WEBVTT - Phuck It

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<v Speaker 1>Talk.

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<v Speaker 2>We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion to talk.

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<v Speaker 2>What's up, y'all?

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for tuning in for a new episode that

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<v Speaker 1>we talked back, a show dedicated to you dreamers and

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<v Speaker 1>chasers and everybody else in between. Us your co host

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<v Speaker 1>AJ Holliday.

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<v Speaker 2>What's up, Tam? I like to dedicate today to the

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<v Speaker 2>niggas and holes once again, just in case y'all feel

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<v Speaker 2>left out. We still We're still here for y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I love y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>I love all of y'all. It's me Tam, Bam, y'all. Eight.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, how you.

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<v Speaker 2>Doing, Aj?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good girl, trying to shout this damn heat. It

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<v Speaker 1>is hot outside my car. Be screaming, boy, I'd be

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<v Speaker 1>swearing to God, my damn tire's gonna stick on an asphalt.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's so hot. It's so dumb hot, like it

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<v Speaker 2>is brayd in lockweather. I swear to God, I'm in

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<v Speaker 2>flat down and straighten these edges with a hot cone

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<v Speaker 2>like almost every day. I know they're gonna burn out

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<v Speaker 2>if I don't make no changes.

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<v Speaker 1>Girl, I can't even make no changes in my hair

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<v Speaker 1>right now. I don't know all the girls that they

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<v Speaker 1>who be doing. They lace frints and with wigs and

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<v Speaker 1>ship the glues have fucked me up.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a fucking chemical burn. I'm gonna just stop

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<v Speaker 2>wearing them and let you This is just no.

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<v Speaker 1>This is so I don't even have it glued down

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<v Speaker 1>right now. Okay, but you see glue down? Why don't

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<v Speaker 1>you get you some locks of braids for a little while.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't because my forehead is burnt right here.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why you should get it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but when do I like, this thing is going

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<v Speaker 1>to be out for people to see people. Let's just

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<v Speaker 1>I can't do that right now. I have other things

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<v Speaker 1>to do where I can't just be walking around with

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<v Speaker 1>a fucking burn on my forehead.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's what's going on.

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<v Speaker 1>And I feel like we're under attack. Did y'all not

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<v Speaker 1>see uh nig cool and tie world this weekend? They

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<v Speaker 1>putting shit in the damn perms.

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<v Speaker 2>We've been knowing that. What are y'all doing to the

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<v Speaker 2>wig glues?

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<v Speaker 1>I have been gluing my wake down for many years

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<v Speaker 1>while starting a chemical burn.

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<v Speaker 2>It's probably because your scarff was like, cause too much

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<v Speaker 2>of anything is bad for you. If you drink too

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<v Speaker 2>much water, you're drowned on the inside, right, So you've

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<v Speaker 2>been gluing them with no, you really will. Don't be

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<v Speaker 2>looking like that, you really will. You've been gluing wigs

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<v Speaker 2>down for a minute. You just need to let your

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<v Speaker 2>it is like breathe. But I actually don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Though I don't always have my hair gluing down during

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<v Speaker 1>the week when I'm going to the gym and all

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<v Speaker 1>that shit, I don't have my hair glue down. The

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<v Speaker 1>only time I grew my wigs down is if I'm

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<v Speaker 1>doing something, you know what I'm saying. Other than that,

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<v Speaker 1>my shit is off at the house. I having a

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<v Speaker 1>fucking bonding or whatever. So I actually went on Google

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<v Speaker 1>and like went on YouTube and it's a slew of people.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not just me. Oh so they have yes, bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>they've changed. It's something.

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<v Speaker 1>It's something like and it's Goldstpawn that I use, like

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<v Speaker 1>Gostpan is one of the oldest lace schools, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>before black women start getting more into weaves, like this

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<v Speaker 1>is for two pays. This stuff has been out, but

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<v Speaker 1>I look on the bottle and guess where it's made

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<v Speaker 1>at China, Germany. It's the fucking nt Sees.

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<v Speaker 2>It's b six thirteen. It's something going on, girl, But

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<v Speaker 2>what'd you do this? Oh? What we do this weekend?

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<v Speaker 2>I was about to say we were together. We hosted

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<v Speaker 2>Henny and Waffles in Charlotte. It's a huge traveling party

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<v Speaker 2>that go around the country having brunch and lots of

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<v Speaker 2>good music, and we hosted that party. You guys. It

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<v Speaker 2>was so much fun. We got to talk to some fans,

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<v Speaker 2>so that was cool. I took a picture with one girl.

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<v Speaker 2>She and like she was behind me on the section

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<v Speaker 2>and I was looking back, but I didn't realize what

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<v Speaker 2>she was doing. Babyhead was biting my booty, not for real,

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<v Speaker 2>but like had her teeth on my ass, Like wait

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<v Speaker 2>a minute, ma'am. And then what y'all? One fan came

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<v Speaker 2>up and was like, hey, I love y'all. I want

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<v Speaker 2>to say hey to aj too, but I know she

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<v Speaker 2>don't like people. I was like, she do like people?

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<v Speaker 2>Go say hey to her. I promise you she will

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<v Speaker 2>say hey, bag.

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<v Speaker 1>And what I told her if she if you listen

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<v Speaker 1>to girl, I said, I like good people.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I like.

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<v Speaker 1>The hell. I do like people humans like sometimes humans

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<v Speaker 1>get on my goddamn nerves. Y'all, y'all know I'm not human.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a whole alien out here, but I do like people.

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<v Speaker 1>I like good people, and that's what I told her.

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<v Speaker 1>Girl Why somebody at me on on Instagram on a

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<v Speaker 1>post it was Dojah Cat. People were asking Doja Cat

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<v Speaker 1>to tell them they love her.

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<v Speaker 2>I love them, and she was like, Kaitens, you're my kittens,

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<v Speaker 2>and she's like, I know you're not my kittens. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't fucking have kittens.

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<v Speaker 1>No, she Dojah Cat said, I don't know y'all, and

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<v Speaker 1>somebody added me on there was like this should sound

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<v Speaker 1>like AJ.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen what I do.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a lot of gratitude and I appreciate the

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<v Speaker 1>supporters of this show now to just say I love everybody.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know y'all, and.

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<v Speaker 2>Some of y'all may hurt me. I don't know. You

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<v Speaker 2>know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not out to hurt anybody, but you just never

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<v Speaker 1>know people. So like, how insecure are you in your

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<v Speaker 1>own life to where somebody like a Dojah Cat gotta

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<v Speaker 1>tell you they love them, Like this person was pressing her,

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<v Speaker 1>like you need to tell your fans you love them.

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<v Speaker 1>I show gratitude, much gratitude, much appreciation.

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<v Speaker 2>And tam maam love y'all. Don't worry about that. She's grateful.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm grateful, but I do love y'all. But I love everybody.

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<v Speaker 2>That's just the guy to me. Girl.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess let's get into some stupid innet news. Why

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<v Speaker 1>y'all going on this week? So okay, y'all. I mentioned

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<v Speaker 1>it a couple of minutes ago, but watching they clone Tyrone.

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<v Speaker 1>I have literally been waiting for this movie to come

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<v Speaker 1>out since last year. They kept pushing it back last year.

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<v Speaker 1>October is when I saw the first trailer, and then

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<v Speaker 1>it was supposed to come out in December. Then in

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<v Speaker 1>January they said, oh, it's not coming out until July.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, man, what the fuck?

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<v Speaker 1>And then in the midst of all that, Jimmie Fox disappears.

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<v Speaker 1>So I've been saying, daycon Tyrone. I'm like, y'all, ain't

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<v Speaker 1>seen that trailer, this movie that's supposed to come out

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<v Speaker 1>since last year, not this nigga missing, Like, what the

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<v Speaker 1>hell is happening? And now you reappeared two weeks before

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<v Speaker 1>the damn movie comes out. Put a statement out the

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<v Speaker 1>week before. It could be a marketing ploy. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>but what do you think about Jamie fox reappearance and

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<v Speaker 1>being appearents.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we all getting older, we all getting sick

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<v Speaker 2>or something, because we all gonna die. Knock on one,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm healthy, y'all are not getting sick. Well, we all

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<v Speaker 2>going up out of here one way or another. Choose

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<v Speaker 2>your words carefully, all right, We all going up out

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<v Speaker 2>of here one way or another. And Jack Fox is

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<v Speaker 2>like in his fifties, and it sounded like he had

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<v Speaker 2>like maybe a stroke or something or some type of

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<v Speaker 2>illness that you know, hit him hard. And it just

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<v Speaker 2>so happened that the movie was coming out at the

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<v Speaker 2>same time. I don't think because I mean, he clearly

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<v Speaker 2>he he you know, he released the video thanking people

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<v Speaker 2>for support and going asking him to watch the movie.

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<v Speaker 2>And he clearly looks like unwell, he doesn't look like yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So I mean, so now.

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<v Speaker 1>People are putting like before and after images of Jamie

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<v Speaker 1>Fox online, and he looks to me, the current Jamie Fox.

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<v Speaker 1>He looks similar to the old one, but it looks

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<v Speaker 1>like two different people.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, if you take a screenshot of me right now

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<v Speaker 2>and then take a picture for me Saturday, you'd be

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<v Speaker 2>like they clone Tammy.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I mean it's a lot of clones on social media.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody be super filtered up chat. There's a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>clones on social media, but Jamie Fox would men usually

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<v Speaker 1>don't be with all that shit that we be doing

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<v Speaker 1>with the filters and on top of fucking makeup.

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<v Speaker 2>I just think it was the lighting. I think he's

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<v Speaker 2>still trying to heal from me because he's light skinned. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and uh and he lost some weight from whatever's going

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<v Speaker 2>on with a lot of way.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, his face, his face, his face even shapes totally different.

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<v Speaker 1>Now that's a lot of people's pointing out, like his

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<v Speaker 1>hairline and his chin area, even his nose.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, his hairline ain't never been real, so that shit

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<v Speaker 2>probably be shifting all the time, exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'd be having to draw my brows different every day. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get that hairline the same every day.

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<v Speaker 2>It might be a challenge, right, So I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>but I wish all the best of lot. Get well

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<v Speaker 2>and y'all go watch that movie. It's pretty good. It's interesting.

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<v Speaker 2>There was some loose ends for me, but overall, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to I don't want to say it because

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to spoil spoil it. Because it's still

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<v Speaker 2>just fresh out. I want people to see it, see

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<v Speaker 2>it and form their own opinion, so maybe we can

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<v Speaker 2>come back in a couple of weeks and talk about it.

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<v Speaker 2>But there was some like wait what you know moments,

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<v Speaker 2>But for the most part, it was really, really, really good.

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<v Speaker 2>I enjoyed it.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's like a hood classic. I put it

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<v Speaker 1>like with Friday and shit like that. I have watched

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<v Speaker 1>it twice now, two and a half times. I've watched

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<v Speaker 1>it because that shit got it. Y'all know, i'd be

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<v Speaker 1>on my conspiracy shit, which a lot of things are

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<v Speaker 1>no longer conspiracies, but y'all will want to agree with me.

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<v Speaker 1>It's fine, But that movie was disclosure and confirmation on

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of things. If you think that these things

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<v Speaker 1>aren't happening, then you know, you just think it's entertainment.

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<v Speaker 2>When I saw the first time, I was like, I know,

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<v Speaker 2>AJ somewhere rubbing her nipples watching this movie because this

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<v Speaker 2>is right up her alley, all the shit. But y'all

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<v Speaker 2>think it's entertainment. No, No, I think you know there's

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<v Speaker 2>some truth to all, you know, all conspiracies.

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<v Speaker 1>Just think about how stupid y'all was going during COVID

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<v Speaker 1>for the damn chicken sandwich at Popeyes fighting. But I

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<v Speaker 1>believe somebody died during that time. And I even then,

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<v Speaker 1>I was saying, man, if they wanted to do something

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<v Speaker 1>to black people collectively, just put that ship in a

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<v Speaker 1>chicken sandwich, a chicken or fish sandwich. Y'all, niggas be

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<v Speaker 1>some crab leggs sauce that god damn garlic sauce.

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<v Speaker 2>Y'all be liking the smothering somewhere. What the sandwich?

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<v Speaker 1>Give me about to say and eat it again tomorrow? Yo?

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<v Speaker 1>That's wild. Man. Let me tell y'all one thing about me.

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<v Speaker 1>When everybody doing something, I go to the other direction.

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<v Speaker 2>I ain't doing it. I'm going the other way. Man.

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<v Speaker 1>I gotta watch and see what happened to y'all motherfuckers.

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<v Speaker 2>First listen, Like as far as like vaccines and medicine,

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<v Speaker 2>you ain't gonna get me. But with the food, you

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<v Speaker 2>might motherfucking get my ass. You might fucking catch me

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<v Speaker 2>with that. Well, my boy, they putting stuff into food.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like baby d Like there is a new chicken

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<v Speaker 2>sandwich out. When you bite into a cheese, squirt in

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<v Speaker 2>your mouth. Yo. I'm here for it.

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<v Speaker 1>You remember when KFC had those double chicken sandwiches, like

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<v Speaker 1>with two chicken breasts, no bread, just the two chicken

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<v Speaker 1>sandwiches with.

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<v Speaker 2>The meat, I mean, with the vegetables and stuff in between. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>that's why Americas are fat, right, that is some.

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<v Speaker 1>Fat came up with that, and my homegirl was ordering

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<v Speaker 1>that shit every day, like, ma'am, are you well right?

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<v Speaker 2>Because they don't even sound appealing, So moving along, go ahead.

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<v Speaker 2>Over the weekend, jess Hilarious and TS Medicine had a

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<v Speaker 2>heat in exchange after the comedian reacts to trans women

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<v Speaker 2>saying CIS and not sis, but CIS women don't own

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<v Speaker 2>womanhood in periods. So ess Hilarious received some mixed reactions

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<v Speaker 2>to her comments on the trans women community. While reacting

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<v Speaker 2>to a video of what seems to be a transgender

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<v Speaker 2>woman discussing CIS women not having ownership over administration in womanhood,

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<v Speaker 2>the internet person ministration I said administration, menstruation, the government

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<v Speaker 2>administration uh. The end of that personality sparked a huge

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<v Speaker 2>online debate and prompted a response from transactivist TS Madison

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<v Speaker 2>And basically they got into it, and jess Hilarious begins

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<v Speaker 2>blasting trans women for what seems to be a rant

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<v Speaker 2>against naturally born females. The individuals argue that since women

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<v Speaker 2>are often transphobic due to the audacity and arrogance they have,

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<v Speaker 2>believing they can gate keep periods and men menstruation.

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<v Speaker 1>Men.

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<v Speaker 2>How you saying many administration periods period? I mean, this

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<v Speaker 2>is this is dumb, you know, like gate keeping womanhood

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<v Speaker 2>is like we birth y'all, you can never birth us

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<v Speaker 2>in the story. That's it. They're the shouldn't be no

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<v Speaker 2>argument because we birthed you and you can never birth us.

