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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for wanting a divorce because

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Speaker 1: my husband insisted that my boobs were fake?

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Speaker 2: Sir, that is a bold claim, and you need bold evidence.

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Speaker 1: He proved about that.

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Speaker 3: You need some bold evidence for that.

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Speaker 1: You can't just be going around I'm saying those things.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 1: So Kitchen General eighty six eighteen says I, thirty female

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Speaker 1: do have very large boobs, A thirty eight g to

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Speaker 1: be specific.

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Speaker 4: How big is that?

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Speaker 3: Pretty big?

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Speaker 4: Give me a fruit?

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Speaker 2: There's I don't know if there's a fruit large enough

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Speaker 2: to describe watermelons bigger than watermelons, right, I think so watermelons.

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Speaker 3: Or maybe watermelon is clothes.

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Speaker 1: Wow, Oh.

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Speaker 4: That's a lot of weight.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, backwards sack pains.

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Speaker 1: I've been with my husband, thirty three male for about

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Speaker 1: ten years, and while we have no children together, we're happy.

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Speaker 1: Recently he's been checking out my body more than before.

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Speaker 1: And I don't mean in a let me take you

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Speaker 1: to bed kind of way. It's more of a what

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Speaker 1: could you be hiding to?

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Speaker 2: Oh God, he's looking at her like hmmm, he's got

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Speaker 2: like a guy.

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Speaker 1: And like a little uh pipe. Yeah yeah, Now I

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Speaker 1: am by no means skinny I'm five to five and

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Speaker 1: one hundred and eighty pounds, nowhere near as good as

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Speaker 1: I could be, but I don't really have any motivation

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Speaker 1: and don't care as long as they don't look like

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Speaker 1: I haven't showered in months and choose to be like that. Now.

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Speaker 1: I have a multitude of scars on my body, and

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Speaker 1: my husband noticed. One is under my armpit, which I

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Speaker 1: got from running up the stairs with my friend and

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Speaker 1: scraping it against the corner of the railing in my

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Speaker 1: old house. The second one, I'm not even sure where

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Speaker 1: it came from. It's thin, though, so I'd assume from

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Speaker 1: a childhood cat, but it goes down my side about

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Speaker 1: four inches in on my ribcage. My husband's been getting

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Speaker 1: into more shows about spouses lying to their partners about things,

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Speaker 1: which I do enjoy watching myself.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, oh, no, oh, no exactly, I see you

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Speaker 2: in the.

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Speaker 1: Put an eye, yeah, put an ice you on there?

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Speaker 5: How could you watch a show about that, though and

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Speaker 5: enjoy it? I about people like people talking about people

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Speaker 5: cheating and relationship issues.

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Speaker 3: People like it directly.

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Speaker 4: Hours just watching other people talk about it.

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Speaker 2: I do like certain reality shows.

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Speaker 1: Which are usually about those things.

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Speaker 2: Yes, Wow, they are entertaining.

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Speaker 1: I personally am not a huge reality TV show, although

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Speaker 1: as of late, I've been finding myself enamored by survival

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Speaker 1: a survivor.

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Speaker 2: I've been finding myself enameled, enameled.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so you guys are like cool with watching hours

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Speaker 5: upon hours upon hours of people other people talking about

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Speaker 5: people that have cheated in I don't watch.

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Speaker 2: Those technically, Yes, I've watched hours and hours and hours

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Speaker 2: of episodes of those types of shows where those those

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Speaker 4: Yes, insightful.

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Speaker 1: Yes, Well, anyway, I want more insight on this story.

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Speaker 5: Imagine like working on a show like that, just talk

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Speaker 5: about cheating and relationship issue.

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Speaker 2: Okay, that took.

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Speaker 4: That took entertaining, so long, entertaining, it's a good time.

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Speaker 1: Let's get track to the story. My husband, randomly, oh

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Speaker 1: came up to me and started feeling up my boobs,

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Speaker 1: which isn't out of the ordinary, but still random. I

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Speaker 1: asked him what he was doing and he said, how

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Speaker 1: what and he said, my boobs, my boobs. I said,

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Speaker 1: my boots are real, what are you talking about? He said, no,

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Speaker 1: they're not, and that you have those stars by your boobs,

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Speaker 1: and they clearly show you have a boob job. I

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: I told him I wasn't lying and that he was

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Speaker 1: being weird. Cue and argument about them, and I left

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Speaker 1: i'd gotten hurt with. I explained what happened to her,

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Speaker 1: After I agreed to come back home, he said he'd

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Speaker 1: forgive me if i'd just admit that they were fake.

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Speaker 4: What are you talking about?

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Speaker 1: This guy's crazy. I told him that they weren't, and

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Speaker 1: my home life and I never really got back into

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Speaker 1: my boobs, and so I called hi. I wanted to divorce.

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Speaker 1: Ooh more separation at least. He backpeddled and begged me

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Speaker 1: not to, but I made up my mind. He called

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Speaker 1: to which I hung up. Now his friend and girl

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Speaker 1: to divorce over a simple issue. So am I the

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Speaker 1: a hole? And there are two top comments, actually three

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Speaker 1: top comments and an update. What are your thoughts on this?

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Speaker 2: The husband is an absolute idiot?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so stupid mentally and also in his ability to

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Speaker 2: I would maybe sit down with him and try to

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Speaker 1: Why, yeah, why do you think that too? Like? What

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Speaker 1: is your issue? With boob jobs. Yeah, three, Who's where

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Speaker 2: And also see like like like, hey, imagine if the

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 2: And like kind of see his gauge his response to that, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: because yeah, I'm just getting the sense that maybe maybe

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it seems like this came kind of out of nowhere.

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Speaker 3: Out of nowhere.

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Speaker 2: They've been together ten years, right, So yeah, I think

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Speaker 2: I would want to sit down and just like understand

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Speaker 2: it and see if he has like why is he

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Speaker 2: going insane?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Is this man literally losing his mind?

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Speaker 1: Very strange, It seems like he is. But let's get

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Speaker 1: into some of these top comments do it. Spider three

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Speaker 1: eight nine says he's been with you ten years? Why

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Speaker 1: is he now asking if they're fake? And then Lonely

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Speaker 1: Octopus twenty four says his dad sided with him. Mother

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Speaker 1: of Christ the stupid Apple doesn't fall far from the.

