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Speaker 1: Talk.

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Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion to talk.

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Speaker 2: What's up, y'all?

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Speaker 1: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode that

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Speaker 1: we talked back, a show dedicated to you dreamers and

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Speaker 1: chasers and everybody else in between. Us your co host

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Speaker 1: AJ Holliday.

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Speaker 2: What's up, Tam? I like to dedicate today to the

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Speaker 2: niggas and holes once again, just in case y'all feel

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Speaker 2: left out. We still We're still here for y'all.

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Speaker 1: I love y'all.

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Speaker 2: I love all of y'all. It's me Tam, Bam, y'all. Eight.

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Speaker 1: Hey, how you.

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Speaker 2: Doing, Aj?

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Speaker 1: I'm good girl, trying to shout this damn heat. It

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Speaker 1: is hot outside my car. Be screaming, boy, I'd be

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Speaker 1: swearing to God, my damn tire's gonna stick on an asphalt.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so hot. It's so dumb hot, like it

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Speaker 2: is brayd in lockweather. I swear to God, I'm in

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Speaker 2: flat down and straighten these edges with a hot cone

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Speaker 2: like almost every day. I know they're gonna burn out

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Speaker 2: if I don't make no changes.

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Speaker 1: Girl, I can't even make no changes in my hair

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Speaker 1: right now. I don't know all the girls that they

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Speaker 1: who be doing. They lace frints and with wigs and

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Speaker 1: ship the glues have fucked me up.

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Speaker 2: I have a fucking chemical burn. I'm gonna just stop

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Speaker 2: wearing them and let you This is just no.

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Speaker 1: This is so I don't even have it glued down

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Speaker 1: right now. Okay, but you see glue down? Why don't

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Speaker 1: you get you some locks of braids for a little while.

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Speaker 1: I can't because my forehead is burnt right here.

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Speaker 2: That's why you should get it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but when do I like, this thing is going

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Speaker 1: to be out for people to see people. Let's just

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Speaker 1: I can't do that right now. I have other things

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Speaker 2: But that's what's going on.

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Speaker 1: And I feel like we're under attack. Did y'all not

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Speaker 1: see uh nig cool and tie world this weekend? They

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Speaker 1: putting shit in the damn perms.

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Speaker 2: We've been knowing that. What are y'all doing to the

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Speaker 2: wig glues?

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Speaker 1: I have been gluing my wake down for many years

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Speaker 1: while starting a chemical burn.

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Speaker 2: It's probably because your scarff was like, cause too much

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Speaker 2: of anything is bad for you. If you drink too

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Speaker 2: much water, you're drowned on the inside, right, So you've

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Speaker 2: been gluing them with no, you really will. Don't be

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Speaker 2: down for a minute. You just need to let your

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Speaker 2: it is like breathe. But I actually don't.

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Speaker 1: Though I don't always have my hair gluing down during

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Speaker 1: the week when I'm going to the gym and all

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Speaker 1: that shit, I don't have my hair glue down. The

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Speaker 1: only time I grew my wigs down is if I'm

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Speaker 1: doing something, you know what I'm saying. Other than that,

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Speaker 1: and like went on YouTube and it's a slew of people.

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Speaker 2: It's not just me. Oh so they have yes, bitch,

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Speaker 2: they've changed. It's something.

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Speaker 1: It's something like and it's Goldstpawn that I use, like

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Speaker 1: Gostpan is one of the oldest lace schools, you know,

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Speaker 1: before black women start getting more into weaves, like this

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Speaker 1: is for two pays. This stuff has been out, but

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Speaker 1: at China, Germany. It's the fucking nt Sees.

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Speaker 2: It's b six thirteen. It's something going on, girl, But

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Speaker 2: what'd you do this? Oh? What we do this weekend?

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Speaker 2: I was about to say we were together. We hosted

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Speaker 2: Henny and Waffles in Charlotte. It's a huge traveling party

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Speaker 2: good music, and we hosted that party. You guys. It

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Speaker 2: so that was cool. I took a picture with one girl.

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Speaker 2: a minute, ma'am. And then what y'all? One fan came

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Speaker 2: up and was like, hey, I love y'all. I want

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Speaker 2: don't like people. I was like, she do like people?

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Speaker 2: Go say hey to her. I promise you she will

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Speaker 2: say hey, bag.

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Speaker 1: And what I told her if she if you listen

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Speaker 1: to girl, I said, I like good people.

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Speaker 2: That's what I like.

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Speaker 1: The hell. I do like people humans like sometimes humans

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Speaker 1: get on my goddamn nerves. Y'all, y'all know I'm not human.

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Speaker 1: I'm a whole alien out here, but I do like people.

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Speaker 1: I like good people, and that's what I told her.

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Speaker 1: Girl Why somebody at me on on Instagram on a

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Speaker 1: post it was Dojah Cat. People were asking Doja Cat

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Speaker 2: I love them, and she was like, Kaitens, you're my kittens,

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Speaker 2: and she's like, I know you're not my kittens. I

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Speaker 2: don't fucking have kittens.

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Speaker 1: No, she Dojah Cat said, I don't know y'all, and

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Speaker 1: somebody added me on there was like this should sound

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Speaker 1: like AJ.

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Speaker 2: Listen what I do.

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Speaker 1: I have a lot of gratitude and I appreciate the

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Speaker 1: supporters of this show now to just say I love everybody.

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Speaker 1: I don't know y'all, and.

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Speaker 2: Some of y'all may hurt me. I don't know. You

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Speaker 1: I'm not out to hurt anybody, but you just never

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Speaker 1: know people. So like, how insecure are you in your

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Speaker 1: own life to where somebody like a Dojah Cat gotta

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Speaker 1: tell you they love them, Like this person was pressing her,

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Speaker 1: like you need to tell your fans you love them.

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Speaker 1: I show gratitude, much gratitude, much appreciation.

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Speaker 2: And tam maam love y'all. Don't worry about that. She's grateful.

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Speaker 2: I'm grateful, but I do love y'all. But I love everybody.

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Speaker 2: That's just the guy to me. Girl.

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Speaker 1: I guess let's get into some stupid innet news. Why

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Speaker 1: y'all going on this week? So okay, y'all. I mentioned

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Speaker 1: it a couple of minutes ago, but watching they clone Tyrone.

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Speaker 1: I have literally been waiting for this movie to come

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Speaker 1: out since last year. They kept pushing it back last year.

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Speaker 1: October is when I saw the first trailer, and then

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Speaker 1: And then in the midst of all that, Jimmie Fox disappears.

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Speaker 1: So I've been saying, daycon Tyrone. I'm like, y'all, ain't

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Speaker 1: hell is happening? And now you reappeared two weeks before

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Speaker 1: week before. It could be a marketing ploy. I don't know,

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Speaker 1: but what do you think about Jamie fox reappearance and

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Speaker 1: being appearents.

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Speaker 2: I think we all getting older, we all getting sick

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Speaker 2: or something, because we all gonna die. Knock on one,

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Speaker 2: I'm healthy, y'all are not getting sick. Well, we all

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Speaker 2: going up out of here one way or another. Choose

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Speaker 2: your words carefully, all right, We all going up out

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Speaker 2: of here one way or another. And Jack Fox is

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Speaker 2: like in his fifties, and it sounded like he had

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Speaker 2: so happened that the movie was coming out at the

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Speaker 2: same time. I don't think because I mean, he clearly

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Speaker 2: he he you know, he released the video thanking people

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Speaker 2: And he clearly looks like unwell, he doesn't look like yeah.

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Speaker 2: So I mean, so now.

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Speaker 1: People are putting like before and after images of Jamie

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Speaker 1: Fox online, and he looks to me, the current Jamie Fox.

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Speaker 1: He looks similar to the old one, but it looks

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Speaker 1: like two different people.

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Speaker 2: Well, if you take a screenshot of me right now

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Speaker 2: and then take a picture for me Saturday, you'd be

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Speaker 2: like they clone Tammy.

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean it's a lot of clones on social media.

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Speaker 1: Everybody be super filtered up chat. There's a lot of

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Speaker 1: clones on social media, but Jamie Fox would men usually

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Speaker 1: don't be with all that shit that we be doing

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Speaker 1: with the filters and on top of fucking makeup.

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Speaker 2: I just think it was the lighting. I think he's

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Speaker 2: and uh and he lost some weight from whatever's going

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Speaker 1: Yeah, his face, his face, his face even shapes totally different.

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Speaker 1: Now that's a lot of people's pointing out, like his

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Speaker 2: Well, his hairline ain't never been real, so that shit

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Speaker 2: probably be shifting all the time, exactly.

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Speaker 1: Like I'd be having to draw my brows different every day. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: It might be a challenge, right, So I don't know,

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Speaker 2: but I wish all the best of lot. Get well

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Speaker 2: and y'all go watch that movie. It's pretty good. It's interesting.

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Speaker 2: There was some loose ends for me, but overall, I

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Speaker 2: I don't want to spoil spoil it. Because it's still

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Speaker 2: just fresh out. I want people to see it, see

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Speaker 2: But there was some like wait what you know moments,

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Speaker 2: But for the most part, it was really, really, really good.

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Speaker 2: I enjoyed it.

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Speaker 1: I think it's like a hood classic. I put it

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Speaker 1: like with Friday and shit like that. I have watched

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Speaker 1: it twice now, two and a half times. I've watched

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Speaker 1: it because that shit got it. Y'all know, i'd be

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Speaker 1: on my conspiracy shit, which a lot of things are

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Speaker 1: no longer conspiracies, but y'all will want to agree with me.

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Speaker 1: It's fine, But that movie was disclosure and confirmation on

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Speaker 1: a lot of things. If you think that these things

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Speaker 1: aren't happening, then you know, you just think it's entertainment.

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Speaker 2: When I saw the first time, I was like, I know,

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Speaker 2: AJ somewhere rubbing her nipples watching this movie because this

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Speaker 2: is right up her alley, all the shit. But y'all

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Speaker 2: think it's entertainment. No, No, I think you know there's

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Speaker 2: some truth to all, you know, all conspiracies.

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Speaker 1: Just think about how stupid y'all was going during COVID

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Speaker 1: for the damn chicken sandwich at Popeyes fighting. But I

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Speaker 1: believe somebody died during that time. And I even then,

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Speaker 1: I was saying, man, if they wanted to do something

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Speaker 1: to black people collectively, just put that ship in a

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Speaker 1: chicken sandwich, a chicken or fish sandwich. Y'all, niggas be

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Speaker 1: some crab leggs sauce that god damn garlic sauce.

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Speaker 2: Y'all be liking the smothering somewhere. What the sandwich?

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Speaker 1: Give me about to say and eat it again tomorrow? Yo?

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Speaker 1: That's wild. Man. Let me tell y'all one thing about me.

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Speaker 1: When everybody doing something, I go to the other direction.

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Speaker 2: I ain't doing it. I'm going the other way. Man.

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Speaker 1: I gotta watch and see what happened to y'all motherfuckers.

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Speaker 2: First listen, Like as far as like vaccines and medicine,

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Speaker 2: That should be no woman period, not just women.

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Speaker 2: But I'm never going to be okay with this. I

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Speaker 2: I'm okay with you decide. If you wake up tomorrow

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Speaker 1: Yeah, listen, you know, people be scared to talk about

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Speaker 1: And it's just weird when it's the actual women that

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Speaker 2: This is agendas. Not for you, ma'am. It's not for you.

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Speaker 2: So all right, let's move on to some real, stupid,

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Speaker 2: more stupid shit. The Nigerian man wanted to create a

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Speaker 1: This nigga cannot be trusted when I cry. I be

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Speaker 2: I know he had a fucking headache. I know that's

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Speaker 2: I don't think it's any money.

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Speaker 2: Weird? It's a maniac cray.

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Speaker 1: I love you so much.

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Speaker 2: I cheated because I'm hurt. I missed my grandma. Y'all

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Speaker 2: you remember that who said I missed my grandma? I

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Speaker 1: Upset?

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Speaker 2: Did that?

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Speaker 2: I cheat it because I missed my grandma. That's a

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Speaker 2: good one. Yeah, I would say that was just in

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Speaker 1: That's why I while I was smashing, I had her on. Actually, ma'am.

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Speaker 2: No, the next man I am at home. The next

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Speaker 2: a cheater? You think you're a cheater. No, I'm not

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Speaker 2: I can't do that to anybody either. No, I've only

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Speaker 2: But I cheated on my nigga who lived in California

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Speaker 1: Do you hear this? We can't even record no more.

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Speaker 2: hear it next time.

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00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:44,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, she just took the Christmas tree down. Now she

432
00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:46,080
Speaker 1: got bells in the goddamn mouse.

433
00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:52,720
Speaker 2: What is happening? Santa Claus and the ghetto, y'all.

434
00:22:52,760 --> 00:22:55,760
Speaker 1: Look, this week were talking about fuck it, the power

435
00:22:55,880 --> 00:22:56,879
Speaker 1: of saying fuck it.

436
00:22:57,280 --> 00:22:57,520
Speaker 2: Listen.

437
00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:00,800
Speaker 1: I had a fucking moment this weekend, but I didn't

438
00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:02,639
Speaker 1: do it. I didn't take the I didn't take the

439
00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:04,960
Speaker 1: high road to say fucking and just ignore Nigga. I

440
00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:08,200
Speaker 1: had got a random ass text message from it from

441
00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:13,879
Speaker 1: an ex about some random shit from twenty twenty and

442
00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:17,639
Speaker 1: you took the band, I took the demon bait and

443
00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:20,560
Speaker 1: I responded gracefully. I was like, you know, our perception

444
00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:24,560
Speaker 1: and perspective of how our relationship with and what transpart

445
00:23:24,600 --> 00:23:26,840
Speaker 1: in our relationship is obviously different.

446
00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:29,440
Speaker 2: Was it after your hold on? Was this after you

447
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:34,040
Speaker 2: posted your video of you dancing? Absolutely? What did I

448
00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:34,399
Speaker 2: tell you?

