WEBVTT - Katie & Hubby Adam Shapiro Answer Your Questions! 0:00:05.519 --> 0:00:08.639 Guys, we're doing I'm monkey tasking right now. We are 0:00:08.800 --> 0:00:13.480 live to you. We are also recording to this see 0:00:13.520 --> 0:00:16.720 this little microphone. And today on Katie's Crib, we have 0:00:17.000 --> 0:00:23.360 probably my most special guests I've ever had, the the 0:00:23.400 --> 0:00:26.520 most most specialists of all guests I have ever had 0:00:26.560 --> 0:00:30.760 onys GRIBI true, but we have the one, the only, 0:00:30.880 --> 0:00:35.720 my husband, mister Adam Mark Shape. I go hello, hello 0:00:35.760 --> 0:00:38.400 in the podcast world, Hello out there in the in 0:00:38.440 --> 0:00:42.279 the real live world. Yes, we're just warming up. It's 0:00:42.280 --> 0:00:45.120 an honor to be on Katie's crib. I thought you'd 0:00:45.120 --> 0:00:48.159 never asked. I've been outside that door for like two years. 0:00:48.159 --> 0:00:51.000 We're coming to you like you want. Do you want 0:00:51.000 --> 0:00:54.320 my side of the story? Okay, cool, No, just nobody 0:00:54.320 --> 0:00:56.440 cares about your side. We care. I got a lot 0:00:56.440 --> 0:00:59.400 of guests here though, you get a lot of guests. 0:00:59.480 --> 0:01:02.040 See had a lot of guests. Water When Roger is 0:01:02.080 --> 0:01:05.520 really going all out, he gives Roger a bone, puts 0:01:05.560 --> 0:01:07.720 him in a room so that he doesn't really the podcast. 0:01:07.720 --> 0:01:11.440 Take care. Yeah, make sure this is live live, This 0:01:11.560 --> 0:01:14.080 is live, and this is where Adam and I hang out, 0:01:14.480 --> 0:01:16.960 usually later in the day with wine with our son 0:01:17.000 --> 0:01:20.440 Albi who is playing in this room? Yeah, playing the 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:25.560 tent and so the tent, the couch. These are lovely. 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:28.120 We had some friends over for Super Bowl that had 0:01:28.160 --> 0:01:30.400 some older kids here and they made a lovely sign 0:01:30.440 --> 0:01:34.319 called camp Friendy. That's for Friendly Moon. Yes, that's our 0:01:34.400 --> 0:01:37.280 annual weekend with our friends. It's called Friendly Moon. It's 0:01:37.280 --> 0:01:43.000 where friends become better friends. It's the best. And there's 0:01:43.080 --> 0:01:46.720 the friend news about this was we got runner up 0:01:46.720 --> 0:01:50.040 for an award this year. Friends crushing it Like, yeah, 0:01:50.040 --> 0:01:51.760 friends crushing in life. There were three people that won 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:54.320 the awards. The technically were fourth place. But the older 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:56.920 kids came and hang out in this room on Sunday 0:01:56.920 --> 0:01:59.000 and they asked their nursery school teacher, like, what events 0:01:59.000 --> 0:02:01.000 should we have for the little babies that were all 0:02:01.080 --> 0:02:03.880 hanging out. And what was great was all of the 0:02:03.960 --> 0:02:06.760 kids got pink I That would turned out to be 0:02:06.800 --> 0:02:09.360 the event and double Air pink Ey. We spread the 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:11.840 pink guy and we spread the double air infections. So 0:02:12.760 --> 0:02:15.880 for you moms out there listening and watching, we've had 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:18.239 our first about now with pink eye. Pink eye, which 0:02:18.280 --> 0:02:20.680 was very disgusting, and then a bunch of your infections 0:02:20.720 --> 0:02:22.919 in the group a bunch of your infections. Last night, 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:25.560 Albi was up with one hundred and two fever and change. 