Speaker 1: I don't want to die in the house and like
Speaker 1: then I'm eaten by the animals though, so then that
Speaker 1: creates a whole other situation. Just come and check on me. Okay,
Speaker 1: Oh my god? What Calm Down?
Speaker 2: With Aaron and Carissa is a production of iHeartRadio.
Speaker 1: Oh a little pregame action for those of you new.
Speaker 1: Welcome you guys ask questions and we answer them to
Speaker 1: the best of our ability. We also love an anonymous question.
Speaker 1: We have three anonymous in this. Afore anonymous in this.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, this is exciting. First up, C M. Craiger.
Speaker 1: I'm sixty and people ask why I never remarried all
Speaker 1: the time. Is it wrong that I like being alone? No,
Speaker 1: it is not wrong at all. Girlfriend. It's somebody who
Speaker 1: get asked, gets asked all the time when I'm going
Speaker 1: to marry Steve. I have been very vocal, especially on
Speaker 1: this podcast, about my my desire not to marry again,
Speaker 1: not because I don't love Steve, not because I so
Speaker 1: what was that? It's all the episodes that's somewhere there's
Speaker 1: a mention about not wanting to get married again. I
Speaker 1: would say this, it's whatever makes you happy. So if
Speaker 1: you are sixty and alone.
Speaker 2: If I hadn't met Steve, it was actually gonna be
Speaker 2: a problem because I like being I would.
Speaker 1: Be with you, I would I like being alone so much,
Speaker 1: like I can get so much done. I have a
Speaker 1: full conversation with myself. I'm never going to be in
Speaker 1: a bad mood because I'm always gonna, like you know,
Speaker 1: I'm not arguing with anyone, not argue with myself. I
Speaker 1: could be totally fine alone. So good for you for
Speaker 1: knowing what works for your life. Now, I will say this,
Speaker 1: if you're trying to convince yourself that you like being
Speaker 1: alone just because you don't want to put yourself out
Speaker 1: there and go meet someone, well that's different. But if
Speaker 1: you are saying that you are very honestly okay with
Speaker 1: being alone, then more power to you. Get some animals.
Speaker 1: Those are good companions. I don't think that you should
Speaker 1: be alone in a house because I always think about this,
Speaker 1: like if I fell and I was alone in the house,
Speaker 1: like I'd want a dog to like bark or something,
Speaker 1: so somebody new something that's wrong. I don't want to
Speaker 1: die in the law. I don't want to die in
Speaker 1: the house. And like then I'm eaten by the animals though,
Speaker 1: so then that creates a whole other situation.
Speaker 2: Just come and check on me. Okay, Oh my god?
Speaker 2: What this is what happens when you watch too much
Speaker 2: frigging date mind.
Speaker 1: You stop it? No, it's not you have mac. Mac
Speaker 1: is going to check on you when you don't have kids.
Speaker 1: I'm going to dialogue. Doesn't know my name. Stop it.
Speaker 1: He's not going to check on me. He thinks his
Speaker 1: nanny's his mom. You're crazy?
Speaker 2: Okay, Anonymous, a coworker you're friends with loses their shiit
Speaker 2: on you. Now they are giving you the cold shoulder?
Speaker 1: What should I do? Talk to God? What happened? It
Speaker 1: seems like someone I know, uh, give them the cold shoulder?
Speaker 1: What should you do? Well? I need more information. The
Speaker 1: coworker you're friends with, now they are I have lunch
Speaker 1: this week by the way, Oh good luck, And now
Speaker 1: they're giving you the cold shoulder. Well, let's let's dissect
Speaker 1: this for a second. Do you know why they lost
Speaker 1: your shit on you? Or was it just like they
Speaker 1: were having a bad day and like took all their
Speaker 1: shit out on you, Like is their merit to the tantrum?
Speaker 1: Because if there's merit to the tantrum. Then you guys
Speaker 1: need to have like a constructive conversation. If this is
Speaker 1: someone that you actually like, it says you're friends with them. Again,
Speaker 1: my new motto, I go right to it. I go
Speaker 1: right to the source, because you know what I don't
Speaker 1: want to do. I don't want to be talking shit.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna talk shit behind your back. If I don't
Speaker 1: like you, I'll fucking talk shit all day, all night
Speaker 1: afternoon if I don't like you. But if I like you,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna talk shit behind your back because that
Speaker 1: means that I'm not a good friend. A good friend
Speaker 1: is going to go directly to your face and say something.
