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<v Speaker 1>Whether you end up having Alzheimer's. It begins, we're like,

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<v Speaker 1>where did I put my keys? We can't tell you

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<v Speaker 1>which one's going to go to. Ten years later that

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<v Speaker 1>adult says, I can't find my way home. Since we

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<v Speaker 1>don't have that answer, everybody should do things to prevent

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<v Speaker 1>memory neurosurgence and in your biology, Doctor ruhu Jiandiel.

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<v Speaker 2>Why is it that we feel we can't remember anything anymore?

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<v Speaker 1>One of the most common questions people ask is when

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<v Speaker 1>they start forgetting, like where the keys are at? And

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<v Speaker 1>they say, hey, is this alzheimer or does this need

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<v Speaker 1>to be fixed? Is this natural?

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<v Speaker 2>What are we doing every day that's distracting and disrupting

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<v Speaker 2>a working.

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<v Speaker 1>Memory too much? Juggling multitasking has its own issues. You

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<v Speaker 1>want to get away from your thought hijacking your body?

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<v Speaker 2>Why do we replay negative memories? Why is it so easy?

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<v Speaker 1>So an emotional imprint on a memory requires no focus

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<v Speaker 1>in the technic. So emotional imprinting of a memory and

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<v Speaker 1>trauma makes it sometimes too easy to remember, and sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>it pops up without you even wanting to. When you

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<v Speaker 1>were able to revisit a memory in a controlled environment,

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<v Speaker 1>you can dampen your emotional stamp onto that memory. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't forget the memory, you just disassociate the emotional feelings

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<v Speaker 1>of the trauma the fear of the physical reaction.

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<v Speaker 2>For anyone concerned that their family member may have early

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<v Speaker 2>dementia Alzheimer's, what should they be looking out for and

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<v Speaker 2>how can they help that person?

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<v Speaker 1>The number one health and wellness podcast Jay Sheety.

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<v Speaker 2>Jay Shetty Sez jo. Hey, everyone, welcome back to On Purpose,

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<v Speaker 2>the place you come to listen, learn and grow. Today's

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<v Speaker 2>guest is someone that we had on last year and

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<v Speaker 2>you absolutely loved the episode. The response was incredible. We

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<v Speaker 2>had to have him back on It is none other

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<v Speaker 2>than doctor Raoul Johndel, a renowned neurosurgeon, neuroscientist, and author.

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<v Speaker 2>Doctor John Deal is known for his expertise brain surgery,

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<v Speaker 2>particularly in areas related to brain tumors, epilepsy, and other

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<v Speaker 2>brain disorders. Doctor John Delle is also a prominent public

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<v Speaker 2>speaker and educator, frequently sharing insights into the brain's complexity

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<v Speaker 2>and health. His work combines clinical practice with research aiming

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<v Speaker 2>to deepen our understanding of the brain and improve treatments

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<v Speaker 2>for neurological diseases. Please welcome back, doctor Roll John Dale.

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<v Speaker 2>It's great to have you back.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm stoked to be back, man.

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<v Speaker 2>People loved that episode and the response was so great

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<v Speaker 2>that we were like, we have to get you back

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<v Speaker 2>on for part two.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it was hard to tell for me because

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<v Speaker 1>you know, we're here and it's intimate. I feeling relaxed

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<v Speaker 1>and I can communicate, but then it's going out to

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<v Speaker 1>so many people, whereas if you do a you know,

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<v Speaker 1>live television or you do an audience event, you can

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<v Speaker 1>feel that energy like a sporting event. But I'm thrilled

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<v Speaker 1>to be back, man, and I'm I'm ready to just

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<v Speaker 1>just go off the top and just vibe.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it, man, I love it. I wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>dive in because I know you've been talking a lot

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<v Speaker 2>about memory, and that's been something you've been study quite

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<v Speaker 2>deeply recently. Why is it that we feel we can't

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<v Speaker 2>remember anything anymore?

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<v Speaker 1>So that was the most common question I would get

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<v Speaker 1>from my patient. So I'm a brain surgeon. I've taken

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<v Speaker 1>care of several thousand patients with surgery and the interaction

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<v Speaker 1>before and after surgery, and then I've met thousands. I

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<v Speaker 1>was talking to your team, like you know, not everybody

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<v Speaker 1>you see need surgery or benefits from surgery, or choose

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<v Speaker 1>a surgery. So there's just a lot of human interaction.

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<v Speaker 1>I've had thousands of patients. I'm fifty two. I've been

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<v Speaker 1>doing this since i was twenty five. And one of

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<v Speaker 1>the most common questions people ask when they start to

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<v Speaker 1>think about maybe my brain isn't going to be perfect

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<v Speaker 1>forever is when they start forgetting like where the keys

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<v Speaker 1>are at, or they stop remembering things, and they say, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>is this Alzheimer's? Does this need to be fixed? Is

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<v Speaker 1>this natural? So that the question of my memory is

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<v Speaker 1>fundamental and I'll zoom out for a little bit. People

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<v Speaker 1>who don't have memory of who they are are completely lost.

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<v Speaker 1>Every day they have to invent themselves new. So it's

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<v Speaker 1>an essential feature that one type of memory called autobiographic memory.

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<v Speaker 1>It stitches our memories of our childhood, lifetime experiences, and

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<v Speaker 1>it gives us a sense of identity meaning purpose, like

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<v Speaker 1>I have been the one in this vehicle of life

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<v Speaker 1>and those those experiences are connected, right, So memory is

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<v Speaker 1>essential in that way for identity. On a more practical level,

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<v Speaker 1>memory is not one word, so like there's a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of types of memory, and I think that's where today

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<v Speaker 1>I want to just take it one step deeper, Like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have all the answers, but when I'm communicating

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<v Speaker 1>with patients, if I can take it one step deeper

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<v Speaker 1>in the explanation and they go, ah, I get it,

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<v Speaker 1>then they're more likely to implement the guidance they choose.

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<v Speaker 1>There are many types of memory. Memory is not one word.

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<v Speaker 1>So let's take one that we rarely lose, procedural memory.

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<v Speaker 1>Once you learn how to ride a bike, once you

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<v Speaker 1>learn how to like you know, tie your shoelaces. Patients

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<v Speaker 1>of mind that have Alzheimer's or even brain injury, or

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<v Speaker 1>just get eighties and nineties, they still remember that. Procedural

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<v Speaker 1>memory is not the one we need to be thinking about.

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<v Speaker 1>Then there's another type of memory called semantic memory, as facts.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to remember my phone number anymore, Matt,

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<v Speaker 1>I got facts on my phone. I want to connect

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<v Speaker 1>the dots, so those kind of things aren't as important.

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<v Speaker 1>Then there's a third type you can call episodic memory.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a fancy word for episodes. Again, like this happened

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<v Speaker 1>in my life, this episode, Now that's important. Unfortunately, that

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<v Speaker 1>type of memory is what's lost with dementia with aging,

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<v Speaker 1>and people worry about that, like does this mean I'm

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<v Speaker 1>aging normally or is this the onset of Alzheimer's. We

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<v Speaker 1>don't have that answer. So whether you end up having

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<v Speaker 1>Alzheimer's or whether you just have age appropriate subtle loss

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<v Speaker 1>of memory, it begins we're like, where did I put

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<v Speaker 1>my keys? Like it all begins that way, we can't

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<v Speaker 1>tell you which one's going to go to. Ten years later,

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<v Speaker 1>that adult says, I can't find my way home. So

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<v Speaker 1>that concept is so tricky that since we don't have

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<v Speaker 1>that answer, I believe everybody should do things to prevent

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<v Speaker 1>memory loss. Right, you don't, because if you go down

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<v Speaker 1>the Alzheimer's path or just a normal cognitive decline, the

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<v Speaker 1>guidance is still the same. ABC. Eat a certain way,

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<v Speaker 1>think a certain way, move a certain way. The guidance

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<v Speaker 1>ABC whether you're about to get Alzheimer's, don't know. If

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<v Speaker 1>you're bout to have Alzheimer's or normal aging or have

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<v Speaker 1>been diagnosed with Alzheimer's, the guidance is the same, and

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<v Speaker 1>that speaks to how the brain and mind works.

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<v Speaker 2>How bad is it that we can't remember what we

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<v Speaker 2>had for dinner last night.

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<v Speaker 1>Not a big deal at all, not a big deal,

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<v Speaker 1>not a big deal. So those glitches are age appropriate.

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<v Speaker 1>That happens in our thirties, forties, fifties, sixties, as we

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<v Speaker 1>get less young. I had Patience a long time ago.

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<v Speaker 1>She was ninety something. I said, well, you're older. She

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<v Speaker 1>looked at me with the just a scow. She was like, older,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm less young. So that since that day less young.

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<v Speaker 1>So as we get less young, that's natural.

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<v Speaker 2>Why what's happening, Well.

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<v Speaker 1>The answer is not clear because we don't study that.

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<v Speaker 1>What we do study is when it starts with age

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<v Speaker 1>appropriate sort of subtle memory loss. And if you zoom

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<v Speaker 1>out our whole about our knees age, our heart's age,

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<v Speaker 1>our mind's age, that's not necessarily a disease, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>age appropriate. Versus Alzheimer's, Alzheimer's and dementia, and like what

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<v Speaker 1>Bruce Willis has frontal temporal dimension, there's a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>different types of dementia. Maybe we should just call it dementia.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that it starts with a little bit of memory

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<v Speaker 1>loss that's just normal aging. But then it accelerates and

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<v Speaker 1>what people think is like, oh, they can't remember things.

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<v Speaker 1>It's more than that they can't remember their autobiographical memory.

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<v Speaker 1>They can't remember who they are because they don't remember

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<v Speaker 1>their stories from their childhood. Then they start forgetting who

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<v Speaker 1>the loved ones are and why they're loved ones autobiographical memory.

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<v Speaker 1>Then the injury goes even deeper and it affects their

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<v Speaker 1>emotional regulation. Like that's a big topic I love, I

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<v Speaker 1>wrote at a long time ago, Like the ability to

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<v Speaker 1>say I'm angry, but that's not what I want to

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<v Speaker 1>feel right now, that's not I don't want to act

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<v Speaker 1>right now. They lose emotional regulation. So for caregivers it's

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<v Speaker 1>very challenging. It's like you don't remember me, I'm your child,

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<v Speaker 1>and then on top of that, you're angry with me

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. It's a it's an intense experience, of

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<v Speaker 1>course for the patient. For the person, I wouldn't say,

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<v Speaker 1>why do can? We can? We never age in a

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<v Speaker 1>way that's super memory all the way. Let me, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna get to that. I'm not sure we want perfect memory.

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<v Speaker 1>That's about facts, that's about procedures the area. The last

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<v Speaker 1>type of memory that I didn't mentioned is called working memory.

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<v Speaker 1>This is this is the memory I want, of course,

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<v Speaker 1>I want out of biographical memory. I'm who, I'm this,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm that, facts are on my phone. I think I'll

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<v Speaker 1>be able to, you know, handle a bike and laces

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<v Speaker 1>for a while. So let's get down to if you

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<v Speaker 1>want to level up. So the training for Alzheimer's and dementia,

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<v Speaker 1>the training for me, the training for an NFL quarterbacks,

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<v Speaker 1>for moving receivers, analysis, judgment, timing. That's called working memory.

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<v Speaker 1>Too much juggling, multitasking has its own issues, but working

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<v Speaker 1>memory is the skill I want. I want to be

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<v Speaker 1>able to run six governmental departments. I want to be

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<v Speaker 1>able to manage a hospital with sixteen patients on ventilators

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<v Speaker 1>when I was twenty eight. I want to manage talking

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<v Speaker 1>to you and having a bunch of ideas popping in

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<v Speaker 1>the back, and which one do I bring? Right? That's

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<v Speaker 1>called working memory, and there is guidance and training for that.

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<v Speaker 1>There is brain training for that type of memory. So

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<v Speaker 1>you ask me early, like, what's memory? So now we've

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<v Speaker 1>broken it out of several types, and the one we

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<v Speaker 1>want is short term juggling, a lot of plates, a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of thoughts in the sky, and that's where creativity

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<v Speaker 1>comes from. You're looking at things your working memories, pulling

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<v Speaker 1>back imagination. Working memory can be trained. Working memory is

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<v Speaker 1>the digital therapy peutic for Alzheimer's. Working memories like the

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<v Speaker 1>people I look up to, they're the ones that do

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<v Speaker 1>things the best because it's not just procedurally like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>looking at six monitors and able to operate. It's the

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<v Speaker 1>fact that I have a lot of thoughts in my

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<v Speaker 1>head and my working memories. Keeping them all immediately accessible.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have to like, go, ah, well, where's that?

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<v Speaker 1>What was that? Now? I've got like eight or nine

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<v Speaker 1>things I want to talk to you about. My working

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<v Speaker 1>memory is keeping them afloat. Let it allow me to

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<v Speaker 1>extract them for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, For anyone who's listening right now and they're concerned

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<v Speaker 2>that their family member may have early dementia Alzheimer's, that direction,

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<v Speaker 2>what should they be looking out for and how can

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<v Speaker 2>they help that person?

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<v Speaker 1>The story is when humans passed away in our thirties

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<v Speaker 1>and forties, 're sort of like the heart that we're

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<v Speaker 1>out and then we live longer. We addressed heart disease.

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<v Speaker 1>Main you knows, as we live longer and longer, it's

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<v Speaker 1>the brain that's starting to wear out and if you

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<v Speaker 1>suspect that your family members having memory issues, the greatest

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<v Speaker 1>challenge will be, and I don't mean this lightly, is

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<v Speaker 1>that that person doesn't remember what they don't remember. They're

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<v Speaker 1>not thinking I forgot that because they don't remember that.

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<v Speaker 1>It's the loved ones that see it. So if you

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<v Speaker 1>see that, you have to invite them and say, look,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I'm noticing a few different things in our

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<v Speaker 1>next general visit to the doctor, can we maybe mention

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<v Speaker 1>it to them? And they'll do a neurocognitive test. It's straightforward,

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<v Speaker 1>draw this circle backwards and they do like those that

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<v Speaker 1>like a little test. It's casual, but they can track it.