449
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:39,200
Speaker 1: What did I But for the record, I don't do

450
00:23:39,400 --> 00:23:42,000
Speaker 1: nothing for that nigga. I don't do nothing for no nigga.

451
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:43,879
Speaker 1: I do shit for the current nigga. I don't do

452
00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:46,360
Speaker 1: nothing for no previous niggas.

453
00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:49,080
Speaker 2: Not But when I saw that video you was looking

454
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,040
Speaker 2: finally said, I was like, Oh, niggas is about to

455
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:54,520
Speaker 2: pop up. Niggas is about the pop up. I'm like, God,

456
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:59,480
Speaker 2: what it's Sunday? Are you well, sir? Like if you

457
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:03,639
Speaker 2: are being fine without me, I hate you come in

458
00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:08,040
Speaker 2: dis wort some shit, and.

459
00:24:08,119 --> 00:24:10,159
Speaker 1: You know before I would be like super triggered. I

460
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:12,240
Speaker 1: wasn't triggered about it, but I did give him. I

461
00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:14,880
Speaker 1: fed that thing in him right that probably just wanted

462
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:16,480
Speaker 1: to fuck with me for the day. But I wasn't

463
00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:19,400
Speaker 1: fucked with though, So I might be doing a little

464
00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:22,720
Speaker 1: bit better, right, you know what I'm saying, Like, I'm like,

465
00:24:22,760 --> 00:24:26,159
Speaker 1: I hope you're doing well in your current relationship. I

466
00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:28,919
Speaker 1: hope everything's doing better now because we didn't bring out

467
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:29,679
Speaker 1: the best in each other.

468
00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:34,120
Speaker 2: And I'm okay with that. Are you can you move

469
00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 2: on happily at some point? Right? I'm happy? So I

470
00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:42,040
Speaker 2: don't know. All right, y'all, Well to you, my nigga.

471
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:43,960
Speaker 2: We'll be right back with some more fuckers.

472
00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 1: Y'all were back, okay, And you know, today I wanted

473
00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:55,560
Speaker 1: to have a conversation about just fucking life, you know

474
00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:57,480
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, because life be life and like that's

475
00:24:57,560 --> 00:24:59,840
Speaker 1: a real famous phrase.

476
00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:03,239
Speaker 2: I feel like she had since COVID for real, bro,

477
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:07,480
Speaker 2: life be lifing. Life has been. Life is so much likely.

478
00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:10,120
Speaker 2: If it ain't one thing, it's another. I just feel

479
00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 2: like it's not enough time to even process one thing

480
00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:16,920
Speaker 2: before the next thing it has come, you know, basically.

481
00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:21,679
Speaker 2: But I mean, there's ways to cope with life, right.

482
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:23,600
Speaker 2: But I saw this thing. I saw this meme. It

483
00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:26,720
Speaker 2: said life be lifing. But God be godden, it is true.

484
00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:30,400
Speaker 2: Like I won't put nothing on you that you can't handle.

485
00:25:30,119 --> 00:25:32,160
Speaker 1: Or you should see some of that should be having

486
00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:35,159
Speaker 1: hands dog, It really be having hands.

487
00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:41,000
Speaker 2: Look like, all right, tell me one thing like that's

488
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 2: going on right now in your life that you're like

489
00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:45,320
Speaker 2: this too much?

490
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:51,000
Speaker 1: Nothing really like right now at this moment, Nah, nothing

491
00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 1: I can't handle. I feel like it's a it's when

492
00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:58,639
Speaker 1: you single should just be going a little bit easier.

493
00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:03,080
Speaker 1: I feel like, yes, I feel like I do my

494
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:05,640
Speaker 1: best when I'm by my damn self. For the most part,

495
00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 1: it's usually when I'm in a relationship, I be feeling

496
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:10,359
Speaker 1: like life be lifing because now you're not just having

497
00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:12,560
Speaker 1: to consider yourself, you got to consider somebody else.

498
00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 2: You know what. Yeah, I think all my things that

499
00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:18,800
Speaker 2: are really affecting my life is honestly other people shit,

500
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:22,359
Speaker 2: Like exactly, have a friend who's really really sick with

501
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:27,760
Speaker 2: cancer right now. My dad has depression, he's you know,

502
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 2: trying to get through that. And I just think those things,

503
00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:34,800
Speaker 2: even though they're not directly my shit, it affects me

504
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:37,879
Speaker 2: in such a huge, huge, huge way, and it'd be

505
00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:39,800
Speaker 2: making me feel like life be lifing. And then I

506
00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:44,160
Speaker 2: feel like I oftentimes I'm extending myself to so many

507
00:26:44,240 --> 00:26:46,320
Speaker 2: people all the time that when I look up, like damn,

508
00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 2: I have not even poured into myself at all, exactly.

509
00:26:49,880 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying.

510
00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:53,280
Speaker 1: So you're gonna try to find a way to like

511
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:57,680
Speaker 1: transmute all our energy, because we know for sure that

512
00:26:57,880 --> 00:27:02,160
Speaker 1: stress causes a lot of illnesses. So you gotta find

513
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:04,359
Speaker 1: some type of way to deal with stress, maybe your

514
00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:07,280
Speaker 1: own or some stress that somebody is imposing on you,

515
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:10,920
Speaker 1: somebody else's stress. You gotta find a way to like

516
00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:11,680
Speaker 1: transmute it.

517
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:13,840
Speaker 2: So I you know, I did a lot of research.

518
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:19,760
Speaker 2: You know, we like to the internet.

519
00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:22,919
Speaker 1: The cell phone is like a whole computer at your

520
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:25,160
Speaker 1: fucking fingertips, right, So anything you want to figure out,

521
00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:28,480
Speaker 1: you can pretty much find it. And this is a

522
00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:31,200
Speaker 1: book that I have. It's called The Power of Not

523
00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:35,960
Speaker 1: Giving a Fuck. I've literally I've had this tattoo on

524
00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:37,960
Speaker 1: my finger and my middle finger on my right hand

525
00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:42,440
Speaker 1: since I was probably, like I don't know, twenty four.

526
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:47,160
Speaker 2: I was living in Atlanta. I went to I went

527
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:47,480
Speaker 2: to a.

528
00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:52,199
Speaker 1: Tattoo house party, and everybody was in there getting all

529
00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 1: these big dumb ass tattoos.

530
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:56,240
Speaker 2: I literally thought about this tattoo.

531
00:27:55,880 --> 00:28:00,280
Speaker 1: For many years, like I'm gonna get apostrophe em on

532
00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:02,359
Speaker 1: my fucking finger, on my middle finger, because things I

533
00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:05,240
Speaker 1: can't control is for real, fuck them, like you can't

534
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 1: let shit faster that you can't control. It's the little

535
00:28:08,359 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 1: things that stress me to fuck out big things. I

536
00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:12,440
Speaker 1: just be like, damn, I gotta deal with it, like

537
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:15,760
Speaker 1: it's not going away. The longer you wait, it's gonna

538
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 1: get bigger. So handle it today. It's little things. Give

539
00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:25,280
Speaker 1: an example that stressed me out. I can't even think

540
00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:28,200
Speaker 1: of nothing because they just be so fucking minuscule, Like, bitch.

541
00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:30,959
Speaker 2: Why is you tripping? You know what? A little thing

542
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:35,840
Speaker 2: that I can think of that gives me stress is

543
00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:38,520
Speaker 2: getting older. That's stressful to you.

544
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:42,000
Speaker 1: It has been the only stressful thing to me about

545
00:28:42,040 --> 00:28:43,600
Speaker 1: getting older is not being a millionaire.

546
00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 2: Yet.

547
00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:46,160
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck about getting old. I just

548
00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:48,040
Speaker 1: want to enjoy life while I'm living.

549
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:50,920
Speaker 2: Though. Let me tell you something. I did a cartwheel

550
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:54,440
Speaker 2: the other day as a bit and this right shoulder

551
00:28:55,360 --> 00:28:58,400
Speaker 2: just now it ain't been the same sense, my nigga, Like,

552
00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:02,520
Speaker 2: little shit like that is getting different. No, hang in

553
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:02,920
Speaker 2: line now.

554
00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:05,320
Speaker 1: I was walking down some steps earlier at my friend's house,

555
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:07,640
Speaker 1: and I'm like, why the fuck is my knees stole hurt?

556
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:10,240
Speaker 2: And bitch, I was riding dick so crazy earlier last

557
00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 2: week my knee stove fucking hurt. On top of that,

558
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:18,560
Speaker 2: it wasn't even a wrong.

559
00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:20,960
Speaker 1: It's just my knees be like the pressure beat in

560
00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 1: the band and using that nigga chest to do all.

561
00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 2: Type of shit. I told you I was in a

562
00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:33,560
Speaker 2: questrian You now my knees hurt? Yeah, like that, just

563
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:36,840
Speaker 2: getting hurt. I need to ice my knees. Man going

564
00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:39,320
Speaker 2: to sleep fine and waking up with new ship wrong?

565
00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:41,800
Speaker 2: How did I hurt myself and my mother fucking sleep?

566
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:45,000
Speaker 1: No, that's how you know you plus thirty because when

567
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 1: you just fucking stand up and break something wrong.

568
00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:53,720
Speaker 2: When I go drinking, I like, I'll be sitting on

569
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:55,960
Speaker 2: the top of the couch and party. I still got

570
00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:59,200
Speaker 2: it two days to get back straight. Two days later.

571
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 2: It takes two days. I don't like that. So getting

572
00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:05,600
Speaker 2: older has been stressful for me. That part, and then

573
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:08,840
Speaker 2: the fact that i'm you know, even though my age

574
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 2: is really fluid, hold your figure up. Fuck them, I'm

575
00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:20,240
Speaker 2: not married, I don't have kids like I just feel

576
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:22,320
Speaker 2: like some of these things I should have done by

577
00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:25,200
Speaker 2: this stage in my life. And that is that what's

578
00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 2: stressing you up, Yo, that does bring me stress, Like,

579
00:30:28,240 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 2: and I'm still single, Like, I'd be like, am I'm outside,

580
00:30:30,600 --> 00:30:32,520
Speaker 2: I'm singing. I ain't got those problems y'all got. And

581
00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 2: then when I'm sitting at the house at my trade table,

582
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 2: eating my little meal by myself.

583
00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 1: I'd be like, lord, real body, please, Now, I do

584
00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 1: want to be in a relationship. I am a relationship

585
00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:48,320
Speaker 1: prone person, even if I be doing like some little

586
00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 1: shit in between time. But for the most part, I

587
00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:52,720
Speaker 1: like to be in relationious. I don't really don't like

588
00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 1: being by myself. I like being outside right.

589
00:30:55,400 --> 00:30:59,080
Speaker 2: But but the kids thing, I don't regret not having

590
00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:00,280
Speaker 2: kids earlier.

591
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:01,760
Speaker 1: Because I was just having a conversation with one of

592
00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:05,360
Speaker 1: my best friends today and we were talking about like kids,

593
00:31:05,440 --> 00:31:08,280
Speaker 1: I'm like, when you there's some things you don't see

594
00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:11,560
Speaker 1: until you get older, right, So I feel like I

595
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 1: watch parents.

596
00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:14,080
Speaker 2: I watch people parent all the time, and.

597
00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:17,480
Speaker 1: I'd be like, y'all are terrible. The fuck why y'all?

598
00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:19,480
Speaker 1: Like why you get so aggravated with your kid? Like

599
00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:22,000
Speaker 1: I feel like kids, the longer you take to have kids,

600
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:24,520
Speaker 1: you realize how much of a gift they actually are.

601
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 1: Like people who could just spit a baby out. They

602
00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:31,520
Speaker 1: don't recognize that you're not the gift to that kid.

603
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 1: That kid is a gift to you.

604
00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:35,480
Speaker 2: I don't know. I know a lot of mothers that

605
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 2: are absolutely in love with their skiing some that's and

606
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:42,880
Speaker 2: how older a kid are you talking about, like twenty

607
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:43,480
Speaker 2: two year old?

608
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:49,200
Speaker 1: Yes, they like I don't believe in postpartum. I believe

609
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:51,720
Speaker 1: that a lot of times women just don't have the support.

610
00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:54,560
Speaker 1: That's where the stress comes from after having a baby.

611
00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:56,720
Speaker 1: If you got a man that'll rub your back and

612
00:31:56,800 --> 00:31:58,719
Speaker 1: rub your feet and love on you after you had

613
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:01,400
Speaker 1: I saw a pit bull. The pit bull was laying

614
00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:04,600
Speaker 1: behind this bitch while she was breastfeeding the kids, and

615
00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:09,360
Speaker 1: she looks so comfortable and stress free. That's where I

616
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:13,400
Speaker 1: think a postpartum situation manifest when you don't have help.

617
00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 2: Well not, I mean, you know I have. I've seen

618
00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:20,200
Speaker 2: where one of my friends she suffered from postpartum really bad,

619
00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:23,720
Speaker 2: and she had a huge, like huge support system. Like

620
00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 2: it wasn't from the band though, yeah, it was her man,

621
00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 2: his sister. He had a bunch of sisters, mom, her mom,

622
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:32,880
Speaker 2: her sisters, everybody was, you know, there to help, and

623
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:36,720
Speaker 2: she just did not feel connection to her baby, and

624
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 2: she just and then that made her feel even more sad. Right,

625
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:42,080
Speaker 2: I can imagine why do I feel this way? Why

626
00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:44,840
Speaker 2: do I not? So I don't know. It could like

627
00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:47,880
Speaker 2: what you're saying is probably true, and that does happen sometimes,

628
00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 2: But there are times that it's just some chemical imbalance

629
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:54,000
Speaker 2: within a woman that happens after pregnancy, that I mean,

630
00:32:54,080 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 2: after childbirth that causes this some time.

631
00:32:56,360 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 1: You know, I kind of fear that, like because I

632
00:32:58,040 --> 00:33:00,640
Speaker 1: know if I had and this is just being open,

633
00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 1: completely honest and transparent. So I don't want to say

634
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:07,600
Speaker 1: I have fertility issues, but I don't have any kids,

635
00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:11,120
Speaker 1: and I have had problems not conceiving but carrying. Right,

636
00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:15,360
Speaker 1: So I think sometimes like if I do in vitro,

637
00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:18,840
Speaker 1: will I feel connected to the baby, because that's like GMO.