0:02:25.600 --> 0:02:27.640 So I'm on very little sleep. But this is just 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:29.799 the new normal. See, everyone else in the world thinks 0:02:29.840 --> 0:02:32.160 the super Bowl was just about Adam Levine taking his 0:02:32.240 --> 0:02:34.720 shirt off. No, it was. It was about pink eye 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:38.799 in this house, truly true. That was literally I think 0:02:38.919 --> 0:02:42.320 seven kids got pink eye right here in this room. Yeah, 0:02:42.400 --> 0:02:44.800 are you scared. No, we've disinfected the whole place. Yeah, 0:02:44.840 --> 0:02:48.000 we have Welcome to the pink Eye Room. That should 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:52.079 be the name of this podcast. Adam, Have you ever 0:02:52.080 --> 0:02:55.000 had pink guy the pink Eye Room? No, Remember we've 0:02:55.000 --> 0:02:56.840 been a oother thirteen years. You've never had been guy. 0:02:57.280 --> 0:02:58.560 We thought I had a pink guy a couple of 0:02:58.639 --> 0:03:00.440 years ago, and then it turned out to be something else. 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:06.880 What was it was like? Dry? Dry? My eye was dry, Adam, 0:03:08.880 --> 0:03:10.799 I get a lot of stuff. You should really go 0:03:10.840 --> 0:03:13.560 over one of those commercials, the dry eye that'd be made. 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:15.400 I would like I would love to go out, yeah, 0:03:15.400 --> 0:03:17.720 because maybe we would just get a lifetime just to 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:20.040 have the opportunity to be on a commercial. Like so, 0:03:20.639 --> 0:03:24.840 I think people have sent in some questions and we're 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:26.359 going to try to the best of our ability to 0:03:26.360 --> 0:03:28.360 answer them, even though we have only been parents for 0:03:28.400 --> 0:03:30.400 a year and a half. So we don't like we're 0:03:30.440 --> 0:03:32.720 going to be answering them from our from our ve, 0:03:32.800 --> 0:03:35.120 our experience. Yes, we are in no way shape form 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:37.280 claiming we are the best or know what the hell 0:03:37.320 --> 0:03:39.320 we are talking about. Knowing the Katie's Crib fans, I 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:41.360 feel like there's gonna be some questions that are even 0:03:41.400 --> 0:03:44.160 off topic. Great, you know what I mean, we can 0:03:44.280 --> 0:03:47.320 like just that's Katie's Crib is just it's just real talk. 0:03:47.400 --> 0:03:49.200 So Adam, if you're ready to just get real, I 0:03:49.240 --> 0:03:51.160 want to go into our Instagram check out that we're 0:03:51.160 --> 0:03:53.800 gonna check out the questions. Okay, thank you guys so 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:57.880 much tuning in live. Thank you for especially West Coasters 0:03:57.920 --> 0:04:00.000 getting up at the crack of nine. Yeah and all, 0:04:00.120 --> 0:04:01.840 so thank you guys. Last week we were with the 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:04.480 number one podcast. I don't know if you guys saw 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:08.280 that number one Family Rights Kim Family and Kids, Family 0:04:08.320 --> 0:04:13.640 and Kids that includes Dad's too. You're included, Adam, Yes, 0:04:16.000 --> 0:04:21.560 all right. First question comes from Cam's More and it's 0:04:21.600 --> 0:04:24.680 totally unilated to Katie's grip topics. But can you sing 0:04:24.720 --> 0:04:37.520 shallow together? Tell me something? Are you do? You mean more? Wow? 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:41.760 Adam's voice is real skilled that. Okay, this is something 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:44.800 else you're fighting for. No can ever ask Adam to 0:04:44.800 --> 0:04:47.560 do that again, because he will. He sings the sallow 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:50.920 all of the fucking time, and it is very annoying. 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:54.360 I love you, I love your voice. Ready to move 0:04:54.360 --> 0:04:56.240 on to something else, But at least it's not Greatest 0:04:56.240 --> 0:04:58.920 Showman because we were in the big Greatest Showman's spiral. 