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Speaker 2: What was that?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm trying to think who's sing that?

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Speaker 1: Somebody tell me the songs and sing? Oh well.

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Speaker 2: Wait, I think maybe you're singing Beyonce. I'm here, yes, okay, wow,

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Speaker 2: that's like the depth of my Beyonce knowledge because that

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Speaker 1: Yes, well, you know I got the tone. You know.

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Speaker 2: I always when I think of Tiffany, I'm like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: that drunken sang.

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Speaker 1: I can. That's not think I can sang with the

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Speaker 1: agg you know sang you know, not everybody you know,

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Speaker 1: So it's an acquire tase. I'm not gonna lie. It's

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Speaker 1: not built for every one's years.

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Speaker 3: But for those who appreciate, you know that next level,

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Speaker 3: I'm there with them.

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Speaker 2: It's a mature sound, it is.

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Speaker 1: Yes, there you go.

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Speaker 2: How was your week?

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Speaker 1: It was good.

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Speaker 3: So this morning I woke up and I was like

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Speaker 3: cleaning up and I found my vision board on behind

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh, circa so dope about it. I

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Speaker 3: I was like, man, look, first of all, why do

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Speaker 3: I have an engagement ring on my business board?

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Speaker 1: Spang? It happened?

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, come on, what else was on there?

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Speaker 3: They're actually so every every time I make when I

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Speaker 3: have this dollar bill that I took off, but I

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Speaker 3: president with like my dollar sign B, and then I

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Speaker 3: put how much I want to make a year, So

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Speaker 3: I put how much I guess from two years ago

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Speaker 3: because I haven't done one in a while.

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Speaker 2: Wait, do you make multiple vision boards?

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Speaker 3: No, so it's one vision board, which but what I

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Speaker 3: do is every year I'm supposed to do in January

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Speaker 3: with new things that i'd like, and anything that has

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Speaker 3: like I had like on here like this this dollar

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Speaker 3: I also even have a check that says a very

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Speaker 3: In January, I'm actually signing a contract for five thousand

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Speaker 3: And even I have like little things that says I'm

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Speaker 3: and I make more than that now.

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Speaker 1: So just the essenvest is on here, which I just did.

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Speaker 3: Ooh, and even well, I don't know if I can

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Speaker 2: When did you make this vision board.

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Speaker 1: Two years ago?

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Speaker 3: Two mm hm about two years ago. So it was like, well,

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Speaker 3: travel goals or South Africa, which I have not made

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Speaker 2: I was never like a vision board girl. I did.

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Speaker 3: You know what, when people make vision boards, I always

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Speaker 2: I wonder if men make vision boards.

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Speaker 2: this is never happening. Five thousand dollars Omega watch. You're

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Speaker 3: No, But honestly, I just think that it doesn't have

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I mean every financial every anyone who's getting

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Speaker 2: Maybe I'll be a convert. Maybe I'll do a vision board.

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Speaker 2: Yeah that's cool. M So do you have do you

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Speaker 1: Like? No, honestly, I just and he superman. It was like,

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Speaker 3: So I used the same raggedy board, and I just

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Speaker 1: So I just take down the pictures and the sticky

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Speaker 2: Neat M.

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Speaker 1: What about you? How was your week?

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Speaker 2: The week was good, it was long. It was a

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Speaker 2: long week at work. But I saw you on Wednesday.

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Speaker 1: Oh.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if any of you guys caught, but

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Speaker 2: we were on the Grio's Facebook page for Facebook live

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Speaker 2: chat with Miss Tanya.

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Speaker 3: We should put that link on Brownibision podcast dot com.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was pretty fun. Tip and I were late late.

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Speaker 3: First of all, I was like, I don't know who's

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Speaker 2: Like everyone was just like late? Like, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: You've never heard of Joanne the Scammer. No, Andy, honestly,

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Speaker 2: Oh it's The description says Joanne is a self professed

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Speaker 2: Well, if anyone needs a last minute costume, oh, it's

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Speaker 2: Magnified Money, she spent like thirteen dollars on some nice cardboard,

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Speaker 3: family house we're planning on buying before the end of

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Speaker 3: the year hopefully.

443
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Speaker 1: If not early next year, and once that goes through,

444
00:19:51,760 --> 00:19:54,359
Speaker 1: then we're like, then we can just plan on what

445
00:19:54,400 --> 00:19:54,879
Speaker 1: that looks like.

446
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Speaker 3: As far as marriage, I suspect that we're going to

447
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Speaker 3: go to the Justice of the Peace and then plan

448
00:19:58,600 --> 00:20:01,760
Speaker 3: some sort of dinner or brunch or something for our families.

449
00:20:02,760 --> 00:20:04,800
Speaker 3: But other than that, like, I don't I'm not going

450
00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:06,119
Speaker 3: to give a wedding planning because I'm not.

451
00:20:06,119 --> 00:20:07,240
Speaker 1: Going to do a big already.

452
00:20:07,280 --> 00:20:09,360
Speaker 3: Well unless he really wants it, but from what we've

453
00:20:09,359 --> 00:20:13,360
Speaker 3: talked about, it doesn't seem like he cares that much.

454
00:20:13,359 --> 00:20:16,760
Speaker 3: I think he definitely wants to have something, but not

455
00:20:16,920 --> 00:20:18,240
Speaker 3: some big like overtop.

456
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Speaker 2: I mean, whatever you do, you've just got to get

457
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Speaker 2: a nice photo, get to Netta Bell photographer to come

458
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Speaker 2: and document the day.

459
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Speaker 3: No, for sure that for sure will definitely because I

460
00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:30,840
Speaker 3: definitely want to see that. But as far as like,

461
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Speaker 3: oh what day, Honestly, he was the other day he

462
00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:34,560
Speaker 3: was like, you want to go to Justice of the

463
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Speaker 3: Piece next week? I was like, now we got to

464
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Speaker 3: get the house first, because I don't know how me

465
00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:40,240
Speaker 3: being because I have a foreclosure under my belt, and

466
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Speaker 3: I don't know how that that's being married is going

467
00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:44,399
Speaker 3: to affect your ability to buy because he's got a

468
00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:46,120
Speaker 3: really good credit, he doesn't have any.

469
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Speaker 1: Debt, you know.

470
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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, this morning I spent half an hour, forty

471
00:20:50,119 --> 00:20:54,280
Speaker 2: five minutes on Pincrest looking at MOS centerpieces. So just

472
00:20:54,359 --> 00:20:57,680
Speaker 2: like you, guys, just like you, totally totally don't care.

473
00:20:58,040 --> 00:21:01,879
Speaker 2: But whatever, I might give away one hundred individual succulents

474
00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:07,600
Speaker 2: I's wedding favors, but whatever, it's no big deal. We

475
00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:09,840
Speaker 2: actually chose, we chose our first dance song. I will

476
00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:12,960
Speaker 2: not reveal it. It's not a big deal. But actually

477
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Speaker 2: I was pre writing my vowels because I'm a writer,

478
00:21:15,200 --> 00:21:17,159
Speaker 2: so I wrote all the time, but I was I

479
00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:19,520
Speaker 2: was just like practicing, like, man, what would my vows

480
00:21:19,520 --> 00:21:21,600
Speaker 2: be like? And I've been writing them in my head

481
00:21:21,920 --> 00:21:24,439
Speaker 2: in weird places like in the backs of cabs and stuff,

482
00:21:24,440 --> 00:21:27,600
Speaker 2: and then I'll just I start getting teary. I just

483
00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:28,760
Speaker 2: like writing them in my head. So I was like,

484
00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:31,840
Speaker 2: I gotta write these down because they're really good anyway,

485
00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:34,200
Speaker 2: So I started writing them. And then as soon as

486
00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:37,359
Speaker 2: I was writing these words that a song came on

487
00:21:37,359 --> 00:21:39,600
Speaker 2: Spotify that was exactly those words, and it's like the

488
00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:42,199
Speaker 2: perfect song. And I was like, wait a second, this

489
00:21:42,280 --> 00:21:44,359
Speaker 2: is this is the universe saying this must be your

490
00:21:44,359 --> 00:21:47,000
Speaker 2: first dance song, because not gonna lie. Our first dance

491
00:21:47,119 --> 00:21:50,879
Speaker 2: was going to be a Beyonce song. So I've changed

492
00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:55,440
Speaker 2: my mind since then. Nah, well it was a cover.

493
00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:57,480
Speaker 2: It was the it was gonna be the John Mayer

494
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Speaker 2: cover of Exo, which is actually really pretty, okay, really

495
00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:06,399
Speaker 2: pretty Beyonce. But anyway, sorry Beyonce, not gonna I mean, well,

496
00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:08,680
Speaker 2: they'll be Beyonce, just not Yeah.

497
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Speaker 1: For sure, beyond she needs to be there.

498
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Speaker 2: Her presence shall be felt. It's gonna be a lot

499
00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:16,040
Speaker 2: of prints, a lot of Michael Jackson, a lot of Beyonce,

500
00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:19,080
Speaker 2: in a lot of like Marc Anthony and uh like

501
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:21,560
Speaker 2: Romeo Santos for the Santos family.

502
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Speaker 1: I love Michael Jackson. Jackson party.

503
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Speaker 3: The best party I've ever been to ever was at

504
00:22:28,720 --> 00:22:31,680
Speaker 3: the Brooklyn Museum. It was like either the year of

505
00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:34,560
Speaker 3: the year or the year after Michael Jackson died, and

506
00:22:34,560 --> 00:22:36,560
Speaker 3: they had a Michael Jackson dance party and it was.

507
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Speaker 2: Und think I went to that. We were probably there, yeah.

508
00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:46,280
Speaker 3: Everything, every song, and I just remember getting my life

509
00:22:46,320 --> 00:22:47,960
Speaker 3: being like it was like in like the parking lot

510
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:50,320
Speaker 3: and it probably was like easily five six hundred people

511
00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:52,400
Speaker 3: and I was just like getting my life, like yes,

512
00:22:53,560 --> 00:22:54,560
Speaker 3: that needed to happen again.

513
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Speaker 2: We were there, who knew?

514
00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:02,400
Speaker 1: This is pretty pre Ba before we knew each other.

515
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:05,520
Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of what else happened in the

516
00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:08,240
Speaker 2: news this week. It was a quiet week in news, however,

517
00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:11,959
Speaker 2: I mean the election is next week. My dad texted

518
00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:14,280
Speaker 2: me he early voted in Georgia. I was super proud

519
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:16,720
Speaker 2: of him. I'm ready for it to be over.

520
00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:19,200
Speaker 1: I am.

521
00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:23,080
Speaker 2: I feel like everyone like there's election fatigue every like October,

522
00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:26,119
Speaker 2: it sets in. But I'm tired. I'm sure for it

523
00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:28,040
Speaker 2: would be a president and ready to stop seeing you

524
00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:32,199
Speaker 2: know who on the you know what's but that you

525
00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:34,040
Speaker 2: must go out to vote. Do you have to vote?

526
00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:36,320
Speaker 2: You have to your vote counts.

527
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Speaker 3: Who would have vote for but we will tell you

528
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:41,600
Speaker 3: you must must, must vote, let your presence be known.

529
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Speaker 2: That's their advice. You're well anything else, I'm should we

530
00:23:57,760 --> 00:24:01,760
Speaker 2: move on to to boost and breaking Breaker Boost break

531
00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:05,359
Speaker 2: break Boost Boost? Do you want to go first? You

532
00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:06,080
Speaker 2: want me go first?

533
00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:07,480
Speaker 1: Sure, I will go first.

534
00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:13,720
Speaker 3: I am going to take a break from m l ms.

535
00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:17,840
Speaker 3: So for those of you the uninitiated, And MLM is

536
00:24:17,880 --> 00:24:22,000
Speaker 3: a multi level marketing company, So I won't say in

537
00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:24,359
Speaker 3: all MLMs because some of them are not bad. Like,

538
00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:28,679
Speaker 3: for example, mary Kay is an MLM. So you know

539
00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:31,680
Speaker 3: something as an MLM because not only do you sell

540
00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:36,040
Speaker 3: the product, but do you have the opportunity to get

541
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:37,920
Speaker 3: people that you know to.