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<v Speaker 2>And until you can birth us, there's no conversation to

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<v Speaker 2>be had. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>You know when we was on eighty five South and

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<v Speaker 1>I even saw some of the comments on that eighty

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<v Speaker 1>five South vid YouTube video because I talked about parthiogenesis

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<v Speaker 1>and this is a process, right, Mostly Reptilians are known

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<v Speaker 1>for pro creating without the male counterpart, like the female

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<v Speaker 1>can create. If Adam and Eve were the first we

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<v Speaker 1>talked about that creation story, right, they had three sons,

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<v Speaker 1>it was Adam, Eve, and Seth. Unless the three sons

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<v Speaker 1>went back to Eve to make other people, how do

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<v Speaker 1>we create the whole world from a man? It's impossible. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So women are the gods on earth because we do

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<v Speaker 1>give life. You cannot come in a sock and create

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<v Speaker 1>a human being. Okay, but there was time and I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like we eat we might be getting back there,

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<v Speaker 1>because if you haven't noticed, the birthrate for men is

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<v Speaker 1>just males are going down. If y'all haven't looked at

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<v Speaker 1>the data, this is going down. And then on top

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<v Speaker 1>of it, especially in the black community, a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>our men are dying. They're just missing to the prison

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<v Speaker 1>system or to to to death, you know, being murdered

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<v Speaker 1>and shit like that.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, it was Adam and Eve and adamist not

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<v Speaker 2>Adam and Steve for a reason.

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<v Speaker 1>Exactly right.

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<v Speaker 2>And so we see these things and if in this

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<v Speaker 2>Christians right, if you're a Christian.

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<v Speaker 1>And you subscribe to the Bible, we are a Babylon

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<v Speaker 1>and some shit happening right now that's unexplainable. And I

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<v Speaker 1>stand with Jess hilarious one ten percent. And you can

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<v Speaker 1>call me whatever you want to call me, because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not homophobic. We're just going with the science and we're

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<v Speaker 1>going to what makes sense. I'm not homophobic, I'm not transphobic.

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<v Speaker 1>What makes sense? Men, women come from women. Y'all can't

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<v Speaker 1>exist without us. So this even go back to what's

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<v Speaker 1>name Saucy Santana was saying, we the blueprint, We're the prototype.

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<v Speaker 1>Women are the proto type. Even gay white men they

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<v Speaker 1>want to act like a Black woman when they're gay,

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<v Speaker 1>like that's just what they They naturally just start wanting

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<v Speaker 1>to act like right, did you see that video with

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<v Speaker 1>Quay mm hmmm Quays wait, Quay wait, and he's like

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<v Speaker 1>some baby mama song. He has this prosthetic bellyon. They're

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<v Speaker 1>making a mockery of black women. Yeah, I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>and we should not be okay with this shit. There

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<v Speaker 1>should be no black women not standing with Jessilarious right now.

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<v Speaker 2>That should be no woman period, not just women.

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<v Speaker 1>Und it's like, all right, enough is enough, Like it's okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you we can all coexist. Nobody's trying to take anything

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<v Speaker 1>away from them. But how can you be called a woman?

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<v Speaker 1>But we got to be called CIS women. But y'all

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<v Speaker 1>can just be a woman. No, I'm just a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>Sins is an antonym for tran that's what it is.

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<v Speaker 1>So cisgendered is heterosexual. We just women, and y'all are

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<v Speaker 1>trans women and that's okay, but I'm not about to

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<v Speaker 1>hallucinate with you, Like, at what point does the buck stop?

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<v Speaker 2>My thing is, why are y'all trying to like minimize

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<v Speaker 2>what makes us women to make y'all feel more like

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<v Speaker 2>a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>It's misogyny, that's the ego. It's a dick slang in

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<v Speaker 1>contest because these are still men. Don't nobody even hear

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<v Speaker 1>from trans men, which are biological women, right, because there's

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<v Speaker 1>still women and don't nobody give a fuck about women.

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<v Speaker 1>But you have a bunch of adult males right, pushing

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<v Speaker 1>an agenda. Because this is patriarchy. It's the high and

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<v Speaker 1>I keep saying this, this is patriarchy when a man

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<v Speaker 1>can say, bitch, i'm you because I feel like it.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't be a woman. And a lot of them

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<v Speaker 1>still have their male count. They still have their male parts,

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<v Speaker 1>So you're not really.

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<v Speaker 2>Even you haven't really transitioned, actually you know, well into it.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like, honest, even if you you know, remove

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<v Speaker 2>your male parts, you still have the what is it

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<v Speaker 2>x y xx I don't chromosome? Yeah, yeah, you still

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<v Speaker 2>have until they find a way to completely change your

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<v Speaker 2>genetic code. I don't know, right, So.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's just stick with the science and just stop, because

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, just stop altogether. I don't I think so

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<v Speaker 1>there's a lot of women who just want attention for

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<v Speaker 1>men so bad that they're okay with this happening, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>What I'm saying. They have a lot of they have

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<v Speaker 2>allies from actual women, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>May it could be because maybe these people have children

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<v Speaker 1>that are this way, or you know, adult kids, whoever.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm never going to be okay with this. I

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<v Speaker 2>stand for women, natural women. Yeah me too, I'm not.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm okay with you decide. If you wake up tomorrow

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<v Speaker 2>and you feel like a woman inside and you want

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<v Speaker 2>to be a woman, that's fine, But don't minimize what

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<v Speaker 2>makes me a woman to make you feel more like

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<v Speaker 2>a woman. And we're good. The only sense I recognize

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<v Speaker 2>is sis moving right along period poop.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, listen, you know, people be scared to talk about

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<v Speaker 1>these things. We've had an episode what is a woman

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<v Speaker 1>who did that episode before?

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<v Speaker 2>People were mad. We got some bad reviews because of

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<v Speaker 2>that episode, and that's fine. Everybody ain't gonna agree, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's just weird when it's the actual women that

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<v Speaker 1>come for you do y'all not see what's happening.

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<v Speaker 2>This is agendas. Not for you, ma'am. It's not for you.

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<v Speaker 2>So all right, let's move on to some real, stupid,

0:18:31.240 --> 0:18:35.440
<v Speaker 2>more stupid shit. The Nigerian man wanted to create a

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<v Speaker 2>Guinness World Record for the longest time crying, and he

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<v Speaker 2>went blind temporarily trying to cry. Now, I'm just trying

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<v Speaker 2>to figure out how to fuck you. Was like, you

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<v Speaker 2>woke up and you was like, I want to be

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<v Speaker 2>in the Guinness Book of World Records today. What can

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<v Speaker 2>I do? Hmmm, I'm a cry for a long ass

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<v Speaker 2>motherfucker time and get in the book. That's something with

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<v Speaker 2>that motherfucker to even want to do that. It's not

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<v Speaker 2>even a skill. It's not like I cook for one

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<v Speaker 2>hundred hours or I jog like motherfucking Forrest Gump. This

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<v Speaker 2>nigga cried.

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<v Speaker 1>This nigga cannot be trusted when I cry. I be

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<v Speaker 1>looking in the mirror and I realized how stupid I

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<v Speaker 1>look crying, So I stop. That dude was looking so

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<v Speaker 1>crazy crying.

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<v Speaker 2>I know he had a fucking headache. I know that's

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<v Speaker 2>why he went blind. Your head has to hurt, right,

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<v Speaker 2>because you're just forcing tears out of your body because

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<v Speaker 2>he was forcing that shit. I'm sorry. After some time, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>you might be crying for real thinking about all your

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<v Speaker 2>trauma stress. But then after and there's a point where

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<v Speaker 2>it's like, okay, now I'm just force. You might got

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of trauma and stress to help promote those tears. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>do they get paid for Guinness?

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<v Speaker 1>Like?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you get money for being in the Guinness worker's accolades?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think it's any money.

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<v Speaker 1>Nah?

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<v Speaker 2>Do I need to check? Have to be crying for

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<v Speaker 2>one hundred hours?

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<v Speaker 1>Crying?

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<v Speaker 2>Weird? It's a maniac cray.

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<v Speaker 1>I would not How could you even trust a man

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<v Speaker 1>like that in a relationship? Like you can't start crying randomly.

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<v Speaker 1>I love you so much.

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<v Speaker 2>I cheated because I'm hurt. I missed my grandma. Y'all

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<v Speaker 2>you remember that who said I missed my grandma? I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know who man when he got caught cheating.

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<v Speaker 1>Upset?

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<v Speaker 2>Did that?

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<v Speaker 1>Yo?

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<v Speaker 2>I cheat it because I missed my grandma. That's a

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<v Speaker 2>good one. Yeah, I would say that was just in

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<v Speaker 2>case second a nigga and I'll do something like got

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<v Speaker 2>no business, Like I'd be wearing around my neck every

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<v Speaker 2>day I miss her.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I while I was smashing, I had her on. Actually, ma'am.

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<v Speaker 2>No, the next man I am at home. The next

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<v Speaker 2>man I get. I ain't cheating on him. I promise, baby,

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<v Speaker 2>wherever you are, I'm gonna love you down. Are you

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<v Speaker 2>a cheater? You think you're a cheater. No, I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>a cheating no more. But in relationships where you're a cheater.

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<v Speaker 2>I've cheated in relationships before. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I never initiate cheating. That's one thing I don't do.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna initiate it. And I think, uh, I

0:21:39.760 --> 0:21:42.399
<v Speaker 1>can't cheat living with somebody either, Like that shit is

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<v Speaker 1>wild to me. How motherfucking leave out the house and

0:21:44.560 --> 0:21:46.920
<v Speaker 1>go cheating and come back like ain't nothing happened and

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<v Speaker 1>kiss he in my mouth.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't do that to anybody either. No, I've only

0:21:52.400 --> 0:21:54.760
<v Speaker 2>lived with one man and I didn't cheat on him.

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<v Speaker 2>But I cheated on my nigga who lived in California

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<v Speaker 2>and I was all the way into South Carolin. No,

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<v Speaker 2>I was in Atlanta and he was in LA. We

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<v Speaker 2>both think that's cheating. Yeah, Like that's a mutual cheat.

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<v Speaker 2>Chos At this point, it's a mutual cheat. I definitely

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<v Speaker 2>cheated on him. And can you hear that? Bell I

0:22:16.160 --> 0:22:18.000
<v Speaker 2>do hear that? Y'all? Tell me got a new dog?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you hear this? We can't even record no more.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry and god damn puppy, y'all in the recording,

0:22:22.640 --> 0:22:23.800
<v Speaker 1>she might as well join the team.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen. Bella is my new family member, y'all, and she

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<v Speaker 2>I almost heated that bitch over the side of the

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<v Speaker 2>back of the y'all. I ain't been able to get

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<v Speaker 2>no mother fucking sleep. I really feel like a new mom.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna have to take that bell off. I'll take

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<v Speaker 2>it off before we record next week, so y'all won't

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<v Speaker 2>hear it next time.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she just took the Christmas tree down. Now she

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<v Speaker 1>got bells in the goddamn mouse.

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<v Speaker 2>What is happening? Santa Claus and the ghetto, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Look, this week were talking about fuck it, the power

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<v Speaker 1>of saying fuck it.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen.

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<v Speaker 1>I had a fucking moment this weekend, but I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>do it. I didn't take the I didn't take the

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<v Speaker 1>high road to say fucking and just ignore Nigga. I

0:23:05.000 --> 0:23:08.200
<v Speaker 1>had got a random ass text message from it from

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<v Speaker 1>an ex about some random shit from twenty twenty and

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<v Speaker 1>you took the band, I took the demon bait and

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<v Speaker 1>I responded gracefully. I was like, you know, our perception

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<v Speaker 1>and perspective of how our relationship with and what transpart

0:23:24.600 --> 0:23:26.840
<v Speaker 1>in our relationship is obviously different.

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<v Speaker 2>Was it after your hold on? Was this after you

0:23:29.560 --> 0:23:34.040
<v Speaker 2>posted your video of you dancing? Absolutely? What did I

0:23:34.119 --> 0:23:34.399
<v Speaker 2>tell you?

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<v Speaker 1>What did I But for the record, I don't do

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<v Speaker 1>nothing for that nigga. I don't do nothing for no nigga.

0:23:42.000 --> 0:23:43.879
<v Speaker 1>I do shit for the current nigga. I don't do

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<v Speaker 1>nothing for no previous niggas.

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<v Speaker 2>Not But when I saw that video you was looking

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<v Speaker 2>finally said, I was like, Oh, niggas is about to

0:23:51.080 --> 0:23:54.520
<v Speaker 2>pop up. Niggas is about the pop up. I'm like, God,

0:23:54.680 --> 0:23:59.480
<v Speaker 2>what it's Sunday? Are you well, sir? Like if you

0:23:59.600 --> 0:24:03.639
<v Speaker 2>are being fine without me, I hate you come in

0:24:04.600 --> 0:24:08.040
<v Speaker 2>dis wort some shit, and.

0:24:08.119 --> 0:24:10.159
<v Speaker 1>You know before I would be like super triggered. I

0:24:10.240 --> 0:24:12.240
<v Speaker 1>wasn't triggered about it, but I did give him. I

0:24:12.400 --> 0:24:14.880
<v Speaker 1>fed that thing in him right that probably just wanted

0:24:14.920 --> 0:24:16.480
<v Speaker 1>to fuck with me for the day. But I wasn't

0:24:16.840 --> 0:24:19.400
<v Speaker 1>fucked with though, So I might be doing a little

0:24:19.400 --> 0:24:22.720
<v Speaker 1>bit better, right, you know what I'm saying, Like, I'm like,

0:24:22.760 --> 0:24:26.159
<v Speaker 1>I hope you're doing well in your current relationship. I

0:24:26.200 --> 0:24:28.919
<v Speaker 1>hope everything's doing better now because we didn't bring out

0:24:28.960 --> 0:24:29.679
<v Speaker 1>the best in each other.

0:24:30.200 --> 0:24:34.120
<v Speaker 2>And I'm okay with that. Are you can you move

0:24:34.200 --> 0:24:38.760
<v Speaker 2>on happily at some point? Right? I'm happy? So I

0:24:38.800 --> 0:24:42.040
<v Speaker 2>don't know. All right, y'all, Well to you, my nigga.

0:24:42.440 --> 0:24:43.960
<v Speaker 2>We'll be right back with some more fuckers.

0:24:48.359 --> 0:24:51.800
<v Speaker 1>Y'all were back, okay, And you know, today I wanted

0:24:51.800 --> 0:24:55.560
<v Speaker 1>to have a conversation about just fucking life, you know

0:24:55.600 --> 0:24:57.480
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, because life be life and like that's

0:24:57.560 --> 0:24:59.840
<v Speaker 1>a real famous phrase.

0:25:01.080 --> 0:25:03.239
<v Speaker 2>I feel like she had since COVID for real, bro,

0:25:03.560 --> 0:25:07.480
<v Speaker 2>life be lifing. Life has been. Life is so much likely.

0:25:08.000 --> 0:25:10.120
<v Speaker 2>If it ain't one thing, it's another. I just feel

0:25:10.119 --> 0:25:13.040
<v Speaker 2>like it's not enough time to even process one thing

0:25:13.640 --> 0:25:16.920
<v Speaker 2>before the next thing it has come, you know, basically.

0:25:18.800 --> 0:25:21.679
<v Speaker 2>But I mean, there's ways to cope with life, right.

