Speaker 1: Guys, we're doing I'm monkey tasking right now. We are
Speaker 1: live to you. We are also recording to this see
Speaker 1: this little microphone. And today on Katie's Crib, we have
Speaker 1: probably my most special guests I've ever had, the the
Speaker 1: most most specialists of all guests I have ever had
Speaker 1: onys GRIBI true, but we have the one, the only,
Speaker 1: my husband, mister Adam Mark Shape. I go hello, hello
Speaker 1: in the podcast world, Hello out there in the in
Speaker 1: the real live world. Yes, we're just warming up. It's
Speaker 1: an honor to be on Katie's crib. I thought you'd
Speaker 1: never asked. I've been outside that door for like two years.
Speaker 1: We're coming to you like you want. Do you want
Speaker 1: my side of the story? Okay, cool, No, just nobody
Speaker 1: cares about your side. We care. I got a lot
Speaker 1: of guests here though, you get a lot of guests.
Speaker 1: See had a lot of guests. Water When Roger is
Speaker 1: really going all out, he gives Roger a bone, puts
Speaker 1: him in a room so that he doesn't really the podcast.
Speaker 1: Take care. Yeah, make sure this is live live, This
Speaker 1: is live, and this is where Adam and I hang out,
Speaker 1: usually later in the day with wine with our son
Speaker 1: Albi who is playing in this room? Yeah, playing the
Speaker 1: tent and so the tent, the couch. These are lovely.
Speaker 1: We had some friends over for Super Bowl that had
Speaker 1: some older kids here and they made a lovely sign
Speaker 1: called camp Friendy. That's for Friendly Moon. Yes, that's our
Speaker 1: annual weekend with our friends. It's called Friendly Moon. It's
Speaker 1: where friends become better friends. It's the best. And there's
Speaker 1: the friend news about this was we got runner up
Speaker 1: for an award this year. Friends crushing it Like, yeah,
Speaker 1: friends crushing in life. There were three people that won
Speaker 1: the awards. The technically were fourth place. But the older
Speaker 1: kids came and hang out in this room on Sunday
Speaker 1: and they asked their nursery school teacher, like, what events
Speaker 1: should we have for the little babies that were all
Speaker 1: hanging out. And what was great was all of the
Speaker 1: kids got pink I That would turned out to be
Speaker 1: the event and double Air pink Ey. We spread the
Speaker 1: pink guy and we spread the double air infections. So
Speaker 1: for you moms out there listening and watching, we've had
Speaker 1: our first about now with pink eye. Pink eye, which
Speaker 1: was very disgusting, and then a bunch of your infections
Speaker 1: in the group a bunch of your infections. Last night,
Speaker 1: Albi was up with one hundred and two fever and change.
Speaker 1: So I'm on very little sleep. But this is just
Speaker 1: the new normal. See, everyone else in the world thinks
Speaker 1: the super Bowl was just about Adam Levine taking his
Speaker 1: shirt off. No, it was. It was about pink eye
Speaker 1: in this house, truly true. That was literally I think
Speaker 1: seven kids got pink eye right here in this room. Yeah,
Speaker 1: are you scared. No, we've disinfected the whole place. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we have Welcome to the pink Eye Room. That should
Speaker 1: be the name of this podcast. Adam, Have you ever
Speaker 1: had pink guy the pink Eye Room? No, Remember we've
Speaker 1: been a oother thirteen years. You've never had been guy.
Speaker 1: We thought I had a pink guy a couple of
Speaker 1: years ago, and then it turned out to be something else.
Speaker 1: What was it was like? Dry? Dry? My eye was dry, Adam,
Speaker 1: I get a lot of stuff. You should really go
Speaker 1: over one of those commercials, the dry eye that'd be made.
Speaker 1: I would like I would love to go out, yeah,
Speaker 1: because maybe we would just get a lifetime just to
Speaker 1: have the opportunity to be on a commercial. Like so,
Speaker 1: I think people have sent in some questions and we're
Speaker 1: going to try to the best of our ability to
Speaker 1: answer them, even though we have only been parents for
Speaker 1: a year and a half. So we don't like we're
Speaker 1: going to be answering them from our from our ve,
Speaker 1: our experience. Yes, we are in no way shape form
Speaker 1: claiming we are the best or know what the hell
Speaker 1: we are talking about. Knowing the Katie's Crib fans, I
Speaker 1: feel like there's gonna be some questions that are even
Speaker 1: off topic. Great, you know what I mean, we can
Speaker 1: like just that's Katie's Crib is just it's just real talk.
Speaker 1: So Adam, if you're ready to just get real, I
Speaker 1: want to go into our Instagram check out that we're
Speaker 1: gonna check out the questions. Okay, thank you guys so
Speaker 1: much tuning in live. Thank you for especially West Coasters
Speaker 1: getting up at the crack of nine. Yeah and all,
Speaker 1: so thank you guys. Last week we were with the
Speaker 1: number one podcast. I don't know if you guys saw
Speaker 1: that number one Family Rights Kim Family and Kids, Family
Speaker 1: and Kids that includes Dad's too. You're included, Adam, Yes,
Speaker 1: all right. First question comes from Cam's More and it's
Speaker 1: totally unilated to Katie's grip topics. But can you sing
Speaker 1: shallow together? Tell me something? Are you do? You mean more? Wow?
Speaker 1: Adam's voice is real skilled that. Okay, this is something
Speaker 1: else you're fighting for. No can ever ask Adam to
Speaker 1: do that again, because he will. He sings the sallow
Speaker 1: all of the fucking time, and it is very annoying.
Speaker 1: I love you, I love your voice. Ready to move
Speaker 1: on to something else, But at least it's not Greatest
Speaker 1: Showman because we were in the big Greatest Showman's spiral.
Speaker 1: We were a Now we're in a in a star
Speaker 1: stars born phase. You know, go, I got one that
Speaker 1: ground gave that him a movie musical and watch out,
Speaker 1: watch out. Also you will see we have sixteen months
Speaker 1: on that wall. If you can pan, we have the
Speaker 1: lovely uh school posters of the first musicals. Adam Shapiro
Speaker 1: was in not that we're trying to force this down
Speaker 1: our son Albi's throat. I thought they were adorable to
Speaker 1: be framed. It was in those shows. It was a
Speaker 1: different era. He was at Oliver and the King and
Speaker 1: I and I think you maybe had one line in each. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: next question, how do we get better naps from uh
Speaker 1: from Monica Silowski. Yeah, so I think it all depends. Yes,
Speaker 1: thank you Martica for that question. I think it all
Speaker 1: very much depends on the age. But I when we
Speaker 1: had trouble with some nap stuff, to be honest, we
Speaker 1: did a podcast on this show with the woman who
Speaker 1: started a company called Healthy Little Slip and it is
Speaker 1: a website called Healthy Little Sleepers dot com. And to
Speaker 1: be honest, you can pay her not that much for
Speaker 1: a phone session like a consultation, a consultation and even
Speaker 1: and the phone call lasts for like an hour and
Speaker 1: a half or two hours, and you tell them every
Speaker 1: single thing because sleep with babies so much affects it,
Speaker 1: like their room, the room temperature, what they're wearing, the sound,
Speaker 1: what they've eaten that day, last time they've eaten, the
Speaker 1: last time, you know. So it's a very specific case
Speaker 1: for each baby and each family. And so what I
Speaker 1: would highly recommend and what helped us was actually doing
Speaker 1: consult with Healthy Little Sleepers and having like an hour
Speaker 1: and a half phone call where she would just suggest things.