542
00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:39,119
Speaker 1: Sell the product under you.

543
00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:41,680
Speaker 3: So it's like, hey, I sell mary Kay, but then

544
00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:43,680
Speaker 3: I also try to get my sisters, my aunts and

545
00:24:43,680 --> 00:24:46,040
Speaker 3: my cousins whatever they sell Mary Kay, And when they sell,

546
00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:48,840
Speaker 3: I benefit from what they sell, and the person that

547
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:51,680
Speaker 3: brought me on benefits from what they sell as well

548
00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:53,800
Speaker 3: as from what I sell. So it's like a movement

549
00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 3: on a you know. Yeah, And so like I said,

550
00:24:56,840 --> 00:25:00,080
Speaker 3: not all MLMs are terrible. Mary Kay is actually I

551
00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:02,160
Speaker 3: think it's one of the top rated companies for women,

552
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:06,920
Speaker 3: like the in the nation. So there's that, and there's

553
00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:09,520
Speaker 3: another one that actually I didn't mind, but some of

554
00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:16,639
Speaker 3: them are, for lack of a better word, scams. Here's

555
00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:19,160
Speaker 3: how you know if your MLM is a scam if

556
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:23,399
Speaker 3: the product itself is crappy. Because if the push is

557
00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:26,240
Speaker 3: not for you to sell this great product, it's instead

558
00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:28,080
Speaker 3: for you to sign people up, you know you're in

559
00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:30,840
Speaker 3: a scam MLM and it's probably not going to last long.

560
00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:33,040
Speaker 3: Back in the day, I remember my sister signed up

561
00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:37,120
Speaker 3: for one called Cutco Knives and my dad was like, oh,

562
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 3: like she had to, Like, I guess you put in

563
00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:42,560
Speaker 3: like five hundred or six hundred bucks. You get these knives,

564
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 3: and then you try to get your family and friends

565
00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:46,919
Speaker 3: to buy these expensive knives and then to sell them themselves.

566
00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:49,840
Speaker 3: And that was the first time I was introduced to MLMs.

567
00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:52,560
Speaker 3: And of course those knives are no longer here because

568
00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:54,280
Speaker 3: if you don't have a good product, this MLM will

569
00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:56,720
Speaker 3: no longer be here. And the people that benefit most

570
00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:59,359
Speaker 3: are those who come in when they first start. So

571
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:02,240
Speaker 3: if I'm the person who starts the MLM, I signed

572
00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:04,520
Speaker 3: you up, you signed your friend up, your friends signed

573
00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:07,080
Speaker 3: your friend up, So all of those people selling kind

574
00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:12,120
Speaker 3: of like they will upsell to me basically. But if

575
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:15,120
Speaker 3: you come in in the middle or the end, by

576
00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:17,880
Speaker 3: that time, you know, the market may have been flooded

577
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:21,080
Speaker 3: by ABC Travel for example. That was one that that's

578
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:25,640
Speaker 3: not just no longer around where you know, why would

579
00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:28,879
Speaker 3: I be booking my travel through you when orbits is

580
00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:31,760
Speaker 3: online and I could get cash back on ep it

581
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:32,800
Speaker 3: group Like that.

582
00:26:32,760 --> 00:26:34,600
Speaker 1: Doesn't make sense. So I do want people to be

583
00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:35,160
Speaker 1: more mindful.

584
00:26:35,840 --> 00:26:38,439
Speaker 2: Where do they usually Where do you usually get like

585
00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 2: solicited by an MLM? Is it like your uncle or.

586
00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:44,040
Speaker 1: Well you're in boy? This this is how you kind

587
00:26:44,040 --> 00:26:46,639
Speaker 1: of know, Hey, what do you do when on the Saturday? Nothing?

588
00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:48,600
Speaker 1: You should come by the house. I have a presentation

589
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:49,920
Speaker 1: I'd love to share with you. You're like.

590
00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:53,439
Speaker 2: A lot of a lot of wedding stuff is like

591
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:57,040
Speaker 2: that when I when I first got engaged. Don't change

592
00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 2: your well honestly whatever, when you just know that when

593
00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:02,159
Speaker 2: you change your stuff us on Facebook, the marketers will

594
00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:06,040
Speaker 2: come for you and they will find you wherever you're hiding.

595
00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:09,440
Speaker 2: So I started getting all these emails and one of

596
00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:12,320
Speaker 2: them was like it almost got me because it was like,

597
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 2: you've won a cand of like dinner for two at

598
00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:18,520
Speaker 2: an exclusive resort in New York, and like I was, like,

599
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 2: I even went so far as to call the number,

600
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:23,080
Speaker 2: but then I started googling it and it is. It's

601
00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:24,879
Speaker 2: one of those things where they bring couples in for

602
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:26,640
Speaker 2: a nice, fancy dinner and then they try and sell

603
00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:29,439
Speaker 2: you in all this cookware. And it's kind of like

604
00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:32,320
Speaker 2: how when you go to an all inclusive resort and

605
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:35,719
Speaker 2: they're there trying to sell you on a timeshare or whatever.

606
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:37,880
Speaker 2: But yeah, I was, well, I don't know if that's

607
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 2: quite an MLM, but it's definitely one of those like

608
00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:40,919
Speaker 2: bait and switch things.

609
00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:42,800
Speaker 1: Well, we can lift at all. I like to call

610
00:27:42,800 --> 00:27:43,760
Speaker 1: that the gotcha gotcha.

611
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:46,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, the gotcha gotcha, bait and switch whatever.

612
00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:49,240
Speaker 1: I'm always like, oh man, it's gotcha gotcha, you know.

613
00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:51,840
Speaker 3: So just be mindful and then people, if you're in

614
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 3: an MLM, I know some people are listening like, well,

615
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:57,320
Speaker 3: I sell insurance and mine is legit, and I, okay,

616
00:27:57,400 --> 00:27:59,119
Speaker 3: I'm not here to say that yours is not. But

617
00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:01,440
Speaker 3: what I am saying is this is what I don't

618
00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:04,600
Speaker 3: like about not everyone, but some folks that sell MLM,

619
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:06,680
Speaker 3: so they'll try to tell you. So they'll say, hey, Tiffany,

620
00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:09,320
Speaker 3: what would you do with the extra two thousand dollars

621
00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:09,720
Speaker 3: a month?

622
00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:09,960
Speaker 1: You know?

623
00:28:10,000 --> 00:28:11,960
Speaker 3: And I'm like, oh, you know, no, thanks, So you

624
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:13,479
Speaker 3: don't need an extra two thousand Oh you don't want

625
00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:15,320
Speaker 3: extra money. I'm like, well, you know, I work for myself,

626
00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:17,960
Speaker 3: so I'm pretty busy, you know, and I do pretty well.

627
00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:21,159
Speaker 2: That's how those those things are. When people's blogs that

628
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:23,160
Speaker 2: you go, when you go on and you it wants

629
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 2: you to sign up for the newsletter, and when you

630
00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 2: hit X, it says like, oh, so you're you're like

631
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:30,680
Speaker 2: saying I do not want to become the best version

632
00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:33,920
Speaker 2: of myself. Like it's just can I just say no

633
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:34,960
Speaker 2: I do?

634
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:36,680
Speaker 1: That doesn't move me? Like, and so I had to

635
00:28:36,680 --> 00:28:37,960
Speaker 1: tell one dude, had to shut him down.

636
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:42,440
Speaker 3: And I was like, honestly, like no, like it for

637
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 3: the work involved, Like my company makes a good amount

638
00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:47,000
Speaker 3: of money that I'm okay, I don't need.

639
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:48,400
Speaker 1: I had to like, I mean, do you need to

640
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:49,160
Speaker 1: send a screenshot?

641
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 3: Like I'm good, dude, Like, I'm not saying two thousand

642
00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:53,040
Speaker 3: dollars a month it's not good money.

643
00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 1: It is, but for the work involved. I could put

644
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:55,520
Speaker 1: that into.

645
00:28:55,320 --> 00:28:58,200
Speaker 3: My own business and make ten times out a month,

646
00:28:58,320 --> 00:28:59,719
Speaker 3: you know, And I was just like it was just

647
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:02,360
Speaker 3: so I don't like that aggressive selling that.

648
00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:05,400
Speaker 1: How does that work? Like am I supposed to be? Like, Oh,

649
00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:07,480
Speaker 1: thank you so much for trying to shame me into

650
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 1: joining your business. You know what you got me, You

651
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 1: got me, you won me over with your.

652
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:15,320
Speaker 2: I think it's the target is like people who aren't

653
00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:18,360
Speaker 2: doing well financially and want and they sell it as

654
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:20,880
Speaker 2: like a quick way to make cash. You know, all

655
00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:23,200
Speaker 2: you have to do is buy these one hundred blow

656
00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:25,960
Speaker 2: dryers and then sell them for double and then you'll

657
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:28,440
Speaker 2: make ten thousand dollars. But you know, they don't mention

658
00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:30,320
Speaker 2: that the blow dryer is a piece of drunk and

659
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:32,160
Speaker 2: not no one's ever going to buy it. And that's

660
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:32,880
Speaker 2: what happens.

661
00:29:33,240 --> 00:29:35,400
Speaker 3: Like let's just say you do mary Kay, right, So

662
00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:37,320
Speaker 3: every auntie I know of mine has done mary Kay.

663
00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:38,520
Speaker 1: Some have done very well.

664
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:41,840
Speaker 3: So it's a certain kind of personality that's able to

665
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:43,480
Speaker 3: sell to other people because one, you have to go

666
00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:45,000
Speaker 3: to their houses, you got to pick up, you got

667
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 3: to deliver, you have to So even with mary Kay,

668
00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:51,080
Speaker 3: although this is a great company with a great product.

669
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 3: Just because you sign up doesn't mean people are going

670
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:55,800
Speaker 3: to buy from you. That you have to have a

671
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:58,960
Speaker 3: certain kind of personality that is willing to do the work,

672
00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:02,440
Speaker 3: whether it's a MLM or your own business or whatever.

673
00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 3: And so that's what I'll just say that I'm just like,

674
00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:08,520
Speaker 3: please stop trying to sell me and shame me into

675
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:13,000
Speaker 3: MLMs because one, I already have a business. Two, Like

676
00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:14,520
Speaker 3: you know, I don't believe in most of them because

677
00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:16,480
Speaker 3: most of them won't be around long, like unless you've

678
00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 3: been around for a number of years and you've proven

679
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:21,680
Speaker 3: to be successful. If someone approaches you with like an MLM,

680
00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:25,440
Speaker 3: get the name, google it, type in reviews for Legal Shield,

681
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:29,640
Speaker 3: reviews for you know, whatever it is, ABC Travel, whatever's

682
00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 3: out now, Type in reviews for and see what people

683
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:33,880
Speaker 3: are saying, so that way you can get like a

684
00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:35,840
Speaker 3: good idea of whether or not this.

685
00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:37,080
Speaker 1: Is something you want to be a part of. There

686
00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 1: is no quick fix. Anyone that tries to sell you

687
00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:41,280
Speaker 1: on oh my god.

688
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:44,440
Speaker 3: I made I'm making ten thousand dollars a month six

689
00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:46,360
Speaker 3: months in the likelihood.

690
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:47,960
Speaker 1: Of that being you is so unlikely.

691
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 3: So if they're not willing to tell you like, it's

692
00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:52,240
Speaker 3: going to be a lot of work, but it's possible.

693
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 1: You know.

694
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:55,240
Speaker 3: Then you also know that's a scam, so yeah that

695
00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 3: you know to me MLMs to me.

696
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 1: I just don't like it.

697
00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 3: They pray on people who are at their get your

698
00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 3: financial low points.

699
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:03,440
Speaker 2: Yeah's a good one.

700
00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:05,520
Speaker 1: What about you? Are you boosting?