0:25:21.840 --> 0:25:23.600
<v Speaker 2>But I saw this thing. I saw this meme. It

0:25:23.680 --> 0:25:26.720
<v Speaker 2>said life be lifing. But God be godden, it is true.

0:25:27.560 --> 0:25:30.400
<v Speaker 2>Like I won't put nothing on you that you can't handle.

0:25:30.119 --> 0:25:32.160
<v Speaker 1>Or you should see some of that should be having

0:25:32.320 --> 0:25:35.159
<v Speaker 1>hands dog, It really be having hands.

0:25:37.400 --> 0:25:41.000
<v Speaker 2>Look like, all right, tell me one thing like that's

0:25:41.080 --> 0:25:43.000
<v Speaker 2>going on right now in your life that you're like

0:25:44.480 --> 0:25:45.320
<v Speaker 2>this too much?

0:25:46.680 --> 0:25:51.000
<v Speaker 1>Nothing really like right now at this moment, Nah, nothing

0:25:51.040 --> 0:25:55.080
<v Speaker 1>I can't handle. I feel like it's a it's when

0:25:55.119 --> 0:25:58.639
<v Speaker 1>you single should just be going a little bit easier.

0:26:00.640 --> 0:26:03.080
<v Speaker 1>I feel like, yes, I feel like I do my

0:26:03.240 --> 0:26:05.640
<v Speaker 1>best when I'm by my damn self. For the most part,

0:26:05.760 --> 0:26:07.720
<v Speaker 1>it's usually when I'm in a relationship, I be feeling

0:26:07.760 --> 0:26:10.359
<v Speaker 1>like life be lifing because now you're not just having

0:26:10.400 --> 0:26:12.560
<v Speaker 1>to consider yourself, you got to consider somebody else.

0:26:12.960 --> 0:26:15.840
<v Speaker 2>You know what. Yeah, I think all my things that

0:26:15.920 --> 0:26:18.800
<v Speaker 2>are really affecting my life is honestly other people shit,

0:26:18.960 --> 0:26:22.359
<v Speaker 2>Like exactly, have a friend who's really really sick with

0:26:22.520 --> 0:26:27.760
<v Speaker 2>cancer right now. My dad has depression, he's you know,

0:26:28.000 --> 0:26:31.240
<v Speaker 2>trying to get through that. And I just think those things,

0:26:31.320 --> 0:26:34.800
<v Speaker 2>even though they're not directly my shit, it affects me

0:26:34.880 --> 0:26:37.879
<v Speaker 2>in such a huge, huge, huge way, and it'd be

0:26:38.000 --> 0:26:39.800
<v Speaker 2>making me feel like life be lifing. And then I

0:26:39.840 --> 0:26:44.160
<v Speaker 2>feel like I oftentimes I'm extending myself to so many

0:26:44.240 --> 0:26:46.320
<v Speaker 2>people all the time that when I look up, like damn,

0:26:46.359 --> 0:26:49.600
<v Speaker 2>I have not even poured into myself at all, exactly.

0:26:49.880 --> 0:26:50.600
<v Speaker 2>That's what I'm saying.

0:26:51.400 --> 0:26:53.280
<v Speaker 1>So you're gonna try to find a way to like

0:26:53.400 --> 0:26:57.680
<v Speaker 1>transmute all our energy, because we know for sure that

0:26:57.880 --> 0:27:02.160
<v Speaker 1>stress causes a lot of illnesses. So you gotta find

0:27:02.240 --> 0:27:04.359
<v Speaker 1>some type of way to deal with stress, maybe your

0:27:04.440 --> 0:27:07.280
<v Speaker 1>own or some stress that somebody is imposing on you,

0:27:08.080 --> 0:27:10.920
<v Speaker 1>somebody else's stress. You gotta find a way to like

0:27:11.080 --> 0:27:11.680
<v Speaker 1>transmute it.

0:27:12.040 --> 0:27:13.840
<v Speaker 2>So I you know, I did a lot of research.

0:27:17.600 --> 0:27:19.760
<v Speaker 2>You know, we like to the internet.

0:27:19.880 --> 0:27:22.919
<v Speaker 1>The cell phone is like a whole computer at your

0:27:22.960 --> 0:27:25.160
<v Speaker 1>fucking fingertips, right, So anything you want to figure out,

0:27:25.720 --> 0:27:28.480
<v Speaker 1>you can pretty much find it. And this is a

0:27:28.520 --> 0:27:31.200
<v Speaker 1>book that I have. It's called The Power of Not

0:27:31.320 --> 0:27:35.960
<v Speaker 1>Giving a Fuck. I've literally I've had this tattoo on

0:27:36.000 --> 0:27:37.960
<v Speaker 1>my finger and my middle finger on my right hand

0:27:38.800 --> 0:27:42.440
<v Speaker 1>since I was probably, like I don't know, twenty four.

0:27:43.480 --> 0:27:47.160
<v Speaker 2>I was living in Atlanta. I went to I went

0:27:47.200 --> 0:27:47.480
<v Speaker 2>to a.

0:27:49.160 --> 0:27:52.199
<v Speaker 1>Tattoo house party, and everybody was in there getting all

0:27:52.240 --> 0:27:54.280
<v Speaker 1>these big dumb ass tattoos.

0:27:54.320 --> 0:27:56.240
<v Speaker 2>I literally thought about this tattoo.

0:27:55.880 --> 0:28:00.280
<v Speaker 1>For many years, like I'm gonna get apostrophe em on

0:28:00.359 --> 0:28:02.359
<v Speaker 1>my fucking finger, on my middle finger, because things I

0:28:02.440 --> 0:28:05.240
<v Speaker 1>can't control is for real, fuck them, like you can't

0:28:05.280 --> 0:28:08.320
<v Speaker 1>let shit faster that you can't control. It's the little

0:28:08.359 --> 0:28:10.720
<v Speaker 1>things that stress me to fuck out big things. I

0:28:10.880 --> 0:28:12.440
<v Speaker 1>just be like, damn, I gotta deal with it, like

0:28:12.520 --> 0:28:15.760
<v Speaker 1>it's not going away. The longer you wait, it's gonna

0:28:15.760 --> 0:28:19.000
<v Speaker 1>get bigger. So handle it today. It's little things. Give

0:28:19.040 --> 0:28:25.280
<v Speaker 1>an example that stressed me out. I can't even think

0:28:25.320 --> 0:28:28.200
<v Speaker 1>of nothing because they just be so fucking minuscule, Like, bitch.

0:28:28.040 --> 0:28:30.959
<v Speaker 2>Why is you tripping? You know what? A little thing

0:28:31.040 --> 0:28:35.840
<v Speaker 2>that I can think of that gives me stress is

0:28:36.119 --> 0:28:38.520
<v Speaker 2>getting older. That's stressful to you.

0:28:39.160 --> 0:28:42.000
<v Speaker 1>It has been the only stressful thing to me about

0:28:42.040 --> 0:28:43.600
<v Speaker 1>getting older is not being a millionaire.

0:28:43.640 --> 0:28:43.800
<v Speaker 2>Yet.

0:28:44.320 --> 0:28:46.160
<v Speaker 1>I don't give a fuck about getting old. I just

0:28:46.240 --> 0:28:48.040
<v Speaker 1>want to enjoy life while I'm living.

0:28:48.120 --> 0:28:50.920
<v Speaker 2>Though. Let me tell you something. I did a cartwheel

0:28:51.240 --> 0:28:54.440
<v Speaker 2>the other day as a bit and this right shoulder

0:28:55.360 --> 0:28:58.400
<v Speaker 2>just now it ain't been the same sense, my nigga, Like,

0:28:58.840 --> 0:29:02.520
<v Speaker 2>little shit like that is getting different. No, hang in

0:29:02.600 --> 0:29:02.920
<v Speaker 2>line now.

0:29:02.960 --> 0:29:05.320
<v Speaker 1>I was walking down some steps earlier at my friend's house,

0:29:05.360 --> 0:29:07.640
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, why the fuck is my knees stole hurt?

0:29:07.680 --> 0:29:10.240
<v Speaker 2>And bitch, I was riding dick so crazy earlier last

0:29:10.320 --> 0:29:16.400
<v Speaker 2>week my knee stove fucking hurt. On top of that,

0:29:17.440 --> 0:29:18.560
<v Speaker 2>it wasn't even a wrong.

0:29:18.800 --> 0:29:20.960
<v Speaker 1>It's just my knees be like the pressure beat in

0:29:21.000 --> 0:29:23.480
<v Speaker 1>the band and using that nigga chest to do all.

0:29:23.400 --> 0:29:27.760
<v Speaker 2>Type of shit. I told you I was in a

0:29:27.880 --> 0:29:33.560
<v Speaker 2>questrian You now my knees hurt? Yeah, like that, just

0:29:33.680 --> 0:29:36.840
<v Speaker 2>getting hurt. I need to ice my knees. Man going

0:29:36.880 --> 0:29:39.320
<v Speaker 2>to sleep fine and waking up with new ship wrong?

0:29:39.640 --> 0:29:41.800
<v Speaker 2>How did I hurt myself and my mother fucking sleep?

0:29:41.920 --> 0:29:45.000
<v Speaker 1>No, that's how you know you plus thirty because when

0:29:45.040 --> 0:29:49.040
<v Speaker 1>you just fucking stand up and break something wrong.

0:29:51.640 --> 0:29:53.720
<v Speaker 2>When I go drinking, I like, I'll be sitting on

0:29:53.800 --> 0:29:55.960
<v Speaker 2>the top of the couch and party. I still got

0:29:56.040 --> 0:29:59.200
<v Speaker 2>it two days to get back straight. Two days later.

0:30:00.760 --> 0:30:02.880
<v Speaker 2>It takes two days. I don't like that. So getting

0:30:02.920 --> 0:30:05.600
<v Speaker 2>older has been stressful for me. That part, and then

0:30:05.640 --> 0:30:08.840
<v Speaker 2>the fact that i'm you know, even though my age

0:30:08.920 --> 0:30:16.880
<v Speaker 2>is really fluid, hold your figure up. Fuck them, I'm

0:30:16.960 --> 0:30:20.240
<v Speaker 2>not married, I don't have kids like I just feel

0:30:20.280 --> 0:30:22.320
<v Speaker 2>like some of these things I should have done by

0:30:22.480 --> 0:30:25.200
<v Speaker 2>this stage in my life. And that is that what's

0:30:25.200 --> 0:30:28.120
<v Speaker 2>stressing you up, Yo, that does bring me stress, Like,

0:30:28.240 --> 0:30:30.520
<v Speaker 2>and I'm still single, Like, I'd be like, am I'm outside,

0:30:30.600 --> 0:30:32.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm singing. I ain't got those problems y'all got. And

0:30:32.600 --> 0:30:34.680
<v Speaker 2>then when I'm sitting at the house at my trade table,

0:30:35.040 --> 0:30:36.960
<v Speaker 2>eating my little meal by myself.

0:30:36.680 --> 0:30:43.000
<v Speaker 1>I'd be like, lord, real body, please, Now, I do

0:30:43.120 --> 0:30:45.360
<v Speaker 1>want to be in a relationship. I am a relationship

0:30:45.800 --> 0:30:48.320
<v Speaker 1>prone person, even if I be doing like some little

0:30:48.880 --> 0:30:51.040
<v Speaker 1>shit in between time. But for the most part, I

0:30:51.240 --> 0:30:52.720
<v Speaker 1>like to be in relationious. I don't really don't like

0:30:52.800 --> 0:30:55.280
<v Speaker 1>being by myself. I like being outside right.

0:30:55.400 --> 0:30:59.080
<v Speaker 2>But but the kids thing, I don't regret not having

0:30:59.240 --> 0:31:00.280
<v Speaker 2>kids earlier.

0:31:00.160 --> 0:31:01.760
<v Speaker 1>Because I was just having a conversation with one of

0:31:01.840 --> 0:31:05.360
<v Speaker 1>my best friends today and we were talking about like kids,

0:31:05.440 --> 0:31:08.280
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, when you there's some things you don't see

0:31:08.360 --> 0:31:11.560
<v Speaker 1>until you get older, right, So I feel like I

0:31:11.680 --> 0:31:12.320
<v Speaker 1>watch parents.

0:31:12.480 --> 0:31:14.080
<v Speaker 2>I watch people parent all the time, and.

0:31:14.080 --> 0:31:17.480
<v Speaker 1>I'd be like, y'all are terrible. The fuck why y'all?

0:31:17.560 --> 0:31:19.480
<v Speaker 1>Like why you get so aggravated with your kid? Like

0:31:19.600 --> 0:31:22.000
<v Speaker 1>I feel like kids, the longer you take to have kids,

0:31:22.080 --> 0:31:24.520
<v Speaker 1>you realize how much of a gift they actually are.

0:31:25.080 --> 0:31:27.520
<v Speaker 1>Like people who could just spit a baby out. They

0:31:27.680 --> 0:31:31.520
<v Speaker 1>don't recognize that you're not the gift to that kid.

0:31:31.640 --> 0:31:32.560
<v Speaker 1>That kid is a gift to you.

0:31:33.000 --> 0:31:35.480
<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I know a lot of mothers that

0:31:35.560 --> 0:31:39.080
<v Speaker 2>are absolutely in love with their skiing some that's and

0:31:39.160 --> 0:31:42.880
<v Speaker 2>how older a kid are you talking about, like twenty

0:31:42.920 --> 0:31:43.480
<v Speaker 2>two year old?

0:31:43.720 --> 0:31:49.200
<v Speaker 1>Yes, they like I don't believe in postpartum. I believe

0:31:49.280 --> 0:31:51.720
<v Speaker 1>that a lot of times women just don't have the support.

0:31:52.040 --> 0:31:54.560
<v Speaker 1>That's where the stress comes from after having a baby.

0:31:54.920 --> 0:31:56.720
<v Speaker 1>If you got a man that'll rub your back and

0:31:56.800 --> 0:31:58.719
<v Speaker 1>rub your feet and love on you after you had

0:31:58.760 --> 0:32:01.400
<v Speaker 1>I saw a pit bull. The pit bull was laying

0:32:01.480 --> 0:32:04.600
<v Speaker 1>behind this bitch while she was breastfeeding the kids, and

0:32:04.720 --> 0:32:09.360
<v Speaker 1>she looks so comfortable and stress free. That's where I

0:32:09.480 --> 0:32:13.400
<v Speaker 1>think a postpartum situation manifest when you don't have help.

0:32:13.760 --> 0:32:16.600
<v Speaker 2>Well not, I mean, you know I have. I've seen

0:32:16.680 --> 0:32:20.200
<v Speaker 2>where one of my friends she suffered from postpartum really bad,

0:32:20.240 --> 0:32:23.720
<v Speaker 2>and she had a huge, like huge support system. Like

0:32:24.200 --> 0:32:26.640
<v Speaker 2>it wasn't from the band though, yeah, it was her man,

0:32:27.040 --> 0:32:29.840
<v Speaker 2>his sister. He had a bunch of sisters, mom, her mom,

0:32:30.000 --> 0:32:32.880
<v Speaker 2>her sisters, everybody was, you know, there to help, and

0:32:33.000 --> 0:32:36.720
<v Speaker 2>she just did not feel connection to her baby, and

0:32:36.800 --> 0:32:39.560
<v Speaker 2>she just and then that made her feel even more sad. Right,

0:32:39.600 --> 0:32:42.080
<v Speaker 2>I can imagine why do I feel this way? Why

0:32:42.160 --> 0:32:44.840
<v Speaker 2>do I not? So I don't know. It could like

0:32:44.880 --> 0:32:47.880
<v Speaker 2>what you're saying is probably true, and that does happen sometimes,

0:32:48.240 --> 0:32:50.720
<v Speaker 2>But there are times that it's just some chemical imbalance

0:32:50.800 --> 0:32:54.000
<v Speaker 2>within a woman that happens after pregnancy, that I mean,

0:32:54.080 --> 0:32:56.280
<v Speaker 2>after childbirth that causes this some time.

