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Speaker 1: Hey guys, Welcome to this week's episode of the PSD

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Speaker 1: Podcast and Sugar every Day, and I'm super excited about

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Speaker 1: this week's episode. Before we begin, please make sure to

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Speaker 1: Please keep in mind that all of my guests are anonymous.

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Speaker 1: So let's begin this week's episode. So, did you know

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Speaker 1: that ninety percent people are unaware that they have the

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Speaker 1: herpies of virus? Why do you think that because they're

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Speaker 1: not being tested? Um, we live in a world right

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Speaker 1: now that we only focus on what's going to really

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Speaker 1: cause your body some serious harm. If anybody knows how

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Speaker 1: the CDC works, which we get mad at them all

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Speaker 1: the time, but they focus on what's gonna really break

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Speaker 1: down different organs or can cause you to uh if

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Speaker 1: you gave it to somebody else that it can cause

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Speaker 1: them something of the same nature caused them to break

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Speaker 1: down organs, or can't have kids and things like that.

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Speaker 1: But most importantly, most of people, the nine percent don't

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Speaker 1: know it's because it's not included in the STD testing.

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Speaker 1: Really consider STD. Yeah, I'm gonna say I feel like

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Speaker 1: a lot. When I was in my research, UM, I

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Speaker 1: read that a lot. One of the reasons why the

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Speaker 1: doctors don't include it is because it's not really considered

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Speaker 1: STD is more so skin affection. Yeah, but I don't

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Speaker 1: like when they say skin infection because it's not a

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Speaker 1: skin infection. It is contracted skin to skin, but typically

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Speaker 1: it is passed through sexual contact. Now it is other

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Speaker 1: um forms of herpies and pleas, you know, like chicken

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Speaker 1: POGs or um shingles and things like that. But those

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Speaker 1: once again there, yes, chicken pox, shingles um um. I

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Speaker 1: can't remember the other one. You remember it was little

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Speaker 1: mona they used called kissing disease when we're little bit

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Speaker 1: of kids like nobody you know that that's also considered

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Speaker 1: herpes too. So they don't want to clump all those

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Speaker 1: because at the end of their kissing that's not really

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Speaker 1: consider sex. But at the end of the day it

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Speaker 1: can be considered as intimacy. Um. But we also use

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Speaker 1: it because of that number one, because many people get

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Speaker 1: it through kissing um special little kids, you know, you

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Speaker 1: even kissed on as an in thing and mom, oh,

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Speaker 1: so it's my baby. You know, it's really excited. You

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Speaker 1: have to kiss you every time, to see you like

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Speaker 1: Grandma quick, you know her things. So they didn't really

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Speaker 1: want to consider that thinking that, oh my god, I

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Speaker 1: gave a kid to STD That is that's scary to

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Speaker 1: hear because the first thing, you don't think that child

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Speaker 1: got molested or raved or things like that, and you

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Speaker 1: never want to think that as a parent. Um, So

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Speaker 1: they didn't want to clunk it because of that. And

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Speaker 1: then at that is because many people, well CDC believes

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Speaker 1: and I understand their point of view is it's not deadly,

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Speaker 1: it's not gonna kill you, you know, manageable and things

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Speaker 1: like that. But this flip side is it won't do

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Speaker 1: that physically depending on how the virus. It's a simple case,

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Speaker 1: because many people have some difficult cases depending on if

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Speaker 1: they have immune diseases already. Um, the way that they contracted.

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Speaker 1: You know, if you get it into your eye, it

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Speaker 1: can be an issue. You know, things like that. You know,

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Speaker 1: handle that type of virus um. So this thing is

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Speaker 1: And then they think about you know, the two point

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Speaker 1: number of things. When we get into your story, what

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Speaker 1: are the misconceptions you want to clear up about her beast? Okay,

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Speaker 1: the misconceptions is everybody is not shrowing everybody. That's that's

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Speaker 1: so not true, Like I can't stand like she had

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Speaker 1: true um at all. Like many many people that I

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Speaker 1: And I mean, you know, if it's multiple of you

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Speaker 1: So I don't want I want to kill that misconception

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Speaker 1: to be promiscuous to get an STD. That's not true.

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Speaker 1: You only have sex one time. You don't even have

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Speaker 1: need to die when it comes to her fees, because

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Speaker 1: findling is enough, is enough? Yeah, it's get in contact,

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Speaker 1: you put your hands down there. It can happen. You know,

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Speaker 1: like a little kid. You know, I can definitely see it.

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Speaker 1: We fondling because if you play your hands or somebody

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Speaker 1: Another misconception is herpes. It's just like clock of bumps

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Speaker 1: sick of sin a breather commercials not saying her pies sinplacefies.

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Speaker 1: It drives me bananas because most people like close clothes

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Speaker 1: type one and type two can be oral or gentital.

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Speaker 1: For so long based off science in the beginning, you know,

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Speaker 1: it's all the same, and it's different persons to person truthfully. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So how did you find out that you had her

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Speaker 1: beef for me? So? I was in college. Um, I

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Speaker 1: went I was first went to test keys to see you,

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Speaker 1: ain't even gonna lie. I was like, this is a

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Speaker 1: We really got close. I end up spending night one night,

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Speaker 1: we end up having sex. Now it was protected six.

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Speaker 1: still get her fees. Even if it was protected six

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Speaker 1: nine right. It's skin, the skin, you know, and that's

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Speaker 1: Condon only protects so much. It's only covering his penis,

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Speaker 1: is that? At that time, I had a cluster of bumps.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow. So I was like, what is this? You

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Speaker 1: know type things. So I'm thinking, like he gave me herpes.

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Speaker 1: And you know, everyone's like, you don't know nothing about

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Speaker 1: her pies, but you know it's herpes. We all all

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Speaker 1: know a little bit, you know, if you was raised.

