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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for not telling my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: I won money fifteen years ago? This is okay if

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Speaker 1: the home of the craziest true stories on Earth. I'm

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Speaker 1: Sophia and Riley. Let's hear from sweet Cherry Pies. I

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Speaker 1: don't know what I did wrong, or if what I

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Speaker 1: like to be as anonymous as possible. My boyfriend, thirty

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Speaker 1: five male, and I thirty five female, were discussing finances

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Speaker 1: as we wanted to be on the same page. My

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Speaker 1: boyfriend moved in with me unexpectedly three months ago as

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Speaker 1: his landlord decided to move into the property with his family.

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Speaker 1: We were discussing finances and the topic of how I

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Speaker 1: own my place came up. I explained I won some money,

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Speaker 1: not a lot, but enough to be able to put

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Speaker 1: myself through nursing school, purchase my home, and then rented

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Speaker 1: it out until I moved back into it in late

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Speaker 1: twenty eighteen. Obviously, I had some luck on my side,

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Speaker 1: as this was right in the middle of the recession,

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Speaker 1: so I got my place for real cheap. He says,

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Speaker 1: I deceived him by giving him the impression that I

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Speaker 1: was financially well off, and that I led him to

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Speaker 1: believe I was more business savvy than I was. What

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Speaker 1: you know, what it is he got the ick well,

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Speaker 1: but he doesn't even know if she's not business savvy.

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Speaker 2: Well, like he assumed that she was super business savvy,

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Speaker 2: and now he's like, oh my gosh, maybe she's not

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Speaker 1: But it seems like she is really good at handling

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Speaker 1: her money because she got all this money and then

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Speaker 1: she used it really well. Because you know a lot

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Speaker 1: of people just like spend get a bunch of money

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Speaker 1: and then they spend it on frivolous things. But she

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Speaker 1: was like, no, let's pay off all these things and

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Speaker 1: get a house. Like that's that's she did it.

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Speaker 2: Well.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how I did that, because I literally

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Speaker 1: work as a nurse and make decent money, fully own

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Speaker 1: my home, fully own my car, have decent retirement plans,

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Speaker 1: and decent savings. I'm fairly certain that I am financially

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Speaker 1: better off than most people I know. He says it

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Speaker 1: he can't trust me anymore, and that he was stupid

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Speaker 1: to have listened to my financial advice. But the thing

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Speaker 1: is I never gave him any financial advice except for

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Speaker 1: telling him not to buy a car that was, in

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Speaker 1: my opinion, unreliable and much too expensive. Did I deceive

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Speaker 1: him by not telling him how I got myself financially stable? FYI?

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Speaker 1: We have been dating for almost a year and a half.

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Speaker 2: Now, No, have it so long ago?

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Speaker 1: It happened so long ago. And also how is that? Like,

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Speaker 1: I just the fact that oh he used the money,

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Speaker 1: well yeah, like was very smart about it, and he's

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Speaker 1: angry about that. That's weird.

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Speaker 2: It's even not even that much money to be.

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Speaker 1: Upset about, Like, fifteen thousand dollars is a lot of money,

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Speaker 1: but in the like scheme, in the grand scheme of

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Speaker 1: in fifteen years, come on, come on, just mad that

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Speaker 1: she didn't buy him a car. I wouldn't even I

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Speaker 1: don't know. I don't even know if that would have

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Speaker 1: been relevant information to bring up.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, because it happened.

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Speaker 1: So long ago. I just had another very weird conversation

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Speaker 1: with him, and I honestly can't wrap my head about

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Speaker 1: around it. Yeah, so he's definitely a gold digger. Yeah

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Speaker 1: that makes sense because he's like, oh, I want to

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Speaker 1: be with her because she has all this money, and

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Speaker 1: then he finds out that she doesn't have as much

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Speaker 1: money as he thought. Interesting, But also he must have

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Speaker 1: known that she was a nurse, so I mean he

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Speaker 1: mist money though, Yeah, but he must have known how

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Speaker 1: like roughly. He asked me how much I have in

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Speaker 1: maybe he reacted too aggressively. Then asked told me that

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Speaker 1: he still wants the car. I advised him not to get.

