41,840
Speaker 3: It was just that we were other people bid, but

919
00:42:41,920 --> 00:42:45,799
Speaker 3: their financing wasn't as clean as ours, meaning that some

920
00:42:45,840 --> 00:42:47,760
Speaker 3: people were like, oh, I'm going to get fifty thousand

921
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:50,000
Speaker 3: dollars from my cousin Joe, twenty thousands from the bank,

922
00:42:50,080 --> 00:42:52,680
Speaker 3: sixty thousand from this other bank, whereas us, we were

923
00:42:52,719 --> 00:42:54,560
Speaker 3: just like, here's our down payment and here's the one

924
00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:57,239
Speaker 3: bank we're using. So they went with us because it

925
00:42:57,280 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 3: was like a solid deal, a solid plans.

926
00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:02,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, and so we las thank you.

927
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 3: And at first I was like yeah, and then you

928
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:06,879
Speaker 3: find out yeah, but you still have to go through

929
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:07,520
Speaker 3: attorney review.

930
00:43:07,600 --> 00:43:08,719
Speaker 1: You're like, oh, what does that mean?

931
00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:12,320
Speaker 3: So attorney review is when after they accept your offer,

932
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:16,480
Speaker 3: then your attorney draws up a contract and their attorney

933
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:19,880
Speaker 3: has to sign it. So everyone obviously each attorney is

934
00:43:19,880 --> 00:43:22,759
Speaker 3: working on behalf of their client. So we tell our attorney, hey,

935
00:43:23,239 --> 00:43:24,919
Speaker 3: put these things in the contract, like.

936
00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 1: Well, buy the house.

937
00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:30,319
Speaker 3: As long as there's no foundation issues, there's no roof issues.

938
00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:31,920
Speaker 1: So there's a list of things that you can put in.

939
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:33,040
Speaker 1: You can put it in whatever you want.

940
00:43:33,280 --> 00:43:35,640
Speaker 3: You could say there has to be you know, a puppy,

941
00:43:35,800 --> 00:43:37,919
Speaker 3: you know in the at the front of pork.

942
00:43:38,280 --> 00:43:41,799
Speaker 2: But then they have like twelve golden doodles exactly.

943
00:43:42,480 --> 00:43:44,279
Speaker 3: But so you put these things in and we were

944
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:47,560
Speaker 3: pretty extensive about the things that we wanted, like, you know,

945
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:50,120
Speaker 3: making sure that it's there because it's an older home.

946
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:53,040
Speaker 3: So oftentimes older homes have oil tanks. That's the way

947
00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:54,600
Speaker 3: they used to heat them. And so if there's an

948
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:56,279
Speaker 3: oil tank, they have to remove it. And if they

949
00:43:56,320 --> 00:43:59,200
Speaker 3: remove it, they have to remove it in alignment with

950
00:43:59,280 --> 00:44:01,520
Speaker 3: state guideline and get the ground tested to make sure

951
00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:03,920
Speaker 3: it's not contaminated. So we had that in our contract,

952
00:44:03,960 --> 00:44:04,919
Speaker 3: and sure enough, there was an.

953
00:44:04,800 --> 00:44:05,480
Speaker 1: Oil tank.

954
00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 3: And just things like that, like so things to protect

955
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 3: you because once you leave attorney review, you cannot if

956
00:44:13,239 --> 00:44:15,880
Speaker 3: you don't buy the house, they can keep your deposit

957
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:19,680
Speaker 3: because you know, the contract binds you to buy it

958
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:22,840
Speaker 3: unless something is not met within that contract. So that

959
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 3: contract is really important. So attorney review can happen really quickly,

960
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:28,200
Speaker 3: or it could take some times because the lawyer can

961
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 3: go the lawyers go back and forth, and I'm happy

962
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:32,880
Speaker 3: to say as of today, woo woo, we're out of

963
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:36,440
Speaker 3: attorney review. They agree to all our concerns and demands,

964
00:44:37,000 --> 00:44:39,479
Speaker 3: and so that means they cannot legally sell to anyone else.