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Speaker 1: But I'm still in my twenties, late twenties, so I

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Speaker 1: She sounds like a real nurse, like, well, based off

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Speaker 1: your symptoms, this sounds like you have I was like,

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Speaker 1: stuff can happen. Um, some people get cisted. You know,

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00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:25,760
Speaker 1: it's so many things that can happen, so um so

423
00:20:25,920 --> 00:20:27,639
Speaker 1: it do. It can look like a hair bumb for

424
00:20:27,680 --> 00:20:29,679
Speaker 1: some people just because it's where it is and it's

425
00:20:29,720 --> 00:20:31,520
Speaker 1: hair right there, so it's looking like the hair is

426
00:20:31,560 --> 00:20:34,119
Speaker 1: in it, and it's really not. It's just the bump

427
00:20:34,280 --> 00:20:36,080
Speaker 1: is raised and the hair is on top of it.

428
00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:38,520
Speaker 1: It just looks that way. Um, Like you said, some

429
00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:41,639
Speaker 1: guys it's just a jock it for them, um. And

430
00:20:41,800 --> 00:20:43,840
Speaker 1: some people it's a bump but it don't hurt. Some

431
00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:48,000
Speaker 1: people are like cut. Some people you don't get any bombs, cuts, nothing,

432
00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:50,800
Speaker 1: it's just pained, like it's feel like a throb and

433
00:20:50,920 --> 00:20:53,040
Speaker 1: feeling you know, like you know, like you know, you

434
00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:57,840
Speaker 1: little and you hit your knee and it's throbbing. People like, oh, now,

435
00:20:58,000 --> 00:21:01,359
Speaker 1: it's the systems. Can the systems consistent? Because I know

436
00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:04,439
Speaker 1: it's I have, I have. I had a friend she

437
00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:07,159
Speaker 1: found out she had her fees, and when she found

438
00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:09,359
Speaker 1: out she was gonna take she took the medicine. Of

439
00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:12,679
Speaker 1: the medicine made it worse. So she started taking it

440
00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:16,720
Speaker 1: for some people. And the thing about I'm gonna say this,

441
00:21:16,800 --> 00:21:19,199
Speaker 1: she may assume that it got worse. But that's one

442
00:21:19,200 --> 00:21:21,760
Speaker 1: thing I'm gonna tell you about the medicine. The medicine

443
00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:24,760
Speaker 1: it's best used. And then they said us to us

444
00:21:24,760 --> 00:21:26,320
Speaker 1: all the time, but we can't hear nothing because we

445
00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:30,280
Speaker 1: just freaking out it's best used when you first first

446
00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:32,639
Speaker 1: get a symptom. So most of us go into the

447
00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:35,960
Speaker 1: planet and we all away, all away in the outbreak

448
00:21:36,359 --> 00:21:38,600
Speaker 1: that medicine ain't gonna do. You're nothing. It's just gonna

449
00:21:38,600 --> 00:21:40,600
Speaker 1: seem like it's getting worse, but it's really not. The

450
00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:42,440
Speaker 1: outbreak is just doing what it's gonna do. It's gonna

451
00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:44,600
Speaker 1: go all the way to its full capacity and it's

452
00:21:44,600 --> 00:21:46,959
Speaker 1: gonna come all the way down. So really, the medicine

453
00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:50,000
Speaker 1: probably didn't do that. That's what she thought, and she's

454
00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:51,919
Speaker 1: thinking that the medicine gonna speed it up. It's not

455
00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:55,520
Speaker 1: like a um antibiotic. When you start taking antibotic if

456
00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:57,680
Speaker 1: you feel better now now, now, baby, they don't work

457
00:21:57,720 --> 00:22:01,080
Speaker 1: like this. This sucks. I oh you late, you're really

458
00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:04,600
Speaker 1: that medicine don't feel like a sugar pill. Mm hmmm.

459
00:22:05,119 --> 00:22:06,960
Speaker 1: And they don't feel it's gonna feel like nothing because

460
00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:09,359
Speaker 1: you're already in it. So I'll tell anybody who's listening

461
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 1: to this or have a friend if they feel a tingle.

462
00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:15,399
Speaker 1: I always tell people, go get tested. And I know

463
00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:17,399
Speaker 1: you get scared. You don't want to find out you

464
00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:20,120
Speaker 1: may hurt other people. Horror stories all that stuff, take

465
00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:22,159
Speaker 1: the horror story and find out the truth, because you

466
00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:24,160
Speaker 1: may go in there and find out it's something else.

467
00:22:24,200 --> 00:22:27,960
Speaker 1: It's so many different conditions out here. It's unreal. It

468
00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:30,240
Speaker 1: may not be herpies. You may it be allergic to

469
00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:34,280
Speaker 1: yourseulf or alergic to your man sing. It's real. Okay,

470
00:22:34,560 --> 00:22:37,439
Speaker 1: that's true. Um, how was it telling people that you

471
00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:39,680
Speaker 1: have her bees? Like as far as like dating, because

472
00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:42,720
Speaker 1: I know you have two sons, and that's another that's

473
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:45,960
Speaker 1: another misconception. And I've read that. Oh because when she

474
00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:47,840
Speaker 1: found out, she was like, I'm afraid to have kids

475
00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:50,440
Speaker 1: now because they can have it. And I'm like, girl,

476
00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:52,680
Speaker 1: I think you can have kids. You just have to

477
00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:55,960
Speaker 1: be a little crocious about it. Yeah, yeah, you have kids.

478
00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:57,960
Speaker 1: So I have my first son, which is nine. I

479
00:22:58,040 --> 00:23:00,360
Speaker 1: had him literally a year after I found it April.

480
00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:03,760
Speaker 1: I had him the next year. Um, and I was terrified.

