Speaker 1: Talk.
Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion to talk.
Speaker 2: What's up, y'all?
Speaker 1: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode that
Speaker 1: we talked back, a show dedicated to you dreamers and
Speaker 1: chasers and everybody else in between. Us your co host
Speaker 1: AJ Holliday.
Speaker 2: What's up, Tam? I like to dedicate today to the
Speaker 2: niggas and holes once again, just in case y'all feel
Speaker 2: left out. We still We're still here for y'all.
Speaker 1: I love y'all.
Speaker 2: I love all of y'all. It's me Tam, Bam, y'all. Eight.
Speaker 1: Hey, how you.
Speaker 2: Doing, Aj?
Speaker 1: I'm good girl, trying to shout this damn heat. It
Speaker 1: is hot outside my car. Be screaming, boy, I'd be
Speaker 1: swearing to God, my damn tire's gonna stick on an asphalt.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so hot. It's so dumb hot, like it
Speaker 2: is brayd in lockweather. I swear to God, I'm in
Speaker 2: flat down and straighten these edges with a hot cone
Speaker 2: like almost every day. I know they're gonna burn out
Speaker 2: if I don't make no changes.
Speaker 1: Girl, I can't even make no changes in my hair
Speaker 1: right now. I don't know all the girls that they
Speaker 1: who be doing. They lace frints and with wigs and
Speaker 1: ship the glues have fucked me up.
Speaker 2: I have a fucking chemical burn. I'm gonna just stop
Speaker 2: wearing them and let you This is just no.
Speaker 1: This is so I don't even have it glued down
Speaker 1: right now. Okay, but you see glue down? Why don't
Speaker 1: you get you some locks of braids for a little while.
Speaker 1: I can't because my forehead is burnt right here.
Speaker 2: That's why you should get it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but when do I like, this thing is going
Speaker 1: to be out for people to see people. Let's just
Speaker 1: I can't do that right now. I have other things
Speaker 1: to do where I can't just be walking around with
Speaker 1: a fucking burn on my forehead.
Speaker 2: But that's what's going on.
Speaker 1: And I feel like we're under attack. Did y'all not
Speaker 1: see uh nig cool and tie world this weekend? They
Speaker 1: putting shit in the damn perms.
Speaker 2: We've been knowing that. What are y'all doing to the
Speaker 2: wig glues?
Speaker 1: I have been gluing my wake down for many years
Speaker 1: while starting a chemical burn.
Speaker 2: It's probably because your scarff was like, cause too much
Speaker 2: of anything is bad for you. If you drink too
Speaker 2: much water, you're drowned on the inside, right, So you've
Speaker 2: been gluing them with no, you really will. Don't be
Speaker 2: looking like that, you really will. You've been gluing wigs
Speaker 2: down for a minute. You just need to let your
Speaker 2: it is like breathe. But I actually don't.
Speaker 1: Though I don't always have my hair gluing down during
Speaker 1: the week when I'm going to the gym and all
Speaker 1: that shit, I don't have my hair glue down. The
Speaker 1: only time I grew my wigs down is if I'm
Speaker 1: doing something, you know what I'm saying. Other than that,
Speaker 1: my shit is off at the house. I having a
Speaker 1: fucking bonding or whatever. So I actually went on Google
Speaker 1: and like went on YouTube and it's a slew of people.
Speaker 2: It's not just me. Oh so they have yes, bitch,
Speaker 2: they've changed. It's something.
Speaker 1: It's something like and it's Goldstpawn that I use, like
Speaker 1: Gostpan is one of the oldest lace schools, you know,
Speaker 1: before black women start getting more into weaves, like this
Speaker 1: is for two pays. This stuff has been out, but
Speaker 1: I look on the bottle and guess where it's made
Speaker 1: at China, Germany. It's the fucking nt Sees.
Speaker 2: It's b six thirteen. It's something going on, girl, But
Speaker 2: what'd you do this? Oh? What we do this weekend?
Speaker 2: I was about to say we were together. We hosted
Speaker 2: Henny and Waffles in Charlotte. It's a huge traveling party
Speaker 2: that go around the country having brunch and lots of
Speaker 2: good music, and we hosted that party. You guys. It
Speaker 2: was so much fun. We got to talk to some fans,
Speaker 2: so that was cool. I took a picture with one girl.
Speaker 2: She and like she was behind me on the section
Speaker 2: and I was looking back, but I didn't realize what
Speaker 2: she was doing. Babyhead was biting my booty, not for real,
Speaker 2: but like had her teeth on my ass, Like wait
Speaker 2: a minute, ma'am. And then what y'all? One fan came
Speaker 2: up and was like, hey, I love y'all. I want
Speaker 2: to say hey to aj too, but I know she
Speaker 2: don't like people. I was like, she do like people?
Speaker 2: Go say hey to her. I promise you she will
Speaker 2: say hey, bag.
Speaker 1: And what I told her if she if you listen
Speaker 1: to girl, I said, I like good people.
Speaker 2: That's what I like.
Speaker 1: The hell. I do like people humans like sometimes humans
Speaker 1: get on my goddamn nerves. Y'all, y'all know I'm not human.
Speaker 1: I'm a whole alien out here, but I do like people.
Speaker 1: I like good people, and that's what I told her.
Speaker 1: Girl Why somebody at me on on Instagram on a
Speaker 1: post it was Dojah Cat. People were asking Doja Cat
Speaker 1: to tell them they love her.
Speaker 2: I love them, and she was like, Kaitens, you're my kittens,
Speaker 2: and she's like, I know you're not my kittens. I
Speaker 2: don't fucking have kittens.
Speaker 1: No, she Dojah Cat said, I don't know y'all, and
Speaker 1: somebody added me on there was like this should sound
Speaker 1: like AJ.
Speaker 2: Listen what I do.
Speaker 1: I have a lot of gratitude and I appreciate the
Speaker 1: supporters of this show now to just say I love everybody.
Speaker 1: I don't know y'all, and.
Speaker 2: Some of y'all may hurt me. I don't know. You
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I'm not out to hurt anybody, but you just never
Speaker 1: know people. So like, how insecure are you in your
Speaker 1: own life to where somebody like a Dojah Cat gotta
Speaker 1: tell you they love them, Like this person was pressing her,
Speaker 1: like you need to tell your fans you love them.
Speaker 1: I show gratitude, much gratitude, much appreciation.
Speaker 2: And tam maam love y'all. Don't worry about that. She's grateful.
Speaker 2: I'm grateful, but I do love y'all. But I love everybody.
Speaker 2: That's just the guy to me. Girl.
Speaker 1: I guess let's get into some stupid innet news. Why
Speaker 1: y'all going on this week? So okay, y'all. I mentioned
Speaker 1: it a couple of minutes ago, but watching they clone Tyrone.
Speaker 1: I have literally been waiting for this movie to come
Speaker 1: out since last year. They kept pushing it back last year.
Speaker 1: October is when I saw the first trailer, and then
Speaker 1: it was supposed to come out in December. Then in
Speaker 1: January they said, oh, it's not coming out until July.
Speaker 2: I'm like, man, what the fuck?
Speaker 1: And then in the midst of all that, Jimmie Fox disappears.
Speaker 1: So I've been saying, daycon Tyrone. I'm like, y'all, ain't
Speaker 1: seen that trailer, this movie that's supposed to come out
Speaker 1: since last year, not this nigga missing, Like, what the
Speaker 1: hell is happening? And now you reappeared two weeks before
Speaker 1: the damn movie comes out. Put a statement out the
Speaker 1: week before. It could be a marketing ploy. I don't know,
Speaker 1: but what do you think about Jamie fox reappearance and
Speaker 1: being appearents.
Speaker 2: I think we all getting older, we all getting sick
Speaker 2: or something, because we all gonna die. Knock on one,
Speaker 2: I'm healthy, y'all are not getting sick. Well, we all
Speaker 2: going up out of here one way or another. Choose
Speaker 2: your words carefully, all right, We all going up out
Speaker 2: of here one way or another. And Jack Fox is
Speaker 2: like in his fifties, and it sounded like he had
Speaker 2: like maybe a stroke or something or some type of
Speaker 2: illness that you know, hit him hard. And it just
Speaker 2: so happened that the movie was coming out at the
Speaker 2: same time. I don't think because I mean, he clearly
Speaker 2: he he you know, he released the video thanking people
Speaker 2: for support and going asking him to watch the movie.
Speaker 2: And he clearly looks like unwell, he doesn't look like yeah.
Speaker 2: So I mean, so now.
Speaker 1: People are putting like before and after images of Jamie
Speaker 1: Fox online, and he looks to me, the current Jamie Fox.
Speaker 1: He looks similar to the old one, but it looks
Speaker 1: like two different people.
Speaker 2: Well, if you take a screenshot of me right now
Speaker 2: and then take a picture for me Saturday, you'd be
Speaker 2: like they clone Tammy.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean it's a lot of clones on social media.
Speaker 1: Everybody be super filtered up chat. There's a lot of
Speaker 1: clones on social media, but Jamie Fox would men usually
Speaker 1: don't be with all that shit that we be doing
Speaker 1: with the filters and on top of fucking makeup.
Speaker 2: I just think it was the lighting. I think he's
Speaker 2: still trying to heal from me because he's light skinned. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and uh and he lost some weight from whatever's going
Speaker 2: on with a lot of way.
Speaker 1: Yeah, his face, his face, his face even shapes totally different.
Speaker 1: Now that's a lot of people's pointing out, like his
Speaker 1: hairline and his chin area, even his nose.
Speaker 2: Well, his hairline ain't never been real, so that shit
Speaker 2: probably be shifting all the time, exactly.
Speaker 1: Like I'd be having to draw my brows different every day. Yeah,
Speaker 1: trying to get that hairline the same every day.
Speaker 2: It might be a challenge, right, So I don't know,
Speaker 2: but I wish all the best of lot. Get well
Speaker 2: and y'all go watch that movie. It's pretty good. It's interesting.
Speaker 2: There was some loose ends for me, but overall, I
Speaker 2: don't want to I don't want to say it because
Speaker 2: I don't want to spoil spoil it. Because it's still
Speaker 2: just fresh out. I want people to see it, see
Speaker 2: it and form their own opinion, so maybe we can
Speaker 2: come back in a couple of weeks and talk about it.
Speaker 2: But there was some like wait what you know moments,
Speaker 2: But for the most part, it was really, really, really good.