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<v Speaker 1>Say hey, can we do this every year? And you

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<v Speaker 1>track that test every year? And when you see that

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<v Speaker 1>you're drawing the clock and you're missing numbers. Even the

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<v Speaker 1>person with dementia will say, yeah, you know something's changing.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you try to persuade somebody who can't remember,

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<v Speaker 1>hey you're not remembering? Can you can see how that

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<v Speaker 1>could just not work right, So you want to get

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<v Speaker 1>them to somebody early. And what the physician will do

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<v Speaker 1>is take a look at that and then they say, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>do you have genetic history? And so certain Almost all

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<v Speaker 1>dementia is not genetic, but there are some genetic issues

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<v Speaker 1>that you want to know about. And then this is

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<v Speaker 1>the best part. Whether it's age appropriate cognitive decline of

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<v Speaker 1>certain memory, not working memory, the one where fight I'm

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<v Speaker 1>fine for, or it's early onset Alzheimer's, that we can identify.

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<v Speaker 1>The interventions are the same. Keep the brain arteries open,

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<v Speaker 1>eat a certain type of food, the mind diet, and

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<v Speaker 1>continue to challenge the brain puzzles, socializing, networking, taking a

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<v Speaker 1>different route home using your left hand. Learning a new language.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to learn the new language. You just have

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<v Speaker 1>to try. You might only get like three words. You're like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>this language thing is not working. But it's the those

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<v Speaker 1>those three steps are are there is that's the established thing,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think that way that's empowering to the patient,

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<v Speaker 1>to the families. And it's not like pill and medicine dependent,

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<v Speaker 1>because frankly, there ain't good medicine for it.

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<v Speaker 2>Really.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, this is not a There are not great treatments

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<v Speaker 1>for Alzheimer's. They're out there, people can look at them.

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<v Speaker 1>They're for early cognitive decline. But when you even if

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<v Speaker 1>you were to take those medicines, you still got to

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<v Speaker 1>do the other things. You got to walk to keep

0:13:20.080 --> 0:13:22.240
<v Speaker 1>your brain arteries open. You got to irrigate the flesh.

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<v Speaker 1>You got to eat a mind die, which is fatty

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<v Speaker 1>fish or if you're vegan or plant based, you know

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<v Speaker 1>they have that. And then you got to like you

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<v Speaker 1>have to do those brain training and challenge your working memory.

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<v Speaker 1>The same thing with somebody with Alzheimer's about to get Alzheimer's,

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<v Speaker 1>worried about Alzheimer's, and you and me, it's the same recipe.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's break down the recipe for people who are listening

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<v Speaker 2>right now so that we can get into the details

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<v Speaker 2>of those three steps.

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<v Speaker 1>Like you know, uh, the brain is flesh. I remember

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<v Speaker 1>the first time I saw it when I was twenty

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<v Speaker 1>six and they opened the skull and I was like

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<v Speaker 1>watching the professors and I was like, what is this

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<v Speaker 1>even possible? And it gets twenty percent of the blood

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<v Speaker 1>from your heart with these four raging arteries that come up,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's like three pounds or five kilograms or whatever

0:14:06.360 --> 0:14:11.160
<v Speaker 1>it is, That three four pound organ gets twenty percent

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<v Speaker 1>of our blood flow. It is an energy hog. And

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<v Speaker 1>you think it's and then it's white opal lesson, it's

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<v Speaker 1>shimmering under the operating room lights. I mean, it's not

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<v Speaker 1>gray matter. Great matters when they when the patients passed

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<v Speaker 1>away and they've for mountain no no, and it's heat

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<v Speaker 1>with every breath that heaves a little bit. It's got

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<v Speaker 1>fluid chambers on it. It's like, it's the way to

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<v Speaker 1>imagine it is like one hundred billion ish jellyfish in

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<v Speaker 1>an aquarium, but there's fluid in there and they're shooting

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<v Speaker 1>electricity and chemicals at it. You mentioned something about when

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<v Speaker 1>I said sleep entry, and you said, yeah, versus falling asleep.

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<v Speaker 1>Language is important for our concepts. That's what I try

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<v Speaker 1>to do. Before I came on today, it was like,

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<v Speaker 1>how do I describe this in a way where it's

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<v Speaker 1>not like lebrain. I'd say the same thing. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>throwing shade on anybody, but take your imagination away that

0:14:56.280 --> 0:15:01.880
<v Speaker 1>it's one hundred billion jellyfish packed together in clusters, floating

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<v Speaker 1>in an aquarium inside her skull. Our brain doesn't sit

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<v Speaker 1>on the inside of her skull. It's buoyant and it's

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<v Speaker 1>spring electricity, and it's not in left and right directions.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like Aurora borealis, or a school of birds that

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<v Speaker 1>rolls back onto each other. Right, it's a there's an

0:15:18.560 --> 0:15:22.600
<v Speaker 1>electrical flow that's shivering through those through those jellyfish, right, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>that's how you got to imagine it. So when you

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<v Speaker 1>look at it, the first thing you need to know

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<v Speaker 1>is those four arteries that come and feed this garden. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>And the neurons are like roses. You get what you get.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not really growing neurons. It's a mild exception with

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<v Speaker 1>stem cells. And then there's all the supporting cells what

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<v Speaker 1>I call like shrubs, like extracites. Like you want to

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<v Speaker 1>keep that garden irrigated, you sprinkle the lawn, right, You

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<v Speaker 1>got to sprinkle blood to that flesh because that activity

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<v Speaker 1>in those neurons is relying on the glucose coming up,

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<v Speaker 1>and glucose is the fuel to keep those little molecular

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<v Speaker 1>jellyfish alive. So people say, well, what do I do

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<v Speaker 1>to keep my brain shot? Well, keep those arteries open.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you keep those arteries open? You know that

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<v Speaker 1>take the lipiatore walk exercise. That's not just to look good.

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<v Speaker 1>It's to keep the main arteries and all those fine

0:16:11.280 --> 0:16:15.440
<v Speaker 1>branching arteries going into those crevices open because if you

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<v Speaker 1>start losing swaths of brain tissue. You're gonna have issues,

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<v Speaker 1>not always. But that's the first thing. Is heart health

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<v Speaker 1>is also brain health. That's the easiest thing. Okay. Number

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<v Speaker 1>two is what you eat, not today or tomorrow, but

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<v Speaker 1>over a decade. And this is well established. This isn't

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<v Speaker 1>like one study globally the Mediterranean diet, which is mostly plants,

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<v Speaker 1>fatty fish, beans, nuts. Those people, if you just look

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<v Speaker 1>at like thousands and thousands over a decade or two,

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<v Speaker 1>they have lower rates of dementia. And that's the only

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<v Speaker 1>difference that they're having. That's the recommendation we give to people.

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<v Speaker 1>So you say, well, why is that that kind of diet?

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<v Speaker 1>Why does that work? And look, love have a burger,

0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:03.800
<v Speaker 1>I love it. I mean, it's not the indulgences, it's

0:17:03.840 --> 0:17:07.800
<v Speaker 1>that baseline habit with fish. Those neurons, the neurons, if

0:17:07.840 --> 0:17:10.560
<v Speaker 1>you think of it as a jellyfish, all these tentacles

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<v Speaker 1>ten you know, they rough numbers ten thousand, hundred or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>But the electrical signals that flow between our neurons, they're

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<v Speaker 1>wrapped with something insulation. The insulation lets the electricity fire faster.

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<v Speaker 1>That insulation is literally made of omega three fat. The

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<v Speaker 1>brain is fatty. The fat that the brain uses to

0:17:30.720 --> 0:17:33.840
<v Speaker 1>keep insulated comes from fatty fish and those kinds of things.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's a reason to eat that way. And the

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<v Speaker 1>last thing we've been talking about all you know all

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<v Speaker 1>morning is focus on untentioned, on your next level of

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<v Speaker 1>not somebody else's right, Because if I told you, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>you want bigger biceps, we would say we need it.

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<v Speaker 1>But this is a thinking flesh, This is a feeling flesh.

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<v Speaker 1>This is an interconnected flesh. So vibe, think, read, whatever

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<v Speaker 1>that is for you. But the combination of those three

0:17:59.640 --> 0:18:03.480
<v Speaker 1>things is well established and there is no shortcut.

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<v Speaker 2>Before we dive into the next moment. Let's hear from

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<v Speaker 2>our sponsors. Thanks for taking a moment for that. Now

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<v Speaker 2>back to the discussion. I love the way you've broken

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<v Speaker 2>down the different memories. I had no idea that there

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<v Speaker 2>were so many different words for memory, and I love

0:18:18.320 --> 0:18:21.920
<v Speaker 2>that because it helps us really compartmentalize how we think

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<v Speaker 2>about this really big topic. But when I'm listening to you,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm wondering what are we doing every day that's distracting

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<v Speaker 2>and disrupting our working memory.

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<v Speaker 1>So what I try to do is I try to

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<v Speaker 1>take my patient stories I try to look at the

0:18:34.640 --> 0:18:37.000
<v Speaker 1>neurons in a Petrie dish. I read a lot. I

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<v Speaker 1>read a lot of random things, and I try to

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<v Speaker 1>think about how to answer that. What's the right How

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<v Speaker 1>do you thread the needle between juggling enough to where

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<v Speaker 1>you're holding on to and cultivating your working memory or

0:18:52.960 --> 0:18:57.919
<v Speaker 1>you're just like just numb by this like blitz of

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<v Speaker 1>things coming at you. Yeah, I think it's very individual.

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<v Speaker 1>I would say it's different for children because, as we

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<v Speaker 1>discussed last time, we're learning to move and walk, and

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<v Speaker 1>the brain is learning to have a sense of self.

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<v Speaker 1>There's a psychological cultivation that mirrors our physical cultivation. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to flood that mind with too much. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>let others comment on at which age they should be

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<v Speaker 1>on social media or not. But the concept I think

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<v Speaker 1>we can all agree on based on science and this

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<v Speaker 1>conversation is in the developing mind. It doesn't have the

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<v Speaker 1>filter and it doesn't have the maturity of that working memory.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't want a kid. Our raised three sons, they're nineteen,

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<v Speaker 1>twenty and twenty three, so I'm talking from the perspective

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<v Speaker 1>a parent. I always try to see where are they at,

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<v Speaker 1>and then add one more thing. But sometimes when I

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<v Speaker 1>see families with their patients in the waiting room, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean the kids just look down at their phones for

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<v Speaker 1>like one hundred hours. You know. It's like you look

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<v Speaker 1>at their you know, the they've been on there, and

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<v Speaker 1>you ask her how long you've been on there, like

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of them. It's just it feels excessive for

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<v Speaker 1>that age. And then it's also the content at the

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<v Speaker 1>later range of life. You want certain brain training games

0:20:15.960 --> 0:20:21.000
<v Speaker 1>for elderly they have shown like it's FDA proved. That

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<v Speaker 1>means you brought a lot of evidence in it. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not just one study. I'm not throwing shade on anybody.

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<v Speaker 1>But the game is it's a racer game where like

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<v Speaker 1>grandma's like racing a car and there's distractions coming up

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<v Speaker 1>and she has to avoid them. Same thing for NFL quarterbacks.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it was Atlanta. He's a broadcaster, now he's

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<v Speaker 1>a quarterback. That a game where they're looking at something

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<v Speaker 1>but different lights are popping up and they have to

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<v Speaker 1>identify them in their peripheral vision. That speed of processing,

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<v Speaker 1>that working memory is an important skill. The question is

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<v Speaker 1>when are you stunting its development and when are you

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<v Speaker 1>cultivating I think it's age specific. I think it's individual specific.

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<v Speaker 1>I think when we know we're just doing some something

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<v Speaker 1>to shut down versus doing it as training, so that

0:21:03.800 --> 0:21:06.040
<v Speaker 1>portal can be both. It can mess you up, it

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<v Speaker 1>can hold you back, but if you have the right

0:21:08.160 --> 0:21:10.600
<v Speaker 1>digital diet man, it can open up the world for you.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think that's the way I look at it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I always think about it like an elastic band,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's this idea that an elastic band is useless

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<v Speaker 2>if it's not being stretched, but at the same time,

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<v Speaker 2>there's a point at which it will snap. Yeah, and

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<v Speaker 2>I've seen that with my own memory or my ability,

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<v Speaker 2>my working memories. You describe it where I used to

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<v Speaker 2>think I was doing everything I could, and then I

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<v Speaker 2>stretched and I was like, oh wow, I could do

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<v Speaker 2>more than I believe. And then I stretched, and then

0:21:38.840 --> 0:21:42.000
<v Speaker 2>I stretched, and I started to realize that my capacity

0:21:42.040 --> 0:21:46.040
<v Speaker 2>and capability was far larger than I ever imagined.

0:21:46.119 --> 0:21:48.400
<v Speaker 1>And you were developing it with each stretch exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>But if I accepted where I was that, oh this

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<v Speaker 2>is the most I can do, actually, I would never

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<v Speaker 2>have known. And you're saying that in some ways that's unhealthy,

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<v Speaker 2>unhealthy that you you don't stretch and challenge. You say,

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<v Speaker 2>video kids, you're always adding, oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So many flies to space. They don't have gravitational force,

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<v Speaker 1>they come back. Their bones are brittle. You need certain

0:22:07.640 --> 0:22:11.040
<v Speaker 1>amount of stress at the bone, at the osteocyte level.

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<v Speaker 1>Like physiologically we need gravity. So some stress makes us grow.

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<v Speaker 1>Too much stress fractures that bone. Okay, take that physiologic

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<v Speaker 1>concept and apply that same to the mind. Now what

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<v Speaker 1>I would say is that elastic band, I love that.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you leave it idle and that elastic band

0:22:27.600 --> 0:22:30.959
<v Speaker 1>gets dry, then the stretching is too late. And then

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<v Speaker 1>the last thing I would add to that is when

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<v Speaker 1>my sons and others they play video games is a

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<v Speaker 1>very well studied thing. If you give them multiple levels,

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<v Speaker 1>they'll compete to level up. But if you just present

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<v Speaker 1>them the fifth level, they'll just say, nah, that's too hard.

0:22:45.160 --> 0:22:46.920
<v Speaker 1>And if you make it too easy, then won't hold

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<v Speaker 1>their at tension. So the nuance is exactly is to

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<v Speaker 1>find where am Where am I at? Not that person's advice,

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<v Speaker 1>not that person's life, but from everything that I've taken

0:22:56.600 --> 0:23:02.199
<v Speaker 1>in where am I at? Where the appropriate next stress challenge?

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<v Speaker 1>Stretch of the rubber band, next level on the video

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<v Speaker 1>game is there that's enticing enough achievable with some effort,

0:23:09.359 --> 0:23:11.280
<v Speaker 1>and then I get there, and then I get there,

0:23:11.440 --> 0:23:13.480
<v Speaker 1>and then I get there and then I get knocked down,

0:23:14.119 --> 0:23:18.200
<v Speaker 1>because life is going to knock you down. That's part

0:23:18.240 --> 0:23:20.680
<v Speaker 1>of its struggle and its beauty. And then you might

0:23:20.720 --> 0:23:23.800
<v Speaker 1>find yourself not at those same levels, not with those

0:23:23.840 --> 0:23:28.000
<v Speaker 1>same coping mechanisms, but remembering that it's an incremental crawl

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<v Speaker 1>out of that ditch that your mind can fall into.