Speaker 1: So if this person went directly to your the face
Speaker 1: and now they're giving you a cold shoulder, you need
Speaker 1: to do the same thing they did. Go right to
Speaker 1: them and be like, what's the problem? Be adu on them,
Speaker 1: work that shit behind it, be adults. You said, lose
Speaker 1: your shit on them. Just work it out. You get
Speaker 1: out into that yard and just fucking punch each other
Speaker 1: and work it out. No, I'm kidding, don't. Violence is
Speaker 1: never the answer. But you know what I mean, is
Speaker 1: this Pico Boulevard next?
Speaker 2: I can't figure out who you're talking about. Yeah, I
Speaker 2: really can't.
Speaker 1: Okay, Oh, Ging Vericano? What Gina gi Verican?
Speaker 2: Oh Gina, Hey girl, how do you shut out the
Speaker 2: noise people say, the RUDEUS crap?
Speaker 1: How do you rise above?
Speaker 2: Girl?
Speaker 1: Gina? Step into our office. I stopped looking at comments
Speaker 1: a long time ago. I mean, there's a few here
Speaker 1: and there. I'll see. I'm like, at this point in
Speaker 1: my life, I know what all the comments are. I
Speaker 1: write it down.
Speaker 2: They are.
Speaker 1: My nose is too big, I have a terrible voice.
Speaker 1: Make up another, get get another, divorce? Uh yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm boring, is a loser, I'm a puck bunny all
Speaker 1: of the things. So to answer, I don't know, give
Speaker 1: a ship the only opinions that mat to me or
Speaker 1: of those of my friends, family and employers. Outside of that,
Speaker 1: I'm good. And I also feel sad for you that
Speaker 1: if this is where you're at, Like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: I'm bored. I always look at their avatar on Twitter
Speaker 1: or Man, you're a whole and you're like, oh really,
Speaker 1: what would God think about that? Of you? Four girls? Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're a slut. Okay, would you want someone to talk
Speaker 1: to your daughters? Like that, got it, but yeah, go
Speaker 1: get them Jim from Iowa. We're so on FaZe you
Speaker 1: can tell exactly. Oh really, oh really, no, we actually are,
Speaker 1: though I would say there's zero conversations that we have
Speaker 1: about Rando's and their comments towards us unless it has
Speaker 1: to do with your outfit. You've got real rattled about
Speaker 1: that soccer mom outfit that was so mean. Okay, well
Speaker 1: you got rattled about that, so I don't know it
Speaker 1: because you had your own stuff going on, and you
Speaker 1: were worried because you had spoke a few weeks before
Speaker 1: that about wanting to change up your outfits, and maybe
Speaker 1: it just like struck a chord with what was really
Speaker 1: but had nothing to do with the guy. You are
Speaker 1: not really changed, but it's like you, You and I
Speaker 1: are not bothered by those kinds of comments. The comments
Speaker 1: I'm bothered by are the people that I thought I
Speaker 1: have respect from and then go out and publicly say something,
Speaker 1: which in that case, no problem. You gone, hey, here's something.
Speaker 1: Oh our our seminar we went to, we had a
Speaker 1: great conversation. I forgot who was there, but it was
Speaker 1: maybe it was Jewels Charles and Michael Vikvic and.
Speaker 2: I was saying, one of my big favorite things, like
Speaker 2: to say lately is like loser Michael Vicko's clown. These
Speaker 2: last two events the Stanley Copper Union I went to,
Speaker 2: or this wedding I went to.
Speaker 1: Clown clown is such losers, like a little bit like
Speaker 1: like more like you just like mean. But clown is
Speaker 1: so funny. By the way, I will be using that
Speaker 1: so funny regularly throughout the year because it's just like clown.
Speaker 1: It's just perfectly clown. God, it's good. Sometimes it's just
Speaker 1: that simple. Bus is like when someone's like getting all crazy,
Speaker 1: like you know you do this. I love you, Okay,
Speaker 1: you're saying, okay, I would be you. And I've only
Speaker 1: gotten too some knockout dragon fights a couple of times,
Speaker 1: but I am terrified of a fight with you because
Speaker 1: you are so calm, cool and collected. When we've had
Speaker 1: these fights and I'm like crying and you're like, shut up,
Speaker 1: you okay, it's like the one that like and it's
Speaker 1: just real like you good, oh so gnarly. Don't want
Speaker 1: to get in a fight with her anonymous clown clown
Speaker 1: casually seeing someone who is just out of a marriage,
Speaker 1: as I am He mentioned he can only take it
Speaker 1: one day at a time and does know when he
Speaker 1: will be ready to get serious. He plans dates, makes
Speaker 1: an effort. I feel like he's been generous with his time,
Speaker 1: and I'm going I'm good with slow. But is this
Speaker 1: a dead end? Oh? This is such a great comfort.