0:04:59.240 --> 0:05:03.640 We were a Now we're in a in a star 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:07.080 stars born phase. You know, go, I got one that 0:05:07.160 --> 0:05:09.640 ground gave that him a movie musical and watch out, 0:05:10.040 --> 0:05:14.080 watch out. Also you will see we have sixteen months 0:05:14.440 --> 0:05:16.520 on that wall. If you can pan, we have the 0:05:16.640 --> 0:05:20.800 lovely uh school posters of the first musicals. Adam Shapiro 0:05:20.920 --> 0:05:23.040 was in not that we're trying to force this down 0:05:23.040 --> 0:05:26.240 our son Albi's throat. I thought they were adorable to 0:05:26.279 --> 0:05:27.839 be framed. It was in those shows. It was a 0:05:27.839 --> 0:05:30.200 different era. He was at Oliver and the King and 0:05:30.240 --> 0:05:33.239 I and I think you maybe had one line in each. Yeah, okay, 0:05:34.960 --> 0:05:38.800 next question, how do we get better naps from uh 0:05:39.240 --> 0:05:45.000 from Monica Silowski. Yeah, so I think it all depends. Yes, 0:05:45.120 --> 0:05:47.120 thank you Martica for that question. I think it all 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:51.520 very much depends on the age. But I when we 0:05:51.600 --> 0:05:54.520 had trouble with some nap stuff, to be honest, we 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:58.000 did a podcast on this show with the woman who 0:05:58.080 --> 0:06:01.200 started a company called Healthy Little Slip and it is 0:06:01.240 --> 0:06:04.720 a website called Healthy Little Sleepers dot com. And to 0:06:04.760 --> 0:06:07.440 be honest, you can pay her not that much for 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:11.360 a phone session like a consultation, a consultation and even 0:06:11.440 --> 0:06:13.840 and the phone call lasts for like an hour and 0:06:13.880 --> 0:06:15.960 a half or two hours, and you tell them every 0:06:15.960 --> 0:06:20.840 single thing because sleep with babies so much affects it, 0:06:20.960 --> 0:06:24.000 like their room, the room temperature, what they're wearing, the sound, 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:26.240 what they've eaten that day, last time they've eaten, the 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:29.320 last time, you know. So it's a very specific case 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:31.520 for each baby and each family. And so what I 0:06:31.600 --> 0:06:35.960 would highly recommend and what helped us was actually doing 0:06:36.040 --> 0:06:39.120 consult with Healthy Little Sleepers and having like an hour 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:41.400 and a half phone call where she would just suggest things. 0:06:41.480 --> 0:06:44.760 Well that being said, the things that she suggested specifically 0:06:44.760 --> 0:06:48.800 for us. One was we'd always heard never wake a 0:06:48.839 --> 0:06:53.320 sleeping baby, and that just was not how yeah for us, 0:06:53.400 --> 0:06:57.040 we just we we woke up Albi at the end 0:06:57.120 --> 0:07:00.000 of his nap time every time he took a name 0:07:00.160 --> 0:07:01.600 when he was when he was especially when he was 0:07:01.640 --> 0:07:05.880 an infant, we like kept those naps like exactly on time, 0:07:06.480 --> 0:07:09.039 so he never overslept one nap and then couldn't go 0:07:09.120 --> 0:07:11.320 down for the next one. Yeah, So the schedule was 0:07:11.360 --> 0:07:13.480 really big. But then he had like a major sleep 0:07:13.480 --> 0:07:15.240 regression when he was eight or nine months old, and 0:07:15.280 --> 0:07:18.040 I was losing my fucking mind because I had him 0:07:18.040 --> 0:07:20.720 slept in a month and I had to call her 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:23.520 again and it's just nice to have her on speed. 0:07:24.840 --> 0:07:27.520 I needed to put him down fifteen minutes earlier. Yeah, 0:07:27.600 --> 0:07:30.960 that and literally that changed my life. And I had 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:32.600 never tried it, and I didn't know, like he was 0:07:32.640 --> 0:07:34.640 going down in seven He was like, I think he's 0:07:34.680 --> 0:07:37.520 overtired and that's why he's screaming from seven pm to 0:07:37.520 --> 0:07:39.760 eight pm. And I was like, wait what She was like, 0:07:40.160 --> 0:07:44.320 try putting him down at six thirty. Literally the world shifted. 