Speaker 1: Can he I live a learn?
Speaker 2: What was that?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm trying to think who's sing that?
Speaker 1: Somebody tell me the songs and sing? Oh well.
Speaker 2: Wait, I think maybe you're singing Beyonce. I'm here, yes, okay, wow,
Speaker 2: that's like the depth of my Beyonce knowledge because that
Speaker 2: was a beautiful condition.
Speaker 1: Yes, well, you know I got the tone. You know.
Speaker 2: I always when I think of Tiffany, I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 2: that drunken sang.
Speaker 1: I can. That's not think I can sang with the
Speaker 1: agg you know sang you know, not everybody you know,
Speaker 1: So it's an acquire tase. I'm not gonna lie. It's
Speaker 1: not built for every one's years.
Speaker 3: But for those who appreciate, you know that next level,
Speaker 3: I'm there with them.
Speaker 2: It's a mature sound, it is.
Speaker 1: Yes, there you go.
Speaker 2: How was your week?
Speaker 1: It was good.
Speaker 3: So this morning I woke up and I was like
Speaker 3: cleaning up and I found my vision board on behind
Speaker 3: my dresser and.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, circa so dope about it. I
Speaker 1: was so freaked out.
Speaker 3: I was like, man, look, first of all, why do
Speaker 3: I have an engagement ring on my business board?
Speaker 1: Spang? It happened?
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, come on, what else was on there?
Speaker 1: There?
Speaker 3: They're actually so every every time I make when I
Speaker 3: have this dollar bill that I took off, but I
Speaker 3: didn't take off, but I replaced the face of the
Speaker 3: president with like my dollar sign B, and then I
Speaker 3: put how much I want to make a year, So
Speaker 3: I put how much I guess from two years ago
Speaker 3: because I haven't done one in a while.
Speaker 2: Wait, do you make multiple vision boards?
Speaker 3: No, so it's one vision board, which but what I
Speaker 3: do is every year I'm supposed to do in January
Speaker 3: take down the stuff that hasn't happened, and or take
Speaker 3: down the stuff that has happened, and then replace it
Speaker 3: with new things that i'd like, and anything that has
Speaker 3: not happened, I keep it up there.
Speaker 1: And so it's just the same.
Speaker 3: Board because I use this like really like I don't know,
Speaker 3: it's not like a regular poster board. It's harder than that,
Speaker 3: almost like a what is that cardboard? So it's like
Speaker 3: stiff and so yeah, yeah, and so I was looking
Speaker 3: like I had like on here like this this dollar
Speaker 3: bill that I like augmented to say, this is what
Speaker 3: I'm going to make this year, and I surpassed that.
Speaker 3: I also even have a check that says a very
Speaker 3: happy client, and I put down the date and then
Speaker 3: this is how much I want one client to pay me.
Speaker 1: And I was like, wait a minute.
Speaker 3: In January, I'm actually signing a contract for five thousand
Speaker 3: dollars more than what the check is for.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, whoa hoo. I couldn't believe it.
Speaker 3: And even I have like little things that says I'm
Speaker 3: going to make sixty five hundred dollars per speaking engagement,
Speaker 3: and I make more than that now.
Speaker 1: So just the essenvest is on here, which I just did.
Speaker 3: Ooh, and even well, I don't know if I can
Speaker 3: talk about that. Yeah, I have some TV news coming up,
Speaker 3: but I'm gonna wait until I finished sinning my li.
Speaker 2: When did you make this vision board.
Speaker 1: Two years ago?
Speaker 3: Two mm hm about two years ago. So it was like, well,
Speaker 3: actually you know what this is not even this is
Speaker 3: two thousand for twenty fifteen, because I see twenty fifteen
Speaker 3: travel goals or South Africa, which I have not made
Speaker 3: it too yet, Savannah Georgia, which I have in Ireland,
Speaker 3: which I have in Paris, which I just did like
Speaker 3: a couple of weeks ago. So just seeing it is like,
Speaker 3: oh my gosh, I would say more than half of
Speaker 3: what I have on here has has has been accomplished,
Speaker 3: not bam no wow.
Speaker 2: I was never like a vision board girl. I did.
Speaker 2: Uh yeah, No, I just kind of maybe because the
Speaker 2: girls in college too, Like I think when I was
Speaker 2: in college, it's when everyone seemed to start it, like
Speaker 2: seemed to start talking about vision boards. And then I
Speaker 2: went to a vision board party like with some girlfriends,
Speaker 2: and I don't know, I just got like turned off
Speaker 2: by the I don't know, it just felt like kind
Speaker 2: of like well, there were a lot of like five
Speaker 2: story houses and like huge diamond rings and a lot
Speaker 2: of like celebrity men cut out. It was less like
Speaker 2: about career type focusing stuff and more like relationship goals
Speaker 2: and like material. But I do, I do make a
Speaker 2: to do list every day, so it's like a daily
Speaker 2: a daily vision board.
Speaker 3: You know what, when people make vision boards, I always
Speaker 3: say that you should make a vision board that's in
Speaker 3: alignment with the way that you interact. So if you're
Speaker 3: really visual, and it's all about pictures on your vision board,
Speaker 3: but if you're really verbal, then on my vision board
Speaker 3: has a lot of sticky notes with just stuff on it,
Speaker 3: so I put it down the middle. I have a
Speaker 3: piece of green tape down the middle. So one half
Speaker 3: is career and professional goals and the other half was personal.
Speaker 3: So like I have Serena Williams like with her body
Speaker 3: looking bang and I'm like, that's my you know, that's
Speaker 3: my body.
Speaker 1: Vision goal board stuff. So I had both sides. So
Speaker 1: I definitely have like, oh I have a ring.
Speaker 3: I have this woman with locks like mind holding a
Speaker 3: beautiful baby. So that's on my personal side. And then
Speaker 3: I have like eating healthy on that side, travel on
Speaker 3: that side, and then on the business side, you know,
Speaker 3: the professional side, I have like all the stuff I
Speaker 3: want to accomplished. I even have published my children's book
Speaker 3: on here and I'm like, oh my god, and I
Speaker 3: wrote I am a speaker at Essence Best. I'm like,
Speaker 3: oh my god, that happened. So I think that for me,
Speaker 3: I like for my vision board to be you know,
Speaker 3: more inclusive of like all of my life, not just hey,
Speaker 3: I want to get a ring, but hey, yes, I'd
Speaker 3: like to get married to the man that I love.
Speaker 3: But girl, I want to slay in this professional market
Speaker 3: as well.
Speaker 2: I wonder if men make vision boards.
Speaker 1: Superman was so geeked up.
Speaker 3: He pulled out like Supergirls, she always has poster boards
Speaker 3: that they're ready, just because that's Supergirl.
Speaker 1: And he was like, let's make me one.
Speaker 3: So I told him go to Target meet him and Supergirl.
Speaker 3: We're gonna make our vision board. Because he was so
Speaker 3: geeked by, like how much and he was.
Speaker 1: Like, babe, that happened and this happened.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I know that's funny. Well, fiance bou does
Speaker 2: have a Pinterest board.
Speaker 1: That's so that's good.
Speaker 2: It's mostly just like fancy shoes and watches that he
Speaker 2: expects me to buy him one day. And I'm like,
Speaker 2: this is never happening. Five thousand dollars Omega watch. You're
Speaker 2: out of your mind. This is called a not a
Speaker 2: vision board, but like a like a illusion board.
Speaker 1: It's illusional board.
Speaker 2: It's illusional board.
Speaker 3: No, But honestly, I just think that it doesn't have
Speaker 3: to be like this. It could be they you just
Speaker 3: write a list of things in a notebook. People like
Speaker 3: to journal, but I do believe that expressing out loud
Speaker 3: in a visual way, whether it's writing it in a
Speaker 3: notebook or doing it to do with things that you'd
Speaker 3: like to accomplish. I think that that's always a good idea,
Speaker 3: whether it's like a fancy board or not.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I mean every financial every anyone who's getting
Speaker 2: financial advice. The first question people ask is always what
Speaker 2: are your goals? What do you want? And if you're
Speaker 2: forced to kind of get clear about what you want,
Speaker 2: it makes and then you can answer those questions and
Speaker 2: then you kind of make every decision stemming from like
Speaker 2: how will this help me accomplish my goals? And that
Speaker 2: sort of the way. Yeah, that's kind of like the
Speaker 2: fundamental way to get things done.
Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure, should even easy.
Speaker 2: Maybe I'll be a convert. Maybe I'll do a vision board.
Speaker 1: Do you know what?
Speaker 3: That would be kind of fun if we did like
Speaker 3: like ba Like maybe we'd like our next meetup that
Speaker 3: we do like vision board, like you know, maybe like
Speaker 3: ten women because I told myself I was gonna do
Speaker 3: it last year but I didn't. But just to get
Speaker 3: my girlfriends together, because I made this one in the
Speaker 3: park with like six or seven other women, Like I
Speaker 3: think I posted, Hey, who wants to like hang out
Speaker 3: chill out in the park, bring your blanket and something
Speaker 3: to eat, And I brought like the scissors and the
Speaker 3: glue and all these magazines and we had such a
Speaker 3: good time. But it was like about the vision boarding,
Speaker 3: but it was also about hanging out with like dope women,
Speaker 3: So that was fun.
Speaker 2: I feel like it'ld be really it's like I'm such
Speaker 2: a personal thing though.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, it wasn't like randoms.
Speaker 3: I mean, most of the people who came because I
Speaker 3: posted on my Facebook, but I knew like it was
Speaker 3: in Newark because I'm like, you know, most of the
Speaker 3: women who.
Speaker 1: Came I was really cool with. So it was I
Speaker 1: don't know. I mean, I guess you don't.
Speaker 3: Have to put all your most deep you know, deep
Speaker 3: seated desires, but stuff like travel and stuff professional stuff
Speaker 3: that you want to accomplish. And honestly, we didn't what
Speaker 3: was not weird. But it wasn't like I was like, hey, girl,
Speaker 3: what do you have over there? No one was really
Speaker 3: looking at each other's boards. It was just having company
Speaker 3: while you made it.
Speaker 2: Yeah that's cool. M So do you have do you
Speaker 2: have a ton of vision boards?
Speaker 1: Like? No, honestly, I just and he superman. It was like,
Speaker 1: so you take it down. I'm like, yeah, that's old stuff.