481
00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:06,280
Speaker 1: I don't gonna lie, it's gonna get it. I'm thinking

482
00:23:06,320 --> 00:23:09,199
Speaker 1: like HIV. You know, at that time, HIV information was

483
00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:12,200
Speaker 1: coming out, but that's what we always assume. Everything functioned

484
00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:15,000
Speaker 1: ass um So I'm thinking, like I got the virusally

485
00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:16,879
Speaker 1: gonna automatic get the virus and all and stuff. Like that,

486
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:19,080
Speaker 1: but that's not how the virus work. The baby will

487
00:23:19,119 --> 00:23:22,520
Speaker 1: have to come in contact with the physical outbreak. So

488
00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:24,480
Speaker 1: the baby had to come through the birth canal and

489
00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:26,760
Speaker 1: I had to have an outbreak for him to get it,

490
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:29,120
Speaker 1: and at that time I wasn't having one. And when

491
00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:32,480
Speaker 1: you get to your third trimester, the doctor always like, okay,

492
00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:34,720
Speaker 1: we get to the third trimester, that's gonna head to

493
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:37,720
Speaker 1: get your anti virus to kind of reduce the chance

494
00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 1: you have an outbreak. Like I said about the medicine,

495
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:44,200
Speaker 1: they don't prevent anything. It assists, it assist. But if

496
00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:46,520
Speaker 1: you're going to labor and you have an outbreak, which

497
00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:48,760
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie, they all up in your stuff.

498
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:52,320
Speaker 1: You okay, miss Foby, are you okay? It's okay. Then

499
00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:54,479
Speaker 1: we talked about your you know what we need talk

500
00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:58,120
Speaker 1: in front everything. Like they they're really like serious because

501
00:23:58,160 --> 00:24:00,880
Speaker 1: they know that baby come into contact with that, that

502
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,280
Speaker 1: that baby can go blind. It can kill a baby.

503
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:07,480
Speaker 1: Yeah I read that too, like true, Well yeah it

504
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:09,240
Speaker 1: can kill a baby. That can It can get really bad,

505
00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:12,320
Speaker 1: but it can really kill kill the baby. Yeah it can't.

506
00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:14,040
Speaker 1: And this is not to scared people, but this is

507
00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:16,840
Speaker 1: this is for you to know. And that's why doctors

508
00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:19,240
Speaker 1: don't think it's a big deal. They only care when

509
00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:21,360
Speaker 1: it gets down to that third trauma, so when you're

510
00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:23,040
Speaker 1: going to labor, because at this point, you can have

511
00:24:23,119 --> 00:24:26,240
Speaker 1: this baby any time now. Um, So that's why it's

512
00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:28,880
Speaker 1: very important. I tell anybody, you know, if it's your first,

513
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:31,240
Speaker 1: I'll take the medicine. There's nothing wrong with taking not

514
00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:33,679
Speaker 1: if the medicine don't work for you or cause you

515
00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:36,280
Speaker 1: to have um other health conditions, or it's just not

516
00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:38,480
Speaker 1: working for you. I get it. You don't have to

517
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:41,320
Speaker 1: just try to find another method, which is other supplements

518
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:43,320
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. But I would tell anybody please

519
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:45,280
Speaker 1: talk to your doctor. Don't be going out here jumping

520
00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:47,000
Speaker 1: off and I don't want to take all these supplements.

521
00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:50,160
Speaker 1: Hold up, you're pregnant. Remember, it's just not your life.

522
00:24:50,280 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 1: You got another life, you know. So I'll tell people,

523
00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:56,199
Speaker 1: you know, please talk to your o bees about what

524
00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:57,919
Speaker 1: you're talking or even talk to your doulas. If you

525
00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:00,080
Speaker 1: get a doula, you don't talk to them about what

526
00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:01,879
Speaker 1: you want to do and the route you want to

527
00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:04,040
Speaker 1: take because you don't always have to do that. And

528
00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:05,800
Speaker 1: then even for the young ladies, who are just like,

529
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:07,960
Speaker 1: you know what, girl, I am terrified. I don't want

530
00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:10,239
Speaker 1: to do it. I'm scared that I maybe have an

531
00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 1: outbreak and I don't know about it. Because some women

532
00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:14,719
Speaker 1: have outbreaks in their service. They don't have what they

533
00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:18,199
Speaker 1: have it in. They don't have the outside of vagina,

534
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:20,520
Speaker 1: so the doctor won't know, you know what I mean,

535
00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:24,160
Speaker 1: open it homes like that. Correct. So that's another thing.

536
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:26,000
Speaker 1: If you know you're that type of woman that you

537
00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:29,720
Speaker 1: know you have your your outbreaks inside. I would just say, look,

538
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:35,480
Speaker 1: let's schedule, umse I know recently you all schedule and

539
00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:37,520
Speaker 1: see section because they're just terrified, and I said, there's

540
00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:39,920
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with that. Just have a support system to

541
00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:42,920
Speaker 1: get you through your healing process and you're fine. Right.

542
00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:48,840
Speaker 1: How was it tell your family? Now, you're funny, Um,

543
00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:52,560
Speaker 1: I think about it is. I did not tell no.

544
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 1: I told nobody with my friends. My friends are like

545
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:57,960
Speaker 1: my best sties, they're my sisters, so they are who

546
00:25:58,000 --> 00:25:59,600
Speaker 1: knew and every other dude that had six when they

547
00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:02,040
Speaker 1: all know. But and then the day I didn't tell

548
00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 1: my family at first because my mom was a toughie.

549
00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:09,880
Speaker 1: You know, we get alone now, but she's a tough

550
00:26:10,520 --> 00:26:13,359
Speaker 1: you know, I don't have to ask no, you know,

551
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:15,080
Speaker 1: and Manna asked you a bunch of questions. You want

552
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:19,000
Speaker 1: to ask no questions, you know, Like so, um, at

553
00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:21,280
Speaker 1: this time, I had got to a point where I

554
00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 1: was in the support group and I was, you know,

555
00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:24,919
Speaker 1: really to a point like I can live with this.

556
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:27,400
Speaker 1: I'm fine, you know. I wasn't letting affect my life.