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<v Speaker 1>I've seen it in my cancer pati of their heroes.

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<v Speaker 1>And so if the lesson there is that our working memory,

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<v Speaker 1>our memory, everything from bones to biology to trees, we

0:23:43.320 --> 0:23:48.400
<v Speaker 1>need stress and pressure. It's a thermostat. Stress isn't all bad,

0:23:48.400 --> 0:23:52.119
<v Speaker 1>A stress isn't all good, And it's individual stress for

0:23:52.200 --> 0:23:55.440
<v Speaker 1>you might be different than stress for me. In the hospital.

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<v Speaker 1>There are stresses that certain friends of mine can handle.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a massive stress. Yes, you're operating the middle of

0:24:01.680 --> 0:24:05.000
<v Speaker 1>the night, you're handling fifteen patients for them, they're right

0:24:05.040 --> 0:24:07.760
<v Speaker 1>at that. For other people that might inundate them, and

0:24:07.800 --> 0:24:10.080
<v Speaker 1>that's not appropriate. So it has to be an individual thing.

0:24:10.600 --> 0:24:16.399
<v Speaker 1>But biologically, physiologically, psychologically, I think knowing thyself is to

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<v Speaker 1>know what's that next challenge for me that's enticing, that's

0:24:20.520 --> 0:24:23.400
<v Speaker 1>achievable with effort, that's not too easy, so I don't

0:24:23.840 --> 0:24:26.640
<v Speaker 1>give it down, or just there's no way I can

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<v Speaker 1>get there, so I'm not even going to try.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, there's a brilliant book called flow State by Mihai

0:24:32.200 --> 0:24:34.360
<v Speaker 2>Cheek said me Hi if I'm saying his surname right,

0:24:34.840 --> 0:24:37.440
<v Speaker 2>that explains this so brilliantly. He talks about the need

0:24:38.080 --> 0:24:42.040
<v Speaker 2>for having your skills meet your challenge. And so he

0:24:42.080 --> 0:24:44.439
<v Speaker 2>talks about this idea that either what most of us

0:24:44.520 --> 0:24:48.080
<v Speaker 2>experience is our challenge is above our skills, So we

0:24:48.119 --> 0:24:51.320
<v Speaker 2>get frustrated, right, we get really disappointed. You might even

0:24:51.320 --> 0:24:53.639
<v Speaker 2>get depressed because your challenge is so high and your

0:24:53.640 --> 0:24:56.440
<v Speaker 2>skills are so low. Or you have the opposite where

0:24:56.440 --> 0:24:59.000
<v Speaker 2>your skills are really high but your challenge is low.

0:24:59.080 --> 0:25:02.719
<v Speaker 2>Now you're bored. Now you're disconnected. Now you're disengaged because

0:25:02.880 --> 0:25:05.199
<v Speaker 2>you can practically do everything with these And so he

0:25:05.200 --> 0:25:09.760
<v Speaker 2>talks about flow state, which is what we see athletes, musicians, singers.

0:25:09.840 --> 0:25:12.600
<v Speaker 2>These people are in their moments or in the zone

0:25:13.280 --> 0:25:17.240
<v Speaker 2>is when their experiences and their skills meet their challenge.

0:25:17.680 --> 0:25:20.320
<v Speaker 2>And while we're talking about this, the part that I

0:25:20.359 --> 0:25:22.680
<v Speaker 2>was thinking about is why do we get so stressed

0:25:23.119 --> 0:25:26.040
<v Speaker 2>when we can't remember something right? When we're like, oh, man,

0:25:26.080 --> 0:25:28.080
<v Speaker 2>I wanted to tell you about that movie, and I

0:25:28.160 --> 0:25:29.800
<v Speaker 2>want to tell you about that Oh what was the

0:25:29.880 --> 0:25:33.760
<v Speaker 2>actor's name? Oh gosh? You know, we get so frustrated

0:25:33.760 --> 0:25:35.760
<v Speaker 2>when we're we almost feel that glitch.

0:25:35.960 --> 0:25:39.040
<v Speaker 1>I think that's because we assume that we're slowing down

0:25:39.119 --> 0:25:40.720
<v Speaker 1>or shutting down. And know what I'm trying to tell

0:25:40.760 --> 0:25:44.880
<v Speaker 1>people is that memory outsource that to your phone. There

0:25:44.880 --> 0:25:48.080
<v Speaker 1>are people who forget their keys, forget other people's names.

0:25:48.160 --> 0:25:52.240
<v Speaker 1>That's appropriate as we get less young, but older people

0:25:52.480 --> 0:25:56.600
<v Speaker 1>can still have high working memory, fight for working memory

0:25:56.760 --> 0:25:59.240
<v Speaker 1>and stay with that. Back to the flow state. I

0:25:59.320 --> 0:26:01.040
<v Speaker 1>love that, man. I mean, I wrote about it a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit. I'm familiar with the book, and I think

0:26:04.280 --> 0:26:10.160
<v Speaker 1>the insight that he provided is that one it's individual.

0:26:11.240 --> 0:26:13.840
<v Speaker 1>You can be in a flow state driving, you could

0:26:13.840 --> 0:26:16.240
<v Speaker 1>be in a flow state sewing, you can be a

0:26:16.240 --> 0:26:19.480
<v Speaker 1>flow state holding your kid. It's not only for high

0:26:19.560 --> 0:26:23.280
<v Speaker 1>level people. I think you know as described that it's

0:26:23.520 --> 0:26:28.200
<v Speaker 1>again individual, it's personal, but it takes knowing not what

0:26:28.240 --> 0:26:31.560
<v Speaker 1>other people's ambitions and desires are not what other people's

0:26:31.560 --> 0:26:33.399
<v Speaker 1>goals are. It takes knowing like this is something I

0:26:33.440 --> 0:26:35.600
<v Speaker 1>want to get better at, this is something I want

0:26:35.600 --> 0:26:39.040
<v Speaker 1>to cultivate myself. I think that's what I liked about

0:26:39.040 --> 0:26:41.719
<v Speaker 1>his book was that it wasn't about the skill. It

0:26:41.760 --> 0:26:44.560
<v Speaker 1>was at your skill level. Yes, it's brain searchers are

0:26:44.600 --> 0:26:46.520
<v Speaker 1>in flow state. I think it's are in flow state.

0:26:46.720 --> 0:26:49.399
<v Speaker 1>He studied them to understand that. The second thing that

0:26:49.440 --> 0:26:53.040
<v Speaker 1>I liked about it often there's a physical component and

0:26:53.080 --> 0:26:57.000
<v Speaker 1>a thinking component. And I love that because there have

0:26:57.080 --> 0:27:01.080
<v Speaker 1>been times where I don't know, I mean people think

0:27:01.160 --> 0:27:03.600
<v Speaker 1>like people think like brain surgery is like fixing a car.

0:27:03.720 --> 0:27:06.600
<v Speaker 1>You do these twenty steps. It's every tissue, every cancer

0:27:06.680 --> 0:27:09.520
<v Speaker 1>is reverse sculpting. There's at some point you have to

0:27:09.680 --> 0:27:13.840
<v Speaker 1>just you have to let the maneuvers go where like

0:27:13.960 --> 0:27:16.560
<v Speaker 1>it's a dance. When I've seen it done with finesse

0:27:16.600 --> 0:27:20.480
<v Speaker 1>at the highest level, and in those occasions where I'm

0:27:20.480 --> 0:27:25.000
<v Speaker 1>feeling that, I just remember feeling so good about what

0:27:25.040 --> 0:27:29.600
<v Speaker 1>was happening without every thought being engineered and structured, like

0:27:29.920 --> 0:27:32.600
<v Speaker 1>there was a I felt proud that there was a

0:27:32.600 --> 0:27:36.080
<v Speaker 1>skill being released. And I think that's a flow state

0:27:36.400 --> 0:27:39.600
<v Speaker 1>for me during surgery. Sometimes when I grew up in

0:27:39.720 --> 0:27:42.439
<v Speaker 1>La so when the freeways are open, I took a long,

0:27:42.800 --> 0:27:45.679
<v Speaker 1>fast drive through all the open roads. I had my

0:27:45.680 --> 0:27:47.840
<v Speaker 1>white coat. I'm a surgeon, so we were allowed to

0:27:47.840 --> 0:27:50.199
<v Speaker 1>be on there. But for driving, some people they just

0:27:50.200 --> 0:27:55.359
<v Speaker 1>describe it. It's again, it's both paying attention externally and

0:27:55.400 --> 0:27:59.720
<v Speaker 1>then doing something physically. I think the combination the physical

0:27:59.800 --> 0:28:04.119
<v Speaker 1>move move physical activity I think should not be underestimated.

0:28:04.160 --> 0:28:07.280
<v Speaker 1>Let me give you a specific example, the overlap of

0:28:08.800 --> 0:28:14.760
<v Speaker 1>wanting and desire those circuits. When you talk about flow state,

0:28:15.240 --> 0:28:18.720
<v Speaker 1>it's not just a psychological thing. The most times I

0:28:18.840 --> 0:28:20.359
<v Speaker 1>felt that it's a mind body thing.

0:28:20.800 --> 0:28:23.560
<v Speaker 2>What's the connection between you mentioned their focus and attention,

0:28:24.200 --> 0:28:26.600
<v Speaker 2>what's the connection with memory? Because I think a lot

0:28:26.600 --> 0:28:28.520
<v Speaker 2>of us are trying to be more present. Okay, we

0:28:28.560 --> 0:28:31.000
<v Speaker 2>see it as valuable. When we meet someone you forget

0:28:31.040 --> 0:28:33.440
<v Speaker 2>their name instantly. You're right, the facts will be there.

0:28:33.720 --> 0:28:36.120
<v Speaker 2>But there's a part of us that feel like we're

0:28:36.119 --> 0:28:40.000
<v Speaker 2>almost looking through people, We're not really there. How much

0:28:40.080 --> 0:28:43.240
<v Speaker 2>does focus and attention actually impact memory or are they

0:28:43.280 --> 0:28:43.920
<v Speaker 2>not connected?

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<v Speaker 1>You know, that's a good question. I don't think I

0:28:45.640 --> 0:28:48.160
<v Speaker 1>have a specific answer about that. I haven't read about that,

0:28:48.240 --> 0:28:50.520
<v Speaker 1>but I will tell I will tell you that memory

0:28:51.320 --> 0:28:55.760
<v Speaker 1>to retrieve it is a reconstruction. There's no rolodex or

0:28:55.760 --> 0:28:58.880
<v Speaker 1>a filing cabinet. You pull it out. Memory is built.

0:28:59.280 --> 0:29:00.000
<v Speaker 2>What do you mean by that.

0:29:00.320 --> 0:29:04.160
<v Speaker 1>Let's think of the brain as an ecosystem, right, the

0:29:04.240 --> 0:29:07.960
<v Speaker 1>general electricity that you can record electric is like an atmosphere.

0:29:08.560 --> 0:29:10.880
<v Speaker 1>Then we have the flesh, the lobes. We can talk

0:29:10.920 --> 0:29:14.720
<v Speaker 1>about that. Then we have networks and circuits like things

0:29:14.760 --> 0:29:16.840
<v Speaker 1>that work in ensembles. They go up and down together.

0:29:17.000 --> 0:29:19.040
<v Speaker 1>They never turn off. It's always like fifty one to

0:29:19.120 --> 0:29:21.440
<v Speaker 1>forty nine. There's no part of the brain that shuts off.

0:29:21.800 --> 0:29:23.800
<v Speaker 1>And then there's individual neurons. You can think of them

0:29:23.840 --> 0:29:27.240
<v Speaker 1>as like each tree in a forest. When we talk

0:29:27.280 --> 0:29:32.400
<v Speaker 1>about memory, it is not a filing cabinet. It's a

0:29:32.480 --> 0:29:36.280
<v Speaker 1>hub and so it pulls. Like I want to remember something.

0:29:36.840 --> 0:29:40.920
<v Speaker 1>The easiest way for me to remember something and sometimes unavoidable,

0:29:41.040 --> 0:29:43.680
<v Speaker 1>like you can't even forget it, is when the emotional

0:29:44.240 --> 0:29:47.240
<v Speaker 1>structures and regions of your brain have put a stamp

0:29:47.280 --> 0:29:51.040
<v Speaker 1>on it. So emotional imprinting of a memory and trauma

0:29:51.520 --> 0:29:55.280
<v Speaker 1>makes it sometimes too easy to remember, and sometimes it

0:29:55.320 --> 0:29:58.600
<v Speaker 1>pops up without even wanting to write. So that's one

0:29:58.640 --> 0:30:03.240
<v Speaker 1>type of focus attention. Emotional stamping. I don't amygdala is

0:30:03.280 --> 0:30:06.240
<v Speaker 1>not positive, it's not negative stamping. It's just emotional stamping,

0:30:06.480 --> 0:30:09.520
<v Speaker 1>both positive and negative. So an emotional imprint on a

0:30:09.600 --> 0:30:14.520
<v Speaker 1>memory requires no focus and attention. It's just churning back there.

0:30:15.040 --> 0:30:18.800
<v Speaker 1>It's activated. The smell can pop it open. You don't

0:30:18.800 --> 0:30:20.400
<v Speaker 1>want to think about it, and it's coming up. I

0:30:20.400 --> 0:30:22.960
<v Speaker 1>think we all know that, right, Like things we don't

0:30:23.000 --> 0:30:25.400
<v Speaker 1>want to think about feelings, We don't have memories of

0:30:25.400 --> 0:30:30.000
<v Speaker 1>the past blended with imagination, so you don't require attention

0:30:30.080 --> 0:30:33.200
<v Speaker 1>and focus for some types of memory, usually the ones

0:30:33.240 --> 0:30:35.800
<v Speaker 1>with emotional stamps. We can get into trauma and that

0:30:35.880 --> 0:30:39.080
<v Speaker 1>sort of thing for the right for the rest of it,

0:30:39.560 --> 0:30:42.840
<v Speaker 1>if we're engaging people. Then on the other side is

0:30:43.360 --> 0:30:46.080
<v Speaker 1>there's all this like you don't want to remember all

0:30:46.120 --> 0:30:49.080
<v Speaker 1>of this. It's not really relevant, right, it's a habit,

0:30:49.600 --> 0:30:52.360
<v Speaker 1>you're driving, you make that exit. There's a memory, there's

0:30:52.400 --> 0:30:55.040
<v Speaker 1>a procedural memory I don't want to think about, like

0:30:55.120 --> 0:30:58.840
<v Speaker 1>tying my shoelad. So somewhere in between is the attention

0:30:59.560 --> 0:31:02.680
<v Speaker 1>to I should remember this. I want to remember this.