Speaker 3: So I used the same raggedy board, and I just
Speaker 3: take down the stuff that's happened, and I'm like moving on,
Speaker 3: So I don't. I just it's the same board I've
Speaker 3: had since I was like in my twenties, and I
Speaker 3: just like because I used that like a card of
Speaker 3: card stockboard.
Speaker 1: So I just take down the pictures and the sticky
Speaker 1: notes and put up new ones.
Speaker 2: Neat M.
Speaker 1: What about you? How was your week?
Speaker 2: The week was good, it was long. It was a
Speaker 2: long week at work. But I saw you on Wednesday.
Speaker 1: Oh.
Speaker 2: I don't know if any of you guys caught, but
Speaker 2: we were on the Grio's Facebook page for Facebook live
Speaker 2: chat with Miss Tanya.
Speaker 3: We should put that link on Brownibision podcast dot com.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was pretty fun. Tip and I were late late.
Speaker 2: I girl.
Speaker 3: First of all, I was like, I don't know who's
Speaker 3: worse like me? You because Tanya was late too, but
Speaker 3: she was early late and or Degree.
Speaker 1: I'm like, sor are we just not?
Speaker 2: Like everyone was just like late? Like, I don't know.
Speaker 2: But it was the most stressful because I was I
Speaker 2: literally was only twenty blocks away and so I gave
Speaker 2: myself half an hour to take a cab and I
Speaker 2: was stuck in the worst trap. You were in the
Speaker 2: same traffic. I don't know what was happening in Manhattan
Speaker 2: at one thirty pm on Wednesday, but like the apocalypse
Speaker 2: was happening anyway, But yeah, I got We both got
Speaker 2: there like so frazzled, huffing and puffing, running, took cabs
Speaker 2: and trains and then the Grio was like, oh, want
Speaker 2: some water? Do you want to like chill? We have
Speaker 2: like twenty more minutes. It's like, okay, I.
Speaker 1: Know, I was I you don't understand. I was like,
Speaker 1: just like for rating myself because that's what I do.
Speaker 1: What I'm like, look at you?
Speaker 2: We go the one?
Speaker 1: What do you do with your life? Tikany? This is
Speaker 1: this is a professional setting.
Speaker 2: How can you give people career advice when you can't
Speaker 2: even show up on time?
Speaker 1: It's so crazy because it's just like I was just
Speaker 1: like beating.
Speaker 3: I'm like totally being like a mom to myself, like,
Speaker 3: look at you, get your life together?
Speaker 1: How can you expect people to take you seriously, you
Speaker 1: can't even come along time.
Speaker 3: They're just waiting on you. They probably start with after you, honestly,
Speaker 3: and they don't want you come on. It's on you,
Speaker 3: it's on you.
Speaker 2: We're so mean to or so.
Speaker 3: And then I get there. You guys are sitting chilling
Speaker 3: in like the pre green room, like what's that girl?
Speaker 2: I was not chilling. I was sweating my butt off.
Speaker 2: I like, pat my face. I was because I ran
Speaker 2: so hard from the train. I think there's that pressure too,
Speaker 2: because there's a stereotype that you know, its color people time,
Speaker 2: which you know is sort of racist but kind of
Speaker 2: true in a lot of ways, and so you kind
Speaker 2: of feel like, well, shit, you're just like, you know,
Speaker 2: prolonging the stereotype if you're not on time and you're
Speaker 2: the one, and they're just gonna think in their head,
Speaker 2: oh my god, it's always that, you know, it's CPT
Speaker 2: or whatever. And but anyway, I guess it helped that
Speaker 2: we were going to the Grio.
Speaker 1: Yeah I did. I'm not gonna lie, you know.
Speaker 3: I I went to I did one from We're Reclear
Speaker 3: the next day, and I made sure I was a
Speaker 3: half an hour early.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, howd that go?
Speaker 1: It went really well. It was a lot of fun.
Speaker 1: But I was just like a Tiffany, like you learned
Speaker 1: your lesson.
Speaker 3: So I took that the train before I think I
Speaker 3: took like the one o'clock train to get them by two,
Speaker 3: and this time I took the twelve thirty training.
Speaker 1: Was like I will be sitting waiting.
Speaker 2: I really like being early because generally I'm always really
Speaker 2: nervous before I do live stuff. I mean, Facebook Live,
Speaker 2: I wasn't as nervous about, but like if it's a
Speaker 2: live news thing, then I have such bad nerves, Like
Speaker 2: I usually have a stomach ache and I just need
Speaker 2: like time to go to the actual setting and then
Speaker 2: kind of relax in the setting wherever I am, but
Speaker 2: I haven't been there before. So generally I like being
Speaker 2: on time. If I get there late, I'm just in
Speaker 2: a bad I'm just like more likely to be frazzled
Speaker 2: and like sweaty because I'm like, I just hate being
Speaker 2: I hate that feeling so much.
Speaker 3: You too, honestly, even like for a plant, I get
Speaker 3: on travel anxiety like, so I much rather be like
Speaker 3: an hour early for a plane and sit with my
Speaker 3: laptop or whatever than to, like, you know, some people
Speaker 3: like to be like, oh I just got here, let
Speaker 3: me just mosey on.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm always super early. I like to get snacks.
Speaker 2: I like to use the restroom. I like to hydrate
Speaker 2: very important things before flight. What else is happening in
Speaker 2: the world, in the wonderful world. Did you go out
Speaker 2: for Halloween last night?
Speaker 1: No? Because wait, so wait, what's Halloween last night? No?
Speaker 2: Halloween is Monday, but you know everyone parties on like
Speaker 2: the weekend before.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 3: But I've been enjoying all the pictures of like all
Speaker 3: the hailarises, of course everybody. If everybody's dressing up as
Speaker 3: Joanna Scammer, I'm seeing.
Speaker 1: In my Wait, who Joanne?
Speaker 3: You've never heard of Joanne the Scammer. No, Andy, honestly,
Speaker 3: I need you.
Speaker 2: What is it?
Speaker 1: Johanna Scammer is everything? Oh my god?
Speaker 2: Wait the first thing that popped up in Google was
Speaker 2: joy and the Scamber, as soon as the types in
Speaker 2: j O.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so Joanna Scammer is really this guy named Brandon
Speaker 3: or Brennan I think his name is and he.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no Brandon. So if you.
Speaker 3: Follow him on Instagram, it's I am Brandon B R
Speaker 3: A N D E N. And he's a dude, and
Speaker 3: I don't know, he's just funny. So he started dressing
Speaker 3: up as just like this worn down woman who wears
Speaker 3: like this dirty fur and this like dusty wig and
Speaker 3: he is hilarious.
Speaker 1: He's a scammer.
Speaker 3: So scamming is when you know, basically a thief, you know,
Speaker 3: but like a thief in every way. Like, so he
Speaker 3: might do credit card scams, he might do. This is
Speaker 3: just awful fun. He's not doing that.
Speaker 2: Oh it's The description says Joanne is a self professed
Speaker 2: messy bitch who lives for drama. Usually wrapped in her
Speaker 2: fur coat and wearing a blonder black leg, speaks in
Speaker 2: a Caucasian accent, and brags about her antics, extorting credit cards,
Speaker 2: embuzzling funds from unsuspecting men, and embarrassing her ex boyfriend's
Speaker 2: new wife and bubble. Yeah, okay, it's just so she's
Speaker 2: like living shade.
Speaker 3: Yeah exactly, she is living shade and she is just
Speaker 3: so hilarious. Then you're just like, what is she talking about?
Speaker 3: And you can not tell Joanne that she is not
Speaker 3: black or Hispanic. Johanna is like, get out of my
Speaker 3: Caucasian house.
Speaker 2: She is this person. I saw someone dressed as blue
Speaker 2: Ivy from the mema, so I thought that was funny.
Speaker 3: So Joanne has like some some like she's got like
Speaker 3: some well known things. She said, like honestly truly, like
Speaker 3: she's just you have to just go to Brandon's page
Speaker 3: and just soak in this gammerrific Joann and she's amazing,
Speaker 3: And so people dressed up as her.
Speaker 1: I saw somebody.
Speaker 3: Dress up as Slash guns and Roses. I saw someone
Speaker 3: dress up as Shanine.
Speaker 2: Guns and roses. That's interesting.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. Pirates just like a whole bunch of because
Speaker 1: my friend who dressed the best Guns and Roses, he
Speaker 1: has like a really full beard, so it was like perfect.
Speaker 2: Well, if anyone needs a last minute costume, oh, it's
Speaker 2: gonna be too late by the time this airs. But anyway,
Speaker 2: my my Brittany, the reporter who works for me at
Speaker 2: Magnified Money, she spent like thirteen dollars on some nice cardboard,
Speaker 2: like yellow cardboard, and then some red stuff and anyway,
Speaker 2: she made herself an emoji costume. Is really cute. She
Speaker 2: just like cut out the yellow head and made like
Speaker 2: the little heart eyes and then she tied some string
Speaker 2: and so she had one on the back and on
Speaker 2: the front. It was adorbs.
Speaker 3: I'm looking at like Instagram now and somebody has like
Speaker 3: this Trump costume.
Speaker 1: So she's got a really low cut shirt, but she.
Speaker 2: Kind of was like sexy Trump.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, but Trump is on her back with his
Speaker 3: hands down her shirt. Oh god, dummy on her back then,
Speaker 3: but with a Trump mask on and his hands.
Speaker 1: Down in front of her shirt, and she's just looking
Speaker 1: like no.
Speaker 2: Facebook memories tells me I used to be cool and
Speaker 2: go to Halloween parties like a lot of them in
Speaker 2: New York and getting all like the reminders. Oh yeah
Speaker 2: I was that. Oh yeah I went there. I threw
Speaker 2: like the best Halloween party the year of Hurricane Sandy.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I've been dormant these past two years. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I just stayed in. Last night, I watched the Sex
Speaker 2: in the City movie. Do you know that's three hours long?
Speaker 2: Really three hours It's a good movie, you know what,
Speaker 2: Sex and the City too. I wish like I was
Speaker 2: so mad when I left the theater. It was the
Speaker 2: worst thing I've ever seen in my life. But the
Speaker 2: first movie was actually really good.