638
00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:24,560
Speaker 2: Baby all what is it? All? Right? I don't even

639
00:33:24,600 --> 00:33:26,080
Speaker 2: know exactly what in vitro.

640
00:33:26,800 --> 00:33:29,480
Speaker 1: And so it's when you take the sperm and you

641
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:33,479
Speaker 1: fertilize the egg inside your No, so if you can

642
00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:36,440
Speaker 1: go so the other process, like if people freeze their

643
00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:38,800
Speaker 1: eggs and stuff like that, they would do and like,

644
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:41,800
Speaker 1: but that's out of uterol, so they would inject the

645
00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 1: sperm into the and then put it in your and

646
00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:49,320
Speaker 1: then insert it and then transplant it to your your uterus.

647
00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:52,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, well that doesn't technically count because I mean, it's

648
00:33:52,920 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 2: still growing inside you. I think once they start a

649
00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 2: growing baby in the incubus.

650
00:33:57,400 --> 00:34:01,040
Speaker 1: Incubator, Why are you still talk about That's a mama

651
00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:04,320
Speaker 1: outside right now yelling at her fucking kid be gray

652
00:34:04,480 --> 00:34:05,440
Speaker 1: home for the babies.

653
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 2: She grateful for that baby. Don't you see them in

654
00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:15,080
Speaker 2: there doing the podcasts up? Get your ass back here.

655
00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:18,479
Speaker 2: They be frustrated with the kids.

656
00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:20,680
Speaker 1: Man, I don't be liking that because kids have half

657
00:34:20,719 --> 00:34:23,600
Speaker 1: the life life experience of adults. So you can't put

658
00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:26,439
Speaker 1: them on a pedestal and expect them to be better

659
00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:28,840
Speaker 1: than you. Obviously you want your kids to grow up

660
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:31,840
Speaker 1: to be better than you, but they gotta.

661
00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:34,000
Speaker 2: Get They got to give them some grades. Yeah, I

662
00:34:34,120 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 2: agree there.

663
00:34:35,040 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, So y'all, life be lifing and the power of

664
00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:41,240
Speaker 1: fuck it is amazing. Right, So things you can't control,

665
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:46,359
Speaker 1: fuck it right. So this article I read, I took

666
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:49,279
Speaker 1: a lot of notes from it to try and give

667
00:34:49,440 --> 00:34:55,319
Speaker 1: people ways to deal with challenging or overwhelming situations.

668
00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:56,840
Speaker 2: While life be fucking lifing.

669
00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:00,400
Speaker 1: So The first one is take a step back, pause

670
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 1: and give yourself some space to reflect on the situation,

671
00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 1: assess what specifically is causing you distress or difficulty, and

672
00:35:08,200 --> 00:35:11,240
Speaker 1: try to gain a broader perspective on the situation.

673
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:14,800
Speaker 2: So I know, I be that's hard for me.

674
00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:17,320
Speaker 1: It's hard for me too, bitch, because I be on

675
00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 1: go in my brain too. So sometimes if you do

676
00:35:20,840 --> 00:35:23,800
Speaker 1: take a moment to just shut the fuck up in

677
00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:25,680
Speaker 1: your mind, just as.

678
00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:27,880
Speaker 2: We talk bag So I don't know if that's possible

679
00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:28,080
Speaker 2: for it.

680
00:35:28,160 --> 00:35:29,719
Speaker 1: But did I not just tell you recently that I'm

681
00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:32,239
Speaker 1: tired of fucking talking though, Like if we talk back,

682
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:34,960
Speaker 1: but if picture is tired of talking, I'm tired of it.

683
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:39,719
Speaker 2: It's stressful. That's something I really could work on. It's

684
00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:42,640
Speaker 2: just because sometimes in hindsight, I'll be like, damn, I

685
00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:45,399
Speaker 2: could have just shut up. I could just shut up, really,

686
00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:47,919
Speaker 2: and it would have just saved me, And it would

687
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:49,960
Speaker 2: have just saved me so much stress to just not

688
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:51,279
Speaker 2: even bother.

689
00:35:51,560 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 1: I always say that sometimes it's okay to shut the

690
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:57,560
Speaker 1: fuck up, you know, sometimes it's okay not to say anything.

691
00:35:58,280 --> 00:36:01,320
Speaker 1: One of my exes dog, he just felt impaled to

692
00:36:01,560 --> 00:36:05,320
Speaker 1: just tell people what he thought about them or just

693
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:08,800
Speaker 1: just talking shit. I'm like dogs, sometimes it's okay to

694
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 1: shut the fuck up. You like, who the fuck are you?

695
00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:14,200
Speaker 2: I have this one friend that he we talk all

696
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:17,040
Speaker 2: the time, but he just irks. Oh do I know

697
00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:24,160
Speaker 2: this friend? He probably irk my nerves too. Sometimes I

698
00:36:24,280 --> 00:36:26,960
Speaker 2: talk to him just so I could go off on him,

699
00:36:27,320 --> 00:36:30,360
Speaker 2: because need somebody to go off on. You know, he

700
00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:32,799
Speaker 2: gonna say something. It's gonna take me there.

701
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:35,680
Speaker 1: Now, that's feeding the toxicciety you. Now, if you know that,

702
00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:38,200
Speaker 1: you can get that thing, and you fed by talking

703
00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:40,880
Speaker 1: to this person because me, I'm not talking to them. No,

704
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:46,320
Speaker 1: I'm not talking to anybody that causes me anxiety, unnecessary stress.

705
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:48,440
Speaker 1: Like I want to disconnect from your ass immediately.

706
00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 2: We'll go back and forth. I'm like, oh, I feel

707
00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:54,840
Speaker 2: so much better. That is toxic bitch. It's up, won't you?

708
00:36:57,320 --> 00:37:00,399
Speaker 2: But do y'all hear this. I just want y'all to knows.

709
00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 2: Do y'all hear this? All right? So when you see debates,

710
00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:07,120
Speaker 2: it'll be like great debates. You know, you know his

711
00:37:07,320 --> 00:37:08,520
Speaker 2: debates do not be great?

712
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 1: Dog like the And I hope you hear this, nigga,

713
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:14,480
Speaker 1: so you can leave us alone sometime, but he won't

714
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:17,960
Speaker 1: send like post it's raining y'all anyway. He will send

715
00:37:18,080 --> 00:37:23,760
Speaker 1: post online with a paragraph attached to it seven o'clock

716
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:26,640
Speaker 1: in the morning, like did you even brush your teeth yet?

717
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:31,560
Speaker 2: And you want to debate me about some ship early

718
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:32,359
Speaker 2: in the fucking morning.

719
00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:37,439
Speaker 1: It's to the point I'd be like, okay, now, don't

720
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:42,080
Speaker 1: think just because I say okay that you're right, piece, I'd.

721
00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:44,640
Speaker 2: Be like, you know what, you picked the right motherfucking

722
00:37:44,760 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 2: day for this, my whole soul. I don't like to

723
00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:52,759
Speaker 2: argue to be a text which I'm calling, so I

724
00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:53,959
Speaker 2: don't talk to him on the phone.

725
00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:58,040
Speaker 1: It's just goddamn Instagram. So yeah, like he's definitely stressful.

726
00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:00,480
Speaker 1: But even in those situations, if we just take this

727
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 1: take a step back, yes, but you said you take

728
00:38:04,480 --> 00:38:05,759
Speaker 1: the step forward because you like.

729
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 2: Sometimes sometimes ready like let's go, this is going to

730
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:13,800
Speaker 2: help me release some pent up stress arguing with you

731
00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:19,560
Speaker 2: about something that affects the stupid ship. The earth is round.

732
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:22,840
Speaker 1: Let me tell you, y'all about I'll last argument me

733
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:31,319
Speaker 1: and this nigga. He sent me an article about paternity testing, right,

734
00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:31,799
Speaker 1: did he say?

735
00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:33,040
Speaker 2: Okay?

736
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:36,560
Speaker 1: So he sent an article about paternity testing. And you know,

737
00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:39,600
Speaker 1: I'm a real life, matter of fact type person, like,

738
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 1: that's why I researched.

739
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:42,000
Speaker 2: I'm gonna read.

740
00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:44,800
Speaker 1: So I don't like, you know, people say all the

741
00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 1: time I be spreading misinformation. Nah, bitch, you just hadn't

742
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:52,239
Speaker 1: seen it yet, right. So he sent me some ship

743
00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:54,040
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I don't like when people.

744
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:55,400
Speaker 2: Throw out data and statistics.

745
00:38:56,280 --> 00:38:58,840
Speaker 1: Please send me your source. Don't just say, oh, a

746
00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 1: ten percent of women and shit, Like I don't want.

747
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:03,600
Speaker 2: To hear that. I need the source.

748
00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:07,480
Speaker 1: So basically it was on paternity right, a girl was

749
00:39:07,480 --> 00:39:11,279
Speaker 1: saying she knew a guy who worked at a paternity

750
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:15,120
Speaker 1: clinic or blood testing site and he quit because of

751
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:18,840
Speaker 1: the stress of having to counsel couples after the baby

752
00:39:18,880 --> 00:39:19,239
Speaker 1: come back.

753
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:21,080
Speaker 2: Not the guys, right, And.

754
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:23,239
Speaker 1: She was basically saying that the guy was like, it's

755
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:27,759
Speaker 1: forty percent of the time, it's not the man's baby

756
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:29,120
Speaker 1: who's getting the paternity test.

757
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:32,239
Speaker 2: So my thing to our friend was, this is not

758
00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 2: forty percent of all pregnancies.

759
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:37,759
Speaker 1: This is just the people who go get tested because

760
00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:39,480
Speaker 1: they feel like they need to get tested for the

761
00:39:39,600 --> 00:39:44,400
Speaker 1: fucking kid. Then, after arguing him and going back and

762
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:47,160
Speaker 1: forth about why people should get I don't disagree with

763
00:39:47,160 --> 00:39:48,960
Speaker 1: that man should get their kids tested.

764
00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:49,800
Speaker 2: I don't disagree.

765
00:39:50,239 --> 00:39:53,160
Speaker 1: Shit be look, life be lifing. The only difference between

766
00:39:53,239 --> 00:39:55,839
Speaker 1: men and women is that we can get pregnant, all right.

767
00:39:56,400 --> 00:39:58,279
Speaker 1: If Megan get pregnant, they would have a bunch of

768
00:39:58,360 --> 00:39:59,719
Speaker 1: babies that don't belong to that bait.

769
00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:03,960
Speaker 2: If I had addicted day, I would get a.

770
00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:07,759
Speaker 1: Lot of y'all niggas pregnant and leave would Yes, I was,

771
00:40:08,400 --> 00:40:12,920
Speaker 1: I'll be a daddy. Daddy, just a good lesson. Now

772
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:19,520
Speaker 1: you would be a good father. But shortly after the

773
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:21,800
Speaker 1: damn video, we're all off topic. But it's funny. So

774
00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:24,360
Speaker 1: shortly after the video, I'm looking on Instagram and here

775
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 1: come a post. It's aid the fucking judge, one of

776
00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:32,520
Speaker 1: them judge shows it's a black guy on him. He's

777
00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 1: not about a diagram to the motherfucking courts to show

778
00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 1: how all his kids got this particular eyebrow arch. And

779
00:40:40,440 --> 00:40:42,680
Speaker 1: he's saying he got seven kids. He said, all seven

780
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:45,760
Speaker 1: of my kids got this eyebrow arch. That's not my baby.

781
00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:48,279
Speaker 1: I mean, the court's laughing, the judge laughing at his ass.

782
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:52,440
Speaker 1: It's one lady, one baby. And he's like, that baby

783
00:40:52,640 --> 00:40:53,759
Speaker 1: isn't mine. He's seven kids.

784
00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:55,719
Speaker 2: These are my kids. That baby is not my baby.

785
00:40:55,719 --> 00:40:58,640
Speaker 1: They laughing, like the judge going in on his ass.

786
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:03,080
Speaker 1: Bitch came back from commercial. You are not the father

787
00:41:03,320 --> 00:41:06,120
Speaker 1: he was, and I said that the old boy, it

788
00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:06,719
Speaker 1: ain't mine.

789
00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:10,640
Speaker 2: He knew what his kids look like. You know, at

790
00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:14,040
Speaker 2: this age, I will never be in a situation where

791
00:41:14,080 --> 00:41:16,759
Speaker 2: I wouldn't know who he either is because if I

792
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:19,400
Speaker 2: don't know, I'm nothing the fun. I'm not about to

793
00:41:19,440 --> 00:41:22,040
Speaker 2: be embarrassed, Like what would you do if you ask

794
00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:23,240
Speaker 2: for a fraternity.

795
00:41:23,880 --> 00:41:26,360
Speaker 1: Oh no, I thought you were saying like this is

796
00:41:26,480 --> 00:41:31,400
Speaker 1: like if I actually did some shady shit and you

797
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:33,600
Speaker 1: just don't know who my baby daddy is, I'm not

798
00:41:33,760 --> 00:41:35,240
Speaker 1: having the baby, it is what I'm saying.

799
00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:38,240
Speaker 2: Well, that's not what I was saying.

800
00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:40,600
Speaker 1: No, that's not happening at Like, I'm not out here

801
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:43,600
Speaker 1: smashing multiple people without of goddamn condom first of all.

802
00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:46,960
Speaker 2: That part, and just not outside like that. But if

803
00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:49,760
Speaker 2: I was, I just have to be honest with everybody

804
00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:50,759
Speaker 2: and dap everybody up.

805
00:41:50,800 --> 00:41:52,560
Speaker 1: And why you scratched the back of your neck when

806
00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:55,239
Speaker 1: you said you were outside like that, because my neck

807
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:55,760
Speaker 1: was itching.

808
00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:56,680
Speaker 2: I look like a lie.