Speaker 1: Well that being said, the things that she suggested specifically
Speaker 1: for us. One was we'd always heard never wake a
Speaker 1: sleeping baby, and that just was not how yeah for us,
Speaker 1: we just we we woke up Albi at the end
Speaker 1: of his nap time every time he took a name
Speaker 1: when he was when he was especially when he was
Speaker 1: an infant, we like kept those naps like exactly on time,
Speaker 1: so he never overslept one nap and then couldn't go
Speaker 1: down for the next one. Yeah, So the schedule was
Speaker 1: really big. But then he had like a major sleep
Speaker 1: regression when he was eight or nine months old, and
Speaker 1: I was losing my fucking mind because I had him
Speaker 1: slept in a month and I had to call her
Speaker 1: again and it's just nice to have her on speed.
Speaker 1: I needed to put him down fifteen minutes earlier. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that and literally that changed my life. And I had
Speaker 1: never tried it, and I didn't know, like he was
Speaker 1: going down in seven He was like, I think he's
Speaker 1: overtired and that's why he's screaming from seven pm to
Speaker 1: eight pm. And I was like, wait what She was like,
Speaker 1: try putting him down at six thirty. Literally the world shifted.
Speaker 1: So again, it's very personal for each case, and I
Speaker 1: think it's cool. I thought the most interesting thing about
Speaker 1: that was, like the schedule was so important for Albi.
Speaker 1: But it was so important that we adjust the schedule
Speaker 1: when it needed to be adjusted, right, because it changed. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because right now we're transitioning from two naps a day
Speaker 1: to one nap a day, which is getting rural. Interesting.
Speaker 1: Think it's not been interesting. I actually think it's been
Speaker 1: like really easy. Thank God for that kid. All right,
Speaker 1: why did you decide to name your kid Albi? I
Speaker 1: love this name I had. I have a great uncle
Speaker 1: named Albert, and my and my grandfather was named Albert,
Speaker 1: and we love that name. And I wanted to name
Speaker 1: him after those two great men, and uh, but like
Speaker 1: we didn't want to name him Albert specifically after them, because,
Speaker 1: like I guess in Judaism, you're not supposed to be
Speaker 1: like name you name people after people, but not like
Speaker 1: you name them their name, right. And then we were
Speaker 1: out to dinner and I said, like, I was trying
Speaker 1: to think of a name, and Katie didn't like any
Speaker 1: names I was coming up with, right, And so I
Speaker 1: was like, maybe I should start thinking a little bit
Speaker 1: more outside the box. I think of a name I
Speaker 1: like and then just change one letter. So I was like,
Speaker 1: you know, like instead of Kevin, it would be Kevin.
Speaker 1: But that's like a terrible that's a terrible example of this,
Speaker 1: right instead of Jason Rayson is a terrible name and
Speaker 1: not's not a good name. It sounds like something you
Speaker 1: don't want, like in an envelope being sent to your house,
Speaker 1: that's for sure. And so, uh, then I was like,
Speaker 1: I really like Alfie. Alf no Alvi, Alvi no alf Alfie. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we were like, we really like Alfie. What about Albi?
Speaker 1: And then I just said Albi and Katie was like,
Speaker 1: I think that's his name, and we loved it and
Speaker 1: we were like, it's Albie. And then the other couple
Speaker 1: we were eating with was just like, oh, you're deciding
Speaker 1: this right now, and it's like all over tacos and
Speaker 1: some are like, so the two Alberts he's named after, uh,
Speaker 1: go by al And so we loved the name. Al
Speaker 1: also is a nickname. We love the name. Call me
Speaker 1: al by Paul Simon on the Gracelands soundtrack. Albi was born,
Speaker 1: so you can call me al while he came out
Speaker 1: of my gina, Oh nice? What are we at? Nine
Speaker 1: minutes till we talked about it long as time Vagina,
Speaker 1: I was just wondering, like how long it was gonna
Speaker 1: take a beautiful word. You can say, Oh good, you're
Speaker 1: saying it. Yes, no, I'm gonna save John. And I
Speaker 1: was wondering when the floodgates, but no pun intended, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. So we like to call me Al.
Speaker 1: Part of it the last two ease of his name,
Speaker 1: because it's spelled a L B E E, So there's
Speaker 1: Al for Adam's grandpa, then there is E for my
Speaker 1: grandma Edna, and the last e for Adam's other Adams.
Speaker 1: So that sort of his name is covering a bunch
Speaker 1: of bobs. So Edward Albi is a playwright, and Adam
Speaker 1: and I are theater dorks. That's another thing, funny thing
Speaker 1: about the call me Al. In the hospital. We had
Speaker 1: moved into our delivery room at Cedars Sinai here in
Speaker 1: l A. And I'd like as soon as we got
Speaker 1: in there, I like set up sonos and like a
Speaker 1: bunch of like canfe candles and we like really vibed
Speaker 1: the place out. And then when the doctors came running
Speaker 1: in because it was go time and the baby was
Speaker 1: like the cutting down the canal of your vagina specifically,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, it's time the baby's coming out,
Speaker 1: So I like without my phone and I go to
Speaker 1: my so nos and hit call me out. It's like
Speaker 1: bah bum bump bump, bump bump, and like the doctors
Speaker 1: and the nurses are like, what is happening? Because I
Speaker 1: didn't know we were gonna be calling them out. They
Speaker 1: just thought we were choosing like the weirdest song ever,
Speaker 1: the most beautiful song. But yes, so he was born
Speaker 1: to call me out, which is pretty cool, so cool,
Speaker 1: and such a good song. All right, thanks for that
Speaker 1: question and really nice to go down memory lane this
Speaker 1: Monday morning. What do you and Adam factor into the
Speaker 1: equation when considering having a second child? In fact, why
Speaker 1: don't we just right now because we've been leading it?
Speaker 1: What do you think Adam, because you make a lot
Speaker 1: of jokes about being paid to not have a second child,
Speaker 1: are you being serious? Like you've made jokes where you're
Speaker 1: like I would love to just not like, are you
Speaker 1: being serious? I'm getting paid to do that? All right now?
Speaker 1: I have made a lot of jokes about not having
Speaker 1: like no, like I'm good, that's right, that kind of joke,
Speaker 1: or like I'm down with just the one that kind
Speaker 1: of thing, like and they're like more more than jokes.
