WEBVTT - Ep. 59 — Next Stop...Bankruptcy?

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<v Speaker 1>Can he I live a learn?

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<v Speaker 2>What was that?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I'm trying to think who's sing that?

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<v Speaker 1>Somebody tell me the songs and sing? Oh well.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, I think maybe you're singing Beyonce. I'm here, yes, okay, wow,

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<v Speaker 2>that's like the depth of my Beyonce knowledge because that

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<v Speaker 2>was a beautiful condition.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, well, you know I got the tone. You know.

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<v Speaker 2>I always when I think of Tiffany, I'm like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>that drunken sang.

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<v Speaker 1>I can. That's not think I can sang with the

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<v Speaker 1>agg you know sang you know, not everybody you know,

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<v Speaker 1>So it's an acquire tase. I'm not gonna lie. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not built for every one's years.

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<v Speaker 3>But for those who appreciate, you know that next level,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm there with them.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a mature sound, it is.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, there you go.

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<v Speaker 2>How was your week?

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<v Speaker 1>It was good.

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<v Speaker 3>So this morning I woke up and I was like

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<v Speaker 3>cleaning up and I found my vision board on behind

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<v Speaker 3>my dresser and.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, circa so dope about it. I

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<v Speaker 1>was so freaked out.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, man, look, first of all, why do

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<v Speaker 3>I have an engagement ring on my business board?

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<v Speaker 1>Spang? It happened?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, all right, come on, what else was on there?

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<v Speaker 1>There?

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<v Speaker 3>They're actually so every every time I make when I

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<v Speaker 3>have this dollar bill that I took off, but I

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<v Speaker 3>didn't take off, but I replaced the face of the

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<v Speaker 3>president with like my dollar sign B, and then I

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<v Speaker 3>put how much I want to make a year, So

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<v Speaker 3>I put how much I guess from two years ago

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<v Speaker 3>because I haven't done one in a while.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait, do you make multiple vision boards?

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<v Speaker 3>No, so it's one vision board, which but what I

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<v Speaker 3>do is every year I'm supposed to do in January

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<v Speaker 3>take down the stuff that hasn't happened, and or take

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<v Speaker 3>down the stuff that has happened, and then replace it

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<v Speaker 3>with new things that i'd like, and anything that has

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<v Speaker 3>not happened, I keep it up there.

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<v Speaker 1>And so it's just the same.

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<v Speaker 3>Board because I use this like really like I don't know,

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<v Speaker 3>it's not like a regular poster board. It's harder than that,

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<v Speaker 3>almost like a what is that cardboard? So it's like

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<v Speaker 3>stiff and so yeah, yeah, and so I was looking

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<v Speaker 3>like I had like on here like this this dollar

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<v Speaker 3>bill that I like augmented to say, this is what

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to make this year, and I surpassed that.

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<v Speaker 3>I also even have a check that says a very

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<v Speaker 3>happy client, and I put down the date and then

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<v Speaker 3>this is how much I want one client to pay me.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, wait a minute.

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<v Speaker 3>In January, I'm actually signing a contract for five thousand

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<v Speaker 3>dollars more than what the check is for.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, whoa hoo. I couldn't believe it.

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<v Speaker 3>And even I have like little things that says I'm

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<v Speaker 3>going to make sixty five hundred dollars per speaking engagement,

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<v Speaker 3>and I make more than that now.

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<v Speaker 1>So just the essenvest is on here, which I just did.

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<v Speaker 3>Ooh, and even well, I don't know if I can

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<v Speaker 3>talk about that. Yeah, I have some TV news coming up,

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<v Speaker 3>but I'm gonna wait until I finished sinning my li.

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<v Speaker 2>When did you make this vision board.

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<v Speaker 1>Two years ago?

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<v Speaker 3>Two mm hm about two years ago. So it was like, well,

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<v Speaker 3>actually you know what this is not even this is

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<v Speaker 3>two thousand for twenty fifteen, because I see twenty fifteen

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<v Speaker 3>travel goals or South Africa, which I have not made

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<v Speaker 3>it too yet, Savannah Georgia, which I have in Ireland,

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<v Speaker 3>which I have in Paris, which I just did like

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<v Speaker 3>a couple of weeks ago. So just seeing it is like,

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<v Speaker 3>oh my gosh, I would say more than half of

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<v Speaker 3>what I have on here has has has been accomplished,

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<v Speaker 3>not bam no wow.

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<v Speaker 2>I was never like a vision board girl. I did.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh yeah, No, I just kind of maybe because the

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<v Speaker 2>girls in college too, Like I think when I was

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<v Speaker 2>in college, it's when everyone seemed to start it, like

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<v Speaker 2>seemed to start talking about vision boards. And then I

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<v Speaker 2>went to a vision board party like with some girlfriends,

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<v Speaker 2>and I don't know, I just got like turned off

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<v Speaker 2>by the I don't know, it just felt like kind

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<v Speaker 2>of like well, there were a lot of like five

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<v Speaker 2>story houses and like huge diamond rings and a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of like celebrity men cut out. It was less like

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<v Speaker 2>about career type focusing stuff and more like relationship goals

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<v Speaker 2>and like material. But I do, I do make a

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<v Speaker 2>to do list every day, so it's like a daily

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<v Speaker 2>a daily vision board.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what, when people make vision boards, I always

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<v Speaker 3>say that you should make a vision board that's in

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<v Speaker 3>alignment with the way that you interact. So if you're

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<v Speaker 3>really visual, and it's all about pictures on your vision board,

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<v Speaker 3>but if you're really verbal, then on my vision board

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<v Speaker 3>has a lot of sticky notes with just stuff on it,

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<v Speaker 3>so I put it down the middle. I have a

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<v Speaker 3>piece of green tape down the middle. So one half

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<v Speaker 3>is career and professional goals and the other half was personal.

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<v Speaker 3>So like I have Serena Williams like with her body

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<v Speaker 3>looking bang and I'm like, that's my you know, that's

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<v Speaker 3>my body.

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<v Speaker 1>Vision goal board stuff. So I had both sides. So

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<v Speaker 1>I definitely have like, oh I have a ring.

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<v Speaker 3>I have this woman with locks like mind holding a

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<v Speaker 3>beautiful baby. So that's on my personal side. And then

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<v Speaker 3>I have like eating healthy on that side, travel on

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<v Speaker 3>that side, and then on the business side, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>the professional side, I have like all the stuff I

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<v Speaker 3>want to accomplished. I even have published my children's book

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<v Speaker 3>on here and I'm like, oh my god, and I

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<v Speaker 3>wrote I am a speaker at Essence Best. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>oh my god, that happened. So I think that for me,

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<v Speaker 3>I like for my vision board to be you know,

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<v Speaker 3>more inclusive of like all of my life, not just hey,

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<v Speaker 3>I want to get a ring, but hey, yes, I'd

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<v Speaker 3>like to get married to the man that I love.

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<v Speaker 3>But girl, I want to slay in this professional market

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<v Speaker 3>as well.

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<v Speaker 2>I wonder if men make vision boards.

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<v Speaker 1>Superman was so geeked up.

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<v Speaker 3>He pulled out like Supergirls, she always has poster boards

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<v Speaker 3>that they're ready, just because that's Supergirl.

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<v Speaker 1>And he was like, let's make me one.

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<v Speaker 3>So I told him go to Target meet him and Supergirl.

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<v Speaker 3>We're gonna make our vision board. Because he was so

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<v Speaker 3>geeked by, like how much and he was.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, babe, that happened and this happened.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I know that's funny. Well, fiance bou does

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<v Speaker 2>have a Pinterest board.

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<v Speaker 1>That's so that's good.

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<v Speaker 2>It's mostly just like fancy shoes and watches that he

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<v Speaker 2>expects me to buy him one day. And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>this is never happening. Five thousand dollars Omega watch. You're

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<v Speaker 2>out of your mind. This is called a not a

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<v Speaker 2>vision board, but like a like a illusion board.

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<v Speaker 1>It's illusional board.

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<v Speaker 2>It's illusional board.

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<v Speaker 3>No, But honestly, I just think that it doesn't have

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<v Speaker 3>to be like this. It could be they you just

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<v Speaker 3>write a list of things in a notebook. People like

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<v Speaker 3>to journal, but I do believe that expressing out loud

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<v Speaker 3>in a visual way, whether it's writing it in a

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<v Speaker 3>notebook or doing it to do with things that you'd

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<v Speaker 3>like to accomplish. I think that that's always a good idea,

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<v Speaker 3>whether it's like a fancy board or not.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well, I mean every financial every anyone who's getting

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<v Speaker 2>financial advice. The first question people ask is always what

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<v Speaker 2>are your goals? What do you want? And if you're

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<v Speaker 2>forced to kind of get clear about what you want,

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<v Speaker 2>it makes and then you can answer those questions and

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<v Speaker 2>then you kind of make every decision stemming from like

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<v Speaker 2>how will this help me accomplish my goals? And that

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<v Speaker 2>sort of the way. Yeah, that's kind of like the

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<v Speaker 2>fundamental way to get things done.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, for sure, should even easy.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe I'll be a convert. Maybe I'll do a vision board.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know what?

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<v Speaker 3>That would be kind of fun if we did like

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<v Speaker 3>like ba Like maybe we'd like our next meetup that

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<v Speaker 3>we do like vision board, like you know, maybe like

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<v Speaker 3>ten women because I told myself I was gonna do

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<v Speaker 3>it last year but I didn't. But just to get

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<v Speaker 3>my girlfriends together, because I made this one in the

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<v Speaker 3>park with like six or seven other women, Like I

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<v Speaker 3>think I posted, Hey, who wants to like hang out

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<v Speaker 3>chill out in the park, bring your blanket and something

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<v Speaker 3>to eat, And I brought like the scissors and the

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<v Speaker 3>glue and all these magazines and we had such a

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<v Speaker 3>good time. But it was like about the vision boarding,

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<v Speaker 3>but it was also about hanging out with like dope women,

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<v Speaker 3>So that was fun.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like it'ld be really it's like I'm such

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<v Speaker 2>a personal thing though.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I mean, it wasn't like randoms.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, most of the people who came because I

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<v Speaker 3>posted on my Facebook, but I knew like it was

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<v Speaker 3>in Newark because I'm like, you know, most of the

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<v Speaker 3>women who.

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<v Speaker 1>Came I was really cool with. So it was I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. I mean, I guess you don't.

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<v Speaker 3>Have to put all your most deep you know, deep

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<v Speaker 3>seated desires, but stuff like travel and stuff professional stuff

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<v Speaker 3>that you want to accomplish. And honestly, we didn't what

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<v Speaker 3>was not weird. But it wasn't like I was like, hey, girl,

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<v Speaker 3>what do you have over there? No one was really

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<v Speaker 3>looking at each other's boards. It was just having company

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<v Speaker 3>while you made it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah that's cool. M So do you have do you

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<v Speaker 2>have a ton of vision boards?

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<v Speaker 1>Like? No, honestly, I just and he superman. It was like,

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<v Speaker 1>so you take it down. I'm like, yeah, that's old stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>So I used the same raggedy board, and I just

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<v Speaker 3>take down the stuff that's happened, and I'm like moving on,

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<v Speaker 3>So I don't. I just it's the same board I've

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<v Speaker 3>had since I was like in my twenties, and I

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<v Speaker 3>just like because I used that like a card of

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<v Speaker 3>card stockboard.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just take down the pictures and the sticky

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<v Speaker 1>notes and put up new ones.

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<v Speaker 2>Neat M.

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<v Speaker 1>What about you? How was your week?

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<v Speaker 2>The week was good, it was long. It was a

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<v Speaker 2>long week at work. But I saw you on Wednesday.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if any of you guys caught, but

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<v Speaker 2>we were on the Grio's Facebook page for Facebook live

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<v Speaker 2>chat with Miss Tanya.

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<v Speaker 3>We should put that link on Brownibision podcast dot com.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it was pretty fun. Tip and I were late late.

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<v Speaker 2>I girl.

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<v Speaker 3>First of all, I was like, I don't know who's

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<v Speaker 3>worse like me? You because Tanya was late too, but

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<v Speaker 3>she was early late and or Degree.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, sor are we just not?

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<v Speaker 2>Like everyone was just like late? Like, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>But it was the most stressful because I was I

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<v Speaker 2>literally was only twenty blocks away and so I gave

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<v Speaker 2>myself half an hour to take a cab and I

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<v Speaker 2>was stuck in the worst trap. You were in the

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<v Speaker 2>same traffic. I don't know what was happening in Manhattan

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<v Speaker 2>at one thirty pm on Wednesday, but like the apocalypse

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<v Speaker 2>was happening anyway, But yeah, I got We both got

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<v Speaker 2>there like so frazzled, huffing and puffing, running, took cabs

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<v Speaker 2>and trains and then the Grio was like, oh, want

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<v Speaker 2>some water? Do you want to like chill? We have

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<v Speaker 2>like twenty more minutes. It's like, okay, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, I was I you don't understand. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>just like for rating myself because that's what I do.

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<v Speaker 1>What I'm like, look at you?

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<v Speaker 2>We go the one?

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<v Speaker 1>What do you do with your life? Tikany? This is

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<v Speaker 1>this is a professional setting.

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<v Speaker 2>How can you give people career advice when you can't

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<v Speaker 2>even show up on time?

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<v Speaker 1>It's so crazy because it's just like I was just

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<v Speaker 1>like beating.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like totally being like a mom to myself, like,

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<v Speaker 3>look at you, get your life together?

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<v Speaker 1>How can you expect people to take you seriously, you

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<v Speaker 1>can't even come along time.

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<v Speaker 3>They're just waiting on you. They probably start with after you, honestly,

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<v Speaker 3>and they don't want you come on. It's on you,

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<v Speaker 3>it's on you.

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<v Speaker 2>We're so mean to or so.

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<v Speaker 3>And then I get there. You guys are sitting chilling

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<v Speaker 3>in like the pre green room, like what's that girl?

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<v Speaker 2>I was not chilling. I was sweating my butt off.