Speaker 1: I wish we okay, we're going to make full episodes
Speaker 1: out of some of these pregames because I really want
Speaker 1: to be mindful in my responses, because this is so
Speaker 1: awesome and honest of you, whoever you are, anonymous, take
Speaker 1: it slow. He's actually doing you a favor because I
Speaker 1: have a tendency just in life. I'll speak for my
Speaker 1: own experience. I have a tendency in life to be like, well,
Speaker 1: what is this? Because if I don't know what is
Speaker 1: to waste my time, like I could be moving on
Speaker 1: to something else, and I have found a lot of
Speaker 1: comfort in the unknown. So if this is just to
Speaker 1: get you to that next thing, fine, don't try to
Speaker 1: define it. And also give him the benefit of the doubt,
Speaker 1: like he's going to move at his own pace. And
Speaker 1: nowhere in the history of men have they ever liked
Speaker 1: except what Aaron gave shared an ultimatum. Have they liked
Speaker 1: to be pushed and prod it to like hurry up
Speaker 1: with defining? No man likes to hear, So what are
Speaker 1: we so just? I would say in your own mind,
Speaker 1: like if it goes whatever that time limit is, if
Speaker 1: it's like a year, or if it's two years, and
Speaker 1: you're like, hey, I want to have kids or I
Speaker 1: want to whatever, like there's going to be a time
Speaker 1: and a place to have that conversation. I would just say,
Speaker 1: give him a minute and give yourself a minute too,
Speaker 1: to have this be like the holding pattern, right, Maybe
Speaker 1: it'll be what you need, maybe it'll be what you don't.
Speaker 1: I love that. I love that.
Speaker 2: We had a lot of conversations this weekend about ghosting
Speaker 2: and somebody that a lot of us are friends with
Speaker 2: that ghosts a lot anonymous. Do I reach out after
Speaker 2: being ghosted to call it out or just let it go.
Speaker 2: I'm the person that feels like shocker in the ballroom
Speaker 2: always has to have the final words. So I'll make
Speaker 2: a comment about you ghosting. But then after that, just
Speaker 2: leave it alone because like you just taken from me,
Speaker 2: look like an asshole if you keep no but.
Speaker 1: And then one more thing, but you know what.
Speaker 2: I know you're reading this, like just leave it alone
Speaker 2: because you're gonna look like a d bag.
Speaker 1: Just don't do it. Let me tell you something, folks,
Speaker 1: I have done this one time in my life and
Speaker 1: it is the greatest power that I and it is
Speaker 1: something I am so proud of. You know exactly what
Speaker 1: this was, You have a dad. I never responded back
Speaker 1: to somebody hundreds of emails, hundreds of text mess I mean,
Speaker 1: I blocked them eventually, but like it went to the
Speaker 1: junk email and I never said it. I mean, and
Speaker 1: they were vile with the things that they were saying
Speaker 1: and accusatory and all this stuff. Do you know how
Speaker 1: much power I still to this day have in saying nothing?
Speaker 1: Because who's crazy? The person that argues with crazy or crazy?
Speaker 1: Say nothing. When the person ghosts you, it will kill
Speaker 1: them to know that you've never Now they're going to
Speaker 1: be now it's like reverse psychology, like wait a minute,
Speaker 1: I ghosted you and now you're not saying anything? Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: say nothing. It is the greatest thing in the world.
Speaker 1: Because this, they expect you to lose your shit. They
Speaker 1: expect you to write back and be like, how dare
Speaker 1: you do that? And then this is you never want
Speaker 1: ladies or men. If your side of the phone is
Speaker 1: all blue, we got a fucking problem. You're a nutschop. Okay,
Speaker 1: if you ain't seen any gray and it's all blue,
Speaker 1: uh uh, you gotta pump the fucking brakes, and you
Speaker 1: gotta have a friend put your phone in the freezer
Speaker 1: because you are going to be blue in the face
Speaker 1: and you will not get a response and you look
Speaker 1: like a moron. So you're so right? Is more mo?