0:31:03.360 --> 0:31:06.960
<v Speaker 1>So memories, emotionally imprinted memories you don't need. You're just

0:31:07.040 --> 0:31:11.120
<v Speaker 1>driving on the freeway and in between. The emotional memory

0:31:11.160 --> 0:31:14.320
<v Speaker 1>is easy. The attention and focus to memory is hard

0:31:15.120 --> 0:31:20.560
<v Speaker 1>because it's a decremental process. Meaning bandwidth is a casual word,

0:31:20.600 --> 0:31:24.000
<v Speaker 1>but it takes effort. The emotional thing, oh, it just

0:31:24.000 --> 0:31:26.400
<v Speaker 1>strikes you. The other one you don't want. So attention

0:31:26.880 --> 0:31:30.720
<v Speaker 1>and focus requires effort. And so when you have people

0:31:30.760 --> 0:31:32.720
<v Speaker 1>you're talking to you want to remember something where you

0:31:32.800 --> 0:31:37.080
<v Speaker 1>want to remember them or their names, that attention and

0:31:37.120 --> 0:31:40.200
<v Speaker 1>focus is something you have to dial up. And there's

0:31:40.200 --> 0:31:43.120
<v Speaker 1>a couple of ways to dial it up. Removing distractions.

0:31:43.280 --> 0:31:45.680
<v Speaker 1>When I talk to Lebron James, it's like it's about

0:31:46.000 --> 0:31:48.440
<v Speaker 1>not thinking about it. There's one way is to remove

0:31:48.480 --> 0:31:54.520
<v Speaker 1>distractions or increase attention, and that's individual focus. Is if

0:31:54.520 --> 0:31:59.720
<v Speaker 1>you haven't slept, your energy towards attention is less. It's decremental.

0:32:00.000 --> 0:32:02.800
<v Speaker 1>They call it decremental vigilance. Like if you're on guard

0:32:02.840 --> 0:32:05.120
<v Speaker 1>in a military situation, like after a certain amount of

0:32:05.120 --> 0:32:08.840
<v Speaker 1>hours or long surgery or a long shift to the hospital,

0:32:09.280 --> 0:32:11.320
<v Speaker 1>it fades. If you're in the middle. Just look I

0:32:11.360 --> 0:32:13.520
<v Speaker 1>want to have more focus and attention to this. The

0:32:13.640 --> 0:32:18.080
<v Speaker 1>natural answers lessen the distraction, be rested, and you know,

0:32:18.120 --> 0:32:20.200
<v Speaker 1>make it a priority. But that's within each of our

0:32:20.240 --> 0:32:22.000
<v Speaker 1>minds based on what we're looking at.

0:32:22.200 --> 0:32:24.160
<v Speaker 2>So when you just told me before we started that

0:32:24.280 --> 0:32:29.720
<v Speaker 2>you're doing brain surgery at three am today, how do

0:32:29.840 --> 0:32:35.200
<v Speaker 2>you maintain a level of attention? Obviously there's no distractions.

0:32:36.000 --> 0:32:39.240
<v Speaker 1>Distructions people walking around, things are going wrong, are going off.

0:32:39.280 --> 0:32:41.560
<v Speaker 1>You got to tell somebody, hey know my music today.

0:32:41.760 --> 0:32:44.200
<v Speaker 2>So walk me through that. How are you that focused

0:32:44.240 --> 0:32:47.680
<v Speaker 2>with something that sensitive in that moment? How do you

0:32:47.720 --> 0:32:49.760
<v Speaker 2>prepare for that type of surgery?

0:32:49.880 --> 0:32:53.120
<v Speaker 1>So the skill, the cultivation is to know when this

0:32:53.240 --> 0:32:58.080
<v Speaker 1>task can be performed casually, going to the cafeteria, talking

0:32:58.080 --> 0:33:01.880
<v Speaker 1>to a patient. Your emotional intensity is there, but you

0:33:01.880 --> 0:33:05.040
<v Speaker 1>you learn to dial up and dial down as the

0:33:05.080 --> 0:33:09.600
<v Speaker 1>situation requires. It's the fancy word is ecological validity, Like

0:33:09.840 --> 0:33:12.120
<v Speaker 1>you got you got a game plan, but it's got

0:33:12.160 --> 0:33:15.240
<v Speaker 1>to be tested. And so that long training in those

0:33:15.320 --> 0:33:20.240
<v Speaker 1>long hours was partly because they needed labor, partly because

0:33:20.240 --> 0:33:21.760
<v Speaker 1>you know, they justified it. Like if you go work

0:33:21.800 --> 0:33:23.520
<v Speaker 1>in a small town or you do an operation, then

0:33:23.560 --> 0:33:25.520
<v Speaker 1>the Parasi has to go back because something went wrong.

0:33:25.560 --> 0:33:27.600
<v Speaker 1>You can't call somebody else. You got to run it.

0:33:27.880 --> 0:33:30.240
<v Speaker 1>You got to handle it. And so what you learn

0:33:30.400 --> 0:33:33.960
<v Speaker 1>is so for example, the operation went late last night,

0:33:34.440 --> 0:33:37.320
<v Speaker 1>That's not a big deal to me because before that,

0:33:38.200 --> 0:33:41.320
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't trying to wear myself out with drama with somebody,

0:33:41.880 --> 0:33:44.080
<v Speaker 1>you know, wearing myself out with like looking at things

0:33:44.080 --> 0:33:47.480
<v Speaker 1>that were distracted. I went into sort of what I

0:33:47.560 --> 0:33:51.960
<v Speaker 1>call a zen mode to prevent distractions. You know, I

0:33:51.960 --> 0:33:54.240
<v Speaker 1>go to a zenmo before and it's not like you

0:33:54.240 --> 0:33:57.760
<v Speaker 1>can tell. And then I save that tension and focus

0:33:57.880 --> 0:34:02.239
<v Speaker 1>because I know my vigilance is acremental. It fades, and

0:34:02.280 --> 0:34:04.000
<v Speaker 1>then we get the patient set up and we do

0:34:04.080 --> 0:34:06.240
<v Speaker 1>all of that. I'm still just whatever, you know, and

0:34:06.320 --> 0:34:08.560
<v Speaker 1>until there's like a there's a physical cue for me,

0:34:09.080 --> 0:34:12.200
<v Speaker 1>and then it lifts. There's attention to focus, and then

0:34:12.840 --> 0:34:14.680
<v Speaker 1>there's the craft and then there's a release, and then

0:34:14.680 --> 0:34:17.080
<v Speaker 1>after that there's you know, there's a crash, and then

0:34:17.080 --> 0:34:18.680
<v Speaker 1>I make the decision I'm going to uber home or

0:34:18.760 --> 0:34:20.800
<v Speaker 1>drive home. You know, I know the freeway, so I

0:34:20.880 --> 0:34:23.600
<v Speaker 1>drove home. But that goes back to your original question,

0:34:23.719 --> 0:34:27.080
<v Speaker 1>is realize attention to focus for memory for anything is

0:34:27.120 --> 0:34:30.279
<v Speaker 1>a resource. Some things will grab your attention, some things

0:34:30.320 --> 0:34:33.640
<v Speaker 1>don't warrant your attention. It's it's it's that middle zone, right,

0:34:33.640 --> 0:34:35.920
<v Speaker 1>That's what we're trying to finesse at an individual level,

0:34:36.680 --> 0:34:38.040
<v Speaker 1>you know, and a collective level.

0:34:38.040 --> 0:34:40.840
<v Speaker 2>Well, I appreciate what you're saying because I remember reading

0:34:40.880 --> 0:34:43.480
<v Speaker 2>about it in a book by Daniel Leviton called The

0:34:43.640 --> 0:34:46.440
<v Speaker 2>Organized Mind, and he talked about this idea of how

0:34:46.480 --> 0:34:50.640
<v Speaker 2>when Warren Buffett is deciding where to invest, he takes

0:34:50.719 --> 0:34:54.040
<v Speaker 2>milk and cookies, rents an apartment in New York City,

0:34:54.400 --> 0:34:57.400
<v Speaker 2>and lives in that apartment for five days. So basically

0:34:57.400 --> 0:34:59.640
<v Speaker 2>he's doing very little when it comes to his daily

0:34:59.680 --> 0:35:02.840
<v Speaker 2>require ments of food. He's cleared out his space, so

0:35:02.840 --> 0:35:05.640
<v Speaker 2>he's in a new environment that's empty, and then he's

0:35:05.640 --> 0:35:08.160
<v Speaker 2>sitting there making decisions. And he talked about how this

0:35:08.360 --> 0:35:11.480
<v Speaker 2>was his way of removing decision fatigue. This idea that

0:35:11.760 --> 0:35:14.480
<v Speaker 2>when we're making lots of insignificant decisions in the morning

0:35:14.520 --> 0:35:17.000
<v Speaker 2>when we wake up, by the time it comes to

0:35:17.040 --> 0:35:18.839
<v Speaker 2>a big decision at the end of the day the

0:35:18.840 --> 0:35:21.600
<v Speaker 2>middle of the day, we have no energy left to

0:35:21.640 --> 0:35:24.040
<v Speaker 2>make it. So most of us are stressing out going.

0:35:24.200 --> 0:35:26.400
<v Speaker 2>What do I eat today? What do I wear today?

0:35:26.880 --> 0:35:29.279
<v Speaker 2>Which route do I take to work today? Oh my gosh,

0:35:29.320 --> 0:35:31.000
<v Speaker 2>what am I going to say to that person today? Now,

0:35:31.040 --> 0:35:33.440
<v Speaker 2>by the time you get into the office, you've already

0:35:33.480 --> 0:35:37.600
<v Speaker 2>made so many insignificant decisions that you're exhausted, and now

0:35:37.640 --> 0:35:40.120
<v Speaker 2>you can't dial it up when you actually need.

0:35:39.960 --> 0:35:44.279
<v Speaker 1>It because it's limited and is decremental over time. I

0:35:44.320 --> 0:35:47.040
<v Speaker 1>love that. What I would say is again, you have

0:35:47.080 --> 0:35:49.920
<v Speaker 1>to know yourself a little bit, like that's coming and

0:35:50.239 --> 0:35:52.520
<v Speaker 1>it could be I'm about to have a hot conversation

0:35:52.640 --> 0:35:55.480
<v Speaker 1>my lover, and this is not. This is a tense situation.

0:35:56.520 --> 0:35:58.479
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to walk in that with my mind

0:35:58.520 --> 0:36:01.399
<v Speaker 1>already in a fuss. I got a big case. It's

0:36:01.480 --> 0:36:03.600
<v Speaker 1>going late. There was an emergency before I'm gonna start

0:36:03.600 --> 0:36:06.279
<v Speaker 1>this at eleven o'clock. It needs to go tonight. That's

0:36:06.280 --> 0:36:08.719
<v Speaker 1>not when I'm trying to get into a fuss. I

0:36:08.719 --> 0:36:10.720
<v Speaker 1>don't know what the example will be for your viewers

0:36:10.760 --> 0:36:13.520
<v Speaker 1>and other people, but if everybody can walk away with like,

0:36:13.560 --> 0:36:16.520
<v Speaker 1>your attention and focus or wherever level and stage you're

0:36:16.560 --> 0:36:23.200
<v Speaker 1>at is precious, is limited. You want to control your environment.

0:36:23.320 --> 0:36:24.840
<v Speaker 1>You don't want to talk to certain people. Maybe you

0:36:24.840 --> 0:36:26.279
<v Speaker 1>do want to talk to certain people, Maybe you want

0:36:26.280 --> 0:36:27.960
<v Speaker 1>to listen to certain music, maybe you don't want to

0:36:27.960 --> 0:36:30.960
<v Speaker 1>listen to Those examples are all around US athletes walking

0:36:31.000 --> 0:36:33.359
<v Speaker 1>in with their bo's headphones on. They're doing the same thing.

0:36:33.680 --> 0:36:39.040
<v Speaker 1>But we can explain it with neuroscience that attention is decremental.

0:36:39.080 --> 0:36:43.719
<v Speaker 1>You cannot maintain one hundred sustained external focus. So in

0:36:43.760 --> 0:36:46.680
<v Speaker 1>those forty hour shifts, I never did a forty hour

0:36:46.719 --> 0:36:50.040
<v Speaker 1>operation and I just learned to work with my attention

0:36:50.080 --> 0:36:52.400
<v Speaker 1>and focus. That was the real skill that I learned.

0:36:52.760 --> 0:36:53.320
<v Speaker 1>And the buffet.

0:36:53.400 --> 0:36:53.520
<v Speaker 2>You know.

0:36:53.560 --> 0:36:56.239
<v Speaker 1>He's also changing his physical environment. Yeah, I do that too,

0:36:56.280 --> 0:36:58.200
<v Speaker 1>Like I'm going to London next next week, and I'm

0:36:58.239 --> 0:36:59.520
<v Speaker 1>just people are like, oh, you like to stay in

0:36:59.520 --> 0:37:02.040
<v Speaker 1>the same place, Like, no, I'm coming here to like

0:37:02.800 --> 0:37:05.520
<v Speaker 1>get lost, my phone's not working, look at this, where's this?

0:37:05.680 --> 0:37:09.520
<v Speaker 1>Like I need to change physical environments to have new

0:37:09.560 --> 0:37:12.239
<v Speaker 1>thoughts because I'm working on something in my mind. And

0:37:12.320 --> 0:37:14.799
<v Speaker 1>so I think part maybe part of what he does

0:37:14.960 --> 0:37:18.080
<v Speaker 1>is is not just to get rid of the fuss

0:37:18.120 --> 0:37:22.880
<v Speaker 1>and to avoid decision fatigue or decremental vigilance because of

0:37:23.000 --> 0:37:26.400
<v Speaker 1>decrimental vigilants. I prefer that one is broader. I'm not

0:37:26.440 --> 0:37:29.000
<v Speaker 1>telling you what to pay attention to. I'm not trying

0:37:29.000 --> 0:37:30.720
<v Speaker 1>to tell you, but you're about to make a decision.