Speaker 1: They're just like little comments and dinner parties. Yeah, like
Speaker 1: just the one. So is that how you really feel? Yeah,
Speaker 1: a little bit. But then I've also had people be like, yo,
Speaker 1: at Albi's second birthday, everyone says, he's gonna be running
Speaker 1: around and you're gonna be like, I need a second.
Speaker 1: I think we're gonna feel that way. I justly or
Speaker 1: like Albi's gonna grow up and he's gonna be like
Speaker 1: he's gonna have paint in his mouth or something. And
Speaker 1: then like someone's gonna walk by with like this little serene,
Speaker 1: little newborn in a thing and we're and be like
Speaker 1: we miss that age. I don't think we will, all right, No, No,
Speaker 1: I mean I just no, No, I wouldn't. I don't
Speaker 1: know if I would make the decision because of that.
Speaker 1: I sort of more feel like that we should take
Speaker 1: it out of ourselves and make it about Albi. Albi
Speaker 1: could really appreciate having a sibling. Maybe I feel like
Speaker 1: I really love having a sibling. You loved having a sibling,
Speaker 1: and for those reasons, I feel I said loved, But
Speaker 1: it's because I was thinking about I got you. I
Speaker 1: just think like, for first of all, I know an
Speaker 1: incredible amount of people who don't have siblings who are
Speaker 1: exceptional human beings. Oh you're thinking about how is this
Speaker 1: going to affect Albi's like personality. It's a huge thing.
Speaker 1: I mean it's huge to like a sibling or not.
Speaker 1: It's awesome right now he just has the dog and yeah,
Speaker 1: but like when I tell my mom, I'm like, I
Speaker 1: don't know how another second kid, and she was like,
Speaker 1: he's going to be the most selfish because ever, because
Speaker 1: like he the sun, moon and stars sets on our
Speaker 1: on our son right now, for us, for our entire
Speaker 1: extended family, for everything, our entire lives right now, revolver
Speaker 1: were now. I think the older he gets and the
Speaker 1: better we get at parenting that hopefully. Yeah, but like
Speaker 1: having another person that you're forced with daily to deal
Speaker 1: with of like sharing, and we don't care about you
Speaker 1: right now, we have to care about him or like, wow,
Speaker 1: see I just automatically assumed I was having another sun.
Speaker 1: That keeps happening. Weird. I just feel like I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be a mom of boys. I don't know why. I
Speaker 1: don't know why. Adam comes from a house of boys, big, big,
Speaker 1: gott I But anyway, no, I think about it more
Speaker 1: in terms of the albae than anything else. Is that wrong?
Speaker 1: I don't know so anyway, guys, So whoever asked the
Speaker 1: lovely question, thank you so much. It is on the
Speaker 1: table for discussion. Yeah, it's kind of put it in
Speaker 1: my mind, like when he is too her being too
Speaker 1: loud for Abby's NAT's nap was adjusted. Guys, the lovely
Speaker 1: reason why we are here and I want to because
Speaker 1: we have an amazing third adult who is helping us
Speaker 1: raise our child. So yeah, we don't know. I think
Speaker 1: when he's two, we should sit back at this table
Speaker 1: over coffee on Katie's cribs, get a serious conversation, not
Speaker 1: a year that's in like six months from now, nine
Speaker 1: months from now, eight months ago. This is what we
Speaker 1: always do. She exaggerates one way I exaggerated and the
Speaker 1: other way to play, and then we figured out the
Speaker 1: exact Nat the big old wight the time. Okay o.
Speaker 1: Next question, tips on how to keep the romance alive
Speaker 1: as Newish parents. I love your podcast from Anna Truscan.
Speaker 1: Thanks Anna Truscan. Keeping the romance alive, not that we're
Speaker 1: we've been great at that but I do think that
Speaker 1: you gotta prioritize your relationship a little bit. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: like what Troyan was saying in the podcast last week
Speaker 1: about putting your own safety mask on before the kid.
Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, if your relationship. I mean, first of all,
Speaker 1: I think it's really important for your kid to like
Speaker 1: see you know, if everything's based on modeling, like you know,
Speaker 1: we clean up the room or we say thank you
Speaker 1: and please, and so that teaches your kid how to
Speaker 1: do those things similarly affection and like mooching and holding
Speaker 1: hands and saying I hope you have a great day,
Speaker 1: or Hi, how are you? How is your day? It's
Speaker 1: like showing or like your son. So I think it's
Speaker 1: our dad make the popcorn equal it like that would
Speaker 1: be a good thing for him to say. I just
Speaker 1: thought of that. Wow, that's a good one. And I
Speaker 1: just feel like I've been making the popcorn by yourself
Speaker 1: for both yeah, very long. So I just feel like, ab,
Speaker 1: we should start to see you make I got you.
Speaker 1: Why don't we try that tonight? Okay? Cool? I also
Speaker 1: have heard of these parents like doing date nights, so
Speaker 1: our Duela Rebecca Beninatti, who was on the podcast. She
Speaker 1: had always suggested, you guys should always take a date
Speaker 1: night and you're only allowed to talk about your kid
Speaker 1: in the first five minutes, and then the kid talk
Speaker 1: is like off limits. Like the moment, like the drinks
Speaker 1: or whatever comes down to the table, that's it for Yeah,
Speaker 1: like you have to talk about other ship, which you
Speaker 1: and I I think fail at miserably. Oh my god.
Speaker 1: We were at a huge dinner party a couple of
Speaker 1: nights ago. It was like a cast party for The Affair,
Speaker 1: which is the show I've been doing. And the uh,
Speaker 1: there's all these great people around. We're at this big
Speaker 1: table and was talking about stuffing. Katie and I are
Speaker 1: at the corner of the table just looking at videos
Speaker 1: of Alby's. And that's that's what we're like around other
Speaker 1: people in a in a dinner party situation. Imagine if
Speaker 1: we were just by ourselves at a restaurant. I know
Speaker 1: are supposedly I portant. I don't think we're friends. They
Speaker 1: have a permit it Saturday night babysitter. It's not even
Speaker 1: a question. They are gonna go out regardless of their plans.
Speaker 1: And I think that's kind of a cool thing to do.
Speaker 1: We've never employed that, but I feel, yeah, it's kind
Speaker 1: of a cool thing. You know, you get that date
Speaker 1: night every night every week. Yeah, I think we need
Speaker 1: to do that, right, Yeah, just so you know it's there.
Speaker 1: I agree you have to prioritize the relationship because as
Speaker 1: soon as the baby comes, he's a priority, and then
Speaker 1: works a priority, and all the stuff in the house
Speaker 1: and all, and then your relationship is like the for
Speaker 1: some reason, becomes like the last thing you think of
Speaker 1: until you're like yelling at each other over who who's
Speaker 1: making the popcorn or who's getting how many months? How
Speaker 1: many months? Yeah it's two years. Yeah, yeah, exactly. Thanks
Speaker 1: for that question, Anna, Anna, which non dairy milk is
Speaker 1: superior for Oreo dipping? Oh crap that milk. Yeah, we
Speaker 1: only dip it in that real milk we got non dairy.