809
00:41:58,480 --> 00:41:59,759
Speaker 1: I'm not outside like that.

810
00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:02,319
Speaker 2: I got a gluey and it was in and I'm sorry.

811
00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:06,040
Speaker 2: It's not a lie. I'm not outside like that right now? Me? Neither? Girl?

812
00:42:07,280 --> 00:42:07,839
Speaker 2: All right, y'all.

813
00:42:09,200 --> 00:42:12,160
Speaker 1: Next, Practicing self care. This is one of my favorites

814
00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 1: because I love fucking self care. Okay, and self care

815
00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:19,919
Speaker 1: is never selfish. Engaging in activities that promote your well

816
00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:23,319
Speaker 1: being and help you relax. This could include exercising one

817
00:42:23,360 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 1: am I trying to get back in the gym better.

818
00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:29,279
Speaker 1: Meditating one of my favorites. I meditate when I wake up,

819
00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:33,840
Speaker 1: go and go to sleep. Spending time in nature another favorite.

820
00:42:34,239 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 1: Pursuing hobbies or engaging in activities that bring you joy

821
00:42:39,960 --> 00:42:41,719
Speaker 1: and fulfillment. So what's some of the things that make

822
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 1: you happy?

823
00:42:42,719 --> 00:42:47,440
Speaker 2: Weed? Yeah, it's one of my favorites. But outside of that,

824
00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:55,120
Speaker 2: I just started sewing on the machine and I've been

825
00:42:55,239 --> 00:42:59,279
Speaker 2: making outdoor pillows and they look so good. I'm so

826
00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:01,799
Speaker 2: proud of my friend. I was like, oh, bitch, here'd

827
00:43:01,840 --> 00:43:03,400
Speaker 2: you come with a new hobby? Next thing? You know?

828
00:43:03,520 --> 00:43:06,320
Speaker 2: We go see here on Instagram tell my we outside

829
00:43:06,360 --> 00:43:12,279
Speaker 2: pillows by Tam Why not shit? I know, but you

830
00:43:12,320 --> 00:43:15,359
Speaker 2: know what, it's just I don't think I would turning

831
00:43:15,400 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 2: into a business. It's just something that I've been enjoying

832
00:43:18,480 --> 00:43:20,840
Speaker 2: and I like making my patio look real nice and pretty.

833
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:26,279
Speaker 2: It was expensive, so I went to Joe An the

834
00:43:26,320 --> 00:43:28,759
Speaker 2: Boston Fabric got me a little sewing machine and it's

835
00:43:28,800 --> 00:43:31,440
Speaker 2: half the price doing it that way. But it was

836
00:43:31,880 --> 00:43:35,279
Speaker 2: Fourth of July weekend and every like, I'm outside on

837
00:43:35,320 --> 00:43:36,120
Speaker 2: my patio.

838
00:43:35,920 --> 00:43:40,279
Speaker 1: Like putting fourth of July weekend, yeah, okay, yeah yeah, And.

839
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:49,120
Speaker 2: And I was like sewing pillows and it was like

840
00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:53,799
Speaker 2: live outside. It's motorcycles, horses riding down the street, people

841
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 2: on those bikes, that beer bikes and ship and I

842
00:43:57,120 --> 00:43:59,919
Speaker 2: was like, damn, I wash, That's what I was thinking,

843
00:44:00,080 --> 00:44:01,359
Speaker 2: because why am I in the house.

844
00:44:01,440 --> 00:44:05,040
Speaker 1: So because that is fucking fun. Shot it was cool

845
00:44:05,239 --> 00:44:08,279
Speaker 1: or whatever, but it just seemed like I felt washed.

846
00:44:08,480 --> 00:44:10,120
Speaker 1: You felt like you needed to be doing something else.

847
00:44:10,719 --> 00:44:12,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was all that electricity outside. I mean here,

848
00:44:12,920 --> 00:44:17,800
Speaker 2: like somebody, mother fucking auntie sold pillows. Maybe because you

849
00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:22,760
Speaker 2: are someone's aunty. Hold your finger up and pointed at yourself.

850
00:44:27,719 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 1: Goodness, let me see some of the things that makes

851
00:44:29,719 --> 00:44:30,200
Speaker 1: me happy.

852
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:31,280
Speaker 2: I like cooking.

853
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 1: I like cooking and then I like serving people to food.

854
00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:38,719
Speaker 1: And I'll stand there watch you eat the whole thing, y'all.

855
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:40,800
Speaker 1: When I was at her house, she made this omelet

856
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:46,480
Speaker 1: which was really good. What it was like, uh, salmon,

857
00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:51,279
Speaker 1: It's no salmon. It was blue crap meat okay you

858
00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:56,880
Speaker 1: gallops and shrimp okay, fully loaded, Okay. It was three eggs,

859
00:44:57,440 --> 00:45:01,240
Speaker 1: sweet peppers, sweet onions, nicely seasoned.

860
00:45:01,680 --> 00:45:04,040
Speaker 2: Listen, you can't get this at a restaurant. But it

861
00:45:04,160 --> 00:45:05,840
Speaker 2: was just like kind of weird because I'm either I

862
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:08,879
Speaker 2: keep feeling like someone burning a hole in the side

863
00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:13,319
Speaker 2: of my and I'm like you straight and they look

864
00:45:13,440 --> 00:45:16,200
Speaker 2: right back at me, watching the whole thing. So that

865
00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:18,319
Speaker 2: makes you feel good when people enjoy your food. Yes,

866
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:20,080
Speaker 2: I like people to tell me my food taste good.

867
00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:21,560
Speaker 2: That's one of the things that made me happy.

868
00:45:21,880 --> 00:45:26,640
Speaker 1: So just cooking a good meal, eating good and serving

869
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:28,880
Speaker 1: that's the things that's Those are the things that make

870
00:45:28,960 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 1: me happy outside of like money and family and we.

871
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:35,880
Speaker 2: I think it's right and we. I don't just do

872
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:38,920
Speaker 2: weed by itself. It has to come with the dick. Really, No,

873
00:45:39,120 --> 00:45:41,000
Speaker 2: I will be like I was in there with like

874
00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:42,960
Speaker 2: just be in there with the joy in my mouth, like.

875
00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:50,040
Speaker 1: Foolishness, dog like.

876
00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:52,400
Speaker 2: That, pillows like.

877
00:45:52,880 --> 00:45:54,520
Speaker 1: Look, but if you're having a tough time and you

878
00:45:54,600 --> 00:45:57,279
Speaker 1: can't you feel like you can't find the things that

879
00:45:58,400 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 1: usually made you happy or making you happy, the next

880
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 1: thing is seek support, all right, So reach out to

881
00:46:04,560 --> 00:46:09,240
Speaker 1: trusted friends, family members, or support network for assistance and guidance.

882
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:12,440
Speaker 1: Sometimes sharing your thoughts and feelings with others can provide

883
00:46:12,640 --> 00:46:15,560
Speaker 1: valuable insights or emotional support.

884
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:20,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree, you gotta find your village. I told

885
00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:22,919
Speaker 2: you by my friend who just got diagnosed with breast

886
00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:29,560
Speaker 2: cancer and excuse me, shed y'all. She found out that

887
00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:34,080
Speaker 2: she had cancer in her lungs and her sternum and

888
00:46:34,400 --> 00:46:39,040
Speaker 2: her liver on her birthday. That is wild. That is

889
00:46:39,400 --> 00:46:43,400
Speaker 2: that is life, life, life, And on your birthday you

890
00:46:43,520 --> 00:46:46,680
Speaker 2: get this news. And we just rallied around her and

891
00:46:46,760 --> 00:46:49,600
Speaker 2: we all cried together, we sang together. We did we

892
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:52,040
Speaker 2: party you know that for her because we still was

893
00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:54,600
Speaker 2: like we still celebrating your birthday, yeah, you know, And

894
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:56,520
Speaker 2: at first she wasn't into it, but then she got

895
00:46:56,600 --> 00:46:58,120
Speaker 2: into it and we had such a good time and

896
00:46:58,200 --> 00:47:00,360
Speaker 2: she had a good time. And I think think, you know,

897
00:47:00,680 --> 00:47:04,359
Speaker 2: just us rallying around her like that made a huge

898
00:47:04,400 --> 00:47:06,320
Speaker 2: impact on her, at least her birthday. You know. I

899
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:08,600
Speaker 2: know it's still gonna be a long road for her

900
00:47:08,719 --> 00:47:13,120
Speaker 2: to you know, get healed, but mentally and physically. Yeah,

901
00:47:13,160 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 2: she was. You know, she called me this morning, was saying,

902
00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:17,600
Speaker 2: like they asked her about her village, and she was like,

903
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:20,920
Speaker 2: I'm just so blessed to have these people around me

904
00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:24,520
Speaker 2: because they really are helping me feel better. Right, So

905
00:47:24,680 --> 00:47:28,000
Speaker 2: having that support group is very very important.

906
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:30,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, so any you know, that's what I was saying

907
00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:34,520
Speaker 1: about just discarding people that give you some just stress,

908
00:47:34,719 --> 00:47:37,160
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like you the people at

909
00:47:37,200 --> 00:47:41,200
Speaker 1: our age, at this big age, right, the people that

910
00:47:41,400 --> 00:47:43,239
Speaker 1: you allow on your space should be the people that

911
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:45,279
Speaker 1: put a smile on your face every time you see them.

912
00:47:45,960 --> 00:47:50,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, every time you see them, it should be good times. Well,

913
00:47:52,040 --> 00:47:53,880
Speaker 2: I can't really say that every time I see the

914
00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:55,759
Speaker 2: people I love, they put a smile on my face,

915
00:47:55,800 --> 00:47:58,880
Speaker 2: because some sometimes y'all get on my nerves, you know,

916
00:47:59,120 --> 00:48:05,799
Speaker 2: like who are you talking to? Who talking Mack Jordan?

917
00:48:05,800 --> 00:48:07,320
Speaker 2: You're gonna tell me talking about you like that?

918
00:48:10,080 --> 00:48:12,600
Speaker 1: Look Like, first of all, anytime I've gotten on your nerve.

919
00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:15,640
Speaker 1: You've gotten on my nerve, so we've equally gotten on

920
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:17,839
Speaker 1: y'all the nerves. So I'm not getting on your nerve

921
00:48:17,920 --> 00:48:19,320
Speaker 1: right now, So why are you even talking about it?

922
00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:22,000
Speaker 1: Did I get on your nerves this time? Did I

923
00:48:22,080 --> 00:48:22,719
Speaker 1: do anything to.

924
00:48:22,760 --> 00:48:25,279
Speaker 2: You this time? You didn't do nothing to me this time.

925
00:48:25,440 --> 00:48:31,440
Speaker 2: What I'm saying sometimes it's not always a smiling situation,

926
00:48:31,600 --> 00:48:33,280
Speaker 2: and that's okay because that's normal.

927
00:48:33,600 --> 00:48:35,600
Speaker 1: Well, I won't say love because to me, like we

928
00:48:35,640 --> 00:48:37,640
Speaker 1: talked about unconditional love on another episode.

929
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:41,920
Speaker 2: You know, I feel like love and liking are two

930
00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 2: different things because I can like you.

931
00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:46,520
Speaker 1: I don't think that you can like a person and

932
00:48:46,600 --> 00:48:48,479
Speaker 1: I love them, But you can definitely love a person

933
00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:52,520
Speaker 1: and not like them, right, So liking is fluctuating and

934
00:48:52,640 --> 00:48:57,120
Speaker 1: fleeting oftentimes, you know, but the love is still there,

935
00:48:57,840 --> 00:48:58,640
Speaker 1: but it's liking.

936
00:48:58,760 --> 00:49:00,719
Speaker 2: So what I said, what I mean is the people

937
00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:03,800
Speaker 2: that you fucking like, dog. It's certain people.

938
00:49:03,600 --> 00:49:05,880
Speaker 1: When I see them, like I know it's going to

939
00:49:05,920 --> 00:49:07,840
Speaker 1: be a good day, you know what I'm saying, Like

940
00:49:08,480 --> 00:49:13,040
Speaker 1: that person when you are going through some shit, as

941
00:49:13,080 --> 00:49:16,959
Speaker 1: soon as you you know, see them, you cry.

942
00:49:17,760 --> 00:49:21,759
Speaker 2: That's your people. That's your people. Yeah. But y'all. We're

943
00:49:21,760 --> 00:49:23,200
Speaker 2: gonna take a break right quick.

944
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:30,520
Speaker 1: All right, y'all, So we're back and let's get back.

945
00:49:30,400 --> 00:49:32,080
Speaker 2: To how we deal with life.

946
00:49:32,360 --> 00:49:36,080
Speaker 1: Okay, some some some some things you can do some practices.

947
00:49:36,920 --> 00:49:38,279
Speaker 1: So practice resilience.

948
00:49:38,680 --> 00:49:38,960
Speaker 2: Okay.

949
00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:43,439
Speaker 1: I understand that setbacks and difficult times are part of life. Life,

950
00:49:43,480 --> 00:49:47,280
Speaker 1: be lifing right. Cultivate resilience by maintaining a positive mindset,

951
00:49:47,360 --> 00:49:51,839
Speaker 1: focusing on solutions rather than problems, and learning from past experiences.

952
00:49:52,600 --> 00:49:55,759
Speaker 2: I feel like practice and resilience is like embedded in

953
00:49:55,800 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 2: black people. Yeah, I think that one is just one

954
00:49:59,120 --> 00:49:59,680
Speaker 2: that we just do.

955
00:49:59,840 --> 00:50:01,960
Speaker 1: Now, look, we're gonna we're gonna see when this economy

956
00:50:02,040 --> 00:50:03,799
Speaker 1: really cried. You're gonna be standing because you know them

957
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:06,279
Speaker 1: people can't live with out resources we can.

958
00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:09,440
Speaker 2: I'm gonna talking to one of my guy friends. He

959
00:50:09,520 --> 00:50:11,160
Speaker 2: came to help me put up this table that I

960
00:50:11,200 --> 00:50:13,600
Speaker 2: bought from my patio. Y'all, my patio about to be fired.