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:47.960 So again, it's very personal for each case, and I 0:07:47.960 --> 0:07:50.840 think it's cool. I thought the most interesting thing about 0:07:50.840 --> 0:07:53.640 that was, like the schedule was so important for Albi. 0:07:53.760 --> 0:07:56.440 But it was so important that we adjust the schedule 0:07:56.480 --> 0:07:59.120 when it needed to be adjusted, right, because it changed. Yeah, 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:01.880 because right now we're transitioning from two naps a day 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:05.679 to one nap a day, which is getting rural. Interesting. 0:08:05.800 --> 0:08:09.040 Think it's not been interesting. I actually think it's been 0:08:09.080 --> 0:08:12.400 like really easy. Thank God for that kid. All right, 0:08:14.080 --> 0:08:16.080 why did you decide to name your kid Albi? I 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:21.840 love this name I had. I have a great uncle 0:08:21.920 --> 0:08:25.840 named Albert, and my and my grandfather was named Albert, 0:08:26.160 --> 0:08:29.280 and we love that name. And I wanted to name 0:08:29.360 --> 0:08:33.240 him after those two great men, and uh, but like 0:08:33.280 --> 0:08:37.079 we didn't want to name him Albert specifically after them, because, 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:38.960 like I guess in Judaism, you're not supposed to be 0:08:38.960 --> 0:08:42.480 like name you name people after people, but not like 0:08:42.559 --> 0:08:46.760 you name them their name, right. And then we were 0:08:46.800 --> 0:08:49.840 out to dinner and I said, like, I was trying 0:08:49.840 --> 0:08:51.560 to think of a name, and Katie didn't like any 0:08:51.640 --> 0:08:53.800 names I was coming up with, right, And so I 0:08:53.840 --> 0:08:56.200 was like, maybe I should start thinking a little bit 0:08:56.240 --> 0:08:57.920 more outside the box. I think of a name I 0:08:58.040 --> 0:09:01.000 like and then just change one letter. So I was like, 0:09:01.080 --> 0:09:04.240 you know, like instead of Kevin, it would be Kevin. 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:08.679 But that's like a terrible that's a terrible example of this, 0:09:08.960 --> 0:09:13.800 right instead of Jason Rayson is a terrible name and 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:16.160 not's not a good name. It sounds like something you 0:09:16.200 --> 0:09:18.920 don't want, like in an envelope being sent to your house, 0:09:19.040 --> 0:09:23.560 that's for sure. And so, uh, then I was like, 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:28.320 I really like Alfie. Alf no Alvi, Alvi no alf Alfie. Yeah, 0:09:28.320 --> 0:09:30.720 we were like, we really like Alfie. What about Albi? 0:09:31.000 --> 0:09:33.760 And then I just said Albi and Katie was like, 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:36.439 I think that's his name, and we loved it and 0:09:36.640 --> 0:09:38.319 we were like, it's Albie. And then the other couple 0:09:38.360 --> 0:09:42.000 we were eating with was just like, oh, you're deciding 0:09:42.000 --> 0:09:44.080 this right now, and it's like all over tacos and 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:48.200 some are like, so the two Alberts he's named after, uh, 0:09:48.520 --> 0:09:51.360 go by al And so we loved the name. Al 0:09:51.480 --> 0:09:54.080 also is a nickname. We love the name. Call me 0:09:54.200 --> 0:09:57.760 al by Paul Simon on the Gracelands soundtrack. Albi was born, 0:09:57.880 --> 0:09:59.719 so you can call me al while he came out 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:03.840 of my gina, Oh nice? What are we at? Nine 0:10:03.880 --> 0:10:07.480 minutes till we talked about it long as time Vagina, 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:09.440 I was just wondering, like how long it was gonna 0:10:09.480 --> 0:10:12.080 take a beautiful word. You can say, Oh good, you're 0:10:12.120 --> 0:10:14.480 saying it. Yes, no, I'm gonna save John. And I 0:10:14.520 --> 0:10:18.599 was wondering when the floodgates, but no pun intended, you 0:10:18.679 --> 0:10:21.760 know what I mean. So we like to call me Al. 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:24.880 Part of it the last two ease of his name, 0:10:25.200 --> 0:10:27.880 because it's spelled a L B E E, So there's 0:10:27.960 --> 0:10:30.760 Al for Adam's grandpa, then there is E for my 0:10:30.800 --> 0:10:34.000 grandma Edna, and the last e for Adam's other Adams. 