Speaker 1: I would say there have been a couple dire situations
Speaker 1: where we've had no milk, but like a bunch of
Speaker 1: oreos and we've used almond milk and it was it failed.
Speaker 1: It's not great for dunking. What I would suggest is
Speaker 1: it's too thin inconsistency. Honestly, what I would suggest, uh Nia, yes,
Speaker 1: waiting for this, just take a bite of the oreo
Speaker 1: dry and then and then hear me out and then
Speaker 1: just took a little bit of water. Wow. Really, how
Speaker 1: about if you did the milk, but you took a
Speaker 1: lactate pill. Oh, like it was. Well, if they just
Speaker 1: can't or there's lactose free milk, but if you just
Speaker 1: really can't drink milk. Yeah, here's the other suggestion. Yeah,
Speaker 1: get a thin oreo, one of the thins from the
Speaker 1: thin line, you know, get either the mint thin or
Speaker 1: the vanilla thin, or the or the regular or the
Speaker 1: regular thin, and pair it with a glass of something
Speaker 1: like refined adult. I actually agree with that. We've done that.
Speaker 1: It's a delicious here's your answer. Don't worry about that,
Speaker 1: and don't worry about the water barf. Sorry, that was
Speaker 1: the first thing that came to mind. I was like
Speaker 1: that somebody was having an oreo emergency, and I jumped
Speaker 1: to a good idea. What is the best way? This
Speaker 1: is court web thirteen saying work court court okay. Maybe
Speaker 1: sure for Courtney okay, or sure for night court okay.
Speaker 1: What is the best way to have found thus far
Speaker 1: to balance work, baby, husband and life for you don't
Speaker 1: know yet? I talked about it on this podcast before
Speaker 1: this brilliant thing, Shonder Rhyme says, which is when people
Speaker 1: ask her how when you do the work life balance
Speaker 1: or the work mom balance, And she says, I don't.
Speaker 1: One day that I'm super succeeding as a mom means
Speaker 1: it's the same day that I'm turning into script late
Speaker 1: or the day that I'm there shooting late means I'm
Speaker 1: not putting my kid to bed. And so I sort
Speaker 1: of that's yes. And I sort of really experienced that
Speaker 1: this summer and Waitress, because I really tried. We went
Speaker 1: and did Waitress on Broadway for like three months, and
Speaker 1: I tried on two show days. We would have two
Speaker 1: shows on Saturdays and two shows on Sundays, and I
Speaker 1: would get out of the musical at five and I
Speaker 1: would race home, do bath, bedtime, nurse, get him down,
Speaker 1: and then race back to the theater by seven thirty
Speaker 1: pm and then do a three hour musical. And Adam
Speaker 1: just made the choice of like I'm just going to
Speaker 1: stay at the theater and like just focus on our
Speaker 1: job and I'm going to see the kid on Monday.
Speaker 1: You know. But but like even in that situation I had,
Speaker 1: I was really balancing like life and work really well,
Speaker 1: but not wife and baby, right, and you were like
Speaker 1: doing work and baby but no life, no life, and
Speaker 1: like I was like completely and I don't think it
Speaker 1: worked well. Like I'm just I just really tried to
Speaker 1: be like the best mom and like the best job
Speaker 1: at waitress that I could. And I just so answer,
Speaker 1: I don't think you can. Maybe there is. It may
Speaker 1: not be possible to balance all of those things in
Speaker 1: the same period of time, That's what I mean. So
Speaker 1: you have to make sure that you're dedicating different periods
Speaker 1: of That's what I think is the case, and then
Speaker 1: you're balancing in a macro way like yes, over the
Speaker 1: course of a year exactly. And look, yes, and I'm
Speaker 1: new totally and I'm new to this, so I again,
Speaker 1: I'm figuring it out. But I do think when I
Speaker 1: figured out on Scandal, like the days where I had
Speaker 1: hard scenes to do that meant a lot to me.
Speaker 1: And like let's say I had to be a work
Speaker 1: at five o'clock in the morning and I get home
Speaker 1: at ten o'clock a night, which means a day that
Speaker 1: I'm not going to see Alba at all because I
Speaker 1: left before he was awake. And I got home when
Speaker 1: he was asleep. I just knew that that day was
Speaker 1: going to be a fucking scandal day, Like I was
Speaker 1: going to kick the shit out of the acting and
Speaker 1: I had to focus one hundred percent on that, and
Speaker 1: then the next day I was going to try to
Speaker 1: go as hard as I could in the mom zone.
Speaker 1: But like I just I love those scandal nights. That
Speaker 1: just meant me and Albi were just gonna be throwing
Speaker 1: pasta in each other's face to that. So that's sort
Speaker 1: of what I'm thinking at the moment. I don't think
Speaker 1: you can ever do too well at one time. I
Speaker 1: think you do or for at one time. I think
Speaker 1: you have to really delicate quantity over quantity and delicate
Speaker 1: delegate quantity over delicate hashtag delegate plenished. So you don't
Speaker 1: have mom brain. We'll call back to the Troyan episode. Seriously,
Speaker 1: if you haven't listened to Troying episode, go back listen.
Speaker 1: It was two episodes two one one Yeah, okay, uh.
Speaker 1: Holly Adams seven twenty says, can't think of a question,
Speaker 1: but I just really love your podcast. Thank you, Holli, Holly,
Speaker 1: we love you, thank you, thank you. Courtney says, what
Speaker 1: childhood memories of your own do you pass down to
Speaker 1: your son. I mean for me, it's it's it's it's
Speaker 1: like ninety eight percent ice cream relates most of my
Speaker 1: My husband is not lactose intolerant. Yeah, no, it's actually
Speaker 1: it's actually shocked you'd thinking with everything else. Yes, for me,
Speaker 1: let's see, we do hard We've done hardcore Christmas the
Speaker 1: past two years with my granny Pat, who lives in
Speaker 1: part hardcore Christmas. Hardcore Christmas. I just mean like when
Speaker 1: you go to when you go to Aunt Jones's house
Speaker 1: on Christmas Eve, it's hardcore. It's hardcore. So those traditions
Speaker 1: are being are wonderful, and I love my Jewish tradition.