Speaker 3: It was really good. Sex and City two. I was like,
Speaker 3: are you kidding me? What are you doing?
Speaker 2: I was There's only a few movies I've left physically
Speaker 2: angry for about and that was one of them. Like,
Speaker 2: I just wanted my twelve dollars back. Yeah, but the
Speaker 2: first movie with Jennifer Hudson, and it was just good.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was the first one was really really good.
Speaker 3: And you know, I try to watch like the series again,
Speaker 3: like oh, but I'm like, I just don't care.
Speaker 2: It's a well there's so many episodes, and yeah, it
Speaker 2: is silly. I mean, it was very like early aughts,
Speaker 2: you know, two thousands and stuff. I think it would
Speaker 2: be totally done totally differently now. I mean honestly obviously
Speaker 2: with you know, the new Sex and the City was girls,
Speaker 2: but I didn't like that one either. But yeah, actually
Speaker 2: I never watched Sex and the City. I watched the
Speaker 2: movie first, really. Yeah. It was like two thousand and
Speaker 2: eight when it came out, and I don't know, I
Speaker 2: just I didn't had HBO, so when I was a teenager,
Speaker 2: there was nothing to like. I couldn't like stream it anywhere,
Speaker 2: so I didn't really know what it was. But I
Speaker 2: liked the movie a lot. And then I went backwards
Speaker 2: and I was like, oh, in the movie, you know,
Speaker 2: of course you know this this mister big guy, Like
Speaker 2: I'll just go back and watch the show because it
Speaker 2: must totally redeem him, like now I'll understand why she's
Speaker 2: with him. But then I watched the show and at
Speaker 2: the end, I was like, why did she pick him?
Speaker 2: Aidan was clearly superior to mister Big in every way,
Speaker 2: and how did she end up with him? And I
Speaker 2: never I'm just yeah, I've never really gotten it. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I mean, like.
Speaker 3: You know, at the time, it was like a movement.
Speaker 3: So but when you look back, you're like, oh.
Speaker 2: He's a dick, like he never did anything nice. Aiden
Speaker 2: built furniture. He like was hot, you know, yeah, beautiful,
Speaker 2: luscious locks of gold. He had a weird like southern
Speaker 2: accent which was never explained. So cut just you know,
Speaker 2: just it's like the brownie man like on the paper towel.
Speaker 2: That's the guy.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Well, you know he knocked on a wall for her.
Speaker 2: Come on, I know that's sexy. But uh, Anyway, I
Speaker 2: wonder if out there, I guess every woman in her
Speaker 2: life has to choose between a beggar and Aiden.
Speaker 3: Yeah I know I did, Thank God, I chose aidenose,
Speaker 3: I definitely chose Aden.
Speaker 1: Where I was like, oh god, I almost chose mister Big.
Speaker 1: Then I was like, girl, I'll get you all life together.
Speaker 1: And I chose my aiden and we're getting married.
Speaker 2: Have you guys talked to any more about your wedding plans?
Speaker 1: No? And I like that. This is what I love
Speaker 1: about Superman.
Speaker 3: He and I are so similar and we're like we
Speaker 3: were just this morning we were doing like a plan,
Speaker 3: like a to do list for the house, the multi
Speaker 3: family house we're planning on buying before the end of
Speaker 3: the year hopefully.
Speaker 1: If not early next year, and once that goes through,
Speaker 1: then we're like, then we can just plan on what
Speaker 1: that looks like.
Speaker 3: As far as marriage, I suspect that we're going to
Speaker 3: go to the Justice of the Peace and then plan
Speaker 3: some sort of dinner or brunch or something for our families.
Speaker 3: But other than that, like, I don't I'm not going
Speaker 3: to give a wedding planning because I'm not.
Speaker 1: Going to do a big already.
Speaker 3: Well unless he really wants it, but from what we've
Speaker 3: talked about, it doesn't seem like he cares that much.
Speaker 3: I think he definitely wants to have something, but not
Speaker 3: some big like overtop.
Speaker 2: I mean, whatever you do, you've just got to get
Speaker 2: a nice photo, get to Netta Bell photographer to come
Speaker 2: and document the day.
Speaker 3: No, for sure that for sure will definitely because I
Speaker 3: definitely want to see that. But as far as like,
Speaker 3: oh what day, Honestly, he was the other day he
Speaker 3: was like, you want to go to Justice of the
Speaker 3: Piece next week? I was like, now we got to
Speaker 3: get the house first, because I don't know how me
Speaker 3: being because I have a foreclosure under my belt, and
Speaker 3: I don't know how that that's being married is going
Speaker 3: to affect your ability to buy because he's got a
Speaker 3: really good credit, he doesn't have any.
Speaker 1: Debt, you know.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, this morning I spent half an hour, forty
Speaker 2: five minutes on Pincrest looking at MOS centerpieces. So just
Speaker 2: like you, guys, just like you, totally totally don't care.
Speaker 2: But whatever, I might give away one hundred individual succulents
Speaker 2: I's wedding favors, but whatever, it's no big deal. We
Speaker 2: actually chose, we chose our first dance song. I will
Speaker 2: not reveal it. It's not a big deal. But actually
Speaker 2: I was pre writing my vowels because I'm a writer,
Speaker 2: so I wrote all the time, but I was I
Speaker 2: was just like practicing, like, man, what would my vows
Speaker 2: be like? And I've been writing them in my head
Speaker 2: in weird places like in the backs of cabs and stuff,
Speaker 2: and then I'll just I start getting teary. I just
Speaker 2: like writing them in my head. So I was like,
Speaker 2: I gotta write these down because they're really good anyway,
Speaker 2: So I started writing them. And then as soon as
Speaker 2: I was writing these words that a song came on
Speaker 2: Spotify that was exactly those words, and it's like the
Speaker 2: perfect song. And I was like, wait a second, this
Speaker 2: is this is the universe saying this must be your
Speaker 2: first dance song, because not gonna lie. Our first dance
Speaker 2: was going to be a Beyonce song. So I've changed
Speaker 2: my mind since then. Nah, well it was a cover.
Speaker 2: It was the it was gonna be the John Mayer
Speaker 2: cover of Exo, which is actually really pretty, okay, really
Speaker 2: pretty Beyonce. But anyway, sorry Beyonce, not gonna I mean, well,
Speaker 2: they'll be Beyonce, just not Yeah.
Speaker 1: For sure, beyond she needs to be there.
Speaker 2: Her presence shall be felt. It's gonna be a lot
Speaker 2: of prints, a lot of Michael Jackson, a lot of Beyonce,
Speaker 2: in a lot of like Marc Anthony and uh like
Speaker 2: Romeo Santos for the Santos family.
Speaker 1: I love Michael Jackson. Jackson party.
Speaker 3: The best party I've ever been to ever was at
Speaker 3: the Brooklyn Museum. It was like either the year of
Speaker 3: the year or the year after Michael Jackson died, and
Speaker 3: they had a Michael Jackson dance party and it was.
Speaker 2: Und think I went to that. We were probably there, yeah.
Speaker 3: Everything, every song, and I just remember getting my life
Speaker 3: being like it was like in like the parking lot
Speaker 3: and it probably was like easily five six hundred people
Speaker 3: and I was just like getting my life, like yes,
Speaker 3: that needed to happen again.
Speaker 2: We were there, who knew?
Speaker 1: This is pretty pre Ba before we knew each other.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of what else happened in the
Speaker 2: news this week. It was a quiet week in news, however,
Speaker 2: I mean the election is next week. My dad texted
Speaker 2: me he early voted in Georgia. I was super proud
Speaker 2: of him. I'm ready for it to be over.
Speaker 1: I am.
Speaker 2: I feel like everyone like there's election fatigue every like October,
Speaker 2: it sets in. But I'm tired. I'm sure for it
Speaker 2: would be a president and ready to stop seeing you
Speaker 2: know who on the you know what's but that you
Speaker 2: must go out to vote. Do you have to vote?
Speaker 2: You have to your vote counts.
Speaker 3: Who would have vote for but we will tell you
Speaker 3: you must must, must vote, let your presence be known.
Speaker 2: That's their advice. You're well anything else, I'm should we
Speaker 2: move on to to boost and breaking Breaker Boost break
Speaker 2: break Boost Boost? Do you want to go first? You
Speaker 2: want me go first?
Speaker 1: Sure, I will go first.
Speaker 3: I am going to take a break from m l ms.
Speaker 3: So for those of you the uninitiated, And MLM is
Speaker 3: a multi level marketing company, So I won't say in
Speaker 3: all MLMs because some of them are not bad. Like,
Speaker 3: for example, mary Kay is an MLM. So you know
Speaker 3: something as an MLM because not only do you sell
Speaker 3: the product, but do you have the opportunity to get
Speaker 3: people that you know to.
Speaker 1: Sell the product under you.
Speaker 3: So it's like, hey, I sell mary Kay, but then
Speaker 3: I also try to get my sisters, my aunts and
Speaker 3: my cousins whatever they sell Mary Kay, And when they sell,
Speaker 3: I benefit from what they sell, and the person that
Speaker 3: brought me on benefits from what they sell as well
Speaker 3: as from what I sell. So it's like a movement
Speaker 3: on a you know. Yeah, And so like I said,
Speaker 3: not all MLMs are terrible. Mary Kay is actually I
Speaker 3: think it's one of the top rated companies for women,
Speaker 3: like the in the nation. So there's that, and there's
Speaker 3: another one that actually I didn't mind, but some of
Speaker 3: them are, for lack of a better word, scams. Here's
Speaker 3: how you know if your MLM is a scam if
Speaker 3: the product itself is crappy. Because if the push is
Speaker 3: not for you to sell this great product, it's instead
Speaker 3: for you to sign people up, you know you're in
Speaker 3: a scam MLM and it's probably not going to last long.
Speaker 3: Back in the day, I remember my sister signed up
Speaker 3: for one called Cutco Knives and my dad was like, oh,
Speaker 3: like she had to, Like, I guess you put in
Speaker 3: like five hundred or six hundred bucks. You get these knives,
Speaker 3: and then you try to get your family and friends
Speaker 3: to buy these expensive knives and then to sell them themselves.
Speaker 3: And that was the first time I was introduced to MLMs.