0:10:35.200 --> 0:10:38.120 So that sort of his name is covering a bunch 0:10:38.120 --> 0:10:40.160 of bobs. So Edward Albi is a playwright, and Adam 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:42.959 and I are theater dorks. That's another thing, funny thing 0:10:43.040 --> 0:10:46.720 about the call me Al. In the hospital. We had 0:10:47.000 --> 0:10:50.640 moved into our delivery room at Cedars Sinai here in 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:54.360 l A. And I'd like as soon as we got 0:10:54.400 --> 0:10:57.600 in there, I like set up sonos and like a 0:10:57.640 --> 0:11:01.439 bunch of like canfe candles and we like really vibed 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:04.400 the place out. And then when the doctors came running 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:06.120 in because it was go time and the baby was 0:11:06.160 --> 0:11:12.280 like the cutting down the canal of your vagina specifically, 0:11:13.320 --> 0:11:15.079 I was like, oh, it's time the baby's coming out, 0:11:15.080 --> 0:11:17.320 So I like without my phone and I go to 0:11:17.360 --> 0:11:19.520 my so nos and hit call me out. It's like 0:11:19.720 --> 0:11:25.880 bah bum bump bump, bump bump, and like the doctors 0:11:25.920 --> 0:11:29.319 and the nurses are like, what is happening? Because I 0:11:29.360 --> 0:11:30.840 didn't know we were gonna be calling them out. They 0:11:30.880 --> 0:11:33.520 just thought we were choosing like the weirdest song ever, 0:11:34.080 --> 0:11:36.800 the most beautiful song. But yes, so he was born 0:11:36.840 --> 0:11:39.160 to call me out, which is pretty cool, so cool, 0:11:39.320 --> 0:11:41.600 and such a good song. All right, thanks for that 0:11:41.720 --> 0:11:44.800 question and really nice to go down memory lane this 0:11:44.880 --> 0:11:50.120 Monday morning. What do you and Adam factor into the 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:55.720 equation when considering having a second child? In fact, why 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:58.760 don't we just right now because we've been leading it? 0:12:00.559 --> 0:12:03.839 What do you think Adam, because you make a lot 0:12:03.880 --> 0:12:06.360 of jokes about being paid to not have a second child, 0:12:06.400 --> 0:12:09.160 are you being serious? Like you've made jokes where you're 0:12:09.200 --> 0:12:11.000 like I would love to just not like, are you 0:12:11.120 --> 0:12:17.320 being serious? I'm getting paid to do that? All right now? 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:20.880 I have made a lot of jokes about not having 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:24.680 like no, like I'm good, that's right, that kind of joke, 0:12:24.880 --> 0:12:27.719 or like I'm down with just the one that kind 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:30.480 of thing, like and they're like more more than jokes. 0:12:30.480 --> 0:12:33.920 They're just like little comments and dinner parties. Yeah, like 0:12:34.960 --> 0:12:38.200 just the one. So is that how you really feel? Yeah, 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:41.959 a little bit. But then I've also had people be like, yo, 0:12:42.160 --> 0:12:45.079 at Albi's second birthday, everyone says, he's gonna be running 0:12:45.080 --> 0:12:47.559 around and you're gonna be like, I need a second. 0:12:47.880 --> 0:12:50.080 I think we're gonna feel that way. I justly or 0:12:50.120 --> 0:12:51.840 like Albi's gonna grow up and he's gonna be like 0:12:52.480 --> 0:12:55.000 he's gonna have paint in his mouth or something. And 0:12:55.000 --> 0:12:57.600 then like someone's gonna walk by with like this little serene, 0:12:57.800 --> 0:13:00.480 little newborn in a thing and we're and be like 0:13:01.000 --> 0:13:04.760 we miss that age. I don't think we will, all right, No, No, 0:13:04.960 --> 0:13:08.200 I mean I just no, No, I wouldn't. I don't 0:13:08.200 --> 0:13:10.720 know if I would make the decision because of that. 0:13:10.840 --> 0:13:13.520 I sort of more feel like that we should take 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:16.600 it out of ourselves and make it about Albi. Albi 0:13:16.960 --> 0:13:19.760 could really appreciate