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Speaker 2: Stupid tree or the orange or the.

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Speaker 1: Orange Magdavis says, simple issue. First, he calls you a liar,

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Speaker 1: then doubles down and refuses to listen to your friend

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Speaker 1: and demands you apologize. This guy isn't worthy of your boobs,

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Speaker 1: not the a hole. That's right, So true, get a

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Speaker 2: Talk And there is an.

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Speaker 1: Updates, And I feel like, before we get into it,

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Speaker 1: it's very obvious. Yeah, as you said, this guy is

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Speaker 1: hole because this is such like a small thing. It's not.

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Speaker 1: He's one accuseder of lying and she said I'm not lying.

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Speaker 1: He said, I will only forgive you if you apologize

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Speaker 1: for lying. Yeah, so he like refuses to see reason,

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Speaker 2: It's completely illogical, completely makes sense.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there is an update.

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Speaker 2: Oh I just want.

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Speaker 1: To say thank you for all the support from the

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Speaker 4: All the red pill guys are like, but I have to.

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Speaker 1: See what he's talking about. You didn't understand because maybe

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Speaker 1: maybe we need out of evidence.

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Speaker 2: To prove it.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, along with the two asking to date

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Speaker 1: since someone said someone may be saying something to him.

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Speaker 1: I talked to him about it, and his answers constantly

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Speaker 1: seen something that said they're making implants that feel more real,

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Speaker 1: which I've never seen anything saying they were to finally

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Speaker 1: telling me the truth, which was is coworkers what telling him?

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Speaker 2: Coworkers what?

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Speaker 1: What? What pictures? What pictures have they seen?

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Speaker 2: I think I think these coworkers are going to the

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Speaker 2: same places that Riley is going to find all of

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that makes sense. Yeah, they're sending those little

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Speaker 2: Real implants disguised to be to real.

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Speaker 1: Boob implants that Luke and feel and are just like.

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Speaker 2: Rio Booth is your wife lying to you.

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Speaker 4: I used to tell I just think they're funny. I

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Speaker 1: I asked him how he could think that, knowing he's

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Speaker 1: seen my body change, and he said he didn't know.

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Speaker 1: He showed me the picture of us. He showed his coworkers,

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Speaker 1: weight in my stomach but still a lot in my boobs.

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Speaker 1: I rolled my eyes as I set the picture down

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Speaker 1: and stared at him. He eventually told me that his

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Speaker 1: and when he mentioned my scars, it just caused him

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Speaker 1: to believe it more. I said, so, you'd believe you're

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Speaker 1: they act around women, over your wife of ten years.

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Speaker 3: Yes.

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Speaker 1: He eventually broke down crying, which was pretty uncomfortable, but

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Speaker 1: then he said he'd do anything to make me forgive him.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you look like a loser, literally so pathetic.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you've already like been screaming at your wife that

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Speaker 4: And like if they were fake, why why the big deal?

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Speaker 1: No, that's what I'm saying. Why was it such an issue?

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Speaker 3: He's cheating.

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Speaker 1: The entire apartment was deep cleaned, like I've been wanting

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Speaker 1: After about twenty minutes of me looking around, my husband

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Speaker 1: He'd made my favorite food that my grandma had made

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Speaker 1: My husband then gave me a few of my favorite flowers,

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Speaker 1: It was a full apology, saying how sorry he was

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 1: There's more to the story, but I'm glad that he's

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Speaker 2: It seems like it is starting to get yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: what is this love bombing?

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Speaker 1: Ooh? It could be It could be. I think it

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Speaker 2: This could be two things. It could be him genuine

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Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 2: My wife just put up with all my idiotness. Let

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Speaker 2: that's great. It also could be like, let me just

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Speaker 2: now and just like do all this stuff and then

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Speaker 1: Yeah, emotionally emotional slobs. I smiled and thanked him for

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Speaker 1: which did not without it ending in sex. That's so sweet.

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Speaker 1: Well yeah, later, that's so nice that she's like And

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Speaker 2: Have sex with me, right, he didn't even touch my movies.

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Speaker 1: Later, after he'd taken me out to dinner and paid

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Speaker 1: for it all he always does. But it's still good

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Speaker 1: I didn't have to get Oh okay, I didn't have

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Speaker 1: He then said that he wanted to do more in

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Speaker 1: not bucking down, but he'd do anything to get me

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Speaker 1: I do forgive him, and as long as he finds

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Speaker 1: another job and we get therapy, it was fine and

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't divorce or separate. He continuously thanked me and

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Speaker 1: said he thought I'd never forgive him. I said, I

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Speaker 1: But it's fine. I didn't mention my post on what

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Speaker 1: to do, and we were happy again. Our therapy session

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Speaker 1: the cats back home soon. Thank you again to everyone

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Speaker 1: who gave me advice and did say I was doing

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Speaker 1: you're all good, and there are two top comments to

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Speaker 2: Let's close that out cynical.

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Speaker 1: And see that whole thing is love bombing, as Riley said,

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Speaker 1: But I genuinely hope the future goes well for you,

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Speaker 1: OPI and jayshot boxings. Ah. I'm glad he's taking accountability

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Speaker 1: and come into future arguments because that can turn into

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Speaker 1: verbal abuse. I'm glad you guys are doing okay right

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Speaker 1: now though, And that is the.

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Speaker 2: End of That was the end? Wow, Yeah, real quick.

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Speaker 2: There is one one part I wanted to discuss.

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Speaker 1: Yes, let's discuss it, which was.

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Speaker 2: He left the job.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Meanwhile, couldn't we go to the HR and report these

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Speaker 2: three guys?

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Speaker 1: Well that's what I was thinking for commenting. Yeah, that's crazy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they were commenting to the point like.

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Speaker 3: It's already bad.

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Speaker 2: If they're like, oh man, maybe you just got some

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Speaker 2: things I've going on, it's even worse than be like, dude,

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Speaker 2: you need you need to con about this.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is no, it's very strange. That's a very

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Speaker 1: strong I mean he was showing them pictures, which is

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Speaker 1: also I don't know, yeah, unless they were just pictures

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Speaker 1: of him, like with his wife. He's like, this is

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Speaker 2: Went to a barbecue last weekend.