0:32:56.360 --> 0:32:57.920
<v Speaker 1>You know, I kind of fear that, like because I

0:32:58.040 --> 0:33:00.640
<v Speaker 1>know if I had and this is just being open,

0:33:00.800 --> 0:33:05.400
<v Speaker 1>completely honest and transparent. So I don't want to say

0:33:05.400 --> 0:33:07.600
<v Speaker 1>I have fertility issues, but I don't have any kids,

0:33:07.680 --> 0:33:11.120
<v Speaker 1>and I have had problems not conceiving but carrying. Right,

0:33:11.680 --> 0:33:15.360
<v Speaker 1>So I think sometimes like if I do in vitro,

0:33:15.440 --> 0:33:18.840
<v Speaker 1>will I feel connected to the baby, because that's like GMO.

0:33:22.320 --> 0:33:24.560
<v Speaker 2>Baby all what is it? All? Right? I don't even

0:33:24.600 --> 0:33:26.080
<v Speaker 2>know exactly what in vitro.

0:33:26.800 --> 0:33:29.480
<v Speaker 1>And so it's when you take the sperm and you

0:33:29.640 --> 0:33:33.479
<v Speaker 1>fertilize the egg inside your No, so if you can

0:33:33.520 --> 0:33:36.440
<v Speaker 1>go so the other process, like if people freeze their

0:33:36.480 --> 0:33:38.800
<v Speaker 1>eggs and stuff like that, they would do and like,

0:33:39.280 --> 0:33:41.800
<v Speaker 1>but that's out of uterol, so they would inject the

0:33:41.880 --> 0:33:44.240
<v Speaker 1>sperm into the and then put it in your and

0:33:44.240 --> 0:33:49.320
<v Speaker 1>then insert it and then transplant it to your your uterus.

0:33:49.640 --> 0:33:52.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well that doesn't technically count because I mean, it's

0:33:52.920 --> 0:33:55.320
<v Speaker 2>still growing inside you. I think once they start a

0:33:55.360 --> 0:33:57.120
<v Speaker 2>growing baby in the incubus.

0:33:57.400 --> 0:34:01.040
<v Speaker 1>Incubator, Why are you still talk about That's a mama

0:34:01.120 --> 0:34:04.320
<v Speaker 1>outside right now yelling at her fucking kid be gray

0:34:04.480 --> 0:34:05.440
<v Speaker 1>home for the babies.

0:34:07.240 --> 0:34:09.520
<v Speaker 2>She grateful for that baby. Don't you see them in

0:34:09.600 --> 0:34:15.080
<v Speaker 2>there doing the podcasts up? Get your ass back here.

0:34:16.800 --> 0:34:18.479
<v Speaker 2>They be frustrated with the kids.

0:34:18.560 --> 0:34:20.680
<v Speaker 1>Man, I don't be liking that because kids have half

0:34:20.719 --> 0:34:23.600
<v Speaker 1>the life life experience of adults. So you can't put

0:34:23.640 --> 0:34:26.439
<v Speaker 1>them on a pedestal and expect them to be better

0:34:26.600 --> 0:34:28.840
<v Speaker 1>than you. Obviously you want your kids to grow up

0:34:28.880 --> 0:34:31.840
<v Speaker 1>to be better than you, but they gotta.

0:34:31.640 --> 0:34:34.000
<v Speaker 2>Get They got to give them some grades. Yeah, I

0:34:34.120 --> 0:34:34.600
<v Speaker 2>agree there.

0:34:35.040 --> 0:34:37.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So y'all, life be lifing and the power of

0:34:37.640 --> 0:34:41.240
<v Speaker 1>fuck it is amazing. Right, So things you can't control,

0:34:42.040 --> 0:34:46.359
<v Speaker 1>fuck it right. So this article I read, I took

0:34:46.400 --> 0:34:49.279
<v Speaker 1>a lot of notes from it to try and give

0:34:49.440 --> 0:34:55.319
<v Speaker 1>people ways to deal with challenging or overwhelming situations.

0:34:55.400 --> 0:34:56.840
<v Speaker 2>While life be fucking lifing.

0:34:57.520 --> 0:35:00.400
<v Speaker 1>So The first one is take a step back, pause

0:35:00.640 --> 0:35:03.600
<v Speaker 1>and give yourself some space to reflect on the situation,

0:35:04.400 --> 0:35:08.080
<v Speaker 1>assess what specifically is causing you distress or difficulty, and

0:35:08.200 --> 0:35:11.240
<v Speaker 1>try to gain a broader perspective on the situation.

0:35:12.080 --> 0:35:14.800
<v Speaker 2>So I know, I be that's hard for me.

0:35:15.480 --> 0:35:17.320
<v Speaker 1>It's hard for me too, bitch, because I be on

0:35:17.520 --> 0:35:20.640
<v Speaker 1>go in my brain too. So sometimes if you do

0:35:20.840 --> 0:35:23.800
<v Speaker 1>take a moment to just shut the fuck up in

0:35:23.840 --> 0:35:25.680
<v Speaker 1>your mind, just as.

0:35:25.560 --> 0:35:27.880
<v Speaker 2>We talk bag So I don't know if that's possible

0:35:27.920 --> 0:35:28.080
<v Speaker 2>for it.

0:35:28.160 --> 0:35:29.719
<v Speaker 1>But did I not just tell you recently that I'm

0:35:29.760 --> 0:35:32.239
<v Speaker 1>tired of fucking talking though, Like if we talk back,

0:35:32.280 --> 0:35:34.960
<v Speaker 1>but if picture is tired of talking, I'm tired of it.

0:35:36.480 --> 0:35:39.719
<v Speaker 2>It's stressful. That's something I really could work on. It's

0:35:39.840 --> 0:35:42.640
<v Speaker 2>just because sometimes in hindsight, I'll be like, damn, I

0:35:42.719 --> 0:35:45.399
<v Speaker 2>could have just shut up. I could just shut up, really,

0:35:45.480 --> 0:35:47.919
<v Speaker 2>and it would have just saved me, And it would

0:35:47.960 --> 0:35:49.960
<v Speaker 2>have just saved me so much stress to just not

0:35:50.719 --> 0:35:51.279
<v Speaker 2>even bother.

0:35:51.560 --> 0:35:54.680
<v Speaker 1>I always say that sometimes it's okay to shut the

0:35:54.719 --> 0:35:57.560
<v Speaker 1>fuck up, you know, sometimes it's okay not to say anything.

0:35:58.280 --> 0:36:01.320
<v Speaker 1>One of my exes dog, he just felt impaled to

0:36:01.560 --> 0:36:05.320
<v Speaker 1>just tell people what he thought about them or just

0:36:06.239 --> 0:36:08.800
<v Speaker 1>just talking shit. I'm like dogs, sometimes it's okay to

0:36:08.800 --> 0:36:11.200
<v Speaker 1>shut the fuck up. You like, who the fuck are you?

0:36:11.800 --> 0:36:14.200
<v Speaker 2>I have this one friend that he we talk all

0:36:14.280 --> 0:36:17.040
<v Speaker 2>the time, but he just irks. Oh do I know

0:36:17.160 --> 0:36:24.160
<v Speaker 2>this friend? He probably irk my nerves too. Sometimes I

0:36:24.280 --> 0:36:26.960
<v Speaker 2>talk to him just so I could go off on him,

0:36:27.320 --> 0:36:30.360
<v Speaker 2>because need somebody to go off on. You know, he

0:36:30.560 --> 0:36:32.799
<v Speaker 2>gonna say something. It's gonna take me there.

0:36:33.000 --> 0:36:35.680
<v Speaker 1>Now, that's feeding the toxicciety you. Now, if you know that,

0:36:35.880 --> 0:36:38.200
<v Speaker 1>you can get that thing, and you fed by talking

0:36:38.239 --> 0:36:40.880
<v Speaker 1>to this person because me, I'm not talking to them. No,

0:36:41.120 --> 0:36:46.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm not talking to anybody that causes me anxiety, unnecessary stress.

0:36:46.440 --> 0:36:48.440
<v Speaker 1>Like I want to disconnect from your ass immediately.

0:36:48.840 --> 0:36:51.520
<v Speaker 2>We'll go back and forth. I'm like, oh, I feel

0:36:51.560 --> 0:36:54.840
<v Speaker 2>so much better. That is toxic bitch. It's up, won't you?

0:36:57.320 --> 0:37:00.399
<v Speaker 2>But do y'all hear this. I just want y'all to knows.

0:37:00.400 --> 0:37:04.520
<v Speaker 2>Do y'all hear this? All right? So when you see debates,

0:37:04.719 --> 0:37:07.120
<v Speaker 2>it'll be like great debates. You know, you know his

0:37:07.320 --> 0:37:08.520
<v Speaker 2>debates do not be great?

0:37:08.680 --> 0:37:11.680
<v Speaker 1>Dog like the And I hope you hear this, nigga,

0:37:11.719 --> 0:37:14.480
<v Speaker 1>so you can leave us alone sometime, but he won't

0:37:14.560 --> 0:37:17.960
<v Speaker 1>send like post it's raining y'all anyway. He will send

0:37:18.080 --> 0:37:23.760
<v Speaker 1>post online with a paragraph attached to it seven o'clock

0:37:23.800 --> 0:37:26.640
<v Speaker 1>in the morning, like did you even brush your teeth yet?

0:37:27.480 --> 0:37:31.560
<v Speaker 2>And you want to debate me about some ship early

0:37:31.600 --> 0:37:32.359
<v Speaker 2>in the fucking morning.

0:37:33.000 --> 0:37:37.439
<v Speaker 1>It's to the point I'd be like, okay, now, don't

0:37:37.480 --> 0:37:42.080
<v Speaker 1>think just because I say okay that you're right, piece, I'd.

0:37:42.000 --> 0:37:44.640
<v Speaker 2>Be like, you know what, you picked the right motherfucking

0:37:44.760 --> 0:37:49.680
<v Speaker 2>day for this, my whole soul. I don't like to

0:37:49.840 --> 0:37:52.759
<v Speaker 2>argue to be a text which I'm calling, so I

0:37:52.800 --> 0:37:53.959
<v Speaker 2>don't talk to him on the phone.

0:37:54.000 --> 0:37:58.040
<v Speaker 1>It's just goddamn Instagram. So yeah, like he's definitely stressful.

0:37:58.080 --> 0:38:00.480
<v Speaker 1>But even in those situations, if we just take this

0:38:00.680 --> 0:38:04.440
<v Speaker 1>take a step back, yes, but you said you take

0:38:04.480 --> 0:38:05.759
<v Speaker 1>the step forward because you like.

0:38:05.840 --> 0:38:10.160
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes sometimes ready like let's go, this is going to

0:38:10.200 --> 0:38:13.800
<v Speaker 2>help me release some pent up stress arguing with you

0:38:14.000 --> 0:38:19.560
<v Speaker 2>about something that affects the stupid ship. The earth is round.

0:38:21.160 --> 0:38:22.840
<v Speaker 1>Let me tell you, y'all about I'll last argument me

0:38:22.880 --> 0:38:31.319
<v Speaker 1>and this nigga. He sent me an article about paternity testing, right,

0:38:31.360 --> 0:38:31.799
<v Speaker 1>did he say?

0:38:32.760 --> 0:38:33.040
<v Speaker 2>Okay?

0:38:33.160 --> 0:38:36.560
<v Speaker 1>So he sent an article about paternity testing. And you know,

0:38:36.680 --> 0:38:39.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm a real life, matter of fact type person, like,

0:38:40.000 --> 0:38:41.160
<v Speaker 1>that's why I researched.

0:38:41.200 --> 0:38:42.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna read.

0:38:42.120 --> 0:38:44.800
<v Speaker 1>So I don't like, you know, people say all the

0:38:44.880 --> 0:38:48.160
<v Speaker 1>time I be spreading misinformation. Nah, bitch, you just hadn't

0:38:48.520 --> 0:38:52.239
<v Speaker 1>seen it yet, right. So he sent me some ship

0:38:52.280 --> 0:38:54.040
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, I don't like when people.

0:38:53.920 --> 0:38:55.400
<v Speaker 2>Throw out data and statistics.

0:38:56.280 --> 0:38:58.840
<v Speaker 1>Please send me your source. Don't just say, oh, a

0:38:58.920 --> 0:39:01.520
<v Speaker 1>ten percent of women and shit, Like I don't want.

0:39:01.360 --> 0:39:03.600
<v Speaker 2>To hear that. I need the source.

0:39:04.000 --> 0:39:07.480
<v Speaker 1>So basically it was on paternity right, a girl was

0:39:07.480 --> 0:39:11.279
<v Speaker 1>saying she knew a guy who worked at a paternity

0:39:11.760 --> 0:39:15.120
<v Speaker 1>clinic or blood testing site and he quit because of

0:39:15.200 --> 0:39:18.840
<v Speaker 1>the stress of having to counsel couples after the baby

0:39:18.880 --> 0:39:19.239
<v Speaker 1>come back.

0:39:19.400 --> 0:39:21.080
<v Speaker 2>Not the guys, right, And.

0:39:21.440 --> 0:39:23.239
<v Speaker 1>She was basically saying that the guy was like, it's

0:39:23.360 --> 0:39:27.759
<v Speaker 1>forty percent of the time, it's not the man's baby

0:39:27.800 --> 0:39:29.120
<v Speaker 1>who's getting the paternity test.

0:39:29.400 --> 0:39:32.239
<v Speaker 2>So my thing to our friend was, this is not

0:39:32.840 --> 0:39:35.120
<v Speaker 2>forty percent of all pregnancies.

0:39:35.239 --> 0:39:37.759
<v Speaker 1>This is just the people who go get tested because

0:39:37.760 --> 0:39:39.480
<v Speaker 1>they feel like they need to get tested for the

0:39:39.600 --> 0:39:44.400
<v Speaker 1>fucking kid. Then, after arguing him and going back and

0:39:44.520 --> 0:39:47.160
<v Speaker 1>forth about why people should get I don't disagree with

0:39:47.160 --> 0:39:48.960
<v Speaker 1>that man should get their kids tested.

0:39:49.040 --> 0:39:49.800
<v Speaker 2>I don't disagree.

0:39:50.239 --> 0:39:53.160
<v Speaker 1>Shit be look, life be lifing. The only difference between

0:39:53.239 --> 0:39:55.839
<v Speaker 1>men and women is that we can get pregnant, all right.

0:39:56.400 --> 0:39:58.279
<v Speaker 1>If Megan get pregnant, they would have a bunch of

0:39:58.360 --> 0:39:59.719
<v Speaker 1>babies that don't belong to that bait.