having a sibling. Maybe I feel like 0:13:19.880 --> 0:13:24.000 I really love having a sibling. You loved having a sibling, 0:13:24.080 --> 0:13:28.600 and for those reasons, I feel I said loved, But 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:33.400 it's because I was thinking about I got you. I 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:37.040 just think like, for first of all, I know an 0:13:37.080 --> 0:13:40.400 incredible amount of people who don't have siblings who are 0:13:40.480 --> 0:13:43.160 exceptional human beings. Oh you're thinking about how is this 0:13:43.240 --> 0:13:47.200 going to affect Albi's like personality. It's a huge thing. 0:13:48.240 --> 0:13:51.440 I mean it's huge to like a sibling or not. 0:13:51.559 --> 0:13:54.040 It's awesome right now he just has the dog and yeah, 0:13:54.080 --> 0:13:55.439 but like when I tell my mom, I'm like, I 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:56.800 don't know how another second kid, and she was like, 0:13:56.800 --> 0:14:00.360 he's going to be the most selfish because ever, because 0:14:00.440 --> 0:14:05.320 like he the sun, moon and stars sets on our 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:07.760 on our son right now, for us, for our entire 0:14:07.800 --> 0:14:11.280 extended family, for everything, our entire lives right now, revolver 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:13.000 were now. I think the older he gets and the 0:14:13.040 --> 0:14:17.600 better we get at parenting that hopefully. Yeah, but like 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:21.080 having another person that you're forced with daily to deal 0:14:21.120 --> 0:14:24.040 with of like sharing, and we don't care about you 0:14:24.080 --> 0:14:26.280 right now, we have to care about him or like, wow, 0:14:26.320 --> 0:14:28.480 see I just automatically assumed I was having another sun. 0:14:28.880 --> 0:14:32.560 That keeps happening. Weird. I just feel like I'm gonna 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:34.600 be a mom of boys. I don't know why. I 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:40.760 don't know why. Adam comes from a house of boys, big, big, 0:14:40.880 --> 0:14:46.160 gott I But anyway, no, I think about it more 0:14:46.200 --> 0:14:48.680 in terms of the albae than anything else. Is that wrong? 0:14:48.800 --> 0:14:52.600 I don't know so anyway, guys, So whoever asked the 0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:54.680 lovely question, thank you so much. It is on the 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:58.800 table for discussion. Yeah, it's kind of put it in 0:14:58.800 --> 0:15:01.840 my mind, like when he is too her being too 0:15:01.880 --> 0:15:10.040 loud for Abby's NAT's nap was adjusted. Guys, the lovely 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:12.000 reason why we are here and I want to because 0:15:12.000 --> 0:15:14.320 we have an amazing third adult who is helping us 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:19.800 raise our child. So yeah, we don't know. I think 0:15:19.800 --> 0:15:22.000 when he's two, we should sit back at this table 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:26.480 over coffee on Katie's cribs, get a serious conversation, not 0:15:26.560 --> 0:15:28.880 a year that's in like six months from now, nine 0:15:28.920 --> 0:15:31.440 months from now, eight months ago. This is what we 0:15:31.560 --> 0:15:34.760 always do. She exaggerates one way I exaggerated and the 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:38.280 other way to play, and then we figured out the 0:15:38.320 --> 0:15:47.000 exact Nat the big old wight the time. Okay o. 0:15:47.600 --> 0:15:53.240 Next question, tips on how to keep the romance alive 0:15:53.320 --> 0:15:57.600 as Newish parents. I love your podcast from Anna Truscan. 