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Speaker 3: Here's some fun.

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Speaker 1: If it was those types, you know, they're out of

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, like crazy.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, did you zoom in on them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, go back to.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you got to ben hold my way.

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Speaker 2: I think I need to study this one a little

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Speaker 3: Think that they one deserves the punishment.

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Speaker 2: And two like like, obviously op is an absolute freaking

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Speaker 2: idiot for doing what he did as far as so

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Speaker 2: sorry Opie's husband, but they I think that Opie should

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Speaker 1: And I think, wait, Opie's husbands should just stay at

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Speaker 2: OPI's husband should report them, yes, because they were the

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Speaker 2: ones that said this, like in a you know, work

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but he would probably get in trouble because he

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Speaker 1: probably was also saying stuff like that. I feel like

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a good point.

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Speaker 2: Maybe they could like basically turn on him basically true true, true,

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Speaker 2: And like I mean they are financially okay, so it

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Speaker 1: But that also might be like the work environment there,

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Speaker 1: it might be like a very like boys club.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and then if like him reporting that would actually

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Speaker 2: make it worse for him, and they're like, yo, why

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Speaker 2: are you ratting on?

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Speaker 3: Ratting on?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So maybe just in this circumstance, just leaving his

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Speaker 1: best could be trying to find a more healthy environment

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Speaker 1: would be the co workers, don't comment on your wife's body.

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Speaker 2: That would be a crazy environment to be in. But

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Speaker 2: on the the husband's apologies, how are you feeling? How

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Speaker 1: Hmm? I mean, okay, I understood why she initially wanted

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Speaker 1: because he literally would refuse to listen to her, refuse

445
00:22:22,280 --> 00:22:26,879
Speaker 1: to believe her. However, I do think it's it seems

446
00:22:26,880 --> 00:22:29,760
Speaker 1: like he's actually trying to make an effort to apologize. Yeah,

447
00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:32,720
Speaker 1: and it's not just the apologies. They're also going to

448
00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:36,240
Speaker 1: like therapy. So I feel like all the right steps

449
00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:40,639
Speaker 1: are being taken. It very quickly could become a situation

450
00:22:40,760 --> 00:22:43,879
Speaker 1: where you know, he's loved bombing her, or he'll go

451
00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:45,640
Speaker 1: back to his old habits. So I feel like that's

452
00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:47,159
Speaker 1: such just something you have to keep an eye out for.

453
00:22:47,320 --> 00:22:48,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a good sign.

454
00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:52,560
Speaker 2: Ultimately, it is the consistency in a year from now,

455
00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:56,280
Speaker 2: How has that last year looked? And where are you

456
00:22:56,359 --> 00:22:58,800
Speaker 2: at that point? That I think is the big.

457
00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:00,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a good sign. But will it lead you

458
00:23:00,800 --> 00:23:02,000
Speaker 1: to your destination?

459
00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:06,400
Speaker 2: That that is the question, That's truly the question. But Sophia,

460
00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:09,760
Speaker 2: we are not divorced from this episode, oh, because we

461
00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:12,280
Speaker 2: have one more story to engage.

462
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:14,199
Speaker 1: It us laid on me?

463
00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 3: All right?

464
00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:17,800
Speaker 2: Am I the a hole for telling her that we're

465
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:21,760
Speaker 2: never becoming serious if she stays friends with her ex?

466
00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:23,119
Speaker 3: That's the question?

467
00:23:23,320 --> 00:23:27,520
Speaker 2: Woo, this comes from me open address twenty eight oh five,

468
00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:30,040
Speaker 2: who says I, twenty nine male have been seeing this

469
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:33,080
Speaker 2: girl twenty six female for about three months now. We

470
00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:35,080
Speaker 2: work at a bar when a mutual friend of ours

471
00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:38,760
Speaker 2: introduce her to me. She was beautiful, quick witted, and

472
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 2: confidence though I was instantly attracted to her. Oh goodness,

473
00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:46,560
Speaker 2: love and fruit sight. We hit it off immediately and

474
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:48,520
Speaker 2: spent quite a lot of time together over the next

475
00:23:48,560 --> 00:23:51,080
Speaker 2: few weeks. In that time, we have learned a lot

476
00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:53,879
Speaker 2: about each other, and I also discovered that she was

477
00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:59,240
Speaker 2: in a six year relationship that ended recently. Ooh, pretty big.

478
00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:03,440
Speaker 2: She's twenty six years old and she's been twenty years

479
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:04,360
Speaker 2: old six years.

480
00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 1: That's that's a pretty big That's not nothing.

481
00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:08,680
Speaker 3: That's not nothing. That's not nothing.

482
00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:11,600
Speaker 2: They ended up breaking up amicably, and they are still

483
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:14,560
Speaker 2: good friends. They still hang out, although she swears it's

484
00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:17,399
Speaker 2: just platonic. Yeah, she swears. Uh, they go out to

485
00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:21,439
Speaker 2: dinner together, ketchup over drinks, et cetera, et cetera. She

486
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:24,679
Speaker 2: said that he helped her immensely during a tough period

487
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:27,560
Speaker 2: in her life, and that they were still very close

488
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:29,040
Speaker 2: despite the split.

489
00:24:29,680 --> 00:24:32,879
Speaker 1: Ooh, that's a tricky one. I am a person who's like,

490
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:35,479
Speaker 1: I don't think it's the worst thing in the world

491
00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:37,359
Speaker 1: to be friends with your ex. Like, I think there

492
00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:41,760
Speaker 1: are instances where it's fine. However, I don't think I

493
00:24:41,800 --> 00:24:44,600
Speaker 1: would knock Ope for being a little bit like worried

494
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:48,040
Speaker 1: about a person who recently split up from a six

495
00:24:48,080 --> 00:24:50,639
Speaker 1: year relationship and is still actively very close.

496
00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:54,400
Speaker 2: I think there, yeah, this, this is a situation of nuance.