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<v Speaker 2>I like, pat my face. I was because I ran

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<v Speaker 2>so hard from the train. I think there's that pressure too,

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<v Speaker 2>because there's a stereotype that you know, its color people time,

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<v Speaker 2>which you know is sort of racist but kind of

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<v Speaker 2>true in a lot of ways, and so you kind

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<v Speaker 2>of feel like, well, shit, you're just like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>prolonging the stereotype if you're not on time and you're

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<v Speaker 2>the one, and they're just gonna think in their head,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god, it's always that, you know, it's CPT

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<v Speaker 2>or whatever. And but anyway, I guess it helped that

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<v Speaker 2>we were going to the Grio.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah I did. I'm not gonna lie, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>I I went to I did one from We're Reclear

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<v Speaker 3>the next day, and I made sure I was a

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<v Speaker 3>half an hour early.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, howd that go?

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<v Speaker 1>It went really well. It was a lot of fun.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was just like a Tiffany, like you learned

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<v Speaker 1>your lesson.

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<v Speaker 3>So I took that the train before I think I

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<v Speaker 3>took like the one o'clock train to get them by two,

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<v Speaker 3>and this time I took the twelve thirty training.

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<v Speaker 1>Was like I will be sitting waiting.

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<v Speaker 2>I really like being early because generally I'm always really

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<v Speaker 2>nervous before I do live stuff. I mean, Facebook Live,

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<v Speaker 2>I wasn't as nervous about, but like if it's a

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<v Speaker 2>live news thing, then I have such bad nerves, Like

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<v Speaker 2>I usually have a stomach ache and I just need

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<v Speaker 2>like time to go to the actual setting and then

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<v Speaker 2>kind of relax in the setting wherever I am, but

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't been there before. So generally I like being

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<v Speaker 2>on time. If I get there late, I'm just in

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<v Speaker 2>a bad I'm just like more likely to be frazzled

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<v Speaker 2>and like sweaty because I'm like, I just hate being

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<v Speaker 2>I hate that feeling so much.

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<v Speaker 3>You too, honestly, even like for a plant, I get

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<v Speaker 3>on travel anxiety like, so I much rather be like

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<v Speaker 3>an hour early for a plane and sit with my

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<v Speaker 3>laptop or whatever than to, like, you know, some people

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<v Speaker 3>like to be like, oh I just got here, let

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<v Speaker 3>me just mosey on.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm always super early. I like to get snacks.

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<v Speaker 2>I like to use the restroom. I like to hydrate

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<v Speaker 2>very important things before flight. What else is happening in

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<v Speaker 2>the world, in the wonderful world. Did you go out

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<v Speaker 2>for Halloween last night?

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<v Speaker 1>No? Because wait, so wait, what's Halloween last night? No?

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<v Speaker 2>Halloween is Monday, but you know everyone parties on like

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<v Speaker 2>the weekend before.

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<v Speaker 1>No.

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<v Speaker 3>But I've been enjoying all the pictures of like all

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<v Speaker 3>the hailarises, of course everybody. If everybody's dressing up as

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<v Speaker 3>Joanna Scammer, I'm seeing.

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<v Speaker 1>In my Wait, who Joanne?

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<v Speaker 3>You've never heard of Joanne the Scammer. No, Andy, honestly,

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<v Speaker 3>I need you.

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<v Speaker 2>What is it?

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<v Speaker 1>Johanna Scammer is everything? Oh my god?

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<v Speaker 2>Wait the first thing that popped up in Google was

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<v Speaker 2>joy and the Scamber, as soon as the types in

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<v Speaker 2>j O.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so Joanna Scammer is really this guy named Brandon

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<v Speaker 3>or Brennan I think his name is and he.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, no Brandon. So if you.

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<v Speaker 3>Follow him on Instagram, it's I am Brandon B R

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<v Speaker 3>A N D E N. And he's a dude, and

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, he's just funny. So he started dressing

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<v Speaker 3>up as just like this worn down woman who wears

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<v Speaker 3>like this dirty fur and this like dusty wig and

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<v Speaker 3>he is hilarious.

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<v Speaker 1>He's a scammer.

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<v Speaker 3>So scamming is when you know, basically a thief, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>but like a thief in every way. Like, so he

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<v Speaker 3>might do credit card scams, he might do. This is

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<v Speaker 3>just awful fun. He's not doing that.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh it's The description says Joanne is a self professed

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<v Speaker 2>messy bitch who lives for drama. Usually wrapped in her

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<v Speaker 2>fur coat and wearing a blonder black leg, speaks in

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<v Speaker 2>a Caucasian accent, and brags about her antics, extorting credit cards,

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<v Speaker 2>embuzzling funds from unsuspecting men, and embarrassing her ex boyfriend's

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<v Speaker 2>new wife and bubble. Yeah, okay, it's just so she's

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<v Speaker 2>like living shade.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah exactly, she is living shade and she is just

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<v Speaker 3>so hilarious. Then you're just like, what is she talking about?

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<v Speaker 3>And you can not tell Joanne that she is not

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<v Speaker 3>black or Hispanic. Johanna is like, get out of my

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<v Speaker 3>Caucasian house.

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<v Speaker 2>She is this person. I saw someone dressed as blue

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<v Speaker 2>Ivy from the mema, so I thought that was funny.

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<v Speaker 3>So Joanne has like some some like she's got like

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<v Speaker 3>some well known things. She said, like honestly truly, like

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<v Speaker 3>she's just you have to just go to Brandon's page

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<v Speaker 3>and just soak in this gammerrific Joann and she's amazing,

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<v Speaker 3>And so people dressed up as her.

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<v Speaker 1>I saw somebody.

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<v Speaker 3>Dress up as Slash guns and Roses. I saw someone

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<v Speaker 3>dress up as Shanine.

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<v Speaker 2>Guns and roses. That's interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hmmm. Pirates just like a whole bunch of because

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<v Speaker 1>my friend who dressed the best Guns and Roses, he

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<v Speaker 1>has like a really full beard, so it was like perfect.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, if anyone needs a last minute costume, oh, it's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna be too late by the time this airs. But anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>my my Brittany, the reporter who works for me at

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<v Speaker 2>Magnified Money, she spent like thirteen dollars on some nice cardboard,

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<v Speaker 2>like yellow cardboard, and then some red stuff and anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>she made herself an emoji costume. Is really cute. She

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<v Speaker 2>just like cut out the yellow head and made like

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<v Speaker 2>the little heart eyes and then she tied some string

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<v Speaker 2>and so she had one on the back and on

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<v Speaker 2>the front. It was adorbs.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm looking at like Instagram now and somebody has like

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<v Speaker 3>this Trump costume.

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<v Speaker 1>So she's got a really low cut shirt, but she.

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<v Speaker 2>Kind of was like sexy Trump.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, no, but Trump is on her back with his

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<v Speaker 3>hands down her shirt. Oh god, dummy on her back then,

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<v Speaker 3>but with a Trump mask on and his hands.

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<v Speaker 1>Down in front of her shirt, and she's just looking

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<v Speaker 1>like no.

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<v Speaker 2>Facebook memories tells me I used to be cool and

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<v Speaker 2>go to Halloween parties like a lot of them in

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<v Speaker 2>New York and getting all like the reminders. Oh yeah

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<v Speaker 2>I was that. Oh yeah I went there. I threw

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<v Speaker 2>like the best Halloween party the year of Hurricane Sandy.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, I've been dormant these past two years. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I just stayed in. Last night, I watched the Sex

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<v Speaker 2>in the City movie. Do you know that's three hours long?

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<v Speaker 2>Really three hours It's a good movie, you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>Sex and the City too. I wish like I was

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<v Speaker 2>so mad when I left the theater. It was the

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<v Speaker 2>worst thing I've ever seen in my life. But the

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<v Speaker 2>first movie was actually really good.

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<v Speaker 3>It was really good. Sex and City two. I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>are you kidding me? What are you doing?

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<v Speaker 2>I was There's only a few movies I've left physically

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<v Speaker 2>angry for about and that was one of them. Like,

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<v Speaker 2>I just wanted my twelve dollars back. Yeah, but the

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<v Speaker 2>first movie with Jennifer Hudson, and it was just good.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it was the first one was really really good.

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<v Speaker 3>And you know, I try to watch like the series again,

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<v Speaker 3>like oh, but I'm like, I just don't care.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a well there's so many episodes, and yeah, it

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<v Speaker 2>is silly. I mean, it was very like early aughts,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, two thousands and stuff. I think it would

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<v Speaker 2>be totally done totally differently now. I mean honestly obviously

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<v Speaker 2>with you know, the new Sex and the City was girls,

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<v Speaker 2>but I didn't like that one either. But yeah, actually

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<v Speaker 2>I never watched Sex and the City. I watched the

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<v Speaker 2>movie first, really. Yeah. It was like two thousand and

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<v Speaker 2>eight when it came out, and I don't know, I

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<v Speaker 2>just I didn't had HBO, so when I was a teenager,

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<v Speaker 2>there was nothing to like. I couldn't like stream it anywhere,

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<v Speaker 2>so I didn't really know what it was. But I

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<v Speaker 2>liked the movie a lot. And then I went backwards

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, oh, in the movie, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>of course you know this this mister big guy, Like

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<v Speaker 2>I'll just go back and watch the show because it

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<v Speaker 2>must totally redeem him, like now I'll understand why she's

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<v Speaker 2>with him. But then I watched the show and at

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<v Speaker 2>the end, I was like, why did she pick him?

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<v Speaker 2>Aidan was clearly superior to mister Big in every way,

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<v Speaker 2>and how did she end up with him? And I

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<v Speaker 2>never I'm just yeah, I've never really gotten it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, like.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, at the time, it was like a movement.

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<v Speaker 3>So but when you look back, you're like, oh.

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<v Speaker 2>He's a dick, like he never did anything nice. Aiden

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<v Speaker 2>built furniture. He like was hot, you know, yeah, beautiful,

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<v Speaker 2>luscious locks of gold. He had a weird like southern

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<v Speaker 2>accent which was never explained. So cut just you know,

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<v Speaker 2>just it's like the brownie man like on the paper towel.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the guy.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you know he knocked on a wall for her.

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<v Speaker 2>Come on, I know that's sexy. But uh, Anyway, I

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<v Speaker 2>wonder if out there, I guess every woman in her

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<v Speaker 2>life has to choose between a beggar and Aiden.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah I know I did, Thank God, I chose aidenose,

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<v Speaker 3>I definitely chose Aden.

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<v Speaker 1>Where I was like, oh god, I almost chose mister Big.

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<v Speaker 1>Then I was like, girl, I'll get you all life together.

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<v Speaker 1>And I chose my aiden and we're getting married.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you guys talked to any more about your wedding plans?

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<v Speaker 1>No? And I like that. This is what I love

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<v Speaker 1>about Superman.

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<v Speaker 3>He and I are so similar and we're like we

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<v Speaker 3>were just this morning we were doing like a plan,

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<v Speaker 3>like a to do list for the house, the multi

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<v Speaker 3>family house we're planning on buying before the end of

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<v Speaker 3>the year hopefully.

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<v Speaker 1>If not early next year, and once that goes through,

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<v Speaker 1>then we're like, then we can just plan on what

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<v Speaker 1>that looks like.

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<v Speaker 3>As far as marriage, I suspect that we're going to

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<v Speaker 3>go to the Justice of the Peace and then plan

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<v Speaker 3>some sort of dinner or brunch or something for our families.

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<v Speaker 3>But other than that, like, I don't I'm not going

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<v Speaker 3>to give a wedding planning because I'm not.

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<v Speaker 1>Going to do a big already.

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<v Speaker 3>Well unless he really wants it, but from what we've

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<v Speaker 3>talked about, it doesn't seem like he cares that much.

0:20:13.359 --> 0:20:16.760
<v Speaker 3>I think he definitely wants to have something, but not

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<v Speaker 3>some big like overtop.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, whatever you do, you've just got to get

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<v Speaker 2>a nice photo, get to Netta Bell photographer to come

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<v Speaker 2>and document the day.

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<v Speaker 3>No, for sure that for sure will definitely because I

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<v Speaker 3>definitely want to see that. But as far as like,

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<v Speaker 3>oh what day, Honestly, he was the other day he

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<v Speaker 3>was like, you want to go to Justice of the

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<v Speaker 3>Piece next week? I was like, now we got to

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<v Speaker 3>get the house first, because I don't know how me

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<v Speaker 3>being because I have a foreclosure under my belt, and

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know how that that's being married is going

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<v Speaker 3>to affect your ability to buy because he's got a

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<v Speaker 3>really good credit, he doesn't have any.

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<v Speaker 1>Debt, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Well, this morning I spent half an hour, forty

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<v Speaker 2>five minutes on Pincrest looking at MOS centerpieces. So just

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<v Speaker 2>like you, guys, just like you, totally totally don't care.

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<v Speaker 2>But whatever, I might give away one hundred individual succulents

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<v Speaker 2>I's wedding favors, but whatever, it's no big deal. We

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<v Speaker 2>actually chose, we chose our first dance song. I will

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<v Speaker 2>not reveal it. It's not a big deal. But actually

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<v Speaker 2>I was pre writing my vowels because I'm a writer,

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<v Speaker 2>so I wrote all the time, but I was I

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<v Speaker 2>was just like practicing, like, man, what would my vows

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<v Speaker 2>be like? And I've been writing them in my head

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<v Speaker 2>in weird places like in the backs of cabs and stuff,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I'll just I start getting teary. I just

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<v Speaker 2>like writing them in my head. So I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>I gotta write these down because they're really good anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>So I started writing them. And then as soon as

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<v Speaker 2>I was writing these words that a song came on

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<v Speaker 2>Spotify that was exactly those words, and it's like the

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<v Speaker 2>perfect song. And I was like, wait a second, this

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<v Speaker 2>is this is the universe saying this must be your

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<v Speaker 2>first dance song, because not gonna lie. Our first dance

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<v Speaker 2>was going to be a Beyonce song. So I've changed

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<v Speaker 2>my mind since then. Nah, well it was a cover.

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<v Speaker 2>It was the it was gonna be the John Mayer

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<v Speaker 2>cover of Exo, which is actually really pretty, okay, really

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<v Speaker 2>pretty Beyonce. But anyway, sorry Beyonce, not gonna I mean, well,

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<v Speaker 2>they'll be Beyonce, just not Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>For sure, beyond she needs to be there.

