1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:03,800 Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast 2 00:00:03,840 --> 00:00:04,640 Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio. 3 00:00:06,040 --> 00:00:08,440 Speaker 2: Hey guys, welcome to the almost of His podcast. Today. 4 00:00:08,480 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 2: We have such a treat. We have newlyweds Peter Krause 5 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:17,639 Speaker 2: and Hannah Obbs. Okay, Obbs, Chuck stop. 6 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:20,919 Speaker 3: It was great. And you know what, I do plan 7 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:23,520 Speaker 3: on changing my name to Kraus officially, so it doesn't 8 00:00:23,520 --> 00:00:24,040 Speaker 3: even matter. 9 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:27,479 Speaker 2: So thank you for that first answer, because that, of 10 00:00:27,480 --> 00:00:29,720 Speaker 2: course is on our rundown of questions. Are you going to. 11 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:30,240 Speaker 3: Change your name? 12 00:00:30,280 --> 00:00:32,440 Speaker 2: Have you been dying to change your name your whole life? 13 00:00:32,880 --> 00:00:35,160 Speaker 3: I mean I always joked that I wanted to marry 14 00:00:35,200 --> 00:00:38,199 Speaker 3: like a Smith or a Jones, like somebody with like 15 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:41,600 Speaker 3: I was like, I need a basic last name because yeah, 16 00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:45,159 Speaker 3: stop chuck. Coming from sports broadcasting, it was just like everyone. 17 00:00:45,200 --> 00:00:46,720 Speaker 3: That was their first question to me. They were like, quick, 18 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:50,159 Speaker 3: how do we say your name so you're not alone? 19 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:54,200 Speaker 2: That's really well, Krause is a pretty easy name. 20 00:00:54,640 --> 00:00:59,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, we nailed that one. Thank you. We didn't get 21 00:00:59,160 --> 00:00:59,720 Speaker 3: that one down. 22 00:01:00,920 --> 00:01:06,360 Speaker 2: Just congratulations. You guys have had a wild six months. 23 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:08,480 Speaker 2: It was crazy because the last time Peter was on 24 00:01:08,560 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 2: here it was May twenty twenty five, and he was. 25 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:15,680 Speaker 2: I mean, Hannah just the cutest is absolutely gushing about 26 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:18,479 Speaker 2: you and saying that you guys would be engaged by 27 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:20,520 Speaker 2: the end of the year. But lo and behold, you 28 00:01:20,560 --> 00:01:23,480 Speaker 2: were actually married by the end of the year, and 29 00:01:23,680 --> 00:01:25,760 Speaker 2: also with child. 30 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:28,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, a little bit of a blood twister. 31 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:32,880 Speaker 4: Then when I put my mind was something I do it? Yeah? 32 00:01:32,920 --> 00:01:36,760 Speaker 5: Did you know, I mean, remide, did you know that 33 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:38,320 Speaker 5: this was how it was going to play out when 34 00:01:38,360 --> 00:01:41,080 Speaker 5: you were on our show, Peter, Okay, I. 35 00:01:41,080 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 4: Mean I knew I was going to get engaged in the year. 36 00:01:42,959 --> 00:01:44,640 Speaker 6: I didn't think we'd be married within the year, that's 37 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:47,200 Speaker 6: for sure, Okay, Okay, Yes, I didn't think we'd be 38 00:01:47,240 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 6: pregnant and expecting at the same time. 39 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:53,760 Speaker 2: Okay, but you found out, Yeah didn't you find out 40 00:01:53,760 --> 00:01:55,520 Speaker 2: that you were pregnant after the proposal? 41 00:01:55,880 --> 00:01:57,480 Speaker 4: Yeah? It was literally like six days later. 42 00:01:57,760 --> 00:01:58,080 Speaker 2: Yeah. 43 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 4: Wait, I think it was within semary days. 44 00:02:01,640 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 3: It was, truly, it was eight days later. On the dot. 45 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:06,120 Speaker 3: I went to one of his workout classes and somebody 46 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:08,519 Speaker 3: was like, you're glowing. It's the engagement glow. And I 47 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:12,240 Speaker 3: was like ooh, and then I was like, eureka, mental note, 48 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 3: I am actually a day late. It was one of 49 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 3: those things. But yeah, we took a pregnancy test, and yeah, 50 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:24,000 Speaker 3: plot twist, total plot twists, but it was it's all 51 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:26,119 Speaker 3: a great timing. We figured it out. I mean, I've 52 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:28,560 Speaker 3: never wanted like a long engagement anyways. I think we're 53 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 3: too old for you know, really that way. Like I 54 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 3: was like, I don't want to be engaged for like 55 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 3: two years, like we don't have time. So that happened, 56 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:39,600 Speaker 3: and you know, I guess it kind of worked out. 57 00:02:39,960 --> 00:02:40,880 Speaker 4: I would say it worked out. 58 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:44,200 Speaker 5: Let's have a parenting conversation real quick, one of our 59 00:02:44,200 --> 00:02:48,600 Speaker 5: favorite topics I have on the show. In all honesty, 60 00:02:48,919 --> 00:02:50,799 Speaker 5: I'm not I don't want to make any assumptions when 61 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 5: you found out. What was the initial emotion. Oh yeah, 62 00:02:56,480 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 5: we had complete opposite reactions. Just laid down for a 63 00:03:00,919 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 5: nap and she's like, I'm gonna take a pregnancy test. 64 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:04,680 Speaker 5: I'm like, please don't do it now. I'd really like 65 00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:07,040 Speaker 5: to take a nap. I haven't slept in a few days. 66 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:10,200 Speaker 5: And she's like, now now is the time. And so 67 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:13,079 Speaker 5: when she did, uh, take the first one it was positive. 68 00:03:13,720 --> 00:03:15,520 Speaker 5: The initial reaction was like, all right, I just relaxed, 69 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:17,639 Speaker 5: take another one, and then it was taking another one 70 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 5: another one, and I just started laughing, like I couldn't. 71 00:03:19,720 --> 00:03:20,919 Speaker 4: Help but laugh the whole situation. 72 00:03:21,040 --> 00:03:24,840 Speaker 6: He was laughing, and she immediately started crying. 73 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:26,880 Speaker 3: I was like, this is backwards, this is not what 74 00:03:26,960 --> 00:03:28,800 Speaker 3: it's supposed to be, Like, oh my god, I was 75 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:33,080 Speaker 3: having a mental breakdown. Funny enough, my best friend who 76 00:03:33,200 --> 00:03:36,080 Speaker 3: has kids, had gotten me the pregnancy test, like sort 77 00:03:36,080 --> 00:03:37,600 Speaker 3: of as a joke when I moved in with Peter. 78 00:03:38,080 --> 00:03:40,200 Speaker 3: So I was like, these are rigged. 79 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 4: Like these. 80 00:03:44,120 --> 00:03:47,080 Speaker 3: So I made Peter pianistick. 81 00:03:48,360 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 4: We learned it was not we had to have all 82 00:03:51,200 --> 00:03:52,160 Speaker 4: and I was the control. 83 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:54,200 Speaker 7: That's brilliant. 84 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 4: Yeah, that's brilliant. Was to say I'm not pregnant. 85 00:03:58,640 --> 00:04:01,920 Speaker 2: Wow, that's so funny. Okay, So I understand that you 86 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:05,760 Speaker 2: probably were excited about wearing a wedding dress in a 87 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:06,760 Speaker 2: traditional way. 88 00:04:07,760 --> 00:04:10,000 Speaker 3: It sounds so stupid, but like you spend your whole 89 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 3: life thinking about what you would look like in a 90 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:14,480 Speaker 3: wedding dress, and then if you search on Pinterest like 91 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:17,680 Speaker 3: pregnancy bride, nothing good comes up, like truly nothing. 92 00:04:18,000 --> 00:04:19,239 Speaker 2: So then I was stunning. 93 00:04:19,440 --> 00:04:20,360 Speaker 3: It was perfect. 94 00:04:21,160 --> 00:04:22,080 Speaker 4: Yeah, it was. 95 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 3: It was just one of those things where I was like, Okay, 96 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:26,479 Speaker 3: I have to re shift everything in my brain that 97 00:04:26,520 --> 00:04:27,279 Speaker 3: I thought I would have. 98 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:29,480 Speaker 2: Of course, it was the death of a dream there. 99 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:32,359 Speaker 3: Yes, oh thank you for getting that, because it's like 100 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:35,120 Speaker 3: I felt so silly in the whole process, being like, 101 00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:37,880 Speaker 3: I'm not a I can't be like a you know, 102 00:04:37,960 --> 00:04:41,599 Speaker 3: a Pinterest bride. But I like once, once it got 103 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:43,679 Speaker 3: to the day of I was like, I honestly couldn't 104 00:04:43,680 --> 00:04:46,320 Speaker 3: care less. So that worked out. 105 00:04:46,640 --> 00:04:47,839 Speaker 7: You are a Pinterest bride. 106 00:04:47,880 --> 00:04:50,240 Speaker 5: So now when people google it, they're going to see 107 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 5: you and they're like, oh, that looks nice, like that 108 00:04:52,800 --> 00:04:53,600 Speaker 5: looks good. 109 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:55,240 Speaker 2: Exactly, you are going to show up as one of 110 00:04:55,320 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 2: the top options. 