701
00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 2: I was gonna boost, but I was torn between a

702
00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 2: crockpot or a baby. Crock pots are babies. I think

703
00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:14,600
Speaker 2: I might you both. Just a quick word on crockpots,

704
00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:19,239
Speaker 2: Like crackpots are my it's fall and I love just

705
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:23,680
Speaker 2: a crockpot full of delicious like soup and like pulled

706
00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:26,200
Speaker 2: pork I make and chili, and it saves me so

707
00:31:26,280 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 2: much money. Like I made a crockpot full of my favorite,

708
00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 2: my famous well famous in my house white chili, like

709
00:31:32,800 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 2: two weeks ago, and the I froze half and I

710
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 2: ate the last half for work, and I'm like, I

711
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:39,680
Speaker 2: can eat leftovers every day during the week and like

712
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:42,160
Speaker 2: not get tired of them. But it's just I've saved

713
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:44,480
Speaker 2: so much money and like I'm not spending twenty dollars

714
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:47,680
Speaker 2: a day on food anymore. So that's just my word

715
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 2: on crockpots. If you. I had one for a long

716
00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:52,440
Speaker 2: time and I wasn't using it. It was just dusting

717
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 2: up under the like all my baker's rack. And when

718
00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 2: I finally figured out how they work, like you really

719
00:31:57,960 --> 00:31:59,640
Speaker 2: just put the stuff in there, and then you just

720
00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:01,080
Speaker 2: turn it on low and then you like go to

721
00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 2: work and you come back and you have dinner. It's

722
00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:06,200
Speaker 2: like one of those It's one of those quaint like

723
00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:10,440
Speaker 2: homemaker appliances that I feel like a has a place

724
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 2: in modern society, in modern household. So love to crock pots.

725
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:17,080
Speaker 2: If you have them, you know, you know the gospel

726
00:32:17,120 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 2: of the crockpot. If you don't, you should get one. Now. Babies,

727
00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:23,760
Speaker 2: What can I say about babies? So this was a

728
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:29,120
Speaker 2: very baby filled weekend. We visited fiance's really close friend

729
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:30,960
Speaker 2: and they have a four month old baby, and then

730
00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:34,800
Speaker 2: his cousin just had a baby Thursday night or Thursday morning,

731
00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:38,000
Speaker 2: a little girl. And I just feel like babies they

732
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 2: have such a well they're you know, they're like babies.

733
00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:42,520
Speaker 2: They don't really do a lot, but I just love

734
00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:45,240
Speaker 2: the way that they change the people around them, you

735
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:47,360
Speaker 2: know what I mean, Like the mommies and daddies and

736
00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:49,479
Speaker 2: I don't know, it's just been really cool to watch

737
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 2: your friends become like these. I think that's what kind

738
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:55,880
Speaker 2: of forces you into adulthood. But they've just become like

739
00:32:56,520 --> 00:32:59,240
Speaker 2: just parents and they're just like feeding the baby and

740
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:01,640
Speaker 2: just holding the baby be but still like watching football

741
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:03,720
Speaker 2: and still just like being themselves, but they just have

742
00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:08,320
Speaker 2: this added element of like like peace and maturity. And

743
00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 2: I don't know, it's been really it's been cool to see,

744
00:33:11,360 --> 00:33:13,200
Speaker 2: you know. I mean, these are the friends that you

745
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:16,760
Speaker 2: like get drunk with and party and like just act

746
00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:18,880
Speaker 2: crazy with, and it's just really cool to see them

747
00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 2: become you know, mature parental units.

748
00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:25,480
Speaker 1: When like I.

749
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:27,280
Speaker 3: Think we came to visit her like a week after

750
00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 3: and she was just sitting in the chair like looking

751
00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:31,960
Speaker 3: off at the space, like because she was just like.

752
00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:33,800
Speaker 1: I just sit here and wait for him to tell

753
00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:34,600
Speaker 1: me I want your boob.

754
00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:39,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll probably be that kind of mom, just like crying, miserable,

755
00:33:40,600 --> 00:33:42,320
Speaker 2: just like she was just so overwhelmed.

756
00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:44,680
Speaker 3: And then I didn't realize, like so once we learned

757
00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:47,480
Speaker 3: that my mom like text us all, she was like, nobody,

758
00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:50,680
Speaker 3: go visit Carol for a little while, just because she

759
00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:54,000
Speaker 3: was it was it wasn't just the I think that

760
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:56,520
Speaker 3: was what's overwhelming her. Not necessarily just the baby, but

761
00:33:56,560 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 3: it was like the baby, the visitors, because you.

762
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:00,000
Speaker 2: Know this, visitors are the worst.

763
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:02,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, so my mom's like let her, let her be

764
00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 3: for a couple of weeks, like we all saw the

765
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:05,240
Speaker 3: baby at the hospital.

766
00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:07,920
Speaker 1: Okay, I think we came to the house. Her husband

767
00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:11,239
Speaker 1: mistakenly planned a barbecue, and she was just looking.

768
00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:13,760
Speaker 2: Like, oh my god, what was he thinking?

769
00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:22,080
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I know so you played god.

770
00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:25,399
Speaker 2: I wouldn't murder him. I would like stab him with

771
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:26,560
Speaker 2: a spatula.

772
00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:32,400
Speaker 3: Looking like I don't I'm not sure what happened. She

773
00:34:32,520 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 3: was like, I don't know why we heard this bar

774
00:34:34,080 --> 00:34:36,080
Speaker 3: I was like, don't cry, don't worry. Don't you worry,

775
00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 3: because we were all going to spend a week with her, like, okay,

776
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:42,799
Speaker 3: there's five of us, so Lisa's week, can we traces week?

777
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:45,480
Speaker 3: And she was like, honestly, I just need everybody to

778
00:34:45,560 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 3: leave me alone, like I just need to get into

779
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:49,600
Speaker 3: my own rhythm. And so we did it, because you know,

780
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:51,200
Speaker 3: some people want a lot of help and some people

781
00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:54,120
Speaker 3: are like it's too much, because she was like, because

782
00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 3: then you become like a guest. So now I have

783
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:57,360
Speaker 3: to look after you and the baby versus just me

784
00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:00,799
Speaker 3: figuring out like what my rhythm is. But now what

785
00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:02,960
Speaker 3: you know, he's now one and when I come over,

786
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:04,160
Speaker 3: she's like, girl, she's got it.

787
00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:07,200
Speaker 1: Like everything is like clockwork, like click click, she heats

788
00:35:07,200 --> 00:35:08,279
Speaker 1: it in his little stroller things.

789
00:35:08,280 --> 00:35:10,959
Speaker 3: He's here, Like when I come to babysit or visit,

790
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:13,399
Speaker 3: you could tell, like I would say, after like month

791
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:15,879
Speaker 3: five or six, she had gotten a nice rhythm going

792
00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:17,520
Speaker 3: and she kind of figured it out.

793
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:18,600
Speaker 1: And so everyone said that.

794
00:35:18,680 --> 00:35:20,960
Speaker 3: I just think that, you know, as long as you

795
00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:23,719
Speaker 3: articulate this is what I eat, and just.

796
00:35:23,719 --> 00:35:25,680
Speaker 1: Really ask your family and friends to respect that that

797
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 1: they will.

798
00:35:26,480 --> 00:35:29,239
Speaker 2: Everyone's different, but everyone does not need a barbecue. Like

799
00:35:29,320 --> 00:35:31,240
Speaker 2: no one needs a barbecue or if they have a baby.

800
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:35,480
Speaker 2: What I think people wonder what the right thing to do.

801
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:39,160
Speaker 2: Here's what I typically do with parents of a newborn baby.

802
00:35:39,200 --> 00:35:43,760
Speaker 2: Like you go to their house with some huge tray

803
00:35:43,840 --> 00:35:45,759
Speaker 2: of food that will last a while that they can

804
00:35:45,800 --> 00:35:48,399
Speaker 2: either freeze or they can eat them, and you leave

805
00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:50,600
Speaker 2: the tray and a present at the doorstep. You ring

806
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:53,399
Speaker 2: the doorbell, and you run, like just leave the food

807
00:35:53,440 --> 00:35:54,960
Speaker 2: and run. We tried to do that last night, but

808
00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:56,680
Speaker 2: they were actually up and about, so we went out

809
00:35:56,719 --> 00:35:58,520
Speaker 2: and we went in and hung it and hung around.

810
00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:01,600
Speaker 2: But then it was like Fiancee Booth started eating the

811
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:05,080
Speaker 2: food that we brought, and I was like, to go

812
00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:07,480
Speaker 2: there eating breadsticks.

813
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:09,000
Speaker 3: But yeah, no, exactly food. So that's what we did

814
00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:10,960
Speaker 3: to is like we came like doing it. We would

815
00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:13,239
Speaker 3: like just sit here. So when barbecue, we stayed, like

816
00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:15,120
Speaker 3: all of us stayed to the end. We do this anyway,

817
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:16,000
Speaker 3: but clean.

818
00:36:15,840 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 1: The kitchen, wash all the dishes, like just made.

819
00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:21,520
Speaker 3: Sure she didn't have to do anything as far as

820
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:25,920
Speaker 3: you know, cleaning up afterwards. Yeah yeah, but yeah, so

821
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:31,360
Speaker 3: I mean, who It's just I'm just glad that I am.

822
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:34,239
Speaker 1: My family still lives really close, Like the oldest is

823
00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:37,719
Speaker 1: the only one that lives like in Chicago, but the

824
00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:38,760
Speaker 1: rest of us live in Jersey.

825
00:36:38,920 --> 00:36:41,359
Speaker 3: So depending on how I feel, you know, I might

826
00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:42,640
Speaker 3: be like I want a lot of help, but I

827
00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:46,279
Speaker 3: might not be. But Superman hasn't had a child, so

828
00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 3: but she's nine ten now, so I don't know how

829
00:36:48,719 --> 00:36:49,760
Speaker 3: much he remembers.

830
00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:50,279
Speaker 1: From those new Board days.

831
00:36:50,280 --> 00:36:52,960
Speaker 3: But he's really good with the babies, like all the

832
00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 3: babies that are like next door neighbors and stuff, what

833
00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:56,120
Speaker 3: they like love him.

834
00:36:56,120 --> 00:36:57,879
Speaker 1: This one two year old that like literally.

835
00:36:57,520 --> 00:36:59,520
Speaker 3: When she's playing in our little backyard will knock on

836
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:03,640
Speaker 3: the door and like and she called him twin, which

837
00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:04,919
Speaker 3: is funny because he's a twin.

838
00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:07,200
Speaker 2: So you know in the hood, she's the one that

839
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:09,200
Speaker 2: comes over and us for candy and popcorn and like

840
00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 2: popsicles and stuff.

841
00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:12,719
Speaker 1: Like, No, no, that's Minnie. Minnie is like four or five. Mini.

842
00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:18,440
Speaker 1: No hell, And I'm like, yes, Minnie. She just walks in. No,

843
00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:20,400
Speaker 1: this one. She doesn't even speak. She's just knocking the door.

844
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:21,799
Speaker 1: You open it, you look down there she is. And

845
00:37:21,840 --> 00:37:25,359
Speaker 1: she said, and I'm like, he's not home. He's like,

846
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:26,399
Speaker 1: and I'm like.

847
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:28,719
Speaker 3: Uh so she just will stand by the refrigerator look

848
00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 3: at me like, well he's not here, but I still

849
00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:34,839
Speaker 3: need my my apple sauce, so handle it and just

850
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 3: like give her a couple of apple sauce.

851
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:38,600
Speaker 1: She leaves it. Sometimes she'll come back like you forgot

852
00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:39,040
Speaker 1: my spood.

853
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:43,440
Speaker 2: It starts to know your neighbors, but some nice to

854
00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:43,799
Speaker 2: know them.

855
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:49,560
Speaker 1: Stop pety everybody. He's like, no, I loves that. So, yeah,

856
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:51,400
Speaker 1: we have an apple sauce. Dash just just for the

857
00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:52,160
Speaker 1: baby next door.

858
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:54,400
Speaker 2: Oh, you guys are going to be great parents.

859
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:56,440
Speaker 1: Well he is. I'm like, I'm not sure.

860
00:37:56,320 --> 00:37:59,520
Speaker 2: About fine, stop it, and you put a baby on

861
00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:03,560
Speaker 2: your vision, you'll be fine. And plus supergirls and gonna

862
00:38:03,560 --> 00:38:06,240
Speaker 2: be so cute as a little as a big sister,

863
00:38:06,440 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 2: and she'll like take care push, she'll be kind of

864
00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:09,880
Speaker 2: old enough the babysit. So you got a built in

865
00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 2: childcare taker. Co parenting.