Speaker 2: I enjoyed it.
Speaker 1: I think it's like a hood classic. I put it
Speaker 1: like with Friday and shit like that. I have watched
Speaker 1: it twice now, two and a half times. I've watched
Speaker 1: it because that shit got it. Y'all know, i'd be
Speaker 1: on my conspiracy shit, which a lot of things are
Speaker 1: no longer conspiracies, but y'all will want to agree with me.
Speaker 1: It's fine, But that movie was disclosure and confirmation on
Speaker 1: a lot of things. If you think that these things
Speaker 1: aren't happening, then you know, you just think it's entertainment.
Speaker 2: When I saw the first time, I was like, I know,
Speaker 2: AJ somewhere rubbing her nipples watching this movie because this
Speaker 2: is right up her alley, all the shit. But y'all
Speaker 2: think it's entertainment. No, No, I think you know there's
Speaker 2: some truth to all, you know, all conspiracies.
Speaker 1: Just think about how stupid y'all was going during COVID
Speaker 1: for the damn chicken sandwich at Popeyes fighting. But I
Speaker 1: believe somebody died during that time. And I even then,
Speaker 1: I was saying, man, if they wanted to do something
Speaker 1: to black people collectively, just put that ship in a
Speaker 1: chicken sandwich, a chicken or fish sandwich. Y'all, niggas be
Speaker 1: some crab leggs sauce that god damn garlic sauce.
Speaker 2: Y'all be liking the smothering somewhere. What the sandwich?
Speaker 1: Give me about to say and eat it again tomorrow? Yo?
Speaker 1: That's wild. Man. Let me tell y'all one thing about me.
Speaker 1: When everybody doing something, I go to the other direction.
Speaker 2: I ain't doing it. I'm going the other way. Man.
Speaker 1: I gotta watch and see what happened to y'all motherfuckers.
Speaker 2: First listen, Like as far as like vaccines and medicine,
Speaker 2: you ain't gonna get me. But with the food, you
Speaker 2: might motherfucking get my ass. You might fucking catch me
Speaker 2: with that. Well, my boy, they putting stuff into food.
Speaker 2: It's like baby d Like there is a new chicken
Speaker 2: sandwich out. When you bite into a cheese, squirt in
Speaker 2: your mouth. Yo. I'm here for it.
Speaker 1: You remember when KFC had those double chicken sandwiches, like
Speaker 1: with two chicken breasts, no bread, just the two chicken
Speaker 1: sandwiches with.
Speaker 2: The meat, I mean, with the vegetables and stuff in between. Yes,
Speaker 2: that's why Americas are fat, right, that is some.
Speaker 1: Fat came up with that, and my homegirl was ordering
Speaker 1: that shit every day, like, ma'am, are you well right?
Speaker 2: Because they don't even sound appealing, So moving along, go ahead.
Speaker 2: Over the weekend, jess Hilarious and TS Medicine had a
Speaker 2: heat in exchange after the comedian reacts to trans women
Speaker 2: saying CIS and not sis, but CIS women don't own
Speaker 2: womanhood in periods. So ess Hilarious received some mixed reactions
Speaker 2: to her comments on the trans women community. While reacting
Speaker 2: to a video of what seems to be a transgender
Speaker 2: woman discussing CIS women not having ownership over administration in womanhood,
Speaker 2: the internet person ministration I said administration, menstruation, the government
Speaker 2: administration uh. The end of that personality sparked a huge
Speaker 2: online debate and prompted a response from transactivist TS Madison
Speaker 2: And basically they got into it, and jess Hilarious begins
Speaker 2: blasting trans women for what seems to be a rant
Speaker 2: against naturally born females. The individuals argue that since women
Speaker 2: are often transphobic due to the audacity and arrogance they have,
Speaker 2: believing they can gate keep periods and men menstruation.
Speaker 1: Men.
Speaker 2: How you saying many administration periods period? I mean, this
Speaker 2: is this is dumb, you know, like gate keeping womanhood
Speaker 2: is like we birth y'all, you can never birth us
Speaker 2: in the story. That's it. They're the shouldn't be no
Speaker 2: argument because we birthed you and you can never birth us.
Speaker 2: And until you can birth us, there's no conversation to
Speaker 2: be had. Yeah.
Speaker 1: You know when we was on eighty five South and
Speaker 1: I even saw some of the comments on that eighty
Speaker 1: five South vid YouTube video because I talked about parthiogenesis
Speaker 1: and this is a process, right, Mostly Reptilians are known
Speaker 1: for pro creating without the male counterpart, like the female
Speaker 1: can create. If Adam and Eve were the first we
Speaker 1: talked about that creation story, right, they had three sons,
Speaker 1: it was Adam, Eve, and Seth. Unless the three sons
Speaker 1: went back to Eve to make other people, how do
Speaker 1: we create the whole world from a man? It's impossible. Okay,
Speaker 1: So women are the gods on earth because we do
Speaker 1: give life. You cannot come in a sock and create
Speaker 1: a human being. Okay, but there was time and I
Speaker 1: feel like we eat we might be getting back there,
Speaker 1: because if you haven't noticed, the birthrate for men is
Speaker 1: just males are going down. If y'all haven't looked at
Speaker 1: the data, this is going down. And then on top
Speaker 1: of it, especially in the black community, a lot of
Speaker 1: our men are dying. They're just missing to the prison
Speaker 1: system or to to to death, you know, being murdered
Speaker 1: and shit like that.
Speaker 2: I mean, it was Adam and Eve and adamist not
Speaker 2: Adam and Steve for a reason.
Speaker 1: Exactly right.
Speaker 2: And so we see these things and if in this
Speaker 2: Christians right, if you're a Christian.
Speaker 1: And you subscribe to the Bible, we are a Babylon
Speaker 1: and some shit happening right now that's unexplainable. And I
Speaker 1: stand with Jess hilarious one ten percent. And you can
Speaker 1: call me whatever you want to call me, because I'm
Speaker 1: not homophobic. We're just going with the science and we're
Speaker 1: going to what makes sense. I'm not homophobic, I'm not transphobic.
Speaker 1: What makes sense? Men, women come from women. Y'all can't
Speaker 1: exist without us. So this even go back to what's
Speaker 1: name Saucy Santana was saying, we the blueprint, We're the prototype.
Speaker 1: Women are the proto type. Even gay white men they
Speaker 1: want to act like a Black woman when they're gay,
Speaker 1: like that's just what they They naturally just start wanting
Speaker 1: to act like right, did you see that video with
Speaker 1: Quay mm hmmm Quays wait, Quay wait, and he's like
Speaker 1: some baby mama song. He has this prosthetic bellyon. They're
Speaker 1: making a mockery of black women. Yeah, I feel like
Speaker 1: and we should not be okay with this shit. There
Speaker 1: should be no black women not standing with Jessilarious right now.
Speaker 2: That should be no woman period, not just women.
Speaker 1: Und it's like, all right, enough is enough, Like it's okay,
Speaker 1: you we can all coexist. Nobody's trying to take anything
Speaker 1: away from them. But how can you be called a woman?
Speaker 1: But we got to be called CIS women. But y'all
Speaker 1: can just be a woman. No, I'm just a woman.
Speaker 1: Sins is an antonym for tran that's what it is.
Speaker 1: So cisgendered is heterosexual. We just women, and y'all are
Speaker 1: trans women and that's okay, but I'm not about to
Speaker 1: hallucinate with you, Like, at what point does the buck stop?
Speaker 2: My thing is, why are y'all trying to like minimize
Speaker 2: what makes us women to make y'all feel more like
Speaker 2: a woman.
Speaker 1: It's misogyny, that's the ego. It's a dick slang in
Speaker 1: contest because these are still men. Don't nobody even hear
Speaker 1: from trans men, which are biological women, right, because there's
Speaker 1: still women and don't nobody give a fuck about women.
Speaker 1: But you have a bunch of adult males right, pushing
Speaker 1: an agenda. Because this is patriarchy. It's the high and
Speaker 1: I keep saying this, this is patriarchy when a man
Speaker 1: can say, bitch, i'm you because I feel like it.
Speaker 1: You can't be a woman. And a lot of them
Speaker 1: still have their male count. They still have their male parts,
Speaker 1: So you're not really.
Speaker 2: Even you haven't really transitioned, actually you know, well into it.
Speaker 2: I feel like, honest, even if you you know, remove
Speaker 2: your male parts, you still have the what is it
Speaker 2: x y xx I don't chromosome? Yeah, yeah, you still
Speaker 2: have until they find a way to completely change your
Speaker 2: genetic code. I don't know, right, So.
Speaker 1: Let's just stick with the science and just stop, because
Speaker 1: I mean, just stop altogether. I don't I think so
Speaker 1: there's a lot of women who just want attention for
Speaker 1: men so bad that they're okay with this happening, you know.
Speaker 2: What I'm saying. They have a lot of they have
Speaker 2: allies from actual women, you know.
Speaker 1: May it could be because maybe these people have children
Speaker 1: that are this way, or you know, adult kids, whoever.
Speaker 2: But I'm never going to be okay with this. I
Speaker 2: stand for women, natural women. Yeah me too, I'm not.
Speaker 2: I'm okay with you decide. If you wake up tomorrow
Speaker 2: and you feel like a woman inside and you want
Speaker 2: to be a woman, that's fine, But don't minimize what
Speaker 2: makes me a woman to make you feel more like
Speaker 2: a woman. And we're good. The only sense I recognize
Speaker 2: is sis moving right along period poop.
Speaker 1: Yeah, listen, you know, people be scared to talk about
Speaker 1: these things. We've had an episode what is a woman
Speaker 1: who did that episode before?
Speaker 2: People were mad. We got some bad reviews because of
Speaker 2: that episode, and that's fine. Everybody ain't gonna agree, and
Speaker 2: that's fine.
Speaker 1: And it's just weird when it's the actual women that
Speaker 1: come for you do y'all not see what's happening.
Speaker 2: This is agendas. Not for you, ma'am. It's not for you.
Speaker 2: So all right, let's move on to some real, stupid,
Speaker 2: more stupid shit. The Nigerian man wanted to create a
Speaker 2: Guinness World Record for the longest time crying, and he
Speaker 2: went blind temporarily trying to cry. Now, I'm just trying
Speaker 2: to figure out how to fuck you. Was like, you
Speaker 2: woke up and you was like, I want to be
Speaker 2: in the Guinness Book of World Records today. What can
Speaker 2: I do? Hmmm, I'm a cry for a long ass
Speaker 2: motherfucker time and get in the book. That's something with
Speaker 2: that motherfucker to even want to do that. It's not
Speaker 2: even a skill. It's not like I cook for one
Speaker 2: hundred hours or I jog like motherfucking Forrest Gump. This
Speaker 2: nigga cried.