111 00:04:57,200 --> 00:04:59,840 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, Well thanks guys, I appreciate that. 112 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:02,520 Speaker 5: Hey, yeah, I want to keep going though in this 113 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:07,840 Speaker 5: so you were you were crying. There was like a 114 00:05:07,880 --> 00:05:12,920 Speaker 5: lot obviously a lot of emotion. When did it start 115 00:05:13,480 --> 00:05:16,760 Speaker 5: to like settle in though? I mean even for you know, 116 00:05:16,880 --> 00:05:19,159 Speaker 5: for me, we had been trying, like this was a 117 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:22,400 Speaker 5: planned to have and right now I am sitting next 118 00:05:22,400 --> 00:05:25,440 Speaker 5: to my daughter as she throws it looks like cotted 119 00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 5: cheese across the floor. But and like even for me, 120 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:33,880 Speaker 5: I was like shocked. We trying and when Jess told 121 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:35,360 Speaker 5: me she was pregnant, was like, whoa, And then all 122 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:37,240 Speaker 5: of a sudden, like it set in and I was 123 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:40,680 Speaker 5: very nervous, like for a long time. So anyways, when 124 00:05:40,720 --> 00:05:42,360 Speaker 5: did it set in for you? How did this all 125 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:45,520 Speaker 5: kind of like sift through in your mind? 126 00:05:46,360 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 6: I mean for me, it went in waves. I think 127 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:49,840 Speaker 6: in the beginning it was just like, Okay, this is 128 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:54,640 Speaker 6: almost unbelievable, so it didn't really hit as real yet. 129 00:05:54,680 --> 00:05:56,960 Speaker 6: But then over the next like weeks and months, and 130 00:05:57,040 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 6: especially once we did the ultrasound and then she started 131 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:02,400 Speaker 6: to have a baby. Like, the more into the process 132 00:06:02,400 --> 00:06:04,560 Speaker 6: it's been, the more realistic it gets, the more exciting 133 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:07,680 Speaker 6: I get. But I'm very like I need to see 134 00:06:07,680 --> 00:06:10,280 Speaker 6: it and believe it before it like really sets in. 135 00:06:10,360 --> 00:06:12,680 Speaker 6: So like if someone says goodbye, Like even I don't 136 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:14,520 Speaker 6: really process the goodbye tolls. 137 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:15,560 Speaker 4: And I go to calm, they're not there. 138 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:17,440 Speaker 6: I was like, oh, so, having a baby for the 139 00:06:17,480 --> 00:06:21,680 Speaker 6: first time with no baby bump was I don't know, 140 00:06:21,960 --> 00:06:22,880 Speaker 6: hard to understand. 141 00:06:23,320 --> 00:06:26,000 Speaker 3: I think it takes men a little bit longer. I mean, Ashley, 142 00:06:26,040 --> 00:06:30,080 Speaker 3: you probably get this, like I the minute you get pregnant, 143 00:06:30,080 --> 00:06:32,440 Speaker 3: I feel like everything changes, like your body changes and 144 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:35,520 Speaker 3: shifts daily, even if you're not like full blown belly bump, 145 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:38,760 Speaker 3: you're just like you can feel it mentally internally, like 146 00:06:38,800 --> 00:06:42,360 Speaker 3: you I feel it in my skin, my everything. 147 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:47,039 Speaker 2: Yes, everything was taken from me. I felt like everything 148 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:47,680 Speaker 2: was stolen. 149 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:50,880 Speaker 3: Yes, I was like, I have acting I've never had. 150 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:52,960 Speaker 3: I haven't had acting in ten years? What is going on? 151 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:56,360 Speaker 3: Like things like that, where he was like, it is 152 00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:58,159 Speaker 3: funny to look back on because I did think I 153 00:06:58,240 --> 00:07:00,320 Speaker 3: was showing for a long time, where now I can 154 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 3: safely say, I'm like, I'm in my third trimester. I'm 155 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:05,760 Speaker 3: very much showing. But I think that's maybe why it 156 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:07,680 Speaker 3: took him a long time, because to him, I like, 157 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:10,600 Speaker 3: it was no difference, you know, until we felt that 158 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:12,240 Speaker 3: heartbeat and really saw her. 159 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:17,840 Speaker 2: So how did you feel otherwise? Because Jared really couldn't 160 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:24,880 Speaker 2: not know because I threw up for thirty weeks straight. Wow. Yeah, 161 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:27,320 Speaker 2: with our first it was totally different. I had hyper 162 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:31,040 Speaker 2: emesis gravidarium, so it was you know, so it was awful. 163 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:33,520 Speaker 2: And then I totally expected to have it again the 164 00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:38,240 Speaker 2: second time because the likelihood is very high, and I didn't, 165 00:07:38,320 --> 00:07:43,000 Speaker 2: like I just had like a regular yucky pregnancy, but 166 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:49,560 Speaker 2: I even physically, like I didn't look nearly as honestly heinous. 167 00:07:50,400 --> 00:07:53,320 Speaker 2: I looked like a pregnant lady, whereas like beforehand, it 168 00:07:53,440 --> 00:07:57,760 Speaker 2: was like is she well? So anyway anyway, not about me? 169 00:07:57,920 --> 00:07:58,800 Speaker 2: How did you feel? 170 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:03,280 Speaker 3: No, I get that completely. I I wasn't sick, like 171 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:05,880 Speaker 3: I wasn't throwing up, but I was nauseous. I actually 172 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:08,200 Speaker 3: felt like things would be easier if I would just 173 00:08:08,320 --> 00:08:10,239 Speaker 3: if I could just throw up, but I just didn't 174 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:14,280 Speaker 3: have that. But yeah, I wasn't feeling great. I was 175 00:08:14,280 --> 00:08:15,760 Speaker 3: definitely hormonal. 176 00:08:17,200 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 4: There were moments, yeah, I throws. 177 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:23,400 Speaker 3: Where I was like should we even get married now? 178 00:08:23,520 --> 00:08:26,720 Speaker 3: Like what should we do? Like just rethinking the entire 179 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:29,000 Speaker 3: thought process of of our lives. 180 00:08:29,200 --> 00:08:31,080 Speaker 5: I'm so excited to talk about this because I am 181 00:08:31,320 --> 00:08:35,120 Speaker 5: sitting here today Jessica for Christmas. I thought it was 182 00:08:35,160 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 5: such a good idea to buy her a SPA day 183 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:40,720 Speaker 5: because she does so much well today was that day, 184 00:08:40,920 --> 00:08:44,280 Speaker 5: and yet I forgot to block this day off from 185 00:08:44,320 --> 00:08:49,440 Speaker 5: all other things. So so we're doing it, and I 186 00:08:49,520 --> 00:08:51,960 Speaker 5: now know why Jessica deserved a SPA day because of 187 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 5: the last like even just two hours of my life. 188 00:08:54,520 --> 00:08:56,480 Speaker 3: But you're doing great. 189 00:08:56,559 --> 00:08:57,200 Speaker 4: You're doing great. 190 00:08:57,600 --> 00:08:58,800 Speaker 7: It is It. 191 00:08:58,800 --> 00:09:03,800 Speaker 5: Is the coolest thing. It is nothing but fantastic. When 192 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:06,679 Speaker 5: did this whole thing turn into excitement or has it 193 00:09:06,720 --> 00:09:08,600 Speaker 5: turned into excitement yet for you? 194 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:09,240 Speaker 1: So? 195 00:09:09,520 --> 00:09:12,680 Speaker 6: Oh yeah, I mean NonStop excitement. I think the moment 196 00:09:14,720 --> 00:09:16,319 Speaker 6: it's set in for me. I don't know what day 197 00:09:16,440 --> 00:09:18,480 Speaker 6: or time that was, but it's like the wedding was great, 198 00:09:18,520 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 6: but it really like shifted gears to the baby, like 199 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:23,280 Speaker 6: everything's been baby since that point. 200 00:09:23,520 --> 00:09:25,280 Speaker 4: The wedding was beautiful and it was amazing. It was perfect 201 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:26,280 Speaker 4: from like start to finish it. 202 00:09:26,160 --> 00:09:28,280 Speaker 6: It was just like the baby brings a hole new 203 00:09:28,280 --> 00:09:31,240 Speaker 6: excitement to life as a whole, which is so great. 204 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:33,320 Speaker 3: I actually think once we found out it was a 205 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:37,480 Speaker 3: girl was when we really shifted into just like such excitement. 206 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:40,000 Speaker 3: I think the fear went away then because we had 207 00:09:40,040 --> 00:09:43,080 Speaker 3: always talked about, you know, we would want a girl first. 208 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:45,760 Speaker 3: I don't know why, but we just both said that, 209 00:09:45,920 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 3: and so then when we realized it was a girl, 210 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:50,280 Speaker 3: it just felt like such a gift and I was like, Okay, 211 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:53,560 Speaker 3: this is like everything we wanted it's happening. It's just 212 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:56,679 Speaker 3: happening faster than we thought, and that's okay, so just 213 00:09:56,679 --> 00:09:58,440 Speaker 3: like rewiring our brains a little bit. 214 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 2: Nice, that's so said. 215 00:10:01,440 --> 00:10:03,320 Speaker 4: I just can't wait to hugger. I want to kiss 216 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:06,559 Speaker 4: her and huggers so cute. 217 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:09,240 Speaker 7: You're it's you're going to be broken. You're going to 218 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:10,559 Speaker 7: be absolutely broken. My man. 219 00:10:12,160 --> 00:10:14,720 Speaker 4: I'm going to be girl's finger. It's so bad. 220 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 7: It's going to yeah, yeah. 221 00:10:17,520 --> 00:10:21,280 Speaker 5: You She's like she she will destroy you in the 222 00:10:21,280 --> 00:10:24,800 Speaker 5: best of ways, like a must like mush. 223 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:28,840 Speaker 2: Mus, like solidly not having another kid. But now Ben 224 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:30,800 Speaker 2: says this and I'm like, so I have to gender 225 00:10:30,840 --> 00:10:39,440 Speaker 2: select a girl. Oh man, okay, Well, so where when 226 00:10:39,520 --> 00:10:42,080 Speaker 2: you found out that you were going to have a 227 00:10:42,080 --> 00:10:44,320 Speaker 2: baby and then you're also going to get married and 228 00:10:44,360 --> 00:10:46,959 Speaker 2: you said that like you had to change your whole 229 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:49,959 Speaker 2: mentality as far as dress and like kind of planning goes. 230 00:10:50,760 --> 00:10:54,680 Speaker 2: What why did you decide to not get married after 231 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:56,840 Speaker 2: having the baby? Did you want to be like traditional 232 00:10:56,920 --> 00:10:57,560 Speaker 2: in that sense? 