497
00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:56,760
Speaker 1: Here, yes, where it's like why did they split up?

498
00:24:56,880 --> 00:24:58,080
Speaker 3: Yeah? Why they split up?

499
00:24:59,119 --> 00:25:01,320
Speaker 2: How I mean we do we do get some insight

500
00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:03,880
Speaker 2: here catching up over drinks and all that. I mean,

501
00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:06,680
Speaker 2: I could see, like you're going out to let's see,

502
00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:09,040
Speaker 2: you're going out to drinks once a week.

503
00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:12,800
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, that, I don't know it really, I really

504
00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:14,560
Speaker 1: just want to know why they split up, because if

505
00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:17,880
Speaker 1: it was like long distance, they couldn't do long distance,

506
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:20,760
Speaker 1: then all those feelings are still there, you know, and.

507
00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:23,840
Speaker 2: Now they're like, man, we're being apart, like I've been

508
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:26,440
Speaker 2: missing you. Let's get more often. Let's get some drinks

509
00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:29,920
Speaker 2: more often. One thing leads to another and we're like, dang,

510
00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 2: we're going on all these days.

511
00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:35,280
Speaker 1: Yeah no again, Like I feel like there is a

512
00:25:35,280 --> 00:25:38,199
Speaker 1: world where this is totally platonic and the girlfriend is like, yeah, no,

513
00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:42,800
Speaker 1: like there's nothing going on. However, I'm again nuance. Oh,

514
00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:46,040
Speaker 1: I feel like, yeah, has a right to be a

515
00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:48,040
Speaker 1: little bit I skeptical.

516
00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:51,040
Speaker 3: I smell, I possibly detect a stench.

517
00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:53,119
Speaker 2: There could be a stench, could be a stench.

518
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:54,960
Speaker 1: We don't know where the wind's blown.

519
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 2: That's right, but let's find out. I said, cool, as

520
00:25:58,359 --> 00:26:01,119
Speaker 2: I didn't care about that since we were casually seeing

521
00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:04,280
Speaker 2: each other. About two weeks after that, she brings up

522
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:08,240
Speaker 2: the possibility of us being more than just casual hookup

523
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 2: slash date partners and being in an actual relationship. Okay,

524
00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:18,600
Speaker 2: it's moving on, We're getting serious. I told her that

525
00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:24,119
Speaker 2: I would definitely be down for that if stipulation, if

526
00:26:24,160 --> 00:26:28,440
Speaker 2: she cuts her ex out of her life. Whoa Yeah,

527
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 2: she started laughing, and I said, no, it's not a joke.

528
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:37,920
Speaker 3: It's all serious.

529
00:26:38,840 --> 00:26:39,600
Speaker 1: I don't joke.

530
00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 4: I don't joke, I don't laugh.

531
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:42,919
Speaker 3: I'm not a joker.

532
00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:49,520
Speaker 2: I'm got bad. I'm not dating a woman who's going

533
00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:51,120
Speaker 2: out on dates with their ex.

534
00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:51,440
Speaker 3: Still.

535
00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:54,680
Speaker 2: I don't mind at all if you have a healthy,

536
00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:58,320
Speaker 2: non toxic relationship with your ex but catching up and

537
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:02,399
Speaker 2: still communicating frequently. I'm not putting up with that. I

538
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:04,760
Speaker 2: don't go out to dinner and do back to back

539
00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:07,760
Speaker 2: shots with any of my exes, So I think it's

540
00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:11,760
Speaker 2: completely fair to me to ask you to do the same.

541
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:17,000
Speaker 2: How to quick pitstop? Yeah, how are we feeling now?

542
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:18,919
Speaker 3: We detected? Maybe some stenches.

543
00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:25,080
Speaker 1: I'm kind of leaning towards Ope. I don't know, what

544
00:27:25,119 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 1: do you think?

545
00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:25,960
Speaker 3: Yeah?

546
00:27:26,160 --> 00:27:30,439
Speaker 2: I think I like being in the right. Yeah, like

547
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:32,440
Speaker 2: OPA being the right. I think I think I'm there too.

548
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:38,639
Speaker 2: I I don't necessarily know that there's like cheating or

549
00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 2: whatever or is, but yeah, I.

550
00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:43,800
Speaker 1: Feel like it's just a level of comfortableness.

551
00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:46,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like they're like kind of like I think

552
00:27:46,720 --> 00:27:49,880
Speaker 2: Opie said it pretty decently, where it's like, hey, there's

553
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:52,680
Speaker 2: nothing wrong with having this like healthy, non toxic. Hey

554
00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:56,159
Speaker 2: we're in touch, we're amicable, we're friendly. There's no reason

555
00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:59,120
Speaker 2: to harbor hate and resentment and all these things. We

556
00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:01,240
Speaker 2: you know, maybe you catch up from time to time,

557
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:04,640
Speaker 2: be a group of friend outings like that's all fine,

558
00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:05,680
Speaker 2: health great.

559
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:06,439
Speaker 1: And brin and dandy.

560
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:12,200
Speaker 2: But if you're like maybe doing back to back shots, yeah,

561
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:13,280
Speaker 2: remove the two.

562
00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:19,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, couldn't get dicey, but could be doing fractions get dicey.

563
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:24,480
Speaker 2: She said, there's no way that she's just never going

564
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:27,120
Speaker 2: to talk to her ex again. Oh and sorry, real quick,

565
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:31,240
Speaker 2: what do we think about Op's kind of ultimatum never

566
00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 2: talked to your X again? I mean.

567
00:28:34,600 --> 00:28:35,960
Speaker 3: It's also tricky, right.

568
00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 1: Did they say never talk to them again?

569
00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:44,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, if she cuts her X out of her life.

570
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:45,560
Speaker 3: Oh, that.

571
00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 1: Maybe is a little bit.

572
00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 3: Yeah. I think they're both doing a little too much

573
00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:51,959
Speaker 3: right now.

574
00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like being a little too bud buddy, buddy buddy,

575
00:28:56,400 --> 00:29:01,200
Speaker 2: and he's being like too harsh the with his ultimatum.