965
00:44:39,640 --> 00:44:41,239
Speaker 3: And because as soon as if you're not out of

966
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:44,480
Speaker 3: attorney review, they can technically technically be like no, never mind,

967
00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:47,359
Speaker 3: we're going to sell it to somebody else. So now

968
00:44:47,360 --> 00:44:50,520
Speaker 3: that we're out of attorney review, it's time for inspectors.

969
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 3: So I spent the day on the phone today interviewing

970
00:44:53,040 --> 00:44:55,840
Speaker 3: home inspectors.

971
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:56,520
Speaker 1: So are used to.

972
00:44:57,360 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 3: Find a really great because you want a home inspector

973
00:44:59,200 --> 00:45:02,440
Speaker 3: that's really thorough because you have two weeks fourteen days

974
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:05,759
Speaker 3: after attorney review to get your inspection done, So you

975
00:45:05,760 --> 00:45:07,719
Speaker 3: want an inspector that's thorough and it's going to give

976
00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:10,840
Speaker 3: you your your report very quickly. So I was just

977
00:45:10,960 --> 00:45:13,640
Speaker 3: interviewing some inspectors. We found a really great one using yelp.

978
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:16,000
Speaker 2: Oh okay mm hmm.

979
00:45:16,160 --> 00:45:18,680
Speaker 3: And because I had posted on my social media and

980
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:21,120
Speaker 3: a few people gave me some suggestions, and some of

981
00:45:21,120 --> 00:45:23,520
Speaker 3: their suggestions like like, I googled them and I looked

982
00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:24,080
Speaker 3: them up and I.

983
00:45:24,080 --> 00:45:25,799
Speaker 1: Was like, he's got one star reviews? What?

984
00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:29,000
Speaker 3: And one of them was really great, Like his name

985
00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 3: was Nick, and I yelped him and googled him whatever,

986
00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:35,759
Speaker 3: he had five star reviews across the board on every platform. Yeah,

987
00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:37,360
Speaker 3: so I was really happy, and I heard that he

988
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:39,920
Speaker 3: uses new technology, like he uses a drone so he

989
00:45:39,920 --> 00:45:41,319
Speaker 3: doesn't actually have to step on your roof.

990
00:45:41,640 --> 00:45:43,680
Speaker 1: He will, you know, like look at your roof with

991
00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:45,040
Speaker 1: a drone so he doesn't mess it up.

992
00:45:46,120 --> 00:45:48,680
Speaker 3: Just like, I'm just really excited because once we get

993
00:45:48,880 --> 00:45:52,760
Speaker 3: the inspection, we're working now on what's called the mortgage

994
00:45:52,760 --> 00:45:58,400
Speaker 3: commitment letter. That's when because your bank says, yes, you're prequalified,

995
00:45:58,440 --> 00:46:00,720
Speaker 3: but it doesn't mean that they promised give you money.

996
00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:03,280
Speaker 1: The commitment letter is the promise to lend you the money.

997
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:05,640
Speaker 3: But they are not going to create a commitment letter

998
00:46:05,760 --> 00:46:07,400
Speaker 3: until you're under contract, which is.

999
00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:10,960
Speaker 1: What we are now. So then the bank will issue

1000
00:46:10,960 --> 00:46:11,799
Speaker 1: a commitment letter.

1001
00:46:12,120 --> 00:46:14,440
Speaker 3: They will send out an appraiser to say yes, the

1002
00:46:14,440 --> 00:46:16,359
Speaker 3: house is actually worth what you're paying, or it's not,

1003
00:46:16,719 --> 00:46:19,360
Speaker 3: it's worth more, it's worth less in our contract. This

1004
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:22,279
Speaker 3: is why the attorney review is important in the contract.

1005
00:46:22,480 --> 00:46:26,920
Speaker 3: If the house is worth less than what we've offered,

1006
00:46:27,360 --> 00:46:29,560
Speaker 3: then we could walk away or they could drop the price.

1007
00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:30,920
Speaker 1: So that was important to.

1008
00:46:30,960 --> 00:46:32,440
Speaker 3: Us because we don't want to We don't want to

1009
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:35,919
Speaker 3: be stuck saying, hey, you know, we offered three three

1010
00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:38,279
Speaker 3: twenty the house is appraising at three hundred, we still

1011
00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 3: have to.

1012
00:46:38,440 --> 00:46:41,560
Speaker 1: Buy it at three twenty now, right, yeah, you know,

1013
00:46:41,600 --> 00:46:42,879
Speaker 1: so there's little things like that.