Speaker 3: And of course those knives are no longer here because
Speaker 3: if you don't have a good product, this MLM will
Speaker 3: no longer be here. And the people that benefit most
Speaker 3: are those who come in when they first start. So
Speaker 3: if I'm the person who starts the MLM, I signed
Speaker 3: you up, you signed your friend up, your friends signed
Speaker 3: your friend up, So all of those people selling kind
Speaker 3: of like they will upsell to me basically. But if
Speaker 3: you come in in the middle or the end, by
Speaker 3: that time, you know, the market may have been flooded
Speaker 3: by ABC Travel for example. That was one that that's
Speaker 3: not just no longer around where you know, why would
Speaker 3: I be booking my travel through you when orbits is
Speaker 3: online and I could get cash back on ep it
Speaker 3: group Like that.
Speaker 1: Doesn't make sense. So I do want people to be
Speaker 1: more mindful.
Speaker 2: Where do they usually Where do you usually get like
Speaker 2: solicited by an MLM? Is it like your uncle or.
Speaker 1: Well you're in boy? This this is how you kind
Speaker 1: of know, Hey, what do you do when on the Saturday? Nothing?
Speaker 1: You should come by the house. I have a presentation
Speaker 1: I'd love to share with you. You're like.
Speaker 2: A lot of a lot of wedding stuff is like
Speaker 2: that when I when I first got engaged. Don't change
Speaker 2: your well honestly whatever, when you just know that when
Speaker 2: you change your stuff us on Facebook, the marketers will
Speaker 2: come for you and they will find you wherever you're hiding.
Speaker 2: So I started getting all these emails and one of
Speaker 2: them was like it almost got me because it was like,
Speaker 2: you've won a cand of like dinner for two at
Speaker 2: an exclusive resort in New York, and like I was, like,
Speaker 2: I even went so far as to call the number,
Speaker 2: but then I started googling it and it is. It's
Speaker 2: one of those things where they bring couples in for
Speaker 2: a nice, fancy dinner and then they try and sell
Speaker 2: you in all this cookware. And it's kind of like
Speaker 2: how when you go to an all inclusive resort and
Speaker 2: they're there trying to sell you on a timeshare or whatever.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I was, well, I don't know if that's
Speaker 2: quite an MLM, but it's definitely one of those like
Speaker 2: bait and switch things.
Speaker 1: Well, we can lift at all. I like to call
Speaker 1: that the gotcha gotcha.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the gotcha gotcha, bait and switch whatever.
Speaker 1: I'm always like, oh man, it's gotcha gotcha, you know.
Speaker 3: So just be mindful and then people, if you're in
Speaker 3: an MLM, I know some people are listening like, well,
Speaker 3: I sell insurance and mine is legit, and I, okay,
Speaker 3: I'm not here to say that yours is not. But
Speaker 3: what I am saying is this is what I don't
Speaker 3: like about not everyone, but some folks that sell MLM,
Speaker 3: so they'll try to tell you. So they'll say, hey, Tiffany,
Speaker 3: what would you do with the extra two thousand dollars
Speaker 3: a month?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 3: And I'm like, oh, you know, no, thanks, So you
Speaker 3: don't need an extra two thousand Oh you don't want
Speaker 3: extra money. I'm like, well, you know, I work for myself,
Speaker 3: so I'm pretty busy, you know, and I do pretty well.
Speaker 2: That's how those those things are. When people's blogs that
Speaker 2: you go, when you go on and you it wants
Speaker 2: you to sign up for the newsletter, and when you
Speaker 2: hit X, it says like, oh, so you're you're like
Speaker 2: saying I do not want to become the best version
Speaker 2: of myself. Like it's just can I just say no
Speaker 2: I do?
Speaker 1: That doesn't move me? Like, and so I had to
Speaker 1: tell one dude, had to shut him down.
Speaker 3: And I was like, honestly, like no, like it for
Speaker 3: the work involved, Like my company makes a good amount
Speaker 3: of money that I'm okay, I don't need.
Speaker 1: I had to like, I mean, do you need to
Speaker 1: send a screenshot?
Speaker 3: Like I'm good, dude, Like, I'm not saying two thousand
Speaker 3: dollars a month it's not good money.
Speaker 1: It is, but for the work involved. I could put
Speaker 1: that into.
Speaker 3: My own business and make ten times out a month,
Speaker 3: you know, And I was just like it was just
Speaker 3: so I don't like that aggressive selling that.
Speaker 1: How does that work? Like am I supposed to be? Like, Oh,
Speaker 1: thank you so much for trying to shame me into
Speaker 1: joining your business. You know what you got me, You
Speaker 1: got me, you won me over with your.
Speaker 2: I think it's the target is like people who aren't
Speaker 2: doing well financially and want and they sell it as
Speaker 2: like a quick way to make cash. You know, all
Speaker 2: you have to do is buy these one hundred blow
Speaker 2: dryers and then sell them for double and then you'll
Speaker 2: make ten thousand dollars. But you know, they don't mention
Speaker 2: that the blow dryer is a piece of drunk and
Speaker 2: not no one's ever going to buy it. And that's
Speaker 2: what happens.
Speaker 3: Like let's just say you do mary Kay, right, So
Speaker 3: every auntie I know of mine has done mary Kay.
Speaker 1: Some have done very well.
Speaker 3: So it's a certain kind of personality that's able to
Speaker 3: sell to other people because one, you have to go
Speaker 3: to their houses, you got to pick up, you got
Speaker 3: to deliver, you have to So even with mary Kay,
Speaker 3: although this is a great company with a great product.
Speaker 3: Just because you sign up doesn't mean people are going
Speaker 3: to buy from you. That you have to have a
Speaker 3: certain kind of personality that is willing to do the work,
Speaker 3: whether it's a MLM or your own business or whatever.
Speaker 3: And so that's what I'll just say that I'm just like,
Speaker 3: please stop trying to sell me and shame me into
Speaker 3: MLMs because one, I already have a business. Two, Like
Speaker 3: you know, I don't believe in most of them because
Speaker 3: most of them won't be around long, like unless you've
Speaker 3: been around for a number of years and you've proven
Speaker 3: to be successful. If someone approaches you with like an MLM,
Speaker 3: get the name, google it, type in reviews for Legal Shield,
Speaker 3: reviews for you know, whatever it is, ABC Travel, whatever's
Speaker 3: out now, Type in reviews for and see what people
Speaker 3: are saying, so that way you can get like a
Speaker 3: good idea of whether or not this.
Speaker 1: Is something you want to be a part of. There
Speaker 1: is no quick fix. Anyone that tries to sell you
Speaker 1: on oh my god.
Speaker 3: I made I'm making ten thousand dollars a month six
Speaker 3: months in the likelihood.
Speaker 1: Of that being you is so unlikely.
Speaker 3: So if they're not willing to tell you like, it's
Speaker 3: going to be a lot of work, but it's possible.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 3: Then you also know that's a scam, so yeah that
Speaker 3: you know to me MLMs to me.
Speaker 1: I just don't like it.
Speaker 3: They pray on people who are at their get your
Speaker 3: financial low points.
Speaker 2: Yeah's a good one.
Speaker 1: What about you? Are you boosting?
Speaker 2: I was gonna boost, but I was torn between a
Speaker 2: crockpot or a baby. Crock pots are babies. I think
Speaker 2: I might you both. Just a quick word on crockpots,
Speaker 2: Like crackpots are my it's fall and I love just
Speaker 2: a crockpot full of delicious like soup and like pulled
Speaker 2: pork I make and chili, and it saves me so
Speaker 2: much money. Like I made a crockpot full of my favorite,
Speaker 2: my famous well famous in my house white chili, like
Speaker 2: two weeks ago, and the I froze half and I
Speaker 2: ate the last half for work, and I'm like, I
Speaker 2: can eat leftovers every day during the week and like
Speaker 2: not get tired of them. But it's just I've saved
Speaker 2: so much money and like I'm not spending twenty dollars
Speaker 2: a day on food anymore. So that's just my word
Speaker 2: on crockpots. If you. I had one for a long
Speaker 2: time and I wasn't using it. It was just dusting
Speaker 2: up under the like all my baker's rack. And when
Speaker 2: I finally figured out how they work, like you really
Speaker 2: just put the stuff in there, and then you just
Speaker 2: turn it on low and then you like go to
Speaker 2: work and you come back and you have dinner. It's
Speaker 2: like one of those It's one of those quaint like
Speaker 2: homemaker appliances that I feel like a has a place
Speaker 2: in modern society, in modern household. So love to crock pots.
Speaker 2: If you have them, you know, you know the gospel
Speaker 2: of the crockpot. If you don't, you should get one. Now. Babies,
Speaker 2: What can I say about babies? So this was a
Speaker 2: very baby filled weekend. We visited fiance's really close friend
Speaker 2: and they have a four month old baby, and then
Speaker 2: his cousin just had a baby Thursday night or Thursday morning,
Speaker 2: a little girl. And I just feel like babies they
Speaker 2: have such a well they're you know, they're like babies.
Speaker 2: They don't really do a lot, but I just love
Speaker 2: the way that they change the people around them, you
Speaker 2: know what I mean, Like the mommies and daddies and
Speaker 2: I don't know, it's just been really cool to watch
Speaker 2: your friends become like these. I think that's what kind
Speaker 2: of forces you into adulthood. But they've just become like
Speaker 2: just parents and they're just like feeding the baby and
Speaker 2: just holding the baby be but still like watching football
Speaker 2: and still just like being themselves, but they just have
Speaker 2: this added element of like like peace and maturity. And
Speaker 2: I don't know, it's been really it's been cool to see,
Speaker 2: you know. I mean, these are the friends that you
Speaker 2: like get drunk with and party and like just act
Speaker 2: crazy with, and it's just really cool to see them
Speaker 2: become you know, mature parental units.
Speaker 1: When like I.
Speaker 3: Think we came to visit her like a week after
Speaker 3: and she was just sitting in the chair like looking
Speaker 3: off at the space, like because she was just like.
Speaker 1: I just sit here and wait for him to tell
Speaker 1: me I want your boob.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll probably be that kind of mom, just like crying, miserable,
Speaker 2: just like she was just so overwhelmed.
Speaker 3: And then I didn't realize, like so once we learned
Speaker 3: that my mom like text us all, she was like, nobody,
Speaker 3: go visit Carol for a little while, just because she
Speaker 3: was it was it wasn't just the I think that
Speaker 3: was what's overwhelming her. Not necessarily just the baby, but
Speaker 3: it was like the baby, the visitors, because you.