557
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:29,439
Speaker 1: And I started helping other people like kind of like

558
00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:32,000
Speaker 1: just being a support system or quote on quote on quote,

559
00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:35,359
Speaker 1: like a cheerleader on the side, you know, anything like

560
00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 1: that if you want to say. So, I was just

561
00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:38,320
Speaker 1: helping other people and I was like, oh my god,

562
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:40,399
Speaker 1: I really like doing this. So I got to a

563
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:42,399
Speaker 1: point like, you know what, I'm going to start helping

564
00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:44,800
Speaker 1: other people do this. I'm gonna be activist whatever. So

565
00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:47,239
Speaker 1: I started doing that heavy. By this time, I end

566
00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:49,959
Speaker 1: up getting married, um and all this stuff, and I

567
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:52,679
Speaker 1: even had my second son by then. I told my

568
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:54,320
Speaker 1: ex husband, I was like, hey, you know, I think

569
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:55,760
Speaker 1: I know what I want to do all this stuff

570
00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:57,439
Speaker 1: like that, which I don't think he was listening to

571
00:26:57,440 --> 00:27:00,000
Speaker 1: me because he had a whole when he figured out

572
00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:05,600
Speaker 1: what I posted. So yeah, but do you think It's

573
00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:08,880
Speaker 1: funny how like in that particular situation, you're with somebody, right,

574
00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:11,960
Speaker 1: he knows that you have it, and he's comfortable with

575
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:14,479
Speaker 1: it because you're married, y'all have a kid. Right. But

576
00:27:14,480 --> 00:27:18,480
Speaker 1: then it's crazy how when he found out everybody else

577
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:25,800
Speaker 1: news freaking problem. Yeah, well, people are we are so stigmatized,

578
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 1: especially in the United States. We are so stigmatized. We

579
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:31,320
Speaker 1: do not want to fall with any any stigma. We

580
00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:33,320
Speaker 1: don't want to be We don't we don't want it,

581
00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 1: Like stigmas here in the United States are so horrible. Um.

582
00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 1: Plus we're on social media, so who knows who he's

583
00:27:39,320 --> 00:27:41,760
Speaker 1: trying to impress and in the time frame. But after that,

584
00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:44,440
Speaker 1: he was like, why haven't ready embossed me? Because everybody

585
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:47,560
Speaker 1: the whole flo like, oh we still love y'all, that

586
00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:50,800
Speaker 1: it's gonna be okay. He's like, what that he can

587
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:55,959
Speaker 1: everybody talking about? But no question? Can he get it

588
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 1: from you? Or was he like taking something? No he

589
00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:02,280
Speaker 1: could me. But um, from what I know, if he

590
00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:04,879
Speaker 1: never got it from me, Um, but I end up

591
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 1: getting it from him. Interesting, Like I end up find

592
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:10,000
Speaker 1: I got type with two Type one, which I don't

593
00:28:10,000 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 1: think he even knew he had, which that happens like

594
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:14,919
Speaker 1: if a person don't know it. And when I started

595
00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:19,160
Speaker 1: dating him, I didn't know half of what I know now. Um,

596
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:22,040
Speaker 1: I ain't even feel to assist half of what I

597
00:28:22,080 --> 00:28:24,080
Speaker 1: know now, Like, no, bro, you don't get tested and

598
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 1: I'm gonna see these peper words. You know. I wasn't

599
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:30,439
Speaker 1: still at that point either, So um, now, like I

600
00:28:30,440 --> 00:28:32,240
Speaker 1: didn't know he had it, and I end up when

601
00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:34,960
Speaker 1: we end up getting divorce, well wounds in the process

602
00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:37,000
Speaker 1: again divorce, we both end up getting tested and I

603
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 1: found out I had type one, and I was like, well,

604
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:41,760
Speaker 1: it came from you because I didn't do Um, okay,

605
00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:44,720
Speaker 1: the same described with the differences between type one and

606
00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:49,960
Speaker 1: type two. Okay, no difference, it's not no difference, right,

607
00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:52,719
Speaker 1: m hmm. It's no difference. But the thing about it is,

608
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:56,000
Speaker 1: like I was telling you earlier, you know, in the beginning,

609
00:28:56,360 --> 00:29:01,000
Speaker 1: it was a big difference because type one was considered oral.

610
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:03,320
Speaker 1: I think that's why it's trying to confused to me,

611
00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 1: because like it's it's still the same thing that people

612
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:08,640
Speaker 1: still labeled as you have type one. So let's say

613
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 1: type of one is the boosters and the fever cold

614
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:14,240
Speaker 1: stores or and then people consider type two as a

615
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:17,520
Speaker 1: genl to herpees and everything within that category. So it's

616
00:29:17,560 --> 00:29:19,240
Speaker 1: kind of confusing, but like you said, it's still the

617
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 1: same thing. It's still the same thing. We just I

618
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:27,479
Speaker 1: guess we just love labels because scientifically, that's still what

619
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:30,280
Speaker 1: they're doing. I hope soon enough that get over. They're

620
00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 1: really trying to do away with it, because there's no point.

621
00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 1: It's better off saying hey, you have herpes, and you

622
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:37,360
Speaker 1: gotta figure out where you're gonna have your outright, because

623
00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:40,120
Speaker 1: type one and type to have two different sites where

624
00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:42,560
Speaker 1: some people have both types. Like for me, I got

625
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:44,960
Speaker 1: both types, but I really, deep down, I'm not even

626
00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:47,160
Speaker 1: gonna lie I think both of my types are general.

627
00:29:47,600 --> 00:29:50,440
Speaker 1: I truly do, because I don't get any oral But

628
00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:53,880
Speaker 1: I say like, I used to have my outbreaks in

629
00:29:53,920 --> 00:29:55,840
Speaker 1: one area, and then I turn around and started having

630
00:29:55,880 --> 00:29:57,880
Speaker 1: my outbreaks in another area, and I was like, well,

631
00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:00,440
Speaker 1: then I started thinking like, well, my egg used to

632
00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:04,520
Speaker 1: like doing so I was like, well he had, so

633
00:30:04,560 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 1: I was like, well, that could be the reason why

634
00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 1: it's there, you know what, you know, I feel like,

635
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:11,720
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, you can get the

636
00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:14,200
Speaker 1: same type of the same areas general as general, and

637
00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:17,800
Speaker 1: you know, you just would never know. So I really

638
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:20,360
Speaker 1: hope one day that they really do away with it,

639
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:22,360
Speaker 1: because people called me all the time, like, please, I

640
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:24,400
Speaker 1: don't understand the types. Ain't not to understand when you

641
00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:26,040
Speaker 1: have outburst. I don't know what we don't have to

642
00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 1: figure that out right now, explaining explaining the mental part

643
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 1: of it, because I know when my friend found out,