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Speaker 1: He hinted at me getting it for him as a

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Speaker 1: birthday present since its birthday in early March, called it.

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Speaker 1: I'm definitely dumping him. Going to wait till my two

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Speaker 1: sisters and my two brothers in law? Comment?

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Speaker 2: Is it brother in law's the husbands?

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Speaker 1: No, no, I know, is it brothers in law or brother

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Speaker 2: Which one? Is it brother's in law or brother in

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that sounds better. Going to wait till my two

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Speaker 1: reacts crazy. Yeah. No, he's definitely gold. That's so weird.

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Speaker 1: She literally was like that's too expensive of a car,

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Speaker 2: That's weird, that's nice.

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Speaker 1: That's that strange.

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Speaker 2: Would you buy your significant other car after a year

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Speaker 2: and a half? No, what if? Like what if he's

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Speaker 2: the one after a year.

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Speaker 1: And a half. I'm not buying anyone a car. Also,

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Speaker 1: I don't know how long it would take me to

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Speaker 2: Well, let's say like you're a nurse that has a

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Speaker 2: nice job, and like you could get them not like

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Speaker 2: a brand new car, but like a used car.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well that's it depends on the cost of the car.

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Speaker 1: But it seems like eighteve hundred Yeah I could justify that. Okay,

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Speaker 1: thirty five hundreds, Like that's justifiable. I like a longer.

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Speaker 1: How long has this relationship been going on for one.

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Speaker 2: And a half years? No, thirty five hundred, Yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, that's that's still a lot. That is still

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Speaker 1: a lot. I think you're giving.

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Speaker 2: Them transportation, like they're always tell my babe, take me

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Speaker 2: to check the cheese, babe, take me to the flea market. Nah.

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Speaker 1: I would be like, you need to get your No,

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Speaker 1: you know what, No, I take it back. I don't

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Speaker 1: think I would. After a year and a half relationship.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I would.

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Speaker 2: She doesn't like gold diggers guys.

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Speaker 1: Oh, he says, he's jealous and also resentful. He's ranting

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Speaker 1: about how he would have trippled the money if he

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Speaker 2: Wow, How what's she has a property? My guy?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she literally did everything right. And he's like, well,

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Speaker 1: I could have. I could have gotten fifty million dollars

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Speaker 1: with that. I would have been invested in it in stocks.

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Speaker 2: No, now you could have, dude, she got herself through

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Speaker 2: Narson's cool too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Also, if you're so good with money, then why

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Speaker 1: don't you buy your own car? Yo. He's saying that

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Speaker 1: my money is wasted on me because I don't make

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Speaker 1: it make money. Apparently I should have been investing my

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Speaker 1: I said. I knew he was gonna say that. FYI,

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Speaker 1: I do get financial advice from a financial advisor I trust,

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Speaker 1: but I am a risk adverse person, so I would

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Speaker 1: never invest it in the manner this idiot is telling

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Speaker 1: me to sure the chance to get a lot of

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Speaker 1: money is there, but so is the chance to lose. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't fully understand how stocks work.

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Speaker 2: Can you be a gold digger and a financial bro

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Speaker 2: I don't think you can.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I think he has to be making that money himself. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think he just really wants his OPI to make

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Speaker 1: all the money. He's like, you should be doing this

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Speaker 1: and this and this, but also I'm not going to

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Speaker 1: do any of them. He's now on a crazy rant

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Speaker 1: because I suggested we take a break from this argument

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Speaker 1: because I don't want to ruin a few days off.

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Speaker 1: My god, I can't believe how he's behaving. He thinks

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Speaker 1: he's so clever, but I'm thoroughly disgusted. Oh, it's absolutely

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Speaker 2: Yi.

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Speaker 1: Yes, And finally last edit, Okay, so I understand him

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Speaker 1: better now, Okay, talking a back. What happens so my

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Speaker 1: house slash the property it's on is what led him

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Speaker 1: he assumed I was loaded, so me telling him I

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Speaker 1: telling me that with just a quarter of my money

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Speaker 1: market and make real money. Oh, he is genuinely deluded.