233 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:03,440 Speaker 3: Part of me was just like I knew that once 234 00:11:03,480 --> 00:11:05,920 Speaker 3: I had a baby, I wouldn't give a crap about 235 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:06,320 Speaker 3: a wedding. 236 00:11:06,840 --> 00:11:08,560 Speaker 2: I just was like so accurate. 237 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, it was like the only way to do it 238 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:13,640 Speaker 3: is just to do it now. And I'm like traditional 239 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:15,240 Speaker 3: in the sense like I would rather be married before 240 00:11:15,240 --> 00:11:18,640 Speaker 3: having a baby, but I wasn't. I didn't want to 241 00:11:18,640 --> 00:11:20,319 Speaker 3: like force it and rush it, and so we came 242 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:22,679 Speaker 3: up with like a few dates, and I think the 243 00:11:22,720 --> 00:11:27,160 Speaker 3: ones like after the baby. I was just like who cares? 244 00:11:27,200 --> 00:11:29,280 Speaker 3: Like the only thing in the way was my ego. 245 00:11:29,440 --> 00:11:30,800 Speaker 3: So I was like, am I really going to let 246 00:11:30,840 --> 00:11:33,360 Speaker 3: my ego stop us from having a wedding beforehand when 247 00:11:33,400 --> 00:11:35,560 Speaker 3: we have time and we can do it, Like like 248 00:11:35,640 --> 00:11:37,840 Speaker 3: so what, I'm not going to be this like thing 249 00:11:37,920 --> 00:11:39,600 Speaker 3: that I thought I would be, but I was. I 250 00:11:39,679 --> 00:11:41,160 Speaker 3: just had to have that talk with myself and I 251 00:11:41,200 --> 00:11:43,800 Speaker 3: was like, kind of, who cares? It's like so stupid. 252 00:11:44,240 --> 00:11:46,800 Speaker 3: So I think that was honestly the only reason, and 253 00:11:46,840 --> 00:11:49,400 Speaker 3: that being the only reason, Like my physical self was 254 00:11:49,440 --> 00:11:52,360 Speaker 3: like I was like, can I get over it? And yeah, 255 00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:53,439 Speaker 3: So that was it. 256 00:11:53,720 --> 00:11:55,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean we had a lot of conversations about it. 257 00:11:55,600 --> 00:11:55,800 Speaker 1: There. 258 00:11:55,880 --> 00:11:58,560 Speaker 6: It's like life doesn't stop just because of something that 259 00:11:58,600 --> 00:12:01,400 Speaker 6: we have on our schedule, so at some point there's 260 00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:03,640 Speaker 6: gonna be something else. And if it was yeah, now 261 00:12:03,640 --> 00:12:05,800 Speaker 6: the baby's little and we got to have the baby 262 00:12:05,840 --> 00:12:08,199 Speaker 6: involved or baby non involves. 263 00:12:07,880 --> 00:12:09,040 Speaker 4: So I just to take care of the baby. 264 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:11,360 Speaker 6: And it's like, well, if you get pregnant again right away, 265 00:12:11,440 --> 00:12:13,959 Speaker 6: then do we push off another year. It's like it's 266 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:16,360 Speaker 6: the difference. It's yeah, we're getting married and that's what's 267 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:19,480 Speaker 6: most important. And I actually thought it was more exciting 268 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:23,160 Speaker 6: being pregnant during the wedding because it created a family 269 00:12:23,800 --> 00:12:24,520 Speaker 6: unit right. 270 00:12:24,360 --> 00:12:27,160 Speaker 2: Then and there just the two of us. 271 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:28,520 Speaker 3: We did have a lot of kids at our wedding. 272 00:12:28,640 --> 00:12:31,240 Speaker 3: So many kids, yeah, which was fun because like spoiler alert, 273 00:12:31,280 --> 00:12:33,200 Speaker 3: I was obviously caring one, so I was like, we're 274 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:35,360 Speaker 3: going to have like we didn't have bridesmaids or groomsmen. Like, 275 00:12:35,559 --> 00:12:38,560 Speaker 3: we were just like, let's have all of our nieces 276 00:12:38,559 --> 00:12:42,880 Speaker 3: and nephews in the wedding. So we did that and yeah, 277 00:12:42,960 --> 00:12:45,200 Speaker 3: I think that ended up just being so fun, and 278 00:12:45,280 --> 00:12:48,720 Speaker 3: it was like it was such a family oriented thing. 279 00:12:49,320 --> 00:12:51,160 Speaker 3: Not knowing it would come out like that. I mean, 280 00:12:51,200 --> 00:12:52,680 Speaker 3: there was part of me that, like, you know, Peter 281 00:12:52,760 --> 00:12:55,000 Speaker 3: was getting fitted first tucks and I was like, lucky, 282 00:12:55,080 --> 00:12:57,720 Speaker 3: you you just have to get you know, like you 283 00:12:57,800 --> 00:13:04,480 Speaker 3: have no body changes and place. But I mean you 284 00:13:04,559 --> 00:13:05,080 Speaker 3: looked great. 285 00:13:06,760 --> 00:13:09,360 Speaker 2: You guys both like absolutely stunning, and those pictures were 286 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:10,840 Speaker 2: like I don't even know what to say underneath them. 287 00:13:10,880 --> 00:13:14,319 Speaker 2: I'm like, this is just like actually in like home 288 00:13:14,360 --> 00:13:15,560 Speaker 2: goods in the frames. 289 00:13:15,920 --> 00:13:19,440 Speaker 7: No, that's good, that's good. Actually I like that. 290 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:21,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, it was great funny. 291 00:13:32,600 --> 00:13:35,640 Speaker 2: Jared and I were reminiscing on before having kids and 292 00:13:35,679 --> 00:13:38,600 Speaker 2: how we used to like plan our dream house and 293 00:13:38,640 --> 00:13:41,400 Speaker 2: we were like, the kitchen will look like this with 294 00:13:41,520 --> 00:13:44,920 Speaker 2: this kind of hardware. And now you know, you. 295 00:13:44,920 --> 00:13:47,480 Speaker 3: Had like all these details and grand plans. 296 00:13:47,600 --> 00:13:49,720 Speaker 2: And then you have a kid and you're like, remember 297 00:13:49,760 --> 00:13:51,839 Speaker 2: when we cared about the hardware we were going to 298 00:13:51,920 --> 00:13:55,679 Speaker 2: put on the cabinets. That's so silly. All I care 299 00:13:55,720 --> 00:13:58,080 Speaker 2: about now is that they have a huge open space 300 00:13:58,120 --> 00:14:01,480 Speaker 2: for all their toys and like made We'll think about 301 00:14:01,520 --> 00:14:02,800 Speaker 2: this when they're in middle school. 302 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:03,480 Speaker 4: Totally. 303 00:14:04,320 --> 00:14:06,240 Speaker 6: I mean that was literally the conversation in the wedding itself. 304 00:14:06,240 --> 00:14:07,480 Speaker 6: It was just life was going to keep going and 305 00:14:07,480 --> 00:14:08,480 Speaker 6: things are going to change. 306 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:11,000 Speaker 4: And priorities will shift. Yeah, well we'll stress about now, 307 00:14:11,040 --> 00:14:13,959 Speaker 4: will not matter in six, twelve, twenty four months whatever. 308 00:14:14,200 --> 00:14:18,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, so crazy, how much it doesn't ye? Yeah, So 309 00:14:18,280 --> 00:14:20,800 Speaker 2: baby moon, honey moon combined? 310 00:14:21,000 --> 00:14:23,080 Speaker 4: What are we doing none of the above. 311 00:14:24,200 --> 00:14:26,360 Speaker 3: I mean, like we don't have time. Did you guys 312 00:14:26,440 --> 00:14:28,240 Speaker 3: all do one? Like I did not do a baby 313 00:14:28,240 --> 00:14:28,920 Speaker 3: moon either time. 314 00:14:28,960 --> 00:14:32,120 Speaker 5: Now, we did, but we wrapped it around like a 315 00:14:32,160 --> 00:14:34,040 Speaker 5: work trip, and so it was just like going to 316 00:14:34,080 --> 00:14:35,920 Speaker 5: a cool place and we stayed at a hotel for 317 00:14:35,920 --> 00:14:36,680 Speaker 5: two extra days. 318 00:14:37,120 --> 00:14:39,880 Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean it was great. 319 00:14:39,960 --> 00:14:42,720 Speaker 5: But you know, at the same time, I think when 320 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:45,880 Speaker 5: you get later and later in pregnancy, I think, Ashley, 321 00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:49,040 Speaker 5: you know, I don't know. Jessica was kind of like 322 00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:51,560 Speaker 5: just wanted to be home. So traveling anyways was like 323 00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:54,920 Speaker 5: more inconvenient. Then it wasn't like and it's not like 324 00:14:55,000 --> 00:14:57,200 Speaker 5: she can have a cocktail on the beach. It's not 325 00:14:57,240 --> 00:14:59,480 Speaker 5: like we can go out late, like you know. Food 326 00:14:59,520 --> 00:15:04,160 Speaker 5: was always messing with her in certain ways. So honestly, 327 00:15:04,200 --> 00:15:06,240 Speaker 5: I think it was just great for her to be home. 328 00:15:06,280 --> 00:15:07,560 Speaker 5: Those were our best memories. 329 00:15:08,040 --> 00:15:11,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, I second that. I think that if anything, 330 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:13,640 Speaker 2: do like the after baby moon, if you have like 331 00:15:13,680 --> 00:15:16,000 Speaker 2: a pair of grandparents that are willing to watch for 332 00:15:16,480 --> 00:15:19,760 Speaker 2: four nights once the baby's like four months. We did 333 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:22,440 Speaker 2: do our little Paradise dint there and it was four 334 00:15:22,480 --> 00:15:23,840 Speaker 2: months in and. 335 00:15:23,760 --> 00:15:26,880 Speaker 3: It was perfect. Oh okay, that's good. I do hear that. 336 00:15:26,920 --> 00:15:29,920 Speaker 3: It's easier to travel, Easier to travel than you'd think 337 00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:32,880 Speaker 3: with a baby that's under six months. So we're already 338 00:15:32,880 --> 00:15:35,520 Speaker 3: planning a few, certainly. 339 00:15:35,280 --> 00:15:36,200 Speaker 4: Two trips coming up. 340 00:15:36,440 --> 00:15:39,800 Speaker 5: Yeah, Wenona has twenty five flights under her belt and she's. 341 00:15:39,600 --> 00:15:40,440 Speaker 7: Eleven months old. 342 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:43,080 Speaker 2: I think my kids were the exact same. 343 00:15:43,560 --> 00:15:46,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, okay, all right, you guys make it sound easy. 344 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:49,440 Speaker 3: I feel like, I mean, we my family's in Florida. 