644
00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:37,400
Speaker 1: I mean, it really sucked her up, like and I

645
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:39,840
Speaker 1: couldn't like don't jack dude, was just like just beat

646
00:30:39,880 --> 00:30:43,040
Speaker 1: her for her. And I started educating myself because sometimes

647
00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:45,480
Speaker 1: you don't really pay attention to anything until it sects

648
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:48,760
Speaker 1: you or fast close to home. Correct, So, like, what

649
00:30:48,840 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 1: are some things that you do to like get back

650
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:53,640
Speaker 1: to your old self and like feeling like yourself. First

651
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:56,400
Speaker 1: of all, the first thing was talking to somebody who

652
00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:58,840
Speaker 1: knows you, you know, like you had to jump And

653
00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:00,920
Speaker 1: I'm so happy she had you because she had to

654
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 1: talk with somebody who knew her personality, knew her characters,

655
00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 1: knew her work, knew who she was before this virus

656
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:09,719
Speaker 1: seemed like it just took over her whole being, you

657
00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:12,360
Speaker 1: know what I mean. It's somebody who can remind her like, no, girl,

658
00:31:12,400 --> 00:31:14,600
Speaker 1: you this girl. Now you're doing this girl, you bomb.

659
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:17,200
Speaker 1: You know you kind of need that because it makes

660
00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 1: it really hard to go through this because it's virus.

661
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:21,200
Speaker 1: I swear to god, it changed you. You feel like

662
00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:24,680
Speaker 1: you become the virus and all the time you're not

663
00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 1: the virus. The virus got his own characteristics, it got

664
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:30,080
Speaker 1: his own symptoms, it has its own being. You have

665
00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:32,600
Speaker 1: your own It's just y'all just kind of came together.

666
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 1: Y'all still too separate people, you know, I mean it is,

667
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 1: and you really couldn't be trusting these niggas out of

668
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:41,280
Speaker 1: here because I mean she wasn't promisqualist and something like

669
00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:43,000
Speaker 1: she was like regular, we have fun, like you know

670
00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:46,600
Speaker 1: how you have fun, And she was with this guy

671
00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:51,760
Speaker 1: and she ended up having sex our conda and like

672
00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:54,560
Speaker 1: she's to this day, she's still afraid to tell him

673
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 1: because she has it, because she's afraid that he's gonna

674
00:31:56,800 --> 00:31:59,040
Speaker 1: be like, oh, you gave it to me, like black

675
00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:02,600
Speaker 1: out what Depending on what type of duty is, you know,

676
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:04,239
Speaker 1: if you've got those type of dudes who in a

677
00:32:04,280 --> 00:32:08,480
Speaker 1: limelight and all this stuff, that's difficult because at the

678
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 1: end of day, and I had a young lady the same,

679
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:15,720
Speaker 1: like she's like this model whatever for Caribbean whatever. I

680
00:32:15,720 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 1: can't even say, you know, when they have the big

681
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 1: festivals and something like that. So she's like one of all,

682
00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:22,560
Speaker 1: she's well known, and you know, she thinks she got

683
00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:25,000
Speaker 1: it from a guy within that industry. She's like, I

684
00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:29,360
Speaker 1: can't say a word because kill her and him, you

685
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 1: know what I mean. So I said then that I said,

686
00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:34,000
Speaker 1: but you still gotta say something for the sake of

687
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:37,600
Speaker 1: not even fully nobody else but him to know. Now

688
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:39,440
Speaker 1: what you want to say is what he want to say.

689
00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:41,960
Speaker 1: But you gotta be responsible. And I ain't gonna lie.

690
00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:43,840
Speaker 1: I ain't never go back and say nothing to either,

691
00:32:43,880 --> 00:32:45,920
Speaker 1: because I'm like, you know, nio, that's how she feel.

692
00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:49,240
Speaker 1: I know, she's like, you know what you did? Hey?

693
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 1: They don't be knowing. And that's the same party. They

694
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,600
Speaker 1: really don't because most guys are a systematic. When I

695
00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 1: meet a systematic, they're not having any symptoms. They still able,

696
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 1: the virus is still shedding, and when I'm and sharing,

697
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 1: the virus is still present. For example, chicken chicken pots,

698
00:33:04,160 --> 00:33:06,720
Speaker 1: so you know, like, oh my god, who got chicken pops?

699
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:09,200
Speaker 1: Oh my god, everybody body got chicken pops because the

700
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:12,320
Speaker 1: chicken pops still there, you just didn't see it. Everybody

701
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:15,200
Speaker 1: freaking out because they think all crop everybody may have it.

702
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:18,520
Speaker 1: That's kind of virus frounction as well. Just because you

703
00:33:18,560 --> 00:33:21,120
Speaker 1: don't always see it doesn't mean the virus is not there.

704
00:33:22,920 --> 00:33:24,800
Speaker 1: The woman's body is a little bit more different than

705
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 1: a man's, but it does a lot more happens within

706
00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:29,960
Speaker 1: with our regina opposed to a penis, because you know,

707
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:36,080
Speaker 1: we have our periods, we clowning anything though, I mean anything,

708
00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:38,840
Speaker 1: And I feel like that's the thing. We're just really

709
00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:43,080
Speaker 1: we're way more sensitive to than men um and men's

710
00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 1: bodies are just made totally different from ours. So I

711
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:48,040
Speaker 1: think that's another reason why it seems like it pops

712
00:33:48,120 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 1: up on women more, or it seems like, and I've

713
00:33:50,360 --> 00:33:53,640
Speaker 1: seen this, somebody say, well, it's a woman's STV. No,

714
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 1: it's not. It's just women are literally somebody said that.

715
00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 1: I said no, and the guy said that rich reading

716
00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:04,479
Speaker 1: a book. Um, but um, it's not that women are

717
00:34:04,520 --> 00:34:07,880
Speaker 1: just heavily affected because we're the ones having these horrible outbursts,

718
00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:09,960
Speaker 1: not saying that men are. Now, I'm not gonna say that,

719
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 1: but many women are suffering. They're really suffering because the

720
00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:16,080
Speaker 1: outbursts are so bad. And as women, we got the

721
00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:19,080
Speaker 1: hormone added to ours. Yo, I would just want to say,

722
00:34:19,080 --> 00:34:22,080
Speaker 1: even if you're on birth control, your stressed style, your

723
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:26,600
Speaker 1: hormones are different. That's another thing that's just triggers in itself.