Speaker 1: So we've like given him those Nica and pass over
Speaker 1: all that fun stuff, and that involves like a big meal. Yes,
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about the child's memories. I mean, we haven't
Speaker 1: taken him to his first shows yet, but I imagine
Speaker 1: we're going to be bawling. Cannot wait to take him
Speaker 1: to his first musical like that. He's probably gonna hate it,
Speaker 1: which would be great. That's why I want to wait
Speaker 1: as long as I don't want to like do too
Speaker 1: early where he's like, I think my mom waited until
Speaker 1: I was like eleven and took me to a nice
Speaker 1: starter musical, Joseph and the Technical Jay. Because you can
Speaker 1: love that musical on different levels. I feel like as
Speaker 1: a kid, you're just like writing on the wall. How
Speaker 1: are we gonna choose when his first musical is anyway?
Speaker 1: It's big? But yeah, now we have Hamilton, which is
Speaker 1: such a great music. I mean, could you imagine having
Speaker 1: to get to see Hamilton for for your first I
Speaker 1: don't know what I mean. I don't know if that's
Speaker 1: a good idea. He's gonna be like everything, Yeah, we're
Speaker 1: gonna He's like, why aren't they fucking rap this? I know,
Speaker 1: like they didn't wrap during the French Revolution And then
Speaker 1: he's gonna be like in the Civil War, I mean
Speaker 1: the Revolutionary before it was about one hundred years later. Guys,
Speaker 1: it is real, though, do you that's a question I
Speaker 1: have for you off of this situation. How do you
Speaker 1: feel like, No, do you notice my mom brain since
Speaker 1: being a mom? And do you think you any Yes?
Speaker 1: And not really it's true, but I'm glad you asked
Speaker 1: the way I feel you are being like you have
Speaker 1: the burden. I mean, you know, there's something like even
Speaker 1: though I cut that umbilical cord, which I didn't even
Speaker 1: see that, Yeah, you were, you were really spaced out.
Speaker 1: I was like, bump bum. You guys who are listening
Speaker 1: can see he's singing and also making scissor scissor motions. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but cut that. But there is still some sort of
Speaker 1: tether between you and Albe. And like if he goes
Speaker 1: like in the middle of the night, you're like waking
Speaker 1: up and checking the monitor and I can just sleep
Speaker 1: through that. And I think that's like basically the number
Speaker 1: one calls a bomb brain is just like lack of
Speaker 1: likely not just sleep, but just like deep sleep. I
Speaker 1: think you're so right. Like last night, an hour I
Speaker 1: was up, he was screaming for twenty minutes. I went
Speaker 1: in there. I slept through that. Motrin rocked him down.
Speaker 1: He's screaming the monitors next to both of our heads.
Speaker 1: Adam didn't hear one minute of that. No, And I's
Speaker 1: a daisy today. This one over here, I think if if,
Speaker 1: But like the times that you've been gone and I've
Speaker 1: needed to, like I do wake up, it's just like
Speaker 1: there's something like she's got it. When the two of
Speaker 1: us are there, there's something inside you that's like I
Speaker 1: have to be ready at any moment to go in there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And I don't feel that way like you feel that way,
Speaker 1: And it's just it's what it is. I've I've offered
Speaker 1: a thousand times. Of course, I'll do it. When I
Speaker 1: do it, when he wakes up, I'll do it. And
Speaker 1: when he was an infant, I did it all the time. Yes,
Speaker 1: for the Katie's Crib record, you are very involved and
Speaker 1: we are very very But I'm just saying, there's like
Speaker 1: a piece of you that is just naturally like uh,
Speaker 1: really tied into him. And I think it gives you
Speaker 1: sleep that's not as great as the sleep I think.
Speaker 1: I haven't slept since I got pregnant, Like I'm so
Speaker 1: fucking tired. I think that I don't know how you
Speaker 1: moms watching and listening who have like multiple kids or
Speaker 1: are doing this on your own, or are like working
Speaker 1: night shifts at hospitals, Like, holy, this is so fucking real.
Speaker 1: That was real. That was the memories of childhood questions. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: so Jasmine says, how are you handling career? Baby family?
Speaker 1: And that can be hard? So we talked about that.
Speaker 1: But thank you, Jasmine, I just said sure. Hashtag another
Speaker 1: word I just made up, hashtag sures, hashtag diplanet dipleanish.
Speaker 1: What was it like juggling parenthood and being on waitress,
Speaker 1: That's what Gabby says. We kind of answered that before,
Speaker 1: but it was really really hard. It was the dumbest
Speaker 1: thing we've ever done. It was like, let's get the
Speaker 1: same job, the same hours with a seven month old,
Speaker 1: moved to a new city in four days, Let's have
Speaker 1: those hours exactly during bathtime and bedtime. It was so
Speaker 1: fucking hard. And I was also still breastfeed but we
Speaker 1: could not do it because it was it was Broadways browsing. God,
Speaker 1: but it was so hard. I'm not gonna lie. I
Speaker 1: cried a lot. My hormones were all over the place.
Speaker 1: It was awesome. Handing my baby off to get put
Speaker 1: to bed by someone else six nights a week was
Speaker 1: just like tough on me. And then also pumping at
Speaker 1: every single intermission was really fucking hard. Was he away.
Speaker 1: I would exit stage right and then I would have
Speaker 1: to go backstage left to get to my dressing room.
Speaker 1: But it was intermission, so I would just like take
Speaker 1: off the costume and go hang out with Katie pumped. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, it was exhausting. It was awesome, but you know,
Speaker 1: I felt like I really felt like a mom beast.
Speaker 1: The other crazy thing about it was that you can't
Speaker 1: people who get sick on Broadway, you guys. First of all,
Speaker 1: Broadway actors are literally the Olympic Athletes of actors, and
Speaker 1: so when they get sick, When you get sick on Broadway,
Speaker 1: you can go to like a special Broadway doctor who
Speaker 1: will give you steroids and things like that so that
Speaker 1: you can sing through the shows that night or weekend
Speaker 1: and you can make it through. If you are breastfeeding,
Speaker 1: you cannot take shit. You can't even take freaking night
Speaker 1: will robotuscin diamond tap like anything. And I was living
Speaker 1: on stuff like that. So I went to like this,
Speaker 1: I lost my voice. I got really sick. I missed
Speaker 1: five shows. People had all flown in book hotel rooms,
Speaker 1: paid for flights, and I wasn't going to be in
Speaker 1: the show. And I went to the vocal doctor, who
Speaker 1: was like, I don't know what to tell you. For
Speaker 1: twenty five years, I've worked on every Broadway voice. I've
Speaker 1: never worked on a nursing mother and I can't give
Speaker 1: you anything. And I was like, holy shit, I think
Speaker 1: I'm trying to do too much. Yeah, meanwhile, I'm kissing
Speaker 1: your understudy. How was that? It was? It was fantastic.
Speaker 1: It was a hard job. I love her. Okay, so
Speaker 1: that was waitress. All that being said, it was amazing.
Speaker 1: It was amazing. It was like my favorite thing I've
Speaker 1: ever done in my life. It was amazing. How did
Speaker 1: you introduce Roger to Albi? Okay, this is a huge question,
Speaker 1: and guys, I do want to maybe not even answer
Speaker 1: this question fully because we were going to do an
Speaker 1: episode on this with the amazing dog trainer. My dog
Speaker 1: has a shit ton of issues. If I could, like
Speaker 1: he is. He is a crotchety curudgeon of an old
Speaker 1: dog and I love him with all my heart, Roger.
