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Speaker 1: Let's do this wind down with Jannet Kramer and I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio Podcast Eastern. Are you still on a high

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Speaker 1: from our jam session? Yeah, he's ready to sing the

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Speaker 1: rest of the Settlers. Yeah, I got the book. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: east and I had a ready so ready, you better

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Speaker 1: watch out. He's going to jump up on stage at

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Speaker 1: the farm. I'm counting on that. Wheyars um. Yeah. Last

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Speaker 1: week Easton and I sang a little duet together. It

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Speaker 1: was a lot of fun. So Michael and I just

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Speaker 1: got back from Virginia. His dad celebrated thirty three, thirty

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Speaker 1: two years in the fire department, Fire department. He was incredible.

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Speaker 1: Just I know, I can't stop. I was going to

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Speaker 1: So we woke up super early and Michael is like,

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Speaker 1: I don't He's you're like struggling today, Yeah, because I

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Speaker 1: only slept like three hours. The bed that we're staying

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Speaker 1: at my parents house kind of sinks into the middle.

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Speaker 1: I just kind of got up. I was like, all right,

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Speaker 1: this ain't gonna work. You have my pregnant wife the bed,

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Speaker 1: and I'll go sep, is it your childhood bed? No,

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Speaker 1: it's not. My brother sleeps in that one. Now, wow,

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Speaker 1: it's your childhood home. Um, I moved there when I

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Speaker 1: I grew up in a different house, but that one's

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Speaker 1: and then he he everything just worked out perfect. He

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Speaker 1: like just got, oh my god, here piece of six

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Speaker 1: stock on your forehead now, like right, he got home

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Speaker 1: like two minutes before we pulled in the driveway. I mean,

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Speaker 1: So what's he going to do now. I mean, after

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Speaker 1: being in such like an adventurous career for so long,

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Speaker 1: what's not he doesn't have the personality to sit at home.

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Speaker 1: He's got things in the work that he's going to

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Speaker 1: work for the state. I know. And then I was like,

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Speaker 1: We're traveling. We don't feel like doing life today. He's like,

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Speaker 1: I don't feel like being a dad. I don't feel

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Speaker 1: I know. Oh my god, I'm just staring. He sorry,

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Speaker 1: I know. So to re app last week, I have

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Speaker 1: the friend. That's fine. Yeah, with Michael and I talked

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Speaker 1: about it. It makes me sad, he knows I'm sad

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Speaker 1: about it. Yeah, you'll grow through it. I heard from

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Speaker 1: one of my friends that's like a weird not friend anymore,

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Speaker 1: So I write right back to like engage at well.

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Speaker 1: I was even telling um, Sarah, actually we're going to

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Speaker 1: at my text messages and she was like congrats in

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Speaker 1: your pregnancy, and I said thank you, but nothing after that,

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Speaker 1: Like wouldn't you, like like any other of my friends

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Speaker 1: was just like, there you go. You're already moving on.

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Speaker 1: I know. It's sad though, And my friend Leslie text

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Speaker 1: I was like, I'm I'm bummed, right, you know, well, no,

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Speaker 1: but you're going to have to agrieve it. Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: It started to become one sided there for a few

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Speaker 1: and that wasn't reciprocated. So yeah, that's exhausting. Yeah that's

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Speaker 1: best describe it, Michael, I'll tell you. I want you

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Speaker 1: to be sued and not me. All you have to say.

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Speaker 1: I learned a long time ago that fire is hot

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Speaker 1: and I shouldn't touch it. It seems like it's blazing

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Speaker 1: so we're gonna just we're gonna let that one rest

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Speaker 1: Thank you. I walked in at the right time. We're

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Speaker 1: talking about narcissism. I know, I know, well, in New

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Speaker 1: Are you here for work? Work? All sorts of stuff? Nice?

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Speaker 1: So um, honey, I know, I know you're here and

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Speaker 1: vaginas a little bit. Do you know guy stuff too?

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Speaker 1: women get a much more because when we have babies

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Speaker 1: don't know when that might happen. But you also want

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Speaker 1: But you know, I think where I got it from.

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Speaker 1: Those started, Michael, when we were moving out of our

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Speaker 1: and we're moving like heavy heavy stuff. Yeah, so that's

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Speaker 1: what we call strangulated or twisted in a dangerous way.

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Speaker 1: the breast. But you always you always say you have

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Speaker 1: lumps places though, like you show me things all the time.

424
00:21:40,160 --> 00:21:42,480
Speaker 1: You're like looking behind it, behind your ear. There's one.

425
00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:45,760
Speaker 1: It's just limplanes just kind of flare up whenever, or

426
00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:47,959
Speaker 1: can when you have an infection or and you might

427
00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:50,080
Speaker 1: even realize that you have a little virus, you know,

428
00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:52,199
Speaker 1: and that can make your limp node swell up. But

429
00:21:52,280 --> 00:21:55,200
Speaker 1: if it's permanently swelling or certainly getting bigger, you definitely

430
00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:56,480
Speaker 1: want to talk to you. What do you think about

431
00:21:56,480 --> 00:22:01,199
Speaker 1: boob jobs? Then? What do I think about them? Like?

432
00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:04,639
Speaker 1: Do you think it's do you think it's do you

433
00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:09,000
Speaker 1: think it's not good? Because of what? I don't think it.

434
00:22:09,080 --> 00:22:11,520
Speaker 1: I don't think it. It poses a medical risk in

435
00:22:11,680 --> 00:22:14,320
Speaker 1: terms of like breast cancer or anything like that. Um,

436
00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:16,560
Speaker 1: I think it's a very major surgery, so I don't

437
00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:19,760
Speaker 1: think anyone should just take it lightly. And with any surgery,

438
00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:22,120
Speaker 1: you know, you can have a risk of infection and

439
00:22:22,160 --> 00:22:25,000
Speaker 1: things going wrong and dying from anesthesia. You know, like

440
00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:27,320
Speaker 1: these things can happen, so it should be a very

441
00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:30,000
Speaker 1: careful decision. I feel like I've gone down so many

442
00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:33,639
Speaker 1: times from anesthesia, Like it's like my skittles, Like I

443
00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:35,919
Speaker 1: don't have my gall butter on my appendic tent. You know,

444
00:22:36,560 --> 00:22:38,679
Speaker 1: I feel like I've gone down a lot. Do they

445
00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:44,000
Speaker 1: even give you anaesthesia and romanium when you go It's

446
00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:45,919
Speaker 1: a long story, but so okay, So I don't have

447
00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:50,200
Speaker 1: my gall bladder independix? What is that doing? Is that bad? No? Well,

448
00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:52,120
Speaker 1: losing your and by the way, the thing with the

449
00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:55,159
Speaker 1: breast surgery, um, you know most of them you have

450
00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:57,520
Speaker 1: to do. I think all of them replace it every

451
00:22:57,520 --> 00:22:59,840
Speaker 1: ten years, every twelve years. So it's another thing just

452
00:22:59,880 --> 00:23:02,200
Speaker 1: to think about another surgery when you're ten years older.

453
00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:04,240
Speaker 1: You may not be as healthy, but now they can

454
00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:08,439
Speaker 1: put that in there, yes, then they're not as round them.

455
00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:10,399
Speaker 1: When did you lose your appendix. That's another one of

456
00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:13,320
Speaker 1: my hypochondria years. I actually googled the other day most

457
00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:16,800
Speaker 1: common age for appendicitis and I'm out of the way right. Well,

458
00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:18,640
Speaker 1: I mean appendicitis because they could come out like any

459
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:23,280
Speaker 1: age though cana the Well, my story is a little

460
00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:27,360
Speaker 1: different because I was nineteen in Romania. I was shooting

461
00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:31,480
Speaker 1: a horror film and I kept having like really bad

462
00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:34,280
Speaker 1: pains down there. Um, and so when one of the

463
00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:38,280
Speaker 1: night shoots, my leg went numb and they rushed me

464
00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:40,080
Speaker 1: the hospital and they said my appendix was a plane

465
00:23:40,119 --> 00:23:42,320
Speaker 1: that they had to take my appendix out. Well, really,

466
00:23:42,320 --> 00:23:43,879
Speaker 1: it was never my penis that was the problem. It

467
00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:46,760
Speaker 1: was my gall bladder. I was passing stones, so they

468
00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 1: took out. So they took out like they took out

469
00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:54,000
Speaker 1: my appendics didn't even need to. And then, um, I

470
00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:55,840
Speaker 1: had long story short, I had to get flow like

471
00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:58,480
Speaker 1: flown back to the States and then within twenty four

472
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Speaker 1: to take my gall bladder. I was. My pancreas was

473
00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:02,760
Speaker 1: so messed up and pneumonia, it was a whole like

474
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:08,119
Speaker 1: it was crazy. I know, it's really bad. Yeah, but

475
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:13,200
Speaker 1: the real life version will be a lifetime in twenty years. Um. Yeah,

476
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:16,040
Speaker 1: your appendix luckily doesn't do anything really, so you don't

477
00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:18,000
Speaker 1: need it. Then why did God put it in our body?

478
00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:21,880
Speaker 1: We're not sure. It's called a vestigial organ, meaning at

479
00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:25,439
Speaker 1: some point it probably had a purpose um evolutionarily, for

480
00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:28,080
Speaker 1: whatever reason, we kind of outgrew its purpose, but it's

481
00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:30,679
Speaker 1: still there um and really at this point only it

482
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:33,320
Speaker 1: does contain some immune cells, but you have plenty of others,

483
00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:34,800
Speaker 1: so you don't really need it. And then what about

484
00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:40,080
Speaker 1: the gall bladder? Now, yeah, you know it does contain bile,

485
00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:42,159
Speaker 1: which helps you digest fat and things like that. So

486
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:44,800
Speaker 1: sometimes people who lose their gall bladder may not process

487
00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 1: fat as well, they may get diarhe a little bit more.

488
00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:54,320
Speaker 1: But now, like in real fast going number one or

489
00:24:54,359 --> 00:25:01,640
Speaker 1: number two because the same amount of time, how can bathroom? Honey?

490
00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:03,960
Speaker 1: Do you have any questions on why your swings left

491
00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:07,760
Speaker 1: or right or anything like that. I don't any any

492
00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:12,440
Speaker 1: of vagina questions or anything I do. Uh, what about testosterone? Like,

493
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 1: do you think that's something that guys should get checked?

494
00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:17,080
Speaker 1: Is it something? Yeah? You know I found this in

495
00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:20,119
Speaker 1: New York to be this craze now, especially with like

496
00:25:20,240 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 1: Wall Street guys and everyone's taking testosterone or feel like

497
00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:26,159
Speaker 1: they have a testosterone, and I think it's sorry, I

498
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:30,560
Speaker 1: don't know that. So testosterone is a male hormone. U, yeah,

499
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:33,600
Speaker 1: we have estrogen. Men have testosterone, But why would you

500
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:37,600
Speaker 1: want more of it to make you stronger, able to

501
00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:41,560
Speaker 1: look more ways, able to sexually perform better, more frequently,

502
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:44,280
Speaker 1: whatever it is. But the truth is, too much testosterone

503
00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:47,119
Speaker 1: can actually harm your body and your heart. Um, So

504
00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:49,520
Speaker 1: it's not something you should just take without real life,

505
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:51,520
Speaker 1: you know, checking whether you were actually deficient or not.

506
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:54,520
Speaker 1: So some testosterone is normal to decline a bit as

507
00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 1: a man ages um, but before getting any sort of

508
00:25:58,119 --> 00:26:00,600
Speaker 1: supplement or injection, you really should check the level with

509
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 1: a reputable doctor because there are some you know kind

510
00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 1: of doctors will just give it to anybody. I know

511
00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 1: a guy that gets uh, like pellets like tesac and

512
00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:12,399
Speaker 1: like pellets injected his but and that's like the newest

513
00:26:12,400 --> 00:26:16,760
Speaker 1: thing I heard of it. Yeah, yea yeah, not not

514
00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:20,399
Speaker 1: the whole or nothing, but right right, right, yeah. So

515
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:22,960
Speaker 1: it's just interesting because I, like you're saying, I've heard

516
00:26:23,040 --> 00:26:25,320
Speaker 1: more about this, like guys taking I'm taking to and

517
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 1: I'm doing this undering that I'm like no, and like

518
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:30,920
Speaker 1: human growth hormone is like another thing that's sort of

519
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 1: being used in a similar way. But again, like all

520
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:35,880
Speaker 1: of these things, you know, even if you can buy

521
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:37,800
Speaker 1: something without a prescription or whatever, that doesn't mean it

522
00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:40,239
Speaker 1: can't harm your body in a significant one botox does.