Speaker 2: Know this, visitors are the worst.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so my mom's like let her, let her be
Speaker 3: for a couple of weeks, like we all saw the
Speaker 3: baby at the hospital.
Speaker 1: Okay, I think we came to the house. Her husband
Speaker 1: mistakenly planned a barbecue, and she was just looking.
Speaker 2: Like, oh my god, what was he thinking?
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I know so you played god.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't murder him. I would like stab him with
Speaker 2: a spatula.
Speaker 3: Looking like I don't I'm not sure what happened. She
Speaker 3: was like, I don't know why we heard this bar
Speaker 3: I was like, don't cry, don't worry. Don't you worry,
Speaker 3: because we were all going to spend a week with her, like, okay,
Speaker 3: there's five of us, so Lisa's week, can we traces week?
Speaker 3: And she was like, honestly, I just need everybody to
Speaker 3: leave me alone, like I just need to get into
Speaker 3: my own rhythm. And so we did it, because you know,
Speaker 3: some people want a lot of help and some people
Speaker 3: are like it's too much, because she was like, because
Speaker 3: then you become like a guest. So now I have
Speaker 3: to look after you and the baby versus just me
Speaker 3: figuring out like what my rhythm is. But now what
Speaker 3: you know, he's now one and when I come over,
Speaker 3: she's like, girl, she's got it.
Speaker 1: Like everything is like clockwork, like click click, she heats
Speaker 1: it in his little stroller things.
Speaker 3: He's here, Like when I come to babysit or visit,
Speaker 3: you could tell, like I would say, after like month
Speaker 3: five or six, she had gotten a nice rhythm going
Speaker 3: and she kind of figured it out.
Speaker 1: And so everyone said that.
Speaker 3: I just think that, you know, as long as you
Speaker 3: articulate this is what I eat, and just.
Speaker 1: Really ask your family and friends to respect that that
Speaker 1: they will.
Speaker 2: Everyone's different, but everyone does not need a barbecue. Like
Speaker 2: no one needs a barbecue or if they have a baby.
Speaker 2: What I think people wonder what the right thing to do.
Speaker 2: Here's what I typically do with parents of a newborn baby.
Speaker 2: Like you go to their house with some huge tray
Speaker 2: of food that will last a while that they can
Speaker 2: either freeze or they can eat them, and you leave
Speaker 2: the tray and a present at the doorstep. You ring
Speaker 2: the doorbell, and you run, like just leave the food
Speaker 2: and run. We tried to do that last night, but
Speaker 2: they were actually up and about, so we went out
Speaker 2: and we went in and hung it and hung around.
Speaker 2: But then it was like Fiancee Booth started eating the
Speaker 2: food that we brought, and I was like, to go
Speaker 2: there eating breadsticks.
Speaker 3: But yeah, no, exactly food. So that's what we did
Speaker 3: to is like we came like doing it. We would
Speaker 3: like just sit here. So when barbecue, we stayed, like
Speaker 3: all of us stayed to the end. We do this anyway,
Speaker 3: but clean.
Speaker 1: The kitchen, wash all the dishes, like just made.
Speaker 3: Sure she didn't have to do anything as far as
Speaker 3: you know, cleaning up afterwards. Yeah yeah, but yeah, so
Speaker 3: I mean, who It's just I'm just glad that I am.
Speaker 1: My family still lives really close, Like the oldest is
Speaker 1: the only one that lives like in Chicago, but the
Speaker 1: rest of us live in Jersey.
Speaker 3: So depending on how I feel, you know, I might
Speaker 3: be like I want a lot of help, but I
Speaker 3: might not be. But Superman hasn't had a child, so
Speaker 3: but she's nine ten now, so I don't know how
Speaker 3: much he remembers.
Speaker 1: From those new Board days.
Speaker 3: But he's really good with the babies, like all the
Speaker 3: babies that are like next door neighbors and stuff, what
Speaker 3: they like love him.
Speaker 1: This one two year old that like literally.
Speaker 3: When she's playing in our little backyard will knock on
Speaker 3: the door and like and she called him twin, which
Speaker 3: is funny because he's a twin.
Speaker 2: So you know in the hood, she's the one that
Speaker 2: comes over and us for candy and popcorn and like
Speaker 2: popsicles and stuff.
Speaker 1: Like, No, no, that's Minnie. Minnie is like four or five. Mini.
Speaker 1: No hell, And I'm like, yes, Minnie. She just walks in. No,
Speaker 1: this one. She doesn't even speak. She's just knocking the door.
Speaker 1: You open it, you look down there she is. And
Speaker 1: she said, and I'm like, he's not home. He's like,
Speaker 1: and I'm like.
Speaker 3: Uh so she just will stand by the refrigerator look
Speaker 3: at me like, well he's not here, but I still
Speaker 3: need my my apple sauce, so handle it and just
Speaker 3: like give her a couple of apple sauce.
Speaker 1: She leaves it. Sometimes she'll come back like you forgot
Speaker 1: my spood.
Speaker 2: It starts to know your neighbors, but some nice to
Speaker 2: know them.
Speaker 1: Stop pety everybody. He's like, no, I loves that. So, yeah,
Speaker 1: we have an apple sauce. Dash just just for the
Speaker 1: baby next door.
Speaker 2: Oh, you guys are going to be great parents.
Speaker 1: Well he is. I'm like, I'm not sure.
Speaker 2: About fine, stop it, and you put a baby on
Speaker 2: your vision, you'll be fine. And plus supergirls and gonna
Speaker 2: be so cute as a little as a big sister,
Speaker 2: and she'll like take care push, she'll be kind of
Speaker 2: old enough the babysit. So you got a built in
Speaker 2: childcare taker. Co parenting.
Speaker 1: You're a co parent now, yes, yeah, for babies.
Speaker 2: But this is not a hint that I'm anywhere near
Speaker 2: close to having a baby, just you know, just saying
Speaker 2: other people's babies great. They tried to she left. She
Speaker 2: kind of like almost sort of forced me to hold
Speaker 2: the baby yesterday and I was like, but she's so new.
Speaker 2: It was a sturdy baby though. I like the sturdy ones.
Speaker 1: Like, don't you worry.
Speaker 2: I don't blame Oh they called me out. They called
Speaker 2: me out because, well, I blame the daddy because he
Speaker 2: posted a really unflattering photo of the newborn baby that
Speaker 2: made her look just ginormous, just like so many baby
Speaker 2: rolls and just huge. And I was like, oh, she's
Speaker 2: so big, she's so big and cute, and then they
Speaker 2: were like, well, their first some their first kid was
Speaker 2: a babe, a boy the exact same weight, they said,
Speaker 2: but everyone's reaction was, oh, he's so strong, he's so sturdy.
Speaker 2: Before the girl, everyone's like, she's so sad, she's so drunkie.
Speaker 2: And they're like, this is how it begins. And I
Speaker 2: was like, no, that was just an unflattering photo.
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm like, I love all the.
Speaker 1: Rules, and she was, you know what.
Speaker 2: And I kind of feel like, as a mother, if
Speaker 2: I were to give birth to a big baby, it's
Speaker 2: almost like, yeah, I got my money's worth, you know,
Speaker 2: like I carried that around and now it's out, Like
Speaker 2: my I had a friend who gained like eighty pounds
Speaker 2: and had like a six pound baby. What's it all? Four?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 1: Just because I was your life?
Speaker 2: Yes, as all.
Speaker 1: No, there's a just song jump jump your love. No,
Speaker 1: you wouldn't know. That's the pointer sisters. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I'm like so old. I remember the.
Speaker 2: Yeah you're really old. I don't know who that is. Sorry,
Speaker 2: I said, die are old? I don't know who that is?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I remember being really little. So I tweet me
Speaker 1: if you remember the point of job to who you love?
Speaker 2: Someone always does.
Speaker 1: Feel your touch. Job if you want to feel the
Speaker 1: kids as it like I mean, and now you're gonna
Speaker 1: make me YouTube them like job? You should? You should.
Speaker 1: They were like in Vogue and beyond saying Destiny's Child
Speaker 1: before all that.
Speaker 2: Mm hmmm, well, I hope that Dusty's trial will last long.
Speaker 2: Well people remember them.
Speaker 1: Oh, don't get cute. I know the millennials are trying
Speaker 1: to slay usen.
Speaker 2: Xers, and they don't even be that I'm younger. It
Speaker 2: just may be that I'm out of touch with reality.
Speaker 2: I didn't know who Joey and the Slayer was or
Speaker 2: what's what's the name the scammer, the scammer. Yeah, I
Speaker 2: don't know who she was.
Speaker 1: Millennial, you should be ashamed of yourself.
Speaker 2: I'm really lame. I can't wait to be old, so
Speaker 2: when I can match my interest in pop culture. Tips Yes,
Speaker 2: and as always, you can go to brand ambitionpodcast dot
Speaker 2: com with your questions personal finance or career related. I
Speaker 2: do apologize because there's a huge bunch of letters or
Speaker 2: notes that we got that I just mis skipped over
Speaker 2: when I was away in London. So I'm getting back
Speaker 2: into early October notes and we have some really good questions. Actually, okay,
Speaker 2: so let's start with someone who went so far as
Speaker 2: to do the the hooked hooked on phonics version of
Speaker 2: her name. So, thank you very much. Yeah REALI yeah Ralli.
Speaker 2: First thing she says is I'm a Latina Dominicana. Hello Olchica.
Speaker 2: So her question is this always you guys like to write.
Speaker 2: It's a long one, all right, So she says, I
Speaker 2: want you to know I love the podcast. Thank you.
Speaker 2: So she says, my question is I'm twenty five years
Speaker 2: old and I have a problem with trying to plan
Speaker 2: every detail of my life. I would like to relocate
Speaker 2: to Atlanta, Georgia Atlanta next summer and need tips on
Speaker 2: finding a job and how much I should how much
Speaker 2: I should save before I make the move. I currently
Speaker 2: live in Pennsylvania, I make around fifty thousand dollars and
Speaker 2: don't have any children. Long story short, I'll be moving
Speaker 2: with my boyfriend, who has family in Georgia, but we
Speaker 2: do not plan on living with them. I would like
Speaker 2: to plan on having four months of expenses saved up
Speaker 2: before I go, so I have time to find a job.