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Speaker 2: He almost had her back, he was so close.

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Speaker 1: Did she mention how much she got or no, she

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Speaker 1: didn't say how much she won. Right, let's do some math,

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Speaker 1: because I was thinking that's I was thinking about it

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Speaker 1: because nursing school is probably at least a couple like

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Speaker 2: Okay, pick a state, Pick a state, let's do.

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Speaker 1: I can't think of it.

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Speaker 2: North Dakota. Okay. How much is the house in North

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Speaker 2: Dakota in two thousand and eight? House coss? This is what? Whatever?

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Speaker 1: Almost two hundred okay, so how much is nursing school?

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Speaker 2: Nursing school would say she was smart and did like

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Speaker 2: in state. Yeah, so per year was five grand? How

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Speaker 2: many how many years do you go to nursing school?

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Speaker 1: Five grand? Where was that? That's so cheap?

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Speaker 2: So she probably won like two hundred and twenty five

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Speaker 1: But also I think going back to like the boyfriend

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Speaker 1: would have been a problem for him to have been like, hey,

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Speaker 1: let's invest your money, like yeah, because I think that

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Speaker 1: I don't understand I knew it, but I think it

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Speaker 2: She already has that.

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Speaker 1: What do you mean she.

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Speaker 2: Has a financial advisor she talks to.

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Speaker 1: That's true.

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Speaker 2: But this guy's like, oh d's coin. Well, no, like

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Speaker 2: I was.

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Speaker 1: Gonna say, I think it is. I don't think it's

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Speaker 1: not like inherently about thing. But I think the way

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Speaker 1: I just want your money. Opie obviously knows how to

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Speaker 2: I just want to know how you want it. That's

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Speaker 2: what I want to know.

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Speaker 1: Lottery maybe lottery. Where do you win money?

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Speaker 2: I know? But you know what else we can win at?

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Speaker 2: Right now?

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Speaker 1: This next story, let's go, would my mom be the

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Speaker 1: asshole for leaving my dad after we found out he's

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Speaker 1: only with her to try and take her elderly parents inheritance.

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Speaker 1: And this is from our Okay sub reddit.

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Speaker 2: Whoa, that's crazy. I hate that this happened to you. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: he's a hole for sure, absolutely, like take an advantage

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Speaker 2: of old people.

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Speaker 1: Come on, I just don't understand. Like we've read a

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Speaker 1: couple of these stories where people stay with or like

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Speaker 1: we'll stay with a partner for someone's money, him money.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, that's just too long con. I can't do that.

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Speaker 2: That is too long con.

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Speaker 1: Let's find out about this long.

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Speaker 2: Sophia is here for a good time, not a long time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and with all the stigmatisms with divorcing everything, she

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Speaker 1: Absolutely not be there.

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Speaker 2: Yike's tough situation. Yes, you want to know what else's

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah? What what's fair?

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Speaker 2: What is fair? How do we fix this? But I

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Speaker 1: But you know it's not chill this next story? Whoa

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Speaker 1: Who am I the a hole for yelling at my

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia and Riley. Would you yell at your brother

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Speaker 2: Oh heck yeah, I'd be like, Look, I know I

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Speaker 1: Yeah, don't point it out.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, But also I think it depends on is this

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Speaker 2: That's my questions, that's the real question.

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Speaker 1: And Kim's sister, gold Digger, has answers. So I, thirty Mail,

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Speaker 1: come from a well off family, but my dad always

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Speaker 1: He was twenty nine? Okay, the dad's twenty nine nepotism.

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Speaker 1: It seems like you're a hard worker.

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Speaker 1: Back in my second year of UNI, I met Kim

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Speaker 1: we went to his place, brought some ingredients and cooked together.