0:40:02.400 --> 0:40:03.960
<v Speaker 2>If I had addicted day, I would get a.

0:40:03.960 --> 0:40:07.759
<v Speaker 1>Lot of y'all niggas pregnant and leave would Yes, I was,

0:40:08.400 --> 0:40:12.920
<v Speaker 1>I'll be a daddy. Daddy, just a good lesson. Now

0:40:13.000 --> 0:40:19.520
<v Speaker 1>you would be a good father. But shortly after the

0:40:19.640 --> 0:40:21.800
<v Speaker 1>damn video, we're all off topic. But it's funny. So

0:40:22.080 --> 0:40:24.360
<v Speaker 1>shortly after the video, I'm looking on Instagram and here

0:40:24.400 --> 0:40:29.000
<v Speaker 1>come a post. It's aid the fucking judge, one of

0:40:29.080 --> 0:40:32.520
<v Speaker 1>them judge shows it's a black guy on him. He's

0:40:32.520 --> 0:40:36.000
<v Speaker 1>not about a diagram to the motherfucking courts to show

0:40:36.120 --> 0:40:40.200
<v Speaker 1>how all his kids got this particular eyebrow arch. And

0:40:40.440 --> 0:40:42.680
<v Speaker 1>he's saying he got seven kids. He said, all seven

0:40:42.719 --> 0:40:45.760
<v Speaker 1>of my kids got this eyebrow arch. That's not my baby.

0:40:45.800 --> 0:40:48.279
<v Speaker 1>I mean, the court's laughing, the judge laughing at his ass.

0:40:49.239 --> 0:40:52.440
<v Speaker 1>It's one lady, one baby. And he's like, that baby

0:40:52.640 --> 0:40:53.759
<v Speaker 1>isn't mine. He's seven kids.

0:40:53.840 --> 0:40:55.719
<v Speaker 2>These are my kids. That baby is not my baby.

0:40:55.719 --> 0:40:58.640
<v Speaker 1>They laughing, like the judge going in on his ass.

0:40:59.640 --> 0:41:03.080
<v Speaker 1>Bitch came back from commercial. You are not the father

0:41:03.320 --> 0:41:06.120
<v Speaker 1>he was, and I said that the old boy, it

0:41:06.239 --> 0:41:06.719
<v Speaker 1>ain't mine.

0:41:06.800 --> 0:41:10.640
<v Speaker 2>He knew what his kids look like. You know, at

0:41:10.680 --> 0:41:14.040
<v Speaker 2>this age, I will never be in a situation where

0:41:14.080 --> 0:41:16.759
<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't know who he either is because if I

0:41:16.840 --> 0:41:19.400
<v Speaker 2>don't know, I'm nothing the fun. I'm not about to

0:41:19.440 --> 0:41:22.040
<v Speaker 2>be embarrassed, Like what would you do if you ask

0:41:22.080 --> 0:41:23.240
<v Speaker 2>for a fraternity.

0:41:23.880 --> 0:41:26.360
<v Speaker 1>Oh no, I thought you were saying like this is

0:41:26.480 --> 0:41:31.400
<v Speaker 1>like if I actually did some shady shit and you

0:41:31.600 --> 0:41:33.600
<v Speaker 1>just don't know who my baby daddy is, I'm not

0:41:33.760 --> 0:41:35.240
<v Speaker 1>having the baby, it is what I'm saying.

0:41:36.320 --> 0:41:38.240
<v Speaker 2>Well, that's not what I was saying.

0:41:38.320 --> 0:41:40.600
<v Speaker 1>No, that's not happening at Like, I'm not out here

0:41:40.800 --> 0:41:43.600
<v Speaker 1>smashing multiple people without of goddamn condom first of all.

0:41:44.040 --> 0:41:46.960
<v Speaker 2>That part, and just not outside like that. But if

0:41:47.000 --> 0:41:49.760
<v Speaker 2>I was, I just have to be honest with everybody

0:41:49.800 --> 0:41:50.759
<v Speaker 2>and dap everybody up.

0:41:50.800 --> 0:41:52.560
<v Speaker 1>And why you scratched the back of your neck when

0:41:52.560 --> 0:41:55.239
<v Speaker 1>you said you were outside like that, because my neck

0:41:55.360 --> 0:41:55.760
<v Speaker 1>was itching.

0:41:55.960 --> 0:41:56.680
<v Speaker 2>I look like a lie.

0:41:58.480 --> 0:41:59.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm not outside like that.

0:42:00.280 --> 0:42:02.319
<v Speaker 2>I got a gluey and it was in and I'm sorry.

0:42:02.400 --> 0:42:06.040
<v Speaker 2>It's not a lie. I'm not outside like that right now? Me? Neither? Girl?

0:42:07.280 --> 0:42:07.839
<v Speaker 2>All right, y'all.

0:42:09.200 --> 0:42:12.160
<v Speaker 1>Next, Practicing self care. This is one of my favorites

0:42:12.200 --> 0:42:15.120
<v Speaker 1>because I love fucking self care. Okay, and self care

0:42:15.200 --> 0:42:19.919
<v Speaker 1>is never selfish. Engaging in activities that promote your well

0:42:20.000 --> 0:42:23.319
<v Speaker 1>being and help you relax. This could include exercising one

0:42:23.360 --> 0:42:25.640
<v Speaker 1>am I trying to get back in the gym better.

0:42:26.160 --> 0:42:29.279
<v Speaker 1>Meditating one of my favorites. I meditate when I wake up,

0:42:29.480 --> 0:42:33.840
<v Speaker 1>go and go to sleep. Spending time in nature another favorite.

0:42:34.239 --> 0:42:39.520
<v Speaker 1>Pursuing hobbies or engaging in activities that bring you joy

0:42:39.960 --> 0:42:41.719
<v Speaker 1>and fulfillment. So what's some of the things that make

0:42:41.760 --> 0:42:42.160
<v Speaker 1>you happy?

0:42:42.719 --> 0:42:47.440
<v Speaker 2>Weed? Yeah, it's one of my favorites. But outside of that,

0:42:47.640 --> 0:42:55.120
<v Speaker 2>I just started sewing on the machine and I've been

0:42:55.239 --> 0:42:59.279
<v Speaker 2>making outdoor pillows and they look so good. I'm so

0:42:59.400 --> 0:43:01.799
<v Speaker 2>proud of my friend. I was like, oh, bitch, here'd

0:43:01.840 --> 0:43:03.400
<v Speaker 2>you come with a new hobby? Next thing? You know?

0:43:03.520 --> 0:43:06.320
<v Speaker 2>We go see here on Instagram tell my we outside

0:43:06.360 --> 0:43:12.279
<v Speaker 2>pillows by Tam Why not shit? I know, but you

0:43:12.320 --> 0:43:15.359
<v Speaker 2>know what, it's just I don't think I would turning

0:43:15.400 --> 0:43:18.120
<v Speaker 2>into a business. It's just something that I've been enjoying

0:43:18.480 --> 0:43:20.840
<v Speaker 2>and I like making my patio look real nice and pretty.

0:43:21.680 --> 0:43:26.279
<v Speaker 2>It was expensive, so I went to Joe An the

0:43:26.320 --> 0:43:28.759
<v Speaker 2>Boston Fabric got me a little sewing machine and it's

0:43:28.800 --> 0:43:31.440
<v Speaker 2>half the price doing it that way. But it was

0:43:31.880 --> 0:43:35.279
<v Speaker 2>Fourth of July weekend and every like, I'm outside on

0:43:35.320 --> 0:43:36.120
<v Speaker 2>my patio.

0:43:35.920 --> 0:43:40.279
<v Speaker 1>Like putting fourth of July weekend, yeah, okay, yeah yeah, And.

0:43:45.680 --> 0:43:49.120
<v Speaker 2>And I was like sewing pillows and it was like

0:43:49.360 --> 0:43:53.799
<v Speaker 2>live outside. It's motorcycles, horses riding down the street, people

0:43:53.920 --> 0:43:56.960
<v Speaker 2>on those bikes, that beer bikes and ship and I

0:43:57.120 --> 0:43:59.919
<v Speaker 2>was like, damn, I wash, That's what I was thinking,

0:44:00.080 --> 0:44:01.359
<v Speaker 2>because why am I in the house.

0:44:01.440 --> 0:44:05.040
<v Speaker 1>So because that is fucking fun. Shot it was cool

0:44:05.239 --> 0:44:08.279
<v Speaker 1>or whatever, but it just seemed like I felt washed.

0:44:08.480 --> 0:44:10.120
<v Speaker 1>You felt like you needed to be doing something else.

0:44:10.719 --> 0:44:12.839
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it was all that electricity outside. I mean here,

0:44:12.920 --> 0:44:17.800
<v Speaker 2>like somebody, mother fucking auntie sold pillows. Maybe because you

0:44:17.880 --> 0:44:22.760
<v Speaker 2>are someone's aunty. Hold your finger up and pointed at yourself.

0:44:27.719 --> 0:44:29.680
<v Speaker 1>Goodness, let me see some of the things that makes

0:44:29.719 --> 0:44:30.200
<v Speaker 1>me happy.

0:44:30.600 --> 0:44:31.280
<v Speaker 2>I like cooking.

0:44:31.520 --> 0:44:33.960
<v Speaker 1>I like cooking and then I like serving people to food.

0:44:34.040 --> 0:44:38.719
<v Speaker 1>And I'll stand there watch you eat the whole thing, y'all.

0:44:38.760 --> 0:44:40.800
<v Speaker 1>When I was at her house, she made this omelet

0:44:40.920 --> 0:44:46.480
<v Speaker 1>which was really good. What it was like, uh, salmon,

0:44:47.440 --> 0:44:51.279
<v Speaker 1>It's no salmon. It was blue crap meat okay you

0:44:51.560 --> 0:44:56.880
<v Speaker 1>gallops and shrimp okay, fully loaded, Okay. It was three eggs,

0:44:57.440 --> 0:45:01.240
<v Speaker 1>sweet peppers, sweet onions, nicely seasoned.

0:45:01.680 --> 0:45:04.040
<v Speaker 2>Listen, you can't get this at a restaurant. But it

0:45:04.160 --> 0:45:05.840
<v Speaker 2>was just like kind of weird because I'm either I

0:45:05.920 --> 0:45:08.879
<v Speaker 2>keep feeling like someone burning a hole in the side

0:45:08.880 --> 0:45:13.319
<v Speaker 2>of my and I'm like you straight and they look

0:45:13.440 --> 0:45:16.200
<v Speaker 2>right back at me, watching the whole thing. So that

0:45:16.320 --> 0:45:18.319
<v Speaker 2>makes you feel good when people enjoy your food. Yes,

0:45:18.400 --> 0:45:20.080
<v Speaker 2>I like people to tell me my food taste good.

0:45:20.120 --> 0:45:21.560
<v Speaker 2>That's one of the things that made me happy.

0:45:21.880 --> 0:45:26.640
<v Speaker 1>So just cooking a good meal, eating good and serving

0:45:26.920 --> 0:45:28.880
<v Speaker 1>that's the things that's Those are the things that make

0:45:28.960 --> 0:45:32.040
<v Speaker 1>me happy outside of like money and family and we.

0:45:32.400 --> 0:45:35.880
<v Speaker 2>I think it's right and we. I don't just do

0:45:36.000 --> 0:45:38.920
<v Speaker 2>weed by itself. It has to come with the dick. Really, No,

0:45:39.120 --> 0:45:41.000
<v Speaker 2>I will be like I was in there with like

0:45:41.080 --> 0:45:42.960
<v Speaker 2>just be in there with the joy in my mouth, like.

0:45:48.160 --> 0:45:50.040
<v Speaker 1>Foolishness, dog like.

0:45:50.160 --> 0:45:52.400
<v Speaker 2>That, pillows like.

0:45:52.880 --> 0:45:54.520
<v Speaker 1>Look, but if you're having a tough time and you

0:45:54.600 --> 0:45:57.279
<v Speaker 1>can't you feel like you can't find the things that

0:45:58.400 --> 0:46:01.480
<v Speaker 1>usually made you happy or making you happy, the next

0:46:01.520 --> 0:46:04.480
<v Speaker 1>thing is seek support, all right, So reach out to

0:46:04.560 --> 0:46:09.240
<v Speaker 1>trusted friends, family members, or support network for assistance and guidance.

0:46:09.320 --> 0:46:12.440
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes sharing your thoughts and feelings with others can provide

0:46:12.640 --> 0:46:15.560
<v Speaker 1>valuable insights or emotional support.

0:46:16.200 --> 0:46:20.080
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I agree, you gotta find your village. I told

0:46:20.080 --> 0:46:22.919
<v Speaker 2>you by my friend who just got diagnosed with breast

0:46:22.960 --> 0:46:29.560
<v Speaker 2>cancer and excuse me, shed y'all. She found out that

0:46:30.480 --> 0:46:34.080
<v Speaker 2>she had cancer in her lungs and her sternum and

0:46:34.400 --> 0:46:39.040
<v Speaker 2>her liver on her birthday. That is wild. That is

0:46:39.400 --> 0:46:43.400
<v Speaker 2>that is life, life, life, And on your birthday you

0:46:43.520 --> 0:46:46.680
<v Speaker 2>get this news. And we just rallied around her and

0:46:46.760 --> 0:46:49.600
<v Speaker 2>we all cried together, we sang together. We did we

0:46:49.800 --> 0:46:52.040
<v Speaker 2>party you know that for her because we still was

0:46:52.080 --> 0:46:54.600
<v Speaker 2>like we still celebrating your birthday, yeah, you know, And

0:46:54.719 --> 0:46:56.520
<v Speaker 2>at first she wasn't into it, but then she got

0:46:56.600 --> 0:46:58.120
<v Speaker 2>into it and we had such a good time and

0:46:58.200 --> 0:47:00.360
<v Speaker 2>she had a good time. And I think think, you know,

0:47:00.680 --> 0:47:04.359
<v Speaker 2>just us rallying around her like that made a huge

0:47:04.400 --> 0:47:06.320
<v Speaker 2>impact on her, at least her birthday. You know. I

0:47:06.400 --> 0:47:08.600
<v Speaker 2>know it's still gonna be a long road for her

0:47:08.719 --> 0:47:13.120
<v Speaker 2>to you know, get healed, but mentally and physically. Yeah,

0:47:13.160 --> 0:47:15.200
<v Speaker 2>she was. You know, she called me this morning, was saying,

0:47:15.280 --> 0:47:17.600
<v Speaker 2>like they asked her about her village, and she was like,

0:47:18.040 --> 0:47:20.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm just so blessed to have these people around me

0:47:21.000 --> 0:47:24.520
<v Speaker 2>because they really are helping me feel better. Right, So

0:47:24.680 --> 0:47:28.000
<v Speaker 2>having that support group is very very important.

0:47:28.400 --> 0:47:30.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so any you know, that's what I was saying

0:47:30.560 --> 0:47:34.520
<v Speaker 1>about just discarding people that give you some just stress,

0:47:34.719 --> 0:47:37.160
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, Like you the people at

0:47:37.200 --> 0:47:41.200
<v Speaker 1>our age, at this big age, right, the people that

0:47:41.400 --> 0:47:43.239
<v Speaker 1>you allow on your space should be the people that

0:47:43.320 --> 0:47:45.279
<v Speaker 1>put a smile on your face every time you see them.