576
00:29:01,240 --> 00:29:03,160
Speaker 2: The one thing I will say is it is it's

577
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:08,640
Speaker 2: it's kind of like, oh, I'll do this diet, but

578
00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:12,400
Speaker 2: I'll cheat. I'll let myself cheat sometimes, like it is

579
00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 2: could be kind of hard to like find what that

580
00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:18,160
Speaker 2: line is. But I think I I do not think

581
00:29:18,240 --> 00:29:22,800
Speaker 2: you should lead with uh, hey, you have to cut

582
00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:24,240
Speaker 2: her out of your life. I think you set up

583
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:25,240
Speaker 2: some healthy boundaries.

584
00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:27,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, and yeah.

585
00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 2: If she does not uphold to those boundaries, yeah, maybe

586
00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:33,560
Speaker 2: then it's then you can have a conversation of that.

587
00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:35,920
Speaker 3: But doing this off the rip, it was like a

588
00:29:35,960 --> 00:29:36,480
Speaker 3: lot right.

589
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:40,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I don't know. I think it's a little

590
00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:43,720
Speaker 1: bit too far. I understand again, I understand his reasoning.

591
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 2: Totally, totally totally.

592
00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 1: I think it maybe is a little bit too far,

593
00:29:46,200 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 1: Like I don't like but again, you know, I'm thinking, oh, well,

594
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:52,120
Speaker 1: she'll never agree to that. In that case, they just

595
00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:52,800
Speaker 1: don't get together.

596
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:54,680
Speaker 2: That's that's true. That's true.

597
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:57,320
Speaker 1: Maybe this, maybe this just wasn't meant to work out.

598
00:29:57,520 --> 00:29:59,800
Speaker 3: Maybe maybe let's find out.

599
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:03,520
Speaker 2: I said, Okay, then we can stay casual then find

600
00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:06,640
Speaker 2: by me. So yeah, there you go.

601
00:30:06,680 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 3: I guess.

602
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:10,800
Speaker 2: She said, cool, But then two minutes later started going

603
00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:14,760
Speaker 2: off on me for being insecure. I said, I'm not insecure.

604
00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:17,560
Speaker 2: I just have certain boundaries. If you're not going to

605
00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:20,480
Speaker 2: cater to them, we can just keep things as they are.

606
00:30:21,160 --> 00:30:24,320
Speaker 2: I've got absolutely no issue with that. We ended up

607
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:27,200
Speaker 2: getting in a huge fight about it. She kept reassuring

608
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:30,080
Speaker 2: me that what she had with him was in the past,

609
00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 2: and I kept saying, I don't care how much you

610
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:35,440
Speaker 2: reassure me. If you want a relationship with me, you're

611
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 2: going to have to cut eyes with them. And we

612
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:43,880
Speaker 2: do have some relevant comments to close us out, but yeah,

613
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:45,600
Speaker 2: I am leaning on just don't get together.

614
00:30:45,840 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's just yeah.

615
00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:49,920
Speaker 2: The don't even like you don't even.

616
00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:54,800
Speaker 1: Have to worry about like all of the fans, buts, yeah,

617
00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:57,360
Speaker 1: don't gotta worry about trying to figure out the relationship

618
00:30:57,400 --> 00:30:58,520
Speaker 1: the ex Just don't get together.

619
00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:01,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think even like casually seeing each other, Like, yeah,

620
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:02,160
Speaker 2: I don't.

621
00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:03,560
Speaker 1: I think it's too messy at.

622
00:31:03,440 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 2: This point with the friction of this thing.

623
00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:10,280
Speaker 1: I feel like if this were like an actual relationship

624
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 1: they were in it and this was coming up, that'd

625
00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:14,040
Speaker 1: be different. I would have different advice.

626
00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:15,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like this.

627
00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 1: Is they're not in a relationship, not a relationship.

628
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's no there's no need.

629
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:21,840
Speaker 1: Like maybe we think Op's a little bit like too

630
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:26,840
Speaker 1: far in his in what he's asking for. But you

631
00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 1: know it's not a relationship, yea. So he can be like,

632
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:30,240
Speaker 1: I just don't want to be in a relationship with.

633
00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:32,920
Speaker 2: You exactly, And I think I think.

634
00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:35,160
Speaker 1: He deserves that, right, I think, yeah, I think I think.

635
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 2: You could be like, hey, uh, this is personally like

636
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:41,560
Speaker 2: what I want my relationship and if if you're not

637
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:44,320
Speaker 2: about that, you know what, totally understand and you should

638
00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:47,080
Speaker 2: have what you want in a relationship, but it's probably

639
00:31:47,120 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 2: not a good idea for us to keep together.

640
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:51,880
Speaker 1: And which I don't think this is in this scenario specifically,

641
00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:55,440
Speaker 1: I don't think it's controlling because they aren't in a relationship.

642
00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:57,480
Speaker 2: Correct, Yeah, this is a very very nu once very new.

643
00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:01,800
Speaker 1: You wouldn't be able to pick it out if you

644
00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:02,800
Speaker 1: didn't have John and.

645
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:12,320
Speaker 6: I's detective cases. Wait, Wopson, where what where did that

646
00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:14,280
Speaker 6: come from?

647
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:19,440
Speaker 2: Watson? Watson, I'm a detective?

648
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:20,480
Speaker 3: Okay?

649
00:32:21,320 --> 00:32:23,360
Speaker 1: Is that why you've been making detective jokes?

650
00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:26,520
Speaker 3: It has been inspiring me, been sitting over there.

651
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:28,120
Speaker 1: I didn't even notice that.

652
00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:32,840
Speaker 2: But I digress, because we have some relevant comds. BLC

653
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:35,760
Speaker 2: forty two hundred says not the ahole. You can refuse

654
00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:38,920
Speaker 2: to be in a relationship with someone for any reason

655
00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:41,680
Speaker 2: and not be an a whole because it's not your.

656
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:43,160
Speaker 1: There's not a relationships, just not a fit.

657
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:44,120
Speaker 3: It happens.

658
00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 2: Clash Band of Koo Cutie says, Yep, boundaries are healthy

659
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 2: and if this is important to OPE, they should hold them.