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<v Speaker 2>Her presence shall be felt. It's gonna be a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of prints, a lot of Michael Jackson, a lot of Beyonce,

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<v Speaker 2>in a lot of like Marc Anthony and uh like

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<v Speaker 2>Romeo Santos for the Santos family.

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<v Speaker 1>I love Michael Jackson. Jackson party.

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<v Speaker 3>The best party I've ever been to ever was at

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<v Speaker 3>the Brooklyn Museum. It was like either the year of

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<v Speaker 3>the year or the year after Michael Jackson died, and

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<v Speaker 3>they had a Michael Jackson dance party and it was.

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<v Speaker 2>Und think I went to that. We were probably there, yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Everything, every song, and I just remember getting my life

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<v Speaker 3>being like it was like in like the parking lot

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<v Speaker 3>and it probably was like easily five six hundred people

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<v Speaker 3>and I was just like getting my life, like yes,

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<v Speaker 3>that needed to happen again.

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<v Speaker 2>We were there, who knew?

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<v Speaker 1>This is pretty pre Ba before we knew each other.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to think of what else happened in the

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<v Speaker 2>news this week. It was a quiet week in news, however,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean the election is next week. My dad texted

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<v Speaker 2>me he early voted in Georgia. I was super proud

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<v Speaker 2>of him. I'm ready for it to be over.

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<v Speaker 1>I am.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like everyone like there's election fatigue every like October,

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<v Speaker 2>it sets in. But I'm tired. I'm sure for it

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<v Speaker 2>would be a president and ready to stop seeing you

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<v Speaker 2>know who on the you know what's but that you

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<v Speaker 2>must go out to vote. Do you have to vote?

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<v Speaker 2>You have to your vote counts.

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<v Speaker 3>Who would have vote for but we will tell you

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<v Speaker 3>you must must, must vote, let your presence be known.

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<v Speaker 2>That's their advice. You're well anything else, I'm should we

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<v Speaker 2>move on to to boost and breaking Breaker Boost break

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<v Speaker 2>break Boost Boost? Do you want to go first? You

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<v Speaker 2>want me go first?

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<v Speaker 1>Sure, I will go first.

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<v Speaker 3>I am going to take a break from m l ms.

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<v Speaker 3>So for those of you the uninitiated, And MLM is

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<v Speaker 3>a multi level marketing company, So I won't say in

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<v Speaker 3>all MLMs because some of them are not bad. Like,

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<v Speaker 3>for example, mary Kay is an MLM. So you know

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<v Speaker 3>something as an MLM because not only do you sell

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<v Speaker 3>the product, but do you have the opportunity to get

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<v Speaker 3>people that you know to.

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<v Speaker 1>Sell the product under you.

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<v Speaker 3>So it's like, hey, I sell mary Kay, but then

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<v Speaker 3>I also try to get my sisters, my aunts and

0:24:43.680 --> 0:24:46.040
<v Speaker 3>my cousins whatever they sell Mary Kay, And when they sell,

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<v Speaker 3>I benefit from what they sell, and the person that

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<v Speaker 3>brought me on benefits from what they sell as well

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<v Speaker 3>as from what I sell. So it's like a movement

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<v Speaker 3>on a you know. Yeah, And so like I said,

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<v Speaker 3>not all MLMs are terrible. Mary Kay is actually I

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<v Speaker 3>think it's one of the top rated companies for women,

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<v Speaker 3>like the in the nation. So there's that, and there's

0:25:06.920 --> 0:25:09.520
<v Speaker 3>another one that actually I didn't mind, but some of

0:25:09.560 --> 0:25:16.639
<v Speaker 3>them are, for lack of a better word, scams. Here's

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<v Speaker 3>how you know if your MLM is a scam if

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<v Speaker 3>the product itself is crappy. Because if the push is

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<v Speaker 3>not for you to sell this great product, it's instead

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<v Speaker 3>for you to sign people up, you know you're in

0:25:28.080 --> 0:25:30.840
<v Speaker 3>a scam MLM and it's probably not going to last long.

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<v Speaker 3>Back in the day, I remember my sister signed up

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<v Speaker 3>for one called Cutco Knives and my dad was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>like she had to, Like, I guess you put in

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<v Speaker 3>like five hundred or six hundred bucks. You get these knives,

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<v Speaker 3>and then you try to get your family and friends

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<v Speaker 3>to buy these expensive knives and then to sell them themselves.

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<v Speaker 3>And that was the first time I was introduced to MLMs.

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<v Speaker 3>And of course those knives are no longer here because

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<v Speaker 3>if you don't have a good product, this MLM will

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<v Speaker 3>no longer be here. And the people that benefit most

0:25:57.000 --> 0:25:59.359
<v Speaker 3>are those who come in when they first start. So

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<v Speaker 3>if I'm the person who starts the MLM, I signed

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<v Speaker 3>you up, you signed your friend up, your friends signed

0:26:04.520 --> 0:26:07.080
<v Speaker 3>your friend up, So all of those people selling kind

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<v Speaker 3>of like they will upsell to me basically. But if

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<v Speaker 3>you come in in the middle or the end, by

0:26:15.200 --> 0:26:17.880
<v Speaker 3>that time, you know, the market may have been flooded

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<v Speaker 3>by ABC Travel for example. That was one that that's

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<v Speaker 3>not just no longer around where you know, why would

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<v Speaker 3>I be booking my travel through you when orbits is

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<v Speaker 3>online and I could get cash back on ep it

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<v Speaker 3>group Like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Doesn't make sense. So I do want people to be

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<v Speaker 1>more mindful.

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<v Speaker 2>Where do they usually Where do you usually get like

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<v Speaker 2>solicited by an MLM? Is it like your uncle or.

0:26:42.440 --> 0:26:44.040
<v Speaker 1>Well you're in boy? This this is how you kind

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<v Speaker 1>of know, Hey, what do you do when on the Saturday? Nothing?

0:26:47.000 --> 0:26:48.600
<v Speaker 1>You should come by the house. I have a presentation

0:26:48.640 --> 0:26:49.920
<v Speaker 1>I'd love to share with you. You're like.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of a lot of wedding stuff is like

0:26:53.480 --> 0:26:57.040
<v Speaker 2>that when I when I first got engaged. Don't change

0:26:57.040 --> 0:26:59.320
<v Speaker 2>your well honestly whatever, when you just know that when

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<v Speaker 2>you change your stuff us on Facebook, the marketers will

0:27:02.480 --> 0:27:06.040
<v Speaker 2>come for you and they will find you wherever you're hiding.

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<v Speaker 2>So I started getting all these emails and one of

0:27:09.480 --> 0:27:12.320
<v Speaker 2>them was like it almost got me because it was like,

0:27:12.880 --> 0:27:15.600
<v Speaker 2>you've won a cand of like dinner for two at

0:27:15.600 --> 0:27:18.520
<v Speaker 2>an exclusive resort in New York, and like I was, like,

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<v Speaker 2>I even went so far as to call the number,

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<v Speaker 2>but then I started googling it and it is. It's

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<v Speaker 2>one of those things where they bring couples in for

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<v Speaker 2>a nice, fancy dinner and then they try and sell

0:27:26.680 --> 0:27:29.439
<v Speaker 2>you in all this cookware. And it's kind of like

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<v Speaker 2>how when you go to an all inclusive resort and

0:27:32.359 --> 0:27:35.719
<v Speaker 2>they're there trying to sell you on a timeshare or whatever.

0:27:36.560 --> 0:27:37.880
<v Speaker 2>But yeah, I was, well, I don't know if that's

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<v Speaker 2>quite an MLM, but it's definitely one of those like

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<v Speaker 2>bait and switch things.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, we can lift at all. I like to call

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<v Speaker 1>that the gotcha gotcha.

0:27:44.000 --> 0:27:46.280
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the gotcha gotcha, bait and switch whatever.

0:27:46.280 --> 0:27:49.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm always like, oh man, it's gotcha gotcha, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>So just be mindful and then people, if you're in

0:27:51.840 --> 0:27:53.840
<v Speaker 3>an MLM, I know some people are listening like, well,

0:27:54.000 --> 0:27:57.320
<v Speaker 3>I sell insurance and mine is legit, and I, okay,

0:27:57.400 --> 0:27:59.119
<v Speaker 3>I'm not here to say that yours is not. But

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<v Speaker 3>what I am saying is this is what I don't

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<v Speaker 3>like about not everyone, but some folks that sell MLM,

0:28:04.640 --> 0:28:06.680
<v Speaker 3>so they'll try to tell you. So they'll say, hey, Tiffany,

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<v Speaker 3>what would you do with the extra two thousand dollars

0:28:09.359 --> 0:28:09.720
<v Speaker 3>a month?

0:28:09.800 --> 0:28:09.960
<v Speaker 1>You know?

0:28:10.000 --> 0:28:11.960
<v Speaker 3>And I'm like, oh, you know, no, thanks, So you

0:28:12.000 --> 0:28:13.479
<v Speaker 3>don't need an extra two thousand Oh you don't want

0:28:13.480 --> 0:28:15.320
<v Speaker 3>extra money. I'm like, well, you know, I work for myself,

0:28:15.359 --> 0:28:17.960
<v Speaker 3>so I'm pretty busy, you know, and I do pretty well.

0:28:18.280 --> 0:28:21.159
<v Speaker 2>That's how those those things are. When people's blogs that

0:28:21.200 --> 0:28:23.160
<v Speaker 2>you go, when you go on and you it wants

0:28:23.160 --> 0:28:24.560
<v Speaker 2>you to sign up for the newsletter, and when you

0:28:24.600 --> 0:28:28.040
<v Speaker 2>hit X, it says like, oh, so you're you're like

0:28:28.119 --> 0:28:30.680
<v Speaker 2>saying I do not want to become the best version

0:28:30.680 --> 0:28:33.920
<v Speaker 2>of myself. Like it's just can I just say no

0:28:34.680 --> 0:28:34.960
<v Speaker 2>I do?

0:28:35.119 --> 0:28:36.680
<v Speaker 1>That doesn't move me? Like, and so I had to

0:28:36.680 --> 0:28:37.960
<v Speaker 1>tell one dude, had to shut him down.

0:28:38.000 --> 0:28:42.440
<v Speaker 3>And I was like, honestly, like no, like it for

0:28:42.520 --> 0:28:45.400
<v Speaker 3>the work involved, Like my company makes a good amount

0:28:45.400 --> 0:28:47.000
<v Speaker 3>of money that I'm okay, I don't need.

0:28:47.000 --> 0:28:48.400
<v Speaker 1>I had to like, I mean, do you need to

0:28:48.440 --> 0:28:49.160
<v Speaker 1>send a screenshot?

0:28:49.240 --> 0:28:51.800
<v Speaker 3>Like I'm good, dude, Like, I'm not saying two thousand

0:28:51.840 --> 0:28:53.040
<v Speaker 3>dollars a month it's not good money.

0:28:53.080 --> 0:28:55.000
<v Speaker 1>It is, but for the work involved. I could put

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<v Speaker 1>that into.

0:28:55.320 --> 0:28:58.200
<v Speaker 3>My own business and make ten times out a month,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, And I was just like it was just

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<v Speaker 3>so I don't like that aggressive selling that.

0:29:03.200 --> 0:29:05.400
<v Speaker 1>How does that work? Like am I supposed to be? Like, Oh,

0:29:05.400 --> 0:29:07.480
<v Speaker 1>thank you so much for trying to shame me into

0:29:07.720 --> 0:29:09.760
<v Speaker 1>joining your business. You know what you got me, You

0:29:09.960 --> 0:29:12.920
<v Speaker 1>got me, you won me over with your.

0:29:12.920 --> 0:29:15.320
<v Speaker 2>I think it's the target is like people who aren't

0:29:15.320 --> 0:29:18.360
<v Speaker 2>doing well financially and want and they sell it as

0:29:18.400 --> 0:29:20.880
<v Speaker 2>like a quick way to make cash. You know, all

0:29:20.880 --> 0:29:23.200
<v Speaker 2>you have to do is buy these one hundred blow

0:29:23.280 --> 0:29:25.960
<v Speaker 2>dryers and then sell them for double and then you'll

0:29:25.960 --> 0:29:28.440
<v Speaker 2>make ten thousand dollars. But you know, they don't mention

0:29:28.520 --> 0:29:30.320
<v Speaker 2>that the blow dryer is a piece of drunk and

0:29:30.400 --> 0:29:32.160
<v Speaker 2>not no one's ever going to buy it. And that's

0:29:32.160 --> 0:29:32.880
<v Speaker 2>what happens.

0:29:33.240 --> 0:29:35.400
<v Speaker 3>Like let's just say you do mary Kay, right, So

0:29:35.480 --> 0:29:37.320
<v Speaker 3>every auntie I know of mine has done mary Kay.

0:29:37.400 --> 0:29:38.520
<v Speaker 1>Some have done very well.

0:29:38.800 --> 0:29:41.840
<v Speaker 3>So it's a certain kind of personality that's able to

0:29:41.880 --> 0:29:43.480
<v Speaker 3>sell to other people because one, you have to go

0:29:43.480 --> 0:29:45.000
<v Speaker 3>to their houses, you got to pick up, you got

0:29:45.000 --> 0:29:48.360
<v Speaker 3>to deliver, you have to So even with mary Kay,

0:29:48.680 --> 0:29:51.080
<v Speaker 3>although this is a great company with a great product.

0:29:51.720 --> 0:29:53.760
<v Speaker 3>Just because you sign up doesn't mean people are going

0:29:53.800 --> 0:29:55.800
<v Speaker 3>to buy from you. That you have to have a

0:29:55.840 --> 0:29:58.960
<v Speaker 3>certain kind of personality that is willing to do the work,

0:29:59.200 --> 0:30:02.440
<v Speaker 3>whether it's a MLM or your own business or whatever.