523
00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 1: Is that harming me? No, it shouldn't. It really shouldn't.

524
00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:50,200
Speaker 1: I mean there's a few people who might have that

525
00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:53,280
Speaker 1: random you know, one and ten thou reaction where they

526
00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:55,720
Speaker 1: d b I. Yeah, they get you know, a Drew

527
00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:57,960
Speaker 1: b I or whatever. But for the most part, it's

528
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:00,880
Speaker 1: it's safe. It's very superficial. Why do people say, well,

529
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:04,480
Speaker 1: it's a whatever, it's poisons it is, And I mean

530
00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 1: the way it works is it paralyzes um the muscles

531
00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:09,360
Speaker 1: of your face. So you can imagine if you injected

532
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:11,720
Speaker 1: botox into your heart and it paralyzed your heart, you

533
00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:13,840
Speaker 1: would die, you know. But it's not getting to there.

534
00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 1: It's it's such a superficial injection. So what about the

535
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:21,120
Speaker 1: other fillers. There's this new one sculpture that they are

536
00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:26,399
Speaker 1: injecting eight vials in each like butt cheek, and it

537
00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:31,160
Speaker 1: helps build collagen instead of having the Brazilian butt lift,

538
00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:33,600
Speaker 1: and it lifts up the button builds collagen have you.

539
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:37,080
Speaker 1: I don't know it um in particular. Again, I my

540
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:41,200
Speaker 1: thing with cosmetic injections. I always I have a couple

541
00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:43,359
Speaker 1: of very good friends from med school for dermatologists, and

542
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:47,439
Speaker 1: I'm like, go to a dermatologist, you know, don't across

543
00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:49,359
Speaker 1: the hall. Yeah, that's what I did this weekend. I

544
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:52,879
Speaker 1: had that injected. How does it feel? I don't know,

545
00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:58,160
Speaker 1: We'll see. I don't understand why people like I don't.

546
00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:00,520
Speaker 1: I just understand that, like why, like why do you

547
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:02,880
Speaker 1: want the kardash Ham But I don't want the kardashi Ham?

548
00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:07,400
Speaker 1: But I just want Fine, you asked about it after

549
00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 1: you already did. I'm asking for a friend. I do

550
00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:18,200
Speaker 1: not want Kardashian, but I just I'm going to be

551
00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:23,760
Speaker 1: forty five in June. How do I get rid of cellulate?

552
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:26,280
Speaker 1: I don't have. I don't have any for anyone listening,

553
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:29,159
Speaker 1: but just for some reason, you can't, can Yeah? I

554
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 1: mean so you know what cellulated is, right, It's those

555
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:34,439
Speaker 1: those fibrous bands of tissue that kind of cut across

556
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:36,800
Speaker 1: the fat and give you that dimpling appearance to your skin.

557
00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:40,400
Speaker 1: So it's it's hard. I mean, there's anything that claims

558
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:42,040
Speaker 1: to really get rid of it is really only going

559
00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 1: to maybe temporarily reduce the appearance of it. So there's

560
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 1: some kind of caffeine based creams that can do that. Um,

561
00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:50,960
Speaker 1: But it's really just for for some reason, certain people

562
00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:53,680
Speaker 1: are more predisposed to get cellulate than others. But you know,

563
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:57,040
Speaker 1: toning exercises, losing weight can help a bit, um, but

564
00:28:57,160 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 1: unfortunately it's kind of genetic. Why did you go into career? Yeah, um,

565
00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:06,800
Speaker 1: I in med school. I loved like surgery. I love

566
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:09,800
Speaker 1: being able to look inside someone and immediately see a problem.

567
00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 1: I think I'm kind of a little bit of an

568
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:13,480
Speaker 1: impatient person, like I like to see the issue and

569
00:29:13,600 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 1: fix it. But I didn't love the surgeon kind of

570
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:19,959
Speaker 1: lifestyle of you see a patient once, you may never

571
00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:21,720
Speaker 1: see them again, or you'll see them like one time

572
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:23,760
Speaker 1: after to check their wound and then they're done. So

573
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 1: in gas from geology, I kind of get to do both.

574
00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 1: I do these mini procedures colin ascopies and ascopies where

575
00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:31,960
Speaker 1: I can actually go in remove a polyp, you know,

576
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:34,960
Speaker 1: biopsy of cancer, fix a bleeding ulcer, you know, kind

577
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:37,360
Speaker 1: of the exciting stuff. But then I also have to

578
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:44,000
Speaker 1: me exciting. I love it. You have such passion for

579
00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:46,240
Speaker 1: you to I do the days of doing procedures. It's

580
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:47,960
Speaker 1: like I'm not working. I just enjoy it so much.

581
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:50,560
Speaker 1: But then I have those long term patients with Crohn's

582
00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:53,400
Speaker 1: disease or irritable bell or whoever, so that I've known

583
00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:56,920
Speaker 1: for years and years, and I get to develop those relationships.

584
00:29:57,040 --> 00:29:58,880
Speaker 1: What's the best and worst thing you can eat for

585
00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:04,600
Speaker 1: those symptoms? Um for which symptoms? Well for just digestive,

586
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:08,880
Speaker 1: just general for to be healthy and your digestive tract.

587
00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:11,520
Speaker 1: The best things you can need. I would say fiber.

588
00:30:12,120 --> 00:30:14,040
Speaker 1: Fiber is like we hear about it, so you know,

589
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:15,960
Speaker 1: we've heard about it for years, but now we're even

590
00:30:16,040 --> 00:30:18,440
Speaker 1: learning more about how important fiber is and how most

591
00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 1: of us are not getting nearly is enough, you know

592
00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:23,440
Speaker 1: they I think the recommendation for women is twenty five

593
00:30:23,520 --> 00:30:26,760
Speaker 1: grams a day most American women are getting, like you

594
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:32,480
Speaker 1: should be meta mucles great. I think you can get

595
00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 1: it in food though as well. And we know how

596
00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:36,360
Speaker 1: where the plant based diet is, so if you get

597
00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:40,800
Speaker 1: it that that yep. And then probiotics, I'm interesting passionate

598
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:44,360
Speaker 1: about probiotics, healthy bacteria. You know it started in the

599
00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:46,200
Speaker 1: g I world and how good it is for our gut.

600
00:30:46,520 --> 00:30:49,040
Speaker 1: But we're now learning that healthy bacteria and maintaining a

601
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:53,480
Speaker 1: balance in your gut effects your immunity, your metambolism, you're

602
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:56,800
Speaker 1: the way you gain or lose weight, even personality. They've

603
00:30:56,960 --> 00:30:59,560
Speaker 1: done studies now on things like depression and anxiety and

604
00:31:00,480 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 1: what's the best probot because we give we give our

605
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:05,720
Speaker 1: daughter a probiotic in the morning in her in her milk.

606
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 1: But what I've never actually heard of adults taking probiotics.

607
00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:10,720
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, for sure, I think you know, and I

608
00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 1: you know, full disclosure. I have a probiotic skincare company

609
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:16,840
Speaker 1: called Tula, and we actually have a to U l

610
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:18,800
Speaker 1: A and we have a probiotic supplement as well, which

611
00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 1: is for GI health and skin health. But I think

612
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 1: generally when I'm talking to any patients like, yeah, now

613
00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:26,000
Speaker 1: I designed it, you know. And this is the thing

614
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 1: about probiotics is that anyone can really put anything together

615
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:33,880
Speaker 1: and market it. It's not very regulated the probiotic industry.

616
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:36,080
Speaker 1: So there are hundreds of probiotics out there and it's

617
00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:37,680
Speaker 1: kind of hard to tease out which ones are good

618
00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 1: or not. There are a couple that I do recommend

619
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:42,320
Speaker 1: to my patients if they have specific GI issues. Aligne

620
00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:45,200
Speaker 1: is one, cultural is another one. But what I also

621
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,120
Speaker 1: tell people is we're now learning it's important to have

622
00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:50,840
Speaker 1: a real variety of bacteria and that the best way

623
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:53,960
Speaker 1: to get that is really through food. So yogurt that

624
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 1: says with live and active cultures, um kafeir is like

625
00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 1: a yogurt, like drink, um sauer kraut, kim chi, tempei miso.

626
00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 1: All of these things have a variety of probiotics in them,

627
00:32:05,960 --> 00:32:07,880
Speaker 1: So really trying to get that into your really your

628
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:11,600
Speaker 1: daily diet, okay, and what not to eat. Processed foods

629
00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:15,280
Speaker 1: are not good. Sugar is really anti inflammatory. I think

630
00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:17,840
Speaker 1: from fruit it's okay, But the added sugar, you know,

631
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:21,200
Speaker 1: refined sugar, we don't like. Um. I mean the worst

632
00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:23,440
Speaker 1: things in the world really are processed meats in terms

633
00:32:23,480 --> 00:32:28,240
Speaker 1: of your g I health, So only cancer cold cuts

634
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Speaker 1: are terrible favorite and cheese and wine is like my

635
00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:36,760
Speaker 1: like wine is good, cheese, I'm I'm really leaning more

636
00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 1: towards the antibiotic free, so organic cheese is I don't

637
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:44,200
Speaker 1: like the antibiotics in the dairy. But um, hot dogs

638
00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:51,680
Speaker 1: are terrible. Oh yeah. I mean if it's as nitrate free,

639
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,040
Speaker 1: then it's fine, But it's the nitrates in the hot

640
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:58,960
Speaker 1: dogs which are really cancer causing. Red meat. Absolutely, red

641
00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:03,480
Speaker 1: meat is not good. I mean even like even if

642
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:05,960
Speaker 1: you bought a cow, because we eat steak a lot.

643
00:33:06,880 --> 00:33:08,520
Speaker 1: We love, not a lot, but I mean we like

644
00:33:08,640 --> 00:33:10,720
Speaker 1: every two weeks or so. Yeah, well every two weeks

645
00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 1: is fine. Yeah. I would just say on a daily basis,

646
00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 1: the majority of your plate should be plant based. And

647
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 1: what I mean by that is vegetables, fruits, les, nuts,

648
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:22,680
Speaker 1: you know, things that come from the earth. But what

649
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:24,959
Speaker 1: if like your body type, like sorry, maybe what if

650
00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:27,440
Speaker 1: the blood type thing, because some blood types are meant

651
00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:30,960
Speaker 1: to be like more carna. Whatever is that? I don't

652
00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:33,160
Speaker 1: know if I really buy that. I don't think there's

653
00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:36,800
Speaker 1: anybody that benefits from like a high red meat diet.

654
00:33:37,280 --> 00:33:39,800
Speaker 1: But what about like back in the day, like they

655
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 1: ate meat and they live a long time, they didn't

656
00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:48,880
Speaker 1: really live a long time. Yeah, maybe that's what our

657
00:33:48,880 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 1: appendix was for. Maybe maybe besides probiotics, is there anything

658
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 1: else you recommend with daily multi bottom? You know, I

659
00:33:57,640 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 1: know fish oils years back when I was in athletics,

660
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 1: that was like a big thing which was taking fisher

661
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,440
Speaker 1: wars every day. Is that? Yeah? I think fish oil

662
00:34:04,520 --> 00:34:06,520
Speaker 1: you know why? Fish oil as good as the omega threes,

663
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 1: and I think I recommend getting that through walnuts and

664
00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:13,000
Speaker 1: fish um as opposed to the supplement. If for whatever

665
00:34:13,080 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 1: reason you can't get it in your diet, then I

666
00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:17,000
Speaker 1: think fish oil is a good one. I think vitamin

667
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Speaker 1: D is something that a lot of people these days

668
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:21,560
Speaker 1: are deficient in, so that actually when emple meant women, Yes,

669
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Speaker 1: and it's important for a bone strength, so that's an

670
00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:26,719
Speaker 1: important one. But even just a regular daily vitamin. I mean,

671
00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:28,520
Speaker 1: the studies have really gone back and forth on that,

672
00:34:28,640 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 1: and some recent studies show it's it's harmful to take

673
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:34,320
Speaker 1: a daily vitamin. So again getting those vitamins from a

674
00:34:34,440 --> 00:34:37,400
Speaker 1: variety of brightly colored fruits and vegetables. I mean, I

675
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:40,640
Speaker 1: know I sound a little pollyannical about it. It's the true.