660
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:55,320
Speaker 2: There you go Alreadie gex says yeah, as long as

661
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 2: you're telling them your boundaries rather than telling them what

662
00:32:57,960 --> 00:33:01,560
Speaker 2: they can and can't do. Yeah, it's their choice from there.

663
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:04,920
Speaker 2: It's a subtle distinction, but an important.

664
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Speaker 1: One subtle nuance.

665
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Speaker 2: What Lucky Log twenty two twelve says exactly, if she

666
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Speaker 2: can't be with her ex in her life, then what

667
00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:16,920
Speaker 2: is going to happen if they marry? Will she do

668
00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 2: it then or not? He set his boundaries and she

669
00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 2: can either accept them or not. She said she will

670
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:25,560
Speaker 2: not cut off her X, so he responded with I

671
00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 2: will just be your friend. Why don't people get that

672
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:31,960
Speaker 2: this exchange was completely mature and adulting.

673
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Speaker 1: Yeah no, this is yeah again, not a situation in

674
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:38,120
Speaker 1: which where they're dating and he's trying to control her.

675
00:33:38,360 --> 00:33:39,840
Speaker 1: They have not started dating.

676
00:33:40,040 --> 00:33:42,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, He's like, I don't want to get into a

677
00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:47,480
Speaker 2: relationship because I don't want to form any problems resentment,

678
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 2: yeah whatever, like that's you know.

679
00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:52,200
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be comfortable with it, So I couldn't go

680
00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 1: into this relationship. It wouldn't be fair to you.

681
00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:55,760
Speaker 3: Not a good fit. It's not fair.

682
00:33:55,800 --> 00:34:00,560
Speaker 2: Toy war Chief Rip Nugget says mature on his she

683
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:04,720
Speaker 2: resorted to fighting, arguing, and attacking his person insecure.

684
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Speaker 3: Et cetera. And that is it.

685
00:34:08,080 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, that is all she wrote. Literally, Oh, she wrote,

686
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Speaker 2: I think this ended as it should have ended.

687
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:19,000
Speaker 1: Yes, they shouldn't be together. Sometimes people just shouldn't be together.

688
00:34:19,120 --> 00:34:22,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true. And while Op and this person might

689
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 2: not have love, if you love us, make sure to

690
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Speaker 2: subscribe we.

691
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Speaker 1: Love you and see it tomorrow.

692
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Speaker 3: This is an episode from Deep Within the Archives.

693
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Speaker 2: Time for Okop relash because my boyfriend has cancer but

694
00:34:39,040 --> 00:34:42,720
Speaker 2: I told him he's fine. Now our relationship might be over.

695
00:34:43,280 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, don't go to a doctor. You're just freaking over react.

696
00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:48,120
Speaker 3: Are you kidding me?

697
00:34:48,480 --> 00:34:48,600
Speaker 6: Like?

698
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:51,080
Speaker 2: What are you just web mding?

699
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:56,640
Speaker 3: And like, yeah, your emotions are more auto act than yourselves, bro,

700
00:34:57,600 --> 00:35:00,400
Speaker 3: those emotions are overgrown. You know what I'm saying? Like

701
00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:02,040
Speaker 3: overactive baby.

702
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:06,480
Speaker 2: It's just hard, Sam. It's hard to imagine the scenario

703
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:10,719
Speaker 2: in which saying you're fine is fine.

704
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:14,800
Speaker 3: Two more more like too much? Come on, get a grip.

705
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:18,839
Speaker 2: All right, well you know what, let's see, let's see.

706
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:23,880
Speaker 2: Let's see. So my cousin thirty two female told me

707
00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 2: twenty five female that she recently lost her pregnancy due

708
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 2: to being ec topic. That's basically where the pregnancy gets compromised. Yes,

709
00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:36,040
Speaker 2: she has three kids with her abusive ex husband, and

710
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 2: she's what a title?

711
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:40,880
Speaker 3: What abusive ex husband? Gravy? Hope I never get a

712
00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:41,440
Speaker 3: title like that.

713
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:42,239
Speaker 2: It's joy.

714
00:35:42,320 --> 00:35:46,720
Speaker 3: Titles I want are like sir and gallant. Sam.

715
00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:51,360
Speaker 2: I thankfully. I think you have the power. It is all,

716
00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:54,399
Speaker 2: it is all within your control. That is the good

717
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:55,239
Speaker 2: news of the day here.

718
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, the queen died. I'm not going to get knighted.

719
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Speaker 3: I don't want to get knighted by well, the other dude,

720
00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:04,320
Speaker 3: the old guy. Yeah whatever is old old actually his oldness.

721
00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:08,760
Speaker 3: Yeah she was way older, but yeah, he's she's sick. Yeah, honestly,

722
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:10,880
Speaker 3: he's like an old kind of like cool.

723
00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 2: I would love to like just go on a spree

724
00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 2: where like not like killing all of the royals, but

725
00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:18,399
Speaker 2: like taking all of them and maybe like locking them

726
00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:22,080
Speaker 2: away until it's like a baby. And they're like, literally,

727
00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:23,040
Speaker 2: I have no choice.

728
00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:26,239
Speaker 3: It's a baby. Just said he wants to kill the

729
00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:29,839
Speaker 3: entire royal family. M sixteen or whatever your CIA is.

730
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Speaker 3: Don't don't come looking for me. Don't come look find

731
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Speaker 3: he's good.

732
00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:36,120
Speaker 2: So she has three kids with her abusive ex husband

733
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:38,480
Speaker 2: and finally met a good guy and settled down with

734
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:41,040
Speaker 2: him a couple of years after leaving her ex. Nice,

735
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 2: great job. I told my boyfriend twenty six male, and

736
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:48,120
Speaker 2: he said that my cousin is fine and she didn't

737
00:36:48,160 --> 00:36:55,480
Speaker 2: really lose anything. I'm confused, so he basically she was

738
00:36:55,520 --> 00:36:58,120
Speaker 2: not able to have kids with her new great husband.

739
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:01,920
Speaker 2: Oh it's like, oh it's okay, it doesn't matter.

740
00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:03,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it kind of sucks.