0:30:02.800 --> 0:30:05.240
<v Speaker 3>And so that's what I'll just say that I'm just like,

0:30:05.480 --> 0:30:08.520
<v Speaker 3>please stop trying to sell me and shame me into

0:30:08.600 --> 0:30:13.000
<v Speaker 3>MLMs because one, I already have a business. Two, Like

0:30:13.040 --> 0:30:14.520
<v Speaker 3>you know, I don't believe in most of them because

0:30:14.520 --> 0:30:16.480
<v Speaker 3>most of them won't be around long, like unless you've

0:30:16.520 --> 0:30:18.800
<v Speaker 3>been around for a number of years and you've proven

0:30:18.800 --> 0:30:21.680
<v Speaker 3>to be successful. If someone approaches you with like an MLM,

0:30:21.760 --> 0:30:25.440
<v Speaker 3>get the name, google it, type in reviews for Legal Shield,

0:30:25.680 --> 0:30:29.640
<v Speaker 3>reviews for you know, whatever it is, ABC Travel, whatever's

0:30:29.640 --> 0:30:32.000
<v Speaker 3>out now, Type in reviews for and see what people

0:30:32.000 --> 0:30:33.880
<v Speaker 3>are saying, so that way you can get like a

0:30:33.960 --> 0:30:35.840
<v Speaker 3>good idea of whether or not this.

0:30:35.760 --> 0:30:37.080
<v Speaker 1>Is something you want to be a part of. There

0:30:37.160 --> 0:30:39.520
<v Speaker 1>is no quick fix. Anyone that tries to sell you

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<v Speaker 1>on oh my god.

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<v Speaker 3>I made I'm making ten thousand dollars a month six

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<v Speaker 3>months in the likelihood.

0:30:45.920 --> 0:30:47.960
<v Speaker 1>Of that being you is so unlikely.

0:30:48.520 --> 0:30:50.640
<v Speaker 3>So if they're not willing to tell you like, it's

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<v Speaker 3>going to be a lot of work, but it's possible.

0:30:52.640 --> 0:30:52.840
<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>Then you also know that's a scam, so yeah that

0:30:55.560 --> 0:30:56.920
<v Speaker 3>you know to me MLMs to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I just don't like it.

0:30:57.800 --> 0:31:00.400
<v Speaker 3>They pray on people who are at their get your

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<v Speaker 3>financial low points.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah's a good one.

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<v Speaker 1>What about you? Are you boosting?

0:31:05.880 --> 0:31:07.800
<v Speaker 2>I was gonna boost, but I was torn between a

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<v Speaker 2>crockpot or a baby. Crock pots are babies. I think

0:31:12.200 --> 0:31:14.600
<v Speaker 2>I might you both. Just a quick word on crockpots,

0:31:15.080 --> 0:31:19.239
<v Speaker 2>Like crackpots are my it's fall and I love just

0:31:19.280 --> 0:31:23.680
<v Speaker 2>a crockpot full of delicious like soup and like pulled

0:31:23.800 --> 0:31:26.200
<v Speaker 2>pork I make and chili, and it saves me so

0:31:26.280 --> 0:31:29.320
<v Speaker 2>much money. Like I made a crockpot full of my favorite,

0:31:29.400 --> 0:31:32.800
<v Speaker 2>my famous well famous in my house white chili, like

0:31:32.800 --> 0:31:34.720
<v Speaker 2>two weeks ago, and the I froze half and I

0:31:34.920 --> 0:31:37.200
<v Speaker 2>ate the last half for work, and I'm like, I

0:31:37.200 --> 0:31:39.680
<v Speaker 2>can eat leftovers every day during the week and like

0:31:39.760 --> 0:31:42.160
<v Speaker 2>not get tired of them. But it's just I've saved

0:31:42.200 --> 0:31:44.480
<v Speaker 2>so much money and like I'm not spending twenty dollars

0:31:44.520 --> 0:31:47.680
<v Speaker 2>a day on food anymore. So that's just my word

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<v Speaker 2>on crockpots. If you. I had one for a long

0:31:49.760 --> 0:31:52.440
<v Speaker 2>time and I wasn't using it. It was just dusting

0:31:52.520 --> 0:31:54.520
<v Speaker 2>up under the like all my baker's rack. And when

0:31:54.520 --> 0:31:57.920
<v Speaker 2>I finally figured out how they work, like you really

0:31:57.960 --> 0:31:59.640
<v Speaker 2>just put the stuff in there, and then you just

0:31:59.640 --> 0:32:01.080
<v Speaker 2>turn it on low and then you like go to

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<v Speaker 2>work and you come back and you have dinner. It's

0:32:04.000 --> 0:32:06.200
<v Speaker 2>like one of those It's one of those quaint like

0:32:06.320 --> 0:32:10.440
<v Speaker 2>homemaker appliances that I feel like a has a place

0:32:10.440 --> 0:32:14.320
<v Speaker 2>in modern society, in modern household. So love to crock pots.

0:32:14.720 --> 0:32:17.080
<v Speaker 2>If you have them, you know, you know the gospel

0:32:17.120 --> 0:32:20.400
<v Speaker 2>of the crockpot. If you don't, you should get one. Now. Babies,

0:32:21.800 --> 0:32:23.760
<v Speaker 2>What can I say about babies? So this was a

0:32:23.880 --> 0:32:29.120
<v Speaker 2>very baby filled weekend. We visited fiance's really close friend

0:32:29.160 --> 0:32:30.960
<v Speaker 2>and they have a four month old baby, and then

0:32:30.960 --> 0:32:34.800
<v Speaker 2>his cousin just had a baby Thursday night or Thursday morning,

0:32:34.840 --> 0:32:38.000
<v Speaker 2>a little girl. And I just feel like babies they

0:32:38.000 --> 0:32:40.320
<v Speaker 2>have such a well they're you know, they're like babies.

0:32:40.320 --> 0:32:42.520
<v Speaker 2>They don't really do a lot, but I just love

0:32:42.520 --> 0:32:45.240
<v Speaker 2>the way that they change the people around them, you

0:32:45.320 --> 0:32:47.360
<v Speaker 2>know what I mean, Like the mommies and daddies and

0:32:47.360 --> 0:32:49.479
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, it's just been really cool to watch

0:32:50.080 --> 0:32:53.520
<v Speaker 2>your friends become like these. I think that's what kind

0:32:53.520 --> 0:32:55.880
<v Speaker 2>of forces you into adulthood. But they've just become like

0:32:56.520 --> 0:32:59.240
<v Speaker 2>just parents and they're just like feeding the baby and

0:32:59.280 --> 0:33:01.640
<v Speaker 2>just holding the baby be but still like watching football

0:33:01.720 --> 0:33:03.720
<v Speaker 2>and still just like being themselves, but they just have

0:33:03.800 --> 0:33:08.320
<v Speaker 2>this added element of like like peace and maturity. And

0:33:08.400 --> 0:33:10.680
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, it's been really it's been cool to see,

0:33:11.360 --> 0:33:13.200
<v Speaker 2>you know. I mean, these are the friends that you

0:33:13.280 --> 0:33:16.760
<v Speaker 2>like get drunk with and party and like just act

0:33:16.840 --> 0:33:18.880
<v Speaker 2>crazy with, and it's just really cool to see them

0:33:18.920 --> 0:33:22.560
<v Speaker 2>become you know, mature parental units.

0:33:24.120 --> 0:33:25.480
<v Speaker 1>When like I.

0:33:25.440 --> 0:33:27.280
<v Speaker 3>Think we came to visit her like a week after

0:33:27.400 --> 0:33:28.960
<v Speaker 3>and she was just sitting in the chair like looking

0:33:28.960 --> 0:33:31.960
<v Speaker 3>off at the space, like because she was just like.

0:33:32.160 --> 0:33:33.800
<v Speaker 1>I just sit here and wait for him to tell

0:33:33.840 --> 0:33:34.600
<v Speaker 1>me I want your boob.

0:33:36.360 --> 0:33:39.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'll probably be that kind of mom, just like crying, miserable,

0:33:40.600 --> 0:33:42.320
<v Speaker 2>just like she was just so overwhelmed.

0:33:42.320 --> 0:33:44.680
<v Speaker 3>And then I didn't realize, like so once we learned

0:33:44.720 --> 0:33:47.480
<v Speaker 3>that my mom like text us all, she was like, nobody,

0:33:47.520 --> 0:33:50.680
<v Speaker 3>go visit Carol for a little while, just because she

0:33:51.040 --> 0:33:54.000
<v Speaker 3>was it was it wasn't just the I think that

0:33:54.040 --> 0:33:56.520
<v Speaker 3>was what's overwhelming her. Not necessarily just the baby, but

0:33:56.560 --> 0:33:58.320
<v Speaker 3>it was like the baby, the visitors, because you.

0:33:58.360 --> 0:34:00.000
<v Speaker 2>Know this, visitors are the worst.

0:34:00.520 --> 0:34:02.800
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so my mom's like let her, let her be

0:34:02.960 --> 0:34:04.400
<v Speaker 3>for a couple of weeks, like we all saw the

0:34:04.400 --> 0:34:05.240
<v Speaker 3>baby at the hospital.

0:34:05.280 --> 0:34:07.920
<v Speaker 1>Okay, I think we came to the house. Her husband

0:34:08.000 --> 0:34:11.239
<v Speaker 1>mistakenly planned a barbecue, and she was just looking.

0:34:11.000 --> 0:34:13.760
<v Speaker 2>Like, oh my god, what was he thinking?

0:34:14.640 --> 0:34:22.080
<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, I know so you played god.

0:34:22.160 --> 0:34:25.399
<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't murder him. I would like stab him with

0:34:25.440 --> 0:34:26.560
<v Speaker 2>a spatula.

0:34:26.560 --> 0:34:32.400
<v Speaker 3>Looking like I don't I'm not sure what happened. She

0:34:32.520 --> 0:34:33.920
<v Speaker 3>was like, I don't know why we heard this bar

0:34:34.080 --> 0:34:36.080
<v Speaker 3>I was like, don't cry, don't worry. Don't you worry,

0:34:37.040 --> 0:34:39.560
<v Speaker 3>because we were all going to spend a week with her, like, okay,

0:34:39.800 --> 0:34:42.799
<v Speaker 3>there's five of us, so Lisa's week, can we traces week?

0:34:42.840 --> 0:34:45.480
<v Speaker 3>And she was like, honestly, I just need everybody to

0:34:45.560 --> 0:34:47.520
<v Speaker 3>leave me alone, like I just need to get into

0:34:47.520 --> 0:34:49.600
<v Speaker 3>my own rhythm. And so we did it, because you know,

0:34:49.680 --> 0:34:51.200
<v Speaker 3>some people want a lot of help and some people

0:34:51.239 --> 0:34:54.120
<v Speaker 3>are like it's too much, because she was like, because

0:34:54.120 --> 0:34:55.440
<v Speaker 3>then you become like a guest. So now I have

0:34:55.480 --> 0:34:57.360
<v Speaker 3>to look after you and the baby versus just me

0:34:58.080 --> 0:35:00.799
<v Speaker 3>figuring out like what my rhythm is. But now what

0:35:01.040 --> 0:35:02.960
<v Speaker 3>you know, he's now one and when I come over,

0:35:03.120 --> 0:35:04.160
<v Speaker 3>she's like, girl, she's got it.

0:35:04.200 --> 0:35:07.200
<v Speaker 1>Like everything is like clockwork, like click click, she heats

0:35:07.200 --> 0:35:08.279
<v Speaker 1>it in his little stroller things.

0:35:08.280 --> 0:35:10.959
<v Speaker 3>He's here, Like when I come to babysit or visit,

0:35:11.560 --> 0:35:13.399
<v Speaker 3>you could tell, like I would say, after like month

0:35:13.520 --> 0:35:15.879
<v Speaker 3>five or six, she had gotten a nice rhythm going

0:35:15.920 --> 0:35:17.520
<v Speaker 3>and she kind of figured it out.

0:35:17.719 --> 0:35:18.600
<v Speaker 1>And so everyone said that.

0:35:18.680 --> 0:35:20.960
<v Speaker 3>I just think that, you know, as long as you

0:35:21.040 --> 0:35:23.719
<v Speaker 3>articulate this is what I eat, and just.

0:35:23.719 --> 0:35:25.680
<v Speaker 1>Really ask your family and friends to respect that that

0:35:25.760 --> 0:35:26.200
<v Speaker 1>they will.

0:35:26.480 --> 0:35:29.239
<v Speaker 2>Everyone's different, but everyone does not need a barbecue. Like

0:35:29.320 --> 0:35:31.240
<v Speaker 2>no one needs a barbecue or if they have a baby.

0:35:31.320 --> 0:35:35.480
<v Speaker 2>What I think people wonder what the right thing to do.

0:35:35.880 --> 0:35:39.160
<v Speaker 2>Here's what I typically do with parents of a newborn baby.

0:35:39.200 --> 0:35:43.760
<v Speaker 2>Like you go to their house with some huge tray

0:35:43.840 --> 0:35:45.759
<v Speaker 2>of food that will last a while that they can

0:35:45.800 --> 0:35:48.399
<v Speaker 2>either freeze or they can eat them, and you leave

0:35:48.440 --> 0:35:50.600
<v Speaker 2>the tray and a present at the doorstep. You ring

0:35:50.640 --> 0:35:53.399
<v Speaker 2>the doorbell, and you run, like just leave the food

0:35:53.440 --> 0:35:54.960
<v Speaker 2>and run. We tried to do that last night, but

0:35:55.000 --> 0:35:56.680
<v Speaker 2>they were actually up and about, so we went out

0:35:56.719 --> 0:35:58.520
<v Speaker 2>and we went in and hung it and hung around.

0:35:58.520 --> 0:36:01.600
<v Speaker 2>But then it was like Fiancee Booth started eating the

0:36:01.600 --> 0:36:05.080
<v Speaker 2>food that we brought, and I was like, to go

0:36:05.760 --> 0:36:07.480
<v Speaker 2>there eating breadsticks.

0:36:07.120 --> 0:36:09.000
<v Speaker 3>But yeah, no, exactly food. So that's what we did

0:36:09.040 --> 0:36:10.960
<v Speaker 3>to is like we came like doing it. We would

0:36:11.000 --> 0:36:13.239
<v Speaker 3>like just sit here. So when barbecue, we stayed, like

0:36:13.239 --> 0:36:15.120
<v Speaker 3>all of us stayed to the end. We do this anyway,

0:36:15.160 --> 0:36:16.000
<v Speaker 3>but clean.