676
00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:44,279
Speaker 1: That's actually the healthiest thing you can do. Yeah, well,

677
00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:46,879
Speaker 1: I switching gears. You just want to know the most

678
00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:50,000
Speaker 1: common question you get that women are embarrassed to ask you,

679
00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:54,759
Speaker 1: but you get it all the time. Um, I get

680
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:56,640
Speaker 1: a lot. I mean women when they come to see

681
00:34:56,719 --> 00:35:00,759
Speaker 1: me Um. Women, unfortunately, we're raised to like not really

682
00:35:00,800 --> 00:35:04,640
Speaker 1: talk about our bound movements and passing gas and diarrhea

683
00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:07,800
Speaker 1: and all those things. It's not ladylike. Um, that's what

684
00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:09,880
Speaker 1: you know. I think that's changing, which is a good thing.

685
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:12,680
Speaker 1: But um, so I think a lot of times women

686
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:15,640
Speaker 1: are embarrassed about like I passed so much gas and

687
00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:18,200
Speaker 1: I can't I can't go to the bathroom and my

688
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:21,480
Speaker 1: boyfriend's place because it's so loud, or I'm so embarrassed

689
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:23,920
Speaker 1: to go on dates things like that. Um, And so

690
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:26,000
Speaker 1: then we'll talk about, you know, what are they eating

691
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 1: or could this be a sign of silliac disease which

692
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:31,319
Speaker 1: is a you know, reaction to gluten wheat protein, which

693
00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:34,400
Speaker 1: is very common these days, and the different causes for that. Um,

694
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:36,279
Speaker 1: I guess I would say that's probably one of the

695
00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:42,120
Speaker 1: most common embarrassing complaints that people talk about. Yeah, getting

696
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:45,560
Speaker 1: rid of that stereotype, which is great, you know, it's true.

697
00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:48,200
Speaker 1: Like even doctor Oz back in the day, the fact

698
00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:49,880
Speaker 1: that he talked about what should your poop look like?

699
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 1: I mean that is why I know right after school

700
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:55,879
Speaker 1: and I was like, if my poop looks like it's

701
00:35:57,440 --> 00:36:00,279
Speaker 1: the toilet, like I have a healthy poop. I'm like,

702
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:04,920
Speaker 1: doctor as would like that poop doctors approved. Yeah, it's

703
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:07,920
Speaker 1: so funny. I like I remember catching that. It opened

704
00:36:08,000 --> 00:36:11,160
Speaker 1: up the door to um. These kinds of conversations. I

705
00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:13,000
Speaker 1: wrote a book a few years ago called What the Yuck?

706
00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:15,239
Speaker 1: The Freaky and Fabulous Truth About your Body, And it's

707
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:18,279
Speaker 1: all about these embarrassing questions that women have. You know,

708
00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:21,440
Speaker 1: when it comes to pregnancy, all sorts of weird things happen,

709
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 1: or fertility or anal sex, like all these things that

710
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:28,760
Speaker 1: women may not feel comfortable discussing. Is anal sex healthy?

711
00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:32,719
Speaker 1: Should we be doing that? Or not? Well? Should you?

712
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:34,880
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm prescribing it to you. I don't know,

713
00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 1: but um, anal sex is one of those things that

714
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:39,640
Speaker 1: if you're going to do it, you mean, you need

715
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:41,759
Speaker 1: to do it the right way, meaning there should be

716
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:45,920
Speaker 1: a lot of lubrication. You have to be relaxed because

717
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:49,440
Speaker 1: if you are tense, um, you could cause trauma in

718
00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:52,520
Speaker 1: that area. And that's not good because I said, well,

719
00:36:52,600 --> 00:36:54,960
Speaker 1: it's it's not really hemorrhoids, but you can cause irritation,

720
00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:57,680
Speaker 1: like an actual inflammation of your colon if you're breaking

721
00:36:57,840 --> 00:36:59,480
Speaker 1: the you know, the skin there you can get an

722
00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:01,879
Speaker 1: infection and you're more prone to getting STDs if there's

723
00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:04,479
Speaker 1: broken skin there. Um, you want to be careful about

724
00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:07,319
Speaker 1: not having anal sex and then immediately having vaginal sex

725
00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:12,400
Speaker 1: without cleaning. Yeah, I mean you can, Like those are

726
00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 1: the worse than a bladder infection and you can't. Oh

727
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:15,600
Speaker 1: my god, that I'm that I'm waking up the husband

728
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:17,320
Speaker 1: at three o'clock in the morning. I need the orange

729
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Speaker 1: pill from for the U T I. Yeah. So it's

730
00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:24,239
Speaker 1: one of those things where I certainly don't say don't

731
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Speaker 1: do it, but if you're gonna do what you have

732
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Speaker 1: to do, well. On that note, Dr ros Dr Rage,

733
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Speaker 1: where can we find you? You can find me at

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Speaker 1: Dr Roshani Raj dot com. It's d R Roshani Raj

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Speaker 1: your is this your friend like bestie eating is I

751
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Speaker 1: just had massive vertigo, So more like my sister. M

752
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Speaker 1: J is the one m J from Shows of Sunset

753
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Speaker 1: has just joined us. Oh my god, I love the enthusiasm.

754
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Speaker 1: Thank you. You want some siddle. So m J is

755
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Speaker 1: more like my sister than she is my friends. She is.

756
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Speaker 1: She was my real estate client. Yes, yes, and so

757
00:39:09,320 --> 00:39:12,719
Speaker 1: we spent so much time together because I well know,

758
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:16,000
Speaker 1: the thing that you do when you're seducing your clients

759
00:39:16,120 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: is that you take them on a really nice brunch

760
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:21,200
Speaker 1: before you go house hunting. For about three and a

761
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:25,840
Speaker 1: half hours, we went to Coyote this one time, nice

762
00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:29,680
Speaker 1: and on time. It's on Beverly bol of a liquid

763
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:35,040
Speaker 1: brunch for sure. We also ate food, did we Nachos

764
00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:41,160
Speaker 1: and Margarita's cane? You had vegetarian, but it was a

765
00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:44,319
Speaker 1: vegan and it was also a double date by yes,

766
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Speaker 1: So well, you don't want to go grumpy, hungry on

767
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:52,120
Speaker 1: or angry on house hunting, right, No, you can't because

768
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:54,839
Speaker 1: you're just out. If it was if we were house

769
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Speaker 1: hunting and went to Mexican food this day, this time

770
00:39:57,360 --> 00:40:00,560
Speaker 1: of my life, I would have bathroom emergence, sees the whole.

771
00:40:01,880 --> 00:40:06,359
Speaker 1: This was twelve years ago, wasn't twelve twelve? I think?

772
00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:09,320
Speaker 1: So they're teen years ago and you just got married,

773
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:11,880
Speaker 1: I did, How okay, so how long have you been

774
00:40:11,960 --> 00:40:15,440
Speaker 1: with your now husband? Exactly four years since we swiped

775
00:40:15,560 --> 00:40:20,800
Speaker 1: on Tinder? Yeah, it was it was all all the

776
00:40:21,120 --> 00:40:23,959
Speaker 1: communication was within the app, and then the app would

777
00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:26,600
Speaker 1: crash and then we would have absolutely no way of

778
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 1: getting in touch with each other. So and then I

779
00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:31,240
Speaker 1: would panic because I really liked him, but he wouldn't

780
00:40:31,239 --> 00:40:33,879
Speaker 1: ask me for my damn phone number. He wouldn't push

781
00:40:33,960 --> 00:40:36,560
Speaker 1: the relationship to the next point of even phone number,

782
00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:38,560
Speaker 1: And then I had to ask him, when are you

783
00:40:38,600 --> 00:40:40,640
Speaker 1: gonna ask me for my phone number, and then he said, okay,

784
00:40:40,680 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 1: well whenever you're comfortable. That was game. That was That

785
00:40:43,760 --> 00:40:45,680
Speaker 1: was a game. And Michael and I met on Twitter,

786
00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:51,840
Speaker 1: and I like Twitter and Tinder, like we just have

787
00:40:51,920 --> 00:40:54,480
Speaker 1: the classic left star. So he definitely sought you out.

788
00:40:54,960 --> 00:41:01,080
Speaker 1: Duh when I was your first mine? What did you hi?

789
00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:05,360
Speaker 1: I'm a big fan. Did you use all on forty characters?

790
00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 1: I followed him when that's when he was like, hey,

791
00:41:09,239 --> 00:41:11,239
Speaker 1: thanks for the follow like I'm a fan or whatever.

792
00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:14,200
Speaker 1: And then but then I gave him my number because

793
00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm not gonna like props for you for waiting,

794
00:41:18,040 --> 00:41:19,560
Speaker 1: but I just like couldn't. I'm not like, I'm like,

795
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:22,319
Speaker 1: here's my number, let's just like get to hours later.

796
00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:26,120
Speaker 1: I was. It was twenty four hours. Oh that's that's

797
00:41:26,160 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 1: as well. There you are you guys beat us? Do

798
00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 1: you now have a baby? How long altogether since you tweeted?

799
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:40,879
Speaker 1: Since we're starting from swipe, we start from four years ago.

800
00:41:41,520 --> 00:41:43,200
Speaker 1: But let me tell you it's been a ride, sister,

801
00:41:43,440 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 1: Oh for sure. Yeah. I was actually thinking about how

802
00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:48,960
Speaker 1: I think, you know, they say work smarter. It's kind

803
00:41:49,000 --> 00:41:52,120
Speaker 1: of an annoying way to say what fight smarter is

804
00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:53,920
Speaker 1: when I was thinking about in the chart, what's your

805
00:41:53,960 --> 00:41:56,880
Speaker 1: biggest issue with your husband? Oh, the stupidest thing you

806
00:41:56,920 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 1: could come up with, Like he tossed his food into

807
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:03,960
Speaker 1: the trash bin from a distance, and so then it

808
00:42:04,120 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 1: like trickles onto the floor and inside of the trash

809
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:08,960
Speaker 1: can has like catchup, and then it gets dry and crusty,

810
00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:11,480
Speaker 1: and so then I start dry eaving while I'm trying

811
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:14,799
Speaker 1: to clean it to ice cream. And then eventually he'll

812
00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:17,759
Speaker 1: get he'll get angry because we're both real hotheads, but

813
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:21,120
Speaker 1: I love Tommy. Is a problem with you guys both

814
00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:24,279
Speaker 1: being hoteads? Yeah, because like the last fight we had,

815
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:28,200
Speaker 1: he didn't talk to me for seven days. What do

816
00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:31,359
Speaker 1: you think about that? I don't do that. We're hot

817
00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 1: heads too, but we've learned to. How is your communication?

818
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:39,239
Speaker 1: It's improving. I swear it's improving. I'm really I don't

819
00:42:39,280 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 1: know if it sounds possible, but I really think that

820
00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:46,480
Speaker 1: he's listening to my grievances and fixing them. He loves

821
00:42:46,560 --> 00:42:50,200
Speaker 1: you so much, and you can see it when he's

822
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:54,879
Speaker 1: looking at her. It is the sweetest, sweetest, It really

823
00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:59,480
Speaker 1: is what makes you a shock? The phone rang, Yeah,

824
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:01,960
Speaker 1: and someone I thought it was a crank call. Someone said,

825
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:05,479
Speaker 1: would you be interested in participating in this docuseries about

826
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:08,360
Speaker 1: your family and friends? And I said, why would you

827
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:11,239
Speaker 1: want me? Yeah? And then you know it was a

828
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Speaker 1: r N Secross production, and so the development guy who's

829
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 1: I'm still close with, um Jesse lead, he came over

830
00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:23,160
Speaker 1: and got to know us, and he put together the

831
00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:26,080
Speaker 1: sizzle reel and the rest is history. What's the craziest

832
00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:30,960
Speaker 1: thing about you? Oh, oh my god, lightning around? Um,

833
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:33,640
Speaker 1: I can say, like I do gross things. I don't

834
00:43:33,680 --> 00:43:39,200
Speaker 1: think I like like like no, no, like I just

835
00:43:39,239 --> 00:43:43,920
Speaker 1: picked my nose. Um, well, okay. If Tommy was here,

836
00:43:43,960 --> 00:43:46,319
Speaker 1: he would say that I don't take the food into

837
00:43:46,360 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 1: the kitchen right after I finished eating it. But I'm like,

838
00:43:48,680 --> 00:43:51,160
Speaker 1: but I might want like another bite later, like how

839
00:43:51,280 --> 00:44:01,440
Speaker 1: much later, like tomorrow. I have no idea what my

840
00:44:01,560 --> 00:44:07,440
Speaker 1: craziest thing is. What's your craziest thing, honey, that's not nice?