345 00:15:49,560 --> 00:15:51,640 Speaker 3: I like to go to Florida, so I mean, like, 346 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:53,760 Speaker 3: to us, it's like if we can just pop down there, 347 00:15:53,960 --> 00:15:57,640 Speaker 3: and you know, my mom would be thrilled that I 348 00:15:57,840 --> 00:15:59,040 Speaker 3: left the baby for a day. 349 00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:02,240 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and you're here in Florida, so you can 350 00:16:02,400 --> 00:16:05,000 Speaker 2: actually just drive somewhere close and it'll feel like a 351 00:16:05,080 --> 00:16:08,480 Speaker 2: vacation far away. That's perfect. And don't listen to Ben. 352 00:16:08,600 --> 00:16:11,960 Speaker 2: Ben has the easiest baby that's ever existed. But I 353 00:16:12,000 --> 00:16:15,240 Speaker 2: will tell you, Hannah, whoever told you the six month 354 00:16:15,320 --> 00:16:19,360 Speaker 2: period is very accurate because they will fall asleep on 355 00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:23,560 Speaker 2: the plane kind of whenever between zero to six months. 356 00:16:23,560 --> 00:16:27,400 Speaker 2: But once you get to the six months to two, 357 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:31,720 Speaker 2: that is hell on earth because that's when they don't 358 00:16:32,120 --> 00:16:36,080 Speaker 2: want to watch iPad, they won't watch TV yet and 359 00:16:36,280 --> 00:16:38,840 Speaker 2: they do not know what in the world to do. 360 00:16:39,280 --> 00:16:42,440 Speaker 2: The people will be like snacks or like the spinners, 361 00:16:42,560 --> 00:16:45,760 Speaker 2: like yes for two minutes at a time. The rest 362 00:16:45,760 --> 00:16:50,480 Speaker 2: of it's like I speak as somebody who is currently 363 00:16:50,480 --> 00:16:55,840 Speaker 2: in it, But just a variety of snacks can help, ye, anything, 364 00:16:55,920 --> 00:16:59,080 Speaker 2: it doesn't matter how unhealthy it is. Sorry, Peter, So 365 00:16:59,160 --> 00:17:00,360 Speaker 2: I know, just. 366 00:17:00,280 --> 00:17:01,120 Speaker 3: Give them cookies. 367 00:17:01,640 --> 00:17:04,840 Speaker 6: Yeah, and they're also her child and a trusts me. 368 00:17:04,880 --> 00:17:06,359 Speaker 4: There's plenty of cookies for those kids. 369 00:17:06,440 --> 00:17:10,960 Speaker 3: Yeahs sweets that's like been my only craving. My only 370 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:13,960 Speaker 3: like weird craving is like, uh, the occasional salt and 371 00:17:14,040 --> 00:17:18,320 Speaker 3: vinegar anything, and then just like sugar, sweets, candy, sour candy, 372 00:17:18,560 --> 00:17:21,560 Speaker 3: regular candy. We had like a candy bar at the 373 00:17:21,600 --> 00:17:23,280 Speaker 3: wedding because I was like, this is a seaking bar 374 00:17:23,320 --> 00:17:26,919 Speaker 3: I could be at. So I'm gonna just say here 375 00:17:27,040 --> 00:17:29,919 Speaker 3: an assortment of different types of candies that I've now 376 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:32,200 Speaker 3: all brought back to Wisconsin because. 377 00:17:34,400 --> 00:17:37,280 Speaker 2: I had like a my strange addiction like I wanted 378 00:17:37,320 --> 00:17:40,080 Speaker 2: to eat detergent powder detergent both times. 379 00:17:40,600 --> 00:17:44,480 Speaker 3: What that means something that's like, yeah. 380 00:17:44,119 --> 00:17:48,080 Speaker 2: I had like low iron. It wasn't significantly as low 381 00:17:48,119 --> 00:17:52,200 Speaker 2: as you would think if the fact that I really 382 00:17:52,200 --> 00:18:00,200 Speaker 2: wanted to eat detergent both times. But okay, so are 383 00:18:00,200 --> 00:18:04,199 Speaker 2: there any baby items that people have been suggesting to 384 00:18:04,280 --> 00:18:06,920 Speaker 2: you guys? Like what's on the registry? Are you having 385 00:18:06,920 --> 00:18:07,760 Speaker 2: a baby shower? 386 00:18:08,640 --> 00:18:10,840 Speaker 6: This is a great conversation because it's very different between 387 00:18:10,840 --> 00:18:15,120 Speaker 6: the two of lists. Ye, Hannah's got a very long 388 00:18:15,160 --> 00:18:17,040 Speaker 6: list of baby items in mind, had like two. 389 00:18:18,600 --> 00:18:21,480 Speaker 3: Okay, I just feel like I know more about babies 390 00:18:21,480 --> 00:18:23,720 Speaker 3: than Peter Nuts, and so I'm like, this is what 391 00:18:23,760 --> 00:18:26,120 Speaker 3: we need. This is But I will say that it's 392 00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:28,800 Speaker 3: like it's really easy to get stuck into the weeds 393 00:18:28,840 --> 00:18:31,199 Speaker 3: of what people say you need for a baby, and 394 00:18:31,240 --> 00:18:34,040 Speaker 3: then it's like you have to just like drop the 395 00:18:34,080 --> 00:18:36,840 Speaker 3: crap and be like, I actually don't need the Nike 396 00:18:37,000 --> 00:18:39,560 Speaker 3: version of whatever. This is that we went through our 397 00:18:39,840 --> 00:18:41,960 Speaker 3: baby list and he was like, why do we have 398 00:18:42,040 --> 00:18:43,720 Speaker 3: so many things that are high priced? And I was like, 399 00:18:43,760 --> 00:18:46,560 Speaker 3: you're right, like it's kind of silly. So there's a 400 00:18:46,560 --> 00:18:49,640 Speaker 3: lot of things that we like mixed from the baby list, 401 00:18:49,680 --> 00:18:51,560 Speaker 3: and we luckily have a lot of good friends and 402 00:18:51,600 --> 00:18:55,720 Speaker 3: family who are hand me downs. Yeah, Like I don't 403 00:18:55,760 --> 00:18:57,879 Speaker 3: even think we need to buy one outfit. Did you 404 00:18:58,000 --> 00:19:01,119 Speaker 3: feel that way, like everyone just keeps giving us girl clothes. 405 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:04,840 Speaker 2: I'm like, great, I didn't have that for some reason. 406 00:19:04,880 --> 00:19:07,879 Speaker 2: But my sister just had a boy like three days ago. 407 00:19:08,119 --> 00:19:11,200 Speaker 2: So now this is the third boy things in almost 408 00:19:11,240 --> 00:19:15,560 Speaker 2: four years. So this baby has all the handy downs 409 00:19:15,600 --> 00:19:19,240 Speaker 2: and he also has all the handy down equipment, which 410 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:23,640 Speaker 2: is so nice. They barely had to get anything. Yeah, yeah, 411 00:19:23,680 --> 00:19:24,640 Speaker 2: so it works out like that. 412 00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:27,840 Speaker 6: But sons and clients that have babies around the same, 413 00:19:28,280 --> 00:19:31,480 Speaker 6: I guess, like age right, young young babies are toddlers still, 414 00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:32,520 Speaker 6: and so we're getting a lot. 415 00:19:32,359 --> 00:19:32,840 Speaker 4: Of their stuff. 416 00:19:32,840 --> 00:19:35,040 Speaker 2: It's so nice. That's so great. 417 00:19:35,359 --> 00:19:35,960 Speaker 4: We're trying to. 418 00:19:36,359 --> 00:19:39,840 Speaker 6: Build a business, buy a house, all these things in 419 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:43,800 Speaker 6: life that I spend eight hundred thousand dollars on one 420 00:19:43,840 --> 00:19:45,399 Speaker 6: piece of equipment when. 421 00:19:45,240 --> 00:19:46,400 Speaker 4: You can just get it from someone else. 422 00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:50,879 Speaker 2: Yes, absolutely. And then I was going to say about houses, 423 00:19:51,720 --> 00:19:55,320 Speaker 2: because this is my biggest advice to new parents who 424 00:19:55,440 --> 00:19:57,639 Speaker 2: like are in that in between, Like oftentimes you'll be 425 00:19:57,680 --> 00:20:00,520 Speaker 2: living in an apartment and you'll feel this pressure that 426 00:20:00,600 --> 00:20:02,920 Speaker 2: you need to live in a house for a baby, 427 00:20:03,400 --> 00:20:06,760 Speaker 2: And my biggest advice is for that first year, absolutely no, 428 00:20:07,080 --> 00:20:10,120 Speaker 2: just stay put where you are because the baby does 429 00:20:10,160 --> 00:20:12,520 Speaker 2: not take up much space at all at that point, 430 00:20:13,040 --> 00:20:15,560 Speaker 2: and you can transform like a little nook for them. 431 00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:18,480 Speaker 2: They don't need this instagrammable nursery. 432 00:20:18,880 --> 00:20:19,960 Speaker 4: Totally hundred percent. 433 00:20:20,359 --> 00:20:23,000 Speaker 3: I have no we have no nursery, and we we 434 00:20:23,119 --> 00:20:25,560 Speaker 3: have a you know, a second bedroom that's like lovely, 435 00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:29,159 Speaker 3: but it's always been our makeshift office, absolutely costroom and 436 00:20:29,200 --> 00:20:31,320 Speaker 3: all of that. So it's like, we're going to put 437 00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:33,840 Speaker 3: her stuff in there, but you know, for a while 438 00:20:33,920 --> 00:20:35,840 Speaker 3: they sleep with you in the best nut next to 439 00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:38,840 Speaker 3: the bed. It's like, it's fine. I once she can 440 00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:41,879 Speaker 3: remember what life is like, I will obviously have a 441 00:20:41,960 --> 00:20:44,919 Speaker 3: room for her and we'll make sure it's like, you know, 442 00:20:45,000 --> 00:20:47,520 Speaker 3: it's great. But I get trying not to fall into 443 00:20:47,560 --> 00:20:50,600 Speaker 3: that trap of thinking you need everything because people are like, okay, 444 00:20:50,760 --> 00:20:53,240 Speaker 3: I'm you know, I'm thirty weeks right now. So then 445 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:55,960 Speaker 3: people are like, I see on my TikTok algorithm, it'll 446 00:20:56,000 --> 00:20:58,480 Speaker 3: be like people who are, you know, thirty three weeks 447 00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:00,240 Speaker 3: and they're like, I'm just putting the finishing time just 448 00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:03,199 Speaker 3: on the nursery, and I'm like, uh, we're not doing that. 449 00:21:03,320 --> 00:21:03,760 Speaker 7: That's okay. 450 00:21:04,359 --> 00:21:08,439 Speaker 2: That's like my biggest advice is, don't listen to influencers 451 00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:11,639 Speaker 2: when it comes to like having the perfect space put together. 452 00:21:12,200 --> 00:21:14,399 Speaker 3: Yeah, it almost needs to be de influenced. 453 00:21:15,080 --> 00:21:19,000 Speaker 2: Yes, that's great. 454 00:21:21,440 --> 00:21:24,960 Speaker 3: Everyone needs to just do less in the early stage department, 455 00:21:24,960 --> 00:21:26,920 Speaker 3: because it's true they don't. I mean, my mom, who's 456 00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:29,119 Speaker 3: so excited, is like, Okay, we have a pool. We 457 00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:31,040 Speaker 3: gotta like, you know, I have to figure out how 458 00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:32,399 Speaker 3: to get the pool. And I'm like, you know, the 459 00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:34,760 Speaker 3: baby's not moving mobiles. 