866
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:19,720
Speaker 1: You're a co parent now, yes, yeah, for babies.

867
00:38:20,480 --> 00:38:22,319
Speaker 2: But this is not a hint that I'm anywhere near

868
00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:24,200
Speaker 2: close to having a baby, just you know, just saying

869
00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:28,759
Speaker 2: other people's babies great. They tried to she left. She

870
00:38:28,840 --> 00:38:31,560
Speaker 2: kind of like almost sort of forced me to hold

871
00:38:31,560 --> 00:38:33,840
Speaker 2: the baby yesterday and I was like, but she's so new.

872
00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:36,840
Speaker 2: It was a sturdy baby though. I like the sturdy ones.

873
00:38:37,280 --> 00:38:39,160
Speaker 1: Like, don't you worry.

874
00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:41,479
Speaker 2: I don't blame Oh they called me out. They called

875
00:38:41,480 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 2: me out because, well, I blame the daddy because he

876
00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 2: posted a really unflattering photo of the newborn baby that

877
00:38:47,600 --> 00:38:51,000
Speaker 2: made her look just ginormous, just like so many baby

878
00:38:51,080 --> 00:38:54,399
Speaker 2: rolls and just huge. And I was like, oh, she's

879
00:38:54,440 --> 00:38:57,040
Speaker 2: so big, she's so big and cute, and then they

880
00:38:57,040 --> 00:38:59,080
Speaker 2: were like, well, their first some their first kid was

881
00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:01,880
Speaker 2: a babe, a boy the exact same weight, they said,

882
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:05,880
Speaker 2: but everyone's reaction was, oh, he's so strong, he's so sturdy.

883
00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:09,480
Speaker 2: Before the girl, everyone's like, she's so sad, she's so drunkie.

884
00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:12,799
Speaker 2: And they're like, this is how it begins. And I

885
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:15,280
Speaker 2: was like, no, that was just an unflattering photo.

886
00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:17,920
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm like, I love all the.

887
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:19,719
Speaker 1: Rules, and she was, you know what.

888
00:39:19,760 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 2: And I kind of feel like, as a mother, if

889
00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:23,719
Speaker 2: I were to give birth to a big baby, it's

890
00:39:23,719 --> 00:39:25,600
Speaker 2: almost like, yeah, I got my money's worth, you know,

891
00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:27,600
Speaker 2: like I carried that around and now it's out, Like

892
00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:31,040
Speaker 2: my I had a friend who gained like eighty pounds

893
00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:33,959
Speaker 2: and had like a six pound baby. What's it all? Four?

894
00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:34,759
Speaker 2: You know?

895
00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:49,560
Speaker 1: Just because I was your life?

896
00:39:50,600 --> 00:39:52,560
Speaker 2: Yes, as all.

897
00:39:53,640 --> 00:39:56,640
Speaker 1: No, there's a just song jump jump your love. No,

898
00:39:56,719 --> 00:39:58,520
Speaker 1: you wouldn't know. That's the pointer sisters. Oh my god,

899
00:39:58,560 --> 00:39:59,920
Speaker 1: I'm like so old. I remember the.

900
00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:06,480
Speaker 2: Yeah you're really old. I don't know who that is. Sorry,

901
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:08,600
Speaker 2: I said, die are old? I don't know who that is?

902
00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:12,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, I remember being really little. So I tweet me

903
00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:15,959
Speaker 1: if you remember the point of job to who you love?

904
00:40:16,320 --> 00:40:17,560
Speaker 2: Someone always does.

905
00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 1: Feel your touch. Job if you want to feel the

906
00:40:21,800 --> 00:40:24,040
Speaker 1: kids as it like I mean, and now you're gonna

907
00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:26,680
Speaker 1: make me YouTube them like job? You should? You should.

908
00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:29,399
Speaker 1: They were like in Vogue and beyond saying Destiny's Child

909
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:29,920
Speaker 1: before all that.

910
00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 2: Mm hmmm, well, I hope that Dusty's trial will last long.

911
00:40:34,280 --> 00:40:36,240
Speaker 2: Well people remember them.

912
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:43,200
Speaker 1: Oh, don't get cute. I know the millennials are trying

913
00:40:43,239 --> 00:40:44,040
Speaker 1: to slay usen.

914
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:46,319
Speaker 2: Xers, and they don't even be that I'm younger. It

915
00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 2: just may be that I'm out of touch with reality.

916
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:49,680
Speaker 2: I didn't know who Joey and the Slayer was or

917
00:40:49,719 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 2: what's what's the name the scammer, the scammer. Yeah, I

918
00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:53,520
Speaker 2: don't know who she was.

919
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 1: Millennial, you should be ashamed of yourself.

920
00:40:56,880 --> 00:40:58,799
Speaker 2: I'm really lame. I can't wait to be old, so

921
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 2: when I can match my interest in pop culture. Tips Yes,

922
00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 2: and as always, you can go to brand ambitionpodcast dot

923
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:11,719
Speaker 2: com with your questions personal finance or career related. I

924
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:15,400
Speaker 2: do apologize because there's a huge bunch of letters or

925
00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:18,759
Speaker 2: notes that we got that I just mis skipped over

926
00:41:18,800 --> 00:41:20,680
Speaker 2: when I was away in London. So I'm getting back

927
00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:24,880
Speaker 2: into early October notes and we have some really good questions. Actually, okay,

928
00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:27,480
Speaker 2: so let's start with someone who went so far as

929
00:41:27,520 --> 00:41:30,360
Speaker 2: to do the the hooked hooked on phonics version of

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Speaker 2: her name. So, thank you very much. Yeah REALI yeah Ralli.

931
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:40,120
Speaker 2: First thing she says is I'm a Latina Dominicana. Hello Olchica.

932
00:41:41,040 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 2: So her question is this always you guys like to write.

933
00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:47,080
Speaker 2: It's a long one, all right, So she says, I

934
00:41:47,120 --> 00:41:49,080
Speaker 2: want you to know I love the podcast. Thank you.

935
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:52,239
Speaker 2: So she says, my question is I'm twenty five years

936
00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:54,200
Speaker 2: old and I have a problem with trying to plan

937
00:41:54,360 --> 00:41:57,120
Speaker 2: every detail of my life. I would like to relocate

938
00:41:57,120 --> 00:42:00,880
Speaker 2: to Atlanta, Georgia Atlanta next summer and need tips on

939
00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:03,399
Speaker 2: finding a job and how much I should how much

940
00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:06,160
Speaker 2: I should save before I make the move. I currently

941
00:42:06,200 --> 00:42:08,840
Speaker 2: live in Pennsylvania, I make around fifty thousand dollars and

942
00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:11,960
Speaker 2: don't have any children. Long story short, I'll be moving

943
00:42:12,000 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 2: with my boyfriend, who has family in Georgia, but we

944
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:16,800
Speaker 2: do not plan on living with them. I would like

945
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:19,160
Speaker 2: to plan on having four months of expenses saved up

946
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:21,399
Speaker 2: before I go, so I have time to find a job.

947
00:42:21,800 --> 00:42:24,319
Speaker 2: But should I be applying to jobs now? How ston

948
00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:27,399
Speaker 2: is too soon to apply to jobs. Also, even though

949
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:31,319
Speaker 2: I'm super excited to move to Atlanta, blah blah blah

950
00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 2: blah blah blah, I am nervous to leave my cushy

951
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:36,359
Speaker 2: city job. And in the end, she just wants to

952
00:42:36,400 --> 00:42:39,279
Speaker 2: know how much money should she save before going out

953
00:42:39,280 --> 00:42:41,279
Speaker 2: of state and when is the right time to look

954
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:43,759
Speaker 2: for a job before or after you move to a

955
00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:45,840
Speaker 2: new city. It's a good.

956
00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:48,919
Speaker 1: Question, I'd say before, right, yeah, if.

957
00:42:48,800 --> 00:42:51,160
Speaker 2: You can before when I moved, I didn't. I moved

958
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 2: to New York when I got a job in New York.

959
00:42:54,280 --> 00:42:56,359
Speaker 2: So when I got that offer letter, it gave me

960
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:58,840
Speaker 2: the means to move bus because I didn't have any savings, Like,

961
00:42:58,840 --> 00:43:01,640
Speaker 2: I didn't have any financial meeting. And I mean, it's nice.

962
00:43:02,360 --> 00:43:04,200
Speaker 2: It either is really great, Like if you can find

963
00:43:04,239 --> 00:43:06,719
Speaker 2: a job before, that's great, But if you're if you

964
00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:08,759
Speaker 2: really want to move, and it's like you're going on

965
00:43:08,880 --> 00:43:11,000
Speaker 2: months and you haven't found a job, and maybe you

966
00:43:11,040 --> 00:43:13,440
Speaker 2: do need to be there in person to make connections

967
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:16,319
Speaker 2: and start networking with people in that area if you

968
00:43:16,360 --> 00:43:19,480
Speaker 2: don't have any doesn't seem like she has any personal connections,

969
00:43:19,480 --> 00:43:24,240
Speaker 2: but her her boyfriend does, so I'm like on the fence,

970
00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:27,120
Speaker 2: but I would love to have had a few months

971
00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:30,120
Speaker 2: in New York just living and like you know, exploring

972
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:32,600
Speaker 2: and getting to know people with cash in the bank.

973
00:43:33,719 --> 00:43:34,280
Speaker 2: That's smart.

974
00:43:34,280 --> 00:43:37,680
Speaker 3: But then then I would have probably six just just

975
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:39,640
Speaker 3: to be on the safe side. And I would also

976
00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:41,919
Speaker 3: up sign up with Do they call them headhunters?

977
00:43:42,160 --> 00:43:42,800
Speaker 1: Is that what it's.

978
00:43:42,680 --> 00:43:45,480
Speaker 2: Called, h yeah, recruiters?

979
00:43:46,480 --> 00:43:48,960
Speaker 1: So yeah, just just so you have like someone else

980
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:49,719
Speaker 1: looking for you.

981
00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:52,319
Speaker 2: As well, and start telling everyone, tell you all your

982
00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:55,080
Speaker 2: boyfriend's family. You know, they shouldn't be like you might

983
00:43:55,160 --> 00:43:57,400
Speaker 2: have connections. You could form some connections there and they

984
00:43:57,440 --> 00:44:00,200
Speaker 2: may know somebody who needs somebody or you know, has

985
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 2: a way to a job. I think. I think sometimes

986
00:44:03,600 --> 00:44:05,239
Speaker 2: it's so easy to just kind of like stand the

987
00:44:05,239 --> 00:44:08,640
Speaker 2: internet when you're looking for a job, but don't discount

988
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:10,279
Speaker 2: the power of personal connections.

989
00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:11,840
Speaker 1: That's way stronger.

990
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:14,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure, But you know, it's kind of like

991
00:44:14,719 --> 00:44:16,600
Speaker 2: a it's a balance. I don't know, it's I can

992
00:44:16,719 --> 00:44:18,759
Speaker 2: understand while you're kind of on the fence, but either way,

993
00:44:19,400 --> 00:44:21,120
Speaker 2: but I would say, just go ahead and at least

994
00:44:21,120 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 2: make a date when you plan to move, because it

995
00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:25,560
Speaker 2: takes planning to move too, and you have to get

996
00:44:25,600 --> 00:44:27,799
Speaker 2: stuff in order, and you have to know when to

997
00:44:27,800 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 2: cut off your bills and when to break your lease

998
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:31,319
Speaker 2: and stuff like that. So I would say, set a

999
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:34,799
Speaker 2: date and then start doing whatever you can to find

1000
00:44:34,800 --> 00:44:37,480
Speaker 2: a job. But if it doesn't work out, you know,

1001
00:44:37,640 --> 00:44:39,839
Speaker 2: take a little risk and go down there. You're young,

1002
00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:41,839
Speaker 2: twenty five, Yeah, but I.

1003
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:45,319
Speaker 3: Agree, Like I like you saving money ahead time, And

1004
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:46,760
Speaker 3: I never thought about it like that.

1005
00:44:46,680 --> 00:44:49,640
Speaker 1: That what you said maybe about moving and then getting

1006
00:44:49,719 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 1: just like a couple months just to be like, whoof that?