961
00:50:13,600 --> 00:50:16,400
Speaker 2: I'm just saying that. But he came to put it up,

962
00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:19,240
Speaker 2: and I was like, slowly as I was cutting fabric

963
00:50:19,360 --> 00:50:21,520
Speaker 2: to make another pillow, I was like, slowly, but surely,

964
00:50:21,560 --> 00:50:23,960
Speaker 2: I'm turning into my grandmother. I was like, next thing.

965
00:50:24,000 --> 00:50:27,160
Speaker 2: You know, I'm gonna be preserving fruits and vegetables as

966
00:50:27,200 --> 00:50:29,840
Speaker 2: you should be preserving fruits. And he and in his

967
00:50:29,960 --> 00:50:34,520
Speaker 2: twenties preserving fruits and vegetables. Why you just can't buy

968
00:50:34,640 --> 00:50:37,160
Speaker 2: more fruits and vegetables because it ain't the same. I

969
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:39,399
Speaker 2: was like, it's different. And I was like, what if

970
00:50:39,440 --> 00:50:41,560
Speaker 2: there are no one? What if they run out? Now

971
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:45,480
Speaker 2: you have jars and jars of stuff on serve there.

972
00:50:46,760 --> 00:50:49,839
Speaker 2: He was like, what if they run out of vegetables?

973
00:50:50,239 --> 00:50:52,040
Speaker 2: The grocery store always got veget.

974
00:50:52,080 --> 00:50:53,960
Speaker 1: Do they Because did you know, I see what the

975
00:50:54,000 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 1: fuck was happening during COVID, right, They was intentionally fucking

976
00:50:57,000 --> 00:50:57,720
Speaker 1: with the food supply.

977
00:50:58,120 --> 00:50:58,319
Speaker 2: Yeah.

978
00:50:58,800 --> 00:51:00,959
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like one day I went to the grocery store

979
00:51:01,080 --> 00:51:04,920
Speaker 1: and there was no better. The next day it was

980
00:51:05,040 --> 00:51:06,960
Speaker 1: like three or four packs up there. We all find

981
00:51:07,000 --> 00:51:09,399
Speaker 1: three or four packs of butter. At right, we all

982
00:51:09,440 --> 00:51:12,000
Speaker 1: playing with Bring that motherfucking butter off the back.

983
00:51:13,600 --> 00:51:14,320
Speaker 2: And stop playing with.

984
00:51:14,520 --> 00:51:14,719
Speaker 1: Yes.

985
00:51:16,080 --> 00:51:19,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, so yeah, black people definitely, I think resilient.

986
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:22,680
Speaker 1: We have lower anytime I hear about a black person

987
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:26,000
Speaker 1: coming in suicide, it's like very shocking to me, Like, Dad,

988
00:51:26,040 --> 00:51:28,359
Speaker 1: what the fuck was happening that you had to get

989
00:51:28,440 --> 00:51:30,000
Speaker 1: up out of here, you know what I'm saying, like,

990
00:51:30,080 --> 00:51:33,279
Speaker 1: because that's just not especially a black woman, it's just

991
00:51:33,400 --> 00:51:35,000
Speaker 1: not like something we do.

992
00:51:35,200 --> 00:51:37,720
Speaker 2: Definitely are just the most resilient people on the planet,

993
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:41,120
Speaker 2: I feel like m for sure. But in the event

994
00:51:41,200 --> 00:51:44,759
Speaker 2: that you don't feel resilient, this is something you can

995
00:51:44,840 --> 00:51:49,440
Speaker 2: do by start maintaining a positive mindset, which is hard

996
00:51:49,520 --> 00:51:52,160
Speaker 2: when you're going through stuff. That's why that village is

997
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:55,279
Speaker 2: always good, because they'll help you get out of that.

998
00:51:56,200 --> 00:51:57,000
Speaker 2: What was the other one?

999
00:51:57,520 --> 00:52:01,560
Speaker 1: Focusing on solutions rather than the problem? Okay, that's my problem,

1000
00:52:02,040 --> 00:52:05,319
Speaker 1: all right? So I am solution driven when it comes

1001
00:52:05,360 --> 00:52:07,480
Speaker 1: to like business and shit like that, but just regular

1002
00:52:07,560 --> 00:52:11,560
Speaker 1: fucking life shit, it's like I'd be wanting to I

1003
00:52:11,680 --> 00:52:15,040
Speaker 1: be needing to know the why, Why the fuck did

1004
00:52:15,080 --> 00:52:17,080
Speaker 1: you say that? Why the fuck did you do that?

1005
00:52:17,840 --> 00:52:22,080
Speaker 1: That's what I can't focus on, the goddamn solution. I'm

1006
00:52:22,160 --> 00:52:24,520
Speaker 1: focusing on a problem because I just don't even understand

1007
00:52:24,560 --> 00:52:27,279
Speaker 1: why there was a problem. You know what I'm saying.

1008
00:52:27,280 --> 00:52:29,680
Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out why that even happened, you

1009
00:52:29,760 --> 00:52:32,960
Speaker 1: know why? That's my problem? Just what dealing with, you know,

1010
00:52:33,040 --> 00:52:35,360
Speaker 1: people in relationships and stuff like that, Like why was that?

1011
00:52:35,440 --> 00:52:38,080
Speaker 2: Even? It is to me?

1012
00:52:38,640 --> 00:52:41,440
Speaker 1: Right? It is to me because I don't go out

1013
00:52:41,480 --> 00:52:44,360
Speaker 1: of my way to like fuck with people, you know

1014
00:52:44,400 --> 00:52:46,440
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, So anytime it's done to me, I'm like, man,

1015
00:52:46,480 --> 00:52:49,560
Speaker 1: what the hell? So like when when you're in a relationship,

1016
00:52:49,800 --> 00:52:53,240
Speaker 1: And this is what I learned once in couple's therapy.

1017
00:52:53,840 --> 00:52:55,440
Speaker 2: You know, they always like to say.

1018
00:52:55,320 --> 00:52:58,880
Speaker 1: You know, you make the problem the enemy and not

1019
00:52:59,040 --> 00:53:01,759
Speaker 1: each other. Right, But it's very hard because it's also

1020
00:53:01,800 --> 00:53:03,120
Speaker 1: like one of those things where people.

1021
00:53:02,920 --> 00:53:06,480
Speaker 2: Say other people the problem.

1022
00:53:06,640 --> 00:53:10,600
Speaker 1: No, right, other people are not responsible for your happiness.

1023
00:53:10,640 --> 00:53:12,560
Speaker 1: But if somebody can make you sad, they can also

1024
00:53:12,640 --> 00:53:16,200
Speaker 1: make you happy. And I feel like they're confusing peace

1025
00:53:16,680 --> 00:53:19,400
Speaker 1: with happiness, you know what I'm saying. People should be

1026
00:53:19,480 --> 00:53:23,840
Speaker 1: responsible for your peace. Right, Why are you get putting

1027
00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:26,279
Speaker 1: me in an unpeaced no dog. If you come in

1028
00:53:26,320 --> 00:53:28,360
Speaker 1: the house every day and you cause it fucking chaos

1029
00:53:28,880 --> 00:53:31,480
Speaker 1: and taking a peaceful place and making it into a

1030
00:53:31,600 --> 00:53:34,880
Speaker 1: chaotic place, that is a problem. You need to remove

1031
00:53:35,000 --> 00:53:39,200
Speaker 1: them from right, absolutely right, But in the mit, in

1032
00:53:39,280 --> 00:53:41,480
Speaker 1: the midst of it, you're in chaos.

1033
00:53:42,520 --> 00:53:45,399
Speaker 2: I mean, until you do so, then the question would

1034
00:53:45,400 --> 00:53:47,720
Speaker 2: be like, who's the fuck. What's the problem? Is the problem,

1035
00:53:47,880 --> 00:53:51,040
Speaker 2: so we can attack that, not why are you causing

1036
00:53:51,160 --> 00:53:52,960
Speaker 2: chaos here? What is the problem?

1037
00:53:53,120 --> 00:53:56,120
Speaker 1: Some people are just chaotic, that's just some people genetic makeup.

1038
00:53:56,200 --> 00:53:59,160
Speaker 1: And then yeah, that's just some pece you while you're

1039
00:53:59,160 --> 00:54:01,280
Speaker 1: trying to figure out. That's why I don't really believe

1040
00:54:01,280 --> 00:54:04,280
Speaker 1: in couple's therapy. I believe that people should have individual therapy,

1041
00:54:04,920 --> 00:54:08,160
Speaker 1: right because once you're in a better healed place, you'll

1042
00:54:08,200 --> 00:54:10,920
Speaker 1: then attract that If you still attracting a bunch of toxic,

1043
00:54:11,160 --> 00:54:15,360
Speaker 1: toxic people and toxicity and toxic situations, that's because it

1044
00:54:15,560 --> 00:54:16,160
Speaker 1: still lives in you.

1045
00:54:17,000 --> 00:54:19,680
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. Couples therapy is necessary because

1046
00:54:20,440 --> 00:54:23,600
Speaker 2: even if you feel fully healed and this person feels

1047
00:54:23,640 --> 00:54:26,719
Speaker 2: fully healed in the selves, for whatever reason, your heal

1048
00:54:26,840 --> 00:54:29,000
Speaker 2: self and their heal self is button his. You have

1049
00:54:29,080 --> 00:54:31,040
Speaker 2: to sometimes need help figuring that out.

1050
00:54:31,480 --> 00:54:33,719
Speaker 1: I don't know, man, I feel like that's where communication

1051
00:54:33,840 --> 00:54:36,320
Speaker 1: comes in at, right. So if you get to a

1052
00:54:36,400 --> 00:54:38,719
Speaker 1: place to where you're healed and you have also a

1053
00:54:38,880 --> 00:54:40,759
Speaker 1: healed person, and when I talk, we talk about healing

1054
00:54:40,760 --> 00:54:42,560
Speaker 1: all the time, maybe that's a whole other episode because

1055
00:54:43,080 --> 00:54:45,520
Speaker 1: I know that right now, I'm in Charleston a heal

1056
00:54:45,600 --> 00:54:48,560
Speaker 1: from my childhood traumas in a real fucking way, and

1057
00:54:48,680 --> 00:54:51,040
Speaker 1: shit has just been slapping me in my damn face.

1058
00:54:51,280 --> 00:54:53,560
Speaker 2: But do you feel like it's working? Absolutely?

1059
00:54:53,640 --> 00:54:56,239
Speaker 1: Because now I can pinpoint things and I can course

1060
00:54:56,320 --> 00:54:58,840
Speaker 1: correct myself. Now do I need a therapist to do that?

1061
00:54:59,000 --> 00:55:02,160
Speaker 1: I feel like I've been and I've been in therapy

1062
00:55:03,280 --> 00:55:05,080
Speaker 1: all this fucking time. You know what I'm saying. So

1063
00:55:05,120 --> 00:55:08,680
Speaker 1: I don't feel like getting into uh uh.

1064
00:55:10,640 --> 00:55:13,520
Speaker 2: What weight? I don't fuck around my brain. Just skip, bitch,

1065
00:55:13,760 --> 00:55:14,640
Speaker 2: skip the whole beat.

1066
00:55:15,080 --> 00:55:18,160
Speaker 1: You said, no, we were talking about therapy, and I'm

1067
00:55:18,200 --> 00:55:21,080
Speaker 1: saying I don't need therapy with another person. Like oftentimes,

1068
00:55:21,120 --> 00:55:23,600
Speaker 1: if if we are good, we should be able to communicate.

1069
00:55:23,640 --> 00:55:25,800
Speaker 1: That's what I was talking about communication. We should be

1070
00:55:25,840 --> 00:55:28,080
Speaker 1: able to talk about you should.

1071
00:55:27,880 --> 00:55:31,680
Speaker 2: Be and oftentimes people have trouble communicating their feelings, especially

1072
00:55:31,760 --> 00:55:34,719
Speaker 2: with someone that they love. That's where self awareness comes in.

1073
00:55:34,719 --> 00:55:36,480
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of people are honest with themselves,

1074
00:55:36,800 --> 00:55:39,000
Speaker 1: So now you can't be honest with nobody else if

1075
00:55:39,000 --> 00:55:40,839
Speaker 1: you can't even look at yourself in the mirror.

1076
00:55:41,080 --> 00:55:43,360
Speaker 2: But maybe that's not what it is like sometimes we

1077
00:55:43,640 --> 00:55:47,520
Speaker 2: like have trouble expressing ourselves with people that we love, Like,

1078
00:55:48,239 --> 00:55:52,040
Speaker 2: you know, like I'm what I'm trying to convey is

1079
00:55:52,160 --> 00:55:54,880
Speaker 2: not being received, and what you're trying to convey is

1080
00:55:54,960 --> 00:55:58,040
Speaker 2: not being received to that person. And there's a mediator

1081
00:55:58,160 --> 00:55:59,879
Speaker 2: that can come in and help y'all be cause y'all

1082
00:56:00,200 --> 00:56:01,000
Speaker 2: be saying the same.

1083
00:56:01,600 --> 00:56:03,279
Speaker 1: I think a lot of times people be saying the

1084
00:56:03,320 --> 00:56:05,440
Speaker 1: same shit. Yeah, a lot of times you're saying the

1085
00:56:05,480 --> 00:56:06,520
Speaker 1: same same shit.

1086
00:56:06,600 --> 00:56:07,120
Speaker 2: But I think that.

1087
00:56:08,680 --> 00:56:11,480
Speaker 1: Respect also plays a big part of it. If you

1088
00:56:11,520 --> 00:56:13,600
Speaker 1: don't respect the person you're talking to, you're not gonna

1089
00:56:13,640 --> 00:56:16,239
Speaker 1: hear them. But I do believe that your people hear

1090
00:56:16,320 --> 00:56:18,839
Speaker 1: you differently. I believe that you know what I'm saying.