Speaker 2: But should I be applying to jobs now? How ston
Speaker 2: is too soon to apply to jobs. Also, even though
Speaker 2: I'm super excited to move to Atlanta, blah blah blah
Speaker 2: blah blah blah, I am nervous to leave my cushy
Speaker 2: city job. And in the end, she just wants to
Speaker 2: know how much money should she save before going out
Speaker 2: of state and when is the right time to look
Speaker 2: for a job before or after you move to a
Speaker 2: new city. It's a good.
Speaker 1: Question, I'd say before, right, yeah, if.
Speaker 2: You can before when I moved, I didn't. I moved
Speaker 2: to New York when I got a job in New York.
Speaker 2: So when I got that offer letter, it gave me
Speaker 2: the means to move bus because I didn't have any savings, Like,
Speaker 2: I didn't have any financial meeting. And I mean, it's nice.
Speaker 2: It either is really great, Like if you can find
Speaker 2: a job before, that's great, But if you're if you
Speaker 2: really want to move, and it's like you're going on
Speaker 2: months and you haven't found a job, and maybe you
Speaker 2: do need to be there in person to make connections
Speaker 2: and start networking with people in that area if you
Speaker 2: don't have any doesn't seem like she has any personal connections,
Speaker 2: but her her boyfriend does, so I'm like on the fence,
Speaker 2: but I would love to have had a few months
Speaker 2: in New York just living and like you know, exploring
Speaker 2: and getting to know people with cash in the bank.
Speaker 2: That's smart.
Speaker 3: But then then I would have probably six just just
Speaker 3: to be on the safe side. And I would also
Speaker 3: up sign up with Do they call them headhunters?
Speaker 1: Is that what it's.
Speaker 2: Called, h yeah, recruiters?
Speaker 1: So yeah, just just so you have like someone else
Speaker 1: looking for you.
Speaker 2: As well, and start telling everyone, tell you all your
Speaker 2: boyfriend's family. You know, they shouldn't be like you might
Speaker 2: have connections. You could form some connections there and they
Speaker 2: may know somebody who needs somebody or you know, has
Speaker 2: a way to a job. I think. I think sometimes
Speaker 2: it's so easy to just kind of like stand the
Speaker 2: internet when you're looking for a job, but don't discount
Speaker 2: the power of personal connections.
Speaker 1: That's way stronger.
Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure, But you know, it's kind of like
Speaker 2: a it's a balance. I don't know, it's I can
Speaker 2: understand while you're kind of on the fence, but either way,
Speaker 2: but I would say, just go ahead and at least
Speaker 2: make a date when you plan to move, because it
Speaker 2: takes planning to move too, and you have to get
Speaker 2: stuff in order, and you have to know when to
Speaker 2: cut off your bills and when to break your lease
Speaker 2: and stuff like that. So I would say, set a
Speaker 2: date and then start doing whatever you can to find
Speaker 2: a job. But if it doesn't work out, you know,
Speaker 2: take a little risk and go down there. You're young,
Speaker 2: twenty five, Yeah, but I.
Speaker 3: Agree, Like I like you saving money ahead time, And
Speaker 3: I never thought about it like that.
Speaker 1: That what you said maybe about moving and then getting
Speaker 1: just like a couple months just to be like, whoof that?
Speaker 3: You're not like, I move today. I start my job
Speaker 3: on Monday. Yeah, taking like some time to kind.
Speaker 1: Of export the city enjoy network.
Speaker 3: So there's something to be said for that. But I
Speaker 3: would probably have because I'm like an over point. I
Speaker 3: would like to have, like, you know, five or six
Speaker 3: months worth of savings and do a search on the
Speaker 3: kind of area that you'd like to live in.
Speaker 1: You know, have your boyfriend obviously help you with.
Speaker 3: This is where I'm thinking that we ought to live
Speaker 3: and get an idea of how much rent and utilities
Speaker 3: costs so you can create what I like, I always
Speaker 3: like to do a budget of what my future life
Speaker 3: is going to look like.
Speaker 1: So here's my current life.
Speaker 3: You know, this is how much I spend on utilities
Speaker 3: and hair and nails and everything else.
Speaker 1: And then I create a.
Speaker 3: Budget for my Atlanta life, so I know how much
Speaker 3: money because you might be spending more or less depending
Speaker 3: so you'll know, like, Okay, my Atlanta life actually costs
Speaker 3: me three hundred dollars less or three hundred dollars more
Speaker 3: than what my my up North life is costing me.
Speaker 3: Now you know how much you need to have saved
Speaker 3: if you want to have six months saved.
Speaker 1: So definitely do a pre budget by listing the.
Speaker 3: Things that you know, by going online and saying, well,
Speaker 3: what do apartments go for?
Speaker 1: What does that look like? If I split?
Speaker 3: I'm assuming you're not living with your boyfriend now because
Speaker 3: it seems like you're moving down there with him, so
Speaker 3: your life might be less expensive, you know.
Speaker 2: I think also it's important to understand, you know, Pennsylvania
Speaker 2: and Atlanta. She doesn't say which city in Pennsylvania, but
Speaker 2: say it's like a Philly or a Pittsburgh. The salary
Speaker 2: may be similar to what she's earning in Atlanta, but
Speaker 2: it could be less. It could be more like, you know,
Speaker 2: my New York salary. I wouldn't earn what I earned
Speaker 2: in New York if I was working as a journalist
Speaker 2: in Georgia because the cost of living is so much lower.
Speaker 2: So you have to have like a realistic expectation of
Speaker 2: what you can ask for in terms of salary, of
Speaker 2: what you should expect in terms of salary. And you
Speaker 2: can get a pretty good idea just by going to
Speaker 2: like a glassdoor dot com and putting in you know,
Speaker 2: your job and where you're moving, and it can give
Speaker 2: you an idea of what the median earnings are for
Speaker 2: your area. There's also a cool like cost of living calculator.
Speaker 2: I think it's CNN Money has one cost of living
Speaker 2: where you can put in your where you live now,
Speaker 2: in your earnings, and then it'll and where you're moving
Speaker 2: to and it'll show you, uh, basically what the equivalent
Speaker 2: is of your you know, New York salary or Pennsylvania salary,
Speaker 2: but in Georgia.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there was there's another one called it called Smarty Pig.
Speaker 2: No this Marty Pig.
Speaker 1: No, No, I don't think there was another one that
Speaker 1: I like that too.
Speaker 3: It was like you typed in kind of like where
Speaker 3: you're going to live and what you do for a living,
Speaker 3: and it kind of tells you how much you'd be
Speaker 3: making and spending. But I can't remember the name of
Speaker 3: the site.
Speaker 1: My bad.
Speaker 2: Next question, next this question, I'm not sure if she
Speaker 2: wants to say her name, just call her Tea. She says,
Speaker 2: thank you so much for the podcast. I've learned so
Speaker 2: much listening to you. I'm a thirty three year old
Speaker 2: brown woman with no children from Linden, New Jersey. For
Speaker 2: the last two years, I've been helping to take care
Speaker 2: of my nephew who has cancer while doing what I
Speaker 2: While doing that, I was neglecting my responsibilities. I have
Speaker 2: a good job. I work for the government. I got
Speaker 2: another job offer within the government in Virginia, so I
Speaker 2: left my family and friends behind to move to a
Speaker 2: state where I know no one all caps. So, now
Speaker 2: that I'm here and don't have to focus on anyone
Speaker 2: but myself, I want to get my finances in order.
Speaker 2: I want to start saving an emergency fund, but I
Speaker 2: can't because I'm living check to check. I'm thinking about
Speaker 2: filing Chapter seven bankruptcy. I'm not behind in my car note,
Speaker 2: but I was wondering if it's better to keep the
Speaker 2: car I have now, or let it go. I owe
Speaker 2: fourteen thousand, two hundred and forty two dollars and the
Speaker 2: interest rate is seven point two percent. I just looked
Speaker 2: at the paperwork for my car loan and I've already
Speaker 2: paid over nine thousand dollars in interest. I am making
Speaker 2: a light of this, but I'm so overwhelmed. Please help,
Speaker 2: I'm at the end of my rope. So well, that's
Speaker 2: uh comatic.
Speaker 1: Bankruptcy is the answer for her?
Speaker 2: For Tea what, I'm sorry you? What did you say?
Speaker 3: I said, I don't think bankruptcy is the answer for
Speaker 3: t because it's not like she's saying, I owe one
Speaker 3: hundred thousand dollars and I make twenty thousand dollars year.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's no talk of really debt except for the car.
Speaker 3: And to me, bankruptcy is so disruptive it's only worth
Speaker 3: it when you're in one of those like, honestly, I'm
Speaker 3: a teacher in a rural area. Oh, you know, two
Speaker 3: hundred thousand dollars because I was sticking in the hospital
Speaker 3: and I make twenty five thousand dollars a year. Where
Speaker 3: it's so ridiculous that you're like, girl, I there's just
Speaker 3: no way. But you're not in that position, you might
Speaker 3: want to consider it, like you might want to consider
Speaker 3: I think, what is it called surrendering your car? You
Speaker 3: can do that, you know, because I did this. Superman
Speaker 3: did it. So when I met Superman, his previous girlfriend
Speaker 3: co signed for him to get a truck. And the
Speaker 3: what he was paying a month was honestly rent. I
Speaker 3: think he was paying like upwards of seven or eight
Speaker 3: hundred dollars a month, something ridiculous. And then on top
Speaker 3: of that, you know, you have to pay full full
Speaker 3: car insurance. It was costing him like nearly a thousand
Speaker 3: dollars a month, if not one thousand dollars a month,
Speaker 3: and it was ridiculous. And I was like, and the
Speaker 3: reason and why he thought it was a good idea
Speaker 3: is because he where we lived, where he was working,
Speaker 3: where he lived, and they were he was living rent
Speaker 3: free because he was like on call, like like on call,
Speaker 3: and so he was like, well, instead of paying you know, rent,
Speaker 3: I'm buying a car and I'm getting this car.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, yeah, that doesn't make sense because what
Speaker 1: if they get rid of that position and you have
Speaker 1: to pay rent? What are you gonna do. You can't
Speaker 1: afford to do both.