Speaker 1: This nigga cannot be trusted when I cry. I be
Speaker 1: looking in the mirror and I realized how stupid I
Speaker 1: look crying, So I stop. That dude was looking so
Speaker 1: crazy crying.
Speaker 2: I know he had a fucking headache. I know that's
Speaker 2: why he went blind. Your head has to hurt, right,
Speaker 2: because you're just forcing tears out of your body because
Speaker 2: he was forcing that shit. I'm sorry. After some time, okay,
Speaker 2: you might be crying for real thinking about all your
Speaker 2: trauma stress. But then after and there's a point where
Speaker 2: it's like, okay, now I'm just force. You might got
Speaker 2: a lot of trauma and stress to help promote those tears. Yes,
Speaker 2: do they get paid for Guinness?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: Do you get money for being in the Guinness worker's accolades?
Speaker 2: I don't think it's any money.
Speaker 1: Nah?
Speaker 2: Do I need to check? Have to be crying for
Speaker 2: one hundred hours?
Speaker 1: Crying?
Speaker 2: Weird? It's a maniac cray.
Speaker 1: I would not How could you even trust a man
Speaker 1: like that in a relationship? Like you can't start crying randomly.
Speaker 1: I love you so much.
Speaker 2: I cheated because I'm hurt. I missed my grandma. Y'all
Speaker 2: you remember that who said I missed my grandma? I
Speaker 2: don't know who man when he got caught cheating.
Speaker 1: Upset?
Speaker 2: Did that?
Speaker 1: Yo?
Speaker 2: I cheat it because I missed my grandma. That's a
Speaker 2: good one. Yeah, I would say that was just in
Speaker 2: case second a nigga and I'll do something like got
Speaker 2: no business, Like I'd be wearing around my neck every
Speaker 2: day I miss her.
Speaker 1: That's why I while I was smashing, I had her on. Actually, ma'am.
Speaker 2: No, the next man I am at home. The next
Speaker 2: man I get. I ain't cheating on him. I promise, baby,
Speaker 2: wherever you are, I'm gonna love you down. Are you
Speaker 2: a cheater? You think you're a cheater. No, I'm not
Speaker 2: a cheating no more. But in relationships where you're a cheater.
Speaker 2: I've cheated in relationships before. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I never initiate cheating. That's one thing I don't do.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna initiate it. And I think, uh, I
Speaker 1: can't cheat living with somebody either, Like that shit is
Speaker 1: wild to me. How motherfucking leave out the house and
Speaker 1: go cheating and come back like ain't nothing happened and
Speaker 1: kiss he in my mouth.
Speaker 2: I can't do that to anybody either. No, I've only
Speaker 2: lived with one man and I didn't cheat on him.
Speaker 2: But I cheated on my nigga who lived in California
Speaker 2: and I was all the way into South Carolin. No,
Speaker 2: I was in Atlanta and he was in LA. We
Speaker 2: both think that's cheating. Yeah, Like that's a mutual cheat.
Speaker 2: Chos At this point, it's a mutual cheat. I definitely
Speaker 2: cheated on him. And can you hear that? Bell I
Speaker 2: do hear that? Y'all? Tell me got a new dog?
Speaker 1: Do you hear this? We can't even record no more.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry and god damn puppy, y'all in the recording,
Speaker 1: she might as well join the team.
Speaker 2: Listen. Bella is my new family member, y'all, and she
Speaker 2: I almost heated that bitch over the side of the
Speaker 2: back of the y'all. I ain't been able to get
Speaker 2: no mother fucking sleep. I really feel like a new mom.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to take that bell off. I'll take
Speaker 2: it off before we record next week, so y'all won't
Speaker 2: hear it next time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she just took the Christmas tree down. Now she
Speaker 1: got bells in the goddamn mouse.
Speaker 2: What is happening? Santa Claus and the ghetto, y'all.
Speaker 1: Look, this week were talking about fuck it, the power
Speaker 1: of saying fuck it.
Speaker 2: Listen.
Speaker 1: I had a fucking moment this weekend, but I didn't
Speaker 1: do it. I didn't take the I didn't take the
Speaker 1: high road to say fucking and just ignore Nigga. I
Speaker 1: had got a random ass text message from it from
Speaker 1: an ex about some random shit from twenty twenty and
Speaker 1: you took the band, I took the demon bait and
Speaker 1: I responded gracefully. I was like, you know, our perception
Speaker 1: and perspective of how our relationship with and what transpart
Speaker 1: in our relationship is obviously different.
Speaker 2: Was it after your hold on? Was this after you
Speaker 2: posted your video of you dancing? Absolutely? What did I
Speaker 2: tell you?
Speaker 1: What did I But for the record, I don't do
Speaker 1: nothing for that nigga. I don't do nothing for no nigga.
Speaker 1: I do shit for the current nigga. I don't do
Speaker 1: nothing for no previous niggas.
Speaker 2: Not But when I saw that video you was looking
Speaker 2: finally said, I was like, Oh, niggas is about to
Speaker 2: pop up. Niggas is about the pop up. I'm like, God,
Speaker 2: what it's Sunday? Are you well, sir? Like if you
Speaker 2: are being fine without me, I hate you come in
Speaker 2: dis wort some shit, and.
Speaker 1: You know before I would be like super triggered. I
Speaker 1: wasn't triggered about it, but I did give him. I
Speaker 1: fed that thing in him right that probably just wanted
Speaker 1: to fuck with me for the day. But I wasn't
Speaker 1: fucked with though, So I might be doing a little
Speaker 1: bit better, right, you know what I'm saying, Like, I'm like,
Speaker 1: I hope you're doing well in your current relationship. I
Speaker 1: hope everything's doing better now because we didn't bring out
Speaker 1: the best in each other.
Speaker 2: And I'm okay with that. Are you can you move
Speaker 2: on happily at some point? Right? I'm happy? So I
Speaker 2: don't know. All right, y'all, Well to you, my nigga.
Speaker 2: We'll be right back with some more fuckers.
Speaker 1: Y'all were back, okay, And you know, today I wanted
Speaker 1: to have a conversation about just fucking life, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, because life be life and like that's
Speaker 1: a real famous phrase.
Speaker 2: I feel like she had since COVID for real, bro,
Speaker 2: life be lifing. Life has been. Life is so much likely.
Speaker 2: If it ain't one thing, it's another. I just feel
Speaker 2: like it's not enough time to even process one thing
Speaker 2: before the next thing it has come, you know, basically.
Speaker 2: But I mean, there's ways to cope with life, right.
Speaker 2: But I saw this thing. I saw this meme. It
Speaker 2: said life be lifing. But God be godden, it is true.
Speaker 2: Like I won't put nothing on you that you can't handle.
Speaker 1: Or you should see some of that should be having
Speaker 1: hands dog, It really be having hands.
Speaker 2: Look like, all right, tell me one thing like that's
Speaker 2: going on right now in your life that you're like
Speaker 2: this too much?
Speaker 1: Nothing really like right now at this moment, Nah, nothing
Speaker 1: I can't handle. I feel like it's a it's when
Speaker 1: you single should just be going a little bit easier.
Speaker 1: I feel like, yes, I feel like I do my
Speaker 1: best when I'm by my damn self. For the most part,
Speaker 1: it's usually when I'm in a relationship, I be feeling
Speaker 1: like life be lifing because now you're not just having
Speaker 1: to consider yourself, you got to consider somebody else.
Speaker 2: You know what. Yeah, I think all my things that
Speaker 2: are really affecting my life is honestly other people shit,
Speaker 2: Like exactly, have a friend who's really really sick with
Speaker 2: cancer right now. My dad has depression, he's you know,
Speaker 2: trying to get through that. And I just think those things,
Speaker 2: even though they're not directly my shit, it affects me
Speaker 2: in such a huge, huge, huge way, and it'd be
Speaker 2: making me feel like life be lifing. And then I
Speaker 2: feel like I oftentimes I'm extending myself to so many
Speaker 2: people all the time that when I look up, like damn,
Speaker 2: I have not even poured into myself at all, exactly.
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So you're gonna try to find a way to like
Speaker 1: transmute all our energy, because we know for sure that
Speaker 1: stress causes a lot of illnesses. So you gotta find
Speaker 1: some type of way to deal with stress, maybe your
Speaker 1: own or some stress that somebody is imposing on you,
Speaker 1: somebody else's stress. You gotta find a way to like
Speaker 1: transmute it.
Speaker 2: So I you know, I did a lot of research.
Speaker 2: You know, we like to the internet.
Speaker 1: The cell phone is like a whole computer at your
Speaker 1: fucking fingertips, right, So anything you want to figure out,
Speaker 1: you can pretty much find it. And this is a
Speaker 1: book that I have. It's called The Power of Not
Speaker 1: Giving a Fuck. I've literally I've had this tattoo on
Speaker 1: my finger and my middle finger on my right hand
Speaker 1: since I was probably, like I don't know, twenty four.
Speaker 2: I was living in Atlanta. I went to I went
Speaker 2: to a.
Speaker 1: Tattoo house party, and everybody was in there getting all
Speaker 1: these big dumb ass tattoos.
Speaker 2: I literally thought about this tattoo.
Speaker 1: For many years, like I'm gonna get apostrophe em on
Speaker 1: my fucking finger, on my middle finger, because things I
Speaker 1: can't control is for real, fuck them, like you can't
Speaker 1: let shit faster that you can't control. It's the little
Speaker 1: things that stress me to fuck out big things. I
Speaker 1: just be like, damn, I gotta deal with it, like
Speaker 1: it's not going away. The longer you wait, it's gonna
Speaker 1: get bigger. So handle it today. It's little things. Give
Speaker 1: an example that stressed me out. I can't even think
Speaker 1: of nothing because they just be so fucking minuscule, Like, bitch.
Speaker 2: Why is you tripping? You know what? A little thing
Speaker 2: that I can think of that gives me stress is
Speaker 2: getting older. That's stressful to you.
Speaker 1: It has been the only stressful thing to me about
Speaker 1: getting older is not being a millionaire.