1007
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:54,560
Speaker 3: You're not like, I move today. I start my job

1008
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:57,760
Speaker 3: on Monday. Yeah, taking like some time to kind.

1009
00:44:57,600 --> 00:44:59,880
Speaker 1: Of export the city enjoy network.

1010
00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:02,680
Speaker 3: So there's something to be said for that. But I

1011
00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:05,400
Speaker 3: would probably have because I'm like an over point. I

1012
00:45:05,400 --> 00:45:07,439
Speaker 3: would like to have, like, you know, five or six

1013
00:45:07,520 --> 00:45:11,640
Speaker 3: months worth of savings and do a search on the

1014
00:45:11,719 --> 00:45:13,160
Speaker 3: kind of area that you'd like to live in.

1015
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:15,200
Speaker 1: You know, have your boyfriend obviously help you with.

1016
00:45:15,280 --> 00:45:17,040
Speaker 3: This is where I'm thinking that we ought to live

1017
00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 3: and get an idea of how much rent and utilities

1018
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:23,080
Speaker 3: costs so you can create what I like, I always

1019
00:45:23,080 --> 00:45:25,799
Speaker 3: like to do a budget of what my future life

1020
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 3: is going to look like.

1021
00:45:26,560 --> 00:45:28,640
Speaker 1: So here's my current life.

1022
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:30,719
Speaker 3: You know, this is how much I spend on utilities

1023
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 3: and hair and nails and everything else.

1024
00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 1: And then I create a.

1025
00:45:33,760 --> 00:45:36,879
Speaker 3: Budget for my Atlanta life, so I know how much

1026
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:40,160
Speaker 3: money because you might be spending more or less depending

1027
00:45:40,560 --> 00:45:44,399
Speaker 3: so you'll know, like, Okay, my Atlanta life actually costs

1028
00:45:44,440 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 3: me three hundred dollars less or three hundred dollars more

1029
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:50,360
Speaker 3: than what my my up North life is costing me.

1030
00:45:50,440 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 3: Now you know how much you need to have saved

1031
00:45:52,200 --> 00:45:53,680
Speaker 3: if you want to have six months saved.

1032
00:45:54,040 --> 00:45:56,400
Speaker 1: So definitely do a pre budget by listing the.

1033
00:45:56,480 --> 00:45:58,680
Speaker 3: Things that you know, by going online and saying, well,

1034
00:45:58,680 --> 00:45:59,759
Speaker 3: what do apartments go for?

1035
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 1: What does that look like? If I split?

1036
00:46:01,560 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 3: I'm assuming you're not living with your boyfriend now because

1037
00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:05,799
Speaker 3: it seems like you're moving down there with him, so

1038
00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:07,640
Speaker 3: your life might be less expensive, you know.

1039
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:11,919
Speaker 2: I think also it's important to understand, you know, Pennsylvania

1040
00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 2: and Atlanta. She doesn't say which city in Pennsylvania, but

1041
00:46:15,040 --> 00:46:19,200
Speaker 2: say it's like a Philly or a Pittsburgh. The salary

1042
00:46:19,239 --> 00:46:21,120
Speaker 2: may be similar to what she's earning in Atlanta, but

1043
00:46:21,160 --> 00:46:23,440
Speaker 2: it could be less. It could be more like, you know,

1044
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:25,640
Speaker 2: my New York salary. I wouldn't earn what I earned

1045
00:46:25,680 --> 00:46:27,480
Speaker 2: in New York if I was working as a journalist

1046
00:46:27,600 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 2: in Georgia because the cost of living is so much lower.

1047
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:32,520
Speaker 2: So you have to have like a realistic expectation of

1048
00:46:33,480 --> 00:46:35,440
Speaker 2: what you can ask for in terms of salary, of

1049
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:38,600
Speaker 2: what you should expect in terms of salary. And you

1050
00:46:38,600 --> 00:46:40,239
Speaker 2: can get a pretty good idea just by going to

1051
00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:43,279
Speaker 2: like a glassdoor dot com and putting in you know,

1052
00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:45,440
Speaker 2: your job and where you're moving, and it can give

1053
00:46:45,480 --> 00:46:48,480
Speaker 2: you an idea of what the median earnings are for

1054
00:46:48,520 --> 00:46:51,080
Speaker 2: your area. There's also a cool like cost of living calculator.

1055
00:46:51,120 --> 00:46:53,799
Speaker 2: I think it's CNN Money has one cost of living

1056
00:46:53,800 --> 00:46:55,799
Speaker 2: where you can put in your where you live now,

1057
00:46:55,800 --> 00:46:57,840
Speaker 2: in your earnings, and then it'll and where you're moving

1058
00:46:57,840 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 2: to and it'll show you, uh, basically what the equivalent

1059
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:06,520
Speaker 2: is of your you know, New York salary or Pennsylvania salary,

1060
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:08,400
Speaker 2: but in Georgia.

1061
00:47:08,600 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, there was there's another one called it called Smarty Pig.

1062
00:47:12,200 --> 00:47:14,879
Speaker 2: No this Marty Pig.

1063
00:47:15,800 --> 00:47:17,560
Speaker 1: No, No, I don't think there was another one that

1064
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 1: I like that too.

1065
00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:19,879
Speaker 3: It was like you typed in kind of like where

1066
00:47:19,880 --> 00:47:21,520
Speaker 3: you're going to live and what you do for a living,

1067
00:47:21,520 --> 00:47:23,360
Speaker 3: and it kind of tells you how much you'd be

1068
00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:25,239
Speaker 3: making and spending. But I can't remember the name of

1069
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Speaker 3: the site.

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Speaker 1: My bad.

1071
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Speaker 2: Next question, next this question, I'm not sure if she

1072
00:47:31,719 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 2: wants to say her name, just call her Tea. She says,

1073
00:47:36,680 --> 00:47:38,600
Speaker 2: thank you so much for the podcast. I've learned so

1074
00:47:38,719 --> 00:47:41,719
Speaker 2: much listening to you. I'm a thirty three year old

1075
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:45,319
Speaker 2: brown woman with no children from Linden, New Jersey. For

1076
00:47:45,400 --> 00:47:47,400
Speaker 2: the last two years, I've been helping to take care

1077
00:47:47,440 --> 00:47:50,160
Speaker 2: of my nephew who has cancer while doing what I

1078
00:47:50,200 --> 00:47:53,480
Speaker 2: While doing that, I was neglecting my responsibilities. I have

1079
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:55,399
Speaker 2: a good job. I work for the government. I got

1080
00:47:55,400 --> 00:47:58,040
Speaker 2: another job offer within the government in Virginia, so I

1081
00:47:58,120 --> 00:48:00,319
Speaker 2: left my family and friends behind to move to a

1082
00:48:00,360 --> 00:48:03,440
Speaker 2: state where I know no one all caps. So, now

1083
00:48:03,440 --> 00:48:05,440
Speaker 2: that I'm here and don't have to focus on anyone

1084
00:48:05,480 --> 00:48:07,879
Speaker 2: but myself, I want to get my finances in order.

1085
00:48:08,120 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 2: I want to start saving an emergency fund, but I

1086
00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:13,080
Speaker 2: can't because I'm living check to check. I'm thinking about

1087
00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 2: filing Chapter seven bankruptcy. I'm not behind in my car note,

1088
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:18,359
Speaker 2: but I was wondering if it's better to keep the

1089
00:48:18,360 --> 00:48:21,000
Speaker 2: car I have now, or let it go. I owe

1090
00:48:21,040 --> 00:48:23,680
Speaker 2: fourteen thousand, two hundred and forty two dollars and the

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Speaker 2: interest rate is seven point two percent. I just looked

1092
00:48:26,840 --> 00:48:28,800
Speaker 2: at the paperwork for my car loan and I've already

1093
00:48:28,800 --> 00:48:32,399
Speaker 2: paid over nine thousand dollars in interest. I am making

1094
00:48:32,400 --> 00:48:35,279
Speaker 2: a light of this, but I'm so overwhelmed. Please help,

1095
00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:40,080
Speaker 2: I'm at the end of my rope. So well, that's

1096
00:48:40,239 --> 00:48:41,680
Speaker 2: uh comatic.

1097
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:44,640
Speaker 1: Bankruptcy is the answer for her?

1098
00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:48,200
Speaker 2: For Tea what, I'm sorry you? What did you say?

1099
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:50,400
Speaker 3: I said, I don't think bankruptcy is the answer for

1100
00:48:50,480 --> 00:48:53,680
Speaker 3: t because it's not like she's saying, I owe one

1101
00:48:53,719 --> 00:48:55,960
Speaker 3: hundred thousand dollars and I make twenty thousand dollars year.

1102
00:48:56,040 --> 00:49:00,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's no talk of really debt except for the car.

1103
00:49:00,960 --> 00:49:04,640
Speaker 3: And to me, bankruptcy is so disruptive it's only worth

1104
00:49:04,640 --> 00:49:07,480
Speaker 3: it when you're in one of those like, honestly, I'm

1105
00:49:07,480 --> 00:49:10,399
Speaker 3: a teacher in a rural area. Oh, you know, two

1106
00:49:10,440 --> 00:49:12,600
Speaker 3: hundred thousand dollars because I was sticking in the hospital

1107
00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:15,480
Speaker 3: and I make twenty five thousand dollars a year. Where

1108
00:49:15,520 --> 00:49:19,120
Speaker 3: it's so ridiculous that you're like, girl, I there's just

1109
00:49:19,160 --> 00:49:22,960
Speaker 3: no way. But you're not in that position, you might

1110
00:49:23,000 --> 00:49:24,840
Speaker 3: want to consider it, like you might want to consider

1111
00:49:24,920 --> 00:49:26,920
Speaker 3: I think, what is it called surrendering your car? You

1112
00:49:26,920 --> 00:49:31,200
Speaker 3: can do that, you know, because I did this. Superman

1113
00:49:31,239 --> 00:49:36,400
Speaker 3: did it. So when I met Superman, his previous girlfriend

1114
00:49:38,120 --> 00:49:41,000
Speaker 3: co signed for him to get a truck. And the

1115
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:45,160
Speaker 3: what he was paying a month was honestly rent. I

1116
00:49:45,200 --> 00:49:47,359
Speaker 3: think he was paying like upwards of seven or eight

1117
00:49:47,400 --> 00:49:50,680
Speaker 3: hundred dollars a month, something ridiculous. And then on top

1118
00:49:50,719 --> 00:49:52,520
Speaker 3: of that, you know, you have to pay full full

1119
00:49:52,560 --> 00:49:55,880
Speaker 3: car insurance. It was costing him like nearly a thousand

1120
00:49:55,880 --> 00:49:57,600
Speaker 3: dollars a month, if not one thousand dollars a month,

1121
00:49:58,080 --> 00:49:59,719
Speaker 3: and it was ridiculous. And I was like, and the

1122
00:49:59,760 --> 00:50:01,480
Speaker 3: reason and why he thought it was a good idea

1123
00:50:02,360 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 3: is because he where we lived, where he was working,

1124
00:50:06,120 --> 00:50:08,240
Speaker 3: where he lived, and they were he was living rent

1125
00:50:08,280 --> 00:50:13,080
Speaker 3: free because he was like on call, like like on call,

1126
00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:16,680
Speaker 3: and so he was like, well, instead of paying you know, rent,

1127
00:50:16,719 --> 00:50:18,560
Speaker 3: I'm buying a car and I'm getting this car.

1128
00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:20,520
Speaker 1: And I'm like, yeah, that doesn't make sense because what

1129
00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:22,440
Speaker 1: if they get rid of that position and you have

1130
00:50:22,520 --> 00:50:23,920
Speaker 1: to pay rent? What are you gonna do. You can't

1131
00:50:23,960 --> 00:50:24,719
Speaker 1: afford to do both.

1132
00:50:25,400 --> 00:50:29,080
Speaker 3: And so I had him basically sell the car back

1133
00:50:29,160 --> 00:50:31,960
Speaker 3: and he lost money, yes, but he had that nine

1134
00:50:32,040 --> 00:50:34,640
Speaker 3: hundred dollars free up and sure enough, six months later

1135
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:37,879
Speaker 3: they eliminated that position and he had to start paying rent.