724
00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:29,359
Speaker 1: And many people don't know what contrigger it is. You know,

725
00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:33,160
Speaker 1: for women, is our hormones, our mistrual cycles contribute us.

726
00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 1: Getting on birth control con trigger it. Stress, contrigger it.

727
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:40,200
Speaker 1: Um being in the sun literally like you like it's

728
00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:45,319
Speaker 1: a bake, No, ma'am, your baking days are over at

729
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:46,759
Speaker 1: the end of the day. That can cause you to

730
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 1: have an outbreak. Um, lack of sleep, what you're eating,

731
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:54,480
Speaker 1: drinking alcohol, um, friction for sect you don't making sure

732
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:58,840
Speaker 1: you and I'm gonna I'm gonna be so transparent, like literally,

733
00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:03,240
Speaker 1: I swear it changed your moisture pattern, like it changed.

734
00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 1: If a woman who knows when I'm talking about, they're like, girl, yes,

735
00:35:06,280 --> 00:35:09,360
Speaker 1: they don't seem like it's way. No, it changes m

736
00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:13,919
Speaker 1: Also now adding lubricant is important or making sure you're

737
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:16,719
Speaker 1: really ready and communicating that to your partner that all

738
00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:19,400
Speaker 1: the baby just because feel good to you don't feel

739
00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:22,279
Speaker 1: good to me, you know, not for nothing, like you said,

740
00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:24,279
Speaker 1: just making sure you have the extra motion because if

741
00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:27,520
Speaker 1: you're not completely wet down there or fully west, I

742
00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:30,680
Speaker 1: said that ship is irritating. Oh yeah, it'll make you

743
00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:35,280
Speaker 1: swell up, it'll make something wrong. Is just you're just swallen.

744
00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:37,839
Speaker 1: But men don't know the different. It feels good to them,

745
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 1: but I said, it don't feel good to us. So

746
00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:42,000
Speaker 1: I would say to him, my ladies, please communicate if

747
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:44,319
Speaker 1: he ain't you know, it ain't him, it's just your

748
00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:49,759
Speaker 1: body is just like not yet. Yeah, you know, even

749
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:55,319
Speaker 1: if you don't have her bees like yeah, yeah, it's

750
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:57,720
Speaker 1: important to communicate it because gods don't know the difference.

751
00:35:57,760 --> 00:35:59,640
Speaker 1: They don't know. To them, it's like, oh girl, you good,

752
00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:07,600
Speaker 1: I'm no, I'm not. It's driving. So I know. This

753
00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:10,080
Speaker 1: is like our second or third time speaking. And one

754
00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:12,040
Speaker 1: of the things that you said that really stood out

755
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:14,479
Speaker 1: is um, one of the main reasons why you became

756
00:36:14,520 --> 00:36:16,600
Speaker 1: a life coaches because you didn't see anybody that looked

757
00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 1: like you. And I think that was just so important

758
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:21,719
Speaker 1: that you said that, because I feel like a lot

759
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:24,279
Speaker 1: of times when we do go through things like I

760
00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:26,760
Speaker 1: had an episode with a woman and she was a Surrogan.

761
00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:29,440
Speaker 1: I never saw a black surrogan before. Girl. When I'm

762
00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 1: out hearing that podcast, I say, girl, you better girl

763
00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:41,239
Speaker 1: to twofold Asian babies. Baby. When to hear that, I

764
00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:44,680
Speaker 1: was like, oh thank you. Yeah. So when I heard

765
00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:47,160
Speaker 1: your story and I'm just like wow, like to see

766
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:50,040
Speaker 1: a woman of color and proudly saying like I got

767
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:52,240
Speaker 1: hurt peace and so what, I think that's so empowered

768
00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:54,919
Speaker 1: because I mean, we already got word twice as hard

769
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:57,960
Speaker 1: just to get half as far. So for you to

770
00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:01,480
Speaker 1: like stand up in truth and just be proud of it,

771
00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:05,000
Speaker 1: I thought that was amazing. But we have to in

772
00:37:05,160 --> 00:37:08,319
Speaker 1: this with us, as we know in our community, we

773
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:10,239
Speaker 1: have to have one of us stand up for us

774
00:37:10,239 --> 00:37:13,120
Speaker 1: to feel empowered. And you know that's just how it

775
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:14,760
Speaker 1: works for us. And you know it like I gotta

776
00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:17,080
Speaker 1: feel like my sister and my sister can get through it.

777
00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:20,239
Speaker 1: I can get through it too, because we we we

778
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:22,680
Speaker 1: we we work, we come through the same bloodline. I'm

779
00:37:22,719 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 1: gonna be good. Is she good? You know? But that

780
00:37:25,040 --> 00:37:28,360
Speaker 1: stakable within our community is so heavy that makes me

781
00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 1: up because social media may say a hard so more

782
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:35,920
Speaker 1: than or be truthful or even wants to help people

783
00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 1: because people always have something to say. But I got

784
00:37:39,040 --> 00:37:40,960
Speaker 1: into a place where what you're gonna say about me,

785
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:44,399
Speaker 1: I'm home and I was having fun. What you're gonna

786
00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:48,200
Speaker 1: say as what else? Leave me alone. I'm not doing

787
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:50,920
Speaker 1: it what you're doing. I was like, just because you

788
00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 1: think you're better, you're not better, and you'll be the

789
00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:56,520
Speaker 1: one in my inbox crying because your boyfriend don't cheated

790
00:37:56,560 --> 00:37:57,960
Speaker 1: on you, and he didn't. He just didn't know he

791
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:01,680
Speaker 1: had it. Now I'm defending them. M hm. You know.

792
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:04,240
Speaker 1: So the people who always do that, it's just because

793
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:06,359
Speaker 1: that's what they believe, and they're sadly to say they

794
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:08,680
Speaker 1: think they're better than people, and you're not better than anybody.