0:37:31.080 --> 0:37:35.120
<v Speaker 1>Just realize this focus. This external they're catchy calling it

0:37:35.200 --> 0:37:39.080
<v Speaker 1>action network and action brain network. These fountains and continents

0:37:39.080 --> 0:37:41.239
<v Speaker 1>that rev up a little bit on the inside our

0:37:41.239 --> 0:37:45.000
<v Speaker 1>brain for outward attention versus dreaming where it's all imaginative,

0:37:45.560 --> 0:37:48.520
<v Speaker 1>Like you can't rev that up for sixteen hours. See,

0:37:48.520 --> 0:37:51.680
<v Speaker 1>there's a cadence to the day. You're setting yourself up

0:37:51.680 --> 0:37:55.680
<v Speaker 1>for success, individual success, fighting with somebody, dealing with a

0:37:55.760 --> 0:37:58.560
<v Speaker 1>kid driving you crazy, whatever it is that's yours. I

0:37:58.600 --> 0:38:00.960
<v Speaker 1>want people to walk away with like get it. You

0:38:00.960 --> 0:38:03.840
<v Speaker 1>know my day is My day is a dance.

0:38:04.120 --> 0:38:06.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I really like that, man. I think that's such

0:38:06.160 --> 0:38:09.399
<v Speaker 2>great advice, and it resonates so strongly with me even

0:38:09.440 --> 0:38:11.719
<v Speaker 2>when I look at my days. So, for example, I

0:38:11.760 --> 0:38:14.680
<v Speaker 2>only do two interviews per day, so you're my first one.

0:38:14.840 --> 0:38:17.080
<v Speaker 2>I have another one in the afternoon. And I can

0:38:17.160 --> 0:38:20.080
<v Speaker 2>only do two interviews per day because for me, these

0:38:20.120 --> 0:38:23.680
<v Speaker 2>interviews require one hundred percent focus, and if you ask

0:38:23.719 --> 0:38:26.200
<v Speaker 2>me to do another one on top of that, I

0:38:26.320 --> 0:38:28.360
<v Speaker 2>just don't think I could be at one hundred percent,

0:38:28.640 --> 0:38:29.920
<v Speaker 2>but I know that for you, I can be at

0:38:29.960 --> 0:38:31.960
<v Speaker 2>one hundred percent. I then have a couple of meetings

0:38:31.960 --> 0:38:34.440
<v Speaker 2>in between which are requiring a different part of me

0:38:34.920 --> 0:38:38.560
<v Speaker 2>that don't require this exclusive focus. And you're so right.

0:38:38.600 --> 0:38:41.000
<v Speaker 2>I think we put so much pressure on ourselves that

0:38:41.080 --> 0:38:45.919
<v Speaker 2>we expect this level of focus in every conversation, every meeting,

0:38:45.960 --> 0:38:46.960
<v Speaker 2>throughout the whole day.

0:38:46.800 --> 0:38:49.160
<v Speaker 1>In every situation you get some bad news, you got

0:38:49.160 --> 0:38:50.719
<v Speaker 1>to know, I mean, not even gonna pull off too.

0:38:50.800 --> 0:38:52.480
<v Speaker 1>You got to crunch you might be a But that's

0:38:52.560 --> 0:38:57.080
<v Speaker 1>exactly that's again ecological validity in your environment. If I

0:38:57.120 --> 0:39:00.000
<v Speaker 1>can a car crash, I can't go into my zen

0:39:00.040 --> 0:39:03.040
<v Speaker 1>and pre surgery zen mode. I call my partner. I

0:39:03.080 --> 0:39:05.759
<v Speaker 1>got to know where I'm at, and so there is

0:39:05.840 --> 0:39:10.760
<v Speaker 1>no final guidance. It's just that your attention and focus,

0:39:11.360 --> 0:39:13.759
<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. It's great because people think

0:39:13.840 --> 0:39:17.439
<v Speaker 1>like like he's a robot. Now, man, I've been through

0:39:17.480 --> 0:39:19.680
<v Speaker 1>a lot. I go through a lot, I feel a lot,

0:39:20.000 --> 0:39:23.480
<v Speaker 1>but I've just realized that to deliver as a surgeon,

0:39:24.040 --> 0:39:26.880
<v Speaker 1>here's the dance I do with my own mind to

0:39:27.440 --> 0:39:30.239
<v Speaker 1>bring it for that patient. Because that patient trusted me

0:39:30.640 --> 0:39:34.200
<v Speaker 1>on a journey that's sacred, and at that moment, that's

0:39:34.239 --> 0:39:34.840
<v Speaker 1>all I'm about.

0:39:34.960 --> 0:39:37.839
<v Speaker 2>Before we dive into the next moment, let's hear from

0:39:37.880 --> 0:39:41.840
<v Speaker 2>our sponsors and back to our episode. I want to

0:39:41.880 --> 0:39:43.759
<v Speaker 2>ask you by something you've mentioned before. You talked about

0:39:43.800 --> 0:39:48.200
<v Speaker 2>this idea of this emotional memory that almost comes immediately,

0:39:48.280 --> 0:39:52.000
<v Speaker 2>this idea that if and I often lead this meditation.

0:39:52.120 --> 0:39:54.160
<v Speaker 2>It's one of my favorite ones to lead when I'm

0:39:54.719 --> 0:39:58.520
<v Speaker 2>sharing it with my audience or community. And technically it's

0:39:58.560 --> 0:40:02.239
<v Speaker 2>called a loving kindness medita, and what it means is

0:40:02.760 --> 0:40:06.120
<v Speaker 2>I'll often ask people before we share love with the world,

0:40:06.680 --> 0:40:09.239
<v Speaker 2>I edited it slightly for people to really experience love

0:40:09.280 --> 0:40:11.680
<v Speaker 2>within themselves. So I'll ask people to close their eyes

0:40:11.719 --> 0:40:13.719
<v Speaker 2>and get into that zone. But I'll ask them to

0:40:13.760 --> 0:40:17.560
<v Speaker 2>go back to a memory where they felt the most joyful,

0:40:18.320 --> 0:40:21.960
<v Speaker 2>the most happy, and the most love. Who was there,

0:40:22.239 --> 0:40:25.279
<v Speaker 2>How did it smell, what could they see, what could

0:40:25.280 --> 0:40:28.520
<v Speaker 2>they hear, what could they taste? And immediately people will

0:40:28.560 --> 0:40:31.560
<v Speaker 2>have a vision. People think of their wedding day. People

0:40:31.640 --> 0:40:35.239
<v Speaker 2>have even thought of their dog passing away because it

0:40:35.280 --> 0:40:38.319
<v Speaker 2>was a really important transition point for them. It could

0:40:38.320 --> 0:40:42.239
<v Speaker 2>be the first time they celebrated their parent or bought

0:40:42.239 --> 0:40:44.640
<v Speaker 2>their parent a home or whatever it was. The ability

0:40:44.680 --> 0:40:47.440
<v Speaker 2>to take care of someone. Yeah, it's really beautiful. It's different,

0:40:48.080 --> 0:40:50.920
<v Speaker 2>but it's really interesting. What you said is for most

0:40:50.960 --> 0:40:54.640
<v Speaker 2>of us, it's actually the opposite that we do more of.

0:40:55.520 --> 0:41:00.000
<v Speaker 2>So it's more common for us to replay a negative

0:41:00.360 --> 0:41:04.120
<v Speaker 2>memory again and again and again and again. Then it

0:41:04.160 --> 0:41:06.240
<v Speaker 2>is for us to remember what we did last weekend,

0:41:06.320 --> 0:41:08.799
<v Speaker 2>even if it was positive. Why do we do that?

0:41:08.840 --> 0:41:12.320
<v Speaker 2>Why do we replay negative memories? Why is it so easy?

0:41:12.680 --> 0:41:13.759
<v Speaker 2>And what do we do about it?

0:41:14.360 --> 0:41:20.000
<v Speaker 1>Memory is imprinted with emotion for our protection, right like

0:41:20.719 --> 0:41:22.759
<v Speaker 1>you see a snake. You don't want to have to

0:41:22.800 --> 0:41:27.520
<v Speaker 1>think about it. It's a global thing. But roughly, as

0:41:27.560 --> 0:41:32.360
<v Speaker 1>the brain blossomed, it went from brainstem which people call reptilian,

0:41:32.560 --> 0:41:35.640
<v Speaker 1>to limbic structures that people call emotional or primal brain

0:41:36.360 --> 0:41:39.120
<v Speaker 1>and prefrontal cortex, which is which is the part of

0:41:39.160 --> 0:41:43.360
<v Speaker 1>the brain that pushed the brain forward. They have different regions,

0:41:43.400 --> 0:41:47.000
<v Speaker 1>but they're all interconnected and they're hubs, so it's not

0:41:47.040 --> 0:41:50.080
<v Speaker 1>a consistent texture throughout the brain. It's not like a liver,

0:41:50.680 --> 0:41:52.840
<v Speaker 1>it's not like flaw And whereas like the brain. The

0:41:52.880 --> 0:41:56.200
<v Speaker 1>brain is not one thing. It's a whole ecosystem, different structures,

0:41:56.239 --> 0:42:03.280
<v Speaker 1>different connections, different cells, and memory and emotion are intertwined

0:42:03.320 --> 0:42:06.640
<v Speaker 1>as part of the primal limbic structures. That's the way

0:42:07.280 --> 0:42:11.959
<v Speaker 1>my puppy can sniff and smell out when I'm trying

0:42:12.000 --> 0:42:14.480
<v Speaker 1>to trick her. I think about it in that way.

0:42:14.600 --> 0:42:16.759
<v Speaker 1>How ingenious that it is. Like if you're going on

0:42:16.880 --> 0:42:19.520
<v Speaker 1>a date night, You're like, hey, Frankie, Frankie, come come,

0:42:20.120 --> 0:42:23.000
<v Speaker 1>She's like looking at you. Right, that's instinct. So emotion

0:42:24.120 --> 0:42:26.719
<v Speaker 1>and memory and thoughts, that is the type of thinking

0:42:26.760 --> 0:42:28.960
<v Speaker 1>I don't think of emotions. Are not thinking that. If

0:42:28.960 --> 0:42:31.400
<v Speaker 1>you have a brain injury and you lose those primal centers,

0:42:31.920 --> 0:42:34.360
<v Speaker 1>you're paralyzed. You can't make a decision. You can actually

0:42:34.360 --> 0:42:36.640
<v Speaker 1>have an injury to your prefrontal cortex and still do

0:42:36.760 --> 0:42:39.480
<v Speaker 1>a lot with just your limbic structure. So emotion and

0:42:39.560 --> 0:42:42.439
<v Speaker 1>memory are important, right, you want that imprint. I saw

0:42:42.480 --> 0:42:45.800
<v Speaker 1>a snake. I jumped before I thought about it. Then

0:42:46.200 --> 0:42:50.399
<v Speaker 1>what also happens is we have emotional regulation. I saw

0:42:50.440 --> 0:42:52.520
<v Speaker 1>the snake, I jump, Then I look down the second

0:42:52.520 --> 0:42:54.920
<v Speaker 1>time and it's a plastic snake. I'm not worried about that,

0:42:55.960 --> 0:42:58.640
<v Speaker 1>or I'm afraid of heights and exposure therapy. I could

0:42:58.719 --> 0:43:03.920
<v Speaker 1>learn to tamp down my emotional responses with my prefrontal cortex,

0:43:03.920 --> 0:43:05.480
<v Speaker 1>which is the area of the brain that pushed the

0:43:05.520 --> 0:43:07.680
<v Speaker 1>forehead forward. Can think of it as two fists, and

0:43:07.719 --> 0:43:10.440
<v Speaker 1>there's different regions that do different things that are fascinating.

0:43:11.080 --> 0:43:14.760
<v Speaker 1>That's an important system, but that system is so hot

0:43:15.520 --> 0:43:18.879
<v Speaker 1>for your protection that it could go sideways on you too.

0:43:19.360 --> 0:43:23.719
<v Speaker 1>So what I think is important is that most of us,

0:43:23.719 --> 0:43:27.480
<v Speaker 1>when we have traumatic experiences, we don't develop PTSD. The

0:43:27.520 --> 0:43:31.520
<v Speaker 1>great majority of people from hurricanes and COVID and other things,

0:43:31.719 --> 0:43:35.200
<v Speaker 1>they don't develop PTSD. There is a protective mechanism on

0:43:35.280 --> 0:43:39.400
<v Speaker 1>how to deal with trauma, and that mechanism is learning

0:43:39.440 --> 0:43:43.320
<v Speaker 1>to uncouple the emotional imprint of the limbic structures in

0:43:43.360 --> 0:43:45.279
<v Speaker 1>the primal area of the brain, A mike diligious part

0:43:45.280 --> 0:43:50.239
<v Speaker 1>of it. That I was hurt and the assailant was

0:43:50.280 --> 0:43:54.680
<v Speaker 1>wearing a flannel jacket. Your immediate response is not to

0:43:54.719 --> 0:43:59.359
<v Speaker 1>go down that alley. That's protective. When a year later

0:43:59.480 --> 0:44:01.880
<v Speaker 1>you're not able to leave your home, I'm not judging you.

0:44:01.920 --> 0:44:04.040
<v Speaker 1>I'd be the same way. I'm just saying that's something

0:44:04.080 --> 0:44:06.720
<v Speaker 1>you want to work on. That emotional imprint is too strong.

0:44:07.040 --> 0:44:10.719
<v Speaker 1>Then you go to somebody who can take you safely

0:44:11.560 --> 0:44:15.120
<v Speaker 1>based on you feeling safe. Not every therapist's office is safe.

0:44:15.239 --> 0:44:18.560
<v Speaker 1>You feel safe, you bring up that memory, your body

0:44:18.600 --> 0:44:22.360
<v Speaker 1>has response, and you realize, you know what, it's okay.

0:44:22.520 --> 0:44:26.520
<v Speaker 1>You do that ten times and what happens. You take

0:44:26.640 --> 0:44:35.560
<v Speaker 1>the traumatic, negative, hurtful, scary emotion to that memory. You

0:44:35.600 --> 0:44:38.759
<v Speaker 1>don't lose that memory. Those patients will tell you, yeah,

0:44:38.800 --> 0:44:41.200
<v Speaker 1>now I can think of it, but it doesn't it

0:44:41.200 --> 0:44:42.719
<v Speaker 1>doesn't take my breath away. Like that.

0:44:42.800 --> 0:44:47.480
<v Speaker 2>You're extracting the story you have attached to that memory

0:44:47.520 --> 0:44:48.840
<v Speaker 2>from that memory.