0:47:45.960 --> 0:47:50.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, every time you see them, it should be good times. Well,

0:47:52.040 --> 0:47:53.880
<v Speaker 2>I can't really say that every time I see the

0:47:53.960 --> 0:47:55.759
<v Speaker 2>people I love, they put a smile on my face,

0:47:55.800 --> 0:47:58.880
<v Speaker 2>because some sometimes y'all get on my nerves, you know,

0:47:59.120 --> 0:48:05.799
<v Speaker 2>like who are you talking to? Who talking Mack Jordan?

0:48:05.800 --> 0:48:07.320
<v Speaker 2>You're gonna tell me talking about you like that?

0:48:10.080 --> 0:48:12.600
<v Speaker 1>Look Like, first of all, anytime I've gotten on your nerve.

0:48:13.080 --> 0:48:15.640
<v Speaker 1>You've gotten on my nerve, so we've equally gotten on

0:48:15.760 --> 0:48:17.839
<v Speaker 1>y'all the nerves. So I'm not getting on your nerve

0:48:17.920 --> 0:48:19.320
<v Speaker 1>right now, So why are you even talking about it?

0:48:20.320 --> 0:48:22.000
<v Speaker 1>Did I get on your nerves this time? Did I

0:48:22.080 --> 0:48:22.719
<v Speaker 1>do anything to.

0:48:22.760 --> 0:48:25.279
<v Speaker 2>You this time? You didn't do nothing to me this time.

0:48:25.440 --> 0:48:31.440
<v Speaker 2>What I'm saying sometimes it's not always a smiling situation,

0:48:31.600 --> 0:48:33.280
<v Speaker 2>and that's okay because that's normal.

0:48:33.600 --> 0:48:35.600
<v Speaker 1>Well, I won't say love because to me, like we

0:48:35.640 --> 0:48:37.640
<v Speaker 1>talked about unconditional love on another episode.

0:48:38.040 --> 0:48:41.920
<v Speaker 2>You know, I feel like love and liking are two

0:48:41.960 --> 0:48:44.200
<v Speaker 2>different things because I can like you.

0:48:45.160 --> 0:48:46.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't think that you can like a person and

0:48:46.600 --> 0:48:48.479
<v Speaker 1>I love them, But you can definitely love a person

0:48:48.560 --> 0:48:52.520
<v Speaker 1>and not like them, right, So liking is fluctuating and

0:48:52.640 --> 0:48:57.120
<v Speaker 1>fleeting oftentimes, you know, but the love is still there,

0:48:57.840 --> 0:48:58.640
<v Speaker 1>but it's liking.

0:48:58.760 --> 0:49:00.719
<v Speaker 2>So what I said, what I mean is the people

0:49:00.800 --> 0:49:03.800
<v Speaker 2>that you fucking like, dog. It's certain people.

0:49:03.600 --> 0:49:05.880
<v Speaker 1>When I see them, like I know it's going to

0:49:05.920 --> 0:49:07.840
<v Speaker 1>be a good day, you know what I'm saying, Like

0:49:08.480 --> 0:49:13.040
<v Speaker 1>that person when you are going through some shit, as

0:49:13.080 --> 0:49:16.959
<v Speaker 1>soon as you you know, see them, you cry.

0:49:17.760 --> 0:49:21.759
<v Speaker 2>That's your people. That's your people. Yeah. But y'all. We're

0:49:21.760 --> 0:49:23.200
<v Speaker 2>gonna take a break right quick.

0:49:27.560 --> 0:49:30.520
<v Speaker 1>All right, y'all, So we're back and let's get back.

0:49:30.400 --> 0:49:32.080
<v Speaker 2>To how we deal with life.

0:49:32.360 --> 0:49:36.080
<v Speaker 1>Okay, some some some some things you can do some practices.

0:49:36.920 --> 0:49:38.279
<v Speaker 1>So practice resilience.

0:49:38.680 --> 0:49:38.960
<v Speaker 2>Okay.

0:49:39.000 --> 0:49:43.439
<v Speaker 1>I understand that setbacks and difficult times are part of life. Life,

0:49:43.480 --> 0:49:47.280
<v Speaker 1>be lifing right. Cultivate resilience by maintaining a positive mindset,

0:49:47.360 --> 0:49:51.839
<v Speaker 1>focusing on solutions rather than problems, and learning from past experiences.

0:49:52.600 --> 0:49:55.759
<v Speaker 2>I feel like practice and resilience is like embedded in

0:49:55.800 --> 0:49:59.040
<v Speaker 2>black people. Yeah, I think that one is just one

0:49:59.120 --> 0:49:59.680
<v Speaker 2>that we just do.

0:49:59.840 --> 0:50:01.960
<v Speaker 1>Now, look, we're gonna we're gonna see when this economy

0:50:02.040 --> 0:50:03.799
<v Speaker 1>really cried. You're gonna be standing because you know them

0:50:03.800 --> 0:50:06.279
<v Speaker 1>people can't live with out resources we can.

0:50:06.800 --> 0:50:09.440
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna talking to one of my guy friends. He

0:50:09.520 --> 0:50:11.160
<v Speaker 2>came to help me put up this table that I

0:50:11.200 --> 0:50:13.600
<v Speaker 2>bought from my patio. Y'all, my patio about to be fired.

0:50:13.600 --> 0:50:16.400
<v Speaker 2>I'm just saying that. But he came to put it up,

0:50:16.600 --> 0:50:19.240
<v Speaker 2>and I was like, slowly as I was cutting fabric

0:50:19.360 --> 0:50:21.520
<v Speaker 2>to make another pillow, I was like, slowly, but surely,

0:50:21.560 --> 0:50:23.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm turning into my grandmother. I was like, next thing.

0:50:24.000 --> 0:50:27.160
<v Speaker 2>You know, I'm gonna be preserving fruits and vegetables as

0:50:27.200 --> 0:50:29.840
<v Speaker 2>you should be preserving fruits. And he and in his

0:50:29.960 --> 0:50:34.520
<v Speaker 2>twenties preserving fruits and vegetables. Why you just can't buy

0:50:34.640 --> 0:50:37.160
<v Speaker 2>more fruits and vegetables because it ain't the same. I

0:50:37.360 --> 0:50:39.399
<v Speaker 2>was like, it's different. And I was like, what if

0:50:39.440 --> 0:50:41.560
<v Speaker 2>there are no one? What if they run out? Now

0:50:41.600 --> 0:50:45.480
<v Speaker 2>you have jars and jars of stuff on serve there.

0:50:46.760 --> 0:50:49.839
<v Speaker 2>He was like, what if they run out of vegetables?

0:50:50.239 --> 0:50:52.040
<v Speaker 2>The grocery store always got veget.

0:50:52.080 --> 0:50:53.960
<v Speaker 1>Do they Because did you know, I see what the

0:50:54.000 --> 0:50:57.000
<v Speaker 1>fuck was happening during COVID, right, They was intentionally fucking

0:50:57.000 --> 0:50:57.720
<v Speaker 1>with the food supply.

0:50:58.120 --> 0:50:58.319
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

0:50:58.800 --> 0:51:00.959
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Like one day I went to the grocery store

0:51:01.080 --> 0:51:04.920
<v Speaker 1>and there was no better. The next day it was

0:51:05.040 --> 0:51:06.960
<v Speaker 1>like three or four packs up there. We all find

0:51:07.000 --> 0:51:09.399
<v Speaker 1>three or four packs of butter. At right, we all

0:51:09.440 --> 0:51:12.000
<v Speaker 1>playing with Bring that motherfucking butter off the back.

0:51:13.600 --> 0:51:14.320
<v Speaker 2>And stop playing with.

0:51:14.520 --> 0:51:14.719
<v Speaker 1>Yes.

0:51:16.080 --> 0:51:19.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so yeah, black people definitely, I think resilient.

0:51:19.880 --> 0:51:22.680
<v Speaker 1>We have lower anytime I hear about a black person

0:51:22.719 --> 0:51:26.000
<v Speaker 1>coming in suicide, it's like very shocking to me, Like, Dad,

0:51:26.040 --> 0:51:28.359
<v Speaker 1>what the fuck was happening that you had to get

0:51:28.440 --> 0:51:30.000
<v Speaker 1>up out of here, you know what I'm saying, like,

0:51:30.080 --> 0:51:33.279
<v Speaker 1>because that's just not especially a black woman, it's just

0:51:33.400 --> 0:51:35.000
<v Speaker 1>not like something we do.

0:51:35.200 --> 0:51:37.720
<v Speaker 2>Definitely are just the most resilient people on the planet,

0:51:37.800 --> 0:51:41.120
<v Speaker 2>I feel like m for sure. But in the event

0:51:41.200 --> 0:51:44.759
<v Speaker 2>that you don't feel resilient, this is something you can

0:51:44.840 --> 0:51:49.440
<v Speaker 2>do by start maintaining a positive mindset, which is hard

0:51:49.520 --> 0:51:52.160
<v Speaker 2>when you're going through stuff. That's why that village is

0:51:52.200 --> 0:51:55.279
<v Speaker 2>always good, because they'll help you get out of that.

0:51:56.200 --> 0:51:57.000
<v Speaker 2>What was the other one?

0:51:57.520 --> 0:52:01.560
<v Speaker 1>Focusing on solutions rather than the problem? Okay, that's my problem,

0:52:02.040 --> 0:52:05.319
<v Speaker 1>all right? So I am solution driven when it comes

0:52:05.360 --> 0:52:07.480
<v Speaker 1>to like business and shit like that, but just regular

0:52:07.560 --> 0:52:11.560
<v Speaker 1>fucking life shit, it's like I'd be wanting to I

0:52:11.680 --> 0:52:15.040
<v Speaker 1>be needing to know the why, Why the fuck did

0:52:15.080 --> 0:52:17.080
<v Speaker 1>you say that? Why the fuck did you do that?

0:52:17.840 --> 0:52:22.080
<v Speaker 1>That's what I can't focus on, the goddamn solution. I'm

0:52:22.160 --> 0:52:24.520
<v Speaker 1>focusing on a problem because I just don't even understand

0:52:24.560 --> 0:52:27.279
<v Speaker 1>why there was a problem. You know what I'm saying.

0:52:27.280 --> 0:52:29.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to figure out why that even happened, you

0:52:29.760 --> 0:52:32.960
<v Speaker 1>know why? That's my problem? Just what dealing with, you know,

0:52:33.040 --> 0:52:35.360
<v Speaker 1>people in relationships and stuff like that, Like why was that?

0:52:35.440 --> 0:52:38.080
<v Speaker 2>Even? It is to me?

0:52:38.640 --> 0:52:41.440
<v Speaker 1>Right? It is to me because I don't go out

0:52:41.480 --> 0:52:44.360
<v Speaker 1>of my way to like fuck with people, you know

0:52:44.400 --> 0:52:46.440
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, So anytime it's done to me, I'm like, man,

0:52:46.480 --> 0:52:49.560
<v Speaker 1>what the hell? So like when when you're in a relationship,

0:52:49.800 --> 0:52:53.240
<v Speaker 1>And this is what I learned once in couple's therapy.

0:52:53.840 --> 0:52:55.440
<v Speaker 2>You know, they always like to say.

0:52:55.320 --> 0:52:58.880
<v Speaker 1>You know, you make the problem the enemy and not

0:52:59.040 --> 0:53:01.759
<v Speaker 1>each other. Right, But it's very hard because it's also

0:53:01.800 --> 0:53:03.120
<v Speaker 1>like one of those things where people.

0:53:02.920 --> 0:53:06.480
<v Speaker 2>Say other people the problem.

0:53:06.640 --> 0:53:10.600
<v Speaker 1>No, right, other people are not responsible for your happiness.

0:53:10.640 --> 0:53:12.560
<v Speaker 1>But if somebody can make you sad, they can also

0:53:12.640 --> 0:53:16.200
<v Speaker 1>make you happy. And I feel like they're confusing peace

0:53:16.680 --> 0:53:19.400
<v Speaker 1>with happiness, you know what I'm saying. People should be

0:53:19.480 --> 0:53:23.840
<v Speaker 1>responsible for your peace. Right, Why are you get putting

0:53:23.880 --> 0:53:26.279
<v Speaker 1>me in an unpeaced no dog. If you come in

0:53:26.320 --> 0:53:28.360
<v Speaker 1>the house every day and you cause it fucking chaos

0:53:28.880 --> 0:53:31.480
<v Speaker 1>and taking a peaceful place and making it into a

0:53:31.600 --> 0:53:34.880
<v Speaker 1>chaotic place, that is a problem. You need to remove

0:53:35.000 --> 0:53:39.200
<v Speaker 1>them from right, absolutely right, But in the mit, in

0:53:39.280 --> 0:53:41.480
<v Speaker 1>the midst of it, you're in chaos.

0:53:42.520 --> 0:53:45.399
<v Speaker 2>I mean, until you do so, then the question would

0:53:45.400 --> 0:53:47.720
<v Speaker 2>be like, who's the fuck. What's the problem? Is the problem,

0:53:47.880 --> 0:53:51.040
<v Speaker 2>so we can attack that, not why are you causing

0:53:51.160 --> 0:53:52.960
<v Speaker 2>chaos here? What is the problem?

0:53:53.120 --> 0:53:56.120
<v Speaker 1>Some people are just chaotic, that's just some people genetic makeup.

0:53:56.200 --> 0:53:59.160
<v Speaker 1>And then yeah, that's just some pece you while you're

0:53:59.160 --> 0:54:01.280
<v Speaker 1>trying to figure out. That's why I don't really believe

0:54:01.280 --> 0:54:04.280
<v Speaker 1>in couple's therapy. I believe that people should have individual therapy,

0:54:04.920 --> 0:54:08.160
<v Speaker 1>right because once you're in a better healed place, you'll

0:54:08.200 --> 0:54:10.920
<v Speaker 1>then attract that If you still attracting a bunch of toxic,

0:54:11.160 --> 0:54:15.360
<v Speaker 1>toxic people and toxicity and toxic situations, that's because it

0:54:15.560 --> 0:54:16.160
<v Speaker 1>still lives in you.

0:54:17.000 --> 0:54:19.680
<v Speaker 2>You know what I'm saying. Couples therapy is necessary because

0:54:20.440 --> 0:54:23.600
<v Speaker 2>even if you feel fully healed and this person feels

0:54:23.640 --> 0:54:26.719
<v Speaker 2>fully healed in the selves, for whatever reason, your heal

0:54:26.840 --> 0:54:29.000
<v Speaker 2>self and their heal self is button his. You have

0:54:29.080 --> 0:54:31.040
<v Speaker 2>to sometimes need help figuring that out.

0:54:31.480 --> 0:54:33.719
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, man, I feel like that's where communication

0:54:33.840 --> 0:54:36.320
<v Speaker 1>comes in at, right. So if you get to a

0:54:36.400 --> 0:54:38.719
<v Speaker 1>place to where you're healed and you have also a

0:54:38.880 --> 0:54:40.759
<v Speaker 1>healed person, and when I talk, we talk about healing

0:54:40.760 --> 0:54:42.560
<v Speaker 1>all the time, maybe that's a whole other episode because

0:54:43.080 --> 0:54:45.520
<v Speaker 1>I know that right now, I'm in Charleston a heal

0:54:45.600 --> 0:54:48.560
<v Speaker 1>from my childhood traumas in a real fucking way, and

0:54:48.680 --> 0:54:51.040
<v Speaker 1>shit has just been slapping me in my damn face.