439
00:18:24,960 --> 00:18:28,120
Speaker 1: That's cute. This then became us going shopping for ingredients

440
00:18:28,200 --> 00:18:30,919
Speaker 1: after classes on Friday. I'd stayed his place that night,

441
00:18:30,960 --> 00:18:32,760
Speaker 1: and we would cook on the weekend, and this became

442
00:18:32,800 --> 00:18:34,320
Speaker 1: our weekly routine. That's so cute.

443
00:18:34,400 --> 00:18:34,920
Speaker 2: I want that.

444
00:18:35,040 --> 00:18:36,720
Speaker 1: I love that. I would do that with my friends,

445
00:18:37,000 --> 00:18:38,960
Speaker 1: Like I had one friend who I'd just like always

446
00:18:38,960 --> 00:18:40,840
Speaker 1: come over and we would cook together. It's great.

447
00:18:41,119 --> 00:18:42,560
Speaker 2: She doesn't have cooking friends here.

448
00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:45,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, it's so tragic. Back then, I just

449
00:18:45,560 --> 00:18:48,080
Speaker 1: told others that we were just friends. But with hindsight,

450
00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:50,520
Speaker 1: that is definitely when I started to fall for him.

451
00:18:50,720 --> 00:18:52,879
Speaker 1: I finally asked him out a few months later and

452
00:18:52,960 --> 00:18:54,800
Speaker 1: he said yet. We lived in the same house with

453
00:18:54,840 --> 00:18:56,800
Speaker 1: two other friends in our third year, and I asked

454
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Speaker 1: him to move in with me after we graduated.

455
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Speaker 2: This is that cute stories.

456
00:19:01,000 --> 00:19:03,159
Speaker 1: From the beginning, I told Kim that I would not

457
00:19:03,320 --> 00:19:05,800
Speaker 1: care if he didn't work, but he insisted he wanted

458
00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:08,600
Speaker 1: to contribute financially. But after a year I had to

459
00:19:08,600 --> 00:19:11,160
Speaker 1: make him stop due to the differences in our incomes.

460
00:19:11,240 --> 00:19:13,840
Speaker 1: He was working himself half to death and was getting

461
00:19:13,880 --> 00:19:16,560
Speaker 1: ill trying to contribute enough. I sat him down and

462
00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:19,560
Speaker 1: told him that whatever money he made didn't matter, that

463
00:19:19,640 --> 00:19:21,919
Speaker 1: if he wanted to work, I wanted him to be happy.

464
00:19:22,359 --> 00:19:24,640
Speaker 1: He cut back his hours, then moved a part time,

465
00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:27,240
Speaker 1: then decided to quit and work on his own projects.

466
00:19:27,320 --> 00:19:29,159
Speaker 1: But he insisted I let him take on some of

467
00:19:29,160 --> 00:19:32,639
Speaker 1: the housework. That's knowing all that backstory and then having

468
00:19:32,680 --> 00:19:35,280
Speaker 1: the sister like say, gold digger.

469
00:19:35,280 --> 00:19:38,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a good that's a great conversation they had.

470
00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:42,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, like that's so sweet, Like not one he was like,

471
00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:44,880
Speaker 1: you don't have to work, and then Kim was like no,

472
00:19:45,080 --> 00:19:47,400
Speaker 1: like I like I want to work, Like I don't

473
00:19:47,440 --> 00:19:49,880
Speaker 1: want to, you know, be the gold digger in the situation.

474
00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:53,200
Speaker 1: And then when Opie noticed that he was like just

475
00:19:53,320 --> 00:19:56,840
Speaker 1: pushing him way himself, way too hard, he talked about it.

476
00:19:56,880 --> 00:19:59,240
Speaker 2: I had a conversation, I like to really hopey like that.

477
00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:02,920
Speaker 2: Op He was like, you I don't deserve anything. They

478
00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:05,320
Speaker 2: were like, hey, I love you and want to take

479
00:20:05,320 --> 00:20:06,679
Speaker 2: care of you. This is what I want to do.