Speaker 1: They say you can't teach an old dog new tricks.
Speaker 1: That is our dog, our dog. You can't teach any tricks,
Speaker 1: no tricks. So anyway, the dog intro to a baby,
Speaker 1: to a child is a Actually it's a very big
Speaker 1: deal and I was very nervous about it, and I
Speaker 1: thank god had this awesome dog trainer who had been
Speaker 1: working with Roger and his issues already for months who
Speaker 1: helped and guided us through him this whole situation. And
Speaker 1: since then, we've passed on the information to a lot
Speaker 1: of friends who are similarly nervous. So we're going to
Speaker 1: do an episode. But we're gonna do an episode. But
Speaker 1: I'll just say this, it's really exciting. It's like all
Speaker 1: these like steps you can do, and like we had
Speaker 1: to get her brother involved and there was a run
Speaker 1: from the hospital with a sheet. Yeah, just to give
Speaker 1: you a little little little taste, the baby has been
Speaker 1: wrapped up in the too much information to get excited about,
Speaker 1: all right, was covered with the baby stuff. No, okay's okay,
Speaker 1: We're going to do an episode. Okay, it's brilliant. Brazil
Speaker 1: loves scandal. We love the Brazil. Do you want me
Speaker 1: and Adam and Albi to come visit figure it out?
Speaker 1: Is there a scandal convention in Brazil? We would love
Speaker 1: to come to that. Let's need everybody, Yeah, or a
Speaker 1: sense I know there's a sensate convention and I was
Speaker 1: on like six episodes were invited. They don't care about
Speaker 1: my character. Has these gorgeous sexy guys that take their shirts,
Speaker 1: that take their shirts off on that show. Great, not
Speaker 1: on that show. I just got shot in the middle
Speaker 1: of the forehead. Okay, how do you guys manage to
Speaker 1: do it all? It's it looks like that on Instagram.
Speaker 1: It's not true. Yeah, that is very true. Let's talk
Speaker 1: about that. But when things look like one thing on
Speaker 1: Instagram and why Katie's crow is important, it's like, oh yeah,
Speaker 1: just just the the whole thing, the whole like I
Speaker 1: guess from our social media it would look like we've
Speaker 1: got it all going on. That's not true. That literally
Speaker 1: gave me a can you speak to that? Like, well, look,
Speaker 1: I would say, yes, we are. And why we've been
Speaker 1: together so long thirteen years is I think we are.
Speaker 1: We are glass half full optimistic people. We are we
Speaker 1: enjoy life. That does not mean to say we do
Speaker 1: not have our down moments or have not had some
Speaker 1: seriously depressed months where we have been. I mean, I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't like inst story those moments, but like maybe
Speaker 1: I'm picking up my anti depressed filter should but like, no,
Speaker 1: I mental health. It's a real fucking Maybe maybe I'll
Speaker 1: end the story that maybe you guys will enjoy. It's
Speaker 1: not the Walgreens it would be a fun instance story. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but no, I think or like when I had my
Speaker 1: first meltdown as a mom and I cried and I
Speaker 1: was dealing with postpartum depression and post part of anxiety,
Speaker 1: and I was remember this moment where I was laugh
Speaker 1: crying so hard that I picked myself off off the
Speaker 1: chair that was nursing Albie ran over to a wood
Speaker 1: piece of floor because I don't like mess, and I
Speaker 1: just peed all over the floor. Yeah, and hold it
Speaker 1: in and then you clean up my pee, yea. And
Speaker 1: then I cleaned up your pen. I was like like that,
Speaker 1: just like a really deep breath. And anyway, we don't
Speaker 1: have it all. We don't have it all going on.
Speaker 1: It's a fucking mess, And honestly, we should probably post
Speaker 1: more of that. All right, we'll post more. We'll post
Speaker 1: more of the of the moments where we're not having
Speaker 1: at all. And I think that's probably important. I did,
Speaker 1: and I hope on Katie's crib that you can get
Speaker 1: the sense that that is what's going on, that it's
Speaker 1: just awesome and incredible and highs and lows and the
Speaker 1: whole thing. Ye why we're doing this. Okay, thanks for
Speaker 1: the pelvic floor episode by the way, Oh yeah, you
Speaker 1: want to talk about that. No, I just feel like
Speaker 1: if you want to do another pelvic floor episode, I
Speaker 1: could you know men have pelvic floor issues too. I'm
Speaker 1: just saying from experience secifically. Also, she has a baby
Speaker 1: and I go to the pelt for physical therapy. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: by the way, like Adam had, there is something you
Speaker 1: can speak to this having being one of our first
Speaker 1: We've had a few dudes on the podcast, but here
Speaker 1: maybe our third or fourth. I think I'm the third doctor.
Speaker 1: Oh no, Carp and then we had the adoption lawyer,
Speaker 1: Harvey Carp and then got fourth fourth, So can you
Speaker 1: speak to did you gain baby weight while we were pregnant?
Speaker 1: Did you feel any postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety? Did you
Speaker 1: feel pelvic floor problems? Why don't you raise us through
Speaker 1: those answers real quick to the dad's out there. It
Speaker 1: was the first one. Did I gain weight during your pregnancy? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's the thing, guys, because she I have like sympathy. Wait, well,
Speaker 1: I have no self control at all, just at all,
Speaker 1: cannot control myself. That's self control, right. I eat whatever's
Speaker 1: in front of me. So that's why we keep we
Speaker 1: try to keep orias out of the house and just
Speaker 1: eat them on special occasions or something. But when k
Speaker 1: was pregnant and she had all this fun food in
Speaker 1: the house, I was like, she was like, let's do
Speaker 1: spaghetti for dinner. I'm liked for dinner and I'm just
Speaker 1: like pounding spaghetti. And so you did gain pregnancy? Way, then,
Speaker 1: how did you some depression? Zero? In fact, I kind
Speaker 1: of went the opposite way. I was like, I literally
Speaker 1: felt like I was on ecstasy for like five weeks.
Speaker 1: But did you find it hard in juxtaposition to how
Speaker 1: my experience was that you did you feel like you
Speaker 1: had to curb your happiness because I was so fucked up? No?