741
00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:07,040
Speaker 2: It definitely sucks. Like you marry this new great person

742
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 2: and you're like, oh, and you both want to have

743
00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:15,000
Speaker 2: a child, and then you can't. But Opie's boyfriend explains right.

744
00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:18,759
Speaker 2: He mentioned that she already has children and used it

745
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:22,320
Speaker 2: as a point to imply that her situation is somehow

746
00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:25,640
Speaker 2: diminished because she has quote already hit the goal of

747
00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:29,000
Speaker 2: having kids. To his credit, he said some stuff about

748
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:33,520
Speaker 2: the removal was needed to save her life because they

749
00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:37,880
Speaker 2: had to fix the ectopic pregnancy. This was something I

750
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:41,080
Speaker 2: knew already and generally discussed it in a medical sense

751
00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:44,160
Speaker 2: because he works in the medical field. So he is

752
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:47,920
Speaker 2: looking at this as like, oh, she kind of dodged

753
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:51,840
Speaker 2: a bullet medically, and she has like if he's thinking

754
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:55,279
Speaker 2: in like worst case patient scenarios, He's like, at least

755
00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:59,960
Speaker 2: she didn't die and has an abusive boyfriend. Yes, exactly, exactly,

756
00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 2: and she has kids a great guy. Yeah, wis worse.

757
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:08,719
Speaker 2: But also it's like, what about like bedside manors, you

758
00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:10,760
Speaker 2: know what I mean? Like what if he if imagine

759
00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:12,520
Speaker 2: saying that to some doctors.

760
00:38:12,160 --> 00:38:13,919
Speaker 3: Don't have any bedside manner though this.

761
00:38:13,880 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 2: Is true, but it's like that doesn't mean they shouldn't.

762
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Speaker 2: I would rather have a good doctor than than a

763
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:23,560
Speaker 2: doctor that can talk, you know, fair that I agree

764
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Speaker 2: do the surgery.

765
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Speaker 3: I don't don't even talk to me.

766
00:38:26,160 --> 00:38:28,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, build no social skills, but be a wizard with

767
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Speaker 2: the scalpel.

768
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would rather fair have my liver than him

769
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Speaker 3: be like, you know, good at talking, but my liver.

770
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Speaker 3: I'd rather have my liver than him being like, Sam

771
00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:47,399
Speaker 3: got good news and I got bad news. Yeah, good

772
00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:52,000
Speaker 3: news is you a hell of a guy. You have

773
00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:56,120
Speaker 3: no liver, You're gonna have to take all of your lips,

774
00:38:57,320 --> 00:38:58,799
Speaker 3: all of your limbs are gone.

775
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:02,040
Speaker 2: But you are going to be one sexy stump. You're

776
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:05,919
Speaker 2: gonna get You could get through this, my little stump man. Yeah,

777
00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 2: I have a support groop for you. I'm fair, very fair.

778
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:15,480
Speaker 3: Got one more for me. I I got good news

779
00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:18,440
Speaker 3: and I got bad news. The bad news is we

780
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:23,400
Speaker 3: initially got stumped on this operation. The good news is

781
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:25,359
Speaker 3: you are going to live because you will be nothing

782
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:30,719
Speaker 3: but stumps. There's something there. It's not it's not it's

783
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:33,160
Speaker 3: not great, it's not the well formed, formulated, but there's

784
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:33,879
Speaker 3: there's something there.

785
00:39:33,920 --> 00:39:37,319
Speaker 2: It's the evolution of the crap sandwich. It's like, you know,

786
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:39,840
Speaker 2: taking that to like, how do you basically how do

787
00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:42,280
Speaker 2: you make the bad thing the crap and the crap sandwich?

788
00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:46,319
Speaker 2: Actually the good news exactly that's the wizard stumps. But

789
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:49,840
Speaker 2: Opie's boyfriend does not possess these skills. Sam, No, he

790
00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:53,440
Speaker 2: is not making crap sandwich. So Opie says, I've tried

791
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:56,200
Speaker 2: many ways to show him that he has been calloused,

792
00:39:56,520 --> 00:39:58,719
Speaker 2: telling him that he needs to think of it from

793
00:39:58,760 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 2: a human po and yes, this may be just another

794
00:40:03,000 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 2: Monday for him, but it's life altering for someone else,

795
00:40:07,800 --> 00:40:11,120
Speaker 2: which I think is fair. Like this medical news, like

796
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:13,240
Speaker 2: he's doing it all the time, so he's descendant.

797
00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 3: Like, bro, I see people die every day. You think

798
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:20,480
Speaker 3: I care about a little little e topic pregnancy.

799
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:24,520
Speaker 2: His rebuttal was that it's his medical POV and he's

800
00:40:24,600 --> 00:40:27,000
Speaker 2: not being calloused, so basically.

801
00:40:27,160 --> 00:40:29,520
Speaker 3: No, yeah, he's like, go fuck yourself.

802
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:31,920
Speaker 2: He said that it's sad that she lost to babies,

803
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 2: but it's worse when he has to break news to

804
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 2: someone who doesn't already have kids, because this problem can

805
00:40:38,120 --> 00:40:39,080
Speaker 2: affect fertility.

806
00:40:39,320 --> 00:40:40,040
Speaker 3: Yeah.

807
00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:43,160
Speaker 2: I get what he's saying, but this isn't a struggle contest,

808
00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:47,120
Speaker 2: and the compassion seemed disingenuous, especially when he.

809
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:50,200
Speaker 3: Wins a struggle concept. It's a struggle contest.

810
00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:53,840
Speaker 2: For sure, that's where it's going. But he said, we

811
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:57,719
Speaker 2: will agree to disagree, and here is where I might

812
00:40:57,760 --> 00:41:02,279
Speaker 2: have become the ahole. H i' morphed into a rectum. No,

813
00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:08,040
Speaker 2: I'm just kidding the whole New Transformers. Earlier this year,

814
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 2: he learned that he had a particular type of cancer.

815
00:41:11,440 --> 00:41:14,400
Speaker 2: He was an absolute champ and was so brave about everything.