Speaker 3: And so I had him basically sell the car back
Speaker 3: and he lost money, yes, but he had that nine
Speaker 3: hundred dollars free up and sure enough, six months later
Speaker 3: they eliminated that position and he had to start paying rent.
Speaker 3: So you know, so it was was it a loss
Speaker 3: of money, yes, but in the end, it was worth
Speaker 3: not having to pay that amount of money. And so
Speaker 3: what he did and said was with the money he
Speaker 3: had saved in the six months, he bought like a
Speaker 3: gently used, nice little car for thirty five hundred dollars
Speaker 3: cash and that's what he has now.
Speaker 2: So yeah, and she's got a seventeen percent interest rate.
Speaker 2: That's basically like putting paying for a car with a
Speaker 2: credit card, like with an interest rate that high.
Speaker 3: So you want to consider selling it all back and
Speaker 3: then saving.
Speaker 1: And I don't know. But the thing is, my worry
Speaker 1: is how are you going to get to work?
Speaker 2: M I mean, she doesn't say how good her credit is.
Speaker 2: I'm guessing it's not great, but you could try and refinance,
Speaker 2: you know, I'm assuming well, she says her lenders capital one.
Speaker 2: First of all, Capital one is becoming one of the
Speaker 2: if not one of, if not the largest issue or
Speaker 2: of subprime auto loans. Like they're they're not doing great
Speaker 2: stuff in the auto loan space, so you could try
Speaker 2: maybe getting a I'm gonna do a little plug because
Speaker 2: Magnified Money does have a student or not a student
Speaker 2: an auto loan refinancing page. If you go to magnify
Speaker 2: money dot com and look up our auto refinancing page,
Speaker 2: you can put in your information and then you can
Speaker 2: see what offers are out for you, and maybe you
Speaker 2: could qualify for a lower interest car note. But if
Speaker 2: you're if you're credit isn't bad are the advice typically is,
Speaker 2: you know, do what you can to improve your credits.
Speaker 2: You can get approved for you know, a lower rate loan,
Speaker 2: but if it's just your car, I don't think that's
Speaker 2: enough to warrant, Like Tiffany said, the disruption of bankruptcy,
Speaker 2: because that's that takes a long time to recover from.
Speaker 2: And also it you know, to be you know, and
Speaker 2: and you know, I have had family members who file
Speaker 2: bankruptcy and I've seen it work as a tool, you know,
Speaker 2: for financial health, but I've also seen them file multiple times. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and I think, you know, I don't know if I've
Speaker 2: mentioned this before, but people credit card companies actually direct
Speaker 2: market to people who have file bankruptcy because they know, hey,
Speaker 2: this person's already proven that they like credit and that
Speaker 2: they'll they'll spend and carry a balance, and so they
Speaker 2: market directly to them because they know that those habits
Speaker 2: and those the underlying behavior will benefit them and could
Speaker 2: hurt you. So if you file bankruptcy, you have to
Speaker 2: do a lot of work to change the habits that
Speaker 2: sort of got you there in the first place. Maybe
Speaker 2: go to the liverat or Challenge dot com or anywhere
Speaker 2: else bunch of EESA materials are sold and get out
Speaker 2: of that situation. But it's hard though. Women are tend
Speaker 2: to be the caretaker, you know, And like she said,
Speaker 2: while she was taking care of her nephew who was sick,
Speaker 2: which was very like, you know, great. I'm sure her
Speaker 2: sister or her brother you know, loved her for that,
Speaker 2: but she neglected her own sort of financial health at
Speaker 2: the same time and put herself at risk. And luckily
Speaker 2: she's only thirty three, so there's time to sort of
Speaker 2: dig herself out of there. But yeah, it's hard, like
Speaker 2: she said, when she's living check to check alrighty well, okay,
Speaker 2: thank you for your question, Tea. And if you guys
Speaker 2: have more questions, you can email us at or go
Speaker 2: right to Brent Ambition podcas Past dot com and it's
Speaker 2: super easy to submit a question there.
Speaker 1: Yes, Lord, so we have one more question.
Speaker 2: No, that was that you know, those are those are
Speaker 2: the three that I selected. I don't want to I'll
Speaker 2: save the rest for later. All right, So wins when all.
Speaker 1: I do is win, win, win, no matter what. I
Speaker 1: never know the rest of the song. So well, don't
Speaker 1: judge me because I'm flying, you know, I him so
Speaker 1: uh and I say that.
Speaker 2: I was then't sure where you're going with that.
Speaker 1: I was like, it's just coming to me. I'm just good.
Speaker 1: I'm just free, free flowing, you know, just just free flowing.
Speaker 2: So you go first with wins, just scats, sketch it scats.
Speaker 2: Here's what I will do for a win this week.
Speaker 2: I want to do a win for this is gonna say.
Speaker 2: I'm really sappy, well, especially after we just did a
Speaker 2: question where a woman took care of her nephew who
Speaker 2: was really sick. One of the things about living where
Speaker 2: I live now with my family, we live in Inwood
Speaker 2: which is a part of New York that is like
Speaker 2: historically very Latino, like a ton of Dominican family. But
Speaker 2: I want to do a win for familia community type situation,
Speaker 2: which is something I didn't really grow up around a lot,
Speaker 2: Like it wasn't like all my cousins and all my
Speaker 2: family were on the exact same block as me. But
Speaker 2: that's literally what it is like living with the family here.
Speaker 2: Like yesterday, we were, you know, I mentioned that fiance's
Speaker 2: cousin had a baby, and so we just walked down
Speaker 2: the block and we were going to take his dad
Speaker 2: to go see the baby and everyone, and then you know,
Speaker 2: the and his grandson was having a birthday party, and
Speaker 2: so the neighbors and like everyone was coming from the
Speaker 2: street and bringing like someone borrowed a boombox from somebody,
Speaker 2: someone borrowed a huge stereo system. Someone was bringing the beer,
Speaker 2: someone was bringing the food, and I it kind of
Speaker 2: I feel like living in New York. You know, I
Speaker 2: don't really have never really known my neighbors. Always lived
Speaker 2: in my you know, just go in and out of
Speaker 2: my apartment, my own business and not really part of
Speaker 2: the building or anything like that. But I kind of
Speaker 2: and I always like that. I always felt like, you know,
Speaker 2: I didn't like people in my business or you know
Speaker 2: a lot of my friends whose families are all in
Speaker 2: their business. I just kind of just always rub me
Speaker 2: the wrong way. Having people know what was happening in
Speaker 2: my life and being there for me. But I mean,
Speaker 2: living here it kind of makes me want to stay
Speaker 2: like close to family in a way. I mean, not
Speaker 2: like living with them, because that's a little much like
Speaker 2: that I'm kind of over. But I don't know, I
Speaker 2: want to raise like a family around other families and
Speaker 2: around like that community kind of setting. Like I guess
Speaker 2: you kind of have a taste of that where you
Speaker 2: live now, but I don't know. You help with childcare.
Speaker 2: Just you're able to support each other. It's nice that
Speaker 2: you know people when you're walking down the street. I
Speaker 2: don't think I'm saying anything like super revolutionary here, but
Speaker 2: for me, it's been like sort of a weird epiphany
Speaker 2: like of what I want from where we move eventually.
Speaker 2: So I just give a shout out to community and
Speaker 2: too familia.
Speaker 1: Oh but you're right, I think, you know. I think
Speaker 1: when you're younger, you're like I want to be as
Speaker 1: following from the family as possible.
Speaker 3: You're like, oh, I want to be close just because
Speaker 3: it's just nice to have people that can look after you,
Speaker 3: or like it's nice, like let's just say I'm doing.
Speaker 1: An interview in Superman is crowd up at work. He
Speaker 1: can call his sister, his brother, his cousin. Can you
Speaker 1: pick Supergirl up from school? You know?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Day care? Also, daycare is expensive, and having family
Speaker 2: nearby is going to save a lot of money.
Speaker 3: I'm telling you my sister, like they my sister just
Speaker 3: had the baby. Well I'm not just but she they
Speaker 3: moved in with her mother in law. She had a
Speaker 3: three family house. She has a three family house. She's
Speaker 3: upstairs there in the middle, his brother, her husband's brothers
Speaker 3: in the basement, and so like at first she was like, oh,
Speaker 3: you know, everyone kind of wants to have their own space.
Speaker 3: But now she's like, girl, I mean we would not
Speaker 3: be able to afford because she should. The mother in
Speaker 3: law is retired, so she watches the baby during the
Speaker 3: day and then we kind of take turns when when
Speaker 3: she can't, I'll watch, but I would and she's only
Speaker 3: twenty minutes away, so you know, being able to do
Speaker 3: that is only possible because we live.
Speaker 1: Close, you know. Yeah, yeah, so I have a win.
Speaker 3: It's kind of travel related, but it's definitely brown ambition.
Speaker 3: So there's this travel grook that I belong to onx
Speaker 3: B Facebook called no Madness.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's one woman in particular. Her name is Keina,
Speaker 1: and she has this movement called hashtag book that Ish.
Speaker 2: So everybody have it.
Speaker 1: So her thing is is like you know most of us,
Speaker 1: you know you him in Hall. Oh should I get it?
Speaker 1: I'm not sure?
Speaker 3: So Keina is she called herself push her key like
Speaker 3: you know, like she will push you like girl book
Speaker 3: that Ish, you know it just go travel. So she's
Speaker 3: like a mechanical engineer by trade.
Speaker 1: Brown woman.
Speaker 3: And so last year she went to Dubai around this time,
Speaker 3: good time. People are like, I want to go with
Speaker 3: you because she always seems like she's having a good
Speaker 3: time in her pictures. So a ton of people went.
Speaker 3: This year, they're calling it the Dubai Blackout. She what
Speaker 3: started off as an individual trip, then her friends joined,
Speaker 3: then her friends and friends went. Two hundred Brown people
Speaker 3: are currently in Dubai and they're calling it Dubai blackout.
Speaker 3: Hashtag Dubai Blackout two hundred they are collectively celebrating, well,
Speaker 3: they went on a safari thirty six cars deep.
Speaker 2: They're just like, yes, do they charter a jet?
Speaker 3: I No, No, that they didn't, which would have been awesome, right, No,
Speaker 3: because you know what it is, no madgaged folks who
Speaker 3: live all around the world.
Speaker 1: Nice.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, they kind of just made their way down there.