1091
00:56:18,840 --> 00:56:21,399
Speaker 1: I can say the same thing to ten different people

1092
00:56:21,440 --> 00:56:23,759
Speaker 1: and they hear me different from who I have the

1093
00:56:23,840 --> 00:56:25,160
Speaker 1: issue with, you know what I'm saying.

1094
00:56:26,040 --> 00:56:28,640
Speaker 2: So I don't know. Therapy is a good thing. Seek

1095
00:56:28,640 --> 00:56:32,840
Speaker 2: professional help, Seek seek professional help. You gotta get a

1096
00:56:32,840 --> 00:56:33,400
Speaker 2: good therapist.

1097
00:56:33,480 --> 00:56:36,359
Speaker 1: Even those relationships dog you got to really have done

1098
00:56:36,400 --> 00:56:40,120
Speaker 1: some discernment because they're not really in the business of healing, okay,

1099
00:56:40,120 --> 00:56:41,200
Speaker 1: because they need to get that check.

1100
00:56:41,560 --> 00:56:44,719
Speaker 2: So sometimes they are. But sometimes you have someone that's

1101
00:56:44,800 --> 00:56:47,200
Speaker 2: like no offense to people who are fresh out of school,

1102
00:56:47,239 --> 00:56:49,880
Speaker 2: but they're just kind of like I find like the

1103
00:56:50,080 --> 00:56:52,719
Speaker 2: therapists that I went to that are like new therapists.

1104
00:56:53,080 --> 00:56:55,600
Speaker 2: They're just giving me some shit out of a textbook, yes,

1105
00:56:55,680 --> 00:56:58,040
Speaker 2: and they haven't had the real life experiences. I need

1106
00:56:58,239 --> 00:57:01,439
Speaker 2: to help me. So that like I was like, girl,

1107
00:57:01,560 --> 00:57:04,520
Speaker 2: what the fuck is this exercise you just had me?

1108
00:57:04,680 --> 00:57:06,480
Speaker 2: I'm packing my shit sitting there on the table. And

1109
00:57:06,480 --> 00:57:09,160
Speaker 2: then she was like, well, that looks like it's our

1110
00:57:09,239 --> 00:57:12,600
Speaker 2: time you next time? Did I take cash out? Bitch

1111
00:57:12,640 --> 00:57:14,960
Speaker 2: about to go jump off a cliff? Right? You just

1112
00:57:15,040 --> 00:57:16,840
Speaker 2: had me unpack all this shit. We left it on

1113
00:57:16,920 --> 00:57:19,040
Speaker 2: the table. Right. I'm sitting here, my eight year old

1114
00:57:19,120 --> 00:57:22,120
Speaker 2: self right now. She can't drive home, so you need

1115
00:57:22,200 --> 00:57:24,080
Speaker 2: to help me with something. You better come up with

1116
00:57:24,160 --> 00:57:25,760
Speaker 2: something else take me home.

1117
00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:29,440
Speaker 1: And you know, I remember going to therapy with my

1118
00:57:29,520 --> 00:57:32,120
Speaker 1: mom as a teenager, and it was a young white girl,

1119
00:57:33,360 --> 00:57:34,400
Speaker 1: probably just out of school.

1120
00:57:35,080 --> 00:57:37,080
Speaker 2: Right. She had her little office right by the house,

1121
00:57:37,880 --> 00:57:41,640
Speaker 2: and we're talking. My mom's crying.

1122
00:57:41,760 --> 00:57:44,120
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm going through it as a teenager, right,

1123
00:57:44,640 --> 00:57:47,680
Speaker 1: And I think sometimes parents forget that kids are human too.

1124
00:57:47,800 --> 00:57:50,360
Speaker 1: Like they have bad days, right, some days they don't

1125
00:57:50,360 --> 00:57:51,720
Speaker 1: feel like going to school, just like you don't feel

1126
00:57:51,720 --> 00:57:53,760
Speaker 1: like going to work. It's all types of shit, but

1127
00:57:53,880 --> 00:57:56,760
Speaker 1: you forget like you were never a fucking kid. So

1128
00:57:56,840 --> 00:57:58,320
Speaker 1: now we're going through all types of shit. We're going

1129
00:57:58,360 --> 00:58:00,560
Speaker 1: through therapy because we just really bumping heads. And I

1130
00:58:00,640 --> 00:58:02,720
Speaker 1: remember my mom telling my ass when I was like fourteen.

1131
00:58:02,800 --> 00:58:04,400
Speaker 1: She was like, you're gonna be out of here by

1132
00:58:04,440 --> 00:58:06,280
Speaker 1: the time you turn fifteen, and bitch, I was fuck

1133
00:58:06,360 --> 00:58:06,800
Speaker 1: up out of there.

1134
00:58:06,880 --> 00:58:07,520
Speaker 2: She put me out.

1135
00:58:08,040 --> 00:58:11,440
Speaker 1: But because we just alike for the most part, you

1136
00:58:11,520 --> 00:58:13,000
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, not just it's a lot of

1137
00:58:13,080 --> 00:58:16,440
Speaker 1: things now as an adult, I see who you are

1138
00:58:16,520 --> 00:58:19,479
Speaker 1: now as an adult. But anyway, this therapist, I felt

1139
00:58:19,560 --> 00:58:22,280
Speaker 1: so terrible for her, and I'm sitting there, my fourteen,

1140
00:58:22,360 --> 00:58:24,840
Speaker 1: fifteen year old self, and my mom is just going

1141
00:58:24,920 --> 00:58:26,680
Speaker 1: off on her and telling her how she don't know

1142
00:58:26,720 --> 00:58:28,280
Speaker 1: how it is because she don't have kids in her

1143
00:58:28,360 --> 00:58:31,960
Speaker 1: own and above reproach, what do you do with a

1144
00:58:32,000 --> 00:58:34,320
Speaker 1: client like that, like you know what I'm saying, Like

1145
00:58:34,680 --> 00:58:38,240
Speaker 1: they she wasn't, And all she could do is look

1146
00:58:38,320 --> 00:58:40,280
Speaker 1: at me, like, because I'm telling you, I can't talk.

1147
00:58:40,200 --> 00:58:42,360
Speaker 2: To my mama, and she's like, bitch, I can't talk

1148
00:58:44,280 --> 00:58:45,080
Speaker 2: say exactly what.

1149
00:58:45,160 --> 00:58:49,360
Speaker 1: The hell I was saying to you. We're gonna bring

1150
00:58:49,440 --> 00:58:52,240
Speaker 1: in We're gonna bring in my my peer because this

1151
00:58:52,320 --> 00:58:54,520
Speaker 1: ain't working. All I need therapy at this point, girl,

1152
00:58:55,040 --> 00:58:56,120
Speaker 1: black Mama's man.

1153
00:58:58,440 --> 00:59:01,200
Speaker 2: True. But listen.

1154
00:59:01,400 --> 00:59:05,400
Speaker 1: So, like I said, another way of dealing with life

1155
00:59:05,440 --> 00:59:09,200
Speaker 1: and life life and is saying fuck it, fuck it.

1156
00:59:09,320 --> 00:59:11,560
Speaker 1: So now, the concept of not giving a fuck is

1157
00:59:11,680 --> 00:59:15,240
Speaker 1: not often associated with the idea of not being overly

1158
00:59:15,320 --> 00:59:18,760
Speaker 1: concerned about the opinions and judgments of others. I mean, see,

1159
00:59:18,760 --> 00:59:20,960
Speaker 1: that's what it's about, just not being overly concerned about

1160
00:59:20,960 --> 00:59:24,680
Speaker 1: their shit, right, It's about prioritizing your own values, desires,

1161
00:59:24,720 --> 00:59:28,600
Speaker 1: and well being over the external validation and expectations imposed

1162
00:59:28,960 --> 00:59:33,960
Speaker 1: impulsed by society. Here are a few aspects that highlight

1163
00:59:34,160 --> 00:59:37,880
Speaker 1: the power of not giving a fuck all right. So

1164
00:59:37,960 --> 00:59:40,000
Speaker 1: the first one is authenticity. And see that's what I

1165
00:59:40,120 --> 00:59:42,640
Speaker 1: was talking about, that self awareness. It takes some time

1166
00:59:42,720 --> 00:59:44,320
Speaker 1: to become self aware. A lot of people aren't self

1167
00:59:44,320 --> 00:59:48,120
Speaker 1: aware to They're like, I don't know fifty or plus

1168
00:59:49,160 --> 00:59:51,360
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So in this a journey,

1169
00:59:51,560 --> 00:59:55,000
Speaker 1: but it does have an end, it stops.

1170
00:59:55,360 --> 00:59:58,000
Speaker 2: I remember when I was working at Alta. It was

1171
00:59:58,040 --> 01:00:00,920
Speaker 2: this a girl that was working there with me, and uh,

1172
01:00:01,720 --> 01:00:03,560
Speaker 2: if I could see her now, I would apologize to

1173
01:00:03,640 --> 01:00:06,120
Speaker 2: her for her treated her at the time. She used

1174
01:00:06,160 --> 01:00:10,360
Speaker 2: to wear one blue eyebrow and one red eyebrow, and

1175
01:00:10,480 --> 01:00:12,000
Speaker 2: I used to be like, get the fuck out of here,

1176
01:00:12,080 --> 01:00:14,520
Speaker 2: Harley Quinn, gotta look at that bitch like I used

1177
01:00:14,560 --> 01:00:18,200
Speaker 2: to just like like that's ugly. Like I used to

1178
01:00:18,240 --> 01:00:21,720
Speaker 2: be mean to her. That's terrible. I wouldn't be. I

1179
01:00:21,720 --> 01:00:23,640
Speaker 2: wouldn't be like, get the fuck out of here, Harley Quinn.

1180
01:00:23,680 --> 01:00:25,120
Speaker 2: But that's what I'd be thinking in my head. And

1181
01:00:25,160 --> 01:00:28,800
Speaker 2: I was like, that's not gonna catch. But obviously she

1182
01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:31,640
Speaker 2: wasn't doing it for her to catch, for people to

1183
01:00:31,840 --> 01:00:34,360
Speaker 2: just for her. It was like fetch, nobody's gonna say fetch.

1184
01:00:34,440 --> 01:00:36,680
Speaker 2: That was me. I was a mean girl. But she

1185
01:00:36,800 --> 01:00:39,360
Speaker 2: did it cause it made her feel pretty, It made

1186
01:00:39,400 --> 01:00:42,120
Speaker 2: her feel authentic, It made her feel like an individual.

1187
01:00:42,120 --> 01:00:45,160
Speaker 2: It was her thing and here and here was all like, girl,

1188
01:00:45,200 --> 01:00:48,800
Speaker 2: what is that like everybody else? Bitch asked eyebrow? Bitch,

1189
01:00:49,320 --> 01:00:51,280
Speaker 2: you ain't even god on no blue or no red.

1190
01:00:52,160 --> 01:00:52,600
Speaker 1: That was me.

1191
01:00:53,200 --> 01:00:55,560
Speaker 2: So I wherever you girl are are, girl, I'm sorry.

1192
01:00:56,040 --> 01:00:57,160
Speaker 2: I hope you're still doing it.

1193
01:00:57,320 --> 01:00:58,960
Speaker 1: Cause even if those those things were in your head,

1194
01:00:58,960 --> 01:01:01,080
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure you're manifest in your face when you

1195
01:01:01,120 --> 01:01:02,200
Speaker 1: saw her face and.

1196
01:01:02,280 --> 01:01:06,480
Speaker 2: How you talk to her, like with the Nike check lip.

1197
01:01:09,480 --> 01:01:12,560
Speaker 2: So I apologize, girl. You were being your authentic self,

1198
01:01:12,640 --> 01:01:14,680
Speaker 2: and who am I to tell you that there's anything

1199
01:01:14,800 --> 01:01:16,560
Speaker 2: wrong with that? So all right, geez?

1200
01:01:18,200 --> 01:01:22,440
Speaker 1: So this authenticity, uh again, that goes back to being

1201
01:01:22,440 --> 01:01:26,040
Speaker 1: a self, being self aware, knowing who you are, being

1202
01:01:26,160 --> 01:01:28,960
Speaker 1: yourself doubt. You know, we had this episode where we

1203
01:01:29,040 --> 01:01:31,240
Speaker 1: were arguing on right and a lot of people on

1204
01:01:31,520 --> 01:01:34,000
Speaker 1: online kept saying stuff like, no, everybody will think of you.

1205
01:01:34,080 --> 01:01:37,360
Speaker 1: I am the same person on this podcast that I'm

1206
01:01:37,560 --> 01:01:39,200
Speaker 1: I am in real life, and some people was like,

1207
01:01:39,320 --> 01:01:41,960
Speaker 1: I didn't want to see those personalities. I'm not a personality.

1208
01:01:42,800 --> 01:01:47,360
Speaker 1: I am me through and through every single day. You're

1209
01:01:47,360 --> 01:01:49,920
Speaker 1: gonna are you gonna get the same fucking person. So

1210
01:01:50,080 --> 01:01:52,840
Speaker 1: the wrath of me looks like that, That's just what

1211
01:01:52,960 --> 01:01:55,680
Speaker 1: it looks like, you know what I'm saying. So I'm

1212
01:01:55,720 --> 01:01:59,720
Speaker 1: not here to put on a persona to to for

1213
01:01:59,800 --> 01:02:03,040
Speaker 1: the world. Right, I worked a corporate job for a

1214
01:02:03,240 --> 01:02:06,320
Speaker 1: very long time, right where you know, I'm a black girl,

1215
01:02:06,680 --> 01:02:08,360
Speaker 1: and when I walk in the office, it's like, here

1216
01:02:08,480 --> 01:02:12,160
Speaker 1: comes trouble. I've always been me, even in a fucking boardroom.

1217
01:02:12,440 --> 01:02:15,720
Speaker 1: I've never not been me. So and now I get

1218
01:02:15,800 --> 01:02:20,280
Speaker 1: to actually make money being myself. That is fucking yeah,

1219
01:02:20,520 --> 01:02:25,160
Speaker 1: y'all mad shit because that that, like this is an

1220
01:02:25,200 --> 01:02:26,160
Speaker 1: ultimate flex for me.