1014
00:46:42,920 --> 00:46:45,359
Speaker 2: And so, so what happened when you had to raise

1015
00:46:45,400 --> 00:46:48,080
Speaker 2: the price asking price to ninety thousand? Did you have

1016
00:46:48,160 --> 00:46:50,160
Speaker 2: to go get qualified, like get a letter from the

1017
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:52,000
Speaker 2: bank saying they'd a preview for that much or we

1018
00:46:52,040 --> 00:46:53,279
Speaker 2: already approved for that much.

1019
00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:53,640
Speaker 1: Well?

1020
00:46:53,680 --> 00:46:56,440
Speaker 3: I called him and I said, hey, David from M

1021
00:46:56,440 --> 00:46:59,279
Speaker 3: ANDT Bank, that's our mortgage guy said, hey, you know

1022
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:01,480
Speaker 3: the house is going to go for more. He was

1023
00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:03,479
Speaker 3: one of the people I called for advice. I said, okay,

1024
00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:08,680
Speaker 3: the house is listed for three two thirty nine. I

1025
00:47:08,719 --> 00:47:10,480
Speaker 3: know it's not worth two thirty nine because all the

1026
00:47:10,520 --> 00:47:12,560
Speaker 3: other houses we were looking at were mostly two families

1027
00:47:12,560 --> 00:47:14,520
Speaker 3: and they were going for two fifty and that's not

1028
00:47:14,760 --> 00:47:17,480
Speaker 3: that's that wasn't that was a fixture upper house. So

1029
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:20,840
Speaker 3: a two family, two fifty fixture upper in the same neighborhood,

1030
00:47:20,880 --> 00:47:24,719
Speaker 3: and this three family completely done was two thirty nine, so,

1031
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:27,960
Speaker 3: you know, twenty thousand dollars less. So I knew something

1032
00:47:28,040 --> 00:47:30,280
Speaker 3: was up, and it was, like I said, to generate interest.

1033
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:32,880
Speaker 3: So when I told him, he said, okay, let's go

1034
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:35,640
Speaker 3: over the math. And so he said, how much is

1035
00:47:35,640 --> 00:47:37,799
Speaker 3: the house bringing in? And I told him one unit

1036
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:40,200
Speaker 3: is bringing in one thousand and fifty, one units bringing

1037
00:47:40,200 --> 00:47:43,480
Speaker 3: in sixteen hundred, so twenty six fifty is what the

1038
00:47:43,640 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 3: unit is, what the house is currently making, and one

1039
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:47,040
Speaker 3: unit is empty for us to live in.

1040
00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:49,440
Speaker 1: And he was like, okay, well, at.

1041
00:47:50,280 --> 00:47:53,680
Speaker 3: Two thirty nine, with the current interest rate, your insurance,

1042
00:47:53,680 --> 00:47:57,000
Speaker 3: and all of your home costs except for your utilities,

1043
00:47:57,239 --> 00:47:59,719
Speaker 3: two thirty nine, I think our mortgage was going to

1044
00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:02,879
Speaker 3: be like like eighteen hundred or nineteen hundred, something like that.

1045
00:48:03,360 --> 00:48:06,040
Speaker 3: And I said, okay, well, what would the mortgage be

1046
00:48:06,160 --> 00:48:08,839
Speaker 3: at three hundred thousand? What would the mortgage be at

1047
00:48:08,840 --> 00:48:09,279
Speaker 3: two eighty?

1048
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:10,799
Speaker 1: At three? You know, so I could see what the

1049
00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:11,520
Speaker 1: numbers would be.

1050
00:48:11,520 --> 00:48:15,040
Speaker 3: And so at three thirty, so about about one hundred

1051
00:48:15,040 --> 00:48:17,120
Speaker 3: thousand dollars more three thirty, the mortgage would have been

1052
00:48:17,520 --> 00:48:21,200
Speaker 3: twenty four including insurance and everything would have been twenty

1053
00:48:21,200 --> 00:48:25,200
Speaker 3: four hundred, So still two hundred and fifty dollars less

1054
00:48:25,560 --> 00:48:29,560
Speaker 3: than what the what it was bringing in as far

1055
00:48:29,600 --> 00:48:32,640
Speaker 3: as as far as income. And so we decided to

1056
00:48:32,640 --> 00:48:35,480
Speaker 3: put the bid in for three twenty and at three twenty.