816
00:41:14,800 --> 00:41:18,200
Speaker 2: He caught it really early and had the affected body

817
00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:21,839
Speaker 2: part removed. The surgery was likely curative, but he did

818
00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:24,960
Speaker 2: one round of chemo just in case, and again that

819
00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:27,839
Speaker 2: chemotherapy was rough, and he knew how bad it would

820
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:30,480
Speaker 2: be because he's had to deal with cancer patients before

821
00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:32,920
Speaker 2: a few quick facts about his cancer. It has a

822
00:41:32,960 --> 00:41:35,800
Speaker 2: survival rate of almost one hundred I think around ninety

823
00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:39,400
Speaker 2: five percent. He caught it super early. Stage one. Chemo

824
00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 2: is rough regardless. However, he had it much easier than

825
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:46,600
Speaker 2: most because he did one round compared to the many

826
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:50,200
Speaker 2: rounds a typical person is subjected to. He refused to

827
00:41:50,239 --> 00:41:53,120
Speaker 2: listen to my logic and see my POV with regards

828
00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:58,720
Speaker 2: of my cousin. So I flipped the scenario that's growed,

829
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:03,240
Speaker 2: that's grouped, told him that he's okay and he didn't

830
00:42:03,239 --> 00:42:07,000
Speaker 2: lose anything. These were the exact words he said about

831
00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:07,520
Speaker 2: my cousin.

832
00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:09,880
Speaker 3: How do you like that, adults of your own medicine?

833
00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 2: I said this because he only had one round of

834
00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:16,000
Speaker 2: chemo and he can survive just fine without the body

835
00:42:16,040 --> 00:42:17,080
Speaker 2: part he had to remove.

836
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 3: Is it his penis, man, that I mean, is it

837
00:42:22,120 --> 00:42:22,840
Speaker 3: penis cancer?

838
00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:26,680
Speaker 2: Now? See now you got me thinking cancer grows?

839
00:42:28,040 --> 00:42:32,440
Speaker 3: No, keep that penis cancers, keep it gonna get that

840
00:42:32,560 --> 00:42:35,399
Speaker 3: massive schlong. We're going to hell. Guys, it's all good.

841
00:42:36,120 --> 00:42:38,840
Speaker 3: Wait what kind of cancer is it? They're being so

842
00:42:39,080 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 3: mysterious about what body part it is. They just tell

843
00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:44,200
Speaker 3: me it's penis cancer.

844
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 2: They say everything is uh, they don't reveal anything, any

845
00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:50,880
Speaker 2: of it is. Sam hates that.

846
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:53,760
Speaker 3: Sam hates that penis cancer. Maybe it's testical cancer.

847
00:42:54,360 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 2: Oh maybe maybe, And it's like remove the one, Yeah,

848
00:42:57,200 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 2: because what body part can you remove and be okay?

849
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:03,120
Speaker 3: With testicles? That's truely if you're old. Yeah, it's like

850
00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:05,600
Speaker 3: what else like, yeah, penis would be pretty hard.

851
00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:09,440
Speaker 2: But one because one testicle or like one kidney.

852
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, you could take take a testicle out.

853
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:15,040
Speaker 2: You could take both out, man, Yes, you could, you

854
00:43:15,080 --> 00:43:17,560
Speaker 2: could both out. I feel like she would. There would

855
00:43:17,600 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 2: be more information on that if it was if it

856
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:21,520
Speaker 2: was both testicles both.

857
00:43:21,560 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 3: A double tecto me.

858
00:43:24,760 --> 00:43:27,880
Speaker 2: Uh, well, the sectomy I think is is that? I

859
00:43:27,920 --> 00:43:30,319
Speaker 2: said test test text to me? That's yeah, I know

860
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:33,400
Speaker 2: there's a masseectomy. I don't know what the testical version

861
00:43:33,400 --> 00:43:35,880
Speaker 2: of the miss I vote for testectomy. If that's not

862
00:43:35,920 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 2: what it is to me, test tect to me, to

863
00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 2: stick to me, that's a fun wad to say. TESTI

864
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:42,600
Speaker 2: to me. I told him that other people had it

865
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:44,839
Speaker 2: worse and he should make such a big deal about it.

866
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:47,840
Speaker 2: He got mad and told me I'm minimizing his struggles

867
00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:50,399
Speaker 2: and refused to talk to me until I apologize.

868
00:43:50,440 --> 00:43:54,279
Speaker 3: But you were minimizing someone else's struggle. Get your one

869
00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:54,920
Speaker 3: ball out of here.

870
00:43:56,800 --> 00:43:59,560
Speaker 2: I even attached a pick of his social media bio

871
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:03,520
Speaker 2: where he had cancer survivor and some other cancer related

872
00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:06,920
Speaker 2: inspirational stuff. I told him I didn't mean any of that,

873
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:09,239
Speaker 2: and I just wanted to show him the way he

874
00:44:09,400 --> 00:44:12,200
Speaker 2: sounded to me when he was talking about my cousin.

875
00:44:13,560 --> 00:44:16,840
Speaker 2: Sounds like the doc couldn't handle his own medicine. You know,

876
00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:20,640
Speaker 2: this prescription is too hot to take you out of.

877
00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 3: The frond of you. I'm just trying to say what happened.

878
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:28,520
Speaker 2: You know, I Yeah, I kind of I kind of

879
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:31,839
Speaker 2: get ope because he like he was just like no,

880
00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 2: like he completely didn't get it.

881
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:36,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like this is this was a lesson

882
00:44:36,480 --> 00:44:40,799
Speaker 3: in empathy. Yeah, you know, so I say, OPI's not

883
00:44:40,840 --> 00:44:43,319
Speaker 3: really the a hole, not really the eyephole. So like

884
00:44:43,360 --> 00:44:44,839
Speaker 3: a little bit like a tig, little bit.

885
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:48,120
Speaker 2: A tinge, just a tiny sphincter, but tiny sphincter like

886
00:44:48,440 --> 00:44:50,240
Speaker 2: just a little tight butthole not gaping.

887
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, you could stick a think pinky in there, but

888
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:53,080
Speaker 3: not much else.

889
00:44:53,719 --> 00:44:55,680
Speaker 2: If you thought that was bad, check out this one

890
00:44:55,719 --> 00:44:58,879
Speaker 2: where Opie gets cancer but as fiance leaves them,