1221
01:02:26,480 --> 01:02:29,960
Speaker 2: So here's the thing. I'm Sometimes I feel like I

1222
01:02:30,040 --> 01:02:32,520
Speaker 2: shouldn't be so much of me all the time, Like no,

1223
01:02:32,800 --> 01:02:38,320
Speaker 2: it's okay. Sometimes it's okay to like no. Man. Like

1224
01:02:38,840 --> 01:02:41,560
Speaker 2: like when y'all before we started feeling, I put my

1225
01:02:41,640 --> 01:02:43,480
Speaker 2: mouth around this whole thing to see if I could

1226
01:02:43,520 --> 01:02:45,000
Speaker 2: do it. I didn't have to do that in front

1227
01:02:45,000 --> 01:02:47,600
Speaker 2: of y'all. That was inappropriate. It was not inappropriate. That's

1228
01:02:47,640 --> 01:02:48,080
Speaker 2: who you are.

1229
01:02:48,800 --> 01:02:53,000
Speaker 1: Don't apologize for it. Don't apologize, okay, to save stuff

1230
01:02:53,080 --> 01:02:54,720
Speaker 1: for you know later.

1231
01:02:55,320 --> 01:02:57,400
Speaker 2: You know, I think that a lot of us. And

1232
01:02:57,520 --> 01:02:59,240
Speaker 2: if you any of you have ever read the book

1233
01:02:59,320 --> 01:03:00,320
Speaker 2: The Four Agreement.

1234
01:03:01,120 --> 01:03:04,440
Speaker 1: It talks about like childhood right and healing the childhood

1235
01:03:04,480 --> 01:03:06,960
Speaker 1: traumas and the things that adults do the childhead. Adults

1236
01:03:07,040 --> 01:03:11,000
Speaker 1: are dream killers. That's what I'm learning in Charleston adults

1237
01:03:11,080 --> 01:03:13,720
Speaker 1: are dream killers. And I'm a fucking kid, a big one,

1238
01:03:14,040 --> 01:03:15,880
Speaker 1: and I don't plan on growing up no time soon.

1239
01:03:16,360 --> 01:03:19,560
Speaker 1: And I feel like when adults be lifing right and

1240
01:03:19,640 --> 01:03:22,160
Speaker 1: you gotta pay bills and you gotta do all these things,

1241
01:03:22,400 --> 01:03:24,560
Speaker 1: and you got the kids, you're always telling them.

1242
01:03:24,480 --> 01:03:27,400
Speaker 2: To sit down, shut up. You are stripping them of

1243
01:03:27,560 --> 01:03:27,960
Speaker 2: their soul.

1244
01:03:28,040 --> 01:03:30,680
Speaker 1: You are stripping them of their essence and who they

1245
01:03:30,720 --> 01:03:32,720
Speaker 1: are because now you're not You're trying to like make

1246
01:03:32,800 --> 01:03:34,760
Speaker 1: them into you. You want them to dress like you,

1247
01:03:35,200 --> 01:03:37,840
Speaker 1: act like you, sit like you. No, man, I'm not

1248
01:03:37,920 --> 01:03:38,320
Speaker 1: doing that to.

1249
01:03:38,400 --> 01:03:39,000
Speaker 2: My fucking kid.

1250
01:03:39,400 --> 01:03:41,320
Speaker 1: So if you want to be in the line at

1251
01:03:42,040 --> 01:03:44,280
Speaker 1: fucking Harris Teeter, you want to press all the buttons

1252
01:03:44,360 --> 01:03:47,439
Speaker 1: on them people, Shit, I'm gonna let you. I'm gonna

1253
01:03:47,520 --> 01:03:49,480
Speaker 1: let you run through this motherfucker because one thing about it.

1254
01:03:50,000 --> 01:03:52,800
Speaker 1: White people let their kids explore Black people be like,

1255
01:03:52,920 --> 01:03:56,720
Speaker 1: sit down and shut up. And that's that really, Yes,

1256
01:03:57,520 --> 01:04:00,840
Speaker 1: that shit shows up and us as adults, you know

1257
01:04:00,920 --> 01:04:04,640
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, while meanwhile, our white counterparts, they are

1258
01:04:04,760 --> 01:04:07,080
Speaker 1: out conquering the world because they were never they were

1259
01:04:07,160 --> 01:04:10,000
Speaker 1: never limited as children to what they can do.

1260
01:04:11,880 --> 01:04:13,880
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't I don't know what goes

1261
01:04:13,920 --> 01:04:16,560
Speaker 2: on in white households. Honestly, girl, we see it.

1262
01:04:16,600 --> 01:04:20,280
Speaker 1: The we be wanting to beat their kids in public, okay.

1263
01:04:21,560 --> 01:04:25,400
Speaker 2: Like, because there's a fine line between letting your kids

1264
01:04:25,560 --> 01:04:29,600
Speaker 2: have their own identity and then just let them be

1265
01:04:31,840 --> 01:04:34,480
Speaker 2: disturb other people. Hitting you with a cart in the

1266
01:04:34,520 --> 01:04:38,919
Speaker 2: grocery store. I wanted to backhand this white baby so bad, like, bitch,

1267
01:04:39,280 --> 01:04:41,439
Speaker 2: you better get this little motuck because I would slap

1268
01:04:41,560 --> 01:04:44,120
Speaker 2: you first and then him hit me in my leg

1269
01:04:44,200 --> 01:04:47,840
Speaker 2: one more time. Ship, miss Helen.

1270
01:04:48,760 --> 01:04:56,720
Speaker 1: This self confidence, y'all, that's next. Not giving a fuck

1271
01:04:57,080 --> 01:04:59,800
Speaker 1: can't boosh your self confidence. When you detach yourself for

1272
01:04:59,880 --> 01:05:03,600
Speaker 1: a from external validation, you become more self assured and

1273
01:05:03,760 --> 01:05:06,680
Speaker 1: secure in your own identity. You rely less on others'

1274
01:05:06,680 --> 01:05:09,280
Speaker 1: opinions to define your worth, which can lead to a

1275
01:05:09,360 --> 01:05:14,320
Speaker 1: greater sense of self acceptance and empower mint. Fucking them people,

1276
01:05:14,440 --> 01:05:17,440
Speaker 1: fuck that job, Fu the fucking bills, I mean a

1277
01:05:17,480 --> 01:05:20,120
Speaker 1: little bit like really them when it.

1278
01:05:20,160 --> 01:05:24,520
Speaker 2: Comes to self confidence confidence because especially young girls, because

1279
01:05:24,520 --> 01:05:29,080
Speaker 2: they're always comparing themselves to others, like is in constant comparison.

1280
01:05:29,640 --> 01:05:34,840
Speaker 2: In comparison is what is dream killer? Yeah, yeah, so

1281
01:05:35,080 --> 01:05:36,000
Speaker 2: now I'm hearing on.

1282
01:05:36,600 --> 01:05:39,240
Speaker 1: I listened to a lot of conservative radio right because

1283
01:05:39,240 --> 01:05:40,880
Speaker 1: I've been needing to know what these white people up to,

1284
01:05:41,560 --> 01:05:47,320
Speaker 1: and so they have class action lawsuits against these different

1285
01:05:47,360 --> 01:05:52,880
Speaker 1: social media platforms. Listen to these things, right, having self

1286
01:05:52,920 --> 01:05:56,280
Speaker 1: identity issues, insecurities, depression.

1287
01:05:56,080 --> 01:05:56,800
Speaker 2: All of these things.

1288
01:05:57,040 --> 01:06:02,880
Speaker 1: These platforms know that their product causes these things, especially

1289
01:06:03,000 --> 01:06:04,720
Speaker 1: impressionable young people.

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01:06:05,960 --> 01:06:10,320
Speaker 2: So now you can see, well it's a real thing.

1291
01:06:10,960 --> 01:06:14,400
Speaker 1: So you know, do things get your hair done for

1292
01:06:14,520 --> 01:06:16,920
Speaker 1: black women, like get your hair done, bitch. That should

1293
01:06:17,000 --> 01:06:19,280
Speaker 1: make you feel good, right then, automatic way.

1294
01:06:19,120 --> 01:06:21,320
Speaker 2: As soon as I know. That's one of the things

1295
01:06:21,360 --> 01:06:23,320
Speaker 2: I love about doing hair is when the women leaves

1296
01:06:23,320 --> 01:06:26,360
Speaker 2: feeling beautiful. You can see the difference when they come.

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01:06:26,320 --> 01:06:28,640
Speaker 1: In and when they leave exactly no matter what you're

1298
01:06:28,640 --> 01:06:31,000
Speaker 1: going through, I keep telling my mom, go get your

1299
01:06:31,040 --> 01:06:33,760
Speaker 1: hair done. You're run here sad and shit like that

1300
01:06:34,040 --> 01:06:36,600
Speaker 1: could fix a lot of shit in two hours.

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01:06:36,920 --> 01:06:40,200
Speaker 2: Don't get your damn hair done. Feel good. Focusing on

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01:06:40,320 --> 01:06:40,880
Speaker 2: what matters.

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01:06:41,000 --> 01:06:42,840
Speaker 1: That's the next one, right, So by not giving a

1304
01:06:42,880 --> 01:06:46,000
Speaker 1: fuck about trivial matters, since that's me, I dwell on

1305
01:06:46,520 --> 01:06:50,520
Speaker 1: little shit or other people's opinions. You can direct your

1306
01:06:50,680 --> 01:06:53,840
Speaker 1: energy toward what truly matters to you. You can concentrate

1307
01:06:53,880 --> 01:06:57,240
Speaker 1: on your goals, your passions, personal growth instead of being

1308
01:06:57,640 --> 01:07:02,280
Speaker 1: preoccupied with pleasing others or can to societal expectations.

1309
01:07:02,480 --> 01:07:07,000
Speaker 2: Cuts some motherfuckers out. This girl sent me some slick

1310
01:07:07,080 --> 01:07:10,720
Speaker 2: shit right about some nigga that I don't even fuck with, right,

1311
01:07:11,520 --> 01:07:15,320
Speaker 2: and oh me would a cuss to the fuck out right,

1312
01:07:15,760 --> 01:07:20,680
Speaker 2: but knew me just blocked her instantly, gonna argue with you.

1313
01:07:21,040 --> 01:07:22,560
Speaker 2: And it was the same day that I, you know,

1314
01:07:22,840 --> 01:07:26,080
Speaker 2: my friend told me all the news about and it

1315
01:07:26,240 --> 01:07:29,400
Speaker 2: just made me realize, like so much what matter? And

1316
01:07:29,560 --> 01:07:31,800
Speaker 2: like this girl and arguing with her, just what do

1317
01:07:31,960 --> 01:07:33,600
Speaker 2: that do for me? I don't even you know, deal

1318
01:07:33,680 --> 01:07:36,440
Speaker 2: with this nigga? Is I just give you. Was a

1319
01:07:36,480 --> 01:07:38,440
Speaker 2: little busy, because.

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Speaker 1: Any other nine you'd.

1321
01:07:42,400 --> 01:07:46,640
Speaker 2: Be arguing going back and forth. I was busy, but

1322
01:07:47,400 --> 01:07:51,280
Speaker 2: I just wasn't very I just it wasn't like like really, honestly,

1323
01:07:51,400 --> 01:07:54,960
Speaker 2: haven't someone that I love going through this cancer the

1324
01:07:55,080 --> 01:07:58,160
Speaker 2: way It just really really put things in perspective for

1325
01:07:58,320 --> 01:08:01,280
Speaker 2: me in a new way, because some shit just ain't

1326
01:08:01,440 --> 01:08:04,880
Speaker 2: don't matter, like that shit really don't matter arguing with

1327
01:08:04,960 --> 01:08:07,800
Speaker 2: this girl about I don't even fuck with the niggas

1328
01:08:07,800 --> 01:08:13,640
Speaker 2: she mad about, so it's like, get bbbage bilo bitch.

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Speaker 1: Emotional freedom, not being overly concerned about what other's opinions

1330
01:08:19,800 --> 01:08:22,280
Speaker 1: of you are can liberate you from the fear of

1331
01:08:22,360 --> 01:08:24,960
Speaker 1: judgment and rejection. It allows you to let go of

1332
01:08:25,160 --> 01:08:29,000
Speaker 1: unnecessary stress, anxiety, and self doubt, leading to a greater

1333
01:08:29,160 --> 01:08:33,240
Speaker 1: sense of emotional well being and freedom. Listen, I don't

1334
01:08:33,280 --> 01:08:36,200
Speaker 1: give a fuck for real, I don't give a fuck

1335
01:08:36,800 --> 01:08:38,400
Speaker 1: like for especially if.

1336
01:08:38,360 --> 01:08:42,040
Speaker 2: You are not somebody that I fucking know like and love.

1337
01:08:42,320 --> 01:08:45,240
Speaker 2: So all right, emotional freedom, I'm trying to understand what

1338
01:08:45,360 --> 01:08:45,760
Speaker 2: that means.

1339
01:08:45,840 --> 01:08:51,400
Speaker 1: Because not being overly concerned about other's opinions of you?

1340
01:08:51,840 --> 01:08:57,519
Speaker 2: Oh okay, that's fine. So what's the difference between that? Nothing? Nothing? Okay,

1341
01:09:00,360 --> 01:09:01,400
Speaker 2: moving on to the next one?

1342
01:09:01,479 --> 01:09:06,760
Speaker 1: Is the same setting boundaries. When you embrace the power

1343
01:09:06,760 --> 01:09:09,040
Speaker 1: of not giving a fuck, you become better at setting

1344
01:09:09,120 --> 01:09:12,719
Speaker 1: healthy boundaries and relationships. You prioritize your own needs and values,

1345
01:09:12,760 --> 01:09:16,040
Speaker 1: which can help you establish clear boundaries with others and

1346
01:09:16,120 --> 01:09:19,720
Speaker 1: protect your emotional well being. Yes, get get the get back,

1347
01:09:20,120 --> 01:09:21,600
Speaker 1: snop that shit as soon as you see it.