0:15:57.960 --> 0:16:01.680 Thanks Anna Truscan. Keeping the romance alive, not that we're 0:16:01.760 --> 0:16:04.520 we've been great at that but I do think that 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:10.440 you gotta prioritize your relationship a little bit. Yeah, it's 0:16:10.480 --> 0:16:13.040 like what Troyan was saying in the podcast last week 0:16:13.040 --> 0:16:20.400 about putting your own safety mask on before the kid. 0:16:21.400 --> 0:16:25.080 It's like, yeah, if your relationship. I mean, first of all, 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:28.160 I think it's really important for your kid to like 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:34.080 see you know, if everything's based on modeling, like you know, 0:16:34.360 --> 0:16:36.040 we clean up the room or we say thank you 0:16:36.080 --> 0:16:37.840 and please, and so that teaches your kid how to 0:16:37.840 --> 0:16:42.240 do those things similarly affection and like mooching and holding 0:16:42.280 --> 0:16:44.040 hands and saying I hope you have a great day, 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:46.080 or Hi, how are you? How is your day? It's 0:16:46.120 --> 0:16:48.600 like showing or like your son. So I think it's 0:16:49.280 --> 0:16:52.040 our dad make the popcorn equal it like that would 0:16:52.080 --> 0:16:54.160 be a good thing for him to say. I just 0:16:54.160 --> 0:16:56.520 thought of that. Wow, that's a good one. And I 0:16:56.560 --> 0:16:59.600 just feel like I've been making the popcorn by yourself 0:16:59.600 --> 0:17:01.680 for both yeah, very long. So I just feel like, ab, 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:04.080 we should start to see you make I got you. 0:17:04.119 --> 0:17:06.040 Why don't we try that tonight? Okay? Cool? I also 0:17:06.080 --> 0:17:08.840 have heard of these parents like doing date nights, so 0:17:08.880 --> 0:17:12.280 our Duela Rebecca Beninatti, who was on the podcast. She 0:17:12.320 --> 0:17:14.320 had always suggested, you guys should always take a date 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:16.440 night and you're only allowed to talk about your kid 0:17:16.920 --> 0:17:19.200 in the first five minutes, and then the kid talk 0:17:19.320 --> 0:17:21.720 is like off limits. Like the moment, like the drinks 0:17:21.800 --> 0:17:23.840 or whatever comes down to the table, that's it for Yeah, 0:17:23.840 --> 0:17:25.760 like you have to talk about other ship, which you 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:28.640 and I I think fail at miserably. Oh my god. 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:31.840 We were at a huge dinner party a couple of 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:34.439 nights ago. It was like a cast party for The Affair, 0:17:34.560 --> 0:17:37.280 which is the show I've been doing. And the uh, 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:40.520 there's all these great people around. We're at this big 0:17:40.560 --> 0:17:42.639 table and was talking about stuffing. Katie and I are 0:17:42.680 --> 0:17:44.600 at the corner of the table just looking at videos 0:17:44.600 --> 0:17:49.000 of Alby's. And that's that's what we're like around other 0:17:49.080 --> 0:17:52.199 people in a in a dinner party situation. Imagine if 0:17:52.200 --> 0:17:54.240 we were just by ourselves at a restaurant. I know 0:17:54.840 --> 0:17:58.720 are supposedly I portant. I don't think we're friends. They 0:17:58.720 --> 0:18:02.240 have a permit it Saturday night babysitter. It's not even 0:18:02.240 --> 0:18:05.960 a question. They are gonna go out regardless of their plans. 0:18:06.480 --> 0:18:07.960 And I think that's kind of a cool thing to do. 0:18:08.000 --> 0:18:10.200 We've never employed that, but I feel, yeah, it's kind 0:18:10.200 --> 0:18:12.520 of a cool thing. You know, you get that date 0:18:12.600 --> 0:18:16.040 night every night every week. Yeah, I think we need 0:18:16.080 --> 0:18:19.200 to do that, right, Yeah, just so you know it's there. 0:18:19.680 --> 0:18:22.239 I agree you have to prioritize the relationship because as 0:18:22.240 --> 0:18:24.199 soon as the baby comes, he's a priority, and then 0:18:24.280 --> 0:18:26.320 works a priority, and all the stuff in the house 0:18:26.400 --> 0:18:29.000 and all, and then your relationship is like the for 0:18:29.040 --> 0:18:30.919 some reason, becomes like the last thing you think of 0:18:31.600 --> 0:18:34.880 until you're like yelling at each other over who who's 0:18:34.920 --> 0:18:39.400 making the popcorn or who's getting how many months? How 0:18:39.400 --> 0:18:45.280 many months? Yeah it's two years. Yeah, yeah, exactly. Thanks 0:18:45.280 --> 0:18:49.719 for that question, Anna, Anna, which non dairy milk is 0:18:49.760 --> 0:18:55.879 superior for Oreo dipping? Oh crap that milk. Yeah, we 0:18:55.920 --> 0:18:58.119 only dip it in that real milk we got non dairy. 