1136
00:50:38,840 --> 00:50:41,279
Speaker 3: So you know, so it was was it a loss

1137
00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:43,960
Speaker 3: of money, yes, but in the end, it was worth

1138
00:50:44,160 --> 00:50:46,520
Speaker 3: not having to pay that amount of money. And so

1139
00:50:46,560 --> 00:50:48,480
Speaker 3: what he did and said was with the money he

1140
00:50:48,520 --> 00:50:51,520
Speaker 3: had saved in the six months, he bought like a

1141
00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:54,160
Speaker 3: gently used, nice little car for thirty five hundred dollars

1142
00:50:54,200 --> 00:50:56,080
Speaker 3: cash and that's what he has now.

1143
00:50:56,680 --> 00:50:59,719
Speaker 2: So yeah, and she's got a seventeen percent interest rate.

1144
00:50:59,719 --> 00:51:02,040
Speaker 2: That's basically like putting paying for a car with a

1145
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:05,080
Speaker 2: credit card, like with an interest rate that high.

1146
00:51:05,880 --> 00:51:09,399
Speaker 3: So you want to consider selling it all back and

1147
00:51:09,440 --> 00:51:10,480
Speaker 3: then saving.

1148
00:51:10,680 --> 00:51:12,320
Speaker 1: And I don't know. But the thing is, my worry

1149
00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:13,479
Speaker 1: is how are you going to get to work?

1150
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:18,160
Speaker 2: M I mean, she doesn't say how good her credit is.

1151
00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:21,480
Speaker 2: I'm guessing it's not great, but you could try and refinance,

1152
00:51:21,640 --> 00:51:25,280
Speaker 2: you know, I'm assuming well, she says her lenders capital one.

1153
00:51:25,560 --> 00:51:27,759
Speaker 2: First of all, Capital one is becoming one of the

1154
00:51:27,880 --> 00:51:31,000
Speaker 2: if not one of, if not the largest issue or

1155
00:51:31,080 --> 00:51:34,319
Speaker 2: of subprime auto loans. Like they're they're not doing great

1156
00:51:34,320 --> 00:51:37,520
Speaker 2: stuff in the auto loan space, so you could try

1157
00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:41,280
Speaker 2: maybe getting a I'm gonna do a little plug because

1158
00:51:41,320 --> 00:51:43,960
Speaker 2: Magnified Money does have a student or not a student

1159
00:51:44,000 --> 00:51:46,640
Speaker 2: an auto loan refinancing page. If you go to magnify

1160
00:51:46,680 --> 00:51:50,160
Speaker 2: money dot com and look up our auto refinancing page,

1161
00:51:50,160 --> 00:51:52,120
Speaker 2: you can put in your information and then you can

1162
00:51:52,160 --> 00:51:55,200
Speaker 2: see what offers are out for you, and maybe you

1163
00:51:55,200 --> 00:51:59,359
Speaker 2: could qualify for a lower interest car note. But if

1164
00:51:59,360 --> 00:52:03,080
Speaker 2: you're if you're credit isn't bad are the advice typically is,

1165
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:04,760
Speaker 2: you know, do what you can to improve your credits.

1166
00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:07,520
Speaker 2: You can get approved for you know, a lower rate loan,

1167
00:52:08,440 --> 00:52:10,520
Speaker 2: but if it's just your car, I don't think that's

1168
00:52:10,680 --> 00:52:15,560
Speaker 2: enough to warrant, Like Tiffany said, the disruption of bankruptcy,

1169
00:52:15,600 --> 00:52:19,720
Speaker 2: because that's that takes a long time to recover from.

1170
00:52:19,920 --> 00:52:23,120
Speaker 2: And also it you know, to be you know, and

1171
00:52:23,120 --> 00:52:25,439
Speaker 2: and you know, I have had family members who file

1172
00:52:25,480 --> 00:52:28,279
Speaker 2: bankruptcy and I've seen it work as a tool, you know,

1173
00:52:28,360 --> 00:52:32,040
Speaker 2: for financial health, but I've also seen them file multiple times. Yeah,

1174
00:52:32,080 --> 00:52:34,359
Speaker 2: and I think, you know, I don't know if I've

1175
00:52:34,360 --> 00:52:39,040
Speaker 2: mentioned this before, but people credit card companies actually direct

1176
00:52:39,120 --> 00:52:42,640
Speaker 2: market to people who have file bankruptcy because they know, hey,

1177
00:52:42,640 --> 00:52:45,000
Speaker 2: this person's already proven that they like credit and that

1178
00:52:45,000 --> 00:52:47,759
Speaker 2: they'll they'll spend and carry a balance, and so they

1179
00:52:47,800 --> 00:52:51,120
Speaker 2: market directly to them because they know that those habits

1180
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:56,359
Speaker 2: and those the underlying behavior will benefit them and could

1181
00:52:56,400 --> 00:52:59,160
Speaker 2: hurt you. So if you file bankruptcy, you have to

1182
00:52:59,160 --> 00:53:01,279
Speaker 2: do a lot of work to change the habits that

1183
00:53:01,320 --> 00:53:06,280
Speaker 2: sort of got you there in the first place. Maybe

1184
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:09,720
Speaker 2: go to the liverat or Challenge dot com or anywhere

1185
00:53:09,719 --> 00:53:14,160
Speaker 2: else bunch of EESA materials are sold and get out

1186
00:53:14,160 --> 00:53:17,719
Speaker 2: of that situation. But it's hard though. Women are tend

1187
00:53:17,760 --> 00:53:20,240
Speaker 2: to be the caretaker, you know, And like she said,

1188
00:53:20,280 --> 00:53:22,080
Speaker 2: while she was taking care of her nephew who was sick,

1189
00:53:22,080 --> 00:53:25,319
Speaker 2: which was very like, you know, great. I'm sure her

1190
00:53:25,640 --> 00:53:28,040
Speaker 2: sister or her brother you know, loved her for that,

1191
00:53:28,120 --> 00:53:31,480
Speaker 2: but she neglected her own sort of financial health at

1192
00:53:31,480 --> 00:53:34,520
Speaker 2: the same time and put herself at risk. And luckily

1193
00:53:34,560 --> 00:53:37,799
Speaker 2: she's only thirty three, so there's time to sort of

1194
00:53:38,560 --> 00:53:41,440
Speaker 2: dig herself out of there. But yeah, it's hard, like

1195
00:53:41,480 --> 00:53:54,360
Speaker 2: she said, when she's living check to check alrighty well, okay,

1196
00:53:54,400 --> 00:53:56,359
Speaker 2: thank you for your question, Tea. And if you guys

1197
00:53:56,360 --> 00:53:58,680
Speaker 2: have more questions, you can email us at or go

1198
00:53:58,760 --> 00:54:01,399
Speaker 2: right to Brent Ambition podcas Past dot com and it's

1199
00:54:01,400 --> 00:54:03,520
Speaker 2: super easy to submit a question there.

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00:54:06,560 --> 00:54:09,560
Speaker 1: Yes, Lord, so we have one more question.

1201
00:54:10,400 --> 00:54:13,040
Speaker 2: No, that was that you know, those are those are

1202
00:54:13,040 --> 00:54:14,719
Speaker 2: the three that I selected. I don't want to I'll

1203
00:54:14,760 --> 00:54:21,759
Speaker 2: save the rest for later. All right, So wins when all.

1204
00:54:21,719 --> 00:54:24,680
Speaker 1: I do is win, win, win, no matter what. I

1205
00:54:24,760 --> 00:54:28,240
Speaker 1: never know the rest of the song. So well, don't

1206
00:54:28,360 --> 00:54:31,719
Speaker 1: judge me because I'm flying, you know, I him so

1207
00:54:32,120 --> 00:54:34,719
Speaker 1: uh and I say that.

1208
00:54:38,120 --> 00:54:40,520
Speaker 2: I was then't sure where you're going with that.

1209
00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:42,000
Speaker 1: I was like, it's just coming to me. I'm just good.

1210
00:54:42,040 --> 00:54:45,800
Speaker 1: I'm just free, free flowing, you know, just just free flowing.

1211
00:54:45,880 --> 00:54:49,120
Speaker 2: So you go first with wins, just scats, sketch it scats.

1212
00:54:53,560 --> 00:54:56,520
Speaker 2: Here's what I will do for a win this week.

1213
00:54:57,520 --> 00:55:00,000
Speaker 2: I want to do a win for this is gonna say.

1214
00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:02,840
Speaker 2: I'm really sappy, well, especially after we just did a

1215
00:55:02,880 --> 00:55:04,879
Speaker 2: question where a woman took care of her nephew who

1216
00:55:04,960 --> 00:55:08,799
Speaker 2: was really sick. One of the things about living where

1217
00:55:08,840 --> 00:55:11,720
Speaker 2: I live now with my family, we live in Inwood

1218
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:13,400
Speaker 2: which is a part of New York that is like

1219
00:55:13,520 --> 00:55:17,799
Speaker 2: historically very Latino, like a ton of Dominican family. But

1220
00:55:17,880 --> 00:55:22,880
Speaker 2: I want to do a win for familia community type situation,

1221
00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:25,680
Speaker 2: which is something I didn't really grow up around a lot,

1222
00:55:25,880 --> 00:55:28,160
Speaker 2: Like it wasn't like all my cousins and all my

1223
00:55:28,200 --> 00:55:30,400
Speaker 2: family were on the exact same block as me. But

1224
00:55:30,440 --> 00:55:33,600
Speaker 2: that's literally what it is like living with the family here.

1225
00:55:33,960 --> 00:55:38,400
Speaker 2: Like yesterday, we were, you know, I mentioned that fiance's

1226
00:55:38,440 --> 00:55:40,080
Speaker 2: cousin had a baby, and so we just walked down

1227
00:55:40,160 --> 00:55:41,759
Speaker 2: the block and we were going to take his dad

1228
00:55:41,800 --> 00:55:44,399
Speaker 2: to go see the baby and everyone, and then you know,

1229
00:55:44,520 --> 00:55:48,000
Speaker 2: the and his grandson was having a birthday party, and

1230
00:55:48,000 --> 00:55:50,200
Speaker 2: so the neighbors and like everyone was coming from the

1231
00:55:50,200 --> 00:55:53,480
Speaker 2: street and bringing like someone borrowed a boombox from somebody,

1232
00:55:53,560 --> 00:55:56,200
Speaker 2: someone borrowed a huge stereo system. Someone was bringing the beer,

1233
00:55:56,280 --> 00:55:59,480
Speaker 2: someone was bringing the food, and I it kind of

1234
00:56:00,080 --> 00:56:02,319
Speaker 2: I feel like living in New York. You know, I

1235
00:56:02,320 --> 00:56:04,520
Speaker 2: don't really have never really known my neighbors. Always lived

1236
00:56:04,520 --> 00:56:06,319
Speaker 2: in my you know, just go in and out of

1237
00:56:06,320 --> 00:56:08,799
Speaker 2: my apartment, my own business and not really part of

1238
00:56:08,840 --> 00:56:11,400
Speaker 2: the building or anything like that. But I kind of

1239
00:56:11,440 --> 00:56:13,440
Speaker 2: and I always like that. I always felt like, you know,

1240
00:56:13,960 --> 00:56:16,239
Speaker 2: I didn't like people in my business or you know

1241
00:56:16,280 --> 00:56:17,840
Speaker 2: a lot of my friends whose families are all in

1242
00:56:17,880 --> 00:56:20,000
Speaker 2: their business. I just kind of just always rub me

1243
00:56:20,040 --> 00:56:22,520
Speaker 2: the wrong way. Having people know what was happening in

1244
00:56:22,560 --> 00:56:24,719
Speaker 2: my life and being there for me. But I mean,

1245
00:56:24,800 --> 00:56:27,080
Speaker 2: living here it kind of makes me want to stay

1246
00:56:27,239 --> 00:56:29,759
Speaker 2: like close to family in a way. I mean, not

1247
00:56:29,840 --> 00:56:32,680
Speaker 2: like living with them, because that's a little much like

1248
00:56:32,719 --> 00:56:35,239
Speaker 2: that I'm kind of over. But I don't know, I

1249
00:56:35,960 --> 00:56:39,600
Speaker 2: want to raise like a family around other families and

1250
00:56:39,600 --> 00:56:42,439
Speaker 2: around like that community kind of setting. Like I guess

1251
00:56:42,480 --> 00:56:44,000
Speaker 2: you kind of have a taste of that where you

1252
00:56:44,040 --> 00:56:47,200
Speaker 2: live now, but I don't know. You help with childcare.

