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Speaker 2: Chris Harrison coming to you from the home office in Austin, Texas.
Speaker 2: Happy Father's Day week, everybody. To those who are celebrating,
Speaker 2: I wish you happy Father's Day. These days and these
Speaker 2: weeks are always interesting. I'm doing this solo today and
Speaker 2: we're gonna have several kind of podcasts this week. But
Speaker 2: you know, Mother's Day, Father's Day. First of all, you know,
Speaker 2: being married to someone who Lauren, whose dad passed away
Speaker 2: when she was younger, I have a whole new respect
Speaker 2: for these days and these weeks, of those who celebrate
Speaker 2: and those who get to enjoy it, and then those
Speaker 2: who don't, and then those who it can be a
Speaker 2: rough week for For me. My dad is alive and well,
Speaker 2: thank God, I've been blessed with having an amazing father.
Speaker 2: He lives down in South Texas and we still have
Speaker 2: an amazing relationship with my brother. I have an older brother,
Speaker 2: by the way, And so you know, Father's Day is
Speaker 2: always an interesting week because I feel like Mother's Day
Speaker 2: and Father's Day are so different the way we look
Speaker 2: at them. And maybe that's just my world. I don't know,
Speaker 2: but Mother's Day, we really and this is out of
Speaker 2: all due respect and love, we should we really stop.
Speaker 2: And it's really kind of this this massive thing where
Speaker 2: we really want to dive in and make moms feel great.
Speaker 2: And there's there's you know, the brunches and the things,
Speaker 2: and it's it's Mother's Day. And then there's kind of like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 2: Father's Day. It's in June, and it's kind of like,
Speaker 2: oh crap, what do we do? So I'm here to
Speaker 2: help you with the oh crap, what do we do
Speaker 2: with Father's Day? Because it is kind of that weird
Speaker 2: day where it's like, well, is dad just going to
Speaker 2: go out and do yard work again? Is it just
Speaker 2: you know, you end up barbecuing. This is the best story.
Speaker 2: When I was when my kids were young, My daughter Taylor,
Speaker 2: who's now twenty, she was in ballet class and in
Speaker 2: a ballet studio, a dance studio, whatever their dance recital
Speaker 2: was on Father's Day. It was Sunday of Father's Day
Speaker 2: that all these dads had to go sit in an
Speaker 2: auditorium and watch three hours of what we will loosely
Speaker 2: call ballet. And I asked the teacher, the instructor one
Speaker 2: time I said, why do you do this on Father's Day?
Speaker 2: And she's said, well, I thought this would be such
Speaker 2: a treat for the dads, and I said, yeah, there's
Speaker 2: nothing more than dads want to do. Then get up
Speaker 2: early on Father's Day and go sit and watch your
Speaker 2: daughter dance and again I use that term loosely, for
Speaker 2: like four minutes, and then watch a thousand other kids
Speaker 2: pick their nose on stage. That is our dream. That's
Speaker 2: exactly what we want to do. Talk about the things
Speaker 2: you would never do on Mother's Day. That's it because
Speaker 2: they know that's not it, and so hold the dance
Speaker 2: recital on another day. That's not where dads want to
Speaker 2: go sit in a cold auditorium and pretend that you know,
Speaker 2: they're watching their neighbor's daughter dance. But we've evolved from that.
Speaker 2: We've gotten older, and here's what it comes down to.
Speaker 2: Number One, time if I can get time with my kids,
Speaker 2: If I get a chance to see my kids. The
Speaker 2: older they get, the trickier that gets because they start
Speaker 2: living in different places. Luckily, my son has graduated, he
Speaker 2: lives closer to me now that my daughter up and
Speaker 2: fort wereth So it gets harder and harder to spend
Speaker 2: time together. But number one time If I get to
Speaker 2: see the kids this week, and it doesn't even have
Speaker 2: to be on Sunday, just at any point in time.
Speaker 2: If we can be together and I can get a
Speaker 2: big hug and sit down and have a meal in
Speaker 2: a conversation, that's gold. That is amazing. The older I get,
Speaker 2: I just want time and to be present, and they're lives.
Speaker 2: That's it. The other thing is if you're not around
Speaker 2: your dad, just you don't have to overthink this. You know,
Speaker 2: you don't have to send them steaks or anything else.
Speaker 2: And by the way, those are great things. Go to
Speaker 2: those steak places. There's like, I'm not sponsored by any
Speaker 2: of these. Omaha steaks used to be a big thing.