460 00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:38,800 Speaker 2: A year, Like you're okay, yeah, you are, Okay. 461 00:21:39,119 --> 00:21:42,280 Speaker 5: I'm curious though, because we've talked a lot about babies, 462 00:21:43,520 --> 00:21:44,960 Speaker 5: what has it been like for the two of you. 463 00:21:45,160 --> 00:21:48,760 Speaker 5: I mean, obviously, when you're on here, Peter, you said, hey, 464 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:50,720 Speaker 5: I'm gonna get engaged by into the year. We've talked 465 00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:53,520 Speaker 5: about the expedited timeline. We talked about the beautiful wedding. 466 00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:55,480 Speaker 5: We talked about the gift and the joy it is 467 00:21:55,760 --> 00:21:59,240 Speaker 5: that you will be that you're expecting a little monster. 468 00:22:01,080 --> 00:22:04,080 Speaker 5: And but for the two of you as a couple, 469 00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:07,520 Speaker 5: I would have to think like this is you've had 470 00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:11,520 Speaker 5: to navigate a lot and have more intense conversations than 471 00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:16,040 Speaker 5: most you know, pre engaged couples have had, So can 472 00:22:16,080 --> 00:22:17,439 Speaker 5: you walk all of us through kind of how you 473 00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:20,160 Speaker 5: guys have navigated it, where you stand today and how 474 00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:21,320 Speaker 5: you feel like you're a team. 475 00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:24,840 Speaker 4: Yeah, I think empathy leads the way. You just got 476 00:22:24,840 --> 00:22:25,760 Speaker 4: to be open and. 477 00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:30,600 Speaker 6: Understanding and allow space for a lot of challenging conversations 478 00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:33,120 Speaker 6: and listen a lot to why someone feels the way 479 00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:37,640 Speaker 6: they feel, trying not to interject during those conversations, allow 480 00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:39,000 Speaker 6: us one and get out exactly what they need to 481 00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:41,520 Speaker 6: get out, and then I just have to sit with 482 00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:45,159 Speaker 6: it and process it before I have to like be 483 00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:47,119 Speaker 6: the dad in the situation and start trying to like 484 00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:53,040 Speaker 6: make decisions. It's actually been really great. It's allowed us 485 00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:55,119 Speaker 6: to build a relationship that much stronger, and I think 486 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:58,280 Speaker 6: allowed us to move so fast, so it's easy to 487 00:22:58,320 --> 00:23:02,240 Speaker 6: have I guess, challenging conversations when the love between us 488 00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:04,120 Speaker 6: with each step just gets stronger and stronger. 489 00:23:04,240 --> 00:23:04,840 Speaker 3: Yeah. 490 00:23:04,880 --> 00:23:07,280 Speaker 6: Like I think on our wedding day, I didn't expect 491 00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:09,359 Speaker 6: to feel a change, but I felt a change, like 492 00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:11,960 Speaker 6: it really increased. 493 00:23:11,520 --> 00:23:12,400 Speaker 4: My love for her. 494 00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:15,680 Speaker 6: And then during our wedding, I felt the baby kick 495 00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:18,080 Speaker 6: my arm while we were staying there at the altar. 496 00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:19,720 Speaker 2: That's so special. 497 00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:22,159 Speaker 4: Yeah, ILF like it. 498 00:23:22,359 --> 00:23:26,199 Speaker 6: Just it's further proof that this is all right and 499 00:23:26,280 --> 00:23:29,520 Speaker 6: there's no reason to question it. And little things will 500 00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:32,719 Speaker 6: come up throughout the process and they're not that serious. 501 00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:34,679 Speaker 6: We'll deal with them as they come. Yeah, so I 502 00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:36,320 Speaker 6: try not to overthink any of it. 503 00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:38,479 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a good way of looking at it. I 504 00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:41,000 Speaker 3: think that at the end of the day. It sounds silly, 505 00:23:41,040 --> 00:23:43,040 Speaker 3: but I always just have to remind myself, like we're 506 00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:45,760 Speaker 3: walking and answered prayers like these are this is what 507 00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:49,919 Speaker 3: we wanted and from our life, and again it happened quickly. 508 00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:52,800 Speaker 3: So just knowing that these were like this was all 509 00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:55,040 Speaker 3: an answered prayer to us and like these things that 510 00:23:55,080 --> 00:23:58,920 Speaker 3: we wanted, it's it's so refreshing. But of course there's 511 00:23:58,920 --> 00:24:00,800 Speaker 3: a side of me, like I see couples who are like, 512 00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:02,520 Speaker 3: you know, I've been together for ten years and it's 513 00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:05,119 Speaker 3: so much time together before getting married and before having kids, 514 00:24:05,119 --> 00:24:07,639 Speaker 3: and I'm like, oh, that must be really cool, Like 515 00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:09,600 Speaker 3: I don't know what that's like. But I also think 516 00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:12,880 Speaker 3: the silver lining is that we'll have a little bit 517 00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:15,399 Speaker 3: of like I don't even know how to describe it, 518 00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:18,560 Speaker 3: like a this sounds bad, but like a selfishness and 519 00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:22,280 Speaker 3: a relationship with this new family that we're building, Like, 520 00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:25,240 Speaker 3: we'll prioritize making time for each other so much more 521 00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:28,159 Speaker 3: because we didn't really have, you know, like years and 522 00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:30,520 Speaker 3: years and years of dating before all of this happened. 523 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:33,640 Speaker 3: So I think it will help us, like prioritize each other. 524 00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:50,480 Speaker 7: I don't want to give advice, but I do. 525 00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:51,960 Speaker 2: I have one next. 526 00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:58,919 Speaker 5: But based on my relationship, those two years that Jessica 527 00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:01,880 Speaker 5: and I spent as the married couple were magical. They 528 00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:05,520 Speaker 5: were They were so fun. They were very free. There 529 00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:09,720 Speaker 5: was no responsibilities. It was do whatever you want. But 530 00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:12,840 Speaker 5: I mean this when I say it, I think Jessica 531 00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:16,000 Speaker 5: would agree. They make zero sense to us now, like 532 00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:20,320 Speaker 5: with Winnie in our lives, this is where our life started, 533 00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:24,239 Speaker 5: this is when our marriage like started. So yes, they 534 00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:26,800 Speaker 5: were fun, they're great, we love them, but they don't 535 00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:29,760 Speaker 5: make any sense to us anymore because how in the 536 00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:33,160 Speaker 5: world did we survive, like do life without this little 537 00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:35,600 Speaker 5: girl and I and I I only say that because 538 00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:37,240 Speaker 5: I want I know that temptation will be there to 539 00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:42,119 Speaker 5: be like, gosh, you know you know what, uh, we 540 00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:46,879 Speaker 5: missed out on that, like that honeymoon phase. But the 541 00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:50,600 Speaker 5: honeymoon phase with a child just brings us closer together, 542 00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:52,920 Speaker 5: and I wish that for the two of you. 543 00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,600 Speaker 3: Thank you for saying that. That's great. That's like, it's 544 00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:59,520 Speaker 3: that's I I totally visualize that, and I love looking 545 00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:03,320 Speaker 3: forward to that idea, that concept because that does seem 546 00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:05,520 Speaker 3: so real to me. I see it in my friendships 547 00:26:05,560 --> 00:26:07,160 Speaker 3: and like their relationships too. 548 00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:12,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, Ben put that really beautifully. I would say, in 549 00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:20,440 Speaker 2: my own less beautified way, it does feel like marriage begins. 550 00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:22,720 Speaker 2: When the baby comes. There's just like a lot more 551 00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:27,600 Speaker 2: like a lot more like communication. I don't know what 552 00:26:27,640 --> 00:26:30,199 Speaker 2: it is, just like if the relationship feels more of 553 00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:32,760 Speaker 2: like something that you have to like talk through a 554 00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:36,280 Speaker 2: lot more, whereas like before it it feels like you're 555 00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:39,199 Speaker 2: just like friends having a great time together. You're just 556 00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:42,240 Speaker 2: you're hanging out, you're having fun, like everything's off the 557 00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:46,119 Speaker 2: seat of your pants. But like it feels like marriage 558 00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:49,119 Speaker 2: really like begins then, because I think that almost like 559 00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:55,000 Speaker 2: before kids, it's kind of like a continuation of dating. Yeah, yeah, okay, 560 00:26:55,040 --> 00:26:59,399 Speaker 2: And then I was also going to say that I 561 00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:03,520 Speaker 2: think that when you have only one child, it also 562 00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:06,560 Speaker 2: can remain a little bit more like feeling you're gonna 563 00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:09,239 Speaker 2: be able to get in more date nights. You know, 564 00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:11,879 Speaker 2: grandparents asking them to take care of a one kid, 565 00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:17,359 Speaker 2: No deal, they can handle that. Getting a babysitter like 566 00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:20,800 Speaker 2: wanting to do that also so cute, so easy, and 567 00:27:20,840 --> 00:27:24,400 Speaker 2: then putting one kid to bed and then being able 568 00:27:24,440 --> 00:27:27,879 Speaker 2: to watch a movie. Yeah you can do that. You 569 00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:29,960 Speaker 2: can eat dinner after you put the baby to bed 570 00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:31,800 Speaker 2: and like kind of feel like your nights are normal. 