1057
00:48:35,520 --> 00:48:37,680
Speaker 3: I think our mortgage is like twenty one or twenty

1058
00:48:37,719 --> 00:48:39,279
Speaker 3: two hundred dollars something.

1059
00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:42,080
Speaker 2: Like that thirty year fixed rate.

1060
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:43,640
Speaker 1: Uh huh, thirty year fixed rate.

1061
00:48:43,920 --> 00:48:45,799
Speaker 3: And what I like about M ANDT Bank is like,

1062
00:48:45,960 --> 00:48:47,480
Speaker 3: right now, I don't know how long it'll be, but

1063
00:48:47,600 --> 00:48:53,240
Speaker 3: right now MMT bank is giving six percent toward closing costs,

1064
00:48:53,600 --> 00:48:55,080
Speaker 3: and so what we're going to use some of those

1065
00:48:55,080 --> 00:48:58,800
Speaker 3: closing costs for up to up to about almost nineteen

1066
00:48:58,880 --> 00:49:01,839
Speaker 3: thousand dollars, and so we're already at the next So

1067
00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:04,560
Speaker 3: basically we're going to get like nineteen thousand dollars that

1068
00:49:04,560 --> 00:49:05,640
Speaker 3: we can use how.

1069
00:49:05,480 --> 00:49:06,280
Speaker 1: We want for closing.

1070
00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:07,759
Speaker 3: So we're going to use some of those closing costs

1071
00:49:07,800 --> 00:49:11,239
Speaker 3: money of course for like the appraisal and stuff like that,

1072
00:49:11,280 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 3: but we're also going to use it to pay down

1073
00:49:13,040 --> 00:49:16,800
Speaker 3: our interest rate. So that way, our monthly payment is

1074
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:19,400
Speaker 3: even lower because you can actually buy what they call points,

1075
00:49:19,719 --> 00:49:22,640
Speaker 3: and points are the points to bring down your interest rate.

1076
00:49:22,719 --> 00:49:25,120
Speaker 3: So if the interest rate is four point five percent,

1077
00:49:25,480 --> 00:49:27,960
Speaker 3: you might be able to spend five to ten thousand

1078
00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:29,960
Speaker 3: dollars to bring it to four percent, And a four

1079
00:49:30,000 --> 00:49:32,400
Speaker 3: percent interest rate will lower your monthly payment by I

1080
00:49:32,400 --> 00:49:34,359
Speaker 3: don't know, like one hundred, two hundred dollars something like that,

1081
00:49:34,440 --> 00:49:36,280
Speaker 3: you know, depending on how much to hops you're buying.

1082
00:49:36,719 --> 00:49:39,400
Speaker 3: So that's where we are right now, that we're getting

1083
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Speaker 3: the house inspected, waiting for the commitment letter, waiting for

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Speaker 3: the appraisal, and then after that, really it's just you close.

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Speaker 3: And so that's where we are. We're like just one

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Speaker 3: step closer. I mean, this house is awesome. I mean,

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Speaker 3: I cannot express how excited I am to get a

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00:49:55,800 --> 00:49:58,320
Speaker 3: piece of a city that I see that it's really

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00:49:58,360 --> 00:50:01,280
Speaker 3: on the come up, and the low location is amazing.

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Speaker 1: The units are beautiful, and.

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Speaker 3: The lot, the plot for it to be a double lot,

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00:50:07,160 --> 00:50:08,480
Speaker 3: and for us to have like our own park in

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00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:11,440
Speaker 3: the back, that's our property. It's just this is a

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00:50:11,520 --> 00:50:13,600
Speaker 3: this is a our not for our forever house, but

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00:50:13,640 --> 00:50:15,239
Speaker 3: definitely our forever investment house.

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Speaker 2: Live in the dream.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So all we do is when when when, no

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00:50:30,400 --> 00:50:33,720
Speaker 3: matter what, I hate to rush, but I'm like, oh, I'm.

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Speaker 2: Not hey, it wasn't me talking.