480
00:20:06,720 --> 00:20:09,679
Speaker 2: And then their partner was like, hey, you're doing a

481
00:20:09,680 --> 00:20:11,040
Speaker 2: lot for me. I'm going to pitch in and I'm

482
00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:12,840
Speaker 2: gonna help here in that. Yeah, that's that's amazing. I

483
00:20:12,880 --> 00:20:13,040
Speaker 2: like that.

484
00:20:13,240 --> 00:20:16,720
Speaker 1: Even even after they both agreed to like Kim not

485
00:20:17,000 --> 00:20:20,640
Speaker 1: working like job wise, he Kim was still like, I'm

486
00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:22,800
Speaker 1: going to take on the housework. Yeah, like he's still

487
00:20:22,880 --> 00:20:25,679
Speaker 1: he's still contributing a lot, which is I love that.

488
00:20:25,960 --> 00:20:29,199
Speaker 1: Now onto the issue my sister, thirty two female. She

489
00:20:29,359 --> 00:20:32,000
Speaker 1: and her partner, thirty one male, both work, and he

490
00:20:32,080 --> 00:20:35,080
Speaker 1: also makes significantly less than her, And in private to me,

491
00:20:35,440 --> 00:20:38,119
Speaker 1: she's made it known that she resents being the breadwinner.

492
00:20:38,400 --> 00:20:40,679
Speaker 1: She sees all her male colleagues spoil and treat their

493
00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:43,800
Speaker 1: wives and wishes her partner would do the same. He does,

494
00:20:43,920 --> 00:20:45,760
Speaker 1: but just not to the same level due to the

495
00:20:45,760 --> 00:20:48,560
Speaker 1: fact he makes basically half as much as they do.

496
00:20:48,880 --> 00:20:52,480
Speaker 1: That's I don't like this. She seems very like antiquated,

497
00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:56,600
Speaker 1: like gender roles. Maybe a little jealous, yeah.

498
00:20:56,480 --> 00:20:59,240
Speaker 2: Maybe a little jealous, Yeah, some conspiracies.

499
00:20:59,400 --> 00:21:02,560
Speaker 1: It does seem like she's tell us that like, uh

500
00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:05,560
Speaker 1: that op, he gets to treat like his partner, whereas

501
00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:08,520
Speaker 1: she doesn't feel like she's being treated. Yeah, but I

502
00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:10,960
Speaker 1: mean he's it still seems like her partners like taking

503
00:21:10,960 --> 00:21:13,640
Speaker 1: you know, doing what he can. I think you it's

504
00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:16,360
Speaker 1: not about how the cost or like the how much

505
00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:18,439
Speaker 1: you're spending on a person. It's like the time and

506
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:21,080
Speaker 1: effort that you're putting into him. Recently, I was talking

507
00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:23,159
Speaker 1: to her about what I'm going to get Kim for

508
00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:25,639
Speaker 1: his birthday next month. She kept telling me my ideas

509
00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:27,679
Speaker 1: were too much and that I should get something cheaper

510
00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:29,640
Speaker 1: since he doesn't contribute. Yo.

511
00:21:30,040 --> 00:21:31,920
Speaker 2: Hold up, wait a minute.

512
00:21:31,760 --> 00:21:35,720
Speaker 1: I can't believe that whose relationship isiness? Yeah, get exactly,

513
00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:40,359
Speaker 1: mind your business, get out of there. I got a

514
00:21:40,359 --> 00:21:43,159
Speaker 1: bit annoyed because I've told her about Kim's insecurities of

515
00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:46,000
Speaker 1: not making or being enough. I told her that he

516
00:21:46,080 --> 00:21:49,800
Speaker 1: contributes more than enough. She then called him a glorified

517
00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:53,199
Speaker 1: gold digger, and I yelled at her, telling her to

518
00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:55,600
Speaker 1: shut up and to not talk about Kim that way.

519
00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:59,120
Speaker 1: After calling that, I do feel bad. I know now

520
00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:02,480
Speaker 1: she sucks. I know how she feels about her own

521
00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:04,720
Speaker 1: financial position, but I don't think it's fair that she

522
00:22:04,800 --> 00:22:07,200
Speaker 1: takes it out on me or Kim, even if Kim

523
00:22:07,359 --> 00:22:10,160
Speaker 1: wasn't physically there. So am I the a hill? Yeah?