571 00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:34,440 Speaker 2: Then you have to and then you're just like where 572 00:27:34,560 --> 00:27:36,000 Speaker 2: chickens with our heads cut off. 573 00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:39,040 Speaker 3: Wait hell for a part of the ages of your kids, 574 00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:42,040 Speaker 3: the two and a half years is very perfect. 575 00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:45,280 Speaker 2: It's but like when you're it's the almost he's almost four, 576 00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:48,360 Speaker 2: and then the one and a half it's it's definitely 577 00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:50,600 Speaker 2: there's like a chaotic period of life. There's just like 578 00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:52,359 Speaker 2: no denying that if you have a three and a 579 00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:54,200 Speaker 2: one year and a half year old and it's gonna 580 00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:54,639 Speaker 2: be nuts. 581 00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:56,400 Speaker 3: Sure, I can totally see that. 582 00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:58,920 Speaker 6: There's a like a depiction of happiness, or I would 583 00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:01,520 Speaker 6: say there's like a chart showing happiness. It shows those 584 00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:04,880 Speaker 6: who are single without kids tend to be the least 585 00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:10,399 Speaker 6: happy overall. Those who are married with kids tend to 586 00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:13,080 Speaker 6: be like the highest peak of unhappiness. 587 00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:15,760 Speaker 2: Wait, the highest peak of unhappiness. 588 00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:19,200 Speaker 6: Yeah, but then they create it return unhappiness long term. 589 00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:22,359 Speaker 6: So it's like it's basically saying that, like when someone 590 00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:24,840 Speaker 6: is like early in their relationship, they're young, they have 591 00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:27,280 Speaker 6: two kids. There's a lot of stress on that relationship, 592 00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:30,119 Speaker 6: that family, the day to day, like there's lack of sleep, 593 00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:33,240 Speaker 6: there's a lot of financial stress for a lot of people. 594 00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:35,920 Speaker 4: There's just a lot of challenges. 595 00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:39,640 Speaker 6: But then having your child grow up in front of 596 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:41,600 Speaker 6: your eyes and seeing the result of all your hard 597 00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:45,320 Speaker 6: work results in the highest peak of happiness hands down 598 00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:46,080 Speaker 6: by the end. 599 00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:49,440 Speaker 2: Interesting, Well, that's when you talk to older people, they 600 00:28:49,440 --> 00:28:51,360 Speaker 2: say what part of your life do you wish you 601 00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:55,160 Speaker 2: could return and relive, like in just enjoying mode, And 602 00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:57,920 Speaker 2: older people usually say that when their kids are little, 603 00:28:58,000 --> 00:29:01,160 Speaker 2: like not like necessarily want to brief like before ten 604 00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:03,720 Speaker 2: And I thought you were going to say that like 605 00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:06,360 Speaker 2: once all your kids reached the age of five, that 606 00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:07,840 Speaker 2: was going to happiness. 607 00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:10,200 Speaker 6: I don't know when like the change happens, but like 608 00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:14,720 Speaker 6: stress hands down, and then it's once things start to 609 00:29:14,800 --> 00:29:17,040 Speaker 6: like level off and the kids are growing up and 610 00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:20,400 Speaker 6: they're not as I guess, needy of your time and 611 00:29:20,440 --> 00:29:24,480 Speaker 6: attention and finances, it's much easier to sit back and 612 00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:26,800 Speaker 6: the like see the result of all your hard work. 613 00:29:26,840 --> 00:29:29,240 Speaker 6: And I think, like anything in life, when you work hard, 614 00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:33,280 Speaker 6: your enjoyment or happiness resulting from that hard work is 615 00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:34,760 Speaker 6: so much higher than if it just came to you. 616 00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:36,960 Speaker 6: And so your kids are by the hardest thing that 617 00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:38,240 Speaker 6: you're ever going to experience in life. 618 00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:41,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, and so the result the greatest happiness. 619 00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:41,840 Speaker 7: Yeah. 620 00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:44,280 Speaker 5: I would also argue that having a kid is hard, 621 00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:46,520 Speaker 5: It isn't as bad and hard as what Like, people 622 00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:48,800 Speaker 5: are going to start telling you here and Peter, here's 623 00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:50,920 Speaker 5: the cool part. And I seem to be so focused 624 00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:53,840 Speaker 5: on your relationshipause. I think it's wonderful the things and 625 00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:57,920 Speaker 5: the steps that you've taken here. But you're going to 626 00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:01,080 Speaker 5: get to fall in love all over again too, Like 627 00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:04,920 Speaker 5: it's crazy you have very little to do with the 628 00:30:04,960 --> 00:30:07,400 Speaker 5: success of this child for the first few weeks, like 629 00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:07,760 Speaker 5: you are. 630 00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:10,040 Speaker 7: You're a solid. 631 00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:12,640 Speaker 5: Bench player, filling in when you get called into the game. 632 00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:17,400 Speaker 5: But there and I know Jared would agree with you. 633 00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:19,160 Speaker 2: I called a lot. 634 00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:23,960 Speaker 7: Maybe Jared would not agree with me. 635 00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:28,280 Speaker 2: With him, he loves being active with that. 636 00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:33,320 Speaker 5: But seeing the person you love turn into a mother 637 00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:39,440 Speaker 5: is the coolest feeling as a husband, and I that's 638 00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:41,480 Speaker 5: that's one hundred percent true across the board. I've never 639 00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:43,600 Speaker 5: met a husband who's like, yeah, I saw my wife 640 00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:46,000 Speaker 5: as a mother and that was that sucked. 641 00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:49,960 Speaker 7: It is. 642 00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:52,920 Speaker 5: It is so cool that you get to experience not 643 00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:54,920 Speaker 5: only that wedding day where you look down and see 644 00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:58,560 Speaker 5: your bride, but also very soon the day you know 645 00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:01,520 Speaker 5: you two become parents, because you get like two of 646 00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:05,160 Speaker 5: the coolest feelings in the world back to back. And then, 647 00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:07,080 Speaker 5: like I said, I wasn't kidding when I said, be 648 00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:09,760 Speaker 5: prepared to be rot Everything in your life is going 649 00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:12,760 Speaker 5: to change and you are going to be a mushball 650 00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:15,520 Speaker 5: for maybe ever now, So have fun. 651 00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:19,600 Speaker 3: I always say Peter is like such a smosh to 652 00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:23,600 Speaker 3: begin with, Like there's like him having a girl to 653 00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:24,760 Speaker 3: me just made sense. 654 00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:28,040 Speaker 2: He's such a girl dad. It's like crazy. It's like 655 00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:32,520 Speaker 2: crazy only you know spend a number of days in 656 00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:35,000 Speaker 2: his presence, but like you just wreak girl dad in 657 00:31:35,000 --> 00:31:35,760 Speaker 2: the best way. 658 00:31:37,080 --> 00:31:39,640 Speaker 3: It's so true. And he started with like a girl 659 00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:42,920 Speaker 3: dog and then me and now an actual daughter. So 660 00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:44,920 Speaker 3: it's just like really funny. He's like, I'm surrounded. 