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00:50:36,600 --> 00:50:42,200
Speaker 1: I was looking. I was like, Kennedy, shut up, all right, yes,

1101
00:50:42,760 --> 00:50:44,839
Speaker 1: So what I'm trying to think, who is my win?

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Speaker 1: You go first?

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00:50:46,280 --> 00:50:48,279
Speaker 2: I can go first. So I want to give a

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Speaker 2: shout out to Delta's first black female captain, airline captain,

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00:50:54,480 --> 00:50:58,520
Speaker 2: Miss Stephanie Johnson, who I read about last week on NBC.

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00:50:58,920 --> 00:51:01,080
Speaker 2: So she's been an airline pilot for twenty years. I

1107
00:51:01,440 --> 00:51:03,720
Speaker 2: don't think I've ever had a female airline. I would

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00:51:03,760 --> 00:51:06,160
Speaker 2: love to have a female pilot going. When I get

1109
00:51:06,160 --> 00:51:08,719
Speaker 2: on a plane, they're always like white dudes. But I digress.

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00:51:09,680 --> 00:51:12,440
Speaker 2: She's been a pilot for twenty years, and she officially

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00:51:12,440 --> 00:51:15,279
Speaker 2: became the first black female captain in twenty sixteen, and

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Speaker 2: it's just now getting into the news. She was also

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00:51:18,120 --> 00:51:21,600
Speaker 2: the first in her family to graduate from college, she says,

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00:51:21,680 --> 00:51:23,440
Speaker 2: and she just looks at me. She says that as

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00:51:23,440 --> 00:51:25,719
Speaker 2: long as I can remember, I have been fascinated with airplanes,

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00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:27,200
Speaker 2: and I would think what a great thing it would

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00:51:27,200 --> 00:51:30,200
Speaker 2: be to know how to fly. And look at you now, Stephanie.

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00:51:30,280 --> 00:51:35,120
Speaker 2: So I'm really excited for her. And hey, girl, I

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00:51:35,120 --> 00:51:38,080
Speaker 2: hope I see you on a flight soon. Do you

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00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:38,840
Speaker 2: try to Atlanta?

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00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:41,520
Speaker 1: I don't know the Delta fly, you know, how kind

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00:51:41,560 --> 00:51:43,680
Speaker 1: of do what? I don't know that I've ever from Delta.

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00:51:43,719 --> 00:51:44,200
Speaker 1: Isn't that weird?

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00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:47,399
Speaker 2: I'm an Atlanta girls? A Delta's my jam. Oh really Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Delta owns Atlanta.

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00:51:49,480 --> 00:51:51,760
Speaker 1: That's like Nework, like United owns a Newark.

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00:51:51,880 --> 00:51:55,040
Speaker 2: There's tons of Delta flights out of Newark. I think

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00:51:55,120 --> 00:51:57,600
Speaker 2: they're they're they're getting up there with with United right

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00:51:57,600 --> 00:52:01,919
Speaker 2: now at Newark. Depends on like what chub you live by,

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00:52:02,000 --> 00:52:03,399
Speaker 2: but yeah, adults is pretty big.

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00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm not gonna lie.

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00:52:09,200 --> 00:52:11,239
Speaker 3: I'm like, I forgot about Wins. I'll just say I

1133
00:52:11,280 --> 00:52:12,879
Speaker 3: went to my new niece that's coming soon.

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00:52:13,640 --> 00:52:14,920
Speaker 2: I said, I saw the picture.

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00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:18,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's just about nine months, Like that wasn't her nine?

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00:52:18,280 --> 00:52:19,960
Speaker 2: Whoa? Okay, I didn't know that your sister was off

1137
00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:20,440
Speaker 2: far along.

1138
00:52:20,880 --> 00:52:22,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's like any day now. So every time I

1139
00:52:22,880 --> 00:52:26,600
Speaker 3: see her, I'm like today today. So I'm super excited

1140
00:52:26,640 --> 00:52:28,480
Speaker 3: because I have a nephew, my same sister.

1141
00:52:29,280 --> 00:52:30,840
Speaker 1: She's number two.