795
00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 1: And I kind of want to stand up and say,

796
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:13,360
Speaker 1: look y'all, we know what we do behind these dolls,

797
00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 1: and we need to stand up and say it's happening

798
00:38:15,560 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 1: to us too, because they're saying we're number one for

799
00:38:18,840 --> 00:38:22,640
Speaker 1: like everything else, which I freaking don't believe, but they're

800
00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 1: saying we're number one for this too. So we have

801
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:26,960
Speaker 1: to have a face. You can't say we're number one

802
00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:31,279
Speaker 1: and have no face. It's stupid. That's why you gotta

803
00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:33,319
Speaker 1: have a face for what you say is number one.

804
00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:37,839
Speaker 1: So I'd say, let's create the face. And now I'm

805
00:38:37,880 --> 00:38:39,880
Speaker 1: under You've got a lot of people that reach out

806
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:42,479
Speaker 1: to see like a lot of women of color. Oh yeah,

807
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:44,640
Speaker 1: I have a lot of women you know of other

808
00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 1: races reach out to me all the time. And I

809
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:47,680
Speaker 1: love it because I was like, at the end of

810
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:49,760
Speaker 1: the day, if you and I say this on my YouTube,

811
00:38:49,800 --> 00:38:51,319
Speaker 1: because I do have a YouTube, taln, I's like, if

812
00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:53,400
Speaker 1: you connect with me, if it's something about me that

813
00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:58,200
Speaker 1: you connect with, please please come, men to come. I'm

814
00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:00,480
Speaker 1: not gonna make you feel worse, you know. But I said,

815
00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:02,520
Speaker 1: the end of the day, I literally had women somebody.

816
00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:04,839
Speaker 1: So you're just gonna talk to African American women, yes,

817
00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:10,400
Speaker 1: because you have someone that was so crazy. I'm so

818
00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:13,359
Speaker 1: happy us said that. I don't know. I had went

819
00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:15,320
Speaker 1: out to eat with my home girl and she's white,

820
00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:17,560
Speaker 1: and this is when I had first started the podcast,

821
00:39:17,560 --> 00:39:19,880
Speaker 1: and she was like, I mean, it's gonna mostly be

822
00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:23,520
Speaker 1: for um, just for black women, and I was like,

823
00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:27,000
Speaker 1: why not. I said, you have plenty, plenty of resources

824
00:39:28,040 --> 00:39:30,920
Speaker 1: it's not fair, Like if you look I wanna pull

825
00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:35,200
Speaker 1: the race car, it ain't fair. We want to do

826
00:39:35,280 --> 00:39:38,359
Speaker 1: something for us. It's wrong, but that's just when you're

827
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 1: used to doing that, and it's not fully then, because

828
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:43,040
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna knock you for what you're just getting

829
00:39:43,080 --> 00:39:45,440
Speaker 1: blessed with. You're getting vest with the benefits. You know,

830
00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:48,000
Speaker 1: you're used to having all of the resources. And when

831
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:49,880
Speaker 1: we decide we want to create a resources like me

832
00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:54,040
Speaker 1: to add me no, not YouTube. So I'm sying, but

833
00:39:54,120 --> 00:39:56,239
Speaker 1: I tell people, if you connect, and I'm not a

834
00:39:56,239 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 1: person to feel bad, Like if you want to connect

835
00:39:58,040 --> 00:39:59,840
Speaker 1: with me cool, I'm willing to help you. If you

836
00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:02,240
Speaker 1: want to connect with other women who look like you, cool,

837
00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:04,359
Speaker 1: I got a group for them. But I'm gonna be honest.

838
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:06,840
Speaker 1: You're gonna come back because you won't real you want honest,

839
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:09,719
Speaker 1: You want bonus. You want somebody who's gonna be transparent

840
00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:13,239
Speaker 1: and keep it open with you. I'm not going to

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Speaker 1: sugarcoat for you. I have no reason to sugarcoat. I've

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Speaker 1: been there, I've done that. I can relate to any woman.

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Speaker 1: Nobody's perfect. I talk to women who are less miss

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Speaker 1: I tapped the gay guys and they and I was like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: because I'm your bestie, we get it. I love me

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Speaker 1: in a situation where it's been difficult for you to

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Speaker 1: consult with somebody. Oh h, I ain't say no, not really.

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Speaker 1: Now I have some people who are difficult in the

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Speaker 1: beginning because they're just nervous, you know. They're like, oh,

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Speaker 1: can I trust her? Or can she relate? Or is

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Speaker 1: she gonna be judgmental? Or is she real? Because many

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00:40:52,200 --> 00:40:54,440
Speaker 1: people reach out to me, they come from our YouTube

853
00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 1: and they'll talk to my inbox and they were like,

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Speaker 1: it's are you who you say you are? Or when

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Speaker 1: I first started charging from myself ship, they're like, why

856
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Speaker 1: are you charging? Because my time made free? Like he

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Speaker 1: love y'all. Like I can't talk to the world all

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Speaker 1: day long. Bills don't care about y'all. I'm not gonna

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Speaker 1: be saying, you know which, my prices are super affordable still,

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Speaker 1: but prices are actually going for it a little yeah,

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Speaker 1: yeah really. And I tell people, I say, y'all don't

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Speaker 1: want me to put no letters or behind in front

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Speaker 1: or behind my name, or y'all gonna be in a

864
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Speaker 1: lot of trouble, you know what I mean? But I'm

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Speaker 1: not gonna be that type of person because at the

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Speaker 1: end of the day, I know my community needs to help,

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Speaker 1: and I said, I'm going to be reason before the

868
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Speaker 1: people need it, and people who do need it pay.

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Speaker 1: I got my people who talk to me on a

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Speaker 1: regular I'm like the girlfriend, like girl, what happened today,

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Speaker 1: you know type things, So people pay for what they need. Um,

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Speaker 1: I still serve people who may can afford it. I

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Speaker 1: still serve because at the end of the day, I

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Speaker 1: was in positions where I didn't have the money and

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Speaker 1: somebody helped to serve me as well. But at the

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Speaker 1: end of the day, I said, hey, I want to

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Speaker 1: make this as a career. That is something I really

878
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Speaker 1: love to do, so you know, you gotta put a

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Speaker 1: price tag on it. So things like that. But many

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Speaker 1: people just you know, I really never had any issues.