Speaker 1: I love it. It's a great point. It's a real good
Speaker 1: tim timmy tim I twelve by.
Speaker 2: Gotta make game day fun at home for significant other,
Speaker 2: want it to be fun for us?
Speaker 1: Tuo, I don't know. I'm never home for them, I
Speaker 1: would say, tim I twelve eighty eight. I would say,
Speaker 1: whatever your significant other likes. If they aren't necessarily into
Speaker 1: football or into baseball or basketball, whatever you're watching, but
Speaker 1: they are very competitive, then do like a gambling kind
Speaker 1: of vibe and be like, all right, we bet five
Speaker 1: dollars on whoever scores more points in the first quarter
Speaker 1: or at halftime or whatever. Like kind of make it
Speaker 1: interactive and competitive. If that person, your significant other, is competitive,
Speaker 1: make a game out of it. You could also do
Speaker 1: themes they like Margarita's We're gonna have a Margarita Monday
Speaker 1: night football thing, like make it something where cater to
Speaker 1: whatever they like. Because if they're conceding and watching this
Speaker 1: game because you like that, then do something they like.
Speaker 1: I like that.
Speaker 2: You could also do like kind of like themes with Drass, say,
Speaker 2: like you know, tell your significant other obviously the.
Speaker 1: Colors where my Arion Andrews has really cute stuff. You
Speaker 1: could buy them a gift and then they wearing a
Speaker 1: new outfit. And anytime you get a new outfit, you're
Speaker 1: more apt to want to do things mag Arrol or
Speaker 1: another thing.
Speaker 2: And I know Chris and I do a lot of this,
Speaker 2: Like right before Super Bowl we'll talk to like either
Speaker 2: you know, magazines or newspaper articles about easy things for
Speaker 2: people who may not know a lot about sports, things
Speaker 2: they could look out for. Maybe make a cheat sheet,
Speaker 2: maybe some storylines about some players like this, you know,
Speaker 2: this player has a kid that like I always think
Speaker 2: about with Greg and what his.
Speaker 1: Family went to, you you know, and his charity and.
Speaker 2: His foundation, and Christian McCaffrey's dad played with John Lynch,
Speaker 2: who's also the general man, you know, things like that.
Speaker 1: So a fun storyline like that, I love all of that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: make it interesting. Or if they're like the entertainment type
Speaker 1: and they like that, you could find the significant others
Speaker 1: that the players are married to and be like into it.
Speaker 1: Obviously the most notable being Taylor Swift, but then there's
Speaker 1: some other ones. Okay, anonymous, go.
Speaker 2: For it, soon to be ex husband dating your high
Speaker 2: school friend, small town with three kids, thoughts seemed to be.
Speaker 1: Okay, close. I would say, good riddance. It's your ex
Speaker 1: husband for a reason, so don't be bitter, be better,
Speaker 1: and just wish them the best of luck, because if
Speaker 1: it comes back that like you're being sass about it,
Speaker 1: then it seems like you care. He's ex husband for
Speaker 1: a reason, and more power to them. Let him be
Speaker 1: happy and let him just go live his life. And
Speaker 1: you you know, I get it to a small town
Speaker 1: and you have three kids, But I think there's so
Speaker 1: much to be said, and I don't do it all
Speaker 1: the time, but I'm really trying to be. I don't
Speaker 1: do it because sometimes people don't deserve to have my kindness.
Speaker 1: But I would say just I don't know, be classy
Speaker 1: in this situation. If it's a small town and you've
Speaker 1: got and there's kids involved, like just go high when
Speaker 1: they go I see this With all due respect, don't
Speaker 1: you think that would probably happen a lot in a
Speaker 1: small town. Yeah, Like everybody kind of knows everybody's business.
Speaker 1: Oh everyone knows everyone's business. Yeah for sure. Yeah, which
Speaker 1: is why, Which is why you want it. Like, the
Speaker 1: best revenge for me is always success, And success doesn't
Speaker 1: have to be a monetary thing or a job or
Speaker 1: success is happiness. Like it kills people to see other
Speaker 1: people happy that they've once been with and it's like, oh,
Speaker 1: they're just faking that. But if you're genuinely happy and
Speaker 1: you've moved on with your life, then it's okay to
Speaker 1: like wish that person the beast and you could still
Speaker 1: hate him, but good luck. Just take the high road.
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