841
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:15,200
Speaker 1: Probably well it's it just depends. Like we talked earlier,

842
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:17,920
Speaker 1: like I'm a hypochondrac so like definitely that's something. And

843
00:44:18,000 --> 00:44:21,560
Speaker 1: then I just, um, I I ruminate a lot, like

844
00:44:21,680 --> 00:44:24,640
Speaker 1: that's my crazy. So that must really hurt you because

845
00:44:24,760 --> 00:44:27,920
Speaker 1: if you're wondering and worried, you know, up staying up

846
00:44:27,960 --> 00:44:30,000
Speaker 1: at night, worried about what could be wrong with you.

847
00:44:30,080 --> 00:44:32,680
Speaker 1: I would want to hear you from having that problem.

848
00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:37,120
Speaker 1: Thank you. I'm cured, okay. During during your pregnancy. Her

849
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:41,640
Speaker 1: craziest thing is her nightstand. What your nightstand got like

850
00:44:41,719 --> 00:44:46,759
Speaker 1: ten lacroix three days ago? Things that like if I

851
00:44:46,840 --> 00:44:49,719
Speaker 1: don't clean it off, it would be I mean, as

852
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:52,320
Speaker 1: tall as the lamp on the nightstand, just how it is.

853
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:55,759
Speaker 1: It's just mostly when she's pregnant. I hate Lacroix. Only

854
00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:57,759
Speaker 1: when I'm pregnant I can drink it. Oh, it's my

855
00:44:57,880 --> 00:45:00,840
Speaker 1: favorite thing. Do you get heart burn? I didn't get heartburn?

856
00:45:01,040 --> 00:45:03,279
Speaker 1: Wait do you have any so no kids yet? Do

857
00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:07,000
Speaker 1: you want to have kids? Of course? Yeah? Yess Here

858
00:45:09,360 --> 00:45:12,759
Speaker 1: so first I froze my eggs and then i'm did

859
00:45:12,760 --> 00:45:14,719
Speaker 1: you freeze your eggs? Here? What do you mean like

860
00:45:14,800 --> 00:45:19,000
Speaker 1: in l A? Oh? Yes, we're which were play? Which place? Um? Actually?

861
00:45:19,520 --> 00:45:24,480
Speaker 1: SCRC Southern California Reproductive Doctor um doctor Shoen Goodeer. Oh

862
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:26,600
Speaker 1: he I just did a second with him and the doctors.

863
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 1: He's awesome, He's so sweet. I am in such good

864
00:45:30,640 --> 00:45:32,880
Speaker 1: hands with him. Yeah, he's awesome. Yeah, and I went

865
00:45:32,920 --> 00:45:36,040
Speaker 1: to high school with him. That's funny. Yeah, so he's

866
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:38,960
Speaker 1: actually a really, really good guy. Um. I would run

867
00:45:39,000 --> 00:45:41,200
Speaker 1: into him it's places like Rackons, and he would say,

868
00:45:41,239 --> 00:45:43,920
Speaker 1: you're my only friend who hasn't frozen their eggs. So

869
00:45:44,680 --> 00:45:47,919
Speaker 1: I really had um an ignorant mentality about it because

870
00:45:47,960 --> 00:45:49,640
Speaker 1: I thought I had all the time in the world.

871
00:45:50,400 --> 00:45:52,840
Speaker 1: I'm now forty five, but at the time, I was

872
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:56,440
Speaker 1: in my third late thirties, and I think that the false,

873
00:45:57,320 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 1: um misleading things that we read about women getting pregnant

874
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:05,040
Speaker 1: late in their forties gives women in their late thirties

875
00:46:05,080 --> 00:46:08,239
Speaker 1: a false sense of security that they should wait when

876
00:46:08,360 --> 00:46:10,880
Speaker 1: they shouldn't. Well, and I will say this because I

877
00:46:11,040 --> 00:46:13,520
Speaker 1: feel like I got misquoted. I would went to a

878
00:46:13,640 --> 00:46:16,320
Speaker 1: premier last week and US Weekly asked me something and

879
00:46:16,440 --> 00:46:19,840
Speaker 1: I said, I personally wanted to be done at thirty five.

880
00:46:20,360 --> 00:46:23,880
Speaker 1: But for me, it's like they put such a target

881
00:46:23,920 --> 00:46:26,759
Speaker 1: on women over thirty five because after thirty five year geriatric.

882
00:46:27,040 --> 00:46:28,719
Speaker 1: But I didn't mean that. It's not it's not a

883
00:46:28,840 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 1: bad thing to be able to have. I heard about that.

884
00:46:31,880 --> 00:46:35,120
Speaker 1: Actually you're getting backlash for it. Yeah, But I'm like,

885
00:46:35,400 --> 00:46:38,120
Speaker 1: I didn't say like for me personally, I just wanted

886
00:46:38,160 --> 00:46:39,920
Speaker 1: to be done before. We've had a really hard time

887
00:46:39,960 --> 00:46:43,680
Speaker 1: getting pregnant, and you know, I'm blessed that we're pregnant

888
00:46:43,680 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 1: for the second time, and I I just I want

889
00:46:45,520 --> 00:46:47,319
Speaker 1: to stop after this, Like I don't want to test

890
00:46:47,400 --> 00:46:49,960
Speaker 1: my I don't want to go through like what we've

891
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:52,760
Speaker 1: been through. I would love to have had my kids younger.

892
00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:55,560
Speaker 1: And I think, first of all, you should be able

893
00:46:55,600 --> 00:46:57,280
Speaker 1: to have an opinion. That's something that we're not allowed

894
00:46:57,320 --> 00:47:00,239
Speaker 1: to have anymore without getting crushed in the media. But

895
00:47:00,680 --> 00:47:03,560
Speaker 1: I respect your opinion, and I think that if you're

896
00:47:03,600 --> 00:47:07,320
Speaker 1: going to harvest your eggs, then women, you guys should

897
00:47:07,360 --> 00:47:10,319
Speaker 1: do it now. Don't wait until you're forty and over,

898
00:47:10,480 --> 00:47:12,839
Speaker 1: because you're just ruining your chances of like how many

899
00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 1: eggs you can harvest and the quality of the eggs too.

900
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:17,200
Speaker 1: And that's but that's what I meant to say. And

901
00:47:17,239 --> 00:47:19,759
Speaker 1: the thing was like, it's sad that it's called geriatric

902
00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:24,040
Speaker 1: at thirty five, because women are, you know, having totally fine,

903
00:47:24,080 --> 00:47:27,279
Speaker 1: healthy pregnancies forty on. So it's like, but why at

904
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:29,319
Speaker 1: thirty five, I'm like, that to me is still young.

905
00:47:29,400 --> 00:47:32,440
Speaker 1: Why has that being called geriatric? I mean, I know

906
00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:35,600
Speaker 1: the chances of healthy pregnancy and all those things go up,

907
00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:39,759
Speaker 1: but it's still like it puts such a negative kind

908
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:42,480
Speaker 1: you know, and like makes you just feel old and gross.

909
00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:44,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, why why would they do that? I don't know,

910
00:47:44,040 --> 00:47:47,160
Speaker 1: I don't like it. It's no, it's total manipulation. I agree.

911
00:47:47,719 --> 00:47:50,960
Speaker 1: Um so I froze eggs, and then when Tommy and

912
00:47:51,040 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 1: I were ready to have kids, we created the embryos.

913
00:47:55,840 --> 00:47:57,239
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know why I said ready to

914
00:47:57,320 --> 00:47:59,040
Speaker 1: have kids when I knew that we were going to

915
00:47:59,200 --> 00:48:02,040
Speaker 1: have a future to get there before you met Tommy.

916
00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:05,080
Speaker 1: And then I did another round when we were together,

917
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:09,080
Speaker 1: and then I we made embryos, thank god. And then

918
00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:12,759
Speaker 1: now the other thing that's very misleading is that you

919
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:14,799
Speaker 1: think that once you have the embryos, that you can

920
00:48:14,840 --> 00:48:18,359
Speaker 1: just get pregnant tomorrow. It's taken me off. I think

921
00:48:18,920 --> 00:48:23,400
Speaker 1: it's been a process of like almost a year. Because

922
00:48:23,400 --> 00:48:26,040
Speaker 1: how many implantations have you done. I haven't done any yet,

923
00:48:26,120 --> 00:48:30,759
Speaker 1: but I the day before two of them that yeah,

924
00:48:30,920 --> 00:48:34,400
Speaker 1: it was canceled, and one because of polyps and another

925
00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:37,080
Speaker 1: one because of the lining, and one of the rounds.

926
00:48:37,239 --> 00:48:39,640
Speaker 1: I didn't see the increase in my medication on the

927
00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:43,000
Speaker 1: calendar because it was really finite, like fond and I

928
00:48:43,080 --> 00:48:46,640
Speaker 1: didn't know. So yeah, I mean, and I did a

929
00:48:46,719 --> 00:48:49,040
Speaker 1: mock cycle to make sure that everything would go well.

930
00:48:50,280 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 1: So here we are. I will say, it's so frustrating,

931
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:56,160
Speaker 1: and I wish your husband was here because I know

932
00:48:56,320 --> 00:49:01,680
Speaker 1: from Michael, like especially the amount of medicine. First of all,

933
00:49:01,719 --> 00:49:03,800
Speaker 1: freezing my exact process. I mean, all that, all that,

934
00:49:04,000 --> 00:49:07,319
Speaker 1: all those hormones, I mean, it makes you effing crazy, yes,

935
00:49:07,560 --> 00:49:10,759
Speaker 1: and then going through the process of the embryos or

936
00:49:11,040 --> 00:49:14,640
Speaker 1: you know that that month lead up before that, all

937
00:49:14,719 --> 00:49:17,520
Speaker 1: the shots, all the injections. Thus, progester own shots are

938
00:49:17,560 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 1: no joke. I mean, could you even sit down after

939
00:49:19,719 --> 00:49:22,359
Speaker 1: you got those shots? Basic right here, it's like there's

940
00:49:22,360 --> 00:49:25,439
Speaker 1: like a nut underneath. Yeah, I mean it hurts so bad.

941
00:49:25,480 --> 00:49:27,239
Speaker 1: And I mean, luckily my husband. I don't know how

942
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:30,360
Speaker 1: your husband was, but my husband's was just you know,

943
00:49:30,480 --> 00:49:32,719
Speaker 1: he helped. I gave him a shot of progester own.

944
00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:39,800
Speaker 1: It was not the needle and I didn't actually inject it,

945
00:49:39,920 --> 00:49:41,440
Speaker 1: but I mean like he let me like put the

946
00:49:41,680 --> 00:49:47,520
Speaker 1: because I was in the needles. It's a huge, but

947
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:50,000
Speaker 1: it's like it's long and thick and super scary and like.

948
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:51,759
Speaker 1: And I even said to him, I was like, you

949
00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:53,640
Speaker 1: need to give me a lot of grace this next

950
00:49:53,920 --> 00:49:55,840
Speaker 1: month because my hormones are going to be up and

951
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:58,279
Speaker 1: down and I don't even know what's going on with me. Yes,

952
00:49:58,440 --> 00:50:01,520
Speaker 1: I would ask Tommy and his friends please send him

953
00:50:01,680 --> 00:50:05,360
Speaker 1: links to articles about being more compassionate, because Tommy is

954
00:50:05,840 --> 00:50:08,799
Speaker 1: very Archie Bunker when it comes to this topic. There's

955
00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:12,280
Speaker 1: no compassion. He doesn't care, he won't like, he doesn't

956
00:50:12,320 --> 00:50:15,120
Speaker 1: care about what. He doesn't care. If I have my

957
00:50:15,239 --> 00:50:18,919
Speaker 1: body's going through incredibly emotional roller coaster physically, I would

958
00:50:18,960 --> 00:50:24,040
Speaker 1: get migraines. I would have v Yeah. I really thought

959
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:27,520
Speaker 1: I was on the brink of an an irreversible depression

960
00:50:27,719 --> 00:50:31,880
Speaker 1: because it was so hard the previous cycle, and I

961
00:50:32,080 --> 00:50:34,560
Speaker 1: figured out I just turned it around. I must have

962
00:50:34,640 --> 00:50:38,920
Speaker 1: been the grace of God, because before that, I was like,

963
00:50:39,120 --> 00:50:41,720
Speaker 1: am I going to be stuck in this reverse feeling?

964
00:50:41,840 --> 00:50:43,959
Speaker 1: How long is this gonna last? Is going to get worse?