Speaker 2: I don't even know if they exist anymore. But like
Speaker 2: cow Kow is a good one. You know, go get
Speaker 2: your dad like some great steaks and great lamb chops,
Speaker 2: you know, some some filelets like really, you know, get
Speaker 2: him dialed in. Send those to them. By the way,
Speaker 2: if he eats meat. Golf balls. This is the funny thing.
Speaker 2: I don't care how rich you are, how poor you are,
Speaker 2: if you play golf, no one's ever mad at getting
Speaker 2: golf balls and get him some nice ones, you know,
Speaker 2: go out and you know, get some titleist pro v
Speaker 2: ones and if you really want to go the extra mile,
Speaker 2: you can order them ahead of time and you can
Speaker 2: get them, you know, like personalized. You can put like Dad,
Speaker 2: or you could get them like say I was born
Speaker 2: in nineteen seventy one. All the numbers can be seventy one,
Speaker 2: so you can personalize them as well, so you know,
Speaker 2: you can think a little bit. But I digress. The
Speaker 2: point of this is if you can't think of a gift,
Speaker 2: or you just don't have the time or the money, whatever,
Speaker 2: just do something personal. I think the greatest thing that
Speaker 2: I could ever get from my kids is a is
Speaker 2: a letter for them to sit down and write me
Speaker 2: a card. Write me a letter and not just like
Speaker 2: a silly snoopy Father's Day card and it says it
Speaker 2: and they go, oh love you like something where you've
Speaker 2: taken the time and you have been thoughtful. I think
Speaker 2: any gift for a dad that's thoughtful, something that means
Speaker 2: something to you, A picture from when you were kids
Speaker 2: and have it framed so he can put it in
Speaker 2: his closet or you know, in his office. Something that
Speaker 2: truly means something to you, guys. And it's hard to
Speaker 2: come up with ideas for you because you know, who
Speaker 2: knows what connects you. Maybe it's fly fishing, maybe it's
Speaker 2: you like flying or or parish whatever, golf, Get something meaningful,
Speaker 2: maybe you went to Saint Andrews together and played golf,
Speaker 2: you know, buy something special or maybe print a picture
Speaker 2: from that. But something very personal is really what your
Speaker 2: dads want, you know. They say being a parent is
Speaker 2: a thankless task. And yes, as you guys get older,
Speaker 2: as kids get older, sometimes we have that realization, especially
Speaker 2: when we become parents. You call your parents, you call
Speaker 2: your mom and dad, you say, wow, I was a
Speaker 2: real pain in the butt. Thank you for being there,
Speaker 2: thank you for loving me. But as your kids are,
Speaker 2: you know, are growing up, it's hard for them to
Speaker 2: have perspective. Why would they write you don't know what
Speaker 2: you don't know? So trying to get your kids to
Speaker 2: take a moment, write a letter, you know, really write
Speaker 2: out a nice card to say what you're grateful for
Speaker 2: about your dad. And this goes from Mother's Day too,
Speaker 2: but since it's Father's Day, you know, say what you're
Speaker 2: really grateful for, what your dad means to you what
Speaker 2: you love that he does, or something silly that he did,
Speaker 2: or whatever it is. Just you know, even if you
Speaker 2: have a contentious relationship, try to let that go into
Speaker 2: the bridge and just for this one moment, reach out
Speaker 2: cross that bridge and tell him what you love about him.
Speaker 2: That's it. I go back to that dance recital thing,
Speaker 2: because here's what we really want every Father's Day. This
Speaker 2: week is the US Open golf tournament. It's one of
Speaker 2: the biggest tournaments of the year. As you guys know,
Speaker 2: as Lauren Begrudges, I love golf. I love it. What
Speaker 2: I really want to do on Sunday is get up,
Speaker 2: see my kids, maybe have a little brunch, little breakfast,
Speaker 2: and I love cooking, so my thing will be cooking
Speaker 2: my kid's breakfast if they're happen to be here at
Speaker 2: the house, and then we just I really just want
Speaker 2: to watch the US Open, hopefully with the kids. Doesn't
Speaker 2: have to be but that's the relaxing day to sit
Speaker 2: back watch the US Open and then maybe barbecue that night.