1253
00:56:47,760 --> 00:56:49,839
Speaker 2: Just you're able to support each other. It's nice that

1254
00:56:49,880 --> 00:56:53,000
Speaker 2: you know people when you're walking down the street. I

1255
00:56:53,000 --> 00:56:55,640
Speaker 2: don't think I'm saying anything like super revolutionary here, but

1256
00:56:55,640 --> 00:56:57,719
Speaker 2: for me, it's been like sort of a weird epiphany

1257
00:56:58,440 --> 00:57:01,400
Speaker 2: like of what I want from where we move eventually.

1258
00:57:02,440 --> 00:57:04,440
Speaker 2: So I just give a shout out to community and

1259
00:57:04,480 --> 00:57:05,840
Speaker 2: too familia.

1260
00:57:06,120 --> 00:57:08,839
Speaker 1: Oh but you're right, I think, you know. I think

1261
00:57:08,880 --> 00:57:10,279
Speaker 1: when you're younger, you're like I want to be as

1262
00:57:10,320 --> 00:57:11,800
Speaker 1: following from the family as possible.

1263
00:57:13,360 --> 00:57:15,800
Speaker 3: You're like, oh, I want to be close just because

1264
00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:19,480
Speaker 3: it's just nice to have people that can look after you,

1265
00:57:19,600 --> 00:57:22,040
Speaker 3: or like it's nice, like let's just say I'm doing.

1266
00:57:21,880 --> 00:57:24,560
Speaker 1: An interview in Superman is crowd up at work. He

1267
00:57:24,600 --> 00:57:27,080
Speaker 1: can call his sister, his brother, his cousin. Can you

1268
00:57:27,080 --> 00:57:28,720
Speaker 1: pick Supergirl up from school? You know?

1269
00:57:29,160 --> 00:57:32,840
Speaker 2: Yeah? Day care? Also, daycare is expensive, and having family

1270
00:57:32,880 --> 00:57:34,360
Speaker 2: nearby is going to save a lot of money.

1271
00:57:34,840 --> 00:57:37,960
Speaker 3: I'm telling you my sister, like they my sister just

1272
00:57:38,000 --> 00:57:40,280
Speaker 3: had the baby. Well I'm not just but she they

1273
00:57:40,360 --> 00:57:43,080
Speaker 3: moved in with her mother in law. She had a

1274
00:57:43,080 --> 00:57:45,280
Speaker 3: three family house. She has a three family house. She's

1275
00:57:45,320 --> 00:57:48,720
Speaker 3: upstairs there in the middle, his brother, her husband's brothers

1276
00:57:48,760 --> 00:57:51,960
Speaker 3: in the basement, and so like at first she was like, oh,

1277
00:57:52,040 --> 00:57:53,880
Speaker 3: you know, everyone kind of wants to have their own space.

1278
00:57:53,920 --> 00:57:57,120
Speaker 3: But now she's like, girl, I mean we would not

1279
00:57:57,120 --> 00:57:59,760
Speaker 3: be able to afford because she should. The mother in

1280
00:57:59,840 --> 00:58:03,320
Speaker 3: law is retired, so she watches the baby during the

1281
00:58:03,400 --> 00:58:06,120
Speaker 3: day and then we kind of take turns when when

1282
00:58:06,120 --> 00:58:08,400
Speaker 3: she can't, I'll watch, but I would and she's only

1283
00:58:08,440 --> 00:58:11,080
Speaker 3: twenty minutes away, so you know, being able to do

1284
00:58:11,120 --> 00:58:13,080
Speaker 3: that is only possible because we live.

1285
00:58:12,960 --> 00:58:17,720
Speaker 1: Close, you know. Yeah, yeah, so I have a win.

1286
00:58:17,760 --> 00:58:21,120
Speaker 3: It's kind of travel related, but it's definitely brown ambition.

1287
00:58:21,720 --> 00:58:24,720
Speaker 3: So there's this travel grook that I belong to onx

1288
00:58:25,040 --> 00:58:27,680
Speaker 3: B Facebook called no Madness.

1289
00:58:28,040 --> 00:58:31,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's one woman in particular. Her name is Keina,

1290
00:58:31,640 --> 00:58:35,640
Speaker 1: and she has this movement called hashtag book that Ish.

1291
00:58:36,160 --> 00:58:37,280
Speaker 2: So everybody have it.

1292
00:58:38,240 --> 00:58:40,640
Speaker 1: So her thing is is like you know most of us,

1293
00:58:40,720 --> 00:58:42,400
Speaker 1: you know you him in Hall. Oh should I get it?

1294
00:58:42,400 --> 00:58:43,160
Speaker 1: I'm not sure?

1295
00:58:43,560 --> 00:58:46,520
Speaker 3: So Keina is she called herself push her key like

1296
00:58:46,600 --> 00:58:48,439
Speaker 3: you know, like she will push you like girl book

1297
00:58:48,480 --> 00:58:52,240
Speaker 3: that Ish, you know it just go travel. So she's

1298
00:58:52,240 --> 00:58:54,200
Speaker 3: like a mechanical engineer by trade.

1299
00:58:54,200 --> 00:58:54,800
Speaker 1: Brown woman.

1300
00:58:55,640 --> 00:58:59,520
Speaker 3: And so last year she went to Dubai around this time,

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Speaker 3: good time. People are like, I want to go with

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Speaker 3: you because she always seems like she's having a good

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Speaker 3: time in her pictures. So a ton of people went.

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00:59:06,160 --> 00:59:09,560
Speaker 3: This year, they're calling it the Dubai Blackout. She what

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00:59:09,680 --> 00:59:12,439
Speaker 3: started off as an individual trip, then her friends joined,

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00:59:12,440 --> 00:59:16,200
Speaker 3: then her friends and friends went. Two hundred Brown people

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Speaker 3: are currently in Dubai and they're calling it Dubai blackout.

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Speaker 3: Hashtag Dubai Blackout two hundred they are collectively celebrating, well,

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Speaker 3: they went on a safari thirty six cars deep.

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Speaker 2: They're just like, yes, do they charter a jet?

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Speaker 3: I No, No, that they didn't, which would have been awesome, right, No,

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00:59:34,680 --> 00:59:36,640
Speaker 3: because you know what it is, no madgaged folks who

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Speaker 3: live all around the world.

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Speaker 1: Nice.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, they kind of just made their way down there.

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00:59:41,520 --> 00:59:44,080
Speaker 3: But they even started a separate Facebook group for them

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00:59:44,120 --> 00:59:47,160
Speaker 3: to like talk about where they're hanging out. People are

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Speaker 3: meeting family members that they haven't seen in years, like, wait,

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Speaker 3: you're on this trip and like one woman wrote, like,

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Speaker 3: oh my god, my cousin's on this trip. I haven't

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Speaker 3: seen her in twenty years. What.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it is just so beautiful to.

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Speaker 3: See that, you know that more and more brown people

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Speaker 3: are traveling, and that there are people out here like

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Speaker 3: this who are making it easier because you know, people

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Speaker 3: would think to this, oh I wouldn't even know what

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Speaker 3: to do or where to go. But she has made

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Speaker 3: the plans and all you have to just do is

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Speaker 3: you buy in, so you know, you get your hotel,

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Speaker 3: you get your flight. If you're not if you don't

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01:00:20,880 --> 01:00:22,760
Speaker 3: want to stay alone, they have a document like do

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Speaker 3: you want a roommate and if you want to be

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Speaker 3: a travel agent, yes, but like she's not getting paid

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Speaker 3: anything for it. She's just doing it because she really

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Speaker 3: wants to see Brown people travel more. She's amazing, honestly,

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Speaker 3: Like Keena Williams, she's just like when you see her

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Speaker 3: videos and stuff online, she just had her energy.

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Speaker 1: It's amazing.

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01:00:40,520 --> 01:00:42,960
Speaker 3: She Actually they had a tragedy a year or so

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Speaker 3: ago with No Madness and that bunch of folks went

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Speaker 3: to Panama and they were like going up in the

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Speaker 3: mountains and then the car that they were in actually

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01:00:51,040 --> 01:00:54,320
Speaker 3: went over a cliff and two members died, one of

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Speaker 3: which was my friend Nekka, and Keena was in that

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Speaker 3: car and.

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Speaker 1: Since you know, she survived.

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Speaker 3: So this has been her year yet where she's like

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Speaker 3: she's just doing everything and wants to live for lack

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Speaker 3: of the fullest in honor of the two No Madness

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Speaker 3: members that passed and also in honor of her survival,

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Speaker 3: and so she's just been She's just amazing, like you

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01:01:14,400 --> 01:01:16,440
Speaker 3: could just see from her smile. She's one of my

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Speaker 3: favorite people to follow.

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Speaker 2: I'd be nervous aboutsing the hashtag Dubai blackout though, what

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01:01:22,840 --> 01:01:26,120
Speaker 2: if like their police agent like this sounds kind of menacing.

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01:01:28,160 --> 01:01:30,960
Speaker 2: All the cyber warfare, you know, fear and stuff like, oh,

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01:01:31,160 --> 01:01:32,480
Speaker 2: someone's coming to hack us and.

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Speaker 3: Whatever, you know, right, I mean, I don't know, but honestly,

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Speaker 3: it's just been beautiful, like just to see them and

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Speaker 3: just everybody working together. My friend Cabral is there and

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01:01:42,320 --> 01:01:43,840
Speaker 3: he's having like an amazing time.

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Speaker 2: And Dubai I'd love to go to Dubai.

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Speaker 1: Yeas me too.

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Speaker 3: And you should just see that they had like this

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01:01:49,480 --> 01:01:51,920
Speaker 3: big dinner plan for them in the middle of the desert.

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Speaker 3: It looked very sex to the City Times two hundred,

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Speaker 3: like a family union of people.

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Speaker 1: That you don't know.

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Speaker 2: I'm going to India in December, which is kind of cool,

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Speaker 2: my first time. I've never been before. I'm actually going

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Speaker 2: for work because we have an office in this region

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Speaker 2: called Gujarat, which is in the western part of India.

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Speaker 2: But I'm excited. I have a week I'm going to

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Speaker 2: do a little work, a little play. I was looking

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Speaker 2: at the Google Maps at what's around there, and I'm

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01:02:21,080 --> 01:02:23,600
Speaker 2: not kidding when I tell you, like there's just green

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Speaker 2: space on Google Maps, and I always like, like, oh,

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Speaker 2: what's the green space? Is it a nice park. Is

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Speaker 2: it a garden? Whatever? It is called wild ass sanctuary,

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01:02:31,680 --> 01:02:34,160
Speaker 2: like wild ass sanctuary, and I was looking at it

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01:02:34,120 --> 01:02:36,000
Speaker 2: and I'm like, what am I reading this right? Wild

1382
01:02:36,000 --> 01:02:39,800
Speaker 2: that's sanctuary? Like cracking up and I'm like wait, wait,

1383
01:02:39,880 --> 01:02:42,240
Speaker 2: think like a grown up, what could this mean? Is

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01:02:42,280 --> 01:02:46,160
Speaker 2: it donkeys? Sure enough? It is a sanctuary for asses

1385
01:02:46,400 --> 01:02:51,080
Speaker 2: like donkeys, like a huge than Like I looked at

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01:02:51,120 --> 01:02:54,080
Speaker 2: all the Google images. It's just something but donkeys everywhere.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, it really exists, you can look it up.

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Speaker 2: I'm so glad that we're saving these wild asses. You know,

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01:03:05,520 --> 01:03:07,440
Speaker 2: I didn't know they were endangered or you know, I

1390
01:03:07,480 --> 01:03:10,880
Speaker 2: guess there's wild horses but never. Oh it's funny. Yeah,

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01:03:10,920 --> 01:03:12,440
Speaker 2: I'm excited. I want to I want to see what

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01:03:12,520 --> 01:03:15,120
Speaker 2: there's to see and eat the food. And it's such

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01:03:15,160 --> 01:03:17,320
Speaker 2: a huge country though I can't help but feel like

1394
01:03:17,360 --> 01:03:19,040
Speaker 2: I'm just seeing a teeny tiny little part of it.