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Speaker 1: Really I can say that I really never had it.

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Speaker 1: I'm blessed. I really never had anybody knocking something wood.

883
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Speaker 1: I'll ask people like trying to bash my name and

884
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Speaker 1: streets because they were mad at me, But I said,

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Speaker 1: it's just because I truly believe it's just because I'm

886
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Speaker 1: not like everybody else. I'm not a person who's trying

887
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Speaker 1: to confine my people or telling them what to do

888
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:28,960
Speaker 1: or telling them what not to say and how not

889
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Speaker 1: to feel that. I let, like, I gotta support group.

890
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Speaker 1: I let my legies be free. You know. I was like,

891
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Speaker 1: say what you want and do what you want. Now.

892
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Speaker 1: If I feel like it's getting too out of hand, okay, lagies,

893
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Speaker 1: come back in, come back in, grouping. Grouping together, you know,

894
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:43,640
Speaker 1: don't be mean to each other, be compassionate. You love it.

895
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Speaker 1: You know, everybody going through something, you know, so I'll

896
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Speaker 1: do like pep talk, getting the hole, you know what,

897
00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:49,799
Speaker 1: stuff like that. But you got some people who will

898
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Speaker 1: come in who are trying to use us, hurt people,

899
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Speaker 1: and they don't like that when you call them out.

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Speaker 1: They don't like to be seen. So I have people

901
00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:58,520
Speaker 1: bash my name. I don't have people attack my admins,

902
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Speaker 1: which I don't have any admins because I'm like, I

903
00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:02,560
Speaker 1: don't feel like it's fair of false to get attacked

904
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Speaker 1: because of me. You go type thing, I'm like, you

905
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Speaker 1: wanna be and I'll handle you like a big girl.

906
00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:09,359
Speaker 1: And you're gonna be mad because I'm not gonna argue

907
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Speaker 1: with you. You've got nothing. The screen shot true before

908
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Speaker 1: we leave. What's the like She would get to our

909
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Speaker 1: listeners that they just found that they have her fees.

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Speaker 1: The main thing is just to know you might not

911
00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:25,080
Speaker 1: by yourself, and don't try to do it by yourself.

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Speaker 1: Please don't think I need you to find one friend

913
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Speaker 1: and tell them one one cousin, one sister, one auntie,

914
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Speaker 1: one church member, somebody. You need to tell your teachers,

915
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Speaker 1: especially if you're young. Um, people may become across your

916
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Speaker 1: thing who are pretty young. So my whole thing is

917
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Speaker 1: talk to somebody. Please do not try to somebody. You're

918
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Speaker 1: gonna go crazy. You're gonna tell you that you wanna

919
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Speaker 1: go bunkers. You're gonna feel like you want to jump

920
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Speaker 1: off a cliff the closest one you can find. And

921
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Speaker 1: I'm telling you don't have to. If you get around somebody,

922
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Speaker 1: even if that person don't get it, they're gonna try

923
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Speaker 1: to assist you. They're gonna try to learn with you,

924
00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:59,320
Speaker 1: they're gonna love on you, they're gonna they're gonna encourage

925
00:43:59,320 --> 00:44:01,279
Speaker 1: you to get through with compared to try to go

926
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Speaker 1: by yourself because you're gonna think the worst. You don't

927
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Speaker 1: know any better. Nothing thing I would say, be careful

928
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Speaker 1: with Google because Google don't always know what they're talking about.

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Speaker 1: Google is fun and it's great, but it is not

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Speaker 1: the best for her fees because the information is all

931
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Speaker 1: over the place. You know, sometimes just the wording is

932
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Speaker 1: not right. Not saying that the information is not completely accurate,

933
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Speaker 1: but if you don't understand the terminology, you would think

934
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Speaker 1: it's saying one thing, it's not really saying that, because

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Speaker 1: her fees is kind of up and down person in person.

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Speaker 1: So I would tell anybody make sure you read CDC

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Speaker 1: web site American Sexual Association, Go onto YouTube and find activists,

938
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Speaker 1: find people who have the virus, because half of the

939
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Speaker 1: questions you're looking for you're not going to find online,

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Speaker 1: knowing they're not on me. You may find a blog here,

941
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Speaker 1: a blow theory, you know, and that's through activists who

942
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Speaker 1: have you know, created these blows. But I would say

943
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Speaker 1: YouTube is a great source. It's so many of us

944
00:44:55,040 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 1: on there who's sharing basically all the same information. You

945
00:44:58,200 --> 00:45:00,560
Speaker 1: can go onto Amazon and people on their got book.

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Speaker 1: I have a book as well, so I say it's

947
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Speaker 1: always good to try to connect with somebody who got

948
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Speaker 1: it and also talking to somebody who know you as well.

949
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Speaker 1: It makes a huge difference. Well, I think this was

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Speaker 1: an amazing and informative episode. UM. Normally with my guests

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Speaker 1: who have a service or they have a product, UM,

952
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Speaker 1: I always tell you guys can reach out to me

953
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Speaker 1: because I don't mind sharing you their contact information, especially

954
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Speaker 1: with something like this, because I think it's one of

955
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Speaker 1: those situations where it's each one teach one and I

956
00:45:27,800 --> 00:45:30,719
Speaker 1: think within our community, we don't have a lot of resources.

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Speaker 1: So and I did my research on her, which is

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Speaker 1: my guests, and she's like legit. So if you just

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Speaker 1: find out that you have her fees or you're not sure,

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Speaker 1: you need somebody to talk to you don't want to

961
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Speaker 1: feel judge, please email me at hello at the professional

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Speaker 1: homegirl dot com. I would gladly plant passion um information

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Speaker 1: to my client or to my guests. To my client,

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Speaker 1: the girl give me snack. Uh. Like I said, y'all

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Speaker 1: have any questions, please reach out to me and until

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Speaker 1: next time, guys later right,