Speaker 2: The funny thing is about Father's Day is I often
Speaker 2: and I think a lot of fathers end up cooking,
Speaker 2: like we end up barbecuing for our family. I don't
Speaker 2: know why that is, because you know, Mother's Day, it's like, Okay,
Speaker 2: that is the day, like make sure mom doesn't cook,
Speaker 2: Let's take her out, let's do something. Let's just make
Speaker 2: sure she doesn't do anything. Father's Day is not really
Speaker 2: like that. I think it's because a oftentimes stereotypically, we're
Speaker 2: painting with a broadbrush here. A lot of the moms cook,
Speaker 2: a lot of the dads don't. I do love to cook,
Speaker 2: and I do love to barbecue, and I do love
Speaker 2: to make my family happy, and that it's cathartic for me.
Speaker 2: And so part of my joy is going to be
Speaker 2: on Sunday is cooking a beautiful steak dinner for my
Speaker 2: family and open up a great bottle of wine and
Speaker 2: just sit back and listen, and sit back and talk
Speaker 2: to my kids, listen to them and hear where they
Speaker 2: are and find out everything that's going on in their life.
Speaker 2: One more thing I want to add, because I am
Speaker 2: my kids are a product of divorce. My wife and
Speaker 2: I got divorced, and I really am grateful, and I
Speaker 2: am saying this too, hopefully help you guys. I'm grateful
Speaker 2: that on Mother's Day, I make sure my kids know
Speaker 2: they have a great mom, and I make sure that
Speaker 2: they are with her, and then vice versa. On Father's Day.
Speaker 2: She was always great about making sure the kids were
Speaker 2: with me and making sure, you know, when the kids
Speaker 2: were too young to buy gifts. You know, now they're
Speaker 2: on their own, they're in their twenties, but when they
Speaker 2: were too young, make sure the kids had gifts. You know,
Speaker 2: make sure you bought flowers for the kids to give
Speaker 2: to their mom. Vice versa. Make sure the kids get
Speaker 2: a little something, a card, a letter, a picture, you know,
Speaker 2: so they have something to give their dad. I always
Speaker 2: appreciate that about my ex wife, and I think she
Speaker 2: always appreciated that about me. And I know not everybody
Speaker 2: can do that because you're on really not great terms.
Speaker 2: But if you can be the bigger person and do
Speaker 2: that once a year Father's Day and Mother's Day, it
Speaker 2: goes such a long way, not just for the person,
Speaker 2: not just for the mom and the dad, but also
Speaker 2: for the kids. It just lets the kids know, Hey,
Speaker 2: I have a mom who loves me. I have a
Speaker 2: mom who respects my dad. I have a dad who
Speaker 2: loves me. I have a dad who respects my mom.
Speaker 2: That goes a long way. It really is important, and
Speaker 2: a lot of us are a product of divorce. I am,
Speaker 2: my kids are. Unfortunately, it's just the way. It's the
Speaker 2: way of the world, the way things go, and so
Speaker 2: I do think as someone who can speak on that
Speaker 2: it is important. It really helps. And so for those
Speaker 2: of you who have the chance to celebrate with your dad,
Speaker 2: make sure you take that opportunity because, as I know,
Speaker 2: thanks to Lauren and the perspective she's given me, it
Speaker 2: is a blessing. It's a blessing to be a dad.
Speaker 2: I am so grateful for my kids. It's a blessing
Speaker 2: to have a dad to still celebrate that he gets
Speaker 2: to call his grandkids and talk to them as well.
Speaker 2: It is a beautiful thing. And take a moment and
Speaker 2: if nothing else, pick up the phone say Dad, I
Speaker 2: love you, I forgive you. If there's problems in your family,
Speaker 2: I forgive you. I love you for whatever you are,
Speaker 2: whatever you gave me. You're my dad. And you don't
Speaker 2: get to choose your dad. You don't get to choose
Speaker 2: your mom, you don't get to choose your family. But
Speaker 2: that's the dad you were given. That's dad you got.
Speaker 2: And if you can just reach out and just send
Speaker 2: some love, be grateful you have the opportunity to do it,
Speaker 2: and I know I will, And I can't wait to
Speaker 2: hug my kids this week. I can't wait to just
Speaker 2: feel that love and get the perspective of man, I
Speaker 2: help do this, I help create these humans. It is
Speaker 2: a wonderful thing. So Happy Father's Day to all the
Speaker 2: dads out there. I give you all the love and
Speaker 2: for all the bad ties and the bad other things
Speaker 2: that you're going to get, and we will put on
Speaker 2: a brave face and tell you how much we love it.
Speaker 2: That the coffee mug that you made in pottery class,
Speaker 2: or the ashtray that no one's used in the last
Speaker 2: forty five years, we will take it and we will
Speaker 2: love you just the same. Happy Father's Day, everybody.
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