0:18:58.240 --> 0:19:04.240 I would say there have been a couple dire situations 0:19:04.280 --> 0:19:06.600 where we've had no milk, but like a bunch of 0:19:06.640 --> 0:19:11.080 oreos and we've used almond milk and it was it failed. 0:19:11.200 --> 0:19:13.919 It's not great for dunking. What I would suggest is 0:19:13.920 --> 0:19:20.920 it's too thin inconsistency. Honestly, what I would suggest, uh Nia, yes, 0:19:21.640 --> 0:19:25.600 waiting for this, just take a bite of the oreo 0:19:25.840 --> 0:19:29.800 dry and then and then hear me out and then 0:19:29.840 --> 0:19:35.320 just took a little bit of water. Wow. Really, how 0:19:35.359 --> 0:19:37.080 about if you did the milk, but you took a 0:19:37.160 --> 0:19:42.960 lactate pill. Oh, like it was. Well, if they just 0:19:43.000 --> 0:19:45.199 can't or there's lactose free milk, but if you just 0:19:45.240 --> 0:19:49.359 really can't drink milk. Yeah, here's the other suggestion. Yeah, 0:19:49.920 --> 0:19:52.560 get a thin oreo, one of the thins from the 0:19:52.560 --> 0:19:55.040 thin line, you know, get either the mint thin or 0:19:55.080 --> 0:19:57.040 the vanilla thin, or the or the regular or the 0:19:57.080 --> 0:20:00.679 regular thin, and pair it with a glass of something 0:20:00.800 --> 0:20:05.760 like refined adult. I actually agree with that. We've done that. 0:20:05.680 --> 0:20:08.199 It's a delicious here's your answer. Don't worry about that, 0:20:08.359 --> 0:20:11.480 and don't worry about the water barf. Sorry, that was 0:20:11.480 --> 0:20:12.959 the first thing that came to mind. I was like 0:20:13.000 --> 0:20:15.760 that somebody was having an oreo emergency, and I jumped 0:20:15.760 --> 0:20:19.720 to a good idea. What is the best way? This 0:20:19.760 --> 0:20:24.400 is court web thirteen saying work court court okay. Maybe 0:20:24.440 --> 0:20:28.000 sure for Courtney okay, or sure for night court okay. 0:20:28.320 --> 0:20:31.720 What is the best way to have found thus far 0:20:32.200 --> 0:20:37.440 to balance work, baby, husband and life for you don't 0:20:37.680 --> 0:20:40.840 know yet? I talked about it on this podcast before 0:20:40.840 --> 0:20:44.119 this brilliant thing, Shonder Rhyme says, which is when people 0:20:44.160 --> 0:20:46.760 ask her how when you do the work life balance 0:20:46.880 --> 0:20:51.320 or the work mom balance, And she says, I don't. 0:20:51.640 --> 0:20:54.639 One day that I'm super succeeding as a mom means 0:20:54.720 --> 0:20:56.600 it's the same day that I'm turning into script late 0:20:56.760 --> 0:20:58.800 or the day that I'm there shooting late means I'm 0:20:58.800 --> 0:21:01.520 not putting my kid to bed. And so I sort 0:21:01.560 --> 0:21:06.440 of that's yes. And I sort of really experienced that 0:21:06.520 --> 0:21:09.600 this summer and Waitress, because I really tried. We went 0:21:09.640 --> 0:21:12.239 and did Waitress on Broadway for like three months, and 0:21:12.280 --> 0:21:14.919 I tried on two show days. We would have two 0:21:14.920 --> 0:21:16.960 shows on Saturdays and two shows on Sundays, and I 0:21:16.960 --> 0:21:18.680 would get out of the musical at five and I 0:21:18.680 --> 0:21:23.440 would race home, do bath, bedtime, nurse, get him down, 0:21:23.480 --> 0:21:25.200 and then race back to the theater by seven thirty 0:21:25.240 --> 0:21:27.800 pm and then do a three hour musical. And Adam 0:21:27.880 --> 0:21:29.240 just made the choice of like I'm just going to 0:21:29.280 --> 0:21:31.199 stay at the theater and like just focus on our 0:21:31.280 --> 0:21:32.959 job and I'm going to see the kid on Monday. 0:21:33.000 --> 0:21:35.720 You know. But but like even in that situation I had, 0:21:35.800 --> 0:21:40.000 I was really balancing like life and work really well, 0:21:40.080 --> 0:21:43.119 but not wife and baby, right, and you were like 0:21:43.240 --> 0:21:47.399 doing work and baby but no life, no life, and 0:21:47.520 --> 0:21:50.199 like I was like completely and I don't think it 0:21:50.280 --> 0:21:52.800