Speaker 1: In fact, I almost felt like there was like some
Speaker 1: sort of weird chemical reaction between you and me where
Speaker 1: I could sense you not feeling that way, and so
Speaker 1: like I made up for it, and like I think
Speaker 1: that was a good thing. You know, I didn't feel
Speaker 1: like I needed to curb it for you, But I
Speaker 1: also felt like I needed to do all of the things,
Speaker 1: the dishes, the thing clean up, get the albie go,
Speaker 1: you know, like I kind of hot too because I
Speaker 1: realized you weren't you remember when you said I started
Speaker 1: to really take some serious fucking notes because I thought
Speaker 1: Katie was going to get on a plane and leave us.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, because we had a we had a night
Speaker 1: nurse for a couple of nights and she came in
Speaker 1: and you were out of the room, and I was like,
Speaker 1: so what time should I do this and this and
Speaker 1: what do you suggest for the thing? And she's like, well,
Speaker 1: I'll wait for Katie to come in so I can
Speaker 1: tell both of you. And I was like, I think
Speaker 1: you should probably give me that information. She's not ready
Speaker 1: to listen right now and like and that's and I realized, like,
Speaker 1: I'm going to need to like actually take a lead
Speaker 1: on things right now while she's feeling the way she's feeling.
Speaker 1: And so I'm glad that I picked up on that,
Speaker 1: but it wasn't happening consciously. I was just really freaking
Speaker 1: happy and I was like in love with the little baby,
Speaker 1: and I was just what I was super super jazzed.
Speaker 1: And then the other thing you said was wait for
Speaker 1: and then the pelic four thing, well, the peblic fourth
Speaker 1: thing is a whole nother story, but I will just
Speaker 1: say that, like men have pelvic floor issues, but we
Speaker 1: ignore them because we're men, and most people don't even
Speaker 1: know what the pelic floor is or where it is. Sure,
Speaker 1: but a lot of public floor issues come from anxiety
Speaker 1: and stress, which comes from being a new dad. So
Speaker 1: I'm just going to look out for it for new dads.
Speaker 1: If you start feeling like why do I feel like
Speaker 1: I have to piece six thousand times a day? How
Speaker 1: did you feel? And I hope this is helping any
Speaker 1: of the moms who are listening at their significant others
Speaker 1: are going through any of this. How Adam beautifully demanded
Speaker 1: a paternity leave where he was like, I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: three months with my son. Technically I demanded it to
Speaker 1: no one. I was stopped taking auditions, stopped right, you
Speaker 1: stopped demanded it up myself. Yes, well that was just important,
Speaker 1: I guess, and you felt correct me if I'm wrong.
Speaker 1: You were actually depressed when it was over, which a
Speaker 1: lot of moms feel like, not ready to go back
Speaker 1: to work, You don't want to face the world. Why
Speaker 1: is this time over? Your honeymoon kind of period with
Speaker 1: your son and sort of nest. That's where your depression is.
Speaker 1: My first day after like two and a half months
Speaker 1: or three months of that paternity leave, I went back
Speaker 1: to shooting and I was pretty vummed about it. Sucked. Yeah,
Speaker 1: how did you help yourself to get over that? Started? Well?
Speaker 1: During that paternal leave, I didn't have to schedule Alba
Speaker 1: time and I didn't have to think about Albi time.
Speaker 1: I just knew it was going to happen and I
Speaker 1: was going to have time with the baby. And then
Speaker 1: now I have to like really think about it, like
Speaker 1: put stuff like that, Like you know, you never put
Speaker 1: home stuff in the calendar, like, and now we're going
Speaker 1: to hang out. Same with us having a date. It's
Speaker 1: like you got to you have to actually put that
Speaker 1: stuff in the calendar. Can you talk to them about
Speaker 1: what we had? We discussed that you weren't going to
Speaker 1: go below the curtain when I pushed Albi out and
Speaker 1: did you go down there? Yeah? I was like, I
Speaker 1: don't want to see anything. I'm going to hang up
Speaker 1: on the top with Katie. But then like they were like, hey,
Speaker 1: can you go grab something? And I grabbed it. I
Speaker 1: don't know what it was. I have no idea why
Speaker 1: they would ask you to grab shit, but all right,
Speaker 1: maybe they were telling me to turn the sonas down
Speaker 1: and I had to go, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: can you grab this the the yeah, the the machine
Speaker 1: that's projecting laser stars. Were we both scared. Why we
Speaker 1: made the decision was that you would, like never want
Speaker 1: to have sex with me again, because you would you
Speaker 1: were worried about you weren't. No. And then I was
Speaker 1: down there and then I caught a glimpse and I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I was like like liked and like,
Speaker 1: you know, I was just like and I looked and
Speaker 1: I saw the whole thing. I saw him come out.
Speaker 1: It was crazy. You're like Optimist Prime, like you transformed
Speaker 1: into a different shape. That's awesome. He's pretty great. It's amazing.
Speaker 1: Even when I'm doubting myself and I feel like shit,
Speaker 1: he will tell me the story again, which I make
Speaker 1: you say, and he calls me the Optimus Prime, and
Speaker 1: it makes me feel very powerful good. I'm glad it
Speaker 1: doesn't make you feel like like, oh, I just feel
Speaker 1: like a fucking badass motherfucker. I love it. But I
Speaker 1: hope people don't mind that I'm not asking all the
Speaker 1: audience question just I think these are important thing since
Speaker 1: you're one of our dudes. On the shop. I think
Speaker 1: I was glad that I saw it happen. And I
Speaker 1: always thought to myself, like, how physically does it happen?
Speaker 1: There's no way a baby is gonna be able to fit.
Speaker 1: And the reason you think that is because it's true,
Speaker 1: a baby can't fit down. What you think is the
Speaker 1: that pelvic area of the of the woman, the way
Speaker 1: that it is you. It has to dramatically change shift
Speaker 1: this crazy thing that happened to nature. It was amazing.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I'm glad that I saw it. Are you
Speaker 1: glad you saw it? Yeah? Jen Otem jen otems Otem. Oh,
Speaker 1: so we should bring it down Yeah, you guys were
Speaker 1: going to bring it down to an I'll be napping volume, okay.
Speaker 1: Jen Odem says she misses tweeting and chatting and hope
Speaker 1: that everyone. I love you, I hope you're well. Thank
Speaker 1: you so much for everything always, And is the project
Speaker 1: Nanny's still happening? Possibly? I don't think so. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't think sothing with projects, they kind of come, they go,
Speaker 1: they get hot, they get cold. It was a show
Speaker 1: that we were washing and best Wall wrote it and
Speaker 1: with Shonda and we we had we had great script
Speaker 1: and everything, but it just didn't fit in the lineup
Speaker 1: at ABC the year that we had it, and then
Speaker 1: all the people at ABC shifted and changed, and then
Speaker 1: so the project kind of goes with those people, and uh,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I still think that at some point
Speaker 1: of future there's going to be a TV show about
Speaker 1: our experience meeting as nanny's of different families and kind
Speaker 1: of our relationship. Weird does it know that we have
Speaker 1: nanny It's the weirdest, It's crazy, but like, yeah, we
Speaker 1: were nanny's for different families. Why when we started dating,
Speaker 1: we were like we were like just thrust into this
Speaker 1: kind of domesticity where we're like just started dating, but
Speaker 1: we're hanging out with all these little kids and like
Speaker 1: having sleepovers. It was pretty hilarious. Will you sing something
Speaker 1: for us? Already? Did that? What was the biggest transition
Speaker 1: moving from New York back to La the Pizza? When
Speaker 1: is Harry getting on Kay's Crib? Who said that? Jen? Well?