0:36:15.840 --> 0:36:19.080
<v Speaker 1>The kitchen, wash all the dishes, like just made.

0:36:18.960 --> 0:36:21.520
<v Speaker 3>Sure she didn't have to do anything as far as

0:36:21.960 --> 0:36:25.920
<v Speaker 3>you know, cleaning up afterwards. Yeah yeah, but yeah, so

0:36:26.160 --> 0:36:31.360
<v Speaker 3>I mean, who It's just I'm just glad that I am.

0:36:31.680 --> 0:36:34.239
<v Speaker 1>My family still lives really close, Like the oldest is

0:36:34.280 --> 0:36:37.719
<v Speaker 1>the only one that lives like in Chicago, but the

0:36:37.719 --> 0:36:38.760
<v Speaker 1>rest of us live in Jersey.

0:36:38.920 --> 0:36:41.359
<v Speaker 3>So depending on how I feel, you know, I might

0:36:41.400 --> 0:36:42.640
<v Speaker 3>be like I want a lot of help, but I

0:36:42.719 --> 0:36:46.279
<v Speaker 3>might not be. But Superman hasn't had a child, so

0:36:46.480 --> 0:36:48.640
<v Speaker 3>but she's nine ten now, so I don't know how

0:36:48.719 --> 0:36:49.760
<v Speaker 3>much he remembers.

0:36:49.400 --> 0:36:50.279
<v Speaker 1>From those new Board days.

0:36:50.280 --> 0:36:52.960
<v Speaker 3>But he's really good with the babies, like all the

0:36:52.960 --> 0:36:55.120
<v Speaker 3>babies that are like next door neighbors and stuff, what

0:36:55.360 --> 0:36:56.120
<v Speaker 3>they like love him.

0:36:56.120 --> 0:36:57.879
<v Speaker 1>This one two year old that like literally.

0:36:57.520 --> 0:36:59.520
<v Speaker 3>When she's playing in our little backyard will knock on

0:36:59.560 --> 0:37:03.640
<v Speaker 3>the door and like and she called him twin, which

0:37:03.719 --> 0:37:04.919
<v Speaker 3>is funny because he's a twin.

0:37:05.040 --> 0:37:07.200
<v Speaker 2>So you know in the hood, she's the one that

0:37:07.280 --> 0:37:09.200
<v Speaker 2>comes over and us for candy and popcorn and like

0:37:09.239 --> 0:37:10.520
<v Speaker 2>popsicles and stuff.

0:37:10.280 --> 0:37:12.719
<v Speaker 1>Like, No, no, that's Minnie. Minnie is like four or five. Mini.

0:37:15.520 --> 0:37:18.440
<v Speaker 1>No hell, And I'm like, yes, Minnie. She just walks in. No,

0:37:18.560 --> 0:37:20.400
<v Speaker 1>this one. She doesn't even speak. She's just knocking the door.

0:37:20.440 --> 0:37:21.799
<v Speaker 1>You open it, you look down there she is. And

0:37:21.840 --> 0:37:25.359
<v Speaker 1>she said, and I'm like, he's not home. He's like,

0:37:25.880 --> 0:37:26.399
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like.

0:37:26.400 --> 0:37:28.719
<v Speaker 3>Uh so she just will stand by the refrigerator look

0:37:28.719 --> 0:37:30.560
<v Speaker 3>at me like, well he's not here, but I still

0:37:30.560 --> 0:37:34.839
<v Speaker 3>need my my apple sauce, so handle it and just

0:37:34.880 --> 0:37:36.040
<v Speaker 3>like give her a couple of apple sauce.

0:37:36.480 --> 0:37:38.600
<v Speaker 1>She leaves it. Sometimes she'll come back like you forgot

0:37:38.600 --> 0:37:39.040
<v Speaker 1>my spood.

0:37:41.080 --> 0:37:43.440
<v Speaker 2>It starts to know your neighbors, but some nice to

0:37:43.480 --> 0:37:43.799
<v Speaker 2>know them.

0:37:44.680 --> 0:37:49.560
<v Speaker 1>Stop pety everybody. He's like, no, I loves that. So, yeah,

0:37:49.600 --> 0:37:51.400
<v Speaker 1>we have an apple sauce. Dash just just for the

0:37:51.440 --> 0:37:52.160
<v Speaker 1>baby next door.

0:37:52.400 --> 0:37:54.400
<v Speaker 2>Oh, you guys are going to be great parents.

0:37:54.680 --> 0:37:56.440
<v Speaker 1>Well he is. I'm like, I'm not sure.

0:37:56.320 --> 0:37:59.520
<v Speaker 2>About fine, stop it, and you put a baby on

0:37:59.560 --> 0:38:03.560
<v Speaker 2>your vision, you'll be fine. And plus supergirls and gonna

0:38:03.560 --> 0:38:06.240
<v Speaker 2>be so cute as a little as a big sister,

0:38:06.440 --> 0:38:08.080
<v Speaker 2>and she'll like take care push, she'll be kind of

0:38:08.120 --> 0:38:09.880
<v Speaker 2>old enough the babysit. So you got a built in

0:38:09.960 --> 0:38:15.000
<v Speaker 2>childcare taker. Co parenting.

0:38:16.680 --> 0:38:19.720
<v Speaker 1>You're a co parent now, yes, yeah, for babies.

0:38:20.480 --> 0:38:22.319
<v Speaker 2>But this is not a hint that I'm anywhere near

0:38:22.360 --> 0:38:24.200
<v Speaker 2>close to having a baby, just you know, just saying

0:38:24.280 --> 0:38:28.759
<v Speaker 2>other people's babies great. They tried to she left. She

0:38:28.840 --> 0:38:31.560
<v Speaker 2>kind of like almost sort of forced me to hold

0:38:31.560 --> 0:38:33.840
<v Speaker 2>the baby yesterday and I was like, but she's so new.

0:38:34.360 --> 0:38:36.840
<v Speaker 2>It was a sturdy baby though. I like the sturdy ones.

0:38:37.280 --> 0:38:39.160
<v Speaker 1>Like, don't you worry.

0:38:39.200 --> 0:38:41.479
<v Speaker 2>I don't blame Oh they called me out. They called

0:38:41.480 --> 0:38:44.520
<v Speaker 2>me out because, well, I blame the daddy because he

0:38:44.560 --> 0:38:47.520
<v Speaker 2>posted a really unflattering photo of the newborn baby that

0:38:47.600 --> 0:38:51.000
<v Speaker 2>made her look just ginormous, just like so many baby

0:38:51.080 --> 0:38:54.399
<v Speaker 2>rolls and just huge. And I was like, oh, she's

0:38:54.440 --> 0:38:57.040
<v Speaker 2>so big, she's so big and cute, and then they

0:38:57.040 --> 0:38:59.080
<v Speaker 2>were like, well, their first some their first kid was

0:38:59.080 --> 0:39:01.880
<v Speaker 2>a babe, a boy the exact same weight, they said,

0:39:02.160 --> 0:39:05.880
<v Speaker 2>but everyone's reaction was, oh, he's so strong, he's so sturdy.

0:39:06.960 --> 0:39:09.480
<v Speaker 2>Before the girl, everyone's like, she's so sad, she's so drunkie.

0:39:09.800 --> 0:39:12.799
<v Speaker 2>And they're like, this is how it begins. And I

0:39:12.840 --> 0:39:15.280
<v Speaker 2>was like, no, that was just an unflattering photo.

0:39:15.440 --> 0:39:17.920
<v Speaker 3>Okay, I'm like, I love all the.

0:39:17.920 --> 0:39:19.719
<v Speaker 1>Rules, and she was, you know what.

0:39:19.760 --> 0:39:22.160
<v Speaker 2>And I kind of feel like, as a mother, if

0:39:22.200 --> 0:39:23.719
<v Speaker 2>I were to give birth to a big baby, it's

0:39:23.719 --> 0:39:25.600
<v Speaker 2>almost like, yeah, I got my money's worth, you know,

0:39:25.640 --> 0:39:27.600
<v Speaker 2>like I carried that around and now it's out, Like

0:39:27.920 --> 0:39:31.040
<v Speaker 2>my I had a friend who gained like eighty pounds

0:39:31.040 --> 0:39:33.959
<v Speaker 2>and had like a six pound baby. What's it all? Four?

0:39:34.560 --> 0:39:34.759
<v Speaker 2>You know?

0:39:35.680 --> 0:39:49.560
<v Speaker 1>Just because I was your life?

0:39:50.600 --> 0:39:52.560
<v Speaker 2>Yes, as all.

0:39:53.640 --> 0:39:56.640
<v Speaker 1>No, there's a just song jump jump your love. No,

0:39:56.719 --> 0:39:58.520
<v Speaker 1>you wouldn't know. That's the pointer sisters. Oh my god,

0:39:58.560 --> 0:39:59.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm like so old. I remember the.

0:40:00.520 --> 0:40:06.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah you're really old. I don't know who that is. Sorry,

0:40:06.680 --> 0:40:08.600
<v Speaker 2>I said, die are old? I don't know who that is?

0:40:09.120 --> 0:40:12.799
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I remember being really little. So I tweet me

0:40:12.840 --> 0:40:15.959
<v Speaker 1>if you remember the point of job to who you love?

0:40:16.320 --> 0:40:17.560
<v Speaker 2>Someone always does.

0:40:18.080 --> 0:40:21.640
<v Speaker 1>Feel your touch. Job if you want to feel the

0:40:21.800 --> 0:40:24.040
<v Speaker 1>kids as it like I mean, and now you're gonna

0:40:24.040 --> 0:40:26.680
<v Speaker 1>make me YouTube them like job? You should? You should.

0:40:26.880 --> 0:40:29.399
<v Speaker 1>They were like in Vogue and beyond saying Destiny's Child

0:40:29.440 --> 0:40:29.920
<v Speaker 1>before all that.

0:40:31.440 --> 0:40:34.120
<v Speaker 2>Mm hmmm, well, I hope that Dusty's trial will last long.

0:40:34.280 --> 0:40:36.240
<v Speaker 2>Well people remember them.

0:40:36.600 --> 0:40:43.200
<v Speaker 1>Oh, don't get cute. I know the millennials are trying

0:40:43.239 --> 0:40:44.040
<v Speaker 1>to slay usen.

0:40:44.000 --> 0:40:46.319
<v Speaker 2>Xers, and they don't even be that I'm younger. It

0:40:46.400 --> 0:40:48.080
<v Speaker 2>just may be that I'm out of touch with reality.

0:40:48.080 --> 0:40:49.680
<v Speaker 2>I didn't know who Joey and the Slayer was or

0:40:49.719 --> 0:40:52.480
<v Speaker 2>what's what's the name the scammer, the scammer. Yeah, I

0:40:52.480 --> 0:40:53.520
<v Speaker 2>don't know who she was.

0:40:53.920 --> 0:40:55.520
<v Speaker 1>Millennial, you should be ashamed of yourself.

0:40:56.880 --> 0:40:58.799
<v Speaker 2>I'm really lame. I can't wait to be old, so

0:40:58.840 --> 0:41:05.200
<v Speaker 2>when I can match my interest in pop culture. Tips Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>and as always, you can go to brand ambitionpodcast dot

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<v Speaker 2>com with your questions personal finance or career related. I

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<v Speaker 2>do apologize because there's a huge bunch of letters or

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<v Speaker 2>notes that we got that I just mis skipped over

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<v Speaker 2>when I was away in London. So I'm getting back

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<v Speaker 2>into early October notes and we have some really good questions. Actually, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so let's start with someone who went so far as

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<v Speaker 2>to do the the hooked hooked on phonics version of

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<v Speaker 2>her name. So, thank you very much. Yeah REALI yeah Ralli.

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<v Speaker 2>First thing she says is I'm a Latina Dominicana. Hello Olchica.

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<v Speaker 2>So her question is this always you guys like to write.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a long one, all right, So she says, I

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<v Speaker 2>want you to know I love the podcast. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>So she says, my question is I'm twenty five years

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<v Speaker 2>old and I have a problem with trying to plan

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<v Speaker 2>every detail of my life. I would like to relocate

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<v Speaker 2>to Atlanta, Georgia Atlanta next summer and need tips on

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<v Speaker 2>finding a job and how much I should how much

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<v Speaker 2>I should save before I make the move. I currently

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<v Speaker 2>live in Pennsylvania, I make around fifty thousand dollars and

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<v Speaker 2>don't have any children. Long story short, I'll be moving

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<v Speaker 2>with my boyfriend, who has family in Georgia, but we

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<v Speaker 2>do not plan on living with them. I would like

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<v Speaker 2>to plan on having four months of expenses saved up

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<v Speaker 2>before I go, so I have time to find a job.

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<v Speaker 2>But should I be applying to jobs now? How ston

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<v Speaker 2>is too soon to apply to jobs. Also, even though

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<v Speaker 2>I'm super excited to move to Atlanta, blah blah blah

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<v Speaker 2>blah blah blah, I am nervous to leave my cushy

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<v Speaker 2>city job. And in the end, she just wants to

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<v Speaker 2>know how much money should she save before going out

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<v Speaker 2>of state and when is the right time to look

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<v Speaker 2>for a job before or after you move to a

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<v Speaker 2>new city. It's a good.

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<v Speaker 1>Question, I'd say before, right, yeah, if.

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<v Speaker 2>You can before when I moved, I didn't. I moved

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<v Speaker 2>to New York when I got a job in New York.

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<v Speaker 2>So when I got that offer letter, it gave me

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<v Speaker 2>the means to move bus because I didn't have any savings, Like,

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't have any financial meeting. And I mean, it's nice.

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<v Speaker 2>It either is really great, Like if you can find

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<v Speaker 2>a job before, that's great, But if you're if you

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<v Speaker 2>really want to move, and it's like you're going on

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<v Speaker 2>months and you haven't found a job, and maybe you

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<v Speaker 2>do need to be there in person to make connections

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<v Speaker 2>and start networking with people in that area if you

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<v Speaker 2>don't have any doesn't seem like she has any personal connections,

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<v Speaker 2>but her her boyfriend does, so I'm like on the fence,

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<v Speaker 2>but I would love to have had a few months

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<v Speaker 2>in New York just living and like you know, exploring

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<v Speaker 2>and getting to know people with cash in the bank.