0:44:48.680 --> 0:44:51.640
<v Speaker 1>Right, yeah, the negative imprint part of the story. Yes,

0:44:51.680 --> 0:44:54.359
<v Speaker 1>you're not. You're not trying to forget about it. That's

0:44:54.360 --> 0:44:57.480
<v Speaker 1>the most that's the threat. Like that's established. I don't

0:44:57.520 --> 0:44:59.879
<v Speaker 1>know how that works. I'm not a therapist, but that's

0:45:00.040 --> 0:45:03.319
<v Speaker 1>that's the point. There is the hippocampus, the hub from

0:45:03.440 --> 0:45:08.359
<v Speaker 1>brain wide memory and limbic structure. Something happens. They're meant

0:45:08.400 --> 0:45:10.640
<v Speaker 1>to stamp you. Don't go down that alley again, don't

0:45:10.680 --> 0:45:13.080
<v Speaker 1>get hit with that snag again. Right, Like that that's

0:45:13.120 --> 0:45:16.520
<v Speaker 1>the design. But what happens in our life is we're

0:45:16.560 --> 0:45:19.680
<v Speaker 1>dealing with a lot of the hurt from it, from lovers,

0:45:20.040 --> 0:45:23.759
<v Speaker 1>from experiences at work, and from assault that you know,

0:45:23.760 --> 0:45:25.680
<v Speaker 1>I'm working in a hospital. People still get hurt quite

0:45:25.680 --> 0:45:28.360
<v Speaker 1>a bit. And so when you're able to revisit a

0:45:28.440 --> 0:45:34.480
<v Speaker 1>memory in a controlled environment and not have that harmful experience,

0:45:35.120 --> 0:45:38.040
<v Speaker 1>you can dampen your emotional stamp onto that memory. You

0:45:38.080 --> 0:45:43.280
<v Speaker 1>don't forget the memory, you just uncouple, disassociate the emotional feelings,

0:45:43.360 --> 0:45:46.600
<v Speaker 1>the trauma, the fear, the physical reaction. And I don't

0:45:46.600 --> 0:45:48.399
<v Speaker 1>know if that's a negativity bias or not. I don't

0:45:48.400 --> 0:45:49.840
<v Speaker 1>have an answer for that. You ask, like, why do

0:45:49.880 --> 0:45:53.240
<v Speaker 1>we always remember more painful things? I mean, maybe they're protective.

0:45:53.280 --> 0:45:56.080
<v Speaker 1>It's more of evolutionary psychology. Maybe that helped us. There's

0:45:56.080 --> 0:45:57.759
<v Speaker 1>no way to experiment or like, I can't give you

0:45:57.840 --> 0:45:59.600
<v Speaker 1>that answer. But what I would say to you is,

0:46:00.080 --> 0:46:03.720
<v Speaker 1>what if we did the flip side. Maybe that's the neurobiology.

0:46:03.760 --> 0:46:06.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm not talking about neuroscience and the brain, the brain,

0:46:06.840 --> 0:46:12.319
<v Speaker 1>just just to be specific, what if by remembering a

0:46:12.400 --> 0:46:20.880
<v Speaker 1>positive memory, you are enhancing and accentuating the positive stamp

0:46:21.000 --> 0:46:25.400
<v Speaker 1>that belief. Yeah, yeah, and the and because it's interconnected

0:46:25.440 --> 0:46:29.960
<v Speaker 1>with hubs and continents and lobes. Not what if because

0:46:30.000 --> 0:46:33.080
<v Speaker 1>it's interconnected. Just stay with me. If you have an

0:46:33.080 --> 0:46:35.960
<v Speaker 1>emotional negative negative emotional stamp on a memory and it

0:46:36.080 --> 0:46:39.040
<v Speaker 1>reverberates through your body, I mean, just gooseb I mean,

0:46:39.080 --> 0:46:41.799
<v Speaker 1>you know it's it's like we can go over the connections,

0:46:42.040 --> 0:46:46.919
<v Speaker 1>but it's a physiologic response. What if you could have

0:46:47.880 --> 0:46:51.399
<v Speaker 1>by choice in that part of that prefrontal cortex area

0:46:51.480 --> 0:46:53.839
<v Speaker 1>at the bottom called orbital frontal cortex. Without getting into

0:46:53.800 --> 0:46:57.480
<v Speaker 1>the the details of it, but there's an internal referee

0:46:57.480 --> 0:47:00.320
<v Speaker 1>of where we steer our thoughts in our competition of

0:47:00.400 --> 0:47:03.839
<v Speaker 1>wants and thoughts. What if we spent time saying, bring

0:47:03.920 --> 0:47:07.719
<v Speaker 1>up positive old memories, stamp them harder, put them in

0:47:07.800 --> 0:47:11.520
<v Speaker 1>a collective environment that reinforces it, bring out the positive thinking,

0:47:11.560 --> 0:47:14.960
<v Speaker 1>bring out the positive vibes. It could be physiologically possible

0:47:15.000 --> 0:47:18.960
<v Speaker 1>to be the opposite of PTSD emotional stamping of the hippocampus.

0:47:19.200 --> 0:47:21.879
<v Speaker 1>Now there's no experiment for that, but I believe in that.

0:47:22.640 --> 0:47:24.799
<v Speaker 1>There's no reason not to believe in that. And if

0:47:24.840 --> 0:47:28.040
<v Speaker 1>you do that, just remember it's not happening in a

0:47:28.080 --> 0:47:31.640
<v Speaker 1>spot in your brain. It's reverberating through your brain and

0:47:31.680 --> 0:47:34.200
<v Speaker 1>your body. So then maybe you stop having some of

0:47:34.200 --> 0:47:39.800
<v Speaker 1>those somatic symptoms. Maybe maybe you feel that flow state

0:47:39.880 --> 0:47:42.320
<v Speaker 1>where your body is different and your brain is different.

0:47:42.400 --> 0:47:47.520
<v Speaker 1>So I believe that every nerve is two way. A touch,

0:47:47.640 --> 0:47:49.439
<v Speaker 1>it goes up, I want to move, it's the same nerve.

0:47:49.480 --> 0:47:55.040
<v Speaker 1>It's bidirectional. So why can't the relationship between our primal

0:47:55.120 --> 0:47:59.200
<v Speaker 1>Olympic circuits whatever migdala and our memory zone and all interconnect.

0:47:59.280 --> 0:48:01.439
<v Speaker 1>Why can't that be by directional? If we can stamp

0:48:01.480 --> 0:48:03.760
<v Speaker 1>a negative memories that we don't fall in that trap again,

0:48:04.200 --> 0:48:06.160
<v Speaker 1>What if we can stamp a positive memory and add

0:48:06.160 --> 0:48:07.280
<v Speaker 1>momentum in that direction.

0:48:08.440 --> 0:48:11.080
<v Speaker 2>This is a huge, huge thing I won't be able

0:48:11.080 --> 0:48:14.360
<v Speaker 2>to take away because what we've kind of stumbled on

0:48:14.440 --> 0:48:19.040
<v Speaker 2>here is so profound for people, because what we're saying is,

0:48:19.920 --> 0:48:23.080
<v Speaker 2>don't try to forget the bad memory. If you try

0:48:23.120 --> 0:48:24.960
<v Speaker 2>to forget the bad memory, it will never go away.

0:48:25.000 --> 0:48:27.120
<v Speaker 2>That memory is going to stay there because it's trying

0:48:27.160 --> 0:48:30.040
<v Speaker 2>to teach you something, it's trying to remind you something,

0:48:30.280 --> 0:48:32.400
<v Speaker 2>it's trying to make you aware of something. But if

0:48:32.440 --> 0:48:35.440
<v Speaker 2>you can change the story, if you can give it

0:48:35.480 --> 0:48:40.840
<v Speaker 2>a different meaning, if you can extract the pain, because

0:48:41.440 --> 0:48:45.200
<v Speaker 2>it just completely transforms. And I'm thinking about so many

0:48:45.200 --> 0:48:49.080
<v Speaker 2>moments in my life that you're so right that now

0:48:49.120 --> 0:48:51.560
<v Speaker 2>you can think of that memory. The memory is not gone,

0:48:52.480 --> 0:48:55.160
<v Speaker 2>but the way I think of that moment, I think

0:48:55.160 --> 0:48:57.040
<v Speaker 2>of it as being a powerful part of my story.

0:48:57.080 --> 0:48:59.880
<v Speaker 2>I think of it as being a beautiful breakthrough from

0:49:00.239 --> 0:49:03.399
<v Speaker 2>put that crisis to use absolutely and all of a sudden, Yeah,

0:49:03.440 --> 0:49:04.040
<v Speaker 2>that's really.

0:49:03.880 --> 0:49:05.920
<v Speaker 1>Because it's too hard to tell somebody to forget that.

0:49:05.920 --> 0:49:08.000
<v Speaker 1>They're like, uh, but I don't mean to forget that.

0:49:08.000 --> 0:49:10.919
<v Speaker 1>It's the only thing I'm thinking about. It's not fair

0:49:10.960 --> 0:49:11.279
<v Speaker 1>to them.

0:49:11.320 --> 0:49:13.399
<v Speaker 2>I think the problem is not just people telling us.

0:49:13.440 --> 0:49:15.000
<v Speaker 2>I think we want to forget it.

0:49:14.960 --> 0:49:16.680
<v Speaker 1>Well because of the language and the concepts that are

0:49:16.680 --> 0:49:20.320
<v Speaker 1>out there. But if we're told, no, you haven't failed

0:49:20.320 --> 0:49:23.160
<v Speaker 1>because you forgot to have that thought, you haven't failed.

0:49:23.719 --> 0:49:28.719
<v Speaker 1>You haven't failed in your intentional efforts because that thing continues.

0:49:28.000 --> 0:49:31.280
<v Speaker 3>To grip you just say, yeah, that's in your head,

0:49:31.880 --> 0:49:34.240
<v Speaker 3>that's in your life, that's your Nobody knows what happened

0:49:34.280 --> 0:49:36.600
<v Speaker 3>last night to me or you or that patient or

0:49:36.640 --> 0:49:41.840
<v Speaker 3>anybody so it cannot be the same advice for everyone,

0:49:42.160 --> 0:49:44.280
<v Speaker 3>but it can be the same concept.

0:49:44.480 --> 0:49:47.960
<v Speaker 1>We don't have infinitely wild dreams. Our dreams follow some patterns. Well,

0:49:47.960 --> 0:49:52.799
<v Speaker 1>our thoughts and emotions follow some patterns. Negative emotional imprinting

0:49:53.239 --> 0:49:57.120
<v Speaker 1>built in. Turn that out its head and it'll be incremental.

0:49:57.680 --> 0:49:59.640
<v Speaker 1>It's not gonna be a tomorrow. I see, I get it.

0:50:00.000 --> 0:50:01.560
<v Speaker 1>I can hold on to that memory. I just can't

0:50:01.560 --> 0:50:04.160
<v Speaker 1>feel bad about it. That's not going to happen in

0:50:04.200 --> 0:50:06.240
<v Speaker 1>a second. It's not going to happen in a moment.

0:50:06.400 --> 0:50:08.480
<v Speaker 1>There are epiphanies we can get into some things like that,

0:50:08.760 --> 0:50:11.680
<v Speaker 1>but that's the direction that you want to put your

0:50:12.080 --> 0:50:13.200
<v Speaker 1>attention and focus.

0:50:13.480 --> 0:50:15.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah no, and it applies to even what you were

0:50:15.680 --> 0:50:18.080
<v Speaker 2>saying last time you were here. And for anyone who's listening,

0:50:18.120 --> 0:50:19.880
<v Speaker 2>we're not going to dive into this topic today, but

0:50:20.160 --> 0:50:22.520
<v Speaker 2>you can go back and listen to Doctor Rowl John

0:50:22.560 --> 0:50:26.200
<v Speaker 2>Deelle's first episode on the podcast. You're talking about this

0:50:26.320 --> 0:50:28.920
<v Speaker 2>powerful state for when we're kind of await, kind of

0:50:28.920 --> 0:50:31.040
<v Speaker 2>asleep in the morning. You're talking about the need to

0:50:31.120 --> 0:50:33.600
<v Speaker 2>journal at that time to sleep. I've been practicing it

0:50:33.640 --> 0:50:35.879
<v Speaker 2>ever since we spoke. It's been one of my favorite things.

0:50:35.920 --> 0:50:38.320
<v Speaker 2>I've talked about it with people, shared it with people,

0:50:39.160 --> 0:50:41.880
<v Speaker 2>and it's amazing because I was saying to I was

0:50:41.880 --> 0:50:44.520
<v Speaker 2>talking to my personal trainer today where when we're working out,

0:50:45.160 --> 0:50:47.160
<v Speaker 2>and I was explaining to him that if you said

0:50:47.280 --> 0:50:50.000
<v Speaker 2>in that time, I'm tired, like that's the first thing

0:50:50.040 --> 0:50:52.600
<v Speaker 2>you think of. Now for the rest of the day,

0:50:52.640 --> 0:50:56.280
<v Speaker 2>you're just looking for proof and confirmation that you're tired.

0:50:56.719 --> 0:50:58.280
<v Speaker 2>So you look in the mirror and you see bags

0:50:58.320 --> 0:51:00.000
<v Speaker 2>under your eyes and go, yeah, I knew I was tired.