965
00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:49,080
Speaker 1: And then the person next to me was not like

966
00:50:49,880 --> 00:50:53,080
Speaker 1: compassionate at all. And we know Tommy loves me. So

967
00:50:53,239 --> 00:50:55,360
Speaker 1: this isn't to bash him at all. He's just a

968
00:50:55,440 --> 00:50:58,560
Speaker 1: real New Yorker. Yeah, very Archie bunker though when it

969
00:50:58,640 --> 00:51:00,879
Speaker 1: comes to that. So it's hard because, like you were saying,

970
00:51:01,200 --> 00:51:04,000
Speaker 1: you really need someone to be extremely like hoddle you

971
00:51:04,320 --> 00:51:06,120
Speaker 1: and do that hand holding and just give you that

972
00:51:06,239 --> 00:51:09,400
Speaker 1: encouragement that you want dessert. I mean, he's in the

973
00:51:09,520 --> 00:51:12,400
Speaker 1: feel yeah, all I knows, especially the second time around

974
00:51:12,440 --> 00:51:16,520
Speaker 1: when we did it. Um. This last time, it was

975
00:51:16,800 --> 00:51:19,480
Speaker 1: it helped me to be more compassionate by being more

976
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:23,759
Speaker 1: involved with understanding her medical schedule, knowing that she had

977
00:51:23,800 --> 00:51:25,960
Speaker 1: to take Hey, honey, reminder we have you know you

978
00:51:26,040 --> 00:51:27,640
Speaker 1: have to take this. I mean granted she was better

979
00:51:27,680 --> 00:51:29,719
Speaker 1: at it than I was, but still making sure I

980
00:51:29,800 --> 00:51:31,560
Speaker 1: knew what she had to take that day, I tried

981
00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:34,040
Speaker 1: to do as good as I could. Um, because that

982
00:51:34,280 --> 00:51:38,000
Speaker 1: just naturally got me more involved. Whether you know Tommy

983
00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:40,560
Speaker 1: does that and still doesn't express as much compassion, at

984
00:51:40,640 --> 00:51:43,560
Speaker 1: least you probably won't feel as alone. Yeah, he'd be like,

985
00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:46,320
Speaker 1: hey babe, remember today you up your progesterone. And I'm like,

986
00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:50,120
Speaker 1: thank you, amazing, This is exactly I'm so glad that

987
00:51:50,200 --> 00:51:52,719
Speaker 1: you said what you said, because I actually talked to

988
00:51:52,840 --> 00:51:55,920
Speaker 1: Jenn about this when we when I did go to

989
00:51:56,000 --> 00:51:58,759
Speaker 1: the doctor appointment alone, then he didn't know what was

990
00:51:58,800 --> 00:52:01,480
Speaker 1: going on. Right when I asked him to come with me,

991
00:52:02,040 --> 00:52:05,040
Speaker 1: then everything he started to feel it more because he

992
00:52:05,160 --> 00:52:06,840
Speaker 1: was seeing it rather than hearing about it when he

993
00:52:06,880 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 1: got home that night. So it really does make a

994
00:52:09,239 --> 00:52:12,360
Speaker 1: really big difference and also really engaging him. So I

995
00:52:12,440 --> 00:52:15,000
Speaker 1: would forward the calendar to him, I would ask him

996
00:52:15,040 --> 00:52:18,360
Speaker 1: to check it for me, and obviously strategically just because

997
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:21,720
Speaker 1: I did succeed in engaging him so these previous cycles

998
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:25,239
Speaker 1: when he wasn't being that way, I wasn't having him

999
00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:28,359
Speaker 1: come along this particular in the middle of a cycle now,

1000
00:52:28,560 --> 00:52:33,319
Speaker 1: so um, you're right. I think that's completely the best

1001
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:36,640
Speaker 1: way to engage and and share the experience together at

1002
00:52:36,719 --> 00:52:40,080
Speaker 1: being there physically. And have you asked him verbally said

1003
00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:43,480
Speaker 1: like Tommy, I need your help with this. Yeah, like

1004
00:52:43,719 --> 00:52:46,360
Speaker 1: in a baby voice, like babe, are you gonna help me?

1005
00:52:46,800 --> 00:52:49,680
Speaker 1: It's just just again from just hearing what Jen said,

1006
00:52:49,719 --> 00:52:52,440
Speaker 1: like an old you know Archie Bunker, New Yorker, that

1007
00:52:52,760 --> 00:52:55,920
Speaker 1: you know, masculinity, we want to feel needed and that

1008
00:52:56,040 --> 00:52:58,240
Speaker 1: our woman needs us to be able to do something.

1009
00:52:58,760 --> 00:53:00,680
Speaker 1: So if you know, if jan came to me in

1010
00:53:00,719 --> 00:53:03,800
Speaker 1: a serious not in a way, but serious like, honey,

1011
00:53:03,840 --> 00:53:06,120
Speaker 1: I really need your help, like I'm struggling with staying

1012
00:53:06,120 --> 00:53:08,120
Speaker 1: on schedule. I'm struggling with this, Like I could really

1013
00:53:08,200 --> 00:53:10,759
Speaker 1: use your help to guide me to you know, get

1014
00:53:10,800 --> 00:53:12,359
Speaker 1: to where I need to be with this, Like can

1015
00:53:12,440 --> 00:53:15,279
Speaker 1: you help me? I think that you're a hundred percent right.

1016
00:53:15,320 --> 00:53:19,719
Speaker 1: And for anyone who's has this ahead of them, this

1017
00:53:20,480 --> 00:53:23,880
Speaker 1: advice that you're giving will work. We applied it this

1018
00:53:24,040 --> 00:53:26,640
Speaker 1: time and it makes all the difference. So he's doing

1019
00:53:26,719 --> 00:53:30,560
Speaker 1: better now. Yes, okay now, but he has his mentality

1020
00:53:30,640 --> 00:53:34,040
Speaker 1: towards life is walk it off. It works. But also

1021
00:53:34,160 --> 00:53:37,440
Speaker 1: like no, he's in. He's improved because I started to

1022
00:53:37,920 --> 00:53:41,800
Speaker 1: make sure that he comes with me. Yeah, I mean definitely,

1023
00:53:41,880 --> 00:53:44,880
Speaker 1: that's because then he knows. But I mean it's for

1024
00:53:44,960 --> 00:53:46,800
Speaker 1: the whole year he didn't There was a whole like

1025
00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:50,200
Speaker 1: like nine out of the twelve months there wasn't that support.

1026
00:53:50,280 --> 00:53:54,640
Speaker 1: So it's just on your body. Yeah, and then and

1027
00:53:54,719 --> 00:53:56,440
Speaker 1: then having to be able to go because I remember

1028
00:53:56,480 --> 00:53:58,320
Speaker 1: when they said that my line almost wasn't ready and

1029
00:53:58,320 --> 00:54:01,160
Speaker 1: I'm like wait, so all the as injections for for nothing,

1030
00:54:01,320 --> 00:54:03,600
Speaker 1: for nothing. All that money was for nothing for your

1031
00:54:03,640 --> 00:54:07,239
Speaker 1: body to go through that cool. I mean, so, how

1032
00:54:07,280 --> 00:54:12,000
Speaker 1: many embryos do you have? We have one batch. I mean, honestly,

1033
00:54:13,040 --> 00:54:17,440
Speaker 1: my doctor good Deer said, don't worry about the number,

1034
00:54:17,840 --> 00:54:20,080
Speaker 1: and I actually don't know. I know that we have

1035
00:54:20,239 --> 00:54:23,359
Speaker 1: one batch that's sitting in the lab frozen and one

1036
00:54:23,480 --> 00:54:29,160
Speaker 1: that's currently like I don't know, Yeah, few, okay, I honestly,

1037
00:54:29,280 --> 00:54:34,640
Speaker 1: like psychologically at the time, I didn't want to pressure myself.

1038
00:54:34,760 --> 00:54:37,880
Speaker 1: So it's it's hard. And I mean Jane and I

1039
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:43,160
Speaker 1: having gone through it, you know twice, we just understand

1040
00:54:43,239 --> 00:54:46,799
Speaker 1: the amount of emotional pressure and you know how much

1041
00:54:46,840 --> 00:54:50,160
Speaker 1: it affects people that go through this, So you know,

1042
00:54:50,719 --> 00:54:53,880
Speaker 1: people don't realize sometimes how hard it is to get pregnant,

1043
00:54:54,280 --> 00:54:56,960
Speaker 1: especially through this IVF process. That we just were very

1044
00:54:57,000 --> 00:54:59,719
Speaker 1: empathetic towards you know, you and Tommy and people have

1045
00:54:59,840 --> 00:55:02,600
Speaker 1: to go through this because we understand. For Shandon, it's hard. Yeah,

1046
00:55:03,200 --> 00:55:06,799
Speaker 1: I documented the last IVF. Obviously it didn't end well,

1047
00:55:06,960 --> 00:55:09,040
Speaker 1: but um we got pregnant and we lost it. But

1048
00:55:09,680 --> 00:55:12,520
Speaker 1: you should watch it. Usually watch like it's Michael's in

1049
00:55:12,600 --> 00:55:15,400
Speaker 1: it too, and it's just it's just shows kind of

1050
00:55:15,400 --> 00:55:16,880
Speaker 1: like what we go through, so maybe he'll be more

1051
00:55:16,920 --> 00:55:20,160
Speaker 1: empathetic after you see something like that too. So it's

1052
00:55:20,200 --> 00:55:23,120
Speaker 1: it's it's in a YouTube channel, so okay, yeah, we

1053
00:55:23,160 --> 00:55:26,279
Speaker 1: will check it out. Yeah, self flux, self fluck. Now

1054
00:55:26,360 --> 00:55:29,319
Speaker 1: I'm getting um, so when does it once? The show

1055
00:55:29,400 --> 00:55:34,000
Speaker 1: on what night seen? It's on Thursday nights, okay, and

1056
00:55:34,280 --> 00:55:37,160
Speaker 1: it's the big wedding season for you. I get married

1057
00:55:37,200 --> 00:55:40,120
Speaker 1: at the end, so that'll probably be around the end

1058
00:55:40,160 --> 00:55:45,239
Speaker 1: of October. Okay, yes, and then we actually, um, I

1059
00:55:45,360 --> 00:55:49,400
Speaker 1: didn't watch last week's episode because that was the episode

1060
00:55:49,440 --> 00:55:54,239
Speaker 1: that was dedicated to my father. So unfortunately, after just

1061
00:55:54,440 --> 00:55:58,520
Speaker 1: a lot of health complications, Um, you know, he went

1062
00:55:58,600 --> 00:56:01,120
Speaker 1: to heaven. So he's resting, he's fully in a better place.

1063
00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:03,920
Speaker 1: And I think that it's a really like what I

1064
00:56:04,600 --> 00:56:07,200
Speaker 1: am proud of right now about our show is that

1065
00:56:08,200 --> 00:56:11,120
Speaker 1: we did have a couple of scuffles, but then we

1066
00:56:11,280 --> 00:56:13,600
Speaker 1: all came together and they were all there for me

1067
00:56:13,719 --> 00:56:15,880
Speaker 1: and I really even though I didn't watch the episode

1068
00:56:15,880 --> 00:56:18,200
Speaker 1: because I wasn't I don't want to go through that

1069
00:56:18,320 --> 00:56:21,799
Speaker 1: right now, right, Um, all the feedback that I saw

1070
00:56:21,800 --> 00:56:25,120
Speaker 1: on Twitter and social was we really like seeing the

1071
00:56:25,160 --> 00:56:27,480
Speaker 1: way the bond is there and we come together for

1072
00:56:27,560 --> 00:56:30,040
Speaker 1: one another. So that I think really warms my heart

1073
00:56:30,080 --> 00:56:33,120
Speaker 1: because you know, it's that's what it matters, what what

1074
00:56:33,320 --> 00:56:39,040
Speaker 1: matters in life? Right support from your family? Yes? Did

1075
00:56:39,080 --> 00:56:42,400
Speaker 1: I like that? Right? Well? I I just appreciate you

1076
00:56:42,440 --> 00:56:46,520
Speaker 1: being open and I'm I'm I'm excited. I'm hopeful for

1077
00:56:46,640 --> 00:56:48,360
Speaker 1: you guys in your IV because you have an amazing

1078
00:56:48,440 --> 00:56:50,840
Speaker 1: doctor and they're a great center. And I mean I

1079
00:56:50,920 --> 00:56:53,160
Speaker 1: still talked to Dr Dancer and you know, I still

1080
00:56:53,200 --> 00:56:55,239
Speaker 1: send them a ultrasound pictures and even though it wasn't

1081
00:56:55,320 --> 00:56:57,560
Speaker 1: through them, but they're they're connected, you know, like they

1082
00:56:57,640 --> 00:56:59,040
Speaker 1: just they want to be a part of your life.

1083
00:56:59,080 --> 00:57:01,719
Speaker 1: Because after how any weeks do you switch to do

1084
00:57:01,840 --> 00:57:05,560
Speaker 1: they refer you? I still need well know so that

1085
00:57:06,520 --> 00:57:09,040
Speaker 1: when we lost the last five VF we got pregnant naturally.

1086
00:57:09,360 --> 00:57:15,480
Speaker 1: Um the cycle afterwards, you got pregnant naturally. Wow, that's amazing. Yeah,

1087
00:57:15,719 --> 00:57:18,160
Speaker 1: it was great, but it was scary because we had

1088
00:57:18,200 --> 00:57:20,880
Speaker 1: lost like so many before, but we um. Doctor Danzer

1089
00:57:21,000 --> 00:57:22,280
Speaker 1: was like, I want to see you like on a

1090
00:57:22,320 --> 00:57:25,640
Speaker 1: weekly basis to make sure like everything's fine. So I

1091
00:57:25,720 --> 00:57:30,520
Speaker 1: think you switched around like six. Yeah, and don't read

1092
00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:34,680
Speaker 1: stuff online about when you can get a positive I

1093
00:57:34,800 --> 00:57:36,720
Speaker 1: read it already, okay, because I did it on the

1094
00:57:36,760 --> 00:57:40,040
Speaker 1: four days post five day transfer. It's not accurate. Well,

1095
00:57:40,240 --> 00:57:41,760
Speaker 1: so it wasn't at the time, and I was like

1096
00:57:41,880 --> 00:57:44,000
Speaker 1: crying and Mike's like, what's wrong. I was like nothing,

1097
00:57:44,280 --> 00:57:45,640
Speaker 1: and I look back in the trash and there was

1098
00:57:45,680 --> 00:57:47,479
Speaker 1: like a little teeny faint line. But I drove myself

1099
00:57:47,520 --> 00:57:50,600
Speaker 1: crazy for the five days following. Yeah, what I read

1100
00:57:50,760 --> 00:57:53,120
Speaker 1: was don't try to take a home pregnancy test because

1101
00:57:53,120 --> 00:57:57,959
Speaker 1: it won't be accurate and it'll give you a false disappointment. Yeah,

1102
00:57:58,280 --> 00:58:00,440
Speaker 1: so they must have seen what how U been to you?

1103
00:58:00,560 --> 00:58:03,280
Speaker 1: And then something for me, I think there's this other

1104
00:58:03,360 --> 00:58:05,360
Speaker 1: crazy girls like me. They are like the third day

1105
00:58:05,400 --> 00:58:08,120
Speaker 1: afterwards and like, am I pregnant yet? M J? What's

1106
00:58:08,160 --> 00:58:10,560
Speaker 1: your timeline now? Like where are you guys at when

1107
00:58:10,600 --> 00:58:12,320
Speaker 1: you do you know when you're going to implant you?

1108
00:58:13,000 --> 00:58:16,040
Speaker 1: I don't have the My actual calendar doesn't go that far.

1109
00:58:16,080 --> 00:58:17,920
Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys remember that. You know,

1110
00:58:18,040 --> 00:58:21,840
Speaker 1: you take the the progesterone towards the end and the

1111
00:58:22,640 --> 00:58:24,960
Speaker 1: the lupron, which is you know, like the estrogen shots

1112
00:58:25,000 --> 00:58:28,800
Speaker 1: and all those fun meds. So every few days we

1113
00:58:28,880 --> 00:58:30,680
Speaker 1: do the blood work and ultrasound and then we find

1114
00:58:30,720 --> 00:58:33,400
Speaker 1: out if we're this far along and if you're uterous

1115
00:58:33,440 --> 00:58:35,320
Speaker 1: line and if I'm polyp free because I had to

1116
00:58:35,360 --> 00:58:38,720
Speaker 1: have two poll up surgeries back to back in addition

1117
00:58:38,800 --> 00:58:42,840
Speaker 1: to that false um the lining. So so at this point,

1118
00:58:43,600 --> 00:58:47,120
Speaker 1: they don't give me, you know, anything past a week.

1119
00:58:47,440 --> 00:58:49,440
Speaker 1: And then even though I really want to know, and

1120
00:58:49,480 --> 00:58:52,160
Speaker 1: I ask questions or like, just take it as we

1121
00:58:52,280 --> 00:58:55,880
Speaker 1: tell you, and they're like, it's it is hard, but um,

1122
00:58:56,520 --> 00:58:59,640
Speaker 1: it seems to keep a very positive outlook. Yeah, you're

1123
00:58:59,720 --> 00:59:03,040
Speaker 1: very positive, feel very Yeah, I feel happy. I just

1124
00:59:03,640 --> 00:59:07,560
Speaker 1: trust me. I've thought about everything and I default to

1125
00:59:07,920 --> 00:59:12,240
Speaker 1: just being happy via condos, you know, count your blessings

1126
00:59:12,320 --> 00:59:15,520
Speaker 1: and that's where I leave it. So we're just like

1127
00:59:15,640 --> 00:59:17,840
Speaker 1: trying to laugh a lot. And you know, I have

1128
00:59:17,960 --> 00:59:21,040
Speaker 1: the most shallow um library of movies. Like it's all

1129
00:59:21,080 --> 00:59:25,640
Speaker 1: these comedies like Practically like Cannonball Run and like Bad

1130
00:59:25,720 --> 00:59:28,760
Speaker 1: Newspairers and Overboard, like the really shallow stuff. Because I'm

1131
00:59:28,840 --> 00:59:33,400
Speaker 1: just being you know, positive and send offs for your

1132
00:59:33,440 --> 00:59:37,080
Speaker 1: best age and I'm just so happy because I've known

1133
00:59:37,360 --> 00:59:41,680
Speaker 1: the boyfriends of the past. Oh I love Tommy so much.

1134
00:59:41,880 --> 00:59:46,920
Speaker 1: That's another episode. So happy to found each other and

1135
00:59:48,040 --> 00:59:51,840
Speaker 1: that you're in the space and I can't wait for

1136
00:59:52,000 --> 00:59:54,600
Speaker 1: this future baby because you were the first person to

1137
00:59:54,720 --> 00:59:57,680
Speaker 1: hold Rocko and I can't wait to hold this little

1138
00:59:58,080 --> 01:00:04,240
Speaker 1: or two bundles or three bundle joy. No way that

1139
01:00:04,760 --> 01:00:08,080
Speaker 1: my my girlfriends have six and seven month old children

1140
01:00:08,240 --> 01:00:11,440
Speaker 1: and they are like running around out of control. I

1141
01:00:11,520 --> 01:00:14,200
Speaker 1: was like, five months was so much easier because you

1142
01:00:14,280 --> 01:00:18,040
Speaker 1: know Jesse and Marissa. Actually, so it's actually gonna be

1143
01:00:18,440 --> 01:00:22,840
Speaker 1: like this, how has your pregnancy been. This one's been hard.

1144
01:00:23,520 --> 01:00:25,840
Speaker 1: My first pregnancy was hard too, but not as bad.

1145
01:00:26,000 --> 01:00:28,560
Speaker 1: But they say when you get older, your sickness, but

1146
01:00:28,640 --> 01:00:30,200
Speaker 1: then it's all about your mom. Like if your mom

1147
01:00:30,240 --> 01:00:32,280
Speaker 1: had morning sickness and you then you're more prone to

1148
01:00:32,320 --> 01:00:34,600
Speaker 1: have morning sickness and she didn't, then you probably want

1149
01:00:34,760 --> 01:00:40,080
Speaker 1: My mom is like, oh no, I drove myself ten minutes.

1150
01:00:40,440 --> 01:00:44,400
Speaker 1: I gave birth four minutes. Like she makes it sound

1151
01:00:44,520 --> 01:00:47,320
Speaker 1: so simple. Well I feel like I mean like my

1152
01:00:47,440 --> 01:00:49,120
Speaker 1: mom too, was like yeah, she's like no drugs, and

1153
01:00:49,120 --> 01:00:51,280
Speaker 1: I was like, give me the epidurl, she's lying. They're

1154
01:00:51,360 --> 01:00:53,480
Speaker 1: lying out it was so painful. The second my water broke,

1155
01:00:53,520 --> 01:00:54,920
Speaker 1: I was like, give it to me now and then

1156
01:00:55,080 --> 01:00:56,760
Speaker 1: and end up having C section. And now I'm going

1157
01:00:56,800 --> 01:00:58,360
Speaker 1: to do a C section. Everyone's like, why don't you

1158
01:00:58,360 --> 01:00:59,960
Speaker 1: do a V back? I'm like, because of you google

1159
01:01:00,120 --> 01:01:03,080
Speaker 1: v back and what can happen? Like, no, I'm good,

1160
01:01:03,480 --> 01:01:06,320
Speaker 1: c section already scheduled, can't wait? Can you tell me?

1161
01:01:06,600 --> 01:01:10,520
Speaker 1: Um are you concerned about because you were saying, don't

1162
01:01:10,920 --> 01:01:15,120
Speaker 1: read anything online? But so I told Dr Gair that

1163
01:01:15,160 --> 01:01:16,920
Speaker 1: I wanted to do a C section as well. And

1164
01:01:17,000 --> 01:01:21,880
Speaker 1: I'm not even pregnant yet. That's that's honestly, we don't.

1165
01:01:22,160 --> 01:01:24,760
Speaker 1: We don't. I would say to like, to some of

1166
01:01:24,800 --> 01:01:27,000
Speaker 1: my friends that I would say, dos actually, don't pee

1167
01:01:27,000 --> 01:01:31,120
Speaker 1: yourself when you laugh, and you keep your regina intact

1168
01:01:32,560 --> 01:01:35,440
Speaker 1: so your husband can never threaten to leave you because

1169
01:01:35,560 --> 01:01:43,880
Speaker 1: everything isn't is still still there. So yeah, so that's perfect.

1170
01:01:44,000 --> 01:01:47,120
Speaker 1: No c section all the way, It's totally fine. My Actually,

1171
01:01:47,200 --> 01:01:51,680
Speaker 1: my dad was like, when you have baby Sesadian, it's

1172
01:01:51,720 --> 01:01:54,959
Speaker 1: like really okay, And so now I have my dad

1173
01:01:55,160 --> 01:01:58,880
Speaker 1: and my doctor endorsing it. Yeah, no, no, we'll visit you.

1174
01:01:59,240 --> 01:02:02,120
Speaker 1: I'll bring you some and when when you're all setting done. Great,

1175
01:02:03,560 --> 01:02:06,439
Speaker 1: thanks for thank you for having me. It was fun.

1176
01:02:07,040 --> 01:02:09,560
Speaker 1: It was amazing when you're like, sister comes into work

1177
01:02:09,600 --> 01:02:12,440
Speaker 1: and you're like, isn't it fun? So much fun? Like

1178
01:02:12,600 --> 01:02:18,000
Speaker 1: besties best So I'm in there. I am. Oh, it's

1179
01:02:18,000 --> 01:02:23,520
Speaker 1: gonna be on Bravo. Unfortunately, got stop it my worst nightmare.

1180
01:02:23,560 --> 01:02:27,280
Speaker 1: Stop now we have to watch it. I would never know, seriously,

1181
01:02:27,360 --> 01:02:31,000
Speaker 1: if it wasn't MJ. I don't care if my sisters

1182
01:02:31,480 --> 01:02:33,280
Speaker 1: I'm not going to say her name. My real sister

1183
01:02:34,640 --> 01:02:38,000
Speaker 1: was like had her own show and was getting married.

1184
01:02:38,120 --> 01:02:41,400
Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't wouldn't do it. When was the actual wedding,

1185
01:02:42,800 --> 01:02:48,200
Speaker 1: it was um like it was like in me, like

1186
01:02:50,000 --> 01:02:51,600
Speaker 1: I hate that she knew that. I got backlash for

1187
01:02:51,640 --> 01:02:55,000
Speaker 1: that comment because it really bothered me. Okay, but she

1188
01:02:55,200 --> 01:02:59,160
Speaker 1: knows everything. M J is more up to date on

1189
01:02:59,280 --> 01:03:02,760
Speaker 1: pop culture than anyone I know. She watches more e

1190
01:03:04,040 --> 01:03:09,120
Speaker 1: than anyone I know. She knows everything. I just feel

1191
01:03:09,160 --> 01:03:10,800
Speaker 1: like they didn't take like what I said on the

1192
01:03:10,880 --> 01:03:13,200
Speaker 1: car like I just I mean, and there's something wrong

1193
01:03:13,280 --> 01:03:15,400
Speaker 1: with saying I just want to be done by thirty five.

1194
01:03:15,840 --> 01:03:18,720
Speaker 1: There's something wrong with that. Some people just digested they

1195
01:03:18,840 --> 01:03:22,960
Speaker 1: digested the information differently than you were. Yeah, but I

1196
01:03:23,080 --> 01:03:25,760
Speaker 1: wasn't trying to say that any after thirty five is bad,

1197
01:03:25,960 --> 01:03:28,640
Speaker 1: not not at all, Like I'm just and but technically

1198
01:03:28,680 --> 01:03:31,880
Speaker 1: it is a geriatic geriatric pregnancy, and like the risk

1199
01:03:31,960 --> 01:03:34,280
Speaker 1: and are a lot higher, and that's just something for me.

1200
01:03:34,360 --> 01:03:38,120
Speaker 1: I've always been scared of of course, and then not that.

1201
01:03:38,240 --> 01:03:40,200
Speaker 1: But if I if I wasn't pregnant, we still would

1202
01:03:40,240 --> 01:03:41,959
Speaker 1: have tried, even if I was thirty six or seven,

1203
01:03:42,000 --> 01:03:44,640
Speaker 1: so obviously, but it's just for me now that we've

1204
01:03:44,680 --> 01:03:46,920
Speaker 1: been blessed, you know, with the second one now, like

1205
01:03:47,040 --> 01:03:49,120
Speaker 1: I would like to be done. But they took it

1206
01:03:49,200 --> 01:03:51,920
Speaker 1: as like it's I'm not doing thirty five because it's geriatric.

1207
01:03:52,040 --> 01:03:54,200
Speaker 1: But I'm like, that's not what I meant. Many people

1208
01:03:54,320 --> 01:03:57,400
Speaker 1: like to criticize everybody any little thing they say. I mean,

1209
01:03:57,480 --> 01:04:01,320
Speaker 1: we'll probably get twenty emails for me saying that it's

1210
01:04:01,400 --> 01:04:05,760
Speaker 1: that shaming, skinny shaming, old shaming, young shaming, slot shaming,

1211
01:04:06,360 --> 01:04:10,120
Speaker 1: like green shaming, purple shaming. It was like everybody is

1212
01:04:10,160 --> 01:04:14,480
Speaker 1: saying it, Well, there's all kinds of different things you

1213
01:04:14,560 --> 01:04:17,040
Speaker 1: have to worry about after thirty five. You have to

1214
01:04:17,080 --> 01:04:19,160
Speaker 1: have the am neo you have to you know, there's

1215
01:04:19,240 --> 01:04:23,720
Speaker 1: different levels of concern, so it's totally fine. Yeah, I know.

1216
01:04:23,800 --> 01:04:25,600
Speaker 1: I just bothered me because women are like, you know,

1217
01:04:25,840 --> 01:04:29,160
Speaker 1: I'm one forties and I'm still trying. But yeah, whoa

1218
01:04:29,280 --> 01:04:32,520
Speaker 1: to you that's geriatric. I'm like, no to the guy

1219
01:04:33,360 --> 01:04:37,160
Speaker 1: metically that the medical Dictionary it says geriatric. Like and

1220
01:04:37,440 --> 01:04:39,680
Speaker 1: for me personally, I just want to be done, like

1221
01:04:40,040 --> 01:04:41,959
Speaker 1: not saying we're done done with kids, but like Michael

1222
01:04:41,960 --> 01:04:43,920
Speaker 1: and I want to adopt, like I just I and

1223
01:04:44,000 --> 01:04:46,040
Speaker 1: I don't want to go through anymore miscarriages. It's freaking

1224
01:04:46,080 --> 01:04:49,920
Speaker 1: heartbreaking Emotionally, I just I want to be like, if

1225
01:04:50,000 --> 01:04:52,520
Speaker 1: we're blessed to have this baby come out and you know,

1226
01:04:52,640 --> 01:04:55,080
Speaker 1: God willing, everything's great, like then I then I do

1227
01:04:55,200 --> 01:04:57,840
Speaker 1: want to be done. But now, but now I feel

1228
01:04:57,840 --> 01:04:59,520
Speaker 1: like I have like the shadow on me, like something

1229
01:04:59,640 --> 01:05:01,600
Speaker 1: might have in now because I like, you know, I

1230
01:05:01,640 --> 01:05:06,160
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Speaker 1: a businessman. Um, you were just on your phone. I know.

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to do go I'm not going to

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Speaker 1: was like, based off of it. I know you might

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01:06:33,600 --> 01:06:35,720
Speaker 1: not want to hear from me, but I which that

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01:06:35,800 --> 01:06:37,600
Speaker 1: makes me sad because I do want to hear from you.

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01:06:37,920 --> 01:06:39,800
Speaker 1: But I obviously want to apologize for not being there

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01:06:39,840 --> 01:06:41,280
Speaker 1: for you when I should have. I took a break

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01:06:41,320 --> 01:06:45,520
Speaker 1: from social media for a while. Um does that include texting?

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01:06:45,840 --> 01:06:48,840
Speaker 1: Does she concluding texting and social media? Well, she just

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01:06:49,080 --> 01:06:50,800
Speaker 1: she does. I'm sorry for not reaching out when I

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01:06:50,840 --> 01:06:52,439
Speaker 1: found out. I'm at fault for that. I do miss

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01:06:52,440 --> 01:06:54,200
Speaker 1: our friendship and our talks, and do wish we could

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01:06:54,240 --> 01:06:56,160
Speaker 1: get back to a place where we talk more than

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01:06:56,240 --> 01:06:58,920
Speaker 1: once in a while. She says. You know, she had

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01:06:58,920 --> 01:07:01,760
Speaker 1: a hard time ruggling with balance in life once her

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01:07:01,800 --> 01:07:03,840
Speaker 1: kids came, which I understand, and then there was something

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01:07:03,880 --> 01:07:06,600
Speaker 1: else that I'm not going to get into because that's personal. Um,

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01:07:08,040 --> 01:07:11,560
Speaker 1: but there was something going on, And now I feel

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01:07:11,600 --> 01:07:13,400
Speaker 1: bad because if I was a good friend, I would

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01:07:13,520 --> 01:07:16,560
Speaker 1: know that she would shut people out when something was wrong.

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01:07:17,400 --> 01:07:20,720
Speaker 1: You can you can mention that if you want what

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01:07:21,320 --> 01:07:24,680
Speaker 1: the other reason something, there's a there's a there's a

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01:07:24,760 --> 01:07:28,360
Speaker 1: health reason in her family. Oh, I thought it was

1278
01:07:29,120 --> 01:07:31,520
Speaker 1: you and me No, not because of you and me No.

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01:07:33,000 --> 01:07:36,760
Speaker 1: So that and I feel like if I truly knew

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01:07:36,840 --> 01:07:39,280
Speaker 1: my best friend and I knew how she shuts people out,

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01:07:39,360 --> 01:07:42,200
Speaker 1: that I should have been that. Maybe I should have

1282
01:07:42,280 --> 01:07:45,040
Speaker 1: taken that hint and then reached out to her. But

1283
01:07:45,200 --> 01:07:46,880
Speaker 1: I feel like I was reaching out so much that

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01:07:46,920 --> 01:07:50,840
Speaker 1: I wasn't getting it back. So, you know, some of

1285
01:07:50,960 --> 01:07:53,160
Speaker 1: them like, well what could what can you do with

1286
01:07:53,280 --> 01:07:56,160
Speaker 1: that kind of I don't know, so but she says, anyways,

1287
01:07:56,200 --> 01:07:57,920
Speaker 1: I took what you said to her and will always

1288
01:07:57,920 --> 01:08:00,479
Speaker 1: support you whatever you do. I want to be best

1289
01:08:00,560 --> 01:08:03,120
Speaker 1: friends again. Well you know what I think. I think

1290
01:08:03,200 --> 01:08:05,680
Speaker 1: this is a pivotal moment in this friendship, which means

1291
01:08:06,200 --> 01:08:08,920
Speaker 1: you guys can get on the phone and go all

1292
01:08:09,080 --> 01:08:14,120
Speaker 1: in or it now changes into a different type of

1293
01:08:14,200 --> 01:08:17,920
Speaker 1: friendship or an end. You have the reactions right, well,

1294
01:08:18,000 --> 01:08:20,960
Speaker 1: because here's the thing again, I know, you know she's busy.

1295
01:08:21,080 --> 01:08:23,320
Speaker 1: I'm busy. My girlfriends and national are busy. But I

1296
01:08:23,320 --> 01:08:25,040
Speaker 1: at least know what's going on in their lives. At

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01:08:25,120 --> 01:08:29,080
Speaker 1: least know what's going on, like it's more than just

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01:08:29,280 --> 01:08:31,720
Speaker 1: like once of every once, And I don't know. I

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01:08:32,040 --> 01:08:34,160
Speaker 1: just want to I'd like I just if we're going

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01:08:34,200 --> 01:08:37,240
Speaker 1: to have friendships in our thirties, let's make it meaningful. Well,

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01:08:37,280 --> 01:08:39,760
Speaker 1: I think you need to you guys happen, so now

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01:08:39,880 --> 01:08:42,200
Speaker 1: I know, so yeah, maybe I'll give her, But yeah,

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01:08:42,479 --> 01:08:45,360
Speaker 1: i'll do that. I'll actually now that now that she

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01:08:45,520 --> 01:08:48,040
Speaker 1: reached out, which I appreciate, I I just honestly didn't

1305
01:08:48,040 --> 01:08:51,680
Speaker 1: think she listened anymore, Like I didn't know. I don't know.

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01:08:52,800 --> 01:08:54,200
Speaker 1: But maybe that's a good thing. When do you think, Mike,

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01:08:55,920 --> 01:08:57,400
Speaker 1: I think it's a good thing. And I think this

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01:08:57,560 --> 01:09:01,479
Speaker 1: is where Yeah, and you guys went so long with

1309
01:09:01,720 --> 01:09:06,320
Speaker 1: just kind of not addressing the change in y'alls relationship,

1310
01:09:07,439 --> 01:09:10,840
Speaker 1: and you know, you assume there's something. She had her reasons,

1311
01:09:10,880 --> 01:09:12,720
Speaker 1: You had your reasons. Who knows what it really was.

1312
01:09:12,800 --> 01:09:15,320
Speaker 1: You guys didn't talk about it. So now it's hey,

1313
01:09:15,400 --> 01:09:17,559
Speaker 1: it's out there in the open. She's kind of told

1314
01:09:17,600 --> 01:09:20,600
Speaker 1: you out there to the entire Wine down Whine. I

1315
01:09:20,760 --> 01:09:22,720
Speaker 1: was out there. Yeah, But I mean, you know, this

1316
01:09:22,920 --> 01:09:25,240
Speaker 1: is the moment to rekindle that and to go back

1317
01:09:25,280 --> 01:09:27,720
Speaker 1: to where you guys were, which was you guys could

1318
01:09:27,720 --> 01:09:29,439
Speaker 1: still go months without talking, but then as soon as

1319
01:09:29,479 --> 01:09:30,920
Speaker 1: you did, it was like you just picked up where

1320
01:09:30,920 --> 01:09:33,160
Speaker 1: you left off, which is which is totally okay. It

1321
01:09:33,200 --> 01:09:35,120
Speaker 1: doesn't mean you guys have to talk talk every week.

1322
01:09:35,920 --> 01:09:38,160
Speaker 1: I just has to get back to that closeness where

1323
01:09:38,200 --> 01:09:40,599
Speaker 1: it's okay and you guys feel comfortable in your friendship

1324
01:09:41,280 --> 01:09:50,799
Speaker 1: not talking okay. It is absolutely no secret that Memma

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Speaker 1: emails if you'd like. Sorry, Mark, I didn't mean to

1344
01:11:01,920 --> 01:11:04,760
Speaker 1: talk over not at all. Probably my place. This is

1345
01:11:04,800 --> 01:11:07,800
Speaker 1: from Megan, she said, it sounds like you're the same

1346
01:11:07,840 --> 01:11:09,840
Speaker 1: issues I have. I'm the main one in my relationship

1347
01:11:09,880 --> 01:11:12,160
Speaker 1: wanting to have sex. I want it so much more

1348
01:11:12,200 --> 01:11:16,200
Speaker 1: than him. He's never cheated on me though he's thirty three.