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01:03:19,080 --> 01:03:21,240
Speaker 3: But I mean, if you get a chance to see

1396
01:03:21,280 --> 01:03:23,680
Speaker 3: if after we're like even if you can spend a

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01:03:23,800 --> 01:03:24,959
Speaker 3: day in this place called gow.

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Speaker 1: I didn't go because I didn't realize it existed.

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01:03:27,160 --> 01:03:28,600
Speaker 3: But when I went to India, I went for the

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01:03:28,880 --> 01:03:31,080
Speaker 3: Holy Festival where they throw all the beautiful powder and

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01:03:31,080 --> 01:03:32,480
Speaker 3: you were white and it's beautiful.

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01:03:32,880 --> 01:03:35,040
Speaker 1: So I went for like maybe like seven to ten

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01:03:35,120 --> 01:03:38,400
Speaker 1: days with no madness three years ago. It was an

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01:03:38,440 --> 01:03:38,960
Speaker 1: amazing trip.

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01:03:39,000 --> 01:03:42,760
Speaker 3: I also went to go see the what is that

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01:03:42,800 --> 01:03:48,320
Speaker 3: place called? Yeah, it was, honestly, you could. There's certain

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01:03:48,360 --> 01:03:50,240
Speaker 3: places in the world that you go and you can

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01:03:50,400 --> 01:03:53,240
Speaker 3: feel some sort of presence there, and that's what I

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01:03:53,240 --> 01:03:55,520
Speaker 3: found there was beautiful, especially knowing the story that it

1410
01:03:55,560 --> 01:03:58,440
Speaker 3: was built out of love and you can feel that

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01:03:58,480 --> 01:03:59,240
Speaker 3: there when you see it.

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01:04:00,040 --> 01:04:01,440
Speaker 1: So I did the taj Mahal. I think that was

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01:04:01,480 --> 01:04:02,520
Speaker 1: my first world wonder.

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Speaker 3: And then yeah, so if you get a chance, but

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01:04:06,040 --> 01:04:08,120
Speaker 3: I will say this my last day there, be very

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01:04:08,200 --> 01:04:11,400
Speaker 3: careful about eating uh anything that's not cooked, so.

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01:04:11,440 --> 01:04:13,400
Speaker 2: Meaning oh god, yeah, for sure.

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01:04:14,000 --> 01:04:15,400
Speaker 3: I didn't realize it because I was like, I was

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01:04:15,440 --> 01:04:17,720
Speaker 3: doing so well. Then I didn't drink any water that

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01:04:17,800 --> 01:04:20,880
Speaker 3: wasn't bottled. And then I had a salad like the

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01:04:21,000 --> 01:04:23,200
Speaker 3: day before, and because you know, you're realizing people watch

1422
01:04:23,280 --> 01:04:26,400
Speaker 3: salad just like we do stream, I had a salad

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01:04:26,440 --> 01:04:28,280
Speaker 3: and the next day my stomach was like, WHOA, what's

1424
01:04:28,320 --> 01:04:28,760
Speaker 3: going on?

1425
01:04:29,520 --> 01:04:29,840
Speaker 1: Girl?

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01:04:30,080 --> 01:04:34,640
Speaker 3: I literally prayed to teenage Jesus, Baby, Jesus, grown man, Jesus.

1427
01:04:35,720 --> 01:04:39,400
Speaker 3: I prayed to Mary, Joseph everyone. I was on the plane,

1428
01:04:39,480 --> 01:04:40,360
Speaker 3: like please God.

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01:04:40,200 --> 01:04:43,040
Speaker 2: If you oh my God, you're on the plane.

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01:04:43,080 --> 01:04:45,040
Speaker 1: But luckily my stomach was just bubble. It was it.

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01:04:45,160 --> 01:04:48,440
Speaker 3: But I got home and could not leave my room,

1432
01:04:49,400 --> 01:04:52,160
Speaker 3: like luckily my bathroom was next for three fold day.

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01:04:52,200 --> 01:04:55,040
Speaker 3: I couldn't even I couldn't even go downstairs, like I

1434
01:04:55,040 --> 01:04:56,960
Speaker 3: had to ask, can you please bring me food? Because

1435
01:04:57,320 --> 01:05:00,120
Speaker 3: that's how close in proximity to the basom I need.

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01:05:00,240 --> 01:05:02,520
Speaker 1: Be I have ever in my life.

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01:05:02,800 --> 01:05:06,120
Speaker 3: So luckily it like you know, teenage baby and gromn

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01:05:06,200 --> 01:05:09,240
Speaker 3: Jesus allowed me to get to my place of residence

1439
01:05:09,240 --> 01:05:11,400
Speaker 3: before tearing my insides out.

1440
01:05:11,440 --> 01:05:12,680
Speaker 2: But it was lucky.

1441
01:05:13,560 --> 01:05:17,200
Speaker 1: Yes, it was an experience like none other. And yeah,

1442
01:05:17,320 --> 01:05:20,240
Speaker 1: so just no roof, no vegetable like you can have

1443
01:05:20,280 --> 01:05:20,840
Speaker 1: a cook.

1444
01:05:20,720 --> 01:05:23,120
Speaker 2: But oh yeah, yeah, I learned. I learned my lesson

1445
01:05:23,120 --> 01:05:26,320
Speaker 2: the hard way. In South America, I got the worst situe.

1446
01:05:26,360 --> 01:05:27,640
Speaker 2: The same thing happened to me, but I was in

1447
01:05:27,680 --> 01:05:30,520
Speaker 2: Brazil and it happened to me the day I was

1448
01:05:30,560 --> 01:05:32,919
Speaker 2: taking like a six hour bus ride back to Rio

1449
01:05:32,960 --> 01:05:34,800
Speaker 2: because I had gone on like this excursion to a

1450
01:05:34,800 --> 01:05:37,720
Speaker 2: little town, and yeah, I was going six hour bus

1451
01:05:37,840 --> 01:05:40,320
Speaker 2: ride to the airport and then the flight home and

1452
01:05:40,520 --> 01:05:44,880
Speaker 2: oh my god, luckily I like, I like got I

1453
01:05:44,880 --> 01:05:47,240
Speaker 2: don't want to get too graphic, but things were done.

1454
01:05:47,400 --> 01:05:49,720
Speaker 2: By the time I got to the plane and the

1455
01:05:49,760 --> 01:05:51,560
Speaker 2: whole way home, I was just ill. I just like

1456
01:05:51,560 --> 01:05:54,520
Speaker 2: slept the whole way. But oh, that's the worst I had.

1457
01:05:54,640 --> 01:05:56,640
Speaker 2: I had. What got me was I had soup. I

1458
01:05:56,640 --> 01:05:59,400
Speaker 2: should have known better. I mean, come on, like, come on,

1459
01:05:59,520 --> 01:06:02,720
Speaker 2: I had souper. It was really cold, it will look

1460
01:06:02,800 --> 01:06:04,280
Speaker 2: really tasty. I was bad.

1461
01:06:04,680 --> 01:06:06,920
Speaker 3: I lost like fifteen pounds in like three days. I

1462
01:06:07,000 --> 01:06:09,360
Speaker 3: was like, I just don't want to die here.

1463
01:06:11,240 --> 01:06:14,840
Speaker 2: Just take me to the wild that sanctuary.

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01:06:15,160 --> 01:06:17,240
Speaker 1: I want to die. It was wild, that's thanks story.

1465
01:06:17,440 --> 01:06:18,200
Speaker 1: But it was beautiful.

1466
01:06:18,240 --> 01:06:22,360
Speaker 3: India was beautiful, the colors, the I love going places

1467
01:06:22,400 --> 01:06:26,840
Speaker 3: where you are inundated with difference, meaning that I don't

1468
01:06:27,120 --> 01:06:29,240
Speaker 3: like it's much as much as I liked like Madrid

1469
01:06:29,320 --> 01:06:31,160
Speaker 3: and stuff like that, and like London was all right,

1470
01:06:31,400 --> 01:06:33,720
Speaker 3: but I felt like, oh, I could see this in

1471
01:06:33,720 --> 01:06:38,360
Speaker 3: the US, but India was so everything was different and

1472
01:06:38,440 --> 01:06:40,440
Speaker 3: I love that. I love, like, if I want to travel,

1473
01:06:40,480 --> 01:06:42,600
Speaker 3: I want to feel like unless I'm traveling in the US,

1474
01:06:42,640 --> 01:06:46,120
Speaker 3: I want to feel like like that I'm fully encompassed

1475
01:06:46,160 --> 01:06:49,040
Speaker 3: in this new experience from the food, it sounds and smells,

1476
01:06:49,080 --> 01:06:51,000
Speaker 3: and once you kind of get over the fact that

1477
01:06:52,000 --> 01:06:53,400
Speaker 3: you know, there's just going to be certain things that

1478
01:06:53,480 --> 01:06:55,160
Speaker 3: you're you're just not going to have the way it

1479
01:06:55,240 --> 01:06:57,480
Speaker 3: is here. So I've been to Nigeria several times, so

1480
01:06:58,240 --> 01:07:00,520
Speaker 3: it wasn't hard for me to be like, oh, oh,

1481
01:07:00,560 --> 01:07:01,960
Speaker 3: so you don't have a bathroom.

1482
01:07:01,680 --> 01:07:02,520
Speaker 1: In a traditional sense.

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01:07:02,560 --> 01:07:04,720
Speaker 3: Okay, Like it didn't bother me because I'd been to

1484
01:07:04,760 --> 01:07:05,720
Speaker 3: other places where.

1485
01:07:05,560 --> 01:07:05,960
Speaker 1: That was so.

1486
01:07:06,080 --> 01:07:08,600
Speaker 3: But but if you come with the oh my god,

1487
01:07:08,680 --> 01:07:10,720
Speaker 3: you mean I can't order this, Oh my god.

1488
01:07:10,560 --> 01:07:11,720
Speaker 1: Then yeah, and I know you're not.

1489
01:07:11,840 --> 01:07:14,360
Speaker 2: But I love me some Indian food. I can't wait.

1490
01:07:15,120 --> 01:07:18,280
Speaker 2: Well for the cooks, kind for the cooked food. Yeah,

1491
01:07:18,280 --> 01:07:20,160
Speaker 2: I'm looking forward to it. Hopefully my co I'll be

1492
01:07:20,200 --> 01:07:23,360
Speaker 2: with my coworkers, so hopefully they'll like, you know, take

1493
01:07:23,400 --> 01:07:25,920
Speaker 2: me out in the town. Although I'm pretty sure the

1494
01:07:25,960 --> 01:07:28,120
Speaker 2: area I'm going to is a dry town. But that's okay,

1495
01:07:28,720 --> 01:07:31,640
Speaker 2: it's fine. Yeah, I'm really excited, so that's kind of up.

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01:07:32,640 --> 01:07:36,080
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, all right, miss thing Ambition wrapped up.

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Speaker 3: I hope you will visit the Wild Ass Sanctuary should

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01:07:39,640 --> 01:07:41,280
Speaker 3: you ever go to India.

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Speaker 2: It exists Gujarat. It's close to the Pakistan border. That's

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Speaker 2: all I know. I'm exciting, all right, Well, how the

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Speaker 2: lovely wee yes?

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Speaker 1: And if you guys, have you want to tweet us?

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Speaker 1: I know someone tweeted me the Budget East the Mandy Woodroff.

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Speaker 2: Right, tis true?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? With an I Mandy with an eye. And of course,

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Speaker 1: uh is it the b A podcast or b A podcast?

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Speaker 2: It's the b A podcast on.

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Speaker 3: And you can always message us, email us and you

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Speaker 3: can find everything that you need on Brown Ambition podcast

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Speaker 3: dot com. Yes, ma'am, yes see, I'm I is smart

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Speaker 3: And until next week, we bid you adio.

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Speaker 2: Adiin to you. Bye bye r bye