0:51:00.640 --> 0:51:02.080
<v Speaker 2>Then you get to the day and you're late for

0:51:02.120 --> 0:51:04.040
<v Speaker 2>your meing and everything's feeling a bit slow, and you're like,

0:51:04.280 --> 0:51:05.920
<v Speaker 2>I knew I was tired. And now what you're doing

0:51:06.000 --> 0:51:09.080
<v Speaker 2>is you're just confirming that belief and it's not setting

0:51:09.160 --> 0:51:11.840
<v Speaker 2>you up. Rather than saying, I'm going to look for

0:51:11.960 --> 0:51:14.239
<v Speaker 2>energy today, I'm going to find rest today, I'm going

0:51:14.280 --> 0:51:17.399
<v Speaker 2>to create a space for curiosity today, whatever it may be,

0:51:17.719 --> 0:51:19.759
<v Speaker 2>you're now going to look for that. And I think

0:51:19.760 --> 0:51:22.320
<v Speaker 2>that at the very base level, is how we wire

0:51:22.880 --> 0:51:25.680
<v Speaker 2>what we look for and what our repeated thoughts are

0:51:25.680 --> 0:51:28.080
<v Speaker 2>throughout the day. And so I really love that piece

0:51:28.080 --> 0:51:29.879
<v Speaker 2>of advice. I'd love to encourage people to go back

0:51:29.880 --> 0:51:31.839
<v Speaker 2>to it. But going back to the conversation we're having

0:51:31.880 --> 0:51:35.160
<v Speaker 2>right now, one thing that comes to mind is a

0:51:35.160 --> 0:51:38.560
<v Speaker 2>lot of people today are scared of going to therapy

0:51:39.440 --> 0:51:42.920
<v Speaker 2>because they don't feel even if they don't say this consciously,

0:51:43.680 --> 0:51:47.880
<v Speaker 2>they don't feel they want to bring something up because

0:51:47.880 --> 0:51:51.880
<v Speaker 2>it's so painful. I interviewed someone a couple of months ago,

0:51:52.680 --> 0:51:55.719
<v Speaker 2>and all I could think of the whole time was

0:51:55.760 --> 0:51:59.920
<v Speaker 2>that they just couldn't go there. And they haven't gone

0:52:00.239 --> 0:52:02.759
<v Speaker 2>not even in their public life on a podcast. They

0:52:02.800 --> 0:52:05.600
<v Speaker 2>haven't gone there in their private life because they don't

0:52:05.640 --> 0:52:08.280
<v Speaker 2>want to go there. Is it true that the brain

0:52:08.360 --> 0:52:11.160
<v Speaker 2>will let you go there when you're ready or why

0:52:11.239 --> 0:52:14.680
<v Speaker 2>is it that they're suppressing this negative experience.

0:52:14.680 --> 0:52:18.280
<v Speaker 1>I don't have an answer for that. And you know, again,

0:52:18.360 --> 0:52:22.560
<v Speaker 1>the concept of the brain as a as a single entity,

0:52:22.600 --> 0:52:26.200
<v Speaker 1>I would say, you know, like our brain, mind and behavior.

0:52:27.760 --> 0:52:30.640
<v Speaker 1>So I try to think of it as the brain

0:52:30.719 --> 0:52:33.759
<v Speaker 1>creates a mind. It can create many minds, the dreaming mind,

0:52:33.800 --> 0:52:36.360
<v Speaker 1>the waking mind. During the day, we have many minds.

0:52:36.520 --> 0:52:39.560
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes you're frustrated, sometimes you're tired, and then there's behavior

0:52:40.239 --> 0:52:43.120
<v Speaker 1>his mind. That person's mind might be saying this is

0:52:43.120 --> 0:52:45.920
<v Speaker 1>something I need to address. It's eating me up. But

0:52:46.000 --> 0:52:49.400
<v Speaker 1>the behavior doesn't translate to going to take those steps.

0:52:49.800 --> 0:52:51.520
<v Speaker 1>And that's the thing I'm working on right now is

0:52:51.960 --> 0:52:55.480
<v Speaker 1>the difference between mind and behavior, which comes down to

0:52:55.560 --> 0:52:59.719
<v Speaker 1>sort of the internal referee. Again, like the brain is

0:52:59.760 --> 0:53:01.600
<v Speaker 1>created the mind. The mind can actually go back and

0:53:01.680 --> 0:53:06.279
<v Speaker 1>change the brain. So certain certain ways of thought can

0:53:06.360 --> 0:53:10.239
<v Speaker 1>create grooves where electricity is more likely to flow, like

0:53:10.560 --> 0:53:13.520
<v Speaker 1>it's kind of steering the aurora borealis of neuronal activity

0:53:13.520 --> 0:53:18.120
<v Speaker 1>in your brain. And then but there's behavior. Behavior is fascinating.

0:53:18.480 --> 0:53:20.960
<v Speaker 1>You can think I need to do this, and you don't, like,

0:53:21.040 --> 0:53:23.600
<v Speaker 1>where's why does that not happen? Aren't you in charge

0:53:23.680 --> 0:53:26.640
<v Speaker 1>of yourself? You're not. You have a competition of wants

0:53:26.880 --> 0:53:29.880
<v Speaker 1>and behavior. You know what the right thing to do is?

0:53:29.920 --> 0:53:32.320
<v Speaker 1>This person might say I need to tackle this. I

0:53:32.320 --> 0:53:35.280
<v Speaker 1>would be better by tackling this. So mind and behavior

0:53:35.320 --> 0:53:38.320
<v Speaker 1>is uncoupled. We don't always act on what we should

0:53:38.520 --> 0:53:41.000
<v Speaker 1>do or have even decided to do. But then the

0:53:41.480 --> 0:53:44.640
<v Speaker 1>original thing you ask suppression. But one of the coping

0:53:44.680 --> 0:53:49.160
<v Speaker 1>mechanisms is a suppressing looking at something difficult, and I

0:53:49.200 --> 0:53:51.040
<v Speaker 1>see that when I was I did a lot of

0:53:51.080 --> 0:53:54.799
<v Speaker 1>pediatric neurosurgery. Like you got to give the parents time

0:53:54.840 --> 0:53:57.480
<v Speaker 1>to deal with the sick child. So yeah, they're going

0:53:57.560 --> 0:53:59.520
<v Speaker 1>to hold it at bay, they're going to suppress it.

0:53:59.600 --> 0:54:04.920
<v Speaker 1>That does mean that's a pathologic or bad therapeutic technique.

0:54:05.520 --> 0:54:10.359
<v Speaker 1>It's ecological validity, right, Like in that situation, we ain't

0:54:10.440 --> 0:54:13.120
<v Speaker 1>judging parents who got sick kids, right because that's a

0:54:13.160 --> 0:54:16.160
<v Speaker 1>stress we can't imagine. So for this person, I don't

0:54:16.160 --> 0:54:18.600
<v Speaker 1>know what's going on in the other parts of the life,

0:54:19.200 --> 0:54:24.640
<v Speaker 1>but suppression of something is uh is a basic but

0:54:24.880 --> 0:54:27.040
<v Speaker 1>very effective and.

0:54:27.000 --> 0:54:28.680
<v Speaker 2>So it shouldn't be forced out of people, is what

0:54:28.719 --> 0:54:29.160
<v Speaker 2>I'm saying.

0:54:29.280 --> 0:54:30.360
<v Speaker 1>I don't know what's going on with it.

0:54:30.480 --> 0:54:32.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you know, No, I think that's a really important

0:54:32.160 --> 0:54:34.839
<v Speaker 2>note because I think a lot of us, especially when

0:54:34.880 --> 0:54:37.239
<v Speaker 2>you start doing some of this work, a lot of

0:54:37.280 --> 0:54:39.200
<v Speaker 2>people want their family member to be like you need

0:54:39.200 --> 0:54:41.560
<v Speaker 2>to go therapy, like you need to go look at

0:54:41.560 --> 0:54:44.920
<v Speaker 2>your past. And I feel like it's well intentioned. Yeah,

0:54:44.960 --> 0:54:48.280
<v Speaker 2>but you've got to be very careful because that person

0:54:48.360 --> 0:54:50.640
<v Speaker 2>may actually need to wait a certain amount of time

0:54:50.680 --> 0:54:51.719
<v Speaker 2>before they feel.

0:54:51.480 --> 0:54:54.680
<v Speaker 1>Ready and to fully engage and to dilect I love

0:54:54.719 --> 0:54:56.919
<v Speaker 1>the attention and focus thing, because you're not. You can't

0:54:56.920 --> 0:54:58.720
<v Speaker 1>just show up. You got to put attention and focus

0:54:58.760 --> 0:54:59.000
<v Speaker 1>to that.

0:54:59.160 --> 0:55:01.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, exactly. So even if you force them to go

0:55:01.200 --> 0:55:03.759
<v Speaker 2>but they weren't ready to engage, it's going to be

0:55:03.800 --> 0:55:05.880
<v Speaker 2>even worse and they may walk out thinking that doesn't

0:55:05.920 --> 0:55:08.520
<v Speaker 2>work for them or it was a useless waste of time.

0:55:08.640 --> 0:55:12.400
<v Speaker 1>Right. And I think as a physician, as a surgeon,

0:55:12.440 --> 0:55:15.279
<v Speaker 1>I see myself as a cancer surgeon. Yes, brain, but

0:55:15.920 --> 0:55:19.279
<v Speaker 1>cancer surgeon. I never say you need this or you

0:55:19.400 --> 0:55:23.960
<v Speaker 1>need that. You can choose to not have this life

0:55:24.000 --> 0:55:27.400
<v Speaker 1>saving measure. You can choose to let this thing, you know,

0:55:27.520 --> 0:55:31.160
<v Speaker 1>cause you pain. I'm just talking to you about leaving

0:55:31.200 --> 0:55:36.000
<v Speaker 1>you with an understanding, an informed so you can make

0:55:36.040 --> 0:55:39.120
<v Speaker 1>My role is to inform you about the things that

0:55:39.160 --> 0:55:42.360
<v Speaker 1>are out there in this world, this medicine, that medicine,

0:55:42.520 --> 0:55:46.759
<v Speaker 1>this surgery, that surgery, and then if you choose me

0:55:46.960 --> 0:55:50.399
<v Speaker 1>to be your surgeon, I will give you everything. Then

0:55:50.719 --> 0:55:53.560
<v Speaker 1>I feel like that's how it should be for psychological

0:55:54.719 --> 0:56:00.799
<v Speaker 1>challenges as well, Like, hey, loved one, you know, I

0:56:00.880 --> 0:56:04.000
<v Speaker 1>know you. I could see you're not doing well. These

0:56:04.040 --> 0:56:06.400
<v Speaker 1>are kind of the things that are out there. You know,

0:56:06.440 --> 0:56:10.439
<v Speaker 1>there's this, there's that, and there is no one path,

0:56:10.480 --> 0:56:13.759
<v Speaker 1>and depression gives us that answer. For some people, it's

0:56:13.800 --> 0:56:16.480
<v Speaker 1>the talking cure. For some people, it's the talking cure

0:56:16.520 --> 0:56:20.240
<v Speaker 1>plus a medicine that interferes with serotonin at the neuronal level.

0:56:21.440 --> 0:56:24.920
<v Speaker 1>For other people, they're so close to self harm that

0:56:25.000 --> 0:56:28.200
<v Speaker 1>it's a ketamine's sniff in a hospital that breaks their

0:56:28.239 --> 0:56:31.080
<v Speaker 1>suicidal ideation within twelve hours, Like, wow, how does that work?

0:56:31.120 --> 0:56:35.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm fascinated with that. For other people it's I choose

0:56:35.280 --> 0:56:38.359
<v Speaker 1>to have stickers placed on my scalp and get shock

0:56:38.440 --> 0:56:41.200
<v Speaker 1>therapy at elite centers. Like so, if you look at depression,

0:56:41.920 --> 0:56:44.880
<v Speaker 1>it's just so wide, and people say, well, this treatment

0:56:44.920 --> 0:56:48.080
<v Speaker 1>didn't work. But yeah, because all of those treatments only

0:56:48.080 --> 0:56:49.879
<v Speaker 1>work in some of those people. But please keep going

0:56:49.920 --> 0:56:52.680
<v Speaker 1>because there might be something that works for you. That's

0:56:52.719 --> 0:56:58.240
<v Speaker 1>what I think. Where whereas therapy it's just it's too encapsulated.

0:56:58.360 --> 0:57:01.480
<v Speaker 1>It may not have the term is encapsulated. I love

0:57:01.520 --> 0:57:03.920
<v Speaker 1>the field. I've been reading about it, like cognitive reappraisal

0:57:04.360 --> 0:57:06.840
<v Speaker 1>and how to stop bodily urges. Like, I love the field,

0:57:07.120 --> 0:57:13.280
<v Speaker 1>but the deliveries sometimes not nuanced enough, nurturing enough inviting

0:57:13.400 --> 0:57:16.000
<v Speaker 1>enough for the other person. So I would say, think

0:57:16.040 --> 0:57:18.840
<v Speaker 1>about how you know people engage cancer page like, you

0:57:18.840 --> 0:57:20.840
<v Speaker 1>don't have to do anything, but do you know that

0:57:20.920 --> 0:57:23.560
<v Speaker 1>these things exist and may benefit you, may harm you?

0:57:24.600 --> 0:57:27.920
<v Speaker 1>Depression the wide range. I think that is where I

0:57:27.960 --> 0:57:31.480
<v Speaker 1>would like to see the term therapy go. So it's

0:57:31.520 --> 0:57:35.000
<v Speaker 1>not a you ain't doing well, I got it all

0:57:35.040 --> 0:57:38.200
<v Speaker 1>figured out. I'm judging you with this term. It's more

0:57:38.200 --> 0:57:42.000
<v Speaker 1>of an invitation, an exploration that has benefited me. You

0:57:42.040 --> 0:57:43.040
<v Speaker 1>may want to consider it.

0:57:43.240 --> 0:57:45.400
<v Speaker 2>I remember growing up, I used to always hear the

0:57:45.480 --> 0:57:49.240
<v Speaker 2>phrase we're only using five percent of the brain's potential.

0:57:49.720 --> 0:57:50.640
<v Speaker 2>How true is that?

0:57:50.920 --> 0:57:54.880
<v Speaker 1>Well, over here it was twenty That's the urban legend.

0:57:55.360 --> 0:57:57.959
<v Speaker 1>And I think it's exciting because you think, like, hey,

0:57:58.280 --> 0:57:59.880
<v Speaker 1>if I did this, I think there was a movie

0:58:00.040 --> 0:58:03.440
<v Speaker 1>Radley Cooper. Yeah, like, okay, I'm I'm just waiting on.