661 00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:45,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, there's. 662 00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:49,480 Speaker 3: Business. Also was like led by a bunch of women, 663 00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:53,000 Speaker 3: so like, yeah, let's freaking go. It's happening. 664 00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:56,120 Speaker 2: My dad was always surrounded by women and female dogs 665 00:31:56,160 --> 00:31:57,920 Speaker 2: as well. Like he didn't even want a boy dog 666 00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:01,480 Speaker 2: in the house. No, yeah, so he never craved that. 667 00:32:01,640 --> 00:32:04,520 Speaker 2: And you know, my parents are crazy. They they actually 668 00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:08,360 Speaker 2: didn't go for a third because they didn't want a boy. No, 669 00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:12,400 Speaker 2: they're so now they have three grandsons, which is absolutely hilarious, 670 00:32:12,440 --> 00:32:16,000 Speaker 2: and they're obsessed with them. Yeah, I know it goes 671 00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:19,800 Speaker 2: all the way, like the Jonas brothers have all all girls. 672 00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:22,040 Speaker 3: And they were all see yeah, like him and I 673 00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:24,760 Speaker 3: both only have brothers, so we only know what it's 674 00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:27,959 Speaker 3: like with boys in the house. So but I always 675 00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:31,440 Speaker 3: wanted sisters, and like grew up watching the Kardashians and 676 00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:33,920 Speaker 3: was like, you know, wanted I wanted. 677 00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:38,280 Speaker 6: That she and her mom are like they're identical twins 678 00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:38,960 Speaker 6: and best friends. 679 00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:41,000 Speaker 4: And I have a feeling that this daughter is gonna 680 00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:43,280 Speaker 4: be exactly the same way. It's like watching triplets. 681 00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:50,400 Speaker 3: That's so so sweet. Love you guys, I'm so sweet. 682 00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:54,360 Speaker 2: Before we let you guys go, I just have to say, Okay, 683 00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:56,600 Speaker 2: So when Peter was on our podcast in May, I 684 00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:59,520 Speaker 2: like geeked out Hannah that like you end up being 685 00:32:59,720 --> 00:33:03,760 Speaker 2: his wife because you and I met so soon after 686 00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:06,040 Speaker 2: my time on the Bachelor, was even before I went 687 00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:09,720 Speaker 2: to go film Bachelor in Paradise, but like, we hit 688 00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:12,040 Speaker 2: it off at that party, and I followed you and 689 00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:14,680 Speaker 2: have been following you on Instagram ever since. So when 690 00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:16,640 Speaker 2: I saw the two of you together, I was like, 691 00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:22,360 Speaker 2: this world is far too small. You guys met on 692 00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:23,040 Speaker 2: dating app? 693 00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:26,840 Speaker 6: Yeah, yes, well technically we met in twenty seventeen in 694 00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:31,800 Speaker 6: Las Vegas. While I was with you and ben Ban, 695 00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:33,400 Speaker 6: myself and Dean were at a pool. 696 00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:35,240 Speaker 4: This was so sad, I want to say. It was 697 00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:38,720 Speaker 4: that the so weird. I don't know, it doesn't Hollywood. 698 00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:40,680 Speaker 2: We were playing Hollywood Hollywood. 699 00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:44,400 Speaker 6: Yeah, and we were we were just like out by 700 00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:47,320 Speaker 6: the pool and she came up with actually herself to start. 701 00:33:48,000 --> 00:33:50,920 Speaker 3: Nobody else would know. This was just like my this 702 00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:53,719 Speaker 3: a season of I mean, I just I spent my 703 00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:57,440 Speaker 3: entire twenties being like the chronically single friend. And so yeah, 704 00:33:57,480 --> 00:33:59,600 Speaker 3: I was on a bachelorette party and I you know, 705 00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:01,400 Speaker 3: we so them at the pool, and I was like, 706 00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:02,880 Speaker 3: how funny would it be if you know, we're on 707 00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:04,600 Speaker 3: a bachelor party we have to go talk to the 708 00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:08,560 Speaker 3: guys from bacheloring. It's you know, it's too funny. So 709 00:34:08,640 --> 00:34:11,319 Speaker 3: I led the way and yeah, I didn't even like, 710 00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:14,480 Speaker 3: I don't remember. I actually didn't remember this. My cousin 711 00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:17,160 Speaker 3: whose bachelor party was had to remind me that this 712 00:34:17,239 --> 00:34:19,560 Speaker 3: all happened. It was such a nuanced thing, like it 713 00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:21,359 Speaker 3: was like, I think we all spoke for like five 714 00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:22,839 Speaker 3: minutes at the pool and it was like a funny 715 00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:26,400 Speaker 3: story and then we that was it. I don't remember anything. 716 00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:29,240 Speaker 2: It wasn't like I'm the single bunch of my friends 717 00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:31,520 Speaker 2: and Peter Krause's over there and I'm going to go 718 00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:32,960 Speaker 2: like make this happen. 719 00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:37,000 Speaker 3: No, I wasn't really going for anything. It just was like, 720 00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:43,960 Speaker 3: I don't know, I have no idea why approached. But yeah, 721 00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:46,319 Speaker 3: that was a really funny time. There were a few 722 00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:48,239 Speaker 3: instances where him and I will talk about how we 723 00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:50,560 Speaker 3: were definitely in the same room. We're at the same party, like. 724 00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:55,520 Speaker 6: Super Bowls and Miami, New York, Yeah, Las Vegas. Multiple 725 00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:58,960 Speaker 6: times where we crossed paths. We just like put our 726 00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:01,600 Speaker 6: timelines together really as we probably passed each other at 727 00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:02,480 Speaker 6: some point multiple time. 728 00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:05,239 Speaker 2: Anybody that want to write a rom com about this, 729 00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:10,440 Speaker 2: it's pretty good, which is it is really funny to 730 00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:10,879 Speaker 2: think about. 731 00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:13,680 Speaker 3: But yeah, like I liked The Bachelor, like I watched 732 00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:15,719 Speaker 3: it and it's especially in its peak days, so like 733 00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:17,680 Speaker 3: I knew who he was, and even when I saw 734 00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:22,399 Speaker 3: him on Rayah all those years later, I was like, oh, yeah, 735 00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:24,759 Speaker 3: that's Peter Grass from The Bachelor, Like that's how I 736 00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:26,000 Speaker 3: still registered. 737 00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:30,920 Speaker 4: It was so so we matched, and she didn't respond 738 00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:31,600 Speaker 4: or say anything. 739 00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:33,759 Speaker 3: Well because also like what did you say? Did you 740 00:35:33,800 --> 00:35:34,239 Speaker 3: start it? 741 00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:35,160 Speaker 7: Yeah? 742 00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:37,879 Speaker 4: I desaid I and nice to meet you, Like that's it, 743 00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:40,680 Speaker 4: Like how's your day? I don't know. I always staying 744 00:35:40,719 --> 00:35:42,920 Speaker 4: a conversation and be very simplistic. It's like if I 745 00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:45,520 Speaker 4: want meeting, it's nice to hear. 746 00:35:46,480 --> 00:35:49,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, I would just say that coming from I don't know, 747 00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:52,200 Speaker 3: years of talking to people online. I just like got 748 00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:54,640 Speaker 3: over it. So I never cared and I was like, 749 00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:56,359 Speaker 3: he lives in Wisconsin. I'm never going to be this man. 750 00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:57,160 Speaker 3: So I didn't answer. 751 00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:59,719 Speaker 4: And so my rebuttal is why match in the first place? 