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Speaker 1: Hi, this is Joel and Victorian. So great to have

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Speaker 1: Devotional Calendar. It's full of inspiration and encouragement. It'll help

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Speaker 1: your copy, but enjoy the podcast today. Well, God bless you.

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Speaker 1: It's a joy to come into your homes. And if

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Speaker 1: part of one of our services. I promise you we'll

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Speaker 1: with something funny, and I heard about this six year

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Speaker 1: pastor explained how that was a memorial to all the

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Speaker 1: little boy stood there silently, so concerned. He finally looked

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Speaker 1: o'clock service? Say it like you mean it. This is

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Speaker 1: my Bible. I am what it says. I am. I

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Speaker 1: the word of God. I boldly confess. My mind is alert,

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Speaker 1: In Jesus' name, God bless you. I want to talk

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Speaker 1: to you today about recognizing your value. Too often we

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Speaker 1: base our value on how someone is treating us, how

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Speaker 1: The problem is all of those things can change. If

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Speaker 1: you're getting your value out of how people treat you,

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Speaker 1: to feel devalued. If you're basing your value off of

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Speaker 1: fact that you are a child of the most High God,

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Speaker 1: the creator of the universe, breaths his life into you.

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Speaker 1: How someone treats you doesn't change your value. What they

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Speaker 1: say or do doesn't lessen who you are. Mistakes you've

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Speaker 1: not who you are. You can buy a bigger house,

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Speaker 1: you more influence, but not more value. You can be

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Speaker 1: Why don't you relax. You can't get any more valuable.

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Speaker 1: In Jesus' name. If you receive it, can you say amen? Today?

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Speaker 1: Just say, Lord, Jesus, I repent of my sins. Come

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Speaker 2: it often feels like you'll never get there? Is your

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Speaker 3: You're on the verge of seeing things change in your favor,

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