0:58:03.840 --> 0:58:05.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna be at the boss of all of

0:58:05.480 --> 0:58:07.520
<v Speaker 1>this ones. I get the rest of this eighty this

0:58:07.600 --> 0:58:10.640
<v Speaker 1>eighty percent kicking in. It's it's a myth, and ILL

0:58:10.640 --> 0:58:13.280
<v Speaker 1>explain to you why a couple of clear reasons you've

0:58:13.320 --> 0:58:17.960
<v Speaker 1>earned it. I know, but ostillly if people inspired because

0:58:17.960 --> 0:58:20.680
<v Speaker 1>it's such an energy hog. I don't want to run

0:58:20.840 --> 0:58:24.920
<v Speaker 1>all the brain matter to tie my shoelaces. So habits

0:58:24.920 --> 0:58:29.160
<v Speaker 1>will manage with just in that ecosystem of jellyfish, just

0:58:29.200 --> 0:58:32.640
<v Speaker 1>the lightest shiver of electricity will shiver through some neurons

0:58:32.800 --> 0:58:35.400
<v Speaker 1>to tie my shoelaces. We want to be efficient, right,

0:58:36.000 --> 0:58:39.560
<v Speaker 1>so we only use twenty percent of our brain at

0:58:39.560 --> 0:58:41.960
<v Speaker 1>a time to do most things. But there is no

0:58:42.080 --> 0:58:45.160
<v Speaker 1>hidden corner, and we know that categorically now with brain scans,

0:58:45.400 --> 0:58:47.680
<v Speaker 1>the whole region lights up. It just lights up in

0:58:47.680 --> 0:58:51.040
<v Speaker 1>different ways for different tasks. I think what's inspiring for

0:58:51.120 --> 0:58:54.840
<v Speaker 1>people is to know that when you try to learn

0:58:54.920 --> 0:58:57.440
<v Speaker 1>something new, when you try to activate something new, it's

0:58:57.480 --> 0:59:00.320
<v Speaker 1>gonna feel like work. Like let's not it's not going

0:59:00.400 --> 0:59:04.360
<v Speaker 1>to be easy. But once you get over that, it's

0:59:04.360 --> 0:59:07.320
<v Speaker 1>called activation energy. Once you get over that, once you

0:59:07.360 --> 0:59:09.800
<v Speaker 1>put in the original work. The best way I can

0:59:09.840 --> 0:59:11.560
<v Speaker 1>describe it, you're going down a mountain. You're falling the

0:59:11.560 --> 0:59:15.520
<v Speaker 1>same sleep, the slopes, the ski the grooves on the

0:59:15.520 --> 0:59:18.240
<v Speaker 1>mountain that all the skiers are on. It's going to

0:59:18.320 --> 0:59:22.080
<v Speaker 1>take work to create another groove of thought, of feeling,

0:59:22.520 --> 0:59:26.480
<v Speaker 1>of emotion. But after a while it doesn't require the

0:59:26.480 --> 0:59:30.680
<v Speaker 1>same amount of effort, so that again there's decremental vigilance

0:59:30.720 --> 0:59:33.640
<v Speaker 1>and surgery, but there's also like, hey, this thing you're

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<v Speaker 1>trying to change, put a couple months into it, lockdown

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<v Speaker 1>for a couple months, and then the years afterwards, it'll

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<v Speaker 1>be in your pocket. It'll be easier. It's not going

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<v Speaker 1>to be uphill forever.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, thanks for busting the myth. The last thing I

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to talk to you about, Roll was this. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>so many young people today are getting cancer. I just

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<v Speaker 2>had my friend forty two, just you know, out of surgery.

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<v Speaker 2>Thankfully's to be okay. I think I lost a friend

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<v Speaker 2>a few years ago to carlon cancer. So many younger

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<v Speaker 2>people are getting cancer. We keep hearing it used to

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<v Speaker 2>be one in four, then one in three. Maybe it's

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<v Speaker 2>going to get to one in two people have cancer.

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<v Speaker 2>What do we do?

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<v Speaker 1>That's a big question. So that when you look at

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<v Speaker 1>last last thirty forty years, there have been some positive shifts.

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<v Speaker 1>Cancer treatments are leading to significantly improved lifespan and quality

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<v Speaker 1>of life for cancer patients. Lung cancer rates here are

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<v Speaker 1>going down. They're starting to pop up in other countries

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<v Speaker 1>where there's pollution, So there are shifts in cancer. The

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<v Speaker 1>concerning shift is certain cancers, breast and coal in particular,

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<v Speaker 1>are if on average they popped up at a certain age,

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<v Speaker 1>that curve. You know, there's some early outliers and some

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<v Speaker 1>late outliers, but the bulk of the curve that drives

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<v Speaker 1>you know, understanding of how to manage that at a

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<v Speaker 1>global and at a national level, that curve is shifting

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<v Speaker 1>earlier and in particular for women. And that's you know,

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<v Speaker 1>Chadwick Boseman got caught people's eyes, you know, with the

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<v Speaker 1>Black Panther. That's somebody that was very young. You started

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<v Speaker 1>to see people with breast cancer at much younger age.

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<v Speaker 1>That doesn't mean they're all passing away, but two questions

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<v Speaker 1>quickly arise, what's going on that's causing it? And then

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<v Speaker 1>what do we do differently to catch it? Right? While

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<v Speaker 1>waiting to figure out why it's happening? Do we need

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<v Speaker 1>to change how we live, how we screen and that

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<v Speaker 1>sort of thing? What's causing it? I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 1>used to get asked this thing, like are there more

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<v Speaker 1>brain tumors? Because everybody's on a cell phone now it's

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<v Speaker 1>not on our ear, but the global rates of brain

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<v Speaker 1>tumors didn't change the earlier cancers. People are saying, well,

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<v Speaker 1>is it microplastics, is it something else? Is it that?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. It's a hard thing to design an

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<v Speaker 1>experiment for. You're not going to give a thousand people

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<v Speaker 1>microplastics and a thousand people pretend microplastics as a and

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<v Speaker 1>so you have to look at the data that's available

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<v Speaker 1>to you. But there is a concern that our food,

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<v Speaker 1>our air, our water is not good enough for people

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<v Speaker 1>should receive more attention we deserve as a human right,

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<v Speaker 1>better food, water, the link to cancer. I can't say

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<v Speaker 1>that that's categorically there. What's very important is for those

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<v Speaker 1>people out there living with that fear now, like cancers

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<v Speaker 1>coming earlier, why not give them something that's good for

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<v Speaker 1>them that may also be protective for these cancers. I

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<v Speaker 1>think a lot of people on the flip side, like

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<v Speaker 1>there was this thing like you don't need an experiment

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<v Speaker 1>to say that if you don't open a parachute, you're

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<v Speaker 1>not going to do well. We don't need tons of

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<v Speaker 1>proof to say we should improve health at the systemic right.

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<v Speaker 1>We just talked about ten years of a certain diet,

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<v Speaker 1>what if ten years of bad water, bad food, and

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<v Speaker 1>bad process is is the culprit, even though I can't

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<v Speaker 1>prove it, that's the right thing to do, and I

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<v Speaker 1>think it gives people a sense of power. Okay. On

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<v Speaker 1>the flip side, screening needs to move early. If screening

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<v Speaker 1>for colon cancer in the past is forty five fifty,

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<v Speaker 1>we need to start screening people earlier. It's easy imaging.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have to have an invasive procedure. And here

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<v Speaker 1>we need more reduction of what I call barriers to care.

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<v Speaker 1>Right it's in our field. There are medicines in screening

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<v Speaker 1>and treatment that people don't even know about. People don't

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<v Speaker 1>even get to is a language barrier. Maybe somebody can't

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<v Speaker 1>afford the bus. So as I work in my laboratory

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<v Speaker 1>to make new medicine, we got to make sure the

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<v Speaker 1>medicine and the care we got gets to everybody. So

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<v Speaker 1>that's reduction the barriers to care education. You know, what

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<v Speaker 1>we're doing on television, what we're doing on messaging is

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<v Speaker 1>to start the screening a little bit earlier. And that's

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<v Speaker 1>important because both breston and colon they grow in stages one, two, three, four,

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<v Speaker 1>and wherever you're at if you catch it one stage earlier,

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<v Speaker 1>that's less medicine, maybe no medicine, less surgery, maybe no surgery.

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<v Speaker 1>So it doesn't matter where you catch it. You want

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<v Speaker 1>that feeling of I'm glad I got screened and I

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<v Speaker 1>caught it earlier. So those are my two suggestions.

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<v Speaker 2>It's such a fascinating time we're living in because I

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<v Speaker 2>think there's more data available than ever, but a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of us are scared of seeing that data as well,

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<v Speaker 2>and there's a fear of not wanting something but finding

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<v Speaker 2>out too early as well. Let's you know, it is

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of scared. And the biggest thing that I

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<v Speaker 2>think you raised today, which I'm glad that you're focused

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<v Speaker 2>on figuring it out, is that mind behavior disconnect, because

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<v Speaker 2>I think we all know what we have to do.

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<v Speaker 2>Everyone knows what they need to change, right me, and

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have to tell them. We're all aware, but

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<v Speaker 2>we just can't seem to do it. If you had

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<v Speaker 2>to give anyone any final words on that, for anyone

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<v Speaker 2>who's been listening today going I want to change my diet,

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<v Speaker 2>for anyone who's listening today saying to us, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I want to work out more, For anyone listening to

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<v Speaker 2>us today and saying I want to challenge myself more,

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<v Speaker 2>but I feel on MOTI, I feel tired. I'm just exhausted.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm overworked and overwhelmed. What would you say to them.

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<v Speaker 1>To give you a big picture? You as creatures in

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<v Speaker 1>this world, we have a reciprocal relationship with our environment.

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<v Speaker 1>The brilliance and beauty is that we have choice. The

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<v Speaker 1>like the first cell by the deep water. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>we used to just drift away from toxins, but then

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<v Speaker 1>at some point a single cell said that's nutrition. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to swing over there, and then a collective of

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<v Speaker 1>cells and then animals and creat so we have choice.

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<v Speaker 1>This is like I love this. And the newest part

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<v Speaker 1>of that prefrontal cortex, as describing to you the little

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<v Speaker 1>the newest neurons like sedimentary layers. You know, you can

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<v Speaker 1>see like where the dinosaurs are. You cut a tree

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<v Speaker 1>and you can see. You can agent you figure out

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<v Speaker 1>you in the brain, you can figure out which are

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<v Speaker 1>the newest neurons are in this area called the orbital

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<v Speaker 1>frontal cortex, which is orbital. It's just it's just descriptive.

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<v Speaker 1>It just above your eyeballs and at the bottom of

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<v Speaker 1>your front of lobes, you know, like right behind your forehead,

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<v Speaker 1>but at the bottom, you know, and the cells there

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<v Speaker 1>if they're injured. People have a hard time changing political beliefs,

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<v Speaker 1>like it's different. It's it's a decision maker, and they

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<v Speaker 1>call it the arbitrator system that it decides between things.

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<v Speaker 1>So again, tell your shoelaces, that's not a big decision,

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<v Speaker 1>a decision made for you. That's not a big decision.

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<v Speaker 1>But there's a competition of wants. I want to do this,

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<v Speaker 1>but I also want to do this. I want to

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<v Speaker 1>have this piece of bacon, but I want to you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to eat it. That's where we are

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<v Speaker 1>at our most vulnerable and best, you know, that's where

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<v Speaker 1>we're human. And rather than feeling frustrated by those wants

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<v Speaker 1>that you can't always pursue the way you really choose

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<v Speaker 1>to inside your mind, like I want to do this,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't get there. My mind is ready to

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<v Speaker 1>do it, but my behavior doesn't reflect that. That that's

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<v Speaker 1>called your internal referee's the it's the decision maker. And

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<v Speaker 1>what I would the specific guide that would give people

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<v Speaker 1>is that internal referee is vulnerable. Okay, so you want

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<v Speaker 1>to work with that internal referee. You want to do

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<v Speaker 1>a handful of things. Once, you want to know attention

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<v Speaker 1>and focus is limited. Two, you want to know it

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<v Speaker 1>is susceptible to attentional magnets. You want to stop smoking,

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<v Speaker 1>We'll be careful looking up at that gas station, at

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<v Speaker 1>those shiny boxes. You want to avoid eating something, and

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<v Speaker 1>you know is you know your struggle to get there.

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<v Speaker 1>Work with that internal referee. One, break the compulsions, break

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<v Speaker 1>the attentional magnets that make you look at something, and

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<v Speaker 1>then that decision goes downhill. You're like, ah, now it's

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<v Speaker 1>at the gate. So the first thing is when it's

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<v Speaker 1>in your head, think it out. This trips me up.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to space myself from this. I want to

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<v Speaker 1>physically distance myself from this. I want to only get

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit of coke and then drive away. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever you're working on, I'm not judging anybody, But first

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<v Speaker 1>is to give yourself the physical and psychological distance from

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<v Speaker 1>attentional magnets that have you shift away from the want

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<v Speaker 1>that you had decided you wanted. Two is then then

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<v Speaker 1>if you're in it and you're like, Okay, I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>want to have this food. I didn't want to have

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<v Speaker 1>this puff. I didn't want to have this snort whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever your thing is. Once you're going down that road,

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<v Speaker 1>now your internal referee is a different creature. Now, what

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<v Speaker 1>you're trying to do is prevent it from becoming an urge.

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<v Speaker 1>For smokers, you're looking at the shiny box, you walk outside,

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<v Speaker 1>you smell. You want to get away from your thought

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<v Speaker 1>hijacking your body because now you're jones and you've got

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<v Speaker 1>your shivering. Now it becomes a physiologic thing. The game

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<v Speaker 1>isn't lost. You can still turn it around, but you

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<v Speaker 1>need to know the steps of desires as they happen,

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<v Speaker 1>as in your competition of wants, and work with yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>break potential magnets. Don't let it become an urge if

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<v Speaker 1>you do decide to. There's a whole thing called wanting

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<v Speaker 1>and seeking. That's fine. I'm gonna have this smoke, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna have one puff, I'm gonna throw away the pack.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna have this bacon, but I'm only gonna I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna mitigate. I'm only gonna have one piece rather than

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<v Speaker 1>have the whole thing. There are steps in the way

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<v Speaker 1>we negotiate our wants, so It's not just I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to do this but it didn't happen. Develop your arsenal,

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<v Speaker 1>the errors in your quiver of this is a competing

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<v Speaker 1>want and I've got one two things through the three

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<v Speaker 1>things I'm going to do.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that, doctor l Johndelle. It's such a joy

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<v Speaker 2>every time you hear. And I hope you'll come back

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<v Speaker 2>when your new book's ready and everyone's been listening and

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<v Speaker 2>watching back at home. When you're traveling, whatever you're up to,

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<v Speaker 2>make sure you tag me and doctor John Deell on Instagram,

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<v Speaker 2>on TikTok, wherever you push your clips, because I want

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<v Speaker 2>to see what resonated with you. I want to see

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<v Speaker 2>what connected with you. I always take away so much

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<v Speaker 2>when I meet you. Honestly, it's things that stay with

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<v Speaker 2>me for a long time, and they're good memories and

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<v Speaker 2>the good lessons. So I'm very grateful for your time

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<v Speaker 2>and energy. Thanks so much for coming back. If you

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<v Speaker 2>love this episode, you'll enjoy my interview with doctor Daniel

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<v Speaker 2>Ahman on how to change your life by changing your brain.

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<v Speaker 1>If we want a healthy mind, it actually starts with

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<v Speaker 1>a healthy brain. You know, I've had the blessing or

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<v Speaker 1>the curve to scan over a thousand convicted felons and

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<v Speaker 1>over a hundred murderers, and their brains are very damaged.