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00:52:31,480 --> 00:52:33,439
Speaker 3: Yeah for her, And I'm like, so he's like one

1143
00:52:33,480 --> 00:52:37,399
Speaker 3: and a half going on eighty five some days, I's

1144
00:52:37,440 --> 00:52:39,520
Speaker 3: like a little old man, and so I'm all, I'm

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00:52:39,520 --> 00:52:42,240
Speaker 3: gonna it's really I'm really curious to see his reaction

1146
00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:44,760
Speaker 3: when she comes, cause, like I'm like, doesn't he seem

1147
00:52:44,840 --> 00:52:46,560
Speaker 3: find it strange that you have like a big stomach

1148
00:52:46,560 --> 00:52:48,040
Speaker 3: all of a sudden, and she was like, you know

1149
00:52:48,080 --> 00:52:50,319
Speaker 3: what's hilarious is that, Like he'll he'll sit down next

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00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:52,239
Speaker 3: to her and put his head on her stomach and

1151
00:52:52,239 --> 00:52:54,359
Speaker 3: the baby will kick and he'llok at her stomach like, hey,

1152
00:52:54,480 --> 00:52:55,080
Speaker 3: what are you doing?

1153
00:52:58,120 --> 00:52:58,920
Speaker 2: Was it one and a half?

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00:52:59,320 --> 00:52:59,560
Speaker 3: Yeah?

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00:52:59,600 --> 00:53:01,160
Speaker 1: So you know he doesn't quite like you know, because

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00:53:01,239 --> 00:53:03,560
Speaker 1: kids would quite get it. Yeah, not at all.

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00:53:03,640 --> 00:53:05,560
Speaker 3: And so I'm like, when this baby comes, he's gonna

1158
00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:08,319
Speaker 3: be like, oh, look a baby. Wait, this baby's here

1159
00:53:08,360 --> 00:53:10,000
Speaker 3: every day. Every day.

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00:53:10,960 --> 00:53:13,440
Speaker 2: They treat it sort of because I call them my

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00:53:13,520 --> 00:53:16,160
Speaker 2: cousins now. But they listen to the show, Hey Danny Nosora,

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00:53:16,640 --> 00:53:18,120
Speaker 2: they have a really cute two year old and they

1163
00:53:18,200 --> 00:53:20,600
Speaker 2: just had a baby girl. And after a while he's like,

1164
00:53:20,680 --> 00:53:24,520
Speaker 2: so she's staying. Yeah, she's not just here for the weekend.

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00:53:26,000 --> 00:53:27,960
Speaker 2: They get that eventually that this person's permanent.

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00:53:28,080 --> 00:53:30,160
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, that is gonna be so cut to watch.

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00:53:30,160 --> 00:53:32,360
Speaker 3: Like, oh, because he likes kids, like you know, he

1168
00:53:32,360 --> 00:53:33,880
Speaker 3: sees other little kids, he lights up.

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00:53:33,880 --> 00:53:35,279
Speaker 1: But I feel like he's gonna be like, why is

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00:53:35,320 --> 00:53:36,719
Speaker 1: she sleeping here? Wait?

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00:53:36,880 --> 00:53:38,719
Speaker 3: So why are you holding her all the time? Wait

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00:53:38,719 --> 00:53:42,479
Speaker 3: a minute? So, yeah, it'll be curious to see. So, yeah,

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00:53:42,520 --> 00:53:47,319
Speaker 3: that's my win, my little baby cousin, my baby cousin niece.

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Speaker 1: I'm super excited. So we've got a nephew and a niece.

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00:53:50,360 --> 00:53:51,680
Speaker 2: And I'm gonna have to do a baby shout out

1176
00:53:51,680 --> 00:53:54,640
Speaker 2: too because our friends Josh and Tera had a baby

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00:53:54,680 --> 00:53:57,920
Speaker 2: a month early. This baby came like what six weeks early,

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00:53:59,120 --> 00:54:01,279
Speaker 2: but he was a little baby Oliver, but he was

1179
00:54:01,320 --> 00:54:03,080
Speaker 2: a big boy for being a premiu. I think he

1180
00:54:03,160 --> 00:54:04,720
Speaker 2: was born at close to seven pounds.

1181
00:54:05,320 --> 00:54:05,760
Speaker 1: Wow.