524
00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:11,280
Speaker 2: Absolutely not?

525
00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:15,040
Speaker 1: Like Kat's not at all a gold digger.

526
00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:17,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's not at all. That's a sore spot

527
00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:19,920
Speaker 2: for Kim. And you're out here like, oh, he's not glorified.

528
00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:24,520
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, mind your own business. You're just jealous

529
00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:26,679
Speaker 1: that you're not being treated. And that's a conversation that

530
00:22:26,760 --> 00:22:28,040
Speaker 1: you need to have with your partner.

531
00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:29,960
Speaker 2: Yes, you know what you should do. Here's what you

532
00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:32,920
Speaker 2: should do. See what your brother and his partner's doing.

533
00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:35,240
Speaker 2: Make that your blueprints and then do that for your marriage.

534
00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:37,600
Speaker 1: Maybe you should Yeah, maybe you should make dinners on

535
00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:38,240
Speaker 1: Friday night.

536
00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:42,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, level one another. Be happy. Gosh. Yeah, do not

537
00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:43,760
Speaker 2: feel bad for yelling at her?

538
00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:46,520
Speaker 1: Nah, I would. I would yell at her. I will yell.

539
00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:48,960
Speaker 1: I am yelling yelling.

540
00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:54,080
Speaker 2: I could be Op in another life. I am OP.

541
00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:57,000
Speaker 2: Fun fact about me and my backstory. I also have

542
00:22:57,200 --> 00:23:00,119
Speaker 2: a YouTube video about the sawmill. Look up why that's

543
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:03,160
Speaker 2: but I'm going around Brown Incorporated and then you'll see

544
00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:06,120
Speaker 2: a small saw mall video. At sixteen, I started working

545
00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:07,600
Speaker 2: in the saw mill full time. And if I would

546
00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:09,880
Speaker 2: have kept at it, my grandpa's like sixty five. Now,

547
00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:12,040
Speaker 2: my great grandpa he still works there is ninety. I

548
00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:15,320
Speaker 2: could probably like inherit the saw mill, but I'm here

549
00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:16,920
Speaker 2: in California instead.

550
00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:20,360
Speaker 1: But see, it'll never take your bath, right.

551
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:22,320
Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't know what the sister does, but there

552
00:23:22,359 --> 00:23:26,080
Speaker 2: may be like because if op's mal like first born

553
00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:29,600
Speaker 2: male getting like owner of like their dad's company, there

554
00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:32,080
Speaker 2: might be that going on, and then the partner thing

555
00:23:32,119 --> 00:23:35,040
Speaker 2: going on. I just feel like this sister's jealous all around.

556
00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:38,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, but also if she's well off as well, then

557
00:23:38,520 --> 00:23:39,879
Speaker 1: what's the problem. Then what's the problem?

558
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:43,000
Speaker 2: Like treat yourself, treat yourself, treat.

559
00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:45,560
Speaker 1: Yourself, like I understand, you know, it might be frustrating

560
00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:47,639
Speaker 1: if you know your partner's not contributing the way that

561
00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:50,280
Speaker 1: you want them to. But that's a conversation that you

562
00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:50,880
Speaker 1: have with them.

563
00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:53,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, and life's moler about money. Yeah, more than just money,

564
00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:57,879
Speaker 2: it's about love and yeah and other life things like it.

565
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 1: Becomes a problem. I think when, like in the first story,

566
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:04,560
Speaker 1: when the partner is asking for things all the time

567
00:24:04,760 --> 00:24:09,359
Speaker 1: and blatantly not doing anything, that's the problem. But from

568
00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:12,199
Speaker 1: what we little we know about the sister's relationship, it

569
00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:15,160
Speaker 1: doesn't seem like that's the case. Yeah, and you're making

570
00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:18,280
Speaker 1: money on it on a girl, you know what this

571
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Speaker 1: sexberry