752 00:36:00,440 --> 00:36:03,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so stupid, but that happened a lot. 753 00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:07,360 Speaker 3: It's like it's that thing of like you're almost dating 754 00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:09,720 Speaker 3: has to do with like the mood you're in. It's bizarre, 755 00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:12,520 Speaker 3: like it depends what like with online dating, you're just 756 00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:14,160 Speaker 3: like sitting on your couch or sitting in your bed 757 00:36:14,200 --> 00:36:17,040 Speaker 3: before you go to sleep, and it fully depends on 758 00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:19,920 Speaker 3: your mood. So like, yeah, so Peter for the Bachler, 759 00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:22,120 Speaker 3: I was like, oh, he's cute. I remember him so, 760 00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:24,920 Speaker 3: but then I didn't want to respond. But then he 761 00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:26,080 Speaker 3: came to New York, like. 762 00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:31,360 Speaker 6: Coincidentally, so we went for coffee and then coffee out, 763 00:36:31,520 --> 00:36:33,640 Speaker 6: like so you message her again and be like, Hi, 764 00:36:33,719 --> 00:36:38,440 Speaker 6: I'm actually I'm coming to New York, like let's grab coffee, 765 00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:40,920 Speaker 6: And that's when she responded Yeah. 766 00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:42,680 Speaker 3: That's when I was like, oh, okay, then this is 767 00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:47,040 Speaker 3: probably worth responding to if he's going to be so yeah, 768 00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:50,959 Speaker 3: and then that's persistent. Coffee was like it wasn't even 769 00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:52,879 Speaker 3: I always say, it wasn't even like the best coffee ever, 770 00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:54,360 Speaker 3: Like I wasn't like, oh my god, this is the 771 00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:57,200 Speaker 3: best for a date. It was just his follow up afterwards, 772 00:36:57,200 --> 00:37:00,880 Speaker 3: like obviously we had a great conversation, but it was 773 00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:04,400 Speaker 3: the conversation that happened afterwards, and how he was like 774 00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:08,360 Speaker 3: so adamant about seeing me again, and he was just 775 00:37:08,520 --> 00:37:11,880 Speaker 3: immediately like different, like he was just the way you 776 00:37:11,920 --> 00:37:14,239 Speaker 3: carried yourself, all of it, like it because at first 777 00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:16,160 Speaker 3: it's like this seems like it's too good to be true, 778 00:37:16,239 --> 00:37:18,919 Speaker 3: like and so many cases are, so you just don't 779 00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:20,640 Speaker 3: even get your hopes up anymore. You know. We met 780 00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:23,200 Speaker 3: when I was like in my thirties, so I just 781 00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:26,080 Speaker 3: I get that thing of like just being over it 782 00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:28,440 Speaker 3: and not getting excited. And then when he was like, oh, 783 00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,440 Speaker 3: I want to come see you again, like I all 784 00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:32,120 Speaker 3: that stuff, like, I was like, okay, well you know, 785 00:37:32,160 --> 00:37:34,120 Speaker 3: we'll see if that happens. But he just time and 786 00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:38,120 Speaker 3: time again was like proving that he was different and 787 00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:43,520 Speaker 3: refreshing and and like also very normal, because I didn't 788 00:37:43,520 --> 00:37:44,600 Speaker 3: think that he would be normal. 789 00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:53,000 Speaker 2: So, Peter, you or did you feel like an instant 790 00:37:53,040 --> 00:37:54,160 Speaker 2: something at this coffee? 791 00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:54,719 Speaker 7: Oh? 792 00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:55,320 Speaker 4: Absolutely? 793 00:37:56,600 --> 00:37:59,200 Speaker 6: Watching her walk up, first of all, I was like, wow, 794 00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:02,760 Speaker 6: this woman is or just but then just in talking 795 00:38:02,800 --> 00:38:04,719 Speaker 6: to her, it was really refreshing to meet someone who 796 00:38:04,840 --> 00:38:08,359 Speaker 6: was beautiful and well spoken that was also just down 797 00:38:08,360 --> 00:38:11,319 Speaker 6: to earth things to talk to and then basically as 798 00:38:11,360 --> 00:38:13,880 Speaker 6: she said, like I had been on good first dates, 799 00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:16,839 Speaker 6: and then it was the communication affwards would either die 800 00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:22,160 Speaker 6: really fast or it was not. It's like equal and 801 00:38:22,239 --> 00:38:24,719 Speaker 6: it's like give and take, whereas this was I would 802 00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:27,879 Speaker 6: reach out and she would immediately respond, or even if 803 00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:31,200 Speaker 6: it's like literally immediately, but within a good amount of 804 00:38:31,200 --> 00:38:33,120 Speaker 6: time she would get back to me, and if it 805 00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:34,440 Speaker 6: was a longer period of time, she'd. 806 00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:36,000 Speaker 4: Actually say like, oh, I'm so sorry, I was busy, 807 00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:39,600 Speaker 4: Like great to hear from you. It just felt like 808 00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:40,400 Speaker 4: I was being. 809 00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:43,040 Speaker 6: Pursued just as much as I was pursuing her, which 810 00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:45,880 Speaker 6: I feel like in the dating world is few and 811 00:38:45,920 --> 00:38:48,399 Speaker 6: far between. I can't tell you how many people friends 812 00:38:48,480 --> 00:38:50,719 Speaker 6: I talk to that are talking about how they never 813 00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:53,720 Speaker 6: hear back. They message once and they just get ghosted, 814 00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:55,120 Speaker 6: or they go out on date and they never hear 815 00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:57,919 Speaker 6: from someone again. It's like, no one's putting in the effort. Yeah, 816 00:38:57,920 --> 00:38:59,680 Speaker 6: and she seemed like she was actually putting in the 817 00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:01,120 Speaker 6: effort to get to know me. 818 00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:04,120 Speaker 2: It seems like you guys are just mature because like 819 00:39:04,239 --> 00:39:06,200 Speaker 2: a lot of the time, there's just no there's no 820 00:39:06,320 --> 00:39:06,919 Speaker 2: games here. 821 00:39:07,280 --> 00:39:08,560 Speaker 4: Yeah, and that's what we said. 822 00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:14,520 Speaker 6: I was like finally a mature, smart, intelligent woman who 823 00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:18,200 Speaker 6: was also beautiful, funny, easy to talk to, and charismatic. 824 00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:20,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, I had no like rules in dating, Like I 825 00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:22,120 Speaker 3: wasn't gonna like not text a guy first or like 826 00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:25,040 Speaker 3: any of that. So when he was just like when 827 00:39:25,120 --> 00:39:26,640 Speaker 3: you just have to follow the feeling, like if it 828 00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:29,000 Speaker 3: feels good, then just keep going, like keep texting it. 829 00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:34,440 Speaker 3: Like you just have to be a little like what 830 00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:37,279 Speaker 3: am I trying to say? You have to just like 831 00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:40,120 Speaker 3: take a chance and like send a stupid text, even 832 00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:41,440 Speaker 3: if you're like, oh my god, I'm going to text 833 00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:44,360 Speaker 3: him first for the first time, you're like internally screaming, 834 00:39:44,400 --> 00:39:46,480 Speaker 3: but just do it, because if it doesn't work out, 835 00:39:47,239 --> 00:39:51,040 Speaker 3: it'll very obviously not work out or exactly right. And 836 00:39:51,520 --> 00:39:54,160 Speaker 3: we always used to say, like, if this didn't turn 837 00:39:54,200 --> 00:39:56,920 Speaker 3: into anything, like this was early stages, just early odds 838 00:39:56,920 --> 00:39:59,840 Speaker 3: of like the first few weeks of texting and talking 839 00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:02,279 Speaker 3: on phone all the time. After that initial meeting, we 840 00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:04,840 Speaker 3: would say, like, if this doesn't work out, it was 841 00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:08,000 Speaker 3: purely refreshing meeting you, because it reminded me that like 842 00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:10,080 Speaker 3: people that I was looking for, like I wasn't crazy, 843 00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:13,120 Speaker 3: like they existed and they were out there and then 844 00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:17,560 Speaker 3: yeah and then yeah, we just like completely felt. 845 00:40:19,280 --> 00:40:22,040 Speaker 2: I love the story so so much. Also, the maturity 846 00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:24,879 Speaker 2: like probably makes for like the ending of your rom 847 00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:28,839 Speaker 2: com to like not like, I mean, wonderful for real life, 848 00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:30,160 Speaker 2: the best for real life. 849 00:40:30,880 --> 00:40:34,799 Speaker 3: Yes, there's no twist, not really not yet. 850 00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:39,640 Speaker 2: Okay, guys, well this was so much fun. I could 851 00:40:39,680 --> 00:40:43,879 Speaker 2: ask you zillion more questions, but we will let you go. 852 00:40:44,360 --> 00:40:48,440 Speaker 2: Congratulations so much on the wedding. It was beautiful and 853 00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:50,960 Speaker 2: we can't wait to see your absolutely beautiful child because 854 00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:52,560 Speaker 2: the beauty is going to be unreal. 855 00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:55,239 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. Thank you. We're convinced she'll have the 856 00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:57,200 Speaker 3: gap too, so I. 857 00:40:57,160 --> 00:41:00,839 Speaker 2: Think it'll work. It's don't get racist on that. It's 858 00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:06,480 Speaker 2: that's a lot of quality. Yeah, thanks, oving you guys, 859 00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:07,680 Speaker 2: Bye bye. 860 00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:11,920 Speaker 1: Follow the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcasts on 861 00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:15,200 Speaker 1: iHeartRadio or subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts.