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Speaker 1: First Date follow up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Joseph is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Mia. So we're

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Speaker 2: gonna see if we can find out why he's getting

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Speaker 2: ghosted and maybe get him another date if he still

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Speaker 2: wants one. But first, Joseph Hollegs, have been since you

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Speaker 2: heard from Mia?

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean it's been a couple of weeks now,

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Speaker 3: and I'm getting kind of worried.

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Speaker 4: Getting worried. Is there a reason why you feel worried?

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Speaker 4: Like about her? About her?

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Speaker 3: She's ghosting you most of about like her, she's ghosting me.

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Speaker 3: It's it's been a little while, and it went so well.

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Speaker 3: This was one of the best days I've ever had.

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Speaker 3: It seems so promising. We actually we had We were

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Speaker 3: we were set up for dinner in a movie and

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Speaker 3: we were talking for so long at dinner that we

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Speaker 3: ended up missing the movie. Like that was great, you know, yeah.

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Speaker 4: You missed the whole movie.

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Speaker 3: Well no, I mean we're able to get it. It's

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Speaker 3: just it's been we ended up missing the opening. Those

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Speaker 3: just felt really good, you know, talking to her.

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Speaker 4: No tell us more about it. What did you guys

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Speaker 4: talk about? Why? You know, do you feel like it

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Speaker 4: was so great?

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Speaker 3: Oh? Well, I mean we went to a pizza place because,

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Speaker 3: as she had said in the previous conversation how much

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Speaker 3: she loved pizza. And I was like, oh great, this

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Speaker 3: is kind of casual but also kind of like, you know,

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Speaker 3: sort of a dinner, so a little more than just

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Speaker 3: like coffee. Was great. We had to talk about our careers,

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Speaker 3: you know, our families. We seem to be on the

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Speaker 3: same wavelengths. You know. Actually we both mentioned that we

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Speaker 3: wanted to check out a museum that we had been

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Speaker 3: looking at and maybe we could do that sometime. And

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Speaker 3: I was like, oh good, okay, so like second date

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Speaker 3: right there, it's kind of built into it, and I

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Speaker 3: just felt really promising.

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Speaker 4: Did anything happen on the date? We're kind of an

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Speaker 4: obvious sign.

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Speaker 3: Why she's not on you back, I've got I'm not

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Speaker 3: gonna lie. I've got an idea of what might have happened.

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Speaker 3: See you will. We were, uh, while we were out,

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Speaker 3: I saw my sister and you know, my my my

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Speaker 3: sister is married and I go over to dinner with

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Speaker 3: her and her family every once in a while so

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Speaker 3: I can see my nieces and nephews. And we've recently

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Speaker 3: talked about how I probably shouldn't talk about my love life, uh,

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Speaker 3: you know around like the kids right now, you know,

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Speaker 3: just until things get kind of settled, because that way,

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Speaker 3: you know, it kind of awkward for them. And when

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Speaker 3: you know, I saw it out, I was like, oh no,

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Speaker 3: this is kind of awkward, this is kind of weird.

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Speaker 3: How do I act in this situation? I wouldn't be

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Speaker 3: surprised if that was a little confusing.

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Speaker 4: Wait, so you didn't you didn't talk to your sister?

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Speaker 3: No? No, I just was like, oh God, what do

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Speaker 3: I What do I do here? And I probably it

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Speaker 3: probably kind of upset how I I spoke to to

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Speaker 4: Did you tell me that it was your sister who

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Speaker 3: No. I was afraid it was going to make things

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Speaker 3: even more awkward. And I was like, oh God, if

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Speaker 3: I just kind of play this off, let's not even

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Speaker 3: like make a thing out of it, because it's one

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Speaker 3: it get. I'm not gonna lie. I'm not sure I

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Speaker 3: did a great job.

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Speaker 4: Okay, it sounds like it was kind of weird.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds awkward. All right, Well we'll see if

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Speaker 2: we can figure it out. We'll play a song and

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Speaker 2: then come back and call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting you and maybe get you

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Speaker 4: Okay, okay, thanks, all right, well play song, come back,

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of the first Date follow Up

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Speaker 2: and if you're just joining us, Joseph is on the phone.

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Speaker 2: He's been getting ghosted for like two weeks now and

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Speaker 2: doesn't know why. So we're about to call the girl

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Speaker 2: that he went out with. Her name is Mia and

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Speaker 2: see if we can figure out why he's getting ghosted

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Speaker 2: and maybe get him another date. But before we do that, Josephy,

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Speaker 2: don't you refresh everybody's memory about your date with Mia.

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Speaker 3: Sure? Me and I had a great time. We went

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Speaker 3: to a pizza place, We talked about setting up a

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Speaker 3: second day at a museum. We actually were talking for

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Speaker 3: so long we almost missed the movie. I'm not sure

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Speaker 3: why she hasn't gotten back to me after like a

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Speaker 3: couple of weeks. I'm a little worried that it's because

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Speaker 3: I was a little awkward when I saw my sister out,

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, we'll give her a call right now and

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Speaker 2: ask her if she'll ask her why she's ghost to you,

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Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us and then maybe get

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Speaker 2: you another day.

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Speaker 3: You're ready, All right, let's go.

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Speaker 2: All right, here we go. Hello, Hi, man, speak to

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Speaker 2: mea please? This Hey Mia, how are you? My name

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Speaker 2: is Jubell. I host a radio show. It's called The

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Speaker 2: Jebel Show.

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Speaker 4: Him Mia, the show's here too. I'm Nina, Hi, and

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Speaker 4: I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 5: Oh ho, Hi, how are you doing today? Good? Okay,

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Speaker 5: So what's the show.

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Speaker 2: It's a radio show. It's called The Jewel Show. We

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Speaker 2: do a segment on our show called the First Day Followup.

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Speaker 2: That's where if you go out on a date with

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Speaker 2: somebody and then end up ghosting them, they can get

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Speaker 2: they can email us to get you on the phone

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Speaker 2: and ask why you're ghosting them. And we got an

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Speaker 2: email about you from Joseph.

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Speaker 5: Oh oh oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I definitely went

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Speaker 5: out with a guy named Joseph.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, Joseph said, you've been ghosting him for like

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Speaker 2: two weeks now, and he wants to know why.

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Speaker 4: He thought things went really well and he liked you

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Speaker 4: a lot.

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Speaker 5: Well, it actually did spurn off really well. We went

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Speaker 5: and had pizza, and we had a lot of things coming.

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Speaker 5: We were laughing, we were even planning or going to

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Speaker 5: a mushim for the next date. But then we meet

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Speaker 5: the movies and he is clearly not over his ex

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Speaker 5: because he saw his ex there and he was acting

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Speaker 5: really weird. He showed no affection to me. It was

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Speaker 4: How do you know that was his X? Did you

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Speaker 5: He didn't say that, but it was like he looked

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Speaker 5: it felt like it was his X. I mean, you

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 3: It was awkward because he like stopped touching me.

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Speaker 5: He stopped, I mean he lost would it be you.

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Speaker 4: Know, could it be like his sister or something?

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Speaker 5: Well, why would his sister care if he was touching me?

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Speaker 4: That is a very fair point. But sometimes what we

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Speaker 3: Possibly, I mean, what was not his sister?

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Speaker 2: I don't know, let's ask him. Joseph is actually on

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Speaker 5: Oh oh.

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Speaker 3: Wow, Hi.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you were actually really weird with that girl. It

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Speaker 5: definitely felt like that was your ex. You had your

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Speaker 3: It was very awkward. Yeah, believe it or not, that

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Speaker 3: actually is my sister. Yes, I was. We have an

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Speaker 3: Definitely not you know, around my nieces and nephews, and

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Speaker 3: like not time. I don't really want to like introduce

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Speaker 3: I did not handle that well.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that was Why did you just say something or

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Speaker 5: like it just felt very awkward. I mean, if you

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Speaker 5: don't want to talk about your relationship, but I guess

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Speaker 5: sometimes you don't. I mean, it was our first date.

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Speaker 5: I guess I got that, like you don't want to,

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Speaker 5: He couldn't say side to her or or even say

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Speaker 2: Did she say anything?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Right, yeah, no, I just kind of wanted to

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Speaker 3: leave the situation. I was really thinking. I was like,

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Speaker 3: oh good, I'll just kind of get out of here.

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Speaker 3: I'll play it off cool. I very clearly did a

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Speaker 3: terrible job of that. Yeah you did.

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Speaker 5: I mean, yeah, it was very comfortable. And then all

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Speaker 4: Joseph, you kind of turned into a red flag. I'm

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Speaker 4: really sorry. You're so sweet, and I really wanted this

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Speaker 4: away from a situation that's I'm comfortable. Every time something's

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's funny.

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Speaker 4: That was for sure, I know somehow. I mean, on

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Speaker 4: a first day meeting family, you just say it's your friend,

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Speaker 4: but yeah, your sister's obviously not going to be But listen,

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Speaker 4: if you're doing it in front of kids, you're just like, hey,

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Speaker 4: this is my friend, Bob. You know, well for me,

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Speaker 4: you could have done that next time. The next time, yeah,

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Speaker 2: Well, how would you like to have another awkward situation

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Speaker 2: happened with Joseph? Because I think there might be many

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Speaker 2: things like like, yeah, would you like to go on

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Speaker 2: another date with Joseph? Will pay for it?

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Speaker 5: How many siblings? How many times will this happen? Uh,

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Speaker 5: it's knowing that it's his sister, I actually feel a

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Speaker 5: lot better. It was a little weird. Just tell me

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Speaker 5: next time. But yeah, I actually have a really good

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Speaker 5: time at the pizza place, and I would like to

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Speaker 5: see that zoomed still, so I totally want.

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Speaker 4: To go out with you into girlfriend at the Musicum, sorry,

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Speaker 4: just kidding. I will see the best

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