0:54:51.280 --> 0:54:53.560
<v Speaker 2>But do you feel like it's working? Absolutely?

0:54:53.640 --> 0:54:56.239
<v Speaker 1>Because now I can pinpoint things and I can course

0:54:56.320 --> 0:54:58.840
<v Speaker 1>correct myself. Now do I need a therapist to do that?

0:54:59.000 --> 0:55:02.160
<v Speaker 1>I feel like I've been and I've been in therapy

0:55:03.280 --> 0:55:05.080
<v Speaker 1>all this fucking time. You know what I'm saying. So

0:55:05.120 --> 0:55:08.680
<v Speaker 1>I don't feel like getting into uh uh.

0:55:10.640 --> 0:55:13.520
<v Speaker 2>What weight? I don't fuck around my brain. Just skip, bitch,

0:55:13.760 --> 0:55:14.640
<v Speaker 2>skip the whole beat.

0:55:15.080 --> 0:55:18.160
<v Speaker 1>You said, no, we were talking about therapy, and I'm

0:55:18.200 --> 0:55:21.080
<v Speaker 1>saying I don't need therapy with another person. Like oftentimes,

0:55:21.120 --> 0:55:23.600
<v Speaker 1>if if we are good, we should be able to communicate.

0:55:23.640 --> 0:55:25.800
<v Speaker 1>That's what I was talking about communication. We should be

0:55:25.840 --> 0:55:28.080
<v Speaker 1>able to talk about you should.

0:55:27.880 --> 0:55:31.680
<v Speaker 2>Be and oftentimes people have trouble communicating their feelings, especially

0:55:31.760 --> 0:55:34.719
<v Speaker 2>with someone that they love. That's where self awareness comes in.

0:55:34.719 --> 0:55:36.480
<v Speaker 1>I feel like a lot of people are honest with themselves,

0:55:36.800 --> 0:55:39.000
<v Speaker 1>So now you can't be honest with nobody else if

0:55:39.000 --> 0:55:40.839
<v Speaker 1>you can't even look at yourself in the mirror.

0:55:41.080 --> 0:55:43.360
<v Speaker 2>But maybe that's not what it is like sometimes we

0:55:43.640 --> 0:55:47.520
<v Speaker 2>like have trouble expressing ourselves with people that we love, Like,

0:55:48.239 --> 0:55:52.040
<v Speaker 2>you know, like I'm what I'm trying to convey is

0:55:52.160 --> 0:55:54.880
<v Speaker 2>not being received, and what you're trying to convey is

0:55:54.960 --> 0:55:58.040
<v Speaker 2>not being received to that person. And there's a mediator

0:55:58.160 --> 0:55:59.879
<v Speaker 2>that can come in and help y'all be cause y'all

0:56:00.200 --> 0:56:01.000
<v Speaker 2>be saying the same.

0:56:01.600 --> 0:56:03.279
<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of times people be saying the

0:56:03.320 --> 0:56:05.440
<v Speaker 1>same shit. Yeah, a lot of times you're saying the

0:56:05.480 --> 0:56:06.520
<v Speaker 1>same same shit.

0:56:06.600 --> 0:56:07.120
<v Speaker 2>But I think that.

0:56:08.680 --> 0:56:11.480
<v Speaker 1>Respect also plays a big part of it. If you

0:56:11.520 --> 0:56:13.600
<v Speaker 1>don't respect the person you're talking to, you're not gonna

0:56:13.640 --> 0:56:16.239
<v Speaker 1>hear them. But I do believe that your people hear

0:56:16.320 --> 0:56:18.839
<v Speaker 1>you differently. I believe that you know what I'm saying.

0:56:18.840 --> 0:56:21.399
<v Speaker 1>I can say the same thing to ten different people

0:56:21.440 --> 0:56:23.759
<v Speaker 1>and they hear me different from who I have the

0:56:23.840 --> 0:56:25.160
<v Speaker 1>issue with, you know what I'm saying.

0:56:26.040 --> 0:56:28.640
<v Speaker 2>So I don't know. Therapy is a good thing. Seek

0:56:28.640 --> 0:56:32.840
<v Speaker 2>professional help, Seek seek professional help. You gotta get a

0:56:32.840 --> 0:56:33.400
<v Speaker 2>good therapist.

0:56:33.480 --> 0:56:36.359
<v Speaker 1>Even those relationships dog you got to really have done

0:56:36.400 --> 0:56:40.120
<v Speaker 1>some discernment because they're not really in the business of healing, okay,

0:56:40.120 --> 0:56:41.200
<v Speaker 1>because they need to get that check.

0:56:41.560 --> 0:56:44.719
<v Speaker 2>So sometimes they are. But sometimes you have someone that's

0:56:44.800 --> 0:56:47.200
<v Speaker 2>like no offense to people who are fresh out of school,

0:56:47.239 --> 0:56:49.880
<v Speaker 2>but they're just kind of like I find like the

0:56:50.080 --> 0:56:52.719
<v Speaker 2>therapists that I went to that are like new therapists.

0:56:53.080 --> 0:56:55.600
<v Speaker 2>They're just giving me some shit out of a textbook, yes,

0:56:55.680 --> 0:56:58.040
<v Speaker 2>and they haven't had the real life experiences. I need

0:56:58.239 --> 0:57:01.439
<v Speaker 2>to help me. So that like I was like, girl,

0:57:01.560 --> 0:57:04.520
<v Speaker 2>what the fuck is this exercise you just had me?

0:57:04.680 --> 0:57:06.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm packing my shit sitting there on the table. And

0:57:06.480 --> 0:57:09.160
<v Speaker 2>then she was like, well, that looks like it's our

0:57:09.239 --> 0:57:12.600
<v Speaker 2>time you next time? Did I take cash out? Bitch

0:57:12.640 --> 0:57:14.960
<v Speaker 2>about to go jump off a cliff? Right? You just

0:57:15.040 --> 0:57:16.840
<v Speaker 2>had me unpack all this shit. We left it on

0:57:16.920 --> 0:57:19.040
<v Speaker 2>the table. Right. I'm sitting here, my eight year old

0:57:19.120 --> 0:57:22.120
<v Speaker 2>self right now. She can't drive home, so you need

0:57:22.200 --> 0:57:24.080
<v Speaker 2>to help me with something. You better come up with

0:57:24.160 --> 0:57:25.760
<v Speaker 2>something else take me home.

0:57:25.840 --> 0:57:29.440
<v Speaker 1>And you know, I remember going to therapy with my

0:57:29.520 --> 0:57:32.120
<v Speaker 1>mom as a teenager, and it was a young white girl,

0:57:33.360 --> 0:57:34.400
<v Speaker 1>probably just out of school.

0:57:35.080 --> 0:57:37.080
<v Speaker 2>Right. She had her little office right by the house,

0:57:37.880 --> 0:57:41.640
<v Speaker 2>and we're talking. My mom's crying.

0:57:41.760 --> 0:57:44.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm going through it as a teenager, right,

0:57:44.640 --> 0:57:47.680
<v Speaker 1>And I think sometimes parents forget that kids are human too.

0:57:47.800 --> 0:57:50.360
<v Speaker 1>Like they have bad days, right, some days they don't

0:57:50.360 --> 0:57:51.720
<v Speaker 1>feel like going to school, just like you don't feel

0:57:51.720 --> 0:57:53.760
<v Speaker 1>like going to work. It's all types of shit, but

0:57:53.880 --> 0:57:56.760
<v Speaker 1>you forget like you were never a fucking kid. So

0:57:56.840 --> 0:57:58.320
<v Speaker 1>now we're going through all types of shit. We're going

0:57:58.360 --> 0:58:00.560
<v Speaker 1>through therapy because we just really bumping heads. And I

0:58:00.640 --> 0:58:02.720
<v Speaker 1>remember my mom telling my ass when I was like fourteen.

0:58:02.800 --> 0:58:04.400
<v Speaker 1>She was like, you're gonna be out of here by

0:58:04.440 --> 0:58:06.280
<v Speaker 1>the time you turn fifteen, and bitch, I was fuck

0:58:06.360 --> 0:58:06.800
<v Speaker 1>up out of there.

0:58:06.880 --> 0:58:07.520
<v Speaker 2>She put me out.

0:58:08.040 --> 0:58:11.440
<v Speaker 1>But because we just alike for the most part, you

0:58:11.520 --> 0:58:13.000
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, not just it's a lot of

0:58:13.080 --> 0:58:16.440
<v Speaker 1>things now as an adult, I see who you are

0:58:16.520 --> 0:58:19.479
<v Speaker 1>now as an adult. But anyway, this therapist, I felt

0:58:19.560 --> 0:58:22.280
<v Speaker 1>so terrible for her, and I'm sitting there, my fourteen,

0:58:22.360 --> 0:58:24.840
<v Speaker 1>fifteen year old self, and my mom is just going

0:58:24.920 --> 0:58:26.680
<v Speaker 1>off on her and telling her how she don't know

0:58:26.720 --> 0:58:28.280
<v Speaker 1>how it is because she don't have kids in her

0:58:28.360 --> 0:58:31.960
<v Speaker 1>own and above reproach, what do you do with a

0:58:32.000 --> 0:58:34.320
<v Speaker 1>client like that, like you know what I'm saying, Like

0:58:34.680 --> 0:58:38.240
<v Speaker 1>they she wasn't, And all she could do is look

0:58:38.320 --> 0:58:40.280
<v Speaker 1>at me, like, because I'm telling you, I can't talk.

0:58:40.200 --> 0:58:42.360
<v Speaker 2>To my mama, and she's like, bitch, I can't talk

0:58:44.280 --> 0:58:45.080
<v Speaker 2>say exactly what.

0:58:45.160 --> 0:58:49.360
<v Speaker 1>The hell I was saying to you. We're gonna bring

0:58:49.440 --> 0:58:52.240
<v Speaker 1>in We're gonna bring in my my peer because this

0:58:52.320 --> 0:58:54.520
<v Speaker 1>ain't working. All I need therapy at this point, girl,

0:58:55.040 --> 0:58:56.120
<v Speaker 1>black Mama's man.

0:58:58.440 --> 0:59:01.200
<v Speaker 2>True. But listen.

0:59:01.400 --> 0:59:05.400
<v Speaker 1>So, like I said, another way of dealing with life

0:59:05.440 --> 0:59:09.200
<v Speaker 1>and life life and is saying fuck it, fuck it.

0:59:09.320 --> 0:59:11.560
<v Speaker 1>So now, the concept of not giving a fuck is

0:59:11.680 --> 0:59:15.240
<v Speaker 1>not often associated with the idea of not being overly

0:59:15.320 --> 0:59:18.760
<v Speaker 1>concerned about the opinions and judgments of others. I mean, see,

0:59:18.760 --> 0:59:20.960
<v Speaker 1>that's what it's about, just not being overly concerned about

0:59:20.960 --> 0:59:24.680
<v Speaker 1>their shit, right, It's about prioritizing your own values, desires,

0:59:24.720 --> 0:59:28.600
<v Speaker 1>and well being over the external validation and expectations imposed

0:59:28.960 --> 0:59:33.960
<v Speaker 1>impulsed by society. Here are a few aspects that highlight

0:59:34.160 --> 0:59:37.880
<v Speaker 1>the power of not giving a fuck all right. So

0:59:37.960 --> 0:59:40.000
<v Speaker 1>the first one is authenticity. And see that's what I

0:59:40.120 --> 0:59:42.640
<v Speaker 1>was talking about, that self awareness. It takes some time

0:59:42.720 --> 0:59:44.320
<v Speaker 1>to become self aware. A lot of people aren't self

0:59:44.320 --> 0:59:48.120
<v Speaker 1>aware to They're like, I don't know fifty or plus

0:59:49.160 --> 0:59:51.360
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. So in this a journey,

0:59:51.560 --> 0:59:55.000
<v Speaker 1>but it does have an end, it stops.

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<v Speaker 2>I remember when I was working at Alta. It was

0:59:58.040 --> 1:00:00.920
<v Speaker 2>this a girl that was working there with me, and uh,

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<v Speaker 2>if I could see her now, I would apologize to

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<v Speaker 2>her for her treated her at the time. She used

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<v Speaker 2>to wear one blue eyebrow and one red eyebrow, and

1:00:10.480 --> 1:00:12.000
<v Speaker 2>I used to be like, get the fuck out of here,

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<v Speaker 2>Harley Quinn, gotta look at that bitch like I used

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<v Speaker 2>to just like like that's ugly. Like I used to

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<v Speaker 2>be mean to her. That's terrible. I wouldn't be. I

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't be like, get the fuck out of here, Harley Quinn.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's what I'd be thinking in my head. And

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, that's not gonna catch. But obviously she

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't doing it for her to catch, for people to

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<v Speaker 2>just for her. It was like fetch, nobody's gonna say fetch.

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<v Speaker 2>That was me. I was a mean girl. But she

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<v Speaker 2>did it cause it made her feel pretty, It made

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<v Speaker 2>her feel authentic, It made her feel like an individual.

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<v Speaker 2>It was her thing and here and here was all like, girl,

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<v Speaker 2>what is that like everybody else? Bitch asked eyebrow? Bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>you ain't even god on no blue or no red.

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<v Speaker 1>That was me.

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<v Speaker 2>So I wherever you girl are are, girl, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope you're still doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>Cause even if those those things were in your head,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm pretty sure you're manifest in your face when you

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<v Speaker 1>saw her face and.

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<v Speaker 2>How you talk to her, like with the Nike check lip.

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<v Speaker 2>So I apologize, girl. You were being your authentic self,

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<v Speaker 2>and who am I to tell you that there's anything

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<v Speaker 2>wrong with that? So all right, geez?

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<v Speaker 1>So this authenticity, uh again, that goes back to being

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<v Speaker 1>a self, being self aware, knowing who you are, being

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<v Speaker 1>yourself doubt. You know, we had this episode where we

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<v Speaker 1>were arguing on right and a lot of people on

1:01:31.520 --> 1:01:34.000
<v Speaker 1>online kept saying stuff like, no, everybody will think of you.

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<v Speaker 1>I am the same person on this podcast that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>I am in real life, and some people was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't want to see those personalities. I'm not a personality.

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<v Speaker 1>I am me through and through every single day. You're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna are you gonna get the same fucking person. So

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<v Speaker 1>the wrath of me looks like that, That's just what

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<v Speaker 1>it looks like, you know what I'm saying. So I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not here to put on a persona to to for

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<v Speaker 1>the world. Right, I worked a corporate job for a

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<v Speaker 1>very long time, right where you know, I'm a black girl,

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<v Speaker 1>and when I walk in the office, it's like, here

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<v Speaker 1>comes trouble. I've always been me, even in a fucking boardroom.

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<v Speaker 1>I've never not been me. So and now I get

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<v Speaker 1>to actually make money being myself. That is fucking yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all mad shit because that that, like this is an

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<v Speaker 1>ultimate flex for me.