Speaker 1: Who said it? Jen? Scott Carrie? And I Carrie is
Speaker 1: a huge advocate and supporter of Katie's Crib, which is amazing.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Kerry Washington. As we all know
Speaker 1: and respect and love. Carry Washington is very private about
Speaker 1: her personal life, and so she keeps up that way
Speaker 1: more importantly than her being on Katy's crib. She's in
Speaker 1: Katie's crib like she's like our number one mom and
Speaker 1: is literally outfitted in Carrie Washington's son's clothes. And most
Speaker 1: of the way we're even talking about parenting from any
Speaker 1: place of knowing what we're talking about is a result
Speaker 1: of our relationship with Carry Washington. So she's always on
Speaker 1: Katie's crib always. Uh, do you see a lot of
Speaker 1: yourself in Albie? Oh my god, it's shocking. Guys. When
Speaker 1: I was pregnant with Ali, I had really said to myself,
Speaker 1: it's cool, Like, I'm very well aware that I'm just
Speaker 1: making another Adam Shapiro to be in the world, and
Speaker 1: I love Adam Sapiro so much so that is totally
Speaker 1: a okay with me, and that he's gonna come out
Speaker 1: and he's gonna look act sound like Adam Spiro. And
Speaker 1: basically he came out and I looked, and what I
Speaker 1: was not prepared for was that he looks like me,
Speaker 1: like you too. Well. He didn't get all this until
Speaker 1: his bar Metzvill. You know, what I mean, you didn't
Speaker 1: even just born with this right now. What's shocking is
Speaker 1: this area which you guys listening. It's his eyes that
Speaker 1: look exactly like me and mine, and it's so fucking weird.
Speaker 1: It's bizarre, though, It's like he's your kids are just
Speaker 1: however you get your kids, whether you adopt them, burd
Speaker 1: them vaginally through C section, whether you surrogate, whatever, however
Speaker 1: you become a mom. I just like, your kid is
Speaker 1: really here to teach you shit. And like, I was
Speaker 1: so blown away that, like a lot of times when
Speaker 1: I'm very conscious my patient is being so challenged, it's
Speaker 1: so weird that it's like I'm trying to help guide
Speaker 1: someone that like looks like me. It's bizarre, it's crazy.
Speaker 1: I feel like I'd have an easier time of it
Speaker 1: if he looked like you. I love like when he
Speaker 1: not only does things that I would do, but he
Speaker 1: does things that I don't do but want to do.
Speaker 1: Like when somebody puts food in front of me that
Speaker 1: I don't want, I just want to slap it away.
Speaker 1: I don't want that, and he does it. He does that.
Speaker 1: He's like my hero. We're gonna do one more question, man,
Speaker 1: there's so many questions. I'm watching it next day. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: here we go. And also, you guys, if you like
Speaker 1: this sort of thing, we can absolutely do this again.
Speaker 1: I know exactly where Adam Shapiro sleeps and lives. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: we can always do this. We can do live ones
Speaker 1: if you guys really like this and faindus informative or
Speaker 1: Adam's point of view informative which I don't include on
Speaker 1: the no, but just like follow Katie's grip whatever, and
Speaker 1: then you could write these questions at any point answer.
Speaker 1: We'll answer them in the comment. Yeah, we can answer
Speaker 1: them in the comment. Can we be besties? From missus
Speaker 1: mother Runner? Done? Mother Runner? Oh? I got to check
Speaker 1: out her instagram because I like running with Albi in
Speaker 1: the in the three wheels and he her icon is
Speaker 1: her running with the baby and the three yearl stroller.
Speaker 1: That's pretty cool. How did you guys meet and how
Speaker 1: did you find a mutual love for oreos? That's I
Speaker 1: mean we met through a friend, Lindsey Kraft three mutual
Speaker 1: friend and then I thirteen years ago she said we're
Speaker 1: gonna get married and spen the rest of our lives together.
Speaker 1: We met we did not feel that way, but slowly
Speaker 1: over time, after keeping on, keeping on and meeting on
Speaker 1: each other. It was so long, I thought it was
Speaker 1: so And then how did we find our mutual love
Speaker 1: for oreos? I think it was right after the first
Speaker 1: time we had coitus. I offer you a sleeve of oreos.
Speaker 1: That's not true. That's not true, but that would have
Speaker 1: been money if I did that. What made you decide
Speaker 1: to try baby led weaning? Yeah, you know, I I
Speaker 1: don't even know what that means. So my best friend
Speaker 1: Amy rose Off Davis, who's been on the podcast, she's
Speaker 1: six months. It's always awesome if you can have a
Speaker 1: friend who has like a baby that's six months ahead
Speaker 1: of you, because you basically just like stop thinking for yourself. No,
Speaker 1: but when you're so tired you don't know what the
Speaker 1: fuck you're doing, you can at least send a text
Speaker 1: to someone who's been through it before. And that goes
Speaker 1: for like any age. But it's great because she's six months,
Speaker 1: so she still remembers it. My problem now at a
Speaker 1: year and a half is some people will text me
Speaker 1: newborn questions and I'm like, guys, I honestly don't even remember,
Speaker 1: like it's hard. You're so focused on the right here
Speaker 1: and right now day to day. So she's six months
Speaker 1: ahead of me, and so I asked her and she
Speaker 1: did baby led weaning turned me on. She was like,
Speaker 1: I read this book. I found it to be very helpful,
Speaker 1: and like, honestly, that was the reason why I did it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's why you did it, just like you're just taking
Speaker 1: advice from friends. Last question, SKW. Bradley says, most important
Speaker 1: advice you'd have for somebody who's expecting their first one. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was going to say yes. And to that end, Adam,
Speaker 1: if you had any advice for my biggest piece of advice,
Speaker 1: if you're expecting your first one, sure go on Amazon
Speaker 1: get these like long iPhone cables. They're like really long. Yeah,
Speaker 1: when you're in the hospital giving birth to the baby,
Speaker 1: you don't necessarily know where the plug is going to be,
Speaker 1: and you're on your phone a lot because you're calling
Speaker 1: parents and you're like videotaping and all that stuff. So
Speaker 1: just get a really long iPhone cable. Other than that,
Speaker 1: you're just gonna have to figure it out because everybody's
Speaker 1: experience is totally different. But soaking as much knowledge as
Speaker 1: you can, then you're gonna forget it all, and then
Speaker 1: once the baby comes out, you're going to start to
Speaker 1: read more and go, oh, I remember I learned that.
Speaker 1: I remember. Oh, that's going to be really useful now,
Speaker 1: and you'll have like a little bit of a foundation.
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