1182
00:54:06,200 --> 00:54:08,160
Speaker 2: But Tera is one of those girls who's like super

1183
00:54:08,200 --> 00:54:09,920
Speaker 2: super tiny. And we went to her baby shower a

1184
00:54:09,920 --> 00:54:12,399
Speaker 2: little while ago and I was like, so, you're due tomorrow, right,

1185
00:54:12,440 --> 00:54:17,719
Speaker 2: because this is just logistically with the space available, there's

1186
00:54:17,840 --> 00:54:20,800
Speaker 2: just I'm worried for you because she's so tiny.

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00:54:22,040 --> 00:54:22,680
Speaker 1: There's no room.

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00:54:22,920 --> 00:54:24,799
Speaker 3: There's just where where.

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00:54:24,600 --> 00:54:27,279
Speaker 2: Is this baby? But I'm just so happy. It was

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Speaker 2: a it was a long, like kind of slightly stressful

1191
00:54:30,560 --> 00:54:33,600
Speaker 2: experience for them being you know, delivering early. So I'm

1192
00:54:33,640 --> 00:54:35,640
Speaker 2: just really happy with the baby's home now. He had

1193
00:54:35,680 --> 00:54:38,239
Speaker 2: to spend about a week at the hospital. So they're home,

1194
00:54:38,239 --> 00:54:41,520
Speaker 2: they're healthy, they're happy. I'm so happy for them. So

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00:54:41,680 --> 00:54:44,040
Speaker 2: love to you. Guys and all the babies out there.

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00:54:45,360 --> 00:54:48,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, baby baby, I'm like, who nervous? Because she did

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00:54:48,600 --> 00:54:50,279
Speaker 3: all natural, like no drugs last time.

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Speaker 1: So how was that? She was like, Yeah, by the

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Speaker 1: time I got there, it was too late. I was like,

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Speaker 1: are you sure.

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00:54:57,080 --> 00:54:58,759
Speaker 2: Not too late to whack me upside the head?

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00:54:59,160 --> 00:55:00,879
Speaker 1: Right? She said she did even though she was in labor.

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Speaker 2: Her husband, what point can you drink? Is it safe yet?

1204
00:55:03,480 --> 00:55:04,560
Speaker 2: I mean they're coming out.

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00:55:04,960 --> 00:55:07,160
Speaker 3: Right exactly like you don't need you don't need for

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00:55:07,200 --> 00:55:09,960
Speaker 3: me to be clean on the inside. She said she

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00:55:09,960 --> 00:55:12,080
Speaker 3: thought she had like indigestion because she had like Jamaican

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00:55:12,080 --> 00:55:13,839
Speaker 3: food and she was like, who I should have never

1209
00:55:13,840 --> 00:55:14,719
Speaker 3: had that Jamaican food.

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00:55:14,719 --> 00:55:16,400
Speaker 1: And her husband, who's a doctor, is like, I'm pretty

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00:55:16,400 --> 00:55:18,960
Speaker 1: sure you're in labor. She's like, I'm not. It's indigestion.

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00:55:19,120 --> 00:55:21,520
Speaker 1: He's like, okay, He's like, that's the one that's called

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00:55:21,520 --> 00:55:22,000
Speaker 1: the contraction.

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00:55:22,160 --> 00:55:26,120
Speaker 2: She was like, wait, heartburn or childbirth?

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00:55:26,480 --> 00:55:31,720
Speaker 1: Yes? Either one. Oh. Thanksba listeners, you guys are always

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Speaker 1: the best.

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Speaker 2: This the ones we can't even see right now. Yeah,

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00:55:37,320 --> 00:55:39,239
Speaker 2: thank you guys, and thank you for all the love

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Speaker 2: you have boosted us on the iTunes. Just like we

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Speaker 2: asked you to continue to send us your love. Go

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Speaker 2: to iTunes, go to brand Ambition Podcasts dot com to

1222
00:55:47,320 --> 00:55:49,279
Speaker 2: find all our links to where you can find the show,

1223
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Speaker 2: and leave us for reviews SoundCloud, Stitcher World. We'll take anything.

1224
00:55:54,560 --> 00:55:56,920
Speaker 2: Thank you for all the support. But that sound too desperate.

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Speaker 2: That's cool, didn't come off. Let all got it? Okay,

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Speaker 2: sorry about that.