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<v Speaker 2>That's smart.

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<v Speaker 3>But then then I would have probably six just just

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<v Speaker 3>to be on the safe side. And I would also

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<v Speaker 3>up sign up with Do they call them headhunters?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that what it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Called, h yeah, recruiters?

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, just just so you have like someone else

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<v Speaker 1>looking for you.

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<v Speaker 2>As well, and start telling everyone, tell you all your

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<v Speaker 2>boyfriend's family. You know, they shouldn't be like you might

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<v Speaker 2>have connections. You could form some connections there and they

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<v Speaker 2>may know somebody who needs somebody or you know, has

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<v Speaker 2>a way to a job. I think. I think sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>it's so easy to just kind of like stand the

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<v Speaker 2>internet when you're looking for a job, but don't discount

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<v Speaker 2>the power of personal connections.

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<v Speaker 1>That's way stronger.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, for sure, But you know, it's kind of like

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<v Speaker 2>a it's a balance. I don't know, it's I can

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<v Speaker 2>understand while you're kind of on the fence, but either way,

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<v Speaker 2>but I would say, just go ahead and at least

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<v Speaker 2>make a date when you plan to move, because it

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<v Speaker 2>takes planning to move too, and you have to get

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<v Speaker 2>stuff in order, and you have to know when to

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<v Speaker 2>cut off your bills and when to break your lease

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<v Speaker 2>and stuff like that. So I would say, set a

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<v Speaker 2>date and then start doing whatever you can to find

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<v Speaker 2>a job. But if it doesn't work out, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>take a little risk and go down there. You're young,

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<v Speaker 2>twenty five, Yeah, but I.

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<v Speaker 3>Agree, Like I like you saving money ahead time, And

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<v Speaker 3>I never thought about it like that.

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<v Speaker 1>That what you said maybe about moving and then getting

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<v Speaker 1>just like a couple months just to be like, whoof that?

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<v Speaker 3>You're not like, I move today. I start my job

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<v Speaker 3>on Monday. Yeah, taking like some time to kind.

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<v Speaker 1>Of export the city enjoy network.

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<v Speaker 3>So there's something to be said for that. But I

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<v Speaker 3>would probably have because I'm like an over point. I

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<v Speaker 3>would like to have, like, you know, five or six

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<v Speaker 3>months worth of savings and do a search on the

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<v Speaker 3>kind of area that you'd like to live in.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, have your boyfriend obviously help you with.

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<v Speaker 3>This is where I'm thinking that we ought to live

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<v Speaker 3>and get an idea of how much rent and utilities

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<v Speaker 3>costs so you can create what I like, I always

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<v Speaker 3>like to do a budget of what my future life

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<v Speaker 3>is going to look like.

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<v Speaker 1>So here's my current life.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, this is how much I spend on utilities

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<v Speaker 3>and hair and nails and everything else.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I create a.

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<v Speaker 3>Budget for my Atlanta life, so I know how much

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<v Speaker 3>money because you might be spending more or less depending

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<v Speaker 3>so you'll know, like, Okay, my Atlanta life actually costs

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<v Speaker 3>me three hundred dollars less or three hundred dollars more

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<v Speaker 3>than what my my up North life is costing me.

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<v Speaker 3>Now you know how much you need to have saved

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<v Speaker 3>if you want to have six months saved.

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<v Speaker 1>So definitely do a pre budget by listing the.

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<v Speaker 3>Things that you know, by going online and saying, well,

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<v Speaker 3>what do apartments go for?

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<v Speaker 1>What does that look like? If I split?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm assuming you're not living with your boyfriend now because

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<v Speaker 3>it seems like you're moving down there with him, so

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<v Speaker 3>your life might be less expensive, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>I think also it's important to understand, you know, Pennsylvania

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<v Speaker 2>and Atlanta. She doesn't say which city in Pennsylvania, but

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<v Speaker 2>say it's like a Philly or a Pittsburgh. The salary

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<v Speaker 2>may be similar to what she's earning in Atlanta, but

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<v Speaker 2>it could be less. It could be more like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>my New York salary. I wouldn't earn what I earned

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<v Speaker 2>in New York if I was working as a journalist

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<v Speaker 2>in Georgia because the cost of living is so much lower.

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<v Speaker 2>So you have to have like a realistic expectation of

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<v Speaker 2>what you can ask for in terms of salary, of

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<v Speaker 2>what you should expect in terms of salary. And you

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<v Speaker 2>can get a pretty good idea just by going to

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<v Speaker 2>like a glassdoor dot com and putting in you know,

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<v Speaker 2>your job and where you're moving, and it can give

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<v Speaker 2>you an idea of what the median earnings are for

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<v Speaker 2>your area. There's also a cool like cost of living calculator.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's CNN Money has one cost of living

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<v Speaker 2>where you can put in your where you live now,

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<v Speaker 2>in your earnings, and then it'll and where you're moving

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<v Speaker 2>to and it'll show you, uh, basically what the equivalent

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<v Speaker 2>is of your you know, New York salary or Pennsylvania salary,

0:47:06.520 --> 0:47:08.400
<v Speaker 2>but in Georgia.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, there was there's another one called it called Smarty Pig.

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<v Speaker 2>No this Marty Pig.

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<v Speaker 1>No, No, I don't think there was another one that

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<v Speaker 1>I like that too.

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<v Speaker 3>It was like you typed in kind of like where

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<v Speaker 3>you're going to live and what you do for a living,

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<v Speaker 3>and it kind of tells you how much you'd be

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<v Speaker 3>making and spending. But I can't remember the name of

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<v Speaker 3>the site.

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<v Speaker 1>My bad.

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<v Speaker 2>Next question, next this question, I'm not sure if she

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<v Speaker 2>wants to say her name, just call her Tea. She says,

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<v Speaker 2>thank you so much for the podcast. I've learned so

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<v Speaker 2>much listening to you. I'm a thirty three year old

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<v Speaker 2>brown woman with no children from Linden, New Jersey. For

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<v Speaker 2>the last two years, I've been helping to take care

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<v Speaker 2>of my nephew who has cancer while doing what I

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<v Speaker 2>While doing that, I was neglecting my responsibilities. I have

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<v Speaker 2>a good job. I work for the government. I got

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<v Speaker 2>another job offer within the government in Virginia, so I

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<v Speaker 2>left my family and friends behind to move to a

0:48:00.360 --> 0:48:03.440
<v Speaker 2>state where I know no one all caps. So, now

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<v Speaker 2>that I'm here and don't have to focus on anyone

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<v Speaker 2>but myself, I want to get my finances in order.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to start saving an emergency fund, but I

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<v Speaker 2>can't because I'm living check to check. I'm thinking about

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<v Speaker 2>filing Chapter seven bankruptcy. I'm not behind in my car note,

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<v Speaker 2>but I was wondering if it's better to keep the

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<v Speaker 2>car I have now, or let it go. I owe

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<v Speaker 2>fourteen thousand, two hundred and forty two dollars and the

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<v Speaker 2>interest rate is seven point two percent. I just looked

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<v Speaker 2>at the paperwork for my car loan and I've already

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<v Speaker 2>paid over nine thousand dollars in interest. I am making

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<v Speaker 2>a light of this, but I'm so overwhelmed. Please help,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm at the end of my rope. So well, that's

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<v Speaker 2>uh comatic.

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<v Speaker 1>Bankruptcy is the answer for her?

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<v Speaker 2>For Tea what, I'm sorry you? What did you say?

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<v Speaker 3>I said, I don't think bankruptcy is the answer for

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<v Speaker 3>t because it's not like she's saying, I owe one

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<v Speaker 3>hundred thousand dollars and I make twenty thousand dollars year.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, there's no talk of really debt except for the car.

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<v Speaker 3>And to me, bankruptcy is so disruptive it's only worth

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<v Speaker 3>it when you're in one of those like, honestly, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>a teacher in a rural area. Oh, you know, two

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<v Speaker 3>hundred thousand dollars because I was sticking in the hospital

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<v Speaker 3>and I make twenty five thousand dollars a year. Where

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<v Speaker 3>it's so ridiculous that you're like, girl, I there's just

0:49:19.160 --> 0:49:22.960
<v Speaker 3>no way. But you're not in that position, you might

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<v Speaker 3>want to consider it, like you might want to consider

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<v Speaker 3>I think, what is it called surrendering your car? You

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<v Speaker 3>can do that, you know, because I did this. Superman

0:49:31.239 --> 0:49:36.400
<v Speaker 3>did it. So when I met Superman, his previous girlfriend

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<v Speaker 3>co signed for him to get a truck. And the

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<v Speaker 3>what he was paying a month was honestly rent. I

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<v Speaker 3>think he was paying like upwards of seven or eight

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<v Speaker 3>hundred dollars a month, something ridiculous. And then on top

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<v Speaker 3>of that, you know, you have to pay full full

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<v Speaker 3>car insurance. It was costing him like nearly a thousand

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<v Speaker 3>dollars a month, if not one thousand dollars a month,

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<v Speaker 3>and it was ridiculous. And I was like, and the

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<v Speaker 3>reason and why he thought it was a good idea

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<v Speaker 3>is because he where we lived, where he was working,

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<v Speaker 3>where he lived, and they were he was living rent

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<v Speaker 3>free because he was like on call, like like on call,

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<v Speaker 3>and so he was like, well, instead of paying you know, rent,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm buying a car and I'm getting this car.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, yeah, that doesn't make sense because what

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<v Speaker 1>if they get rid of that position and you have

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<v Speaker 1>to pay rent? What are you gonna do. You can't

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<v Speaker 1>afford to do both.

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<v Speaker 3>And so I had him basically sell the car back

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<v Speaker 3>and he lost money, yes, but he had that nine

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<v Speaker 3>hundred dollars free up and sure enough, six months later

0:50:34.800 --> 0:50:37.879
<v Speaker 3>they eliminated that position and he had to start paying rent.

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<v Speaker 3>So you know, so it was was it a loss

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<v Speaker 3>of money, yes, but in the end, it was worth

0:50:44.160 --> 0:50:46.520
<v Speaker 3>not having to pay that amount of money. And so

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<v Speaker 3>what he did and said was with the money he

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<v Speaker 3>had saved in the six months, he bought like a

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<v Speaker 3>gently used, nice little car for thirty five hundred dollars

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<v Speaker 3>cash and that's what he has now.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, and she's got a seventeen percent interest rate.

0:50:59.719 --> 0:51:02.040
<v Speaker 2>That's basically like putting paying for a car with a

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<v Speaker 2>credit card, like with an interest rate that high.

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<v Speaker 3>So you want to consider selling it all back and

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<v Speaker 3>then saving.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't know. But the thing is, my worry

0:51:12.320 --> 0:51:13.479
<v Speaker 1>is how are you going to get to work?

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<v Speaker 2>M I mean, she doesn't say how good her credit is.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm guessing it's not great, but you could try and refinance,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I'm assuming well, she says her lenders capital one.

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<v Speaker 2>First of all, Capital one is becoming one of the

0:51:27.880 --> 0:51:31.000
<v Speaker 2>if not one of, if not the largest issue or

0:51:31.080 --> 0:51:34.319
<v Speaker 2>of subprime auto loans. Like they're they're not doing great

0:51:34.320 --> 0:51:37.520
<v Speaker 2>stuff in the auto loan space, so you could try

0:51:37.640 --> 0:51:41.280
<v Speaker 2>maybe getting a I'm gonna do a little plug because

0:51:41.320 --> 0:51:43.960
<v Speaker 2>Magnified Money does have a student or not a student

0:51:44.000 --> 0:51:46.640
<v Speaker 2>an auto loan refinancing page. If you go to magnify

0:51:46.680 --> 0:51:50.160
<v Speaker 2>money dot com and look up our auto refinancing page,

0:51:50.160 --> 0:51:52.120
<v Speaker 2>you can put in your information and then you can

0:51:52.160 --> 0:51:55.200
<v Speaker 2>see what offers are out for you, and maybe you

0:51:55.200 --> 0:51:59.359
<v Speaker 2>could qualify for a lower interest car note. But if

0:51:59.360 --> 0:52:03.080
<v Speaker 2>you're if you're credit isn't bad are the advice typically is,

0:52:03.120 --> 0:52:04.760
<v Speaker 2>you know, do what you can to improve your credits.

0:52:04.800 --> 0:52:07.520
<v Speaker 2>You can get approved for you know, a lower rate loan,

0:52:08.440 --> 0:52:10.520
<v Speaker 2>but if it's just your car, I don't think that's

0:52:10.680 --> 0:52:15.560
<v Speaker 2>enough to warrant, Like Tiffany said, the disruption of bankruptcy,

0:52:15.600 --> 0:52:19.720
<v Speaker 2>because that's that takes a long time to recover from.