Speaker 2: Yet.
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck about getting old. I just
Speaker 1: want to enjoy life while I'm living.
Speaker 2: Though. Let me tell you something. I did a cartwheel
Speaker 2: the other day as a bit and this right shoulder
Speaker 2: just now it ain't been the same sense, my nigga, Like,
Speaker 2: little shit like that is getting different. No, hang in
Speaker 2: line now.
Speaker 1: I was walking down some steps earlier at my friend's house,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, why the fuck is my knees stole hurt?
Speaker 2: And bitch, I was riding dick so crazy earlier last
Speaker 2: week my knee stove fucking hurt. On top of that,
Speaker 2: it wasn't even a wrong.
Speaker 1: It's just my knees be like the pressure beat in
Speaker 1: the band and using that nigga chest to do all.
Speaker 2: Type of shit. I told you I was in a
Speaker 2: questrian You now my knees hurt? Yeah, like that, just
Speaker 2: getting hurt. I need to ice my knees. Man going
Speaker 2: to sleep fine and waking up with new ship wrong?
Speaker 2: How did I hurt myself and my mother fucking sleep?
Speaker 1: No, that's how you know you plus thirty because when
Speaker 1: you just fucking stand up and break something wrong.
Speaker 2: When I go drinking, I like, I'll be sitting on
Speaker 2: the top of the couch and party. I still got
Speaker 2: it two days to get back straight. Two days later.
Speaker 2: It takes two days. I don't like that. So getting
Speaker 2: older has been stressful for me. That part, and then
Speaker 2: the fact that i'm you know, even though my age
Speaker 2: is really fluid, hold your figure up. Fuck them, I'm
Speaker 2: not married, I don't have kids like I just feel
Speaker 2: like some of these things I should have done by
Speaker 2: this stage in my life. And that is that what's
Speaker 2: stressing you up, Yo, that does bring me stress, Like,
Speaker 2: and I'm still single, Like, I'd be like, am I'm outside,
Speaker 2: I'm singing. I ain't got those problems y'all got. And
Speaker 2: then when I'm sitting at the house at my trade table,
Speaker 2: eating my little meal by myself.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, lord, real body, please, Now, I do
Speaker 1: want to be in a relationship. I am a relationship
Speaker 1: prone person, even if I be doing like some little
Speaker 1: shit in between time. But for the most part, I
Speaker 1: like to be in relationious. I don't really don't like
Speaker 1: being by myself. I like being outside right.
Speaker 2: But but the kids thing, I don't regret not having
Speaker 2: kids earlier.
Speaker 1: Because I was just having a conversation with one of
Speaker 1: my best friends today and we were talking about like kids,
Speaker 1: I'm like, when you there's some things you don't see
Speaker 1: until you get older, right, So I feel like I
Speaker 1: watch parents.
Speaker 2: I watch people parent all the time, and.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, y'all are terrible. The fuck why y'all?
Speaker 1: Like why you get so aggravated with your kid? Like
Speaker 1: I feel like kids, the longer you take to have kids,
Speaker 1: you realize how much of a gift they actually are.
Speaker 1: Like people who could just spit a baby out. They
Speaker 1: don't recognize that you're not the gift to that kid.
Speaker 1: That kid is a gift to you.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I know a lot of mothers that
Speaker 2: are absolutely in love with their skiing some that's and
Speaker 2: how older a kid are you talking about, like twenty
Speaker 2: two year old?
Speaker 1: Yes, they like I don't believe in postpartum. I believe
Speaker 1: that a lot of times women just don't have the support.
Speaker 1: That's where the stress comes from after having a baby.
Speaker 1: If you got a man that'll rub your back and
Speaker 1: rub your feet and love on you after you had
Speaker 1: I saw a pit bull. The pit bull was laying
Speaker 1: behind this bitch while she was breastfeeding the kids, and
Speaker 1: she looks so comfortable and stress free. That's where I
Speaker 1: think a postpartum situation manifest when you don't have help.
Speaker 2: Well not, I mean, you know I have. I've seen
Speaker 2: where one of my friends she suffered from postpartum really bad,
Speaker 2: and she had a huge, like huge support system. Like
Speaker 2: it wasn't from the band though, yeah, it was her man,
Speaker 2: his sister. He had a bunch of sisters, mom, her mom,
Speaker 2: her sisters, everybody was, you know, there to help, and
Speaker 2: she just did not feel connection to her baby, and
Speaker 2: she just and then that made her feel even more sad. Right,
Speaker 2: I can imagine why do I feel this way? Why
Speaker 2: do I not? So I don't know. It could like
Speaker 2: what you're saying is probably true, and that does happen sometimes,
Speaker 2: But there are times that it's just some chemical imbalance
Speaker 2: within a woman that happens after pregnancy, that I mean,
Speaker 2: after childbirth that causes this some time.
Speaker 1: You know, I kind of fear that, like because I
Speaker 1: know if I had and this is just being open,
Speaker 1: completely honest and transparent. So I don't want to say
Speaker 1: I have fertility issues, but I don't have any kids,
Speaker 1: and I have had problems not conceiving but carrying. Right,
Speaker 1: So I think sometimes like if I do in vitro,
Speaker 1: will I feel connected to the baby, because that's like GMO.
Speaker 2: Baby all what is it? All? Right? I don't even
Speaker 2: know exactly what in vitro.
Speaker 1: And so it's when you take the sperm and you
Speaker 1: fertilize the egg inside your No, so if you can
Speaker 1: go so the other process, like if people freeze their
Speaker 1: eggs and stuff like that, they would do and like,
Speaker 1: but that's out of uterol, so they would inject the
Speaker 1: sperm into the and then put it in your and
Speaker 1: then insert it and then transplant it to your your uterus.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well that doesn't technically count because I mean, it's
Speaker 2: still growing inside you. I think once they start a
Speaker 2: growing baby in the incubus.
Speaker 1: Incubator, Why are you still talk about That's a mama
Speaker 1: outside right now yelling at her fucking kid be gray
Speaker 1: home for the babies.
Speaker 2: She grateful for that baby. Don't you see them in
Speaker 2: there doing the podcasts up? Get your ass back here.
Speaker 2: They be frustrated with the kids.
Speaker 1: Man, I don't be liking that because kids have half
Speaker 1: the life life experience of adults. So you can't put
Speaker 1: them on a pedestal and expect them to be better
Speaker 1: than you. Obviously you want your kids to grow up
Speaker 1: to be better than you, but they gotta.
Speaker 2: Get They got to give them some grades. Yeah, I
Speaker 2: agree there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So y'all, life be lifing and the power of
Speaker 1: fuck it is amazing. Right, So things you can't control,
Speaker 1: fuck it right. So this article I read, I took
Speaker 1: a lot of notes from it to try and give
Speaker 1: people ways to deal with challenging or overwhelming situations.
Speaker 2: While life be fucking lifing.
Speaker 1: So The first one is take a step back, pause
Speaker 1: and give yourself some space to reflect on the situation,
Speaker 1: assess what specifically is causing you distress or difficulty, and
Speaker 1: try to gain a broader perspective on the situation.
Speaker 2: So I know, I be that's hard for me.
Speaker 1: It's hard for me too, bitch, because I be on
Speaker 1: go in my brain too. So sometimes if you do
Speaker 1: take a moment to just shut the fuck up in
Speaker 1: your mind, just as.
Speaker 2: We talk bag So I don't know if that's possible
Speaker 2: for it.
Speaker 1: But did I not just tell you recently that I'm
Speaker 1: tired of fucking talking though, Like if we talk back,
Speaker 1: but if picture is tired of talking, I'm tired of it.
Speaker 2: It's stressful. That's something I really could work on. It's
Speaker 2: just because sometimes in hindsight, I'll be like, damn, I
Speaker 2: could have just shut up. I could just shut up, really,
Speaker 2: and it would have just saved me, And it would
Speaker 2: have just saved me so much stress to just not
Speaker 2: even bother.
Speaker 1: I always say that sometimes it's okay to shut the
Speaker 1: fuck up, you know, sometimes it's okay not to say anything.
Speaker 1: One of my exes dog, he just felt impaled to
Speaker 1: just tell people what he thought about them or just
Speaker 1: just talking shit. I'm like dogs, sometimes it's okay to
Speaker 1: shut the fuck up. You like, who the fuck are you?
Speaker 2: I have this one friend that he we talk all
Speaker 2: the time, but he just irks. Oh do I know
Speaker 2: this friend? He probably irk my nerves too. Sometimes I
Speaker 2: talk to him just so I could go off on him,
Speaker 2: because need somebody to go off on. You know, he
Speaker 2: gonna say something. It's gonna take me there.
Speaker 1: Now, that's feeding the toxicciety you. Now, if you know that,
Speaker 1: you can get that thing, and you fed by talking
Speaker 1: to this person because me, I'm not talking to them. No,
Speaker 1: I'm not talking to anybody that causes me anxiety, unnecessary stress.
Speaker 1: Like I want to disconnect from your ass immediately.
Speaker 2: We'll go back and forth. I'm like, oh, I feel
Speaker 2: so much better. That is toxic bitch. It's up, won't you?
Speaker 2: But do y'all hear this. I just want y'all to knows.
Speaker 2: Do y'all hear this? All right? So when you see debates,
Speaker 2: it'll be like great debates. You know, you know his
Speaker 2: debates do not be great?
Speaker 1: Dog like the And I hope you hear this, nigga,
Speaker 1: so you can leave us alone sometime, but he won't
Speaker 1: send like post it's raining y'all anyway. He will send
Speaker 1: post online with a paragraph attached to it seven o'clock
Speaker 1: in the morning, like did you even brush your teeth yet?
Speaker 2: And you want to debate me about some ship early
Speaker 2: in the fucking morning.
Speaker 1: It's to the point I'd be like, okay, now, don't
Speaker 1: think just because I say okay that you're right, piece, I'd.
Speaker 2: Be like, you know what, you picked the right motherfucking
Speaker 2: day for this, my whole soul. I don't like to
Speaker 2: argue to be a text which I'm calling, so I
Speaker 2: don't talk to him on the phone.
Speaker 1: It's just goddamn Instagram. So yeah, like he's definitely stressful.
Speaker 1: But even in those situations, if we just take this
Speaker 1: take a step back, yes, but you said you take
Speaker 1: the step forward because you like.
Speaker 2: Sometimes sometimes ready like let's go, this is going to
Speaker 2: help me release some pent up stress arguing with you
Speaker 2: about something that affects the stupid ship. The earth is round.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you, y'all about I'll last argument me
Speaker 1: and this nigga. He sent me an article about paternity testing, right,
Speaker 1: did he say?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: So he sent an article about paternity testing. And you know,
Speaker 1: I'm a real life, matter of fact type person, like,
Speaker 1: that's why I researched.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna read.
Speaker 1: So I don't like, you know, people say all the
Speaker 1: time I be spreading misinformation. Nah, bitch, you just hadn't
Speaker 1: seen it yet, right. So he sent me some ship
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I don't like when people.
Speaker 2: Throw out data and statistics.
Speaker 1: Please send me your source. Don't just say, oh, a
Speaker 1: ten percent of women and shit, Like I don't want.
Speaker 2: To hear that. I need the source.
Speaker 1: So basically it was on paternity right, a girl was
Speaker 1: saying she knew a guy who worked at a paternity
Speaker 1: clinic or blood testing site and he quit because of
Speaker 1: the stress of having to counsel couples after the baby
Speaker 1: come back.
Speaker 2: Not the guys, right, And.
Speaker 1: She was basically saying that the guy was like, it's
Speaker 1: forty percent of the time, it's not the man's baby
Speaker 1: who's getting the paternity test.
Speaker 2: So my thing to our friend was, this is not
Speaker 2: forty percent of all pregnancies.
Speaker 1: This is just the people who go get tested because
Speaker 1: they feel like they need to get tested for the
Speaker 1: fucking kid. Then, after arguing him and going back and
Speaker 1: forth about why people should get I don't disagree with
Speaker 1: that man should get their kids tested.
Speaker 2: I don't disagree.
Speaker 1: Shit be look, life be lifing. The only difference between
Speaker 1: men and women is that we can get pregnant, all right.
Speaker 1: If Megan get pregnant, they would have a bunch of
Speaker 1: babies that don't belong to that bait.
Speaker 2: If I had addicted day, I would get a.
Speaker 1: Lot of y'all niggas pregnant and leave would Yes, I was,
Speaker 1: I'll be a daddy. Daddy, just a good lesson. Now
Speaker 1: you would be a good father. But shortly after the
Speaker 1: damn video, we're all off topic. But it's funny. So
Speaker 1: shortly after the video, I'm looking on Instagram and here
Speaker 1: come a post. It's aid the fucking judge, one of
Speaker 1: them judge shows it's a black guy on him. He's
Speaker 1: not about a diagram to the motherfucking courts to show
Speaker 1: how all his kids got this particular eyebrow arch. And
Speaker 1: he's saying he got seven kids. He said, all seven
Speaker 1: of my kids got this eyebrow arch. That's not my baby.
Speaker 1: I mean, the court's laughing, the judge laughing at his ass.
Speaker 1: It's one lady, one baby. And he's like, that baby
Speaker 1: isn't mine. He's seven kids.
Speaker 2: These are my kids. That baby is not my baby.
Speaker 1: They laughing, like the judge going in on his ass.
Speaker 1: Bitch came back from commercial. You are not the father
Speaker 1: he was, and I said that the old boy, it
Speaker 1: ain't mine.
Speaker 2: He knew what his kids look like. You know, at
Speaker 2: this age, I will never be in a situation where
Speaker 2: I wouldn't know who he either is because if I
Speaker 2: don't know, I'm nothing the fun. I'm not about to
Speaker 2: be embarrassed, Like what would you do if you ask
Speaker 2: for a fraternity.
Speaker 1: Oh no, I thought you were saying like this is
Speaker 1: like if I actually did some shady shit and you
Speaker 1: just don't know who my baby daddy is, I'm not
Speaker 1: having the baby, it is what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Well, that's not what I was saying.
Speaker 1: No, that's not happening at Like, I'm not out here
Speaker 1: smashing multiple people without of goddamn condom first of all.
Speaker 2: That part, and just not outside like that. But if
Speaker 2: I was, I just have to be honest with everybody
Speaker 2: and dap everybody up.
Speaker 1: And why you scratched the back of your neck when
Speaker 1: you said you were outside like that, because my neck
Speaker 1: was itching.
Speaker 2: I look like a lie.
Speaker 1: I'm not outside like that.
Speaker 2: I got a gluey and it was in and I'm sorry.
Speaker 2: It's not a lie. I'm not outside like that right now? Me? Neither? Girl?
Speaker 2: All right, y'all.
Speaker 1: Next, Practicing self care. This is one of my favorites
Speaker 1: because I love fucking self care. Okay, and self care
Speaker 1: is never selfish. Engaging in activities that promote your well
Speaker 1: being and help you relax. This could include exercising one
Speaker 1: am I trying to get back in the gym better.
Speaker 1: Meditating one of my favorites. I meditate when I wake up,
Speaker 1: go and go to sleep. Spending time in nature another favorite.
Speaker 1: Pursuing hobbies or engaging in activities that bring you joy
Speaker 1: and fulfillment. So what's some of the things that make
Speaker 1: you happy?
Speaker 2: Weed? Yeah, it's one of my favorites. But outside of that,
Speaker 2: I just started sewing on the machine and I've been
Speaker 2: making outdoor pillows and they look so good. I'm so
Speaker 2: proud of my friend. I was like, oh, bitch, here'd
Speaker 2: you come with a new hobby? Next thing? You know?
Speaker 2: We go see here on Instagram tell my we outside
Speaker 2: pillows by Tam Why not shit? I know, but you
Speaker 2: know what, it's just I don't think I would turning
Speaker 2: into a business. It's just something that I've been enjoying
Speaker 2: and I like making my patio look real nice and pretty.
Speaker 2: It was expensive, so I went to Joe An the
Speaker 2: Boston Fabric got me a little sewing machine and it's
Speaker 2: half the price doing it that way. But it was
Speaker 2: Fourth of July weekend and every like, I'm outside on
Speaker 2: my patio.
Speaker 1: Like putting fourth of July weekend, yeah, okay, yeah yeah, And.
Speaker 2: And I was like sewing pillows and it was like
Speaker 2: live outside. It's motorcycles, horses riding down the street, people
Speaker 2: on those bikes, that beer bikes and ship and I
Speaker 2: was like, damn, I wash, That's what I was thinking,
Speaker 2: because why am I in the house.
Speaker 1: So because that is fucking fun. Shot it was cool
Speaker 1: or whatever, but it just seemed like I felt washed.
Speaker 1: You felt like you needed to be doing something else.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was all that electricity outside. I mean here,
Speaker 2: like somebody, mother fucking auntie sold pillows. Maybe because you
Speaker 2: are someone's aunty. Hold your finger up and pointed at yourself.
Speaker 1: Goodness, let me see some of the things that makes
Speaker 1: me happy.
Speaker 2: I like cooking.
Speaker 1: I like cooking and then I like serving people to food.
Speaker 1: And I'll stand there watch you eat the whole thing, y'all.
Speaker 1: When I was at her house, she made this omelet
Speaker 1: which was really good. What it was like, uh, salmon,
Speaker 1: It's no salmon. It was blue crap meat okay you
Speaker 1: gallops and shrimp okay, fully loaded, Okay. It was three eggs,
Speaker 1: sweet peppers, sweet onions, nicely seasoned.
Speaker 2: Listen, you can't get this at a restaurant. But it
Speaker 2: was just like kind of weird because I'm either I
Speaker 2: keep feeling like someone burning a hole in the side
Speaker 2: of my and I'm like you straight and they look
Speaker 2: right back at me, watching the whole thing. So that
Speaker 2: makes you feel good when people enjoy your food. Yes,
Speaker 2: I like people to tell me my food taste good.
Speaker 2: That's one of the things that made me happy.
Speaker 1: So just cooking a good meal, eating good and serving
Speaker 1: that's the things that's Those are the things that make
Speaker 1: me happy outside of like money and family and we.
Speaker 2: I think it's right and we. I don't just do
Speaker 2: weed by itself. It has to come with the dick. Really, No,
Speaker 2: I will be like I was in there with like
Speaker 2: just be in there with the joy in my mouth, like.
Speaker 1: Foolishness, dog like.
Speaker 2: That, pillows like.
Speaker 1: Look, but if you're having a tough time and you
Speaker 1: can't you feel like you can't find the things that
Speaker 1: usually made you happy or making you happy, the next
Speaker 1: thing is seek support, all right, So reach out to
Speaker 1: trusted friends, family members, or support network for assistance and guidance.
Speaker 1: Sometimes sharing your thoughts and feelings with others can provide
Speaker 1: valuable insights or emotional support.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree, you gotta find your village. I told
Speaker 2: you by my friend who just got diagnosed with breast
Speaker 2: cancer and excuse me, shed y'all. She found out that
Speaker 2: she had cancer in her lungs and her sternum and
Speaker 2: her liver on her birthday. That is wild. That is
Speaker 2: that is life, life, life, And on your birthday you
Speaker 2: get this news. And we just rallied around her and
Speaker 2: we all cried together, we sang together. We did we
Speaker 2: party you know that for her because we still was
Speaker 2: like we still celebrating your birthday, yeah, you know, And
Speaker 2: at first she wasn't into it, but then she got
Speaker 2: into it and we had such a good time and
Speaker 2: she had a good time. And I think think, you know,
Speaker 2: just us rallying around her like that made a huge
Speaker 2: impact on her, at least her birthday. You know. I
Speaker 2: know it's still gonna be a long road for her
Speaker 2: to you know, get healed, but mentally and physically. Yeah,
Speaker 2: she was. You know, she called me this morning, was saying,
Speaker 2: like they asked her about her village, and she was like,
Speaker 2: I'm just so blessed to have these people around me
Speaker 2: because they really are helping me feel better. Right, So
Speaker 2: having that support group is very very important.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so any you know, that's what I was saying
Speaker 1: about just discarding people that give you some just stress,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like you the people at
Speaker 1: our age, at this big age, right, the people that
Speaker 1: you allow on your space should be the people that
Speaker 1: put a smile on your face every time you see them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, every time you see them, it should be good times. Well,
Speaker 2: I can't really say that every time I see the
Speaker 2: people I love, they put a smile on my face,
Speaker 2: because some sometimes y'all get on my nerves, you know,
Speaker 2: like who are you talking to? Who talking Mack Jordan?
Speaker 2: You're gonna tell me talking about you like that?
Speaker 1: Look Like, first of all, anytime I've gotten on your nerve.
Speaker 1: You've gotten on my nerve, so we've equally gotten on
Speaker 1: y'all the nerves. So I'm not getting on your nerve
Speaker 1: right now, So why are you even talking about it?
Speaker 1: Did I get on your nerves this time? Did I
Speaker 1: do anything to.
Speaker 2: You this time? You didn't do nothing to me this time.
Speaker 2: What I'm saying sometimes it's not always a smiling situation,
Speaker 2: and that's okay because that's normal.
Speaker 1: Well, I won't say love because to me, like we
Speaker 1: talked about unconditional love on another episode.
Speaker 2: You know, I feel like love and liking are two
Speaker 2: different things because I can like you.
Speaker 1: I don't think that you can like a person and
Speaker 1: I love them, But you can definitely love a person
Speaker 1: and not like them, right, So liking is fluctuating and
Speaker 1: fleeting oftentimes, you know, but the love is still there,
Speaker 1: but it's liking.
Speaker 2: So what I said, what I mean is the people
Speaker 2: that you fucking like, dog. It's certain people.
Speaker 1: When I see them, like I know it's going to
Speaker 1: be a good day, you know what I'm saying, Like
Speaker 1: that person when you are going through some shit, as
Speaker 1: soon as you you know, see them, you cry.
Speaker 2: That's your people. That's your people. Yeah. But y'all. We're
Speaker 2: gonna take a break right quick.
Speaker 1: All right, y'all, So we're back and let's get back.
Speaker 2: To how we deal with life.
Speaker 1: Okay, some some some some things you can do some practices.
Speaker 1: So practice resilience.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: I understand that setbacks and difficult times are part of life. Life,
Speaker 1: be lifing right. Cultivate resilience by maintaining a positive mindset,
Speaker 1: focusing on solutions rather than problems, and learning from past experiences.
Speaker 2: I feel like practice and resilience is like embedded in
Speaker 2: black people. Yeah, I think that one is just one
Speaker 2: that we just do.
Speaker 1: Now, look, we're gonna we're gonna see when this economy
Speaker 1: really cried. You're gonna be standing because you know them
Speaker 1: people can't live with out resources we can.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna talking to one of my guy friends. He
Speaker 2: came to help me put up this table that I
Speaker 2: bought from my patio. Y'all, my patio about to be fired.
Speaker 2: I'm just saying that. But he came to put it up,
Speaker 2: and I was like, slowly as I was cutting fabric
Speaker 2: to make another pillow, I was like, slowly, but surely,
Speaker 2: I'm turning into my grandmother. I was like, next thing.
Speaker 2: You know, I'm gonna be preserving fruits and vegetables as
Speaker 2: you should be preserving fruits. And he and in his
Speaker 2: twenties preserving fruits and vegetables. Why you just can't buy
Speaker 2: more fruits and vegetables because it ain't the same. I
Speaker 2: was like, it's different. And I was like, what if
Speaker 2: there are no one? What if they run out? Now
Speaker 2: you have jars and jars of stuff on serve there.
Speaker 2: He was like, what if they run out of vegetables?
Speaker 2: The grocery store always got veget.
Speaker 1: Do they Because did you know, I see what the
Speaker 1: fuck was happening during COVID, right, They was intentionally fucking
Speaker 1: with the food supply.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like one day I went to the grocery store
Speaker 1: and there was no better. The next day it was
Speaker 1: like three or four packs up there. We all find
Speaker 1: three or four packs of butter. At right, we all
Speaker 1: playing with Bring that motherfucking butter off the back.
Speaker 2: And stop playing with.
Speaker 1: Yes.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so yeah, black people definitely, I think resilient.
Speaker 1: We have lower anytime I hear about a black person
Speaker 1: coming in suicide, it's like very shocking to me, Like, Dad,
Speaker 1: what the fuck was happening that you had to get
Speaker 1: up out of here, you know what I'm saying, like,
Speaker 1: because that's just not especially a black woman, it's just
Speaker 1: not like something we do.
Speaker 2: Definitely are just the most resilient people on the planet,
Speaker 2: I feel like m for sure. But in the event
Speaker 2: that you don't feel resilient, this is something you can
Speaker 2: do by start maintaining a positive mindset, which is hard
Speaker 2: when you're going through stuff. That's why that village is
Speaker 2: always good, because they'll help you get out of that.
Speaker 2: What was the other one?
Speaker 1: Focusing on solutions rather than the problem? Okay, that's my problem,
Speaker 1: all right? So I am solution driven when it comes
Speaker 1: to like business and shit like that, but just regular
Speaker 1: fucking life shit, it's like I'd be wanting to I
Speaker 1: be needing to know the why, Why the fuck did
Speaker 1: you say that? Why the fuck did you do that?
Speaker 1: That's what I can't focus on, the goddamn solution. I'm
Speaker 1: focusing on a problem because I just don't even understand
Speaker 1: why there was a problem. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out why that even happened, you
Speaker 1: know why? That's my problem? Just what dealing with, you know,
Speaker 1: people in relationships and stuff like that, Like why was that?
Speaker 2: Even? It is to me?
Speaker 1: Right? It is to me because I don't go out
Speaker 1: of my way to like fuck with people, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, So anytime it's done to me, I'm like, man,
Speaker 1: what the hell? So like when when you're in a relationship,
Speaker 1: And this is what I learned once in couple's therapy.
Speaker 2: You know, they always like to say.
Speaker 1: You know, you make the problem the enemy and not
Speaker 1: each other. Right, But it's very hard because it's also
Speaker 1: like one of those things where people.
Speaker 2: Say other people the problem.
Speaker 1: No, right, other people are not responsible for your happiness.
Speaker 1: But if somebody can make you sad, they can also
Speaker 1: make you happy. And I feel like they're confusing peace
Speaker 1: with happiness, you know what I'm saying. People should be
Speaker 1: responsible for your peace. Right, Why are you get putting
Speaker 1: me in an unpeaced no dog. If you come in
Speaker 1: the house every day and you cause it fucking chaos
Speaker 1: and taking a peaceful place and making it into a
Speaker 1: chaotic place, that is a problem. You need to remove
Speaker 1: them from right, absolutely right, But in the mit, in
Speaker 1: the midst of it, you're in chaos.
Speaker 2: I mean, until you do so, then the question would
Speaker 2: be like, who's the fuck. What's the problem? Is the problem,
Speaker 2: so we can attack that, not why are you causing
Speaker 2: chaos here? What is the problem?
Speaker 1: Some people are just chaotic, that's just some people genetic makeup.
Speaker 1: And then yeah, that's just some pece you while you're
Speaker 1: trying to figure out. That's why I don't really believe
Speaker 1: in couple's therapy. I believe that people should have individual therapy,
Speaker 1: right because once you're in a better healed place, you'll
Speaker 1: then attract that If you still attracting a bunch of toxic,
Speaker 1: toxic people and toxicity and toxic situations, that's because it
Speaker 1: still lives in you.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. Couples therapy is necessary because
Speaker 2: even if you feel fully healed and this person feels
Speaker 2: fully healed in the selves, for whatever reason, your heal
Speaker 2: self and their heal self is button his. You have
Speaker 2: to sometimes need help figuring that out.
Speaker 1: I don't know, man, I feel like that's where communication
Speaker 1: comes in at, right. So if you get to a
Speaker 1: place to where you're healed and you have also a
Speaker 1: healed person, and when I talk, we talk about healing
Speaker 1: all the time, maybe that's a whole other episode because
Speaker 1: I know that right now, I'm in Charleston a heal
Speaker 1: from my childhood traumas in a real fucking way, and
Speaker 1: shit has just been slapping me in my damn face.
Speaker 2: But do you feel like it's working? Absolutely?
Speaker 1: Because now I can pinpoint things and I can course
Speaker 1: correct myself. Now do I need a therapist to do that?
Speaker 1: I feel like I've been and I've been in therapy
Speaker 1: all this fucking time. You know what I'm saying. So
Speaker 1: I don't feel like getting into uh uh.
Speaker 2: What weight? I don't fuck around my brain. Just skip, bitch,
Speaker 2: skip the whole beat.
Speaker 1: You said, no, we were talking about therapy, and I'm
Speaker 1: saying I don't need therapy with another person. Like oftentimes,
Speaker 1: if if we are good, we should be able to communicate.
Speaker 1: That's what I was talking about communication. We should be
Speaker 1: able to talk about you should.
Speaker 2: Be and oftentimes people have trouble communicating their feelings, especially
Speaker 2: with someone that they love. That's where self awareness comes in.
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of people are honest with themselves,
Speaker 1: So now you can't be honest with nobody else if
Speaker 1: you can't even look at yourself in the mirror.
Speaker 2: But maybe that's not what it is like sometimes we
Speaker 2: like have trouble expressing ourselves with people that we love, Like,
Speaker 2: you know, like I'm what I'm trying to convey is
Speaker 2: not being received, and what you're trying to convey is
Speaker 2: not being received to that person. And there's a mediator
Speaker 2: that can come in and help y'all be cause y'all
Speaker 2: be saying the same.
Speaker 1: I think a lot of times people be saying the
Speaker 1: same shit. Yeah, a lot of times you're saying the
Speaker 1: same same shit.
Speaker 2: But I think that.
Speaker 1: Respect also plays a big part of it. If you
Speaker 1: don't respect the person you're talking to, you're not gonna
Speaker 1: hear them. But I do believe that your people hear
Speaker 1: you differently. I believe that you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I can say the same thing to ten different people
Speaker 1: and they hear me different from who I have the
Speaker 1: issue with, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: So I don't know. Therapy is a good thing. Seek
Speaker 2: professional help, Seek seek professional help. You gotta get a
Speaker 2: good therapist.
Speaker 1: Even those relationships dog you got to really have done
Speaker 1: some discernment because they're not really in the business of healing, okay,
Speaker 1: because they need to get that check.
Speaker 2: So sometimes they are. But sometimes you have someone that's
Speaker 2: like no offense to people who are fresh out of school,
Speaker 2: but they're just kind of like I find like the
Speaker 2: therapists that I went to that are like new therapists.
Speaker 2: They're just giving me some shit out of a textbook, yes,
Speaker 2: and they haven't had the real life experiences. I need
Speaker 2: to help me. So that like I was like, girl,
Speaker 2: what the fuck is this exercise you just had me?
Speaker 2: I'm packing my shit sitting there on the table. And
Speaker 2: then she was like, well, that looks like it's our
Speaker 2: time you next time? Did I take cash out? Bitch
Speaker 2: about to go jump off a cliff? Right? You just
Speaker 2: had me unpack all this shit. We left it on
Speaker 2: the table. Right. I'm sitting here, my eight year old
Speaker 2: self right now. She can't drive home, so you need
Speaker 2: to help me with something. You better come up with
Speaker 2: something else take me home.
Speaker 1: And you know, I remember going to therapy with my
Speaker 1: mom as a teenager, and it was a young white girl,
Speaker 1: probably just out of school.
Speaker 2: Right. She had her little office right by the house,
Speaker 2: and we're talking. My mom's crying.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm going through it as a teenager, right,
Speaker 1: And I think sometimes parents forget that kids are human too.
Speaker 1: Like they have bad days, right, some days they don't
Speaker 1: feel like going to school, just like you don't feel
Speaker 1: like going to work. It's all types of shit, but
Speaker 1: you forget like you were never a fucking kid. So
Speaker 1: now we're going through all types of shit. We're going
Speaker 1: through therapy because we just really bumping heads. And I
Speaker 1: remember my mom telling my ass when I was like fourteen.
Speaker 1: She was like, you're gonna be out of here by
Speaker 1: the time you turn fifteen, and bitch, I was fuck
Speaker 1: up out of there.
Speaker 2: She put me out.
Speaker 1: But because we just alike for the most part, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, not just it's a lot of
Speaker 1: things now as an adult, I see who you are
Speaker 1: now as an adult. But anyway, this therapist, I felt
Speaker 1: so terrible for her, and I'm sitting there, my fourteen,
Speaker 1: fifteen year old self, and my mom is just going
Speaker 1: off on her and telling her how she don't know
Speaker 1: how it is because she don't have kids in her
Speaker 1: own and above reproach, what do you do with a
Speaker 1: client like that, like you know what I'm saying, Like
Speaker 1: they she wasn't, And all she could do is look
Speaker 1: at me, like, because I'm telling you, I can't talk.
Speaker 2: To my mama, and she's like, bitch, I can't talk
Speaker 2: say exactly what.
Speaker 1: The hell I was saying to you. We're gonna bring
Speaker 1: in We're gonna bring in my my peer because this
Speaker 1: ain't working. All I need therapy at this point, girl,
Speaker 1: black Mama's man.
Speaker 2: True. But listen.
Speaker 1: So, like I said, another way of dealing with life
Speaker 1: and life life and is saying fuck it, fuck it.
Speaker 1: So now, the concept of not giving a fuck is
Speaker 1: not often associated with the idea of not being overly
Speaker 1: concerned about the opinions and judgments of others. I mean, see,
Speaker 1: that's what it's about, just not being overly concerned about
Speaker 1: their shit, right, It's about prioritizing your own values, desires,
Speaker 1: and well being over the external validation and expectations imposed
Speaker 1: impulsed by society. Here are a few aspects that highlight
Speaker 1: the power of not giving a fuck all right. So
Speaker 1: the first one is authenticity. And see that's what I
Speaker 1: was talking about, that self awareness. It takes some time
Speaker 1: to become self aware. A lot of people aren't self
Speaker 1: aware to They're like, I don't know fifty or plus
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So in this a journey,
Speaker 1: but it does have an end, it stops.
Speaker 2: I remember when I was working at Alta. It was
Speaker 2: this a girl that was working there with me, and uh,
Speaker 2: if I could see her now, I would apologize to
Speaker 2: her for her treated her at the time. She used
Speaker 2: to wear one blue eyebrow and one red eyebrow, and
Speaker 2: I used to be like, get the fuck out of here,
Speaker 2: Harley Quinn, gotta look at that bitch like I used
Speaker 2: to just like like that's ugly. Like I used to
Speaker 2: be mean to her. That's terrible. I wouldn't be. I
Speaker 2: wouldn't be like, get the fuck out of here, Harley Quinn.
Speaker 2: But that's what I'd be thinking in my head. And
Speaker 2: I was like, that's not gonna catch. But obviously she
Speaker 2: wasn't doing it for her to catch, for people to
Speaker 2: just for her. It was like fetch, nobody's gonna say fetch.
Speaker 2: That was me. I was a mean girl. But she
Speaker 2: did it cause it made her feel pretty, It made
Speaker 2: her feel authentic, It made her feel like an individual.
Speaker 2: It was her thing and here and here was all like, girl,
Speaker 2: what is that like everybody else? Bitch asked eyebrow? Bitch,
Speaker 2: you ain't even god on no blue or no red.
Speaker 1: That was me.
Speaker 2: So I wherever you girl are are, girl, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2: I hope you're still doing it.
Speaker 1: Cause even if those those things were in your head,
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure you're manifest in your face when you
Speaker 1: saw her face and.
Speaker 2: How you talk to her, like with the Nike check lip.
Speaker 2: So I apologize, girl. You were being your authentic self,
Speaker 2: and who am I to tell you that there's anything
Speaker 2: wrong with that? So all right, geez?
Speaker 1: So this authenticity, uh again, that goes back to being
Speaker 1: a self, being self aware, knowing who you are, being
Speaker 1: yourself doubt. You know, we had this episode where we
Speaker 1: were arguing on right and a lot of people on
Speaker 1: online kept saying stuff like, no, everybody will think of you.
Speaker 1: I am the same person on this podcast that I'm
Speaker 1: I am in real life, and some people was like,
Speaker 1: I didn't want to see those personalities. I'm not a personality.
Speaker 1: I am me through and through every single day. You're
Speaker 1: gonna are you gonna get the same fucking person. So
Speaker 1: the wrath of me looks like that, That's just what
Speaker 1: it looks like, you know what I'm saying. So I'm
Speaker 1: not here to put on a persona to to for
Speaker 1: the world. Right, I worked a corporate job for a
Speaker 1: very long time, right where you know, I'm a black girl,
Speaker 1: and when I walk in the office, it's like, here
Speaker 1: comes trouble. I've always been me, even in a fucking boardroom.
Speaker 1: I've never not been me. So and now I get
Speaker 1: to actually make money being myself. That is fucking yeah,
Speaker 1: y'all mad shit because that that, like this is an
Speaker 1: ultimate flex for me.
Speaker 2: So here's the thing. I'm Sometimes I feel like I
Speaker 2: shouldn't be so much of me all the time, Like no,
Speaker 2: it's okay. Sometimes it's okay to like no. Man. Like
Speaker 2: like when y'all before we started feeling, I put my
Speaker 2: mouth around this whole thing to see if I could
Speaker 2: do it. I didn't have to do that in front
Speaker 2: of y'all. That was inappropriate. It was not inappropriate. That's
Speaker 2: who you are.
Speaker 1: Don't apologize for it. Don't apologize, okay, to save stuff
Speaker 1: for you know later.
Speaker 2: You know, I think that a lot of us. And
Speaker 2: if you any of you have ever read the book
Speaker 2: The Four Agreement.
Speaker 1: It talks about like childhood right and healing the childhood
Speaker 1: traumas and the things that adults do the childhead. Adults
Speaker 1: are dream killers. That's what I'm learning in Charleston adults
Speaker 1: are dream killers. And I'm a fucking kid, a big one,
Speaker 1: and I don't plan on growing up no time soon.
Speaker 1: And I feel like when adults be lifing right and
Speaker 1: you gotta pay bills and you gotta do all these things,
Speaker 1: and you got the kids, you're always telling them.
Speaker 2: To sit down, shut up. You are stripping them of
Speaker 2: their soul.
Speaker 1: You are stripping them of their essence and who they
Speaker 1: are because now you're not You're trying to like make
Speaker 1: them into you. You want them to dress like you,
Speaker 1: act like you, sit like you. No, man, I'm not
Speaker 1: doing that to.
Speaker 2: My fucking kid.
Speaker 1: So if you want to be in the line at
Speaker 1: fucking Harris Teeter, you want to press all the buttons
Speaker 1: on them people, Shit, I'm gonna let you. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: let you run through this motherfucker because one thing about it.
Speaker 1: White people let their kids explore Black people be like,
Speaker 1: sit down and shut up. And that's that really, Yes,
Speaker 1: that shit shows up and us as adults, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, while meanwhile, our white counterparts, they are
Speaker 1: out conquering the world because they were never they were
Speaker 1: never limited as children to what they can do.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't I don't know what goes
Speaker 2: on in white households. Honestly, girl, we see it.
Speaker 1: The we be wanting to beat their kids in public, okay.
Speaker 2: Like, because there's a fine line between letting your kids
Speaker 2: have their own identity and then just let them be
Speaker 2: disturb other people. Hitting you with a cart in the
Speaker 2: grocery store. I wanted to backhand this white baby so bad, like, bitch,
Speaker 2: you better get this little motuck because I would slap
Speaker 2: you first and then him hit me in my leg
Speaker 2: one more time. Ship, miss Helen.
Speaker 1: This self confidence, y'all, that's next. Not giving a fuck
Speaker 1: can't boosh your self confidence. When you detach yourself for
Speaker 1: a from external validation, you become more self assured and
Speaker 1: secure in your own identity. You rely less on others'
Speaker 1: opinions to define your worth, which can lead to a
Speaker 1: greater sense of self acceptance and empower mint. Fucking them people,
Speaker 1: fuck that job, Fu the fucking bills, I mean a
Speaker 1: little bit like really them when it.
Speaker 2: Comes to self confidence confidence because especially young girls, because
Speaker 2: they're always comparing themselves to others, like is in constant comparison.
Speaker 2: In comparison is what is dream killer? Yeah, yeah, so
Speaker 2: now I'm hearing on.
Speaker 1: I listened to a lot of conservative radio right because
Speaker 1: I've been needing to know what these white people up to,
Speaker 1: and so they have class action lawsuits against these different
Speaker 1: social media platforms. Listen to these things, right, having self
Speaker 1: identity issues, insecurities, depression.
Speaker 2: All of these things.
Speaker 1: These platforms know that their product causes these things, especially
Speaker 1: impressionable young people.
Speaker 2: So now you can see, well it's a real thing.
Speaker 1: So you know, do things get your hair done for
Speaker 1: black women, like get your hair done, bitch. That should
Speaker 1: make you feel good, right then, automatic way.
Speaker 2: As soon as I know. That's one of the things
Speaker 2: I love about doing hair is when the women leaves
Speaker 2: feeling beautiful. You can see the difference when they come.
Speaker 1: In and when they leave exactly no matter what you're
Speaker 1: going through, I keep telling my mom, go get your
Speaker 1: hair done. You're run here sad and shit like that
Speaker 1: could fix a lot of shit in two hours.
Speaker 2: Don't get your damn hair done. Feel good. Focusing on
Speaker 2: what matters.
Speaker 1: That's the next one, right, So by not giving a
Speaker 1: fuck about trivial matters, since that's me, I dwell on
Speaker 1: little shit or other people's opinions. You can direct your
Speaker 1: energy toward what truly matters to you. You can concentrate
Speaker 1: on your goals, your passions, personal growth instead of being
Speaker 1: preoccupied with pleasing others or can to societal expectations.
Speaker 2: Cuts some motherfuckers out. This girl sent me some slick
Speaker 2: shit right about some nigga that I don't even fuck with, right,
Speaker 2: and oh me would a cuss to the fuck out right,
Speaker 2: but knew me just blocked her instantly, gonna argue with you.
Speaker 2: And it was the same day that I, you know,
Speaker 2: my friend told me all the news about and it
Speaker 2: just made me realize, like so much what matter? And
Speaker 2: like this girl and arguing with her, just what do
Speaker 2: that do for me? I don't even you know, deal
Speaker 2: with this nigga? Is I just give you. Was a
Speaker 2: little busy, because.
Speaker 1: Any other nine you'd.
Speaker 2: Be arguing going back and forth. I was busy, but
Speaker 2: I just wasn't very I just it wasn't like like really, honestly,
Speaker 2: haven't someone that I love going through this cancer the
Speaker 2: way It just really really put things in perspective for
Speaker 2: me in a new way, because some shit just ain't
Speaker 2: don't matter, like that shit really don't matter arguing with
Speaker 2: this girl about I don't even fuck with the niggas
Speaker 2: she mad about, so it's like, get bbbage bilo bitch.
Speaker 1: Emotional freedom, not being overly concerned about what other's opinions
Speaker 1: of you are can liberate you from the fear of
Speaker 1: judgment and rejection. It allows you to let go of
Speaker 1: unnecessary stress, anxiety, and self doubt, leading to a greater
Speaker 1: sense of emotional well being and freedom. Listen, I don't
Speaker 1: give a fuck for real, I don't give a fuck
Speaker 1: like for especially if.
Speaker 2: You are not somebody that I fucking know like and love.
Speaker 2: So all right, emotional freedom, I'm trying to understand what
Speaker 2: that means.
Speaker 1: Because not being overly concerned about other's opinions of you?
Speaker 2: Oh okay, that's fine. So what's the difference between that? Nothing? Nothing? Okay,
Speaker 2: moving on to the next one?
Speaker 1: Is the same setting boundaries. When you embrace the power
Speaker 1: of not giving a fuck, you become better at setting
Speaker 1: healthy boundaries and relationships. You prioritize your own needs and values,
Speaker 1: which can help you establish clear boundaries with others and
Speaker 1: protect your emotional well being. Yes, get get the get back,
Speaker 1: snop that shit as soon as you see it.
Speaker 2: That's something that I'm just now starting to get better
Speaker 2: at in boundaries. And it's not with people like because
Speaker 2: it's easy to create a boundary with people you barely know.
Speaker 2: But it's the boundaries with people that I'm close to
Speaker 2: that learning how to create now better and learning that
Speaker 2: know is a complete sentence, eperient period. So did you
Speaker 2: watch that new episode of Black Mirror? Like moving right
Speaker 2: along with right? No, that's it? You know?
Speaker 1: So absolutely, I like no complete statement. Yes, resilience not
Speaker 1: giving a fuck can make you more resilient in the
Speaker 1: face of adversity. It helps you develop a stronger sense
Speaker 1: of self, enabling you to bounce back from setbacks, criticisms,
Speaker 1: and failures. You become less affected by external negativity and
Speaker 1: more capable of navigating challenges with resilience and determined fence. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: talk about resilience when life be lifeing.
Speaker 2: Okay, right now we're talking to you about resiliences.
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, anyway, Yeah, this is great. Though I needed
Speaker 1: some of these things. I'm actually gonna go back over
Speaker 1: the right quick boundary setting. I don't have a problem
Speaker 1: set in boundaries, man, I don't.
Speaker 2: I will over extend myself and I look up and
Speaker 2: I'll be like, I got so much of my own
Speaker 2: shit to do, why am I here right now doing this?
Speaker 2: I just I'm doing too much.
Speaker 1: I used to be like that, right when I realized
Speaker 1: when people don't come through for you, how you come
Speaker 1: through for them that complete state and know it's easy,
Speaker 1: because what I don't want is to do something for
Speaker 1: you and then be complaining about it after I altady
Speaker 1: did it or while I'm doing it.
Speaker 2: So just say no.
Speaker 1: If you feel like you're gonna be bothered, if you
Speaker 1: don't have the time, or you tired like you should,
Speaker 1: you could say no.
Speaker 2: That's the thing I'll be feeling like, because I feel
Speaker 2: like in the event that these people do need me,
Speaker 2: they will be there, right, I mean you, when I
Speaker 2: need them, they will be there. But it's just so
Speaker 2: many motherfuckers that need something at the same time that
Speaker 2: makes me feel exhausted.
Speaker 1: You know, Yes, And also I think that if you
Speaker 1: are a person who always says yes, people take advantage.
Speaker 1: They gonna come to you every single fucking time every time,
Speaker 1: Like you don't got nobody else you can depend.
Speaker 2: On now they can't. They come to me about everything
Speaker 2: but money. I'm your last resort. When you need some
Speaker 2: cash for it, don't come to me for that. You
Speaker 2: call your mama. Did you talk to your father? Did
Speaker 2: you Did you talk to the nigga who dick you? Second?
Speaker 2: Did you go to the church? No? First and foremost
Speaker 2: the nigga, You fucking go to him first. Yeah? Absolutely,
Speaker 2: he owe you shit, bitch.
Speaker 1: You should have sent that nigga invoice already been That's
Speaker 1: really why you're mad, because you've given all that free pussy.
Speaker 1: You ain't got no boundaries on that pussy anyway, y'all.
Speaker 1: I love this this episode, Yeah, because.
Speaker 2: Life has been lifing, and life has been lifing for everyone,
Speaker 2: and I think it's important to be didn't They didn't
Speaker 2: say nothing about this in the list. But be kind
Speaker 2: to people. You don't know what people are going exactly,
Speaker 2: and you could be the one person that can help
Speaker 2: somebody get through something or make shit just that much
Speaker 2: worse for them.
Speaker 1: So just be kind to people, man, even when you
Speaker 1: calling customer service though, don't be fucking them people day
Speaker 1: while he at work.
Speaker 2: Just mean and nasty because your Verizon your phone about
Speaker 2: to get cut off. That's not that lady.
Speaker 1: Fault, and you want that thirty dollars fee reverse No bitch,
Speaker 1: buye bitch when if I were the own like a
Speaker 1: big company like that, like you're gonna get the service
Speaker 1: that you give. So if you call my people talking
Speaker 1: that ship, they have the right. There's no customer service
Speaker 1: over here, bitch.
Speaker 2: To hang up in your face. Or people who are
Speaker 2: mean to people who work in the services. Yes, I
Speaker 2: do not like if you're one of the people who
Speaker 2: are nasty the servers and at a restaurant, I do
Speaker 2: not want to go out and eat with you, like girl,
Speaker 2: like what is your problem? I'm not even talking to
Speaker 2: this lady all condescending and shit, I'm leaving.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I had this girl. I went out one time
Speaker 1: with my homegrown and her friend and we were at
Speaker 1: cheesecake factory I think, and they put like little strimp
Speaker 1: on her past and said like the jumble trip. She
Speaker 1: was like, I can't eat these these these little strength
Speaker 1: they scare me. Just they just disgust and they scare me.
Speaker 2: I'm like, yo, I'm about to can I can I
Speaker 2: please get my fucking food to go? Please? Because who
Speaker 2: was to put up with that? But I used to
Speaker 2: day the guy who would not let me send my
Speaker 2: food back and that used to piss me off, Like
Speaker 2: you're not even paying for it, so don't send it back.
Speaker 2: You just order something else. Just eat it, no, nigga,
Speaker 2: he'ld be like, just eat what you ordered. It's okay,
Speaker 2: you don't have to send it back. Its rude. I
Speaker 2: don't like it. I just can I order something and
Speaker 2: I pay for it myself, nigga, Like, just eat what
Speaker 2: you ordered. No, nigga.
Speaker 1: If it doesn't taste good, I'm not eating. And he was,
Speaker 1: look at my last relationship I saw. I used to
Speaker 1: be forcing myself to eat some nasty shit. This nigga
Speaker 1: beat done cook and he forcing the kids to eat.
Speaker 1: So I'm like at the table like but the cry
Speaker 1: just like them, like, man, I don't like this. One
Speaker 1: day he put like red onions and spaghetti like that
Speaker 1: ship was overbearing, Like why would you put.
Speaker 2: Red onions and spaghetti? Are you done before? No? That's
Speaker 2: like that video of that girl going to is the
Speaker 2: Man and a woman. She's like, I cook for you
Speaker 2: and she's making spaghetti, but she was taco season.
Speaker 1: On the meat and he was like, it's taco right,
Speaker 1: it's taco spaghetti. Nigga, dumb ass I'll flip this table
Speaker 1: over and I'm not eating this ship, and I'm slammed
Speaker 1: dogging everybody. Plate.
Speaker 2: Give me that plate. Ain't got to poblem like, Nah,
Speaker 2: we ain eating that? Give me that plate? Did I share?
Speaker 1: Write in the trash in this new face? All right,
Speaker 1: y'all listen, this is a great episode, tam uh. If
Speaker 1: you enjoyed it, tune in every Thursday on iHeartRadio, Apple,
Speaker 1: wherever the fuck you.
Speaker 2: Get your podcasts up.
Speaker 1: This is your co host aj Holiday two point zero
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Speaker 2: Y'all, holler at me now if you won't get home, y'all,
Speaker 2: It's official, tam bam. I love y'all. Thank y'all for
Speaker 2: tuning in. Remember to speak now and never hold your piece.