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<v Speaker 2>So here's the thing. I'm Sometimes I feel like I

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<v Speaker 2>shouldn't be so much of me all the time, Like no,

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<v Speaker 2>it's okay. Sometimes it's okay to like no. Man. Like

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<v Speaker 2>like when y'all before we started feeling, I put my

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<v Speaker 2>mouth around this whole thing to see if I could

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<v Speaker 2>do it. I didn't have to do that in front

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<v Speaker 2>of y'all. That was inappropriate. It was not inappropriate. That's

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<v Speaker 2>who you are.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't apologize for it. Don't apologize, okay, to save stuff

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<v Speaker 1>for you know later.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I think that a lot of us. And

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<v Speaker 2>if you any of you have ever read the book

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<v Speaker 2>The Four Agreement.

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<v Speaker 1>It talks about like childhood right and healing the childhood

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<v Speaker 1>traumas and the things that adults do the childhead. Adults

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<v Speaker 1>are dream killers. That's what I'm learning in Charleston adults

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<v Speaker 1>are dream killers. And I'm a fucking kid, a big one,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't plan on growing up no time soon.

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<v Speaker 1>And I feel like when adults be lifing right and

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<v Speaker 1>you gotta pay bills and you gotta do all these things,

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<v Speaker 1>and you got the kids, you're always telling them.

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<v Speaker 2>To sit down, shut up. You are stripping them of

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<v Speaker 2>their soul.

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<v Speaker 1>You are stripping them of their essence and who they

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<v Speaker 1>are because now you're not You're trying to like make

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<v Speaker 1>them into you. You want them to dress like you,

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<v Speaker 1>act like you, sit like you. No, man, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>doing that to.

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<v Speaker 2>My fucking kid.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you want to be in the line at

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<v Speaker 1>fucking Harris Teeter, you want to press all the buttons

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<v Speaker 1>on them people, Shit, I'm gonna let you. I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>let you run through this motherfucker because one thing about it.

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<v Speaker 1>White people let their kids explore Black people be like,

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<v Speaker 1>sit down and shut up. And that's that really, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>that shit shows up and us as adults, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, while meanwhile, our white counterparts, they are

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<v Speaker 1>out conquering the world because they were never they were

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<v Speaker 1>never limited as children to what they can do.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I don't I don't know what goes

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<v Speaker 2>on in white households. Honestly, girl, we see it.

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<v Speaker 1>The we be wanting to beat their kids in public, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, because there's a fine line between letting your kids

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<v Speaker 2>have their own identity and then just let them be

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<v Speaker 2>disturb other people. Hitting you with a cart in the

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<v Speaker 2>grocery store. I wanted to backhand this white baby so bad, like, bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>you better get this little motuck because I would slap

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<v Speaker 2>you first and then him hit me in my leg

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<v Speaker 2>one more time. Ship, miss Helen.

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<v Speaker 1>This self confidence, y'all, that's next. Not giving a fuck

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<v Speaker 1>can't boosh your self confidence. When you detach yourself for

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<v Speaker 1>a from external validation, you become more self assured and

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<v Speaker 1>secure in your own identity. You rely less on others'

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<v Speaker 1>opinions to define your worth, which can lead to a

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<v Speaker 1>greater sense of self acceptance and empower mint. Fucking them people,

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<v Speaker 1>fuck that job, Fu the fucking bills, I mean a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit like really them when it.

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<v Speaker 2>Comes to self confidence confidence because especially young girls, because

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<v Speaker 2>they're always comparing themselves to others, like is in constant comparison.

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<v Speaker 2>In comparison is what is dream killer? Yeah, yeah, so

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<v Speaker 2>now I'm hearing on.

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<v Speaker 1>I listened to a lot of conservative radio right because

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<v Speaker 1>I've been needing to know what these white people up to,

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<v Speaker 1>and so they have class action lawsuits against these different

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<v Speaker 1>social media platforms. Listen to these things, right, having self

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<v Speaker 1>identity issues, insecurities, depression.

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<v Speaker 2>All of these things.

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<v Speaker 1>These platforms know that their product causes these things, especially

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<v Speaker 1>impressionable young people.

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<v Speaker 2>So now you can see, well it's a real thing.

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<v Speaker 1>So you know, do things get your hair done for

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<v Speaker 1>black women, like get your hair done, bitch. That should

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<v Speaker 1>make you feel good, right then, automatic way.

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<v Speaker 2>As soon as I know. That's one of the things

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<v Speaker 2>I love about doing hair is when the women leaves

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<v Speaker 2>feeling beautiful. You can see the difference when they come.

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<v Speaker 1>In and when they leave exactly no matter what you're

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<v Speaker 1>going through, I keep telling my mom, go get your

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<v Speaker 1>hair done. You're run here sad and shit like that

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<v Speaker 1>could fix a lot of shit in two hours.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't get your damn hair done. Feel good. Focusing on

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<v Speaker 2>what matters.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the next one, right, So by not giving a

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<v Speaker 1>fuck about trivial matters, since that's me, I dwell on

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<v Speaker 1>little shit or other people's opinions. You can direct your

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<v Speaker 1>energy toward what truly matters to you. You can concentrate

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<v Speaker 1>on your goals, your passions, personal growth instead of being

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<v Speaker 1>preoccupied with pleasing others or can to societal expectations.

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<v Speaker 2>Cuts some motherfuckers out. This girl sent me some slick

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<v Speaker 2>shit right about some nigga that I don't even fuck with, right,

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<v Speaker 2>and oh me would a cuss to the fuck out right,

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<v Speaker 2>but knew me just blocked her instantly, gonna argue with you.

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<v Speaker 2>And it was the same day that I, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>my friend told me all the news about and it

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<v Speaker 2>just made me realize, like so much what matter? And

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<v Speaker 2>like this girl and arguing with her, just what do

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<v Speaker 2>that do for me? I don't even you know, deal

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<v Speaker 2>with this nigga? Is I just give you. Was a

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<v Speaker 2>little busy, because.

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<v Speaker 1>Any other nine you'd.

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<v Speaker 2>Be arguing going back and forth. I was busy, but

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<v Speaker 2>I just wasn't very I just it wasn't like like really, honestly,

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<v Speaker 2>haven't someone that I love going through this cancer the

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<v Speaker 2>way It just really really put things in perspective for

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<v Speaker 2>me in a new way, because some shit just ain't

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<v Speaker 2>don't matter, like that shit really don't matter arguing with

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<v Speaker 2>this girl about I don't even fuck with the niggas

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<v Speaker 2>she mad about, so it's like, get bbbage bilo bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>Emotional freedom, not being overly concerned about what other's opinions

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<v Speaker 1>of you are can liberate you from the fear of

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<v Speaker 1>judgment and rejection. It allows you to let go of

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<v Speaker 1>unnecessary stress, anxiety, and self doubt, leading to a greater

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<v Speaker 1>sense of emotional well being and freedom. Listen, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>give a fuck for real, I don't give a fuck

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<v Speaker 1>like for especially if.

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<v Speaker 2>You are not somebody that I fucking know like and love.

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<v Speaker 2>So all right, emotional freedom, I'm trying to understand what

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<v Speaker 2>that means.

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<v Speaker 1>Because not being overly concerned about other's opinions of you?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh okay, that's fine. So what's the difference between that? Nothing? Nothing? Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>moving on to the next one?

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<v Speaker 1>Is the same setting boundaries. When you embrace the power

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<v Speaker 1>of not giving a fuck, you become better at setting

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<v Speaker 1>healthy boundaries and relationships. You prioritize your own needs and values,

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<v Speaker 1>which can help you establish clear boundaries with others and

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<v Speaker 1>protect your emotional well being. Yes, get get the get back,

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<v Speaker 1>snop that shit as soon as you see it.

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<v Speaker 2>That's something that I'm just now starting to get better

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<v Speaker 2>at in boundaries. And it's not with people like because

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<v Speaker 2>it's easy to create a boundary with people you barely know.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's the boundaries with people that I'm close to

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<v Speaker 2>that learning how to create now better and learning that

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<v Speaker 2>know is a complete sentence, eperient period. So did you

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<v Speaker 2>watch that new episode of Black Mirror? Like moving right

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<v Speaker 2>along with right? No, that's it? You know?

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<v Speaker 1>So absolutely, I like no complete statement. Yes, resilience not

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<v Speaker 1>giving a fuck can make you more resilient in the

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<v Speaker 1>face of adversity. It helps you develop a stronger sense

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<v Speaker 1>of self, enabling you to bounce back from setbacks, criticisms,

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<v Speaker 1>and failures. You become less affected by external negativity and

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<v Speaker 1>more capable of navigating challenges with resilience and determined fence. Absolutely,

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<v Speaker 1>talk about resilience when life be lifeing.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, right now we're talking to you about resiliences.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, yeah, anyway, Yeah, this is great. Though I needed

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<v Speaker 1>some of these things. I'm actually gonna go back over

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<v Speaker 1>the right quick boundary setting. I don't have a problem

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<v Speaker 1>set in boundaries, man, I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I will over extend myself and I look up and

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<v Speaker 2>I'll be like, I got so much of my own

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<v Speaker 2>shit to do, why am I here right now doing this?

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<v Speaker 2>I just I'm doing too much.

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<v Speaker 1>I used to be like that, right when I realized

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<v Speaker 1>when people don't come through for you, how you come

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<v Speaker 1>through for them that complete state and know it's easy,

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<v Speaker 1>because what I don't want is to do something for

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<v Speaker 1>you and then be complaining about it after I altady

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<v Speaker 1>did it or while I'm doing it.

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<v Speaker 2>So just say no.

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<v Speaker 1>If you feel like you're gonna be bothered, if you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have the time, or you tired like you should,

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<v Speaker 1>you could say no.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the thing I'll be feeling like, because I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like in the event that these people do need me,

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<v Speaker 2>they will be there, right, I mean you, when I

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<v Speaker 2>need them, they will be there. But it's just so

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<v Speaker 2>many motherfuckers that need something at the same time that

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<v Speaker 2>makes me feel exhausted.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, Yes, And also I think that if you

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<v Speaker 1>are a person who always says yes, people take advantage.

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<v Speaker 1>They gonna come to you every single fucking time every time,

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<v Speaker 1>Like you don't got nobody else you can depend.

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<v Speaker 2>On now they can't. They come to me about everything

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<v Speaker 2>but money. I'm your last resort. When you need some

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<v Speaker 2>cash for it, don't come to me for that. You

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<v Speaker 2>call your mama. Did you talk to your father? Did

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<v Speaker 2>you Did you talk to the nigga who dick you? Second?

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<v Speaker 2>Did you go to the church? No? First and foremost

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<v Speaker 2>the nigga, You fucking go to him first. Yeah? Absolutely,

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<v Speaker 2>he owe you shit, bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>You should have sent that nigga invoice already been That's

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<v Speaker 1>really why you're mad, because you've given all that free pussy.

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<v Speaker 1>You ain't got no boundaries on that pussy anyway, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I love this this episode, Yeah, because.

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<v Speaker 2>Life has been lifing, and life has been lifing for everyone,

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<v Speaker 2>and I think it's important to be didn't They didn't

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<v Speaker 2>say nothing about this in the list. But be kind

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<v Speaker 2>to people. You don't know what people are going exactly,

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<v Speaker 2>and you could be the one person that can help

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<v Speaker 2>somebody get through something or make shit just that much

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<v Speaker 2>worse for them.

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<v Speaker 1>So just be kind to people, man, even when you

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<v Speaker 1>calling customer service though, don't be fucking them people day

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<v Speaker 1>while he at work.

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<v Speaker 2>Just mean and nasty because your Verizon your phone about

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<v Speaker 2>to get cut off. That's not that lady.

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<v Speaker 1>Fault, and you want that thirty dollars fee reverse No bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>buye bitch when if I were the own like a

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<v Speaker 1>big company like that, like you're gonna get the service

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<v Speaker 1>that you give. So if you call my people talking

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<v Speaker 1>that ship, they have the right. There's no customer service

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<v Speaker 1>over here, bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>To hang up in your face. Or people who are

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<v Speaker 2>mean to people who work in the services. Yes, I

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<v Speaker 2>do not like if you're one of the people who

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<v Speaker 2>are nasty the servers and at a restaurant, I do

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<v Speaker 2>not want to go out and eat with you, like girl,

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<v Speaker 2>like what is your problem? I'm not even talking to

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<v Speaker 2>this lady all condescending and shit, I'm leaving.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I had this girl. I went out one time

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<v Speaker 1>with my homegrown and her friend and we were at

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<v Speaker 1>cheesecake factory I think, and they put like little strimp

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<v Speaker 1>on her past and said like the jumble trip. She

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I can't eat these these these little strength

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<v Speaker 1>they scare me. Just they just disgust and they scare me.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, yo, I'm about to can I can I

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<v Speaker 2>please get my fucking food to go? Please? Because who

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<v Speaker 2>was to put up with that? But I used to

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<v Speaker 2>day the guy who would not let me send my

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<v Speaker 2>food back and that used to piss me off, Like

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<v Speaker 2>you're not even paying for it, so don't send it back.

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<v Speaker 2>You just order something else. Just eat it, no, nigga,

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<v Speaker 2>he'ld be like, just eat what you ordered. It's okay,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have to send it back. Its rude. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't like it. I just can I order something and

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<v Speaker 2>I pay for it myself, nigga, Like, just eat what

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<v Speaker 2>you ordered. No, nigga.

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<v Speaker 1>If it doesn't taste good, I'm not eating. And he was,

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<v Speaker 1>look at my last relationship I saw. I used to

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<v Speaker 1>be forcing myself to eat some nasty shit. This nigga

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<v Speaker 1>beat done cook and he forcing the kids to eat.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm like at the table like but the cry

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<v Speaker 1>just like them, like, man, I don't like this. One

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<v Speaker 1>day he put like red onions and spaghetti like that

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<v Speaker 1>ship was overbearing, Like why would you put.

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<v Speaker 2>Red onions and spaghetti? Are you done before? No? That's

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<v Speaker 2>like that video of that girl going to is the

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<v Speaker 2>Man and a woman. She's like, I cook for you

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<v Speaker 2>and she's making spaghetti, but she was taco season.

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<v Speaker 1>On the meat and he was like, it's taco right,

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<v Speaker 1>it's taco spaghetti. Nigga, dumb ass I'll flip this table

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<v Speaker 1>over and I'm not eating this ship, and I'm slammed

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<v Speaker 1>dogging everybody. Plate.

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<v Speaker 2>Give me that plate. Ain't got to poblem like, Nah,

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<v Speaker 2>we ain eating that? Give me that plate? Did I share?

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<v Speaker 1>Write in the trash in this new face? All right,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all listen, this is a great episode, tam uh. If

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<v Speaker 1>you enjoyed it, tune in every Thursday on iHeartRadio, Apple,

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<v Speaker 1>wherever the fuck you.

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<v Speaker 2>Get your podcasts up.

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<v Speaker 1>This is your co host aj Holiday two point zero

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<v Speaker 1>on the instagrams.

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<v Speaker 2>Y'all, holler at me now if you won't get home, y'all,

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<v Speaker 2>It's official, tam bam. I love y'all. Thank y'all for

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<v Speaker 2>tuning in. Remember to speak now and never hold your piece.