1349
01:11:17,280 --> 01:11:19,320
Speaker 1: We've been together five years. We have a three year old.

1350
01:11:19,320 --> 01:11:21,760
Speaker 1: We are not married. We do live together. I really

1351
01:11:21,800 --> 01:11:24,360
Speaker 1: want to be married. I barely get attention, but he

1352
01:11:24,400 --> 01:11:26,160
Speaker 1: works eighty hours a week, so I let it slide.

1353
01:11:26,760 --> 01:11:28,639
Speaker 1: He does little sweet things. He fixes me my plate

1354
01:11:28,680 --> 01:11:30,920
Speaker 1: at dinner, he brings my favorite candy from the store.

1355
01:11:31,160 --> 01:11:33,519
Speaker 1: I'm definitely the touchy feely type and any reassurance. I

1356
01:11:33,560 --> 01:11:36,280
Speaker 1: just feel like he's happy with how things are. But

1357
01:11:36,400 --> 01:11:38,479
Speaker 1: I'm not thank you for reading this. I'm a huge fan.

1358
01:11:38,560 --> 01:11:45,400
Speaker 1: I'm meeting you in October where probably if she's a

1359
01:11:45,439 --> 01:11:48,080
Speaker 1: one tree hiller in Wilmington's because there's a convention that'

1360
01:11:50,280 --> 01:11:55,040
Speaker 1: um yeah, it sucks. I don't know what to say.

1361
01:11:56,680 --> 01:11:58,840
Speaker 1: Just talk to him, tell him how tell tell him,

1362
01:11:58,960 --> 01:12:01,960
Speaker 1: you know, tell him you need it more, tell him

1363
01:12:01,960 --> 01:12:12,680
Speaker 1: you'd like to whatever word c bang me. Yeah, just

1364
01:12:12,960 --> 01:12:15,160
Speaker 1: just just say because here's at the end of the day,

1365
01:12:15,320 --> 01:12:18,680
Speaker 1: you know, I mean, you just you need you need

1366
01:12:18,800 --> 01:12:21,800
Speaker 1: that attention, and the partner needs to not be a

1367
01:12:21,840 --> 01:12:23,800
Speaker 1: selfish What would be the best, like Mike, we would

1368
01:12:23,800 --> 01:12:25,320
Speaker 1: be the best way for her to approach this with him.

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01:12:25,400 --> 01:12:26,800
Speaker 1: That's not going to make him head for the health.

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01:12:27,439 --> 01:12:34,000
Speaker 1: So thank you Mark for esking. My thought and opinion is, yeah,

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01:12:34,080 --> 01:12:36,519
Speaker 1: she can bring it up to him. But again, if

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01:12:36,560 --> 01:12:39,439
Speaker 1: he's working eighty hour work weeks, he that poor guy.

1373
01:12:39,520 --> 01:12:41,320
Speaker 1: He's stressed out of his mind trying to provide for

1374
01:12:41,479 --> 01:12:46,240
Speaker 1: his his girlfriend and his child. So the last thing

1375
01:12:46,360 --> 01:12:47,920
Speaker 1: you want to do is stress him out even more.

1376
01:12:48,000 --> 01:12:50,360
Speaker 1: Where when he gets home it's like that's when it

1377
01:12:50,400 --> 01:12:53,200
Speaker 1: feels like a chore. Where if it's like you validate, Hey, honey,

1378
01:12:53,280 --> 01:12:55,360
Speaker 1: I know you're working your ass off, I know you

1379
01:12:55,479 --> 01:12:58,599
Speaker 1: you're probably stressed, I know you're exhausted, but just letting

1380
01:12:58,600 --> 01:13:01,439
Speaker 1: you know you know where I'm I could really use

1381
01:13:01,520 --> 01:13:04,639
Speaker 1: some more US time, whatever that may be, whether it's sex,

1382
01:13:04,720 --> 01:13:08,800
Speaker 1: whether it's designated, no, it's called we call it now

1383
01:13:09,720 --> 01:13:15,799
Speaker 1: what intentional, intentional time together? Intentional that's nice, which naturally

1384
01:13:15,920 --> 01:13:20,880
Speaker 1: will lead to right more likely. So yeah, just just

1385
01:13:21,320 --> 01:13:23,560
Speaker 1: just don't forget that he's probably working butt off and

1386
01:13:23,600 --> 01:13:25,840
Speaker 1: he's working this long hours and just validate that. But

1387
01:13:25,920 --> 01:13:28,320
Speaker 1: if you can carve time out to spend intentional time together,

1388
01:13:28,400 --> 01:13:30,080
Speaker 1: that will create a closeness that you think will lead

1389
01:13:30,080 --> 01:13:32,479
Speaker 1: in the direction she wants to go about. That's good

1390
01:13:32,640 --> 01:13:35,840
Speaker 1: ns and not light switches, ladies. Not all guys are

1391
01:13:35,880 --> 01:13:38,840
Speaker 1: just light switches. I like that he plates your dinner.

1392
01:13:38,960 --> 01:13:42,679
Speaker 1: That is nice, that it's really sweetened or train lindsay.

1393
01:13:43,320 --> 01:13:45,280
Speaker 1: My dilemma is my boyfriend and I are both young.

1394
01:13:45,360 --> 01:13:47,519
Speaker 1: We're both twenty two. We want to take our big

1395
01:13:47,600 --> 01:13:49,679
Speaker 1: step and move into an apartment together in the spring.

1396
01:13:50,080 --> 01:13:52,320
Speaker 1: The issue is my mother. She's not supportive of the idea.

1397
01:13:52,400 --> 01:13:53,760
Speaker 1: She thinks I need to stay home on them out

1398
01:13:53,800 --> 01:13:56,800
Speaker 1: of school, which is five years from now. His parents

1399
01:13:56,840 --> 01:13:59,160
Speaker 1: are excited. The thing is great, take the staff, have fun.

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01:13:59,240 --> 01:14:01,720
Speaker 1: She always disc arges this conversation. My mom and never

1401
01:14:01,840 --> 01:14:03,479
Speaker 1: has an open mind when talking to me about it.

1402
01:14:03,840 --> 01:14:05,880
Speaker 1: It's always inconvenience for her. I want her to be

1403
01:14:05,960 --> 01:14:07,640
Speaker 1: excited for us, but I feel like since I'm the

1404
01:14:07,680 --> 01:14:10,400
Speaker 1: youngest child, she's holding back because she moved out on

1405
01:14:10,479 --> 01:14:12,519
Speaker 1: her own when she was young and she really struggled.

1406
01:14:12,880 --> 01:14:15,160
Speaker 1: I'm not naive. I know that we might struggle. A

1407
01:14:15,200 --> 01:14:16,560
Speaker 1: lot of young couples do. But I don't want to

1408
01:14:16,560 --> 01:14:18,840
Speaker 1: wait until twenty seven to finally be an adult out

1409
01:14:18,880 --> 01:14:23,800
Speaker 1: of my own. I say do it. I think I

1410
01:14:23,880 --> 01:14:26,679
Speaker 1: think it's will say two things. I think it's important

1411
01:14:26,720 --> 01:14:30,479
Speaker 1: to live by yourself before you live in moving with somebody,

1412
01:14:31,040 --> 01:14:35,000
Speaker 1: by yourself, by yourself. So I have a feeling, and sorry,

1413
01:14:35,240 --> 01:14:38,360
Speaker 1: lindsay love you, but I have feeling at this age

1414
01:14:38,920 --> 01:14:40,920
Speaker 1: you might move in with you, but eventually going to

1415
01:14:40,960 --> 01:14:45,040
Speaker 1: be living by your own, by yourself. And yeah, and

1416
01:14:45,360 --> 01:14:51,600
Speaker 1: and enjoy that time. And there is something I lived on.

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01:14:51,880 --> 01:14:54,080
Speaker 1: I would say, I could be the president of the

1418
01:14:54,120 --> 01:14:56,720
Speaker 1: Optimust Club. But twenty two, you need to live on

1419
01:14:56,840 --> 01:15:00,479
Speaker 1: your own with a girlfriend, not with a boyfriend. You

1420
01:15:00,560 --> 01:15:04,440
Speaker 1: need to be experiencing your early twenties. Do not if

1421
01:15:04,439 --> 01:15:07,960
Speaker 1: you want this relationship to small town and they've been

1422
01:15:07,960 --> 01:15:10,320
Speaker 1: together forever, they're going to be together. But there's two

1423
01:15:10,360 --> 01:15:12,240
Speaker 1: issues here and there. There's moving in with a boyfriend,

1424
01:15:12,320 --> 01:15:13,920
Speaker 1: and there's a moving out and around they're kind of

1425
01:15:13,960 --> 01:15:19,040
Speaker 1: separate issues at time. I'm I am so pro move

1426
01:15:19,160 --> 01:15:22,160
Speaker 1: out on your own and get a taste of life.

1427
01:15:23,680 --> 01:15:26,720
Speaker 1: You don't want to wait till you're the first time,

1428
01:15:26,920 --> 01:15:29,799
Speaker 1: because if your her mom wants to stay during college,

1429
01:15:30,520 --> 01:15:33,920
Speaker 1: that's the time you're You're gone. Baby, I love you.

1430
01:15:34,200 --> 01:15:36,760
Speaker 1: Get a girlfriend, don't move in with a boyfriend. I

1431
01:15:36,840 --> 01:15:39,280
Speaker 1: agree with her. I'm not. I just there. Yeah, that

1432
01:15:39,360 --> 01:15:41,720
Speaker 1: will not That can only help your relationship. Won't hurt

1433
01:15:41,760 --> 01:15:44,400
Speaker 1: your relationship by living apart. He gets to the place

1434
01:15:44,439 --> 01:15:46,200
Speaker 1: with a buddy. You need a place with a girlfriend.

1435
01:15:47,479 --> 01:15:49,680
Speaker 1: Release and they're saying sign here at lease. It's not

1436
01:15:49,800 --> 01:15:52,400
Speaker 1: You're not committed to anything longer than that. Don't buy

1437
01:15:52,439 --> 01:15:55,360
Speaker 1: anything with like your friend or your boyfriend. Just lease

1438
01:15:55,439 --> 01:15:58,160
Speaker 1: a place for a year, both of you guys somewhere

1439
01:15:58,240 --> 01:16:00,639
Speaker 1: and then have fun there because that such a huge

1440
01:16:00,640 --> 01:16:03,720
Speaker 1: step already moving out of your house, so have fun.

1441
01:16:05,400 --> 01:16:07,200
Speaker 1: It's funny because this is not what she's asking. But

1442
01:16:07,280 --> 01:16:08,880
Speaker 1: I do think this is good advice that you got

1443
01:16:08,960 --> 01:16:12,519
Speaker 1: to get out from under, but moving with your boyfriend

1444
01:16:12,600 --> 01:16:14,920
Speaker 1: might be a big step. We're giving her. The best

1445
01:16:14,960 --> 01:16:19,760
Speaker 1: advice are, Yeah, do it live on the edge with

1446
01:16:19,880 --> 01:16:23,240
Speaker 1: the girlfriend. So your mama drama just became live by

1447
01:16:23,320 --> 01:16:27,519
Speaker 1: yourself with your girlfriend. You're welcome, You're welcome. There you go.

1448
01:16:28,280 --> 01:16:31,120
Speaker 1: All right, Well that was fun. Um. Shout out to

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01:16:31,360 --> 01:16:35,640
Speaker 1: m J for coming in the studio in our sweet doctorage,

1450
01:16:35,760 --> 01:16:40,760
Speaker 1: for answering all of our hemorrhoid questions. I mean, she's

1451
01:16:40,760 --> 01:16:44,519
Speaker 1: a lightning around ourselves baring. She's awesome and I was

1452
01:16:44,600 --> 01:16:47,800
Speaker 1: like trying to trip her up and she wouldn't. Going

1453
01:16:47,840 --> 01:16:49,640
Speaker 1: back to your one question, Yeah I know, I was like,

1454
01:16:49,800 --> 01:16:53,720
Speaker 1: she's squirrel. But thanks, Thank you guys for listening and

1455
01:16:53,840 --> 01:16:55,519
Speaker 1: for being my wine. Nos. Love you