1348
01:09:21,960 --> 01:09:24,840
Speaker 2: That's something that I'm just now starting to get better

1349
01:09:24,920 --> 01:09:29,599
Speaker 2: at in boundaries. And it's not with people like because

1350
01:09:29,640 --> 01:09:32,080
Speaker 2: it's easy to create a boundary with people you barely know.

1351
01:09:32,640 --> 01:09:34,840
Speaker 2: But it's the boundaries with people that I'm close to

1352
01:09:35,160 --> 01:09:39,280
Speaker 2: that learning how to create now better and learning that

1353
01:09:39,479 --> 01:09:44,720
Speaker 2: know is a complete sentence, eperient period. So did you

1354
01:09:45,320 --> 01:09:48,320
Speaker 2: watch that new episode of Black Mirror? Like moving right

1355
01:09:48,360 --> 01:09:50,600
Speaker 2: along with right? No, that's it? You know?

1356
01:09:50,920 --> 01:09:57,680
Speaker 1: So absolutely, I like no complete statement. Yes, resilience not

1357
01:09:57,800 --> 01:09:59,880
Speaker 1: giving a fuck can make you more resilient in the

1358
01:10:00,040 --> 01:10:02,559
Speaker 1: face of adversity. It helps you develop a stronger sense

1359
01:10:02,560 --> 01:10:06,440
Speaker 1: of self, enabling you to bounce back from setbacks, criticisms,

1360
01:10:06,600 --> 01:10:11,680
Speaker 1: and failures. You become less affected by external negativity and

1361
01:10:11,800 --> 01:10:18,200
Speaker 1: more capable of navigating challenges with resilience and determined fence. Absolutely,

1362
01:10:19,320 --> 01:10:21,439
Speaker 1: talk about resilience when life be lifeing.

1363
01:10:21,640 --> 01:10:25,000
Speaker 2: Okay, right now we're talking to you about resiliences.

1364
01:10:27,479 --> 01:10:31,519
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, anyway, Yeah, this is great. Though I needed

1365
01:10:31,560 --> 01:10:33,840
Speaker 1: some of these things. I'm actually gonna go back over

1366
01:10:33,880 --> 01:10:39,200
Speaker 1: the right quick boundary setting. I don't have a problem

1367
01:10:39,240 --> 01:10:41,840
Speaker 1: set in boundaries, man, I don't.

1368
01:10:42,400 --> 01:10:45,600
Speaker 2: I will over extend myself and I look up and

1369
01:10:45,680 --> 01:10:48,040
Speaker 2: I'll be like, I got so much of my own

1370
01:10:48,080 --> 01:10:51,280
Speaker 2: shit to do, why am I here right now doing this?

1371
01:10:52,840 --> 01:10:54,120
Speaker 2: I just I'm doing too much.

1372
01:10:54,200 --> 01:10:56,200
Speaker 1: I used to be like that, right when I realized

1373
01:10:56,240 --> 01:10:57,960
Speaker 1: when people don't come through for you, how you come

1374
01:10:58,000 --> 01:11:01,599
Speaker 1: through for them that complete state and know it's easy,

1375
01:11:01,680 --> 01:11:03,800
Speaker 1: because what I don't want is to do something for

1376
01:11:03,880 --> 01:11:06,400
Speaker 1: you and then be complaining about it after I altady

1377
01:11:06,439 --> 01:11:07,519
Speaker 1: did it or while I'm doing it.

1378
01:11:07,800 --> 01:11:08,439
Speaker 2: So just say no.

1379
01:11:08,680 --> 01:11:10,040
Speaker 1: If you feel like you're gonna be bothered, if you

1380
01:11:10,040 --> 01:11:13,000
Speaker 1: don't have the time, or you tired like you should,

1381
01:11:13,040 --> 01:11:13,600
Speaker 1: you could say no.

1382
01:11:14,080 --> 01:11:17,400
Speaker 2: That's the thing I'll be feeling like, because I feel

1383
01:11:17,479 --> 01:11:19,600
Speaker 2: like in the event that these people do need me,

1384
01:11:20,640 --> 01:11:23,640
Speaker 2: they will be there, right, I mean you, when I

1385
01:11:23,760 --> 01:11:25,760
Speaker 2: need them, they will be there. But it's just so

1386
01:11:25,920 --> 01:11:28,760
Speaker 2: many motherfuckers that need something at the same time that

1387
01:11:28,880 --> 01:11:30,560
Speaker 2: makes me feel exhausted.

1388
01:11:30,120 --> 01:11:33,040
Speaker 1: You know, Yes, And also I think that if you

1389
01:11:33,120 --> 01:11:36,240
Speaker 1: are a person who always says yes, people take advantage.

1390
01:11:36,439 --> 01:11:39,880
Speaker 1: They gonna come to you every single fucking time every time,

1391
01:11:40,240 --> 01:11:41,959
Speaker 1: Like you don't got nobody else you can depend.

1392
01:11:41,800 --> 01:11:44,679
Speaker 2: On now they can't. They come to me about everything

1393
01:11:44,800 --> 01:11:47,800
Speaker 2: but money. I'm your last resort. When you need some

1394
01:11:47,960 --> 01:11:50,320
Speaker 2: cash for it, don't come to me for that. You

1395
01:11:50,439 --> 01:11:53,160
Speaker 2: call your mama. Did you talk to your father? Did

1396
01:11:53,200 --> 01:11:55,160
Speaker 2: you Did you talk to the nigga who dick you? Second?

1397
01:11:56,800 --> 01:11:59,479
Speaker 2: Did you go to the church? No? First and foremost

1398
01:11:59,520 --> 01:12:02,400
Speaker 2: the nigga, You fucking go to him first. Yeah? Absolutely,

1399
01:12:02,520 --> 01:12:06,240
Speaker 2: he owe you shit, bitch.

1400
01:12:06,240 --> 01:12:09,360
Speaker 1: You should have sent that nigga invoice already been That's

1401
01:12:09,439 --> 01:12:11,880
Speaker 1: really why you're mad, because you've given all that free pussy.

1402
01:12:11,920 --> 01:12:16,400
Speaker 1: You ain't got no boundaries on that pussy anyway, y'all.

1403
01:12:16,640 --> 01:12:20,160
Speaker 1: I love this this episode, Yeah, because.

1404
01:12:19,960 --> 01:12:22,679
Speaker 2: Life has been lifing, and life has been lifing for everyone,

1405
01:12:23,120 --> 01:12:26,559
Speaker 2: and I think it's important to be didn't They didn't

1406
01:12:26,560 --> 01:12:29,679
Speaker 2: say nothing about this in the list. But be kind

1407
01:12:29,800 --> 01:12:32,280
Speaker 2: to people. You don't know what people are going exactly,

1408
01:12:32,400 --> 01:12:34,320
Speaker 2: and you could be the one person that can help

1409
01:12:34,400 --> 01:12:37,040
Speaker 2: somebody get through something or make shit just that much

1410
01:12:37,160 --> 01:12:37,720
Speaker 2: worse for them.

1411
01:12:38,280 --> 01:12:40,960
Speaker 1: So just be kind to people, man, even when you

1412
01:12:41,080 --> 01:12:43,640
Speaker 1: calling customer service though, don't be fucking them people day

1413
01:12:43,800 --> 01:12:44,479
Speaker 1: while he at work.

1414
01:12:45,240 --> 01:12:48,519
Speaker 2: Just mean and nasty because your Verizon your phone about

1415
01:12:48,520 --> 01:12:50,280
Speaker 2: to get cut off. That's not that lady.

1416
01:12:50,120 --> 01:12:53,000
Speaker 1: Fault, and you want that thirty dollars fee reverse No bitch,

1417
01:12:53,240 --> 01:12:57,320
Speaker 1: buye bitch when if I were the own like a

1418
01:12:57,400 --> 01:12:59,719
Speaker 1: big company like that, like you're gonna get the service

1419
01:12:59,760 --> 01:13:02,439
Speaker 1: that you give. So if you call my people talking

1420
01:13:02,520 --> 01:13:05,320
Speaker 1: that ship, they have the right. There's no customer service

1421
01:13:05,360 --> 01:13:06,160
Speaker 1: over here, bitch.

1422
01:13:06,479 --> 01:13:08,600
Speaker 2: To hang up in your face. Or people who are

1423
01:13:08,720 --> 01:13:13,960
Speaker 2: mean to people who work in the services. Yes, I

1424
01:13:14,080 --> 01:13:16,040
Speaker 2: do not like if you're one of the people who

1425
01:13:16,040 --> 01:13:19,000
Speaker 2: are nasty the servers and at a restaurant, I do

1426
01:13:19,160 --> 01:13:22,120
Speaker 2: not want to go out and eat with you, like girl,

1427
01:13:22,280 --> 01:13:24,040
Speaker 2: like what is your problem? I'm not even talking to

1428
01:13:24,120 --> 01:13:26,439
Speaker 2: this lady all condescending and shit, I'm leaving.

1429
01:13:26,880 --> 01:13:29,639
Speaker 1: Yeah, I had this girl. I went out one time

1430
01:13:29,680 --> 01:13:32,040
Speaker 1: with my homegrown and her friend and we were at

1431
01:13:32,160 --> 01:13:34,800
Speaker 1: cheesecake factory I think, and they put like little strimp

1432
01:13:34,880 --> 01:13:37,000
Speaker 1: on her past and said like the jumble trip. She

1433
01:13:37,200 --> 01:13:39,200
Speaker 1: was like, I can't eat these these these little strength

1434
01:13:39,240 --> 01:13:44,880
Speaker 1: they scare me. Just they just disgust and they scare me.

1435
01:13:44,960 --> 01:13:46,760
Speaker 2: I'm like, yo, I'm about to can I can I

1436
01:13:46,800 --> 01:13:49,439
Speaker 2: please get my fucking food to go? Please? Because who

1437
01:13:49,600 --> 01:13:52,479
Speaker 2: was to put up with that? But I used to

1438
01:13:52,560 --> 01:13:54,080
Speaker 2: day the guy who would not let me send my

1439
01:13:54,160 --> 01:13:56,320
Speaker 2: food back and that used to piss me off, Like

1440
01:13:56,720 --> 01:13:59,960
Speaker 2: you're not even paying for it, so don't send it back.

1441
01:14:00,160 --> 01:14:03,679
Speaker 2: You just order something else. Just eat it, no, nigga,

1442
01:14:03,680 --> 01:14:05,679
Speaker 2: he'ld be like, just eat what you ordered. It's okay,

1443
01:14:05,760 --> 01:14:08,320
Speaker 2: you don't have to send it back. Its rude. I

1444
01:14:08,400 --> 01:14:11,000
Speaker 2: don't like it. I just can I order something and

1445
01:14:11,120 --> 01:14:14,040
Speaker 2: I pay for it myself, nigga, Like, just eat what

1446
01:14:14,160 --> 01:14:15,559
Speaker 2: you ordered. No, nigga.

1447
01:14:15,600 --> 01:14:18,000
Speaker 1: If it doesn't taste good, I'm not eating. And he was,

1448
01:14:19,000 --> 01:14:20,840
Speaker 1: look at my last relationship I saw. I used to

1449
01:14:20,880 --> 01:14:23,000
Speaker 1: be forcing myself to eat some nasty shit. This nigga

1450
01:14:23,000 --> 01:14:24,720
Speaker 1: beat done cook and he forcing the kids to eat.

1451
01:14:25,200 --> 01:14:27,320
Speaker 1: So I'm like at the table like but the cry

1452
01:14:27,520 --> 01:14:32,680
Speaker 1: just like them, like, man, I don't like this. One

1453
01:14:32,760 --> 01:14:35,880
Speaker 1: day he put like red onions and spaghetti like that

1454
01:14:35,960 --> 01:14:38,280
Speaker 1: ship was overbearing, Like why would you put.

1455
01:14:38,240 --> 01:14:43,080
Speaker 2: Red onions and spaghetti? Are you done before? No? That's

1456
01:14:43,160 --> 01:14:45,160
Speaker 2: like that video of that girl going to is the

1457
01:14:45,240 --> 01:14:46,960
Speaker 2: Man and a woman. She's like, I cook for you

1458
01:14:47,400 --> 01:14:50,040
Speaker 2: and she's making spaghetti, but she was taco season.

1459
01:14:49,800 --> 01:14:53,200
Speaker 1: On the meat and he was like, it's taco right,

1460
01:14:54,720 --> 01:15:00,760
Speaker 1: it's taco spaghetti. Nigga, dumb ass I'll flip this table

1461
01:15:00,800 --> 01:15:03,519
Speaker 1: over and I'm not eating this ship, and I'm slammed

1462
01:15:03,520 --> 01:15:04,400
Speaker 1: dogging everybody. Plate.

1463
01:15:04,439 --> 01:15:06,400
Speaker 2: Give me that plate. Ain't got to poblem like, Nah,

1464
01:15:06,439 --> 01:15:08,559
Speaker 2: we ain eating that? Give me that plate? Did I share?

1465
01:15:08,600 --> 01:15:12,599
Speaker 1: Write in the trash in this new face? All right,

1466
01:15:12,720 --> 01:15:17,000
Speaker 1: y'all listen, this is a great episode, tam uh. If

1467
01:15:17,040 --> 01:15:20,320
Speaker 1: you enjoyed it, tune in every Thursday on iHeartRadio, Apple,

1468
01:15:20,320 --> 01:15:21,120
Speaker 1: wherever the fuck you.

1469
01:15:21,160 --> 01:15:22,280
Speaker 2: Get your podcasts up.

1470
01:15:22,640 --> 01:15:25,280
Speaker 1: This is your co host aj Holiday two point zero

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01:15:25,320 --> 01:15:26,160
Speaker 1: on the instagrams.

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Speaker 2: Y'all, holler at me now if you won't get home, y'all,

1473
01:15:28,520 --> 01:15:30,880
Speaker 2: It's official, tam bam. I love y'all. Thank y'all for

1474
01:15:30,960 --> 01:15:34,639
Speaker 2: tuning in. Remember to speak now and never hold your piece.