0:52:19.920 --> 0:52:23.120
<v Speaker 2>And also it you know, to be you know, and

0:52:23.120 --> 0:52:25.439
<v Speaker 2>and you know, I have had family members who file

0:52:25.480 --> 0:52:28.279
<v Speaker 2>bankruptcy and I've seen it work as a tool, you know,

0:52:28.360 --> 0:52:32.040
<v Speaker 2>for financial health, but I've also seen them file multiple times. Yeah,

0:52:32.080 --> 0:52:34.359
<v Speaker 2>and I think, you know, I don't know if I've

0:52:34.360 --> 0:52:39.040
<v Speaker 2>mentioned this before, but people credit card companies actually direct

0:52:39.120 --> 0:52:42.640
<v Speaker 2>market to people who have file bankruptcy because they know, hey,

0:52:42.640 --> 0:52:45.000
<v Speaker 2>this person's already proven that they like credit and that

0:52:45.000 --> 0:52:47.759
<v Speaker 2>they'll they'll spend and carry a balance, and so they

0:52:47.800 --> 0:52:51.120
<v Speaker 2>market directly to them because they know that those habits

0:52:51.120 --> 0:52:56.359
<v Speaker 2>and those the underlying behavior will benefit them and could

0:52:56.400 --> 0:52:59.160
<v Speaker 2>hurt you. So if you file bankruptcy, you have to

0:52:59.160 --> 0:53:01.279
<v Speaker 2>do a lot of work to change the habits that

0:53:01.320 --> 0:53:06.280
<v Speaker 2>sort of got you there in the first place. Maybe

0:53:06.280 --> 0:53:09.720
<v Speaker 2>go to the liverat or Challenge dot com or anywhere

0:53:09.719 --> 0:53:14.160
<v Speaker 2>else bunch of EESA materials are sold and get out

0:53:14.160 --> 0:53:17.719
<v Speaker 2>of that situation. But it's hard though. Women are tend

0:53:17.760 --> 0:53:20.240
<v Speaker 2>to be the caretaker, you know, And like she said,

0:53:20.280 --> 0:53:22.080
<v Speaker 2>while she was taking care of her nephew who was sick,

0:53:22.080 --> 0:53:25.319
<v Speaker 2>which was very like, you know, great. I'm sure her

0:53:25.640 --> 0:53:28.040
<v Speaker 2>sister or her brother you know, loved her for that,

0:53:28.120 --> 0:53:31.480
<v Speaker 2>but she neglected her own sort of financial health at

0:53:31.480 --> 0:53:34.520
<v Speaker 2>the same time and put herself at risk. And luckily

0:53:34.560 --> 0:53:37.799
<v Speaker 2>she's only thirty three, so there's time to sort of

0:53:38.560 --> 0:53:41.440
<v Speaker 2>dig herself out of there. But yeah, it's hard, like

0:53:41.480 --> 0:53:54.360
<v Speaker 2>she said, when she's living check to check alrighty well, okay,

0:53:54.400 --> 0:53:56.359
<v Speaker 2>thank you for your question, Tea. And if you guys

0:53:56.360 --> 0:53:58.680
<v Speaker 2>have more questions, you can email us at or go

0:53:58.760 --> 0:54:01.399
<v Speaker 2>right to Brent Ambition podcas Past dot com and it's

0:54:01.400 --> 0:54:03.520
<v Speaker 2>super easy to submit a question there.

0:54:06.560 --> 0:54:09.560
<v Speaker 1>Yes, Lord, so we have one more question.

0:54:10.400 --> 0:54:13.040
<v Speaker 2>No, that was that you know, those are those are

0:54:13.040 --> 0:54:14.719
<v Speaker 2>the three that I selected. I don't want to I'll

0:54:14.760 --> 0:54:21.759
<v Speaker 2>save the rest for later. All right, So wins when all.

0:54:21.719 --> 0:54:24.680
<v Speaker 1>I do is win, win, win, no matter what. I

0:54:24.760 --> 0:54:28.240
<v Speaker 1>never know the rest of the song. So well, don't

0:54:28.360 --> 0:54:31.719
<v Speaker 1>judge me because I'm flying, you know, I him so

0:54:32.120 --> 0:54:34.719
<v Speaker 1>uh and I say that.

0:54:38.120 --> 0:54:40.520
<v Speaker 2>I was then't sure where you're going with that.

0:54:40.520 --> 0:54:42.000
<v Speaker 1>I was like, it's just coming to me. I'm just good.

0:54:42.040 --> 0:54:45.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm just free, free flowing, you know, just just free flowing.

0:54:45.880 --> 0:54:49.120
<v Speaker 2>So you go first with wins, just scats, sketch it scats.

0:54:53.560 --> 0:54:56.520
<v Speaker 2>Here's what I will do for a win this week.

0:54:57.520 --> 0:55:00.000
<v Speaker 2>I want to do a win for this is gonna say.

0:55:00.040 --> 0:55:02.840
<v Speaker 2>I'm really sappy, well, especially after we just did a

0:55:02.880 --> 0:55:04.879
<v Speaker 2>question where a woman took care of her nephew who

0:55:04.960 --> 0:55:08.799
<v Speaker 2>was really sick. One of the things about living where

0:55:08.840 --> 0:55:11.720
<v Speaker 2>I live now with my family, we live in Inwood

0:55:11.719 --> 0:55:13.400
<v Speaker 2>which is a part of New York that is like

0:55:13.520 --> 0:55:17.799
<v Speaker 2>historically very Latino, like a ton of Dominican family. But

0:55:17.880 --> 0:55:22.880
<v Speaker 2>I want to do a win for familia community type situation,

0:55:23.280 --> 0:55:25.680
<v Speaker 2>which is something I didn't really grow up around a lot,

0:55:25.880 --> 0:55:28.160
<v Speaker 2>Like it wasn't like all my cousins and all my

0:55:28.200 --> 0:55:30.400
<v Speaker 2>family were on the exact same block as me. But

0:55:30.440 --> 0:55:33.600
<v Speaker 2>that's literally what it is like living with the family here.

0:55:33.960 --> 0:55:38.400
<v Speaker 2>Like yesterday, we were, you know, I mentioned that fiance's

0:55:38.440 --> 0:55:40.080
<v Speaker 2>cousin had a baby, and so we just walked down

0:55:40.160 --> 0:55:41.759
<v Speaker 2>the block and we were going to take his dad

0:55:41.800 --> 0:55:44.399
<v Speaker 2>to go see the baby and everyone, and then you know,

0:55:44.520 --> 0:55:48.000
<v Speaker 2>the and his grandson was having a birthday party, and

0:55:48.000 --> 0:55:50.200
<v Speaker 2>so the neighbors and like everyone was coming from the

0:55:50.200 --> 0:55:53.480
<v Speaker 2>street and bringing like someone borrowed a boombox from somebody,

0:55:53.560 --> 0:55:56.200
<v Speaker 2>someone borrowed a huge stereo system. Someone was bringing the beer,

0:55:56.280 --> 0:55:59.480
<v Speaker 2>someone was bringing the food, and I it kind of

0:56:00.080 --> 0:56:02.319
<v Speaker 2>I feel like living in New York. You know, I

0:56:02.320 --> 0:56:04.520
<v Speaker 2>don't really have never really known my neighbors. Always lived

0:56:04.520 --> 0:56:06.319
<v Speaker 2>in my you know, just go in and out of

0:56:06.320 --> 0:56:08.799
<v Speaker 2>my apartment, my own business and not really part of

0:56:08.840 --> 0:56:11.400
<v Speaker 2>the building or anything like that. But I kind of

0:56:11.440 --> 0:56:13.440
<v Speaker 2>and I always like that. I always felt like, you know,

0:56:13.960 --> 0:56:16.239
<v Speaker 2>I didn't like people in my business or you know

0:56:16.280 --> 0:56:17.840
<v Speaker 2>a lot of my friends whose families are all in

0:56:17.880 --> 0:56:20.000
<v Speaker 2>their business. I just kind of just always rub me

0:56:20.040 --> 0:56:22.520
<v Speaker 2>the wrong way. Having people know what was happening in

0:56:22.560 --> 0:56:24.719
<v Speaker 2>my life and being there for me. But I mean,

0:56:24.800 --> 0:56:27.080
<v Speaker 2>living here it kind of makes me want to stay

0:56:27.239 --> 0:56:29.759
<v Speaker 2>like close to family in a way. I mean, not

0:56:29.840 --> 0:56:32.680
<v Speaker 2>like living with them, because that's a little much like

0:56:32.719 --> 0:56:35.239
<v Speaker 2>that I'm kind of over. But I don't know, I

0:56:35.960 --> 0:56:39.600
<v Speaker 2>want to raise like a family around other families and

0:56:39.600 --> 0:56:42.439
<v Speaker 2>around like that community kind of setting. Like I guess

0:56:42.480 --> 0:56:44.000
<v Speaker 2>you kind of have a taste of that where you

0:56:44.040 --> 0:56:47.200
<v Speaker 2>live now, but I don't know. You help with childcare.

0:56:47.760 --> 0:56:49.839
<v Speaker 2>Just you're able to support each other. It's nice that

0:56:49.880 --> 0:56:53.000
<v Speaker 2>you know people when you're walking down the street. I

0:56:53.000 --> 0:56:55.640
<v Speaker 2>don't think I'm saying anything like super revolutionary here, but

0:56:55.640 --> 0:56:57.719
<v Speaker 2>for me, it's been like sort of a weird epiphany

0:56:58.440 --> 0:57:01.400
<v Speaker 2>like of what I want from where we move eventually.

0:57:02.440 --> 0:57:04.440
<v Speaker 2>So I just give a shout out to community and

0:57:04.480 --> 0:57:05.840
<v Speaker 2>too familia.

0:57:06.120 --> 0:57:08.839
<v Speaker 1>Oh but you're right, I think, you know. I think

0:57:08.880 --> 0:57:10.279
<v Speaker 1>when you're younger, you're like I want to be as

0:57:10.320 --> 0:57:11.800
<v Speaker 1>following from the family as possible.

0:57:13.360 --> 0:57:15.800
<v Speaker 3>You're like, oh, I want to be close just because

0:57:15.840 --> 0:57:19.480
<v Speaker 3>it's just nice to have people that can look after you,

0:57:19.600 --> 0:57:22.040
<v Speaker 3>or like it's nice, like let's just say I'm doing.

0:57:21.880 --> 0:57:24.560
<v Speaker 1>An interview in Superman is crowd up at work. He

0:57:24.600 --> 0:57:27.080
<v Speaker 1>can call his sister, his brother, his cousin. Can you

0:57:27.080 --> 0:57:28.720
<v Speaker 1>pick Supergirl up from school? You know?

0:57:29.160 --> 0:57:32.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Day care? Also, daycare is expensive, and having family

0:57:32.880 --> 0:57:34.360
<v Speaker 2>nearby is going to save a lot of money.

0:57:34.840 --> 0:57:37.960
<v Speaker 3>I'm telling you my sister, like they my sister just

0:57:38.000 --> 0:57:40.280
<v Speaker 3>had the baby. Well I'm not just but she they

0:57:40.360 --> 0:57:43.080
<v Speaker 3>moved in with her mother in law. She had a

0:57:43.080 --> 0:57:45.280
<v Speaker 3>three family house. She has a three family house. She's

0:57:45.320 --> 0:57:48.720
<v Speaker 3>upstairs there in the middle, his brother, her husband's brothers

0:57:48.760 --> 0:57:51.960
<v Speaker 3>in the basement, and so like at first she was like, oh,

0:57:52.040 --> 0:57:53.880
<v Speaker 3>you know, everyone kind of wants to have their own space.

0:57:53.920 --> 0:57:57.120
<v Speaker 3>But now she's like, girl, I mean we would not

0:57:57.120 --> 0:57:59.760
<v Speaker 3>be able to afford because she should. The mother in

0:57:59.840 --> 0:58:03.320
<v Speaker 3>law is retired, so she watches the baby during the

0:58:03.400 --> 0:58:06.120
<v Speaker 3>day and then we kind of take turns when when

0:58:06.120 --> 0:58:08.400
<v Speaker 3>she can't, I'll watch, but I would and she's only

0:58:08.440 --> 0:58:11.080
<v Speaker 3>twenty minutes away, so you know, being able to do

0:58:11.120 --> 0:58:13.080
<v Speaker 3>that is only possible because we live.

0:58:12.960 --> 0:58:17.720
<v Speaker 1>Close, you know. Yeah, yeah, so I have a win.

0:58:17.760 --> 0:58:21.120
<v Speaker 3>It's kind of travel related, but it's definitely brown ambition.

0:58:21.720 --> 0:58:24.720
<v Speaker 3>So there's this travel grook that I belong to onx

0:58:25.040 --> 0:58:27.680
<v Speaker 3>B Facebook called no Madness.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, there's one woman in particular. Her name is Keina,

0:58:31.640 --> 0:58:35.640
<v Speaker 1>and she has this movement called hashtag book that Ish.

0:58:36.160 --> 0:58:37.280
<v Speaker 2>So everybody have it.

0:58:38.240 --> 0:58:40.640
<v Speaker 1>So her thing is is like you know most of us,

0:58:40.720 --> 0:58:42.400
<v Speaker 1>you know you him in Hall. Oh should I get it?

0:58:42.400 --> 0:58:43.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm not sure?

0:58:43.560 --> 0:58:46.520
<v Speaker 3>So Keina is she called herself push her key like

0:58:46.600 --> 0:58:48.439
<v Speaker 3>you know, like she will push you like girl book

0:58:48.480 --> 0:58:52.240
<v Speaker 3>that Ish, you know it just go travel. So she's

0:58:52.240 --> 0:58:54.200
<v Speaker 3>like a mechanical engineer by trade.

0:58:54.200 --> 0:58:54.800
<v Speaker 1>Brown woman.

0:58:55.640 --> 0:58:59.520
<v Speaker 3>And so last year she went to Dubai around this time,

0:59:00.080 --> 0:59:01.440
<v Speaker 3>good time. People are like, I want to go with

0:59:01.480 --> 0:59:03.040
<v Speaker 3>you because she always seems like she's having a good

0:59:03.040 --> 0:59:05.680
<v Speaker 3>time in her pictures. So a ton of people went.

0:59:06.160 --> 0:59:09.560
<v Speaker 3>This year, they're calling it the Dubai Blackout. She what

0:59:09.680 --> 0:59:12.439
<v Speaker 3>started off as an individual trip, then her friends joined,

0:59:12.440 --> 0:59:16.200
<v Speaker 3>then her friends and friends went. Two hundred Brown people

0:59:16.640 --> 0:59:20.000
<v Speaker 3>are currently in Dubai and they're calling it Dubai blackout.

0:59:20.080 --> 0:59:25.000
<v Speaker 3>Hashtag Dubai Blackout two hundred they are collectively celebrating, well,

0:59:25.320 --> 0:59:28.400
<v Speaker 3>they went on a safari thirty six cars deep.

0:59:29.320 --> 0:59:32.080
<v Speaker 2>They're just like, yes, do they charter a jet?

0:59:32.560 --> 0:59:34.600
<v Speaker 3>I No, No, that they didn't, which would have been awesome, right, No,

0:59:34.680 --> 0:59:36.640
<v Speaker 3>because you know what it is, no madgaged folks who

0:59:36.680 --> 0:59:37.880
<v Speaker 3>live all around the world.