Speaker 3: But they even started a separate Facebook group for them
Speaker 3: to like talk about where they're hanging out. People are
Speaker 3: meeting family members that they haven't seen in years, like, wait,
Speaker 3: you're on this trip and like one woman wrote, like,
Speaker 3: oh my god, my cousin's on this trip. I haven't
Speaker 3: seen her in twenty years. What.
Speaker 1: Yes, it is just so beautiful to.
Speaker 3: See that, you know that more and more brown people
Speaker 3: are traveling, and that there are people out here like
Speaker 3: this who are making it easier because you know, people
Speaker 3: would think to this, oh I wouldn't even know what
Speaker 3: to do or where to go. But she has made
Speaker 3: the plans and all you have to just do is
Speaker 3: you buy in, so you know, you get your hotel,
Speaker 3: you get your flight. If you're not if you don't
Speaker 3: want to stay alone, they have a document like do
Speaker 3: you want a roommate and if you want to be
Speaker 3: a travel agent, yes, but like she's not getting paid
Speaker 3: anything for it. She's just doing it because she really
Speaker 3: wants to see Brown people travel more. She's amazing, honestly,
Speaker 3: Like Keena Williams, she's just like when you see her
Speaker 3: videos and stuff online, she just had her energy.
Speaker 1: It's amazing.
Speaker 3: She Actually they had a tragedy a year or so
Speaker 3: ago with No Madness and that bunch of folks went
Speaker 3: to Panama and they were like going up in the
Speaker 3: mountains and then the car that they were in actually
Speaker 3: went over a cliff and two members died, one of
Speaker 3: which was my friend Nekka, and Keena was in that
Speaker 3: car and.
Speaker 1: Since you know, she survived.
Speaker 3: So this has been her year yet where she's like
Speaker 3: she's just doing everything and wants to live for lack
Speaker 3: of the fullest in honor of the two No Madness
Speaker 3: members that passed and also in honor of her survival,
Speaker 3: and so she's just been She's just amazing, like you
Speaker 3: could just see from her smile. She's one of my
Speaker 3: favorite people to follow.
Speaker 2: I'd be nervous aboutsing the hashtag Dubai blackout though, what
Speaker 2: if like their police agent like this sounds kind of menacing.
Speaker 2: All the cyber warfare, you know, fear and stuff like, oh,
Speaker 2: someone's coming to hack us and.
Speaker 3: Whatever, you know, right, I mean, I don't know, but honestly,
Speaker 3: it's just been beautiful, like just to see them and
Speaker 3: just everybody working together. My friend Cabral is there and
Speaker 3: he's having like an amazing time.
Speaker 2: And Dubai I'd love to go to Dubai.
Speaker 1: Yeas me too.
Speaker 3: And you should just see that they had like this
Speaker 3: big dinner plan for them in the middle of the desert.
Speaker 3: It looked very sex to the City Times two hundred,
Speaker 3: like a family union of people.
Speaker 1: That you don't know.
Speaker 2: I'm going to India in December, which is kind of cool,
Speaker 2: my first time. I've never been before. I'm actually going
Speaker 2: for work because we have an office in this region
Speaker 2: called Gujarat, which is in the western part of India.
Speaker 2: But I'm excited. I have a week I'm going to
Speaker 2: do a little work, a little play. I was looking
Speaker 2: at the Google Maps at what's around there, and I'm
Speaker 2: not kidding when I tell you, like there's just green
Speaker 2: space on Google Maps, and I always like, like, oh,
Speaker 2: what's the green space? Is it a nice park. Is
Speaker 2: it a garden? Whatever? It is called wild ass sanctuary,
Speaker 2: like wild ass sanctuary, and I was looking at it
Speaker 2: and I'm like, what am I reading this right? Wild
Speaker 2: that's sanctuary? Like cracking up and I'm like wait, wait,
Speaker 2: think like a grown up, what could this mean? Is
Speaker 2: it donkeys? Sure enough? It is a sanctuary for asses
Speaker 2: like donkeys, like a huge than Like I looked at
Speaker 2: all the Google images. It's just something but donkeys everywhere.
Speaker 2: I'm like, it really exists, you can look it up.
Speaker 2: I'm so glad that we're saving these wild asses. You know,
Speaker 2: I didn't know they were endangered or you know, I
Speaker 2: guess there's wild horses but never. Oh it's funny. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm excited. I want to I want to see what
Speaker 2: there's to see and eat the food. And it's such
Speaker 2: a huge country though I can't help but feel like
Speaker 2: I'm just seeing a teeny tiny little part of it.
Speaker 3: But I mean, if you get a chance to see
Speaker 3: if after we're like even if you can spend a
Speaker 3: day in this place called gow.
Speaker 1: I didn't go because I didn't realize it existed.
Speaker 3: But when I went to India, I went for the
Speaker 3: Holy Festival where they throw all the beautiful powder and
Speaker 3: you were white and it's beautiful.
Speaker 1: So I went for like maybe like seven to ten
Speaker 1: days with no madness three years ago. It was an
Speaker 1: amazing trip.
Speaker 3: I also went to go see the what is that
Speaker 3: place called? Yeah, it was, honestly, you could. There's certain
Speaker 3: places in the world that you go and you can
Speaker 3: feel some sort of presence there, and that's what I
Speaker 3: found there was beautiful, especially knowing the story that it
Speaker 3: was built out of love and you can feel that
Speaker 3: there when you see it.
Speaker 1: So I did the taj Mahal. I think that was
Speaker 1: my first world wonder.
Speaker 3: And then yeah, so if you get a chance, but
Speaker 3: I will say this my last day there, be very
Speaker 3: careful about eating uh anything that's not cooked, so.
Speaker 2: Meaning oh god, yeah, for sure.
Speaker 3: I didn't realize it because I was like, I was
Speaker 3: doing so well. Then I didn't drink any water that
Speaker 3: wasn't bottled. And then I had a salad like the
Speaker 3: day before, and because you know, you're realizing people watch
Speaker 3: salad just like we do stream, I had a salad
Speaker 3: and the next day my stomach was like, WHOA, what's
Speaker 3: going on?
Speaker 1: Girl?
Speaker 3: I literally prayed to teenage Jesus, Baby, Jesus, grown man, Jesus.
Speaker 3: I prayed to Mary, Joseph everyone. I was on the plane,
Speaker 3: like please God.
Speaker 2: If you oh my God, you're on the plane.
Speaker 1: But luckily my stomach was just bubble. It was it.
Speaker 3: But I got home and could not leave my room,
Speaker 3: like luckily my bathroom was next for three fold day.
Speaker 3: I couldn't even I couldn't even go downstairs, like I
Speaker 3: had to ask, can you please bring me food? Because
Speaker 3: that's how close in proximity to the basom I need.
Speaker 1: Be I have ever in my life.
Speaker 3: So luckily it like you know, teenage baby and gromn
Speaker 3: Jesus allowed me to get to my place of residence
Speaker 3: before tearing my insides out.
Speaker 2: But it was lucky.
Speaker 1: Yes, it was an experience like none other. And yeah,
Speaker 1: so just no roof, no vegetable like you can have
Speaker 1: a cook.
Speaker 2: But oh yeah, yeah, I learned. I learned my lesson
Speaker 2: the hard way. In South America, I got the worst situe.
Speaker 2: The same thing happened to me, but I was in
Speaker 2: Brazil and it happened to me the day I was
Speaker 2: taking like a six hour bus ride back to Rio
Speaker 2: because I had gone on like this excursion to a
Speaker 2: little town, and yeah, I was going six hour bus
Speaker 2: ride to the airport and then the flight home and
Speaker 2: oh my god, luckily I like, I like got I
Speaker 2: don't want to get too graphic, but things were done.
Speaker 2: By the time I got to the plane and the
Speaker 2: whole way home, I was just ill. I just like
Speaker 2: slept the whole way. But oh, that's the worst I had.
Speaker 2: I had. What got me was I had soup. I
Speaker 2: should have known better. I mean, come on, like, come on,
Speaker 2: I had souper. It was really cold, it will look
Speaker 2: really tasty. I was bad.
Speaker 3: I lost like fifteen pounds in like three days. I
Speaker 3: was like, I just don't want to die here.
Speaker 2: Just take me to the wild that sanctuary.
Speaker 1: I want to die. It was wild, that's thanks story.
Speaker 1: But it was beautiful.
Speaker 3: India was beautiful, the colors, the I love going places
Speaker 3: where you are inundated with difference, meaning that I don't
Speaker 3: like it's much as much as I liked like Madrid
Speaker 3: and stuff like that, and like London was all right,
Speaker 3: but I felt like, oh, I could see this in
Speaker 3: the US, but India was so everything was different and
Speaker 3: I love that. I love, like, if I want to travel,
Speaker 3: I want to feel like unless I'm traveling in the US,
Speaker 3: I want to feel like like that I'm fully encompassed
Speaker 3: in this new experience from the food, it sounds and smells,
Speaker 3: and once you kind of get over the fact that
Speaker 3: you know, there's just going to be certain things that
Speaker 3: you're you're just not going to have the way it
Speaker 3: is here. So I've been to Nigeria several times, so
Speaker 3: it wasn't hard for me to be like, oh, oh,
Speaker 3: so you don't have a bathroom.
Speaker 1: In a traditional sense.
Speaker 3: Okay, Like it didn't bother me because I'd been to
Speaker 3: other places where.
Speaker 1: That was so.
Speaker 3: But but if you come with the oh my god,
Speaker 3: you mean I can't order this, Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Then yeah, and I know you're not.
Speaker 2: But I love me some Indian food. I can't wait.
Speaker 2: Well for the cooks, kind for the cooked food. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm looking forward to it. Hopefully my co I'll be
Speaker 2: with my coworkers, so hopefully they'll like, you know, take
Speaker 2: me out in the town. Although I'm pretty sure the
Speaker 2: area I'm going to is a dry town. But that's okay,
Speaker 2: it's fine. Yeah, I'm really excited, so that's kind of up.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, all right, miss thing Ambition wrapped up.
Speaker 3: I hope you will visit the Wild Ass Sanctuary should
Speaker 3: you ever go to India.
Speaker 2: It exists Gujarat. It's close to the Pakistan border. That's
Speaker 2: all I know. I'm exciting, all right, Well, how the
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