0:59:38.080 --> 0:59:38.320
<v Speaker 1>Nice.

0:59:38.360 --> 0:59:41.400
<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, they kind of just made their way down there.

0:59:41.520 --> 0:59:44.080
<v Speaker 3>But they even started a separate Facebook group for them

0:59:44.120 --> 0:59:47.160
<v Speaker 3>to like talk about where they're hanging out. People are

0:59:47.240 --> 0:59:49.800
<v Speaker 3>meeting family members that they haven't seen in years, like, wait,

0:59:49.800 --> 0:59:53.680
<v Speaker 3>you're on this trip and like one woman wrote, like,

0:59:53.720 --> 0:59:55.320
<v Speaker 3>oh my god, my cousin's on this trip. I haven't

0:59:55.320 --> 0:59:57.600
<v Speaker 3>seen her in twenty years. What.

0:59:58.320 --> 1:00:00.400
<v Speaker 1>Yes, it is just so beautiful to.

1:00:00.360 --> 1:00:04.400
<v Speaker 3>See that, you know that more and more brown people

1:00:04.400 --> 1:00:06.800
<v Speaker 3>are traveling, and that there are people out here like

1:00:06.840 --> 1:00:10.640
<v Speaker 3>this who are making it easier because you know, people

1:00:10.640 --> 1:00:12.640
<v Speaker 3>would think to this, oh I wouldn't even know what

1:00:12.680 --> 1:00:14.720
<v Speaker 3>to do or where to go. But she has made

1:00:14.760 --> 1:00:16.160
<v Speaker 3>the plans and all you have to just do is

1:00:16.200 --> 1:00:18.560
<v Speaker 3>you buy in, so you know, you get your hotel,

1:00:18.600 --> 1:00:20.880
<v Speaker 3>you get your flight. If you're not if you don't

1:00:20.880 --> 1:00:22.760
<v Speaker 3>want to stay alone, they have a document like do

1:00:22.760 --> 1:00:24.800
<v Speaker 3>you want a roommate and if you want to be

1:00:24.920 --> 1:00:27.560
<v Speaker 3>a travel agent, yes, but like she's not getting paid

1:00:27.600 --> 1:00:29.480
<v Speaker 3>anything for it. She's just doing it because she really

1:00:29.520 --> 1:00:32.480
<v Speaker 3>wants to see Brown people travel more. She's amazing, honestly,

1:00:32.520 --> 1:00:36.240
<v Speaker 3>Like Keena Williams, she's just like when you see her

1:00:36.320 --> 1:00:39.040
<v Speaker 3>videos and stuff online, she just had her energy.

1:00:39.800 --> 1:00:40.440
<v Speaker 1>It's amazing.

1:00:40.520 --> 1:00:42.960
<v Speaker 3>She Actually they had a tragedy a year or so

1:00:42.960 --> 1:00:45.120
<v Speaker 3>ago with No Madness and that bunch of folks went

1:00:45.160 --> 1:00:47.560
<v Speaker 3>to Panama and they were like going up in the

1:00:47.560 --> 1:00:51.000
<v Speaker 3>mountains and then the car that they were in actually

1:00:51.040 --> 1:00:54.320
<v Speaker 3>went over a cliff and two members died, one of

1:00:54.360 --> 1:00:58.160
<v Speaker 3>which was my friend Nekka, and Keena was in that

1:00:58.240 --> 1:00:59.040
<v Speaker 3>car and.

1:00:58.960 --> 1:01:00.800
<v Speaker 1>Since you know, she survived.

1:01:01.200 --> 1:01:03.800
<v Speaker 3>So this has been her year yet where she's like

1:01:03.840 --> 1:01:05.840
<v Speaker 3>she's just doing everything and wants to live for lack

1:01:05.920 --> 1:01:08.160
<v Speaker 3>of the fullest in honor of the two No Madness

1:01:08.160 --> 1:01:11.640
<v Speaker 3>members that passed and also in honor of her survival,

1:01:12.120 --> 1:01:14.400
<v Speaker 3>and so she's just been She's just amazing, like you

1:01:14.400 --> 1:01:16.440
<v Speaker 3>could just see from her smile. She's one of my

1:01:16.440 --> 1:01:17.640
<v Speaker 3>favorite people to follow.

1:01:20.160 --> 1:01:22.800
<v Speaker 2>I'd be nervous aboutsing the hashtag Dubai blackout though, what

1:01:22.840 --> 1:01:26.120
<v Speaker 2>if like their police agent like this sounds kind of menacing.

1:01:28.160 --> 1:01:30.960
<v Speaker 2>All the cyber warfare, you know, fear and stuff like, oh,

1:01:31.160 --> 1:01:32.480
<v Speaker 2>someone's coming to hack us and.

1:01:33.040 --> 1:01:36.040
<v Speaker 3>Whatever, you know, right, I mean, I don't know, but honestly,

1:01:36.040 --> 1:01:38.640
<v Speaker 3>it's just been beautiful, like just to see them and

1:01:38.680 --> 1:01:42.280
<v Speaker 3>just everybody working together. My friend Cabral is there and

1:01:42.320 --> 1:01:43.840
<v Speaker 3>he's having like an amazing time.

1:01:43.960 --> 1:01:46.640
<v Speaker 2>And Dubai I'd love to go to Dubai.

1:01:46.720 --> 1:01:47.439
<v Speaker 1>Yeas me too.

1:01:47.480 --> 1:01:49.360
<v Speaker 3>And you should just see that they had like this

1:01:49.480 --> 1:01:51.920
<v Speaker 3>big dinner plan for them in the middle of the desert.

1:01:52.160 --> 1:01:54.360
<v Speaker 3>It looked very sex to the City Times two hundred,

1:01:57.160 --> 1:01:58.680
<v Speaker 3>like a family union of people.

1:01:58.440 --> 1:01:59.000
<v Speaker 1>That you don't know.

1:01:59.720 --> 1:02:02.280
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to India in December, which is kind of cool,

1:02:02.720 --> 1:02:06.600
<v Speaker 2>my first time. I've never been before. I'm actually going

1:02:06.680 --> 1:02:10.280
<v Speaker 2>for work because we have an office in this region

1:02:10.320 --> 1:02:13.040
<v Speaker 2>called Gujarat, which is in the western part of India.

1:02:13.120 --> 1:02:15.280
<v Speaker 2>But I'm excited. I have a week I'm going to

1:02:15.360 --> 1:02:17.560
<v Speaker 2>do a little work, a little play. I was looking

1:02:17.560 --> 1:02:21.040
<v Speaker 2>at the Google Maps at what's around there, and I'm

1:02:21.080 --> 1:02:23.600
<v Speaker 2>not kidding when I tell you, like there's just green

1:02:23.640 --> 1:02:25.480
<v Speaker 2>space on Google Maps, and I always like, like, oh,

1:02:25.480 --> 1:02:27.040
<v Speaker 2>what's the green space? Is it a nice park. Is

1:02:27.080 --> 1:02:30.560
<v Speaker 2>it a garden? Whatever? It is called wild ass sanctuary,

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<v Speaker 2>like wild ass sanctuary, and I was looking at it

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm like, what am I reading this right? Wild

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<v Speaker 2>that's sanctuary? Like cracking up and I'm like wait, wait,

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<v Speaker 2>think like a grown up, what could this mean? Is

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<v Speaker 2>it donkeys? Sure enough? It is a sanctuary for asses

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<v Speaker 2>like donkeys, like a huge than Like I looked at

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<v Speaker 2>all the Google images. It's just something but donkeys everywhere.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, it really exists, you can look it up.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so glad that we're saving these wild asses. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't know they were endangered or you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>guess there's wild horses but never. Oh it's funny. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm excited. I want to I want to see what

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<v Speaker 2>there's to see and eat the food. And it's such

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<v Speaker 2>a huge country though I can't help but feel like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just seeing a teeny tiny little part of it.

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<v Speaker 3>But I mean, if you get a chance to see

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<v Speaker 3>if after we're like even if you can spend a

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<v Speaker 3>day in this place called gow.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't go because I didn't realize it existed.

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<v Speaker 3>But when I went to India, I went for the

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<v Speaker 3>Holy Festival where they throw all the beautiful powder and

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<v Speaker 3>you were white and it's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>So I went for like maybe like seven to ten

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<v Speaker 1>days with no madness three years ago. It was an

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<v Speaker 1>amazing trip.

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<v Speaker 3>I also went to go see the what is that

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<v Speaker 3>place called? Yeah, it was, honestly, you could. There's certain

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<v Speaker 3>places in the world that you go and you can

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<v Speaker 3>feel some sort of presence there, and that's what I

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<v Speaker 3>found there was beautiful, especially knowing the story that it

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<v Speaker 3>was built out of love and you can feel that

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<v Speaker 3>there when you see it.

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<v Speaker 1>So I did the taj Mahal. I think that was

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<v Speaker 1>my first world wonder.

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<v Speaker 3>And then yeah, so if you get a chance, but

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<v Speaker 3>I will say this my last day there, be very

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<v Speaker 3>careful about eating uh anything that's not cooked, so.

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<v Speaker 2>Meaning oh god, yeah, for sure.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't realize it because I was like, I was

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<v Speaker 3>doing so well. Then I didn't drink any water that

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<v Speaker 3>wasn't bottled. And then I had a salad like the

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<v Speaker 3>day before, and because you know, you're realizing people watch

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<v Speaker 3>salad just like we do stream, I had a salad

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<v Speaker 3>and the next day my stomach was like, WHOA, what's

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<v Speaker 3>going on?

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<v Speaker 1>Girl?

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<v Speaker 3>I literally prayed to teenage Jesus, Baby, Jesus, grown man, Jesus.

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<v Speaker 3>I prayed to Mary, Joseph everyone. I was on the plane,

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<v Speaker 3>like please God.

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<v Speaker 2>If you oh my God, you're on the plane.

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<v Speaker 1>But luckily my stomach was just bubble. It was it.

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<v Speaker 3>But I got home and could not leave my room,

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<v Speaker 3>like luckily my bathroom was next for three fold day.

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<v Speaker 3>I couldn't even I couldn't even go downstairs, like I

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<v Speaker 3>had to ask, can you please bring me food? Because

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<v Speaker 3>that's how close in proximity to the basom I need.

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<v Speaker 1>Be I have ever in my life.

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<v Speaker 3>So luckily it like you know, teenage baby and gromn

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<v Speaker 3>Jesus allowed me to get to my place of residence

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<v Speaker 3>before tearing my insides out.

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<v Speaker 2>But it was lucky.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, it was an experience like none other. And yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so just no roof, no vegetable like you can have

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<v Speaker 1>a cook.

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<v Speaker 2>But oh yeah, yeah, I learned. I learned my lesson

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<v Speaker 2>the hard way. In South America, I got the worst situe.

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<v Speaker 2>The same thing happened to me, but I was in

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<v Speaker 2>Brazil and it happened to me the day I was

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<v Speaker 2>taking like a six hour bus ride back to Rio

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<v Speaker 2>because I had gone on like this excursion to a

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<v Speaker 2>little town, and yeah, I was going six hour bus

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<v Speaker 2>ride to the airport and then the flight home and

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god, luckily I like, I like got I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to get too graphic, but things were done.

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<v Speaker 2>By the time I got to the plane and the

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<v Speaker 2>whole way home, I was just ill. I just like

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<v Speaker 2>slept the whole way. But oh, that's the worst I had.

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<v Speaker 2>I had. What got me was I had soup. I

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<v Speaker 2>should have known better. I mean, come on, like, come on,

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<v Speaker 2>I had souper. It was really cold, it will look

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<v Speaker 2>really tasty. I was bad.

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<v Speaker 3>I lost like fifteen pounds in like three days. I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, I just don't want to die here.

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<v Speaker 2>Just take me to the wild that sanctuary.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to die. It was wild, that's thanks story.

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<v Speaker 1>But it was beautiful.

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<v Speaker 3>India was beautiful, the colors, the I love going places

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<v Speaker 3>where you are inundated with difference, meaning that I don't

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<v Speaker 3>like it's much as much as I liked like Madrid

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<v Speaker 3>and stuff like that, and like London was all right,

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<v Speaker 3>but I felt like, oh, I could see this in

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<v Speaker 3>the US, but India was so everything was different and

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<v Speaker 3>I love that. I love, like, if I want to travel,

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<v Speaker 3>I want to feel like unless I'm traveling in the US,

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<v Speaker 3>I want to feel like like that I'm fully encompassed

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<v Speaker 3>in this new experience from the food, it sounds and smells,

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<v Speaker 3>and once you kind of get over the fact that

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<v Speaker 3>you know, there's just going to be certain things that

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<v Speaker 3>you're you're just not going to have the way it

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<v Speaker 3>is here. So I've been to Nigeria several times, so

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<v Speaker 3>it wasn't hard for me to be like, oh, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>so you don't have a bathroom.

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<v Speaker 1>In a traditional sense.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Like it didn't bother me because I'd been to

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<v Speaker 3>other places where.

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<v Speaker 1>That was so.

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<v Speaker 3>But but if you come with the oh my god,

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<v Speaker 3>you mean I can't order this, Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 1>Then yeah, and I know you're not.

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<v Speaker 2>But I love me some Indian food. I can't wait.

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<v Speaker 2>Well for the cooks, kind for the cooked food. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm looking forward to it. Hopefully my co I'll be

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<v Speaker 2>with my coworkers, so hopefully they'll like, you know, take

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<v Speaker 2>me out in the town. Although I'm pretty sure the

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<v Speaker 2>area I'm going to is a dry town. But that's okay,

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<v Speaker 2>it's fine. Yeah, I'm really excited, so that's kind of up.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, all right, miss thing Ambition wrapped up.

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<v Speaker 3>I hope you will visit the Wild Ass Sanctuary should

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<v Speaker 3>you ever go to India.

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<v Speaker 2>It exists Gujarat. It's close to the Pakistan border. That's

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<v Speaker 2>all I know. I'm exciting, all right, Well, how the

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<v Speaker 2>lovely wee yes?

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